I understand you 💯percent. Narc are murderers to the soul. Only those who have been through this abuse can understand. Your a beautiful soul. Thank you so much . 🦋.
Thank you for sharing your story and all your videos, you have helped me immensely. Especially working through my own cognitive dissonance of believing my ex and then seeing the real side of him after the discard. I was very naive and trusted him - we were married for 21 years.
The narcissist told one lie after another. In the end I didn't believe a word that came out of his mouth. Problem was he couldn't even remember the lies he told but I did.
It rocks you to the core. The level of pain you experience makes you realize that the level of evil in human form is so unreal. The betrayal and deceit makes me feel this person is demonically possessed it almost killed me. The nightmares the rumination over and over in your head the triggers. The only thing that helps me is prayer because it’s been a couple of years but I still get triggered when he tries to come back into my life.
He set me up to look jealous by flirting opening with women, this is not acceptable behavior to me. He was a retired social worker, and I could not understand his lack of understanding this social misconduct.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and the truth about these narcissistic sociopathic monsters. Everything you talk about is spot on! I've been going through almost the very same things you're talking about. Kat, you are an intelligent beautiful person. I really appreciate your helpful videos!
It is beyond traumatizing, the moment it hits you. The duplicitous character of the individual you were living with…under the guise of a ‘normal’ relationship with a ‘normal’ human being - in an instant, becomes crystal clear. It’s like their outer shell suddenly disintegrates and they are exposed as nothing more than robots…and their clear pre-programmed instinct…is to destroy you. It’s not even fear at that moment. It is horror. And it stays with you for a very, very long time. That…is what cognitive dissonance feels like.
Excellent video, on point . Thank you for your time and support you are a true blessing to me and I'm sure others who are involved with these demons . God bless you. 🙏
Deep down they might know its a lie.... but they can compartmentalize and "re-write" the truth in their head and tell lies as truth. I absolutely think the girl i was with could pass a lie detector test.
There comes a point where something clicks and you suddenly see them clearly. I saw my ex for what he was after I'd had an attack of acute pancreatitis and was recovering at my mother's. I'd been googling to find out 'what behaviours your boyfriend might exhibit if he wants to leave you' and I stumbled across narcissism. My blood ran cold, literally. He turned up to visit me and I was suddenly seeing and hearing him clearly for the first time and I knew it to be true; he was a full on narcissist. Once you rise above the veil of consciousness you can never go back under and the end approaches. Or as Prof Vaknin would say, once you exit the shared psychotic fantasy you can never re-enter.
Yes I agree. NARCISSISTS TRAUMATIZED ME . THE LAST ONE--- MALIGNANT almost killed me...shortened my life. So sorry you were deceived by the Covert. It's HELL.
My son was trapped and froze, drowned to death in a man made pit, but it is real. Yes the abuse from the narcissist is much harder, a deep destructive mental torture is much harder to heal from because of the gaslighting. Thank you for this video, I'm not alone...
I just broke up with the narc. He was covert, good looking, kind etc! I feel like my heart has been stabbed 100 times! I feel numb inside I am hurting so bad. This is not my first time with these people! He flew in under the radar!
My wealthy narc husband was an entitled spoiled brat who had temper tantrum tirades before his visits to his harem garage groupies. He would lie to my face, shove me around violently and send texts and emails stating I had assaulted him and he was calling the police and taking me to the psychiatric institute. Nasty narc was from a narco path family who bullied and scapegoated me for what they had done to me. Pre marriage the narc was kind, after marriage he became a swamp creature behind his mask. I have been one year narc free, but the trauma bond has done damage. I am repairing through therapy, and defiant self care. Thank you for your video.
