Why We Broke Up Pt. 1 | Unequally Yoked, Heartbreak, Making Idols Out of Each Other

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  • @growingthroughitpod
    @growingthroughitpod  3 місяці тому +61

    Your comments have truly inspired me to cry out to the Lord and lift each one of you up in prayer. Whatever you're going through, I hope these responses remind you that you're not alone. God has a beautiful plan for every single one of you, and even though it may not make sense right now, one day it will. One day, you'll thank God for every closed door that didn't lead you closer to Him.
    I promise you, true fulfillment can only be found in Jesus. Obedience will never keep you from God’s plan; it will only protect you from the enemy’s traps. So, keep praying and seeking the Father. He is so worth it and deserves all the glory!
    Thank you all so much for your love, support, and for feeling vulnerable enough to use this as a safe space. God bless you all!

  • @Naiki29
    @Naiki29 4 місяці тому +758

    To keep her he went to God and to stay with God she had to let him go. Can’t nobody tell me God is not real.

    • @jaysouthmusic8230
      @jaysouthmusic8230 4 місяці тому +5

      So in other words the dude wasted his time. Makes total sense

    • @keziakandii
      @keziakandii 4 місяці тому +36

      @@jaysouthmusic8230 your relationship with God is telling.

    • @Naiki29
      @Naiki29 4 місяці тому +27

      @@keziakandii hopefully he’ll find God for himself one day. That’s my only hope when people comment stuff like this

    • @thecreativeKue
      @thecreativeKue 4 місяці тому +5

      He’s real to some other people. To some of us we get ignored

    • @Naiki29
      @Naiki29 4 місяці тому +19

      @@thecreativeKue God loves all of us. Sometimes if you feel like He is ignoring you, it may because we’re not listening. Sometimes to best way to hear God is to seek Him daily. Open up His word. He will talk to you through. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you and guide you. God loves you and He hears you.

  • @kaaamiiilaaahhhb5494
    @kaaamiiilaaahhhb5494 2 місяці тому +75

    Your situation is very similar to what me and my ex are going through currently. We created idols in each other and God told me I have to let him go to have a real relationship with God. It’s been difficult because it’s still the first week but this is giving me hope that God’s plan for my life will be greater than anything I could ever imagine and the more I let go, the more he can take control❤️🙏🏾

    • @pjpj7198
      @pjpj7198 2 місяці тому +1

      Right there with you... week 1 but really God's been pointing out the red flags for a while. Praying for God to show up for both of us, but individually. We have to be obedient to God and seek Him first. It's difficult but God grants peace on request! I love Him for that ❤

    • @adiannagray9721
      @adiannagray9721 2 місяці тому

      @@pjpj7198amen i’m going through the same thing, praying for us

    • @akamommys
      @akamommys Місяць тому

      Amen in the same situation 😊

    • @heidivanderwatt7724
      @heidivanderwatt7724 12 днів тому +1

      This is literally my situation too. It's been 6 months. I don't know what will happen. We have space and silence. He isn't ready to talk he said. We have broken up twice in the 3 years we were together. I miss him. My heart aches all the time. But I have to trust God regardless of what the outcome is. But it's hard to trust Him knowing I might not be with the person I love. Ugh, it's so painful

    • @bella-fq9ev
      @bella-fq9ev 8 днів тому

      That’s awesome. Similar to me and my ex situation also❤. Just know you’re not alone. Jesus loves you

  • @alexandratruter
    @alexandratruter 3 місяці тому +51

    I recently got out of an ungodly relationship, literally hours ago, and its been so tough to keep my head above water. I really hope God changes his heart and he becomes saved. I really want to stay faithful to what God has called me to and convicted me of. My heart is so sore as I love him so much. But I know God has a plan. Anything is possible with Him. God even got me to the point of breaking up with him and it took me so long to get to that point.

    • @gugushabalala1691
      @gugushabalala1691 2 місяці тому +1

      Hey, how have you been?
      It’s so hard I just broke up with my boyfriend

    • @nana11f
      @nana11f Місяць тому +1

      same here am trusting God to take the lead. i was rushing I wanna relax now and let God take the lead

    • @RebeccaFlores-u3o
      @RebeccaFlores-u3o День тому

      Literally the same thing happened to me, I believe what ever happens next will be the Lord’s will

  • @caitijane7844
    @caitijane7844 3 місяці тому +29

    This is so encouraging to hear as someone who is currently going through her first serious relationship ending. I ended it for those sort of reasons too, and not at all from a lack of love for him. If anything God asked me to surrender him and the relationship and it HURT. But part of me hopes and prays that once God has done the work on him, one day we will get back together.
    Praying for y’all in these comments who are in a similar place too

  • @londonamoah
    @londonamoah 4 місяці тому +82

    Me and my current partner have rekindled a purposeful relationship. There was a point where I was so far apart from God, and all she ever wanted was for me to have a relationship with him. We split 2 years ago in college and found each other again. I’d become closer to Jesus and in that period we grew together equally yoked and intentional.

