1) 4:14 How does a person regain confidence in themselves to do a certain job, when employers think they are worthless? 2) 11:55 Hey Kati, I have been seeing my therapist for a little over a year now. I struggle with depression and my therapist said it may be time to see a psychiatrist. At this point, I'm tired of feeling shitty so I'll try anything. I'm so afraid of medication side effects though. For example, weight gain is a common issue but I have body image issues already and if I gain weight these issues might worsen. 3) 18:57 How to set up healthy boundaries during this time? 4) 25:42 Do comfort and solace have to come from within? If so how the heck do you do it? I think one of the reasons I binge eat is to provide myself comfort because I have no one to provide it to me (dealing with pdd and childhood emotional neglect). I’ve been trying to build my support network but I am wondering if the piece I’m missing is what I need to be providing myself. 5) 35:24 Please talk about dealing with hypersexuality as a result of childhood sexual abuse. Most stuff that I've found on the topic always assume bipolar disorder. But I'm not bipolar so I find it difficult to relate to their advice. 6) 44:44 How do you deal with the fear and anxiety of growing up? I just turned 19 and I feel very overwhelmed. I'm not the best at living in the moment because I'm so desperately trying to hold onto the things that brought me happiness in the past. I know it sounds morbid but I feel like I wasn't supposed to make it to this age like I'm never going to do something important enough to 'earn my spot' like at this point I'm just taking up space 7) 53:38 I was diagnosed with CPTSD and I’m having trouble remembering the details of what happened. How can I process it if I can’t remember the details?
OMG, I started singing the intro song without even realizing it, I didn't even know I knew all the words to it, hahaha. Also, thank you Kati for taking the time to do record these episodes
In Australia most states have a Sexual Assault Resource Centre, with fantastic trauma therapists, and the therapy is free, and for as long as you need it. And they do EMDR, and a whole bunch of trauma specific therapies. To qualify for the service you to have had any experience of sexual abuse, whether it was a one time thing or ongoing, childhood or adult. I've just started seeing a therapist there and even though it's via video conferencing (thanks corona), it's been really good.
What a coincidence, my therapist and I just talked about medication a few hours ago. I have an appointment scheduled with a psychiatrist next week and your tips are very welcome! For years I refused medication because of the side effects and my anxiety around medication in general, but my depression and eating disorder are really getting out of control now. But hearing from you that I'm in controle and I can ask as many questions as I like next week really calms me down and let's me see another persepective of the situation. Maybe the medication will help, maybe they will not, but without trying and a clear communication I will never know so I will give it my best shot. Thanks Kati! :)
I feel so lucky, as a nurse l am still working and my life hasn’t been interrupted too badly. I miss going out for brunch etc but I’m able to make money, feel productive and see friends. I know if I was stuck at home 24/7, my depression would be unmanageable. Thanks for your videos Kati. I’m watching in bed after a long week of night shifts.
“As cute as a bugs ear” is something my Nana used to say.... those “old” nonsense sayings. Be well, Katie and everyone. Get sun, drink water, listen to emotion evoking music and move your body. 💚
I just love Kati. Omg, I love her personality , she is a character. Every time she makes her sounds , I laugh out loud. Love that she doesn’t give a shit how what others think of how she throw her sailor’s mouth lmfao! I’m like her and that makes me love her so much. Very down to earth and such a real real individual/humble/funny and professional. She is a great Therapist . Love your videos and your dedication to helping many of us. Also, why do you apologize for going off topic??? We love your stories and your personality!!! You’re like family to us all! Love Sean as well. Girl, you’re a riot.
Thank you so much! I loved this content. I think a lot of people struggle with boundaries (myself included!). I am really far into my recovery/recovered (?) from my eating disorder and don't feel like it's a big part of my life currently by I do feel like my mental health is something I always want to be conscious of and take care of!
The thing I do to soothe myself is just lay in the bed with my head hanging off the bed. I found that when I have binge urges or anxiety, if I just lay down and actually let the feelings and thoughts come, but not judge them, they pass very quickly. Thank you Kati for these Q&A's. They're very helpful. xoxo
Kati, I used your inside out memory ball analogy to describe trauma to my friend who survived a school shooting. I wanted to help validate the way she was feeling and it totally helped her be kinder to herself when she gets triggered! She is the best so thank you for sharing the analogy so I could share it with her
Hi Kati, I've been dealing with Major Depressive Disorder, anxiety and self-harm for a year and a half now and honestly I feel like this won't have an end. I´m taking all my meds and going to therapy, I´ve reached a point were I´m kind of stable, with highs and very bad lows, but I'm not happy or at least feel normal.(I don´t know it that really makes sense.) Also, I´ve never considered myself a "happy" person, I´m very shy and quite an introvert. Do you have any advise for this sense of hopelessness? Could it become something chronic? Thank you for all your help and lots of love from Spain.
Hi! I also have a feeling that my depression and ptsd became chronic...But I still hope that it will get better. Maybe a year and a half is not so much for our mind to get fully recovered. Think about different physiological (not mental) illnesses - it can take years to get fully recovered from them (like various injuries) and our mental health is much more difficult to understand and to treat. I wanna support you and tell you that please don't give up and hope for better! With lots of support and best wishes from Ukraine🤗
Oh, you can talk, I like to listen to you. Don't stress yourself with too many questions. A few remarks from my side regarding todays podcast: I think it would be ideal to ask for questions on this channel, but leave a notice on the Kati Morton channel, so users can find you. Weight gain through medication was never my problem, but my psychiatrist warned me about a loss of libido. But it's not that bad after all. What my experience with antidepressants is: it can feel worse in the beginning and this can be really scary. So be warned if you start antidepressants, and probably have someone always close to you, who you trust! But it will get better and I am fine with taking medication for the rest of my life if it helps. Thank you Kati, for another great video!
