I have prayed and tormenting my self over this very issue , being married and divorced twice. My first wife is still living. Thanks to your testimonies I know I must stay single . God Bless
Lord Jesus says : if you divorced your faithful wife, then you remarried another woman, you are in adultery, not in marriage (compare to Matt 5 :32a or 19 : 9a) if you repent you hv to loose adulterous partner. and you can reconcile to your first wife if she remain unmarried (compare 1 Cor 7 : 11,39) But if other man married your wife who divorced by you, that man is commiting adultery with her (compare Matt 5 :32b, Luke 16 : 18b). If both of them knew thats adulterous they hv to repent and hv to separate and live in unmarried. The man if he was single whn married your wife, he can remarried again but he marries a woman who never been married or virgin. but your wife can not become your wife bcz she has been defiled, it mean she had sex with other man (compare Deutr 24 : 4) But she and you become as brother and sister in Christ to serve Lord as long as lives. So fair. Jesus says Except for sexual immorality, it means if your wife commits sex with other man, she has separated to you as wife, she has so defiled, she is not your wife no more. Whether she left you or you divorced her. Then you can remarry but you hv to marry a woman who never been married not divorced woman (compare to Matt 5 : 32)
@@evinevlin5124 It is adultery if you divorce and marry another. If you dissolve the 2nd "marriage" then you can remarry your 1st spouse. And that is because the 1st marriage still stands. Or else the 2nd would not be called adultery. You are speaking verses from Deuteronomy. Are you living by everything in Deuteronomy? Should those committing adultery be stoned to death? Maybe they deserve that, but we are now to forgive. The old testament shows the seriousness of sin. Do we still practice an eye for an eye? No.
@@deliaturner6086 I know, think of eternal lake of fire and crucify your flesh daily. Deny yourself and pick up your cross. Stop being reminded of them and stay busy. It helped me to help others for the Lord. The one exception for “divorce” in Matthew 19 was the word for single people. Not adultery, meaning the one allowance was before they became one flesh. The Jewish betrothal period as you can see in Matthew 1.. they were only betrothed and it said Joseph almost put away his betrothed wife...
The Lord also spoke this to me and I have been living single since my divorced. I have been very blessed to have my Lord as my husband. I will stay single for as long as my husband is alive.
@@theunveiledchristian6866 Jesus said if an unbeliever wants to go, you are to let them leave, and that you are no longer bound to them.(no longer married) It would do you good to check out my UA-cam channel and watch the in depth study on that. I will see if I still have it up. If it is not there I will have it up by this evening in a playlist that you can access. I will entitle the playlist "No longer bound" look for it later tonight.
According to God's word, once you have the signed document of Divorcement, it is ok to re-marry. It is only Adultery, if you are the one giving out the Divorce. The one who is put away is free to re-marry.
the person who steps out of the marriage for ANY reason is putting one self IN TO bondage which releases the partner to re marry This too with us with God- spiritually Though we can forfeit Him for any reason/s He remains free to unite Himself with those who will say yes to the dress and are born again thru Him by work of Holy spirit ❤ Adultery and falling out of love appears to be most common so too with man and God- idolatry and passion- first love as He says to state it
spiritually speaking those who profess Christ and are not born again are fornicators those in Christ and leave Him are idolaterers- putting some one or thing or both in His rightful place
@@mandycote5662 You are correct when you describe the English definitions for the words fornication and adultery. However, the English New Testament is a translation of the original New Testament which is written in Greek and because there are not always English words that are equivalent to Greek words, you must look at the Greek meaning of the word fornication. The Greek word for fornication is porneia. Porneia is a general term for any kind of sexual immorality and as such it includes adultery and fornication. When the word porneia is used in a sentence, you must also read that word in context. For example, if the sentence is only referring to never-married individuals engaging in porneia among themselves, then we know that those individuals are committing what we call in the English language fornication. Likewise, if we read that a married person is engaging in porneia, we know that that person is committing what we call in the English language adultery. I hope this helps.
I have been divorced since 1997. The Lord showed me this truth last year. Fortunately, I was not remarried. I will remain single happily as long as he is alive.
The CHURCH HAS FAILED US ALL on this topic. It is our responsibility to read and study GOD'S word for ourselves. I almost married again but THANK GOD I DID NOT. I would have truly married the devil himself🤯 I'm HAPPY to hear you got it like myself. I'm staying divorced/single as well & ENJOY MY PEACE & this abundant life in CHRIST🏆lol
God bless you for having the courage to share your testimony! I divorced my 2nd husband and had my name legally changed back to my covenant husband's last name in the divorce decree. I'm praying for the restoration of my covenant marriage. We have 3 adult daughters, a little granddaughter and a grandson due soon.
+CHERYL BRANCH Thank you so much! It took me a much longer time than it should to go out with this. Often the Lord has reminded me about this saying; Reidun you must go on UA-cam with your testimony about marriage divorce and remarriage. I believe it is His will to rise up many testimonies around the world on this. So thank you so much Cheryl for sharing your testimony. It was very good for me to read your feedback. May the Lord bless you in a huge way!
Bless you and all those you hope God will raise up to testify. My prayer since 1983: Lord, raise up faithful saints who speak the truth about love and forgiveness and marriage and ready hearts to hear and inquire and respond and obey. Move those in fornication and adultery to be so secure in You that they get out of their sin and wait on You for their own spouses. Thanks for healing and sealing those one flesh relationships, helping husbands and wives and children relate as You have designed and created us to do.
I hope we can meet someday. I sent you a FB request. I am traveling with a friend from Florida and another from Jamaica encouraging people standing for the Permanency of Marriage. If you are ever in Washington State let me know. Love in Christ, Don
CHERYL BRANCH You can't go back to your "covenant husband" after being married to another. (See Deut 24:1-4) I understand the desire to reconnect to the father of your children, but that's over. The legal name change is irrelevant.
Beautiful testimony. I to was married for 25 years and separated from my spouse the he divorced me.God showed me that through his word and his Spirit that he didn't recognize my divorce I was in a marriage covenant until that covenant was broken in death. I never remarried and in 2014 my husband passed away with me buy his side.Now I am free to remarry Will I no.Jesus is my husband now I love him with everything that lies with in me.
Sister, thank you for sharing your inspirational testimony. We cannot change the mind of others on this issue, but the Lord can; and that's why we need to testify that He has changed our mind and He can do the same for others. I'm fortunate, because the Lord changed the mind of my wife and I before we got married. So, we knew from the start that God was joining us together and therefore there was no going back. We will say a prayer for you and your husband.
+DanielJohn2300 Nothing is impossible for the LORD when it comes to open the eyes and minds to see the truth about marriage, divorce and remarraige. I pray that more will see the truth. Thanks for your comments. May the LORD bless you and your wife.
The Lord showed me the exact same thing. I have remained faithful to my vows though my husband divorced me and remarried in 2008. It is wonderful to know the Lord personally to have HIM be our husband. I pray for my husband, still wear my wedding rings and if God gives him repentance and a desire to reconcile, I will do that. Blessings to you and thanks for standing for the truth.
God is good. It has been two weeks since I commented and you responded today as I had just supported a brother for the first time who I found out about from the cadz.net web site. He has been working on the permanence view for 5 years with teaching pastors and divorce care ministers. Our commitment to truth is soon to be rewarded as Jesus will appear on the clouds with the trumpet call of God to carry up His bride. Maranatha!
Question, is it permissible for you to remarry? Technically, him "marrying" another means he has committed fornication, which is grounds for divorce for the offended spouse. Also, the offended spouse is allowed to remarry if the marriage dissolved due to fornication.
Jess, I actually just received today three books that teach the truth of what the Bible says. It is NOT permissible for the divorced person (innocent or guilty) to remarry. I have a playlist of 48 videos teaching this (her video is there) and the three books are "Except for Fornication" (sex before any marriage) by Daniel Jennings, "Remarriage Is Adultery" by David Pawson and "Divorce and Remarriage: the Trojan Horse Within the Church" by Joseph Webb. Him remarrying is NOT a marriage but adultery as long as I am alive. If he were to repent, he would have to prove repentance by getting out of the adultery and going and sinning no more. Here are some great documents too: saveus.org/wp-content/uploads/marriage_divorce_remarriage_3-16.pdf www.danielrjennings.org/TheClearNewTestamentPassagesOnDivorceAndRemarriage.pdf www.marriagedivorce.com/pdf/Adultery.pdf
It’s true that our Lord Jesus absolutely disapproved divorce and he qualifies remarriage as adultery. Also God hates divorce. However, we should bear in mind that GOD is aware that as human even as Christians we are never and will not be ever perfect in following His commands. We are not and will not be save by the works of our righteousness rather by the redeeming blood of Jesus through our faith in Christ. If we examine various Scriptures like: “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” Amos 3:3 NKJV will tell us that God understand that when 2 are not in agreement they can never work together and marriage requires a great effort of 2 people to make it work. And the truth and nothing but they truth, many at times 2 individuals mistakenly fall in the trap to enter into “Covenant of marriage” only to realize that both of them can not co-habit. Also Mathew 12:1-5 will teach us that God is not keen on using his law to trap our life into miserable and frustrated situation, rather that we may have any option to better welfare of our lives. In that Scripture Jesus said God is not more interested in Sacrifice but He is more interested in showing us His mercy. Jesus warned those “Holier than thou” Christians who were too rigid with the law over their fellow Christian not to condemn the innocent. This teaches me that no matter where I have fallen and the state of sin I found myself, I don’t have to give up in believing in the salvation of God, his forgiveness and mercy which he obtained for everyone on the cross the Scripture said: “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.” I John 1:8-10 & 2:1-2 NKJV. In this context, if you’re a Christian who have divorced and you’re convinced that you can never be in agreement with your ex and you need to move your life on in getting married with someone else you feel you’re in agreement with and especially for the sake of companionship and avoiding sexual immorality/perverseness you go ahead with your life in getting into the new life of new marriage. But however, always recognize your state of sinfulness before God and keep asking in quietness for God’s forgiveness and mercy. You can draw your inspiration from the scripture: “Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men-extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14 NKJV There are many so called perfect holier than thou Christian marriages where abuse of all sort is going on, hatred and malice are order of the day, no form of love going on in that marriage and every part of that marriage is absolutely miserable. Yet when they come out in public they pretend to the public they’re in perfect marriage. Some marriages their sex life is death even when both parties still burns in sexual passions; many a times their unsincereness and pretends lead them to secret marital affairs in search for sexual fulfillment outside marriage. I believe God wants us to present ourselves to Him just as we’re, no matter how weak and state of sin we found ourselves: “Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the LORD, “Though your sins are like scarlet, They shall be as white as snow; Though they are red like crimson, They shall be as wool.” Isaiah 1:18 NKJV and “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV. Jesus law is not intended to make life so miserable for us His disciples. Finally as Christians we should try as much as possible not to fall victim of our Lord Jesus parable about judging others: “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:3-5 NKJV. I have come to a total conviction that at least in this present generation of Christians and church leaders, you can never or at least rarely find any perfect follower of our Lord Jesus that keep His commandments of His word to the last letter. For instance how many of gospel preachers including those judging and condemning the remarried brethren here, will be bold to prove that they have kept the command of our Lord Jesus that said: “Jesus said to him, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell what you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.” Matthew 19:21 NKJV. Also Holy Spirit commanded Christians: “Now the multitude of those who believed were of one heart and one soul; neither did anyone say that any of the things he possessed was his own, but they had all things in common. Nor was there anyone among them who lacked; for all who were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the proceeds of the things that were sold, and laid them at the apostles’ feet; and they distributed to each as anyone had need.” Acts 4:32, 34-35 NKJV. Is there any Christian or bible preacher who can be so righteous to disclose how much wealth he has to his/her fellow Christian talk less to sell all his/her possessions in order to share with those that don’t have. Do you know this is a permanent state of sinfulness that has potential to attract dead? Yet mercy of God is reigning over as many as accept Jesus as their Lord and personal savior. I will conclude this episode with this scripture: “But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. And on some have compassion, making a distinction; but others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire, hating even the garment defiled by the flesh. Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, And to present you faultless Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, To God our Savior, Who alone is wise, Be glory and majesty, Dominion and power, Both now and forever. Amen.”Jude 1:20-25 NKJV. I will like to state that no one goes into marriage just for the. Sake of child’s play. Most people goes into it with genuine intention but however only to realize that their human limitations have let them down again - they realize the incompatibility of their partner too late after marital covenant. Also I will like brethren to not to forget that incompatibility in marriage have lead to many disastrous situations in relationship where the wife or husband kills their partner in a bid to be set free from that relationship. All sort of allegations went on in the relationship and so many wickedness that went on in that relationship. Many at times the only way to establish peace between 2 people is separation and divorce, we should not forget that God calls us for a life of peace. In the Jude verse above we can see and understand that as Christians it’s God that keeps us from stumbling and faultless. Disclaimer: I do not in anyway expressly endorsed that divorce and remarriage is the best for any couple going through challenges in their relationship especially when it has to be a matter of forgiveness, God expect us to forgive one another. However, when misunderstanding between 2 peolpe in marriage becomes life threatening and the foundation of that relationship-Trust is destroyed then divorce can be a remedy for the 2. But they should bear the consequences of bearing the title adulterous if this is the case. But thanks to the blood of Jesus who saves us from all sin even from adulterous sinful state. Many at times bible preachers preach from their personal emotions not from the graceful emotions of our lord Jesus. This life can be very controversial and complicated in a dynamic and unique to individuals. God will always understand us with our unique challenges in our walk with Him. Put your absolute trust and hope on Him God bless you all!
So what u are saying is even the homosexual who claims to accept Jesus can remain in that sin bcuz the sin has become white as snow...the murderer who claims to be saved can continue murdering. Well...it's all about our own feelings then. Humm.
The only way JESUS frees us from sin is, when we stop commuting them, if a person is living in adultery , they are living in sin and has not repented period.
The lord died to keep us from falling and to present us blameless, he can present us faultless, we can live above WILLFUL SIN, the lord requires OBEDIENCE, the lord wants us to flee the ways of this present world and follow him. People need to seek JESUS for themselves and follow him only. We're not save by work but by our works or fruits it shows whether or not we are born again. Works, fruits, shows whose you are and whose your master, if you serve yourself, you obey your flesh and the flesh is death.
but at least someone is talking about this issue because the church is is not teaching this and this is a very serious situation but once again thank you for sharing your story may God bless all of us and help us all in this situation as well
I had to return here and watch you speak again this humble and true message sister. Grace and peace to you in the royal name of our Lord Jesus Christ. May God help you to be found worthy and blameless on the day our Lord returns to hear "Well done, good and faithful servant. Enter into the Kingdom of your Lord."
