Just finished the episode....! A must watch for every parent, grandparent..child! Hatzlocha & brucha in bringing unity and love between parent & child...!!!
a healthy parent raises a child with a balance of Chesed and Gevurah. if a parent raises a child with compassion and truly caring for their child, their child will feel it. we are partners with Hashem. May He bless us all with healthy children.
You had the expert on for an hour and a half... The answer is it's not always a matter of prevention, some kids and adults do leave and don't return as much as conventional wisdom would like you to believe otherwise. This list isn't definitive but off the top of my head: 1) more love and affection without any judgement no matter the circumstances. 2) improve secular education and make college a viable option for boys and girls so kids who aren't particularly interested in graduating as מורי הוראות should also have what to look forward to... 3) stop denying sexual abuse exists and protect victims not abusers, and publicly bash the acts, the people who commit them 4) destigmatize mental health early on and perhaps incorporate it into the curriculum so kids who might go on to engage in narcotics or other dark paths should be fully aware that they're not alone. 5) maybe lessen the rigidity of religious fundamentalism and literalism and allow chasidis to go back to its roots which there's no denying that the baal shem tov had no intention of creating post war ghettos and trauma as well as extremists ideology that is so pervasive today unfortunately. 7) allow questioning, don't silence it, start having some accountability and not be on the defense all the time, and if you think it is allowed, allow more. Those are some of my suggestions. -a non expert
Y.Y. Jacobson needs to be talking bechlal in the chassidish circles. He is MASSIVE and brilliant. Time to stop the "chassidish only" and then use him when the tzoros come. We need to invite into the frum community anyone capable of helping...not worry if they will corrupt you with their differences. We are all one. We need each other. We are a salad of different colors...each color needed to make the salad taste great!!!
@@surikatz123 I hear you. And I know that. A lot of chassidish ppl think it's the Polish/Hungarian etc Chassidish garb that makes someone 'chassidish'. And they are correct,to a point. Chabad have their own style that some members of some other sects don't specially realise is Chassidish. It was a tongue in cheek comment.
An interesting thing Anyone going off is in pain Can't anyone go off without pain? And doesn't everyone have pain that they can give as the cause of going off It sounds all nice But makes no rational
I don't think it's fair to say a blanket statement that it's the best thing to keep your child home. Every situation is different. There's no comparison between one case and another. And when it comes to shmiras shabbos kashrus there is a difference. Besides a person going thru divorce isn't related to the same issues. It's irresponsible to put all of the different types of issues and make a blanket statement. Not every parent is able to keep a child like this at home.
Can anyone tell me why we never hear from the kids themselves why/what's causing them to leave the straight and narrow? Those kids know very well what's wrong,why don't we ask them then change what we are doing? We seem to have become great at building hospitals under bridges....
People leave the community for many different reasons. Not all are bad, not all are good. Some are hurt in various ways by family and clergy, some come from dysfunctional families, some were abused in many ways and some simply are too smart for religious belief. The idea that there are no atheists is so stupidly bigoted that it has no words. I don't expect him to know and understand everything or be able to answer every religious paradox, but if you call yourself an expert, you should at least have the knowledge and understanding that not everything you believe is absolutely correct. Religion is a faith based system and not everyone believes in it.
Also, the way he refers to children who leave the community, almost as if we're dealing with cancer patients: "נעבעך פארמישט אין די פרשה" etc.... So your kid doesn't wanna be part of the same club as you. I understand that people don't like it and it really pains them, but come on, everyone is entitled to have they own choices in life.
Can you please break down your videos by the minute based on the subjects so it's easier to scroll or go back if you want to listen again?! Thanks much would be a bonus for your videos on podcast
Reb Gedalye Miller Shlita
Is a true Tzadik a hero in klal Yisrael..
Thank you Latest Talks for hosting this important and much needed topic..
Yes yes, and you're definitely welcome Shlome!
Keep on doing good for the Klal.
Just finished the episode....!
A must watch for every parent, grandparent..child!
Hatzlocha & brucha
in bringing unity and love between parent & child...!!!
💯 Thanks 🙏
Wow amazing episode! I enjoyed this the most by far!
Thanks 🙏
Wow wow wow amazing amazing keep up the great work
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You're definitely welcome! Tizka L'Mitzvos. 🙏🙏🙏
This was very heart warming what a אמתדיגע איד this was definitely my favorite episode GUYS keep up your good work
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Wow it's a beautiful episode! Keep it coming!
Thank you! Will do iyh! 🙏
No words, I’m completely blown away.
Keep up your good work.
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
best episode so far
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
וועלכע פרשה האט מען דעס ריקארדעט?
Wow thank you so much for bringing this to the world Keep It Coming guys
Thanks you 🙏🙏🙏
Wow we need more
Agree 🙏
All it takes is one sentence I love you unconditionally.
Hashem put love first before orthodoxy.
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@36:25
a healthy parent raises a child with a balance of Chesed and Gevurah. if a parent raises a child with compassion and truly caring for their child, their child will feel it. we are partners with Hashem. May He bless us all with healthy children.
Unconditional love.That's highly insincere usually and improbable.It's just not the way we humans operate.And kids are not stupid,they sniff it out.
Amazing episode❤
Thanks 🙏🙏🙏
Good interviewee
Yes yes bh, thanks 🙏
הייליג הייליג הייליג ❤❤❤
Thank You R' Don! #GoodPeople
When are you bringing up Ari Samet from Monsey?
Wouldn’t be a bad idea to relate with his talent of giving אויסגעהאלטענע entertainment
Bez"h, if he'll be willing to.
Thank you so so much!!