Hey Kati! So it might not be as important and relatable as the other questions you get, but maybe you wanted to talk about something similar anyway, so. I have an amazing, loving boyfriend; he'd had a perfect childhood, with perfect parents and family, perfect friends, perfect schooling and education at every level, he has his passions that he wants to turn into his living, is good at them, was always supported and encouraged by everyone, never criticized, abused, discouraged, even shouted at; even his past relationships were without traumatising bad stuff. For me, all of these, well, not so much. I struggle a lot, with many things, especially now; and as much as he loves me and tries his best to support me, he often cannot understand how I feel, and has no idea how to behave, cause he's never been through anything really negative in his life, as fairytailish as it sounds. He's always caring and trying his best, though, and I really appreciate it; and everything is good if the reasons for my feeling down are unrelated to him, but when they are connected with him in any way, he freaks out and completely freezes; an example - I feel terrible and reach out to him for emotional support (though I often don't realise that at the time, I only know I feel terrible and that it's probably connected to some situation), he misinterprets it for me wanting logical ways to solve the situation and goes on to deliver an elaborate, which then sometimes feels to me as if I'm being ignored, and even if not, this is not what I need, and I feel even worse. He then sees that my state has worsened and at the same time 1) starts to panic, cause somehow it was him that made me upset, which is the worst thing in the world to him, 2) feels annoyed or even angry, cause he feels he didn't say or do anything wrong and it's wrong of me to be upset at that; he then feels that he cannot even talk to me on the topic he was at, which irritates him. When I see him like that, completely frozen, not saying a thing, even asked to, and avoiding me, it only makes me feel worse; "he doesn't want to even talk to me, and even to look at me! I must be the worst; maybe he's considering leaving me?", while he struggles with his own feelings, unable to even tell what he is feeling then, knowing he should do something immediately, but not knowing what, and how, and definitely not feeling like delivering any emotional support then; it's just a downward spiral, all coming from us being unable to communicate our feelings effectively. We've been through it several times, and I think we found a way to deal with this one situation, but there are many more, and we really want to find ways to communicate the difficult feelings better to each other, and be able to understand each other better. I eventually started seeing a psychologist to deal with my stuff and taking some medication to be more emotionally stable and less nervous; he believes that on his end it's mostly his lack of experience with similar feelings and situations, and wants to understand and act better, too. I do, as well; when he feels bad and stressed, he definitely doesn't want closeness and comforting, like I do, he then wants to escape and be left alone for some time, and even though I know it now, it's still hard to take it in; I still feel rejected when that happens, and feel useless and helpless, knowing I'm not able to help, and me doing anything can only make it worse. So... have you got any tips or techniques for us that we could use together, or any we could use individually? Any tips on how to communicate better? How to talk about what it is like for us and understand it better? How to really understand and accept that we deal with things differently, and explain that to each other, so that we can act on what the other person needs rather than what we would need in a similar situation? On what to do when a tough situation appears? ...uh, this is rather long... feel free to shorten it however you see fit! I'm bad at that; didn't want anything left unexplained! And thank you for reading, if you do :)
Hi..What do you do when you feel like your family don’t want you here and always criticise you but you can’t get away from them because of lockdown? And also what do you do if you feel like they are starring at new ish self harm scars when they think It was a “one time thing” years ago? Many thanks
Forgive them,they are clueless,ask for God to forgive them for their oblivious behavior,focus on yourself start by reading listening doing smart things cut out garbage information and people and things (pornography),eat the right food,drink only water and tea,exercise,be in nature as long as you can and start being a better you,when you become better then try to help others in doing so,set the example
I laughed when you said that you feel like you rounded the corner and are feeling better. I feel the opposite. I’ve been in quarantine since 3/24. Up until this last week, i feel like I was doing well and taking things in stride, but hen this week happened and I’m irritable, antsy, and I find that I’m annoyed that I’m annoyed. Logically, I know why we are doing this and I agree with it, but that is no longer soothing to me.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't mind if you only get through a few questions. I love a good deep dive! So, don't be sorry you didn't get through all of them in one go. It was a great episode! 😀
I dont have a bad boss just shift manager...I recently spoke to and online therapist because I feel like I have been going through alot emotionally like intrusive thoughts...I am trying to overcome it but I feel like going to an actual therapist would help me ..it feels like I am going under with my emotions..
Great podcast, I really enjoyed watching you taking the time to slowly explain all the nitty-gritties. Mental health is sooo complex and... complicated! Small comment to no 7, about CPTSD. I might be wrong, but from what I understood, both EMDR, and somatic experiencing are fantastic ways for solving PTSD, so a bit like one time trauma. But for CPTSD they might not work. According to trauma specialist Bessel Van Der Kolk, best known so far are neuro feedback, and body focused techniques. Intrestingly, yoga is more effective than medicine. NARM sounds promising (verifying). CPTSD is relatively new in psychology, not even recognised from PTSD by some (DSM5) , so I get all the confusion. If the trauma was developmental, or even infant, there may be no way to recover it. You might remember the Feeling, but not the Trauma itself. Be aware of the right specialist. Exposure therapy or gestalt therapy can retraumatise those suffering from CPTSD I heard.
I have PTSD and i love your analogy it explains it in the best way. I also just started on an SSRI. This episode was so helpful on so many levels. Thank you!
Milena milena. nice comment I agree with your comment kati is my comfort zone and my time every week I listen and watch her video nice to meet u also 🙂👍
Kati...could you plz do a detailed video on OSFED Atypical Anorexia?? That's what I suffer from. Like the symptoms and such...I'm bloated and and now I may have gastroparisis. I'm trying to recover with just therapy. But I feel I'm failing bad.
