HOARDER TO MINIMALIST: HOARDING HABITS I GAVE UP TO LIVE MINIMALLY

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  • @elizabethpeek6434
    @elizabethpeek6434 4 роки тому +117

    I used to “collect” nail polish but always used the same 1 color. I got rid of all of them, and bought my 1 signature color. 🥳💅

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +2

      Amazing!!!

    • @susie7336
      @susie7336 3 роки тому +5

      @The Busy B's I loveeee caboodles !

    • @butterflyqueen9260
      @butterflyqueen9260 3 роки тому +2

      I don't even do my own nails 😒

    • @kimthebudgetslayer
      @kimthebudgetslayer 3 роки тому +2

      OMG that is me🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @staceysmith4940
      @staceysmith4940 3 роки тому +7

      A couple years ago my husband on New Year’s Day poured me a glass of wine, turned on music, and pulled out my nail polish hoard. He very nicely but very authoritively said - You have a problem, lol! I went through it and by that I mean I dumped it all and have had zero regrets!

  • @caseyglenar7268
    @caseyglenar7268 3 роки тому +80

    I was hanging on to my kids artwork and school papers, then the grandkids artwork and school papers, knickknacks they liked when they were young etc. My youngest grandkid is now 16. They have zero interest in any of the stuff I saved, and I hardly get to see any of them anyway. I also kept it all just in case they might visit and have a flashback moment for themselves. Also I kept stuff so when I died they could see by all the momentous how much granny loved them! That’s pretty weird. Then I woke up, lol. All anyone would really say is “I can’t believe ma kept all this junk”. When I struggle letting go of anything, I renew my efforts by finding another video like this excellent one. (Also see Swedish Death Clean for we older ones.) It helps to realize that no one wants to deal with your stuff (not even you) so be kind and loving to yourself and your family and work on your relationships, your spirituality, your hobbies, or whatever truly makes you happy. Ask yourself this before acquiring something new, how long will this make me happy? Usually the answer is - not that long.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  3 роки тому +5

      Thank you for your beautiful insights! It really gives you something to think about!

  • @denal4011
    @denal4011 4 роки тому +114

    "my home was suffocating" - best line ever! And OH SO TRUE!! I'm still a work in progress de-suffocating my home!

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +3

      haha YES!!!

    • @supercrazydesi
      @supercrazydesi 4 роки тому

      Me too!!!

    • @nsmith4588
      @nsmith4588 4 роки тому +4

      There's a great book called Stuffocation by James wallman you might like. I'm reading, yet to actually declutter on a big scale. Tiny steps!

  • @chelsieehh9308
    @chelsieehh9308 4 роки тому +30

    Since I moved house after a divorce I decluttered nearly 30 garbage bags, no joke. 😳😳😳 I feel SO much better only living with what I NEED and LOVE!!

  • @daisybuchanan5378
    @daisybuchanan5378 4 роки тому +46

    So glad I found you ! I have decluttered and streamlined my home and life dramatically over the years. It was a process but it cured my anxiety- now I see that our society’s consumerism is really hurting us and stressing us. Less is better ! Less is peace.

    • @elizabeth__official
      @elizabeth__official 3 роки тому +6

      Less is peace!! ✊🏾 💝

    • @fiona3092
      @fiona3092 3 роки тому +5

      @@elizabeth__official Please pray for me i so need to do this like yesterday 🙏

    • @elizabeth__official
      @elizabeth__official 3 роки тому

      @@fiona3092 May the giver of peace grant you abundance peace. And may he strengthen you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen!🙏🏾

    • @victoriadickens2827
      @victoriadickens2827 3 роки тому +3

      And do u see how insecure we r about having stuff..women waste Soo much money..could go into savings..

    • @joankirby1944
      @joankirby1944 Рік тому +1

      @@fiona3092 if u go upstairs take stuff up if u go down grab what needs to go down throw acouple of things out every day or have a donate box. If it doesn't fit throw it out or damaged try something different to wear evey day if u dont want to then let it go. Soon the wardrobe will look emptier if u pick something up say do i need it can i live without it. And spend a few mins with a trash bag just putting rubbish in. Ur place will soon look better and it will give u the push to carry on and life is easier without it u will feel so different without most of it. Just focus on grabbing a few things i wouldnt drag everything out at first just a few items then nothing is worse than when u started only better. Good luck the biggest step is starting. Just say im gona do a few items then stop or throw a few things away.

  • @dominiquetheeasyminimalist
    @dominiquetheeasyminimalist 4 роки тому +82

    It’s so refreshing to watch a joyful person talk about minimalism! I often find that other creators are soooo serious about it. Although it is challenging and very difficult at times, the journey should be a happy, freeing and fun experience. I’ve been working on it for yearsssss and I still have many improvements to make. Like my 17 lipsticks 😂. Keep up the good work, and stay safe!

  • @TheNazzy786
    @TheNazzy786 4 роки тому +50

    I used to collect lip balms and hand cream, I’ve now used up most of them, feels more controlled and less cluttered.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +2

      Wow!! Good for you!

    • @truepeacenik
      @truepeacenik 4 роки тому +2

      I have a small bowl that I jokingly call “I might have a problem.”
      It’s lip balm. About 20ish tubes. Plus there are a couple in the car, one at my office (in a small personal care bag- I don’t tote a purse around generally).
      I’m going through and culling the almost gone, the sticky and the too stiff to use (usually age and beeswax creates this). My goal is to have five in there.