I believe they operate in the way of "SMUDGING YOU" to me it's like VERY SKILLFUL. they smudge you out the picture right before our family's. and community. And no one even notice what's going on. ITS SO SAD!!! BUT GOD!!! HE DIDN'T FORGET ABOUT US. YOU CANT FOOL THE ALMIGHTY!!! GOD BLESS YOU WOMAN OF GOD🙏❤️🌹🥰. YOU ARE A BLESSING TO US. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH.i know I went caps crazy,lol😁 but u deserve it. take care everyone AND BE STRONG. Peace 🕊️
I agree 100%. Narcissist abuse is the most difficult form of trauma I ever faced in my life. Although I am not even close to the problems you have experienced in your life, but I have been in many difficult situations since my childhood. And I can confirm from my experience, narcissistic abuse is the most difficult trauma among all other traumas in my life. At the same time, I also think going through narcissistic abuse was the biggest learning experience in my life. If I haven't gone through it, I would have probably lived the rest of my life lying to myself.
I’m still finding myself ruminating at the scope and audacity of her lies and actions. I am much better than I was, but I find myself thinking how anyone can say and do what she did. Clearly no empathy or guilt/remorse. And then went and told everyone we were just a casual arrangement and meant nothing at all.
They do a lot of things differently because they DO NOT think the same way others do. They do not have empathy. Without empathy one can do many things to others with no remorse, guilt or bad feelings about it. The rest of us experience discomfort when we hurt others. It’s one reason why we try not to.
I just found out about a 2 year relationship, (been “married” 31 years) I thank the trash he found, 36, married with 2 young kids, he’s 62 with cancer, quite a catch! I won’t let him divorce…how do you like me now😉
I truly can't remember one moment that wasn't without an ulterior motive or for her mental masturbation. It's not graphic, its accurate. It's good to grow past 'needing' anyone to fill a empty spot in your life.
As an addendum, I can truly relate to the traumas you mentioned and still having the narcopath as a worst experience. Only having been there understands that. Tragedy is usually followed by compassion from others and for others. A healing starts even if your not thinking it at the time. Not from the narcopath. It just knocks any humanity off the charts.
Mine told me after cheating then stringing me along for 5 months and after me exposing her lies, that my feelings about what she'd done were my responsibility and no longer hers...seriously?
Total narc move to blame their partner for their cheating. Disordered individuals. A cheater who is not a narcissist wont do this. They will feel empathy and they will own their part.
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 Thank you. I couldn't wrap my head around it at all. I wrote her a letter saying I know who it is she cheated on me with. I tried to eplain how it made me feel. She immediately blocked me from everything. Just said those words and then cut me off dead. I then got left feeling to blame for ever saying anything.
About a fourth of what they say is true. That's just to give whatever they say an air of sincerity. But OMG, it's incredible about good at deception some people can be. In my experience, it can take a lot of intuition to smoke out a lot of those lies, particularly the lies of omission. What concerns me is that it seems to me that the level of consciousness of many many people in society is at the level that they don't care one iota that they are around a pure chronic liar. What would offend me about being around this type of person doesn't phase some people in the least.
Very good video and the comparisons you made were very helpful to the other traumas you went through.. That was really good how you explained that, thank you. Can you do a video about does the narc feel like we do after the trauma they put us through. Do they feel in that unregulated state all the time? Like how we feel after the abuse, so disregulated and out of balance.
Lisa Kaler thanks for your input. Just to clarify are you asking for a video of how the narcissist feels about the trauma they put other people through? Or a general explanation of the way they feel most of the time and why they do what they do to others? Thanks
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what, that is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (Cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone Text messages, Imessages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share his phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned . He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this great hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. Thank me, later...#Stay-safe & Stay-home
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 A video about how they feel inside to do this to others and why they do it. Do they always feel horrible the way we do after the discard. It's like they transfer that bad energy to us. And it feels awful.
There's an eye opening movie about sex addiction, titled "Thanks for Sharing." In this story one of the characters gave his spouse Hep C as a result of his sex addiction. Serious business. Stress from the gaslighting causes so much damage. Stress kills. Stress can also facilitate malignant cancer.