I said to my sister that I wasn’t going to talk to her when she was acting like this( as you said) but then my parents got involved and I got in big trouble when I said nothing!
Hi Gina . I'm nikki like your comment I also look forward to these videos every week aswell and the hour she gives us to listen and watch her wondering how to get a question seen and answered as I tried to get a question to kati last time sadly was not seen or picked also nice to meet u 🙂
Hi, Kati! I have no personal experience or intensive knowledge about eating disorders, but I know it's one of your specialized areas so I wanted to hear your opinion on the matter. I think the first exposure I had to the topic was a movie known "Starving In Suburbia", when I was quite young- maybe 12 or 11. From the little I recall, I remember feeling almost afraid of the protagonist. The way the was portrayed, she seemed obsessed with this image of a "perfect self" to the point where she would lash out at others. When her parents noticed she was feeling unwell and tried to get her to eat, for example, she would scream at them and say they were trying to make her fat. She seemed extremely selfish, having this skewed obsession about food fueled by extreme beauty standards. Naturally, I understand that your relationship with eating would be affected by your disorder. You might need someone to help monitor your eating habits, at least during the beginning of recovery. But the way it seems to be portrayed in media the person with the eating disorder seems completely unaware they have a problem, so obsessed they disregard the feelings of the people that care for them. It demonizes them. I think media (at least what I've been exposed to) seems to undermine the external influences that cause someone to get an eating disorder. Society places these ridiculous standards on you, it tells you you'll never be "good enough" to the point you're driven to starve yourself or make yourself sick just to fit that image. Then it'll go ahead and tell you you're vain and selfish for believing the image exists in the first place. Of course, the reasons someone develops an eating disorder must vary between different people, but no one simply chooses to get an eating disorder. It's an illness. It seems wrong to put the blame on them when what they most need at that point in time, is probably someone who will just be there for them. To tell them that they don't need to do all those things to be loved and appreciated. Sorry for this being like an essay-long question. I just wanted to hear what you had to say, having so much experience surrounding the topic. Is this something you've also noticed, or a misconception you've had to deal with in your work?
When I got my antidepressant I was in an eating disorder hospital and they gave people the one that don't make you gaine weight. Or at least, supposedly. Listening to this while walking my dog. It's awesome! Edit: what is the name of the book you suggested? Thank you
I really enjoyed the session. Thank you, Katie! And you were doing great in this video. I could still learn from those moments when you slightly went off topic, so don’t feel bad about them.
Thank you Kati for recording these videos! I find them super helpful and soothing! I screamed out loud in happiness when you mentioned Midsomer Murders cause that was my mom's and my favorite show when I lived with my parents!😁
#katiFAQ Hi Kati, Thankyou so much for your time and care! I have a question about emotions. I struggle with anxiety and have done for a long time, the other day someone asked me when I was last angry! I couldn't remember??!! Is this normal? Is everyone able to have a full range of emotions? I think (not entirely sure) the emotions I experience most are sadness, anxiety, overwhelmed and frustration. I'm not sure I am able to feel angry? Why does this happen? Thankyou again Michelle
Michelle Lewis. Ho I'm nikki I been reading your comment and I can relate to everything you wrote I also suffer from anxiety and it gets bad sometimes I have times I'm very sad and also frustrated and emotional overwhelmed I feel alone inside and out although I have my family I live with sadly I don't have any close friends and dont have meny people I can share and anxiety with hope you read this and reply makes me feel a little better when I read and see other people s comment s and they also go through the same things I do thanks p.s kati is my comfort zone 🙂👍
Hi kati! I was just wondering how I can ask my parents to put me in therapy without having to explain why i want to go. I'm sure my mom will understand, but i dont want to elaborate to her on all of my self destructive tendencies. I also think I hide it pretty well but I dont want to change the way they think about me.
My therapist says EMDR is not a good fit if there's dissociation. Not able to process or some such. Also since ppl with DID don't remember much of trauma as it is kept by my alts, so memory is really bad, EMDR would be really difficult in that case. ☺
Really enjoyed this thank you Kati💜 I have a question for the next podcast. Do you have any advice on coping being a parentified child during this crisis, my mum is a key worker and when she’s at home she’s usually drunk. I’m having to look after my younger brother and tidy up constantly which is making my mood low and making me have bad thoughts. Any ideas on how to handle this💕💕
#katiFAQ do you have advice for mental health and people who work night shift? This summer I’ll be started as a brand new nurse. I’m currently in an outpatient program for my eating disorder and anxiety. I’m at the point where I can see recovery happening, but am scared for when I move in two months and rotate working nights with little breaks.
Working at night is horrible...Rest is extremely crucial in recovery I would strongly advise not to work during night,I'm more serious than death when i say that,I beg you to listen to this advice,I could tell you at least 10 reasons why,but I don't have enough time to do that,Just trust me,you could also say I could sleep during the day...don't think like that...
Hi everyone and hey kati I been missing my comfort I get from you thank you I'm Watching now I only just seen the notification seems I am getting the new video s, late what is a shame I'm still here still enjoying these ask kati anything podcast also you was looking good kati I still hope to get a question to you and picked to answer iv had some bad days some not so bad days happy to be here again in this safe space with other people who struggle with things aswell 👍🙂
Hello, Kati, hope you are keeping safe and doing well.. Just being curious, do you answer questions on tumblr as I have asked something very personal? Thanks!
