Hey guys! It's summertime in Japan! This month we will reach out and feature many non-cis gay guests to share their stories! Big content! Also, comment below let us know who is the hottest Olympics athlete to you😉
I'm so thrilled!! I love you guys so much for doing this!!! Also I can't really pick someone "hot" because I'm ace, but I'm so incredibly fond of Margielyn Didal of the Philippines (skateboarding). Also queer, brimming with charisma and good vibes!
As a closeted Japanese enby who came to realise my identity as late as in the early 30s I couldn't appreciate this more. Feels like a breath of fresh air since nb identities are still super underrepresented among the Japanese ppl and in Western media coverage of Japan as well.
Yes! I want to make sure I know to describe myself in Japanese and also what the Trans/NB culture is there. Thank you so much guys, and solidarity to you, B!
You guys keep leveling up! This video resonates with me as a nonbinary individual living in Tokyo. I'm so used to being mistaken for male or female and being stared at on the street... however the discrimination I've experienced from the queer community here in Japan because of my gender expression has been the worst. I think it's based on the belief that there are limited and distinct forms of expression that are seen as acceptable or even attractive. It's such an honour meeting Nao and listening to their take on the TGNC community in Japan. People are complicated and matters around identity, expression and orientation have divided opinions. I think there is never one argument is better than the other...the way you experience your gender is uniquely personal this questions like "what is a woman?" "what is beauty?" or "What is the correct gayness?" Shouldn't be standardized or based on stereotypes.
I think the conversation is finally happening here, especially now that even famous Japanese musicians are coming out as nonbinary! But yeah, I can imagine how you must still frustrated on a daily basis here. Here's to hoping it will get better!
Labels and rigid categories are tired and old. 2021 is all about being you and the multidimensional person that you are 🙌💯🌈
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You guys have no idea how much I love it when you have guests and interview them as in a talk show like this. And can we talk about the diversity? You're always putting the spotlight on people who might otherwise not get that much visibility. That's super important that you're using your platform to give a voice to other segments of our community and empower them. I love this channel, thank you SO MUCH for all that you do. P.S: I can't even begin to imagine how hard must it be to translate and subtitle these videos, so wow, congrats for doing all that. ❤️
This video was so interesting!!!!! I love learning about people’s experiences. And Nao’s point of view really helps to show how different we are, but at the same time how important acceptance is.
Thank you so much for this video, it was super interesting. As a non binary person who is planning to come to Japan for studying I’m actually curious and a bit concerned with how we’re treated in academic settings
I haven't been in an academic setting for a while, but I guess some fields would be better than others for this. Having said that, I am glad to see that the conversation has started in Japan.
Another homerun you guys. I really appreciated this as someone who has had questions, but you know a person isn't a search engine. So I'd feel rude to ask them to sort of describe and give me like a lecture on their entire community. Cause that isn't their job and a single person's experience isn't everyone in that community's experience. So they have every right to tell me to go pick up a book, but Nao handled it so beautifully and I feel more educated in a way(?) If that makes sense. So a thank you to her. There's a part of me that chuckled imagining that the "new-half" terminology is a play on Gundam's "new types" the next stage in human evolution. Totally right about the discrimination in our community, and sad when a persecuted minority begins to act like the bigoted majority. We should understand that feeling. So how can we subject others to it? I was super surprised the first time I spoke to a racist gay dude who didn't know I was black! It was such a major "does not compute" moment in my young at the time life.
Gender seems always so interesting to me... I've never felt always like a man... but I've never been sure on being non-binary... it's just as I don't care on my gender.
Maybe Agender is an option for you then? I've taken my time to decide whether to go with agender or non-binary for a while, but made a decision a few years back and never regreted it.
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your videos on these topics! They absolutely need a spotlight and this channel tackles them with such sensitivity and tact. Much love to all three of you! ❤️
Don't worry Andrew, I was 24 when studying in Japan and people sometimes asked me if I was 40... but now that I shaved my hair everyone thinks I look younger 😂
Thank you all for the lovely comments ♥ And Martin, yeah, we had another comment about shaving one's head making one look younger...so maybe that is really a thing!
Another excellent video! Introducing and explaining an important yet relatively misunderstood topic shows how good you guys are! Thanks again for giving me a further insight into Japan.
Looking at the rates, that's really good for anywhere in the world! I am uncomfortable with people thinking my body is one thing or another, or I'm removing it for one reason or another (seriously, maybe I'm not removing hair for sex and it's just uncomfortable for me is something I worry about people judging) so if I were in Japan, this would be the place I went first. Please keep up the non-judgment, there must be a lot of people like me out there.
Aweeee 😭😭😭 this was one of my favourite videos. Ohhh Nao chan (is it appropriate for me to use chan🤔) Ganja Burn by Nicki is my jam!!! Meng angered the binary God apparently. The music project and hair removal was just so inspiring to hear. ❤️❤️ Loved this and looking forward to hearing about more acceptance and good fortune to my rainbow 🌈 fam out there 🤟
I loved this episode ❤ I think the tip of give compliments without comparisons is a very good one I can give to others as well. It was informative and insightful.
