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This was my favourite quote in Bojack, where he was starting to take care of himself: “Every day it gets a little easier… But you gotta do it every day - that's the hard part. But it does get easier.”
Bojack has some great quotes that I find myself thinking about from time to time. And I swear I find quotes from that show all the time on different corners of the internet. How is a show that's characters are animals did suuuch a good job capturing the human experience?
Sometimes people need a little bit of partying and distraction in order to be ready to face the pain. I know it's hard. I've been there. But you will grow up being stronger. You can do it Blair
I feel you and don't you feel more like you connect with Blair when she does these kind of videos then whenever she does 10 and 15 second videos? Honestly I thought those were kind of funny until they became a habit. Not saying you have to do an hour but I feel like we connect better with you when there's more time ❤️
Blair this is an honest advice from an adult female living in Miami. The city is a lot of fun but can really suck you in and maybe even down to the wrong path. You can get lost in the pool of superficial and materialistic people. But finding true friends can be such a rewarding part. I’m so lucky to say I have an amazing support group. I work hard but also party hard and enjoy the nice and fun things of Miami but can go home and be content, happy, and at peace with myself. Good luck with your journey and stay strong!
Yes, there is a side of Miami that is extremely superficial and damaging. It’s so important to stay grounded here and have fun but also find the quiet spaces Miami has to offer ☺️☀️
i second that comment. i lived in miami for 3 years and the shit i thought was ok and normal.. lol lets just say not so much to the rest of the US population. my advice: move to NYC girl- def more sane people.
also.. lol be-careful with dudes in miami, use them as toys only or ATMs, and make sure you have plenty of options because they sure as fuck do. #trustnodudeinflorida
@@Camir0215 I agree I've here all my life, it's hard to fine genuiene people in the city but its not impossible. There so much to do for wellnes here :)
The only person you’ll have forever is yourself , it’s honestly so important to learn to love your own company , you’ll find so much contentment and joy from everyday life
Wanna hear “awkward”? Watching you is like watching every single thought and feeling I experienced about 10 years ago. It is incredibly healing for things I’ve never said out loud and validating for everything I tried to change. The main difference is you are bold enough and brave enough to bare your soul to the internet. I started following you because I felt this motherly pull to see how your life plays out. Maybe it is also selfish because it’s uncanny how similar the story is. From Miami to “fleeing the country when shit gets tough”, to your humor to mask your romantic struggles. I don’t have the magic pill either so sorry this isn’t a “I’m from the walnut future and here is how you save the world”… but I am on the other side of what looks pretty dang familiar to your current status. You are doing hard things that will pay off…I am so seriously rooting for you, praying for you even. Your cosmic sister in debauchery reform ♥️ Ps. Have you looked into possible ADHD diagnosis? Your intelligence mixed with your impulsiveness also mimics my life…and I’ve got a gnarly case of adhd. Not the end of the world, but definitely helped me make some sense of why I was such a dumpster fire for awhile.
the sentiment of never being the girl you used to be but also loving all the past iterations of yourself despite the difficulties they were going through is a very beautiful sentiment that I never thought of so thank you for the walnut wisdom I hope things start looking up ❤️
It’s so refreshing to see someone genuinely grow. We all have those moments queen! And we’re all striving to find ourselves. Just as the seasons change so shall we. I hope you nothing but peace, love and laughter on your journey!
I hear yah girl, it’s a messed up time in the world. If I were there we would watch movies do face masks and cry together… then laugh 🙂 🥰 And you are a good person. I don’t think you give yourself enough credit!
unsolicited advice from a 30 year old who also had a pretty intense partying/unhealthy decisions phase after a relationship: its good to recognize when you messed up and didnt make the best choices, but also you simply cant beat yourself up for it forever. of course i will always recognize that i hurt people (including myself mentally/physically) while in that phase BUT it was also a coping mechanism that i was using to deal with a really difficult situation. you are still a good person and deserve to be happy.
Blair! You’re so not alone! I took a break completely from dating and focused all of my energy that I used to waste sad over boys into my business and daughter. Happy to report one year later both are thriving! Whenever you feel bored or lonely work on a project doing something you love. You’ll be shocked at how much you can accomplish when you’re not distracted. 😎
im really proud of you! the thing about being human is that we always are changing. who you are now isnt who you will be in 5 years, nor are you the person you were 5 years ago. youve got this. change can be a good thing even if it is hard.
I’m only 23 and I FEEL YOU about leaving the partying phase already and it’s wild that people who have been drinking since they were 14 still want to go out 24/7 and black out, Its just not for me and it’s not a healthy way to live. Of course drink a little throughout the year but getting blacked once a week even is too much for your brain /: the doctor just told me I am severely depressed so I’m going to start doing yoga and mindfulness meditation and talk to a dietitian because gut health helps a lot with mental illnesses so maybe that could help you too. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and send you good vibes 🦋
I'm glad to recognise some of the traits that made me fall in love with your personality are returning. Keep healing Blair! You're enough as you are. 💕
Idk how old you are, but you sound like me when I was 23-25 and just figuring out how to be happy. Like really, really happy. I’m 28 now, and completely at peace and no longer suffer from depression (also quit smoking cigarettes. Woot. Woot.) You got it. It takes time, but one day you’ll wake up and be like “huh. I’m happy now. That’s cool.”
