The last thing my toxic ex told me was “you’re going to end up alone”. Your fear is not my fear honey…. I am alone ever since that relationship, cuz I WILLL NEVER!! Get caught up in that toxic bs EVER Again! 4 1/2 yrs strong!!!!💪😅😊. Good bless you all!!💙🙏🏻
I absolutely love being alone and I’m not lonely. Solitude is beautiful especially after being married to a narcissist for almost 17 years. I now have peace of mind and room to heal my wounds.
My narc said exactly the same thing that you mentioned that no one will put up with your BS like I did. He said things like: You will never find anyone coz you are a horrible person, you can never let anyone be happy. By nature m a very quite, shy and peaceful person… but he would always describe me as being totally opposite of who I am.
The idea of being alone, being surrounded by all kinds of narcissists all my life, truly terrified me. “The plan” (after the fact) was for me and the kiddo to live with the bestie and her family… we even planned to get a house together to better accommodate 2 different families. But then her mom got sick and even then, we just incorporated her parents into the plan but her mom was as too toxic and my nervous system couldn’t handle it so I ended up “giving them space” and getting my own place. I was with them for 10 months after I left a 12 yr emotionally abusive relationship and I didn’t start healing, as much as I thought I did, till the day I got my own place. 2 months later my kid went back to our home state to visit family for the summer and that was the first time I was every truly “alone” in my life. It hit hard, I guess how covid hit for most people. After the darkest months of my life that summer, the idea of living with someone else is what’s terrifying. Getting stuck again, are you kidding me? 🥴 it would have to be that Disney fairytale love story to shake me from that, I think 😂
100% know your worth! You deserve to be treated with love and respect! That starts with learning to love and respect yourself enough to leave the narc bs behind. There is so much peace that comes with that.
The narcissist, in the love bombing stage will learn your insecurities. When their attraction and interest in you wanes and they begin their toxic behavioral changes, when you try to adress it they'll start using all of your insecurities against you. They become the narcissists weapons against you.
Oh hell yea. My douchebag ex husband tried to torture/manipulate me with the thought of being alone because he knew I was afraid to be. He 100% used that against me. He would also spend his night away from me and tell me how much he adored the silence away from me. Now I love being alone again and he’s def getting his karma. Evil, twisted son of a gun.
Love being alone a true empath enjoys their space it’s damn near a drug to us 😂 at least to me they equate peace with boredom then wonder why no one wants to be with them LONG TERM
I'm fine with being alone over being with him or someone like him. He twists that into me having mental problems and that I stay alone because no one can live with me and they can't tolerate me like he did and that I don't see the valuable gem that I am losing.
@@Mary-t2p6p that’s why u read and study people love my ex almost got me in that trap 😂 he said it real vicious like , like ummmm I can see right thru that plus caught him cheating on me with teenagers mind you he was 46 at the time 2 yrs ago like cmon and in a portable potty too like gross
YES!! I'd rather be alone - for 30 years - than be in a toxic marriage where my ex took me out in the hills of Idaho intending to kill me. Agree: being alone does not mean being lonely. I was lonely in that marriage. 😢
I was told that I’ll never find anyone else as loyal as him 😅. He went back to his ex and made sure to msg him to inform me of that, he mentioned that he’d get married to her and ask that I send him a picture of myself when I get married with all caps LOL Never in a million years would I have thought that I’d experience a narcissistic individual 😂😂
I spent 1 1/2 years with a narcissist. I entered that relationship happy and healthy, 6 months in I started having severe body pains like I had worked out too hard, severe fatigue, and stomach issues. The narcissistic rages kept getting worse. I’ve been away from him for 2 months now. My health is going back to normal, I have energy again finally. He contacted me a week ago and as soon as I heard his voice my stomach pain started bad again. I’ve blocked him everywhere now and moved away. No more stomach issues. He told me when we ended that I’d never find another man like him. Geez I sure hope he’s right ! I love single life tho. My peace of mind is priceless.
The only time I felt alone was in my relationship with undiagnosed narcissist ex! He constantly deprived me of all things we were doing in the love bombing phase once I moved in with him. What he didn’t realize is …I’m a Cancer, I love spending time by myself but not under those circumstance.
Yup because they will tell you oh you cant be by yourself when they are really the ones who cant be by themselves they alway need someone to hold their hand
Projection at its finest. Not to mention massive misery for them because once you leave peace and joy are waiting for you and will envelope you with their warmth and calm. Meanwhile they can never experience happiness or love, let alone peace and joy and they are so jealous of that. They don’t want you to have it if they can’t have it. What’s the old saying, “misery loves company.” When we leave they are all alone with their misery. Full stop. And they can’t stand it.