Absolutely fantastic subject matter as always. Really appreciate the way you are so inclusive of our fabulous global community. Looking forward to seeing more of your hard work 😘
As a nonbinary person who speaks japanese I've been wondering this for so long. I'm mud way watching but thank you for this. I also wonder how they/them pronouns work in Japanese?
@socially unacceptable I had the same question. I don't know Japanese well enough to tell, but did she use any first-person pronouns in this video? I know boku and ore are more masculine while watashi is neutral, but tends to read as feminine in casual speech. And there are others as well.
I'm a non binary foreigner living in Tokyo, and while I don't interact with many people, I often use jibun as a pronoun, it's neutral and shorter than watashi.
I LOVED this video!! I think it is so great you two are showing all the facets of the LGBGT+ community in your part of the world. :) I have recently really become a fan of this channel. Keep making great content!
I am not sure if labels help the community I respect them, I mean be who you want to be do whatever you want. My experience the last few years I feel like I dont belong anywhere. I remember when I was in London gay pride it was divided in so many groups. I am a gay men I was trying to celebrate with everyone but the Non binary, the Bi, Tran, Lesbian all this groups and many more, in the gay pride. The told me that "you dont belong here". That broke my heart... So many years of fighting to be me and my own community puss me away that day change everything for me. Even with gays Is always are you a 🐻, are you an otter, are a twing. No I am dinosaur, survived the distraction of my own "world" coming out to my family as gay, in a country that easily killed(by law) you for that. Moving like a refuge in another country, and looking for people to connect.... and that is apparently the hardest thing
I kinda had the same experience and i find that pretty stupid. We as a community should stick together. I mean, it’s awesome if there are more groups but they shouldn’t stay for themselves. In my group of friends there are straight, bi, queer people and me, which I’m non binary demisexual. We always celebrate any member of the group because we think that the nature of the humans is wonderfully varied and any kind of human being should be loved 🥰
That really sucks to hear :( I'm kind of glad I never got sorted into the whole bear/otter/twink thing, even tho it may have happened under my radar. There's nothing wrong with self-id but it's just rude to deny people because they may not fully align to your group - I've done that before, *but* you can at least point into directions where the person might find what they're looking for - that's community care. Hope you find a nice community that accepts you as you are some day.
Oh my god thank you for the “new half” vocabulary lesson. I heard another channel mention that term in passing (without captions) and I was thrown off.
Wow thank you so much for covering this topic!!! I’m also an X-Gender person who would LOVE to go to Japan and have the best of experiences there just like this GORGEOUS guest you brought to the channel today. 👏👏 I relate SO MUCH to a lot of the things mentioned in this video!! 💖 It’s great to know how my fellow ppl are perceived and treated there!! You guys are THE VERY BEST!!!! 👏💓🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 p.s. I’m obsessed with Andrew’s level of Japanese. Woah 😮 I’m now learning Korean in order to introduce myself to the East Asian culture and hope to start studying Japanese soon ❤️ Love you guys!
Thanks for this video. We need a lot more visibility for Non-binary, Gender Diverse people in Japan. It is great to see more support happening little by little. I wish we had seen your video earlier. Hope to see more in the future.
Relatable content from Andrew senpai. I am also just 27 but look much older. Shaving my head did help tho! Interesting video about a group in our community hardly ever talked about!
Thanks for this video. I am non-binary, and am helping some others figure out what countries are safe to move to. Here in the US it is getting very dangerous for trans people, many are fleeing their home states because it has become illegal to be trans. So I am searching to see if Japan is safe.
"A guy who like girls but also crossdresses as one?" Hmm..I know japanes dorama for this one. Dorama called Joshiteki Seikatsu is a perfect example for this. I hope you guys can watch it because this one is just..fun to watch..
Hiii Tokyo BTM! ♥ (I missed saying it back 🥺♥ lol) Nao seems like such a pleasant person to be around. That smile can light up the night sky! I'm also non-binary, so it's especially good to get to know a little about her! From the shores of Cali, wishing you all happiness! ♥
OMG this was a stunning video as well as eye opener. Things like not to compare to someone/something just compliment without hurting the person. The more videos I watch from you guys the more I learn, also we tend to see Japan as conservative country but actually I see it as very progressive country. Compared to my country - Slovakia where we only have like 1 gay bar and 1 gay dance place and that's about it, still so many things are taboo
I’m non-binary and really interested in spending time in Japan. I was really nervous/unsure about it before but watching this video makes me feel better! Like non-binary people *do* exist in Japan! 😅
It's so interesting that people in general treat Nao-chan nicer when dressed as a girl. I would think it would be exactly the other way around. Japan is really unique regarding this subject.
