45 year's and counting.. It has not always been easy. But with God's help 🙏 We lasted through ups and downs. Got married the year after highschool. Great kids, awesome grandkids. I feel truly blessed.. yes we have conflict, different ideas, opposite likes, but God helps us navigate it. We're now retired and we are building our retirement home, and living off grid. What a challenge, but what a adventure. My dream and his too. The simple life,no clutter. Praise God 🙏🙌 It's all about God & family 🙏
To my serious husband... you didn't have to frantically try to run around to fill a Christmas gift "obligation." All I was ever asking for was "The Gift of Time." (Hence listen to Bette Midler's song... the Gift of Love. )
Since i got “self-differentiated” and have dealt with most of my insecurities, i have been naturally unaffected by most negative comments toward me. I have been able without getting the “last word”. I am a woman.
Thank you. You couldn't put it better. I feel it always about him and doesn't listen to me, I can say I Love candycorn and he'll go out and not buy it and I'll ask him did you buy the candy and he respond am not a mind, reader. A million little things that he doesn't pay attention. 21 yrs of marriage. Selfish. On the other hand he Mention something and when I go out I remember and pick up the item because that's what ge wants. It's a 2 way street not a one way
Have you asked him in a straight forward manner to buy it for you? For example, "I like candy corn so when you see some at the shop will you buy some for me." I only ask because not everyone is attentive and observant. It isn't always selfishness it may just not be something they are good at. Think about some autistic people who battle to read people's emotions or read situations. God gave us different gifts. You got the gift of attentiveness. What gifts did your husband get? I am also attentive so I understand the longing for someone to be attentive back, but the best advice I got is if you want something from someone ask for it directly. Don't hint, don't hope they do it without you asking. I even sometimes tell my husband exactly what I want as a gift "I want xyz for Christmas." I also bring up our anniversary a few weeks before and we decide together what to do. I get what I want so I am happy and my husband gets to feel good about himself because he made me happy. I mean I am human so sometimes I secretly hope he'll randomly do something from time to time 😄
@@Cam-gz6wx thank you for sharing this gem. It goes against the grain of our female brains that have a preference for the romantic lover who reads the mind and knows what to do without being told. It’s not practical though because, like you said, we have different gifts and personalities. I’m learning too and embracing this way of being. I’ve noticed that I get what I ask for directly. For the most part that’s how it happens or the kids plan with him and they surprise me. God has a sense of humor for having put us together and this goes for many marriages. So, I can relate with both of you very much. Love is learning. Best wishes to all of us.
I hate divorce yet had to get one after 5 yrs due to the fact he not only wouldn't stop cheating he was also mentally and emotionally and psychological and sexually abusive. I fought God for 2 yrs if u should or shouldn't divorce. He told me he found a new woman so I decided to divorce and let me tell you it hurt. I had a breakdown, a mini stroke, and the list goes on and on. I didn't want to live he had degraded me also so much. Now I'm scared of men altho I'd love to be loved as God intended.
God doesn't want you to be abused and cheated on. You had no choice. But now, forgive yourself for what you think you SHOULD have done and ALLOW GOD TO HEAL YOU! Don't let this destroy one more minute of your life. Good days are coming, in Jesus's Name!😊
In my church it is an eternal marriage. My husband will be my husband in the next life. It is a sealing for time and all eternity. Even death does not separate our union.
How does your church explain Matthew 22:30 "For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven." ? Start with verse 24 to get the whole picture. :)
@@aesogoogleuser334she is Mormon. They believe that when the Bible says something is bound in earth it is bound in heaven. It’s not referring to marriage but they apply it.
Man, I just discovered you! Love Listening to your messages!
1,000% selfLESSness is the key to a loving and healthy marriage! It takes time and alot of practice to put our spouse first. I’ve seen it work!
Thank you for your message. I am another person who has been blessed. Thanks to your wise friend as well.
45 year's and counting..
It has not always been easy. But with God's help 🙏
We lasted through ups and downs. Got married the year after highschool. Great kids, awesome grandkids. I feel truly blessed.. yes we have conflict, different ideas, opposite likes, but God helps us navigate it. We're now retired and we are building our retirement home, and living off grid. What a challenge, but what a adventure. My dream and his too. The simple life,no clutter.
