Hi Lucy! My weight loss went the opposite direction. I worked on my mental state first, then the weight loss followed. My issues now is being able to do the workout routine and understanding I’m not changing my body bc I hate it, but because I realized my body was holding me back from experiences.
I absolutely am this way too. I can accept the stretch marks and the overflap from my C-section. I’m never going to be in a crop top… BUT I want to lose weight to be healthier, fitter, test my abilities and become the person I want to be. Enjoying the journey
OMG. The perception of yourself as the person you had been (in the body you previously had) versus how people see you at present. You are the only person I have ever heard address this. I feel so much less alone just knowing this isn't me. There are really very few people who have gone through this type of weight loss journey and maintained so long as to have that distance where those in their present reality don't know how much they have changed. I remember when I started teaching university courses whilst in my PhD program and I was telling some at the gym how I taught, and they replied "what? yoga?" In my head then, and even now, I don't see myself as someone who "looks like" a yoga teacher/dancer/gymnast. The weirdest thing for me is that I sometimes literally see my reflection, like not when I am looking directly in a mirror, but if I pass by a reflective surface, and don't recognize myself.
I can so relate with your point of conflict between old self and new self. For 30 years of my life, I was an introvert. I hardly talked to people outside my small circle. I changed that and people don't think that of me any more. But I still think that I'm that old self. I feel amazed at times and think why am I even doing this. I don't need to talk to this person or that! And this is despite things going well.
I 100 and 20,000 percent relate to you and your message. I expienced being treated differently by weight changes as well, but when I actually gained weight after my sons birth, but what a blessing this was because I got to see the true colors of some people around me, and it was so surprising! I love what you do and your channel, Lucy. Thank you for these talk it out videos. They help me so much! 💗
I can relate so much. Personally I set foot at the gym when I was 34, until then I was a major couch potato. I lost weight, my body has totally changed I can do so many things but still now my first reaction to a new exercise is “What?! I can’t do that!!”. But despite the negativity most of the time I managed to nail the exercise and that gives me joy and motivation to go on!! ♥️♥️
Totally agree on friends’/partners’ perceptions. When I was a teenager/into my early 20s, I was a bit heavy, didn’t know how to dress for my shape/size, had curly hair I didn’t know how to manage and was super clumsy. I was pretty confident despite all that, had good friends etc, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve sorted all the appearance stuff out and the people I meet/date now have no idea of what I was like before. They make assumptions and comments about what it must have been like for me growing up which are so far off and I always find it difficult. And a lot of how I am now is rooted in issues I had growing up, how I saw myself and how I addressed them - and I just don’t want to or know how to explain all that. Thanks for talking about this. Reassuring to know it’s not me.
I really needed to see this…I’ve been on maintenance for two months after losing 80lbs since the beginning of last year and I’m really struggling. Maintenance is even more difficult than losing the weight. What you said about not feeling like you are who you know you are (I’m now really into fitness but ever since I was like 11 I hated any physical exertion and only had bad experiences exercising). I feel like I’m lying to everyone about who I am. It feels like I’m being fake when I’m around my friends and I talk about enjoying exercise even though I really do now. And the thing about buying clothes that are too large is also a problem for me. Loved this video, thank you for discussing this. I’m glad I found your channel.
I have put on weight so much in the last 4 years. I feel so bad in my own body, but what I have realised recently is that I have always felt like that even when I was 40kg lighter. I definitely agree that the diet is not going to change that feeling. It is finding out what make you like yourself which is so difficult!
This is so important to address - and you're the first to do it (as far as I know). My. best friend lost 35 kg last year post-covid. She started with just walking - no running! We were talking about how doing this, every day, WITHOUT listening to music or podcast helped her a lot with this aspect of weight loss. She calls it the spirituality of weight loss. I am now following her example and I realized it really gets you to "sit down with yourself" - whilst walking mind you 😅 Another thing I noticed is with every pound of fat going away old issues seem to pop up in my life again. As though I had stored it in the fat. Well that's exactly what happens when you think about it. So this too is a thing to think about and handle well when it happens. So thank you again for your video!
I'm so glad to watch a video about these topics. It's so strange to lose weight and to experience people's different reactions. It's really hard realizing that society in general, and sometimes family, will behave differently and I find myself mourning the person I was that was in real pain and that person had less positive feedback. On the other hand I did gain a little and then lose again and now it's like a drug getting skinny again and hoping for more attention that I've had to step back and realize the addiction I got when I first lost weight. It becomes really sickening and then I understand why people with anorexia become so addicted to being skinny. It's really all very sad and painful. I also have family members who are terribly overweight so I sling back to doing everything I can to not be like that and it's difficult to find a balance. It's also difficult to find people able to talk about this without jealousy or their own idiosyncrasies getting in the way of real help. Anyways. Yeah, it's strangely painful to successfully lose weight. I wish it could be more understood because I genuinely want to help people, but often they only want to lose weight and not be healthy, so then I kind of back away because I actually do care about them, but I want them to want to be healthy and not addicted to being skinny. Sorry, for the ramble but the wounds are still fresh.
Just found your channel through your 30 Kg weight loss transformation video and this is the second video I watch. I really like your point of view and you found a new subscriber. I have to agree with everything you say here. One point that really stuck out to me is how other people react to weight loss and I really had everything. A lot of people I loosely know told me they found my weight loss awesome. But some of my friends and family started to say I would look to skinny, my face looks like a skull, it wasn't attractive the way I looked then and stuff like that, when in reality i wasn't skinny at all. More like 95 Kg and over 20% body fat. From a science point of view I was still somewhat overweight but I put on a lot of muscle so I didn't think that of myself. I said something like that to them "I weigh 95 Kg and have 23% body fat. I'm not too skinny, I'm not unhealthy I just look different and you have to get used to it. If you don't like it that's your thing but I don't care if you think I no longer look attractive to you. And I'm not going to stop just because you think I'm not as you think I should be or my face is more attractive in an obese state." I didn't cut out the people but I made it clear that telling me stuff like that isn't an option.
It‘s interesting how I‘ve become much more body-conscious and self-critical since I started losing weight and getting stronger. It‘s made me go harder but also be harder on myself. This is positive and negative at the same time. It makes me more ambitious but I feel like there are two different ways of ambition one being healthy and one being rather self-destructive… yet they are kind of the same. With Calisthenics, it is often the case that I do make progress but seeing people on the internet or friends doing the coolest things the self-doubt comes in again. I then need to really take a step back and focus on myself which isn‘t always easy. I constantly have to work on my mindset in order to stay true to myself. Thanks for talking about this, Lucy.
That is very valuable for anyone who's just started weight loss journey to create correct mind-set from the very beginning and avoid making assumptions like "All my problems will dissappear". Thank you Lucy ❤️
Lucy, you are such a gift to the world and to this space ❤ I am so glad I found your channel. Your vulnerability in sharing your journey and knowledge you’ve gained through your experience is such a blessing, thank you for what you do!
