Thank you thank you! Your vulnerability is not wasted. It means so much to me to see that I am not alone in these feelings and fears. I am at the beginning of our family journey with 3 kids with various diagnoses while homeschooling. I feel overwhelmed with trying to figure out what their needs are and how to help them. Although learning about different resources would be helpful, I would love to learn more about how you balance it all and manage overwhelm. Like you I have adhd and I can get lost in the research phase of things. The follow through is my biggest challenge. How do you do it? Thank you again for being so open and vulnerable.
I’m happy this could help. Here is a video that actually walks you through how I as an ADHD mom worked through all of the paperwork ua-cam.com/video/I8pEGfHZwao/v-deo.htmlsi=vbWdrY2Y6DqhPejc
We are in the trenches with testing and waiting for results now. This video was so helpful. Thank you for the encouragement. Your love for your children shines through. What a blessing to have someone recognize her confidence and the love you’ve poured into her. I’m praying for your family ❤
We just went through a similar testing for 3 of our kids and what you said about the academic results is exactly how I felt too, like a failure. It's so difficult because my boys have several learning disabilities too, but it makes you feel like it's your fault when it is not. As moms we are just doing the best we can for those babies we love so much! Sending you a great big hug! P.S. Thank you for being so brave to share about this so I don't feel so alone. You're an amazing mom!!!!
Don't feel like a failure. I know its hard because we worry already about teaching our children when everyone else says were not qualified. But you are taking time for you children, loving on your children, fulfilling the ministry given to you from God as a mother and he will see you through it
I just found your channel and I’m so thankful! My son had a rare chromosome deletion which has caused speech delay, motor delays, ADHD, lower IQ and significant academic challenges. We didn’t find out about his genetic deletion until he was 4 because I couldn’t get any doctors to take me seriously. We went through our full neuropsych testing in January. He’s 8. It was so overwhelming. I’m in a little different boat in that he has been in public school. We are pulling him out to homeschool and I’m excited, but overwhelmed. I can’t wait to watch all your videos and glean from the wisdom you are sharing.
Oh friend! I’m so sorry you’re going through this! But absolutely do not feel like a failure! You are one of the best moms I know and put your heart and soul into everything you do! You’re doing everything you can! Don’t believe the devil’s lies. You are an awesome mom and you’re doing enough! More than enough!…Hugs!!
I'm crying with you. YOU are not a failure, not in the slightest. Also, your husband and doctor are blessings, I'm so glad they were there for you. Giving you a huge hug and also praying for you all.
You brought me to tears, but in admiration. I do want to say that it does not really matter if someone has a high IQ or advanced classes or anything. And I can say that from experience. I learned English in Kindergarten, then was in Gifted and Talented classes by 2nd grade and graduated high school with 33 college credits. And I didn't really use any of it. I left college at some point, worked in a couple of restaurants and then retail, then in construction for a bit. And finally ended up with a good job, but it was by luck. And hopefully this year I can quit and be a stay at home mom and homeschooler. And honestly, being a good wife, mother, and homeschooler are the best and toughest jobs out there, and the most important ones. And the key is faithfulness to God, preservence, and humbleness, and your daughter sounds like she already has all of that. I would take back all the academic achievements from my past and instead have become Christian earlier in life and studied the Bible instead and lived for Jesus. So your daughter is already ahead. Not only that, but the public school teachers can try their best in special needs classrooms, but they have full classrooms of students who all have different special needs and they are overwhelmed with the paperwork that they can't dedicate very much time to each individual child. I firmly believe homeschooling is the best option for every child, especially those with special needs, and especially if they have parents that love and support them. And I think you are doing amazing. And the last thing I wanted to say is just thank you for doing your weekly prayers for the community when you already have a lot on your plate. I will pray for you and your family as well. Jeremiah 29:11.
I love ur transparency and all ur videos. Be encouraged! Please note that my child (autistic and delays) went to a public school with their teaching from pre-k till 5 and he is still delayed more than I think he should, but he has learned a lot. But that was with us hiring a a private tutor. I am now going to try home schooling bc I feel he’s not where he could be. My son learned more read with us and us providing him with a private tutor. He would still not be able to read if not. So I said that to say don’t feel like a failure! The school was just passing my son on. I am sure ur doing great and those testing always say something that’s not from my experience. It’s the way they interpret.
You’re already do the best thing for her, which is homeschooling! Now that you know what her diagnoses are you can give her the accommodations and learning she needs. My son is triple D (dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia) along with adhd, and APD. His anxiety is bad but when he started having seizures due to a rare epilepsy disorder it became so much worse. On top of being a 13 year old. I completely understand how you feel. You’re doing amazing and not even close to failing her. Sending hugs and prayers for you guys. Rooted in language was a game changer for my son. We tried 3 different OG curriculums. He loves snaptype for worksheets. I could go on but it might turn into a page 😂 Good luck!! 🙏🙏
Hugs, sweet lady. Stopping to pray for you and your family right now. Especially praying for you to have clarity and wisdom in the next steps and that the Truth of Christ and who you are in Him would guard your heart as you process all these things. ❤
I'm sorry you and your family are going through this. Just keep in mind all of our children are all in different places and grading them against other children or where someone says they should be is no our goal. Though most of us still compare our children to other children their age.They are unique and move at their own pace. Can she be a successful adult? is she moving toward that, if so then you are doing awesome. we are raising children to be successful adults. Of course we want our children well educated but honestly half the history, science.. etc they will not need in life. Can she be independent, can she cook, can she read basic things, write, and basic math. This is getting long sorry but maybe even working on the skills she needs to achieve what ever it is she wants to be when she is an adult. Stay encouraged God bless
Thank you for this video, my five year old daughter goes for an evaluation next week and I suspect sensory processing and anxiety but the Lord knows what He’s doing. Praying for you and your family and daughter.
