Did you enjoy? Thanks for watching! It was last Thursday when I recorded myself. And then while I was editing this video, I got to be curious and wanted to get more opinions from Korean people. At first I thought about interviewing my friends/acquaintances like other youtubers do, but this dating issue could be sensitive to some people, so I decided to make anonymous questions. I had opened this questions 2 days till Saturday, and 103 people answered. I really want to say thank them for helping me out. As I mentioned in video, please be noticed that the chart in this video is not from any formal survey, but from the 103 answers. I didn't do any additional statistic work to these samples. Therefore, it's NOT accurate statistic works, or people who answered my questions are not representing every Korean's thinking. It took lots of time recording/questioning/editing this video, I really hope you guys enjoy and have fun!
SoulofSol 한솔 I live in Finland and I do not know that many people that live together but are'nt married but I think it is that almost everyone where I live are strict christians so that makes it different :)
Ah, one of my favorite topics covered, so I had to contribute. The way Finnish dating is described here is pretty accurate. In Finland, (and in many other Western countries), there is a dating period, where people go on dates and get to know each other both on emotional and physical levels. I can only speak for myself, but I think quite many Finns need to get to know their partner also on the physical level before becoming a couple. This means there will be hugs, kissing and sex during the dating period. According to what I've read, Finns consider sex as an important part of a relationship, so most likely want to see how the physical compatibility works before becoming a real couple. Also how Finns become a couple is an interesting topic. I think I will make a video about that myself later. Anyways, this video explained well the fundamentals of the dating culture. I was surprised how similar the Korean dating is to Japanese dating. In Japan they have also group dating (合コン goukon) and confession (告白 kokuhaku), which work just like in Korea.
like if u go to a park and there is some women playing footback. you go and play with them. and next day you may have a call that one of those girls are locked in their own apartment. some kind of lock issues with her door and i have to go to help
In Finland it is still preferred to marry but no one judge you if you get child outside of marriage, also government systems recognize couple living together without marriage and kids who born outside of marriage get enough social benefits so mother can survive with kids without husband. So it is not any kind of risk to have kids outside of marriage, which can be problem on some cultures.
Freezed Eve if I'm not married but have kids with a man in Finland, would I be entitled to spousal support and half of the assets if we were to separate? How would a "divorce" work if the relationship fails??
spousal support is not a thing in Finland, parents has to pay child support for those kids who live only on one parent, but you can have arrangement where kids live half time on mother and other half on father. If you live together without marriage and your relations ship breaks up you split only assets which have been accumulated during relationship. Same can be on marriage if you do marriage settlement before marriage, so it is not usually business in Finland for women to marry and break up with rich guys.
As a finnish person, it's so amazing to see your own perspective on finnish culture and on many other issues. I'm really interested in the korean culture and your videos help me realize more of korean and finnish culture differences. btw you're really pretty!!
Ahhh my day got so much better after seeing your video! As a Finn, I guess I could say Tinder is used for both serious relationships and one night stands haha :D if you're interested, it would be amazing to get a comparison video between Finnish and Korean beauty ideals!
Yeah many people live years together, without marrying. They are just like any other families, but without formalization and marriage ceremony. And yeah they have kids just like any other family, it doesn't really make any diffence otherwise except legally.
I think in Finland there are just no rules, like some people like old school rules some like to keep things open. I think the best thing is to determine together what you wanna do and what you like. Every rs is so different, I think it works the best if you talk what you feel. For me I dont' like any games, I wanna be honest about my feelings so I know where we're going. And I don't even date more than one person at a time, I wanna see one path through before I look for another. I wanna focus on one person and give them/us a fair shot. For me marriage would be nice, but I wanna maybe live separately for a long time and then move togetehr after 10y. I don't want any kids, I just wanna go to adventures together and enjoy ourselves
From my experience usually couples hook up in parties, bars or festivals and go to an actual date after that in Finland. So its drinking together, possible sex and then a date after that, its a bit upside down. As for how long until they marry, theres no rules in Finland for that. Some people stay as "friends with benefits", some people stay engaged but never marry, some couples get married and get kids almost immediatly. Some people can stay as online friends for years until they finally meet and end up in bed together after hazy drunken night in a bar, like what happened with me and my last ex. There is no society pressure either way.
In Norway, mostly, you find someone when youre out partying, take them home, sleep together, and then you start dating. Many of my forign friends find this very hard because you wouldnt say to a norwegian "do you want to go on a date with me?". I think most norwegians would find that kind of awkward. Instead, you go and have a beer, often after you have slept together, and if you do that enough, one day maybe youll become a couple. This is of course not how it goes everytime, but dating culture in Norway is kind of confusing, even to norwegian people. And also, norwegians often tend to not say what they really feel (a term we call "gå rundt grøten" - "to walk around the porrige"), so if you ask a norwegian on a date and theyre not interested, they would say something like "That sounds nice, but Im really busy, so ill just tell you when im avalible, okay? :) :) " and then you never hear from them again. And again, this is not how it always goes down, but a lot of times this is how it is.
I am from Finland but I am actually half finnish and half russian and i have two way older russian sisters. Older one lives in Russia and other in Finland, Kuopio. Older sister had another man when I was born and she was even married to him and they lived together but then they broke up. When I was three, she got a baby for a different man and she and the man lived together. And they still live. But they got married only after like 11years of dating and living together :D My other sister was also engaged but her man took the ring in my christening. Then she found a new man and lived with him few years and got married and has now two kids :D
Very interesting! I appreciate how you actually made a survey and all! Also, your acting was hilarious :D I wonder what lip product you used though? I couldn't help but notice that the colour as gorgeous~
I live in Finland, and I met my boyfriend in tinder. He was the only one I actually even met 😅 and 4 of my friends have also met their boyfriends through dating apps 😊 so I would say that many Finns are looking for serious relationship in tinder 😃
Serious stats, Hansol, and well structured observations! The contrasts seem valid to me. Finnish culture still fascinates me even though I have see it everyday, I think that has something to do with the nature being fairly stark and invariant compared to warmer, wetter countries. I appreciate that share your views. It supports expats in understanding where they are! ;-)
Hum, regarding getting children outside marriage. I don't know about Finland. But in Norway most first time mothers are *not* married but they generally *are* living together with a man, however for the *second* child it is more common to be married. Basically marriage isn't seen as a requirement for getting children at all. Instead marriage is just another step progressing the relationship itself, announcing that the two of you intend to spend the rest of your lives together to your friends and family.
+Rae Costello - lol! If you're trolling, it's a pretty good one, I must say... ;) Anyways, in my opinion this is fairly common in most Nordic countries - I live in another one than Finland, but I see it all the time here. For instance, my best friends parents were living together, with children, for 21 years before they married!! Now, that's unusually long, but I do know multiple others were they were also together for a very long time before they got married. One has to remember that divorce-statistics is pretty high in nordic countries, and also that individualism has become a very, very strong sociopolitical factor in theses countries, the last few decades - as such, people here are very careful before they truly commit their entire lives to a partner. I happen to agree with this as well - one should not marry unless one is absolutely certain! And one cannot be certain before one knows the other person inside and outside - almost every secret and flaw fully revealed... then, and only then, will you truly know if you can be together for the rest of your lives.