Yes yes yes. Here with you Gracie. I’m 35 now and despite some healing from my “wild days” still ongoing, the peace I have now surpasses what I hoped to find when I was in my early 20s. ♥️
I am 23 now and I feel very unhappy and lost in this world. I feel like there is no place where I belong. I feel like I am such a failure. I don't know what to do with my life and I don't know if it is right what I am doing with my life right now, if that makes sense. I hope that by the time I am 28, I will be happy just like you are right now. And that I will find myself and my life purpose.
Feeling alone isn't fun but it is important to FEEL what you're going through instead of numbing it or trying to ignore it. I'm glad you're pulling yourself out of the rut.
this is so damn relatable thank you so much for voicing this. im literally crying because ive felt so alone and confused and im just so happy to see so many other comments saying they also relate and im just so glad to know we're not alone.
You are not becoming a good person again, you have always been a good person who had some struggles. That's normal! I'm also really glad to see that you are trying to be healthier again, your body deserves kindness :)
I love seeing your true self. You are sweet. Everyone has bad habits, but not everyone can improve them. Thank you for reminding me that its okay to have it. Have a great day ❤️
Sometimes i’ve mistaken the disappearance of all the noise, distractions, and drama of relationships as “loneliness”. It’s just things slowing down, you just rode a roller coaster for months, ya know? I’m so happy you’re taking this moment to give yourself some attention 💙
I’m with you Sis. My hair is falling out from stress, as is both of my daughter’s sadly. I’m a broke ass single mom right now… and even though my daughters are right here I feel so alone and I don’t recognize myself at times. I feel like an asshole mom because I judge myself for feeling alone when I have them right here. I miss my old hair too. Freakin’ thank you teffluem effluvium. My Dermatologist said it’s going to take at least 5 years for my hair to recover (so much stress, and it’s not stopping). I am a semi-new subscriber of yours, I was suggested your videos because of you eating like other people), so I saw you years ago.. and I’m bummed to learn you’re lonely now.. I also vape and people give me crap about it but it’s the only thing that got me off of cigarettes so I dunno what they want from me 🤷🏻♀️ Please be healthy girl and not Tequila girl! 🖤 If it makes you feel any better seeing your purchases and outfit made me feel really flexed on 😂 You so fancy girl.
Blair get the BLONDE batiste dry shampoo, I struggle with hair loss and thin hair too and it works so much better! not just the colour but the volume. also invest in these hair oils and mix together to create a hair growth serum for your scalp: rosemary oil, castor oil, coconut oil, cedar wood oil, jojoba oil. I've done a lot of research!
Yes Blair CEO of realness. Were going through the same pain atm and ur helping so many of ur followers experiencing this rn! Thanks for inspiring us as were here when u need ur spirits lifted!
Aww Blair, even if you aren't where you want to be, you're good person. I'm happy you're on this journey of self discovery and healing! Keep your head up 💕
Girl we all been there after heartbreak trying to escape the pain. It just so happens your life is out there for people to judge, which is hard. You are doing your best just remember you are loved and have always been enough. I hope you find healing and self acceptance ✨ 💓
This is such a great video, Blair! I'm a recovering addict, and I know how quickly the things you do to avoid your emotions can become destructive to your health without you even realizing it. Eventually you gotta endure the discomfort that comes with bettering yourself so you don't create even more pain down the road ❤ You are doing the damn thing!
And then there are those of us who remain addicts and using [insert addiction behaviour/substance here] because it's the only way we are able to *feel emotions and get shit done* - I'm not being facetious about this. I was only able to confront my discomfort when I let myself start doing [behaviour/substance] and when I am not doing [behaviour/substance] I am completely avoidant and unproductive. We all have our reasons and we all have our stigmas to deal with but I gotta tell ya, those closest to me throughout my life have said I lost the twinkle in my eye at age 7 and it came back when I was 14 - the age my addiction to [behaviour/substance] began. Nothing traumatic happened to me, I just...found myself again through finding [behaviour/substance] and now in my early 30s I continue to use that addiction to be the "me" that everyone knew and knows. High achiever, university educated, successful, sociable, independent...but with a secret addiction that could kill me at any moment and has most definitely impacted my long-term physical health (but not on paper - regular medical checkup results keep coming up as normal). I'll keep doing [behaviour/substance] until I am no longer able to...which I fear because the thing I fear the most is not feeling again like I did for 7 years when I lost that twinkle in my eye...
