Q&A with Dawn from The Minimal Mom and Dana from A Slob Comes Clean
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I don't know why, but I automatically have always put my holiday dishes/linens/dishtowels in the same bin with my decorations that I keep in storage. I also keep my holiday CD's in those bins as well. Obviously I wrap them super well and cushion them in between the other items, but this for me is knowing all my holiday stuff is in the same bin. Also, I have the Christmas stuff in red and green bins, my fall stuff in orange bins, and so on. So that when I go to storage, I know by color of bins what stuff is for which holiday haha.
I love this trio. I am a single father of 3 girls. 2 are age 9 and 1 is 7. Before kids I was so organized but now I feel like I am drowning. Been watching you 3 for about 2 weeks now and it has helped motivate me to declutter and clean. My house has improved by leaps and bounds because of you three cute ladies. I already feel like I am taking my house back and am definitely going to pay for this course. Just wanted you to know you guys are helping a single dad and his girls. Keep up the good work.
By the way, my name here was given to me by my 7 year old girl and I have no idea how she did it. LOL.
Good for you "candy pink!" Cheering you on from afar!!
@@masnmis haha that's really cute! You can edit you name and picture, everything, if you'd like.
Good luck with getting control back of your home. You're a hero and a special father that's been blessed.
You can do this! 💕❤️
Keep up the good work, CandyPink! The effort is so worth it!
Yay! Go dad!
I feel if I had a big crowd over like friends/neighbours and family I am more motivated to pull the xmas tree down etc. I feel I havent put it up for nothing. This year was extra specail because my daughter put on all the decorations.
Thank you!
Don't get rid of kids stuff behind their backs. It will backfire. The main reason I'm a pack-rat as an adult is because when I was a kid my mother went into our rooms while we were at school and threw away lots of stuff, she threw away all my "treasures", little cardboard houses I built for my mini dolls, toys I was still attached to, stuff that I thought was pretty or interesting, etc. Even now, I totally freak out if someone gets rid of my stuff behind my back. 3 of the 4 of us siblings became pack-rats because of this. Declutter kids stuff with their involvement only.
I agree. My kids have things that are special to them that they might not actively ask for or play with for some months, but if it disappears, they know and are sad.
You just described me.....at 60 I still remember stuff that disappeared
❤️
When I downsized, I found a pile of cloth napkins, and decided that I needed to either use them or get rid of them. Now I feel so special every day, using cloth napkins, never buying paper napkins, and it’s easy to throw a few extra pieces of cloth in the regular laundry.
And better for the environment too.
Yes. And better for the environment and your pocketbook.
That’s awesome 😎
Saves money and the environment. Been doing this for years.
Just so you know, if you live in an apartment complex, you pay for washing and drying the wash. It costs me a lot of money just to do my clothes. I would never consider cloth napkins.
I love the “5 minutes matters” because it gets me started
My therapist used to tell me to say out loud, “Do it for ten minutes, do it for ten minutes.”
@@tgayer1 as aww ww
I was just watching this and I am also a recovered slob. We moved into a new home last March. I ruthlessly purged then. My son is 10 and has adhd and autism spectrum disorder. I find it works best for him to bring a container and tell him the rules unequivocally are broken toys go in the trash and he can keep whatever he wants but it has to fit in the identified bin. I also gave him an additional smaller bin for the items in his obsession category. I also remind him we are donating his wonderful toys to other children who could enjoy them. So far this works well with him.
Wow. The fact that you designed a course and mentioned parents with special needs and people with ADHD etc meant the world to me. I have a child with autism and pursing and think I have ADHD myself. I’m part of several fb groups and adults with ADHD and Autism struggle so much with tasks like these. I’ll definitely mention this course!
I don't have ADHD nor autism... And I am STILL challenged!! My house is NEVER clean unless SOMEONE else cleans...🙄
Me too
“Only decluttering adds more space”. Lightbulb moment! 💥💡👍🏻
Thank you all 3 of you, you are such a wonderful support to us all out here.
I have made always doing all dishes before going to bed, and I have actually been doing it for 2 yrs now!
Like Dana said it really does make a big difference.
For 2021 I am going to make “5 minutes matters” my go to support .
I know I’m a whole year late and it’s also March but I just decided my word for this year will be BETTER. Better mom, better wife, better house, better Christian. Not BEST but BETTER!❤️
And as Dana would say, Better is Good!