+Rae Costello getting married isn't that important to people in the Nordics, especially since marriage is usually related to something religious and people in the north aren't big for showing their religion, if they are part of any in the first place that is. Also in many places people get married often for financial security etc. which is not necessary in the Nordics.
OKAY I JUST NOTICED I TOTALLY READ THE SENTENCE COMPLETELY WRONG. I thought she was talking about a couple where the girl was 14 and the boy 11 and THESE TWO had two kids. Also I too live in Finland so no need for the cultural education about how marriage is here, kiitti kuitenkin.
+Rae Costello Well your original comment wasn't exactly clear about that, nor is your username very Finnish, so it's not to be unexpected for people to not guess what you were talking about :)
I feel marriage is not a big deal in Finland. My parents met when they were 20 years old. They had 2 children (me and my sister) when they were 30. They finally married at the age of 50 and only invited me and my sister to the "wedding".
I think the Korean way sounds much better/practical. I have heard many people saying how it is hard to find the right one when the whole dating scene is basically for one-night stands, and many end up breaking up after moving together in short time. Dating is actually very interesting topic especially these days, because we are more connected than ever, and at the same time it seems finding partner is harder than ever too. Similar people are not able to find each other. If only I studied social science (or whatever it is called) I could dig deeper into this topic. :P
I really enjoyed this video and it was great to hear more opinions from Koreans, even though it wasn't a formal survey. My boyfriend is Korean, and I definitely noticed some differences when we first started dating. I'm not sure about other Finnish/Korean couples, but my boyfriend is very affectionate, which I like, don't get me wrong, but most Finnish people are very shy, so when he starts going like "자기야 노무 노무 좋아" and calling me pretty and cute, I feel like hiding under a blanket ㅋㅋㅋ maybe it's different with Finnish guy/Korean girl couples, I'd be interested to hear, but I don't know anyone else who is in a relationship with a Korean (man or woman) anyway, good video! 화이팅! 💪🏻
Oh, it's interesting to hear that 😮I know several Finn-Korean Couples, but they are all Finn guy and Korean girl couple. Never seen the other way. I'd love to hear more stories from you XD!
SoulofSol 한솔 we just recently started dating, so I'm sure we'll have more stories to tell too. This is a bit of learning experience for both of us, but we're excited to see how this goes. I'd be happy to share my thoughts with you in the future 😊
Oh wow! I'm currently seeing a Chinese guy, and he is also so affectionate! I like it so much, but I'm not used to it, so I find it kind of hard to respond well enough sometimes. Sometimes I feel like he thinks I might not like him as much as he does because I don't remember telling him how much I appreciate him or how handsome he is haha. This is interesting!
I wish I could tell you about what the dating culture is like in Sweden... but I'm really not part of it. That's not to say I haven't dated people before, because I have. I just know what it's like for me, and things just progressed quite naturally. I've also experienced living together with someone else. I've met girls through friends we've had in common and through... various ways actually. One from Facebook, just threw together a message... I say that, but I probably spent 15-20 minutes on it to make sure I didn't somehow sound like a creep, because I only had good intentions and actually didn't even seek contact with the person. I merely wanted to send a nice message to someone I thought was really pretty, but I got a reply, and she even initiated a conversation through it. We were together for about 2 years, but things didn't work out, so that's that. We still sometimes talk to each other, but there are no feelings involved. I don't know if her current boyfriend knows about it or not, but considering her personality, he probably does and is fine with it as long as it's not excessive. I'd totally be fine with it if he said we're not allowed to talk to each other, as I wish for her relationship to work out... okay, I'm rambling. So yeah, ways I've met people, friends in common, common interests, through forums, through school. Basically anything goes, but one has to be careful if meeting through the Internet. It's hard to say what's best, because I don't think there's any one best way. You either find a suitable person or you don't. I know that many friends have met girls at parties and through friends. Some met each other at school and ended up dating for a long time, some even getting married and having kids. Some met at workplaces. I know one couple who met through a game, and they are still going strong, I think this is their 10th or 11th year together. Long story short, Sweden seems pretty similar to Finland. We are neighbouring countries, and Finland used to be part of Sweden for quite a long time, so I wouldn't be surprised if just about everything else is similar too. Both countries are among the top consumers of both coffee and salty liquorice (salmiak/saltlakrits/salmiakki) so there certainly are similarities in habits.
Lol, In Poland (I'm talking about what i heard from my friends) Mostly is the same as Finnish way to date. Few of my friends have kids without marriage, or had marriage right after having kids. Of course there are couples that have it "traditional" way, like dating, engagement, marriage and then kids (they are the minority in my surroundings). I was also using tinder myself, to find a date, but sadly, most of people there wants one night stands, so I deleted the app(after many fails xD ). But I would like to mention that I know few couples that met through tinder and they are together for really long time.
I think in Finland we use Tinder to find serious relationships a lot. I have met a lot of couples that have found each other from some dating app, like Tinder. Good video💗👍
in sweden before you call someone your boyfriend or girlfriend you get to know eachother and hang out for perhaps a long time a few months meaby before you hold hands or hug, yes meaby hugging as a friend but not more. and if you start dating with someone your not boyfriend and girlfriend right away instead you be together for a while to get to know eachother =)
Personally, I do not see much 'dating culture' here in Finland :-) That is just my experience. perhaps it has now changed via internet and dating apps, where one can find short-term (or even long-term)company... Most people I know just begun to hang out... happens often with the help of alcohol!! As a believing Christian, I don't believe that too much physical contact before marriage is a good idea. There should be attraction, obviosly. and the man should make his intentions clear. Sadly, what often happens, the guys keeps on giving unclear signals, hoping for some encouragement from her.. and the uncommitted situation can go on for years... That is why there are so many singles here.
Over 2 year relationship from Tinder 😁 Moved together 6 months after we started dating, and now we're moving even bigger apartment! We've talked about marriage, kids etc but as ironic it sounds, we're not in hurry and only time will tell when those will happen.
My brother and two friends of mine have started dating after chatting in tinder. They might not ever met their girlfriend/boyfriend without it. I also have one cousin who met his girlfriend in online chat in suomi24. I know alot of couples living together and having kids before marrying. My parents had my sister and brother before marrying and they also lived together before too. It would be great if we had these meeting things too, since after graduating it's almost impossible to meet anyone somewhere else than tinder or bars...
