Thank you for sharing. This was very insightful. I am not diagnosed, but I find almost all these things relatable. I would love to hear more about your story. I think you are one incredibly inspiring person, and I look up to you when it comes to organsing your home and wardrobe. Keep up the amazing work because it's working for you.😊
Thank you! I am very happy to share because I personally found it so useful to relate to other people’s stories. It made me feel less ashamed, worthless and less alone to know that other women have the same daily struggles as me with their brains ❤️
@@EmmaHillplease don’t feel ashamed and worthless. The more we learn about the brain the more we realise that neurodivergence is just another way the brain works. Some of the most creative people on the planet have some form of neurodivergence. Think Emma Watson, Bill Gates, Jamie Oliver, Walt Disney, and many more. You are in very good company. 😊
Same here! 🙋♀️ I always struggled with some of this issues, but specially with time organization and going on side quests. I am very responsable with my work, but I always find it hard to be on time (since I was a child at school up until now) and to be able to get there on time I always end up running and stressed out. Thank you for sharing your tips!
Hello Emma, Thank you for that video re: ADHD. Our son received a diagnosis when he was 7 years of age. Although we, my husband & myself haven’t been diagnosed, I find similarities with my son. Organisation, distraction ie not staying focused or short attention span…. Starting a project/hobby being exited & giving up.
Newly diagnosed with ADHD & BPD at 34 years old after seriously struggling without answers for 18 years. I so appreciate any resources and helpful information from those with experience navigating this diagnosis!
I am so impressed by you sharing about having ADHD. You won't realize how many people you will help. There are so many people going about not knowing and not being diagnosed. What an Inspiration.
This is exactly the video I needed to help my little boy stay on task. Thank you ever so much for your transparency. I absolutely loved when you said: “ADHD is not your fault but your responsibility” 💛
I read that somewhere, I think it might have been the book Square Pegs, and I remember that being such a powerful statement when it comes to relationships. It just reminds me that I can’t sit back and blame everything on my ADHD, I have to manage it myself but with support and understanding from those around me ❤️
I have ADHD and have found the tips ‘minimalising’ and ‘everything has it’s place’ help keep my mind less cluttered at home :) I have also started to reduce prints, patterns and jazzy colour clothes to make my mornings easier getting dressed for work! One less thing to think about :) anything to reduce mind clutter! Thank you for sharing xx
Looking at the comments it seems like a lot of your followers are also on ADHD spectrum which is maybe a reason why we have gravitated to you channel and get enjoyment for watching your organised way of living. I would definitely put myself in that category after listening to this vlog, it has made a lot of sense to me. Thank you for this great video
So interesting. I'm 76 and suspect I have ADHD. I am forever starting a task and then going down a rabbit hole. I love for things to be organized, but I always make an enormous mess before finally getting there. Case in point...Christmas decorating. Though I'm always delighted with the final holiday decor, getting there causes me to make a huge mess in several rooms before I finally get it done! Btw, your hair looks amazing. I love the length. It looks so shiny and healthy. ❤
Thank you, Emma, this video is very useful for both those with ADHD and for those living with a person with ADHD! I applaud you for having the courage to talk about your own difficulties and also very positive to see you have so many useful tips as to how to manage it ❤
I think the world is becoming more accepting as more is shared but yes judgement is definitely still an issue. It’s becoming increasingly more common for grown women to get diagnosed with ADHD because it’s so easy to miss in childhood and one thing I hear is “oh they’re jumping on this bandwagon now”. If this were a bandwagon I could jump off I would but unfortunately that’s not how it works. It’s all down to people not being educated enough so the more of us that can discuss the topic will spread awareness and hopefully a bit of understanding 🤞🏼
I almost wanted to cry with relief when I watched this video. I can relate to so much of this, and your tips are incredibly helpful. Thank you for including so much detail about what you actually do and the tools you use. I never thought about setting down actual tasks for morning routines but I can’t wait to try that.
Your description of your ADHD has caused me to wonder if I need to be diagnosed myself. You are totally describing me. Thank you for being so open about that.
Every thing applied to me as well and I'm neurotypical. I wonder if ADHD is on a spectrum, and we all have these tendencies but in people with ADHD, they're turned up to 95, and in neurotypical people they sit down at 30 or something like that
No harm, in that way you have an answer! I recently got diagnosed in my 40’s mother of 3, I was getting treated for depression, anxiety everything else for the last 20 years than what the real issue was. Hence treatments weren’t working. So it helps to have a proper diagnosis for sure so you can heal / function properly.
If it’s something you really want answered then yes absolutely you should go about the steps to getting that answer. I didn’t want to wait the 3 year waiting list to get my answer via the NHS so I paid and went private. If I had to make the decision again I wouldn’t bother because they gave me the answer I already knew. I never wanted medication, which is course is why an official diagnosis is important, so tbh it was completely unnecessary. I have continued to do the work myself and with therapy (which I pay for) and books, podcasts etc. I think in adults, women in particular, it’s doable to manage without the need for a diagnosis but I’m only commenting on that from my own perspective x
Diagnosed 18mths ago aged 44. Long time follower, had no idea you or I had it 🤦🏼♀️ thank you for raising awareness. I’m completely embarrassed/ashamed about being nerodiverce and haven’t told hardly anyone. So thank you for ‘normalising’ the so called ‘not normal’ 💗
I can relate to that. I told my friends but didn’t make a big thing out of it and now we can joke about certain things that I do in the same way we banter about other things, so it makes me feel just like everyone else. It’s very freeing to be able to talk about it openly ❤️
Hi, Emma, I am a just retired resource teacher. Structure, routine and organization is so important with people who have ADHD. You are so right girls / women often are not diagnosed because their symptoms are very different. I’ve suspected I have ADHD, too. Choices, physical, and visual stimulation are overwhelming. Routine and structure is essential. My reward is reading and youtube time in the afternoon. I find with moving around while listening to something wearing big headphones and a using an iPad which remains stationary helps me keep up with them.
Emma, thank you so so so much for this video and for being open about ADHD. As someone who has been recently diagnosed at 32 but watching your videos and implementing your tips and tricks for years I so appreciate it! I would love more ADHD content.
Thank you for sharing and I would love to see more ADHD content! Diagnosed last summer at 46, I'm 47 now and finally starting to figure 💩 out. I love hearing how other late dx'd people are managing, it really helps. 💜
A really helpful video thank you. I don't have ADHD but I can totally relate to being indecisive, from what to have for breakfast, what to wear and so on throughout the day. Its very wearing, so I can imagine other difficulties on top of that can be a big challenge.
Yesss adult diagnosed girlies club!!! I keep myself on a reward system and have also limited my clothing color schemes! Everyone thinks I’m so put together but I just do it so my clothes match and it limits the impulse spending. Thank you for this!
I love this video! I've got ADHD and I got diagnosed at 10 years old because my brother has the classical little hyperactive boys ADHD. But in the 90s there was little known about ADHD in women and I only recognised 20% of what I saw with my brother. So only in the last decade more and more knowledge is coming out and I almost feel like I'm diagnosed again. So many things are part if ADHD. I'm currently in an ADHD burn out (we are running all the tests to see if it's something else as well) but the house is a mess and I get nothing done. I needed this video.
Thank you for doing this video! I left a comment on one of your videos about two months ago, requesting you to share how you manage to actually do all your passion projects with ADHD...and you replied saying you would. As a fellow late diagnosed ADHD woman, thank YOU for remembering and thank YOU for delivering on this video. I know just exactly how challenging it is to promise to do something and then also do it. Stay blessed always Emma! Been following you for years from Pakistan
I began following your posts after accidentally finding your review on winter coats. Never known anyone provide such detailed and very useful information. It sounds as though life could be exhausting for you, but you are aware and navigate all the challenges. Loving your work x
Thank you for sharing this Emma! I have ADHD as well and didn’t know until my early 30s. I love all of your regular content, but this video was very helpful for me and I hope you give more tips like this in the future.
I have always always loved your content, it soothed me a lot and a lot of your tips have helped me build a good wardrobe myself. Now it figures, I am the late diagnosed ADHD girl. Verry helpful!
Thank you for sharing! I have, as said, a slight form, for me it is like having a computer browser with 20 pages opened simultaneously 😊 I also worked out timers, alarms, reminders, lists even before being diagnosed. I just thought I was easily distracted and forgetful. That’s why I especially liked your idea that this is not an excuse. I’ve recently overheard this topic on various platforms and the attitude was mostly like winning a medal 🤦🏼♀️ so thanks again for your position, it’s like fresh air
The word ‘brave’ has been used a lot in the comments and truth be told it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and I don’t really know how to respond because I don’t view it as brave to speak about. It’s something that makes life pretty difficult at times but it’s not terminal or life threatening (for me) it’s just something you have to learn to deal with. It can affect relationships negatively and so you can’t just sit on your arse and do nothing about it and expect everyone else around you to pander your needs. It very much is our responsibility to manage our behaviours as a result of ADHD but in order to do that we need support, so there’s definitely give and take required from us and those around us.