Great testimony ... and it's great because you are trying to walk in obedience to God's Word, and that's all that really matters. I realize it would be hard for most people to stay single after divorce, especially if they're the "marrying type," but the Lord's command should outweigh our feelings and desires. He will give grace in difficult circumstances!
After two marriages, I also discovered God's word on remarriage. I choose to live by His rules and not the rules of man. I will remain alone. I don't see any other way to interpret the scriptures. I don't consider this works. I consider it faith.
Divorce and remarriage is adultery. The Bible says "Whosoever putteth away his wife and marrieth another commiteth adultery and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband commiteth adultery" Luke 16:18. We can divorce under extreme circumstances but it doesn't say we can remarry. Put away and divorce are the same word in strongs concordance and are used interchangeably in Mat 5:32. After they married strange wives after they returned from babylon they put them away in Nehemiah.
JOhn i know the bible talks about spiritual audultery.. i divorced my wife and she didn t commit sexual audulery but i feel that she did commit spiritual audultery. i can expalin this but wont unless u ask to know.
Great job! My current testimony is that I wanted to recently Divorce and Remarry because things aren't working out with my wife of 8 1/2 and a child she had from wedlock that's troubled me. Honestly, I'm a backslidden Christian and never knew this about divorce and remarriage. When she cried one last time for divorce, I began seeking God's word. I started by looking at UA-cam videos to see if I could move forward with the divorce and get an ideal, but after seeing some videos and reading those scriptures on Divorce over and over again, I was disappointed because remarriage equals adultery. I even bought 2 books and I'm half way through one. I'm glad I did stumble upon seeking answers, because I would have easily pleased my happiness first to satisfy my flesh and not obey God. I was on my way of this terrible deception to commit Adultery. I thought I could remarry knowing others have done so. I know friends who are non-believers and believers who much rather go by civil law or change beliefs to justify being able to divorce and remarry. They don't care because they are caught up on humanistic ideals (carnal mind) that they can remarry based on Fornication-premarital sex (a Jewish law called betrothed that at that time no other culture did) and desertion (abandonment) that after a few years nullifies the marriage and considered as death, so supposedly you have God's approval. Plus, civil law that one can nullify the marriage within one year. I've been doing my best to convince myself that I can, because she had fornicated which I forgave her for, but she never got married. Boy, am I wrong, I married her and we became one flesh--till death. End of my story ..!!! Be careful don't fall to Satan's deception you can
Amen my sister. It is a very good thing that you are sharing this testimony, it will surely help many people. May God richly bless you and keep you strong, because you chose to do the right thing.
@@reidunfriestad3513 Was your first husband unfaithful to you?Was that the reason why you divorced him.Did GOD give you a Vision,Dream or an Encounter,to tell you that if you remarried,it would be adult Rey?Or are you just going by your interpretation of scriptures or how you feel in your heart.You said GOD told you the scriptures to go to.In what way did GOD tell you?Thanks for responding.
AMEN. This is Truth. Luke 16:18- "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another committs adultery: and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Glory be to God. I also got the revelation in the month of September. Let me just state that, every year since I walked close to God, I had a specific revelation. May His name be magnified for ever and ever. God loves us and He sees our hearts desires. 👑✝️👑
Thank you for your testimony. I found this to be true though the Word of God. It's disheartening how most will never accept these things. Being that it's so difficult for some. We see this often in churches unfortunately.
I am going through the something similar right now. I was about to marry again, but I felt a strong desire to do Daniel's fast and did it. During that time I think God spoke to me about remarriage not being an option in my case as I am divorced. I wasn't expecting to face something like being single for the rest of my life being 41 years old. However, I am feeling peace like never before and I also feel that I am growing in the relationship with the LORD.
Same here, 43 and divorced. Hard pill to swallow thinking about being alone for the rest of my life but God’s Grace is sufficient and he will take care of us till he calls us home. ❤
It amazes me how many take the parts of scripture that suit them, but will not acknowledge how wicked the sinful act of divorce is! Paul spoke about divorce seemingly in a casual way. But the sin of divorcing and abandoning ones spouse after vowing an oath before God to another child of God is extremely serious. An individual upon marriage was promised and promised a lifelong oath of commitment. Yet some think that because they have merely in their eyes divorced, but are not living in an adulterous relationship, that they are now living in peace and forgiveness with God's blessing. Maybe in their minds they have soothed their conscience. But they are far from being relieved from the guilt of their wickedness. Not when another life or lives still remain in ruin because of the wicked act of divorce which they have inflicted on another. Where is their fruit in keeping with repentance! They have no fruit! They honor me with their lips but their hearts are far from me. And in that day they will say, have we not prophesied in your name and done great wonders. And I will say to them in that day, away from me you doers of evil!
No no no!!!! People arent scripture twisting on purpose. Look at all the testimonials from those who repentrd of an adulterous union via reamrriage. Almost all of them werre trying to follow Jesus but somehow had receieved wrong teaching along the way or even after studying themslevs had come to differnt conclusions WITH AN HONEST HEART only to have it reveaked later on in thier lives. Im so sick of smug people like you who pretend that you have always knowm that remarriage is adultery. Most of the people i have met who believe this are "woke" from of it because of the internet. There are only two churches that preach this in my city of a million people. I have a degree in bibical studies and until i saw teaching by John Piper i had never hesrd this before.
@@meadowbrooks4041 let God be true and every man a liar! Gods holy scripture is truth. For someone who has a degree in biblical studies, it amazes me you didn't see clearly what scripture says? Romans 7:1-3 law of marriage? 1st Corinthians 7:39 what breaks the covenant of marriage? Mark and Luke clear understanding of divorce and remarriage?
If you go on any Christian date site the majority of women are divorced or separated. This is backwards to what it should be . Many pastors don't teach on this subject. Check out the UA-cam channel Christian divorce and remarriage. It's a great help on this subject. Glad you obeyed God in this area.
Praise God. A beautiful testimony, thank you for sharing. Now it's clear to me that God doesn't want me to marry a divorced man. I am a widow. God bless you sister ❤ 🙏
Reidun Friestad God would not command something that contradicts his Word. Deut 24:1-4 prohibits the return to a former husband after marriage to a latter. So the only husband you could be "reconciled" with is the second--if he is available (has not since been married) and is willing. Bear in mind that both your marriages took place before you came to the Lord, and 1 Cor 7 gives instruction to Christians. Hence, in your case, you have the option of returning to your second marriage, taking a third husband, or remaining single.
Reidun Friestad+ thanks for your testimony! I have a question- I married (for the first time many years ago now), a man who was divorced. I later divorced him. So that does that mean I was never really married and I was actually just committing adultery? Does that mean I can marry now, seeing my first marriage wasn't right in the eyes of God?
Kingdom Mann Christ explains why he allowed Moses to make that rule. It was the hardened hearts of mankind. God doesn't even recognize divorce. It's a doctrine of demons, that he tolerated before the cross. The exception for divorce, does not make an exception for remarriage. Remarriage is adultery unless the spouse is dead.
@@cristinadriviera8144 it means you need to stay as you are if you can. 1 Co 7 explains this. I too married a woman who was committing adultery, she had a child unwed with another man, had a child with him. I married her, grew in the word and she never did. 2015 - I came fully to the Lord. 2016 - she cheated on me. 2018 - as an unsaved believer, cheating on me she divorced me. Now according to the word of the church today, I can get remarried. According to what I see in the Bible and the truth from the holy Spirit, I cannot get remarried.
I don't know what to do. I love my husband so much. He is the first man who has ever actually loved me and has been faithful to me. I don't want to lose Jesus over this thought but I don't feel like I have the strength to leave and crush my dear husband. I know we are called to die to self. This really feels like death to me. Please pray for us. We need help and clarity.
Kelli Praying for you my sister. I too am a product of divorce AND YOU ARE RIGHT IT FEELS LIKE DEATH!! I encourage you to seek God on your marriage, kill the background noise in your life and hear His voice. I remarried and am seeking truth on this issue. I'll keep you lifted as i ask you ttodo the same for me
It is hard to break up but the word of God will judge us. I am in the same situation and tonight I have made up my mind to come out of it. Eternity is a very long time to be wrong. Nothing is worth losing my soul. The word of God is settled in heaven and as much as I tried to fit in in my situation it remains the same.
Grace to you Kelli How did Jesus explain the adultery of divorce and remarriage to Israel? Did He change anything about the effectiveness of divorce and remarriage? When one accepts the truth of WHO Jesus is speaking to and it’s relevance to them, they will then understand it’s retrospective applications to Israel historically. Jesus was revealing to Israel that they were committing adultery this way by prematurely ending their marriages. His only solution for this adultery was for them to stop separating the one-flesh union (Matthew 19:6). Once you understand this manner of adultery had been occurring throughout Old Testament history, you will understand Jesus’ reference to the beginning was to explain the “why” of that fact. Jesus explained that marriage sets forth the responsibility to “cleave” or stay together (Matt. 19:5). Jesus revealed to His covenant people that by ending their marriages they were not “cleaving” thus transgressing the responsibility of sole devotion when they remarried. Divorce and remarriage is another way to commit adultery, but the end result was they had enter another marriage and forbidden to reconcile the former (Deuteronomy 24:4). The consequence that ensued did not negate the second marriage nor it’s responsibilities.
Grace to you Kelli We find nowhere in scripture where marriage is said to survive divorce. The claim itself is a self contradiction. When Jesus speaks to this issue He is specifically speaking of a marriage being terminated. In Matthew 19 and Mark 10 Jesus made a counter argument (to the Pharisees question) from God’s creative design for marriage (Matthew 19:4-6, 8b). Jesus reminded the Pharisees that God created marriage in “the beginning” with the obligation of “cleaving” the idea of remaining together (Matthew 19:5). Jesus did not answer the Pharisees question (v.3) by appealing to the law, but rather by appealing to God’s original design for marriage. From that base point Jesus revealed the catch 22 of conceding divorce to them. When Moses conceded divorce to hardhearted men he did so for peace sake, just like Paul in 1 Cor.7:15. When Jesus made a reference to this fact (Matthew 19:8) He was not criticizing Moses (as claimed by some), He was actually being critical of hard hearts that insisted on the right to put away their wives. Jesus’ following remark “but from the beginning it was not so” (8b) revealed to the Pharisees that divorce didn’t exist in the beginning and antithetical to “cleaving” or staying together (v.4-6). Proving to them that God's original design for marriage was for it to last till death. This masterfully exposed the calloused hearts of Israel for divorcing their wives and revealed to them that they were transgressing God’s design for marriage by ending it. To make matters worse Jesus revealed that divorce caused an inadvertent consequence for remarriage. The counter argument Jesus made against divorce had nothing to do with denying it’s reality. There is NO “still married in God’s eyes” argument from Christ teaching (or anywhere in the bible). When Jesus is properly understood there is no difference in the outcome of divorce and remarriage from one Testament to the other. Divorce means the same thing throughout scripture and speaks to the premature dissolution of marriage. In like manner remarriage was an acknowledged marriage that had all the responsibilities of the first marriage. The catch 22 is divorce and remarriage terminates and forms another husband wife relationship which transgresses (in principle) the obligation of fidelity set forth by the first marriage. The simple truth Jesus revealed to Israel was that the obligation of exclusive intimacy is violated by terminating one marriage and entering another. Thus there is an inadvertent consequence to ending one marriage and graciously allowing another (Deut.24:2). Women throughout the Old Testament were allowed to remarry if their husbands divorced them (Deut. 24:2). This is mutually understood by all views. When Jesus is properly understood we see that the catch 22 for the wife who was repudiated is that she transgressed the obligation of sole devotion because she was graciously allowed to remarry (Deut. 24:2). Just as importantly we should note that this way of committing adultery could be avoided if she hadn’t been repudiated in the first place (which was the point Jesus was making). Jesus never argued that these women were not actually divorced nor did He forbid remarriage. He merely revealed the paradox caused by accommodating hard hearts (Matthew 19:8) that failed to “cleave” to their wives (Matthew 19:5). Thus all parties end up violating God’s creative design of sole devotion. The ONLY solution Jesus instructs centers around sustaining marriage. Jesus admonished the Pharisees not to put asunder the one-flesh union (Matthew 19:6). Stop separating the one-flesh union. That was the ONLY remedy given by Jesus. Everything Jesus said was in harmony with the historic reality of remarriage having all the obligations of the first marriage. He gave NO after remarriage remedy. Telling those remarried to divorce their present spouse is a made up solution by those who think the first husband wife relationship didn’t end “in God’s eyes”. This TOTALLY misconstrues the literal meaning of divorce spoken by Jesus. Their false suppositions creates a false remedy, destroys families, exacerbates divorce and multiplies transgressions. It is an evil all it’s own.
Grace to you Kelli One thing to remember when discussing this issue is that all the views have a common goal of explaining how the adultery occurs or why it happens, but unfortunately with different explanations. When we understand that, we then can follow the logic or the reasoning process of that view, understand? We can break down the explanation and compare it to the text itself to see if it is actually being faithful to the biblical narrative. Thus if the view doesn’t properly explain why adultery ensues it’s false, which in turn creates a false narrative that needs exposing. When Jesus speaks to this issue He is explaining to Israel the inadvertent outcome of conceding divorce to them. He is literally describing what transpires by the first marriage NOT surviving. That’s His main point. There is NO ulterior motive as some seem to think. He was emphasizing the importance of staying married. Conversely He was not claiming “the first marriage survived”. He was literally explaining to the Pharisees what is caused by the first marriage NOT surviving (Matthew 19, Mark 10). This clearly differentiates between Jesus and “indissoluble marriage” Pastors. The Pharisees wanted to know all the reasons for divorce (Matthew 19:3) to which Jesus countered by explaining what divorce causes, thus discouraging them from putting away their wives. In other words Jesus was actually explaining what will transpire if a marriage comes to a premature end (the VERY opposite of “indissoluble marriage” claims). The "indissoluble marriage" view is built around the belief that marriage and/or the one-flesh union survives divorce. Some believe one or the other but most believe both. One Pastor puts it this way, “Marriage survives remarriage and precludes it”. You can clearly see that they believe the first marriage doesn’t end and the second marriage is prevented. In this make believe world divorce and remarriage are “ineffective” events and not being understood as literally ending one marriage and constituting another. If you eliminate a literal divorce and remarriage from Jesus’ teaching you then have the first marriage still intact. Thus you have the adultery occurring within the first marriage, which is what they want others to believe. Of course if this was true then ending the “second relationship” would be correct. But all of this misconstrues the historic context of Jesus' teaching. Conversely when you understand the history to which Jesus referred He is literally speaking of one marriage ending and another marriage constituted. Thus “their” interpretation inverts the VERY words of Christ and mass confusion ensues. It’s the VERY reason so much confusion exist on this subject. Try to explain that to them and they only dig in deeper. Follow all of their explanations and you go from one (false) supposition to another. It’s one long lengthy mess. To properly interpret Jesus one must understand that all the factors He mentions literally transpired. That’s why I oppose any view that dismisses an actual divorce and remarriage. With all the factors as literal you have one marriage ending and another marriage constituted which causes one to commit adultery the way Jesus described. The adultery does NOT change the fact that one marriage has ended and another marriage constituted, understand? Those divorced and remarried should understand that they ARE married to their current husband/wife and NOT there former when Jesus is properly understood. Follow “indissoluble marriage” advocates and those remarried will think they are still married to their first spouse and not their present, totally backward! Jesus criticism was NOT focused on the concession of divorce itself, but rather on the reason for the concession. Being what? Hardheartedness (Matthew 19:8). This is an important point of distinction. In other words Jesus was not criticizing Moses for the divorce concession itself (as claimed by indissoluble marriage advocates) but rather criticizing Israel who insisted on the right to put away their wives. Jesus did NOT prohibit remarriage not did He criticize it, He merely revealed the negative consequence divorce causes for it. Believing He had other motives only makes this issue more confusing . Once you understand that “indissoluble marriage” Teachers (with all their derivatives) are actual inverting and thus complicating Christ teaching, something very complicated becomes something very basic and simple. The simple point Jesus made to the Pharisees was that “if” you don’t remain married a negative consequence will ensue in remarriage. Jesus explains this by appealing to God’s creative design for marriage from the beginning. Jesus referenced back to the origin to explain that marriage was ordained from the beginning for life. Thus the Old Testament divorce concession inadvertently causes obligations set forth by the first marriage to be transgressed. Jesus is not arguing about the ineffectiveness of divorce, He was exposing to Israel the inadvertent consequence of prematurely ending a marriage. These questions help frame Jesus’ counter argument to the Pharisees (Matthew 19, Mark 10). * Do you believe God created marriage for life? * Do you believe God designed the intimacy between husband and wife to be limited to them (exclusive)? * What would transpire if God (because of man’s hard heart) allowed divorce and remarriage? * Would that exclusivity be transgressed? What you need to keep in mind is that Jesus did NOT fix the divorce dilemma, he appealed to hard hearts by admonishing them to stop separating the one-flesh union. That’s as far as Jesus took it. False teaching takes it much further, understand?
