STDs And Affairs: What Marriage Was Really Like In The 1900s | Love and Marriage | Absolute History
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- Опубліковано 26 бер 2024
- The institution of marriage faced serious challenges in the 20th century when World War 1 shattered the innocence of an entire generation raised by Victorian ideals of purity. When war came along and men were away for extended periods of time, marriages began to crumble and both men and women looked to find sexual fulfilment outside of their marriages, leading to STD outbreaks and affairs.
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"darling I have 25 quid will you marry me?...and so she became my fiance" has me in tears
"I don't know if I can live with you... but I know I can't live without you" 🥲
Lovely. And still choked him up after all these years. She’s a very lucky woman!
This whole thing was darling! I just loved it.
me too. It lead to an interesting ☎ conversation w/ my 88-year-old mum, a widow for 3yrs. @@LisaHouserman
The way he's suddenly back on that bench with her darling girl, all those years ago. My dad does the same thing talking about how he met my mom in 1990. :')
The man who spoiled the child of his wife’s affair is so touching. What a beautiful human he must have been
I bet he had affairs too😂,but still,he acted qiite right.
The fact his other kids knew because it’s exactly why he would be extra specially kind, that level of trust in his character.
Touching? To me it’s absolutely disgusting. See how this works? Any and everything that benefits women touches you. Why? Simply because you are a woman. Can we get any more primal and basic than this?
@@huntingfashiondolls3307 lmao and the family somehow only knew about the mom's one?
I married my husband he didn’t have to nickels to rub together, I thought, “We’ll, it can only go up from here…” This year we’re celebrating 40 wonderful years of marital bliss!
What a great attitude!!!❤❤
“I don’t know if I can live with you, but I know I can’t live without you” 😭😭😭 That’s so precious!
This is a documentary called Love and Marriage: a 20th century romance. It was made in 2012. Just in case anyone wants to watch the whole thing.
That title would make so much more sense than the one this vesion is posted with 🤦🏽♀️
Yes it was made in 2012 ...but constructed around great archive film footage of these interviews and wonderful weddings and family photos ❤
The documentary on this generation in 100 years is going to be wild 😂
Over 15,,000 nuclear weapons on a trashed planet- what documentary 100 years from now? Thank God this age has an end.
Which one? The greatest generation or the baby boomer generation? I agree that a documentary on what could be called some day as beiing only the 20th century generation for sure would be pretty wild. Instead of only say getting bored to death while having to sit through any movie made in Hollywood during that century being for example called, "Heidi" (starring Shirlety Temple).
Situationships 😂😂
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"And so everyone was just fucking..."
It's so refreshing to hear stories about happy marriages, with devoted husbands and wives who didn't feel trapped in the post-war era. People have found each other since the dawn of time, so they must exist.
Absolutely. Life is beautiful 🥹.
Yeah but it's too bad that it seems nobody is really wiling to work things out together anymore and even when considering dating you get slapped with these very unlikely to happen stigma's of "you should at least earn 6 figures" or "you should be above 6 foot"
Lol! Yeah... the lady cheating and the other lady wanting to run away, but only staying because she had nowhere else to go is definitely the good ol' happy marriage.
I worked in a nursing home in my early 20s as a nurse tech. There was an elderly lady I took care of who had scars on her private areas. The RN in charge later told me that when the lady was in her early twenties she tried to give herself a homemade abortion with a turkey baster and household cleaner. The woman had been married since she was 14yo and already had several children by the time she was 24 and was widowed. She spent her adult life incontinent after the incident. Her unmarried sister helped take care of her and the children until they were grown. She had her sister had taken part in the women's rights movement in the 60s and 70s.
That was the beginning of learning history through the eyes of those who actually lived it, not just from school books. The few years I spent working in that nursing home was when I started finding out that those "good ole days" weren't so good for so many people. Only a very few had romances or simi happy lives like the ones mentioned in here.
No good comes from romanticizing the horrors of the past. If we stay ignorant of it, we (humanity) will never learn from our past mistakes and we will be doomed to repeat them.