I took some time to be by myself which it was a great move for me I was able to see things a lot clear. I took a long break being alone and I'm just now starting to look for someone
I'd rather be alone for all my life instead of being with another narcissist even for a day! 💯💯💯
Amen
Same 🙏🏽
Same here
I agree 👍
I Agree 💯 % ! And I Will Heal And Become A Better Version Of Myself! 🙌😊👍
The last time I checked, I didn't know someone dying from being alone, but I know many that have died being with the wrong person. Think about it.
Hit the nail on the head for me. 😢
I rather stay alone then put up with any of it. I don't mind it, no BS. Peace, wonderful peace....
The last thing my toxic ex told me was “you’re going to end up alone”. Your fear is not my fear honey…. I am alone ever since that relationship, cuz I WILLL NEVER!! Get caught up in that toxic bs EVER Again! 4 1/2 yrs strong!!!!💪😅😊. Good bless you all!!💙🙏🏻
Being alone and being lonely are two different things. I had to learn that. 🙏❤️
I absolutely love being alone and I’m not lonely. Solitude is beautiful especially after being married to a narcissist for almost 17 years. I now have peace of mind and room to heal my wounds.
Yeaahh they do that. But when you are alone then it is the best thing ever in peace alone
I can’t wait!
I am COMPLETELY FINE BEING ALONE, I go out shopping alone all the time!
Absolutely 💯! Never letting anyone near me again!!
She literally said those words. "Nobody will put up with what I put with when I was with you".
My narc said exactly the same thing that you mentioned that no one will put up with your BS like I did. He said things like: You will never find anyone coz you are a horrible person, you can never let anyone be happy. By nature m a very quite, shy and peaceful person… but he would always describe me as being totally opposite of who I am.
💯 im definitely happier single.
When you are with a narc you are alone! That thing next to you is just a husk with a demon driving it around.
The idea of being alone, being surrounded by all kinds of narcissists all my life, truly terrified me. “The plan” (after the fact) was for me and the kiddo to live with the bestie and her family… we even planned to get a house together to better accommodate 2 different families. But then her mom got sick and even then, we just incorporated her parents into the plan but her mom was as too toxic and my nervous system couldn’t handle it so I ended up “giving them space” and getting my own place. I was with them for 10 months after I left a 12 yr emotionally abusive relationship and I didn’t start healing, as much as I thought I did, till the day I got my own place. 2 months later my kid went back to our home state to visit family for the summer and that was the first time I was every truly “alone” in my life. It hit hard, I guess how covid hit for most people. After the darkest months of my life that summer, the idea of living with someone else is what’s terrifying. Getting stuck again, are you kidding me? 🥴 it would have to be that Disney fairytale love story to shake me from that, I think 😂
You are alone in a situationship or marriages with a narcissist!!! So why not be alone and be at peace and have happiness alone!!💯💯
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BINGO! 🫵🏾✊🏾
All almost 8 years no relationship no hankpanky and I’m happy. ❤
😄 isnt it wonderful 😁
@ YESS stress free and YOU DONT HAVE TO validate A mens feelings to make him feel like a men🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️
When my narcissist says that to me and he has said those exact words, you’ll never find anyone like me I always say I found you
Isn't that a good thing? Finding some better who treats you with respect...
That's EXACTLY what my x narc said: good luck finding someone
My soon to be ex husband said that. It took me a couple of years to leave. BUT I DID!!! MY PEACE IS SO PRECIOUS NOW!!❤❤
Being an only child myself, I find that, being alone is when I feel my best.
100% know your worth! You deserve to be treated with love and respect! That starts with learning to love and respect yourself enough to leave the narc bs behind. There is so much peace that comes with that.
Real talk. 💯
kray kray hated when I said "leave me alone, I wanna be by myself". But it's ok when he said it because he is alone.
Exactly the words.out of my ex's mouth many times. Turns out I wasn't scared to be alone.. Suprise!
You’ve come such a long way. Thanks for helping all of us out to notice this stuff! 💕
They bank on that fear
This part was really hurtful to experience.
The narcissist, in the love bombing stage will learn your insecurities. When their attraction and interest in you wanes and they begin their toxic behavioral changes, when you try to adress it they'll start using all of your insecurities against you. They become the narcissists weapons against you.
Oh hell yea. My douchebag ex husband tried to torture/manipulate me with the thought of being alone because he knew I was afraid to be. He 100% used that against me. He would also spend his night away from me and tell me how much he adored the silence away from me. Now I love being alone again and he’s def getting his karma. Evil, twisted son of a gun.