Oh Little Walnut, when I got out of a loooong relationship I was devastated, lonely, completely lost in life bc OMG I’D NEVER BEEN SINGLE AS AN ADULT EVER. I was given advice that I didn’t want and thought was terrible BUT it ended up being the best advice I ever got. I will now pass it on to you : stay single for 1 year. That’s it. Stay single, don’t try to date, and don’t panic that you’re single. You aren’t happy alone right now which means you will allow people into your life that shouldn’t be there and end up with men that will just not be it. You gotta power through it and be alone until you are ok in your own company. As the former ‘never single girl bc being single is scary’ I PROMISE YOU that with time you will find ways to fill your day, will end up happy and will LOVE being single, and then a stupid man who ends up being perfect for you will wander into your life and you won’t be able to get rid of him…but he’ll make you happy so you decide to keep him and then you’ll look back and be thankful you took that time for yourself :)
Love these chill day in the life/real talk videos ☺️ I’m at the office alone today and I feel like you’re hanging out here with me keeping me company lol
I am a travel nurse, so I feel this way too. Slowly making new friends at work. And trying to explore the city I’m in. My biggest hobby is cooking in my hotel room trying new recipes. Right now I’m going to try to cook pork belly bao buns in the Insta pot 😊
blair, what you are describing is exactly how i felt after my divorce, when you are constantly around someone for multiple years (10 in my case) going back to being just you is an adjustment! what society needs to be better about though is normalizing reconstruction and re-learning yourself after years with a life with someone else, good or bad.
If after a few months you still don’t like Miami that much, move up to the Fort Lauderdale area! I tried moving to Miami and just didn’t mesh with the people & lifestyle of the Brickell/downtown area. Fort Lauderdale is a tad slower & offers just the right variety of activities in my opinion. Happy to see your growth!! Sending you kind thoughts
Honestly I felt this. Last month my 5 year relationship ended days before our anniversary then a day after the breakup a family friend passed and boyyyy it was so hard to not go off the rails, I’ve let myself cry, be alone (even tho it’s lonely af) be depressed & now it’s only a month later but I feel GOOD again bc I let myself feel it all. The first breakup I went of the rails drinking every single night, meeting guys and later down the line it all hit me lmao don’t recommend blocking your feelings!
@@JeanAbdalo so comforting to know we’re not alone in the bs we deal with! So a year later are you completely over it now!? I’m not that long out of it and some days wow it’s hard
Thank you for being so vulnerable with your viewers. So many women struggle with hair issues. Thanks for sharing all the options with us for fixing hair loss.
Everyone has this different periods of life -one to be more at home, one to go out smoking, drinking, and one to be who you truly are - good to see you back 😇😍🥰 Love you and keep do what you love and need and remember -you are never alone-you have your walnuts with you! ❤
Hi Blair! I like to think of myself as a chronically lonely person so I feel you! What I found helps when I’m physically alone is putting on a sitcom (something you don’t have to really pay attention to) and do tasks with the show in the background! Not sure if the talking or the storyline helps, but it makes me feel so much better!
Girl, you’re so relatable it kills me. The cigarettes, everything. I would’ve loved to party with you in tulum( going there to visit family in a couple of weeks) and dance the pain away. Keep the good vids, much love xoxo
I just got out of a relationship, and every weekend since I have been with someone to distract myself... this weekend is the first time I will be alone, and I am nervous about it, but I am excited! Thanks for this.
I’m also quitting smoking after way too many years, hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m not there yet but I’m getting there and finally believe I will. You can do it!!
Girl, that manifestation thing works! I thought of all the qualities that I wanted in a man. Then I was just living my life, not thinking about this, and a few months later a guy who is EXACTLY like I wanted came into my life and we’ve been dating for 4 months now 🥰
I was going through exactly the same phase with drinking, losing, going out to clubs every night and yet felt awful last year. Hope you get through it.
Love you blair. Thank you for being genuine and vulnerable. Sometimes i watch youtube and feel even more depressed and alone bc i feel like everyone's life is so much better than mine. Thank you for being relateable 💜
This was me when I was 24/25 I'm 30 now.. one night I got woken up and was next to a guy and literally couldn't remember his name, then I went home alone from the men, substances and needed to change.. B I HAD SOO many problems , everyone goes through this stage this is when you truly grow and move on to the next phase of your life. 🤍
I was single for 6 years and I dated a lot during that time. It was fun until it became boring and redundant. I knew what kind of man I wanted and I was willing to wait. During that time I made life long friends with my coworkers who became like brothers and family to me. I started weight lifting at the gym ate healthier and practised self discipline. I learned so much during that period in my life and I was loving life. Then I met the man of my dreams. Long story short, whether you meet someone or you don’t it doesn’t matter, you as an individual, will never stop growing emotionally and mentality. Life will always have new lessons to learn from and experience. I may be with someone now but life is still happening it’s just a new way of living and learning even though it’s been a year and a bit. Thanks to this video, it has taught me to let go of focusing on problems and to be thankful and grateful for everything I have and everything I’ve learned from❤️
My bad habit currently is that i drink at LEAST one glass of wine a night to "unwind" but ive been doing it since the pandemic started so at least 1.5 years of drink a glass of wine a night. That can't be good for me....
I totally connect with you here Blair. Thanks for being so real and honest about your life and your feelings. I totally get the whole perfume thing. I can smell a perfume I wore 15 years ago and it immediately takes me there in my memories!
Blairrrrrrr I find your videos helpful, I’m also going through some life things and your honesty is just so lovely. You’re lovely and deserving of nice things, we got this lady
Definitely connecting with the end of this. I had to learn how to be alone again too. It’s hard but, eventually you’ll learn it again. It has its ups and downs but it is far better than constantly surrounding yourself with potentially the wrong people.