I totally get what you’re saying. I miss that old person and feel sad for her and what she went through and how she was treated but also feel disgusted when I see how big I was which is awful awful awful. Some people who knew the old version actively tell me they preferred her because she was more fun (I gave up drinking as part of the whole thing so I’m not ‘fun’ anymore’. It’s so so hard. Everything you are saying massively resonated with me. The clothes thing too! Argh. It’s so hard. I literally look in the mirror and think ‘is what I’m seeing true?’ and actually have no idea. I’ve lost a lot of friends through this. Physically I’m 6 stone lighter and sportier and healthier but mentally I’m in a massive hole. I was just oblivious before I think.
believe it or not but it was a positive thing that you lost those "friends". Telling you you were more fun before is super insensitive and disrespectful. You lose a lot of people during a weight loss because so many people dont really want the best for you, even some of your "friends". Dont think of this as something negative, instead be happy that you only have people around you now, who actually really wanted you to become the best version of you and who really like you for you and not your bodyweight.
I felt every single word in the mental health part.. It is quiet hard to realize and deal with the mix up between who you now are from the outside and the same person that you were some time ago and even the person you manifest to be in the future
Thanks for sharing this video (your story with us too). I'm personally battling a self-hatred right now 😡 (body image problems 😪😖🤧😷) But using your story as motivation to battle this pain so I can move forward and feel "seen" and unafraid and unrepentant and just be happy with myself again.
Lucy, you are the most realistic, authentic youtuber and you have an amazing personality! This channel has taught me to be easy on myself and just try my best every single day. Simple changes have led me to healthier lifestyle and better food choices have affected on my mental health as well. It is absolutely true that "life goes on" and no result is permanent, our bodies change and there's no need to overstress about it. Your videos have motivated me to start exercising while I was even below the beginner level, you have encouraged me and probably a lot of other followers to make baby steps and do not beat oneself up daily for not being the best at it. Keep up the great work you do and shine on
so glad i found your channel Lucy I wish i found you years ago ive been struggling with my weight and mental health for about 20 years now and this video explains everything that i feel thankyou so much for everything that you do take care and stay safe xx
First of all Thank You for doing what you do, helping people to improve! I don't know if i am overstepping here but: BDD (Body dysmorphic disorder) is very common mental health problem, especially among women. What you describe sounds just like that, i don't like to put labels on stuff but that is pretty much how it sounds when you explain. All i can say is work on accepting your flaws because no one is perfect and never will be, try find the positives and focus on things that you are very satisfied with instead. Ignore people that are negative towards you online, they do not now. Introspective is the only real way to get over these kind of issues and mental health problems. I know these things from experience as i suffered from the same issues in my life up to my 30s, i'm now 41 and have learned to accept my flaws for what they are. Develop good principles, morale and routines and life quality will increase. Real happiness is a luxury few get to experience. Most people have a mask up most of their life because they are not confident enough to show who they really are in fear of being judged by other people. Some people never learn to really dig deep and ask the hard questions to them self and being honest to them self. But that is the only way to truly be free of mental health issues. I don't know you but you seem like a great person so i hope you really get that voice in your head to shut up. And remember that true beauty comes from within and what kind of person we are! You look stunning so keep doin what you are doing! Cat person at heart here!, your cat is sooo gorgeous and cute! :) Much love from Sweden!
The mental part is so hard for me too! I haven’t actually lost the weight yet, but I’ve been exercising consistently for the past 7 years. You can’t out exercise a poor diet though. It’s all mental for me. I love to exercise, but nutrition is my kryptonite. I’m not sitting around consistently eating potato chips all the time either. I consistently eat good quality food. It’s sometimes the quantity that is the problem, and consistency is always the problem. Any advice Lucy?
Lucy, I could listen to you again and again. Every point you named in this made me say, yes, I know that. The mental point is so true. Thank you so much for feeling less alone with all the struggles. 💖💖💖
Did you just free ball this...You did make a lot of sense and are so in tune with your own mental health journey. Its really impressive and important information you are sharing. Thank you
Firstly I want to say congratulations on all of your success. I remember when you started doing UA-cam! I’ve always loved your videos, you’re open and honest, you share perspectives on topics most people are afraid to share. You are my go to when it comes to fitness and weight loss advice, you’re incredibly humble and clearly very passionate!!
I feel what your trying to talk about is imposter syndrome, it happens alot with a large weight loss, or when people gain success quickly etc Your brain has to work through processing it, my mother in law has lost 12st and it took 2 years and me showing her a picture of herself to realise she was no longer a size 24 and needed to stop buying clothes that size, bless her, she is a size 12-14 now and has made a big difference to her life, but I agree there are many cons aswell as alot of pros
I really am so thankful for your videos! Your motivational videos always come out at the most perfect time for me it seems. They are the most helpful because you are REAL… none of this stupid fluff! Thanks so much!
This was an amazingly insightful, interesting and honest chat. Thanks for that. Many of the things you mention I can relate to. Let’s all not over think things too much 👍😀
When I lost weight (somewhat different because I have an eating disorder), I started to get a lot more attention from the opposite sex, compliments etc. I’d always wanted to look good, so in a way it was gratifying, but also extremely embarrassing. I often feel quite shy and like being invisible… and even though I now fit into the clothes I used to want when I was younger, I’m still an odd person who doesn’t fit the social standards on the inside.
But whose social standards are you going by? Why do you think you're odd? The older i get the weirder i think other folk are. Get healthy, stay healthy and true to yourself.
I can relate to people seeing me differently to how I see myself. I have always looked so young and now that I’m changing I assume people still see me as so young. Even when I look in the mirror sometimes, I think to myself, who is this person as I even look different to how I picture I look in my head. I also relate to doing exercise without people knowing so I don’t look like a failure. Thanks for the video 😊
It is interesting hearing your perspective since you are a person who grew up overweight for a good portion of your life. Talking about how you still feel like that old version of yourself is pretty eye opening, and a bit of a contrast from my recent experience. I grew up in pretty good shape and very active, and put on weight over the last 8 years or so in my 20s. I recently got back to my old weight after a lot of hard work and the way I felt after losing weight was more like I was myself again. I think having gained weight as an adult, I no longer felt completely like myself in the body I was in. Like I always felt in my mind that I was that thinner, fitter person, but I didn't see it in the mirror.
I feel this way about me gaining weight...I used to be so active and into sports. In my head I feel the same(kind of) but when I look in the mirror I get disgusted on how I look but it still goes in circles because my head feels different than how I look. It's hard... I'm wanting to lose the weight but I just get stuck. Not sure what it is but I think I'm afraid of failing....I eat healthy majority of the time but my activity is lacking. I'm on call for work and can work first, second, or third. So it's a little hard to get a schedule together..ughh... not sure why I commented but I wrote it out and leaving it now lol.
