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  • @ghostphobic
    @ghostphobic  4 роки тому +545

    Edited(2021):
    Out of all videos of mine I expected loads of people to find, this was the last one I could have thought of.
    When I made this video, I had originally made it as a vent since I had recently came out to myself. I was desperate for some sort of transition (specifically hair, for me at the time), and was stuck in a relationship with a guy who refused to understand and accept his partner for who they truly were. I’m so glad many of the commenters here could relate in some way, from how the video symbolized my dysphoria and the disrespect I knew I’d get after coming out to simply replacing the pronouns of Cavetown’s wonderful song, it was great to see I was not alone. I love reading every single comment and I always come back whenever I feel down. I love that I’ve made this safe place.
    Although I later found out I was a transman, I still see this video as a huge step in my journey to becoming who I truly am. I wouldn’t take this step out even if I could. I don’t want people to think this video was made to mock nonbinary people or others outside of the gender binary. It’s ok to realize you’re something different than you thought you were, it’s ok the change your mind, it’s ok if your experience was different to someone else’s. It’s ok.
    For all those struggling in the comments whether for acceptance or finding out who you are or even just reading this, please know you are loved and cared about. You are deserving of the world and all the love in it. You’re worth so much more than you could ever think of. You’re greater than you know.
    I love all of you.

    • @thedestroyasystem
      @thedestroyasystem 4 роки тому +10

      I'm proud of you! I'm an nb guy (I know, two genders? What? But I feel equally comfortable with both so sue me) and this was relatable af. Never stop being yourself. If your parents won't accept you they can fuck right off. You are valid love, don't forget it

    • @strawberryboy9045
      @strawberryboy9045 4 роки тому +2

      The Destroya System I’m a non-binary guy too and usually just tell people I’m bigender so it’s not confusing.

    • @thedestroyasystem
      @thedestroyasystem 4 роки тому +4

      @@strawberryboy9045 That might work. I don't like that label as much so I'm less likely to use it (not for any particular reason, I guess just cuz it's less specific than I'd like) so I typically just pick one and roll with it. If it's people I don't know very well, I just say I'm a dude because they might not know what nb/bigender is. If I meet them in like and LGBT group or otherwise know they're LGBT, I'll say nonbinary because it's important to me that others know that side of me and I'm more likely not to have to explain it/gain acceptance easily if the people I'm talking to are also LGBT. I'd tell them I was an nb guy but I've gotten some hate in person within the community because "you can't have two genders!" and I just don't wanna risk it. It's important to me that people know both sides of my gender, but I don't need one single individual to know both. So unless we're super close, most people only see me as one or the other.

    • @strawberryboy9045
      @strawberryboy9045 4 роки тому +1

      The Destroya System You should educate the people who say it doesn’t make sense since Non-binary is an umbrella term who’s not exclusively male or female and bigender is under it.

    • @thedestroyasystem
      @thedestroyasystem 4 роки тому +2

      @@strawberryboy9045 I know, and I really do try to, but sometimes I feel like I don't owe anyone an explanation. Like I don't want to answer a plethora of questions, well meaning or otherwise. It's not my job to educate people just because I'm LGBT. And like I said, I really do try to when I can, but often times I just don't have the energy and they might not believe me anyways. Most of the hate I've gotten has come from Kalvin Garrah supporters who believe in the strict (and ridiculous) "2 genders and lack of gender" model, or "3 genders and lack of gender but no combinations of halfsies". They're stubborn and I just don't want to deal with them sometimes. Plus, most of these people will never see me (or any other nb) again.

  • @yasussy
    @yasussy 5 років тому +766

    I have recently cut my hair. I am gonna come out to my mom on October 11th wish me luck
    Update: A couple months after I made this comment I actually just found out I was a trans guy! I came out as trans in June!

  • @yuzurunishimiya5931
    @yuzurunishimiya5931 5 років тому +980

    I told my dad I was nonbinary and he said
    "okay. So should I say they/them?"
    Edit: I feel like I should say he never used those pronouns. I'm always my parents beloved daughter. My mother never accepted me. She emphasizes she/her pronouns and said to me that what I'm feeling is not dysphoria and that I'm lying. Only my sister, online friends, and my sis's boyfriend use my pronouns or accept my identity.

    • @Daveo849
      @Daveo849 4 роки тому +29

      Juvia Fullbuster I’m so happy for you!!!

    • @mostlyghostly07
      @mostlyghostly07 4 роки тому +50

      Lucky, I explained to my mom what non binary is and she still won't use correct pronouns and always calls me a girl, she doesn't do it on purpose but I feel bad correcting her and she doesn't catch herself doing it.

    • @RodNichols5
      @RodNichols5 4 роки тому +21

      I’M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! I DON’T USUALLY COMMENT ON STUFF LIKE THIS, BUT THIS GAVE ME A BURST OF HAPPINESS AND I HAD TO LET YOU KNOW. *MWAH* GOOD LUCK TO YOU, MY FRIEND!

    • @leafy1694
      @leafy1694 4 роки тому +10

      Lucky but good for you my dad said I’m confused and I chose to be non binary :(

    • @shineadshinnersdaly3861
      @shineadshinnersdaly3861 4 роки тому +4

      That's so sweet

  • @lemonboy4035
    @lemonboy4035 5 років тому +304

    I came out to my teacher and she said she is fine with the way I am and some day she hopes I can come out to me mom:)
    By the way I'm Non-Binary as well

    • @papat4155pinealmix
      @papat4155pinealmix 4 роки тому +12

      Ohh there was this time my teacher accidentaly called me by my social name then i said "hey uhh thank you for calling me by my social name"
      Then my teacher was super happy for me

    • @bumblebeesubliminals4262
      @bumblebeesubliminals4262 3 роки тому

      hey hru?