Keep in mind that spraying dry shampoo on dry shampoo (aka when you spray it a few days in a row and it creates layers of it on your scalp) can stop hair growth due to clogging. Commenting that to support the hair journey, love you B.
I love watching your videos because currently as a 22 year old living on her own with no girl friends at the moment.. it might sound sad or silly , but watching you and other women near my age helps me feel less lonely and like we’re having girl talk lol ❤️ Hopefully I can make healthy non toxic girl friends soon. I have too many guy friends 😪
hii blair!! i love this for you. i definitely got caught up constantly partying and not taking care of myself after going through a breakup w someone i dated for 4 years!! God has rly helped me through that phase of my life & i love to see this version of you, you seem healthy + happy + you look beautiful as always!!!!🤍🤍
so happy to see you pushing through your bad habits! I had a terrible time this time last year and I’m finally starting to feel healthy happy and whole again! It takes hard work but you will be happier you did so ✨✨ rooting for you
Love you girl. Thanks for inspiring. I’m 118 days sober from alcohol and this video made me soooo happy as I am also out of the partying phase. Love you
I love this sweet and vulnerable side of you. This video really resonated with me and what I’m going through in my life right now. Thank you for this 🥲💗💗💗💗
“Sometimes it’s better to loose your possessions than loose your mind” ♥️ I needed that, thank you! I moved out of my ex’s house this week into an apartment and we’re fighting over the dumbest things! I should just let it all go. 🙄♥️
perfect vid perfect time. i feel so lonely and was debating in my head if i should talk to somebody even if they cant help me. but sometimes the huge problem or the worst feeling doesnt seem as bad after putting it out into words. feel all the feels or they will crush over you, ly
Thank you for being so honest! I went through something very similar and you are so brave to share whats really been going on! Also please don't get rid of the bump on your nose, you make me like mine! Xx
I feel for you Blair. You deserve happiness and I’m happy to hear that you’re trying to find it. Good luck on your journey and thanks for being so honest ❤️
Smoking steals your beauty, I’m aging so fast but it’s SO HARD to quit 😖 pretty cool you were honest about it, makes me feel less alone, no one talks about it!
This video makes me sooo happy, because I have very similar bad habits and I’m trying to be better, and this is such good motivation . Please keep up with this content 🥺♥️
Don't spray your dry shampoo on your actual part, part your hair off to either side of your actual part, spray the dry shampoo there then quickly work it through the rest if your roots. It will look less powdery that way
Try being by yourself find the person you in your soul just be yourself Don't try to make other people happy as long as you're happy .try being by yourself you don't need a man be happy You need yourself .I was married for 32 years raising my kids with a very abusivel husband but I got out after 32 years with the help on my kids my daughters more don't let no man control you 😊💗
This was my favourite quote in Bojack, where he was starting to take care of himself: “Every day it gets a little easier… But you gotta do it every day - that's the hard part. But it does get easier.”
Bojack Horseman, one of my fav shows!
Bojack has some great quotes that I find myself thinking about from time to time. And I swear I find quotes from that show all the time on different corners of the internet.
How is a show that's characters are animals did suuuch a good job capturing the human experience?
Bojack is such a good show when you're going through a rough time 😊
Omgg I LOVE BOJACK! Also, love the username lol
This 💯
Sometimes people need a little bit of partying and distraction in order to be ready to face the pain. I know it's hard. I've been there. But you will grow up being stronger. You can do it Blair
I needed to see this too 😢 I hate myself so much every time I go partying bc it makes me feel so numb inside but sometimes you need it
I feel like you’re a friend I haven’t seen in a while. Missed you!!!
I feel you and don't you feel more like you connect with Blair when she does these kind of videos then whenever she does 10 and 15 second videos? Honestly I thought those were kind of funny until they became a habit. Not saying you have to do an hour but I feel like we connect better with you when there's more time ❤️
Blair this is an honest advice from an adult female living in Miami. The city is a lot of fun but can really suck you in and maybe even down to the wrong path. You can get lost in the pool of superficial and materialistic people. But finding true friends can be such a rewarding part. I’m so lucky to say I have an amazing support group. I work hard but also party hard and enjoy the nice and fun things of Miami but can go home and be content, happy, and at peace with myself. Good luck with your journey and stay strong!
Yes, there is a side of Miami that is extremely superficial and damaging. It’s so important to stay grounded here and have fun but also find the quiet spaces Miami has to offer ☺️☀️
i second that comment. i lived in miami for 3 years and the shit i thought was ok and normal.. lol lets just say not so much to the rest of the US population. my advice: move to NYC girl- def more sane people.
also.. lol be-careful with dudes in miami, use them as toys only or ATMs, and make sure you have plenty of options because they sure as fuck do. #trustnodudeinflorida
@@Camir0215 I agree I've here all my life, it's hard to fine genuiene people in the city but its not impossible. There so much to do for wellnes here :)
@@misslyenastrama what things? Sorry just genuinely interested
The only person you’ll have forever is yourself , it’s honestly so important to learn to love your own company , you’ll find so much contentment and joy from everyday life
Wanna hear “awkward”? Watching you is like watching every single thought and feeling I experienced about 10 years ago. It is incredibly healing for things I’ve never said out loud and validating for everything I tried to change. The main difference is you are bold enough and brave enough to bare your soul to the internet. I started following you because I felt this motherly pull to see how your life plays out. Maybe it is also selfish because it’s uncanny how similar the story is. From Miami to “fleeing the country when shit gets tough”, to your humor to mask your romantic struggles. I don’t have the magic pill either so sorry this isn’t a “I’m from the walnut future and here is how you save the world”… but I am on the other side of what looks pretty dang familiar to your current status. You are doing hard things that will pay off…I am so seriously rooting for you, praying for you even.