Thanks for writing this and be honest. I’m sure something will change in your life that will positively put your on the path you want to be on. Good luck!!!!!
It is a problem we have in common, somehow: feeling like a stranger in your own body. Regarding your fear of failing to loose weight, I feel you. It is one of the hardest things in weight loss, and I carried this problem around for so long until now. You won't fail as long as you keep going. It's not about working out 2 hours a day every day. It's about consistency - show up for two minutes and if you can do more, do more. There's no way you'll fail, really. Take this feeling of being a stranger in your own body as your super power - I do that, too: You are your own project, with the beautiful opportunity to sculpt yourself to your own will and wish. Somewhat, it feels like being an artist in front of an empty piece of paper. I wish you all the strength - we can do it together. Even if it takes some time to reach our goal.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings - the way you share your struggles really helps me to stay on track with moving my body more! Also, the way you talk about being kind and gentle to yourself really helped me to start this journey :)
Loved this video!! Will have to keep this one saved to listen again and again. I have like 60 pounds I still want to loose and my mom is already telling me not to loose more or I will be too skinny and gross. I know its projection, but doesn't mean it isn't hurtful. I'm way far from being skinny. I dont need people that mean the most in my life tell me that I will look gross when I get to where I want to be. Those comments mess with your mind.
I lost a lot of weight about 10 years ago but unfortunately didn’t have the mental health side down and ended up putting it back on. Another negative for me was peoples need to comment any time I ate a food they perceived to be ‘bad’ or if I decided to skip a workout, more so once I had lost the weight - they wouldn’t do it to someone they’d always known as slim. It ended making me feel very self conscious with eating, something I didn’t suffer from when I was initially overweight
So what would you recommend for people, that have a problematic relationship with food? I imagine this must be mentally also very hard, to heal the relationship with food and at the same time loose weight and change the eating behavior… I would be very interested in that topic, maybe if you‘ve experienced that in your job. 🤔 I looooove your videos, even though I‘m not and never was overweight. I love to hear you talk about movement and food. I think it can be healing even for people who don‘t want to loose weight or need to change their diet. I just love how authentic and supportive you are!!!
I would love a video on you going through all the tangents you mentioned speaking to your mum about! The way I see myself vs how other people perceive me now is something I think about and struggle constantly, like really spiral sometimes haha. I'd love to hear your thoughts ❤️
the always cold thing and can't feel extremities is very typical for 95-115lb people. It's not fun! It helps to do cardio every 4 hours to get the circulation up again.
I have body dysmorphia and struggled throughout my life with eating issues - complex, and due to poverty, neglect and abuse as an infant and child. I was very slim due to anorexia through my teens, but after getting comfortably into a long term relationship at 16, by my early 20s, I gained quite a bit of weight, I would say at my heaviest I was up to 80kg, by 25 I was a mum of 2 and weighed about 78kg, I saw a photo of myself one day and decided I didn’t want to look or feel like that anymore, and in the space of 2 years, I lost 20kg, and I maintained a weight between 60 and 65kg for about 5 years through diet and regular exercise, but I found I got to a point, I was probably 30 or 31, when I decided I couldn’t keep going with the negative impact that mental health and mental self image issues that came with maintaining fitness and physique, and I quit maintaining entirely. I’m 37 now, and the past 5 years, I have solidly gained weight back, I stopped caring about nutrition and exercise - I have been vegan for 11yrs, and eat a lot of veggies every day, but I would eat whatever else I wanted, in whatever quantities that I wanted, without a second thought. This past year, I weighed in at about 75-76kg again, and decided I don’t want this anymore, I don’t want the extra weight, I don’t want the misery that comes with feeling weak, slow, sore, unhealthy and sluggish. I’m 176cm tall, and at the start of the week I weighed 69kg. Today I weighed 71.5kg. But I worked out every day this week. My brain is a mess (hormonal because my period is due) and I feel like a failure every time there is a setback or slip. I make fresh sourdough most days, as I am learning to bake, and I love the journey, but it means I eat a slice or two of bread every day, and I feel like that is causing me harm, but I know it’s in my head, but I also struggle to deal with the feelings in a healthy way. I can rationalise and know on a rational level what the deal is, but my brain and the dysmorphia that hangs out in there, just won’t let rational me, penetrate. I wish I had someone outside of my brain who could follow me around and validate me, haha. Tell me I’m doing well, tell me it’s ok to eat bread (or whatever else it is that I am snacking on) sometimes. Ultimately I wish I could trust myself and my own rationale, but sadly, I don’t. I really value your work Lucy, you have helped me a lot this past 6-10 months, I’ve done your workouts, and I have listened to you speak, just to help settle my thoughts. It’s so hard sometimes, being in this brain. It feels like it shouldn’t be so hard, and it should be something you can just let go of, but I have yet to find that place. After 11 years of trying.
Ps I got Raynauds when I lost weight! It’s a thing! Also permanently freezing and really not underweight or particularly low body fat just a lot less than before. Bizarre.
I can identify with with it feeling weird being into fitness stuff after not being before. I always just believed some women were naturally genetically athletic so it was easy for them, and that was the secret, I could just never look like that. It blew my mind when I started doing body weight exercises and actually stuck to it, and started activating and seeing muscles I'd never seen and felt before. And of course we all have our own unique genetics so will not look the same. You can't change your height or where your body clings to fat. But basically all our muscles are in the same place, if you reduce body fat and build them up a bit, you can look your version of the model or influencer or whoever you want to look like. And after a while it wasn't just about losing weight, I thought if I was going to be spending so much time working out I might as well focus on strength goals too, this how I got into calisthenics. But before this I was not a sporty person, or into fitness in general, I was around 37 when I got into it too, so many more years not really doing much. I did walk a lot, and sometimes did Yoga but that was really it. The other major bad thing I never see anyone talk about, but I know must have happened to all of us, is what it does to your boobs when you lose a lot of body fat! I was never that big anyway, but all the fat went from my chest first, what I had has just sagged right down lol, am left with exposed ribs in the middle of my chest. now concentrating on building chest muscle to compensate. women should discuss this more as I can now fully understand why women get boob jobs, and would never judge anyone for it again. It is hard to learn to love your new body, I'm 41 so it's easier for me to accept, but I can see how this would be devastating to a young women who dreamed of an hourglass figure.
while we are very different types persons, i can totally feel the issue about reaching a goal and then there is just nothing. if i set a goal i can be totally determined to do what is needed to reach it. as you said its just taking a mental list of things to do and not to do and follow it through every day. it doesnt come hard to me doing so. so when i reach the goal first of all its the expected outcome, so there is not much joy about it. and also there is a gap afterwards. its like that goal was a part of my personality and now its gone. after reaching any kind of long term goal i drop in some sort of depressive phase. not enough motivation and energy to form a new goal and without a goal i dont have my list of things to do so i just stop functioning. my solution is to weave similar goals in to a stream of goals to avoid a situation in which iam "done".