Look at Kati Morton channel and click on the community tab she has been posting them there. But just Incase she post them in this channel instead turn on your notifications for both channels I recommend.
i have never used a dr . at age 15 in house of a dr who was food addicted dysfunctional anger gambling , and negative, no communication. i had to go to his medical books and diagnose me after a trauma. it was very dark and i had to keep going to school and keep smiling and saw myself go to hell. i manage to pull honors in life and principals exposed to drugs alcoholics and things and chose life basket ball and my life then got to art school cured it focus on me my art it was very dark then i came up to light. i came home like nothing and happy when i was slap in face. my father took his issues out on me by making me the perfect or the star and able to over come with correctness, a mentally il kid, he was confused and insane. a Doctor with low function. i had to face his sickness until he induce Munchhausen by proxy on me to keep me out of art school from his delusions . when other people or parents use a scapegoat kid to take their issues out oon instead of face them self theyw ere very fuck up. not intelligent my family follow them as roll model its like my mothers stupid coms out of their mouth and i my crisis of someone trying to kill me they acted like her or the father instead of being able to react. i had a healty roll model of life. suffered 11 year of torture at hands of mad people eand escape. i think it was about kilin gme to not expose it. i was target person i my story and suffer a bizarre torture and hostage abuse by someone as result of this situation before that i was drug free , artist in art school. with out issues. and overcome one happy. i hav not been compensated for this abuse which effected me and induce abuse. i had to take up the whole thing alone trailed by one sister who is constantly about what if i am set up or some delusion. is she passive aggressive like i said. she sat there an is nurse background and is trying to now become artist and i was left blidn and retarded brain dmage to lose my professional amazing talent and life. she just sat and did not even ask and basically said she did not care and toss some party at me while i was losing a miracle as if it not matter. my friends said my family would kill me one day.said that i distance from them????? can u not imagine why? i just lost a bright miracle. my mothers madness comes out of my family or father... .. this whole last issue of me losing my ife by actions of a person who did not respect my borders despite it was strong enough to keep people out and he wanted to create his own reality like my sister, he was also ito this mind reading shit of people in world and trying to be the smart one sensitive stuborn, and dont feel he has to correct his errors and would be the one people would take heart to know him and kill me for him. i avoided it because i did not need to know anyone and was minding my own miracle when a person acted out and it lead to my situation and death. there was four years for someone to respect me my life miracles and bright life and i was being stalked to murder for what i had.. i end up on bottom of world in a remake of my life abuse and removed my means ways to survive and sent to a place called hell. evil. pure evil to tell someone that murder is goign on and the y turn deaf blind . i see the patterns of my father and mother in them , i was not fuckt up i was the pure one and they fuck me up so bad to put me on bottom not top not one person protested my abuse or life.. i took it to places n one could and i was never respected or protected. someone induce a eating disorder from sexual insult abuse trauma and greif and removing parts of my coping means to make sure i was sicken. i loast means to communicate so i could not dispell the thing indcue to get a person to destroy me and make me the vilian. i had no intent to know a person who could d oalot of damage and iw as in my bounds with firm boundaries but mgiht been slightly damage from an pre event to lead up to me being taken down but i was ok. fixing it. he nixed my means to fix it sending me to hell. someone took me into a second child hood removed god my means to care for my wounds and watched me sink to bottome of world after i pulled miracles. no one cared tocome between it. i dont beleive that comfort or solace could always come from with in , if your cut off from your means to comfor tnd medically i need. you need that outside to not become toxic yourself.. if ur dog was woundd if i did not comfort him, hes hate me and not want to trust me , and learn.. to not feel cared about. become neurotic..
49:23 Maybe we work two jobs. Like when i was in graduate school. I was also a waitress cause that paid better if you can imagine, *than being an intern which paid nothing* Daaaamnn shade! Hahahahah! Like, yeah? Why don't they pay interns?
Did anyone else read the title of the video and think:"That's what covid-19 said!"? Hopefully...so at least in hell we can burn together and not on our own.
13:23 dudette? oh, i guess it means feminitives exists in english language too. that's a discovery of the week, tbh. kinda weird to see it in english, because everything there is so genderless. like a mic stand, for example - it's not he, it's not she, it's just it... lol
1) 4:14 How does a person regain confidence in themselves to do a certain job, when employers think they are worthless?
2) 11:55 Hey Kati, I have been seeing my therapist for a little over a year now. I struggle with depression and my therapist said it may be time to see a psychiatrist. At this point, I'm tired of feeling shitty so I'll try anything. I'm so afraid of medication side effects though. For example, weight gain is a common issue but I have body image issues already and if I gain weight these issues might worsen.
3) 18:57 How to set up healthy boundaries during this time?
4) 25:42 Do comfort and solace have to come from within? If so how the heck do you do it? I think one of the reasons I binge eat is to provide myself comfort because I have no one to provide it to me (dealing with pdd and childhood emotional neglect). I’ve been trying to build my support network but I am wondering if the piece I’m missing is what I need to be providing myself.
5) 35:24 Please talk about dealing with hypersexuality as a result of childhood sexual abuse. Most stuff that I've found on the topic always assume bipolar disorder. But I'm not bipolar so I find it difficult to relate to their advice.
6) 44:44 How do you deal with the fear and anxiety of growing up? I just turned 19 and I feel very overwhelmed. I'm not the best at living in the moment because I'm so desperately trying to hold onto the things that brought me happiness in the past. I know it sounds morbid but I feel like I wasn't supposed to make it to this age like I'm never going to do something important enough to 'earn my spot' like at this point I'm just taking up space
7) 53:38 I was diagnosed with CPTSD and I’m having trouble remembering the details of what happened. How can I process it if I can’t remember the details?
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Hope it helps. Please remove if not allowed. Take care of yourselves. ❤️
I love when you "go out of topic". You explain things so clearly it's amazing to listen to you "rumbling".Thank you.