@ I feel the same way about this, let’s say, “condition”. Yes, it involves some degree of self discipline, yes, sometimes you need more effort than other people, but you deal with that and live your life. It’s not a cross you need to drag. You gave very good strategies on how to pull yourself together and combat the “side effects” of ADHD and I’m sure people would find them extremely helpful, because it isn’t just any doctor’s recommendation, but learned the hard way experience of a real person, who lives with it ♥️
I feel very emotional watching this video. I'm pretty sure I have ADHD but I am a very organized person from the outside. I do all the things you mention and so it seems like I have my ducks in a row, but oh my... it takes a LOT of energy to fight through the day and get stuff done. Oh, I would love to see more about this topic. I feel very validated now.
I would highly recommend reading the book Square Pegs. It’s a wonderful book for women specifically from any and all walks of life who know they have or just suspect they may have ADHD. I cried so much reading that book because I was able to relate to so much and to have it explained in a way that I myself had never been able to articulate. I’m sure it comes in an audio book version as well if you prefer x
So interesting. I’m much older and 100% sure I have ADHD and am sure my mum had it. Personally I find it exhausting. Life seems so much harder than it does for other people. Especially when you get older and have less energy anyway! I’m currently trying to declutter my house, huge task, but can easily hyper focus on organising a cupboard. The side tasks, absolutely, I’m like a fly in a jam jar! I often think my step count is so high because I’m always running around doing things “before I forget “ and then forget what I was doing in the first place, and on it goes 🤷♀️. Given my age I’ve not pursued a diagnosis although I seriously thought about it.
Thank you Emma for sharing your story. Like anything you do I know you work hard to help yourself and those around you. You will have spoken and stirred a lot of women to look at their own struggles in a more positive light. I applaud your honesty ❤️x
Thank you so much for this video. As someone with ADHD as well I relate to every single words you said (both how our brains work but also the tools we gave ourselves to overcome these challenges). I candidly felt like you were describing me! Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this important aspect of your life 🤍 Such an important topic.
May I add another tip for students, as I am trying to finish my PhD: I also write when I’m the most efficient which is in the morning, but the biggest game changer was to go to a designated writing space for students for 4 hours where we apply the Pomodoro method (writing for 50 minutes, taking a break for 10, repeated four times). There’s someone guiding the writing session so you don’t have to look at the clock. Phones are put away, space is luminous and clean and ergonomic so my mind is ready to focus on my writing. It also helps tremendously not to be at home since at home my mind would wander and I would do some laundry or other tasks as a distraction. One writing session allows me to write more than I would normally in a couple of days of work. (I also think the Pomodoro method can be applied at home like setting a timer for tasks.) 🫶🏻
Love a good list, or system ( like Flylady diane in denmark) or using the calendar or planner! I'd like more on this topic on keeping things simple and planned out in each room and in the closet!
What an excellent video, Emma. First and foremost, let me say thank you for sharing this with us as I’m sure this is a personal journey and for you to take the time to share these tips with your followers, is so selfless. Thank you very much. I do not suffer from ADHD but my daughter does and I can certainly relate to a lot of what you said. I’m definitely going to share this video with her so she can get some useful tips.
I am not ADHD but found your video incredibly helpful and helped me understand better what it might feel like for folks diagnosed with ADHD, thank you for addressing 🙏
Thank you Emma. You are somebody so honest and have already find great ways of coping. Love the box for emptying handbag content to make sure you enjoy different handbags with the necessary content.
Thank you for sharing this Emma - hugely informative, inspirational and constructive. A year ago , I was diagnosed with FND (Functional Neurological Disorder) as a result of PTSD following a near death situation. FND overlaps considerably with ADHD, in terms of cognitive difficulties, although there are also lots of potential physical symptoms as well. I was relieved to be given the diagnosis of FND and to be told I wasn't going mad! Your suggestions for managing the associated difficulties were most helpful and made me realise that I have to "own" my diagnosis of FND and "manage it", rather than just blaming it for the problems I have. FND is a very under diagnosed condition (as I suspect ADHD is) and more needs to be known about it within the medical profession. Many thanks for your very practical and constructive advice! ❤ xx
Thank you for sharing this content and speaking about ADHD. My mind also goes in many directions very often. Apparently your tips can be helpful for all kind of human being. I am very impressed how well you are organised.
My bestie calls it her " head full of Bees" - my version is "I have ideas like a a dog has fleas". We both have adult ADHD diagnoses - and share your physical stuff versus executive functioning/tasks being MUCH easier to manage. Thank you so much for sharing this aspect of yourself here!
Emma, thank you so much for sharing your techniques. My therapist suggested a morning list and a before bed list. I did it, but kinda half ass. Your thorough explanation of your task lists is super helpful. Thank you. ❤ I will be refining my morning and before bed task lists now.
Thank you Emma, so helpful. I recognize myself in so many things you have mentioned. You always seem so organized, so interesting to hear how you manage to get things done
"Your tips are a game-changer! 🌟 Staying organized with ADHD can be tough, but you make it feel so doable. Love the practical approach and positive energy! 🔥💡"
People with ADHD are always chasing that dopamine hit. I'm sorry to say but it gets a whole lot worse when you go through menopause. Estrogen affects dopamine levels and when estrogen lowers, so does dopamine. ADHD symptoms then get worse. I am 58 and struggling with this. Today I have been trying to get out of the front door to go food shopping for 3 hours and can't motivate myself. I hope the medical profession can resolve this for women as we have been ignored for so long, (I am inattentive type of ADHD). This was a great video, thank you.
I’m a ‘combined’ ADHD’er so I can get exactly as you described at one point in the day but the next I can be performing a Disney dance routine or scene in the kitchen 🤣 Poor Simon 🙈 I’ve been told menopause hits hard for ADHD’ers so I’m bracing myself for that 🫠 I hope you are able to get the help you need and deserve ❤️
Hi Emma, this has been very helpful. My daughter does not have ADHD (she was tested at the request of her school), but struggles with organization. I want to implement some of your suggestions in my life, too. Thank you for blogging this.
I knew there was a reason I loved your content. My lists tell me what I need to do every hour of everyday, then they are constantly updated and reorganised over and over. I'd be lost without them. My mind is blown that my plain coloured clothes are a way for my mind to cope 🫣 I'm a late diagnosed female ASD and ADD here. 💁🏻♀ It's a long journey of self discovery but well worth it. Congrats on the diagnosis, lovely Emma. (Side note - you may not be the "hyper" ADHD type. You seem like the inattentive type of ADD. Hyper relates to excess activity and not necessarily hyper focus - which all types of ADD have).
I heard something the other day that the hyper for women might not be physical, but it’s all in the brain, with your thoughts being hyper. Ideas pinging around like in a pinball machine.
Thank you for being so candid Emma! Massively helpful! And would certainly love more in-depth content on this. One thing that I struggle with is self-control during shopping. And after years of tagging myself as a shopaholic, I got my diagnosis and everything made much better sense. If you have any experience in regard to this, would love to get some insight.
I was lucky enough to be diagnosed with ADD in 1990 when I was 14 years old. Back then no one had any idea what was going on. It’s come such a long way in the last 10 years. Thanks for shining a light on the ladies who are neurodiverse. I always love your videos. Sending u lots of love from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤
So incredibly lucky. Although as you say back when we were kids it wasn’t as well known as it is today. Did you get the help you needed for managing your ADHD as a teenager?
@ I was put on medication so I could get through high school. Back then they said that it was a childhood condition that u grew out of so it was really hard navigating and making decisions after school and trying to understand why I was the way I was. It’s only now in my 40’s that I have realised I’m actually really creative and have found my strength in Visual Merchandising. My brain 🧠 has found its happy place.
I remember stuff like that being said when I was at school, not about me because I was masking, but definitely about a few boys in my year who were exhibiting the behaviours in a more noticeable way. I was also a VM 🫶🏼
So much I can relate to and so appreciate in this video, thankyou your opening on this and very helpful insight and tips ❤. I foster and have a wee one with ADHD and another with autism. Every little helps me help them 👍 have a lovely day Emma x
Emma thank you for talking about this, I'm hyper focused on organising the opersite to you none physical and struggle with physical stuff, this was great to reflect and listen to someone else with ADHD. I watch your other video's so this was a bonus. I'm still waiting for my diagnosis of ADHD, I was diagnosed with dyslexia 20+ years ago. Love the 'side quest' and 'bouncy ball' analogy.