    • @wishingb5859
      @wishingb5859 4 роки тому +1

      I have the same hand cream problem. Sales buy 2 get 1 free was part of it. Smelling something that smelled beautiful in the store was part of it. But I filled a whole tote full of the hand creams and it became obvious that I need that space for all of my kitchen gadgets.

    • @sweetlady6059
      @sweetlady6059 4 роки тому

      Lol I have flavoured lip smackers that were popular in the ‘80’s (7up, banana, etc) I still have them away in a box
      Why am I holding on to these?!?!

    • @marinachoban2607
      @marinachoban2607 4 роки тому

      @@wishingb5859 I generally don't use lotions or perfume, I just go to the mall and spray up or try on a lotion. It satisfies that craving or whatever it is,
      (I tell myself I'm looking for the perfect scent and I'll come back to it if I love it) but that took a lot of keeping track, and now I just do it for fun

  • @elizaschissel4582
    @elizaschissel4582 3 роки тому +4

    This is the first video of yours that I've stumbled upon and watched. You're a delight! I used to buy a brand of frozen tamales that were packaged in a printed drawstring cotton bag, and I saved all of the bags for years! I folded them neatly in vertical Kondo fashion and filed them away in a bin. Crazy! I've since tossed all of them, obviously.

    • @returnofthereasoner3200
      @returnofthereasoner3200 3 роки тому +1

      You helped me realize that I have kept several drawstring bags that various sheet sets came in, rationalizing that they will come in handy some day. That day has never come!! Time to let go…..

    • @patricev.3795
      @patricev.3795 3 роки тому

      Looool! I’ve been looking for those tamales for a while now! My mom use to fix them for us when we were young. Are they called Tom Tom’s? Looool!!!! Thx for the memorable memories.

  • @emily45798
    @emily45798 3 роки тому +3

    I found you back in the day when I was getting into makeup. I am now 22, and super interested in minimalism and downsizing. I used to have hoader habits when I was a kid. Now I have to deal with going through everything. I am going to be a teacher! I am graduating this December. So I have to find a good system for my teacher items. I really like Reggio Emilia for Preschool. It fits with the whole minimalist style :)

  • @tiddlypom2097
    @tiddlypom2097 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you for your sensitivity around using the term hoarder, as it is a serious condition.
    I think that what you describe was definitely a hoarding mindset, and I'm glad you've managed to curb it early!
    There's a book, "Buried in Treasures" which is a hoarder workbook that I'm working through. It includes the emotional reasons people hoard, and the things you mentioned are in there.

  • @frazzledmomof4824
    @frazzledmomof4824 4 роки тому +42

    I still have my cardboard CTR box that I colored when I was a little girl in primary and I have birthday cards in there from my primary teacher. And I’m 51 ;)

  • @SabrinaMontoya77
    @SabrinaMontoya77 2 роки тому +2

    I have binge watched your videos over the last few days and am on a huge mission to be able to achieve this as well. I have decluttered so much over the last few yrs but now I am being ruthless with it thanks to all your tips and tricks even with my kids things. Things dont define us anymore and it is so freeing. Thank you from the bottom of my hearr

  • @ladbeethoven9
    @ladbeethoven9 3 роки тому +10

    I love her enthusiasm, just who I need to encourage me to declutter.

  • @sarminir3861
    @sarminir3861 3 роки тому +2

    As a former teacher myself and on a journey to a more minimalistic lifestyle, your story just resonates with me! Just subscribed and I'm looking forward to binge watching more of your content. :)

  • @sofiaandersson3206
    @sofiaandersson3206 4 роки тому +11

    I'm at the moment on my journey from a horder to a minimalist. It's not easy and it takes time but omg how rewarding the result is ❤💖 I have just decluttered my kitchen, now I'm working on my livingroom, then it's the bedroom and last but not least, my storage-unit 😊

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +2

      You got this! Decluttering is life changing, isn't it?!

    • @sofiaandersson3206
      @sofiaandersson3206 4 роки тому +2

      @@FancyThatwithCandice Oh yes, it is 😊❤💖 And an ongoing process 😊❤💖

    • @scruffy281
      @scruffy281 4 роки тому +1

      You are right..........not easy and takes time. I'm on the same journey and I am with you. Tough job but so satisfying. Keep up the good journey!!❤️

  • @johannathorisdottir2456
    @johannathorisdottir2456 4 роки тому +16

    hey girl i just minimized our home and wow o wow the space the freedom the calm my o my it feels awesome!!! I love minimalism, less to clean less to dust etc ..... ahhhhh

    • @marinachoban2607
      @marinachoban2607 4 роки тому +1

      Good for you! I wish I could see your B4 & after pictures!

  • @onairwitherika4644
    @onairwitherika4644 4 роки тому +14

    I always love your content, especially how cheerful you are!! Some other videos i watch about Minimalism seem sad or serious. Yours is opposite. It shows me that you are really happy living with less. My husband and i started doing the 30 day minimalism challenge backwards. So on day one, we got rid of 30 items and 29 on day 2 and so on. So far, we are down over 140 items. I dont need a challenge, but it really helps my husband cus he is competitive. Its been working great so far and feels so good to FINALLY let things go.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +2

      AMAZING!! I want to do a minimalist challenge once we get into the new house!

