I’ve been a widower for over a year now, after 52 years with the wife of my youth, but these teachings are so encouraging to me for my single life of serving the Lord, and helping young married couples as I pass Alistair’s book on marriage to them. Thank you for these wonderful teachings!!!
I’m a woman in my fifties and the Lord KNOWS I fought against my divorce. I’m not lonely for the Lord sustains me in everything. My hands were tied when it came to the divorce which a judge granted him for I wouldn’t sign the papers. I don’t know why I hear these teachings on marriage because I KNOW what the Bible says regarding marriage. I’ve been divorced for six years and he’s been remarried (remarried three months after the divorce) now six years and happily he tells our children. I’m content alone and with my Savior. He’s been good to me. I’m not sure what the point is on this teaching when so many in church do not care and use His grace to excuse a divorce.
I think you succinctly put it. “Those in the church do not care”, I agree. Having programs like Divorce Care and not putting people out says it all. I’m glad you’ve moved beyond your unwanted divorce.
The problem is lawyers and judges think they can go above the Lords authority. People come before God,as a witness to marry. Then they go to court to get divorced hipocrates. WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN SEPERATE ALL THESE JUDGES AND LAWYERS.
My wife and I listened to Pastor Begg together for years. 2 years ago out of the blue my wife said she didnt want to be married anymore. I fought it. We went to pastoral counseling, she had her mind made up. There was no abuse, no major events to cause it. It's broken me completely. I'm divorced? I'm completely broken. I've been in ministry, I'm a pariah now as I'm divorced. I'm divorced? I can say it a hundred times over and it just sounds so crazy.
Praying now for you. DivorceCare is a program in many churches that may help you process the pain of it. So sorry. Life, it never goes as planned. Thankfully we can anchor ourselves in the unchanging character of the God in whose image we’ve been made. He will hold us fast.
@@brianschmidt9505 I'm sorry for your situation. My daughters are 18 and 19 so I didn't gave to deal with custody. That is hard. I will be praying for you.
@@deanmcdiarmid7068 less than a year ago, I went through my divorce with whom I thought to be the love of my life, she professed christianity, we were married by a Pastor before God, yet here I am, betrayed broken and alone, looking to the Lord Jesus Christ who is my rock and my salvation to guide me through the healing, and I pray the same for you brother, that His mercies be plentiful in your life, and, as he said to the Apostle Paul when asking for the thorn removal, His Grace is sufficient. God bless you brother.
Even as a non-believer, I really appreciate the disciplined study and the sermons that make sense of the Bible to understand it as a logical schematic for a moral life.
I'm so grateful that God is sovereign in every and any circumstance that we find ourselves in. Philippians 4 tells us to be contented in any circumstance. I am learning to be satisfied with Him. Jesus is so good!
I've long held that marriage vows, once spoken, are absolute. I also dread the thought of those marriages where one or both parents essentially forced their child(ren) to marry someone they did not want to.
Read 1st Corinthians 7 Brother and pray and seek the Lord Jesus Christ for a clear path going forward. There is an narrow allowance in scripture for separation but not divorce. Blessings to you Brother ill be praying for you and your family.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
Fornication is not the same as adultery when used in the same sentence. Once married, adultery is sex with anyone other than your covenant spouse. There is NO exception clause in Mark 10:1-12 or Luke 16:14-18. We are to forgive our spouse if they commit adultery and stay in the marriage. You are preaching about a "loophole" which is only in Matthew for FORNICATION because the Jews were married at the betrothal- betrothed husband and wife which is why Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary for FORNICATION. If you get divorced, you can't remarry unless the spouse dies, and sometimes you can pray for marriage reconciliation which is the command from the LORD in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 & 39. Romans 7:1-3 also says that divorce and remarriage is ongoing adultery and she is to be called an adulteress. Only death ends a covenant marriage or the rapture which is very soon.
Just a question: how do you think a man would find out that his wife wasn't a virgin anymore BEFORE the wedding night? I used to lean toward the betrothal view but it doesn't make sense since the husband would only discover that she wasn't a virgin anymore AFTER they got married. And in that case, under the law of Moses, she got stoned.
Regarding the "exception" As a pastor I am sure you are aware that Matthew was written directed to the Jews. We must look at the Jewish context that at the time when this was written to understsnd JESUS' intent. At that time it was Jewish custom to be betrothed, ie... engaged. Scriptures give Joseph and Mary as the example. They were betrothed...In that day the betrothal sealed the commitment prior to the marriage ceremony. When Joseph found that Mary was pregnant, he had it in his mind to "divorce" her privately. So, if we go to the Greek or to an accurate translation, specifically, KJV or Wycliff, we have to look at the intent of the meaning, 'accept for FORNICATION' (NOT 'marital unfaithfulness').. fornication is "before marriage" greek fornication= pornea / greek adultery=moicheuó ). So to conclude, it would be easy to understand, because of the time frame and Jewish culture of that day, that if you found the other to have committed fornication prior to the marriage ceremony, then yes, God would allow the Jewish people a "divorce" from the betrothal. This is fact and relevant only found in Matthew. Once married, it is marriage for life. If separated, the only option is to remain single or be reconciled....otherwise God says you are an adulterer... someone who would not enter heaven (1 Cor 6).
