Apparently I missed out the ISTJs (my bad). This is what I would have said: Acts of service and gift giving. "Introverted sensing can imbue gifts with sentimentality and deeper meaning."
@@arrok.3592 take a test on 16 personalities website, they also have a 5th letter added to the original 16 of myer briggs test making it 32 different types, also answer the questions in complete honesty. if youve taken the test 5 times and gotten 5 different results youve changed your answers a lot. another great thing 16 personalities website gives you is percentages. also if youve taken the test 5 times at significant intervals of time as in a few months to a few years apart, and answer all of the questions honestly, chances are your personality type has changed. it happens over time.
It's trooooooo. I would do for the people closest to me basically the same stuff I would do for just anyone - try and help them get their life sorted out in whatever way and then go home to my lil sanctuary. The best way to show me love is to send an occasional email or text and never phone lol
That is funny. I have an INTP friend and he will be like, "Okay I am done hanging out with you, so I am going to ask you to leave." And not like I did anything bad; he is just done socializing and wants to like read a book or play on his computer.
I am INTP and I tell my husband that all the time. He sometimes gets mad that I'm a misanthrope and usually don't want to hang out with his friends/family. I met your damn friend last week, why do I have to meet a totally different damn friend tomorrow??? But as I explain to him, HE is the chosen one. He should feel special that I chose him as my person. I didn't choose any extra people, so please don't bring your work bro here and expect me to talk to him. ;-P
Ah the joys of an INTP-INFJ relationship. I don't care about gifts and I hate having to think about what I want and even more what I should buy for somebody else. Luckily neither of us care in the slightest so no gifts exchanged between us even on birthdays or christmas or anniversaries, instead we just go to a cafe or dinner together or something simple but slightly out of the ordinary day.
I relate to this. I am an INFJ and my husband is INTP. We hardly ever buy gifts. One time my husband did sunrise me with a really well thought out book. It was well received. Because we give gifts so seldom it felt more meaningful. 😀
I am an INTP as well (single, but my dad is an INFJ) and we suffer the same thing lol. I actually stopped throwing parties and began asking for money and dinners out by the time I was 12 or 13 - and I only asked for PC parts and games since then - while my dad hates parties in general, and usually never asks for gifts ever - so he gets clothes. My ISFP brother is also similar in that respect.
We just disappear for no reason. When I was 17 one girl really liked me, messaged me all the time, but I ignored her, and I realized that she liked me only after years.
No. We know how to pick locks, at least figuratively. Which is why so many people are annoyed at us that they are waiting for months behind a door that has no scratches at the keyhole as indication that we even considered doing so.
@You'll never know me because this is the internet my grandma and one of my aunts are definitely isfj, they want to feed me all the time when I visit them lol
INTJ: acts of service, although you may not know that their plan has worked One of my friends was saying that she'd really like to hang out with everyone but it just seems like everyone has different schedules and are too busy. I called everyone out on their BS and planned a dinner together to disguise as a get together for graduation when in reality it was to have everyone together for her. To this day, she has no clue of such a successful plan. 😎😎😎
My INTJ friend (I am also an INTJ) was panicking about doing this thing for homework. So as she wrote it down on a white board, I secretly copied it on to a submittable format. She was very thankful when I said stop working, your work is already done.
wow. as an enfj, i would absolutely LOVE if someone did that for me. that's like quality time and effective communication ALL ROLLED INTO ONE. one birthday, my group of friends made a dance routine and surprise for me and i remember it to this day T_____T or when friends get together to get me a thoughtful gift WAOW ANYWAY, thank you for being so caring! i'm sure it is much appreciated!!!
INTJ, here. I had a girlfriend when I was studying abroad in Japan. My Japanese was not very good then, and she even told me that she was giving me a year to perfect the language or else she would break up with me. Unfortunately, my study abroad program ended after two months, I went back to my home country, and was subsequently dumped. As if our break up never happened, I spent an entire year studying Japanese on my own. Three years later, I can finally say that I can speak/read Japanese at a higher level than when I did during my study abroad, and had it not been for her, I wouldn't have achieved this skill. I did it all for her despite not having contacted her since our breakup. I still miss her pretty bad.
You should surprise her by texting her in Japanese, albeit risking maybe sounding/appearing creepy, but what do you have to loose? Maybe she thinking that you're weird or creepy as mentioned before but you could gain much more, well those are my 2 cents.