All of my Christmas stuff I put together… Towels, napkins tablecloth’s ...that way when I bring the Christmas stuff out everything’s all together… If that helps?
I even put the Christmas clothes away with them too.
Clear labelling is your friend too. Especially helpful if people want to borrow fairy lights for a wedding or something.
@@jenniewren9351 Thanks!♥️
@@jenniewren9351 Thanks!♥️
@@kylieholman3877 Thanks!♥️
"Declutter before organizing" and "shop your stuff" are helpful tips for me. Thank you.
and stop shopping junk :)
Today I swept all the floors and rugs downstairs in my house and then, wonder of wonders, I steam mopped the wood floors and baseboards. Before I decluttered it might take me a day for each room. To be honest, I’d be done in after one room.
I think it took me about 20 minutes in total because I barely need to move anything around to clean anymore, all thanks to decluttering.
Yes! The 5 minute deal is sooooo worth it! I didn't realize it, but I've started the habit of tidying my home for 5 min when I first wake up every day. Doing it at bedtime doesn't work for me because it makes my brain start working too much and then I become "unsleepy" for bedtime. But 5 min before I do ANYTHING else in the morning has been amazing! Really gets me energized to face the day! And to Dawn-- I've been telling myself I'm a tidy person EVERY day... and it DOES work to motivate me and encourage myself! I love now encouragingly myself instead of the years I spent discouraging myself. Let's do this, 2021!!!
I just started Dana’s 30 day plan and this is day 4. I’m sitting at a clean kitchen table, with clean dishes in the dishwasher and a sense of peace to go with my coffee. What a blessing
Oops, 28 day plan
Yes to dishes every day! That’s my secret to a clean kitchen. And, I don’t have to debate whether I need to run the dishwasher. I just do. One less decision in my day
I don’t have a dishwasher so that means “I” have to actually wash everything! Sometimes I just don’t feel like doing that after a long work day! I need to do better with this, and a lot of other things 🥴
@@ginamcdonald7854 my friend because she has medical issues with her legs and standing at the bench is too hard uses paper plates. My issues with that is their is so much trash to take out end of the week. I would go to her home and clean while our girls played. I've moved far away from her just before covid hit.
I have older kids now, and after supper, there are chores. Dishes must be done. It makes a huge difference.
I really struggle with dishes...I dont have a dishwasher. I have a toddler with autism. It’s so hard to manage him and wash dishes. I usually take a half hour to clean up after breakfast and lunch. But dinner clean up is usually like an hour and I can’t start till my son goes to bed. Plus I have to do other things like sweep the whole house and pickup toys. Plus I have thyroid issues that make me super tired and dizzy when I bend over..in my mind I am thinking, “Do I wash dishes or finally sit down?”
Thank you, Ladies. After 5 years of having my grandma’s china hutch in my house, including all of the things that she had in the drawers, I cleaned out one drawer and two cabinets! I have five more drawers and two cabinets left, but I’m excited. I’m gonna try to get those done this weekend.
Three ladies that motivated me and some others on utube , to declutter and start living a minimalist life style. I fit in so many categories. I have several autoimmune diseases so when I have a lot of energy I just go for hours .But now I know better to take breaks .Also I'm a single mom to adult kids , one with special needs, so my life is nuts .I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time this summer. My son and his fiance live with me also. Trying to find room for everything and everyone sometimes gets nuts , in a 2 bedroom. Thank goodness we have a huge hall.closet. some what walk in .I let go of all my kitchen stuff, tablecloths ect ...My daughter likes when I decorate so I keep one for every holiday but they're plastic so easy to store .I let at least 60 % of my clothes go .I feel so much better, and my head feels clear as I have ADD .Let all my costume jewelry go except about 10 peices.
I feel we all owe so much to FlyLady and the positive energy she has put out there. Whether you follow her strictly or adapt, she is an inspiration and a great overall encouragement. So many of these ideas she has been teaching for years. But we can still benefit from hearing them spoken again in different ways by different people. ❤️
I learned so much from flylady years ago!
Also the ideas before that came from the slob sisters.