Reidun, Thank you so much for your courage! I too, was in same boat and in the middle of fully repenting. Bless you for making this video! Also, is it possible you can make a Video singing Amazing Grace? It was Beautiful 😥
Great shall be your reward in heaven because of your practical obedience to God's word in this permissive generation you are blessed! Keep running the race perfectly Ma.
This is so sweet, pure romance actually. It’s easy to be faithful in good times but love endures all things. And God’s covenant is everlasting and unbreakable even by sin, that’s what makes part of what makes the marriage covenant so beautiful. I pray that I will always be content being single, because being married does not mean that you won’t be alone. Although we are really never truly alone as long as Christ lives in us.
Question to all who watched/commented...do you consider watching pornography grounds for divorce? Since scripture says to look at another woman with lust you commit adultery in your heart?
No. Even cheating is not. Better to forgive. If possible. But if the women left you for another man that she marries you can't be with her again because she is commiting adultery if she sleeps with him or you. So she must remain single. If she sleeps with another man you should forgive her as in Hosea.
PTL for your humble ,teachable spirit. i am in exactly the same position as you except that my legitimate marriage covenant spouse died.God does not contradict His word and scripture interprets scripture. )we dont hear teaching on this important subject as there are many pastors in a remarriage and so cant teach the truth as they are in adulterous remarriages. we have a responsibility individually to find the truth not to look to pastors or anyone. The truth is in the Bible.if we have a heart for God and to be His disciples we will obey Him. there are others with testimonies how God showed them they had remarried unbiblically. some even Pastors. yes even if one is in an abusive marriage. God knows our human failings and what we are experiencing. 1 corinthians 7 v 10,1. a spouse is to separate but pray for their wayward and sinning spouse, no matter how long, in the hope that they will repent and be reconciled and have their covenant marriages restored, on a godly foundation. there are many testimonies of such marriages being restored. see rejoiceministries website.
Thank you Eddie for your wonderful comments. I pray that the LORD will bless you in a huge way now in 2017. And may the LORD show His truth about divorce and remarriage to many more in this new year we just entered.
Eddie1952 not everyone who has been through a divorce HAS to go back to their spouse. sometimes that's not always the best option depending on the reason habitual adultery unfaithfulness and or abuse. sometimes we need to encourage people who are remaining single too not just reconcile
Amen, people need to know that remarriage is as good as adultery. I feel sorry for young girls or boys who have never married and then enter a marriage with a divorced person. Their first marriage basically is a sin that could take them to hell and they can never marry again after that.
Nevi im Kethuvim,In what way did GOD show you that you was in adultery because of divorce and remarriage?Was it through a dream,vision,emcounter,or just by your interpretation of HIS Word?Thanks for responding.
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis wouldn’t let me edit but the first thing I prayed was “I just want to be loved”... typo. Since I left and fully obeyed... He has been showing me what those greater plans seem to be that are coming. I’ve had manny many more experiences with God both before and after this. Supernatural things still happen today.
I don't understand what you are saying.I was asking how did GOD Reveal to you that you were in adultery, through remarriage?Were you saved when you remarried?And did GOD use dream,vision, encounter or just HIS Word to Confirm these things to you.Thanks for responding back.
I appreciate your heart, however you erred in remarrying your first husband according to the Bible. Deuteronomy is very clear on the Lord's feelings on such a matter. Even though this is under the Law of Moses, Moses states God's feelings. We see a situation where a man divorces his first wife. Whatever the reason, it isn't adultery because that was a stoning offense. In Deut. 24: 1-4, it says that he is not allowed to take back his first wife again once she has been remarried and divorced, "for that is an abomination before the Lord..." I don't mean to make you feel bad, but just to correct some bad theology. Even though you went against God's counsel for remarrying your first husband, that is forgivable just like any other sin and you may remain married and enjoy God's freedom, love and grace. You quoted some verses from 1 Corinthians 7. It is always dangerous to just look at one isolated verse without considering all the passages on this issue. Paul certainly states the ideal, but as sinners we often break covenant with someone. There is an interesting passage in the same passage, vs. 27&28, "Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But if you marry, you have not sinned..." Paul realized that people do sin, makes mistakes, etc. When you committed adultery against your first husband, and were divorced, that severed that union. Paul didn't give the reason for the release, but if you find you're in that situation, "if you marry, you have not sinned." This answers a question that many ask today as well. Notice the passage in John 4 where we see Jesus and the woman at the well. He recognized that she had had 5 husbands and the 6th man was not her husband. He acknowledged that she was married each time and with this last man, she was just living with him, and He offers her living water. He didn't turn on the interrogation light and question her about the 5 previous marriages and try to confirm who was at fault, etc. However, today, in many churches that happens. Or consider the famous passage in Matthew 5 where Jesus gives the example of a man divorcing his wife without adultery being the cause. It says that she becomes an adulteresses and the man she marries becomes an adulterer. But consider the entire text. Where does Christ put the blame? He places the blame on the cad who is doing the divorcing, not on the wife. It says, "he causes her..." Why then is she called an adulteresses woman at this point? At this point she had done nothing wrong...she was the victim. This is where our English translations fail us because of the difficulty of translating the Greek. Probably the best rendering is that she is "stigmatized as an adulterer and whoever she marries is stigmatized as an adulterer". In other words, to the outside world, it looks like she is the one who broke up the marriage and then the assumption is that the man she married was also responsible. In the Old Testament, God through the prophet Ezra commanded divorce, for many of the Jews had married pagan wives and brought in pagan idolatry. God would certainly not command one to sin. But He did command that they divorce their wives without the cause of adultery. There is nothing in the passage to indicate that these men can't marry again and many of them did. There are so many more passages I could go into. I'm not trying to bring you down, it's just that I don't want your testimony to cause someone to violate Scripture or think they're beyond redemption and hope. Some make divorce and remarriage even if unscriptural, to be the unpardonable sin. It is not. It is interesting that Paul wrote at the beginning of 1 Cor. 7, "...because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband..." He was writing to Christians who had been living a carnal life and were very worldly at one time and in some cases still were. In that group there had to be those released from a marriage for sinful reasons. Yet he would rather see them married than to be involved in numerous affairs. When the author of this video quoted 1 Cor. 7:10-11, where it speaks of remaining unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband. Is he speaking of 1 year, 70 years? I think Paul allows us to use a bit of wisdom here. His major point is to give time to any decision to forever leave the union. In vs. 15 describing a union of a believer and non-believer, if the unbeliever leaves, the believing party is "no longer under bondage," to that marriage. Again covenant broken. In the previously quoted Matthew 5 passage, Jesus gave one type of reason for divorce, this doesn't mean there weren't others. He is highlighting one type of example. How about where a husband is beating his wife, almost to the point of death? Is she still bound to him? The legalist would say Yes. However, this husband is still breaking covenant with his wife. The Father is in the redemption business. Many passages on divorce and remarriage have a Catholic influence in the translation that is often overlooked. This is why personal testimonies are often so dangerous. I know of a woman where God revealed the exact opposite of what this woman experienced. I don't know if God spoke to either one. This doesn't mean that they both didn't believe that God spoke to them however. I believe that probably both woman, although, receiving different answers both sincerely believe that they heard from the Lord. That is why we test everything by Scripture. Yes, God gives us the ideal of how things should be. But in our sinfulness, we often break covenants, sin, etc. God has a redemption plan in place for that. I rarely find that divorce is one-sided. One always talks of the "guilty party," but often there are different percentages of guilt on both sides. You never read in the Bible of an adulterous marriage. Certainly, Herod shouldn't have married his brother's wife because that was considered incest under the Law of Moses. This doesn't mean that a marriage wasn't created because of sin. You never read of the "guilty party," or "innocent party" in a marriage. With the exception of Ezra, you never read in the New Testament where someone is commanded to leave their current spouse because of it being an unlawful marriage. There is hope and redemption for both the unmarried and married.
The counter argument Jesus made against liberal divorce had nothing to do with denying it’s reality. When Jesus is properly understood there is no difference in the outcome of divorce and remarriage from one Testament to the other. Divorce means the same thing throughout scripture and speaks to the dissolution of the marriage covenant. In like manner remarriage was an acknowledged marriage that had all the responsibilities of the first marriage. The catch 22 is divorce and remarriage terminates and then forms another husband wife relationship which transgresses (in principle) God's creative design for marriage. By Jesus referring to God’s original design (Matthew 19:4-6, 8b) we understand that marriage carries an obligation to be faithful to each the other for life. Fidelity for life is the idea. The simple truth Jesus revealed to Israel was that the obligation of exclusive devotion is violated by terminating one marriage and entering another. Women throughout the Old Testament were allowed to remarry if their husbands divorced them (Deut. 24:2). This is mutually understood by all views. When Jesus is properly understood we see that the catch 22 for the wife who was repudiated is that she transgressed the obligation of sole devotion because she was graciously allowed to remarry (Deut. 24:2). Just as importantly we should note that this way of committing adultery could be avoided if she hadn’t been repudiated in the first place (which was the point Jesus was making). He never argued that these women were not actually divorced nor did He forbid remarriage. He merely revealed the paradox caused by accommodating hard hearts (Matthew 19:8) that failed to “cleave” to their wives (Matthew 19:5). Thus all parties end up violating God’s creative design of sole devotion. The ONLY solution Jesus instructs centers around sustaining marriage. Jesus admonished the Pharisees to not put asunder the one-flesh union (Matthew 19:6). Stop divorcing, stop separating the one-flesh union. That was the ONLY remedy given by Jesus. Everything Jesus said was in harmony with the historic reality of remarriage having all the obligations of the first marriage. He gave NO after remarriage remedy. Telling those remarried to divorce their present spouse is a made up solution by those who think the first husband wife relationship was not dissolved. Their false suppositions creates a false remedy, destroys families, exacerbates divorce and multiplies transgressions. It is an evil all it’s own.
God bless you sister. So many people ignore the scriptures, twist them, or use non-relevant scripture, in order to create and excuse to remarry. I have been single for many years and find that every year I grow ever closer to the Lord. I'm content to live as a single woman, but would like to be reunited with my husband. Unfortunately, he remarried many years ago. He has been living in remarriage adultery all this time, but doesn't realize it. He believes he is bound to her in "covenant marriage" and has no right to leave her. He isn't happy, though, and feels empty because he believes he should have stayed with me (it was my parents who separated us because they felt I was too young to be married). He left at the time but never forgot about me or our son, and still loves me. He told me three years ago when we talked briefly, that he wishes we were together, but that it's too late because when he remarried it was by a preacher and that their marriage was a "covenant marriage" that he has no right to break. His pastors, counselors, her family and friends, have convinced him that's there's no way out for him and that he must honor his marriage vows. It doesn't matter that it's a second marriage for them both and that they have no children together. If he even talks to me, they say he's breaking his "covenant" marriage vows. When we found each other and tried to establish communication with each other again for our son and grandchildren's sake, the whole church came against him for even speaking to me, and their pastors took him aside and told him that he was to have "no contact" with me, ever! Not even concerning our children... I was seen as being the "other woman" who was causing him to sin just by speaking with me. I am praying that the Lord will give me an to talk with him; to tell him the truth of God's Word, and that he and I are the one's who are married in God's eyes, not he and his second wife... But I cannot communicate with him except through notes sent back and forth occasionally through our son, because he's being watched all the time. I love this man... He is my husband, the father of my son and grandchildren. We are a part of each other and we still love each other, but the church is keeping us apart. What is also heartbreaking is that our son, whose wife left him and their children, really need us. Please pray for us, Reidun; especially that his eyes will be opened to the truth of the Scriptures, and that he will see through the lie of "covenant remarriage." I will pray for you too, my sister. In Christ, Kathryn. His name is Mike by the way.
Thanks Kathryn. May the Lord bless you in a huge way.. I have been slow to respond because I have worked a lot and also just published my first book THE SONG IN MY HEART; ARISE AND SHINE as a eBook on Amazon. It has received five great reviews so far. All the glory to the Lord. I have prayed for you and your covenant husband Mike.
Reidun, thank you for your reply... I very much appreciate your time and your prayers. I, too, am a writer. Therefore, I understand how much time writing takes, and especially when you also have to work a job aside from your writing. It's not easy! I am currently working on a thesis of which the research alone takes up many hours in a day, but I do enjoy it. I just ordered your book in paperback, by the way, and I'm looking forward to reading it. I'll update you once I've finished. God bless you sister, Kathryn
moonlite.. Thank you for the website! I perused it and read the testimony of Sondra and Andy. I cant wait to read more. I will pray for you as well. God bless you sister, Kathryn
Thank you for sharing that you have ordered my new book THE SONG IN MY HEART: ARISE AND SHINE. May the Lord bless you when you read it. And I am so glad to hear that you are a writer too. Thanks for sharing that too. Wishing you all the best for 2018
KaKel53 I will pray for him and you. He has to know that he has to Follow God and not man. He has to know through the word of God he is living in adultery. His pastor is keeping him bound in adultery. Who is he going to listen to men or God. God bless. I will pray God will deliver and set him free.