Many people had happy lives hun… we are taught in school that people were miserable so we will not respect their knowledge or follow what their example looks like………..
I love the lady that said honestly she didn't want all of those kids but brought them up anyways. 😂 Honest as the day is long! But she loved them anyways and did what she had to do. That's a real parent right there.
My aged parents passed away earlier this year, shortly after their 75th anniversary.
They always looked happy, always smiling at each other, and giving each other little presents. I think I only heard them argue twice during all their time together.
My sister celebrated her 50th earlier this month. Still looking strong and happy.
Rare, but nice. My parents, grandparents, great-grandparents all had long marriages and as far as I know they were faithful. I could see that none of them were blissfully happy though. I certainly heard many fights of my parents. I could see that my grandparents may be having a fight later but the only thing I ever saw myself was some disrespect and some tension and snapping at each other but I didn't live with them. My sister is married but I can't say happy is the word for that marriage. My brother is fairly newly married so seems happy but he certainly does not wear the pants in that marriage. I believe it should be more equal to be happy but if he's happy and that works for him that is his choice. Whatever as long as he is happy.
I worked in a retirement community and there were two married couples, one of whom made it 70 years before the husband passed. They always came down for dinner together and it was just so lovely seeing them consult the menu together. After he passed I overheard her tell another resident "it's too bad we couldn't go together." 💔
The other couple were lovely in a different way. The wife was bedridden but the husband still came down for every meal and ordered hers to bring up with him. He was VERY precise in his order and knew exactly how she would want everything. You'd bring him the food and put it on his walker and he'd take it up after thoroughly inspecting it for quality.
@@once.upon.a.time. Exactly. So many commenters have skewed views of marriage and love because they can only see what they themselves experienced.
They can’t see how happy people can live together faithfully for 3/4 of a century.
True love isn’t about being together only while everyone is young, strong and mobile.
My parents had a 62 year long love affair that only ended with my father’s passing. I heard them disagree occasionally, but never scream or yell at each other. My Dad treated my Mom as his Queen, and my Mom dearly loved my Dad … they were great role models for us kids, and we’re all smart enough to know that we had fabulous parents.
@@Trapper_Creek_2024 That’s awesome. We were blessed, and we know it.
I certainly do not blame any woman for not wanting 10-15 children! I have never wanted that many! I am not a baby factory and that takes a huge toll on a woman's body. Plus, all the time and work raising that many kids! Nobody these days could even afford that many children.
Women needed those 15 kis, just to ensure 8 will make it to adulthood, and the sons were mandated t take care of the aged parents. Life was not as easy as 21st century back in the day.
It is certainly hard to afford I am one of 11 children and although it’s a struggle your family becomes the most amazing part of your life and there is so much warmth and love surrounding you it’s so beautiful and i just know my parents are going to have us all there when they are on their deathbed
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I knew one family with 15 kids-yeah it was tough and she was starved looking and said maybe we had too many-but they loved eachother and their family and were happy
No, MEN needed those 15 children. Not the woman.@@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115
When I got married I was in for a rude awakening because I grew up thinking that couples didn’t argue, or fight. My parents never did any of that, not even in private. They just thought that sort of thing was unnecessary, and “foolishness “.
“messing about in London” is a great euphemism!
So I thought too
I was not expecting such a heartfelt, loving, documentary recapping personal stories from the title. I am so happy I watched though.
I was in love the first time I saw my wife we were 14 then we're 24 now and celebrating our first anniversary as a married couple
I met my husband on the school bus in 1998. Still together in 2024 and actually happier than ever. I never hear about couples my age being together for long periods of time. Its sad to me.
This is the same time frame my husband and I met- In high-school, Became friends , later dated then married.
This is the same time frame my husband and I met. In 98, became friends, Later dated and then married. We are still married 1 child.
44 married 22 years . Together 24
28 years with my wife , yet i am only 43 she is 44
@@zone_Magazine_reporter We are 41 and 42!
no one raised on a farm is "innocent of the basic facts of life" unless they were confined to the closet
In those days girls and women were not allowed near breeding stock. So it is quite possible that women had no clue about sex. Both my mother and I grew up this way.
