THE 5 WAYS THE INFJ MAKES OTHERS FEEL LIKE ON DRUGS
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Buckle up, because today we're diving into the mystical world of the INFJ and the five mind-altering ways they make people feel. Meeting an INFJ is like a rollercoaster ride for your emotions - and I'm not talking about a brief encounter. Sure, we can put on a friendly façade, but once you truly get to know an INFJ, be prepared for a life-altering experience. Not everyone reacts the same way, but there's definitely something special about us INFJs. And by special, I mean unique, different, and mind-bending. We have a knack for shaking up people's realities and making them question everything - including themselves. Brace yourself, because the INFJ effect is real and it's about to change your world.
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What kind of reactions have you experienced from others because of your presence?
Slow is smooth and smooth is calm 💙
I went to a pool party with a friend once (he was into a girl who was going to be there, I was basically tagging along) where it turned out was all firefighters and cops and their spouses. I knew a few of them from the bars around town, where we'd become familiar enough to be on a first name basis. The house where the party was being held was on a hillside overlooking a train track. Well into the afternoon, when everyone was pretty tipsy, a train started rolling past. One of the cops, a motorcycle cop nick-named "Guido", turned to me and said, "Think I can hit it from here?" He gestured toward the speeding freight cars rumbling some forty yards or so down the hill. Before I could reply, he reared back and flung his half-full beer bottle at the train, missing it completely. This precipitated in a rain of beer bottles from the back deck of a house which was, at that moment , surrounded by police officers. Except, they were the ones hunking beer bottles at a passing train! Grown men and their spouses flinging every empty on every surface at the L&N five-fifteen... it was crazy! I didn't participate in the mayhem, but could only assume these normally law-abiding law enforcers felt so emboldened because I was there. I know it sounds like I may be reading too much into the situation, but intuition tells me otherwise.
@@cavemanroboh lawd😂 sounds familiar ✨
@@cavemanrobwhat a memorable story 😂 same here, i believe at this point we are some glitch in the matrix. It's just our presence, our energy. People feel free to be themselves around us, but as it's stated in the video, some people also become sooo uncomfortable, defensive and blocked. Usually, that's the case of people who are very scared of their shadow. I noticed i do very well with people who are a lot younger than me, because they don't have much baggage. With older people, it can go both ways: either they vibe with me, even when they're 40 years older or they run away scared.
Yo I have stories from /since kindergarten that are so crazy 😝 I always have had a sensual affect on people. 🙈😂 Kids, animals are all so comfortable when I’m around that things can get “outta hand “ real quick!! I have a reoccurring theme from my childhood of parents separating me from the other kids because they were afraid of the natural reaction of things.
They don’t want to leave. The drug may be addictive to them, but I need my own time. My hope is they learn to feel the drug without being dependent on me. And not get angry with me or pushy when I make boundaries clear or need to close a door.
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Lmao don't worry no fucking INFJ clings to anyone, real INFJ alienated so we become lovers of loneliness
Only 1 of my friends learn this about me the hard way, others just misunderstood and thought that I'm arrogant or don't care about them 🤷
They think - we're only like this around them. Thats the addictive part, because it's almost forbidden.
I don't like to consider myself an adult. I'm a responsible child. That's why I like to bring the kid out of people.
Especially when they try to abuse your kindness so they can get more access to you… it’s def a problem in this digital world
“I don’t do drugs,I am drugs.” S.Dali
Maybe that’s why we feel other people’s withdrawals after we doorslam 😭
I've been calling myself a psychedelic for years. Sometimes when getting into a deep spiritual conversation with someone I start blowing their minds then I can tell they are feeling high. When I ask them if they think I'm an actual psychedelic it blows their mind again lol
yeah!.. a lot of cultures do not allow for kids who grow up to be themselves, to be loved for being themselves. They have to conform to that particular culture. And then an infj comes along and says... Go for it, I see you have a beautiful side. Don't mind the culture, in 150 years it will be something else. You are good as you are, you do YOUR dance of life. For this moment, love your soul and love their soul. Accept the souls as they are. Sometimes this is deeply healing, but not for everyone
And for good reason. Those who can’t handle us don’t deserve us. ✨
@@lilorphani well, yes
Sometimes I feel like the life was sucked out of me when new people want to share their life story and it feels one sided bc they’re so comfortable
Because no one's understood me, I've felt doubtful of myself. I've always been called weird, but I always thought I made sense. I've just discovered this INFJ thing, and I'm finding that other people have figured out, what to me, has been a bunch of conundrums in the way I feel and behave. This is a lot of fun, and it's very exciting. I feel like I'm having a growth spurt.