Nao, you are beautiful! I wish you success with your two careers. There is prejudice in the gay community, but I don't want to isolate people as "good" gays and "bad" gays. I think an analogy can be made here with the sort of prejudice that used to divide the Black community between those who were lighter-skinned and those who were darker skinned, which was pretty obviously in hindsight an internalized prejudice coming from white oppression. I think we can learn from this not to attack each other, as Blacks have learned not to turn against each other, to recognize the different ways bigotry causes the oppressed to oppress themselves, and to course-correct. Gays grow up with all sorts of nonsense thrown at them: "Oh, you're just going through a phase!" "Homosexuality is a case of arrested development; 'mature' adults embrace a heterosexual identity." "All these out gay people are confusing the young about their true sexual identity." "Gay men want to be women." And what happens? A lot of us turn around and throw this same nonsense at trans people: dysmorphia." "Confused cis kids are going to see trans people and think they themselves are trans." "I didn't want to accept that I was gay and I pretended I was straight, and that means you don't want to accept you're gay and are pretending you really belong to the opposite sex." We--and now I mean humanity, not just the gay community--need to get rid of our fear of differences. It probably all goes back to the caveman (caveperson?) days, and the sense that anyone or anything that is not us is a threat to us. That, to me, is probably the core of all prejudice, this basic fear that differences threaten our existence. Unchecked, the awful, rippling effects of that fear mutate in various directions. We have to eradicate that fear. Thank you, Meng and Andrew, for helping to make the world a more affirming place with videos like this. And thank you to Nao for helping us understand another segment of our community!
Thanks for the comment, Christopher! We were so blessed to have Nao come and share her experience and shed some light on another segment of our community! As you said, we need to start getting rid of that fear of differences! We have that fear still...it is a struggle every day but hopefully we are growing each day!
This is such an interesting topic. Very popular in the world yet very old in history. Did you both know that heeled shoes were originally made for male soldiers? Even after that, men wore heels long before they became synonymous with women.
as an NB foreigner who medically transitioned in Japan (and finally couldn't in Japan because of all the medical gatekeeping so had to do that in Thailand) I long for the day we can finally register an X/その他/etc marker in our legal documents. I have tried to search for information of someone who lives in Japan with a different mark on their passports but I haven't found anything at the time of this comment (is there really absolutely no one living in Japan with a different marker from other countries? I know X and O have existed for years, how come no one like that has come to live in Japan before??). My big concern would be what happens if I manage to register my new mark on my country (so passport marker gets X marker) but Japanese documents only have two options, is there someone in the same situation? will I just get deported for incongruence in my documents? I wouldn't be surprised
なおさんはきれいですよ！ぼくはCISげいです。えと~ I really cannot say all i want to, to Nao-san in Japanese yet sorry v.v Basically, Nao is very amazing and i want to thank her for sharing her story. I only hope i used the right word for beautiful? I like that you two make videos for the whole of the community. Despite the discrimination from within the community and as well as outsiders that people like Nao-san get...I am glad to see you two represent that. ビデオをありがとございます。
lol, just days ago I was having a discussion with friends on difference between cross dresser, trans and drag queen at least in my definition cross dressers are those who dress up and make up into another gender for whatever reasons drag queens are those who dress up and make up into women to perform as an entertainer trans are those who go through surgery to change the gender to the opposite gender learning new stuff about "new half" today~ but my friends and I don't have a conclusion on transgender sexuality e.g. for a transgender woman... once transition is done... she is considered as a woman... so if she likes men... that isn't exactly homosexual... right? don't get me wrong, she is still part of the LGBTQ community but she is not gay as she is now physically a woman... unless she likes women onward... i'm still so confused...
I hate to chime in. People that are attracted to transgendered, are pansexual. People that are attracted to opposite sex are heterosexual. People that are attracted to both sexes. With those people they are attracted to, living their birth sex. Are called bisexuals. People that are attracted to the same sex. Are called homosexuals, or lesbians (if it's woman with woman). People that are attracted to people living the opposite sex that they weren't born. Either in translation or post surgery. Their spouses would be called pansexual. Because they represent a combination of everybody.
@@troysierra5228 Nope, bi and straight people can be attracted to trans people too. Bi people can definitely be attracted to non binary people! Bisexual means you are attracted to two or more 'genders', while pan just means all. Straight people are usually attracted to binary trans people though. Also sex and gender can actually both be fluid, so who cares what label you use, just choose the one you are most comfortable with!
@@satanichippo WHERE DO YOU BELONGING WITHIN THE LGBTQIA community. I'm tired of fakes speaking for the rest of us! Just to make it very clear: You wouldn't be heterosexual, if your attraction was of the same sex. That would make you homosexual! You wouldn't be bisexual. If the same sex or opposite sex, you're attractive to is in transition of the other sex. That would make you Pansexual! Dual attraction to both sexes (male and female). Makes you bisexual if they remained true to their gender. People in transition (transgendered), because they are renaming themselves physically and emotionally. Anybody attractive to them would be pansexual. People strictly into the other sex. Would make them heterosexual.
Great video I thought by the video title that it was to do with non binary - ie those born with not clear defining genitals where the child sex couldn't be defined etc
From what i've heard you're not allowed to try and match people identity by a definition or what you think it means. That being said if she says shes nb then she is.. you can't tell her that shes not just because you feel like she doesn't fit there and could fit somewhere else.