Great video, thanks for sharing. Isn’t it funny how the mental side IS the most important part, yet we tend to focus on the physical. Why? What do you think?
I struggle with being cold too (as does my best friend). It might be related to thyroid function (both of us have low T3 (I think that’s what it’s called)) but I’ve also heard people talk about salt and vitamin deficiencies… maybe it’s worth looking into. Of course, it might just be the lower body fat percentage…
Hi Lucy! I bought a calisthenics bar I can hang from, and do pull ups, between a door frame. Do you have any videos I can watch about floor pommels? I have shoulder problems and I’m looking to improve flexibility and strength in that area. Thx!
I kinda relate when it comes to being cold when I do fast or hungry, I 💩 everyday specifically every morning is that also a sign of a fast metabolism? Btw I watch and listen to this video while lifting weight and I enjoy how it feels like you're talking to an old pal sharing your fitness journey through the years. The most relatable thing for me is cutting all the friends that didn't want to change, they're lazy and just simply don't want to change but I don't want to stay the same and regret it when I'm older. more this kind of videos in the future! I love the cat is going through his fitness journey as well 😹
So, the shorts thing hit me because I HATE my legs and did not wear shorts for over a DECADE. In the summer I stare at other people's legs with true longing, wishing mine didn't look like a flabby Chun-Li.
Hey, great video. Great that you speak honest about all issues! I can definitely relate to some. So I have some questions: You mentioned, that you are always feeling cold, maybe Reynaulds Syndrom. Was this something you struggled before when you were overweight, too, or is this kinda new or maybe gotten worse, since you lost weight? I've noticed, that since I lost weight, it's gotten worse. My fingers always tend to be cold, but not like that... since I've lost weight. So maybe it's coming from sports somehow? Maybe you can make a video about that, if you want of course and if you see a correlation to that xD Other topic I would be interested in, would be, if you had struggles with your period? I know that's a private topic, so I understand if you don't want to discuss that online ^^
Can you tell me how you lost the weight. I am really battling.need to loose about 40 kgs which is a lot. I lost before felt great but put it all on again quickly. Thanks for this message very grateful.
It really is calories in calories out. Use my fitness pal. Eat more protein to satiate you less carbs but enough so you have enough energy to go about your day. Less fat as that is high in calories and not as filling so eating fat may leave you hungrier. I’ve lost a lot doing this recently. It really works. All the best
Oh and for losing weight walking is the best exercise start small walk your way up to 10,000 steps a day then maybe go higher. You can earn more calories to eat when you walking lots too.
My process is one change at a time. Integrate it into my life. Make sure I can maintain it. Then add another change. Slow and steady is better for me because one little change can throw my life off balance, and then I have to re-balance before I can add another change. Just remembering to bring my earbuds to the gym each time so that I could stay motivated during my workout was one of my steps!
Hi There. Before the last lockdown “I Weighed 8st 9lb.” Threw last lockdown; I found myself putting on weight. This gain was sooo subtle, I didn’t really see this was happening to me. Today { I now weigh 12st + and my body Size is now between a 14 & 16 😖 } I’ve experienced year’s of therapy, I eat very healthy foods and drink lot’s of water; I also Walk daily and busy constantly at home “Yet; as you state “I’m stuck in a Mental Block of Procrastination and lost complete interest in doing anything about it “Yet; Not convinced myself of being unworthy, no point etc. No matter my weight or look’s; I suffered nothing but abuse, put-downs & treated as a joke and looser. I’ve put to practice many books of positivity and in an instant “Falling back into negativity and Stagnant 😔😔 Any help and advice please 🙏 🦋🥰
I see you said you’ve read books, one of the most life changing books for me was “The four agreements” by don miguel Ruiz and one of the agreements it states and explains is to always try your best and another is no not take things personally, it explains the agreements and how to grow into them in a healthy way, I’m still working on my mental state but I always like to go back to that book, I wish you a beautiful healthy journey
To state what I have, I have a autoimmune disease of hypothyroidism and it has cost me years of my life pushing people away due to depression when I was first diagnosed, and it was really difficult for me to life my arm off the bed, and I still have trouble due to my hormones changing and my medication needing to be switched around but I want to be happy in my life so I’ve picked up books and concepts to try, I have trouble losing weight but I believe life is more than that so I continue eating healthier foods and exercise but I try not to obsess I sit with myself daily and talk to myself about my emotions and why I feel certain ways, my triggers, and I don’t judge my past or current self, no one is perfect and I don’t want to be perfect I want to constantly learn more about myself and the world, I believe that you got this, and don’t let the little things get in your way
Hi Lucy! My weight loss went the opposite direction. I worked on my mental state first, then the weight loss followed. My issues now is being able to do the workout routine and understanding I’m not changing my body bc I hate it, but because I realized my body was holding me back from experiences.
Go go go, keep it up girl you deserve to be the best you you can be!
I absolutely am this way too. I can accept the stretch marks and the overflap from my C-section. I’m never going to be in a crop top… BUT I want to lose weight to be healthier, fitter, test my abilities and become the person I want to be. Enjoying the journey
OMG. The perception of yourself as the person you had been (in the body you previously had) versus how people see you at present. You are the only person I have ever heard address this. I feel so much less alone just knowing this isn't me. There are really very few people who have gone through this type of weight loss journey and maintained so long as to have that distance where those in their present reality don't know how much they have changed. I remember when I started teaching university courses whilst in my PhD program and I was telling some at the gym how I taught, and they replied "what? yoga?" In my head then, and even now, I don't see myself as someone who "looks like" a yoga teacher/dancer/gymnast. The weirdest thing for me is that I sometimes literally see my reflection, like not when I am looking directly in a mirror, but if I pass by a reflective surface, and don't recognize myself.
I can so relate with your point of conflict between old self and new self. For 30 years of my life, I was an introvert. I hardly talked to people outside my small circle. I changed that and people don't think that of me any more. But I still think that I'm that old self. I feel amazed at times and think why am I even doing this. I don't need to talk to this person or that! And this is despite things going well.
I 100 and 20,000 percent relate to you and your message. I expienced being treated differently by weight changes as well, but when I actually gained weight after my sons birth, but what a blessing this was because I got to see the true colors of some people around me, and it was so surprising! I love what you do and your channel, Lucy. Thank you for these talk it out videos. They help me so much! 💗
I can relate so much. Personally I set foot at the gym when I was 34, until then I was a major couch potato. I lost weight, my body has totally changed I can do so many things but still now my first reaction to a new exercise is “What?! I can’t do that!!”. But despite the negativity most of the time I managed to nail the exercise and that gives me joy and motivation to go on!! ♥️♥️
Self doubt is probably my biggest obstacle at the moment so really appreciate those tips!!