  • @hotbleach9916
    @hotbleach9916 5 років тому +799

    It's like 1 in the morning and I just realised I'm trans
    (Edit: hi it's me almost 2 years ago from that night. I now Identity as Non-binary (I use they/he pronouns) and I'm asexual and demiromantic. The support on here is ASTRONOMICAL, I've been going through a rough time recently for other reasons and it's really reassuring that I'll always be accepted somewhere 💛🤍💜🖤🏳️‍⚧️)

    • @kazootime6993
      @kazootime6993 4 роки тому +64

      AV CrazyGay this is a little late,but congratulations!! I hope everything works out for you!

    • @pancakelover156
      @pancakelover156 4 роки тому +33

      Congratulations! :D

    • @Daveo849
      @Daveo849 4 роки тому +25

      I’m so proud of you!!!!

    • @jamiestories4971
      @jamiestories4971 4 роки тому +19

      Welp, congratulations dear!! :3

    • @Call_me_Ghost_
      @Call_me_Ghost_ 4 роки тому +14

      Congrats!!

  • @thecloudsarefalling3116
    @thecloudsarefalling3116 5 років тому +349

    Ironically, even though the song has male pronouns in it, whenever I sing along, and yes, I am a more recently discovered nonbinary, I've always replaced it with gender neutral pronouns so I can relate to it better. Having said that, I can relate too much to this video, except I'm frightened to ever come out at home, (homophobic parents) keeping me from coming out at school because my sister is only one grade below me and is friends with my friends and idk what her reaction would be. Would she tell them? Would she bully me more than already? Keep in mind I'm older but she is and has always been the stronger one. Thay and I'm pansexual so I have that going for me.
    Oh geez this has turned more into a rant than I expected. I originally planned on just saying I related to it but here I am now. Welp.

    • @gagevallery4256
      @gagevallery4256 5 років тому +7

      I understand my parents aren’t homophobic but I don’t know where they stand on gender so I’m scared to come out too

    • @mkr.1454
      @mkr.1454 4 роки тому +4

      I understand I'm only 11 but I already know who I wanna be I'm pan, poly, and nonbinary... 😅

    • @Sunflower-iy7uq
      @Sunflower-iy7uq 4 роки тому +1

      Sammeeeee

    • @alienkid4954
      @alienkid4954 4 роки тому +3

      My brother is younger than me and he makes fun of me he is kinda homophobic im scared to come out to my mom I don't know what she thinks about the lgbtq+ community its nice to know that there's other people like me sometimes I feel lonely

    • @butterflyexists
      @butterflyexists 4 роки тому +1

      Ur Mom Almost same..

  • @beepboop4595
    @beepboop4595 4 роки тому +118

    It’s so difficult being a nonbinary person
    Everyone misgender u even tho you tell them your pronouns UnU

    • @Jayjay-vi9jk
      @Jayjay-vi9jk 4 роки тому +1

      Not their fault they can’t keep up with your fake identification

    • @shadedin7281
      @shadedin7281 4 роки тому +10

      Jay jay What do you mean “fake identification”?

    • @SCgreat
      @SCgreat 4 роки тому +18

      @@Jayjay-vi9jk if you think they have a "fake identity" go educate yourself and learn to respect others who aren't the same like you instead of spreading hate, transphobic trash :>

    • @yamyam7697
      @yamyam7697 4 роки тому +12

      @@Jayjay-vi9jk non binary is not a fake identity lol
      And its ok misgender my pronouns cause i can tell them
      And its fine if they can’t keep up its confusing i guess-

    • @toberkhalid7133
      @toberkhalid7133 3 роки тому +8

      @@Jayjay-vi9jk lol sorry you're afraid of progressiveness

  • @kool-aido6868
    @kool-aido6868 5 років тому +41

    I really wish some people don’t just assume your gender. If you can relate to when you haven’t told your parents your non-binary and so it’s girl, daughter, she, her or boy, son, he, him...

  • @xXBarbDwireXx
    @xXBarbDwireXx 5 років тому +508

    Nonbinary gang! 💛⬜💜⬛

  • @samanthabintz5305
    @samanthabintz5305 5 років тому +70

    Help me please.
    I came out to my 'homophobic' parents. One of my sisters is lesbian btw. But as I told my mother I'm non-binary, she said "it's okay, you don't care about your mother, you want to be like your sisters (my sisters all have somekind of boy-ish look), go on then, be like them." I felt sad after that, my father says it's dumb.
    I need help

    • @cornflakemaster11
      @cornflakemaster11 4 роки тому +6

      I know this is late but, don't forget the truth about yourself. even if they are against it, you are still you. if they feel like that go to other people that can make you feel better and accept you no matter what.

    • @panpotatochip4063
      @panpotatochip4063 4 роки тому +4

      Free -- same but I haven't came out and I tried but I asked what she thought about lgbtq and she looked at me as if she knew and said, "Your to young to know". And walked off

    • @arr8wboii
      @arr8wboii 4 роки тому +3

      im sorry im so late but dont look so far into other validations. i feel like im questioning myself right now, but im born female and bisexual. its different because its my sexuality and not gender but i hope i can understand you. i havent come out to any of my family or really anyone i know personally at all because of this fear. but i dont like taking it as something i should fear of. yes, it sucks to be misunderstood but it doesnt change you. you are what you identify as. your mom, your dad, family, friends or anyone wont change that. i know it also can tear you apart though. feeling like nobody will ever accept you, but people will! even if its not the people you hoped it would be. focus on the people that WILL accept you, no matter what. i do, and so will many other people. you dont have to rush it. you dont have to tell everyone at once but when you feel whenever its right, you can come out to them and try to give them the best understanding you can! :) i love and accept you. your choice and identification and YOU, yourself, matters so much.