Thanks for the replies, everyone. As it turns out, a couple months after writing this comment, I got a happy birthday message from her. In that same message, she also wanted me to check out a project she was working on. I replied, she replied, and then we had a conversation. Neither of us mentioned the past; we just focused on the present. She even noticed my Japanese became significantly better, but I never told her why I kept studying. We sort of rekindled a relationship then, but after a few days of talking to her, I realized she wasn't my type and it would be foolish of me to miss her as a romantic partner any more. It still felt weird to talk to her even as a friend. I just wanted to move on, and I could sense she felt the same way, too. At long last, we had closure. Now I'm happy doing other things with my life, and I hope she's doing well, too.
I am an INFP with the same love language, too. This all stemmed from hearing my parents quarrel, criticize, and swear at each other. Childhood plays a huge role in what love language we have, I guess.
Accurate on INFJ ; I just want to add that when the door is slammed and our favourite person is at the same side with us , we'll go nowhere , it is like a trap.My friend used to tell me that he's trapped with me in endless discussions. xD
I am an INTJ and my husband is an ESFP-A. Our marriage was extremely rocky until we had marriage counseling. The counselor asked us about our personalities and we had no idea. He gave us the Briggs-Meyer test and it explained a lot. There has had to be a lot of compromise on both of our parts. He has learned to leave me alone and I have had to learn to engage in random human contact. In addition to touch he needs words of affirmation. We've both had to learn to navigate this trait. I've never needed affirmation, so his need for it is foreign and I don't see the point. However, I've learned to randomly tell him everyday that I appreciate what he does for us. We have learned how to communicate with other, and are very happy now.
This is one thing i really like about MBTI, well done you, for pulling this off, it is tough to just give someone words of affirmation, I guess why I am still single?
Mo, good job figuring it out, I can imagine that it'd be a challenge being married to an ESFP. I don't think I would've been able to handle an ESFP at all, at least not when I know there are ENFPs and INFJs out there (INTJ/INFJ here).
I think there are two love languages to take into consideration - how you naturally express love and how you prefer to receive love. I think, as a purported INTJ, it is true that I like to do things to show that I love someone (Acts of Service). But my actual preferred ways to receive love are Quality Time and Physical Touch. I don't know if the book gets into the send/receive differentiation.
Yes! An important differentiation. i also agree with your love languages. I've got an ooey gooey center that loves physical touch but only by those i love and care for the most. it took years to get my guard down enough to trust them with my body so I really treasure physical touch.
INTJ here. Yes, this. This is exactly me. My love language, meaning what makes me feel loved, is Quality Time. The way I express it is through Acts of Service. My last partner's love language (how they prefer to receive) was Words of Affirmation, which really revealed my shortcomings as an INTJ lol
I'm an INTJ, too, and took Gary Chapman's test with these preferences in order: Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Words of Affirmation. I wonder if the primary is how you show love, the secondary is how you want to receive love, and the third... Idk?
INTP, when getting to know someone - quality time. However, in a relationship - 1. touch, as I'm not good at putting emotions into words. 2. Quality time - if I like you, it's because we can talk about everything and anything. Spend time doing that, but have your own stuff to do too, as I need space, and don't want to spend every second in your pocket. 3. Acts of service - as I've no interest in day to day chores, I appreciate help with tedium. 4 / 5 - don't care, I don't need words due to touch. As for Gifts - if you do get something for me, make an effort. Ideally, get something I've chatted about. As the effort you put in / knowledge that you listened to me, makes me feel like you care, not the money.
R R I’m also an INTP, and in a relationship, physical touch is my first love language, also. Quality time is a close second. Gifts are dead last for me!
INTJ woman separated for over 2yrs from INTP husband. Yes, quality time and physical touch are his top two. However, he does not care about or appreciate Acts of Service, and always tells me not to do anything for him. Which is a huge problem because my huge primary is AofS, secondary Words of Affirmation. And he'll never do that for me or appreciate it, no matter how much I give him QT and physical touch. Also, he straight up refuses to do anything that I consider Quality Time. Will only do what he considers appropriate Quality Time activites AKA watching a movie on the couch together. 🙄 I can't spend 9 hours doing only that! I need to get up and be productive!