Totally agree on friends’/partners’ perceptions. When I was a teenager/into my early 20s, I was a bit heavy, didn’t know how to dress for my shape/size, had curly hair I didn’t know how to manage and was super clumsy. I was pretty confident despite all that, had good friends etc, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve sorted all the appearance stuff out and the people I meet/date now have no idea of what I was like before. They make assumptions and comments about what it must have been like for me growing up which are so far off and I always find it difficult. And a lot of how I am now is rooted in issues I had growing up, how I saw myself and how I addressed them - and I just don’t want to or know how to explain all that. Thanks for talking about this. Reassuring to know it’s not me.
I really needed to see this…I’ve been on maintenance for two months after losing 80lbs since the beginning of last year and I’m really struggling. Maintenance is even more difficult than losing the weight. What you said about not feeling like you are who you know you are (I’m now really into fitness but ever since I was like 11 I hated any physical exertion and only had bad experiences exercising). I feel like I’m lying to everyone about who I am. It feels like I’m being fake when I’m around my friends and I talk about enjoying exercise even though I really do now. And the thing about buying clothes that are too large is also a problem for me.
Loved this video, thank you for discussing this. I’m glad I found your channel.
I have put on weight so much in the last 4 years. I feel so bad in my own body, but what I have realised recently is that I have always felt like that even when I was 40kg lighter. I definitely agree that the diet is not going to change that feeling. It is finding out what make you like yourself which is so difficult!
Hope you found 'yourself' and that you are happier and healthier now :)
It's a very slow process but I definitely found joy in movement. Hopefully the rest will fall in right place with the time . ❤
This is so important to address - and you're the first to do it (as far as I know). My. best friend lost 35 kg last year post-covid. She started with just walking - no running! We were talking about how doing this, every day, WITHOUT listening to music or podcast helped her a lot with this aspect of weight loss. She calls it the spirituality of weight loss.
I am now following her example and I realized it really gets you to "sit down with yourself" - whilst walking mind you 😅
Another thing I noticed is with every pound of fat going away old issues seem to pop up in my life again. As though I had stored it in the fat. Well that's exactly what happens when you think about it. So this too is a thing to think about and handle well when it happens.
So thank you again for your video!
I'm so glad to watch a video about these topics. It's so strange to lose weight and to experience people's different reactions. It's really hard realizing that society in general, and sometimes family, will behave differently and I find myself mourning the person I was that was in real pain and that person had less positive feedback. On the other hand I did gain a little and then lose again and now it's like a drug getting skinny again and hoping for more attention that I've had to step back and realize the addiction I got when I first lost weight. It becomes really sickening and then I understand why people with anorexia become so addicted to being skinny. It's really all very sad and painful. I also have family members who are terribly overweight so I sling back to doing everything I can to not be like that and it's difficult to find a balance. It's also difficult to find people able to talk about this without jealousy or their own idiosyncrasies getting in the way of real help. Anyways. Yeah, it's strangely painful to successfully lose weight. I wish it could be more understood because I genuinely want to help people, but often they only want to lose weight and not be healthy, so then I kind of back away because I actually do care about them, but I want them to want to be healthy and not addicted to being skinny. Sorry, for the ramble but the wounds are still fresh.
Just found your channel through your 30 Kg weight loss transformation video and this is the second video I watch. I really like your point of view and you found a new subscriber. I have to agree with everything you say here. One point that really stuck out to me is how other people react to weight loss and I really had everything. A lot of people I loosely know told me they found my weight loss awesome. But some of my friends and family started to say I would look to skinny, my face looks like a skull, it wasn't attractive the way I looked then and stuff like that, when in reality i wasn't skinny at all. More like 95 Kg and over 20% body fat. From a science point of view I was still somewhat overweight but I put on a lot of muscle so I didn't think that of myself. I said something like that to them "I weigh 95 Kg and have 23% body fat. I'm not too skinny, I'm not unhealthy I just look different and you have to get used to it. If you don't like it that's your thing but I don't care if you think I no longer look attractive to you. And I'm not going to stop just because you think I'm not as you think I should be or my face is more attractive in an obese state." I didn't cut out the people but I made it clear that telling me stuff like that isn't an option.
It‘s interesting how I‘ve become much more body-conscious and self-critical since I started losing weight and getting stronger. It‘s made me go harder but also be harder on myself. This is positive and negative at the same time. It makes me more ambitious but I feel like there are two different ways of ambition one being healthy and one being rather self-destructive… yet they are kind of the same. With Calisthenics, it is often the case that I do make progress but seeing people on the internet or friends doing the coolest things the self-doubt comes in again. I then need to really take a step back and focus on myself which isn‘t always easy. I constantly have to work on my mindset in order to stay true to myself. Thanks for talking about this, Lucy.
This is so insightful. Thank you for sharing this. I hope you really see feel and hear these words and learn to be less hard on yourself.
Same here. Glad I‘m not the only one feeling like this.
That is very valuable for anyone who's just started weight loss journey to create correct mind-set from the very beginning and avoid making assumptions like "All my problems will dissappear". Thank you Lucy ❤️
Lucy, you are such a gift to the world and to this space ❤ I am so glad I found your channel. Your vulnerability in sharing your journey and knowledge you’ve gained through your experience is such a blessing, thank you for what you do!
I understand you so badly with that acceptance of change and new version of yourself!! I can't thank you enough for talking about it 💜
I totally get what you’re saying. I miss that old person and feel sad for her and what she went through and how she was treated but also feel disgusted when I see how big I was which is awful awful awful. Some people who knew the old version actively tell me they preferred her because she was more fun (I gave up drinking as part of the whole thing so I’m not ‘fun’ anymore’. It’s so so hard. Everything you are saying massively resonated with me. The clothes thing too! Argh. It’s so hard. I literally look in the mirror and think ‘is what I’m seeing true?’ and actually have no idea. I’ve lost a lot of friends through this. Physically I’m 6 stone lighter and sportier and healthier but mentally I’m in a massive hole. I was just oblivious before I think.
believe it or not but it was a positive thing that you lost those "friends". Telling you you were more fun before is super insensitive and disrespectful. You lose a lot of people during a weight loss because so many people dont really want the best for you, even some of your "friends". Dont think of this as something negative, instead be happy that you only have people around you now, who actually really wanted you to become the best version of you and who really like you for you and not your bodyweight.