For relatives that want to give gifts maybe you could suggest a idea like my SIL did for my boys. On Christmas and Birthdays she would put money in a savings account...she had the little bank books and at Christmas time she would log the interest that the account had gained that year and she would wrap the bank book with a candy bar or a little ornament and that is what they would unwrap for Christmas. When they graduated high school she would cash out the account and would give it to them at their graduation. No clutter and a nice way to save them some money. :)
Containers did help me in the office. I could fit more in the closet because I was able to use the vertical space instead of just floor space. I was one of those kids that had a mom who threw her stuff away and I still have problems with getting rid of stuff because of this. My parents would fight over her getting rid of my dad's things. She would throw things out that she had no idea what they were. I grew up poor and I think that's another issue for me.
My grandmother did that to my mom and created someone who couldn’t let go of anything. I’m not the same but was never taught to declutter or purge.
The three of you make me so happy!!! 😂
Me too. They are so up beat. Fun to listen to.
We also need to take a look at the mental health aspect of decluttering, good and bad . You release the same endorphins as any sugar, alcohol, or drugs . . So for some people it becomes an addiction and not hitting the core thing : which is mental health and the extreme consumerism that comes with that. Which if we are all decluttering and continue to consume so much . We are only creating more waste for the planet.
Decluttering is only a problem if you're continuing to buy. That's why it's just as important to become content with what we have. If you get rid of appliances, don't buy more to take their place. If you find you can do the same thing with a knife as that fancy chopper, don't buy another kitchen gadget to take its place. When we declutter, it's also nice to find someone to give it to for free. Often young couples need some things to start out, and it won't go in a landfill, but it will be a blessing to them. I remember starting out and just wishing I had some old towels that I could use for nasty jobs. Seems funny, but it's true.
@@frugalmomofmany oh I agree. I am also trying to have family understand that we don't need more stuff. I have six kids, and after Christmas and birthdays it gets overwhelming. We give away a lot, and I rarely buy things that aren't consumables.
@@sabatham I have nine kids. After Christmas is so stressful even though everyone just gets a few things. We like to give experiences if we can. I am minimalist in most things, but I hang on to all our clothes. We pass them down. We save so much from being thrown away because we reuse! I feel like being a mom of many has given me a different perspective to not buy junk and also waste nothing. I do like it when the kids get coloring books, etc though because I know it is consumed and not clutter for long. 😂
@@frugalmomofmany oh yes to saving clothes! I have been doing that as well. When space is prime real estate, you realize how little you truly need.
1% better at something each day builds up!
I found my daughter valued memories not monetary value when it came to clearing out her books lately. She really surprised me. Some lovely books she threw out and I had to consciously zip my mouth cause I was so proud she was learning how to let go!
I'm watching while waiting to leave to pick up my teenager from work. You just talked about how 5 minutes matter and I looked up to see the dirty pots and pans in the sink. 🤦🏻♀️Time to turn up the volume and start washing!
I really like the ‘5 minutes’ message. Another comment Dawn made a few months ago is ‘Do something today you will be glad you did tomorrow.’ That thought has come to my mind frequently, and helped me push through, when I would tend to procrastinate and put something off for ‘later.’
I love that!!!!
At night when I don’t want to do the dishes, or take my make up off, or do a five minute lounge room tidy I say ‘morning me will be so glad I did this’
Yes love that, make your tomorrow self happy!
I'm often motivated the evening before I have a day off from work. "If I do these dishes tonight, then I can enjoy my day off tomorrow and go to the dog park instead."
Thank you Dana k White! Your decluttering philosophy made sense to me💡and I put it to good use, and now I feel so much more comfortable in my environment . If takes a minute, then do it, among other things you recommend and that just clicks with my way of thinking.
UA-cam is my go-to for new and interesting life lessons cooking tutorials, so I hope you continue to upload new videos.
I have lots of friends, each has different ways to clean, or not. It's good to have one that keeps her home 100% clean at any given time. I have another that her house is always untidy when ever you visit. So l always aimed for to keep my house tidy. If not. I couldn't let my house be untidy for long as my tidy person my be knocking at my door. And l would say to myself if it's untidy knocking that would be ok. But l need to be ready for tidy, but tidy never visited me. Of cause not. She was tidying. Funny! Needless to say l need help.