It's hard for us to find each other, because in a room of 50 people, we're statistically the only one of us there. In a room of 100 people you might get two of us, but we both desperately want to get the heck out there.
The best thing for INFJs socializing together were the laws that stated you have to smoke outside. I don't smoke anymore, but when I did, I was probably meeting other dirty smokers, whom, like me, just wanted to get away from the crowd. I suspect that, without knowing it, we were finding ourselves bonding with other introverts in those stinky smoking circles.
Its the devine nature in these beings. Being around them gives people the reminder of home! "Heaven".
I went on a date with an INFJ once and within three minutes of meeting he opened up a vintage tome of early 20th century conspiracies lol
Love this 😂
Doesn't sound like a cognitive INFJ. Those with underdeveloped hyperdivergent Ni like the ESFP tend to believe much more in conspiracies.
Hahaha, I usually wait till the third date before unleashing the topic of conspiracy theories.
Lol - I look forward to these conversations. I love to geek out hard.
I'm reminded of something some friends said to me many years ago about my quantum physics/philosophy/mysticism poetry. They said reading/listening to the poems were like an acid trip without doing acid.
A lot of these descriptions show how we are quite capable of making people feel comfortable and at ease. In my opinion that's good, but it's always good for me to remember your counsel about not "hollowing ourselves out." In my observation and experience, this easy trap to to fall into.
In teaching situations and even in conversations, I've had people tell me that I've put my finger on exactly what was troubling them. Often it's a surprise. It's usually unintentional since I walk on the deep side most of the time.
By the way - I appreciated when you pointed out that "slow" doesn't mean we're not getting things done. We INFJs take time to save time ; slow down to speed up.
Interestingly, as an INFJ I wouldn't want to be with another INFJ romantically. Maybe because it's like being a double cheeseburger...it's just too much at once or maybe its uncomfortable because it's like looking at myself. I'll never truly know the person... just what my own intuition tells me about them...which just might be me projecting my qualities & insecurities onto them. It's too much.
Yes I thought about this too.
I just wouldn't have any energy left for months after a week with another INFJ.
I have never thought of relationships with people like this! Now I have to go think hard about some of these points for awhile.
I love that point that being slow doesn't mean we aren't getting things done. I always felt like I was too slow at school and at work when it came to learning. There were some subjects I just needed more time to learn and school made me feel like something was wrong with my brain. Maybe the real problem are the teachers who expect students to be geniuses and learn so much information quickly.
It's once we find a pattern we thrive.
Wenzes has mentioned that.
However, patterns can be dangerous because once you see it - it's so hard to unsee.
Yes I totally relate when you say your heart goes out to people and you feel disconnected from others. I have felt that way a lot of my life. It's almost like we dont feel connected to others in the way a lot of people do-laughs, small talk. But we connect to people on such a deep level.
We are like a psychedelic by nature
I've been aware of this, all my life
Were any other INFJ'S besides me bullied in school?
I was actually a bully killer. Bullies like to bark, I would just let them know "im ready to bite". I was just fearless, because I would treat everyone the same.
The "bullies" just need to be not scared of. Some of my best friends tried to bully me, but I didn't let them by standing up to myself via my values. However, I also didn't tell them they were in the wrong if they bullied someone in some way. Because than they'll become resentful of me, because they'll carry the thought that "you're not better than me." However, if its some sort of ish between friends or people I know - I'll stand up for them without anyone noticing anything happening.
Also, the "bullies" end up being the most loyal friends. They just need to not be scared of, but not be told they're a bad person. Its me just protecting them, because I just like you.