@@melitesla8656 thank you that’s very wise and kind. ❤️
I felt every single word in the mental health part.. It is quiet hard to realize and deal with the mix up between who you now are from the outside and the same person that you were some time ago and even the person you manifest to be in the future
Was feeling so down and here you being my comfort place again
Thanks for sharing this video (your story with us too).
I'm personally battling a self-hatred right now 😡 (body image problems 😪😖🤧😷)
But using your story as motivation to battle this pain so I can move forward and feel "seen" and unafraid and unrepentant and just be happy with myself again.
Lucy, you are the most realistic, authentic youtuber and you have an amazing personality! This channel has taught me to be easy on myself and just try my best every single day. Simple changes have led me to healthier lifestyle and better food choices have affected on my mental health as well. It is absolutely true that "life goes on" and no result is permanent, our bodies change and there's no need to overstress about it. Your videos have motivated me to start exercising while I was even below the beginner level, you have encouraged me and probably a lot of other followers to make baby steps and do not beat oneself up daily for not being the best at it. Keep up the great work you do and shine on
so glad i found your channel Lucy I wish i found you years ago ive been struggling with my weight and mental health for about 20 years now and this video explains everything that i feel thankyou so much for everything that you do take care and stay safe xx
I just randomly found her channel in my recommendation now i'm obsessed with her videos she's so freaking talented.♥️🍡💗💕🍨🎂🥰💖🍧🍭💘🥳🎡💖🎉✨🎂💞🎠🎠🧁🥰🍓♥️
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First of all Thank You for doing what you do, helping people to improve!
I don't know if i am overstepping here but:
BDD (Body dysmorphic disorder) is very common mental health problem, especially among women.
What you describe sounds just like that, i don't like to put labels on stuff but that is pretty much how it sounds when you explain.
All i can say is work on accepting your flaws because no one is perfect and never will be, try find the positives and focus on things that you are very satisfied with instead.
Ignore people that are negative towards you online, they do not now.
Introspective is the only real way to get over these kind of issues and mental health problems.
I know these things from experience as i suffered from the same issues in my life up to my 30s, i'm now 41 and have learned to accept my flaws for what they are.
Develop good principles, morale and routines and life quality will increase.
Real happiness is a luxury few get to experience.
Most people have a mask up most of their life because they are not confident enough to show who they really are in fear of being judged by other people.
Some people never learn to really dig deep and ask the hard questions to them self and being honest to them self.
But that is the only way to truly be free of mental health issues.
I don't know you but you seem like a great person so i hope you really get that voice in your head to shut up.
And remember that true beauty comes from within and what kind of person we are!
You look stunning so keep doin what you are doing!
Cat person at heart here!, your cat is sooo gorgeous and cute! :)
Much love from Sweden!
The mental part is so hard for me too! I haven’t actually lost the weight yet, but I’ve been exercising consistently for the past 7 years. You can’t out exercise a poor diet though. It’s all mental for me. I love to exercise, but nutrition is my kryptonite. I’m not sitting around consistently eating potato chips all the time either. I consistently eat good quality food. It’s sometimes the quantity that is the problem, and consistency is always the problem. Any advice Lucy?
Read Geneen Roth's books on emotional eating... I have found them so helpful !! Why we eat is 90% of the equation. Good luck 👍
I can relate with you!
I love your openness and honesty about everything! I subscribed after coming across one of your body positivity videos💕
Lucy, I could listen to you again and again. Every point you named in this made me say, yes, I know that. The mental point is so true. Thank you so much for feeling less alone with all the struggles. 💖💖💖
Did you just free ball this...You did make a lot of sense and are so in tune with your own mental health journey. Its really impressive and important information you are sharing. Thank you
Thank you so much for this video, it means the world to me. No one talks about these stuff, everyone seem happy all the time.
Firstly I want to say congratulations on all of your success. I remember when you started doing UA-cam!
I’ve always loved your videos, you’re open and honest, you share perspectives on topics most people are afraid to share. You are my go to when it comes to fitness and weight loss advice, you’re incredibly humble and clearly very passionate!!
Hi Lucy! Absolutely needed this video
I feel what your trying to talk about is imposter syndrome, it happens alot with a large weight loss, or when people gain success quickly etc
Your brain has to work through processing it, my mother in law has lost 12st and it took 2 years and me showing her a picture of herself to realise she was no longer a size 24 and needed to stop buying clothes that size, bless her, she is a size 12-14 now and has made a big difference to her life, but I agree there are many cons aswell as alot of pros
So glad I found your channel, Lucy! It's always like catching up with a best mate. Thank you for all you do
"Education is the key" so true!
I really am so thankful for your videos! Your motivational videos always come out at the most perfect time for me it seems. They are the most helpful because you are REAL… none of this stupid fluff! Thanks so much!
This was an amazingly insightful, interesting and honest chat. Thanks for that. Many of the things you mention I can relate to. Let’s all not over think things too much 👍😀
When I lost weight (somewhat different because I have an eating disorder), I started to get a lot more attention from the opposite sex, compliments etc. I’d always wanted to look good, so in a way it was gratifying, but also extremely embarrassing. I often feel quite shy and like being invisible… and even though I now fit into the clothes I used to want when I was younger, I’m still an odd person who doesn’t fit the social standards on the inside.
But whose social standards are you going by? Why do you think you're odd? The older i get the weirder i think other folk are. Get healthy, stay healthy and true to yourself.
I can relate to people seeing me differently to how I see myself. I have always looked so young and now that I’m changing I assume people still see me as so young. Even when I look in the mirror sometimes, I think to myself, who is this person as I even look different to how I picture I look in my head.
I also relate to doing exercise without people knowing so I don’t look like a failure.
Thanks for the video 😊
It is interesting hearing your perspective since you are a person who grew up overweight for a good portion of your life. Talking about how you still feel like that old version of yourself is pretty eye opening, and a bit of a contrast from my recent experience. I grew up in pretty good shape and very active, and put on weight over the last 8 years or so in my 20s. I recently got back to my old weight after a lot of hard work and the way I felt after losing weight was more like I was myself again. I think having gained weight as an adult, I no longer felt completely like myself in the body I was in. Like I always felt in my mind that I was that thinner, fitter person, but I didn't see it in the mirror.
This video was very honest and authentic. I find it all very helpful. Thanks for your insights.
I feel this way about me gaining weight...I used to be so active and into sports. In my head I feel the same(kind of) but when I look in the mirror I get disgusted on how I look but it still goes in circles because my head feels different than how I look. It's hard... I'm wanting to lose the weight but I just get stuck. Not sure what it is but I think I'm afraid of failing....I eat healthy majority of the time but my activity is lacking. I'm on call for work and can work first, second, or third. So it's a little hard to get a schedule together..ughh... not sure why I commented but I wrote it out and leaving it now lol.
You wrote it to encourage others like myself who are struggling with the same thing...thanks for sharing!