  • @tarynmoses2854
    @tarynmoses2854 4 місяці тому +205

    This is currently my reality, I’ve been struggling so much lately, please pray for me and my partner 😔

    • @geraldineandreas364
      @geraldineandreas364 4 місяці тому +4

      Exact same situation here. It is so so hard and I'm trying so hard.

    • @devankurmitra4118
      @devankurmitra4118 4 місяці тому

      Please let him go ,he deserves better​@@geraldineandreas364

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  3 місяці тому +8

      I am praying for you! I know how hard it may feel right now, but you will get through this in Jesus name. His plan is always better than we expect, I promise you! Your obedience and prayers are heard and seen by God 🤍

  • @patwest22
    @patwest22 4 місяці тому +42

    Drew: "When/If I get closer to Jesus, lots of things will get better in my life." I love that! Keep inspiring us, guys. ❤

  • @SheaBrown-st6ny
    @SheaBrown-st6ny 4 місяці тому +53

    Going through the same thing now. He decided we needed a break so he could find God, and didn’t want to keep putting my relationship with God in jeopardy.
    Please pray for us both. For our relationship with God, our growth, and if it’s God’s will for us to come together again when it’s right.

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  3 місяці тому +3

      I’m praying for you, beautiful! I’ve been where you are, and I know how hard it can be. Fix your eyes on Jesus. When He becomes your number one, I promise, things in your life will start to look different. It may not always be easier, but you will grow stronger and better. You’ll begin to change, and it’s the best thing that can happen to anyone.
      Ask God to reveal Himself to you, not because of anyone else, but simply because He deserves it. I believe in you, and no matter the outcome, God’s plan is always better.

    • @akamommys
      @akamommys Місяць тому

      Amen in the similar situation, just waiting for God to show His face regarding the situation so I can know if this is His will or not

  • @amissahho-on
    @amissahho-on 4 місяці тому +131

    I totally went through that spiritual warfare experiencing the same kind of feelings of rejection and abandonment. Although mine didn't work out, being my first serious relationship, God definitely led me closer to him, and I hope he does the same for the other person. I definitely learned to be careful of what I idolize in my life. Love this beautiful conversation.❤❤❤❤

    • @janinepolanco319
      @janinepolanco319 4 місяці тому +3

      Omg same and true. My connection with god has grown

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  4 місяці тому +9

      Thank you so much for watching and sharing this! I’m so proud of you for seeing your situation as an opportunity to grow closer to God. I also found that at my rock bottoms and through heart break, God has always taught me so much about myself and Him. Praying for you and I can’t wait to see all that The Lord has in store for you.

  • @tyleshathomas5200
    @tyleshathomas5200 3 місяці тому +13

    35:53 melted my heart😭😭😭 that is soooooooooo cute!!!!!!!! I’ve never heard of such the sweetest most heartfelt thing. I would keep those notebooks for an eternity 🥹

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  3 місяці тому +6

      When I tell you I still read the notebooks to this day at least once a month…. The way this man loves me is so undeniable that it’s from God 😭🤍 thank you so much for watching!

  • @janeliznieves-cabrera1942
    @janeliznieves-cabrera1942 3 місяці тому +11

    I’m really going through it. The father of my child recently broke up the day before he went to youth camp. I know he’s getting closer to God, one of my biggest prayer in my journey with God. I just pray that we will get back together after we both have healed, and have let God do his will in each of our lives so our daughter can grow up in a United home where God is the center.

  • @sladewilson5860
    @sladewilson5860 2 місяці тому +20

    Man, going through this right now! Girlfriend is an unbeliever. Broke up with her beginning of August. We were having sex. She was my first, and long story short, we broke up cause I couldn't do it any longer. I tried leading her to Christ during the break up, and we were going back into sexual habits, and then when I finally cut things off cause I couldn't continue to fall into sexual temptation anymore, she became cold towards me. I pray that she would experience Christ in her life and surrender to him! I pray for her daily. I am currently going through intense emotional withdrawals, and God has used this to cause me to run towards Him. I just really hope we can reconcile one day. I of course want to move on, but I really want her to be the one too :/

    • @nataribaek8115
      @nataribaek8115 15 днів тому +1

      I, as a Christian female being, am going through a very similar situation rn, will pray for my loving ex that he will seek god one day T^T i feel you my brother :/ may god lead our loved ones to christ and reconcile them with us💟🙏

    • @sladewilson5860
      @sladewilson5860 15 днів тому +3

      @ I'm so sorry to hear that :/ if you submit to God and pursue Him and get to know Him and spend the time to talk to Him and spend the time in His word, it is SO worth it!! I've been spending these last two months saturating myself with the Word and talking with God to get to know Him better. It's been incredible! He's been doing incredible healing in my life and heart, and drawing my closer to Him in amazing ways! Pursue Him with all your heart 💙 1 Peter 5:10 I hope this is an encouragement to you, my sister 😌 stay strong!!! God gave us a spirit, not of fear, but of power, and love, and self-control!