@@blazed00 if I could go back it would probably be different. Who knows
@user-ud3xp6sh5e don't we all wish that - it's easy to say we don't have any regrets. But it's the regrets who make us who we are. I know I've hurt people, and deeply regret that. However, I know I also don't want to look them up and apologize to them. So we choose to also live with our regrets. That's humans for ya. But I do feel genuinely bad for hurting people, because I know its never intentional and I was immature, and id hurt peoples feelings because I'd choose to protect someone else rather than stand up for them. It shaped me for today though - that I can say I like the person I am. And that's something I didn't even understand that I needed to tell myself, and not have people say that to me.
Your videos have really helped me in how I see myself thank you
That sentence needs an extra word. Makes them feel like They are on drugs or that I AM on drugs. Cuz I get latter all the time.
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LMAO yes, the latter I relate to more 🤪
In lieu of me watching out or "baby sitting" family, young adults and adults during many parties and social occasions and one vacation, I have ruined a lot of my good times I should've been having and enjoying.
Oh wow this is so true... it makes me happy to be an INFJ that we really are cool people to be around
I agree. I am happy with the path ive taken, and have no regrets.
However, I also wouldn't wish this personality on anyone. I always say "will love and the truth save the world" and its how I approach the world. However, it's hard when you realize beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And not everyone approaches the world this way.
However, as time goes by - you'll realize there is a reason for everything and there is a pattern to life. You'll realize why and who you are. The world needs disruptors, and thats what we are.
I agree with this!
Great Talk Wenzes! Thank you!
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yes , kind of, i am gettin addicted to these videos and i love you so much and thank you, i really wish i could talk to you in person
Yeah true that, Wen. Accommodating and rearranging space for other people is an ever changing process. I know how not to intrude as I know when to back off.
Having experienced so much with an infj and sure they're like drugs,, so when they leave,,it feels so horrible and empty and makes wonder why they came in the way in the 1st place.
Are you sure they're a cognitive INFJ & not just the behavioural manifestation? Cognitive INFJs are much more akin to philosophers as NiTi abstract cerebral conceptualises; they are not emotionally but rather logically focused hence the proliferation of mistyping when one hasn't read Jung's work 😊
Yeah - i do agree we can shut everyone out on a whim, and lose contact for years. However, it's really not meant to hurt you or make you feel horrible. It's because we're misunderstood and society likes to categorize people in some way or another. So we just shutout people because we just don't fit, but also feel pressured to fit.
If you're meant to have a person in your life, an INFJ or not - they'll be in your life. Sometimes people just put up walls, to see who is going to break them down. No matter if you feel you're in the right or in the wrong.
My boyfriend is this type he sent me this video and I really love and enjoy being with him in this space I want to further get to know and understand him more.
Wow! What a great analogy and very resonating content. Provoking, now put that cattle-prod back where it belongs. 😂
Thank you 🙏
Hello INFJ,
I have found the solution to why groups hurt us so much. When we have full empathy, we get a full load of emotions in a group and honestly no matter where we go we always have this urge to adapt. So I reduced my empathy, but felt a lot of pain because my sensitivity was almost zero. Above all, it wasn't possible for me to recharge my batteries. Now I've tried to increase sensitivity and decrease empathy and only use it when necessary and it gives a feeling full of energy and above all it relieves you of the feeling of having to adapt. You recognize more clearly what you want. Our adaptation function is, so to speak, a reaction of the sensory system to empathy. Sensory means sensitivity. With this separation you can build your own ego and develop your own desires.
Sensitivity for others over empathy, because you see them as strong not powerless.
bought a hilfiger sweater. i hope they sponsors already
The timing of this video is just insane 😄 I've just come home from a weekend-long Expo and I observed ALL of these "moods" from the people I met. On my 4h drive home I thought about the people that rejected me, even though I tried.... Now I think about the people whose faces lit up when they saw me around 😋
People also don't understand the feelings invoked, & misinterpret the whole situation.
It explains why all people wants to work whith me and confirms why i get others pain
hey love
I live with two people who are ADHD....my slowness drives them nuts, but they also really need it.