Your cosmic sister in debauchery reform ♥️
Ps. Have you looked into possible ADHD diagnosis? Your intelligence mixed with your impulsiveness also mimics my life…and I’ve got a gnarly case of adhd. Not the end of the world, but definitely helped me make some sense of why I was such a dumpster fire for awhile.
i remember she mentioned in an earlier video she has adhd
She knows she has it…
SAME!!! Ten years ago for me as well, triggered by the end of a long relationship (and ADHD)
I love this whole comment lol
she is literally so adhd. it's funny how only people with adhd can spot others with it as well.
We’re happy you recognize bad habits and continue to move forward. No ones perfect. Love you walnut ❤️
Agreed. Nobody needs to be railed on for having bad habits. If she needs a smoke than let the girl smoke
Loving the content lately❤️
Jesus is your free gift to heaven when you believe in his death, burial and resurrection you are immediately saved.
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The title and the thumbnail is just - same
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why aren't u verified?
i like this side of blair
I like all of blairs sides and her front and back
the sentiment of never being the girl you used to be but also loving all the past iterations of yourself despite the difficulties they were going through is a very beautiful sentiment that I never thought of so thank you for the walnut wisdom I hope things start looking up ❤️
It’s so refreshing to see someone genuinely grow. We all have those moments queen! And we’re all striving to find ourselves. Just as the seasons change so shall we. I hope you nothing but peace, love and laughter on your journey!
I want to see all the self care/self healing content. It’s hard to be alone and single bud there are ways to embrace it ❤️
i hear how sad u are in your voice, i’m sorry you’re going through a hard time, you’re gonna grow and be amazing with all of these positive changes 💓
I hear yah girl, it’s a messed up time in the world. If I were there we would watch movies do face masks and cry together… then laugh 🙂 🥰
And you are a good person. I don’t think you give yourself enough credit!
unsolicited advice from a 30 year old who also had a pretty intense partying/unhealthy decisions phase after a relationship: its good to recognize when you messed up and didnt make the best choices, but also you simply cant beat yourself up for it forever. of course i will always recognize that i hurt people (including myself mentally/physically) while in that phase BUT it was also a coping mechanism that i was using to deal with a really difficult situation. you are still a good person and deserve to be happy.
This is the most legit you’ve felt to me like ever. Loved this video really comforting
Blair! You’re so not alone! I took a break completely from dating and focused all of my energy that I used to waste sad over boys into my business and daughter. Happy to report one year later both are thriving! Whenever you feel bored or lonely work on a project doing something you love. You’ll be shocked at how much you can accomplish when you’re not distracted. 😎
I second that! And when you let your passion lead you, usually great people come along too!
We all are. This video feels like the walnut I subscribed for.
im really proud of you! the thing about being human is that we always are changing. who you are now isnt who you will be in 5 years, nor are you the person you were 5 years ago. youve got this. change can be a good thing even if it is hard.
I’m only 23 and I FEEL YOU about leaving the partying phase already and it’s wild that people who have been drinking since they were 14 still want to go out 24/7 and black out, Its just not for me and it’s not a healthy way to live. Of course drink a little throughout the year but getting blacked once a week even is too much for your brain /: the doctor just told me I am severely depressed so I’m going to start doing yoga and mindfulness meditation and talk to a dietitian because gut health helps a lot with mental illnesses so maybe that could help you too. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and send you good vibes 🦋
I'm glad to recognise some of the traits that made me fall in love with your personality are returning. Keep healing Blair! You're enough as you are. 💕
Depression is hard and few understand that nothing can really cure it. The most succesful, beautiful, loved celebs sometimes have depression too.
Same girl you’re not alone ❤️❤️ sending good vibes
Idk how old you are, but you sound like me when I was 23-25 and just figuring out how to be happy. Like really, really happy. I’m 28 now, and completely at peace and no longer suffer from depression (also quit smoking cigarettes. Woot. Woot.) You got it. It takes time, but one day you’ll wake up and be like “huh. I’m happy now. That’s cool.”
i want this
Yes yes yes.
Here with you Gracie.
I’m 35 now and despite some healing from my “wild days” still ongoing, the peace I have now surpasses what I hoped to find when I was in my early 20s. ♥️
I am 23 now and I feel very unhappy and lost in this world. I feel like there is no place where I belong. I feel like I am such a failure. I don't know what to do with my life and I don't know if it is right what I am doing with my life right now, if that makes sense. I hope that by the time I am 28, I will be happy just like you are right now. And that I will find myself and my life purpose.