    • @1DISTURBEDSOUL
      @1DISTURBEDSOUL 4 роки тому +1

      This is very late, but please listen to your heart. I was abused as a child and ima tell you that just because they are blood related doesn't mean they are family. If they wont accept you or your sister it is their loss. Not yours. You are a valid human that deserves love and honesty from any healthy relationship.

    • @keyframe7051
      @keyframe7051 3 роки тому +1

      Hey. Feck them. You are an amazing human being. People are scared of things thet dont understand. It seems crazy for someone to be so free as to not be unlimited by some shitey social construct. Be happy and be you.

  • @Le_Fuqwit2111
    @Le_Fuqwit2111 4 роки тому +73

    I'm agender (though I prefer the term "unlabeled"), but everybody still calls me a "she" and sees me as a girl, plus my mom recently told me I had to stop wearing my chest binder because of the Coronavirus, so I can strongly relate to this song.

    • @Le_Fuqwit2111
      @Le_Fuqwit2111 4 роки тому +11

      @Her Face
      Mom just wanted me to be safe. She told me the virus affects the respiratory system.

    • @hopesanddreams2998
      @hopesanddreams2998 3 роки тому +3

      Oh hey, I could search this up but uh if you see this reply feel free to educate me. Ik that agender is like having no gender or you dont identify as any gender or something? Would you guys use they/them? Or does it depend? Or do you use neopronouns?

    • @Le_Fuqwit2111
      @Le_Fuqwit2111 3 роки тому +4

      @@hopesanddreams2998
      It depends on the person, really. Any gender can use any set of pronouns they feel comfortable with. Some might go by the pronouns they were assigned, and others might go by the opposite, and I'm pretty sure most use gender-neutral pronoun sets. Some might even go by ALL pronoun sets. I personally go by they/them/theirs and xe/xem/xirs, though (I've been considering he/him, but I'm not sure if I feel comfortable with it).

    • @hopesanddreams2998
      @hopesanddreams2998 3 роки тому +2

      @@Le_Fuqwit2111 ah! Okay that helps. I’ve been curious about it! Thank you

  • @orena1153
    @orena1153 5 років тому +63

    So I came out to my parents, it went as well as it could for their generation. But I did it after I cut my hair, and bought a binder because even if I couldn’t be accepted by them I had other places that would. Come out when you feel safe too.

  • @trazyntheinfinitehereforur828
    @trazyntheinfinitehereforur828 5 років тому +63

    I’m kinda on that road to finding acceptance and friends who understand

  • @ComfortZoneArtZ
    @ComfortZoneArtZ 5 років тому +278

    Im non binary and i relate :)
    Edit: uh I forgot this comment even existed- ty for the replies and likes ig-

  • @ratthing3709
    @ratthing3709 4 роки тому +33

    i came out to my mom and cut my hair
    she doesnt understand pronouns and important they are. she keeps misgendering me and its making me feel worse and worse the more she does it. i keep telling her that its They/Them and not She/Her but she responded with “But it doesnt make a difference to me”
    i cant take it, it makes me more and more dysphoric

    • @shineadshinnersdaly3861
      @shineadshinnersdaly3861 4 роки тому +6

      I'm really sorry that I can't be there to help but if it makes any difference, I promise you that every other non binary person, transgender person or (hopefully) any other member of the LGBTQ+ community accepts you. For a lot of people It's a hard fight to be accepted as who they are but everyone I know (personally) who has had to fight that battle ultimately is so much happier, what I'm trying to say is, it gets better. Stay safe and hang on in there

    • @kindkitty1844
      @kindkitty1844 4 роки тому +10

      call your mom your dad and when she corrects you, tell her "it doesnt make a difference to me"

    • @hylianexpected1171
      @hylianexpected1171 4 роки тому +6

      @@kindkitty1844 You should absolutely do this

    • @ghostphobic
      @ghostphobic  4 роки тому +6

      I’m so sorry about that. There’s not much you can do but I am wishing for your family to come around eventually. 💜
      Please take care of yourself!

  • @XzBat_LoverzX
    @XzBat_LoverzX 3 роки тому +5

    I am not non-binary but my best friend is (his pronouns are he/him/they/them/she/her) and the amount of support that I am seeing here makes me feel so happy.

  • @bakford
    @bakford 5 років тому +35

    I can relate to this so bad...

  • @jamiewebb7788
    @jamiewebb7788 5 років тому +121

    I'm agender and really relate to this song lol thx

    • @LenaArt24
      @LenaArt24 5 років тому +2

      What's the difference between agender and non-binary?

    • @jamiewebb7788
      @jamiewebb7788 5 років тому +13

      Aleno :3 nonbinary is a gender that isn't a part of the binary-male and female. Agender is rejecting the idea of gender as a concept. Agender people don't have a gender at all but nonbinary people do

    • @elkelley9708
      @elkelley9708 5 років тому +1

      Sp1der 558 that’s actually really cool, I’m going to look into that,

    • @blakebolduc9653
      @blakebolduc9653 4 роки тому

      Yuup I am agender no gender at all ~ and yup ^^

    • @Le_Fuqwit2111
      @Le_Fuqwit2111 4 роки тому +1

      Me too!