Thank you for sharing your heart and some of the information about your daughter. I think you are a blessing to the special needs homeschooling community. I am a former public school special education teacher and I know that packet you received can be so very overwhelming. It truly is a blessing that you can homeschool her! I have a daughter who started showing signs of learning disabilities and decided to go through testing. Her confidence was already taking a hit in public school in 3rd grade!! She felt dumb around her classmates and then crying episodes started. We already determined we were pulling her out of ps because we weren't going to allow her personality to be changed by this. We were shocked with the results and while her IQ did not test low enough for an ID it did test lower. I cried and cried and cried some more. But we are teaching her at home and taking our time, especially in Math where she struggles the most. She has confidence and is a thriving 8th grader this year! You are a great mom, Katie! For the educational recommendations, you take what works and accommodate and modify however she needs. Praying for your daughter and your family as you navigate these changes and diagnoses. ❤
Same here we are about to go through testing for my youngest. My 12 year old son. But A Momma knows. It was like you were saying the same thing I have been saying. it took me a while because of the waiting list and etc but we finally got there. he has other issues. I have switch curriculum on my own but just not the right fit. Even before finding you I found IEW curriculum and knew it was the way we need to go for him. Thank you so much for your videos. They helped me know i am as well heading in the right direction. and if not that is the one of the Most greatest things about homeschooling we can change our curriculum.
We went through this with our son about 5-6 years ago. Sounds like very similar diagnoses related to neuropsych/congnitive results. I had felt like a failure too when we were confronted with our son’s lack of progress in his education. It took a year or two to accept it wasn’t me or any lack of trying on my part. Once I could accept it was what was happening in his brain, it was a huge weight off my shoulders.
Mama I can relate so much to where you are because I was there a year ago. Our oldest is 11, soon to be 12 in December and we had him analyzed/evaluated when he was 10. He was observed for 2 days, went through numerous amounts of testing and we filled out tons of paperwork. We got back a 14 page report with a diagnosis that our son has five things: add, ADHD, dysgraphia, o.d.d. and dystemia. It was so much for me to take in at once but slowly and surely I've changed some things, tried to learn all I can, get him into every therapy I can get my hands on, etc. Some days are better, some are still hard but at least now we know. Hugs and prayers.
I there with you. Just went through this twice this year. My daughter 11 and my son 10. I thought my son had dyslexia but came back for them both intellectual disability my son is also autistic we already knew he was autistic diagnosed 6 years ago. I knew my daughter had an intellectual disability from homeschooling her I picked up on it. Anxiety and hyperactivity which I knew. At 3 she was diagnosed primatic speech disorder. Your not a failure keep doing what your doing. The Lord will order our steps. Be encouraged ❤
The one reason I realized I wanted to be a mom was the moment I realized I wanted a child to grow up knowing, with not one shred of doubt, know that no matter what they are loved(I grew up not quite being sure my mom really loved me). When you said the testing lady said your daughter has self confidence I instantly knew you had accomplished my biggest #1 mothering goal. Your daughter knows she is loved and supported. That's the complete opposite of failure. You are a champion Mom! ❤
Life not a marathon! she learn at her own pace. IQ testing, grading a child doesn’t measure personality, kindness, empathy, interest. what intelligence without compassion?
Oh mama, I have been there! Our oldest boy is 16 and we've done all the testing, twice, and will need to do it again in a year or two in order to get guardianship of him when he turns 18. He has autism and is developmentally delayed and has had many medical issues as well. He seems to be capped out at about a 4th grade level in most subjects and emotionally is about 7. It has not been an easy road, but I know that we've done everything we can, and we will continue to do everything we can to support him, and will homeschool him until he's 21. You are not a failure! Don't listen to the lies of the devil. You are still the best teacher for your sweet girl. I'm sure you know that, but just want to reiterate, you are not a failure! You are doing great and this info will help you get her to her potential! Hugs!! Praying for your family!
Crying the whole video! I’m praying for you and your daughter. You are not a failure, you are a super mom! You don’t have to implement ALL of the options. Just use the options and ideas that you can fit into your already extremely busy day, and remember it is okay to outsource what you need to. That is something I need a constant reminder of that I am not alone and it is okay to accept and even ask for help! Your love and kindness for your children shows so much in your videos! Love you and your family!❤
Thanks for posting. Its easier to want to encourage someone else going through this... and then I'm able to think, "whatever you would say to her... its ok to say that to yourself." we're going to get through this. we're not going to give up.
Praying for you. Its not you. You can't compare her scores to anyone else. Just continue to love her like Jesus does. Do your best with the recommendations but continue to think about what works best for your family.