I just turned 28 and am feeling like how you said you felt at 23-25 lol it's like reverse for me
@@shelby8364 Me too!
Feeling alone isn't fun but it is important to FEEL what you're going through instead of numbing it or trying to ignore it. I'm glad you're pulling yourself out of the rut.
Girl you are getting SO close to A MILLION SUBSCRIBERS
Yay she deserves it I love her so much
this is so damn relatable thank you so much for voicing this. im literally crying because ive felt so alone and confused and im just so happy to see so many other comments saying they also relate and im just so glad to know we're not alone.
You are not becoming a good person again, you have always been a good person who had some struggles. That's normal! I'm also really glad to see that you are trying to be healthier again, your body deserves kindness :)
I love seeing your true self. You are sweet. Everyone has bad habits, but not everyone can improve them. Thank you for reminding me that its okay to have it. Have a great day ❤️
i love this vulnerable side. i also struggle with being alone so its like a lil journey were both going through ❤️
Sometimes i’ve mistaken the disappearance of all the noise, distractions, and drama of relationships as “loneliness”.
It’s just things slowing down, you just rode a roller coaster for months, ya know? I’m so happy you’re taking this moment to give yourself some attention 💙
I’m with you Sis. My hair is falling out from stress, as is both of my daughter’s sadly. I’m a broke ass single mom right now… and even though my daughters are right here I feel so alone and I don’t recognize myself at times. I feel like an asshole mom because I judge myself for feeling alone when I have them right here. I miss my old hair too. Freakin’ thank you teffluem effluvium. My Dermatologist said it’s going to take at least 5 years for my hair to recover (so much stress, and it’s not stopping). I am a semi-new subscriber of yours, I was suggested your videos because of you eating like other people), so I saw you years ago.. and I’m bummed to learn you’re lonely now.. I also vape and people give me crap about it but it’s the only thing that got me off of cigarettes so I dunno what they want from me 🤷🏻♀️ Please be healthy girl and not Tequila girl! 🖤 If it makes you feel any better seeing your purchases and outfit made me feel really flexed on 😂 You so fancy girl.
Blair get the BLONDE batiste dry shampoo, I struggle with hair loss and thin hair too and it works so much better! not just the colour but the volume. also invest in these hair oils and mix together to create a hair growth serum for your scalp: rosemary oil, castor oil, coconut oil, cedar wood oil, jojoba oil. I've done a lot of research!
Yes Blair CEO of realness. Were going through the same pain atm and ur helping so many of ur followers experiencing this rn! Thanks for inspiring us as were here when u need ur spirits lifted!
Aww Blair, even if you aren't where you want to be, you're good person. I'm happy you're on this journey of self discovery and healing! Keep your head up 💕
Girl we all been there after heartbreak trying to escape the pain. It just so happens your life is out there for people to judge, which is hard. You are doing your best just remember you are loved and have always been enough. I hope you find healing and self acceptance ✨ 💓
the yoga community in miami is actually so amazing! rly saved me from my sad girl lonely feelings aha. i’m so glad you found it
This is such a great video, Blair! I'm a recovering addict, and I know how quickly the things you do to avoid your emotions can become destructive to your health without you even realizing it. Eventually you gotta endure the discomfort that comes with bettering yourself so you don't create even more pain down the road ❤ You are doing the damn thing!
And then there are those of us who remain addicts and using [insert addiction behaviour/substance here] because it's the only way we are able to *feel emotions and get shit done* - I'm not being facetious about this. I was only able to confront my discomfort when I let myself start doing [behaviour/substance] and when I am not doing [behaviour/substance] I am completely avoidant and unproductive. We all have our reasons and we all have our stigmas to deal with but I gotta tell ya, those closest to me throughout my life have said I lost the twinkle in my eye at age 7 and it came back when I was 14 - the age my addiction to [behaviour/substance] began. Nothing traumatic happened to me, I just...found myself again through finding [behaviour/substance] and now in my early 30s I continue to use that addiction to be the "me" that everyone knew and knows. High achiever, university educated, successful, sociable, independent...but with a secret addiction that could kill me at any moment and has most definitely impacted my long-term physical health (but not on paper - regular medical checkup results keep coming up as normal). I'll keep doing [behaviour/substance] until I am no longer able to...which I fear because the thing I fear the most is not feeling again like I did for 7 years when I lost that twinkle in my eye...
Oh Little Walnut, when I got out of a loooong relationship I was devastated, lonely, completely lost in life bc OMG I’D NEVER BEEN SINGLE AS AN ADULT EVER. I was given advice that I didn’t want and thought was terrible BUT it ended up being the best advice I ever got. I will now pass it on to you : stay single for 1 year. That’s it. Stay single, don’t try to date, and don’t panic that you’re single. You aren’t happy alone right now which means you will allow people into your life that shouldn’t be there and end up with men that will just not be it. You gotta power through it and be alone until you are ok in your own company. As the former ‘never single girl bc being single is scary’ I PROMISE YOU that with time you will find ways to fill your day, will end up happy and will LOVE being single, and then a stupid man who ends up being perfect for you will wander into your life and you won’t be able to get rid of him…but he’ll make you happy so you decide to keep him and then you’ll look back and be thankful you took that time for yourself :)
Love these chill day in the life/real talk videos ☺️ I’m at the office alone today and I feel like you’re hanging out here with me keeping me company lol
Glad to finally see you addressing it. Missed you!