So agree with Cass concerning sentimental... I have bins for my kids and I (I use the method of the you tuber "Do it on a Dime"). I used the "Swedish Death Method" to help declutter my sentiment stuff during first lockdown (brought on by Covid19) ... So I asked myself "if I died today would I want my family and children to see/read this stuff?"... When my answer was "no, definitely not".. I looked at it, had a laugh, eg old letters from boyfriends etc, and then binned the stuff... It feels so great😊
Boy one thing that was just said turned on a light in my brain. If you don't have room for your stuff you have to much STUFF. I am A butterfly. I feel the need to see my stuff. But I forget what the heck I've got cause its in a ben of some sort. Amazing.
I don't mind cleaning but I can never get to it because of the clutter 🤦
That’s ok, that’s part of Dana’s story! Her approach may work for you.
Me too! I like cleaning its dealing with stuff 😄
The more I hear from Dana the more I’m like, that’s me. 😆 She had me at, “I would say I’m anti-resolutions...”
Get a small handheld vacuum to keep in the bathroom and he can vacuum up those beard hairs! They make great small ones marketed toward keeping in the car. Wiping up hairs takes forever. 😂
My hubby used a paper towel and wipes it down every time he shaves and uses a tall broom attached to shovel. Takes all of 2 mins. I would tell my family pick up 5 the things before going to bed each night. So we dont have 75 things to deal with come the weekend. Hair tie, sock, piece of school work, sweater in the lounge, pen that fell on the floor, apple core not in the bin, birthday gift bag, cup on the table, put in the correct place etc. Each night 5 things.
@@wanda4573 i love that 5 things idea. Even my 3 year old could help.
@@sabatham sad when it's easy to train a 3 year old and impossible to train a grown ass hubby. 🤣🙄
Yes! That's what my husband did, and it also helps me to keep on top of toddler messes much easier than dragging out the big vaccum :-)
I've made a commitment to 'shop my freezers' to use up what's in them before going to the store. I've designated spaces for foods I'll use for dinners and smoothies. It took me 10 minutes and has greatly reduced my stress level!!
I literally spent 5 minutes decluttering in my linen closet whilst watching you ladies. You gave this Mum with Fibromyalgia the motivation I needed to get this crazy messy space tidied up again. I now have a trash bag full of unloved linens and junk in the boot of my car ready to take to the op shop.
I have always been a tidy/organized person since I was a child, so I am interested in these strategies for working with others who struggle with being tidy/organized.
Why should you sign up and pay for a course with folks you can watch (and have watched) on UA-cam for years?
3 Answers:
1) Because you have benefited from their wisdom, knowledge for years. Pay them back for the “free” stuff!
2) If you’ve followed them for years you know these are women of integrity who know what they are talking about. Support deserving women entrepreneurs!
3) You, I, We, need and deserve this! HELP!
That’s why I signed up.
Anxious but ready.
Happy New Year!
Can’t wait for this course to start cause Taking my House back is my RESOLUTION for 2021 !
I KNEW Dawn was a ladybug and Dana was a butterfly! I found them after Cas, and watching/listening, I just knew that's who they are! I relate to all of you, but Dana the most, probably because I'm also a butterfly. 😂😂
For special occasion table cloths/napkins - store those with the decor for that season, or let go and just have one nice table cloth/napkins and use for all special occasions.
We just have loads of cloth napkins because we use them daily. We have one tablecloth that can work for any occasion.
The 3 of you really do complement each other so well!
“Five Minutes Matters” did so much for me
Dawn, I found you first about a month ago.....then Dana then Cass....and I have binge watched all of you daily. Cass would define me as a ladybug (by necessity, but longing for time to be a cricket). I am onion layering my closets and am 4 carloads to the donation center and a complete trash bin lighter. Just a little bit a day and nothing drastic all at once and it feels fabulous. THANK YOU for your encouragement and realism through it!
My husband loves to declutter MY stuff, but not HIS!
😂🤣😂
So then you get to declutter his stuff, right???
@@cindywilkinson1610 hahaha!
Same in my house!
I am all about Dana's mindset- where would I look for this and if it doesn't work ( ahem, pens) throw it away!
Yes i sorted all my stuff like that so now if I’m looking for something I think where would I put it if I had just got it and it’s always there!
Oh my goodness ladies!! I am always so happy to join in and watch all of your individual videos but all three of you ladies together is amazing!
Thank you people! Don't be jealous but Dana's phrase "Better is good." was my super change in 2020.