    • @marinachoban2607
      @marinachoban2607 4 роки тому +2

      So smart! It makes more sense that way, because at the beginning you have more motivation, and you see more things at a glance 👍

  • @SunnySensei
    @SunnySensei 4 роки тому +28

    I offer unused bathroom products to friends or donate them to shelters. You can also freecycle it!

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +2

      Ahhhh I love this!

    • @jesusislord3280
      @jesusislord3280 3 роки тому +2

      What is freecycling ?

    • @AMcDub0708
      @AMcDub0708 3 роки тому +1

      Even used is fine. Friends usually don’t mind used hand lotion if it is the squeeze out kind (as opposed to dipping your finger in it).

    • @SunnySensei
      @SunnySensei 3 роки тому +1

      @@jesusislord3280 There are online groups where you can give away items free instead of throwing them out or selling them (especially if goodwill or others won't take them). I joined a local freecycle group on Facebook but you can also post an item as free on nextdoor/facebook/craigslist. I do this because I like making sure my items are going to a good home and won't get thrown out. For example, I will batch bathroom/cleaning products or craft supplies together and post pics of them to the group.

    • @SunnySensei
      @SunnySensei 3 роки тому +1

      @@AMcDub0708 I agree, sometimes even homeless shelters or people in freecycle groups don't mind if the item is open/used as long as it is clean and in good condition.

  • @kirsten_e
    @kirsten_e 3 роки тому +1

    I literally carried this HUGE box (probably half the size of a fridge) of sentimental items since I was 8... it just kept growing and growing and every time I would move (a lot) I would say "I'm going to go through this" and now that I finally did a few weeks ago, I literally have 3 envelopes of letters/cards... I feel so much lighter! Great video!

  • @melissanutter
    @melissanutter 3 роки тому +2

    I need to find a person to help me. My Mother died last July during covid. We lived in the same house for years prior. It was not the best relationship I felt cornered and she would even go through the garbage I tossed out. It was a constant bombardment later when she was having dementia about anything I had. It was always a confrontation. I had other serious child hood trauma and I am now on the verge of losing it in this house. My family has offered zero help to do anything with her things. I just build up walls.. in stuff. So Make sure you know what HOARDING IS.. before you say you have a cluttered closet.

  • @marketahalbeisen312
    @marketahalbeisen312 4 роки тому +4

    Almost everything you were talking about I said: “Oh my goodness! Me too!” Especially the journals! I love them and have sooo many of them, I wrote on first page in most of them and never continued. I am in the begging of decluttering. I love it! But it will be a process. I have so much junk! Thank you for the video! So inspiring!

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +2

      So glad you can relate!!! Also, GOOD FOR YOU!!! You will never want to go back once you've gotten rid of things~

    • @patricev.3795
      @patricev.3795 3 роки тому +1

      OMG!!! The journals!!!!🤣😂🤣

  • @carolinafernandez1083
    @carolinafernandez1083 4 роки тому +2

    I used to hoard magazines. About two, maybe three years ago, I bit the bullet and recycled over 200 magazines. They were mostly home magazines and I kept them thinking I would reference them when I went to decorate rooms in my home. I finally realized I could just use Pinterest for ideas and inspiration, so the magazines had to go! It still feels good knowing I got rid of them and no longer buy them. I love watching your videos on decluttering and minimalism!

    • @Edu_Kate
      @Edu_Kate 4 роки тому

      I think a lot of publications feel the pinch from many of us who ditched magazines for Internet inspiration.

  • @allieblank5992
    @allieblank5992 4 роки тому +8

    Oh man. I could relate to so much. The cards, the costume jewelry I thought I would wear. I’ve recently got rid of a ton of cards, the makeup, and jewelry. I finally faced reality of what I was actually wearing and wanted to keep! And YAS, I remember your makeup videos. 🥰

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      so happy you can relate and I'm not the only one!!! Oh girl, I had SO MUCH MAKEUP!!

  • @allanamarie
    @allanamarie 4 роки тому +24

    I love your positive energy and spirit it always transfers 💕

  • @korab.23
    @korab.23 4 роки тому +6

    "Filling a fort..."🤣 I'll be using that. Thank you so much for your honesty, your pantry story is what sold me on your sincerity. Thank you for being honest and real!

  • @shellyfox9410
    @shellyfox9410 4 роки тому +18

    I am a hoarder of makeup and since having my baby I have realized I only use a few things regularly. Now I just have all of this makeup sitting there and I feel guilty every time I look at it!! It’s time to let it go I guess. 😄

    • @laurendaugherty6963
      @laurendaugherty6963 4 роки тому +4

      Brichelle Cummings coming from a former makeup hoarder... toss it! If it’s making you feel bad when you see it, then maybe it’s time to make room for something that makes you happy. Good luck! 💙

  • @tawnytuppence5573
    @tawnytuppence5573 4 роки тому +17

    I’m so proud of you, Candice!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
    I hope you do a minimal makeup collection video!

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +2

      Ah thank you so much!!! Eeeep!!! And I will put it on the calendar!

  • @laurat4977
    @laurat4977 3 роки тому +1

    Good job!! Let me mention that decluttering and minimalist habits are a lifelong routine. Doing it the first time is the hardest step and after that it becomes more or less a habit, a lifestyle. But it's something that always requires awareness and mindfulness. I think it's tremendously healthy for the mind and the budget! Right now I'm in the process of decluttering and organizing my kitchen shelves and cabinets.... again. It feels marvelous! Great video!