@@WarriorJournals my ex is an INTJ. I didn't like it when they did my housework / laundry. But, I did appreciate them organising holidays and comparing energy suppliers to get the best deal for household Bill's - as its dull mental work not physical chores. Quality time - my ex always wanted to go out and walk in a field or something, I wasn't really into that. However,we found common ground when we went to do something new / interesting - I.e a boat trip, trampolining, learning to surf, kayak,snowboard etc. For words of affirmation - I would make an effort if my partner told me it was important to them. It just doesn't occur to me to do it, as it's not important to me.
Im an ENTP and i feel like physical touch is a big one for me as well, words of affirmation are great but theyre a little cheaper and easier to get imo
I’m an INFP and my boyfriend is an INFJ. Our primary love language is physical touch followed by quality time and words of affirmation. Our similarities are one of the things that brought us together. We go together very well. 😊
Ad an INTP, I think we are just so touch starved. But, I don't like receiving hugs, I just like giving them. If an INTP hugs you, then he is deeply in love
@@e.mcipher1427 Yes. I'm an INTP and I agree 100%. If I hug you or let you hug or touch me without getting stiff and awkward, then I must really care about you a lot.
I'm an ENTP and I love my INFJ boyfriend, he is stubborn and is studying to be a lawyer so it's a lot of fun to troll him and we throw evidence at each other non-stop XD. But I find it really heartwarming and it almost makes me want to cry when he gives me flowers and gifts
My ENFP was the poster child for gushy, that's the perfect word to describe it. She would just light up the room when she saw somebody she loved. Stars, in her eyes, constantly and she moved with a trail of glitter like a friggin unicorn. My INTP tells me that he just wants to be with me. He doesn't need entertainment, parties, nothing... just me and maybe Netflix. My ISTJ is the absolute best gift giver. She always knows exactly what gifts the get people, she's so good at it. She gave me an easel one year for Christmas, and everything about it was perfect. I couldn't have picked out a better easel for myself. My INFP talks to me sometimes... Then she cooks for me when I'm not looking.
@@StarOnCheek where did I say that I was in a relationship with either of these people? The ENFP was my female best friend. The INTP is my best friend with a crush on me. The ISTJ is my mother. The INFP is my grandmother. The way these personalities manifest love is not solely reserved for those they're sleeping with. 🤦♀️
ENTP: I honestly don't like words of affirmation at all. It makes me really uncomfortable and I don't know what to do in situations where people are talking about their feelings towards me, id rather not do it at all cause it always feels fake. for me, the Highest is physical touch. I don't think I can explain how much I rate physical touch, I try to get people to realise I like then by touching them more. if our shoulders touch and you don't move away I assume you're in love with me. Second is quality time before I disappear for 3 weeks......
Words of affirmation are not about some sentimental love-bomber dumping poems on you. My god! It's a just couple of words here and there, when relevant. To show that you _notice_ the effort, the thinking they exerted, the virtue. It's a kind of reward - and works just as well as throwing a fish to dolphins, seals and lions!
I feel like INTP is also physical touch. We have a lot of thoughts... all the time, and of course many of those will be loving thoughts/feelings of/for the person of interest.. but it's often hard to find the *perfect* words to express that love in a way that we're satisfied with the expression. It's much harder to go wrong with physical touch; much easier to communicate, and the message is so simple that it's much clearer. Maybe that's just me, though.
Oddly enough, as an INTJ, my love language is quality time. I thought there'd be more in the comments saying that- But in a relationship, I need a lot of engagement and mental stimulation to stay interested, and to ensure that my partner is also interested. If they don't spend enough time with me, whether it be speaking to me or partaking in a mutual activity that involves the both of us, then I feel as though they're uninterested or have stopped caring for me entirely. Acts of service is true too, cause I'm constantly doing things for my partner out of love, that I know most people would have trouble understanding how aha but it's not my #1. _-It was his hat Mr. Krabs! He was #1!-_
2:57 as Infj- my love languages changed throughout the years. It used to be quality time and touch. Now it's acts of service 1st and quality time with touch are somewhere close behind. I don't really know why it changed like that, but maybe moving out made me realize how nice it is when someone does things for you? Even something like laundry, cooking a meal or taking out the trash xD Of course, it's ideal when I can do the shopping with a friend, cook dinner together and, at the same time, we're spending quality time together xD I had INTP roommate that was my perfect roommate- we were doing stuff together and everything seemed like an adventure. Even boring day to day tasks. And friends laughed that we were like a married couple, cause I was asking 'what we are eating for dinner today?' on daily basis. xD But listen, food is important 😂
@Yvonne Campbell I also get this thing every once in a while where food just seems disgusting, and just the smell can make me nauseous. I went for three or four days once without eating a proper meal and it was absolute HELL. X)
I am an INFP and I express my affection for others in the oddest most cryptic ways, which often have to be translated by my best friend who by some miracle can understand, and I have no idea what to do with affection from others but you best believe I understood your intent and will randomly remember it at night and probably cry about it.