  • @johnwick-fr3gs
    @johnwick-fr3gs 3 роки тому +3

    i’m in the hospital right now for a sewer slide attempt and im trying my very very hardest not to cry watching this. all my sisters, all my brothers, all my siblings: you are loved. don’t leave us yet. we can’t wait for you to come out of your shell.

    • @ghostphobic
      @ghostphobic  3 роки тому

      I know I'm late but I hope you had a speedy recovery. please don't leave us

  • @litlgoblin1857
    @litlgoblin1857 5 років тому +16

    rn, I’ve only come out to 2 of my irl friends and a few of my online friends. I’m so scared , and my family won’t let me cut my hair. I’m so upset and stressed recently and everything feels like it’s going downhill ):.

  • @quinnratliff8420
    @quinnratliff8420 5 років тому +41

    I hope you're still doing well still! My mom is transphobic and I'm getting my hair cut short in march. I dont know what I'm going to come out to her. But I know that this is who I am. So I understand how you feel. This is beautiful, and a perfect song to match the feeling to.

    • @ghostphobic
      @ghostphobic  5 років тому +6

      Kayleigh Ratliff I’m okay! Not out to my parent or family in general. They’re all transphobic. Only come out if you’re safe!

    • @quinnratliff8420
      @quinnratliff8420 5 років тому +4

      @@ghostphobic I'm waiting. I came out to my oldest brother (23) and he was SUPER supportive. I'm getting really dysphoric because of my chest and want a binder... but I have to get it shipped.

    • @quinnratliff8420
      @quinnratliff8420 5 років тому +2

      Glad to hear that you're doing alright! 😊😊

  • @alexschaffer1500
    @alexschaffer1500 4 роки тому +10

    I’m just here to say, if you are trans, whether you have dysphoria or not, you are valid ❤️

  • @RADIOBAILEYofficial
    @RADIOBAILEYofficial 4 роки тому +3

    This literally defines me. This video is basically the story of my life, other than the hair cutting part because I suck at that kinda stuff so I don’t really trust myself with that. I’ll be honest, this almost had me in legit tears. So, thank you for creating this masterpiece

  • @amimiiastro
    @amimiiastro 4 роки тому +4

    Got me crying in the club honestly.
    I get so much hate for being Non-binary and so many ''friends'' left me because of it.
    I'm always constantly asked at school ''she/her?'' , ''They/Them?'' , ''Dead name/Ash?'' and it's so frustrating cause I'm always told I'm too young and shouldn't be making life changing decisions - blamed on puberty and all that shit.
    Anyway , thank you for making this , it brought a tear to me eye in all honesty and I'm happy to know there is a community of people I can turn to whenever upset about these types of circumstances.

    • @bread6381
      @bread6381 3 роки тому

      I'm sorry about what happened but you can count me as a friend

  • @eoyneluv3371
    @eoyneluv3371 4 роки тому +7

    My friend sent me this as a coming out video ❤️

  • @unknown.err0r861
    @unknown.err0r861 4 роки тому +5

    Most non-binary peoples can relate because we’re miss understood and people say that we don’t exists and that we’re just confused.

  • @theloneatlas4581
    @theloneatlas4581 5 років тому +16

    I’m Non binary and this is wonderful

  • @James-fw9yc
    @James-fw9yc 4 роки тому +4

    It’s so funny to me to look back on songs that I heavily relate to. It’s been around a year since I came out as non-binary and it’s been 3 years since I found out. I’m proud. Be proud my fellow enbys 💛🤍💜🖤

  • @_spacedout.dork_9809
    @_spacedout.dork_9809 4 роки тому +10

    Hello I’m transgender annnnnd I’m afraid to cut my hair it’s ok we got your back❤️❤️❤️

  • @idk-pm4er
    @idk-pm4er 3 роки тому +3

    I am non binary and I asked my mom if I could my hair and after like weeks of begging I went to my grandmas house and she said she could take me. Now I feel a lot more comfortable.

  • @SylviaRustyFae
    @SylviaRustyFae 4 роки тому +1

    GODS I LOVE THIS. I rly love what ya did with the lyrics showing they.
    Its odd cuz hearing he (esp when vibing to music that feels so similar to me) gives me dysphoria but hearing he while seeing the lyrics showing they just made me feel validated and euphoric in the same way as I feel when a frend corrects someone misgendering me; The best kind of feeling in many ways.
    Very grt animatic.

  • @messysocksart7287
    @messysocksart7287 4 роки тому +5

    I haven’t been able to cut my hair even if I wanted to. I’m in an all “girls” school as a non-binary person but the problem is I really love that school but my parents wont let me stay unless I keep my hair long, I wanna cut it so bad.

  • @grass2056
    @grass2056 4 роки тому +3

    Am a non binary person- and this hit hard. :’)
    I don’t know If I’ll ever come out to my parents...but, I don’t care! I love being who I wanna be. C:

  • @bread6381
    @bread6381 3 роки тому +1

    I legit started crying after I saw this but quickly wiped my tears because it's 1:40 am right now and I'm supposed to be sleeping

    • @MeiMei06150
      @MeiMei06150 3 роки тому

      Please tell me we have the same name?!?!?!
      Bread??

  • @pinqueef
    @pinqueef 4 роки тому +12

    My language doesn't have non - binary pronouns and almost nobody here knows such a thing exists. Im forced deep in the closet with no way out.

    • @pinqueef
      @pinqueef 4 роки тому

      @Benny Latvia

    • @wheresmybeloved
      @wheresmybeloved 4 роки тому +2

      What's your language, dear?