OMG, I started singing the intro song without even realizing it, I didn't even know I knew all the words to it, hahaha.
Also, thank you Kati for taking the time to do record these episodes
I'll let Jules know :) Glad you're liking the song & podcast :)
Same here! I know like all the words haha!
In Australia most states have a Sexual Assault Resource Centre, with fantastic trauma therapists, and the therapy is free, and for as long as you need it. And they do EMDR, and a whole bunch of trauma specific therapies.
To qualify for the service you to have had any experience of sexual abuse, whether it was a one time thing or ongoing, childhood or adult. I've just started seeing a therapist there and even though it's via video conferencing (thanks corona), it's been really good.
What a coincidence, my therapist and I just talked about medication a few hours ago. I have an appointment scheduled with a psychiatrist next week and your tips are very welcome! For years I refused medication because of the side effects and my anxiety around medication in general, but my depression and eating disorder are really getting out of control now. But hearing from you that I'm in controle and I can ask as many questions as I like next week really calms me down and let's me see another persepective of the situation. Maybe the medication will help, maybe they will not, but without trying and a clear communication I will never know so I will give it my best shot. Thanks Kati! :)
I feel so lucky, as a nurse l am still working and my life hasn’t been interrupted too badly. I miss going out for brunch etc but I’m able to make money, feel productive and see friends. I know if I was stuck at home 24/7, my depression would be unmanageable. Thanks for your videos Kati. I’m watching in bed after a long week of night shifts.
I work as a tech and have had a similar experience (:
“As cute as a bugs ear” is something my Nana used to say.... those “old” nonsense sayings.
Be well, Katie and everyone.
Get sun, drink water, listen to emotion evoking music and move your body.
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Kati, you're like the older sister I never had...I can't thank you enough for helping me through a really rough patch in my life!
Expectations without communication are just resentments in the making. Wow. This is gunna now be my motto
I just love Kati. Omg, I love her personality , she is a character. Every time she makes her sounds , I laugh out loud. Love that she doesn’t give a shit how what others think of how she throw her sailor’s mouth lmfao! I’m like her and that makes me love her so much. Very down to earth and such a real real individual/humble/funny and professional. She is a great Therapist . Love your videos and your dedication to helping many of us. Also, why do you apologize for going off topic??? We love your stories and your personality!!! You’re like family to us all! Love Sean as well. Girl, you’re a riot.
Thank you so much! I loved this content. I think a lot of people struggle with boundaries (myself included!). I am really far into my recovery/recovered (?) from my eating disorder and don't feel like it's a big part of my life currently by I do feel like my mental health is something I always want to be conscious of and take care of!
45:30 I raised to feel like I was "took up space." my mindset changed once I started being kinder to myself and realized I had intrinsic value.
I love it when you are " super chatty" Kati. Put you on and listened to you while i was playing , awesome :)
The thing I do to soothe myself is just lay in the bed with my head hanging off the bed. I found that when I have binge urges or anxiety, if I just lay down and actually let the feelings and thoughts come, but not judge them, they pass very quickly.
Thank you Kati for these Q&A's. They're very helpful. xoxo
Kati, I used your inside out memory ball analogy to describe trauma to my friend who survived a school shooting. I wanted to help validate the way she was feeling and it totally helped her be kinder to herself when she gets triggered! She is the best so thank you for sharing the analogy so I could share it with her
Hi Kati, I've been dealing with Major Depressive Disorder, anxiety and self-harm for a year and a half now and honestly I feel like this won't have an end. I´m taking all my meds and going to therapy, I´ve reached a point were I´m kind of stable, with highs and very bad lows, but I'm not happy or at least feel normal.(I don´t know it that really makes sense.) Also, I´ve never considered myself a "happy" person, I´m very shy and quite an introvert. Do you have any advise for this sense of hopelessness? Could it become something chronic? Thank you for all your help and lots of love from Spain.
Hi! I also have a feeling that my depression and ptsd became chronic...But I still hope that it will get better. Maybe a year and a half is not so much for our mind to get fully recovered. Think about different physiological (not mental) illnesses - it can take years to get fully recovered from them (like various injuries) and our mental health is much more difficult to understand and to treat. I wanna support you and tell you that please don't give up and hope for better! With lots of support and best wishes from Ukraine🤗
Oh, you can talk, I like to listen to you. Don't stress yourself with too many questions. A few remarks from my side regarding todays podcast:
I think it would be ideal to ask for questions on this channel, but leave a notice on the Kati Morton channel, so users can find you.
Weight gain through medication was never my problem, but my psychiatrist warned me about a loss of libido. But it's not that bad after all. What my experience with antidepressants is: it can feel worse in the beginning and this can be really scary. So be warned if you start antidepressants, and probably have someone always close to you, who you trust! But it will get better and I am fine with taking medication for the rest of my life if it helps.
Thank you Kati, for another great video!
Hey Kati! So it might not be as important and relatable as the other questions you get, but maybe you wanted to talk about something similar anyway, so. I have an amazing, loving boyfriend; he'd had a perfect childhood, with perfect parents and family, perfect friends, perfect schooling and education at every level, he has his passions that he wants to turn into his living, is good at them, was always supported and encouraged by everyone, never criticized, abused, discouraged, even shouted at; even his past relationships were without traumatising bad stuff. For me, all of these, well, not so much. I struggle a lot, with many things, especially now; and as much as he loves me and tries his best to support me, he often cannot understand how I feel, and has no idea how to behave, cause he's never been through anything really negative in his life, as fairytailish as it sounds.