  • @loaringpartyof5790
    @loaringpartyof5790 4 роки тому +29

    What is it about lotions?! You gave me the inspiration to finally toss my bin of fragranced lotions I never use! I’ve organized and decluttered my bathroom closet twice now and I always keep the lotion bin! Why?! It’s getting tossed today! Thank you!

  • @carmencastillo9101
    @carmencastillo9101 3 роки тому +3

    Jewelry; friends came over for Christmas, brought me gifts. I didn't have anything for them! Then, I remembered I had tons of jewelry, NEW WITH TAGS. I wrapped earrings up and gave it to them! Haha...

  • @menopausalmusician414
    @menopausalmusician414 4 роки тому +7

    You don't own stuff. It owns you. Great video! Thanks!

  • @charlenebrissette3348
    @charlenebrissette3348 4 роки тому +6

    It is so nice to see a happy person on you tube, lately (I understand why) everyone seems so serious or angry about everything.

  • @debbiesmith4582
    @debbiesmith4582 4 роки тому +3

    I am so happy I ‘clicked’ on this video! And, amazed at all the parellels of what you mentioned. Each and every one you mentioned is in my life, too.
    Thank You! Time to get a garbage bag and a big donation box...thank you, again!!! 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @ohthankg-dforthebourgeoisi9800
    @ohthankg-dforthebourgeoisi9800 4 роки тому +3

    It HURTS throwing away stuff we’ve never used and are never going to use. If it was a gift, I feel sad like I should’ve enjoyed that gift. If I bought it, I feel cheated!

  • @katiebeantown7355
    @katiebeantown7355 4 роки тому +10

    I’ve been decluttering and a lot of this really resonated with me. I love your energy ♥️

  • @Ruby508707
    @Ruby508707 4 роки тому +5

    I’m loving your videos. They inspire me to get up and declutter or clean up something! Great practical ideas and positive advice not criticize yourself and joyfully move forward. Lol, the jewelry ball.

  • @martaescobar7625
    @martaescobar7625 3 роки тому

    Something I did for my small appliances and later my woodworking hand tools, bought a two door cabinet just for that. The mixer, toaster, hand mixer, waffle maker etc. all go in there. This can fit in a closet, spare bedroom, laundry room or utility room. We don't use these everyday like a coffeemaker and it frees up a lot of space. If you have a closet you can add shelves to will work also.

  • @prmorris5899
    @prmorris5899 3 роки тому

    Thanks for telling us you were able to get rid of so many cards. I keep them, too. And letters. So many letters. It was another era, I guess. Everything's on social media now. You're very likable.

  • @pameehanson3866
    @pameehanson3866 3 роки тому

    One of the things I have learned on this journey, is it is OK to have an empty cupboard. That cupboard above the Fridge that some of us have. The only way I could get things out was to stand on a stool. I first put all my cookbooks there and never used them. I found a small space, got rid of the ones I know I did not use, and left that cupboard empty and I do have stuff on top of the Fridge but it doesn't bother me as I have a very small kitchen and this is perfect place to store my Instant pot and my crock pot. These 2 items are used at least once a week. Thanks for reminders of letting it go and it is OK.

  • @allie8442
    @allie8442 3 роки тому +1

    Love your lightheartedness! I am a hoarder with most of that stuff too. I can still feel the pull of not wanting to let it GOOOOOO. Why do I need makeup I got for free in HIGH SCHOOL? I will have some of that make up when I die at the rate I go through eyeshadow.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  3 роки тому

      Ha ha! I totally hear you! I used to have more eyeshadow palettes than 10 people could use up in a lifetime! So happy I let that go!

  • @cocomoco39726
    @cocomoco39726 4 роки тому +3

    I have hoarded bath & body works lotions for years! It’s something I use at least twice a day but I still have way too much! Since covid, I haven’t shopped there and it’s really allowed me to go through quite a few bottles! I’m seeing it’s nice to use what you have before buying more.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      I LOVE their scents!!! Which one is your favorite?

    • @dionneboza3297
      @dionneboza3297 4 роки тому +1

      In 2016 I took a picture of all of my Bath & Body Works body washes and sprays. I gave some away and haven't shopped for that stuff since. I'm still trying to use it all up.

  • @faeriesmak
    @faeriesmak 4 роки тому +1

    Oh..I hear you on the lotion. I used to have shelves of Bath and Body Works stuff in my closet. It has taken me YEARS to get through all of it and now I am down to the one that I am using, one on my desk, and I have one in my closet that was a gift from a friend that I will use up when I need another one. I am waiting to use those up so that I can buy my all time favorite Body Shop Coconut Body Butter. I still have a ton of shower gel that I bought at a sale once, but that’s fine because my entire family uses them. I used to hoard hair products as well. Now I only have what I use and do not replace styling products until they are almost gone.

  • @sweetlady6059
    @sweetlady6059 4 роки тому +3

    My habits are almost everything you mentioned: makeup, journals, supplies and lol lotions! Yeah why is it I can’t let go of lotion or makeups??
    Ready to make a difference not quite there but watching your video (I just found you other day and this second video I found today) is giving me a good incentive now to let go of things holding on to but I don’t use. Good video!