Fellow late diagnosed ADHDer here. Thanks for the useful tips, and thanks also just for being visible as someone with ADHD. ♥️ I can relate to the love of organising physical things, but necessarily maintaining the system! And to the side quests, and procrastination! I agree that lists are a lifesaver, and rewards are great motivators, and a key place is crucial. ☑️
It’s really challenging to live against your brain’s wishes. I don’t have a diagnosis but I’m sure I have adhd since staying organised, keeping things done also focusing something for a long time is a constant challenge. I got up from couch 3 or 4 times while watching this video as well, for different unrelated reasons (tidying up, checking on cat etc😅). I don’t clean a spot for weeks, then I clean same spot for hours with hyperfocus and forget about the world. I’m so happy that you’ve shared your experience and tips since not feeling alone is a huge help with battling neurodivergence. I think instinctively I follow people like myself. Love your content for years. Hugs xx
I think we all have a tiny strain of ADHD in us. Nothing wrong with it at all. But I could relate to so many things you were saying. I’m also a check list kinda girly, also very focused on my tasks in the mornings and most importantly, I struggle with maintaining certain processes I have put in place 😅 thank you for this video ❤ love all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦
This hits home 😅 especially about coping mechanisms! I was a very unproblematic child (the one you do not need to be stressing about) and also quite academically blessed. I also responded well to rewards (I.e. grades at school OR some parents tricks like „you get to stay alone at the weekend if you clean the entire Apartment). And that resulted in no one ever wondering if everything is okay. I grew up, people started to talk about ADHD more and boooom it is clear as day that I have it and just figured out a very complex system of dealing with it. Find your tips mega useful and also been using most of them in my life!
Thank you for explaining so well how ADHD works--this helps me understand my sister better! (I always thought she was like a bird jumping around from branch to branch)🧡
When i discovered your channel i thought it was interesting because the colours you were are very similar to mine. Neutrals and no patterns...cuts down on decisions and everything co-ordinates. We are all different as you say and would love to live with adhd and be as organised as you. Thanks for sharing. Really appreciated you normalusing condition and acknowledging presentation in girls and women is quite different💜
Thank you for this video. I believe I may be undiagnozed ADHD. I just get distracted so easily, especially the moving from one task to another then getting hyper focussed on some thing during that which derails other plans. Especially time management. I definitely have to keep mental checks. Everything has it's place is an excellent tip. This has helped me a lot over the past few years. Also makeing time 'budgets' like - I have to be finished by this time to get to X - I have until this time to scroll instagram, etc. (which is challenging for me - time management hurts my head). Very helpful. In general what you are talking about are useful habits for everyone! :)
What a good video, Emma. I have ADHD with some “additional friends”, and I am glad that there is more attention for it. Especially to expose that this does not necessarily mean that there are intellectual problems, but that we rather have a different way of thinking and coping in certain segments of our lives. Up until now, for example with ASD , there is often a feeling that outside help is always needed and that we are not able to be fully in the world or be taken seriously.
Fellow ADHD woman here. Thanks for sharing! I really relate to having to literally write down your exact morning routine and streamlining your wardrobe to avoid overwhelm
Thanks for sharing. I love the slide you added between each chapter. Talking about ADHD, I can relate this to my ex. I remember long time ago he was trying to find something from the garage, but hours later he was still not back home so I went to check on him , then I realised he was making something out from some left over materials in the garage 😂. At the end of day he made a big mess in the garage and couldn’t finish any task he was initially setting to do. 😅
Than you for sharing. I have not been diagnosed, but relate to a some of this. I can’t even drink a cup of tea or watch a movie, because I always see something I need to do around the house. But when I get hyper focused (puzzles are terrible) everything can be a mess, I just can’t be bothered. One thing that helps me not loose the bag content is bag insert, that can be just moved from one bag to another.
This will resonate with most people. Did you know we are all on the autistic spectrum to some degree. I worked with children in education , with autism. Very fulfilling job. I find I have many of the traits you talk about and when I get overwhelmed it impacts my fibromyalgia . Xx
Thank you Emma. I was diagnosed with ADHD eight months ago. I had always thought I had OCD since I must have have all things tidy and clean. As you mentioned, I often jump from one task to another. "Time blindness" is a challenge sometimes also. Off topic; the burgundy colour along with your hair really becomes you 😊 xx for B-babies 🐾 💕
Don’t even get me started on Time Blindness, I have some funny (but frustrating) stories to tell about that which I’ll save for another video 🙊 I’ve been told that ADHD usually “comes with friends”, meaning that those of us with ADHD usually have one or more other things like OCD, depression, an eating disorder, anxiety, addiction, autism, a learning disorder, the list could go on. I have a few of those 🫠 Thank you very much ❤️
@EmmaHill Yes! All of what you stated is true (sadly). If it weren't for my two rescue pups, who recused me, I'd be in a much worse state. I've had GAD, cptsd, depression for most of my life. It's exhausting. Keeping on schedule for pups' outings, playtime, meals, Vet appts help me keep a routine, no matter how I may be feeling. Would like to hear more from you on this subject please. Thank you so much 💓 You're a bright light in this world 🌟
I am not diagnosed with ADHD but I believe I have it. I am very similar to you and am a visual but organised person and also love a label maker. I hyperfocus and the hobbies one you mentioned is very true. Thank you Emma for your tips, very useful. ❤
What an amazing young woman you are. Having followed you for awhile and loving the variety of vlogs you do, your vulnerability to share this about yourself was inspirational to others who might experience ADHD. All of your vlogs demonstrate a woman who is very organized and methodical so this helps others see that all is not perfect in your world either.
Thank you for your honesty! I actually asked my sister last week if she thought I might have ADHD due to my obsession with hobbies. At the moment, it's my garden, not for the first time. I'm guilty of Extreme crochet, Manic knitting, patchwork, painting furniture, writing, reading and I have every type of paint, pencil, paper and canvas but have never used any of it, blue and white china was an obsession...I could go on. I'm also and always have been unorganised with paperwork, admin etc. I let it all wash over me. I'm 63 and I'm not going to pursue a diagnosis now but it answers a few questions I have about myself! So thanks mrs!
You do sound like you probably have adhd. I’m older than you and 100% certain I have it. You sound a lot like me too. I’ve also not pursued a formal diagnosis for probably the same reasons as you.
Such a helpful video Emma. Coincidentally, today I sent off my forms to the consultant I am seeing for a possible ADHD diagnosis, so this all resonated so much for me. I found some of your hints and tips very helpful. So pleased you shared. 🤍✨kbgardensnhomes xxx
Thank You Emma for talking about what you struggel with! Brilliant for people like me that my entire life has heard that I am a mess. Loosing keys and wallets everywere all the time and not only that. Me loosing the family dog beeing the worse and a story told over and over again 😳 We do have ADHD in my family but only the young kids are diagnosed but I can see the same thing in my brother and me. And my father before he died! I have always looked with admiration on your videos of your house and everything in it! Now I don’t feel so bad that I struggel with putting away my cloths at night, beeing to tired to tidy up after looking at tv or whatever. I will think; Emma stuggles with this too! I am a neat freak, perfectionist and loves organizing but not so much maintenance! So do not be to hard on yourself as I will try not to! But I will go back and look at this video again and again as it made me feel so relaxed and inspired at the same time! Sweet lovely Emma 🥰, hope you keep your brilliant videos coming 😘
There are various studies to suggest a high likelihood that ADHD could be genetic so it wouldn’t be surprising to have multigenerational ADHD in a family. Writing this as I’m putting away a huge pile of messy clothes in my wardrobe that’s taken me well over an hour because I’ve already gone on 8 side quests 🤣😘
@ 😂 I know about the genetics but when I have heard girls and women talk about their ADHD it has never streck a cord in me as from the outside I look like I have it all together. Just like you do!! But when I saw you today I could relate to all of it! I have had lists for what to do in the morning and evenings to not forget to brush my teeth or take away makeup. Or even to not forget to eat! That happened just yesterday and at 2 I said I’ll make breakfast and my husband just rolled his eyes. Then I realized the time. Do you have days/half days where you really have no clue what you have been up to as you are just sidetracked until you end up on the couch? I need to go back to my lists and explain to my husband why! Thank You soo much for this! I hope you show more of your life story and how you learned to live with your ADHD! So impressing! Lots, lots and even more lots of love from Sweden 🇸🇪
Yes I definitely have those days. Those are the worst days, where I have zero motivation because I can’t get my brain to do what I want & need it to do and then I just get really frustrated with myself which can then lead to being quite emotional because I feel useless and lazy. It’s vicious 🫠
@ Yes! Feeling useless and stupid for not beeing able to do what I really want! I feel so encouraged to work with this new knowlige. Somehow I never saw it as possible to have ADHD. My husband just shakes his head if he comes home and ask what I have been up to and I have no idea. Or I have plans for the next day and tell him… He will only answer ”Well we will see, you plans usually fails”. Well I am in tears of realizing that I have had a system with lists that worked but I threw them away as my husband thought it was silly. Now I know better I will do better! 🥰 Bless You as the Americans says! 😘
I would highly recommend the book Square Pegs. I felt so seen after reading that book and for some reason when I’d finished it gave me the confidence to open up to Simon and tell him what I struggle with as and when those incidences arise. I think he understands me more now and although it’s probably very frustrating for him he doesn’t show it, which really helps. So whatever it is I would advice finding the thing that allows you to be that clear with your husband because the reaction from him that you’re being met with is not going to make life any easier for either of you. As I quoted in the video “it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility”. There needs to be give and take on both sides x
Emma, I am someone who thinks they have ADHD, so this is helpful. I also think birds of a feather! So it’s amazing how many other women I am drawn to who have similar traits. Like everyone our super strength is also a blind spot. I’m an easily distracted, the things I should do have no excitement or lustre. I want bright and shiny all the time…newness, excitement so I’m the queen of 14 tasks at once, lateness, distraction. I loose everything my bag, keys, purse, phone. So I appreciate the reminders of ways to help myself. I do a lot of the things you suggest. But I also self sabotage for the dopamine! Thanks Emma for sharing its hugely appreciated and all your tips and tricks help. More regarding this topic if you feel comfortable please.
