Omg. You have just opened my eyes to what I was involved in with a male narc neighbour. He was the leader of a cult with one member........me. Thank You Debbie
I've gone no contact, blocked and erased all phone and media avenues. Once the decision was made and carried out it bought a sense of relief. Just had a short vacation with friends which calmed my thoughts, stuff still pops into my head but i know longer want to see ex, i even shop in the next town. i would mention the Realizations from childhood and working with my wounded child has bought growth and helped feeling more positive moving forward. Hopefully i never get drawn into a relationship like this ever again.
I was friends with a woman from church for 3 years before I started putting all the "dots" together. It's really sad that she has chased off another friend (there have been others) but she is clueless as to her role in it all.
Hi Debbie! What do you recommend I do with the no-contact issue if both of us have the same church/meditation practice. Most of my support is in these circles.
It's going to be difficult for you to see clearly and heal if you have to see him or her so often. I would talk to a trusted friend from your practice and see if maybe another group could be formed so you could still have support. I would find some way to either create different circles or find a new one. This could be leading you to something even better than what you have now. You just don't want to keep injuring yourself. It will be like constantly opening a wound that is trying to heal. I hope that helps. Sending you lots of love, Agatha xx
No contact was going well for a while and then the alimony stopped forcing me to direct my attention once again in that direction. Although I’m only talking through the courts, it’s still triggering panic attacks, a need to isolate and otherwise behave as though I’m back in the nightmare. I don’t think I’ll ever escape. Financial control.
You will escape. Make sure to do things that help you stay present, that help you relax. If you go to my website and sign up for my emails you'll get a free guided meditation that will help. xx
Sometimes it's not possible to go full no contact, so if you are unable to, just make sure you keep things just business, make communication short and to the point, versus bringing up anything emotional with him.
@@debbiemirza1744 my life has gone completely sideways... I don't even have a friend I can be honest with about who I am.. I'm a mess and I shake so badly
Sweet Christy. Allow yourself to shake. It's your body's way of releasing trauma. Google T.R.E. - trauma release exercises. Also I highly recommend finding support groups in your area. Try meetup.com. Take really good care of yourself. Sending you love. xx
Turned up all the way, Debbie, but there were still some unstressed words that I missed. Hope you get a chance to check into your record volume. Viewers who cant hear all you say should be able to turn up the volume on their own device to fix sound issues if you are recording at a good volume. Or maybe you are sitting too far away from the mic. That would be easy to fix. :) Could your mic be turned away from you, just pointing in the wrong direction? Or could your mic be like nestled in the fabric of your shirt or something? I hate to make an issue out of this, but I just know you put a lot into your work and want everybody to hear it easily and naturally! I wish I could help you troubleshoot, but I know nothing about sound recording technical stuff and have given you all the "Mom" stuff I can think of. Good luck!
Hi Evie. I just bought a new set of earphones with a mic so that should improve. They are a higher quality. The low volume might be the case for a few videos since I filmed them on the same day. At some point I might redo those videos, but for now I'll leave them up. I've heard the sound is good on computers but quieter on a phone. I'm curious, are you listening on a cell phone or a computer? Would be interesting to know. Thank you. The future videos I'll post after this weekend should be better.
Debbie Mirza Hi, Debbie, glad you're working on it! :) I do everything on my Samsung Tab 4 10.1" tablet. This is the only place I've met a sound problem. I bet your new mic will help!
Thank you Rob. I will post another video tomorrow about how they don't let go of us, and I'm using a new mic in that one. Would love to know if it sounds better.
so true... after 1 month of vacation alone, I came back and just saw him with " clear eyes"... That vacation was the most blessed vacation ever.
To me it wasn't love💔..it was an addiction..