He's always caring and trying his best, though, and I really appreciate it; and everything is good if the reasons for my feeling down are unrelated to him, but when they are connected with him in any way, he freaks out and completely freezes; an example - I feel terrible and reach out to him for emotional support (though I often don't realise that at the time, I only know I feel terrible and that it's probably connected to some situation), he misinterprets it for me wanting logical ways to solve the situation and goes on to deliver an elaborate, which then sometimes feels to me as if I'm being ignored, and even if not, this is not what I need, and I feel even worse. He then sees that my state has worsened and at the same time 1) starts to panic, cause somehow it was him that made me upset, which is the worst thing in the world to him, 2) feels annoyed or even angry, cause he feels he didn't say or do anything wrong and it's wrong of me to be upset at that; he then feels that he cannot even talk to me on the topic he was at, which irritates him. When I see him like that, completely frozen, not saying a thing, even asked to, and avoiding me, it only makes me feel worse; "he doesn't want to even talk to me, and even to look at me! I must be the worst; maybe he's considering leaving me?", while he struggles with his own feelings, unable to even tell what he is feeling then, knowing he should do something immediately, but not knowing what, and how, and definitely not feeling like delivering any emotional support then; it's just a downward spiral, all coming from us being unable to communicate our feelings effectively. We've been through it several times, and I think we found a way to deal with this one situation, but there are many more, and we really want to find ways to communicate the difficult feelings better to each other, and be able to understand each other better. I eventually started seeing a psychologist to deal with my stuff and taking some medication to be more emotionally stable and less nervous; he believes that on his end it's mostly his lack of experience with similar feelings and situations, and wants to understand and act better, too. I do, as well; when he feels bad and stressed, he definitely doesn't want closeness and comforting, like I do, he then wants to escape and be left alone for some time, and even though I know it now, it's still hard to take it in; I still feel rejected when that happens, and feel useless and helpless, knowing I'm not able to help, and me doing anything can only make it worse. So... have you got any tips or techniques for us that we could use together, or any we could use individually? Any tips on how to communicate better? How to talk about what it is like for us and understand it better? How to really understand and accept that we deal with things differently, and explain that to each other, so that we can act on what the other person needs rather than what we would need in a similar situation? On what to do when a tough situation appears?
...uh, this is rather long... feel free to shorten it however you see fit! I'm bad at that; didn't want anything left unexplained! And thank you for reading, if you do :)
Hi..What do you do when you feel like your family don’t want you here and always criticise you but you can’t get away from them because of lockdown? And also what do you do if you feel like they are starring at new ish self harm scars when they think It was a “one time thing” years ago? Many thanks
Forgive them,they are clueless,ask for God to forgive them for their oblivious behavior,focus on yourself start by reading listening doing smart things cut out garbage information and people and things (pornography),eat the right food,drink only water and tea,exercise,be in nature as long as you can and start being a better you,when you become better then try to help others in doing so,set the example
I laughed when you said that you feel like you rounded the corner and are feeling better. I feel the opposite. I’ve been in quarantine since 3/24. Up until this last week, i feel like I was doing well and taking things in stride, but hen this week happened and I’m irritable, antsy, and I find that I’m annoyed that I’m annoyed. Logically, I know why we are doing this and I agree with it, but that is no longer soothing to me.
I think that's a valid experience too! I hope things get a little easier to process though
Thank you for listening and being consistent!
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't mind if you only get through a few questions. I love a good deep dive! So, don't be sorry you didn't get through all of them in one go. It was a great episode! 😀
I dont have a bad boss just shift manager...I recently spoke to and online therapist because I feel like I have been going through alot emotionally like intrusive thoughts...I am trying to overcome it but I feel like going to an actual therapist would help me ..it feels like I am going under with my emotions..
i love this channel so much :) thanks kati for taking time out of your life to do this
Great podcast, I really enjoyed watching you taking the time to slowly explain all the nitty-gritties. Mental health is sooo complex and... complicated!
Small comment to no 7, about CPTSD. I might be wrong, but from what I understood, both EMDR, and somatic experiencing are fantastic ways for solving PTSD, so a bit like one time trauma. But for CPTSD they might not work. According to trauma specialist Bessel Van Der Kolk, best known so far are neuro feedback, and body focused techniques. Intrestingly, yoga is more effective than medicine. NARM sounds promising (verifying).
CPTSD is relatively new in psychology, not even recognised from PTSD by some (DSM5) , so I get all the confusion.
If the trauma was developmental, or even infant, there may be no way to recover it. You might remember the Feeling, but not the Trauma itself. Be aware of the right specialist. Exposure therapy or gestalt therapy can retraumatise those suffering from CPTSD I heard.
That is exactly what I need thank you so so so much ❤️❤️
I have PTSD and i love your analogy it explains it in the best way. I also just started on an SSRI. This episode was so helpful on so many levels. Thank you!
Hi Kati!!
I'm excited to watch today!!!
Thank you very much and as always you are glowing girl 💪💪💪💛💛💛❤️❤️😘
Milena milena. nice comment I agree with your comment kati is my comfort zone and my time every week I listen and watch her video nice to meet u also 🙂👍
Kati...could you plz do a detailed video on OSFED Atypical Anorexia?? That's what I suffer from. Like the symptoms and such...I'm bloated and and now I may have gastroparisis. I'm trying to recover with just therapy. But I feel I'm failing bad.
I said to my sister that I wasn’t going to talk to her when she was acting like this( as you said) but then my parents got involved and I got in big trouble when I said nothing!
"Dude this isn't a fucking vacation " 😂😂😂
My sister always says "I smell what you're stepping in," to say "I understand what you mean." She has many good sayings like this.
