I think what he was trying to say is “I wish Black Men’s masculinity wasn’t hyper policed.” Black men/boys are constantly receiving communication that we are not allowed to experience the full range of our humanity. A common way of shaming us is telling us that we “act gay”. Even though being gay or bisexual is not a bad thing at all. I’m a gay Black man.
I got into an argument on one of your streams about a year ago. I was saying that men should be allowed to cuddle up and watch a movie with their friends if they want. And this guy just COULDN'T get his head around it. I was saying we should be able to if we want to. And he was losing his shit saying he would never do it. And I was like, yeah, that's the point. You shouldn't have to feel that way about it. That's social conditioning. Girls can do it even when they're straight as fuck. But it's gay if guys do it? Apparently some men are so scared of being gay they can't even deal with the hypotheticals.
The only way the $500 million question would tempt me would be if I was already completely isolated. I make alright money, but I genuinely love the people in my life and I know they love me too. The thing that I look forward to in life is talking with those people, visiting those people, going on adventures with those people. I cannot imagine abandoning them for any amount of money.
I don't think that much about experimenting with other men. It's usually an intrusive thought in my head. Because I never like the idea, because I don't find men attractive. So it's an automatic turn off for me. But honestly my curiosity is usually about experimenting with a passing trans woman (not a femboy tho). But then again it's just me fantasizing, and not reality. And I have a genital preference. But I don't know if that counts as me being curious with experimenting with other men though. Edit: It depends on if someone views trans women, as women. Or think straight men are automatically gay for being attracted to trans women.
Legit think this is a reach. Too many ppl are desperate to disparage heterosexuality b/c they are disgusted at the notion of men being sexually attracted to women
When I was single, I talked about the date only if it came up organically. Once I vetted a partner enough to bring them around my people, we'd discuss how they were feeling about them. End of the day, I did what I was gonna do irregardless.
I feel like men need more hope for their dates, as in, they should really expect and look for a strong emotional connection, and walk away early if it's not there. I think many men think that's too much to ask for, so keep going out on dates that just look ok, but you know going in you have nothing in common. That makes them exhausted and bitter over time. Get pickier, guys.
Giving up all relationships for that money... Does that means giving up current relationships and just walking away? Can you make new relationships or is that out of the question too? Does the question essentially imply living in isolation and not interesting with people more than once?
Alot of female relationships lack boundaries. That's why the gay stuff is so normalized. It's also why their fall outs look like break ups because on paper they're friends but emotionally they're dating.
@@MaejorArrayYeah, I've been trying to express more affection towards my guy friends, and it usually goes well. But I'm always worried they're going to act like I'm flirting with them or something. And being autistic means I have a much harder time reading the room in that regard.
@@MaejorArrayKind of reminds me of what Lindsay Ellis said about Lord of the Rings. People made all kinds of gay jokes about those movies, when the only thing "gay" about them is men expressing platonic affection for one another.
This is such a fascinating take to me, because your close friendships should have emotional connections that cause emotional reaction of they end. Also women friendships have quite a few boundaries, that's why our spats sound so silly to guys because there was a boundary that was crossed.
I feel like you all misconstrued my point. There's nothing wrong or gay about a man showing his friends love, and if your friendship has no emotional connection you probably aren't friends for real. There's levels though. I don't show my friends the same love id would show my significant other. For instance, if one of my boys is feeling down, I'll give him a hug, talk, and go do something, I'm not going to invite him over so we can cuddle while watching a movie together. Women will do both with their friends. Men showing eachother love and affection IS highly stigmatized I know, but my point is women rarely put boundaries on the amount intimacy in their relationships. It's the reason why women's "spats" seem so trivial to men. Women tend to be just as invested emotionally and intimately in their friends as their SO, men not so much.
Men dip out of the relationship faster if the woman is not doing what he expects where women will stay longer to see if he just didnt have to tools to do it. I think women, socially at default, see men as not being taught about social/close relationships and thus they dont view it as trying to change him, its introducng him to this concept. I dont think men realize how way more single they would be if women left when they didnt meet an expectation. Last, men definitely have blanket expectations for what a wife or mother does and it is more socially acceptable for them to mom shame or wife shame if the woman doesnt live up to that. Its only recently been looked at as him trying to change her.
I think what he was trying to say is “I wish Black Men’s masculinity wasn’t hyper policed.” Black men/boys are constantly receiving communication that we are not allowed to experience the full range of our humanity. A common way of shaming us is telling us that we “act gay”. Even though being gay or bisexual is not a bad thing at all. I’m a gay Black man.
Josh is dressed like he's about to pilot a freighter across Lake Superior
I have noticed that we seem to be equating "being gay" with being vulnerable or wanting some kind of intimacies w/in platonic relationships
Is Josh going fishing 🎣 or doing gardening 👩🏾🌾 or going to church ⛪?
Yes.
@@RhekonBeat me to it
I got into an argument on one of your streams about a year ago. I was saying that men should be allowed to cuddle up and watch a movie with their friends if they want. And this guy just COULDN'T get his head around it.