@@dustinhuie Seek the Lord... Once the Lord convinces you that you are violating His instruction, then you can move onto repentance... What are the 4 steps of repentance? The first is responsibility: We must recognize that we have done wrong. The second is regret: We must have true remorse for doing wrong and for the pain and problems we've caused. The third is resolve: We must be committed never to repeat the act regardless of the temptations or situation. What the bible says about repentance Please do a word study on repentance ...it is by prayer and seeking that the Lord, by the Holy Spirit, might convince you. I am convinced that the Lord, through His instructions in the Word, speaks clearly that we must turn from our sin and turn to God...this means to forsake your sin that leads to death. It is hard but sometimes obedience does come with a price. (But then again, there is nothing greater than being right with the Lord) Only the Lord can convince you as you seek His face...I'm praying for you brother/sister. God bless you.
I believe you have interpreted Matthew correctly. Most pastors and Bible teachers have Matthew's interpretation wrong, so giving allowance for divorce and remarriage. Once the gate of divorce is opened for adultery abandonment, it gets thrown wide open for every cause? This is not Gods plan for his children and does not line up with love and forgiveness?
And how would you discover that the other wasn't a virgin anymore BEFORE the wedding ceremony? Also, Jesus doesn't have 2 laws, one for the Jews and one for the Gentiles. And don't forget, the pharisees didn't aks about the betrothal time, they asked about DIVORCE in marriage. So if Jesus would have been speaking about the betrothal period, he would have said it. Fornication is more than just adultery (or pre-marital sex, for that matter), it includes ALL kinds of illicit sex.
I’ve been a widower for over a year now, after 52 years with the wife of my youth, but these teachings are so encouraging to me for my single life of serving the Lord, and helping young married couples as I pass Alistair’s book on marriage to them. Thank you for these wonderful teachings!!!
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I believe many, including myself, did not consider the vow as we should. I’m glad I never gave up and Alistair brings it home.
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Thank you pastor for always speaking Gods word, even when its not popular
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I’m a woman in my fifties and the Lord KNOWS I fought against my divorce. I’m not lonely for the Lord sustains me in everything. My hands were tied when it came to the divorce which a judge granted him for I wouldn’t sign the papers. I don’t know why I hear these teachings on marriage because I KNOW what the Bible says regarding marriage. I’ve been divorced for six years and he’s been remarried (remarried three months after the divorce) now six years and happily he tells our children. I’m content alone and with my Savior. He’s been good to me. I’m not sure what the point is on this teaching when so many in church do not care and use His grace to excuse a divorce.
I think you succinctly put it. “Those in the church do not care”, I agree. Having programs like Divorce Care and not putting people out says it all. I’m glad you’ve moved beyond your unwanted divorce.
@@sfsarj6877 You should talk to a pastor in person
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@@sfsarj6877 that’s good Sam, I wish you luck.
The problem is lawyers and judges think they can go above the Lords authority. People come before God,as a witness to marry. Then they go to court to get divorced hipocrates. WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN SEPERATE ALL THESE JUDGES AND LAWYERS.
My wife and I listened to Pastor Begg together for years. 2 years ago out of the blue my wife said she didnt want to be married anymore. I fought it. We went to pastoral counseling, she had her mind made up. There was no abuse, no major events to cause it. It's broken me completely. I'm divorced? I'm completely broken. I've been in ministry, I'm a pariah now as I'm divorced. I'm divorced? I can say it a hundred times over and it just sounds so crazy.
I’m sorry you are in this situation Dean. I am in the same situation with a custody battle as well. I will keep you in my prayers.
Praying now for you.
DivorceCare is a program in many churches that may help you process the pain of it.
So sorry. Life, it never goes as planned. Thankfully we can anchor ourselves in the unchanging character of the God in whose image we’ve been made. He will hold us fast.
Dean, My heart breaks for you and your wife. I have lifted you up before the Lord. God is able.
@@brianschmidt9505 I'm sorry for your situation. My daughters are 18 and 19 so I didn't gave to deal with custody. That is hard. I will be praying for you.
@@deanmcdiarmid7068 less than a year ago, I went through my divorce with whom I thought to be the love of my life, she professed christianity, we were married by a Pastor before God, yet here I am, betrayed broken and alone, looking to the Lord Jesus Christ who is my rock and my salvation to guide me through the healing, and I pray the same for you brother, that His mercies be plentiful in your life, and, as he said to the Apostle Paul when asking for the thorn removal, His Grace is sufficient. God bless you brother.
Even as a non-believer, I really appreciate the disciplined study and the sermons that make sense of the Bible to understand it as a logical schematic for a moral life.
I'm so grateful that God is sovereign in every and any circumstance that we find ourselves in. Philippians 4 tells us to be contented in any circumstance. I am learning to be satisfied with Him. Jesus is so good!
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The Lord is the Best husband, wife one can have .