영상 잘 보고 있어요! :) 어렸을 적부터 해외에 살아서 한국문화도 궁금했고 핀란드도 신비한(?) 느낌이 들어서 좋았는데 그런 차이점이..ㅎㅎ (전 개인적으로 쪼끔 충격적이네요 ㅎㅎ 관계를 확실히 하지 않고도 계속 사귄다니..) 핀란드에서 남친 사귀어보신적 있으시면 그 얘기도 해주셨음 좋겠네요ㅎㅎ
Something common in both cultures. People think too much. Edit:...think too much while being affected by emotions. Emotional thinking gets personal, which might cause unnecessary stress. People often make hasty judgements when they are stressed. Not only in relationships. In everyday life.
First thought: You have such beautiful brown eyes! Second thought: You seem like a cool girl. Imma subscribe cause I'm interested in both Korea and FInland, this will be interesting. Third thought: You're funny (the hug edit, lol) Fourth thought: Oh my damn you remind me of Lee Sung-kyung so much! (I absolutely love her as an actress btw (plus she's gorgeous!)) Fifth thought: I should stop listing these and watch on, haha.
Ha.. I have been dating a Korean girl, perhaps soon to be wife, for 6 soon 7 years. Interesting to hear her words, and our conversations coming from you. I have met her brother and mother while visiting Soul once, and her mother and friend visited Finland once. During this time (short-notice) I had to delete my existence from our apartment (lived together 4 years) and find another place to stay during this time. In the first few years we worked and traveled together in order to be able to "hide" our relationship, but damn it - it is good with a home :D I have never met her father with whom I and he have no common language. I've been looking into something called an "ili-translator" - but this is off topic. SoulofSSol drew very nice parallels between the quite dense and competitive Korean society and the other side sparse Finland, where there are social benefits to start your life and where the education system is designed so that you reach your fullest potential and to become a contributing member of society. Koreans way of thinking and core values - in friends, lovers and life, are very similar between the people. Even though the society is so very different. There are of course big cultural barriers that can cause confusion but if you look past that you will get to see very honest and caring people with similar ideals and values. Very nice videos :) Ahn Yeong Haseyo! :)
I personally met my husband in school 14 years ago, but approached him after he had graduated at a festival we were both attending. We dated for 3,5 years, moved in togetger and then lived together over 8yrs before marrying (btw we got married in Korea 2016 ;) as our plan to "elope"). I know few steady couples at the moment who now live together and ll who have met through Tinder so I guess it works out like that too :)
I find your videos really interesting and informative! Thank you ^^ I am a Finnish university student studying in London, majoring in Korean and Politics. For the past semester I have been studying Korean language as well as Korean culture, which both are extremenly interesting. My interest in Korea has lasted for a long time and I've done quite a lot of research already so I guess that's why I seem to be familiar with some of the points you're making. But the most exciting part is that I will be spending my next school year in Seoul! Therefore, I was wondering, what are some of the things you've found foreign people (especially Finnish people) do that you find rude or weird, and how should they be avoided? Also, what are your thoughts on the age culture in Korea? One thing I'm nervous about when I go there is, how to adress people and how quickly it is acceptable to use 반말 with people your age or lower.
My brother is a weird example of finnish relationship: Relationship 14-15 years ago(I might remember wrong), living together from 12 years ago, first baby 3 years ago, engaged 2 years ago, second baby 1 year ago. And no marriage yet :D
I like the formal structure in Korean dating you describe. In the nordic countries I get the feeling there are no social structures, and there is no formally accepted ways to go about finding someone. No concept of dating, no blind dates, no friends matching friends etc... It feels like it is "just supposed to happen" without any protocol around it, and then once it does, there is less commitment, and more fuzzy lines... In short simply complete anarchy. Not to mention that in many cases, northeners are too timid, stiff, or introverted to be approachable for dating unless they are drunk... I much prefer the Korean way.
@@SoulofSol We need this in Norway. My imoression is that even thou Koreans are equally timid or reserved, there is the understanding that a larger amount of structure is needed to guide the process, and a shared appriciation that such social structures benefit the reserved. Norwegians on the other hand have removed any such guiding structure, and rely on alcohol as the social catalyst for human intimacy... haha
My two friends are in serious relationships with guys they found in Tinder. One has been with her boyfriend almost 3 years and another over a year. The latter is already planning to move in the same appartment with her boyfriend. And yes we are all Finns and about to graduate from high school (lukio). (우리가 1999년생이에요.) I personally don't want to use Tinder cos I think the possibility of finding a fuckboy is very high. Well another friend of mine uses Tinder for "friends with benefits" purposes so yeah :D
Us Fins do not really have culture when it comes to dating. Anything goes, except cheating. Nothing really changes when you become couple, or get married. Just a formal announcement to others. When it comes to hooking up, most girls in Finland look for better than what they are(point system includes looks/wealth).
In Finland Tinder is super popular. It varies, but many use it for both sex and real relationships. Actually my bff is getting married soon and she met her man on Tinder :D but they are a really cute and perfect couple, so I might wanna try because I've seen how it can work for true love. I have had the best dates from shadier apps and sites, I guess it is just pure luck that many people go there to read stupid shit and in the end they find people that are the same
Pretty funny now that I think about it. My first confession apparently was similar to Korean style. Well obviously got rejected because of it. Though we ended up in relationship year after it. After that pretty much every relationship I have been in did start from sexual relationship. Interestingly enough it seems that women in Finland are generally the ones who make the move. I might be wrong, but that is just my experience.
Really loved this video! In Finland, it is very common to find a partner on Tinder, most of my friends who are in a relationship found their partner on Tinder. Of course there are also many people who only use Tinder for one-night stands :D. I'm quite new with Korean culture but I'm very interested in it and your videos have been very helpful and fun to watch!!
In the netherlands it is very common to meet each other with dating websites. I personally know around 15 couples who met using a website like that. :P It is the number 1 way to meet. It is very common to touch each other, some even have sex within like 2 days. Finally getting a child before marriage is seen as normal, and not bad. A lot of couples in the netherlands never get married in there entire life... xD So for me seeing how koreans were was a shock to me. :) But it is also very good, because it requiers a lot of serious thinking about it.
Well, tbh, I find your decription of Korea corresponding to the 1970's in Finland, so bit old fashioned. The world doesn't end if young people experiment before marriage, actually I think it's much healthier that way...
I think many Finns decide not to marry because the concept of marriage is so closely linked to religion and there aren't any serious drawbacks not doing so. To have a traditional Christian marriage the groom and bride both have to belong to the church and pay tithe. The alternative is a civil marriage, but I think many people may find them rather artificial, because there is no significant cultural tradition linked to it. So they don't bother.
Tyynymyy That’s not quite right... Couples can get married even if one of them doesn’t belong to church, but in that case they can’t do it IN a church. That is called civil marriage and this and regular marriage don’t have any differences in legal standpoints. Registering one’s relationship is totally different thing. But I do aggree that many Finns don’t want to get married because it DOES have strongly religious background.
Kkitiii+ You are totally right. That's pretty embarrassing mistake and I don't want to spread any misinformation, so I will make the proper adjustments to the comment.
Haha yeah I was suprised too how fast relationships go. When I was younger i did that "confession" thing, we did cuddle before. With my current relationship, my girlfriend started liking me after we had sex. We saw each other for three weeks and then decided to be in a relationship. It was weird, but it's a good relationship!