I have a question for you! I am/was and co-dependent. I am also a people pleaser. I would do anything to make around me happy. In most of the videos that you watched these days it's all about self help. Which I understand that but at the same time, that makes me feel very very very selfish. So how do you go to helping yourself without losing Who You Are? In my opinion if I quit being a people-pleaser then I'm denying my true self. That is who I am that's who I've always been. So what my narc taught me was to realize which people are taking advantage of it. Our story sound very very similar my ex-wife was 10 years is a social worker. It always felt fake, I do believe she chose that career just for the outside appearance. She did not choose me for money or success. However she knew I would move mountains if possible oh, to make her happy. Also I was the most naive and Festival person in this entire universe until 12 years of being with her. So I was just wondering about the self-help vs selfishness question maybe you could elaborate on that or possibly make a video on that I appreciate the videos and wish you well in your recovery. Because that is exactly what it is. It is a very long recovery.
Jared Knight I would consider going to codependence anonymous or reading some books on Codependence. At first you will feel selfish but a people pleasers idea of selfish is at the far end of the unselfish spectrum. The more you do self care the more you will realize it’s not selfish but self love.
I love how they lie and then deny it.
Right Infront your face. And then they gaslight you.
I understand you 💯percent. Narc are murderers to the soul. Only those who have been through this abuse can understand. Your a beautiful soul. Thank you so much . 🦋.
The skeletons in thier closet could fill a cemetery.
Thank you for sharing your story and all your videos, you have helped me immensely. Especially working through my own cognitive dissonance of believing my ex and then seeing the real side of him after the discard. I was very naive and trusted him - we were married for 21 years.
The narcissist told one lie after another. In the end I didn't believe a word that came out of his mouth. Problem was he couldn't even remember the lies he told but I did.
It rocks you to the core. The level of pain you experience makes you realize that the level of evil in human form is so unreal. The betrayal and deceit makes me feel this person is demonically possessed it almost killed me. The nightmares the rumination over and over in your head the triggers. The only thing that helps me is prayer because it’s been a couple of years but I still get triggered when he tries to come back into my life.
He set me up to look jealous by flirting opening with women, this is not acceptable behavior to me. He was a retired social worker, and I could not understand his lack of understanding this social misconduct.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and the truth about these narcissistic sociopathic monsters. Everything you talk about is spot on! I've been going through almost the very same things you're talking about.
Kat, you are an intelligent beautiful person. I really appreciate your helpful videos!
It is beyond traumatizing, the moment it hits you. The duplicitous character of the individual you were living with…under the guise of a ‘normal’ relationship with a ‘normal’ human being - in an instant, becomes crystal clear. It’s like their outer shell suddenly disintegrates and they are exposed as nothing more than robots…and their clear pre-programmed instinct…is to destroy you. It’s not even fear at that moment. It is horror. And it stays with you for a very, very long time. That…is what cognitive dissonance feels like.
Excellent video, on point . Thank you for your time and support you are a true blessing to me and I'm sure others who are involved with these demons . God bless you. 🙏
I can relate. I am still healing.
Deep down they might know its a lie.... but they can compartmentalize and "re-write" the truth in their head and tell lies as truth. I absolutely think the girl i was with could pass a lie detector test.
Agreed
Narcs are masters in their craft. Most go undiagnosed for they even know how 2 put on a show to psychologist, therapists etc.
Thanks for sharing your truth. You are beyond powerful!
You are speaking the truth.
There comes a point where something clicks and you suddenly see them clearly. I saw my ex for what he was after I'd had an attack of acute pancreatitis and was recovering at my mother's. I'd been googling to find out 'what behaviours your boyfriend might exhibit if he wants to leave you' and I stumbled across narcissism. My blood ran cold, literally. He turned up to visit me and I was suddenly seeing and hearing him clearly for the first time and I knew it to be true; he was a full on narcissist. Once you rise above the veil of consciousness you can never go back under and the end approaches. Or as Prof Vaknin would say, once you exit the shared psychotic fantasy you can never re-enter.