@@lamma746 I wasnt matching anyone , just how they were describing things sounded more along the lines of genderfluid ( which falls under cross dressing umbrella ) also before you try to school me , you might want to think about using the correct pronouns in your comment.
@@robertsmoker6655 she literally said she prefers she/her pronouns in the beginning of the video you silly person. lol. also, japan has different ways of referring to these concepts as a culture. it was explained pretty clearly in this video. you arent at liberty to correct her using western standards. lmao. she’s japanese.
Makes me wanna sing "I'm not a girl, not yet a woman" 🎶 ❤️ I totally agree with most of comments. Topics you cover are so interesting, I learned a lot too! Andrew you got two delicious red cheeks here 😋
Hey guys! It's summertime in Japan! This month we will reach out and feature many non-cis gay guests to share their stories! Big content!
Also, comment below let us know who is the hottest Olympics athlete to you😉
As a trans person looking to move to Japan in a few years, I’m really lookin’ forward to these videos!!
Tom Dalley is hot
I'm so thrilled!! I love you guys so much for doing this!!! Also I can't really pick someone "hot" because I'm ace, but I'm so incredibly fond of Margielyn Didal of the Philippines (skateboarding). Also queer, brimming with charisma and good vibes!
Tom Daley 😋
you guys should totally collab with Stan aka worldofxtra when he comes back from Europe!!
As a closeted Japanese enby who came to realise my identity as late as in the early 30s I couldn't appreciate this more. Feels like a breath of fresh air since nb identities are still super underrepresented among the Japanese ppl and in Western media coverage of Japan as well.
We're glad! Hope to hear more voices like Nao's in the community!
Thank you for making this video. As a nonbinary person who's interested in Japanese culture, I am happy someone decided to cover the topic.
So glad to hear! I actually didnt know much about nonbinary, and learned a lot❤
Yes! I want to make sure I know to describe myself in Japanese and also what the Trans/NB culture is there. Thank you so much guys, and solidarity to you, B!
I'm super happy to hear you're doing a whole month dedicated to non-cisgender people & life in Japan!
Glad you are enjoying the content!
You guys keep leveling up! This video resonates with me as a nonbinary individual living in Tokyo. I'm so used to being mistaken for male or female and being stared at on the street... however the discrimination I've experienced from the queer community here in Japan because of my gender expression has been the worst. I think it's based on the belief that there are limited and distinct forms of expression that are seen as acceptable or even attractive.
It's such an honour meeting Nao and listening to their take on the TGNC community in Japan. People are complicated and matters around identity, expression and orientation have divided opinions. I think there is never one argument is better than the other...the way you experience your gender is uniquely personal this questions like "what is a woman?" "what is beauty?" or "What is the correct gayness?" Shouldn't be standardized or based on stereotypes.
I think the conversation is finally happening here, especially now that even famous Japanese musicians are coming out as nonbinary! But yeah, I can imagine how you must still frustrated on a daily basis here. Here's to hoping it will get better!
Woman (n): Adult Female
@@warrenfrost5479 nope a woman is a person who identifies as a woman.
Labels and rigid categories are tired and old. 2021 is all about being you and the multidimensional person that you are 🙌💯🌈
You guys have no idea how much I love it when you have guests and interview them as in a talk show like this. And can we talk about the diversity? You're always putting the spotlight on people who might otherwise not get that much visibility. That's super important that you're using your platform to give a voice to other segments of our community and empower them. I love this channel, thank you SO MUCH for all that you do.
P.S: I can't even begin to imagine how hard must it be to translate and subtitle these videos, so wow, congrats for doing all that. ❤️
Thank you so much again for another kind message. This month we will have more special guests, I am having so much fun editing 😝
She answered the questions very well, which made it easier for me to understand her point of view. Great interview.
Glad you thought so!
This video was so interesting!!!!! I love learning about people’s experiences. And Nao’s point of view really helps to show how different we are, but at the same time how important acceptance is.
I found this interview one if your best, up till 9.50
Keep up the great content, love the channel.
Appreciate that! Glad that you enjoyed. but Nao also slayed that rap after 9:50 😜
Thank you so much for this video, it was super interesting. As a non binary person who is planning to come to Japan for studying I’m actually curious and a bit concerned with how we’re treated in academic settings
I haven't been in an academic setting for a while, but I guess some fields would be better than others for this. Having said that, I am glad to see that the conversation has started in Japan.
Likewise!
So happy you're bringing up these topics! And Nao's such a sweetheart!
It was my first time meeting her, and she was so nice and treated me like a good friend
Another homerun you guys. I really appreciated this as someone who has had questions, but you know a person isn't a search engine. So I'd feel rude to ask them to sort of describe and give me like a lecture on their entire community. Cause that isn't their job and a single person's experience isn't everyone in that community's experience. So they have every right to tell me to go pick up a book, but Nao handled it so beautifully and I feel more educated in a way(?) If that makes sense. So a thank you to her.
