What Your Ex Is Thinking During 'No Contact' (Podcast 437)
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- Опубліковано 6 лют 2025
- What your ex is thinking during 'no contact', is something many people wonder about after a breakup. If you are a dumper or a dumpee, this podcast could be helpful for you to understand what your ex is likely thinking after you have implemented my version of the 'no contact rule'.
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Took 173 days. Got a crumb finally
That's brilliant news. It sounds like it took the average amount of time (roughly 6 months). Here is a link to a podcast discussing breadcrumbs - ua-cam.com/video/Xt-56WyHhyI/v-deo.html
Mine reached out to a mutual and my son after almost a year, but didn’t bring me up. Not sure what to make of this, if anything.
I have a situation I need advice on: my ex broke up with me a week ago after a 3 year relationship saying she was confused and didn’t know what to do but I begged for 3 days to stay together which didn’t work so I waited around 4 days an send “Hey, sorry I was acting the way I did a few days ago. That wasn’t me. I honestly feel just as stressed about other things in my life too and it won’t happen again. Wish you well.” She responded “It’s okay, I’ve been bitchy and angry lately too, I think it’s just stress and trying to deal with emotions. “ I then said “I’m open again to try again in the future but my mind has changed a lot sense we talked last and I need to work on myself for me and if I move on I move on” which she than said “That’s exactly where I’m at, focus on myself and ensure that I’m happy, let time heal a little bit and then if we find each other we find each other” Did I blow my chances of getting back together and will no contact work?
Coach AHELP!!! . He friend requested me after 3 months of no contact I accepted. Should I unfriend him? Came to find out he changed his status as married. Another stabbing
Hi Vincent!
Was wondering, if an ex dumper’s love language is physical touch and he interacts best face to face and seeing the person in the flesh - wouldn’t no contact be creating distance between the dumper and yourself? Since there is no way of seeing and touching the dumpee, isn’t it easier for the dumper to move on?
Hi Nick, thanks for your question. In my opinion, romantic, emotional attraction is the number 1 reason for someone wanting or not wanting a romantic relationship. After a breakup the level of which is very low and needs to be regrown. ‘No contact’ is the best way to grow romantic, emotional attraction in any dumper’s mind. Whilst also helping a dumpee through breakup recovery.
He ghost me! Oh god why? Not even told me why? Out of nowhere!! Nobody deserves this, not even explained me. He didnt pick up the phone when i called him! It hurts my soul
I'm so sorry to hear this Anna. When did you last hear from your ex?
@@vincentbos 3weaks ago
Just move on. If he ghosted you, it means he no longer wants to deal with you. It's not brain surgery. You don't need to be a rocket scientist to figure it out. The best thing you can do is accept that he ghosted and isn't coming back. Then, MOVE ON with YOUR life. You have closure the moment YOU decide you do. NEVER give anyone that kind of emotional power over you. There are 8 billion people on this planet. Don't waste your time tripping over one person. People are not special and can be replaced. So stop feeling sorry for yourself.
That’s what I did . I just blocked her . She try to reach out demanding in explanation. When in reality she went back to sleep with her ex .
but she will never know how I did find out . 😇🤣🤣 That’s why I didn’t give her that ego boost on how she got caught . 😂
Yesterday my ex -wife called me, after more than a month of no contact. But our conversation was not meaningful. Just asked about the price of the laptop. I just casually answered her question, so that she wouldn't notice that I was really miss her. This is my second no contact. What will I do next if she calls again. Thank you.
Hi Kylle, here is the link to a podcast which should help you with the communication stage - ua-cam.com/video/yqhFDP_4308/v-deo.html
What if they ft call, you ask if you missed their call (via text), but they say “sorry, it was a mistake” ? Was that a missed opportunity on my part because I wanted to ask “how are you?” (I’m the dumpee, and have been silent for a month at that time; it’s 2 mos of NC now). It’s a confusing situation. I didn’t know what to do so I didn’t text anything else, and he didn’t either (it’s 2 mos of NC now). I felt the dumper should’ve asked because I did text to ask when his missed call appeared. Again, was that a missed opportunity?
