Don't Travel to Thailand with an Alcohol Problem (It Won't End Well)
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
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I really don’t want this to sound aggressive or mean but I need to say this.. You are not a 20 year old single alcoholic that’s trying to figure things out. You are 33 with a family. Ask yourself why you think it’s ok to leave them for a month to continue this madness? You need to get HELP and asap. Take some responsibility because you’re hurting people. It’s not all about you man. Best of luck with everything and I really mean that🤞🏼
Step 1:
Dont drink
Step 2:
Go home and show your family that you are there for them
Step 3:
Dont drink
Step 4:
Get a glimpse of the fact the you are the most dishonest person to yourself. Day one bla bla bla. These words dont mean nothing to you.
Step 5:
Just dont drink.
Step 6:
Dont start with everything at once. Forget fasting to extrem. Forget sports to the extreme. Its to much to handle at first. You want to really change your life? Start with not drinking at look how it turns out. I was in your place for like 5 years. Its a vicious cycle only can break.
Step 7:
Dont say we are back at day one, as if you are not alone in this. Its just you that messes up, dont the collective.
Step 8 to 10:
Just dont f-ing drink. Get your shit together man. Be the man your family can rely on, not the man how says words that dont mean nothing to him.
Stay strong
1. I never drink
2. Any contradiction to 1
3. Go to 1
These simple 3 thought patterns and you can become fully recovered. No groups, no rehab, no steps. Other than these 3 in your mind of course.
He does not want to get better! It’s as simple as that, he can justify all of this in his head, but it’s very clear, he is in deep denial and resisting proper recovery and doing the deep psychological and emotional work that needs to be done, instead thinking that a water fast is going to get him centred.
No judgement here my man. Been there. Sober going on 8 years.
I'm in the same boat man , and I think the next vacation you go should be a rehab treatment center and try and get the help you need. From what I see is that you are fully capable and your one step away. My sober record is 10 days and I'm on day 3 of detox/recovery so I need to last longer on the sober train as well. I don't ever want to detox and withdraw again been doing it for too long and its just hell on earth. I'm going to try and find new hobbies and fill my day with better routines... We got this man
It’s comforting to see something like this. Your videos appeared in my home feed this morning so I thought why not, I’ll watch some. I relapsed a week ago so I’m right in the boat with you. We’re the same age too so this resonates with me. My advice to you, you have little kids man, you need to get sober now because someday you’re going to look back and wish you were clear headed enough to remember their time as little children.
Giving up alcohol is hard I'm on day 1 too, had a huge binger this weekend, find a hobby you enjoy doing, I was sober for 88 days just keeping my mind busy when those cravings happen, or maybe watch other quit drinking content on UA-cam is how I found your videos sober Leon is probably my favorite with his first principles thinking
I am going through the dt's.. all is not lost. It was a relapse, you will get through this ❤
You are not going through DTs. If you were, you would be in hospital, or dead. Dts involve hallucinations where you don't understand where you are, incredibly dangerous blood pressure and seizures. Like .5% of all drinkers go through DTs.
It’s all a process brother. The world isn’t over, life goes on, and so will your journey. If we constantly put up unrealistic expectations for ourselves that we can’t seem to achieve, we will also be stuck in a constant cycle of disappointment and feeling like a failure.
if you need to say its day 1 thet means youre not ready ro actually quit. when you really do quit theres no point in counting.
Works differently for everyone though, as I'm sure you know... countin the days at first was really important for me, just watching the money and time saved. So many good motivational apps that are helpful for some but not for others. Whatever helps.
@@evan2799 what apps do you use?
Don't listen to the negativity! Until you find what helps you truly stop. Do NOT give up trying. Get help also. My dad trued doing it himself for 30 years. He died miserably from coughing up blood a burned hole into his esophagus and cirrhosis of the liver. Watch testimonies of others who did not recover its very sobering. I'm also an alcoholic. Don't give up. Pray Ask God. A million times if u must. Don't give e up.