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +1

      It's such a process!!! I've been at it for almost a year and still have a long way to go!! Slow and steady wins!!! So happy you found my channel! Excited to have you here!

    • @alisonnorcross951
      @alisonnorcross951 3 роки тому

      What about not wearing makeup, not wearing nail varnish.

    • @happydays1336
      @happydays1336 3 роки тому

      I wouldn't throw away diaries or journals.

  • @cheekykitten25
    @cheekykitten25 4 роки тому +1

    I sorted my pantry/storage cupboard out today thanks to you I managed to declutter so many jars and tubs lol and I actually managed to get stuff I had stored in a long ottamon (don’t ask! I really struggle for space) into my little storage cupboard. Thank u sooo much. I noted everything I have into my phones notes.

  • @sydnowlan3500
    @sydnowlan3500 3 роки тому

    Im slowly working on getting my makeup collection down!!! Using one pallet until its gone. One blush until its gone and not buying more until that product category is completely gone!!! Its feels so good. Also doing this with my lotions and perfumes!

  • @emilyw530
    @emilyw530 2 роки тому +1

    I'm turning 30 in two months and I've come to the recollection I have hoarding tendencies, love to shop way too much, and just am struggling to clean and organize my home. Thank you for the inspiration

  • @Erica-zx2ck
    @Erica-zx2ck 3 роки тому +4

    I am a photo hoarder! Whether it's in print or on my phone . Still trying to figure out a system to make sure I declutter my phone and my photos because I'm so attached 😅

  • @melindasarino4633
    @melindasarino4633 4 роки тому +2

    Love your channel! I'm working on decluttering and minimizing our home...but what a process. I'm giving myself a hoarder title for some things...love home decor and crafts...omg! Thanks Candace for your videos, I really enjoy them!

  • @MIVargo1
    @MIVargo1 3 роки тому

    I feel like this video has changed my life literally thank you. Your point about its costing more to keep things really hit home with me

  • @SeetalMD
    @SeetalMD 3 роки тому

    isn't it odd that it's the hoarders that eventually become minimalist and love that label. im one too. man the stuff was just wow... so stressful. love your video. thanks for sharing!

  • @anissamichele
    @anissamichele 4 роки тому +7

    OMG, cards and jewelry, that’s me and I haven’t even finished the video yet!!

  • @joshuaclaytonsmith
    @joshuaclaytonsmith 3 роки тому

    Hard not to love your enthusiasm!

  • @lizouimette
    @lizouimette 4 роки тому +1

    I used to hoard cards too. Now, I too, only keep the ones that have something real written in them. Mostly the ones from my parents because what they write is always a little journal of sorts. I have them in a binder, open and flat, in those clear sleeves so I can see the whole card without removing it. Throwing away all the dumb cards that didn't have true sentimental value was so cleansing.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      YES!!! So happy to hear you have made the binder and that you love it!!!

  • @arozsa-h57
    @arozsa-h57 2 роки тому

    I believe we hold on to clothing because we tend to identify ourselves with those clothes. I believe throwing them away might cause some of us to feel like we are throwing away a piece of us (whether past selves or a self we desire to be like). Another reason I believe we tend to hold on to clothing is because they are so expensive! :)

  • @travelamma2779
    @travelamma2779 4 роки тому

    Grew up in a military family - have moved many, many times. Recently sold my house and got rid of a ton of stuff. BUT - I still have all the "heritage" items my mom said to keep for future generations. My children don't want them, the grandchildren even less. Having a hard time deciding what to do with them. I have donated a lot but I still have a storage unit.
    Thanks for your Positivity - it gives me hope I can conquer even this challenge. Coming to terms with "what no one wants - doesn't really matter." Sell if possible, donate or toss if not.

    • @StrivingforSelfSufficiency
      @StrivingforSelfSufficiency 4 роки тому +1

      You own the items, they don’t own you. Recommend Marie Kondo’s book “The Magical Art of Tidying Up”. Good luck!

    • @travelamma2779
      @travelamma2779 4 роки тому

      @@StrivingforSelfSufficiency Thank you!

  • @BC-ub6eg
    @BC-ub6eg 3 роки тому

    I’m a teacher and I feel like hoarding supplies is typical in this profession. I have a storage unit full of teaching supplies and I decided that I am going to post it all online for new teachers starting out to come “shop” my storage unit. I pay to store this crap that I don’t really need anymore. The only thing that worked out was prepping to teach from home, it made me go in there and realize I’m good without most of it!

  • @thearbitrarylife
    @thearbitrarylife 4 роки тому +1

    Girl, I totally understand! Such a relief I am not the only one. My heart is happy.

  • @celesterushforth9474
    @celesterushforth9474 4 роки тому +2

    Way to go! Yep, some of those areas are a struggle for me too. Would love to declutter but finding the time, health and energy is extremely challenging! I, too, feel like I am suffocating in my own home!

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      It has taken me almost a year to get where I am today, and I still have so far to go!! Just chip away a little at a time and you'll get there!!!

  • @laurendaugherty6963
    @laurendaugherty6963 4 роки тому +1

    Former makeup hoarder 🙋🏼‍♀️. I still love makeup, but I love and actually use what I have now and I feel like I enjoy my makeup routine now.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      SAME!!!! I'm enjoying my makeup more now because I'm not always feeling guilty about it!!