@ honestly the things I do are totally off the scale bonkers and are hilarious after the fact but so annoying, frustrating and occasionally tragic. I love the ‘baker/metal detectorist’ example. I’ve a feeling I’d really like that person. Off to pay my water bill now following the inspo! I’ve a feeling I could start clearing out the garage first if I’m not careful.
@@EmmaHill no but if you need some roller skates, a wet suit, sledge, walking poles and a hula hoop I’ve got you. Now you’ve mentioned it I’d love a metal detector. Ha ha ha 🤣
Thanks a bunch for sharing Emma, I totally get you! Your video made me feel like I’m not the only one who struggles with meal planning. I can’t even explain to my husband how much time and effort I put into deciding what to eat and cook three times a day! And don’t even get me started on how quickly my days go by. I feel like I don’t accomplish anything big because of all the little things I do. I think starting a morning routine like yours would be a game-changer for me. Crossing off stuff from my list would make me feel like I actually accomplished something. Could you share more about that i. e. apps you use, what you put on your to-do-lists, etc? Also, I feel especially overwhelmed with planning a trip. I usually don’t know where to start, then I gather a ton of info and don’t know what to do with it.
I don’t use a fancy app, I literally just use the notes function on my iPhone. It has some basic formatting tools on there including the checklist function. I have everything that I need to do on my checklist aside from breathe and go to the toilet 🤣 (although on my travel list I DO have “go to the toilet” 😆) I have to remind myself to eat, change the dogs water, wash my face, brush my teeth, cleaning tasks, work tasks, check the post box, water the plants etc. it’s just a list of very normal day to day things that I work through in an order to avoid getting sidetracked x
Hi Emma, thank you for talking about this. I’d love to hear more in depth about it. I’m waiting for an autism assessment. Love google calendar, I changed all of the default colours to colours I prefer with hex codes and also use the task feature a lot.
Omg 😊this totally describes me to a T. I haven’t been diagnosed officially but I feel this is how my brain operates. Thank you sooooo much for this helpful video.
A lot of what you said was like a lightbulb moment for me. So fascinating when you said about girls presenting differently - would love to hear more about that ❤
I’m not an expert by any means but I can definitely share what I’ve been told and read. If you found this video useful I would highly recommend the book Square Pegs, it’s an incredible book for women with ADHD or who may suspect they have ADHD x
What an excellent video!! Would love more information about this from your perspective. For example, time management…as in the struggle to be on time and your tricks learned. Also, what was the diagnostic process like? What does the test consist of and what markers told them you had it? What made you suspect it in the first place in yourself to move you to be tested? Did getting an official diagnosis help you? In what way? I have so many questions!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻😅
Such an interesting vlog Emma. Thank you for sharing - I never realised you had ADHD until you mentioned it recently on one of your vlogs. You certainly cope extremely well - i never would have guessed. A very salient point you made on keeping to basic colours /no prints or patterns re your clothes. You always have such lovely outfit combinations from what I've seen in your What I Wear In A Day vlogs - all very different and tasteful - I would never have believed you had problems in collating your clothes - you have always come across so naturally organised. After watching your vlog I believe a teenage family member shows all the signs of ADHD. He is always fixating on certain things to buy - whether watches, clothes or tech. He buys one thing that he absolutely has to have,, then loses interest and has to buy the next thing that he believes is better. He is lucky that he is living at home still and has quite a well paid job for his age, plus he's a bit of a wheeler/dealer and sells on his discarded things, but it's worrying his family. I'm going to share your vlog with them. I watched last week's vlog on death planning - I have done this too as time is ticking away for me now and I don't want to leave a mess begins me when I'm gone! My DD has done it too! Just got to mention too that I love your new hair! Happy Sunday and love to you, Simon and the Bs. Xxx
It’s important to look for other signs of ADHD and not just one particular habit and there are so many more than the ones I mentioned in this video, I’ve only scraped the surface. It’s very complex and behaviours vary, there are also 3 different types, I have combined ADHD which is a combination of inattentive and hyperactive/impulsive. Has anyone tried talking to him to see if he’s struggling with anything in particular? Impulsive habits can certainly be a sign of ADHD if accompanied by other behaviours and struggles x
@@EmmaHill Thanks Emma. He's a very bright boy, but rather insular. He doesn't make friends easily and the worry is buying and obsessing over 'things' is taking the place of friendships. He gets on ok with adults, in fact interacts well with them, but has no friends of his own age and never goes out unless it's with adult family or on his own to shop! I must say he doesn't appear particularly inattentive and is an apprentice in an engineering industry and is doing well - again he works with older people at the mo! 🤷♀
People with ADHD can be incredibly academic, that’s when their hyperfocus kicks in so if he excels at his job that’s not to say that he won’t have it. If he’s a gen Z then I can u stand why he doesn’t want to hang around with other gen Z 🤣🙈 Maybe he doesn’t share the same interests as them. If he’s happy and functioning well as he is then that’s great. I would only advise seeking advice if he has difficulty within his day to day that stops him from enjoying his life to the full. But I’m no doctor nor an expert, I can only comment based on my own experience and my own brain x
Hi Emma, thank you this is so helpful and interesting. I will be trying some of these. My son and husband are both neurodivergent and I suspect that I am too...Thank you for being authentic and opening up honestly about these. x
Neurodiverse people are drawn to each other and from what I’ve read and been told it’s highly likely if a parent is then a child will be too. That makes for one super family if you are all neurodiverse 🙌🏼 You’ll never have a boring day that’s for sure 😘
Thank you for sharing. This was very insightful. I am not diagnosed, but I find almost all these things relatable. I would love to hear more about your story. I think you are one incredibly inspiring person, and I look up to you when it comes to organsing your home and wardrobe. Keep up the amazing work because it's working for you.😊
Thank you! I am very happy to share because I personally found it so useful to relate to other people’s stories. It made me feel less ashamed, worthless and less alone to know that other women have the same daily struggles as me with their brains ❤️
@@EmmaHill Absolutely this!
@@EmmaHillplease don’t feel ashamed and worthless. The more we learn about the brain the more we realise that neurodivergence is just another way the brain works. Some of the most creative people on the planet have some form of neurodivergence. Think Emma Watson, Bill Gates, Jamie Oliver, Walt Disney, and many more. You are in very good company. 😊
Same here! 🙋♀️ I always struggled with some of this issues, but specially with time organization and going on side quests. I am very responsable with my work, but I always find it hard to be on time (since I was a child at school up until now) and to be able to get there on time I always end up running and stressed out. Thank you for sharing your tips!
Hello Emma, Thank you for that video re: ADHD.
Our son received a diagnosis when he was 7 years of age.
Although we, my husband & myself haven’t been diagnosed, I find similarities with my son. Organisation, distraction ie not staying focused or short attention span….
Starting a project/hobby being exited & giving up.
Although I don’t have ADHD, I found this interesting and personally helpful. Thank you, your content is so honest and genuine.
Thank you, I’m glad you found it helpful ❤️
Newly diagnosed with ADHD & BPD at 34 years old after seriously struggling without answers for 18 years. I so appreciate any resources and helpful information from those with experience navigating this diagnosis!
I am so impressed by you sharing about having ADHD.
You won't realize how many people you will help.
There are so many people going about not knowing and not being diagnosed.
What an Inspiration.