I'm an ISFP and my love languages are (in order) 1. quality time (just the thought of doing trivial yet special things and spending a nice time with a s/o gives me butterflies) 2. physical touch 3. acts of service
I'm INFJ and pretty well rounded I guess, cause it was very even between all of them, except for gift-giving, which was at the very bottom with a much bigger difference.
INFJ: Actually I gather data on all of your dreams, goals and every memory, thought and feeling you've ever shared and then I put all this insight into a *GIFT* that symbolises something important to you. You'll never guess all the weird stuff I've gifted my loved ones. xD I'm waiting for my future ENTP husband to blow my mind in a similar way. ;)
ENTJ-A here, you're definitely right about the acts of service, especially those that benefit the person rather than make then feel better but I also really like words of affirmation, I always try to make others feel better, especially loved ones and give a lot of positive encouragement.
My Infp mother and Isfp sister ALWAYS wants me to spend quality time with them. Mom always finds movies that she wants to watch. Sister always finds shows that she wants to watch. She also wants to go shopping but I never agree to that. And my Infj spouse is also quality time. I am quality time also. Physical touch is second but only for my spouse, anyone else, don't touch me. -Istp
As an INFP quality time and physical touch are pretty much tied, I don’t need gifts, the fact that your my significant other is a a gift itself just enjoy spending time with me and give me lots of cuddles 🥰
I am a ENFP. Your depiction of me was hilarious. It describes a immature ENFP very well. Since I have matured I've noticed that I handle love and showing affection more exclusively. My silver tongue and essentric ways are reserved only for those worthy. It takes a lot of energy to be me. Those that are truly worthy get my undivided attention. I'm all or nothing.
ENTP, 1) physical touch 2) quality time 3) acts of service I'm a very low bar kind of gal, so I can make do with the first two no problem. I hate gifts and words of affirmation make me shudder. Reminds me of how my parents bought me gifts to emotionally blackmail me with them when I wouldn't buckle to their abuse and how they would constantly tell me they loved me, were proud of me, and how smart I was while also verbally, psychologically, physically and sexually abusing and neglecting me my entire life. Words don't mean shit, trust me. Actions do.
I feel like my eclectic ENTP nature really reflects in my love language. I find it easy to give what the other person wants, and giving does make me very happy if I'm in the mood for it. But dare them, if they aren't appreciating me making an effort (any effort, really).
My love language is HUGS ~ENFP (Probably cause I suck with words lmaooo or maybe cause I dance or probably both cause like idk if it’s just me but like I use my body to express things like idk)
As an ISTP, I greatly enjoy when one of my family members does the dishes for me. But strangely enough, I also like physical touch if I'm emotionally close enough to the person who knows me (and is bold enough to initiate it lol). Also, I loved that last part: "When INFJs slam the door and they're on the same side as you, you're not getting out." Best line of the vid!
I also enjoy that, but it's because I'm lazy, not because of the emotional significance of the gesture. My actual love language is words of affirmation. To the point I feel uncomfortable and awkward when someone I'm not close with gives me a compliment. I'm pretty sure the two are correlated. Genuine words of affirmation are something special to me, I don't want the cheap, small talk version.
Me: ENFP 1. Words of affirmation 2. Physical touch. Husband: INTP 1. Quality time 2. Physical touch I think we're a good combo for personality and love languages xD
Isfj male here- absolutely acts of service for me. I’m too much of a nervous wreck with gift giving because I care too much about how they react and feel about the gifts. Doing things for people always fills me up far more.
INFJ here and mine are acts of service and words of affirmation. I don't hate quality time, but I really don't like spending time with people. I like to be alone. When my ISTJ husband cleans the dishes as I cook or fills my empty gas tank before I leave to work, it makes me fall in love all over again and feels the same as I would imagine a gifts person would when they receive something really expensive or meaningful.