    • @nataribaek8115
      @nataribaek8115 15 днів тому

      @@sladewilson5860 aww thats so beautifully said, indeed with christ we have the courage and strength to go through any tough situation in life as we begin to walk more with god and prioritize & trust him more on what plans he has for us🙏❤️thank you for your encouraging words🫶wish you all the best for the future stay strong!!

  • @angelinamashigo8110
    @angelinamashigo8110 4 місяці тому +89

    I know God didn't make this video appear on my feed by mistake right now , because same.😭

    • @BriW444
      @BriW444 3 місяці тому +7

      😢 yea this hurts. Me and my partner agreed to let it go. If God allows we will come back together but I need to heal rn

  • @kambrialockett5719
    @kambrialockett5719 20 днів тому +1

    I just got out of a two year relationship because I had so much conviction about us being unequally yoked so this message is so on time 🙏🏽✨

  • @kimberlysoto1997
    @kimberlysoto1997 4 місяці тому +12

    This video has been coming up a lot and I've been meaning to watch it but didn't have the chance till now. The Lord is good! The fight, making the other your idol, not having God at the center, leading him, praying to God, breaking up the next day in the morning, the playlist, etc. your guys testimony is similar to mine. I'm 19, seeking God more, after breaking up with my ex a few months ago. Rn Idk what God is gonna do in our lives, but I trust Him because He knows what's best for me. You guys are a blessing to many of us, may the Lord keep using ya'll, God bless!

    • @TheAymoneShow
      @TheAymoneShow 2 місяці тому

      If you’re truly 19, live your life.
      Serious relationships at you’re age are most likely to be toxic.
      Find yourself. Enjoy your life!

  • @julianasimon1913
    @julianasimon1913 2 місяці тому +4

    This is exactly my situation, but I’m trusting in the lord that in the end I’ll have a better relationship with the Lord and it will all be for his glory.

  • @beverlylawrence4970
    @beverlylawrence4970 Місяць тому +6

    This is interesting why I shaw this video, because my ex broke up with me like a month ago, because God told him to and for the entire month after I couldn’t understand why God would do that, because we are both Christian , we love each other and we planned on getting married to one another, but after fasting and prayer I realised that God broke us up because we were idolising each other, we were putting each other above the Lord, so he separated us, so I realised that even though I know deep down that we are meant for one another, I realised, that at least I wasn’t spiritually mature enough to be with, I have to strengthen my relationship with God and give God his place in my heart before I can be with him and have a godly relationship with him, and when the time is right I just know that we will be together again.

  • @DayEliseMolina
    @DayEliseMolina 3 місяці тому +3

    May God continue to cover you both in love and blessings! I can relate to this a lot with my Husband. What God brings together, let no one separate.

  • @michellegreen4230
    @michellegreen4230 4 місяці тому +20

    Thank you all so much for sharing. As a woman of God, your testimony is truly inspiring. May your union continue to be blessed by Father beyond measure. 🙏🏽😇❤️

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  4 місяці тому

      Thank you so much for listening! This was so kind. God bless you beautiful 🤍 I’m sure your testimony will inspire so many too

  • @hbt135
    @hbt135 2 місяці тому +4

    i recently broke up with my ex, mutually, over faith and values as well. at first, he was receptive to Christ when he came back (after we broke up a separate time). clearly things were rushed, and he desired something deeper without giving us a chance to be able to do the spiritual work, so old patterns returned and i had to let him go. currently blocked on everything and im just trying to keep my eyes on the Lord, and praying for him from afar, in hopes that he finds Jesus.

  • @matthewsimmons5027
    @matthewsimmons5027 3 місяці тому +1

    When I first watched this, it was right after I put the breakup with the love of my life in the Lords hands. I came across this video within the hour of doing so and this story represents me and the woman God wants me to marry so much!! This has given me hope, God has given me all the hope in the world.

  • @akriti92
    @akriti92 3 місяці тому +4

    danggg. was literally crying while watching this. I think its God convicting me about my relationship.