Ahhhhhh I look forward to this hour every week. ♥️😌
Hi Gina . I'm nikki like your comment I also look forward to these videos every week aswell and the hour she gives us to listen and watch her wondering how to get a question seen and answered as I tried to get a question to kati last time sadly was not seen or picked also nice to meet u 🙂
Hi, Kati! I have no personal experience or intensive knowledge about eating disorders, but I know it's one of your specialized areas so I wanted to hear your opinion on the matter.
I think the first exposure I had to the topic was a movie known "Starving In Suburbia", when I was quite young- maybe 12 or 11. From the little I recall, I remember feeling almost afraid of the protagonist. The way the was portrayed, she seemed obsessed with this image of a "perfect self" to the point where she would lash out at others. When her parents noticed she was feeling unwell and tried to get her to eat, for example, she would scream at them and say they were trying to make her fat. She seemed extremely selfish, having this skewed obsession about food fueled by extreme beauty standards.
Naturally, I understand that your relationship with eating would be affected by your disorder. You might need someone to help monitor your eating habits, at least during the beginning of recovery. But the way it seems to be portrayed in media the person with the eating disorder seems completely unaware they have a problem, so obsessed they disregard the feelings of the people that care for them. It demonizes them.
I think media (at least what I've been exposed to) seems to undermine the external influences that cause someone to get an eating disorder. Society places these ridiculous standards on you, it tells you you'll never be "good enough" to the point you're driven to starve yourself or make yourself sick just to fit that image. Then it'll go ahead and tell you you're vain and selfish for believing the image exists in the first place. Of course, the reasons someone develops an eating disorder must vary between different people, but no one simply chooses to get an eating disorder. It's an illness. It seems wrong to put the blame on them when what they most need at that point in time, is probably someone who will just be there for them. To tell them that they don't need to do all those things to be loved and appreciated.
Sorry for this being like an essay-long question. I just wanted to hear what you had to say, having so much experience surrounding the topic. Is this something you've also noticed, or a misconception you've had to deal with in your work?
When I got my antidepressant I was in an eating disorder hospital and they gave people the one that don't make you gaine weight. Or at least, supposedly.
Listening to this while walking my dog. It's awesome!
Edit: what is the name of the book you suggested?
Thank you
I really enjoyed the session. Thank you, Katie! And you were doing great in this video. I could still learn from those moments when you slightly went off topic, so don’t feel bad about them.
Thank you Kati for recording these videos! I find them super helpful and soothing!
I screamed out loud in happiness when you mentioned Midsomer Murders cause that was my mom's and my favorite show when I lived with my parents!😁
#katiFAQ Hi Kati,
Thankyou so much for your time and care!
I have a question about emotions. I struggle with anxiety and have done for a long time, the other day someone asked me when I was last angry! I couldn't remember??!! Is this normal? Is everyone able to have a full range of emotions? I think (not entirely sure) the emotions I experience most are sadness, anxiety, overwhelmed and frustration. I'm not sure I am able to feel angry? Why does this happen?
Thankyou again
Michelle
Michelle Lewis. Ho I'm nikki I been reading your comment and I can relate to everything you wrote I also suffer from anxiety and it gets bad sometimes I have times I'm very sad and also frustrated and emotional overwhelmed I feel alone inside and out although I have my family I live with sadly I don't have any close friends and dont have meny people I can share and anxiety with hope you read this and reply makes me feel a little better when I read and see other people s comment s and they also go through the same things I do thanks p.s kati is my comfort zone 🙂👍
Hi Nikki,
It's good for me to know it's not only me too!
Thankyou x
Hi kati! I was just wondering how I can ask my parents to put me in therapy without having to explain why i want to go. I'm sure my mom will understand, but i dont want to elaborate to her on all of my self destructive tendencies. I also think I hide it pretty well but I dont want to change the way they think about me.
Omg bad bosses...over 75% of our staffing has started SSRI's and/or therapy just due to the working environment!
My therapist says EMDR is not a good fit if there's dissociation. Not able to process or some such. Also since ppl with DID don't remember much of trauma as it is kept by my alts, so memory is really bad, EMDR would be really difficult in that case. ☺
thank you very much. this is excellent show. helps a lot!
Chatty Kati is awesome Kati! 🥰💖
I love your videos and advice. Thank you for doing this.
Thank you for making these podcasts, they've been helpful! :)
Really enjoyed this thank you Kati💜 I have a question for the next podcast. Do you have any advice on coping being a parentified child during this crisis, my mum is a key worker and when she’s at home she’s usually drunk. I’m having to look after my younger brother and tidy up constantly which is making my mood low and making me have bad thoughts. Any ideas on how to handle this💕💕
You are so awesome! Blessings!
#katiFAQ do you have advice for mental health and people who work night shift? This summer I’ll be started as a brand new nurse. I’m currently in an outpatient program for my eating disorder and anxiety. I’m at the point where I can see recovery happening, but am scared for when I move in two months and rotate working nights with little breaks.
Working at night is horrible...Rest is extremely crucial in recovery I would strongly advise not to work during night,I'm more serious than death when i say that,I beg you to listen to this advice,I could tell you at least 10 reasons why,but I don't have enough time to do that,Just trust me,you could also say I could sleep during the day...don't think like that...
i really like these keep up the amazing work!!!
Hi everyone and hey kati I been missing my comfort I get from you thank you I'm Watching now I only just seen the notification seems I am getting the new video s, late what is a shame I'm still here still enjoying these ask kati anything podcast also you was looking good kati I still hope to get a question to you and picked to answer iv had some bad days some not so bad days happy to be here again in this safe space with other people who struggle with things aswell 👍🙂
Bath, journal, scribbling on paper, cuddle with my dog. Go outside.
This podcast has become part of my self-care...so good!
My therapist always uses the Inside Out analogy for trauma memories too!