The three of you are awesome. I found Dawn first, then Cas, then Dana. I'm on the slow train to success as a 'would almost be' minimalist. Thanks so much for sharing your ideas. You're touching a lot of lives and making them better.
I found Cas first ,Dawn then Dana. 😆
I also found them seperately and its a thrill to see them together because I feel they are the best because they are human and real
"Don't make me math!" That made me laugh. Plus it doesn't help that exchange rates are constantly changing!
Hi, from Cape Town, South Africa:-)
I also like the concept of “eating frogs”. Often they can get done in five minutes but I think it’s hours!
Me too! This works great for my teen son as well. It’s amazing how motivating a decluttered and/or organized space can be. My CD/DVD collection is my frog this morning…
I have started giving myself a frog sticker in my diary if I do something that I didnt want to do. 🐸 I love scrapbooking but dont have time these days so this Mom gets a frog sticker when she "eats a frog"! It makes my diary look fun and colorful and it shows the kids that even Moms have things that they dont want to do, and we get prizes too!
I actually decluttered to the point and still struggled that I realized I actually did need more storage but get told often put in a bin first so its off the floor then declutter just get a bin get a bin and I know better also I am AA butterfly raised by a ladybug who boxed thing up and never decluttered. I knew I didn't have too many toys I decided before even having kids I was going to set up toys like a kindergarten/preschool in classic universal sets that I courage imaginative play not the flashy toys that yell to be bought. I am a butterfly and I lived the Montessori layout but my second kid became mobel and my kids could trash the house in five minutes and it was ridiculous to clean it up I switched from a dresser to what I call a teacher's cupboard a shelf with doors that can be locked when open butterfly but locked so my boy doesn't destroy then a had my ex instal a floating shelf the paremetor of the room well three sides. my bedroom has a door in a door the closet and a door to the bathroom. and two windows so it basically is on top of the lip of the trim. and my belief is a cold should not have access at any given time to more than can be expected of them to clean up.at a given time and they can have a shared toy basket down or one each. independence is great but me cleaning up massive messes for them constantly is not independence. but saying all that that was after massive Dec littering and purge after purge to the point it was hard to get rid of more. its 90% decluttering 10% proper container.
I love that Dana does this in her car! The fact that you are all so transparent and let your warts show is refreshing, motivating, and encouraging.
I have done the “empty the closet” reorganization in the past. I ended up with piles of black bags in rooms waiting for the new storage place to be cleaned out. That was 20+ years ago. Just the thought of doing it again and having the mess again has paralyzed me and kept me from doing it again. I’m looking forward to learning more about Dana’s method and putting it into practice.
That’s a Multi million dollar book ladies! I’m telling you! Ideas to get your kids to declutter their toys!! Excellent!
Sup decluttering crew.. that’s the fun part for me haha. The cleaning is the least fun. Organizing is okay.. but my attention span isn’t great 😊 so thanks for helping me get off the struggle bus
The challenge an headaches of decluttering is well worth the end result even if it’s just a drawer a closet or a single cupboard. All falls in place an things get more simple in time.
S.M.A.R.T. goals are "Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Based (Timely)" 😊
Thank you for everything, ladies!!
I wholeheartedly agree on how to declutter with a child with adhd. My son is 11, and he doesn’t have trouble departing with things when I bring it to his attention. It’s just for him he doesn’t really want to make it a priority to go through things. He often gets distracted on his own and it’s easier to go through it myself and ask him directly what he wants and doesn’t want. 🙂
My husband and I both struggle with letting things go. I can't wait to learn how to let go easier! I just signed up for the course. I'm so excited! Can't wait until my home looks like it's supposed to look!
I used to struggle so much more, and practice really does help, but my husband doesn’t get rid of ANYTHING EVER 😳 I’ve had to quarantine some of his clothes from when we met that don’t fit him and after a full year I finally decluttered a couple bags and he never realized because it didn’t even make a dent 🤦♀️😬
I no longer call them New Years Resolutions. I call them my GOALS! Don't know why but that helps me do better :)
Dawn I love your idea of just doing the dishes every night. Something I learned from Diane in Denmark (so excited about ur collab coming up!) is to make the act you are doing enjoyable. So every night I do the dishes I burn my favorite candle and watch a UA-cam video I really want. This has helped me so much. Like fooling my brain into thinking washing the dishes is luxurious 😂. It has really helped and also falls in line with the principles of atomic habits (which I’m currently listening to thanks to you 💕). Thanks for everything you ladies do!