Finland is kind of the same as where I live, the Netherlands. It's totally not weird to hold hands or kiss in the streets. Why should it be lol. I love that my country is totally free in that subject :)
Overtime every culture did turn towards a monogamous marriage and increasingly frowned upon children born out of wedlock. Governments would give incentives for those who married and then had children, such as tax breaks, etc, because it reduced the social welfare costs placed upon a city, it reduced begging, vagrancy (people living on the streets), crime (theft), diseases & outbreaks, etc. We have seen social welfare costs rise tremendously as out-of-wedlock children rose, as divorce rates increased, as well as higher crime rates, poorer education, delinquency, gangs, etc. Welfare programs (as how they are set up in the States) has added to this problem, and deepened it, as it incentivizes the father not being in the home, due to the way our program is currently structured. The man wanted to be sure that a child was his as it was quite labor intensive/ costly to provide shelter & food for a family; as there was no such thing as paternity dna testing, living together in a monogamous relationship helped to insure the children was his (the bride-to-be could be checked by a dr to verify they haven’t been with another &/or that they aren’t showing signs of pregnancy). Laws were also put in place that demanded upon the husband to care for & provide for his wife & children; he was publicly shamed & even imprisoned if he abandoned them (as it was more difficult for women to earn enough to provide shelter & food for their-self, & their children- the monthly menstrual cycle would require the female to be home as modern products had not yet been invented & the rags/ sponges they had were not nearly as absorbent and long lasting), but also for the same reasons as today- someone had to care for the children. Having both mom & dad made that task far easier. Mom has the built in food supply for babies until early toddler years, dad doesn’t. In Summary: The proper order (Dating-> Engagement-> Marriage) was best for the women, for the men, & for the children, as well as far cheaper for the city, reduced crime/ vagrancy (homelessness), & spread of disease, and made for a better community overall.
SoulofSol 한솔 In my opinion, dating at least after work or college is legal, but becoming a pair without marrying was truly illegal. Not only for my opinion, but in my country as well. So I have to work hard to achieve my goals. Matchmaking is God's secret. :)
Yeah, some people can be partners and have kids but they don't have to ever get married. In Finland, I think marriage is very common but it's not always necessarily where a relationship is heading. It's a thing some people want to do and some people don't. I also think it has to do with religion a bit. I've noticed that religious people or people who are more traditional get married more than people who don't consider those things important in their lives.
I`am going out the one guy c: But me and him speaking and played football. This is so person ask where and when go to the date but I see date`s one step love. But this is my things but you are right.
I've seen so much that you just ask your crush does she/he like you and then just you ask are you now girl-/boyfriend. Remember That I'm 13 so I don't really know that very well.
Hello SoulofSol I love your video. I am a lucky guy I allready date with a South Korea girl and Finland girl in Portugal. We are a touristic country so is easy meet foreign people. We meet girls at the beach, coffee shops, bars and disco. The big difference I saw between both girls is: South Korea girl gives kiss, hug and the hand in Public. The Finland Girls gives in Private. At pool or beach the Finland Girl do topless, she loves her body and are not so shy like South Korea girl, no topless and no brasilian bikini(fio dental). Of course not every South Korea girls do the same or Finland girls. Is what I can say from my Experience. Best Regards
You are so beautiful. I will support you.❤️ I love Korean culture and girls, but please tell me why are Korean girls so jealous and possessive in relationship? She doesn't allow me to talk to any female friends.
Does anyone know how one can find their match in Finland? I'm all out of acquaintances of friends who are up for some mingling >_< And for some reason I have pretty strange way to get friendzoned all the time: people just want sex from me from time to time until they find someone else to have relationship with. That, or the more traditional friendzone. (not surprised, I'm really popular as friend so I must be good at it ^^) Some girls have even had fun for a night with me although I make it clear that I don't do one-night stands :/
Somertimes when I was younger it was hard to tell, friends only or a couple even after hanging togheter having fun for two years. Some girls are very independent but not all. I kind of skipped that balony speeded it all up demanding a bit more rapid response from the opposit sex those who nja naaa... well.. .-ok, bye bye then!
Did you enjoy? Thanks for watching!
It was last Thursday when I recorded myself. And then while I was editing this video, I got to be curious and wanted to get more opinions from Korean people. At first I thought about interviewing my friends/acquaintances like other youtubers do, but this dating issue could be sensitive to some people, so I decided to make anonymous questions.
I had opened this questions 2 days till Saturday, and 103 people answered. I really want to say thank them for helping me out. As I mentioned in video, please be noticed that the chart in this video is not from any formal survey, but from the 103 answers. I didn't do any additional statistic work to these samples. Therefore, it's NOT accurate statistic works, or people who answered my questions are not representing every Korean's thinking.
It took lots of time recording/questioning/editing this video, I really hope you guys enjoy and have fun!
SoulofSol 한솔 I live in Finland and I do not know that many people that live together but are'nt married but I think it is that almost everyone where I live are strict christians so that makes it different :)
Ah, one of my favorite topics covered, so I had to contribute. The way Finnish dating is described here is pretty accurate. In Finland, (and in many other Western countries), there is a dating period, where people go on dates and get to know each other both on emotional and physical levels. I can only speak for myself, but I think quite many Finns need to get to know their partner also on the physical level before becoming a couple. This means there will be hugs, kissing and sex during the dating period. According to what I've read, Finns consider sex as an important part of a relationship, so most likely want to see how the physical compatibility works before becoming a real couple.
Also how Finns become a couple is an interesting topic. I think I will make a video about that myself later. Anyways, this video explained well the fundamentals of the dating culture. I was surprised how similar the Korean dating is to Japanese dating. In Japan they have also group dating (合コン goukon) and confession (告白 kokuhaku), which work just like in Korea.
Wow! Thanks for your contributing 😆😆 I was a bit worried if this is wrong (about finland), but ok now relief! really good to hear from you!
we dont have dating culture in finland. i havent asked anyone to a date. it just happens if two people likes each others
like if u go to a park and there is some women playing footback. you go and play with them. and next day you may have a call that one of those girls are locked in their own apartment. some kind of lock issues with her door and i have to go to help
Sounds like there is more to that story Jaeger233 ;-)
In Finland it is still preferred to marry but no one judge you if you get child outside of marriage, also government systems recognize couple living together without marriage and kids who born outside of marriage get enough social benefits so mother can survive with kids without husband. So it is not any kind of risk to have kids outside of marriage, which can be problem on some cultures.
Freezed Eve if I'm not married but have kids with a man in Finland, would I be entitled to spousal support and half of the assets if we were to separate? How would a "divorce" work if the relationship fails??
spousal support is not a thing in Finland, parents has to pay child support for those kids who live only on one parent, but you can have arrangement where kids live half time on mother and other half on father.