Ask yourself WHY you drink. We drink to cover up the pain, regret, exhaustion. We drink to drink away the lack of connection we crave and need from the people we desperately love. We drink because we are exhausted and want to escape the grind. We NEED to find healthy ALTERNATIVE coping mechanisms. Enjoy nature. Read. Take a bath. Exercise. Pray write. Draw. Paint. Spend time with loved ones. Go get a massage. Enjoy a sauna.. So many things we can do besides drinking. One more learn. Do research watch documentaries. Learn something new every single day. And above all DONT GIVE UP!
I am the daughter of two alcoholics and my heart breaks for your kids. I really hope they have a loving and caring mother, who is sober...
give him a break this shit aint easy hes sharing his struggles i believe he will recover
@@ashrodders I you are a parent, you know, it's not longer all about you and for the childs sake you have to get your s*** together.
@@esmewetterwachs7462 yes i am a parent and im sober not stupid.. i said give him a break i didnt say your wrong sounds like your projecting your own trauma, you need to find a better way to get the message across or shut up because now your assuming my shit aint together....get your shit together and learn how to speak cant even put a sentence together
Hey brother! Don't give up. There are people posting here (and with much respect 🙏) who don't understand that your troubles come from much deeper challenges beyond your control and your past and you're doing everything you can. People who comment without experiencing this are living in 2D.. this is a 4D cheese puzzle but you will work it out. Be kind to yourself and remember you are one step away from meeting the right person or the right guide or the right replacement for what is missing in your life and it will change. Focus on why your emotional cup needs filling by alcohol.. once you work that out go forward and work out the emotional gaps from your behavior on alcohol.. then forgive yourself and make it your life mission. Once your emotional cup is full then you unlock the next level and you can help others!
Keep being honest! You'll smash this!
I will tell you something Buddy , I'm 50 and the way you are going with this drinking , if you not gonna stop soon , You will not see your 40 Birthday. All the Best My Friend !!!!
Do you happen to have bipolar disorder? I am currently 3 months sober. I have a very addictive personality, I can’t just have one drink or some drugs it’s all or nothing. Mindless spending and gambling have ruined my life. I am very impulsive and have randomly quit jobs and left the country three times hoping I’d be able to start from scratch and be better but it never works and I end up even worse off. I become obsessed working out and fasting which also leads to an eating disorder and huge weight loss including muscle. I am one of those people who can quit drinking for a month or more and actually feel worse. I drank heavily on antipsychotics which are hard on the liver for years and recently found out I had liver damage. I’m 38 and although I don’t feel better mentally for not drinking I know my body is way healthier as reflected in recent blood tests. All the best!
So strong to talk about it, nothing is over until its over, its rather a stepping stone, i believe in you 💪
I can relate to you a lot man, I believe in you brother.
I have been in this dark cycle for 5 years until therapy finally helped rid some trauma. I consume weed at night but all cravings have greatly diminished now. I count this as American sober and no more hospital. You can do this dude! We can all do this.
They say that alcoholics are selfish and my God you are proving that saying to be true. I make no apologies for what i am going to write here because i think you need a kick up the a**. What are you doing in Thailand?! You are doing a geographical, it's not the location that is the problem, it's you. You seem to talk the talk, great cliche, give walking the walk a go. When i watched the video before this one, all you did was prophesise and procrastinate. Until you change your mindset you are going to fail every time. I am sorry if you think this is harsh but you need a wake-up call. My heart goes out to your family, they never asked for any of this. Stop chasing the 'high's'. Get off the weed, get off the alcohol, go back to your family and seek help asap or you will have NOTHING! I am a recovering alcoholic (31 years) who has had my fair share of struggling and white knuckling, no-one said it was easy. It is hard i get that but maybe you haven't reached your rock bottom but i hope for your family's sake that you have. I send you prayers and strength x
PREACH!!!! This is exactly what he needs to get sober, I just don’t think he’s ready yet.