Wow.
You are very strong...
Thank you very much for taking time out of your life to help others.
Yes I agree. NARCISSISTS TRAUMATIZED ME . THE LAST ONE--- MALIGNANT almost killed me...shortened my life. So sorry you were deceived by the Covert. It's HELL.
So sorry this happened to you.
You're awesome. Thanks for sharing.
OMG. I just found this and it hit home. I have no words. You just explained EXACTLY what I’m going through. I’ve got this but GAH! Makes me gag.
My son was trapped and froze, drowned to death in a man made pit, but it is real. Yes the abuse from the narcissist is much harder, a deep destructive mental torture is much harder to heal from because of the gaslighting.
Thank you for this video, I'm not alone...
I must say this video is amazing, and thank you. My story is so much like yours, and I’m so grateful for your help and insight- wow
All you need to know they are crazy as hell…RUN!
I just broke up with the narc. He was covert, good looking, kind etc! I feel like my heart has been stabbed 100 times! I feel numb inside I am hurting so bad. This is not my first time with these people! He flew in under the radar!
The coverts can be the worst. Wolf in sheep’s clothing. Bad characters
My wealthy narc husband was an entitled spoiled brat who had temper tantrum tirades before his visits to his harem garage groupies. He would lie to my face, shove me around violently and send texts and emails stating I had assaulted him and he was calling the police and taking me to the psychiatric institute. Nasty narc was from a narco path family who bullied and scapegoated me for what they had done to me. Pre marriage the narc was kind, after marriage he became a swamp creature behind his mask. I have been one year narc free, but the trauma bond has done damage. I am repairing through therapy, and defiant self care. Thank you for your video.
Wanda Jane I love your term “defiant self care”. So freakin proud of you🙏
I believe they operate in the way of "SMUDGING YOU" to me it's like VERY SKILLFUL. they smudge you out the picture right before our family's. and community. And no one even notice what's going on. ITS SO SAD!!! BUT GOD!!! HE DIDN'T FORGET ABOUT US. YOU CANT FOOL THE ALMIGHTY!!! GOD BLESS YOU WOMAN OF GOD🙏❤️🌹🥰. YOU ARE A BLESSING TO US. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH.i know I went caps crazy,lol😁 but u deserve it. take care everyone AND BE STRONG. Peace 🕊️
I agree 100%. Narcissist abuse is the most difficult form of trauma I ever faced in my life. Although I am not even close to the problems you have experienced in your life, but I have been in many difficult situations since my childhood. And I can confirm from my experience, narcissistic abuse is the most difficult trauma among all other traumas in my life.
At the same time, I also think going through narcissistic abuse was the biggest learning experience in my life. If I haven't gone through it, I would have probably lived the rest of my life lying to myself.
Thank you..this helps me..this is so hard for me.
I’m still finding myself ruminating at the scope and audacity of her lies and actions. I am much better than I was, but I find myself thinking how anyone can say and do what she did. Clearly no empathy or guilt/remorse. And then went and told everyone we were just a casual arrangement and meant nothing at all.
They do a lot of things differently because they DO NOT think the same way others do. They do not have empathy. Without empathy one can do many things to others with no remorse, guilt or bad feelings about it. The rest of us experience discomfort when we hurt others. It’s one reason why we try not to.
I lived your life .
You are helpful
Surely✔rings a 🔔 (bell) ! Bulls Eye!!! 🎯 Warm Greetings from 🇲🇾🙏
You are awesome!!
I just found out about a 2 year relationship, (been “married” 31 years) I thank the trash he found, 36, married with 2 young kids, he’s 62 with cancer, quite a catch! I won’t let him divorce…how do you like me now😉
The language of psychopathy ..whoaaa..incredible,.seen it. No ty ever again..