This is exactly the video I needed to help my little boy stay on task. Thank you ever so much for your transparency. I absolutely loved when you said: “ADHD is not your fault but your responsibility” 💛
I read that somewhere, I think it might have been the book Square Pegs, and I remember that being such a powerful statement when it comes to relationships. It just reminds me that I can’t sit back and blame everything on my ADHD, I have to manage it myself but with support and understanding from those around me ❤️
I have ADHD and have found the tips ‘minimalising’ and ‘everything has it’s place’ help keep my mind less cluttered at home :) I have also started to reduce prints, patterns and jazzy colour clothes to make my mornings easier getting dressed for work! One less thing to think about :) anything to reduce mind clutter! Thank you for sharing xx
Thank you for watching ❤️
Looking at the comments it seems like a lot of your followers are also on ADHD spectrum which is maybe a reason why we have gravitated to you channel and get enjoyment for watching your organised way of living. I would definitely put myself in that category after listening to this vlog, it has made a lot of sense to me. Thank you for this great video
We are very much drawn to each other so that could definitely have some weight to it 🫶🏼
@EmmaHill ❤️
Your vibe attracts ur tribe!😂
@@TheNicoliyah it's true! ☺️
So interesting. I'm 76 and suspect I have ADHD. I am forever starting a task and then going down a rabbit hole. I love for things to be organized, but I always make an enormous mess before finally getting there. Case in point...Christmas decorating. Though I'm always delighted with the final holiday decor, getting there causes me to make a huge mess in several rooms before I finally get it done! Btw, your hair looks amazing. I love the length. It looks so shiny and healthy. ❤
Thank you, Emma, this video is very useful for both those with ADHD and for those living with a person with ADHD! I applaud you for having the courage to talk about your own difficulties and also very positive to see you have so many useful tips as to how to manage it ❤
Thank you. This video, sharing your diagnosis and how you manage is a great kindness. All the best to you this new year.
I think the world is becoming more accepting as more is shared but yes judgement is definitely still an issue. It’s becoming increasingly more common for grown women to get diagnosed with ADHD because it’s so easy to miss in childhood and one thing I hear is “oh they’re jumping on this bandwagon now”. If this were a bandwagon I could jump off I would but unfortunately that’s not how it works. It’s all down to people not being educated enough so the more of us that can discuss the topic will spread awareness and hopefully a bit of understanding 🤞🏼
I almost wanted to cry with relief when I watched this video. I can relate to so much of this, and your tips are incredibly helpful. Thank you for including so much detail about what you actually do and the tools you use. I never thought about setting down actual tasks for morning routines but I can’t wait to try that.
Your description of your ADHD has caused me to wonder if I need to be diagnosed myself. You are totally describing me. Thank you for being so open about that.
Every thing applied to me as well and I'm neurotypical. I wonder if ADHD is on a spectrum, and we all have these tendencies but in people with ADHD, they're turned up to 95, and in neurotypical people they sit down at 30 or something like that
No harm, in that way you have an answer! I recently got diagnosed in my 40’s mother of 3, I was getting treated for depression, anxiety everything else for the last 20 years than what the real issue was. Hence treatments weren’t working. So it helps to have a proper diagnosis for sure so you can heal / function properly.
If it’s something you really want answered then yes absolutely you should go about the steps to getting that answer. I didn’t want to wait the 3 year waiting list to get my answer via the NHS so I paid and went private. If I had to make the decision again I wouldn’t bother because they gave me the answer I already knew. I never wanted medication, which is course is why an official diagnosis is important, so tbh it was completely unnecessary. I have continued to do the work myself and with therapy (which I pay for) and books, podcasts etc. I think in adults, women in particular, it’s doable to manage without the need for a diagnosis but I’m only commenting on that from my own perspective x
@@EmmaHill Thank you so much for pointing those things out. Very helpful.
Diagnosed 18mths ago aged 44. Long time follower, had no idea you or I had it 🤦🏼♀️ thank you for raising awareness. I’m completely embarrassed/ashamed about being nerodiverce and haven’t told hardly anyone. So thank you for ‘normalising’ the so called ‘not normal’ 💗
I can relate to that. I told my friends but didn’t make a big thing out of it and now we can joke about certain things that I do in the same way we banter about other things, so it makes me feel just like everyone else. It’s very freeing to be able to talk about it openly ❤️
@@EmmaHill 😍❤
Hi, Emma, I am a just retired resource teacher. Structure, routine and organization is so important with people who have ADHD. You are so right girls / women often are not diagnosed because their symptoms are very different. I’ve suspected I have ADHD, too. Choices, physical, and visual stimulation are overwhelming. Routine and structure is essential. My reward is reading and youtube time in the afternoon. I find with moving around while listening to something wearing big headphones and a using an iPad which remains stationary helps me keep up with them.
I have Adhd and I love organizing too🤩Its my fave activity among outfit planning!
Emma, thank you so so so much for this video and for being open about ADHD. As someone who has been recently diagnosed at 32 but watching your videos and implementing your tips and tricks for years I so appreciate it! I would love more ADHD content.
Thank you for sharing and I would love to see more ADHD content! Diagnosed last summer at 46, I'm 47 now and finally starting to figure 💩 out. I love hearing how other late dx'd people are managing, it really helps. 💜
A really helpful video thank you. I don't have ADHD but I can totally relate to being indecisive, from what to have for breakfast, what to wear and so on throughout the day. Its very wearing, so I can imagine other difficulties on top of that can be a big challenge.
Yesss adult diagnosed girlies club!!! I keep myself on a reward system and have also limited my clothing color schemes! Everyone thinks I’m so put together but I just do it so my clothes match and it limits the impulse spending. Thank you for this!
I love this video! I've got ADHD and I got diagnosed at 10 years old because my brother has the classical little hyperactive boys ADHD. But in the 90s there was little known about ADHD in women and I only recognised 20% of what I saw with my brother. So only in the last decade more and more knowledge is coming out and I almost feel like I'm diagnosed again. So many things are part if ADHD. I'm currently in an ADHD burn out (we are running all the tests to see if it's something else as well) but the house is a mess and I get nothing done. I needed this video.
Ah yes the burn out times 🫠 You are certainly not alone ❤️
Thank you for doing this video! I left a comment on one of your videos about two months ago, requesting you to share how you manage to actually do all your passion projects with ADHD...and you replied saying you would. As a fellow late diagnosed ADHD woman, thank YOU for remembering and thank YOU for delivering on this video. I know just exactly how challenging it is to promise to do something and then also do it. Stay blessed always Emma! Been following you for years from Pakistan
Thank you ❤️
I began following your posts after accidentally finding your review on winter coats. Never known anyone provide such detailed and very useful information. It sounds as though life could be exhausting for you, but you are aware and navigate all the challenges. Loving your work x
Your honest and authenticity is so wonderful. Please keep doing what you do!
Thank you for sharing this Emma! I have ADHD as well and didn’t know until my early 30s. I love all of your regular content, but this video was very helpful for me and I hope you give more tips like this in the future.
I have always always loved your content, it soothed me a lot and a lot of your tips have helped me build a good wardrobe myself. Now it figures, I am the late diagnosed ADHD girl. Verry helpful!
Thank you for sharing! I have, as said, a slight form, for me it is like having a computer browser with 20 pages opened simultaneously 😊 I also worked out timers, alarms, reminders, lists even before being diagnosed. I just thought I was easily distracted and forgetful.
That’s why I especially liked your idea that this is not an excuse. I’ve recently overheard this topic on various platforms and the attitude was mostly like winning a medal 🤦🏼♀️ so thanks again for your position, it’s like fresh air
The word ‘brave’ has been used a lot in the comments and truth be told it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and I don’t really know how to respond because I don’t view it as brave to speak about. It’s something that makes life pretty difficult at times but it’s not terminal or life threatening (for me) it’s just something you have to learn to deal with. It can affect relationships negatively and so you can’t just sit on your arse and do nothing about it and expect everyone else around you to pander your needs. It very much is our responsibility to manage our behaviours as a result of ADHD but in order to do that we need support, so there’s definitely give and take required from us and those around us.
@ I feel the same way about this, let’s say, “condition”. Yes, it involves some degree of self discipline, yes, sometimes you need more effort than other people, but you deal with that and live your life. It’s not a cross you need to drag.
You gave very good strategies on how to pull yourself together and combat the “side effects” of ADHD and I’m sure people would find them extremely helpful, because it isn’t just any doctor’s recommendation, but learned the hard way experience of a real person, who lives with it ♥️
Hi Emma. This video was so helpful to those who suffer from ADHD but also to those who find it difficult to organise in general. ❤️
I feel very emotional watching this video. I'm pretty sure I have ADHD but I am a very organized person from the outside. I do all the things you mention and so it seems like I have my ducks in a row, but oh my... it takes a LOT of energy to fight through the day and get stuff done. Oh, I would love to see more about this topic. I feel very validated now.
This is why I love our content creators, they addressed issues we can relate to, so pleased you have found this useful for.
I would highly recommend reading the book Square Pegs. It’s a wonderful book for women specifically from any and all walks of life who know they have or just suspect they may have ADHD. I cried so much reading that book because I was able to relate to so much and to have it explained in a way that I myself had never been able to articulate. I’m sure it comes in an audio book version as well if you prefer x
@@EmmaHillThanks! I will order that book right this second, otherwise I'll forget.. 😂
So interesting. I’m much older and 100% sure I have ADHD and am sure my mum had it. Personally I find it exhausting. Life seems so much harder than it does for other people. Especially when you get older and have less energy anyway!
I’m currently trying to declutter my house, huge task, but can easily hyper focus on organising a cupboard.