I am a travel nurse, so I feel this way too. Slowly making new friends at work. And trying to explore the city I’m in. My biggest hobby is cooking in my hotel room trying new recipes. Right now I’m going to try to cook pork belly bao buns in the Insta pot 😊
blair, what you are describing is exactly how i felt after my divorce, when you are constantly around someone for multiple years (10 in my case) going back to being just you is an adjustment! what society needs to be better about though is normalizing reconstruction and re-learning yourself after years with a life with someone else, good or bad.
This is the realest I’ve seen your content in months, I appreciate that
If after a few months you still don’t like Miami that much, move up to the Fort Lauderdale area! I tried moving to Miami and just didn’t mesh with the people & lifestyle of the Brickell/downtown area. Fort Lauderdale is a tad slower & offers just the right variety of activities in my opinion. Happy to see your growth!! Sending you kind thoughts
Honestly I felt this. Last month my 5 year relationship ended days before our anniversary then a day after the breakup a family friend passed and boyyyy it was so hard to not go off the rails, I’ve let myself cry, be alone (even tho it’s lonely af) be depressed & now it’s only a month later but I feel GOOD again bc I let myself feel it all. The first breakup I went of the rails drinking every single night, meeting guys and later down the line it all hit me lmao don’t recommend blocking your feelings!
Sending you so much love - it’s a difficult time but remember you will get to the other side!
@@JeanAbdalo Thankyou so much gorgeous! Life isn’t easy but we will all get there one day 💕
@@CriminalFinds. absolutely!!! Literally went through it last year 😘
@@JeanAbdalo so comforting to know we’re not alone in the bs we deal with! So a year later are you completely over it now!? I’m not that long out of it and some days wow it’s hard
This makes me smile knowing you're doing your best
GIRL you’re having growing pains! I’m right there with you, we’ve got this 💪🏼
Thank you for being so vulnerable with your viewers. So many women struggle with hair issues. Thanks for sharing all the options with us for fixing hair loss.
"It smells like I'm nice". I love you Blair
Everyone has this different periods of life -one to be more at home, one to go out smoking, drinking, and one to be who you truly are - good to see you back 😇😍🥰 Love you and keep do what you love and need and remember -you are never alone-you have your walnuts with you! ❤
As a Sagittarius, I can relate to this whole situation.
Also I love your videos and shorts they give me life. ✨
Hi Blair! I like to think of myself as a chronically lonely person so I feel you! What I found helps when I’m physically alone is putting on a sitcom (something you don’t have to really pay attention to) and do tasks with the show in the background! Not sure if the talking or the storyline helps, but it makes me feel so much better!
Good luck in life Blair! I’m so happy to see u trying to live life “healthily” or whatever.. lol but yeah love u, always here for ya
Girl, you’re so relatable it kills me. The cigarettes, everything. I would’ve loved to party with you in tulum( going there to visit family in a couple of weeks) and dance the pain away. Keep the good vids, much love xoxo
I just got out of a relationship, and every weekend since I have been with someone to distract myself... this weekend is the first time I will be alone, and I am nervous about it, but I am excited! Thanks for this.
You seem like a genuinely sweet and nice person. I really fux with you. I hope you feel better soon
I like the ending of this... beautiful
I’m also quitting smoking after way too many years, hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m not there yet but I’m getting there and finally believe I will. You can do it!!
Feel you Blair. Sending love 💗.
Girl, that manifestation thing works! I thought of all the qualities that I wanted in a man. Then I was just living my life, not thinking about this, and a few months later a guy who is EXACTLY like I wanted came into my life and we’ve been dating for 4 months now 🥰
I think we all need a little Miley Cyrus circa Bangerz moment in our life. We still love ya walnut
I love that you’ve got Kristen in your life, she gives incredible advice. Glad to see you’re healing bby 🥰
I honestly get this mental break down so much 💜 you got this hun
I’ve been there. FR
It feels like we're all going on this journey together and I wish you and all of you the best! We got this :)
I was going through exactly the same phase with drinking, losing, going out to clubs every night and yet felt awful last year. Hope you get through it.
Love you blair. Thank you for being genuine and vulnerable. Sometimes i watch youtube and feel even more depressed and alone bc i feel like everyone's life is so much better than mine. Thank you for being relateable 💜
This was me when I was 24/25 I'm 30 now.. one night I got woken up and was next to a guy and literally couldn't remember his name, then I went home alone from the men, substances and needed to change.. B I HAD SOO many problems , everyone goes through this stage this is when you truly grow and move on to the next phase of your life. 🤍
I was single for 6 years and I dated a lot during that time. It was fun until it became boring and redundant. I knew what kind of man I wanted and I was willing to wait.
During that time I made life long friends with my coworkers who became like brothers and family to me. I started weight lifting at the gym ate healthier and practised self discipline.
I learned so much during that period in my life and I was loving life. Then I met the man of my dreams. Long story short, whether you meet someone or you don’t it doesn’t matter, you as an individual, will never stop growing emotionally and mentality. Life will always have new lessons to learn from and experience. I may be with someone now but life is still happening it’s just a new way of living and learning even though it’s been a year and a bit.