There's a part of me that chuckled imagining that the "new-half" terminology is a play on Gundam's "new types" the next stage in human evolution.
Totally right about the discrimination in our community, and sad when a persecuted minority begins to act like the bigoted majority. We should understand that feeling. So how can we subject others to it? I was super surprised the first time I spoke to a racist gay dude who didn't know I was black! It was such a major "does not compute" moment in my young at the time life.
Yeah, I hope we can all love and support each other a bit more in our community! As for Gundam, I'll have to check that out! haha
Thanks again for making some of the best contend on UA-cam. Well done Andrew and Meng - you’re the best! 😻
Thanks a lot!
Andrew ages like wine 🍷 getting better every year ❤️
HAHAH very sweet of you to say!
Ain't that the truth?... 😏😍
Gender seems always so interesting to me... I've never felt always like a man... but I've never been sure on being non-binary... it's just as I don't care on my gender.
Maybe Agender is an option for you then? I've taken my time to decide whether to go with agender or non-binary for a while, but made a decision a few years back and never regreted it.
The editing at おまえさーis just chef's kiss !
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your videos on these topics! They absolutely need a spotlight and this channel tackles them with such sensitivity and tact. Much love to all three of you! ❤️
Thank you so much! Hope Nao-chan will come join us again sometime!
Don't worry Andrew, I was 24 when studying in Japan and people sometimes asked me if I was 40... but now that I shaved my hair everyone thinks I look younger 😂
Andrew appreciation reply. He's really cute, handsome and seems like a wonderful person.
Thank you all for the lovely comments ♥ And Martin, yeah, we had another comment about shaving one's head making one look younger...so maybe that is really a thing!
Another excellent video! Introducing and explaining an important yet relatively misunderstood topic shows how good you guys are!
Thanks again for giving me a further insight into Japan.
Our pleasure!
Looking at the rates, that's really good for anywhere in the world! I am uncomfortable with people thinking my body is one thing or another, or I'm removing it for one reason or another (seriously, maybe I'm not removing hair for sex and it's just uncomfortable for me is something I worry about people judging) so if I were in Japan, this would be the place I went first. Please keep up the non-judgment, there must be a lot of people like me out there.
I really love hearing and learning more from people in different parts of the community. Great video as usual
Aweeee 😭😭😭 this was one of my favourite videos. Ohhh Nao chan (is it appropriate for me to use chan🤔) Ganja Burn by Nicki is my jam!!! Meng angered the binary God apparently. The music project and hair removal was just so inspiring to hear. ❤️❤️ Loved this and looking forward to hearing about more acceptance and good fortune to my rainbow 🌈 fam out there 🤟
I've been listening to her song a lot lately! It's catchy! Glad you enjoyed and make sure to follow Nao-chan on Insta!
So happy to see you guys talk about this topic. Really wanna see more :)
More to come!
I loved this episode ❤ I think the tip of give compliments without comparisons is a very good one I can give to others as well. It was informative and insightful.
Nao-chan is super cute!! It was another great & informative collab❤️
Glad you had fun with us!
What a great channel you guys are creating! Always interesting, always fun and always genuine. Thanks!
Happy you are enjoying the content!
Great content! You guys seem to always choose carefully your guests. Amazing energy!
Nao is always fun to hang out with!
Absolutely fantastic subject matter as always. Really appreciate the way you are so inclusive of our fabulous global community. Looking forward to seeing more of your hard work 😘
Much appreciated!
As a nonbinary person who speaks japanese I've been wondering this for so long. I'm mud way watching but thank you for this. I also wonder how they/them pronouns work in Japanese?
Yes I was wondering that too! Maybe we can ask more about pronouns the next time we speak!
@@TokyoBTM that would be lovely. 💚
@socially unacceptable I had the same question. I don't know Japanese well enough to tell, but did she use any first-person pronouns in this video? I know boku and ore are more masculine while watashi is neutral, but tends to read as feminine in casual speech. And there are others as well.
I'm a non binary foreigner living in Tokyo, and while I don't interact with many people, I often use jibun as a pronoun, it's neutral and shorter than watashi.
I LOVED this video!! I think it is so great you two are showing all the facets of the LGBGT+ community in your part of the world. :) I have recently really become a fan of this channel. Keep making great content!
Thanks! Will do!
I am not sure if labels help the community I respect them, I mean be who you want to be do whatever you want. My experience the last few years I feel like I dont belong anywhere. I remember when I was in London gay pride it was divided in so many groups. I am a gay men I was trying to celebrate with everyone but the Non binary, the Bi, Tran, Lesbian all this groups and many more, in the gay pride. The told me that "you dont belong here". That broke my heart... So many years of fighting to be me and my own community puss me away that day change everything for me. Even with gays Is always are you a 🐻, are you an otter, are a twing. No I am dinosaur, survived the distraction of my own "world" coming out to my family as gay, in a country that easily killed(by law) you for that. Moving like a refuge in another country, and looking for people to connect.... and that is apparently the hardest thing
I kinda had the same experience and i find that pretty stupid. We as a community should stick together. I mean, it’s awesome if there are more groups but they shouldn’t stay for themselves. In my group of friends there are straight, bi, queer people and me, which I’m non binary demisexual. We always celebrate any member of the group because we think that the nature of the humans is wonderfully varied and any kind of human being should be loved 🥰
@@aiutoo418 you absolutely right! I am so happy for you, you have such a nice group of friends❤
That really sucks to hear :( I'm kind of glad I never got sorted into the whole bear/otter/twink thing, even tho it may have happened under my radar. There's nothing wrong with self-id but it's just rude to deny people because they may not fully align to your group - I've done that before, *but* you can at least point into directions where the person might find what they're looking for - that's community care.