Love being alone a true empath enjoys their space it’s damn near a drug to us 😂 at least to me they equate peace with boredom then wonder why no one wants to be with them LONG TERM
Yea and admits that he likes a little toxicity! Insane
@ yeah that’s gross 😂 asf
You're so, so right!!!! Loving my Peace 💃💃💃💃💃🙏💥⚔️😂😉✌️💯
I'm fine with being alone over being with him or someone like him. He twists that into me having mental problems and that I stay alone because no one can live with me and they can't tolerate me like he did and that I don't see the valuable gem that I am losing.
Being married to a narcissist is hell on earth.
@@Mary-t2p6p that’s why u read and study people love my ex almost got me in that trap 😂 he said it real vicious like , like ummmm I can see right thru that plus caught him cheating on me with teenagers mind you he was 46 at the time 2 yrs ago like cmon and in a portable potty too like gross
YES!! I'd rather be alone - for 30 years - than be in a toxic marriage where my ex took me out in the hills of Idaho intending to kill me.
Agree: being alone does not mean being lonely. I was lonely in that marriage. 😢
I was told that I’ll never find anyone else as loyal as him 😅. He went back to his ex and made sure to msg him to inform me of that, he mentioned that he’d get married to her and ask that I send him a picture of myself when I get married with all caps LOL
Never in a million years would I have thought that I’d experience a narcissistic individual 😂😂
I spent 1 1/2 years with a narcissist. I entered that relationship happy and healthy, 6 months in I started having severe body pains like I had worked out too hard, severe fatigue, and stomach issues. The narcissistic rages kept getting worse. I’ve been away from him for 2 months now. My health is going back to normal, I have energy again finally. He contacted me a week ago and as soon as I heard his voice my stomach pain started bad again. I’ve blocked him everywhere now and moved away. No more stomach issues. He told me when we ended that I’d never find another man like him. Geez I sure hope he’s right ! I love single life tho. My peace of mind is priceless.
He told me it’s a cold bitter world out there. It’s warmer under the dragons wing. (Referring to himself of course).
The only time I felt alone was in my relationship with undiagnosed narcissist ex! He constantly deprived me of all things we were doing in the love bombing phase once I moved in with him.
What he didn’t realize is …I’m a Cancer, I love spending time by myself but not under those circumstance.
Yes, I NEED To Be ALONE NOW, TO HEAL! 🙌 Because I DO NOT Want To Be In A TOXIC Relationship, AGAIN! 🤨 ❓️❗️Think About It! 😯
As far as I'm concerned, they can not tell me what to do with my own life. AMEN AND AMEN. 🤨
He told me numerous times that I would never find anyone that wouldn't cheat on me lol
They legit have used that script
Yup because they will tell you oh you cant be by yourself when they are really the ones who cant be by themselves they alway need someone to hold their hand
Projection at its finest. Not to mention massive misery for them because once you leave peace and joy are waiting for you and will envelope you with their warmth and calm. Meanwhile they can never experience happiness or love, let alone peace and joy and they are so jealous of that. They don’t want you to have it if they can’t have it. What’s the old saying, “misery loves company.” When we leave they are all alone with their misery. Full stop. And they can’t stand it.
Im happier being alone now i got out of a marriage with a narcissist
I tell myself jokes, take myself out for lunch, listen to the music I like, I have a dog!
🎉🎉🎉🎉 that is so true I am not afraid to be alone I'd rather be alone let me say this I rather be with my God my cat my family little group
Alone equals peace. They have zero to offer that beats peace and clarity! ✌️
protect your peace
❤😂 thank you for the message!
I swear, 99% of the time you are word-for-word, 100% spot-on with the examples! Do they send out a booklet or something? 😅 TOO familiar!
I am painfully lonely but I am working on myself. I have to learn to be okay by myself. It takes work and every day gets better. I love me ❤
I took some time to be by myself which it was a great move for me I was able to see things a lot clear. I took a long break being alone and I'm just now starting to look for someone
lol, yep! My ex did exactly that! 😂
😂
No more narc for me,l am staying single
I don't mind being alone. Get some me time and enjoy my peace!!!!!!!!
Peace of mind 😌
Agreed 🎉
Facts
"It's Gonna Be A Bumpy Ride" 🚍🚎🎢 , Like In Harry Potter! 👓⚡️🪄 Believe In US! 🙌💪✊️✌️🤟🫶🏃♀️🏃♂️👀⚡️🙏
Sounds just like him lol
Being alone is cool but at some point u want a good partner that's what I'm working on Im currently looking
Narcissist are Codependant
Abandonment issues and thry do not like their own head space
What would a narcissist do with nearly unlimited power? Like lets say hypothetically as a president? I think that would be an interesting vid.
I prefer being alone...I'm married to my bed
Leave don't waste your time.
Can you share your bonding with your family and with your wife..i was so curious how it goes.. ???
Omg yes trapped from thus fear i was gir years. Rxavtly ehst o heard
Can you share your bonding with your family and with your wife..i was so curious how it goes.. ???