Wow I just watched the first video of yours from the other day. You definitely have a firm grasp of your problem. You're not able to drink or smoke moderately. Can you go home and check yourself into rehab? You're driving around wasted and you could end up in a Thailand jail.
im your 1000th subscriber ;) ~ Lets go. and GG for everything.
seams like you do everything to the extreme? why not put less expectations on yourself and just try to kick this booze thing man. Im on your side and love your clips when your clean but the hang over clips make me sad for you.
I think that some people are so used to the struggle. That's all they know and they can't picture their life any other way. It's a sad thought and I've been there myself. I hope he eventually opens up to the possibility of change.
I just came across your channel, watched this and previous longer vid and another one, subscribed.
Sorry you have been battling this and relapsed, but it is normal, people relapse many, many times before they succeed.
Try when you do relapse, to limit it to that evening, don't turn it into days or weeks of binging, get back on track immediately and don't count as day 1 again, not the day 1, just continue the next day with sobriety.
Regarding fasting, I would first eat well for few days and hydrate, stabilize your electrolytes and blood sugar then fast. Few days of good protein, fruit and veg, water, then if you feel like it do a fast.
You probably heard about Allen Carr's book Easy way to stop drinking, really good. You will have to come to a point as he says where you don't see anymore benefits not even a bit in drinking alcohol. Same for other substances.
The idea of moderation that creeps up after sometime of sobriety is normal but it is false, look at it as some evil demon trying to lie to you. It doesn't work and you will be back in no time to full blown drinking and worse than before. Some people might have to go through this numerous times before they get it. Heed this warning from others that know how this works.
I can't recommend enough Bardia Rez, The stop drinking coach on yt and on applepodcasts, he is just awesome, his podcasts imho are the best. Check it out. Listen while you walk, exercise, before bed, or while doing chores. Really excellent stuff. He explains so well how dopamine reward system works so you understand the underlying mechanisms.
I just commented on your previous video.
I knew by how you were talking that you weren't ready to quit. If you can't imagine not drinking again which you said numerous times you inevitably will.
I think you need to sign into a rehab centre and stay until you are ready to leave.
I'm an alcoholic and son of an alcoholic. If you are going to continue to drink stay out of their lives.
Going to Thailand seems like you wanted to get away from watching eyes..
For people calling you selfish etc. you are but so are all addicts. Get your shit together and get home.
Good luck
Dude get out of Thailand, and for god sake work on JUST the drinking, forget all the other side quests, you dont need to be an instant fitness guru or worlds best person, ONE thing at a time, but go home and get yourself away from the temptations, personally i had to stop going to certain places and stop being around certain people and places, you take a few losses to win the war, day by day, stop bloody drinking! Is losing everything better than some post wasted boredom??
I got sick of being in the same habitual circle. I was the only being that was able to control my life and choices. I had periods of sobriety then thought I could have the one. Turns out I’m not wired like that. The wheel will only spin around so many times before it breaks. Cutting alcohol out of my life has made everything so incredible. It is possible to quit. Sounds like you need to really get some help with it though man. You got this.
I'm sorry mate, but you knew that going to Thailand was a bad idea.
You talked about it in your vlog 10 days ago. You knew you would go to the weed and you weren't saying it but you probably also knew that you would drink.
A "geographical solution" is not the solution.
As someone who has had not one but two very difficult relationships with two gorgeous but very troubled alcoholics (Yes, I am drawn to these kinds of men - which is an issue of my own I'm working on), I'm turning you off.
Ironic that you popped up in my feed actually. Life lessons. Growth.
You are not serious about your sobriety right now and I for one can no longer watch.
Good luck mate. Fellow Aussie and decent woman - signing out. I wish you the very, very best. Take care. 🙏
Hey, i have just read your post after having my say 5 mins ago. Couldn't agree more. I have watched many 'getting sober' video's etc but this is the only one where i have been compelled to say something, i am so fricking angry with him, it's like he is playing games, this is his life! Prayers to you x
@@doc_law1593 There is no judgement or anger from me. I wish him well but I just can't watch any more. That's my personal boundary.
I do understand the feelings you are talking about.
I've loved men just like him in my past. Hard.
And been utterly helpless to do one damn thing to change the outcome. It was utterly soul destroying to both watch or be involved in, in any way, shape or form. It's not for me any more.