In the solution of the automaticity there follows a self-control of both through one's own consciousness ^^. This is much better.^^
It's been expressed to me repeatedly in relationships that spending time with me is fantasy like. They can't handle this as it creates a dicotomy for them to participate in regular life. They then aren't received well in the real world and it all becomes too much living in conflict with wanting to be someone they aren't confident enough to be. I end all my relationships as I lose respect for someone not being able to live authentically.🙄
I haven't had this precise experience, but I've had a number of teetotalers around me who confessed that hanging out with me made them WANT to take drugs, and not in a bad way.
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Hello people.. I'm a rapper love freestyle mainly for myself but this ring's a bell , my neighbour Hurd me freestyle the first time we met and he said if he closed his eyes and listened it was like going on a trip .
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Hi! Just curious if you have material target to help the INFJ Parent by chance? I really struggle with thriving in motherhood when I need so much solitude, along with balancing everything else that comes with life as an INFJ. Thanks for taking the time to read my comment
I gave the drug to another who received it deeply, then I took it away with the doorslam. That was 40 years ago and the pain with me to this day. Horrible!
Some of the INFJ traits seem like codependency traits too. I apologise for commenting on this video but I’ve watched several others before this one.
If my golden pet Sammy retriever was a person. He would be a infj cause he gives me my highs.
Are all INFJs cool, calm,
& collected like this?
Because that's not me.
I'm a nervous wreck.
I've been accused of being an INFJ,
but I don't know.
Al-Hamde li-Allah الحمد لله
Become one with the dark energy of the sigma matrix
As SeFe divergent types, INFJs don't tend to have a persona/presence that is enigmatic as they observe the social atmosphere as divergent feelers as opposed to actively trying to influence it whether subconsciously or otherwise. 'You experience the emotions through them' - this is convergent Fi not divergent Fe. This trait, and yes it's perhaps a subjective trait loosely tied with cognition, would be much more applicable to a feeling convergent type, like your own type, the ISFP. Indeed I've found ISFPs to be a very enigmatic & inspirational type owing to the intensity of their Fi-Ni convergence. INFJs as divergent feelers tend to not always be socially present especially in the context of social friction they are likely to retreat into NiTi conceptualisation. Note the INFJ is not more connected to people on a subconscious level; Ni-Ti the convergent pairing is very conscious for the INFJ as it's the primary seat of the psyche; I think you're conflating Ni with being what's typically portrayed in non academic nonclementure as the 'woo woo' function; CPT does an exceptional video explaining what Ni 'looks like' for each of the cognitive types for your viewing...if people relate to the subconscious manifestation they are more likely to be an ESFP for whom NiTi has considerable influence on a subconscious level. As a TiNi type I can tell you that for me the pairing is highly under conscious control 'like the air one breathes'. Id be mindful when you say it's evident that people have imposter syndrome and society that although you may be correct in some circumstances, ISFPs do have blind Ne & as Ni is in the agency position they dont tend to deal with ambiguity so well; just because you postulate something doesn't make it true & the truth is generally much more nuanced. The cognitive INFJ will not so much as make bold declarations but rather give a nuanced account as to why this is logically probably the case. Remember people aren't necessarily scared to face these aspects of the self rather many people would prefer to, and probably already are by way of therapy etc, dealing with their own demons. ISFPs given the lack of nuanced ambiguity can, at times, come off as a bit to full on to people when they wish to deal with psychological issues on their own terms; reframement from such with you doesn't equate to someone not being receptive to helping themselves. As Ne blind types, ISFPs can sometimes struggle to see this. I think you're making quite dichotomous inferences about people in this regard; there's very much an 'us' Vs 'them' mentality which isn't reflective of nuanced reality. The irony is what you're espousing isn't indicative of a holistic & perceptive insight into human nature but rather quite a static & pessimistic perception of how people operate; you're stating that you're 'open minded' but you brush off any Ne perspective taking that is meant in good faith as being a personal attack, which isn't the case. This is very much reminiscent of psychological projection. I think what you're espousing has more connotations towards neurodivergence (some prototypes) and empathic attunement and I'd postulate a significant proportion of your audience are on the autism spectrum which of course is not a pejorative statement...Again I'd have much more respect for the content if it was predicated on academic reputable sources as opposed to ubiquitous behavioural stereotypes that have been pulled from forums & the larger internet plus I think you've covered this 'topic' before. Why not branch out & focus more upon actual cognition as opposed to personality traits? You'll find it invigorates a passion for typology & provides a more dynamic approach to cognition. All the best, Mena. As always check out Cognitive Personality Theory for clarification 😊. Also thank you to the numerous people who've contacted me for more clarity re their type & CPT; yes I will be producing my own content in the near future but I have to make it clear that this will be predicated on CPT so it's not entirely my own work but based on a pre-existing model albeit I will be making my own inferences as to how typology pertains to neurodivergence (the intersection between), psychoanalytic theory, epistemological perspectives, mental health & typology more broadly etc and so forth.