  • @danielitaplatica
    @danielitaplatica 4 місяці тому +20

    this rlly resonated w me w a connection i am currently exploring and it’s made me very uneasy. i’ve been thinking about cutting it off and remaining as friend a lot lately bc of these same issues

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  4 місяці тому +15

      Wow thank you so much for listening and sharing that! I’m praying for you. I too had that uneasy feeling and I soon learned that it was actually The Holy Spirit. Ask the Lord to reveal what He wants you to do and He will- the answer may even be in the Bible already. Keep trusting and obeying God and I promise it will all work out how it’s supposed to. God bless you friend 🫶🏽

  • @Christobal7_7
    @Christobal7_7 3 місяці тому +3

    DREW MY MAN I FINALLY FOUND SOMEONE I CAN RELATE TO! THANK U FOR SHARING YOUR TESTIMONY!!!

  • @CassandraContreras-jw9ou
    @CassandraContreras-jw9ou 3 місяці тому +13

    I feel this is my situation, My ex was close to perfect but just wasn’t far in his faith with God the way I am. (But I know I’m not perfect). We both equally idolized the relationship and co depended on each other. I struggle with daddy and abandonment issues.. and he struggles with living for the world and a porn addiction. We both are unequally yolked even though we both seek God when we need help. I know that our love was real and genuine. I pray every night that if it’s Gods will.. to reconcile us. Please pray for the both of us .

  • @kortneycarmouche806
    @kortneycarmouche806 3 місяці тому +2

    This was so good wow. I recognize that I am going through the same situation. So glad it worked out for you. God is good on His promises! I trust in His plan. He is always on time!

  • @yosanmesmer
    @yosanmesmer 4 місяці тому +10

    This was so good I can’t wait for part 2 ❤️🔥!

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  4 місяці тому +1

      Thank you so much for listening! Part 2 is my favorite 🥹🤍

  • @karolinamairena5110
    @karolinamairena5110 3 місяці тому +3

    It's been almost 1 year since I broke up with my person for the same reason, and he hasn't made an effort to change in a good way. He is just going out partying and getting drunk and is really hurtful for me. This video is my realization that even though I really wanted him to be the one, he is not. I still will pray every day for him, so that one day he finds God, and be the man God wants him to be.

  • @nandofabian
    @nandofabian 3 місяці тому +5

    This video is a blessing! I’ve realized a lot since my last breakup. In my quiet time, God has continued to reveal things about myself that he wants to work on. I’ve also realized that the Lord needs to remain at the center of the relationship for it to flourish. When we broke up it felt like the Lord was calling us closer to Him. I’m surprised to hear some Christian couples telling their story and mentioning that they broke up before the Lord brought them back together. It’s encouraging. I continue to pray that His will be done!

  • @reitumetsentai2568
    @reitumetsentai2568 3 місяці тому +1

    We relate to them so much, but he’ll be back with God’s timing ❤

  • @theeladyj
    @theeladyj 4 місяці тому +5

    Knowing God is knowing thy self, im going through the same stuff. I needed this, thank you

  • @Tchambz8
    @Tchambz8 4 дні тому

    Thank you for the honesty. Because relationships are tough but to see the worth in the struggle is so beautiful praise God. Thank you for sharing such authenticity

  • @laurynmcdowell2787
    @laurynmcdowell2787 3 місяці тому

    Our stories are similar the more I continue to watch. This whole time, I needed to grow my relationship with god. This really resonated with me. Thank you endlessly for sharing

  • @chisomimmaculataohabuenyi5398
    @chisomimmaculataohabuenyi5398 4 місяці тому +11

    I do hope this is my case
    In all, God's will is the best🤗

  • @DigInn.
    @DigInn. 4 місяці тому +13

    I hope my story will turn out to be like you all! I'm going through my first serious relationship breakup for the same reason, but I‘m afraid I won't get another chance to be with her and continue to grow 🙂

    • @tondanimonyai
      @tondanimonyai 2 місяці тому +4

      If you guys don’t get back together, then it is God’s will. Rest in that.

  • @heatherpratt1551
    @heatherpratt1551 Місяць тому +1

    I am literally going through this now and it is so confusing. So heartbreaking

  • @Noname2002-d8z
    @Noname2002-d8z 4 місяці тому +8

    Wow so interesting and God is so good!
    Part 2 pleaseee🥹

  • @Jstats99
    @Jstats99 3 місяці тому

    To have a women talk about you like that is a blessing man she is very aware of the worldly things an how he isn’t easily sucked into I definitely know what to look for if a relationship is in my path

  • @christinacoleman4795
    @christinacoleman4795 4 місяці тому +2

    This was so good! Thank you for taking the time to share your story

  • @EmeraldXcavator
    @EmeraldXcavator 4 місяці тому +4

    I love this, my girlfriend and I felt like we had to break up for the same exact reasons.