Thank you for sharing the Truth and Gospel Of Lord Jesus Christ. The truth is we must not divorce our spouse under any circumstances we must must everything through the will and the grace of Lord Jesus Christ to heal and reconcile with our spouse, if one of the spouses is committing adultery or cheating in the relationship be the example of Christ in their life, because you could make them repent and bring them unto Christ, be an example of Jesus Christ in the life of your spouse if does not believe in Lord Jesus Christ. every soul is very important to Lord Jesus Christ.
Please I need pray for My friend she's in her second marriage :( she wants to get out but she's staying because he pays the bills. Please can someone help me lead her to get help for her and her children
Mine left me for his mistress 23 years ago. We were married 20 years and had 3 children. He wanted the divorce I didn't. I had no money to contest it. I remarried 7 years ago. We are now parting ways. I truly love him but I feel we aren't married. I'm so very sad. Was I free to remarry? My first husband left the Lord and me.
Marriage is for life, till death to you part. You cannot remarry while your first spouse is alive. Matt 19:9 say except for fornication meaning the betrothal period. Luke 16:18 , Mark 10:2-12, 1 Cor 7:10-11, Romans 7:2-3, Matt 19:3-9. Jesus and Paul say if you divorce you stay that way as long as your spouse lives. It's till death. Blended families are not Biblical. Not my words but Jesus and Paul!
The Lord showed me the same thing sister. Have you given your testimony to cadz.net? I sing along with you as I am a singing woman to the Lord who wants to hear our voices in praises!!! Your voice is quite beautiful, and I invite you to come sing along with me on my videos. I put the lyrics in the description boxes for the songs that the Lord gives me. Jesus is coming!
the marriage is bound by those who have been saved in Jesus name. If one of the people in the marriage is not a believer, they should give a study to 1 Corinthians chapter 7. It talks about who is bound and who is not in such bondage.
777 God's Child your comments are both unbiblical and wrong. For adultery there is no exception clause found in Matthew 19:9. You have been deceived. Jesus Christ abolished divorce. No major text has the Greek word el in it. We know for sure Erasmus added that Greek in. For adultery forgiveness is the answer and if they refuse to repent separation is the answer which Paul speaks about in 1 Corinthians 7. The other lie people are told is about desertion for divorce. The Greek word for bondage found in 1 Corinthians 7:15 is completely different Greek word found in Romans 7:2-3. It is blasphemy to say Jesus Christ allowed divorce. Jesus Christ is God in human flesh and obeyed the complete law of God. Under the law, the death penalty was given for adultery. Remember when the Pharisees wanted to stone the woman who they brought to Jesus? Jesus said to her, go and sin no more. Pagans, unbelievers and the Pharisees believe in divorce because they have don’t have the spirit of God in them. Yes Pharisees believe in divorce for adultery. The church including pastors have made a mockery of marriage before the world. Only death and death alone breaks the marriage vows. Hosea 4:6 says my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge because you have rejected knowledge
777 God's Child unfortunately you don’t know the word of God and willing to obey it. This lady who posted this video has a wonderful testimony obeying God’s word. Very few Christians are willing to accept the truth on this matter of marriage. I will not respond any further to your comments.
Good advice! Hard to find proper interpretation. Began standing for my prodigal spouse last 4 years. Until then I remain as I am in obedience to God. Firmly and surely God has brought me on this path. Married 1977, Divorced by him 2019.
God bless you, thank you for your words, I did ask myself is this God's will for me .. I heard so many times I shoud remarry from Chritians ... I'm single for more then 20 years. The same thing, Lord said to me to stay single after I divorced twice, before I was saved in 2001. I decided not to marry again, despite of all kind of chalanges and tough days ..
These verses must be considered too, knowing purity is so important and not defiling the land. Though, praise God, we serve a forgiving God of mercy. Deuteronomy 24 “When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, 2 and if she goes and becomes another man's wife, 3 and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, 4 then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the Lord your God is giving you for an inheritance. And Jeremiah 3:1 God says, "If a husband divorces his wife And she goes from him And belongs to another man, Will he still return to her? Will not that land be completely polluted? But you are a harlot with many lovers; Yet you turn to Me," declares the LORD.
Thank you Reidun, for your honesty.....I was also married and divorced twice before knowing the Lord. If my first wife is deceased, am I open to marry again?
I lost my husband due to kidney failure 15 years ago.thou we have been married for 7 yrs ,we did not have a baby either..but I still cudnt get over the pain and move on. Jesus took care of me.God bless you.. from India.
I married a divorced man then learnt what God says about divorce and remarriage. Learning that our marriage wasnt a covenant marriage we separated and divorced. Can i marry knowing that i was never married into a covenant marriage in the first place?
Dear Sister in Christ you have absolutely have done the right. I praise Jesus and thank the Holy Spirit for leading you to this truth. Peace be with you, Brian Jay Wilson
Kingdom mann and Amanda Welch, We are not under the Law of Moses, but rather the Law of Christ. Moses only regulated the sinful practice of divorcing so as to Duet 24:4 "prevent polluting the Land". That is why Jesus always said "You have heard it said" (by Moses) "but I say". He was not contradicting Moses, Christ was correcting and bringing clarification of the misconstrued and misunderstood words of Moses being bandied about. That is why the Pharisee`s back tracked pretty fast when Jesus pressed them on what actually did Moses command? and they changed their words to "Permitted". There is vast difference from command to allow or permit.If you want to be under the Law of Moses, you might want to check your polyester cotton wool mix wardrobe Duet 22:11I found out the truth of MDR after 20 yrs of sitting in Pentecostal so called "Spirit filled" churches and have now been 30 yrs single having married a divorced woman and being separated from it 6 mths Prior to my conversion. I thank God He stopped me many times from remarriage attempts before I knew the truth of remarriage adultery. But don't take my words or any mans but as the Bereans "search the scriptures to see it be so" Of course if were not open to correction we will only hear what we already believe.God continue to bless Reidun and others for your faithfulness to the gospel it will not go unrewarded both here and in the kingdom to come.
Thank you so much for speaking about this since it is not taught in most churches. I only want to believe what is in scripture. God bless you richly! ❤
Why is remarriage adultery? because the one with whom you made a covenant of marriage is until physical death and not spiritual death, and those who do this will be separated from God forever Matthew chapter 19 verse 8 and 9
I have been married two times as well and entered into a long term relationship and it recently broke off and i am convicted i have committed adultery may GOD forgive me in JESUS CHRIST HOLY NAME AMEN 🙏i will remain single until GOD shows me the way
If ypu divorced your second husband then your in adultrey. Duet 24:1-4 states you cant go back to your first husband. 1 cor 7:27 says you havent sinned with your new marriage.
This is relational and this transends the law. Just like the moral law does. The marriage covenant isnt just mosiac it transends and continues the the NT. Hence why there are exceptions in the New Covenant.
@@BiblicalAuthority1611 There is No exception. Except for Fornication was written to Jews. Mark and Luke has NO exceptions divorce and remarriage if spouse is not dead is continous adultery. Jesus came he is for forgiveness and reconciliation. Believe it or Not.Good luck
Jesus according to Matthew 5 gave exception on the grounds of fornication. 1 corinthians 7:27 says that the man who is divorced and remarried hasnt sinned. From old to NT hasn't changed. Hence why you will never see it done away with the NT.
In Deuteronomy it states 1. `When a man doth take a wife, and hath married her, and it hath been, if she doth not find grace in his eyes (for he hath found in her nakedness of anything), and he hath written for her a writing of divorce, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house, 2. and she hath gone out of his house, and hath gone and been another man`s, 3. and the latter man hath hated her, and written for her a writing of divorce, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house, or when the latter man dieth, who hath taken her to himself for a wife: 4. `Her former husband who sent her away is not able to turn back to take her to be to him for a wife, after that she hath become defiled; for an abomination it [is] before Jehovah, and thou dost not cause the land to sin which Jehovah thy God is giving to thee -- an inheritance. (Deuteronomy, 24)
You can separate but you cannot marry (or sleep with) someone else as long as your spouse is alive. If they commit adultery it doesn’t give you the right do the same, two wrongs don’t make a right
well sister very good and u r right but one lil err, go read Deuteronomy 24 and Romans 7. since u got married a second time u could not go back to your first husband, 1st Corinthians 7:10 only apply to you if u never got married a second then u could go back to ur first husband. but now that u are a single person divorce on paper but still spiritually married in the Lord until on of u dies u should apply Romans 12 to your life.keep up the good work, god bless. PS.but if god told u that u could go back to ur first husband who am I to say ur wrong.i just wanted to point out scripture too you.
misunderestood. You have to know why it is that the woman in Deuteronomy 24 cannot go back to her first husband. It is because he declared her defiled as part of the first divorce. Since he had declared her defiled, he could not take her back no matter the status of the 2nd marriage, if the husband be dead or just divorced.
Brother here the verse you mentioned explain why I deed an divorced man be woman should consider the only and legitimate marriage the one he/she had for as long as the partner lives, thus whatever life you can be in if married you can call it adulterous life and if not married then then you can pray for reconciliation . Romans 7:2 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.
Divorce and remarriage is a very sticky topic for many who has been divorced are remarried we must remember an approach this very carefully to those who unfortunately face a divorce it is a painful ugly situation you know people don't like to talk about what happened why it happened because it brings back bad memories I have my own situation I won't get into details because you got too many people out there that will make you feel worse then you already do so if you never been in a divorce situation please approach the individuals that has with love and don't bash them making them feel like crap
the Bible also says that you cannot marry your first husband again if you have gotten married to a second person and defile your body so you could not have gone back to your first husband either unless you didn't get married and he didn't get married so if you going to get on here and talk about the Bible you have to know everything
It doesn't say what the indecent thing is, but it surely cannot be that she wasn't a virgin, because in that case she would have been stoned. (Deut. 22:13-21).
@@PerleenK no grounds in the Bible support that you cannot go back to your legitimate husband however the Bible says that if you're divorced then whatever marriage you can go into isn't a marriage but an adulterous life thus upon hearing God's word you must obey and divorce regardless of the situation or position of your first and legitimate husband. However if you both reconcile then you can stay together as husband and wife.
I won't deny, I am thankful for God's word. Just feel a little discouraged because I wanted to be married but sadly too many are divorced now so my chances are slim to nill
All Glory to Almighty God in Christ Jesus' name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen. May Almighty God continue to Bless you and your precious family and ministry in Christ Jesus' name Amen.
First, the Jews taught that only man can divorce his wife. The State of Israel and Orthodox Jews have been teaching this almost exclusively since the Torah. But, no one has asked why did they teach 'only man' can initiate the divorce. Then after you have answered that question the next two come into play. Does those reasons mean anything to us Believers today? And can we see it taught by Jesus speaking about the Law and Paul to believers. Yes! Mark's account was written to what Jesus said in private and this gospel was written to the Gentiles (they already had women divorces the Jews did not). Paul said in 1 Cor. 7:10-11 a woman can not remarry after she separates from her husband (as it was not lawful according to the Jews for a woman to put away her husband according to Scripture). And this is why the later part of that verse in 1 Cor. 7:11b does not say the man must "remain unmarried or be reconciled to his wife." You can read my ebook for free at www.smashwords.com/books/view/664951
Mark.10:[11] And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall *put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.* [12] And *if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.*
I have prayed and tormenting my self over this very issue , being married and divorced twice. My first wife is still living. Thanks to your testimonies I know I must stay single . God Bless
Lord Jesus says : if you divorced your faithful wife, then you remarried another woman, you are in adultery, not in marriage (compare to Matt 5 :32a or 19 : 9a)
if you repent you hv to loose adulterous partner. and you can reconcile to your first wife if she remain unmarried (compare 1 Cor 7 : 11,39)
But if other man married your wife who divorced by you, that man is commiting adultery with her (compare Matt 5 :32b, Luke 16 : 18b). If both of them knew thats adulterous they hv to repent and hv to separate and live in unmarried. The man if he was single whn married your wife, he can remarried again but he marries a woman who never been married or virgin.
but your wife can not become your wife bcz she has been defiled, it mean she had sex with other man (compare Deutr 24 : 4)
But she and you become as brother and sister in Christ to serve Lord as long as lives. So fair.
Jesus says Except for sexual immorality, it means if your wife commits sex with other man, she has separated to you as wife, she has so defiled, she is not your wife no more. Whether she left you or you divorced her. Then you can remarry but you hv to marry a woman who never been married not divorced woman (compare to Matt 5 : 32)
@@evinevlin5124 no you can’t remarry. God told me. checkout this UA-cam channel ua-cam.com/video/OhP8fx4AEr8/v-deo.html
@@evinevlin5124 It is adultery if you divorce and marry another. If you dissolve the 2nd "marriage" then you can remarry your 1st spouse. And that is because the 1st marriage still stands. Or else the 2nd would not be called adultery. You are speaking verses from Deuteronomy. Are you living by everything in Deuteronomy? Should those committing adultery be stoned to death? Maybe they deserve that, but we are now to forgive. The old testament shows the seriousness of sin. Do we still practice an eye for an eye? No.
It is very hard... Have feelings for a divorced man... So what do I do...
@@deliaturner6086 I know, think of eternal lake of fire and crucify your flesh daily. Deny yourself and pick up your cross. Stop being reminded of them and stay busy. It helped me to help others for the Lord. The one exception for “divorce” in Matthew 19 was the word for single people. Not adultery, meaning the one allowance was before they became one flesh. The Jewish betrothal period as you can see in Matthew 1.. they were only betrothed and it said Joseph almost put away his betrothed wife...
The Lord also spoke this to me and I have been living single since my divorced. I have been very blessed to have my Lord as my husband. I will stay single for as long as my husband is alive.
Now that's righteousness! 😊 Keep growing...,
If you are Divorced, as long as you were the one put away, Jesus said you are released.
@@colorado353 but you must still stay single because in the eyes of God you are still married to your ex-spouse..🙏🙏🙏
@@theunveiledchristian6866 Jesus said if an unbeliever wants to go, you are to let them leave, and that you are no longer bound to them.(no longer married) It would do you good to check out my UA-cam channel and watch the in depth study on that. I will see if I still have it up. If it is not there I will have it up by this evening in a playlist that you can access. I will entitle the playlist "No longer bound" look for it later tonight.
@@theunveiledchristian6866 My ex spouse re-married anyway.