Same. Diane in Denmark has changed so many peoples lives with simple daily habbits. I never go back to the ways i used to have.
Is Dawn doing a collab with Diane in Denmark?!
@@jennylhenry78 yes! So excited!
@@christinab9133 how did I miss this announcement?! Do you know when?
@@jennylhenry78 Diane mentioned it in her latest videos. So excited!! Not sure when just that it’s a January Declutter which I am so ready for!
I've been decluttering all week using the no mess method... It has been so nice to not have a keep pile to deal with at the end. Just have to throw out the trash/recycling. Done!
When I was a single mom people would give me hand me downs for my son. I was grateful for that. However I had to watch it because they would what to dump their junk on me too.
I have never been a single.mom, but I can relate with the handed-doen items;, I just went through them with the child they were intended for, and blessed someone else with what wouldn't fit (bodies, lifestyles, style). We have a free clothing closet in our community that helps out people in need, and a thrift store that benefits men recovering from addiction down the road. It feels good to help others!
Hey I just got the book I can not wait to start decluttering!
I’m in the process of REMOVING hot spots (strategically)
That’s a great goal. Stealing it!
Hey ladies, I missed most of the live show. I watch all of your channels here on UA-cam. I love all your advice on how to declutter and organize. This journey started about a year ago for me. I did the kitchen and went from there. My latest is the master bedroom. I did my clothes and it was so freeing to not have so much to manage
I had dropped a comment on Minimal Mom channel on how to get ny husband on board. Well this past weekend he went through his clothes. He didn't want to at first but once he got started it got easier. We are still working on it through out the hone and the attic but we are getting there.
Thank you so much ladies! I appreciate all you do for us! I'm doing a vision board this year. Cas convinced me with her video a few months back.
So many great ideas!
I seriously need to reassign my entrance space. It is tiny. 6 years ago, pregnant with my 4th, I did a complete overhaul and it was fantastic. My oldest just turned 6 then, and is 12 now. My entrance is not serving us anymore and I am unsure how to make it work. It needs another overhaul, especially since I now have 6 kids.
i love you three! We fold sweaters and stash on a hanging canvas shelf thing in the closet. It's only about 1 foot wide, and uses the verticle space. No stretched shoulders!
Hey guys! All helpful stuff! But I want to say, I have 3 sets of cloth napkins, they always have a place to live. I've used cloth napkins all my life, and I like to believe I've saved several trees :) I figure I do laundry every week, anyway, so how much room do the napkins take, not much. Everyone who comes over loves the fact that they always eat with cloth napkins. My kids were confused when they would eat at other people's homes, and have to use paper. Anyway, that's my two cents - try cloth napkins, they don't take up much space, and they are environmentally friendly :)
... a burger is healthier than a salad... Just saying.
Everyone's go to example for making a good choice is this. "I'll eat a salad over a burger". Sure burger and fries deep fried in vegetable oil is not super healthy. But it's the vegetable oil that's bad, not a burger....
They have a beard apron men can use when they shave to catch the hair... saw it on amazon
Loved this! I've been following Dana for a few years now and have just recently discovered Cassandra. (I need to go check out Dawn's channel now.) I have learned SO much from you ladies!
Thank you!! Absolutely loved this live!!
“Blame the container!” ❤️ love it!! Lol
I hang my table cloths in my closet. Keeps them from wrinkling & saves space.
Me too!
Hey! That's a good idea! Too bad I don't have a closet. 😆 Maybe when we move...
Y'all are dealing with the emotional issues BRILLIANTLY! Thanks for sharing your tips for decluttering!
I hang my tablecloths and matching napkins over a hanger in my bedroom closet because my kitchen doesn't have enough drawers, and I don't have a sideboard or china cabinet.
I just jumped in and purchased this course! I’m so excited to learn from you ladies!! Looking forward to January 1st and a new start so I can love my home again!
Me too, I struggle to let go. I like all my cra., oh I mean treasures. It is hard to let go because I do use things for other things, and I really like it all but I hate the encroachment on my peace. I grew up very poor so I think that is a big root reason for the overflowing abundance. Thanks so much for all your vulnerability and authenticity. God bless all of you, richly! Ludington, MI
The best part of 2020 was my resolution to run the dishwasher each night and hand wash anything that didn’t fit! I love waking up to a clean kitchen. Now, my hubby has gotten on board and will notice and wash anything left after supper that can’t go in the dishwasher for me! A clean kitchen each morning sets the tone for the entire day! Hugs to y’all 🥰
An older, wiser woman told me once, "try to only handle things once, when cleaning, etc". This goes back to Dana's rule about taking things where they go when you are decluttering..