He's the only one who can change his life.
Peace man. If he's meant to, he will. We've told him straight what we think. 🙏🕊
Go watch Gabor Mate, listen to ALL of his talks, you don’t need a book, you need to do the trauma work, do the work we all are avoiding, the pain. You cannot stay sober without doing the work. The alcohol is simply the medication that you are using to numb your pain. As soon as you start with the work and address the underlying need to drink, you will be caught in the mess and the chaos, because that’s where you feel safe and where there is no pain.
Keep posting. It's OK to talk!
Bro you talk a big game, and having quit alcohol and weed after long term use myself I can tell in the way you speak and the look in your eyes you will relapse again. Im not here to judge or make you feel bad but in a previous video you were so determined and that all went out the window pretty quickly didnt it. Day by day, step by step.
It doesn't matter how many times you have to start again! At least your still trying... one day it will stick so you should be proud of yourself for trying again. Self doubt and old ways of living are a very hard thing to brack. You just have to teach yourself how to get through the triggers that makes you want to drink or in my case drink and drugs. I know you will be getting sick of hearing what i just said but it will happen for you one day if you just keep trying. Like i have already said i am now 3 years sober from everything. You just have to find that one reason that makes you stick to it. Through my journey i have grown to end up hating drink and drugs. the longer i stayed away from it all the more i started to see how much it has stole from me. I now promise myself i will never allow it to Steel any more from me. I focus on building the bonds with my children again and also building back up my relationships with my parents and my siblings. Addiction is very hard and it takes everything away from you if you let it. Remember you have got this, you are strong and you make your decisions so take your time in making them
You are never going to get sober if you don’t quit fasting. You need a steady everyday healthy diet. Just try to be level in your eating.
I am guessing you did not go to tiger muay thai, you trained hard and was looking forward to it.
Thanks for your videos, it sounds to me that you have a strong fear of living in reality Sober and without being under the influence of Alcohol and drugs/weed, you go without drinking for awhile then it gets to overwheling, and boring for you maybe you get discouraged and start drinking aagain. I understand i was an Alcoholic for over 20 years and started drinking as as a teenager.
I will give you some advice, no mater how uncomfortable you feel when your sober and not drinking, no matter how bored you feel, stressed, overwhelmed, anxious etc... you just have to face it and go through it no matter how crazy you may feel without drinking. AlSO God will help you! Praying to God through his Son Jesus Christ, ask God to lift the cravings away from you. Break through that wall of Fear of being sober. Also talk to family and Friends as well when your craving. Nothing is imposible with God he will take away your cravings and desires to drink etc. Also keep in mind you need your brain and mind time to adjust back into reality and you will start feeling more comfortable. God Bless.
I've fantasized about going to Thailand for an extended bender for years!...Luv the food, girls, grog etc.
Hello sir, I've been in your position (a few times), and the cold reality is you haven't suffered enough emotional pain. I shouldn't speak for any fellow addict with such certainty, but you probably aren't quite tired enough of being tired, and sick of being sick.
You have been told about all the methods of stopping, but the only golden ticket is peak spiritual fatigue that brings you to surrender.
Rock bottoms are an inconvenience to the addict, which can simply be brushed aside to make way for the next hit.
Get yourself to AA asap, it isn't an instant fix, you don't have to blindly worship the literature and steps, but critically get exposed to living life on life's terms.
I wish you luck, a life of genuine happiness is still on the table if you want it.
use this lesson bro fuck pain keep fighting get back on the horse and show no mercy to addiction praying for you brother
I posted a video about my last relapse. Don't beat yourself up. It's part of the process. Good luck on your sobriety. If you have never been exposed to meetings, maybe you should give one a shot. The binge, stop, binge, stop pattern is terrible on your receptors.
I spent lockdowns in thailand and drank myself half to death. Brutal
You're a true rockstar. You need to get a Thai massage now.
what's your sign
You should be careful riding those bikes over there while intoxicated. The roads over there are crazy enough. Walk or take a cab if you got to got shop.