Omg. You have just opened my eyes to what I was involved in with a male narc neighbour. He was the leader of a cult with one member........me. Thank You Debbie
I've gone no contact, blocked and erased all phone and media avenues. Once the decision was made and carried out it bought a sense of relief. Just had a short vacation with friends which calmed my thoughts, stuff still pops into my head but i know longer want to see ex, i even shop in the next town. i would mention the Realizations from childhood and working with my wounded child has bought growth and helped feeling more positive moving forward. Hopefully i never get drawn into a relationship like this ever again.
I was friends with a woman from church for 3 years before I started putting all the "dots" together. It's really sad that she has chased off another friend (there have been others) but she is clueless as to her role in it all.
just one minute conversation is enough for my Mom to pull me down.
Thank you for helping me
Hi Debbie! What do you recommend I do with the no-contact issue if both of us have the same church/meditation practice. Most of my support is in these circles.
It's going to be difficult for you to see clearly and heal if you have to see him or her so often. I would talk to a trusted friend from your practice and see if maybe another group could be formed so you could still have support. I would find some way to either create different circles or find a new one. This could be leading you to something even better than what you have now. You just don't want to keep injuring yourself. It will be like constantly opening a wound that is trying to heal. I hope that helps. Sending you lots of love, Agatha xx
Debbie Mirza thank you for your input Debbie. I will talk with someone in my trusted circle:) Thanks for all your great videos! Much Love❤️
No contact was going well for a while and then the alimony stopped forcing me to direct my attention once again in that direction. Although I’m only talking through the courts, it’s still triggering panic attacks, a need to isolate and otherwise behave as though I’m back in the nightmare. I don’t think I’ll ever escape. Financial control.
You will escape. Make sure to do things that help you stay present, that help you relax. If you go to my website and sign up for my emails you'll get a free guided meditation that will help. xx
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What if you are completely financially dependent on them? That's an issue for me... if I don't have his financial help I'll be homeless
Sometimes it's not possible to go full no contact, so if you are unable to, just make sure you keep things just business, make communication short and to the point, versus bringing up anything emotional with him.
@@debbiemirza1744 my life has gone completely sideways... I don't even have a friend I can be honest with about who I am.. I'm a mess and I shake so badly
Sweet Christy. Allow yourself to shake. It's your body's way of releasing trauma. Google T.R.E. - trauma release exercises. Also I highly recommend finding support groups in your area. Try meetup.com. Take really good care of yourself. Sending you love. xx
@@debbiemirza1744 thank you very much... you are a Godsend
Holy Hell was a nightmare and people like that should be in prison
Turned up all the way, Debbie, but there were still some unstressed words that I missed. Hope you get a chance to check into your record volume. Viewers who cant hear all you say should be able to turn up the volume on their own device to fix sound issues if you are recording at a good volume. Or maybe you are sitting too far away from the mic. That would be easy to fix. :) Could your mic be turned away from you, just pointing in the wrong direction? Or could your mic be like nestled in the fabric of your shirt or something? I hate to make an issue out of this, but I just know you put a lot into your work and want everybody to hear it easily and naturally! I wish I could help you troubleshoot, but I know nothing about sound recording technical stuff and have given you all the "Mom" stuff I can think of. Good luck!
Hi Evie. I just bought a new set of earphones with a mic so that should improve. They are a higher quality. The low volume might be the case for a few videos since I filmed them on the same day. At some point I might redo those videos, but for now I'll leave them up. I've heard the sound is good on computers but quieter on a phone. I'm curious, are you listening on a cell phone or a computer? Would be interesting to know. Thank you. The future videos I'll post after this weekend should be better.
Debbie Mirza Hi, Debbie, glad you're working on it! :) I do everything on my Samsung Tab 4 10.1" tablet. This is the only place I've met a sound problem. I bet your new mic will help!
Just offering some input. I'm on my laptop with laptop volume at 55% and youtube player volume at about 80% and perfectly ample.
Rob S Thanks, I think she may have redone it, because now it is 100% perfect for me on the same device. Great content always, hate to miss anything.
Thank you Rob. I will post another video tomorrow about how they don't let go of us, and I'm using a new mic in that one. Would love to know if it sounds better.