Oh wow, I'm on time xD
Hi, Kati, I wonder that the childhood trauma will be caused by a bad family atmosphere, like parents get angry easily on small things.
Hangin in there like a hair in a biscuit 🙃
My quote I say when I mess up is "Pickle Butts"I got it from my mom. That's what she says instead of cussing....lol
I’m german so: Du hast einen Sprung in der Schüssel(You have a Crack in the Bowl) which means that you’re out of your mind. 😂
I'm feeling passively non aggressive. Whatever a daisical is, I'm lacking one apparently.
Hello, Kati, hope you are keeping safe and doing well.. Just being curious, do you answer questions on tumblr as I have asked something very personal? Thanks!
hi guys :)
How can we submit questions for AKA?!
Look at Kati Morton channel and click on the community tab she has been posting them there. But just Incase she post them in this channel instead turn on your notifications for both channels I recommend.
i have never used a dr . at age 15 in house of a dr who was food addicted dysfunctional anger gambling , and negative, no communication. i had to go to his medical books and diagnose me after a trauma. it was very dark and i had to keep going to school and keep smiling and saw myself go to hell. i manage to pull honors in life and principals exposed to drugs alcoholics and things and chose life basket ball and my life then got to art school cured it focus on me my art it was very dark then i came up to light. i came home like nothing and happy when i was slap in face. my father took his issues out on me by making me the perfect or the star and able to over come with correctness, a mentally il kid, he was confused and insane. a Doctor with low function. i had to face his sickness until he induce Munchhausen by proxy on me to keep me out of art school from his delusions . when other people or parents use a scapegoat kid to take their issues out oon instead of face them self theyw ere very fuck up. not intelligent my family follow them as roll model its like my mothers stupid coms out of their mouth and i my crisis of someone trying to kill me they acted like her or the father instead of being able to react. i had a healty roll model of life. suffered 11 year of torture at hands of mad people eand escape. i think it was about kilin gme to not expose it. i was target person i my story and suffer a bizarre torture and hostage abuse by someone as result of this situation before that i was drug free , artist in art school. with out issues. and overcome one happy. i hav not been compensated for this abuse which effected me and induce abuse. i had to take up the whole thing alone trailed by one sister who is constantly about what if i am set up or some delusion. is she passive aggressive like i said. she sat there an is nurse background and is trying to now become artist and i was left blidn and retarded brain dmage to lose my professional amazing talent and life. she just sat and did not even ask and basically said she did not care and toss some party at me while i was losing a miracle as if it not matter. my friends said my family would kill me one day.said that i distance from them????? can u not imagine why? i just lost a bright miracle. my mothers madness comes out of my family or father... .. this whole last issue of me losing my ife by actions of a person who did not respect my borders despite it was strong enough to keep people out and he wanted to create his own reality like my sister, he was also ito this mind reading shit of people in world and trying to be the smart one sensitive stuborn, and dont feel he has to correct his errors and would be the one people would take heart to know him and kill me for him. i avoided it because i did not need to know anyone and was minding my own miracle when a person acted out and it lead to my situation and death. there was four years for someone to respect me my life miracles and bright life and i was being stalked to murder for what i had.. i end up on bottom of world in a remake of my life abuse and removed my means ways to survive and sent to a place called hell. evil. pure evil to tell someone that murder is goign on and the y turn deaf blind . i see the patterns of my father and mother in them , i was not fuckt up i was the pure one and they fuck me up so bad to put me on bottom not top not one person protested my abuse or life.. i took it to places n one could and i was never respected or protected. someone induce a eating disorder from sexual insult abuse trauma and greif and removing parts of my coping means to make sure i was sicken. i loast means to communicate so i could not dispell the thing indcue to get a person to destroy me and make me the vilian. i had no intent to know a person who could d oalot of damage and iw as in my bounds with firm boundaries but mgiht been slightly damage from an pre event to lead up to me being taken down but i was ok. fixing it. he nixed my means to fix it sending me to hell. someone took me into a second child hood removed god my means to care for my wounds and watched me sink to bottome of world after i pulled miracles. no one cared tocome between it. i dont beleive that comfort or solace could always come from with in , if your cut off from your means to comfor tnd medically i need. you need that outside to not become toxic yourself.. if ur dog was woundd if i did not comfort him, hes hate me and not want to trust me , and learn.. to not feel cared about. become neurotic..
I think you are allowed to go outside, just keep your distance. We go on a couple of daily walks. The virus is quite lazy. It will not give chase.
Hi kati!
How to ask you?
I want to ask a lot.
19:55, amen.
I just discovered Brooklyn 99 and it's hilarious!!
Cool
Not that my opinion matters lol...but I think everyone should be forced to work a public job for at least 3 humbling months haha
That is a good opinion that matters. I support this!
@@Katimorton your looking nice kati 👍
@@Katimorton :)
😂 well I may have not mastered a new skill but I made 2 humans 😂
49:23
Maybe we work two jobs. Like when i was in graduate school. I was also a waitress cause that paid better if you can imagine, *than being an intern which paid nothing*
Daaaamnn shade! Hahahahah!
Like, yeah? Why don't they pay interns?
The weird saying my dad says that I like is "your cornbread isn't done all the way" which means you aren't all the way there, are you crazy?
Did anyone else read the title of the video and think:"That's what covid-19 said!"? Hopefully...so at least in hell we can burn together and not on our own.
13:23 dudette? oh, i guess it means feminitives exists in english language too. that's a discovery of the week, tbh.
kinda weird to see it in english, because everything there is so genderless. like a mic stand, for example - it's not he, it's not she, it's just it... lol
And then there's also actor and actress ;)
@@jupiter6942 Yeah, i know. And pilot is still pilot. It's kinda confusing.
resort with a shark? it seems not very healthy.