Side question, what can be done beforehand it shouldn't get to this מצב?
For parents, and for children...
Not sure if it's in our hands, but reach out to the professionals for clarity.
You're welcome 🙏
You had the expert on for an hour and a half... The answer is it's not always a matter of prevention, some kids and adults do leave and don't return as much as conventional wisdom would like you to believe otherwise.
This list isn't definitive but off the top of my head: 1) more love and affection without any judgement no matter the circumstances.
2) improve secular education and make college a viable option for boys and girls so kids who aren't particularly interested in graduating as מורי הוראות should also have what to look forward to...
3) stop denying sexual abuse exists and protect victims not abusers, and publicly bash the acts, the people who commit them
4) destigmatize mental health early on and perhaps incorporate it into the curriculum so kids who might go on to engage in narcotics or other dark paths should be fully aware that they're not alone.
5) maybe lessen the rigidity of religious fundamentalism and literalism and allow chasidis to go back to its roots which there's no denying that the baal shem tov had no intention of creating post war ghettos and trauma as well as extremists ideology that is so pervasive today unfortunately.
7) allow questioning, don't silence it, start having some accountability and not be on the defense all the time, and if you think it is allowed, allow more.
Those are some of my suggestions. -a non expert
Attachment, is the key spend time with your children not money on your children
I love you all habibi 💖💖💖💖💖
Y.Y. Jacobson needs to be talking bechlal in the chassidish circles. He is MASSIVE and brilliant. Time to stop the "chassidish only" and then use him when the tzoros come. We need to invite into the frum community anyone capable of helping...not worry if they will corrupt you with their differences. We are all one. We need each other. We are a salad of different colors...each color needed to make the salad taste great!!!
He actually does
he's been speaking for a long time.
anonymous.
Y.Y.Jacobson IS chassidish.
Chabad qualifies.
@@Tali5899 actually, Chabad follows the ways of the founder of Chasidim way more than other Chassidishe sects.
@@surikatz123
I hear you.
And I know that.
A lot of chassidish ppl think it's the Polish/Hungarian etc Chassidish garb that makes someone 'chassidish'.
And they are correct,to a point.
Chabad have their own style that some members of some other sects don't specially realise is Chassidish.
It was a tongue in cheek comment.
געוואאאאאלדיגגג!!!!!!
Thanks 🙏
קענסט אפשר ברענגען א לינק צו די פרי הארץ וואס ער זאגט?
Look it up, Parhas Sovtim in Pri Huuretz
0:43 וואס איך פארשטיי נישט איז, איינער וואס וויל קויפן א הויז פאר די ביליגסטע פרייז גייט צו חיים, איינער וואס וויל פארקויפן פאר די העכסטע פרייז גייט אויך צו חיים, וואס איז מיט די געלט אינצווישן 🤔 עפעס שטימט נישט דא 🤪
צוויי אנדערע מארקעטס
קאל חיים
Not everyone knows takes in their divorced child to live with them at home either.
An interesting thing
Anyone going off is in pain
Can't anyone go off without pain?
And doesn't everyone have pain that they can give as the cause of going off
It sounds all nice
But makes no rational
@11:27 the over talking / interrupting is annoying
You're right, but it's annoying for 2 seconds out of 1½ hours.
😢
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If everyone speaks and understands English why the need for Yiddish speakers? You're saying everyone speaks and understands a perfect English...
There's millions of English podcasts out there, the idea here is to cater for the Yiddish speaking audience.
@@LatestTalks I'm responding to a point je made about his audience at the events. Not this show...
@@shrags1 Ah...
I think he said it on the podcast, that Mama Lushen is much easier to comprehend.
@@LatestTalks ya think?
I don't think it's fair to say a blanket statement that it's the best thing to keep your child home. Every situation is different. There's no comparison between one case and another. And when it comes to shmiras shabbos kashrus there is a difference. Besides a person going thru divorce isn't related to the same issues. It's irresponsible to put all of the different types of issues and make a blanket statement. Not every parent is able to keep a child like this at home.
That's why Kesher Nafshi was born, to help you and guide you through.
All he was saying was don’t throw ure kid out . Of course every circumstance is different ie divorce etc..
Can anyone tell me why we never hear from the kids themselves why/what's causing them to leave the straight and narrow? Those kids know very well what's wrong,why don't we ask them then change what we are doing? We seem to have become great at building hospitals under bridges....
Boundaries is always a must
🙂 ᴘʀᴏᴍᴏsᴍ
What a bunch of nonsense. He dismisses all atheism as "being hurt". The guy is clueless
Can you specify?
People leave the community for many different reasons. Not all are bad, not all are good.
Some are hurt in various ways by family and clergy, some come from dysfunctional families, some were abused in many ways and some simply are too smart for religious belief.
The idea that there are no atheists is so stupidly bigoted that it has no words.
I don't expect him to know and understand everything or be able to answer every religious paradox, but if you call yourself an expert, you should at least have the knowledge and understanding that not everything you believe is absolutely correct.
Religion is a faith based system and not everyone believes in it.
Also, the way he refers to children who leave the community, almost as if we're dealing with cancer patients: "נעבעך פארמישט אין די פרשה" etc....
So your kid doesn't wanna be part of the same club as you. I understand that people don't like it and it really pains them, but come on, everyone is entitled to have they own choices in life.
@@yf1954 cut the crap, you also believe in God
@@tzvi3660 I didn't speak about myself and I have no idea what this has to do with anything I mentioned. So please stick to the topic.
Can you please break down your videos by the minute based on the subjects so it's easier to scroll or go back if you want to listen again?! Thanks much would be a bonus for your videos on podcast
Will try