The side tasks, absolutely, I’m like a fly in a jam jar! I often think my step count is so high because I’m always running around doing things “before I forget “ and then forget what I was doing in the first place, and on it goes 🤷♀️. Given my age I’ve not pursued a diagnosis although I seriously thought about it.
@@trishhickson1550 I don't know your age but I am 51 and I feel the same way. My mother probably has it too.
Thanks for being so open about your ADHD. It reasonated with me, and I bet with many others.
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Thank you Emma for sharing your story. Like anything you do I know you work hard to help yourself and those around you. You will have spoken and stirred a lot of women to look at their own struggles in a more positive light. I applaud your honesty ❤️x
Thank you so much for this video. As someone with ADHD as well I relate to every single words you said (both how our brains work but also the tools we gave ourselves to overcome these challenges). I candidly felt like you were describing me! Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this important aspect of your life 🤍 Such an important topic.
May I add another tip for students, as I am trying to finish my PhD: I also write when I’m the most efficient which is in the morning, but the biggest game changer was to go to a designated writing space for students for 4 hours where we apply the Pomodoro method (writing for 50 minutes, taking a break for 10, repeated four times). There’s someone guiding the writing session so you don’t have to look at the clock. Phones are put away, space is luminous and clean and ergonomic so my mind is ready to focus on my writing. It also helps tremendously not to be at home since at home my mind would wander and I would do some laundry or other tasks as a distraction. One writing session allows me to write more than I would normally in a couple of days of work. (I also think the Pomodoro method can be applied at home like setting a timer for tasks.) 🫶🏻
Love a good list, or system ( like Flylady diane in denmark) or using the calendar or planner! I'd like more on this topic on keeping things simple and planned out in each room and in the closet!
What an excellent video, Emma. First and foremost, let me say thank you for sharing this with us as I’m sure this is a personal journey and for you to take the time to share these tips with your followers, is so selfless. Thank you very much.
I do not suffer from ADHD but my daughter does and I can certainly relate to a lot of what you said. I’m definitely going to share this video with her so she can get some useful tips.
I am not ADHD but found your video incredibly helpful and helped me understand better what it might feel like for folks diagnosed with ADHD, thank you for addressing 🙏
Diagnosed and undiagnosed ❤️
Thank you Emma. You are somebody so honest and have already find great ways of coping. Love the box for emptying handbag content to make sure you enjoy different handbags with the necessary content.
Thank you for watching x
Thank you for sharing this Emma - hugely informative, inspirational and constructive. A year ago , I was diagnosed with FND (Functional Neurological Disorder) as a result of PTSD following a near death situation. FND overlaps considerably with ADHD, in terms of cognitive difficulties, although there are also lots of potential physical symptoms as well. I was relieved to be given the diagnosis of FND and to be told I wasn't going mad! Your suggestions for managing the associated difficulties were most helpful and made me realise that I have to "own" my diagnosis of FND and "manage it", rather than just blaming it for the problems I have. FND is a very under diagnosed condition (as I suspect ADHD is) and more needs to be known about it within the medical profession. Many thanks for your very practical and constructive advice! ❤ xx
Thank you for sharing this content and speaking about ADHD. My mind also goes in many directions very often. Apparently your tips can be helpful for all kind of human being. I am very impressed how well you are organised.
My bestie calls it her " head full of Bees" - my version is "I have ideas like a a dog has fleas". We both have adult ADHD diagnoses - and share your physical stuff versus executive functioning/tasks being MUCH easier to manage. Thank you so much for sharing this aspect of yourself here!
Your hair looks amazing in this colour and cut! Love it!
Thank you x
Loved this. Need to implement some better systems for myself to stay better organized.
Emma, thank you so much for sharing your techniques. My therapist suggested a morning list and a before bed list. I did it, but kinda half ass. Your thorough explanation of your task lists is super helpful. Thank you. ❤
I will be refining my morning and before bed task lists now.
Thank you Emma, so helpful. I recognize myself in so many things you have mentioned. You always seem so organized, so interesting to hear how you manage to get things done
great tips Emma, and not only for people with ADHD really. Thanks for bringing them together and sharing in such well articulated way.
"Your tips are a game-changer! 🌟 Staying organized with ADHD can be tough, but you make it feel so doable. Love the practical approach and positive energy! 🔥💡"
Excellent video! Perfect timing too because I’m dealing with trying to help my teenage daughter with ADHD get organized. Thank you for the info!!
People with ADHD are always chasing that dopamine hit. I'm sorry to say but it gets a whole lot worse when you go through menopause. Estrogen affects dopamine levels and when estrogen lowers, so does dopamine. ADHD symptoms then get worse. I am 58 and struggling with this. Today I have been trying to get out of the front door to go food shopping for 3 hours and can't motivate myself.
I hope the medical profession can resolve this for women as we have been ignored for so long, (I am inattentive type of ADHD). This was a great video, thank you.
I’m a ‘combined’ ADHD’er so I can get exactly as you described at one point in the day but the next I can be performing a Disney dance routine or scene in the kitchen 🤣 Poor Simon 🙈
I’ve been told menopause hits hard for ADHD’ers so I’m bracing myself for that 🫠
I hope you are able to get the help you need and deserve ❤️
Hi Emma, this has been very helpful. My daughter does not have ADHD (she was tested at the request of her school), but struggles with organization. I want to implement some of your suggestions in my life, too. Thank you for blogging this.
I knew there was a reason I loved your content. My lists tell me what I need to do every hour of everyday, then they are constantly updated and reorganised over and over. I'd be lost without them. My mind is blown that my plain coloured clothes are a way for my mind to cope 🫣 I'm a late diagnosed female ASD and ADD here. 💁🏻♀ It's a long journey of self discovery but well worth it. Congrats on the diagnosis, lovely Emma. (Side note - you may not be the "hyper" ADHD type. You seem like the inattentive type of ADD. Hyper relates to excess activity and not necessarily hyper focus - which all types of ADD have).
I’m actually combined, I’ll go into my hyper side when I make another video 😘
I heard something the other day that the hyper for women might not be physical, but it’s all in the brain, with your thoughts being hyper. Ideas pinging around like in a pinball machine.
Yes it can manifest in both physical and mental ways. I experience both, yay 🫠🤣
Thank you for being so candid Emma! Massively helpful! And would certainly love more in-depth content on this. One thing that I struggle with is self-control during shopping. And after years of tagging myself as a shopaholic, I got my diagnosis and everything made much better sense. If you have any experience in regard to this, would love to get some insight.
I was lucky enough to be diagnosed with ADD in 1990 when I was 14 years old. Back then no one had any idea what was going on. It’s come such a long way in the last 10 years. Thanks for shining a light on the ladies who are neurodiverse. I always love your videos. Sending u lots of love from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤
So incredibly lucky. Although as you say back when we were kids it wasn’t as well known as it is today. Did you get the help you needed for managing your ADHD as a teenager?
@ I was put on medication so I could get through high school. Back then they said that it was a childhood condition that u grew out of so it was really hard navigating and making decisions after school and trying to understand why I was the way I was. It’s only now in my 40’s that I have realised I’m actually really creative and have found my strength in Visual Merchandising. My brain 🧠 has found its happy place.
I remember stuff like that being said when I was at school, not about me because I was masking, but definitely about a few boys in my year who were exhibiting the behaviours in a more noticeable way.
I was also a VM 🫶🏼
So much I can relate to and so appreciate in this video, thankyou your opening on this and very helpful insight and tips ❤. I foster and have a wee one with ADHD and another with autism. Every little helps me help them 👍 have a lovely day Emma x
Emma thank you for talking about this, I'm hyper focused on organising the opersite to you none physical and struggle with physical stuff, this was great to reflect and listen to someone else with ADHD. I watch your other video's so this was a bonus. I'm still waiting for my diagnosis of ADHD, I was diagnosed with dyslexia 20+ years ago. Love the 'side quest' and 'bouncy ball' analogy.
Fellow late diagnosed ADHDer here. Thanks for the useful tips, and thanks also just for being visible as someone with ADHD. ♥️
I can relate to the love of organising physical things, but necessarily maintaining the system! And to the side quests, and procrastination! I agree that lists are a lifesaver, and rewards are great motivators, and a key place is crucial. ☑️
It’s really challenging to live against your brain’s wishes. I don’t have a diagnosis but I’m sure I have adhd since staying organised, keeping things done also focusing something for a long time is a constant challenge. I got up from couch 3 or 4 times while watching this video as well, for different unrelated reasons (tidying up, checking on cat etc😅). I don’t clean a spot for weeks, then I clean same spot for hours with hyperfocus and forget about the world. I’m so happy that you’ve shared your experience and tips since not feeling alone is a huge help with battling neurodivergence. I think instinctively I follow people like myself. Love your content for years. Hugs xx
As someone else in the comments said “your vibe attracts your tribe” 🙌🏼 So here we all are ❤️
This video could not have come at a better time for me. Thank you!!!! ☺️
I think we all have a tiny strain of ADHD in us. Nothing wrong with it at all. But I could relate to so many things you were saying. I’m also a check list kinda girly, also very focused on my tasks in the mornings and most importantly, I struggle with maintaining certain processes I have put in place 😅 thank you for this video ❤ love all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦
This hits home 😅 especially about coping mechanisms! I was a very unproblematic child (the one you do not need to be stressing about) and also quite academically blessed. I also responded well to rewards (I.e. grades at school OR some parents tricks like „you get to stay alone at the weekend if you clean the entire Apartment). And that resulted in no one ever wondering if everything is okay. I grew up, people started to talk about ADHD more and boooom it is clear as day that I have it and just figured out a very complex system of dealing with it.