  • @glenbutler9611
    @glenbutler9611 4 місяці тому

    So happy for you two! You both have the grace and spiritual maturity to seek the Lord's guidance! Your marriage will only grow stronger when you keep Christ at the center!🫶🏾✝️🙏🏾

  • @ayannaraulston1511
    @ayannaraulston1511 4 місяці тому

    Thank you guys so much for sharing your journey with the world! I feel like I am in a similar situation with my high school sweet heart and you alls story have given me guidance and hope!

  • @MetaMurse
    @MetaMurse 4 місяці тому +11

    I fell in love with an agnostic girl. After 4 years, I left in pursuit of My relationship with God again. Cant nobody tell me God is not real

  • @lucindasamira8351
    @lucindasamira8351 4 місяці тому +1

    First video I watched of your channel and subscribed! Thank you for your vulnerability and looking forward to part II! ❤

  • @munonyamakura6772
    @munonyamakura6772 4 місяці тому +6

    Wow this was so graceful! Currently going through exactly this and this came up on my recommended videos. Pleasee release pt 2 and May God bless you both!

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  4 місяці тому +3

      I’m so glad you feel seen from our story. I’m praying for your current situation, I know how hard it can be, but you will get through it! God absolutely has you. Part 2 is coming soon 🤍

    • @munonyamakura6772
      @munonyamakura6772 4 місяці тому +1

      @@growingthroughitpod wow thank you so much I feel very graced by your show of kindness and support. May God fill you with his spirit and keep Ipl the good work !

  • @sophiaparra07
    @sophiaparra07 4 місяці тому +23

    wow I relate so much with you both as far as her trying to get him to be more spiritual. I was with a boy and he believed in God and did bible plans with me but I was the one leading it and I was the one who who read my bible and be close with God no matter if he was with me or not. where he only did because I was. and I prayed God would remove him from my life and he did. but now it is super heavy in my life that this could be Gods plan for him to come back later when the timing is right. so I just been praying for hours each day that he will accept God into his life. and that we will be brought back together because I have so much love for him.
    he has also told me that I brought him to have a closer relationship with God, so I have faith
    mini update: a few weeks ago I prayed one night asking God when he will come back in my life. I had a dream that same night with him in it and a voice came to me telling me to wait four months.

    • @Chun_Leroy
      @Chun_Leroy 4 місяці тому +1

      This is me, rn.
      He brought me closer to God but the breakup between us made me chase God further. I’ve been praying to God just like you - that he will open up his heart to hear God and be obedient.

    • @caitijane7844
      @caitijane7844 3 місяці тому +1

      I’m currently going through the same thing and just ended things for the same reason and it really hurt both of us but I’m trying to hold with an open hand the possibility God will work in both of us and bring us back together. I’m praying for you too!

    • @TheAymoneShow
      @TheAymoneShow 2 місяці тому +1

      Maybe you dreamt of him because you think a lot about him: nothing more nothing less.
      Every Dream doesn’t have to mean something or be a sign from God. It could simply be that your subconscious reveals the most honest part of your heart’s desires.
      You can’t force anybody to get close to God. We don’t proselytize anyone for our own self interest.
      If you want him to know God let it because you believe salvation is a gift given by Christ that all should have.

    • @miimi1168
      @miimi1168 Місяць тому +1

      Very true, I understand the feeling of wanting abd being desperate for a sign. Remember we serve a God who can do the impossible and nothing is to hard for Him, when He tells you Trust! You wiil know but now I agree you have been thinking of him alot so something you can do is ask for a sign

  • @monicamatsose2080
    @monicamatsose2080 3 місяці тому

    Im going through the that too and it feels so crazy and awful, we were doing long distance and it just hasn’t been okay so we broke up. Im praying that God restores

  • @Hvnlytouch
    @Hvnlytouch 2 місяці тому

    Thanks Lord I needed this video and thank you guys

  • @faithnfruits
    @faithnfruits 4 місяці тому +17

    As much I wanna wish that my ex would change and get closer to the Lord I truly can’t do anything and it pisses me off to the point where i’ve grown resentful toward my ex that he just doesn’t care about anything. I have no hope for him coming to the Lord. I kinda hate watching testimonies like this (not that I hate yall or anything) but it just discourages me so much. I feel hopeless that I won’t find anyone. I also thought the Lord confirmed that he’d be my husband and vice versa to my ex but how things look we both are just not yoked.