If you live together without marriage and your relations ship breaks up you split only assets which have been accumulated during relationship. Same can be on marriage if you do marriage settlement before marriage, so it is not usually business in Finland for women to marry and break up with rich guys.
@@chopaface u might get ordered to pay child support on child that aint youre thou if you were married
As a finnish person who has been into korean culture for 10 years now, I find your videos really interesting! Keep it up, you're doing a good job ^^
As a finnish person, it's so amazing to see your own perspective on finnish culture and on many other issues. I'm really interested in the korean culture and your videos help me realize more of korean and finnish culture differences. btw you're really pretty!!
Ahhh my day got so much better after seeing your video! As a Finn, I guess I could say Tinder is used for both serious relationships and one night stands haha :D if you're interested, it would be amazing to get a comparison video between Finnish and Korean beauty ideals!
🤔🤔🤔😮😮Actually really good Idea! What's ideal beauty standards in Finland? I've never thought about that!
I don't think there are that strict beauty ideals in Finland? (I'm finnish)
aha I met a Finnish girl on Tinder that I've been seeing! Never thought anything would come from Tinder, to be honest. I was surprised :P
@@SoulofSol I think we don't have beauty standard what can be defined here in Finland. But at least this vlog owner fits in very well. You are hot :)
These videos where you talk about Korean culture are really interesting! I'm from Finland btw :)
My paren't aren't married and it's really normal in here.
Joon02 Jos oot tosissas missä oikein asut koska tiiän monia perheitä joiden vanhemmat ei oo naimisissa
Yeah many people live years together, without marrying. They are just like any other families, but without formalization and marriage ceremony. And yeah they have kids just like any other family, it doesn't really make any diffence otherwise except legally.
yeah, it´s normal here. I´m mom and never married, and It´s normal here :)
Itellä tulee tasan kaksi pariskunta mieleen, jolla lapsia muttei naimisissa.
Mun luokkalaisen vanhemmat ei oo yhes
I think in Finland there are just no rules, like some people like old school rules some like to keep things open. I think the best thing is to determine together what you wanna do and what you like. Every rs is so different, I think it works the best if you talk what you feel. For me I dont' like any games, I wanna be honest about my feelings so I know where we're going. And I don't even date more than one person at a time, I wanna see one path through before I look for another. I wanna focus on one person and give them/us a fair shot. For me marriage would be nice, but I wanna maybe live separately for a long time and then move togetehr after 10y. I don't want any kids, I just wanna go to adventures together and enjoy ourselves
From my experience usually couples hook up in parties, bars or festivals and go to an actual date after that in Finland. So its drinking together, possible sex and then a date after that, its a bit upside down.
As for how long until they marry, theres no rules in Finland for that. Some people stay as "friends with benefits", some people stay engaged but never marry, some couples get married and get kids almost immediatly. Some people can stay as online friends for years until they finally meet and end up in bed together after hazy drunken night in a bar, like what happened with me and my last ex. There is no society pressure either way.
In Norway, mostly, you find someone when youre out partying, take them home, sleep together, and then you start dating. Many of my forign friends find this very hard because you wouldnt say to a norwegian "do you want to go on a date with me?". I think most norwegians would find that kind of awkward. Instead, you go and have a beer, often after you have slept together, and if you do that enough, one day maybe youll become a couple. This is of course not how it goes everytime, but dating culture in Norway is kind of confusing, even to norwegian people. And also, norwegians often tend to not say what they really feel (a term we call "gå rundt grøten" - "to walk around the porrige"), so if you ask a norwegian on a date and theyre not interested, they would say something like "That sounds nice, but Im really busy, so ill just tell you when im avalible, okay? :) :) " and then you never hear from them again. And again, this is not how it always goes down, but a lot of times this is how it is.
I am from Finland but I am actually half finnish and half russian and i have two way older russian sisters. Older one lives in Russia and other in Finland, Kuopio. Older sister had another man when I was born and she was even married to him and they lived together but then they broke up. When I was three, she got a baby for a different man and she and the man lived together. And they still live. But they got married only after like 11years of dating and living together :D My other sister was also engaged but her man took the ring in my christening. Then she found a new man and lived with him few years and got married and has now two kids :D
Very interesting! I appreciate how you actually made a survey and all! Also, your acting was hilarious :D
I wonder what lip product you used though? I couldn't help but notice that the colour as gorgeous~
Aww thank you! It's Makeup Forever Artist Rouge Mat M300 Red Orange :)
I live in Finland, and I met my boyfriend in tinder. He was the only one I actually even met 😅 and 4 of my friends have also met their boyfriends through dating apps 😊 so I would say that many Finns are looking for serious relationship in tinder 😃
Serious stats, Hansol, and well structured observations! The contrasts seem valid to me. Finnish culture still fascinates me even though I have see it everyday, I think that has something to do with the nature being fairly stark and invariant compared to warmer, wetter countries. I appreciate that share your views. It supports expats in understanding where they are! ;-)
Aww! Thank you so much 👌🏻👌🏻👍🏻👍🏻🐸
Hum, regarding getting children outside marriage.
I don't know about Finland.
But in Norway most first time mothers are *not* married but they generally *are* living together with a man, however for the *second* child it is more common to be married.
Basically marriage isn't seen as a requirement for getting children at all.
Instead marriage is just another step progressing the relationship itself, announcing that the two of you intend to spend the rest of your lives together to your friends and family.
I know a couple, they are not married. But they have two kids, the girl is 14 and the boy is 11😂 to me it sounds pretty normal
(I live in Finland)
sounds fake but okay
+Rae Costello - lol! If you're trolling, it's a pretty good one, I must say... ;) Anyways, in my opinion this is fairly common in most Nordic countries - I live in another one than Finland, but I see it all the time here. For instance, my best friends parents were living together, with children, for 21 years before they married!! Now, that's unusually long, but I do know multiple others were they were also together for a very long time before they got married.
One has to remember that divorce-statistics is pretty high in nordic countries, and also that individualism has become a very, very strong sociopolitical factor in theses countries, the last few decades - as such, people here are very careful before they truly commit their entire lives to a partner.
I happen to agree with this as well - one should not marry unless one is absolutely certain! And one cannot be certain before one knows the other person inside and outside - almost every secret and flaw fully revealed... then, and only then, will you truly know if you can be together for the rest of your lives.
+Rae Costello getting married isn't that important to people in the Nordics, especially since marriage is usually related to something religious and people in the north aren't big for showing their religion, if they are part of any in the first place that is. Also in many places people get married often for financial security etc. which is not necessary in the Nordics.
OKAY I JUST NOTICED I TOTALLY READ THE SENTENCE COMPLETELY WRONG. I thought she was talking about a couple where the girl was 14 and the boy 11 and THESE TWO had two kids. Also I too live in Finland so no need for the cultural education about how marriage is here, kiitti kuitenkin.