    • @shell0ka261
      @shell0ka261 3 роки тому

      @@wheresmybeloved same with me, and my languages are polish / czech

  • @darkpeekacho4360
    @darkpeekacho4360 5 років тому +10

    This made me cry

  • @blakebolduc9653
    @blakebolduc9653 4 роки тому +11

    I am an agender aro/ace human ~ relatable love this song 🤘 💚

    • @liltomboy2593
      @liltomboy2593 4 роки тому +1

      Same but I am still figuring out if I'm agender or nonbinary, im on a aro spectrum tho.

    • @blakebolduc9653
      @blakebolduc9653 4 роки тому +1

      Nice I hope you find how you identity as ^-^

    • @liltomboy2593
      @liltomboy2593 4 роки тому +1

      @@blakebolduc9653 thank you for replying, I didnt know if you would even see this 😂 thank you tho. I'll give updates when I figure myself out lool

    • @blakebolduc9653
      @blakebolduc9653 4 роки тому

      Okay sounds good ahah 😁

  • @Limerant_Evangeline
    @Limerant_Evangeline Рік тому +2

    being non binary is the hardest thing I’ve ever had the chance to experience. My parents are catholic and I go to a catholic school and almost no one see’s me ad non binary. Only my online friends. Shout out to all my fellow non binary folks to having to deal with so much bullsh¡t.

    • @Starlight-yn4wl
      @Starlight-yn4wl 11 місяців тому

      Hey! I hope we get accepted one day, it's such a hard life.

  • @mr.n0rmal
    @mr.n0rmal 4 роки тому +3

    This hit me hard this explains my life at school i get bullied for being non binary i have really supportive partens tho ^-^

  • @Blood_Bunny08
    @Blood_Bunny08 4 роки тому +1

    Left home because of homophobic parent, abuse, and neglect.... Been out of the closet for almost a year now... it’s 11:00pm but I’m crying because this is how I feel... great video

  • @patchyfish1
    @patchyfish1 5 років тому +9

    Yeeees! I always project this onto this song!

  • @redflower0301
    @redflower0301 3 роки тому +1

    I had a hard time this day with being non-binary so this was actually super comforting

  • @Krowster
    @Krowster 4 роки тому +1

    I am Non-Binary, I'm proud to say i am neither male of female and i don't think people understand this, I sound like a childish girl, yet i act like a dude. I dress like a dude, have the body of a "Women", my mom calls me "They,Them, and She." Mainly because that is what she is used to and i respect that, i came out to my friends a couple months ago, telling them i prefer if you call me "They,Them" but if you don't that is fine, but in reality i want them to know it's not okay, but im scared, because what if they would hate me? Not accept me? Think im crazy? It's strange, the person who 'loves' me is suppose to be the one who supports me the most right? Why do i feel like He/She doesn't? It's confusing, I'm confusing. And this makes me question myself, i feel like i am lost and upset, wondering if what i am doing is right or wrong.

  • @k1mx_
    @k1mx_ 4 роки тому +3

    Me being non binary and watching this:👁💧👄💧👁 This is beautiful.

  • @Mothcat.
    @Mothcat. 4 роки тому +1

    I’m currently trying non-binary pronouns. I believe I’m a demiboy I do prefer being called a he/him but I don’t fit the boy mold yet. Non-binary is currently just an easy way to explain who I am.
    I am also pan romantic and I know that my dad will never accept me. My mom will which is just making everything so much harder. I’ll probably have to wait until I’m 18 before I can even be happy and it sucks. I’ve cut my hair and it’s helping.
    I just really wanna be happy now and I’m glad that you are finding yourself.
    Actually, embracing what you’ve always been.

  • @whytho6006
    @whytho6006 4 роки тому +12

    I just told my grandma I’m non binary and she yelled at me so I spent an hour in the restroom crying

    • @ghostphobic
      @ghostphobic  4 роки тому +6

      Popee The weirdo I’m so sorry... I hope it gets better soon!

    • @RodNichols5
      @RodNichols5 4 роки тому +5

      Holy shit, I’m so sorry for you. Fuck your grandma!! You’re you, and if that’s something she can’t handle, then that’s her problem. Just know that it’s okay to not be okay. Nothing is permanent, you’re absolutely bound to feel better and things will change for the better!!

    • @Haru-rs2su
      @Haru-rs2su 4 роки тому +1

      Aw sweetheart, it's okay. You're not in the wrong here. I accept you.

    • @iamtheloraxandispeakforthe8496
      @iamtheloraxandispeakforthe8496 4 роки тому +1

      Awwww, well I'm very sorry that happened to you, I'm nonbinary and one side of my family is homophobic/transphobic, thankfully the other side isn't. But anyways, I bet everything is gonna be fine for you because the rest of the nonbinary people support you, that's probably like, more then 1k people. That number of people is no match for your grandmother.