Hope you find a nice community that accepts you as you are some day.
Loved the video. Great work again Meng and Andrew 👍🏽
Also the last clip of Andrew playing Belle was super cute 🥰
HAHAHA so long ago! So funny to watch now!
This channel is so cool! Looking forward to what you guys do in the future!
Welcome aboard!
Oh my god thank you for the “new half” vocabulary lesson. I heard another channel mention that term in passing (without captions) and I was thrown off.
Yeah I think it is a Japanese-language expression based on English words.
Wow thank you so much for covering this topic!!! I’m also an X-Gender person who would LOVE to go to Japan and have the best of experiences there just like this GORGEOUS guest you brought to the channel today. 👏👏 I relate SO MUCH to a lot of the things mentioned in this video!! 💖 It’s great to know how my fellow ppl are perceived and treated there!! You guys are THE VERY BEST!!!! 👏💓🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
p.s. I’m obsessed with Andrew’s level of Japanese. Woah 😮 I’m now learning Korean in order to introduce myself to the East Asian culture and hope to start studying Japanese soon ❤️ Love you guys!
Thanks for this video. We need a lot more visibility for Non-binary, Gender Diverse people in Japan. It is great to see more support happening little by little. I wish we had seen your video earlier. Hope to see more in the future.
Relatable content from Andrew senpai. I am also just 27 but look much older. Shaving my head did help tho! Interesting video about a group in our community hardly ever talked about!
Maybe it's the shaving head thing then!
Great video! Nao-Chan is super cute and charming🥰🥰🥰
She's the best! We should all go out for drinks together! 😊
Nao has such a pretty smile
Thanks for this video. I am non-binary, and am helping some others figure out what countries are safe to move to. Here in the US it is getting very dangerous for trans people, many are fleeing their home states because it has become illegal to be trans. So I am searching to see if Japan is safe.
"A guy who like girls but also crossdresses as one?" Hmm..I know japanes dorama for this one. Dorama called Joshiteki Seikatsu is a perfect example for this. I hope you guys can watch it because this one is just..fun to watch..
We'll check it out!
Hiii Tokyo BTM! ♥ (I missed saying it back 🥺♥ lol)
Nao seems like such a pleasant person to be around. That smile can light up the night sky!
I'm also non-binary, so it's especially good to get to know a little about her!
From the shores of Cali, wishing you all happiness! ♥
Thank you for always tuning in! Glad you enjoyed this video and wishing you happiness from Tokyo!
Interesting! I think most enbies in the west don’t crossdress. She’s super pretty by the way! I totally understand the women’s reaction to her 😂
OMG this was a stunning video as well as eye opener. Things like not to compare to someone/something just compliment without hurting the person. The more videos I watch from you guys the more I learn, also we tend to see Japan as conservative country but actually I see it as very progressive country. Compared to my country - Slovakia where we only have like 1 gay bar and 1 gay dance place and that's about it, still so many things are taboo
thank you for leaving all the sweet comments for us! so happy to hear that you are enjoying our videos ❤
I’m non-binary and really interested in spending time in Japan. I was really nervous/unsure about it before but watching this video makes me feel better! Like non-binary people *do* exist in Japan! 😅
I love this! Especially, since Hikaru Utada just came out as nonbinary. This was really eye opening.
Yea! The conversation is definitely starting here!
So informative! Great job 👏 really enjoy
Glad you enjoyed it!
New guest new life story experiences and point of view ! Super interesting 🥰
Glad you enjoyed it!
she's sooooo pretty!!
It’s really an informative video. Really love Nao sans personality. Thank you for the video.
I love this vid. As an enby, I feel everything Nao mentioned. Prop for her. And…….. Where is the Disney vid you made, Andrew? 😉
Hahahaha it's floating around somewhere!
One of your best ones to date, really interesting.
Glad you thought so!
A fantastic and frank talk by Nao. Thank you for this.
What a great interview. Nao is so much more than a pretty face.
She is so good at singing and performing, and an absolute sweetheart!
It's so interesting that people in general treat Nao-chan nicer when dressed as a girl. I would think it would be exactly the other way around. Japan is really unique regarding this subject.
Nao, you are beautiful! I wish you success with your two careers.