+Rae Costello Well your original comment wasn't exactly clear about that, nor is your username very Finnish, so it's not to be unexpected for people to not guess what you were talking about :)
I feel marriage is not a big deal in Finland. My parents met when they were 20 years old. They had 2 children (me and my sister) when they were 30. They finally married at the age of 50 and only invited me and my sister to the "wedding".
I think the Korean way sounds much better/practical. I have heard many people saying how it is hard to find the right one when the whole dating scene is basically for one-night stands, and many end up breaking up after moving together in short time. Dating is actually very interesting topic especially these days, because we are more connected than ever, and at the same time it seems finding partner is harder than ever too. Similar people are not able to find each other. If only I studied social science (or whatever it is called) I could dig deeper into this topic. :P
So interesting! especially your acting >
LOL hahahaha
I really enjoyed this video and it was great to hear more opinions from Koreans, even though it wasn't a formal survey. My boyfriend is Korean, and I definitely noticed some differences when we first started dating. I'm not sure about other Finnish/Korean couples, but my boyfriend is very affectionate, which I like, don't get me wrong, but most Finnish people are very shy, so when he starts going like "자기야 노무 노무 좋아" and calling me pretty and cute, I feel like hiding under a blanket ㅋㅋㅋ maybe it's different with Finnish guy/Korean girl couples, I'd be interested to hear, but I don't know anyone else who is in a relationship with a Korean (man or woman) anyway, good video!
화이팅! 💪🏻
Oh, it's interesting to hear that 😮I know several Finn-Korean Couples, but they are all Finn guy and Korean girl couple. Never seen the other way. I'd love to hear more stories from you XD!
SoulofSol 한솔 we just recently started dating, so I'm sure we'll have more stories to tell too. This is a bit of learning experience for both of us, but we're excited to see how this goes. I'd be happy to share my thoughts with you in the future 😊
Oh wow! I'm currently seeing a Chinese guy, and he is also so affectionate! I like it so much, but I'm not used to it, so I find it kind of hard to respond well enough sometimes. Sometimes I feel like he thinks I might not like him as much as he does because I don't remember telling him how much I appreciate him or how handsome he is haha. This is interesting!
I wish I could tell you about what the dating culture is like in Sweden... but I'm really not part of it. That's not to say I haven't dated people before, because I have. I just know what it's like for me, and things just progressed quite naturally. I've also experienced living together with someone else. I've met girls through friends we've had in common and through... various ways actually. One from Facebook, just threw together a message... I say that, but I probably spent 15-20 minutes on it to make sure I didn't somehow sound like a creep, because I only had good intentions and actually didn't even seek contact with the person. I merely wanted to send a nice message to someone I thought was really pretty, but I got a reply, and she even initiated a conversation through it. We were together for about 2 years, but things didn't work out, so that's that. We still sometimes talk to each other, but there are no feelings involved. I don't know if her current boyfriend knows about it or not, but considering her personality, he probably does and is fine with it as long as it's not excessive. I'd totally be fine with it if he said we're not allowed to talk to each other, as I wish for her relationship to work out... okay, I'm rambling.
So yeah, ways I've met people, friends in common, common interests, through forums, through school. Basically anything goes, but one has to be careful if meeting through the Internet. It's hard to say what's best, because I don't think there's any one best way. You either find a suitable person or you don't.
I know that many friends have met girls at parties and through friends. Some met each other at school and ended up dating for a long time, some even getting married and having kids. Some met at workplaces. I know one couple who met through a game, and they are still going strong, I think this is their 10th or 11th year together.
Long story short, Sweden seems pretty similar to Finland. We are neighbouring countries, and Finland used to be part of Sweden for quite a long time, so I wouldn't be surprised if just about everything else is similar too. Both countries are among the top consumers of both coffee and salty liquorice (salmiak/saltlakrits/salmiakki) so there certainly are similarities in habits.
Lol, In Poland (I'm talking about what i heard from my friends) Mostly is the same as Finnish way to date. Few of my friends have kids without marriage, or had marriage right after having kids. Of course there are couples that have it "traditional" way, like dating, engagement, marriage and then kids (they are the minority in my surroundings).
I was also using tinder myself, to find a date, but sadly, most of people there wants one night stands, so I deleted the app(after many fails xD ). But I would like to mention that I know few couples that met through tinder and they are together for really long time.
Hello im Finland youtuber! You make good videos xD
Rakastan näitä videoita/I love these videos💗 Ps. You look like a TWICE's Nayeon💗
I think in Finland we use Tinder to find serious relationships a lot. I have met a lot of couples that have found each other from some dating app, like Tinder. Good video💗👍
in sweden before you call someone your boyfriend or girlfriend you get to know eachother and hang out for perhaps a long time a few months meaby before you hold hands or hug, yes meaby hugging as a friend but not more. and if you start dating with someone your not boyfriend and girlfriend right away instead you be together for a while to get to know eachother =)
Nää sun videot on yhtä LOVEEE😍😍😍😍😍😍
Personally, I do not see much 'dating culture' here in Finland :-) That is just my experience. perhaps it has now changed via internet and dating apps, where one can find short-term (or even long-term)company... Most people I know just begun to hang out... happens often with the help of alcohol!!
As a believing Christian, I don't believe that too much physical contact before marriage is a good idea. There should be attraction, obviosly. and the man should make his intentions clear. Sadly, what often happens, the guys keeps on giving unclear signals, hoping for some encouragement from her.. and the uncommitted situation can go on for years... That is why there are so many singles here.
this is so interesting! i really like these kind of videos :)
Over 2 year relationship from Tinder 😁 Moved together 6 months after we started dating, and now we're moving even bigger apartment! We've talked about marriage, kids etc but as ironic it sounds, we're not in hurry and only time will tell when those will happen.
When you hit 10k, make a salmiakki challenge by mixing every kind of salmiakki and making a cake, drink or anything from it. : - D
My brother and two friends of mine have started dating after chatting in tinder. They might not ever met their girlfriend/boyfriend without it. I also have one cousin who met his girlfriend in online chat in suomi24. I know alot of couples living together and having kids before marrying. My parents had my sister and brother before marrying and they also lived together before too. It would be great if we had these meeting things too, since after graduating it's almost impossible to meet anyone somewhere else than tinder or bars...
I have girl friends who use tinder to be in a relationship. But mostly guys use it for one night stand like you said...
영상 잘 보고 있어요! :) 어렸을 적부터 해외에 살아서 한국문화도 궁금했고 핀란드도 신비한(?) 느낌이 들어서 좋았는데 그런 차이점이..ㅎㅎ (전 개인적으로 쪼끔 충격적이네요 ㅎㅎ 관계를 확실히 하지 않고도 계속 사귄다니..) 핀란드에서 남친 사귀어보신적 있으시면 그 얘기도 해주셨음 좋겠네요ㅎㅎ
Very interesting video! :)
Thank you n_n
You are my favorite youtuber♥
Something common in both cultures. People think too much.
Edit:...think too much while being affected by emotions. Emotional thinking gets personal, which might cause unnecessary stress. People often make hasty judgements when they are stressed. Not only in relationships. In everyday life.