I was saying we should be able to if we want to. And he was losing his shit saying he would never do it. And I was like, yeah, that's the point. You shouldn't have to feel that way about it. That's social conditioning. Girls can do it even when they're straight as fuck. But it's gay if guys do it? Apparently some men are so scared of being gay they can't even deal with the hypotheticals.
gay
The Avril impression though 😂
That pre intro segment was perfect, 2000s had some random bangers 😂
Yall went off at the beginning with the throwback tracks lol
The only way the $500 million question would tempt me would be if I was already completely isolated. I make alright money, but I genuinely love the people in my life and I know they love me too. The thing that I look forward to in life is talking with those people, visiting those people, going on adventures with those people. I cannot imagine abandoning them for any amount of money.
Brother just wants a hug
I respect that caller for saying what so many men are scared to admit that they want to experiment with other men
I don't think that much about experimenting with other men. It's usually an intrusive thought in my head. Because I never like the idea, because I don't find men attractive. So it's an automatic turn off for me.
But honestly my curiosity is usually about experimenting with a passing trans woman (not a femboy tho). But then again it's just me fantasizing, and not reality. And I have a genital preference. But I don't know if that counts as me being curious with experimenting with other men though.
Edit: It depends on if someone views trans women, as women. Or think straight men are automatically gay for being attracted to trans women.
😂😂😂
He didn't though, not really. The intention was maybe there but he dressed it up in a closeted way.
Legit think this is a reach. Too many ppl are desperate to disparage heterosexuality b/c they are disgusted at the notion of men being sexually attracted to women
3:44 "I'm so gangsta, I'm so thug" was WILD! 😭🤣🤣 Racism aside, that song was a bop lol
A total bop but leave black women alone 😂
A "gay" activity for men would be talking over brunch
When I was single, I talked about the date only if it came up organically. Once I vetted a partner enough to bring them around my people, we'd discuss how they were feeling about them. End of the day, I did what I was gonna do irregardless.
I couldn't give up my family 😩
I feel like men need more hope for their dates, as in, they should really expect and look for a strong emotional connection, and walk away early if it's not there. I think many men think that's too much to ask for, so keep going out on dates that just look ok, but you know going in you have nothing in common. That makes them exhausted and bitter over time. Get pickier, guys.
Men PILLOWTALK with each other! I'm glad to hear y'all admit it. But y'all be mad disrespectful
Josh knowing all the words to complicated 😂😂😂😍
Do dudes really not talk to their friends about this stuff? I feel so detached from that idea of manhood
You mfers are so wholesome reminiscing on the older music😂🙌🏽
I like bald women.
would love to see a WRF x crash dummies podcast crossover episode
Did any one watch that video of the convenience store guy trying to sell a pink lighter in the hood?
16:40 That sounds like the story of my life. Except the preamble. Just described my taste. 😁
I need to start being honest with myself about this podcast…
While you're looking for yourself.......nah nah nah🎶
Y'all nutty as hell 😂
omg lmaooo not eddie describing child slavery at the end there 😳😳
Giving up all relationships for that money... Does that means giving up current relationships and just walking away? Can you make new relationships or is that out of the question too?
Does the question essentially imply living in isolation and not interesting with people more than once?
That outro is crazy lol
47:26 As an introvert I feel like that's an easy take for me. Although I just might be sociopathic. 😁
$500M: Pre or post tax? 🤔
Alot of female relationships lack boundaries. That's why the gay stuff is so normalized. It's also why their fall outs look like break ups because on paper they're friends but emotionally they're dating.
@@MaejorArrayYeah, I've been trying to express more affection towards my guy friends, and it usually goes well. But I'm always worried they're going to act like I'm flirting with them or something. And being autistic means I have a much harder time reading the room in that regard.
@@MaejorArrayKind of reminds me of what Lindsay Ellis said about Lord of the Rings. People made all kinds of gay jokes about those movies, when the only thing "gay" about them is men expressing platonic affection for one another.
@@MaejorArraythis is spot on! It’s easy for us to dismiss relationships because the foundation of them can be rocky.
This is such a fascinating take to me, because your close friendships should have emotional connections that cause emotional reaction of they end. Also women friendships have quite a few boundaries, that's why our spats sound so silly to guys because there was a boundary that was crossed.
I feel like you all misconstrued my point. There's nothing wrong or gay about a man showing his friends love, and if your friendship has no emotional connection you probably aren't friends for real. There's levels though. I don't show my friends the same love id would show my significant other. For instance, if one of my boys is feeling down, I'll give him a hug, talk, and go do something, I'm not going to invite him over so we can cuddle while watching a movie together. Women will do both with their friends. Men showing eachother love and affection IS highly stigmatized I know, but my point is women rarely put boundaries on the amount intimacy in their relationships. It's the reason why women's "spats" seem so trivial to men. Women tend to be just as invested emotionally and intimately in their friends as their SO, men not so much.
Men dip out of the relationship faster if the woman is not doing what he expects where women will stay longer to see if he just didnt have to tools to do it. I think women, socially at default, see men as not being taught about social/close relationships and thus they dont view it as trying to change him, its introducng him to this concept. I dont think men realize how way more single they would be if women left when they didnt meet an expectation. Last, men definitely have blanket expectations for what a wife or mother does and it is more socially acceptable for them to mom shame or wife shame if the woman doesnt live up to that. Its only recently been looked at as him trying to change her.
😂😂😂😂Don't be telling the whole world about lemon pepper wet! We keeping that shit in GA.
Oh nobody truly makes it correctly no way 😂 #901
If only Hey Soul Sister was about a black woman. It was about his future white wife. Train sucks, lol