There is prejudice in the gay community, but I don't want to isolate people as "good" gays and "bad" gays. I think an analogy can be made here with the sort of prejudice that used to divide the Black community between those who were lighter-skinned and those who were darker skinned, which was pretty obviously in hindsight an internalized prejudice coming from white oppression. I think we can learn from this not to attack each other, as Blacks have learned not to turn against each other, to recognize the different ways bigotry causes the oppressed to oppress themselves, and to course-correct.
Gays grow up with all sorts of nonsense thrown at them: "Oh, you're just going through a phase!" "Homosexuality is a case of arrested development; 'mature' adults embrace a heterosexual identity." "All these out gay people are confusing the young about their true sexual identity." "Gay men want to be women."
And what happens? A lot of us turn around and throw this same nonsense at trans people: dysmorphia." "Confused cis kids are going to see trans people and think they themselves are trans." "I didn't want to accept that I was gay and I pretended I was straight, and that means you don't want to accept you're gay and are pretending you really belong to the opposite sex."
We--and now I mean humanity, not just the gay community--need to get rid of our fear of differences. It probably all goes back to the caveman (caveperson?) days, and the sense that anyone or anything that is not us is a threat to us. That, to me, is probably the core of all prejudice, this basic fear that differences threaten our existence. Unchecked, the awful, rippling effects of that fear mutate in various directions. We have to eradicate that fear.
Thank you, Meng and Andrew, for helping to make the world a more affirming place with videos like this. And thank you to Nao for helping us understand another segment of our community!
Thanks for the comment, Christopher! We were so blessed to have Nao come and share her experience and shed some light on another segment of our community! As you said, we need to start getting rid of that fear of differences! We have that fear still...it is a struggle every day but hopefully we are growing each day!
This is one of my favorite vids! I do wonder if there are people who identify as genderfluid in Japan?
Yes!! So happy to see a nonbinary person on this channel
Wow so interesting. Thanks for the video!
Thanks for tuning in again this week
Enlightening! Thanks guys!
Our pleasure!
Sneak peek of Andrew as princess in the end but cannot click on it 😤
haha that video was like more than 10 years old 😜
Make that an Olympic closing ceremony special then 😜
this video is so nice to see as a nonbinary person thank you :D
Oh wow thanks for this video discussion!
Very interesting video love the diverse content and points of view on the channel. More Please!!
Thanks! Will do!
This is such an interesting topic. Very popular in the world yet very old in history.
Did you both know that heeled shoes were originally made for male soldiers? Even after that, men wore heels long before they became synonymous with women.
I would love to see a picture/artwork of this! Would be so neat!
as an NB foreigner who medically transitioned in Japan (and finally couldn't in Japan because of all the medical gatekeeping so had to do that in Thailand) I long for the day we can finally register an X/その他/etc marker in our legal documents. I have tried to search for information of someone who lives in Japan with a different mark on their passports but I haven't found anything at the time of this comment (is there really absolutely no one living in Japan with a different marker from other countries? I know X and O have existed for years, how come no one like that has come to live in Japan before??). My big concern would be what happens if I manage to register my new mark on my country (so passport marker gets X marker) but Japanese documents only have two options, is there someone in the same situation? will I just get deported for incongruence in my documents? I wouldn't be surprised
Nao has very easy to understand Japanese, from a foreigner!! : )
Such an inclusive video. I’m so impressed! Well done fellas
Glad you enjoyed it!
Is Paris is Burning popular in Japan?
It is somewhat known I guess...but maybe not as well known as other countries
なおさんはきれいですよ！ぼくはCISげいです。えと~ I really cannot say all i want to, to Nao-san in Japanese yet sorry v.v Basically, Nao is very amazing and i want to thank her for sharing her story. I only hope i used the right word for beautiful? I like that you two make videos for the whole of the community. Despite the discrimination from within the community and as well as outsiders that people like Nao-san get...I am glad to see you two represent that. ビデオをありがとございます。
Your Japanese was perfect! I will pass it on to Nao so she can read this thoughtful message of yours! See you next week!
@@TokyoBTM Thank you, I appreciate it~
I like Nao!
Ugh! I want to be in Japan!🥰💓
Come say hi if you visit!
Wow Meng is so cute 😊😊😊
Andrew IS AS handsome as Meng ... I'd say ;-)
HAHAHAHA that is a great way to rephrase it!
Nao is very beautiful and very nice. Big kisses
Thank you! I will let her know! 😊
Meng is so gorgeous ugh
you are too kind Benjamin
I came here to figure out how to express I have no gender through informal pronouns in japanese:
I couldn't find my answer but I still learned a lot.
Great interview handled with sensitivity and respect. I am interested in Japanese culture and have non binary friends so this was really interesting.
Thank you! Glad you thought so!
Nao is really good looking but MENG? A whole nother level hehehe
She's a rapststress she's an entrepreneur 😜
She's quite the entrepreneur indeed!
Thank you for the video.
Thank you for watching!
I found this discussion very interesting, As for who is the hottest Olympian, I think the two divers from China are very hot.