Thanks to this video, it has taught me to let go of focusing on problems and to be thankful and grateful for everything I have and everything I’ve learned from❤️
Learning to be alone again is so hard…I also use a lot of distractions to help myself quote. Good luck. You’re not alone!
My bad habit currently is that i drink at LEAST one glass of wine a night to "unwind" but ive been doing it since the pandemic started so at least 1.5 years of drink a glass of wine a night. That can't be good for me....
I totally connect with you here Blair. Thanks for being so real and honest about your life and your feelings.
I totally get the whole perfume thing. I can smell a perfume I wore 15 years ago and it immediately takes me there in my memories!
Girl we know & I am too, but we love you ♥️
Blairrrrrrr I find your videos helpful, I’m also going through some life things and your honesty is just so lovely. You’re lovely and deserving of nice things, we got this lady
Definitely connecting with the end of this. I had to learn how to be alone again too. It’s hard but, eventually you’ll learn it again. It has its ups and downs but it is far better than constantly surrounding yourself with potentially the wrong people.
I 100% agree on the perfume thing! I always get new scents and not finish perfumes because they trigger memories 🥲
Keep in mind that spraying dry shampoo on dry shampoo (aka when you spray it a few days in a row and it creates layers of it on your scalp) can stop hair growth due to clogging. Commenting that to support the hair journey, love you B.
I’ve read if you brush your hair before bed that helps!
i love you being transparent with us blair, most influencers would hide the cigarettes etc but thank you for being honest with everything💘
Aww Blair, we are here for you! You're never truly alone! 💜💙💜💙💜
I love watching your videos because currently as a 22 year old living on her own with no girl friends at the moment.. it might sound sad or silly , but watching you and other women near my age helps me feel less lonely and like we’re having girl talk lol ❤️ Hopefully I can make healthy non toxic girl friends soon. I have too many guy friends 😪
Blair as someone who cares and a momma: Stop smoking! You don't want cancer and all the other junk that comes along with it.
Everyone copes one way or another.
@@ashleypoirier5080 not helpful
Dry skin,wrinkles, bad breath from dying lungs, slow healing process, stinky everything, yellow walls yuck
Bad habits: alcohol, vaping, weed, not being clean, dating the same boy I know I shouldn't, being lazy and unmotivated, speak badly about myself
hii blair!! i love this for you. i definitely got caught up constantly partying and not taking care of myself after going through a breakup w someone i dated for 4 years!! God has rly helped me through that phase of my life & i love to see this version of you, you seem healthy + happy + you look beautiful as always!!!!🤍🤍
so happy to see you pushing through your bad habits! I had a terrible time this time last year and I’m finally starting to feel healthy happy and whole again! It takes hard work but you will be happier you did so ✨✨ rooting for you
Im getting serious big sister energy, thanks Blair for giving both us and yourself that push to try to get our shit together :))❤️
Love you girl. Thanks for inspiring. I’m 118 days sober from alcohol and this video made me soooo happy as I am also out of the partying phase. Love you
I love this sweet and vulnerable side of you. This video really resonated with me and what I’m going through in my life right now. Thank you for this 🥲💗💗💗💗
“Sometimes it’s better to loose your possessions than loose your mind” ♥️
I needed that, thank you! I moved out of my ex’s house this week into an apartment and we’re fighting over the dumbest things! I should just let it all go. 🙄♥️
perfect vid perfect time. i feel so lonely and was debating in my head if i should talk to somebody even if they cant help me. but sometimes the huge problem or the worst feeling doesnt seem as bad after putting it out into words. feel all the feels or they will crush over you, ly
Thank you for being so honest! I went through something very similar and you are so brave to share whats really been going on! Also please don't get rid of the bump on your nose, you make me like mine! Xx
“I think I’m becoming a good person again.” Oh hey there, we love a self growth queen! 💕
I love you Blair! You are not alone! I do as well as times
I feel for you Blair. You deserve happiness and I’m happy to hear that you’re trying to find it. Good luck on your journey and thanks for being so honest ❤️
Smoking steals your beauty, I’m aging so fast but it’s SO HARD to quit 😖 pretty cool you were honest about it, makes me feel less alone, no one talks about it!
This video makes me sooo happy, because I have very similar bad habits and I’m trying to be better, and this is such good motivation . Please keep up with this content 🥺♥️
Don't spray your dry shampoo on your actual part, part your hair off to either side of your actual part, spray the dry shampoo there then quickly work it through the rest if your roots. It will look less powdery that way
Very happy for you and your growth! Good luck girl, you got this🤍
I find you to be fun, silly, and so beautiful!! Appreciate your brutal honesty, and love your goofy ways
Try being by yourself find the person you in your soul just be yourself Don't try to make other people happy as long as you're happy .try being by yourself you don't need a man be happy You need yourself .I was married for 32 years raising my kids with a very abusivel husband but I got out after 32 years with the help on my kids my daughters more don't let no man control you 😊💗
PS get a pet a cat I love cats or if you like dogs 😊😊💗💗