I have to special needs children. Years ago we got them tested both IQ’s were very low and academically low as well. The school diagnosed one with mild ID which broke my heart….I cried! My other child has ADHD. Very hard
Big huge hugs! God has really pressing on my heart that He is the best homeschool/ therapy mentor I could have. Each step, therapy, curriculum etc that I impliment I try to remember to talk to him first. There is soooo many I should do's or maybe that could be better's or dont forget this, that and the other things. No matter what... God knows our kids the best and He knows what we can do and wants us as parents to thrive in his joy and peace too. Just hearing how the doctor was amazed as your daughter showed and acknowledged her worth and limitations without self-esteem issues shows how much God has already given you and your spouse wisdom and grace. Your daughter has struggles but she knows where her help lies and thats the best gift you could ever give her! Be encouraged that God will prioritize that 50+ list and make it doable and manageable for you! Again big hugs and prayers!
Signs of anxiety in children and how to navigate through them. I believe we all know someone (adult or child) who has anxiety and we could all stand to learn more.
Praying for your daughter and all of you!!! Testing for s scary!!! If you had taught on grade level your daughter would have struggled more in the testing!!! I’m working on my dyslexic kids self esteem and been working on it since we pulled out our kids from school!!! I had a kid tell me that God can’t use her as she’s dyslexic and can’t do what she needs to do and if she’s been called to what she’s been called to God has made a mistake!!! I’m guiding her thru it and I’m praying she won’t give up like her twin brother did!!!
The love and devotion you so clearly have for your daughter is the singular thing that makes you a wonderful mom for your daughter - the complete opposite of a failure. I pray that you can take heart in knowing what is most important in how we mother our children. It’s not their “success” but the worlds standards that is most important, but raising a child who knows their worth in Gods eyes and truly loves the Lord. Easy to say, I know not nearly as easy to truly take to heart, but I’m praying these things for you ♥️
I just got my son 5/6 grade tested for the first time this last Spring. It sounds like academically your daughter's results came back very similar to his. You are doing better than I did. The IQ especially was a complete shock to me. I also didn't have the good fortune of finding a pro homeschool tester. If I hadn't already tried the public school thing ( I pulled him after 3rd grade), I probably would have immediatly enrolled him. Even with my prior public school bad experiences, I spiraled and felt like a complete failure. I actually ended up letting Nessy teach him for all of June and we took July off. I couldn't even bring myself to do read alouds because his testing results and recomendation would fill my head while I was reading to him and I would end up in tears. We started back up in August, and I'm still struggling personally. You are dealing with it better than I am.
It’s still a big struggle for me I just have to constantly take thoughts captive. I think you did great this summer with taking a break and outsourcing where you could.
I needed this video today; as we are walking through multiple learning disabilities with my own 5th grade. Thank you for sharing; this is an encouragement for mamas who feel alone on this path. Praying for you daughter.
I will definitely pray for you guys. I have done neuropsych testing with my oldest and they do provide a lot of recommendations, but remember they are recommendations. Pray and God will guide you to what to begin first. I have 3 kiddos with special needs and it can be overwhelming and God gives us grace and you should give yourself permission to accept the Grace. Hugs!
I understand. Been there with both of my kids. Both teens are on the Spectrum, Dyscalcula and Dysgraphia. Just learned that my daughter has dyslexia… at 20 years old! You got this.
Plus my 17 year old, will never get passed the the 7th grade level. He is a Senior in high school. He still learns. He just got his drivers license, he is getting a job. He has friends. A diagnosis helps kids understand their struggles. Good job!
Continuing to pray for your daughter Katie! I’m a mama of 2 special needs kids for 19 years and I don’t have it figured out either. It’s hard but, I do know we serve a mighty God who loves our kids more than we do. We keep praying for them and bringing up to know the Lord. God’s word never comes back void. We have autism, adhd, anxiety and possible dyslexia/dysgraphia in our household. Who diagnosis’ dyslexia/dysgraphia?
I am sending all my prayers to your daughter and to your family. I have two boys with autism, one severe and one mild. The paper work is insane. I often say that I need a paperwork whisperer to handle the endless amounts of forms that I have to fill out and sign. As much as I prepared myself to hear my sons' diagnoses, it hit me like a brick when I heard it out loud from a professional. You are an amazing advocate for your daughter and you and your husband are wonderful parents. You did not fail your daughter, she is getting her education in a safe and loving environment. You now have new information and with that you can give her so much more. You are doing the very best for her.
Beginning this process right now. Thank you for your share. It’s amazing how I can love you enough while I’m listening to know the Truth, that this homeschooling way of life has shaped that little girl with a perspective that will serve others with her lived experience with the knowledge of family having her back at every turn. If I can love you as an imperfect mother that tries her best for her children…I get the chance to love myself through these voices that tell me I didn’t do enough, didn’t do it quick enough, and failed my kiddos. Thank you for your vulnerability. Bringing shame to light sets us all free.
Will continue praying for her🙏 hang in there, Katie, God is faithful. Pondering about it, it is fair to consider that having gone through 4 hr testing greatly affected the results considering she has anxiety disorder. Surely, it was exhausting for her esp when she took the last test, she's most probably very tired by then. Think about if she actually took 1 test at a time & in the comforts of your own home, surrounded by your family, it's highly likely the result would be different. In the same way, she's most likely to be doing better on a regular day at home than on a day of tests in a hospital.