Thank you for your testimony. The Lord also showed me that divorce and remarriage when you have a living spouse is adultery.
fornication is outside of marriage
Adultery is within a marriage
According to God's word, once you have the signed document of Divorcement, it is ok to re-marry. It is only Adultery, if you are the one giving out the Divorce. The one who is put away is free to re-marry.
the person who steps out of the marriage for ANY reason is putting one self IN TO bondage which releases the partner to re marry
This too with us with God- spiritually
Though we can forfeit Him for any reason/s He remains free to unite Himself with those who will say yes to the dress and are born again thru Him by work of Holy spirit ❤
Adultery and falling out of love appears to be most common so too with man and God- idolatry and passion- first love as He says to state it
spiritually speaking those who profess Christ and are not born again are fornicators those in Christ and leave Him are idolaterers- putting some one or thing or both in His rightful place
@@mandycote5662 You are correct when you describe the English definitions for the words fornication and adultery. However, the English New Testament is a translation of the original New Testament which is written in Greek and because there are not always English words that are equivalent to Greek words, you must look at the Greek meaning of the word fornication. The Greek word for fornication is porneia. Porneia is a general term for any kind of sexual immorality and as such it includes adultery and fornication. When the word porneia is used in a sentence, you must also read that word in context. For example, if the sentence is only referring to never-married individuals engaging in porneia among themselves, then we know that those individuals are committing what we call in the English language fornication. Likewise, if we read that a married person is engaging in porneia, we know that that person is committing what we call in the English language adultery. I hope this helps.
Sister I am so blessed to hear more and more people having their eyes open to truth. More people need to speak out. God bless you.
I have been divorced since 1997. The Lord showed me this truth last year. Fortunately, I was not remarried. I will remain single happily as long as he is alive.
Praise the LORD! AMEN!
The CHURCH HAS FAILED US ALL on this topic. It is our responsibility to read and study GOD'S word for ourselves. I almost married again but THANK GOD I DID NOT. I would have truly married the devil himself🤯
I'm HAPPY to hear you got it like myself. I'm staying divorced/single as well & ENJOY MY PEACE & this abundant life in CHRIST🏆lol
God bless you for having the courage to share your testimony! I divorced my 2nd husband and had my name legally changed back to my covenant husband's last name in the divorce decree. I'm praying for the restoration of my covenant marriage. We have 3 adult daughters, a little granddaughter and a grandson due soon.
+CHERYL BRANCH Thank you so much! It took me a much longer time than it should to go out with this. Often the Lord has reminded me about this saying; Reidun you must go on UA-cam with your testimony about marriage divorce and remarriage. I believe it is His will to rise up many testimonies around the world on this. So thank you so much Cheryl for sharing your testimony. It was very good for me to read your feedback. May the Lord bless you in a huge way!
Bless you and all those you hope God will raise up to testify. My prayer since 1983: Lord, raise up faithful saints who speak the truth about love and forgiveness and marriage and ready hearts to hear and inquire and respond and obey. Move those in fornication and adultery to be so secure in You that they get out of their sin and wait on You for their own spouses. Thanks for healing and sealing those one flesh relationships, helping husbands and wives and children relate as You have designed and created us to do.
Thank you Don. And may the LORD bless you and yours.
I hope we can meet someday. I sent you a FB request. I am traveling with a friend from Florida and another from Jamaica encouraging people standing for the Permanency of Marriage. If you are ever in Washington State let me know. Love in Christ, Don
CHERYL BRANCH
You can't go back to your "covenant husband" after being married to another. (See Deut 24:1-4) I understand the desire to reconnect to the father of your children, but that's over. The legal name change is irrelevant.
Beautiful testimony. I to was married for 25 years and separated from my spouse the he divorced me.God showed me that through his word and his Spirit that he didn't recognize my divorce I was in a marriage covenant until that covenant was broken in death. I never remarried and in 2014 my husband passed away with me buy his side.Now I am free to remarry
Will I no.Jesus is my husband now I love him with everything that lies with in me.
U r so great
Linda Schlabach...How did GOD show you,that your divorce was wrong.
Your free to remarry a believer who's not divorced
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis divorce is wrong jesus the exception clause which permits divorce any other grounds is wrong.
According to barba studied 25 to 30 % of evangelicals are living in adulteress marriage but this is not preached inn churches any more
Sister, thank you for sharing your inspirational testimony. We cannot change the mind of others on this issue, but the Lord can; and that's why we need to testify that He has changed our mind and He can do the same for others. I'm fortunate, because the Lord changed the mind of my wife and I before we got married. So, we knew from the start that God was joining us together and therefore there was no going back. We will say a prayer for you and your husband.
+DanielJohn2300 Nothing is impossible for the LORD when it comes to open the eyes and minds to see the truth about marriage, divorce and remarraige. I pray that more will see the truth. Thanks for your comments. May the LORD bless you and your wife.
The Lord showed me the exact same thing. I have remained faithful to my vows though my husband divorced me and remarried in 2008. It is wonderful to know the Lord personally to have HIM be our husband. I pray for my husband, still wear my wedding rings and if God gives him repentance and a desire to reconcile, I will do that. Blessings to you and thanks for standing for the truth.
Thanks for your comments.. May the Lord bless you.
God is good. It has been two weeks since I commented and you responded today as I had just supported a brother for the first time who I found out about from the cadz.net web site. He has been working on the permanence view for 5 years with teaching pastors and divorce care ministers. Our commitment to truth is soon to be rewarded as Jesus will appear on the clouds with the trumpet call of God to carry up His bride. Maranatha!
Priase the Lord.
Question, is it permissible for you to remarry? Technically, him "marrying" another means he has committed fornication, which is grounds for divorce for the offended spouse. Also, the offended spouse is allowed to remarry if the marriage dissolved due to fornication.
Jess, I actually just received today three books that teach the truth of what the Bible says. It is NOT permissible for the divorced person (innocent or guilty) to remarry. I have a playlist of 48 videos teaching this (her video is there) and the three books are "Except for Fornication" (sex before any marriage) by Daniel Jennings, "Remarriage Is Adultery" by David Pawson and "Divorce and Remarriage: the Trojan Horse Within the Church" by Joseph Webb. Him remarrying is NOT a marriage but adultery as long as I am alive. If he were to repent, he would have to prove repentance by getting out of the adultery and going and sinning no more. Here are some great documents too: saveus.org/wp-content/uploads/marriage_divorce_remarriage_3-16.pdf www.danielrjennings.org/TheClearNewTestamentPassagesOnDivorceAndRemarriage.pdf
www.marriagedivorce.com/pdf/Adultery.pdf
It’s true that our Lord Jesus absolutely disapproved divorce and he qualifies remarriage as adultery. Also God hates divorce. However, we should bear in mind that GOD is aware that as human even as Christians we are never and will not be ever perfect in following His commands. We are not and will not be save by the works of our righteousness rather by the redeeming blood of Jesus through our faith in Christ. If we examine various Scriptures like: “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” Amos 3:3 NKJV will tell us that God understand that when 2 are not in agreement they can never work together and marriage requires a great effort of 2 people to make it work. And the truth and nothing but they truth, many at times 2 individuals mistakenly fall in the trap to enter into “Covenant of marriage” only to realize that both of them can not co-habit. Also Mathew 12:1-5 will teach us that God is not keen on using his law to trap our life into miserable and frustrated situation, rather that we may have any option to better welfare of our lives. In that Scripture Jesus said God is not more interested in Sacrifice but He is more interested in showing us His mercy. Jesus warned those “Holier than thou” Christians who were too rigid with the law over their fellow Christian not to condemn the innocent. This teaches me that no matter where I have fallen and the state of sin I found myself, I don’t have to give up in believing in the salvation of God, his forgiveness and mercy which he obtained for everyone on the cross the Scripture said: “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.” I John 1:8-10 & 2:1-2 NKJV. In this context, if you’re a Christian who have divorced and you’re convinced that you can never be in agreement with your ex and you need to move your life on in getting married with someone else you feel you’re in agreement with and especially for the sake of companionship and avoiding sexual immorality/perverseness you go ahead with your life in getting into the new life of new marriage. But however, always recognize your state of sinfulness before God and keep asking in quietness for God’s forgiveness and mercy. You can draw your inspiration from the scripture: “Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men-extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14 NKJV
There are many so called perfect holier than thou Christian marriages where abuse of all sort is going on, hatred and malice are order of the day, no form of love going on in that marriage and every part of that marriage is absolutely miserable. Yet when they come out in public they pretend to the public they’re in perfect marriage. Some marriages their sex life is death even when both parties still burns in sexual passions; many a times their unsincereness and pretends lead them to secret marital affairs in search for sexual fulfillment outside marriage. I believe God wants us to present ourselves to Him just as we’re, no matter how weak and state of sin we found ourselves: “Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the LORD, “Though your sins are like scarlet, They shall be as white as snow; Though they are red like crimson, They shall be as wool.” Isaiah 1:18 NKJV and “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV. Jesus law is not intended to make life so miserable for us His disciples.
Finally as Christians we should try as much as possible not to fall victim of our Lord Jesus parable about judging others: “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:3-5 NKJV. I have come to a total conviction that at least in this present generation of Christians and church leaders, you can never or at least rarely find any perfect follower of our Lord Jesus that keep His commandments of His word to the last letter. For instance how many of gospel preachers including those judging and condemning the remarried brethren here, will be bold to prove that they have kept the command of our Lord Jesus that said: “Jesus said to him, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell what you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.” Matthew 19:21 NKJV. Also Holy Spirit commanded Christians: “Now the multitude of those who believed were of one heart and one soul; neither did anyone say that any of the things he possessed was his own, but they had all things in common. Nor was there anyone among them who lacked; for all who were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the proceeds of the things that were sold, and laid them at the apostles’ feet; and they distributed to each as anyone had need.” Acts 4:32, 34-35 NKJV. Is there any Christian or bible preacher who can be so righteous to disclose how much wealth he has to his/her fellow Christian talk less to sell all his/her possessions in order to share with those that don’t have. Do you know this is a permanent state of sinfulness that has potential to attract dead? Yet mercy of God is reigning over as many as accept Jesus as their Lord and personal savior.
I will conclude this episode with this scripture: “But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. And on some have compassion, making a distinction; but others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire, hating even the garment defiled by the flesh. Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, And to present you faultless Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, To God our Savior, Who alone is wise, Be glory and majesty, Dominion and power, Both now and forever. Amen.”Jude 1:20-25 NKJV. I will like to state that no one goes into marriage just for the. Sake of child’s play. Most people goes into it with genuine intention but however only to realize that their human limitations have let them down again - they realize the incompatibility of their partner too late after marital covenant. Also I will like brethren to not to forget that incompatibility in marriage have lead to many disastrous situations in relationship where the wife or husband kills their partner in a bid to be set free from that relationship. All sort of allegations went on in the relationship and so many wickedness that went on in that relationship. Many at times the only way to establish peace between 2 people is separation and divorce, we should not forget that God calls us for a life of peace. In the Jude verse above we can see and understand that as Christians it’s God that keeps us from stumbling and faultless.
Disclaimer: I do not in anyway expressly endorsed that divorce and remarriage is the best for any couple going through challenges in their relationship especially when it has to be a matter of forgiveness, God expect us to forgive one another. However, when misunderstanding between 2 peolpe in marriage becomes life threatening and the foundation of that relationship-Trust is destroyed then divorce can be a remedy for the 2. But they should bear the consequences of bearing the title adulterous if this is the case. But thanks to the blood of Jesus who saves us from all sin even from adulterous sinful state. Many at times bible preachers preach from their personal emotions not from the graceful emotions of our lord Jesus. This life can be very controversial and complicated in a dynamic and unique to individuals. God will always understand us with our unique challenges in our walk with Him. Put your absolute trust and hope on Him
God bless you all!
So what u are saying is even the homosexual who claims to accept Jesus can remain in that sin bcuz the sin has become white as snow...the murderer who claims to be saved can continue murdering. Well...it's all about our own feelings then. Humm.
Tony4 Jesus
This blessed my soul..
5am over here and I'm in tears. Thanks for the scriptures..
The only way JESUS frees us from sin is, when we stop commuting them, if a person is living in adultery , they are living in sin and has not repented period.
as long as we have the Holy Spirit we can overcome
The lord died to keep us from falling and to present us blameless, he can present us faultless, we can live above WILLFUL SIN, the lord requires OBEDIENCE, the lord wants us to flee the ways of this present world and follow him. People need to seek JESUS for themselves and follow him only. We're not save by work but by our works or fruits it shows whether or not we are born again. Works, fruits, shows whose you are and whose your master, if you serve yourself, you obey your flesh and the flesh is death.
but at least someone is talking about this issue because the church is is not teaching this and this is a very serious situation but once again thank you for sharing your story may God bless all of us and help us all in this situation as well
Thank you for Your comments. So glad to hear from others that understand the truth about remarriage. May the LORD bless you.
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I had to return here and watch you speak again this humble and true message sister. Grace and peace to you in the royal name of our Lord Jesus Christ. May God help you to be found worthy and blameless on the day our Lord returns to hear "Well done, good and faithful servant. Enter into the Kingdom of your Lord."
Great testimony ... and it's great because you are trying to walk in obedience to God's Word, and that's all that really matters. I realize it would be hard for most people to stay single after divorce, especially if they're the "marrying type," but the Lord's command should outweigh our feelings and desires. He will give grace in difficult circumstances!
After two marriages, I also discovered God's word on remarriage. I choose to live by His rules and not the rules of man. I will remain alone. I don't see any other way to interpret the scriptures. I don't consider this works. I consider it faith.
I am actually going through it right now! SEVERAL PREACHER HAVE TOLD ME IT OK!
BUT I FEELTHE HOLY SPIRIT LEADING ME OUT
Divorce and remarriage is adultery. The Bible says "Whosoever putteth
away his wife and marrieth another commiteth adultery and whosoever
marrieth her that is put away from her husband commiteth adultery" Luke
16:18. We can divorce under extreme circumstances but it doesn't say we
can remarry.
Put away and divorce are the same word in strongs concordance and are used interchangeably in Mat 5:32.
After they married strange wives after they returned from babylon they put them away in Nehemiah.
and you have never heard from the holyspirit as for confrimation or guidence through this scripture have you?
JOhn i know the bible talks about spiritual audultery.. i divorced my wife and she didn t commit sexual audulery but i feel that she did commit spiritual audultery. i can expalin this but wont unless u ask to know.
Michael Quintana not an excuse to divorce sorry.
too late it happened....my lady Donna has a heart for another man but we are friends still..and why are u sorry?
Natalie... so u never divorced????