I really do appreciate your technical insight but even if what shes saying is flawed technically. Does it matter? She speaks to me, and it's not so much more different than all these motivational youtube gurus. They speak to people.
That said, I am definitely going to divulge further into what you are saying because I'm curious. I'm really in touch with my own sub conscious and am curious how my brain ticks.
However, I'm wondering about your underlying reason for taking the time and energy to comment on her videos with such blind conviction. Yes, I say blind because you're trying to arrest her words with yours, but there is nothing flawed with how presents her thoughts. If you want to be heard - im hearing you, and will definitely research more on what you're saying. That's just my curiosity though. However, maybe find some technical details that support what she's saying - gotta listen to to be heard. And for what it's worth - you may be onto something. Especially with where the world is headed, technical details may soon define people. It's sad but hey that's evolution.
You speak theory. But we are INFJ-s and we know best how we are.
We are the real source of the theories.
We do feel our pleasure from others feeling pleasure. If that doesn't go well with the theory you know about the INFJ you should change the theory, not tell us "no, you're not that way"
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Hello ma'am,
I searched this topic out because there is an INFJ in my life that does this to me- unintentionally, probably. The whole drug-like experience. Well, I've liked and very much disliked it. It feels even fake to me...not kidding. I'm an INFP who is very in tune feelings and fantasy; thus when something feels fantasy-like, I doubt it's truly real.
My INFJ "friend" is a decent person but doesn't know how to be friends with me. She's too busy with life all the time.
I am trying to disconnect myself from her emotionally. It'll probably hurt her and confuse her because she does life on her terms and thinks it's okay.
Do you - as an INFJ, I'd be happy if you were to just tell me why you're disconnecting with me, even if its because you think I'm fake. Even if it hurts me, I'd appreciate you just telling me what you see in me. That's because, I know who I am and will not want to change but will appreciate your input. We'll fight for the people we love though.
Can someone explain what wenzes has adviced on this topic in short
Take care of your energy, your personal energy level and the energy you're giving out.
INFJ = 👑
Being aware of your own energy is imperative for peace of mind!!
@@caroline4572 @caroline4572 💙✨thank you very much, very happy to receive your help , so this means that we can be as we are to all as long as we are healthy
@@lilorphani thanks to you too , I feel great to be helped by fellow infjs 💙✨, what you mentioned is to be aware of our own energy, that actually is a important point to pay attention too
I love how weird this topic is. To me, only an INFJ could relate the ways INFJs affect people to the effects of different types of drugs. Genius. Way to use your INFJ-ness to help INFJs learn about themselves.
Definitely not for the inexperienced INFJ. We have to be careful!
Hundreds? How many are there of us? I saw a comment about how the US has only a few.
Only .5% of the world are male INFJ, only 2% of the world are female INFJ so there are millions in the USA
We are very few everywhere i guess. It's as if we were some glitch in the matrix lol
We ARE the glitch
I'd very much like to know that actually.
@@koylejeune4332 we are the red pill actually lol 😝
❤ starting to realize I should shut up you deleted my my paragraphs fine with that don't ask it's about 4:20 here close to make a wish pipi that I'll get a like on this ❤
Feels infj are scorpios