I have kiddos with developmental delays who are FAR behind "grade level". I joke with my husband that we thought we were going to be strict parents, but now we worry about fluffy things like emotional health and self-esteem. I remind myself that public school was a disaster for them and that, no matter what, they're better off at home. We focus hard on the three Rs and unschool the rest. They are happy and good little boys. The BIG gift of having kids with special needs: you give up your own expectations for them and it frees you to follow them to their highest potential. I couldn't have prayed for the kids I have, they're so much more than I could have imagined.
Thank you so much for sharing! As a momma to an infant that could be mentally retarded due to a genetic condition this makes me feel like I'm not alone, even if we aren't in the same exact situation. I've never met anyone in my situation or similar before in my personal life so videos like this help me so much.
Give all the things to God - emotions,questions,stress and etc. Pray every day for healing and wait God to make it better. Let him guide you through this!Thank you for sharing your life and experience with us! You and your husband are the best parents and teachers for your daughter that she can have. The love for her is what she needs the most ,so she to continue her education even the struggles she experienced . That’s the beauty of homeschool you don’t have to be in the grade school range, you can be in own pace and continue to grow! She will get where she needs to be with your help ! Everyone have their struggles, but when we give it to God he make us strong and he help us! Much Blessings to you and your amazing family !
Dear one, God’s got it all. You haven’t failed and will never fail your sweet daughter, because you cling to Him and He will direct your steps. I’ve been through these hard tests with my amazing daughter and just wish I could give you a hug. I will be sending many prayers.
My daughter was tested 3 years ago... this video made me cry. Honestly, I've blocked it out, it was too much bad stuff and felt so hopeless. Part of me wished she wasn't tested. I wish I could look at it in a more positive light, like how you are doing. I'm looking forward to your future videos, maybe I will pull out her test results and look at them again.
I’m so sorry it was hard for you too. My video on Wed is actually going to be me sharing some of these recommendations and how I’m tackling the list so that might help.
Thank you for sharing your heart, your struggles, and continuing to encourage others. You truly inspire ❤ Praying for you, your family and your sweet girl. 🫶🏻
I have been so impressed with everything that you do to homeschool your kids. You switch schedules and curriculums around as needed. I still remember when you came up with your plans A, B, and C. You are a wonderful mom who tries so hard no matter what your circumstances are. You don't give up. Your kids are too important to you. I love your daughter's strong will. She gets that from you and your husband. You are teaching her such valuable life lessons. You teach your kids to trust in God. They are going to grow into beautiful, successful adults who know who they are in Christ because of you. I wish I could take away the pain that you are going through. You always ask everyone, "How can I be praying for you?" You know that prayer is powerful. I will be praying for you and your family. You have so many people that will be doing the same. 💗
Hi Katie, my daughter was diagnosed at a much later age with autism. The amount of doctors, forms, tests, and time spent to get that diagnosis was very overwhelming. We knew all along but couldnt find the right help. Your daughter being behind in things, is NOT your fault. Our kids learn at different speeds and process it all in different ways. Then they excel in other ways too. Celebrate those wins and accept that some things might not get better. And that is OK. God has a plan for her and you. She is PERFECT in God's eyes. I know its hard when it feels like others are judging you for things out of your control. You've got this Mama Bear! You will succeed and your daughter will succeed in her own way too. I think making this video is important for helping you through this. It took me a long time to share our family's journey. We didnt want labels and we didnt want judged. But once I vocalized it all, it got easier to accept. You are not alone and you will get through this. I pray that God can lift some of this weight from your heart. ❤ 🙏
I just received an autism diagnosis on my 13 yo daughter. We just started ABA therapy on Tuesday after talking to over 10 places saying she was too old for help. The doctor we were seeing first thing was to put her in public school to get the help she needs. We have been homeschooling for 4 years now and with all the appointments we now have I am glad we have the flexibility to make sure she gets the help needed. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I understand sorting through all the results to be the best parents you can be.
Thanks for being so valuable Katie! I am in the most of trying figuring out how to get my daughter tested for dyslexia and I too have struggled with the same lies and beat myself up because my daughter isnt on grade level with reading and math. This was so encouraging ❤ Praying for you and your family 🙏
Thank you so much for this video! We have this same battery of tests for one of our girls in early October and I am already spiraling over it but hearing that I can go back with her was such a weight lifted off me, even just knowing I have the option if she needs it
Thank you thank you! Your vulnerability is not wasted. It means so much to me to see that I am not alone in these feelings and fears. I am at the beginning of our family journey with 3 kids with various diagnoses while homeschooling. I feel overwhelmed with trying to figure out what their needs are and how to help them. Although learning about different resources would be helpful, I would love to learn more about how you balance it all and manage overwhelm. Like you I have adhd and I can get lost in the research phase of things. The follow through is my biggest challenge. How do you do it? Thank you again for being so open and vulnerable.
I’m happy this could help. Here is a video that actually walks you through how I as an ADHD mom worked through all of the paperwork ua-cam.com/video/I8pEGfHZwao/v-deo.htmlsi=vbWdrY2Y6DqhPejc
“She knows her worth.”