  • @jenny_b_
    @jenny_b_ 3 роки тому

    I subscribed as soon as I read the title of this video. I’m currently a hoarder myself but I aspire to be a minimalist!! You give me hope that it can happen💕

  • @busybecky6327
    @busybecky6327 4 роки тому +6

    I have huge bins of pictures that were damaged in a house fire 7 years ago. They're damaged beyond repair. Stuck to frames, smoke damaged, water damaged.. I can't bring myself to throw them out. I could probably take them to a professional , but there's so many and it would probably cost more than I'd want to pay. Ugh 😥

    • @denisecarter5117
      @denisecarter5117 4 роки тому +1

      Busy Becky I think it will be a weight off when you finally throw those out.

    • @lalahdz9553
      @lalahdz9553 4 роки тому +5

      Take pictures of the damaged and do the most sentimental photos for restoration.

    • @busybecky6327
      @busybecky6327 4 роки тому +1

      @@lalahdz9553 That's a great idea! 💕

    • @lizouimette
      @lizouimette 4 роки тому +2

      I'd suggest making a small art piece with some of it. Something you can actually display. After my parent's house fire, I lost everything of any sentiment because I only had practical and functional items with me in my post college apt. My brothers cut a chunk of my melted memorabilia items out of the rubble. They ozoned it to make it not smell anymore and then put a thick clear coat over it and made it mountable. It's my favorite piece of art and actually looks like art, not just burnt trash. And honestly, even 9 years later, it's the only sentimental thing I would never get rid of now. One simple item now that has parts of my first 25 years of memories embedded in it.

  • @annieslittleblessings3368
    @annieslittleblessings3368 4 роки тому +1

    Hello, I absolutely love your channel. You are so positive and fun, a breathe of fresh air. I also love journals. I think I just like the idea of them more than I actually use them. I now have just one that I use to write notes, to do’s, reminders, just anything I need to jot down. Rather than 10 journals I planned to write in daily with my memories of the day and end up writing one or two pages and then forgetting about it.

  • @WoollyBlanket1
    @WoollyBlanket1 4 роки тому

    Just found you, this is a great video! I’m not a minimalist in any way but I am big on decluttering and having items which bring me joy, rather than just having stuff. I’ve always been good at decluttering and clearing out but nothing ever felt “right”. I figured it’s because I was doing these huge purges and then just buying MORE STUFF. This year, after some CBT for anxiety, I actually got to the root of the problem and now I see things so differently. My makeup collection is so small now, it’s not even a “collection” it’s just a regular makeup bag rather than drawers and drawers full. Same with my skincare. I purged my clothes and stopped buying what I thought I should wear (as a 35yr old mum) and now I have a small amount of clothes I WANT to wear, same with bags, shoes, accessories. Cards, journals...all gone.
    I feel I can finally BREATHE now. We live somewhere temporarily which isn’t ours and means we can’t declutter a lot of the things, so i can’t wait for the day when we’re in our home with so much less STUFF.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      I know exactly what you mean about being able to breathe! I feel like a burden lifted without so much to manage. Decluttering literally changed my life!

  • @vivianhudacek1556
    @vivianhudacek1556 3 роки тому

    Such a cute gal! Love your bubbly personality & honesty. As a retired teacher, I definitely relate. I think that as teachers we are always wanting to be prepared & wanting to use materials in new ways. It’s hard to part with those items we’ve developed. Thanks for your video.

  • @sweetlady6059
    @sweetlady6059 2 роки тому +1

    I too still have cards I recvd as a child through my 20’s till now (54 years of cards)

  • @h.s.2958
    @h.s.2958 4 роки тому +2

    Omgoodness! It's like you're describing me! 🤦‍♀️ (Hoarding cards, journals & lotions!).
    It's nice to hear how a normal person got there sh*t in order, instead of wondering how the heck I'm gonna be like this perfect minimalist girl, so thanks!! 😁😁😁

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +1

      Haha so happy this resonated with you!!! And really, there is no such thing as the perfect minimalist!!! :)

  • @Edu_Kate
    @Edu_Kate 4 роки тому +1

    You are awesome!
    Oh my gosh! I got over greeting cards when we downsized my folks to an assisted living apt. They had a lifetime of greeting cards. Nearly 3x the amount you once kept.
    Now, I do not send out cards and if I receive any I usually put them in recycling within a day. (One aunt always signs her cards with the same message.)
    I'm retired so can release my office attire. I haven't yet. I'm still figuring out where I can send them. Some are rather nice and I think I can take to a consignment shop. It stymies me.
    I don't wear makeup anymore. Special occasions I find my mascara has dried up.

  • @susanspisak6213
    @susanspisak6213 3 роки тому

    I am so glad to have come across your channel !!!

  • @thehappycrowdph695
    @thehappycrowdph695 3 роки тому

    I collected a lot of makeup in the past. Now, I have an Instagram account of all my empties. Yup. I use them all up until the last drop. Not buying until I have used up at least two makeup products. Also, I hoarded cards like you. Even decors. Started getting rid of 40% of them already. Hugs. :)

  • @ashley.hulsey
    @ashley.hulsey 4 роки тому +2

    These are all great! On my journey, I have really declutter any clothing and jewelry I don’t wear. Although I still have lots of clothing, it is all items I wear throughout the year / seasons / holidays.
    I never take freebies, samples, etc. I also try to keep one of things (cosmetics, cleaning items, toiletries, etc) vs having a huge back stock.