    • @dunbarinosho5372
      @dunbarinosho5372 4 місяці тому +10

      Walk by faith not by sight. Pray and stand by Gods Will not just feelings

    • @dunbarinosho5372
      @dunbarinosho5372 4 місяці тому +6

      The fruits of the spirit is hope not hopelessness, don’t speak that over your life love. Go back to the Bible, read the stories again. Ask God for His Will and stand in faith believing regardless of what you see. Faith comes by hearing the Word of God but you also need to renew your mind and decide that you will function according to the guidance of God because this world is filled with things meant to discourage us, we rely on sight but God has called us to do the opposite. Read Romans 4, this has helped me. Much love

    • @yzma6142
      @yzma6142 4 місяці тому +2

      Let him go 100% and go to God, God will surprise you

    • @ProfNYK
      @ProfNYK 4 місяці тому +2

      Definitely understand this. If we truly believe in the most high then we must understand that everything is in his control and timing. Don’t feel discouraged. The devil feeds off of that energy. You’ll find an amazing partner when the time is right. GODS TIME

    • @krisspretell7872
      @krisspretell7872 3 місяці тому

      Fast and ask the lord about him to open up his heart to God ♥️

  • @bmurimi.C
    @bmurimi.C 3 місяці тому

    Here also, I have no words, I wish I had words ,I just need God to come through 😢

  • @katherine3107
    @katherine3107 2 місяці тому +1

    Other than therapy, what are some practical steps you took to release your daddy issues?
    How did you no longer desire attention from men?
    How did you know the healing was complete?

  • @Luxeq
    @Luxeq 3 місяці тому

    If God is not speaking to me through you guys, I don’t know what is, My Husbands name is Drew as well ❤ .God is so good and he knows exactly what his doing. Thank you Jesus

  • @Meumairim
    @Meumairim 17 днів тому

    Awww you’re so beautiful girl ❤🥰🥰

  • @Hailey-i7v
    @Hailey-i7v Місяць тому

    I feel safe here I’m going through this.

  • @agnesr.4664
    @agnesr.4664 3 місяці тому +1

    About to listen to your video, because we have broken up still having feelings for each other. But he needed to figure out what he wanted from God and from life, where he was heading basically. I pretty much knew for myself already, but we missed each other somewhere. We still are in contact and talking once in a while, and he started being mentored and coached by my pastor. He wanted to move to my city still after the break up. Motoves might habe changed, so he is not doing that because of me but because of what he recognized God wants to do and is already doing in his life. But I gave up my feelings and my dreams, hopes and wishes concerning him and let God take over. Totally at peace and open to God writing out story.

  • @seeherdemeanor
    @seeherdemeanor 7 днів тому

    i went through this in my last relationship to the EXACT TEA.. i finally ended it & he got a gf 3 weeks later. i’m almost positive he was already talking to her during the relationship. still torn about it but i just got baptized and i forgave him. not sure if i can even looking for a Godly relationship again

  • @fitnessen2860
    @fitnessen2860 18 днів тому

    I feel like me and my ldr boyfriend are unequally yoked right now. He puts in effort but like the bare minimum and more like worldly effort, not biblical and godly effort of practicing sacrificial love. He thinks that going through the stress of finals is an excuse to not be intentional with me and always rant. During our check in I’m going to tell him that either we stick to an intentional schedule or we can’t be together. He needs to examine his heart with that, and also his faith in God because the fact that he always chooses to be miserable and stressed (sometimes he doesn’t but he won’t focus on God, he will focus on saying like “it’s ok” or “I’ll get through it”) and I think it’s concerning. I’m not feeling fulfilled and he has to consider am I even ready for a relationship

  • @AnnieE2012
    @AnnieE2012 4 місяці тому +2

    In raising children I don't believe it was the parenting. I think it's a boy versus girl thing and how they handle things. But you guys are doing amazing. Keep surrendering to the lord. Praying for you both always ❤❤❤

  • @yasminepadilla
    @yasminepadilla 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm waiting for part 2 to drop😭

  • @karleshasharne
    @karleshasharne 4 місяці тому +4

    I NEED PART 2

  • @lilbob-f2v
    @lilbob-f2v 4 місяці тому +4

    My story is so similar to it but we don't talk to each other now

  • @AuthenticallyChosenn
    @AuthenticallyChosenn 3 місяці тому

    Going through a separation rn and it’s very hard but is about of the ministry it’s like the book of Hosea I swear 😅

  • @being.saltpluslight
    @being.saltpluslight 4 місяці тому +2

    Crazy to see how many women share the same story. When

  • @karenac670
    @karenac670 2 місяці тому

    This video is such a blessing thank you for this!! I also have a question Would God tell me to leave a 3 1/2 year relationship to go to somebody else? Bc I started to have feelings for someone else and the other person had signs when I met this other person and he told me God says I’m the one to him.