Your videos are a big help. Thank you
I truly can't remember one moment that wasn't without an ulterior motive or for her mental masturbation. It's not graphic, its accurate. It's good to grow past 'needing' anyone to fill a empty spot in your life.
As an addendum, I can truly relate to the traumas you mentioned and still having the narcopath as a worst experience. Only having been there understands that. Tragedy is usually followed by compassion from others and for others. A healing starts even if your not thinking it at the time. Not from the narcopath. It just knocks any humanity off the charts.
I was 55 and it was the worse thing. I was paralyzed.
Mine told me after cheating then stringing me along for 5 months and after me exposing her lies, that my feelings about what she'd done were my responsibility and no longer hers...seriously?
Total narc move to blame their partner for their cheating. Disordered individuals. A cheater who is not a narcissist wont do this. They will feel empathy and they will own their part.
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 Thank you. I couldn't wrap my head around it at all. I wrote her a letter saying I know who it is she cheated on me with. I tried to eplain how it made me feel. She immediately blocked me from everything. Just said those words and then cut me off dead. I then got left feeling to blame for ever saying anything.
About a fourth of what they say is true. That's just to give whatever they say an air of sincerity. But OMG, it's incredible about good at deception some people can be. In my experience, it can take a lot of intuition to smoke out a lot of those lies, particularly the lies of omission. What concerns me is that it seems to me that the level of consciousness of many many people in society is at the level that they don't care one iota that they are around a pure chronic liar. What would offend me about being around this type of person doesn't phase some people in the least.
Good point. Yikes
Very good video and the comparisons you made were very helpful to the other traumas you went through.. That was really good how you explained that, thank you. Can you do a video about does the narc feel like we do after the trauma they put us through. Do they feel in that unregulated state all the time? Like how we feel after the abuse, so disregulated and out of balance.
Lisa Kaler thanks for your input. Just to clarify are you asking for a video of how the narcissist feels about the trauma they put other people through? Or a general explanation of the way they feel most of the time and why they do what they do to others? Thanks
TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard to put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what, that is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (Cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone Text messages, Imessages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share his phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned . He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this great hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. Thank me, later...#Stay-safe & Stay-home
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 A video about how they feel inside to do this to
others and why they do it. Do they always feel horrible the way we do after the discard. It's like they transfer that bad energy to us. And it feels awful.
There's an eye opening movie about sex addiction, titled "Thanks for Sharing." In this story one of the characters gave his spouse Hep C as a result of his sex addiction. Serious business. Stress from the gaslighting causes so much damage. Stress kills. Stress can also facilitate malignant cancer.
You are so beautiful, how could your ex cheat on you?! he was lucky to be with you
I have a question for you! I am/was and co-dependent. I am also a people pleaser. I would do anything to make around me happy. In most of the videos that you watched these days it's all about self help. Which I understand that but at the same time, that makes me feel very very very selfish. So how do you go to helping yourself without losing Who You Are? In my opinion if I quit being a people-pleaser then I'm denying my true self. That is who I am that's who I've always been. So what my narc taught me was to realize which people are taking advantage of it. Our story sound very very similar my ex-wife was 10 years is a social worker. It always felt fake, I do believe she chose that career just for the outside appearance.
She did not choose me for money or success. However she knew I would move mountains if possible oh, to make her happy. Also I was the most naive and Festival person in this entire universe until 12 years of being with her.
So I was just wondering about the self-help vs selfishness question maybe you could elaborate on that or possibly make a video on that I appreciate the videos and wish you well in your recovery. Because that is exactly what it is. It is a very long recovery.
Jared Knight I would consider going to codependence anonymous or reading some books on Codependence. At first you will feel selfish but a people pleasers idea of selfish is at the far end of the unselfish spectrum. The more you do self care the more you will realize it’s not selfish but self love.
u cant be codependeant but u do need to take a look at yourself before making a decision.very good video.
What is that of higher power?