I’d say that’s a good job mama.
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We are in the trenches with testing and waiting for results now. This video was so helpful. Thank you for the encouragement. Your love for your children shines through. What a blessing to have someone recognize her confidence and the love you’ve poured into her. I’m praying for your family ❤
Glad it was helpful!
I pray for you and your family❤ the best is yet to come!!
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We just went through a similar testing for 3 of our kids and what you said about the academic results is exactly how I felt too, like a failure. It's so difficult because my boys have several learning disabilities too, but it makes you feel like it's your fault when it is not. As moms we are just doing the best we can for those babies we love so much! Sending you a great big hug!
P.S. Thank you for being so brave to share about this so I don't feel so alone. You're an amazing mom!!!!
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Don't feel like a failure. I know its hard because we worry already about teaching our children when everyone else says were not qualified. But you are taking time for you children, loving on your children, fulfilling the ministry given to you from God as a mother and he will see you through it
I just found your channel and I’m so thankful! My son had a rare chromosome deletion which has caused speech delay, motor delays, ADHD, lower IQ and significant academic challenges. We didn’t find out about his genetic deletion until he was 4 because I couldn’t get any doctors to take me seriously. We went through our full neuropsych testing in January. He’s 8. It was so overwhelming. I’m in a little different boat in that he has been in public school. We are pulling him out to homeschool and I’m excited, but overwhelmed. I can’t wait to watch all your videos and glean from the wisdom you are sharing.
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Oh friend! I’m so sorry you’re going through this! But absolutely do not feel like a failure! You are one of the best moms I know and put your heart and soul into everything you do! You’re doing everything you can! Don’t believe the devil’s lies. You are an awesome mom and you’re doing enough! More than enough!…Hugs!!
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I'm crying with you. YOU are not a failure, not in the slightest. Also, your husband and doctor are blessings, I'm so glad they were there for you. Giving you a huge hug and also praying for you all.
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You brought me to tears, but in admiration.
I do want to say that it does not really matter if someone has a high IQ or advanced classes or anything. And I can say that from experience. I learned English in Kindergarten, then was in Gifted and Talented classes by 2nd grade and graduated high school with 33 college credits. And I didn't really use any of it. I left college at some point, worked in a couple of restaurants and then retail, then in construction for a bit. And finally ended up with a good job, but it was by luck.
And hopefully this year I can quit and be a stay at home mom and homeschooler.
And honestly, being a good wife, mother, and homeschooler are the best and toughest jobs out there, and the most important ones. And the key is faithfulness to God, preservence, and humbleness, and your daughter sounds like she already has all of that.
I would take back all the academic achievements from my past and instead have become Christian earlier in life and studied the Bible instead and lived for Jesus. So your daughter is already ahead.
Not only that, but the public school teachers can try their best in special needs classrooms, but they have full classrooms of students who all have different special needs and they are overwhelmed with the paperwork that they can't dedicate very much time to each individual child.
I firmly believe homeschooling is the best option for every child, especially those with special needs, and especially if they have parents that love and support them. And I think you are doing amazing.
And the last thing I wanted to say is just thank you for doing your weekly prayers for the community when you already have a lot on your plate. I will pray for you and your family as well. Jeremiah 29:11.
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You are such a good mama, friend ❤
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I love ur transparency and all ur videos. Be encouraged!
Please note that my child (autistic and delays) went to a public school with their teaching from pre-k till 5 and he is still delayed more than I think he should, but he has learned a lot. But that was with us hiring a a private tutor. I am now going to try home schooling bc I feel he’s not where he could be.
My son learned more read with us and us providing him with a private tutor. He would still not be able to read if not. So I said that to say don’t feel like a failure! The school was just passing my son on.
I am sure ur doing great and those testing always say something that’s not from my experience. It’s the way they interpret.
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You’re already do the best thing for her, which is homeschooling! Now that you know what her diagnoses are you can give her the accommodations and learning she needs. My son is triple D (dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia) along with adhd, and APD. His anxiety is bad but when he started having seizures due to a rare epilepsy disorder it became so much worse. On top of being a 13 year old. I completely understand how you feel. You’re doing amazing and not even close to failing her. Sending hugs and prayers for you guys. Rooted in language was a game changer for my son. We tried 3 different OG curriculums. He loves snaptype for worksheets. I could go on but it might turn into a page 😂 Good luck!! 🙏🙏
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Hugs, sweet lady. Stopping to pray for you and your family right now. Especially praying for you to have clarity and wisdom in the next steps and that the Truth of Christ and who you are in Him would guard your heart as you process all these things. ❤
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I'm sorry you and your family are going through this. Just keep in mind all of our children are all in different places and grading them against other children or where someone says they should be is no our goal. Though most of us still compare our children to other children their age.They are unique and move at their own pace. Can she be a successful adult? is she moving toward that, if so then you are doing awesome. we are raising children to be successful adults. Of course we want our children well educated but honestly half the history, science.. etc they will not need in life. Can she be independent, can she cook, can she read basic things, write, and basic math. This is getting long sorry but maybe even working on the skills she needs to achieve what ever it is she wants to be when she is an adult. Stay encouraged God bless
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Thank you for this video, my five year old daughter goes for an evaluation next week and I suspect sensory processing and anxiety but the Lord knows what He’s doing. Praying for you and your family and daughter.