@@simplymamle7236 You're welcome and thank you!
Thanks for writing this and be honest. I’m sure something will change in your life that will positively put your on the path you want to be on. Good luck!!!!!
It is a problem we have in common, somehow: feeling like a stranger in your own body. Regarding your fear of failing to loose weight, I feel you. It is one of the hardest things in weight loss, and I carried this problem around for so long until now. You won't fail as long as you keep going. It's not about working out 2 hours a day every day. It's about consistency - show up for two minutes and if you can do more, do more. There's no way you'll fail, really. Take this feeling of being a stranger in your own body as your super power - I do that, too: You are your own project, with the beautiful opportunity to sculpt yourself to your own will and wish. Somewhat, it feels like being an artist in front of an empty piece of paper. I wish you all the strength - we can do it together. Even if it takes some time to reach our goal.
@@onlypaintmode8496 such a beautiful comment
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings - the way you share your struggles really helps me to stay on track with moving my body more! Also, the way you talk about being kind and gentle to yourself really helped me to start this journey :)
Loved this video!! Will have to keep this one saved to listen again and again. I have like 60 pounds I still want to loose and my mom is already telling me not to loose more or I will be too skinny and gross. I know its projection, but doesn't mean it isn't hurtful. I'm way far from being skinny. I dont need people that mean the most in my life tell me that I will look gross when I get to where I want to be. Those comments mess with your mind.
Love your videos Lucy keep it up your the best dia surely your a motivator
I lost a lot of weight about 10 years ago but unfortunately didn’t have the mental health side down and ended up putting it back on. Another negative for me was peoples need to comment any time I ate a food they perceived to be ‘bad’ or if I decided to skip a workout, more so once I had lost the weight - they wouldn’t do it to someone they’d always known as slim. It ended making me feel very self conscious with eating, something I didn’t suffer from when I was initially overweight
This is an excellent one. Thanks xxxxx
I love your videos so much. I just started my journey and you are the most positive person and you help me feel so motivated! ❤️
So what would you recommend for people, that have a problematic relationship with food? I imagine this must be mentally also very hard, to heal the relationship with food and at the same time loose weight and change the eating behavior… I would be very interested in that topic, maybe if you‘ve experienced that in your job. 🤔 I looooove your videos, even though I‘m not and never was overweight. I love to hear you talk about movement and food. I think it can be healing even for people who don‘t want to loose weight or need to change their diet. I just love how authentic and supportive you are!!!
I would love a video on you going through all the tangents you mentioned speaking to your mum about! The way I see myself vs how other people perceive me now is something I think about and struggle constantly, like really spiral sometimes haha. I'd love to hear your thoughts ❤️
Very valid points,thank you for everything you shared!
Hi Lucy! Thank you so much. You helped me so much in my journey. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Oh no! I'm always cold too but I only lost some weight last year and I was hoping it'll pass :(
So great, thank you for talking about the mental work
You have a new follower from Mexico, I feel pretty much the same with most of the things you said.
the always cold thing and can't feel extremities is very typical for 95-115lb people. It's not fun! It helps to do cardio every 4 hours to get the circulation up again.
I have body dysmorphia and struggled throughout my life with eating issues - complex, and due to poverty, neglect and abuse as an infant and child. I was very slim due to anorexia through my teens, but after getting comfortably into a long term relationship at 16, by my early 20s, I gained quite a bit of weight, I would say at my heaviest I was up to 80kg, by 25 I was a mum of 2 and weighed about 78kg, I saw a photo of myself one day and decided I didn’t want to look or feel like that anymore, and in the space of 2 years, I lost 20kg, and I maintained a weight between 60 and 65kg for about 5 years through diet and regular exercise, but I found I got to a point, I was probably 30 or 31, when I decided I couldn’t keep going with the negative impact that mental health and mental self image issues that came with maintaining fitness and physique, and I quit maintaining entirely. I’m 37 now, and the past 5 years, I have solidly gained weight back, I stopped caring about nutrition and exercise - I have been vegan for 11yrs, and eat a lot of veggies every day, but I would eat whatever else I wanted, in whatever quantities that I wanted, without a second thought. This past year, I weighed in at about 75-76kg again, and decided I don’t want this anymore, I don’t want the extra weight, I don’t want the misery that comes with feeling weak, slow, sore, unhealthy and sluggish. I’m 176cm tall, and at the start of the week I weighed 69kg. Today I weighed 71.5kg. But I worked out every day this week. My brain is a mess (hormonal because my period is due) and I feel like a failure every time there is a setback or slip. I make fresh sourdough most days, as I am learning to bake, and I love the journey, but it means I eat a slice or two of bread every day, and I feel like that is causing me harm, but I know it’s in my head, but I also struggle to deal with the feelings in a healthy way. I can rationalise and know on a rational level what the deal is, but my brain and the dysmorphia that hangs out in there, just won’t let rational me, penetrate. I wish I had someone outside of my brain who could follow me around and validate me, haha. Tell me I’m doing well, tell me it’s ok to eat bread (or whatever else it is that I am snacking on) sometimes. Ultimately I wish I could trust myself and my own rationale, but sadly, I don’t. I really value your work Lucy, you have helped me a lot this past 6-10 months, I’ve done your workouts, and I have listened to you speak, just to help settle my thoughts. It’s so hard sometimes, being in this brain. It feels like it shouldn’t be so hard, and it should be something you can just let go of, but I have yet to find that place. After 11 years of trying.
Ps I got Raynauds when I lost weight! It’s a thing! Also permanently freezing and really not underweight or particularly low body fat just a lot less than before. Bizarre.
That‘s actually really interesting, thanks for sharing!
You ale amazing! 👏❤️ Thank you for your words🥺
I can identify with with it feeling weird being into fitness stuff after not being before. I always just believed some women were naturally genetically athletic so it was easy for them, and that was the secret, I could just never look like that. It blew my mind when I started doing body weight exercises and actually stuck to it, and started activating and seeing muscles I'd never seen and felt before. And of course we all have our own unique genetics so will not look the same. You can't change your height or where your body clings to fat. But basically all our muscles are in the same place, if you reduce body fat and build them up a bit, you can look your version of the model or influencer or whoever you want to look like. And after a while it wasn't just about losing weight, I thought if I was going to be spending so much time working out I might as well focus on strength goals too, this how I got into calisthenics. But before this I was not a sporty person, or into fitness in general, I was around 37 when I got into it too, so many more years not really doing much. I did walk a lot, and sometimes did Yoga but that was really it. The other major bad thing I never see anyone talk about, but I know must have happened to all of us, is what it does to your boobs when you lose a lot of body fat! I was never that big anyway, but all the fat went from my chest first, what I had has just sagged right down lol, am left with exposed ribs in the middle of my chest. now concentrating on building chest muscle to compensate. women should discuss this more as I can now fully understand why women get boob jobs, and would never judge anyone for it again. It is hard to learn to love your new body, I'm 41 so it's easier for me to accept, but I can see how this would be devastating to a young women who dreamed of an hourglass figure.