  • @Semi-MinimalistAn
    @Semi-MinimalistAn 3 роки тому

    I keep cards from the kids, but not from anybody else. I have old clothes/shoes because I haven't bought anything in a long time. If clothes are too worn out, I cut them up for rags. If clothing is a gift from one of the kids, then I keep it forever. I don't buy anything anymore unless it is a necessity. No purchasing of nail polish, jewelry, clothes/shoes (I won't buy anymore until these are worn out), and that's just the beginning of the list. I agree, if my house can breathe, then I can breathe.

  • @Discovering.jess.
    @Discovering.jess. 4 роки тому

    We hang on to clothes because we probably spent a pile of money on these pieces, or we have hope of wearing them again. Or we are just seriously overwhelmed by all the stuff.🙋‍♀️ guilty!
    I feel so much better after going through it all! Love your channel

  • @DaniStenko
    @DaniStenko 4 роки тому +1

    A lot of these things are also my experiences. And it's okay to call yourself a hoarder, if you feel like it. Most of us only now that hoarders are those crazy people we see on the sensational, dramatic shows. The truth is, it all begins with your head. The fact that lots of us are able to notice it and help themselves (with the means of Internet, therapists, etc). only shows that *if not for the change we committed to* we'd end up like many of those extreme hoarders. I see that what I had in my head concernign many things were the exact same thing that my hoarding family members or the people on the show have. The fact that I am now on my way to being a minimalist (after many years I'm midway) doesn't disprove my hoarding tendencies. I know my thoughts and I know that with hoarding, I have to constantly control myself and review what and why I bring into my life. I still struggle, nearly daily.

  • @naturewitch8687
    @naturewitch8687 3 роки тому +2

    That costume jewellery though! 🤩

  • @denisegirmer4550
    @denisegirmer4550 Рік тому

    From prepping to minimalism …..I need to write a book!

  • @Debbiesdilemmas
    @Debbiesdilemmas 4 роки тому +3

    Congratulations on reaching 60k subscribers.😊❤️🙏

  • @antiantipoda
    @antiantipoda 3 роки тому

    In my experience people hold on to clothing is because they have too much and in the confusion they don't notice what they don't wear or why. When you have enough and regularly wear what you have it's easier to notice "this blouse doesn't fit well" or "these panties are GONE". This week I wore a rip into one set of sheets. I am actually proud of it. I used the fabric up. I might even sew them up or do a patch, because I like to buy sheet sets when I travel and... there is a pandemic.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  3 роки тому

      It does feel SO good when you've truly used something "up" !! Good for you!

  • @GoogleUser-wx8mw
    @GoogleUser-wx8mw 3 роки тому

    Boxes. I used to hoard boxes. Now, I only keep the ones I have specific uses for, and I THROW OUT the others (recycle). I used to ask family members to return the boxes I wrapped their gifts in if they didn't plan to keep them (which was okay, if they did). My sister-in-law is amazed that I can now let go of boxes, haha. She used to return the gift boxes . . . bless her heart.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  3 роки тому

      Ah bet it feels so good to let go of the ones you're not using!! Good for you!

  • @lorraineturton4485
    @lorraineturton4485 4 роки тому

    Love your minimalist style. Really nice. Life is so much better when it is simplified.

  • @rebeccataylor7786
    @rebeccataylor7786 4 роки тому

    You shouldn't feel bad for your past, thank you for being honest about it!! 💚 it's when we take an honest look at our past and be authentic with ourselves that we learn. I have just come across your videos and I love them. You're so authentic and relatable, thank you! I'm certainly in the process of hoarder to minimalist ish, and it's a very interesting look at myself. I have healed some similar habits to what you mentioned. But still struggle with sentimental items and get paralyzed by how to discard in the most ethical way for particular items. Eg land fill haunts me. . Getting there.. Anyway, thank you again for your beautiful smile (you don't need make-up BTW) and your refreshing transperancy 💚💞🙏😊

  • @yvonnelanese-coppola4999
    @yvonnelanese-coppola4999 4 роки тому +2

    New here, and subscribed. Loved your energy 😊
    My husband thinks I hoard certain things. My kids are grown and I need to see what they want to keep.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому +1

      I think it's so tough when it comes to kid's stuff!! I am always worried I'll get rid of something they will be sad about later... Having them go through it themselves really is the only way!! Thanks for subbing! So happy to have you!

  • @poliver12345
    @poliver12345 3 роки тому

    Held on to Cards B-D &Christmas as well from loved ones. W/ winter here in the east I have several jackets, also make jewellery, sweaters and jackets also boots!

  • @anewchapter8142
    @anewchapter8142 4 роки тому

    I just got rid of a huge box of much smaller size clothing, that I had for ten years. I didn't realize I had it for that long. I decided that if I ever got down to that size again, I'd want new clothing.

  • @bronzyamakeup6809
    @bronzyamakeup6809 3 роки тому

    Me tooo, I realized after years that some cards meant nothing to me, from ppl I don't really have great memories of, so I decided to get rid of.

  • @dhmill761
    @dhmill761 2 роки тому +1

    Just dumped make up today!!!! Down to 1/2. Yay

  • @mariaziarnik6909
    @mariaziarnik6909 4 роки тому +1

    I love your videos very inspiring!
    I have hoarded costume jewelry. One day I realized right after covid and I was working remotely from home. I would only reach for maybe ten pieces.
    I decided to let it go.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      Good for you!!!! And it's crazy that no matter how much we accumulate, we still gravitate towards our few favorites!