That happened to my friend in Thailand 😂 exact same story wth.
Who is helping your wife with the kids while you are in Thailand living like a 24 yr old single with no kids? You are not neglecting relationships, you have abandoned them. If you are going to drink, do it at home where you can at least be a help to your family. Earn some money and start a savings account for your family so when leave and never come back, they will have a little nest egg. Can’t you at least love your children? You are worried about your back, you might want to replace that with care for your children. Snap out of it man. Go home and take your kids to the park and run and play with them.
The saddest part is I know you are still drinking. Stop, read Allen Carr and become free. Otherwise, this series is pointless.
He already read it and it didn't work for him. I managed to quit drinking and I never read it. It might help for some people, but it's not the magic key to quitting alcohol
@@HarryDuBois616 No he didn't. I agree, it isn't magic to quit drinking, but it has the highest success rate. Well done for quitting, but your experience is irrelevant.
@@Knightcommander69 my experience is irrelevant? Not really, I'm living proof that you don't need a book to quit alcohol. I'd say that is pretty relevant. And yes, he did read it and spoke previously about how it didn't work for him
@@HarryDuBois616 He read a 1/4 of it and never finished it. Hence it didn't work.
Pointless? Its fucking strong to enlight the wrong steps. Even for me that is an alcoholic to.
Mary K baxter testimony of heaven and hell....I'm telling you. I'm still a work in progress...and haven't quit completely. Often it's a journey and a process. We really need to process our why's and the pain in order to really quit and not seek the exhilarating yet numbing in a way fun of alcohol. She has blessed me so much with her testimony. Look it up here on UA-cam. You will definitely NOT regret it.
Are you alone a lot ? That doesn’t help. Ya boredom.
And I don’t even kid myself about the I can handle it.
It’s good you’re not telling yourself you can drink successfully. Don’t you go through withdrawals. I just quit having night sweats. And I quit 2 weeks ago nearly
Watch Kevin O’Hara Habits V2.
You left your fam to go to thailand and drink and chase tail and want us to feel bad for you? lol my dude
I don’t think he’s chasing tail but Thailand seems like a mad place to go if your head isn’t right
So don't go to Thailand if I want to stay sober is the lesson here lol. But seriosly, I dont think you need to go cold turkey and never take drugs or alcohol again. Im not doing that. Im going a year sober and creating strict rules for myself when/if I come back to but gotta go at least a year first
...dude, there're medicines to prevent you from drinking, or try AA, ...or....allow your family to move o and keep drinking, s°it happens,
Same shit… different laxative. 😂 There is nothing mysterious about alcohol. I already know the journey with alcohol… I’m tired of it. It’s the same old story. The ultimate boredom. I don’t want to be mediocre and alcohol brings out all the mediocrities in life. The blackouts the looking stupid the stink of alcohol the way it makes the drinker look dead the endless fake confidence the selfishness… etc. Alcohol is dumb. I have too much soul to drink spirits. ❤
I see myself in these videos, mate
We're living lives we hate, but the lives we think we want are boring and empty.
Family. Friends. Work. Bills. Dishes. Bins. Food. Cleaning...
Blah, blah, blah...
There is no peace until we have a drink.
Failure is a crushing pressure, so we have to push ourselves to the limit until we reach failure again, then we can feel sorry for ourselves and have a drink again to ameliorate the pain, then spiral down and drink, drink, drink...
You say the same stuff about food/calories, exercise, fasting, 'getting better', weight gain (I stopped weighing myself when I reached 120kgs), bullshit I say...
My point is, it's not you.
You're a good person.
You need help.
A demon has you in its grip.
You can escape it with help.
Get help
1🤣 it’s a barstool alcohol
Hey at least give us videos
everybody know why you came to Thailand....
Stop drinking expert
Your brain damaged no alcoholic is done without a lot of work!! You have a choice though you need detox and rehab or your going to lose your family
thats good advice
He is the definition of insanity
Stop waffling and put the drink down , end of
Lol😂, please just stop making those ridiculous videos. You are in square one for 834 days 😂😅😂