I think Cass has the most stuff but has a large home to put the stuff in so her containers are larger and filled, I actually like getting rid of clutter even if I have the room to have it for less anxiety.
How do you NOT feel like a slave when you are trying to keep the house clean and tidy apart from going to work/shopping/cooking/laundry ecc ..and your partner literally does not care? ..especially as I work mainly 10 hours a day :( I have tried telling myself that I do it for myself..but that motivation does not last long.
I got divorced... My partner was basically my 3rd child I picked up after... As well as doing zero in the house, he also never helped with our kids and they were really sick, especially my oldest who was sick and in and out of hospital the first 6 years... And I still did everything, juggled my job with being in hospital etc... He showed me no love or respect... I felt like his slave.... Maybe evaluate your relationship... Why doesn't he care? If he loves you, he should care..and he should share the burden of the work with you!... Good luck x
@@rebeccarendle3706 good for you dear..believe me we have had many a discussion and agreements to which he does hold up for like 2 days.( ex I cook,he does dishes ..just little jobs that mean a lot ).if I ask,he normally does chores,however I have to constantly ask and it's really annojing.He does work a very manual job I admit.,I feel bad for him when he returns from work being really tired...but he does not support me financially in any way,so it is not my fault that I work from home and still earn my keep..also..I work much longer hours than him..Once I suggested to avoid quarrels ,that instead of him helping out,he should pay for a cleaner once a month to which he agreed..but again,I had to discuss with him each time,plus having a helper clean is not particularly 'my style' and to be honest,I would rather he spent 60 euro on me than to pay a cleaner...have been together for 6 years now.I am tired ,gained too much weight and unfit...I just can't seem to trigger motivation..yes,I definetly need to analise...although,he really is a good man..maybe I expect too much
@@sdvlt my ex was "a good man" in his way to (but he is a gas-lighter and never fully grew up.. According to our marriage councilors and my therapists) ... But as with you, I gained weight and was totally unfit because I had no "me time".. My job is also long hours, and with kids and hous, the hours ran out for me time!
My ex husband was the same... Agreed to doing xyx.. Which lasted a maximum of a week, then he went back to his old ways. I always made excuses for my ex husband's bad behavior (eg not coming to the specialist for our son when they requested his presence, not helping with the kids or house etc). But the specialists for my child gave me "a wake-up call" and used to say "I am a Dr and work +12hr shifts and I still get up at night for my baby/children and support my wife at home, you husband has not excuse! "..... And it's true... Where there is a will, there is a way! And these men are adults and need to stand up to their responsibilities. But I knew mine would never change.. As the marriage counselors said "You can't change your partner, they must want to change themselves for themselves and for you. "
I was getting to a point of burnout and depression that I thought I wanted to just die. My therapist (i now have) said" no you did not and do not want to die, you just need some you time, peace and rest.. which you connected to being dead"... Which is actually true... I just want peace and time for me!
I got my ex-husband to move out Jan 2017... And after 12 years of a terrible marriage, sick kids and work stress which caused my burnout and depression... I am still happier alone.. Even though I am "imprisoned" in Germany away from all my family and friends (I am British) because the divorce law makes it almost impossible to move back home with my kids and due to lack of support from my husband, I lost my career which was better paid than his before we had kids!
I spent the first 2 years, after he moved out, separating and boxing all his stuff after 18yrs together... Which took so long due to work, my illness, my kids being sick and normal life getting in the way... But I have now packed over 70boxes of his stuff (most of which he still needs to pick up. He has never decluttered. Every move we did I asked him to, but he didn't)..
Since sorting out his stuff (which annoyed me that I had to waste my precious time doing) I have been decluttering my and the kids stuff and my goal for 21 is to 1) get the divorce finalized (the financial), 2) have me time to loose weight and get fitter again and get back to "my old self" and 3) keep decluttering my and my kids stuff (just to make housework easy and also it will be an advantage just incase I loose the house in the divorce and I have to move out with my 2 sons).