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Thank you for sharing your heart and some of the information about your daughter. I think you are a blessing to the special needs homeschooling community. I am a former public school special education teacher and I know that packet you received can be so very overwhelming. It truly is a blessing that you can homeschool her! I have a daughter who started showing signs of learning disabilities and decided to go through testing. Her confidence was already taking a hit in public school in 3rd grade!! She felt dumb around her classmates and then crying episodes started. We already determined we were pulling her out of ps because we weren't going to allow her personality to be changed by this. We were shocked with the results and while her IQ did not test low enough for an ID it did test lower. I cried and cried and cried some more. But we are teaching her at home and taking our time, especially in Math where she struggles the most. She has confidence and is a thriving 8th grader this year! You are a great mom, Katie! For the educational recommendations, you take what works and accommodate and modify however she needs. Praying for your daughter and your family as you navigate these changes and diagnoses. ❤
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Same here we are about to go through testing for my youngest. My 12 year old son. But A Momma knows. It was like you were saying the same thing I have been saying. it took me a while because of the waiting list and etc but we finally got there. he has other issues. I have switch curriculum on my own but just not the right fit. Even before finding you I found IEW curriculum and knew it was the way we need to go for him. Thank you so much for your videos. They helped me know i am as well heading in the right direction. and if not that is the one of the Most greatest things about homeschooling we can change our curriculum.
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We went through this with our son about 5-6 years ago. Sounds like very similar diagnoses related to neuropsych/congnitive results. I had felt like a failure too when we were confronted with our son’s lack of progress in his education. It took a year or two to accept it wasn’t me or any lack of trying on my part. Once I could accept it was what was happening in his brain, it was a huge weight off my shoulders.
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Mama I can relate so much to where you are because I was there a year ago. Our oldest is 11, soon to be 12 in December and we had him analyzed/evaluated when he was 10. He was observed for 2 days, went through numerous amounts of testing and we filled out tons of paperwork. We got back a 14 page report with a diagnosis that our son has five things: add, ADHD, dysgraphia, o.d.d. and dystemia. It was so much for me to take in at once but slowly and surely I've changed some things, tried to learn all I can, get him into every therapy I can get my hands on, etc. Some days are better, some are still hard but at least now we know. Hugs and prayers.
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I there with you. Just went through this twice this year. My daughter 11 and my son 10. I thought my son had dyslexia but came back for them both intellectual disability my son is also autistic we already knew he was autistic diagnosed 6 years ago. I knew my daughter had an intellectual disability from homeschooling her I picked up on it. Anxiety and hyperactivity which I knew. At 3 she was diagnosed primatic speech disorder. Your not a failure keep doing what your doing. The Lord will order our steps. Be encouraged ❤
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The one reason I realized I wanted to be a mom was the moment I realized I wanted a child to grow up knowing, with not one shred of doubt, know that no matter what they are loved(I grew up not quite being sure my mom really loved me). When you said the testing lady said your daughter has self confidence I instantly knew you had accomplished my biggest #1 mothering goal. Your daughter knows she is loved and supported. That's the complete opposite of failure. You are a champion Mom! ❤
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Praying for you . Thanks for being so vulnerable
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Life not a marathon! she learn at her own pace. IQ testing, grading a child doesn’t measure personality, kindness, empathy, interest. what intelligence without compassion?
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Oh mama, I have been there! Our oldest boy is 16 and we've done all the testing, twice, and will need to do it again in a year or two in order to get guardianship of him when he turns 18. He has autism and is developmentally delayed and has had many medical issues as well. He seems to be capped out at about a 4th grade level in most subjects and emotionally is about 7. It has not been an easy road, but I know that we've done everything we can, and we will continue to do everything we can to support him, and will homeschool him until he's 21.
You are not a failure! Don't listen to the lies of the devil. You are still the best teacher for your sweet girl. I'm sure you know that, but just want to reiterate, you are not a failure! You are doing great and this info will help you get her to her potential! Hugs!! Praying for your family!
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Crying the whole video! I’m praying for you and your daughter. You are not a failure, you are a super mom! You don’t have to implement ALL of the options. Just use the options and ideas that you can fit into your already extremely busy day, and remember it is okay to outsource what you need to. That is something I need a constant reminder of that I am not alone and it is okay to accept and even ask for help! Your love and kindness for your children shows so much in your videos! Love you and your family!❤
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Thanks for posting. Its easier to want to encourage someone else going through this... and then I'm able to think, "whatever you would say to her... its ok to say that to yourself." we're going to get through this. we're not going to give up.
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Praying for you. Its not you. You can't compare her scores to anyone else. Just continue to love her like Jesus does. Do your best with the recommendations but continue to think about what works best for your family.
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I have to special needs children. Years ago we got them tested both IQ’s were very low and academically low as well. The school diagnosed one with mild ID which broke my heart….I cried! My other child has ADHD. Very hard
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Big huge hugs! God has really pressing on my heart that He is the best homeschool/ therapy mentor I could have. Each step, therapy, curriculum etc that I impliment I try to remember to talk to him first. There is soooo many I should do's or maybe that could be better's or dont forget this, that and the other things. No matter what... God knows our kids the best and He knows what we can do and wants us as parents to thrive in his joy and peace too. Just hearing how the doctor was amazed as your daughter showed and acknowledged her worth and limitations without self-esteem issues shows how much God has already given you and your spouse wisdom and grace. Your daughter has struggles but she knows where her help lies and thats the best gift you could ever give her! Be encouraged that God will prioritize that 50+ list and make it doable and manageable for you! Again big hugs and prayers!