  • @wanda4573
    @wanda4573 4 роки тому +5

    Make up and lotions, omg I had sooo much too as 3 friends gave me piles of it. Too busy to use it. I gave it away.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      Awesome!!! It's so nice to give things away that you think others might be able to use!

  • @OliviaCo
    @OliviaCo 4 роки тому

    It’s hard for me to let go of clothes, happy to watch your happy video

  • @Jillian1stJohn3-9-10
    @Jillian1stJohn3-9-10 3 роки тому

    Tear it out the blank pages from your journal and use them for to-do list, reminders.

  • @rosechoix
    @rosechoix 2 роки тому

    💕 best of luck on fitting back into your clothes! I'm on the same path, though I only have one baby ☺️

  • @marylut6077
    @marylut6077 3 роки тому

    Yesterday, I realized I hoarded empty cardboard boxes of many sizes. Now they are in recycling bin! If I ever move again, I will want all boxes the same size for easy stacking in moving van

  • @bt-wk2xf
    @bt-wk2xf 3 роки тому

    omg yes! I still have a box of old cards and sentimental items I need to sort through. Now greeting cards go away after a week or two, unless they are truly special with a handwritten note I want to reread some day.

  • @catthouser9032
    @catthouser9032 3 роки тому +2

    Lol...jars. Don't know what I plan on putting in them.

  • @unitedheartsamerica5924
    @unitedheartsamerica5924 3 роки тому

    Amen amen amen amen... i have hoarded many of the same... lol it was funny to hear you talk about ME ME. ME. ME!!! And one of my first strategies to correct this crazy train was to control what came into the house.. so whoa on the collections and I strongly evaluate my purchases..
    Nail polish- same- and I use 2-3 brands and have one color from each. Nail stuff now has a small container and everything can be found there and it is easier to manage.
    Dental products you get at the dentist.. i had a sm container full! I just tossed toothpaste from 2014. Ps the toothpaste can be used to clear cloudy car headlights.
    Happy De-hoarding everyone! 😊😁

  • @stephaniecook9212
    @stephaniecook9212 4 роки тому +1

    Yes! I agree so much for the greeting cards. I've kept my grad cards and my wedding cards and just a few extra special sentimental cards and I'm good with it

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      Too many cards is just overwhelming!! So happy I kept just a few special ones!

  • @wishingb5859
    @wishingb5859 4 роки тому

    Your pantry is so pretty now. Excellent job! Mine is a hoarders pantry that started with COVID. The store shelves were bare, so I panic bought things online and I also bought Ball jars to put the foods in but I got overwhelmed and just started not cooking at all. I just ended up buying frozen Amy's dinners and microwaving those. I know I will get back to cooking someday but it is amazing what can happen when the mind shuts down.

    • @FancyThatwithCandice
      @FancyThatwithCandice  4 роки тому

      I totally know what you mean about the mind shutting down! That does happen to me sometimes!

    • @wishingb5859
      @wishingb5859 4 роки тому

      @@FancyThatwithCandice You are sweet and very inspiring. Yes, shutting down happens to everybody. I am talking myself through it. I know that my brain was afraid because the shelves were bare for so long. I think there are often "good reasons" we hoard. Saving money. Being prepared. Solving problems.

    • @wishingb5859
      @wishingb5859 4 роки тому

      @@FancyThatwithCandice It seems to me that most of my clutter is because I have worked through my mind how to do something when I don't know how to. I just had a basement flood and I bought cleaning supplies, wet vac, mold control fogging, different mop heads because it was sewage backed up, main drain cleaners, etc. Last year, I had gotten rid of cleaning supplies and went "water only" and steam cleaning and UV light but suddenly I had black mold and sewage in my basement and I immediately hoarded.

    • @wishingb5859
      @wishingb5859 4 роки тому

      @@FancyThatwithCandice The thing is, I bought a bleach sprayer and more than I needed of everything and have used it. But I won't need any of it ever again unless my main line backs up again. I need to go back to water-only cleaning.

    • @wishingb5859
      @wishingb5859 4 роки тому

      @@FancyThatwithCandice But I needed to come up with a yearly strategy to make sure the main line never gets plugged again.

  • @glorialoya2766
    @glorialoya2766 3 роки тому

    I am a teacher as well. I have taught elementary, middle school, GED, and adult ESL. I have donated thousands of books and materials and I still feel I have too much.

  • @tashainjena
    @tashainjena 4 роки тому +1

    I still love journals, but I have stopped buying alot of them. I have started using the ones I had stored, and use those for lists and Bible journaling. I don't actually journal anymore, because the only time I would journal is when I was angry or depressed, and I don't want people to read my old journals after I'm gone and think that was how I was, ya know? Cause it's not.

  • @VS-fo9py
    @VS-fo9py 4 роки тому +4

    I just decluttered a kitchen cabinet last night, and apparently I’m a hoarder of birthday candles. But no more. I threw all the random numbers and individual used candles away.

  • @swillou2
    @swillou2 2 роки тому

    You made me laugh re the costume jewellery! Lol. I did that with some earrings, huuuuuge hoops I never wear. I’d worn one pair. Keeping them and buying more just to sit on my dresser. I kept a pretty pair that make me happy to look at