Aisen ❤ he is my pick ;D
lol, just days ago I was having a discussion with friends on difference between cross dresser, trans and drag queen
at least in my definition
cross dressers are those who dress up and make up into another gender for whatever reasons
drag queens are those who dress up and make up into women to perform as an entertainer
trans are those who go through surgery to change the gender to the opposite gender
learning new stuff about "new half" today~
but my friends and I don't have a conclusion on transgender sexuality
e.g. for a transgender woman... once transition is done... she is considered as a woman...
so if she likes men... that isn't exactly homosexual... right?
don't get me wrong, she is still part of the LGBTQ community but she is not gay as she is now physically a woman...
unless she likes women onward... i'm still so confused...
I hate to chime in. People that are attracted to transgendered, are pansexual.
People that are attracted to opposite sex are heterosexual.
People that are attracted to both sexes. With those people they are attracted to, living their birth sex. Are called bisexuals.
People that are attracted to the same sex. Are called homosexuals, or lesbians (if it's woman with woman).
People that are attracted to people living the opposite sex that they weren't born. Either in translation or post surgery. Their spouses would be called pansexual. Because they represent a combination of everybody.
@@troysierra5228 ah, thanks
Never really understood what pansexual means. Now that with example makes it much easier to understand
@@troysierra5228 Nope, bi and straight people can be attracted to trans people too. Bi people can definitely be attracted to non binary people! Bisexual means you are attracted to two or more 'genders', while pan just means all. Straight people are usually attracted to binary trans people though. Also sex and gender can actually both be fluid, so who cares what label you use, just choose the one you are most comfortable with!
@@satanichippo WHERE DO YOU BELONGING WITHIN THE LGBTQIA community. I'm tired of fakes speaking for the rest of us!
Just to make it very clear:
You wouldn't be heterosexual, if your attraction was of the same sex. That would make you homosexual!
You wouldn't be bisexual. If the same sex or opposite sex, you're attractive to is in transition of the other sex. That would make you Pansexual!
Dual attraction to both sexes (male and female). Makes you bisexual if they remained true to their gender. People in transition (transgendered), because they are renaming themselves physically and emotionally. Anybody attractive to them would be pansexual.
People strictly into the other sex. Would make them heterosexual.
@@satanichippo nope those bi and straight people are just lying to themselves.
Great video I thought by the video title that it was to do with non binary - ie those born with not clear defining genitals where the child sex couldn't be defined etc
The Olympic athlete's competing during the day, outdoors are the hottest! Indoors, it's the divers.
Fascinating vlog! Full of wonderful insights. Yes, Andrew looks good, actually yummy!
Thanks so much! 😊
How did they predict the lyrics to G-Idle’s Tomboy in the title?!
Just me idle
@@TokyoBTM OMG! lol. hehe fellow Neverland!
love from Singapore me to everyone .. hi..love your video ..
Hello 😊
A very interesting discussion. 😎
I want to crossdress sometimes, but I am too broke for it. ;-;
Nao also said that it is actually very expensive
"I am not a man nor a woman"
"I'm a fridge"
They remind me of a person in my exs group of friends named Ryo
😂😂😂😅
Keep living in your fantasy
i wish youd guys find someone whos trans&nb not crossdressing, sounds more genderfluid tbh
This is not gonna be our last time covering this type of topic. Crossdressing has its place in the LGBTQ+ family and we are very happy to cover it
From what i've heard you're not allowed to try and match people identity by a definition or what you think it means. That being said if she says shes nb then she is.. you can't tell her that shes not just because you feel like she doesn't fit there and could fit somewhere else.
@@lamma746 I wasnt matching anyone , just how they were describing things sounded more along the lines of genderfluid ( which falls under cross dressing umbrella ) also before you try to school me , you might want to think about using the correct pronouns in your comment.
@@robertsmoker6655 she literally said she prefers she/her pronouns in the beginning of the video you silly person. lol. also, japan has different ways of referring to these concepts as a culture. it was explained pretty clearly in this video. you arent at liberty to correct her using western standards. lmao. she’s japanese.
Something that bothers me with the subtitles, male and female refer to sex rather than gender. It should really be man/woman which are genders.
thanks for sharing
🌈🌞♥️
You were so fast!
@@TokyoBTM lol I just sat down to watch UA-cam perfect timing 🥰
Lol 😂😂😂😂 tops nooooo sisters im not lol
Makes me wanna sing
"I'm not a girl, not yet a woman" 🎶 ❤️
I totally agree with most of comments. Topics you cover are so interesting, I learned a lot too! Andrew you got two delicious red cheeks here 😋
Hahaha thank you for saying. I was actually a bit self-conscious about how red they looked here, so it was kind of you to say that!
发汉语评论可以吗？
当然❤️
@@TokyoBTM 这么快就回复了啊！谢谢🙏 可不可以做一期video介绍一下东京高端一些的中老年g朋友喜欢去的场所？酒吧什么的都可以，谢谢啦！
@@hardmanfang6832 好呀，有机会会给大家讲讲的
@@TokyoBTM 提前谢谢啦！拜托啦！
Bullshit. Nothing more of being bored.