You would think not, but my husband was raised on a farm and was clueless.
I've listened to stories from people in strict Amish like groups on the UA-cam channel cults to consciousness. There are several cases I've heard so far where boys knew of course how animals reproduced but were shocked and disgusted when they found out (usually close to their wedding) that human beings reproduced in the same way.
With the title I didn't realize how emotional this documentary would make me. Deep love and appreciation is the sweetest thing 🥹
My mother had one boyfriend in her entire life, and that was my father.
They met in 1955 and were married in 1959.
They were together until my fathers death in January of 2020.
My mother tried hard to go it alone, but I think she died of a broken heart.
In June 2021.
They were a great example. Both me and my husband and I do not believe in divorce.
We have been each other's best friend and lover since 1983 we married in August of 1985.
I would say its easy not to believe in divorce when a marriage is a good marriage. I would also say 99.9% of people don't believe in divorce either when they are about to enter into marriage.
But when one spouse relentlessly cheats on their partner during the entire marriage, or is abusive to their spouse and/or the children necessitating a divorce, at that point "not believing in divorce" goes out the window as survival instincts enter the equation.
@@LadyOrion2012Agreed... Just don't say the vows of "For better or worse, till death do us part" unless you absolutely mean it and intend to follow through on what you promised before God.
@@dariusx4829what does god have to do with a man made concept such as marriage?
@@aivlysplathOn the contrary, a true sacramental marriage is the metaphysical joining of one man with one woman. There are, of course, many counterfeits. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.
@@LadyOrion2012Through thick and thin. I imagine after 30-40 years of marriage, they have been through trials and tribulations. If someone says they don't believe in divorce, regardless of the shape of their marriage, then they don't believe in divorce. They fought through the bad times to get to the good times. Hopefully OP has never experienced infidelity or abuse at the hands of their spouse, but who knows. We can't discount those that do not believe in divorce.
"Stupid, but I'd do it again." I can only imagine Dorothy's exasperation with John when he told that story about risking his life fir her photo. But it would also feel so flattering. I know my fiance would do something like that in a heartbeat. I love him, although I do sometimes wonder how he's still alive.
Far too many men today expect you to have sex with them after they have said maybe one or two sentences to you! Usually online no less, not even in person! It's fully disgusting!
It’s actually really odd and seems indicative of psychosis. And I’m not sex negative! There’s just such a huge difference between being a “player” and going out and flirting and matching with people and seeing who find most attractive and who you have sparks with the beat, then taking them home….. and this supremely bizarre new thing you’re describing. Why are men expecting sex……. Before even meeting? It’s literally like ordering a call girl….. except the women doesn’t even get paid! And she also didn’t know she was a call girl. What’s going on.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 I said the same thing. Some of these men seem a little possessed by their sexual urges tbh. It’s kinda scary 👀…
Exactly what is going on in these dating apps!
And many in their 20’s…between porn and hookups… are totally dead inside and cannot get erections.
That's why you don't have it. It's a good test. Plus they won't respect you if you sleep with them immediately
After watching my parents, and grandparents I felt all I wanted was to be a wife, and mom. So I got married at 16, and had a baby. Unfortunately my then husband was not suitable for settling down, or maintaining a job. My next husband was much more committed, and we’ve been married over 41 years!
I guess I wasn’t meant to be married in this life. Can’t even imagine what a happy, enduring relationship would be like.
This was so touching! I loved all of the couples and their recollections. This is the kind of documentary that ought to be shown in schools and colleges as part of History class.
This is one of the best documentaries I've seen in a long time. Being in my thirties..wandering what went wrong in my generation, this was very enlightening & beautiful!! I've never been married but engaged now. I waited til later in life but couldn't be happier!! I just hope our outcome is til death do us part! Thank you for this gem of history!!
Maybe , nothing went “ wrong “. Maybe they were realistic , commuted and chose to be faithful?
@@kellyTaylor-uv3co oh in my generation too much is wrong!! But thanks for your input!