I'm in my 20's and i completely understand how you feel. The chest struggle is real. I had to get new bras and clothes recently lol
@@cokestealer5691 Yes push up bras are your best friend lol.
while we are very different types persons, i can totally feel the issue about reaching a goal and then there is just nothing.
if i set a goal i can be totally determined to do what is needed to reach it. as you said its just taking a mental list of things to do and not to do and follow it through every day. it doesnt come hard to me doing so.
so when i reach the goal first of all its the expected outcome, so there is not much joy about it. and also there is a gap afterwards. its like that goal was a part of my personality and now its gone. after reaching any kind of long term goal i drop in some sort of depressive phase. not enough motivation and energy to form a new goal and without a goal i dont have my list of things to do so i just stop functioning.
my solution is to weave similar goals in to a stream of goals to avoid a situation in which iam "done".
Thank you so much for this video🖤
Families can be harsh. I feel like 99% of our problems start there.
Yup!
Great video, thanks for sharing.
Isn’t it funny how the mental side IS the most important part, yet we tend to focus on the physical. Why? What do you think?
I've lost 20 kg at 17 and I had an identity crisis because I didn't recognize myself anymore......mental strength is another level
I struggle with being cold too (as does my best friend). It might be related to thyroid function (both of us have low T3 (I think that’s what it’s called)) but I’ve also heard people talk about salt and vitamin deficiencies… maybe it’s worth looking into. Of course, it might just be the lower body fat percentage…
if you're always cold check your iron levels
Hi Lucy! I bought a calisthenics bar I can hang from, and do pull ups, between a door frame. Do you have any videos I can watch about floor pommels? I have shoulder problems and I’m looking to improve flexibility and strength in that area. Thx!
I kinda relate when it comes to being cold when I do fast or hungry, I 💩 everyday specifically every morning is that also a sign of a fast metabolism?
Btw I watch and listen to this video while lifting weight and I enjoy how it feels like you're talking to an old pal sharing your fitness journey through the years.
The most relatable thing for me is cutting all the friends that didn't want to change, they're lazy and just simply don't want to change but I don't want to stay the same and regret it when I'm older.
more this kind of videos in the future! I love the cat is going through his fitness journey as well 😹
DUDE!!! ALWAYS COLD!!!!!!
I even went to the doctor thinking it was a thyroid issue but nope. Weight-loss lol
Hey: has amazing AMAZING legs
Herself: I don’t like my legs
Trust me! You have amazing legs
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Could you please turn on the subtitle option? Because I can't understand.
So, the shorts thing hit me because I HATE my legs and did not wear shorts for over a DECADE. In the summer I stare at other people's legs with true longing, wishing mine didn't look like a flabby Chun-Li.
OMG same :‘)
Good video 😍
I love you so much Lucy ❤️🤗❤️! You are absolutely adorable 😚😚😚!!!
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Hey, great video. Great that you speak honest about all issues! I can definitely relate to some. So I have some questions: You mentioned, that you are always feeling cold, maybe Reynaulds Syndrom. Was this something you struggled before when you were overweight, too, or is this kinda new or maybe gotten worse, since you lost weight? I've noticed, that since I lost weight, it's gotten worse. My fingers always tend to be cold, but not like that... since I've lost weight. So maybe it's coming from sports somehow? Maybe you can make a video about that, if you want of course and if you see a correlation to that xD
Other topic I would be interested in, would be, if you had struggles with your period? I know that's a private topic, so I understand if you don't want to discuss that online ^^
Awesome Video...👍
26:37 cats LOL
Can you tell me how you lost the weight. I am really battling.need to loose about 40 kgs which is a lot. I lost before felt great but put it all on again quickly. Thanks for this message very grateful.
It really is calories in calories out. Use my fitness pal. Eat more protein to satiate you less carbs but enough so you have enough energy to go about your day. Less fat as that is high in calories and not as filling so eating fat may leave you hungrier. I’ve lost a lot doing this recently. It really works. All the best
Oh and for losing weight walking is the best exercise start small walk your way up to 10,000 steps a day then maybe go higher. You can earn more calories to eat when you walking lots too.
@@Eddie-Spaghetti thank you for your help very grateful
My process is one change at a time. Integrate it into my life. Make sure I can maintain it. Then add another change. Slow and steady is better for me because one little change can throw my life off balance, and then I have to re-balance before I can add another change. Just remembering to bring my earbuds to the gym each time so that I could stay motivated during my workout was one of my steps!
Check her channel. She's posted several videos on how she lost the weight 🙂
I can’t believe that person said to not lose anymore weight. That is beyond rude. But then again, having manners is no longer a thing sadly
Hi There.
Before the last lockdown
“I Weighed 8st 9lb.”
Threw last lockdown; I found myself putting on weight.
This gain was sooo subtle, I didn’t really see this was happening to me.
Today
{ I now weigh 12st + and my body Size is now between a 14 & 16 😖 }
I’ve experienced year’s of therapy, I eat very healthy foods and drink lot’s of water; I also Walk daily and busy constantly at home
“Yet; as you state “I’m stuck in a Mental Block of Procrastination and lost complete interest in doing anything about it “Yet; Not convinced myself of being unworthy, no point etc.
No matter my weight or look’s; I suffered nothing but abuse, put-downs & treated as a joke and looser.
I’ve put to practice many books of positivity and in an instant “Falling back into negativity and Stagnant 😔😔
Any help and advice please 🙏 🦋🥰
I see you said you’ve read books, one of the most life changing books for me was “The four agreements” by don miguel Ruiz and one of the agreements it states and explains is to always try your best and another is no not take things personally, it explains the agreements and how to grow into them in a healthy way, I’m still working on my mental state but I always like to go back to that book, I wish you a beautiful healthy journey
To state what I have, I have a autoimmune disease of hypothyroidism and it has cost me years of my life pushing people away due to depression when I was first diagnosed, and it was really difficult for me to life my arm off the bed, and I still have trouble due to my hormones changing and my medication needing to be switched around but I want to be happy in my life so I’ve picked up books and concepts to try, I have trouble losing weight but I believe life is more than that so I continue eating healthier foods and exercise but I try not to obsess I sit with myself daily and talk to myself about my emotions and why I feel certain ways, my triggers, and I don’t judge my past or current self, no one is perfect and I don’t want to be perfect I want to constantly learn more about myself and the world, I believe that you got this, and don’t let the little things get in your way
Did youdo surgery or diet?
Always being cold can also mean your hormones are off, it should be checked.
What about sagging skin? Im guessing you are young enough not to have struggled with that...?