  • @Elismusic1032
    @Elismusic1032 4 роки тому +2

    I feel like this is a safe space to share my story I've just had a not so good experience with my mother and this will be a vent in a way
    Ever since I was in 3rd grade I wanted to be like the other girls I never felt like them i tried really hard to be like them but I always felt discomfort
    In 4th grade I gave up but i felt like such a freak for not knowing what was wrong with me i just wanted so badly to know what was going on with me wanted to know why I hated my female body so much why I hated girls clothes why whenever i wore them i felt so exposed and uncomfy
    In 5th grade is when i started questioning I was in denial a lot i didn't want to accept that i could possibly be trans i didn't want to hurt my family I didn't want people to see me differently
    Come 6th grade I've finally found out who I am I found out gender dysphoria existed and I had a strong hatred for it I hated that i couldn't have been born in a male body even though i wouldn't have been fully comfortable since i was non binary transition would have been so much easier
    Here I am now going into 7th grade this year I would do anything to not be trans I hate the dysphoria I hate suffering like this I'm sick of not being able to do anything since I'm at such a young age I can't even wear a binder since it will damage my chest
    My dad accepts me but doesn't use the correct name or pronouns he defends me against my mother I've explained dysphoria and how i would do anything to be cisgender to him and he listened to me
    I've explained to my mother so many times she can't seem to understand all she can see is a "girl" who can't accept their body she tells me I need to embrace my body that I simply can't do
    My name's Eli I'm 13 years of age and Non binary transgender this was my little rant if you read it all I love you

  • @Arvired
    @Arvired 3 роки тому +2

    I go by They/Them pronouns...My mom isn't homophobic but she doesn't believe that "Nonbinary" is an actually thing..She believes that you are either born female or male..My father on the other hand..Is full on homophobic...He uses LGBTQ+ slurs as well..As in Faggot...One of my brothers (I have 5 but only talking about one)...Doesn't believe that Transgender and Nonbinary are real..So...The only people that know I am Nonbinary (I'm also pansexual) are my Best friend...And my boyfriend...and now who ever is reading this. I only have one friend because I was bullied throughout my whole life...I am now 12 almost 13 years old...I have known I am Nonbinary and pansexual for more that 6 months...And I don't think I'll ever be able to come out...

  • @ghostisaperson7900
    @ghostisaperson7900 4 роки тому +1

    This gave me inspiration to show my chosen name to my family tomorrow I’m going to dinner and I’m going to wear a shirt showing my real name

  • @user-zr4ht6nf1k
    @user-zr4ht6nf1k 5 років тому +1

    I feel the same i think I'm nonbinary because i don't fit to girls or boy. But i do like looking masculine because it feels right to me

  • @Call_me_Ghost_
    @Call_me_Ghost_ 4 роки тому +3

    I can relate to this so much, I also nonbinary 😁

  • @Sunflower-iy7uq
    @Sunflower-iy7uq 4 роки тому +2

    I KNEW I WASNT THE ONLY ONE WHO WANTED TO SING THAT SONG WITH THEY THEM PRONOUNS-

  • @andylovesbats4566
    @andylovesbats4566 4 роки тому +1

    As a non-binary, when I feel dysphoric, I keep coming back to this song. It is a little sad, but gives me hope, that one day, I will come out to my parents and everything's gonna be OK :)

  • @_picturesque6087
    @_picturesque6087 4 роки тому +1

    i’m questioning my gender and at first i thought i was gender fluid, because it felt like i’d been fluctuating between genders for a while, but then i felt no sense of gender for over a week, and i worried that i wasn’t actually gender fluid and was lying to myself. but then yesterday i most definitely felt like a boy for majority of the day. sometimes i even think i might be ftm because i really want the figure of a boy (broad shoulders, flat chest, sharp cheekbones). i don’t think it’s gender expression because sometimes i want to be called a he and have that figure, but wear a crop top or a skirt. i read that some people who are questioning call themselves genderqueer until they figure it out, so that’s what i want to do. i want to tell my sister, but i’m not sure or how to tell her and i’m not even sure if this is true, i just thought it might be helpful to have at least one person call me the right pronouns, and help me test out which ones i like more.
    some days when my dysphoria isn’t bad i feel like i’m faking it, and i wish for the dysphoria to come back just so i can know it’s real.

  • @octobremenard1688
    @octobremenard1688 4 роки тому +4

    This just it hard in a good way but it hit hard

  • @AUBREY-ml4ex
    @AUBREY-ml4ex 4 роки тому +1

    To my non-binary peeps out there:
    You are not a girl, you are not a boy, you are not a monster. Whether you have a gender or not, no matter your sexuality, you are valid and if anyone EVER says you are a monster, or anything like that, they don't know the REAL you and they are just jealous because they don't have confidence like you. I love you all.

    • @AUBREY-ml4ex
      @AUBREY-ml4ex 4 роки тому +1

      To anyone that is a part of the LGBTQ+ community, I just wanna say that I love you, and you are not a monster, you are a person. Be yourself and love yourself.

  • @ishde
    @ishde 3 роки тому +1

    Im telling today my parents and my lil sis about my pronouns (they/them)
    I'm so stressed because they really care about "what the society would say".
    They will also probably say something like "its too early to say that" or "you dont know yet". My therapist is the same.
    Im really scared they wont accept it or tell me to "wait a bit".
    Like when the fuck will be the right moment? When will be this moment when you say "ok you are at the right age to tell if its true or just a phase".
    Somewhat long that phase, you know?

  • @justasnek13
    @justasnek13 4 роки тому

    This almost made me cry because it's so real for me. I recently discovered that I'm non-binary, and this song is also really important to me. It was the very first song about a trans person that I'd ever heard, and it was part of what made me realize my gender. I'm so scared to come out to most of the people in my life, so things like this are really meaningful to me. This is beautiful, and you did a really good job.

  • @esitube7483
    @esitube7483 4 роки тому +5

    Im genderfluid, I had to cut my own hair to make it shorter but I have friends who support me. Is there anyone who is under the nonbinary umbrella?

    • @callumwebb7894
      @callumwebb7894 4 роки тому +2

      I'm nonbinary :3

    • @kitkat9784
      @kitkat9784 4 роки тому

      @@callumwebb7894 you guys really love the name kai and ash

    • @asterliketheflower6060
      @asterliketheflower6060 4 роки тому

      I’m genderfluid too, out of curiosity, do you use all pronouns or just they/them (or any gender neutral variants)? I personally use they/them but I know some people who use all pronouns.