I am really feeling the benefit of less stuff and not being constantly frustrated and overwhelmed because my "so called partner" doesn't do anything and I constantly had to ask and remind him... Which was exhausting!.. As I said "he was my 3rd child".
Even with the current situation.. I feel calmer and stronger for the first time in over a decade.. And once the divorce is finalized I know a huge weight will be gone.. And even if it doesn't go well financially, I will be free of frustration, disappointment, and overwhelm because he is no long an extra burden and my belongings will be under control and not cause me anxiety.
I really wish you so much strength and best wishes in solving your situation... Sometimes what seems the hardest decision at first works out to be a blessing in the end. Sending love and hugs. Stay strong... You will succeed. X
@@rebeccarendle3706 I cannot reply as I wish at the moment....but wow womwn..we need to talk..after our messaging I had the momentum to again,discuss a 'helper once a month' 60 euro...to which he had no problem in accepting..he is my partner...not my ex..to whom I spent 27 years with,and I also divorced...I am not in position to talk right now.but if you wish/have time/ I wish to get to know you better.Wishing you a relaxing evening...and thank you
One small point of order: it IS a waste of money to get rid of something you will have to buy again later. You can also save money on gifts by setting thing aside to gift to others. But this is why it's important to go through those important questions, "will I need this again?" "Would I buy it again?" "Do I love this item?" Etc.
Luv having all of you together 💕
Absolutely love this collab! Such amazing and inspiring ladies! 🎉❤️
I really need to get a UA-cam journal. So I can jot down all the great tips I learn and jot down who said what and on what video. I'm sure youtube already has a way to keep track of this, such as video history but I really need a youtube journal that I can jot my own thoughts down about the topic as well. Then I can go back in three weeks from now when I'm searching for that gal who said this or that. This struggle is real. Anyone know of such a journal made especially for social media platforms? Maybe a declutter journal, a cooking journal, etc., or a combo journal of such? Maybe you three gals can collaborate on this for us. $$$
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Love love love the three of you guys together. Dana's method is the only one that has even come close to working for me. I have a lot of emotional attachment to things, so hoping the course will inspire and reinforce my major decluttering project this year.
Hello from Florida! Merry Christmas and blessed New Year to all!
Very glad you also did it on UA-cam. When you said it’s on your page, I kept looking on UA-cam. I got rid of Facebook
Watching this while I declutter sentimental - I have every birthday card ever! Paring it down to a box of special ones, one from each special person.
I hear you! I am 65 and recently decluttered the new baby cards my mom had saved for me after my birth. Why have I kept them all this time?!
While I was working, I labeled a hanging folder something like “positive reinforcement” and put cards, letters from parent and colleagues there. On days where everything was going wrong, I’d take 5 minutes to read some, and feel much better.
I don't have trouble decluttering, but I have a problem getting it OUT of my house. In august I had a charity that would pick up my stuff... OMG I had it up and out of my house in a flash!
Take a photo of anything that has sentimental value, but you don't want to keep. The photo will trigger the same emotions as the item, but without the bulk. :: I'm in the midst of decluttering - round 1, so many more rounds to go - but the thing I keep telling myself when I come across something that "I might need in the future" is that someone out there needs it today, so donate. :: I've realised that holding onto something and not using it is just as much a waste of the money originally spent as letting it go. I've had both the "some day I'll use it" and the "guilt of spending" issues. I'm slowly working it out, and have done a lot of purging in the past month or two. Still a long way to go though.
It's like peeling an onion. I've been slowly becoming more minimal over the past two years- decluttering in rounds. The first round is the hardest but it really does get easier every time, becasuse there's less stuff to deal with. My husband used to be very messy and cluttery. I never asked him to declutter but seeing me do it inspired him, and he went through some of his own belongings. He has much less junk now, yay!
How do you start lol ... I have ADD ..I clean houses lol but there in order ... Mine ahhh NO LOL
If I have a specific holiday linen set I use and want to keep I fit it in my Christmas baby for fall container- then I know where it is and I have a place for it if I choose to keep it.
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You guys inspired me to go through my closet for the 6th time this year . I was surprised a full trash bag gone and now all and I mean all my cloths except shoes for in my medium size wardrobe. Amazed major difference in my life. Forces me to do laundry and realise I need quality over quantity. All my cloths are now options.