The children just petting the pigeon like it's a normal pet 😂🐦
lol yea that did look funny. Highly recommended though! Bailey Sarien’s dark history episode on pigeons, apparently they’re quite domesticated
Unwanted children are so sad. 😞😞😞😞😞 it w life of torture. These poor women. Also poor unwanted children. What a horrid existence. Thank god for contraception and planned parenthood.
There are no unwanted children. There are numerous husbands/wives who have been trying to adopt for years. Our extended family includes many children who were adopted; and more couples are on the list to adopt.
some parents can’t handle to many kids…they werent able to not have them so they were mean mofos . alkies.
@@situzen185 there are unwanted children. Millions of them.
And tons of unwanted BIRTHS. You actually aren’t entitled to children at the expense of another person’s bodily autonomy. Women are not your automaton broodmare slaves for you to use for your dream of tons of kids (which you clearly can’t raise to be intellectually sound humans.)
You know how you can’t just take out my kidney even if you need one desperately to live if I don’t consent? I mean…. You could. But that would be considered evil and ghoulish and a disgusting crime?
Yeah that’s the same as feeling entitled to the use of a woman’s body for a pregnancy she doesn’t want to suffer all to make sure you have too many kids, none of which you can teach basic logic to.
Maybe investigate why you think women’s bodies are up for use despite their lack of consent.
If sexual assault and abuse are bad…… think of how much worse forced birth is.
YOU ARE NOT OWED CHILDREN. You are not owed children at the expense of a person’s bodily autonomy.
The idea of being okay with children being on earth at the expense of their mothers bodily autonomy is INSANE.
How evil can you be? Do you not understand epigenetic trauma? Do you not understand the effects of maternal pre-natal stress on brain development?
You are not owed babies at the expense of other people’s bodies and well being!
Ghoul!
@situzen185 not every child gets adopted. My grandfather was a victim of this in the 40s
Today my parents celebrate their 65th anniversary. Next month they will be 92 and 90, hopefully!
Wonderfully presented 😊 the title is not doing it justice
My father received a dear john letter when he was in Europe during WWII. He always loved her she never married. My Dad married my mom when he was 49 years old and they only knew each other 1 week before they got married. They stayed married until my Mother’s death even though she was 14 years younger.
This documentary was so touching. It makes me want to go hug my husband and be a better wife so we can be married for a lifetime! It is so rough nowadays but there is nothing more precious than a strong and loving family. Hard work that pays off.
Are the misleading titles on purpose? 😅 not what I expected but so much better. The first hand accounts were delightful
I Loved Watching This From Beginning Too The End😊It Was So Interesting & Knowledgeable About These Time Thanks For Sharing❤
I did not expect to start crying 1 minute in come on now!! I’m only married two years to my husband but he’s my best friend and love of my life. We are already going through hardships but still more in love than ever.
Of course, women couldn't have jobs, own property, or even open bank accounts, which has nothing to do with people staying together. 🙄
Exactly. When my grandmother talked about her only way of lashing out at my grandfather was to go to the shops and run up a huge bill because he legally had to pay it... yeah it was not a happy marriage.
And when a woman was abandoned, which did sometimes happen back then, she and any kids often ended in poverty and were treated horribly and shamed. I know this from stuff that happened in my family. When you lucked into a respectful partner, it worked, as it would now. But many people were stuck in abusive situations without the alternatives they would have today.
My husband asked for my father's permission to marry me 2 days after our first date. On our second, less than a month later, he proposed. 10 months after meeting, we were married. I've been a homemaker, mending clothes, creating new ones, feeding him well, and keeping the house in order. I couldn't be happier. A lot of these women speaking about their husbands made me tear up since they reminded me of mine.
Love your channel thanks for another great video! Keep up the great work!
I'm surprised that you didn't touch on the imbalance in the ratio of men to women in Britain, particularly after both wars. This caused a major behavioral and societal shift with women becoming more aggressive in their pursuit of boyfriends and husbands. Also men were able to have multiple partners, which women sometimes tolerated as long as they were the main squeeze.
During WWII, the British government seeing the massive number of single women and the potential for social upheaval (~2M), actively encouraged the Canadian & American troops to socialize with British women and provided social events to facilitate the development of relationships. The Military Comanders provided instructions to their North American troops on social and dating etiquette in Britain, to assist with these pairings.