Praise God 🙏🙌
It's all about God & family 🙏
Amen!
I'm realizing wat an amazing husband I have more and more!!!! He's not perfect but he does everything he can for me. I don't deserve it.
What an amazing message ❤❤
To my serious husband... you didn't have to frantically try to run around to fill a Christmas gift "obligation." All I was ever asking for was "The Gift of Time." (Hence listen to Bette Midler's song... the Gift of Love. )
Ouch!
So good. Praise to God, the Author of a beautiful marriage! Bless you
Since i got “self-differentiated” and have dealt with most of my insecurities, i have been naturally unaffected by most negative comments toward me. I have been able without getting the “last word”. I am a woman.
Only works if both are selfless orherwise over time you just get used and bitter
We are all responsible for all our own emotions. If someone else controls us, we have let them.
Hallelujah! Thank you Jesus
Thank you. You couldn't put it better. I feel it always about him and doesn't listen to me, I can say I Love candycorn and he'll go out and not buy it and I'll ask him did you buy the candy and he respond am not a mind, reader. A million little things that he doesn't pay attention. 21 yrs of marriage. Selfish. On the other hand he Mention something and when I go out I remember and pick up the item because that's what ge wants. It's a 2 way street not a one way
Have you asked him in a straight forward manner to buy it for you? For example, "I like candy corn so when you see some at the shop will you buy some for me." I only ask because not everyone is attentive and observant. It isn't always selfishness it may just not be something they are good at. Think about some autistic people who battle to read people's emotions or read situations. God gave us different gifts. You got the gift of attentiveness. What gifts did your husband get? I am also attentive so I understand the longing for someone to be attentive back, but the best advice I got is if you want something from someone ask for it directly. Don't hint, don't hope they do it without you asking. I even sometimes tell my husband exactly what I want as a gift "I want xyz for Christmas." I also bring up our anniversary a few weeks before and we decide together what to do. I get what I want so I am happy and my husband gets to feel good about himself because he made me happy. I mean I am human so sometimes I secretly hope he'll randomly do something from time to time 😄
@@Cam-gz6wx thank you for sharing this gem. It goes against the grain of our female brains that have a preference for the romantic lover who reads the mind and knows what to do without being told. It’s not practical though because, like you said, we have different gifts and personalities. I’m learning too and embracing this way of being. I’ve noticed that I get what I ask for directly. For the most part that’s how it happens or the kids plan with him and they surprise me. God has a sense of humor for having put us together and this goes for many marriages. So, I can relate with both of you very much. Love is learning. Best wishes to all of us.
I love the way you mentioned pastor Rogers I loved pastor Adrian and miss his passionate teaching!
This was so good!
I drive my wife more crazy than she drives me. Excellent message.
That's probably most marriages, guys do stupid things LOL
Some of us wives don't have far to go to get there, lol!
Great information.
Thank you for this amazing encouragement!!
I hate divorce yet had to get one after 5 yrs due to the fact he not only wouldn't stop cheating he was also mentally and emotionally and psychological and sexually abusive. I fought God for 2 yrs if u should or shouldn't divorce. He told me he found a new woman so I decided to divorce and let me tell you it hurt. I had a breakdown, a mini stroke, and the list goes on and on. I didn't want to live he had degraded me also so much. Now I'm scared of men altho I'd love to be loved as God intended.
God doesn't want you to be abused and cheated on. You had no choice. But now, forgive yourself for what you think you SHOULD have done and ALLOW GOD TO HEAL YOU! Don't let this destroy one more minute of your life. Good days are coming, in Jesus's Name!😊
This illustration is great l can see this in both men and women mostly on the husband being selfish
Wow! So cool you guys are in Battle Creek!
Thank you Lord Jesus bless you bless all❤
In my church it is an eternal marriage. My husband will be my husband in the next life. It is a sealing for time and all eternity. Even death does not separate our union.
How does your church explain Matthew 22:30 "For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven." ? Start with verse 24 to get the whole picture. :)
What is your church? You didn’t state the name of your church that holds this belief…
@@aesogoogleuser334she is Mormon. They believe that when the Bible says something is bound in earth it is bound in heaven. It’s not referring to marriage but they apply it.
Amen.
To God be the glory !!!
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