Find your tips mega useful and also been using most of them in my life!
Thanks Emma for being so open, honest and relatable in this video. I have friends with ADHD and this has really given me better understanding.
My pleasure! ❤️
Thanks Emma, very insightful 😊 I found putting things in their right place helps me get organised a lot 😅
Thank you for explaining so well how ADHD works--this helps me understand my sister better! (I always thought she was like a bird jumping around from branch to branch)🧡
Oh gosh I’ve only just scratched the surface, there’s so much more to it but I’ll go into that in another video x
Thank you, what a great video! I am 54 and not diagnosed but I could so relate to pretty much everything you talked about. Loved it 😊
When i discovered your channel i thought it was interesting because the colours you were are very similar to mine. Neutrals and no patterns...cuts down on decisions and everything co-ordinates. We are all different as you say and would love to live with adhd and be as organised as you. Thanks for sharing. Really appreciated you normalusing condition and acknowledging presentation in girls and women is quite different💜
Thank you for this video. I believe I may be undiagnozed ADHD. I just get distracted so easily, especially the moving from one task to another then getting hyper focussed on some thing during that which derails other plans. Especially time management. I definitely have to keep mental checks. Everything has it's place is an excellent tip. This has helped me a lot over the past few years. Also makeing time 'budgets' like - I have to be finished by this time to get to X - I have until this time to scroll instagram, etc. (which is challenging for me - time management hurts my head). Very helpful. In general what you are talking about are useful habits for everyone! :)
What a good video, Emma. I have ADHD with some “additional friends”, and I am glad that there is more attention for it. Especially to expose that this does not necessarily mean that there are intellectual problems, but that we rather have a different way of thinking and coping in certain segments of our lives. Up until now, for example with ASD , there is often a feeling that outside help is always needed and that we are not able to be fully in the world or be taken seriously.
I completely agree, there’s so much misunderstanding around neurodiversity.
Fellow ADHD woman here. Thanks for sharing! I really relate to having to literally write down your exact morning routine and streamlining your wardrobe to avoid overwhelm
Thanks for sharing. I love the slide you added between each chapter. Talking about ADHD, I can relate this to my ex. I remember long time ago he was trying to find something from the garage, but hours later he was still not back home so I went to check on him , then I realised he was making something out from some left over materials in the garage 😂. At the end of day he made a big mess in the garage and couldn’t finish any task he was initially setting to do. 😅
Than you for sharing. I have not been diagnosed, but relate to a some of this. I can’t even drink a cup of tea or watch a movie, because I always see something I need to do around the house. But when I get hyper focused (puzzles are terrible) everything can be a mess, I just can’t be bothered. One thing that helps me not loose the bag content is bag insert, that can be just moved from one bag to another.
This will resonate with most people. Did you know we are all on the autistic spectrum to some degree. I worked with children in education , with autism. Very fulfilling job. I find I have many of the traits you talk about and when I get overwhelmed it impacts my fibromyalgia . Xx
Thank you Emma. I was diagnosed with ADHD eight months ago. I had always thought I had OCD since I must have have all things tidy and clean. As you mentioned, I often jump from one task to another. "Time blindness" is a challenge sometimes also.
Off topic; the burgundy colour along with your hair really becomes you 😊 xx for B-babies 🐾 💕
Don’t even get me started on Time Blindness, I have some funny (but frustrating) stories to tell about that which I’ll save for another video 🙊
I’ve been told that ADHD usually “comes with friends”, meaning that those of us with ADHD usually have one or more other things like OCD, depression, an eating disorder, anxiety, addiction, autism, a learning disorder, the list could go on. I have a few of those 🫠
Thank you very much ❤️
@EmmaHill
Yes! All of what you stated is true (sadly).
If it weren't for my two rescue pups, who recused me, I'd be in a much worse state. I've had GAD, cptsd, depression for most of my life. It's exhausting. Keeping on schedule for pups' outings, playtime, meals, Vet appts help me keep a routine, no matter how I may be feeling. Would like to hear more from you on this subject please.
Thank you so much 💓
You're a bright light in this world 🌟
What would we do without dogs eh?! They really are the best creatures on this planet 🙌🏼❤️
@@EmmaHill 🤗 💕
I am not diagnosed with ADHD but I believe I have it. I am very similar to you and am a visual but organised person and also love a label maker. I hyperfocus and the hobbies one you mentioned is very true. Thank you Emma for your tips, very useful. ❤
What an amazing young woman you are. Having followed you for awhile and loving the variety of vlogs you do, your vulnerability to share this about yourself was inspirational to others who might experience ADHD. All of your vlogs demonstrate a woman who is very organized and methodical so this helps others see that all is not perfect in your world either.
Thank you so much Emma. This has really helped me. I found so much of what you said in this video relatable! Side quests, yes always! Rach 🥰 xx
I’m on a side quest right now 😏🤣
Thank you for your honesty! I actually asked my sister last week if she thought I might have ADHD due to my obsession with hobbies. At the moment, it's my garden, not for the first time. I'm guilty of Extreme crochet, Manic knitting, patchwork, painting furniture, writing, reading and I have every type of paint, pencil, paper and canvas but have never used any of it, blue and white china was an obsession...I could go on.
I'm also and always have been unorganised with paperwork, admin etc. I let it all wash over me.
I'm 63 and I'm not going to pursue a diagnosis now but it answers a few questions I have about myself!
So thanks mrs!
You do sound like you probably have adhd. I’m older than you and 100% certain I have it. You sound a lot like me too. I’ve also not pursued a formal diagnosis for probably the same reasons as you.
Yes, it's not really affecting my life apart from my bank account when I'm anywhere I can buy a plant!
Good luck with the hobbies and paperwork!
@ oh paperwork! Disaster area!
Thanks, Emma. This makes you 10x more relatable…lol at the side quest tasks, fml. I feel inspired for checklists after watching this.❤
Such a helpful video Emma. Coincidentally, today I sent off my forms to the consultant I am seeing for a possible ADHD diagnosis, so this all resonated so much for me. I found some of your hints and tips very helpful. So pleased you shared.
🤍✨kbgardensnhomes xxx
So interesting! I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD, but I identify with pretty much everything you’ve said.
Thank You Emma for talking about what you struggel with! Brilliant for people like me that my entire life has heard that I am a mess. Loosing keys and wallets everywere all the time and not only that. Me loosing the family dog beeing the worse and a story told over and over again 😳 We do have ADHD in my family but only the young kids are diagnosed but I can see the same thing in my brother and me. And my father before he died! I have always looked with admiration on your videos of your house and everything in it! Now I don’t feel so bad that I struggel with putting away my cloths at night, beeing to tired to tidy up after looking at tv or whatever. I will think; Emma stuggles with this too! I am a neat freak, perfectionist and loves organizing but not so much maintenance! So do not be to hard on yourself as I will try not to! But I will go back and look at this video again and again as it made me feel so relaxed and inspired at the same time! Sweet lovely Emma 🥰, hope you keep your brilliant videos coming 😘
There are various studies to suggest a high likelihood that ADHD could be genetic so it wouldn’t be surprising to have multigenerational ADHD in a family.
Writing this as I’m putting away a huge pile of messy clothes in my wardrobe that’s taken me well over an hour because I’ve already gone on 8 side quests 🤣😘
@ 😂 I know about the genetics but when I have heard girls and women talk about their ADHD it has never streck a cord in me as from the outside I look like I have it all together. Just like you do!! But when I saw you today I could relate to all of it! I have had lists for what to do in the morning and evenings to not forget to brush my teeth or take away makeup. Or even to not forget to eat! That happened just yesterday and at 2 I said I’ll make breakfast and my husband just rolled his eyes. Then I realized the time. Do you have days/half days where you really have no clue what you have been up to as you are just sidetracked until you end up on the couch? I need to go back to my lists and explain to my husband why! Thank You soo much for this! I hope you show more of your life story and how you learned to live with your ADHD! So impressing! Lots, lots and even more lots of love from Sweden 🇸🇪
Yes I definitely have those days. Those are the worst days, where I have zero motivation because I can’t get my brain to do what I want & need it to do and then I just get really frustrated with myself which can then lead to being quite emotional because I feel useless and lazy. It’s vicious 🫠
@ Yes! Feeling useless and stupid for not beeing able to do what I really want! I feel so encouraged to work with this new knowlige. Somehow I never saw it as possible to have ADHD. My husband just shakes his head if he comes home and ask what I have been up to and I have no idea. Or I have plans for the next day and tell him… He will only answer ”Well we will see, you plans usually fails”. Well I am in tears of realizing that I have had a system with lists that worked but I threw them away as my husband thought it was silly. Now I know better I will do better! 🥰 Bless You as the Americans says! 😘
I would highly recommend the book Square Pegs. I felt so seen after reading that book and for some reason when I’d finished it gave me the confidence to open up to Simon and tell him what I struggle with as and when those incidences arise. I think he understands me more now and although it’s probably very frustrating for him he doesn’t show it, which really helps. So whatever it is I would advice finding the thing that allows you to be that clear with your husband because the reaction from him that you’re being met with is not going to make life any easier for either of you. As I quoted in the video “it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility”. There needs to be give and take on both sides x
Emma!!!