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Hugs to you sweet momma! May God carry you and your family through these hard times.... you've got this!!
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Signs of anxiety in children and how to navigate through them. I believe we all know someone (adult or child) who has anxiety and we could all stand to learn more.
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Oh Katie, I am praying for you all, as you pray and work through this!!!
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I just wish I could give you a hug. You’re a great momma
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❤ Wow, love that you shared this. Thanks for the update. Your faith and testimony shines! Continuing to pray for your family!
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Praying for your daughter, you and your husband. ❤
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Praying for your daughter and all of you!!! Testing for s scary!!! If you had taught on grade level your daughter would have struggled more in the testing!!! I’m working on my dyslexic kids self esteem and been working on it since we pulled out our kids from school!!! I had a kid tell me that God can’t use her as she’s dyslexic and can’t do what she needs to do and if she’s been called to what she’s been called to God has made a mistake!!! I’m guiding her thru it and I’m praying she won’t give up like her twin brother did!!!
Praying for you and both of them.
The love and devotion you so clearly have for your daughter is the singular thing that makes you a wonderful mom for your daughter - the complete opposite of a failure. I pray that you can take heart in knowing what is most important in how we mother our children. It’s not their “success” but the worlds standards that is most important, but raising a child who knows their worth in Gods eyes and truly loves the Lord. Easy to say, I know not nearly as easy to truly take to heart, but I’m praying these things for you ♥️
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I just got my son 5/6 grade tested for the first time this last Spring. It sounds like academically your daughter's results came back very similar to his. You are doing better than I did. The IQ especially was a complete shock to me. I also didn't have the good fortune of finding a pro homeschool tester. If I hadn't already tried the public school thing ( I pulled him after 3rd grade), I probably would have immediatly enrolled him. Even with my prior public school bad experiences, I spiraled and felt like a complete failure. I actually ended up letting Nessy teach him for all of June and we took July off. I couldn't even bring myself to do read alouds because his testing results and recomendation would fill my head while I was reading to him and I would end up in tears. We started back up in August, and I'm still struggling personally. You are dealing with it better than I am.
It’s still a big struggle for me I just have to constantly take thoughts captive. I think you did great this summer with taking a break and outsourcing where you could.
Here is an internet stranger cheering and praying you both on!
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I needed this video today; as we are walking through multiple learning disabilities with my own 5th grade. Thank you for sharing; this is an encouragement for mamas who feel alone on this path.
Praying for you daughter.
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I will definitely pray for you guys. I have done neuropsych testing with my oldest and they do provide a lot of recommendations, but remember they are recommendations. Pray and God will guide you to what to begin first. I have 3 kiddos with special needs and it can be overwhelming and God gives us grace and you should give yourself permission to accept the Grace. Hugs!
I understand. Been there with both of my kids. Both teens are on the Spectrum, Dyscalcula and Dysgraphia. Just learned that my daughter has dyslexia… at 20 years old! You got this.
Plus my 17 year old, will never get passed the the 7th grade level. He is a Senior in high school. He still learns. He just got his drivers license, he is getting a job. He has friends. A diagnosis helps kids understand their struggles.
Good job!
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Continuing to pray for your daughter Katie! I’m a mama of 2 special needs kids for 19 years and I don’t have it figured out either. It’s hard but, I do know we serve a mighty God who loves our kids more than we do. We keep praying for them and bringing up to know the Lord. God’s word never comes back void.
We have autism, adhd, anxiety and possible dyslexia/dysgraphia in our household. Who diagnosis’ dyslexia/dysgraphia?
Usually a neuropsychologist or reading specialist.
Praying for all you are going through 🙏
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I am sending all my prayers to your daughter and to your family. I have two boys with autism, one severe and one mild. The paper work is insane. I often say that I need a paperwork whisperer to handle the endless amounts of forms that I have to fill out and sign. As much as I prepared myself to hear my sons' diagnoses, it hit me like a brick when I heard it out loud from a professional. You are an amazing advocate for your daughter and you and your husband are wonderful parents. You did not fail your daughter, she is getting her education in a safe and loving environment. You now have new information and with that you can give her so much more. You are doing the very best for her.
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Beginning this process right now. Thank you for your share. It’s amazing how I can love you enough while I’m listening to know the Truth, that this homeschooling way of life has shaped that little girl with a perspective that will serve others with her lived experience with the knowledge of family having her back at every turn.
If I can love you as an imperfect mother that tries her best for her children…I get the chance to love myself through these voices that tell me I didn’t do enough, didn’t do it quick enough, and failed my kiddos.
Thank you for your vulnerability. Bringing shame to light sets us all free.