Great job! My current testimony is that I wanted to recently Divorce and Remarry because things aren't working out with my wife of 8 1/2 and a child she had from wedlock that's troubled me. Honestly, I'm a backslidden Christian and never knew this about divorce and remarriage. When she cried one last time for divorce, I began seeking God's word. I started by looking at UA-cam videos to see if I could move forward with the divorce and get an ideal, but after seeing some videos and reading those scriptures on Divorce over and over again, I was disappointed because remarriage equals adultery. I even bought 2 books and I'm half way through one. I'm glad I did stumble upon seeking answers, because I would have easily pleased my happiness first to satisfy my flesh and not obey God. I was on my way of this terrible deception to commit Adultery. I thought I could remarry knowing others have done so. I know friends who are non-believers and believers who much rather go by civil law or change beliefs to justify being able to divorce and remarry. They don't care because they are caught up on humanistic ideals (carnal mind) that they can remarry based on Fornication-premarital sex (a Jewish law called betrothed that at that time no other culture did) and desertion (abandonment) that after a few years nullifies the marriage and considered as death, so supposedly you have God's approval. Plus, civil law that one can nullify the marriage within one year. I've been doing my best to convince myself that I can, because she had fornicated which I forgave her for, but she never got married. Boy, am I wrong, I married her and we became one flesh--till death. End of my story ..!!! Be careful don't fall to Satan's deception you can
I like you singing and God bless you for standing firm with what God showed you, obedience is better than sacrifice the Word says!
Thank you Linda. All the glory to Jesus!
Amen my sister. It is a very good thing that you are sharing this testimony, it will surely help many people. May God richly bless you and keep you strong, because you chose to do the right thing.
Amen sister for your obedience to The Word and to Jesus! Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you for your testimony, and for obeying the Word of God. Bless you.
Thank you for your comment, and may the LORD bless you too!
a good testimony....you read the scriptures and obeyed them....evidently many twist the scriptures to their own destruction...
Thank you. God bless you!
you are welcome...and the same back to you....
Claud Black I think it's people confusing people and deceiving people. He's the father of all lies. God does not lie in his word.
We all read scripture dipshit. The reformers read them and they loved God. But here we are...get off your fucking high horse.
God bless you sister. So few people are honest about this.
Thank you Grace. May the LORD bless you.
@@reidunfriestad3513 Was your first husband unfaithful to you?Was that the reason why you divorced him.Did GOD give you a Vision,Dream or an Encounter,to tell you that if you remarried,it would be adult Rey?Or are you just going by your interpretation of scriptures or how you feel in your heart.You said GOD told you the scriptures to go to.In what way did GOD tell you?Thanks for responding.
Thank you for being obedient. Your testimony will help others
THIS IS VERY TRUE FATHER PLEASE OPEN THE EYES OF OUR UNDERSTANDING.AMEN
AMEN. This is Truth.
Luke 16:18- "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another committs adultery: and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Thanks for sharing. It's also a warning to us, when preparing for wedlock. May God lead each person during the decision making period of spouse.
Beautiful testimony! So few are honoring God's word and will like this anymore. God bless you!💖
Completely agree with your testimony. Thank You! You are a blessing!
Glory be to God. I also got the revelation in the month of September. Let me just state that, every year since I walked close to God, I had a specific revelation. May His name be magnified for ever and ever. God loves us and He sees our hearts desires. 👑✝️👑
Thank you for your testimony. I found this to be true though the Word of God.
It's disheartening how most will never accept these things. Being that it's so difficult for some. We see this often in churches unfortunately.
LaToya Whitland And leaders preaching remarriage! It saddens me...
Most churches only care about their membership numbers, not preaching sound doctrine.
praise the Lord for your obedience and faithfulness.
I believe in the Covenant marriage. So although my husband divorced me and plans to marry another, I must live single until he dies.
It's a sad story and it hurts to think you ofto live the rest of your life single I cry every day
I am going through the something similar right now. I was about to marry again, but I felt a strong desire to do Daniel's fast and did it. During that time I think God spoke to me about remarriage not being an option in my case as I am divorced. I wasn't expecting to face something like being single for the rest of my life being 41 years old. However, I am feeling peace like never before and I also feel that I am growing in the relationship with the LORD.
What did GOD Actually show you , about divorce and remarriage?Thanks for responding back.
Same here for me. Living a free life in Jesus Christ
Same here, 43 and divorced. Hard pill to swallow thinking about being alone for the rest of my life but God’s Grace is sufficient and he will take care of us till he calls us home. ❤
It amazes me how many take the parts of scripture that suit them, but will not acknowledge how wicked the sinful act of divorce is! Paul spoke about divorce seemingly in a casual way. But the sin of divorcing and abandoning ones spouse after vowing an oath before God to another child of God is extremely serious. An individual upon marriage was promised and promised a lifelong oath of commitment. Yet some think that because they have merely in their eyes divorced, but are not living in an adulterous relationship, that they are now living in peace and forgiveness with God's blessing. Maybe in their minds they have soothed their conscience. But they are far from being relieved from the guilt of their wickedness. Not when another life or lives still remain in ruin because of the wicked act of divorce which they have inflicted on another. Where is their fruit in keeping with repentance! They have no fruit! They honor me with their lips but their hearts are far from me. And in that day they will say, have we not prophesied in your name and done great wonders. And I will say to them in that day, away from me you doers of evil!
No no no!!!! People arent scripture twisting on purpose. Look at all the testimonials from those who repentrd of an adulterous union via reamrriage. Almost all of them werre trying to follow Jesus but somehow had receieved wrong teaching along the way or even after studying themslevs had come to differnt conclusions WITH AN HONEST HEART only to have it reveaked later on in thier lives.
Im so sick of smug people like you who pretend that you have always knowm that remarriage is adultery. Most of the people i have met who believe this are "woke" from of it because of the internet. There are only two churches that preach this in my city of a million people. I have a degree in bibical studies and until i saw teaching by John Piper i had never hesrd this before.
@@meadowbrooks4041 let God be true and every man a liar! Gods holy scripture is truth. For someone who has a degree in biblical studies, it amazes me you didn't see clearly what scripture says? Romans 7:1-3 law of marriage? 1st Corinthians 7:39 what breaks the covenant of marriage? Mark and Luke clear understanding of divorce and remarriage?
If you go on any Christian date site the majority of women are divorced or separated. This is backwards to what it should be . Many pastors don't teach on this subject. Check out the UA-cam channel Christian divorce and remarriage. It's a great help on this subject. Glad you obeyed God in this area.
Praise God. A beautiful testimony, thank you for sharing. Now it's clear to me that God doesn't want me to marry a divorced man. I am a widow. God bless you sister ❤
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May the LORD open our eyes on the matter of marriage, divorce and remarriage where the first spouse is still alive.
Reidun Friestad
God would not command something that contradicts his Word. Deut 24:1-4 prohibits the return to a former husband after marriage to a latter. So the only husband you could be "reconciled" with is the second--if he is available (has not since been married) and is willing. Bear in mind that both your marriages took place before you came to the Lord, and 1 Cor 7 gives instruction to Christians. Hence, in your case, you have the option of returning to your second marriage, taking a third husband, or remaining single.
Reidun Friestad+ thanks for your testimony!
I have a question- I married (for the first time many years ago now), a man who was divorced.
I later divorced him.
So that does that mean I was never really married and I was actually just committing adultery?
Does that mean I can marry now, seeing my first marriage wasn't right in the eyes of God?
Kingdom Mann Christ explains why he allowed Moses to make that rule. It was the hardened hearts of mankind.
God doesn't even recognize divorce. It's a doctrine of demons, that he tolerated before the cross. The exception for divorce, does not make an exception for remarriage. Remarriage is adultery unless the spouse is dead.
@@cristinadriviera8144 it means you need to stay as you are if you can.
1 Co 7 explains this.
I too married a woman who was committing adultery, she had a child unwed with another man, had a child with him. I married her, grew in the word and she never did. 2015 - I came fully to the Lord. 2016 - she cheated on me. 2018 - as an unsaved believer, cheating on me she divorced me.
Now according to the word of the church today, I can get remarried. According to what I see in the Bible and the truth from the holy Spirit, I cannot get remarried.
Reidun Friestad amen to your words
wish more people in church were like you.
Thank you for sharing this! I will only say the Lord has spoken through your testimony!
Praise the Lord. So glad to hear that! May the Lord bless you in a huge way.
*John.8:[32] And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.*
Amen
Amen
I don't know what to do. I love my husband so much. He is the first man who has ever actually loved me and has been faithful to me. I don't want to lose Jesus over this thought but I don't feel like I have the strength to leave and crush my dear husband. I know we are called to die to self. This really feels like death to me. Please pray for us. We need help and clarity.
Kelli
Praying for you my sister.
I too am a product of divorce AND YOU ARE RIGHT IT FEELS LIKE DEATH!! I encourage you to seek God on your marriage, kill the background noise in your life and hear His voice. I remarried and am seeking truth on this issue. I'll keep you lifted as i ask you ttodo the same for me
It is hard to break up but the word of God will judge us. I am in the same situation and tonight I have made up my mind to come out of it. Eternity is a very long time to be wrong. Nothing is worth losing my soul. The word of God is settled in heaven and as much as I tried to fit in in my situation it remains the same.
Grace to you Kelli
How did Jesus explain the adultery of divorce and remarriage to Israel?
Did He change anything about the effectiveness of divorce and remarriage?
When one accepts the truth of WHO Jesus is speaking to and it’s relevance to them, they will then understand it’s retrospective applications to Israel historically. Jesus was revealing to Israel that they were committing adultery this way by prematurely ending their marriages. His only solution for this adultery was for them to stop separating the one-flesh union (Matthew 19:6). Once you understand this manner of adultery had been occurring throughout Old Testament history, you will understand Jesus’ reference to the beginning was to explain the “why” of that fact.
Jesus explained that marriage sets forth the responsibility to “cleave” or stay together (Matt. 19:5). Jesus revealed to His covenant people that by ending their marriages they were not “cleaving” thus transgressing the responsibility of sole devotion when they remarried. Divorce and remarriage is another way to commit adultery, but the end result was they had enter another marriage and forbidden to reconcile the former (Deuteronomy 24:4). The consequence that ensued did not negate the second marriage nor it’s responsibilities.
Grace to you Kelli
We find nowhere in scripture where marriage is said to survive divorce. The claim itself is a self contradiction. When Jesus speaks to this issue He is specifically speaking of a marriage being terminated. In Matthew 19 and Mark 10 Jesus made a counter argument (to the Pharisees question) from God’s creative design for marriage (Matthew 19:4-6, 8b). Jesus reminded the Pharisees that God created marriage in “the beginning” with the obligation of “cleaving” the idea of remaining together (Matthew 19:5). Jesus did not answer the Pharisees question (v.3) by appealing to the law, but rather by appealing to God’s original design for marriage. From that base point Jesus revealed the catch 22 of conceding divorce to them.
When Moses conceded divorce to hardhearted men he did so for peace sake, just like Paul in 1 Cor.7:15. When Jesus made a reference to this fact (Matthew 19:8) He was not criticizing Moses (as claimed by some), He was actually being critical of hard hearts that insisted on the right to put away their wives. Jesus’ following remark “but from the beginning it was not so” (8b) revealed to the Pharisees that divorce didn’t exist in the beginning and antithetical to “cleaving” or staying together (v.4-6). Proving to them that God's original design for marriage was for it to last till death. This masterfully exposed the calloused hearts of Israel for divorcing their wives and revealed to them that they were transgressing God’s design for marriage by ending it. To make matters worse Jesus revealed that divorce caused an inadvertent consequence for remarriage.
The counter argument Jesus made against divorce had nothing to do with denying it’s reality. There is NO “still married in God’s eyes” argument from Christ teaching (or anywhere in the bible). When Jesus is properly understood there is no difference in the outcome of divorce and remarriage from one Testament to the other. Divorce means the same thing throughout scripture and speaks to the premature dissolution of marriage. In like manner remarriage was an acknowledged marriage that had all the responsibilities of the first marriage. The catch 22 is divorce and remarriage terminates and forms another husband wife relationship which transgresses (in principle) the obligation of fidelity set forth by the first marriage. The simple truth Jesus revealed to Israel was that the obligation of exclusive intimacy is violated by terminating one marriage and entering another. Thus there is an inadvertent consequence to ending one marriage and graciously allowing another (Deut.24:2).
Women throughout the Old Testament were allowed to remarry if their husbands divorced them (Deut. 24:2). This is mutually understood by all views. When Jesus is properly understood we see that the catch 22 for the wife who was repudiated is that she transgressed the obligation of sole devotion because she was graciously allowed to remarry (Deut. 24:2). Just as importantly we should note that this way of committing adultery could be avoided if she hadn’t been repudiated in the first place (which was the point Jesus was making). Jesus never argued that these women were not actually divorced nor did He forbid remarriage. He merely revealed the paradox caused by accommodating hard hearts (Matthew 19:8) that failed to “cleave” to their wives (Matthew 19:5). Thus all parties end up violating God’s creative design of sole devotion.
The ONLY solution Jesus instructs centers around sustaining marriage. Jesus admonished the Pharisees not to put asunder the one-flesh union (Matthew 19:6). Stop separating the one-flesh union. That was the ONLY remedy given by Jesus. Everything Jesus said was in harmony with the historic reality of remarriage having all the obligations of the first marriage. He gave NO after remarriage remedy. Telling those remarried to divorce their present spouse is a made up solution by those who think the first husband wife relationship didn’t end “in God’s eyes”. This TOTALLY misconstrues the literal meaning of divorce spoken by Jesus. Their false suppositions creates a false remedy, destroys families, exacerbates divorce and multiplies transgressions. It is an evil all it’s own.
Grace to you Kelli
One thing to remember when discussing this issue is that all the views have a common goal of explaining how the adultery occurs or why it happens, but unfortunately with different explanations. When we understand that, we then can follow the logic or the reasoning process of that view, understand?
We can break down the explanation and compare it to the text itself to see if it is actually being faithful to the biblical narrative. Thus if the view doesn’t properly explain why adultery ensues it’s false, which in turn creates a false narrative that needs exposing.
When Jesus speaks to this issue He is explaining to Israel the inadvertent outcome of conceding divorce to them. He is literally describing what transpires by the first marriage NOT surviving. That’s His main point. There is NO ulterior motive as some seem to think. He was emphasizing the importance of staying married. Conversely He was not claiming “the first marriage survived”. He was literally explaining to the Pharisees what is caused by the first marriage NOT surviving (Matthew 19, Mark 10). This clearly differentiates between Jesus and “indissoluble marriage” Pastors.
The Pharisees wanted to know all the reasons for divorce (Matthew 19:3) to which Jesus countered by explaining what divorce causes, thus discouraging them from putting away their wives. In other words Jesus was actually explaining what will transpire if a marriage comes to a premature end (the VERY opposite of “indissoluble marriage” claims).
The "indissoluble marriage" view is built around the belief that marriage and/or the one-flesh union survives divorce. Some believe one or the other but most believe both. One Pastor puts it this way, “Marriage survives remarriage and precludes it”.