    • @taniazormpa9700
      @taniazormpa9700 4 роки тому

      @@kitkat9784 my name is ash... 👁️👄👁️ Chile anyways

  • @neonx4189
    @neonx4189 4 роки тому +1

    I’m really struggling with my identity right now, and this is helpful in a way, how I feel. :)

  • @hiimpeyton671
    @hiimpeyton671 3 роки тому +1

    “They/them are plural pronouns”
    Me: *SPLITS INTO 2*

  • @croetheconfused
    @croetheconfused 4 роки тому +1

    I didn't know I would be turned into a depressed mess at three in the evening

  • @soup4927
    @soup4927 4 роки тому +3

    I love to see us non binary folks being shown 🥺

  • @valeonie
    @valeonie 4 роки тому +5

    _im actually quite happy that we don’t have gender pronouns in our language._

  • @lilyanng9335
    @lilyanng9335 4 роки тому +2

    I needed this THANK YOU for making this!

  • @sillymercenary
    @sillymercenary 3 роки тому +2

    I'm nonbinary and tbh I almost cried after watching this-

  • @kaza313
    @kaza313 3 роки тому +1

    I want to cut my hair and dress like one I wish I can do that idk what gender anymore its confusing

  • @imjustasconfusedasyou
    @imjustasconfusedasyou 2 роки тому

    i am now more comfortable with being non binary and using they/them. i figured it out a while ago and i’m so glad i waited as long as i did to tell anyone because i’m now comfortable and confident with it. when i figured out i was lesbian, i told my sisters right away and i kinda regret it.

  • @toberkhalid7133
    @toberkhalid7133 3 роки тому +1

    I drew some of these frames because it's become a coping mechanism for me but like my mum saw and now its awkward also I came out as nonbinary and she said I couldn't change my name at school and was like "pronouns are just words"

    • @toberkhalid7133
      @toberkhalid7133 3 роки тому

      @@theerizzler13 me too lol. My gf helps tho🙃

  • @sillyrosalie
    @sillyrosalie 3 роки тому

    i just came out as nonbinary to my mom a week ago and also you are so great at making animations
    and my mom accepted me
    and i accept you

  • @lemonn_frog193
    @lemonn_frog193 4 роки тому +1

    I relate a lot to this as a fellow nonbinary person. Thank you for making such a wonderful video :,) I hope you know that you are loved and that you are valid! Stay strong ❤️

  • @gooseboii5677
    @gooseboii5677 4 роки тому +4

    It feels really wrong when someone is talking about me and they say "she/her" . I've had that thought for ages and I think I'm really comfortable with being nonbinary :D Edit: I didn't even remember this comment!!! I came out to my birther and she said she won't call me my preferred name or let me change my name on the school system :( now I can tell her I've known for so long and it's not just because I have a trans friend!!!

  • @maxewell248
    @maxewell248 4 роки тому +2

    I have come out to my friends as non-binary and a few use my preferred name but only a few use the right pronouns and I’m too nice to correct them on my pronouns. I’ll correct others pronouns but not my own. I don’t feel like I deserve to have the right pronouns used

    • @lycaptain
      @lycaptain 4 роки тому +1

      Ofc you deserve to have the right pronouns used! I understand how you feel, though...

    • @maxewell248
      @maxewell248 4 роки тому +2

      @@lycaptain thank you☺️ I’m just really Awkward especially when it is something to do with me like pronouns and names

  • @zip8681
    @zip8681 3 роки тому +1

    I’m non binary and no one has every respected my pronouns and it hurts me so much I’ve explained so many time on multiple different platforms and in person that I use they/them pronouns and no one uses them It hurts me so much to hear sister sis miss ma’am she/her from my family and friends

    • @bee-ku2nc
      @bee-ku2nc 3 роки тому

      Hey it’s ok, I get it, I have friends who refuse to call me they/them because they say they “aren’t comfortable with they/them.” But just know, it’s not their opinion, it’s yours. It’s your life and your pronouns and you let them know that. If you aren’t comfortable with she/her then you aren’t comfortable with it and they need to understand that. It’s just basic respect for people. I wish you luck, fam

  • @periodicallychaotic5449
    @periodicallychaotic5449 4 роки тому +3

    I’m acearo and I might be agender and I just remember really relating to this song before I realized

  • @Mushroom_Ghostz
    @Mushroom_Ghostz 4 роки тому +2

    Ok so ummm
    You be you and whoever you want and you will be accepted by me , your fans,subscribers,and everyone that loves you.
    If no one will accept you for who you are well f@ck them you be who you want to be ,be a girl, boy, both or neither, or just be a friendly human and when people see the real you they will accept you for who you are. So don't put yourself down or do self harm , just have confidence that you will be a good person and be able to find love.😶😶🙂🙂🙂❤❤❤❤❤
    I'm a nonbinary person too don't worry your not alone and I love your videos

  • @ariwithwings4080
    @ariwithwings4080 3 роки тому

    I told basically all my teachers about my Pronouns and Preferred Name, most of them use my correct name, and the few others forget, but I'm too scared to correct it. It's weird how I felt more comfortable telling my teachers about it than my own family. I could never tell my real mother, she already denied me being bi, but I came out to my Stepmom and Dad and they both accept me. They don't use my preferred name since they're more used to calling me by my dead name, but I'm fine with it. To everyone out there who doesn't have anyone who supports you, Me and many others are always here for you!