I have a kitchen aid AND a metal detector too!
I never used it. Obviously 😂
I feel now so much better! Thank you so much, you made my day ❤
🤣🤣🤣 mate that got me 😆
Brb, I’m just off to Peru because I decided last night that I’m going to be an Archeologist 🤣
😂Try Magnet Fishing - low acquisition costs…
Oh that’ll be next don’t you worry 😏😆
Emma, I am someone who thinks they have ADHD, so this is helpful. I also think birds of a feather! So it’s amazing how many other women I am drawn to who have similar traits. Like everyone our super strength is also a blind spot. I’m an easily distracted, the things I should do have no excitement or lustre. I want bright and shiny all the time…newness, excitement so I’m the queen of 14 tasks at once, lateness, distraction. I loose everything my bag, keys, purse, phone. So I appreciate the reminders of ways to help myself. I do a lot of the things you suggest. But I also self sabotage for the dopamine! Thanks Emma for sharing its hugely appreciated and all your tips and tricks help. More regarding this topic if you feel comfortable please.
I hear you! Chasing Dopamine is something I do constantly, it’s probably one of my biggest struggles 🫠
@ honestly the things I do are totally off the scale bonkers and are hilarious after the fact but so annoying, frustrating and occasionally tragic. I love the ‘baker/metal detectorist’ example. I’ve a feeling I’d really like that person. Off to pay my water bill now following the inspo! I’ve a feeling I could start clearing out the garage first if I’m not careful.
Oh I bet you’ve got some gems in that garage 🤣🙌🏼 Metal detector, Kitchen Aid? 😜😜
@@EmmaHill no but if you need some roller skates, a wet suit, sledge, walking poles and a hula hoop I’ve got you. Now you’ve mentioned it I’d love a metal detector. Ha ha ha 🤣
My 22yr old daughter has ADHD (inattentive) and is challenged with organization. I will be sharing your tips and suggestions with her. Thank you!
Thanks a bunch for sharing Emma, I totally get you! Your video made me feel like I’m not the only one who struggles with meal planning. I can’t even explain to my husband how much time and effort I put into deciding what to eat and cook three times a day! And don’t even get me started on how quickly my days go by. I feel like I don’t accomplish anything big because of all the little things I do. I think starting a morning routine like yours would be a game-changer for me. Crossing off stuff from my list would make me feel like I actually accomplished something. Could you share more about that i. e. apps you use, what you put on your to-do-lists, etc? Also, I feel especially overwhelmed with planning a trip. I usually don’t know where to start, then I gather a ton of info and don’t know what to do with it.
I don’t use a fancy app, I literally just use the notes function on my iPhone. It has some basic formatting tools on there including the checklist function. I have everything that I need to do on my checklist aside from breathe and go to the toilet 🤣 (although on my travel list I DO have “go to the toilet” 😆) I have to remind myself to eat, change the dogs water, wash my face, brush my teeth, cleaning tasks, work tasks, check the post box, water the plants etc. it’s just a list of very normal day to day things that I work through in an order to avoid getting sidetracked x
Hey Emma, thanks so much for your quick reply! I use my notes all the time, but I haven’t tried the checklist function yet. LOL You’re funny!
I found this video randomly and this is so relatable!! ❤
I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but all so relatable. Thank you so much for sharing!
Now I understand why I like you so much and can relate to your way of organizing. I have “it” to. Thanks so much for sharing ❤️❤️❤️
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Hi Emma, thank you for talking about this. I’d love to hear more in depth about it. I’m waiting for an autism assessment. Love google calendar, I changed all of the default colours to colours I prefer with hex codes and also use the task feature a lot.
Omg 😊this totally describes me to a T. I haven’t been diagnosed officially but I feel this is how my brain operates. Thank you sooooo much for this helpful video.
A lot of what you said was like a lightbulb moment for me. So fascinating when you said about girls presenting differently - would love to hear more about that ❤
I’m not an expert by any means but I can definitely share what I’ve been told and read. If you found this video useful I would highly recommend the book Square Pegs, it’s an incredible book for women with ADHD or who may suspect they have ADHD x
@ thank you so much 😊
Excellent video, so helpful. Amazing how I slowly realize I have ADD, too, autist part was obvious but this tiny details....amazing
What an excellent video!! Would love more information about this from your perspective. For example, time management…as in the struggle to be on time and your tricks learned. Also, what was the diagnostic process like? What does the test consist of and what markers told them you had it? What made you suspect it in the first place in yourself to move you to be tested? Did getting an official diagnosis help you? In what way? I have so many questions!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻😅
I can definitely cover more info in a future video x
Excellent video, Emma! Boy - do I ever recognize some of those traits in myself! Sometimes I think it's systems overload!
Thank you for sharing! I would love an in-depth video please! Lots of love!
Loved every minute of this one. Thanks!
Such an interesting vlog Emma. Thank you for sharing - I never realised you had ADHD until you mentioned it recently on one of your vlogs. You certainly cope extremely well - i never would have guessed. A very salient point you made on keeping to basic colours /no prints or patterns re your clothes. You always have such lovely outfit combinations from what I've seen in your What I Wear In A Day vlogs - all very different and tasteful - I would never have believed you had problems in collating your clothes - you have always come across so naturally organised.
After watching your vlog I believe a teenage family member shows all the signs of ADHD. He is always fixating on certain things to buy - whether watches, clothes or tech. He buys one thing that he absolutely has to have,, then loses interest and has to buy the next thing that he believes is better. He is lucky that he is living at home still and has quite a well paid job for his age, plus he's a bit of a wheeler/dealer and sells on his discarded things, but it's worrying his family. I'm going to share your vlog with them.
I watched last week's vlog on death planning - I have done this too as time is ticking away for me now and I don't want to leave a mess begins me when I'm gone! My DD has done it too!
Just got to mention too that I love your new hair! Happy Sunday and love to you, Simon and the Bs. Xxx
It’s important to look for other signs of ADHD and not just one particular habit and there are so many more than the ones I mentioned in this video, I’ve only scraped the surface. It’s very complex and behaviours vary, there are also 3 different types, I have combined ADHD which is a combination of inattentive and hyperactive/impulsive. Has anyone tried talking to him to see if he’s struggling with anything in particular? Impulsive habits can certainly be a sign of ADHD if accompanied by other behaviours and struggles x
@@EmmaHill Thanks Emma. He's a very bright boy, but rather insular. He doesn't make friends easily and the worry is buying and obsessing over 'things' is taking the place of friendships. He gets on ok with adults, in fact interacts well with them, but has no friends of his own age and never goes out unless it's with adult family or on his own to shop! I must say he doesn't appear particularly inattentive and is an apprentice in an engineering industry and is doing well - again he works with older people at the mo! 🤷♀
People with ADHD can be incredibly academic, that’s when their hyperfocus kicks in so if he excels at his job that’s not to say that he won’t have it. If he’s a gen Z then I can u stand why he doesn’t want to hang around with other gen Z 🤣🙈 Maybe he doesn’t share the same interests as them. If he’s happy and functioning well as he is then that’s great. I would only advise seeking advice if he has difficulty within his day to day that stops him from enjoying his life to the full. But I’m no doctor nor an expert, I can only comment based on my own experience and my own brain x
@ Thank you for your wise words Emma. Your comment on Gen Zs made me laugh!😂
This was so relatable and helpful
thank you for sharing Emma ❤
Hi Emma, thank you this is so helpful and interesting. I will be trying some of these. My son and husband are both neurodivergent and I suspect that I am too...Thank you for being authentic and opening up honestly about these. x
Neurodiverse people are drawn to each other and from what I’ve read and been told it’s highly likely if a parent is then a child will be too. That makes for one super family if you are all neurodiverse 🙌🏼 You’ll never have a boring day that’s for sure 😘
You are so articulate, thank you
Great video Emma Thanku for this,I know how you feel and you are so brave and informative sharing this with us!❤
Great video very helpful thanks. I'd definitely appreciate you doing a video of you talking more about your ADHD when you're happy to x
It will be my pleasure to ❤️
Had no idea about the male/female difference. Thanks for putting this out there.