Oh gosh I love your vids, thank you for being so respectful & funny ♡ (you are so pretty too!)
Hyvä video sä oot tosi söpö💕
Saaga Makkara puhu enkuu
First thought: You have such beautiful brown eyes!
Second thought: You seem like a cool girl. Imma subscribe cause I'm interested in both Korea and FInland, this will be interesting.
Third thought: You're funny (the hug edit, lol)
Fourth thought: Oh my damn you remind me of Lee Sung-kyung so much! (I absolutely love her as an actress btw (plus she's gorgeous!))
Fifth thought: I should stop listing these and watch on, haha.
unicorn princess No, I'm from Bulgaria. :) You're not dumb!
우와 못 보던 사이에 구독자가 엄청 많아지셨네요! 앞으로도 쭉 흥하세욥 🤣
Ha.. I have been dating a Korean girl, perhaps soon to be wife, for 6 soon 7 years. Interesting to hear her words, and our conversations coming from you. I have met her brother and mother while visiting Soul once, and her mother and friend visited Finland once. During this time (short-notice) I had to delete my existence from our apartment (lived together 4 years) and find another place to stay during this time. In the first few years we worked and traveled together in order to be able to "hide" our relationship, but damn it - it is good with a home :D
I have never met her father with whom I and he have no common language. I've been looking into something called an "ili-translator" - but this is off topic.
SoulofSSol drew very nice parallels between the quite dense and competitive Korean society and the other side sparse Finland, where there are social benefits to start your life and where the education system is designed so that you reach your fullest potential and to become a contributing member of society.
Koreans way of thinking and core values - in friends, lovers and life, are very similar between the people. Even though the society is so very different. There are of course big cultural barriers that can cause confusion but if you look past that you will get to see very honest and caring people with similar ideals and values. Very nice videos :)
Ahn Yeong Haseyo! :)
Wow... Thanks for the amazing comments. It's really interesting hearing from you. I'm learning from you 😌😌
I personally met my husband in school 14 years ago, but approached him after he had graduated at a festival we were both attending. We dated for 3,5 years, moved in togetger and then lived together over 8yrs before marrying (btw we got married in Korea 2016 ;) as our plan to "elope"). I know few steady couples at the moment who now live together and ll who have met through Tinder so I guess it works out like that too :)
솔님!! 저 오랜만에 찾아왔는데 영상 컨셉이 바뀐건가요ㅎㅎ!!!?
안녕하세요, 하은님! 네! 지난 12월 기존 구독자 분들과 라이브를 통해서 상의한 후(?) 영어로 콘텐츠 만드는 것에 다들 응원을 해주셔서 지금 잘 해내고(?) 있답니다. 하하 오랜만에 정말 반가워용 😆😆
I find your videos really interesting and informative! Thank you ^^ I am a Finnish university student studying in London, majoring in Korean and Politics. For the past semester I have been studying Korean language as well as Korean culture, which both are extremenly interesting. My interest in Korea has lasted for a long time and I've done quite a lot of research already so I guess that's why I seem to be familiar with some of the points you're making. But the most exciting part is that I will be spending my next school year in Seoul! Therefore, I was wondering, what are some of the things you've found foreign people (especially Finnish people) do that you find rude or weird, and how should they be avoided? Also, what are your thoughts on the age culture in Korea? One thing I'm nervous about when I go there is, how to adress people and how quickly it is acceptable to use 반말 with people your age or lower.
I never dated in my life 모태솔로 so i dont have to worry cause no girl is interested in me
Hahahah I LOVE the wilted rose!!
Good information (y)
My brother is a weird example of finnish relationship: Relationship 14-15 years ago(I might remember wrong), living together from 12 years ago, first baby 3 years ago, engaged 2 years ago, second baby 1 year ago. And no marriage yet :D
I like the formal structure in Korean dating you describe. In the nordic countries I get the feeling there are no social structures, and there is no formally accepted ways to go about finding someone. No concept of dating, no blind dates, no friends matching friends etc... It feels like it is "just supposed to happen" without any protocol around it, and then once it does, there is less commitment, and more fuzzy lines... In short simply complete anarchy. Not to mention that in many cases, northeners are too timid, stiff, or introverted to be approachable for dating unless they are drunk... I much prefer the Korean way.
I understand!
@@SoulofSol We need this in Norway. My imoression is that even thou Koreans are equally timid or reserved, there is the understanding that a larger amount of structure is needed to guide the process, and a shared appriciation that such social structures benefit the reserved. Norwegians on the other hand have removed any such guiding structure, and rely on alcohol as the social catalyst for human intimacy... haha
loved it!!! do you have kakaotalk?
My two friends are in serious relationships with guys they found in Tinder. One has been with her boyfriend almost 3 years and another over a year. The latter is already planning to move in the same appartment with her boyfriend. And yes we are all Finns and about to graduate from high school (lukio). (우리가 1999년생이에요.) I personally don't want to use Tinder cos I think the possibility of finding a fuckboy is very high. Well another friend of mine uses Tinder for "friends with benefits" purposes so yeah :D
I love your videos and you're so good at explaining!! Love from Sweden
Actually I found my first boyfriend from Tinder... 😅 I'm a finnish person
p.s I love your videos 💜
Models hookin up with sports heroes or heroines. Surprise.
Us Fins do not really have culture when it comes to dating. Anything goes, except cheating. Nothing really changes when you become couple, or get married. Just a formal announcement to others.
When it comes to hooking up, most girls in Finland look for better than what they are(point system includes looks/wealth).
In Finland Tinder is super popular. It varies, but many use it for both sex and real relationships. Actually my bff is getting married soon and she met her man on Tinder :D but they are a really cute and perfect couple, so I might wanna try because I've seen how it can work for true love. I have had the best dates from shadier apps and sites, I guess it is just pure luck that many people go there to read stupid shit and in the end they find people that are the same
너를 사랑해 is this i love you in korean language
nice video, again ! ^^
I did subscribe!
Pretty funny now that I think about it. My first confession apparently was similar to Korean style. Well obviously got rejected because of it. Though we ended up in relationship year after it. After that pretty much every relationship I have been in did start from sexual relationship. Interestingly enough it seems that women in Finland are generally the ones who make the move. I might be wrong, but that is just my experience.
Really loved this video! In Finland, it is very common to find a partner on Tinder, most of my friends who are in a relationship found their partner on Tinder. Of course there are also many people who only use Tinder for one-night stands :D.
I'm quite new with Korean culture but I'm very interested in it and your videos have been very helpful and fun to watch!!
You seem such a nice person. I live Helsinki myself! Would love to be friends with you 😊 All the best for your channel, love your content!
In the netherlands it is very common to meet each other with dating websites. I personally know around 15 couples who met using a website like that. :P It is the number 1 way to meet. It is very common to touch each other, some even have sex within like 2 days. Finally getting a child before marriage is seen as normal, and not bad. A lot of couples in the netherlands never get married in there entire life... xD So for me seeing how koreans were was a shock to me. :) But it is also very good, because it requiers a lot of serious thinking about it.
