Such an important topic and video, thank you so much. I used to think I had relationship problems because of the FA/DA dynamic...but I always felt like that couldn't have been the only explanation and that something more sinister was going on; now I realise the even bigger problem was the (covert) narcissism of that person and the trauma bond I was in with them.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS. I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS SO VERY INFORMATIVE IM A VICTIM OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AND I WAS SEVERELY TRAUMA BONDED FOR OVER8 YEARS THIS PERSON HAS BROKE ME DOWN. MY LIFE HAS BEEN DESTROYED. I ONLY HAVE 4 DAYS OF. NO CONTACT.I AM STRUGGLING TO MAINTAIN NO CONTACT. NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS VERY CRUEL BRUTAL ABUSE.
@@melw3313 Thank YOU SO SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS How DID YOU🙏BREAK AWAY I WAS BROKE DOWN FROM MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT. IM ON A 2 MONTH SILENT TREATMENT KNOW. YOU ARE SO RIGHT I NEVER KNEW EVILNESS LIKE THIS EVER EXISTED NUNTIL I MET AN OVERT NARCISSISTS, THEY ARE BRUTALLY ABUSIVE.AND CRUEL..
I am sorry you went through all of this and are struggling Demi. I am sending you my best wishes on maintaining no contact and I hope you have some support as well.
@@melw3313 Thank you SO VERY MUCH FOR CARING NO WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER WHAT HURTS IS I WAS USED AND DISCARDED LIKE TRASH KNOW IM BEING TREATED LIKE I DONT EXIST ..THE SILENT TREATMENT BROKE ME DOWN IM TRYING TO GO NO CONTACT,I ONLY HAVE 4 Days OF NO CONTACT..NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS BRUTAL
Dear Thais and the PDS-Team, Could you please make a video on the difference between Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and Covert Narcissism? I've been a subscriber for years and know I have strong FA traits because I experienced severe complex trauma. When I watch your videos on narcissism I get really scared of maybe having narcissistic traits myself instead? It would be very helpful. Thank you for the awesome free daily content.
Thank you, a very timely video. Went no contact this week with my 4 year narcissistic friend. :( Was a really tough decision and they immediately started attacking and threatening legal abuse and circulated horrible rumors to mutual friends. It was no light decision for me and I feel like I spent so much time considering their needs--while my health went down the drain these last few years and I got the short end of the stick every time. Very hurtful to see them lash out but shows me that it was the right decision. I'm all about growth, change and improving and I just felt trapped and caged around them.
I am in the midst of this now and have to say that the gray rock method has been very helpful in bringing me peace. Sticking to it creates a strong boundary and as you said, it will help move them toward something else to focus on aka control.
Very important point: The narcissist is familiar because you beat yourself up, you're harsh on yourself, you're overly critical with yourself. So staying with the narcissist meets the need of Certainty in an unhealthy way. That's why you get back to who you really are at the subconscious mind so that feels unnatural and your real confident self feels natural. What do you all think? :)
I Definitely agree with this. I realized my biggest core wound was "I am blammed" and they were notorious for blaming me for their projected insecurities.
Thank you! I did this last year and it was SO hard! My life is a million times better now but it's crazy what intermittent reinforcement can do to a person's brain!
Such an important topic and video, thank you so much. I used to think I had relationship problems because of the FA/DA dynamic...but I always felt like that couldn't have been the only explanation and that something more sinister was going on; now I realise the even bigger problem was the (covert) narcissism of that person and the trauma bond I was in with them.
Very good insights Charis! :)
I am glad this was helpful for you :)
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS. I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS
SO VERY INFORMATIVE IM A VICTIM OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AND I WAS SEVERELY TRAUMA BONDED
FOR OVER8 YEARS THIS PERSON HAS BROKE ME DOWN.
MY LIFE HAS BEEN DESTROYED.
I ONLY HAVE 4 DAYS OF. NO CONTACT.I AM STRUGGLING TO MAINTAIN NO CONTACT.
NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS VERY CRUEL BRUTAL ABUSE.
Dear one, it is a spiritual battle
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Praying 🙏 for you
@@melw3313
Thank YOU SO SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS
How DID YOU🙏BREAK AWAY I WAS BROKE DOWN FROM MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT.
IM ON A 2 MONTH SILENT TREATMENT KNOW.
YOU ARE SO RIGHT I NEVER KNEW EVILNESS LIKE THIS EVER EXISTED NUNTIL I MET AN OVERT NARCISSISTS,
THEY ARE BRUTALLY ABUSIVE.AND CRUEL..
I am sorry you went through all of this and are struggling Demi. I am sending you my best wishes on maintaining no contact and I hope you have some support as well.
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Thank you SO VERY MUCH FOR CARING 🙏
@@melw3313
Thank you SO VERY MUCH FOR CARING
NO WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER WHAT HURTS IS I WAS USED AND DISCARDED LIKE TRASH KNOW IM BEING TREATED LIKE I DONT EXIST ..THE SILENT TREATMENT BROKE ME DOWN IM TRYING TO GO NO CONTACT,I ONLY HAVE 4 Days OF NO CONTACT..NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS BRUTAL
Dear Thais and the PDS-Team,
Could you please make a video on the difference between Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and Covert Narcissism? I've been a subscriber for years and know I have strong FA traits because I experienced severe complex trauma. When I watch your videos on narcissism I get really scared of maybe having narcissistic traits myself instead? It would be very helpful.
Thank you for the awesome free daily content.
Thank you, a very timely video.
Went no contact this week with my 4 year narcissistic friend. :(
Was a really tough decision and they immediately started attacking and threatening legal abuse and circulated horrible rumors to mutual friends. It was no light decision for me and I feel like I spent so much time considering their needs--while my health went down the drain these last few years and I got the short end of the stick every time. Very hurtful to see them lash out but shows me that it was the right decision. I'm all about growth, change and improving and I just felt trapped and caged around them.
I am in the midst of this now and have to say that the gray rock method has been very helpful in bringing me peace. Sticking to it creates a strong boundary and as you said, it will help move them toward something else to focus on aka control.
Thank you so much for this.
Very important point: The narcissist is familiar because you beat yourself up, you're harsh on yourself, you're overly critical with yourself. So staying with the narcissist meets the need of Certainty in an unhealthy way. That's why you get back to who you really are at the subconscious mind so that feels unnatural and your real confident self feels natural. What do you all think? :)
I agree 100%. Self-love is the first step in moving on.
@@RRthee1 Yes! :)
I Definitely agree with this. I realized my biggest core wound was "I am blammed" and they were notorious for blaming me for their projected insecurities.
@@MS-tb8nm Interesting! Good that you realized that:)
Thank you! I did this last year and it was SO hard! My life is a million times better now but it's crazy what intermittent reinforcement can do to a person's brain!
This is awesome and true!! If I knew this sooner, I would of never gotten myself in the relationship with the narcissists.
Clapping out loud quite literally!! Perfect video for this phase in my healing!! Thank you Thais!
Well shoot. #1 just explained my serious case of "rose colored glasses" that I have had my whole life.
The intermittent reinforcement point was bang on! Also we learned about the cost benefit analysis in the IAT training 2 weeks ago
omfg this has helped me so much
❤️thank you.