You can clearly see that they believe the first marriage doesn’t end and the second marriage is prevented. In this make believe world divorce and remarriage are “ineffective” events and not being understood as literally ending one marriage and constituting another. If you eliminate a literal divorce and remarriage from Jesus’ teaching you then have the first marriage still intact. Thus you have the adultery occurring within the first marriage, which is what they want others to believe. Of course if this was true then ending the “second relationship” would be correct. But all of this misconstrues the historic context of Jesus' teaching.
Conversely when you understand the history to which Jesus referred He is literally speaking of one marriage ending and another marriage constituted. Thus “their” interpretation inverts the VERY words of Christ and mass confusion ensues. It’s the VERY reason so much confusion exist on this subject. Try to explain that to them and they only dig in deeper. Follow all of their explanations and you go from one (false) supposition to another. It’s one long lengthy mess.
To properly interpret Jesus one must understand that all the factors He mentions literally transpired. That’s why I oppose any view that dismisses an actual divorce and remarriage. With all the factors as literal you have one marriage ending and another marriage constituted which causes one to commit adultery the way Jesus described. The adultery does NOT change the fact that one marriage has ended and another marriage constituted, understand? Those divorced and remarried should understand that they ARE married to their current husband/wife and NOT there former when Jesus is properly understood. Follow “indissoluble marriage” advocates and those remarried will think they are still married to their first spouse and not their present, totally backward!
Jesus criticism was NOT focused on the concession of divorce itself, but rather on the reason for the concession. Being what? Hardheartedness (Matthew 19:8). This is an important point of distinction. In other words Jesus was not criticizing Moses for the divorce concession itself (as claimed by indissoluble marriage advocates) but rather criticizing Israel who insisted on the right to put away their wives. Jesus did NOT prohibit remarriage not did He criticize it, He merely revealed the negative consequence divorce causes for it. Believing He had other motives only makes this issue more confusing .
Once you understand that “indissoluble marriage” Teachers (with all their derivatives) are actual inverting and thus complicating Christ teaching, something very complicated becomes something very basic and simple. The simple point Jesus made to the Pharisees was that “if” you don’t remain married a negative consequence will ensue in remarriage. Jesus explains this by appealing to God’s creative design for marriage from the beginning. Jesus referenced back to the origin to explain that marriage was ordained from the beginning for life. Thus the Old Testament divorce concession inadvertently causes obligations set forth by the first marriage to be transgressed.
Jesus is not arguing about the ineffectiveness of divorce, He was exposing to Israel the inadvertent consequence of prematurely ending a marriage.
These questions help frame Jesus’ counter argument to the Pharisees (Matthew 19, Mark 10).
* Do you believe God created marriage for life?
* Do you believe God designed the intimacy between husband and wife to be limited to them (exclusive)?
* What would transpire if God (because of man’s hard heart) allowed divorce and remarriage?
* Would that exclusivity be transgressed?
What you need to keep in mind is that Jesus did NOT fix the divorce dilemma, he appealed to hard hearts by admonishing them to stop separating the one-flesh union.
That’s as far as Jesus took it. False teaching takes it much further, understand?
Reidun, Thank you so much for your courage! I too, was in same boat and in the middle of fully repenting.
Bless you for making this video!
Also, is it possible you can make a Video singing Amazing Grace? It was Beautiful 😥
Great shall be your reward in heaven because of your practical obedience to God's word in this permissive generation you are blessed! Keep running the race perfectly Ma.
This is so sweet, pure romance actually. It’s easy to be faithful in good times but love endures all things. And God’s covenant is everlasting and unbreakable even by sin, that’s what makes part of what makes the marriage covenant so beautiful. I pray that I will always be content being single, because being married does not mean that you won’t be alone. Although we are really never truly alone as long as Christ lives in us.
Question to all who watched/commented...do you consider watching pornography grounds for divorce? Since scripture says to look at another woman with lust you commit adultery in your heart?
No. Even cheating is not. Better to forgive. If possible. But if the women left you for another man that she marries you can't be with her again because she is commiting adultery if she sleeps with him or you. So she must remain single. If she sleeps with another man you should forgive her as in Hosea.
PTL for your humble ,teachable spirit. i am in exactly the same position as you except that my legitimate marriage covenant spouse died.God does not contradict His word and scripture interprets scripture. )we dont hear teaching on this important subject as there are many pastors in a remarriage and so cant teach the truth as they are in adulterous remarriages. we have a responsibility individually to find the truth not to look to pastors or anyone. The truth is in the Bible.if we have a heart for God and to be His disciples we will obey Him. there are others with testimonies how God showed them they had remarried unbiblically. some even Pastors. yes even if one is in an abusive marriage. God knows our human failings and what we are experiencing. 1 corinthians 7 v 10,1. a spouse is to separate but pray for their wayward and sinning spouse, no matter how long, in the hope that they will repent and be reconciled and have their covenant marriages restored, on a godly foundation. there are many testimonies of such marriages being restored. see rejoiceministries website.
Thank you Eddie for your wonderful comments. I pray that the LORD will bless you in a huge way now in 2017. And may the LORD show His truth about divorce and remarriage to many more in this new year we just entered.
Eddie1952 not everyone who has been through a divorce HAS to go back to their spouse. sometimes that's not always the best option depending on the reason habitual adultery unfaithfulness and or abuse. sometimes we need to encourage people who are remaining single too not just reconcile
Eddie1952 or maybe they just simply don't want to be back with them. two options remain single or reconcile
Amen sister!
This happened to me as well and I listened to the Holy Spirit and obeyed.
Praise God
What a great faith. Thank you for sharing. When we are faithful...we are not alone.
Thank you. May the LORD bless you.
Is there any sin that can't be cleansed by the Precious Blood of Jesus Christ?
Amen, people need to know that remarriage is as good as adultery. I feel sorry for young girls or boys who have never married and then enter a marriage with a divorced person. Their first marriage basically is a sin that could take them to hell and they can never marry again after that.
praise God sister showed me it too
+Dante Yates THANK YOU. Glad to hear. May the LORD bless you.
Nevi im Kethuvim,In what way did GOD show you that you was in adultery because of divorce and remarriage?Was it through a dream,vision,emcounter,or just by your interpretation of HIS Word?Thanks for responding.
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis wouldn’t let me edit but the first thing I prayed was “I just want to be loved”... typo. Since I left and fully obeyed... He has been showing me what those greater plans seem to be that are coming. I’ve had manny many more experiences with God both before and after this. Supernatural things still happen today.
I don't understand what you are saying.I was asking how did GOD Reveal to you that you were in adultery, through remarriage?Were you saved when you remarried?And did GOD use dream,vision, encounter or just HIS Word to Confirm these things to you.Thanks for responding back.
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis my reading of scripture is that adultery is when your bound to one throught the first covenant and married to another
I appreciate your heart, however you erred in remarrying your first husband according to the Bible. Deuteronomy is very clear on the Lord's feelings on such a matter. Even though this is under the Law of Moses, Moses states God's feelings. We see a situation where a man divorces his first wife. Whatever the reason, it isn't adultery because that was a stoning offense. In Deut. 24: 1-4, it says that he is not allowed to take back his first wife again once she has been remarried and divorced, "for that is an abomination before the Lord..." I don't mean to make you feel bad, but just to correct some bad theology. Even though you went against God's counsel for remarrying your first husband, that is forgivable just like any other sin and you may remain married and enjoy God's freedom, love and grace.
You quoted some verses from 1 Corinthians 7. It is always dangerous to just look at one isolated verse without considering all the passages on this issue. Paul certainly states the ideal, but as sinners we often break covenant with someone. There is an interesting passage in the same passage, vs. 27&28, "Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But if you marry, you have not sinned..." Paul realized that people do sin, makes mistakes, etc. When you committed adultery against your first husband, and were divorced, that severed that union. Paul didn't give the reason for the release, but if you find you're in that situation, "if you marry, you have not sinned." This answers a question that many ask today as well.
Notice the passage in John 4 where we see Jesus and the woman at the well. He recognized that she had had 5 husbands and the 6th man was not her husband. He acknowledged that she was married each time and with this last man, she was just living with him, and He offers her living water. He didn't turn on the interrogation light and question her about the 5 previous marriages and try to confirm who was at fault, etc. However, today, in many churches that happens. Or consider the famous passage in Matthew 5 where Jesus gives the example of a man divorcing his wife without adultery being the cause. It says that she becomes an adulteresses and the man she marries becomes an adulterer. But consider the entire text. Where does Christ put the blame? He places the blame on the cad who is doing the divorcing, not on the wife. It says, "he causes her..." Why then is she called an adulteresses woman at this point? At this point she had done nothing wrong...she was the victim. This is where our English translations fail us because of the difficulty of translating the Greek. Probably the best rendering is that she is "stigmatized as an adulterer and whoever she marries is stigmatized as an adulterer". In other words, to the outside world, it looks like she is the one who broke up the marriage and then the assumption is that the man she married was also responsible.
In the Old Testament, God through the prophet Ezra commanded divorce, for many of the Jews had married pagan wives and brought in pagan idolatry. God would certainly not command one to sin. But He did command that they divorce their wives without the cause of adultery. There is nothing in the passage to indicate that these men can't marry again and many of them did. There are so many more passages I could go into. I'm not trying to bring you down, it's just that I don't want your testimony to cause someone to violate Scripture or think they're beyond redemption and hope.
Some make divorce and remarriage even if unscriptural, to be the unpardonable sin. It is not. It is interesting that Paul wrote at the beginning of 1 Cor. 7, "...because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband..." He was writing to Christians who had been living a carnal life and were very worldly at one time and in some cases still were. In that group there had to be those released from a marriage for sinful reasons. Yet he would rather see them married than to be involved in numerous affairs.
When the author of this video quoted 1 Cor. 7:10-11, where it speaks of remaining unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband. Is he speaking of 1 year, 70 years? I think Paul allows us to use a bit of wisdom here. His major point is to give time to any decision to forever leave the union. In vs. 15 describing a union of a believer and non-believer, if the unbeliever leaves, the believing party is "no longer under bondage," to that marriage. Again covenant broken. In the previously quoted Matthew 5 passage, Jesus gave one type of reason for divorce, this doesn't mean there weren't others. He is highlighting one type of example. How about where a husband is beating his wife, almost to the point of death? Is she still bound to him? The legalist would say Yes. However, this husband is still breaking covenant with his wife.
The Father is in the redemption business. Many passages on divorce and remarriage have a Catholic influence in the translation that is often overlooked.
This is why personal testimonies are often so dangerous. I know of a woman where God revealed the exact opposite of what this woman experienced. I don't know if God spoke to either one. This doesn't mean that they both didn't believe that God spoke to them however. I believe that probably both woman, although, receiving different answers both sincerely believe that they heard from the Lord. That is why we test everything by Scripture.
Yes, God gives us the ideal of how things should be. But in our sinfulness, we often break covenants, sin, etc. God has a redemption plan in place for that. I rarely find that divorce is one-sided. One always talks of the "guilty party," but often there are different percentages of guilt on both sides. You never read in the Bible of an adulterous marriage. Certainly, Herod shouldn't have married his brother's wife because that was considered incest under the Law of Moses. This doesn't mean that a marriage wasn't created because of sin. You never read of the "guilty party," or "innocent party" in a marriage. With the exception of Ezra, you never read in the New Testament where someone is commanded to leave their current spouse because of it being an unlawful marriage. There is hope and redemption for both the unmarried and married.
No no
Amen.
HERESY
The counter argument Jesus made against liberal divorce had nothing to do with denying it’s reality. When Jesus is properly understood there is no difference in the outcome of divorce and remarriage from one Testament to the other. Divorce means the same thing throughout scripture and speaks to the dissolution of the marriage covenant. In like manner remarriage was an acknowledged marriage that had all the responsibilities of the first marriage. The catch 22 is divorce and remarriage terminates and then forms another husband wife relationship which transgresses (in principle) God's creative design for marriage. By Jesus referring to God’s original design (Matthew 19:4-6, 8b) we understand that marriage carries an obligation to be faithful to each the other for life. Fidelity for life is the idea. The simple truth Jesus revealed to Israel was that the obligation of exclusive devotion is violated by terminating one marriage and entering another.
Women throughout the Old Testament were allowed to remarry if their husbands divorced them (Deut. 24:2). This is mutually understood by all views. When Jesus is properly understood we see that the catch 22 for the wife who was repudiated is that she transgressed the obligation of sole devotion because she was graciously allowed to remarry (Deut. 24:2). Just as importantly we should note that this way of committing adultery could be avoided if she hadn’t been repudiated in the first place (which was the point Jesus was making). He never argued that these women were not actually divorced nor did He forbid remarriage. He merely revealed the paradox caused by accommodating hard hearts (Matthew 19:8) that failed to “cleave” to their wives (Matthew 19:5). Thus all parties end up violating God’s creative design of sole devotion.
The ONLY solution Jesus instructs centers around sustaining marriage. Jesus admonished the Pharisees to not put asunder the one-flesh union (Matthew 19:6). Stop divorcing, stop separating the one-flesh union. That was the ONLY remedy given by Jesus. Everything Jesus said was in harmony with the historic reality of remarriage having all the obligations of the first marriage. He gave NO after remarriage remedy. Telling those remarried to divorce their present spouse is a made up solution by those who think the first husband wife relationship was not dissolved. Their false suppositions creates a false remedy, destroys families, exacerbates divorce and multiplies transgressions. It is an evil all it’s own.
Most beautiful Testimony in the world
Great testimony. Thank you for sharing. Be blessed
God bless you sister. So many people ignore the scriptures, twist them, or use non-relevant scripture, in order to create and excuse to remarry. I have been single for many years and find that every year I grow ever closer to the Lord. I'm content to live as a single woman, but would like to be reunited with my husband. Unfortunately, he remarried many years ago. He has been living in remarriage adultery all this time, but doesn't realize it. He believes he is bound to her in "covenant marriage" and has no right to leave her. He isn't happy, though, and feels empty because he believes he should have stayed with me (it was my parents who separated us because they felt I was too young to be married). He left at the time but never forgot about me or our son, and still loves me. He told me three years ago when we talked briefly, that he wishes we were together, but that it's too late because when he remarried it was by a preacher and that their marriage was a "covenant marriage" that he has no right to break. His pastors, counselors, her family and friends, have convinced him that's there's no way out for him and that he must honor his marriage vows. It doesn't matter that it's a second marriage for them both and that they have no children together. If he even talks to me, they say he's breaking his "covenant" marriage vows. When we found each other and tried to establish communication with each other again for our son and grandchildren's sake, the whole church came against him for even speaking to me, and their pastors took him aside and told him that he was to have "no contact" with me, ever! Not even concerning our children... I was seen as being the "other woman" who was causing him to sin just by speaking with me. I am praying that the Lord will give me an to talk with him; to tell him the truth of God's Word, and that he and I are the one's who are married in God's eyes, not he and his second wife... But I cannot communicate with him except through notes sent back and forth occasionally through our son, because he's being watched all the time. I love this man... He is my husband, the father of my son and grandchildren. We are a part of each other and we still love each other, but the church is keeping us apart. What is also heartbreaking is that our son, whose wife left him and their children, really need us. Please pray for us, Reidun; especially that his eyes will be opened to the truth of the Scriptures, and that he will see through the lie of "covenant remarriage." I will pray for you too, my sister. In Christ, Kathryn. His name is Mike by the way.