Hyvä video😍
Well, tbh, I find your decription of Korea corresponding to the 1970's in Finland, so bit old fashioned. The world doesn't end if young people experiment before marriage, actually I think it's much healthier that way...
I am finnish and I'm a child of a not married couple so like yeahh
I think many Finns decide not to marry because the concept of marriage is so closely linked to religion and there aren't any serious drawbacks not doing so. To have a traditional Christian marriage the groom and bride both have to belong to the church and pay tithe.
The alternative is a civil marriage, but I think many people may find them rather artificial, because there is no significant cultural tradition linked to it. So they don't bother.
Tyynymyy That’s not quite right... Couples can get married even if one of them doesn’t belong to church, but in that case they can’t do it IN a church. That is called civil marriage and this and regular marriage don’t have any differences in legal standpoints. Registering one’s relationship is totally different thing.
But I do aggree that many Finns don’t want to get married because it DOES have strongly religious background.
Kkitiii+ You are totally right. That's pretty embarrassing mistake and I don't want to spread any misinformation, so I will make the proper adjustments to the comment.
Registering your relationship doesn't even exist in Finland anymore after same sex couples got the right to marry.
Did u visit on upper secondary school last week?
I think i need to visit Korea :D
I looooovveeeee youu ❤️❤️
Haha yeah I was suprised too how fast relationships go. When I was younger i did that "confession" thing, we did cuddle before. With my current relationship, my girlfriend started liking me after we had sex. We saw each other for three weeks and then decided to be in a relationship. It was weird, but it's a good relationship!
Voitko tehdä videon kun sinä reagoin suomen musiikkia 🍭😊
Finland is kind of the same as where I live, the Netherlands. It's totally not weird to hold hands or kiss in the streets. Why should it be lol. I love that my country is totally free in that subject :)
❤❤love ur vids
Overtime every culture did turn towards a monogamous marriage and increasingly frowned upon children born out of wedlock.
Governments would give incentives for those who married and then had children, such as tax breaks, etc, because it reduced the social welfare costs placed upon a city, it reduced begging, vagrancy (people living on the streets), crime (theft), diseases & outbreaks, etc.
We have seen social welfare costs rise tremendously as out-of-wedlock children rose, as divorce rates increased, as well as higher crime rates, poorer education, delinquency, gangs, etc. Welfare programs (as how they are set up in the States) has added to this problem, and deepened it, as it incentivizes the father not being in the home, due to the way our program is currently structured.
The man wanted to be sure that a child was his as it was quite labor intensive/ costly to provide shelter & food for a family; as there was no such thing as paternity dna testing, living together in a monogamous relationship helped to insure the children was his (the bride-to-be could be checked by a dr to verify they haven’t been with another &/or that they aren’t showing signs of pregnancy).
Laws were also put in place that demanded upon the husband to care for & provide for his wife & children; he was publicly shamed & even imprisoned if he abandoned them (as it was more difficult for women to earn enough to provide shelter & food for their-self, & their children- the monthly menstrual cycle would require the female to be home as modern products had not yet been invented & the rags/ sponges they had were not nearly as absorbent and long lasting), but also for the same reasons as today- someone had to care for the children. Having both mom & dad made that task far easier. Mom has the built in food supply for babies until early toddler years, dad doesn’t.
In Summary:
The proper order (Dating-> Engagement-> Marriage) was best for the women, for the men, & for the children, as well as far cheaper for the city, reduced crime/ vagrancy (homelessness), & spread of disease, and made for a better community overall.
Me: Forever alone. I'm okay.
😂😂😂 So you are watching all of my videos in a row 👍 Thanks a lot!
SoulofSol 한솔 In my opinion, dating at least after work or college is legal, but becoming a pair without marrying was truly illegal. Not only for my opinion, but in my country as well.
So I have to work hard to achieve my goals. Matchmaking is God's secret. :)
Yeah, some people can be partners and have kids but they don't have to ever get married. In Finland, I think marriage is very common but it's not always necessarily where a relationship is heading. It's a thing some people want to do and some people don't. I also think it has to do with religion a bit. I've noticed that religious people or people who are more traditional get married more than people who don't consider those things important in their lives.
I think you really like finland
I love you love korea
I`am going out the one guy c: But me and him speaking and played football. This is so person ask where and when go to the date but I see date`s one step love. But this is my things but you are right.
Hahahah my parents had three kids and they never got married. (they got divorced 10 years ago)
LOL the hug and the hand holding made me laugh SO HARD!
Hello can you do a video . About how to know if Finnish man like you?.😊😁 Thanks.
4:22 True.
Is Korean age so different?
Im your two's liker
Wow. You were fast! Thank you n_n !
I've seen so much that you just ask your crush does she/he like you and then just you ask are you now girl-/boyfriend. Remember That I'm 13 so I don't really know that very well.
Hey im from finnland HRLSINKI,ESPOO i lov u so much
Should be "Soul of Seoul," shouldn't it?
Ah. I know it's confusing. It's Soulofsol because of my name 'Hansol', and people usually call me Sol !
OK, thanks for the clarification.
So interesting~
Hello SoulofSol I love your video. I am a lucky guy I allready date with a South Korea girl and Finland girl in Portugal. We are a touristic country so is easy meet foreign people. We meet girls at the beach, coffee shops, bars and disco. The big difference I saw between both girls is: South Korea girl gives kiss, hug and the hand in Public. The Finland Girls gives in Private. At pool or beach the Finland Girl do topless, she loves her body and are not so shy like South Korea girl, no topless and no brasilian bikini(fio dental). Of course not every South Korea girls do the same or Finland girls. Is what I can say from my Experience. Best Regards
You are so beautiful. I will support you.❤️
I love Korean culture and girls, but please tell me why are Korean girls so jealous and possessive in relationship? She doesn't allow me to talk to any female friends.
Does anyone know how one can find their match in Finland? I'm all out of acquaintances of friends who are up for some mingling >_< And for some reason I have pretty strange way to get friendzoned all the time: people just want sex from me from time to time until they find someone else to have relationship with. That, or the more traditional friendzone. (not surprised, I'm really popular as friend so I must be good at it ^^)
Some girls have even had fun for a night with me although I make it clear that I don't do one-night stands :/
2:35 "in korean age". So... does the aging system differ in Korea from rest of the world?
yep, Koreans age a year every New year and they are already a year old when they are born (one year in the womb
You are so cute Person
Somertimes when I was younger it was hard to tell, friends only or a couple even after hanging togheter having fun for two years. Some girls are very independent but not all. I kind of skipped that balony speeded it all up demanding a bit more rapid response from the opposit sex those who nja naaa... well.. .-ok, bye bye then!
Daebak🤟🤟🤟🤟
I feel cheated on :(
To be honest, I don't like finnish dating culture at all! Like in korea they're friendly as well and RESPECT women!