1:03 It’s so sweet how choked up this man got talking about his wedding purposel.
I love this series! Can’t wait for more.
What a beautiful retelling 🙏🏻❤️
Great video !!
That image of the bridge missing a support is so touching. 😢❤
Super interesting social background commentary.. well done, thanks
There’s no need to make a clickbait title. The documentary is interesting in and of itself
Love this video. The people are so real.
What a perfect example of life and love!! I fell in love with love again and I didn't think that would ever be possible! What a great documentary, thank you!
I LOVED THIS DOCUMENTARY❤
My grandparents were Married late 1957 . You could pretty much say it was arranged 😉 My grandmother being the 3rd daughter was very sheltered my Great grandparents were very religious. His older brothers once courted her older sisters ( but ended up marrying other people🤦🏾♀️ 🤷🏾♀️) My Gran wasnt allowed to date all through Highschool until her junior year when she was introduced to him ( my grand dad is 6 years her senior) He came from a good back ground and well to do family ( they own alot of land and businesses) . He was allowed to court my Granny through her senior year of high school ( chaperoned ) He took her to her senior Prom and then they were married 3 mos after she graduated My mom was born in 58 " Still Married 😊 .
Wonderful documentary…thanks
Very moving. Thank you.
This was a great show, I enjoyed it.
It wasn't about STDs and affairs, though.. 🤔
I enjoyed watching this video about marriages that stood the test of time and the couples were happy.
Fabulous documentary 👏 ❤
Marriage was about children, friendship, and commitment.
Love is love. I was prepared to be critical of this naive intro about marriage, but love is strong. It’s refreshing & honest. I love this…getting through tough times with honest love. I guess I’m a romantic deep down…I forgot that I am, haha!
Marriage is choosing the person you married every single day.
This was quite a beautiful documentary ❤
Such hardships created a generation of lovely, wonderful people ❤
I do wish dating was more like back then. I would love to be married and a homemaker ❤
Thanks!
This was absolutely beautiful.
I use to hate history but now i love it because of uou
Aww 🫂 welcome. So much to learn from these. It's disheartening to see so many of the same mistakes made in society simply because we never looked at and learned from the past.
People stayed together regardless though in many cases. Most of my friends didn't make it past the 10 year mark.
I feel blessed that I was so lucky to work things out with my dearest friend.
Marriage is a beautiful union where two souls come together in love and commitment. A wedding is a celebration of this union, filled with joy, laughter, and promises of a lifetime together. It is a day to cherish, surrounded by family and friends, creating memories that will last forever.
Lovely stories!
With that said, I'm SO glad my folks couldn't choose/influence who my spouse is. What an absolute nightmare!
I am an old fashioned gal. I was born at the wrong time. It is difficult to find a true traditional man nowadays. They say that they are traditional, but they aren't.
Really sweet stories about families. My parents were both shellshocked WWII survivors who targeted me.
Excellent nostalgia
What a masterpiece
So romantic, and they were so strong. Perfect!
Thanks
STD. Seriously Tremendous Dedication.
Спасибо, очень познавательно, стараюсь смотреть каждое ваше видео
Diana has the most lovely violet eyes!! They never did get around to talking about STDs in marriage
I love that gentleman telling about his wife when he met her from the train and the 25 quid. We have cheapened many things today.
"You feel complete" this is how I feel after 20 years of mariage and I only hope my two boys and my girl will get to feel the same.
I gasped when Tony got married! 😯
The title isn't fitting but in hindsight I'm glad it didn't. It's a very interesting and eye opening documentation on how different every every generation looks towards work, family and love. My great grandparents are from that age and my still living grandmother was 5 when the 2nd worldwar started in my country. She always has lots of stories about her past but this documentary explains why they were doing things that way. Very nice and I'm kinda interested if there's documentaries about the 1850-1900 and my parents/my generation 1960-1990 like this one to follow up.
This title is click bait, need a new title. The documentary was educational.