Thanks Kathryn. May the Lord bless you in a huge way.. I have been slow to respond because I have worked a lot and also just published my first book THE SONG IN MY HEART; ARISE AND SHINE as a eBook on Amazon. It has received five great reviews so far. All the glory to the Lord. I have prayed for you and your covenant husband Mike.
Reidun, thank you for your reply... I very much appreciate your time and your prayers. I, too, am a writer. Therefore, I understand how much time writing takes, and especially when you also have to work a job aside from your writing. It's not easy! I am currently working on a thesis of which the research alone takes up many hours in a day, but I do enjoy it. I just ordered your book in paperback, by the way, and I'm looking forward to reading it. I'll update you once I've finished. God bless you sister, Kathryn
moonlite.. Thank you for the website! I perused it and read the testimony of Sondra and Andy. I cant wait to read more. I will pray for you as well. God bless you sister, Kathryn
Thank you for sharing that you have ordered my new book THE SONG IN MY HEART: ARISE AND SHINE. May the Lord bless you when you read it. And I am so glad to hear that you are a writer too. Thanks for sharing that too. Wishing you all the best for 2018
KaKel53 I will pray for him and you. He has to know that he has to Follow God and not man. He has to know through the word of God he is living in adultery. His pastor is keeping him bound in adultery. Who is he going to listen to men or God. God bless. I will pray God will deliver and set him free.
Thank you for sharing the Truth and Gospel Of Lord Jesus Christ. The truth is we must not divorce our spouse under any circumstances we must must everything through the will and the grace of Lord Jesus Christ to heal and reconcile with our spouse, if one of the spouses is committing adultery or cheating in the relationship be the example of Christ in their life, because you could make them repent and bring them unto Christ, be an example of Jesus Christ in the life of your spouse if does not believe in Lord Jesus Christ. every soul is very important to Lord Jesus Christ.
Please I need pray for My friend she's in her second marriage :( she wants to get out but she's staying because he pays the bills. Please can someone help me lead her to get help for her and her children
Amazing grace
How sweet the sound
That saved a wretch like me
I once was lost but
Now I'm found
Was blind but now I see.
Mine left me for his mistress 23 years ago. We were married 20 years and had 3 children. He wanted the divorce I didn't. I had no money to contest it. I remarried 7 years ago. We are now parting ways. I truly love him but I feel we aren't married. I'm so very sad. Was I free to remarry? My first husband left the Lord and me.
Marriage is for life, till death to you part. You cannot remarry while your first spouse is alive. Matt 19:9 say except for fornication meaning the betrothal period. Luke 16:18 , Mark 10:2-12, 1 Cor 7:10-11, Romans 7:2-3, Matt 19:3-9. Jesus and Paul say if you divorce you stay that way as long as your spouse lives. It's till death. Blended families are not Biblical. Not my words but Jesus and Paul!
The Lord showed me the same thing sister. Have you given your testimony to cadz.net? I sing along with you as I am a singing woman to the Lord who wants to hear our voices in praises!!! Your voice is quite beautiful, and I invite you to come sing along with me on my videos. I put the lyrics in the description boxes for the songs that the Lord gives me. Jesus is coming!
You have a beautiful voice. God bless you. ❤
You are so Blessed my sister! thank you for your testimony!! God 's Grace remain upon you!
Well spoken, all according to the word of God. God bless you
God bless you sister and thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much. Appreciate your comments. Be blessed!
the marriage is bound by those who have been saved in Jesus name. If one of the people in the marriage is not a believer, they should give a study to 1 Corinthians chapter 7. It talks about who is bound and who is not in such bondage.
bigbapester you have to keep reading! Go down to verses 39 & 40 of 1 Corinthians 7
777 God's Child your comments are both unbiblical and wrong. For adultery there is no exception clause found in Matthew 19:9. You have been deceived. Jesus Christ abolished divorce. No major text has the Greek word el in it. We know for sure Erasmus added that Greek in. For adultery forgiveness is the answer and if they refuse to repent separation is the answer which Paul speaks about in 1 Corinthians 7. The other lie people are told is about desertion for divorce. The Greek word for bondage found in 1 Corinthians 7:15 is completely different Greek word found in Romans 7:2-3. It is blasphemy to say Jesus Christ allowed divorce. Jesus Christ is God in human flesh and obeyed the complete law of God. Under the law, the death penalty was given for adultery. Remember when the Pharisees wanted to stone the woman who they brought to Jesus? Jesus said to her, go and sin no more. Pagans, unbelievers and the Pharisees believe in divorce because they have don’t have the spirit of God in them. Yes Pharisees believe in divorce for adultery. The church including pastors have made a mockery of marriage before the world. Only death and death alone breaks the marriage vows. Hosea 4:6 says my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge because you have rejected knowledge
777 God's Child unfortunately you don’t know the word of God and willing to obey it. This lady who posted this video has a wonderful testimony obeying God’s word. Very few Christians are willing to accept the truth on this matter of marriage. I will not respond any further to your comments.
Good advice! Hard to find proper interpretation. Began standing for my prodigal spouse last 4 years.
Until then I remain as I am in obedience to God. Firmly and surely God has brought me on this path. Married 1977, Divorced by him 2019.
Update?
Aug 28, 2020: Thanks for the lovely song and your story. Blessings, Kate
God bless you, thank you for your words, I did ask myself is this God's will for me .. I heard so many times I shoud remarry from Chritians ... I'm single for more then 20 years. The same thing, Lord said to me to stay single after I divorced twice, before I was saved in 2001. I decided not to marry again, despite of all kind of chalanges and tough days ..
These verses must be considered too, knowing purity is so important and not defiling the land. Though, praise God, we serve a forgiving God of mercy.
Deuteronomy 24 “When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, 2 and if she goes and becomes another man's wife, 3 and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, 4 then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the Lord your God is giving you for an inheritance.
And Jeremiah 3:1 God says, "If a husband divorces his wife And she goes from him And belongs to another man, Will he still return to her? Will not that land be completely polluted? But you are a harlot with many lovers; Yet you turn to Me," declares the LORD.
Thank you for your courage to tell the truth. God bless you sister!
May the LORD bless you in a huge way
Thank you Reidun, for your honesty.....I was also married and divorced twice before knowing the Lord. If my first wife is deceased, am I open to marry again?
Yes,if you first wife is deceased,then you cam remarry,again.Death seperated the one union marriage.GOD BLESS.
I lost my husband due to kidney failure 15 years ago.thou we have been married for 7 yrs ,we did not have a baby either..but I still cudnt get over the pain and move on. Jesus took care of me.God bless you.. from India.
I married a divorced man then learnt what God says about divorce and remarriage. Learning that our marriage wasnt a covenant marriage we separated and divorced. Can i marry knowing that i was never married into a covenant marriage in the first place?
Dear Sister in Christ you have absolutely have done the right. I praise Jesus and thank the Holy Spirit for leading you to this truth.
Peace be with you,
Brian Jay Wilson
Now Jesus is your friend, your life, and everything
Kingdom mann and Amanda Welch, We are not under the Law of Moses, but rather the Law of Christ. Moses only regulated the sinful practice of divorcing so as to Duet 24:4 "prevent polluting the Land". That is why Jesus always said "You have heard it said" (by Moses) "but I say". He was not contradicting Moses, Christ was correcting and bringing clarification of the misconstrued and misunderstood words of Moses being bandied about. That is why the Pharisee`s back tracked pretty fast when Jesus pressed them on what actually did Moses command? and they changed their words to "Permitted". There is vast difference from command to allow or permit.If you want to be under the Law of Moses, you might want to check your polyester cotton wool mix wardrobe Duet 22:11I found out the truth of MDR after 20 yrs of sitting in Pentecostal so called "Spirit filled" churches and have now been 30 yrs single having married a divorced woman and being separated from it 6 mths Prior to my conversion. I thank God He stopped me many times from remarriage attempts before I knew the truth of remarriage adultery. But don't take my words or any mans but as the Bereans "search the scriptures to see it be so" Of course if were not open to correction we will only hear what we already believe.God continue to bless Reidun and others for your faithfulness to the gospel it will not go unrewarded both here and in the kingdom to come.
Thank you. May the Lord bless you and all yours. All the glory to the Lord.
Thank you so much for speaking about this since it is not taught in most churches. I only want to believe what is in scripture. God bless you richly! ❤
Why is remarriage adultery? because the one with whom you made a covenant of marriage is until physical death and not spiritual death, and those who do this will be separated from God forever Matthew chapter 19 verse 8 and 9
You are such a sweet and gentle sister in the Lord 💟
This testimony is based on scriptural law
I have been married two times as well and entered into a long term relationship and it recently broke off and i am convicted i have committed adultery may GOD forgive me in JESUS CHRIST HOLY NAME AMEN 🙏i will remain single until GOD shows me the way
God bless you for sharing this testimony. Abide in His love.
So much peace, that was beautiful.
If ypu divorced your second husband then your in adultrey. Duet 24:1-4 states you cant go back to your first husband. 1 cor 7:27 says you havent sinned with your new marriage.
False
We are Not under Mosaic Law.
This is relational and this transends the law. Just like the moral law does. The marriage covenant isnt just mosiac it transends and continues the the NT. Hence why there are exceptions in the New Covenant.
@@BiblicalAuthority1611 There is No exception. Except for Fornication was written to Jews. Mark and Luke has NO exceptions divorce and remarriage if spouse is not dead is continous adultery. Jesus came he is for forgiveness and reconciliation. Believe it or Not.Good luck
Jesus according to Matthew 5 gave exception on the grounds of fornication. 1 corinthians 7:27 says that the man who is divorced and remarried hasnt sinned. From old to NT hasn't changed. Hence why you will never see it done away with the NT.
In Deuteronomy it states
1. `When a man doth take a wife, and hath married her, and it hath been, if she doth not find grace in his eyes (for he hath found in her nakedness of anything), and he hath written for her a writing of divorce, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house,
2. and she hath gone out of his house, and hath gone and been another man`s,
3. and the latter man hath hated her, and written for her a writing of divorce, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house, or when the latter man dieth, who hath taken her to himself for a wife:
4. `Her former husband who sent her away is not able to turn back to take her to be to him for a wife, after that she hath become defiled; for an abomination it [is] before Jehovah, and thou dost not cause the land to sin which Jehovah thy God is giving to thee -- an inheritance.
(Deuteronomy, 24)
Thank you sister. Remain blessed
If past spouses were escalating any type of abuse , it is time to divorce and move on!
Your first husband cant take you back if you remarried.
That is not true..
What if it's infidelity and deseration?
You can separate but you cannot marry (or sleep with) someone else as long as your spouse is alive. If they commit adultery it doesn’t give you the right do the same, two wrongs don’t make a right
well sister very good and u r right but one lil err, go read Deuteronomy 24 and Romans 7. since u got married a second time u could not go back to your first husband, 1st Corinthians 7:10 only apply to you if u never got married a second then u could go back to ur first husband. but now that u are a single person divorce on paper but still spiritually married in the Lord until on of u dies u should apply Romans 12 to your life.keep up the good work, god bless.
PS.but if god told u that u could go back to ur first husband who am I to say ur wrong.i just wanted to point out scripture too you.
A. T. Good point very true
misunderestood. You have to know why it is that the woman in Deuteronomy 24 cannot go back to her first husband. It is because he declared her defiled as part of the first divorce. Since he had declared her defiled, he could not take her back no matter the status of the 2nd marriage, if the husband be dead or just divorced.
Brother here the verse you mentioned explain why I deed an divorced man be woman should consider the only and legitimate marriage the one he/she had for as long as the partner lives, thus whatever life you can be in if married you can call it adulterous life and if not married then then you can pray for reconciliation . Romans 7:2 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.
Divorce and remarriage is a very sticky topic for many who has been divorced are remarried we must remember an approach this very carefully to those who unfortunately face a divorce it is a painful ugly situation you know people don't like to talk about what happened why it happened because it brings back bad memories I have my own situation I won't get into details because you got too many people out there that will make you feel worse then you already do so if you never been in a divorce situation please approach the individuals that has with love and don't bash them making them feel like crap
Praise God for you!!! Blessings for this wondeful truth God has shown you! Enjoy your life with Christ on earth and in the world to come! :)
the Bible also says that you cannot marry your first husband again if you have gotten married to a second person and defile your body so you could not have gone back to your first husband either unless you didn't get married and he didn't get married so if you going to get on here and talk about the Bible you have to know everything
It doesn't say what the indecent thing is, but it surely cannot be that she wasn't a virgin, because in that case she would have been stoned. (Deut. 22:13-21).
Which bible said that you can not go back to your first marriage if if already married à second time? Just asking for my personal knowledge.
@@PerleenK no grounds in the Bible support that you cannot go back to your legitimate husband however the Bible says that if you're divorced then whatever marriage you can go into isn't a marriage but an adulterous life thus upon hearing God's word you must obey and divorce regardless of the situation or position of your first and legitimate husband. However if you both reconcile then you can stay together as husband and wife.
I love Jesus they are saying in reference to Deuteronomy 4.
I believe she can go back to the first husband
I won't deny, I am thankful for God's word. Just feel a little discouraged because I wanted to be married but sadly too many are divorced now so my chances are slim to nill
All Glory to Almighty God in Christ Jesus' name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen.
May Almighty God continue to Bless you and your precious family and ministry in Christ Jesus' name Amen.
First, the Jews taught that only man can divorce his wife. The State of Israel and Orthodox Jews have been teaching this almost exclusively since the Torah. But, no one has asked why did they teach 'only man' can initiate the divorce. Then after you have answered that question the next two come into play. Does those reasons mean anything to us Believers today? And can we see it taught by Jesus speaking about the Law and Paul to believers. Yes! Mark's account was written to what Jesus said in private and this gospel was written to the Gentiles (they already had women divorces the Jews did not). Paul said in 1 Cor. 7:10-11 a woman can not remarry after she separates from her husband (as it was not lawful according to the Jews for a woman to put away her husband according to Scripture). And this is why the later part of that verse in 1 Cor. 7:11b does not say the man must "remain unmarried or be reconciled to his wife." You can read my ebook for free at www.smashwords.com/books/view/664951
Mark.10:[11] And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall *put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.*
[12] And *if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.*