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Will continue praying for her🙏 hang in there, Katie, God is faithful. Pondering about it, it is fair to consider that having gone through 4 hr testing greatly affected the results considering she has anxiety disorder. Surely, it was exhausting for her esp when she took the last test, she's most probably very tired by then. Think about if she actually took 1 test at a time & in the comforts of your own home, surrounded by your family, it's highly likely the result would be different. In the same way, she's most likely to be doing better on a regular day at home than on a day of tests in a hospital.
Thanks for sharing. Praying for you and your daughter.
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I have kiddos with developmental delays who are FAR behind "grade level". I joke with my husband that we thought we were going to be strict parents, but now we worry about fluffy things like emotional health and self-esteem. I remind myself that public school was a disaster for them and that, no matter what, they're better off at home. We focus hard on the three Rs and unschool the rest. They are happy and good little boys.
The BIG gift of having kids with special needs: you give up your own expectations for them and it frees you to follow them to their highest potential. I couldn't have prayed for the kids I have, they're so much more than I could have imagined.
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Thank you so much for sharing! As a momma to an infant that could be mentally retarded due to a genetic condition this makes me feel like I'm not alone, even if we aren't in the same exact situation. I've never met anyone in my situation or similar before in my personal life so videos like this help me so much.
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Give all the things to God - emotions,questions,stress and etc. Pray every day for healing and wait God to make it better. Let him guide you through this!Thank you for sharing your life and experience with us! You and your husband are the best parents and teachers for your daughter that she can have. The love for her is what she needs the most ,so she to continue her education even the struggles she experienced . That’s the beauty of homeschool you don’t have to be in the grade school range, you can be in own pace and continue to grow! She will get where she needs to be with your help ! Everyone have their struggles, but when we give it to God he make us strong and he help us!
Much Blessings to you and your amazing family !
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Dear one, God’s got it all. You haven’t failed and will never fail your sweet daughter, because you cling to Him and He will direct your steps. I’ve been through these hard tests with my amazing daughter and just wish I could give you a hug. I will be sending many prayers.
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My daughter was tested 3 years ago... this video made me cry. Honestly, I've blocked it out, it was too much bad stuff and felt so hopeless. Part of me wished she wasn't tested. I wish I could look at it in a more positive light, like how you are doing. I'm looking forward to your future videos, maybe I will pull out her test results and look at them again.
I’m so sorry it was hard for you too. My video on Wed is actually going to be me sharing some of these recommendations and how I’m tackling the list so that might help.
Thank you for sharing your heart, your struggles, and continuing to encourage others. You truly inspire ❤
Praying for you, your family and your sweet girl. 🫶🏻
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What a testimony! May God bless you and your family as you navigate these challenges. Your labor in the Lord is not in vain.
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I have been so impressed with everything that you do to homeschool your kids. You switch schedules and curriculums around as needed. I still remember when you came up with your plans A, B, and C. You are a wonderful mom who tries so hard no matter what your circumstances are. You don't give up. Your kids are too important to you.
I love your daughter's strong will. She gets that from you and your husband. You are teaching her such valuable life lessons. You teach your kids to trust in God. They are going to grow into beautiful, successful adults who know who they are in Christ because of you.
I wish I could take away the pain that you are going through. You always ask everyone, "How can I be praying for you?" You know that prayer is powerful. I will be praying for you and your family. You have so many people that will be doing the same. 💗
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Hi Katie, my daughter was diagnosed at a much later age with autism. The amount of doctors, forms, tests, and time spent to get that diagnosis was very overwhelming. We knew all along but couldnt find the right help. Your daughter being behind in things, is NOT your fault. Our kids learn at different speeds and process it all in different ways. Then they excel in other ways too. Celebrate those wins and accept that some things might not get better. And that is OK. God has a plan for her and you. She is PERFECT in God's eyes. I know its hard when it feels like others are judging you for things out of your control. You've got this Mama Bear! You will succeed and your daughter will succeed in her own way too. I think making this video is important for helping you through this. It took me a long time to share our family's journey. We didnt want labels and we didnt want judged. But once I vocalized it all, it got easier to accept. You are not alone and you will get through this. I pray that God can lift some of this weight from your heart. ❤ 🙏
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What a vulnerable video to share! I am holding your family close in prayer. Mothers take on so much for our kids so I teared up with you!
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I just received an autism diagnosis on my 13 yo daughter. We just started ABA therapy on Tuesday after talking to over 10 places saying she was too old for help. The doctor we were seeing first thing was to put her in public school to get the help she needs. We have been homeschooling for 4 years now and with all the appointments we now have I am glad we have the flexibility to make sure she gets the help needed. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I understand sorting through all the results to be the best parents you can be.
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Thanks for being so valuable Katie! I am in the most of trying figuring out how to get my daughter tested for dyslexia and I too have struggled with the same lies and beat myself up because my daughter isnt on grade level with reading and math. This was so encouraging ❤ Praying for you and your family 🙏
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Thank you for this update even if it was hard. I would love to pray for you, your daughter and your whole family. ❤️
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Thank you so much for this video! We have this same battery of tests for one of our girls in early October and I am already spiraling over it but hearing that I can go back with her was such a weight lifted off me, even just knowing I have the option if she needs it
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My niece went through the same type of testing. The results and recommendation packet is beyond overwhelming. Hugs to you and your daughter
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Praying for your sweet daughter and your family. Thank you for sharing ❤
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Hugs to you and your family.
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Praying for you all!
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