Its a shame that lady didnt find her husband attractive or sexually appealing. He looks like an above average looking person, right. My goodness.
Isnt it kind that he was good to the little girl. And think about it, the other man may not have done the same at all. Children like her are at risk.
Just got divorced a few months ago, her choice! This video is how i took marriage, till death do you part. Its hard to find that nowadays.
For better or worse, but... If this person divorced you, you could do better. Hang in there.
@@Subfightr Thanks! I'm trying.🙂
@@shannonharrison7711I’m sorry. I’m sure you’ll find love again soon.
Yes, it certainly is! It's nice to know that some men are still decent. I haven't really ever dated a man that wanted to be a husband and father! Save for one when I was 18-25 but he was a drunk and I caught him cheating. Sadly, it has only been downhill from there when I thought it would be uphill. I was so very wrong!
Your pain will still be raw yet in time you will realize that there is something better in store for you, someone better for you. I wish you much joy
Important information, but so sad. Can’t continue reading.
My grandmother got married at 15, and had 13 children that survived to adulthood. She’d work at home getting all the chores done, then she’d go help my grandfather in the fields. They were married over 50 years!
I know this is a long shot, but does anyone know the name of the instrumental saxophone and strings song that plays at the very end??
I'm not crying, you're crying. 😅😢 happy tears though. These couples were very sweet. I did feel so sorry for the lady that lost Tony. RIP to so many soldiers who gave their lives.
These stories made me cry kids today think,they have it so hard they know nothing
My own mom had cancer and had every child God gave her. That's eight all together.
Omg that one lady is like Mrs. Doubtfire irl
what's the name of this doc?
In the beginning it said it was a three part series where is part two and three?
Since the video was released only a few days ago, I guess the other parts are still under construction
All the interviews are lovely, but Hetty? Oh my stars, I *adore* her!
I crieddd the whole timeee. L'amourrrr est éternalllll. C'est çaaaaa 💖😭🙏🤌❤️🔥🥰
Interesting. I cant wait to hear about love in 60 and 70 so the changes can be gauged.
The man describing the way his wife smelled 🥹😭
I enjoyed but way to many ads
Both my grandmothers had a child out of wedlock in the late 1930s, one in the US, one in Germany, so plenty of women were having fun outside of marriage. Or maybe it's just British prudishness. They did, by the way, get married and raised families, but they reaped some hay while the sun was out.
No doubt many marriages were like some of the ones shown here: despair over too many children. However, I know for a fact that there were marriages who welcomed every child even though they were far from financial security. This may have been for religious reasons or simply because they genuinely loved having a large family. But they did exist. Some people thoroughly enjoy the constant activity, laughter, fun, chaos, and even confusion in the home that many children bring.
I was born in the wrong time.
Me too!
My aged parents passed away earlier this year, shortly after their 75th anniversary. They always looked happy, always smiling and giving each other little presents.
Agreed me to ❤
You were born in exactly the season God had planned for you. Take a stand!
Yes, it sure would be nice to never have the displeasure of men sending you dick pics and expecting sex from you immediately! Dating while still more than this obviously, was less awful for me in high school and college than it has been as an adult. I was in a relationship that was love at first sight for us both from 18-25. We planned on getting married and the only problem we had was his drinking. That eventually ruined it. The new dating scene at 25/26 was rather shocking to me and it has only continued to get worse! I knew I'd hate online dating and I was not wrong! Ugh. I was trying to explain it to my 92 year old grandfather and he said he understood. That he could tell that men were not like they used to be and many were "greaseballs". I laughed and said yes, that it putting it mildly! He made me promise to not marry a greaseball lol. I agreed and told that is exactly why I'm not married yet!
No such thing. Enjoy your time here and make the of it as you'd like to, being very kind to yourself and others!
One half of them do last a lifetime ♥️
Well, whatever was going on, then is certainly better than what's going on today!
For some people sure. But not the many women trapped in abusive or harmful marriages with no way of leaving cause they couldn't even have a bank account.
How lol
One of my biggest embarrassments is not having a union, i life partner. Never could have imagined my self to be a wretch. Deeply humiliating.