  • @keziahndunda6344
    @keziahndunda6344 4 місяці тому +1

    This is the same situation I am in

  • @gypsyqueensha4758
    @gypsyqueensha4758 2 місяці тому

    Not this video giving me hope for my most recent failed relationship 😢. Nun the less happy y'all were able to figure it out.

  • @lightpinksalt
    @lightpinksalt 2 місяці тому

    How did you approach Drew in explaining your reasons for the separation? Your story is so parallel, have been feeling convicted that God is asking this of my relationship as well, but I don’t want to set off my partner

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  2 місяці тому +2

      Thank you so much for sharing and for watching. We had an open and honest conversation and I told Him that I loved him, but I loved God more. I walked in knowing nothing would change my mind and that I had to stay obedient. Now, years later I'm living in the fruit of that obedience and it truly was and is all God. I'm praying for you! You will never lose what is meant for you, chasing after Jesus.

  • @sylvianatty5731
    @sylvianatty5731 4 місяці тому +6

    Constructive criticism: Would’ve appreciated more from Drew and his perspective on your conversation.

    • @amanda_mos
      @amanda_mos 4 місяці тому

      Totally

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  4 місяці тому +15

      Hi beautiful! Thank you so much for watching, it means the world to us. He’s actually a man of few words when it comes to speaking in front of a camera, but he loves to be on the Podcast for you guys. I love his wisdom and how he’s coming out of his shell 🫶🏽
      He also talks a bit more in Pt. 2! Thank you so much again for watching.

  • @JovaGoose
    @JovaGoose 4 місяці тому +1

    Did you guys stop talking to each other after the breakup?

  • @lubanzilurh9643
    @lubanzilurh9643 Місяць тому

    Me and my boyfriend (now friend and brother in Christ) were delivered by God from sin ,we both love God but sin was still at the center of our relationship and somehow we tried to do things on our own to no longer sin bt God himself delivered us it was a miracle the way things happened,we we went from worldly dating ,to no longer dating and we are still friends close as before but now the basis of our relationship is mostly in Christ and not the worldy things which will lead us to death
    We are still hoping that God units us again as partners in a Godly way but we trust in his plan.
    All the glory to him we take no credit .

  • @nadialovesmogwai
    @nadialovesmogwai 4 місяці тому

    The notebooks 😭😭😭

  • @jaylajones4074
    @jaylajones4074 2 місяці тому

    Going through something very similar, but infidelity was also a part of the relationship. -- Could God change this & bless the relationship or should I cut my losses? 🥺

    • @AllisonWonders
      @AllisonWonders 2 місяці тому +3

      Cut your losses and focus on God. Now God can do exceedingly above all we can think or imagine but don’t dwell on the what ifs and possibilities. He will guide you through. Just seek Him and His will for you during this season.

    • @tondanimonyai
      @tondanimonyai 2 місяці тому +3

      Cut your losses. Yes, God is able to do anything He wants to do, however, I suggest that you focus on wanting to know God for who He really is, and then everything else will fall into place. Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you (Matthew 6:33). God will surely give you a partner who respects, and loves you. For now, focus on God, know His love for you, then you will have self love, and be able to love your future partner.

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  2 місяці тому +2

      Thank you so much for watching! I'm so sorry that happened in your relationship. I would ask the Holy Spirit and look to scripture for your answer. 1 Corinthians shows us what love is supposed to look like. I truly believe with prayer and surrender you will find your answer. Please never settle for less, you are a daughter of a King and so special in The Lord’s eyes. God bless you.

  • @muam8983
    @muam8983 3 місяці тому +2

    Can everyone that sees this pray for my ex that he finds Jesus and stop being lead to find comfort in jezebel spirits. Pray for him that he understands that the only way to happiness is Jesus.

  • @bigdreamers1404
    @bigdreamers1404 Місяць тому

    What if that other person don’t believe in breaks ?

    • @EthericalXO
      @EthericalXO 22 дні тому

      Take your break anyway. They should respect that if they love you, especially if it’s gonna improve your mental/spiritual/physical well-being.

  • @keaseema4910
    @keaseema4910 21 день тому

    Wait so we all in the comments have been through the same thing 😢

  • @michelleguzman4876
    @michelleguzman4876 3 місяці тому

    Wow to keep her he went to Jesus this is real love my ex did not do it and I left him to see his real heart and sad

  • @scammersnightmare
    @scammersnightmare 4 місяці тому +5

    Can you please turn on the "Thank you" button so that we can buy you coffees? Paypal charge me fees.

  • @mangotango01
    @mangotango01 4 місяці тому +1

    Where is he looking at

  • @Mena_the_Egyptian
    @Mena_the_Egyptian 3 місяці тому

    MORE DREW CONTENT NOW AMEN

  • @JesussavedJosue
    @JesussavedJosue 3 місяці тому

    how do you know that God wants u together with someone?