  • @iheartflowers
    @iheartflowers 2 роки тому

    I literally love this song. It relates to how I feel at school and home

  • @Phantom-uk2ly
    @Phantom-uk2ly 4 роки тому

    this is the most amazing thing ever i love it so much omg the pronoun changes in the lyrics and the art and everything

  • @casey7342
    @casey7342 3 роки тому +1

    I'm agender and have to wait to get my hair cut, being called anything remotely female makes me so uncomfortable and sick, even some of my friends don't use my pronouns

  • @danielkoval7673
    @danielkoval7673 4 роки тому +1

    i’m nb and i love this song and education i hope i can come out to my parents... for now i’ll just work on my presentation 💛🤍💜🖤

  • @cliff_hange7284
    @cliff_hange7284 5 років тому +3

    Relate, really, I love this

  • @strangerr13
    @strangerr13 4 роки тому +2

    My dysphoric ass would eat this up a year ago. And my non-binary ass eats this shit up now.

  • @cathrinschannel1454
    @cathrinschannel1454 4 роки тому

    This animation is beautiful. Ive always really connected with this song and I think it really represents how I am, except instead of trans I am nonbinary. I cut my hair not long ago and am thinking about wearing tighter clothing and more layers to ya know hide em.

  • @charlie1744
    @charlie1744 4 роки тому +1

    i’ve been identifying as non-binary for... almost a year now? and most of my family still calls me by my birth name about half the time unless I specifically remind them and they never use my preferred pronouns, it sucks because it’s so difficult to explain my identity to them without feeling ridiculous and every time they refer to me as something i’m not it’s like one extra piece of me they’re chipping off :( the worst part is it’s not outright antagonism it’s just not important to them like they see it as a dumb phase and something they need to humor me with. thank you to everyone in this comment section for all the positivity and validation because reading through them is helping me on a bit of a bad day :,)

  • @ImAdamSandler
    @ImAdamSandler 4 роки тому

    I clicked this thinking I was gonna be something different but all I got was cavetown and I’m not mad I love cavetown I always thought this song was about him being aro and trans but I guess it’s also be about being non binary awesome edit tho I love it thanks

  • @spookboi2746
    @spookboi2746 4 роки тому

    I love the original song from earlier because as the singer was transitioning, he sounded as the beautiful boy he is from there to now❤️. ((I'm non-binary and I would love to have a voice like that :') ))

  • @phoenixcraz1029
    @phoenixcraz1029 5 років тому +9

    ❤❤Awesome animations ❤❤

  • @meteorsoda369
    @meteorsoda369 4 роки тому

    I found this and i just relate so much, I’m non binary and I still don’t know how to come out to my parents or if they will accept me, but I really feel like they will just hate me more than they already do

  • @zei2ei
    @zei2ei 4 роки тому +1

    I'm non binary and African so my hair is afro I'm thinking about cutting it my hair do y'all have any hairstyle to recommend pls ?

  • @lunalovedraw3783
    @lunalovedraw3783 4 роки тому +2

    Still figuring out how to come out it really effects me

  • @frdfbaetd5596
    @frdfbaetd5596 4 роки тому

    This deserves more views/likes

  • @megamushroom
    @megamushroom 4 роки тому +1

    This is absolutely beautiful

  • @JupiterBlue.
    @JupiterBlue. 3 роки тому

    This song hits home because my best friends would sing it to me when I was stressed but he moved away
    And I cry at the end music all the time because I’m a trans male in’s it hurts to see others sad and suffer like I currently am

  • @sage9216
    @sage9216 4 роки тому +1

    So I keep saying I’m nonbinary, but people say that it’s just an umbrella term for trans, and that I’m just a femme trans guy. I dunno what’s going on anymore.

    • @ghostphobic
      @ghostphobic  4 роки тому +2

      ok ok, so 1) try to educate them. they seem to have some misinformation. they mixed up nonbinary and trans; trans is an umbrella term, not nonbinary and 2) know that the only person who knows you best is yourself. you’re the one who determines you gender identity and how you express yourself.
      please stay safe and take care!

  • @devon616
    @devon616 4 роки тому

    ok so I'm a couple of months late but this is so amazing, it's also rlly relatable. Thanks for making this

  • @endlesscupid8413
    @endlesscupid8413 4 роки тому +2

    So rn I am lesbian but recently I’ve been thinking I might be non-binary. Help?

    • @ghostphobic
      @ghostphobic  4 роки тому +1

      Lexi the Person 1) Take your time, you don’t need to know everything right now, and 2) sexuality is never correlated with gender.
      If you start to feel uncomfortable about people calling you your birthsex pronouns, certain body parts/your body in general and/or birthname because it’s “too feminine” or “too masculine,” you could be enby.
      But remember, take your time and don’t rush it.

    • @endlesscupid8413
      @endlesscupid8413 4 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for the advice

  • @Creamacc1no
    @Creamacc1no 4 роки тому +1

    I came out as nonbinary and my mom said. "Okay, that doesn't change anything." Still a girl in her eyes.

    • @ihavesbssnnanabrkikkeeeooi8968
      @ihavesbssnnanabrkikkeeeooi8968 4 роки тому +1

      I'm so sorry I'm still in the closet but I'm sorry maybe call her dad and say I don't see anything wrong with it :D

  • @Whosmaggie
    @Whosmaggie 4 роки тому

    Me when I hear the fist cord: Cavetown yes.

  • @fredthefish6175
    @fredthefish6175 3 роки тому

    When I came out to my class the amount of hate I got was disappointing but I walk though the hallways now with no real problems until one day someone tried to beat me up because they said she/her and I said they/them and it sucks but I’ve learned to be myself