Sounds like you either have to wait for them to come around to contacting you again or you reach out to say you understand they may be feeling conflicted and you are ready to talk when they are. You shouldn’t expect a response though, it’s best to work on yourself and give them space to miss you.
The nerve of the dumper wanting the dumpee to chase and beg for them back after they’ve broken up with you 😂
Tweakin‼️
Hi Vincent and thanks for the video, as always. My ex reached out to a mutual friend and my son after almost a year, but he didn’t mention me at all. I’m not sure what to make of this. Any thoughts? Or, do you have a video that applies to this situation? Thanks in advance, mate. 🙏🏾
Hi Rebel, thanks for your question. It sounds like a very challenging time and the important thing is to try and stay positive, focused on your journey moving forward. Your ex must be thinking of you with the triggers of who they have contacted. However, it doesn't seem right now that they want to reconnect with you.
@@vincentbos thank you for responding! I’m doing my best to stay positive and above the fray. I feel he’s doing these things to, in part, get under my skin, but of course I can’t be sure. Whatever he’s doing, It certainly doesn’t seem like he’s ready to connect so, I want no part of it.
@RebelYell if he had a good connection with your son and friend, hes probably just concerned how they are doing..or maybe was waiting to see if they brought you up on conversation. Either way I wouldn't think too much into it...I don't bring up my exes unless I am asked if I have spoken to them. I dont like bringing them up because I dont want to trigger emotions and start dwelling on the past like how Vincent said
did the no contact, she is still with the guy she cheated with and wants a divorce, this is not going well
Hi Charles, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It's very important to focus on your own journey moving forward and realise that you will find happiness again, with or without your ex.
Charles it is looking good for you. Why would you want some one back that has cheated on you in the first place?. Just some one doing that action towards you should have been the axe for them.. never take a cheater back..you should heal and move on loving yourself that way when the right person comes, you will be solid and ready..
Hello Vincent, so I asked the new girl I’m talking too if she would like to hangout and we organized a day and everything and then I asked her if she could go on the day of and she said “well i woke up and i didn’t feel that good and i thought it was bc i hadn’t eaten anything yet but ig that wasn’t it, so i kinda j want to like chill today, but can we plzzz hangout soon, i feel bad bc i was really looking forward to this but i just feel like crap :(“ and so I basically said yeah I completely understand and I want her to be comfortable when we hangout and not something she is dreading all day and she said “no no i wouldn’t be dreading it all, i was excited trust me ahahah let’s do something super soon, i gotta show u how good i am at mini golf ;)” do you think she flaked on me or what should I do?
I'm no expert but from your description I'd ask that girl out again.
Sounds like she wants to go out.
If she gives you any run around the second time I'd say move on.
Generally if someone turns you down 2-3 times in a row then you should move on, it’s good to set a date but not too far in the future. In the meantime keep yourself busy and don’t over pursue. Does sound like she may just have been feeling out of it for that day. Hope you can both hang out. 🤞
Hi Elliot, I think this is likely to be genuine. She went above and beyond what she had to say and I'm fairly confident she would like to meet you sometime :)
I got a bread crumb after 9 days and I ignored her
Easy solved go to the brothel no commitment and tell your ex she is full of menopause.
Hi Boss
You up for a stream tonight ?
Hi Inserter, hope you are well.
Tonight is unlikely unfortunately, but anytime I get chance, then I will :)
@@vincentbos
Please get the chance. I hate this no contact you give us.
Your video's are like breadcrumbs 😂😂
Only joking Boss
I wish you well my friend 👍
Thank you Inserter :)
I'm sorry for my lack of streams :(
@@vincentbos
No I thank you , I meant what I said on your last livestream You helped save my life.
I was ready to end my life and you truly got me through it.
Thank you and god bless you.
Hi Inserter. I'm humbled by your kind words. Thank you.
Whilst we live, we always have a chance of greater happiness.
Keep moving forward.
What’s your own version of no contact rule ?
No contact forever until the dumper reaches out
She’s thinking about the old new boyfriend.
Why....are...you ...talking....so....slow.....
First?
Yes Sir :)
@@vincentbos hope you’re well buddy
Yes thank you, hope you are too :)