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  3 місяці тому +9

      Hi friend! What a great question!
      I don’t know the answer for sure of course, but I do know that The Lord has given us free will to decide who we want to spend our lives with, but the Bible also says that although we can do anything, it is not always wise to do so. How do we know if being with someone is wise? I would say by looking at God’s Word and seeing if your relationship reflects Him. Is it loving, patient, and kind as described in 1 Corinthians? Does it draw you closer to Christ or further away from Him? Does that person encourage you to become more like Jesus? Or do they lead you into temptation? No one is perfect, but a person who is trying, praying, hopeful, and pursuing who God created them to be, is everything.
      I hope this could help! Keep praying and I truly believe that The Holy Spirit will reveal it to you more than I ever could. God bless you!

    • @JesussavedJosue
      @JesussavedJosue 3 місяці тому +1

      thank you!!

    • @JesussavedJosue
      @JesussavedJosue 3 місяці тому

      you too!

  • @YesImhymn
    @YesImhymn 3 місяці тому +1

    Please don’t hate me for calling it how I see it…It just doesn’t seem like these two are on the same page. I sense a large disconnect between them. At the end of the day attraction is a huge factor in relationships and if one person loses attraction to the other it’s going to be a forced relationship.

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  3 місяці тому +2

      I think my husband is the finest man on the planet. Our attraction to each other is more than fine … TRUST ME 😂

    • @YesImhymn
      @YesImhymn 3 місяці тому

      @@growingthroughitpod I think it’s beautiful that you see your man in that light.

  • @PsalmNinety1
    @PsalmNinety1 3 місяці тому +4

    The funny thing,people try to fix each other 😂😂thats gods job to fix your husband 😂dont try and fix your wife thats gods job,ONE VINE,ONE VINE DRESSER,GOD DOES THE PRUNING, PLEASE DONT LET HUMANS PRUNE YOU BECAUSE THEY WILL CUT THE WRONG BRANCH 😂😂TRUST GOD 😊GOD IS FAITHFUL

  • @topneverstop
    @topneverstop 3 місяці тому

    Guys please help.
    I told my partner i dont want to have sex before marriage anymore. We have been abstaining since January after a 8 month seperation. He wants to have sex on his bday in early October. He wants to elope just so he can have sex. It sounded good at first, but it sounds sleazy. Our official date is in 8 months. I told him lets wait on our actual day bc it will be sonsoecial and so rewarding bc we've put God first. Now I'm backing out, i apolgized to him for lying.
    He also can't answer how long i would work in the marriage.
    I'm torn bc he thinks my intentions aren't good, whole time I'm trying to abide in Christ!!! I love God so much!!!!!

    • @xSavedSoulx
      @xSavedSoulx 3 місяці тому

      If he can't respect that, then leave.

    • @tondanimonyai
      @tondanimonyai 2 місяці тому +2

      If he leads you to sin, then he isn’t from God. A Godly man would respect your decision and your body. I suggest you pray/fast about it. Tell God to remove people who are not supposed to be in your life (leading you away from God), and you will see, they themselves will either just stop talking to you or whatever, and you will find peace… because that is God’s will for you.

  • @Bangastarch
    @Bangastarch 4 місяці тому +2

    When he said “that’s not what i thought” 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹

  • @PoSHEmediaglobal
    @PoSHEmediaglobal 3 місяці тому

    Christians are allowed to date under 18 ?

  • @TruePathLiving
    @TruePathLiving 2 місяці тому +2

    She had the advantage of dumping him. Men LOVE rejection, she knew what she was doing lol this strategy is what more women should do.
    I think though it's unfortunate he ' sought god " to be with her.
    That's not true love for Christ. That's looking to God for an outcome. I've done this before. Not good. Ends up badly. Always.

    • @growingthroughitpod
      @growingthroughitpod  2 місяці тому +5

      Thank you for watching! While we were dating, he absolutely sought God at first to make me happy and that's why we broke up. That's actually what this entire video is about--how we should pursue The Lord simply because He deserves it and not to make someone else happy. That's called an idol and like you said, we will always end up disappointed.
      We got back together after we both were pursuing The Lord on our own for the right reasons and have been happily married ever since. My husband loves God with all of His heart and his faith inspires me everyday.

  • @BadgerWolf-19
    @BadgerWolf-19 2 місяці тому

    Ol Drew. If bro was black he'd be a cornball sadly where im from.

  • @thefatalityGroup
    @thefatalityGroup 3 місяці тому

    Did God really anything?

  • @Bangastarch
    @Bangastarch 4 місяці тому +2

    When he said I saw a significance in it .. 🥹..( in Jesus)