I have been single, divorced, married and single is best Paul the apostle knew what he was saying 📖
I've long held that marriage vows, once spoken, are absolute. I also dread the thought of those marriages where one or both parents essentially forced their child(ren) to marry someone they did not want to.
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My wife crushed me. Robbed me physically for 17 years. Stole my spirit, and crushed my soul. Im so desparate to leave that it hurts.
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And I will pray for you as well. Our God can do anything !
Read 1st Corinthians 7 Brother and pray and seek the Lord Jesus Christ for a clear path going forward. There is an narrow allowance in scripture for separation but not divorce. Blessings to you Brother ill be praying for you and your family.
@@brianhemmert9394 Ive read it many many times. Thats why this is so tough. Appreciate the prayers.
Halfway through. Hope Alistair addresses infidility.
Nowhere in 1st Corinthians 7 does Paul address those who are divorced? Matthew , Mark and Luke address those who are divorced!
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
I would love to add my comment here but do not need anymore condemnation poured on me than I do myself. All I can say is "but God..."
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Fornication is not the same as adultery when used in the same sentence. Once married, adultery is sex with anyone other than your covenant spouse. There is NO exception clause in Mark 10:1-12 or Luke 16:14-18. We are to forgive our spouse if they commit adultery and stay in the marriage. You are preaching about a "loophole" which is only in Matthew for FORNICATION because the Jews were married at the betrothal- betrothed husband and wife which is why Joseph was going to DIVORCE Mary for FORNICATION. If you get divorced, you can't remarry unless the spouse dies, and sometimes you can pray for marriage reconciliation which is the command from the LORD in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 & 39. Romans 7:1-3 also says that divorce and remarriage is ongoing adultery and she is to be called an adulteress. Only death ends a covenant marriage or the rapture which is very soon.
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Just a question: how do you think a man would find out that his wife wasn't a virgin anymore BEFORE the wedding night? I used to lean toward the betrothal view but it doesn't make sense since the husband would only discover that she wasn't a virgin anymore AFTER they got married. And in that case, under the law of Moses, she got stoned.
Did you just say the Bible says to stay married after spouse commits adultery?
Sex is not a reason to marry what if a spouse becomes ill and can no longer have sexual relations?
Love the preaching may God bless you please stop the jokes
this one has the standard mis translation......of fornication, as sex, out of the marriage covenant, is adultery....
Regarding the "exception"
As a pastor I am sure you are aware that Matthew was written directed to the Jews. We must look at the Jewish context that at the time when this was written to understsnd JESUS' intent. At that time it was Jewish custom to be betrothed, ie... engaged.
Scriptures give Joseph and Mary as the example. They were betrothed...In that day the betrothal sealed the commitment prior to the marriage ceremony. When Joseph found that Mary was pregnant, he had it in his mind to "divorce" her privately. So, if we go to the Greek or to an accurate translation, specifically, KJV or Wycliff, we have to look at the intent of the meaning, 'accept for FORNICATION' (NOT 'marital unfaithfulness').. fornication is "before marriage" greek fornication= pornea / greek adultery=moicheuó ). So to conclude, it would be easy to understand, because of the time frame and Jewish culture of that day, that if you found the other to have committed fornication prior to the marriage ceremony, then yes, God would allow the Jewish people a "divorce" from the betrothal. This is fact and relevant only found in Matthew.
Once married, it is marriage for life. If separated, the only option is to remain single or be reconciled....otherwise God says you are an adulterer... someone who would not enter heaven (1 Cor 6).
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So what do people who have already remarried do? Do they divorce or remain married?
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Seek the Lord...
Once the Lord convinces you that you are violating His instruction, then you can move onto repentance...
What are the 4 steps of repentance?
The first is responsibility: We must recognize that we have done wrong. The second is regret: We must have true remorse for doing wrong and for the pain and problems we've caused. The third is resolve: We must be committed never to repeat the act regardless of the temptations or situation.
What the bible says about repentance
Please do a word study on repentance ...it is by prayer and seeking that the Lord, by the Holy Spirit, might convince you.
I am convinced that the Lord, through His instructions in the Word, speaks clearly that we must turn from our sin and turn to God...this means to forsake your sin that leads to death. It is hard but sometimes obedience does come with a price. (But then again, there is nothing greater than being right with the Lord) Only the Lord can convince you as you seek His face...I'm praying for you brother/sister. God bless you.
I believe you have interpreted Matthew correctly. Most pastors and Bible teachers have Matthew's interpretation wrong, so giving allowance for divorce and remarriage. Once the gate of divorce is opened for adultery abandonment, it gets thrown wide open for every cause? This is not Gods plan for his children and does not line up with love and forgiveness?
And how would you discover that the other wasn't a virgin anymore BEFORE the wedding ceremony? Also, Jesus doesn't have 2 laws, one for the Jews and one for the Gentiles. And don't forget, the pharisees didn't aks about the betrothal time, they asked about DIVORCE in marriage. So if Jesus would have been speaking about the betrothal period, he would have said it.
Fornication is more than just adultery (or pre-marital sex, for that matter), it includes ALL kinds of illicit sex.