I'm an ENFJ with an ISFP little sister. Quality time is VERY true for her. She loves playing board games with family members and tries to drag me into playing them every day. Whenever I actually do, she gets super excited. She also likes hugs a lot. Words of affirmation are great but as an ENFJ, my primary love language is quality time (which is weird because I tend to act kind of introverted at home) and my secondary is physical touch. I totally LOVE random hugs from friends and family members. I think my tertiary might be words of affirmation though.
INFP here... quality time, words of affirmation and physical touch. 👌🏻 my favorite night with my lover are cooking a good meal, snuggling up on the couch and chit chatting for hours about goals and dreams and such.
Weird subject because lots of people prefer giving in a certain way and receiving in a completely different way. I've been typed many things through tests and people, but most often it's ISTJ. Thanks for forgetting ;) I do like creating my own gifts for others and doing different acts of service. But when receiving, it's physical touch first and foremost, then quality time.
INTJ here, wanted to say the ISTP is our severely underrated complimentary match. We've been together for almost 4 years, and he feels like "home" to me.
“For ISFPs, I’d say that quality time is probably the main one. If they’re choosing to spend time with you, it’s kind of a big deal. They love *doing their own thing* , and if they include you within that, then you have become… their own thing….. Good luck ?” I am *deceased* 😂
@@lovewho INFP but 0:35 specifically, I think it counts as an unintentional roast then, ha. Swift was/is(?) often in the media and tabloids because of her apparent proclivity for dating guy after guy and it usually never ended well. She would then go on to right songs about them and release them over the years.
@@ThaleiaFantasy Most those artists over the 100's of years haven't had voices as whiny and annoying. I do think she's doing the right thing going after her ex-Manager though.
@@kimberlyh.1090 Taylor swift is most definitely not an INFP. Sounds like you think all INFP are the stereotypical overly emotional and zero logic type of person. Not true at all
Infp... All of them (except maybe touch, unless it's just like handholding or hugs... I DO like hugs). Like... I just need to give and receive SO much love ...but please also respect my space and I will respect yours... then once in a while I imagine we'll get together and share gifts and spend quality time doing things together and FOR each other and giving words of affirmation. And then we go back to hovering in uncertainty until next time.
As an Entp,l would not consider harsh trolling as a 'love' language though,that might be for fun.I simply like to discuss various topics and spending quality time with the specific person.Also,I want to add that not all entps like to poke others for fun(that's a very negetive stereotype)
I find it a very accurate stereotype. I once flirted with a man by threatening to kill him. It was very situation specific and was working fine until a mild acquaintance popped up and acted shocked. They were not a person that understood teasing, sarcasm or any of the other finer points of verbal jousting. They also were jealous that I was not flirting with them and were trying to ruin my chances.
@@arlettasloan6453exactly, I mean this is gold, very thrilling. Teasing is definitely a flirting style for entps, and a person who understands and reciprocates that....pure bliss. We might be wrong in claiming that this is accurate for all entps, but personally, this is one of my love languages.
Me, an Entp: 1. Physical touch 2. Quality time 3. Words of affirmation (really close to 2.) 4. Acts of service 5. Gifts (way behind the other languages)
Eh... I don't believe that love languages are tied to MBTI that strongly--loosely? Sure. I think nurture and gender play a bigger role in solidifying what your love languages are than MBTI, as shown by the variation in love languages within the same types.
I think fe is the Words of Affirmation. I'm an infp, I don't trust words AT ALL. Quality time is definitely right. Ironically, and I get why you didn't say this because it can't be pulled back to a function. Touch is a big deal with me, although it might just be because of how I was raised.
ESTP here, my Love Language top 3 is: 1: acts of service 2: physical touch 3: quality time I do sometimes use gifts, but I rarely use words of affirmation. They just seem so cliché, so much more than "you, my dear, are awesome!" is not to be expected.
I'm INFP and my love language is actually gifts because I'm super sentimental. I send everyone I love lots of mail lol. Letters, cards, and all kinds of little gifts. And that's what makes me feel loved too. Nothing expensive, just things that can be kept.
INTJ: Yes, definitely acts of service, I thoroughly enjoy seeing a master plan come together just to make someone else happy (usually these plans are done anywhere from days to months in advance with some allowance for contingencies as well). Although I must admit, for me personally, it is a combo of acts of service, followed by quality time, then physical contact. I know that, if all three are used for someone, it means I trust them a heck of a lot (far too much self-analysis on that one, lol)
Istp. Yep. Acts of service. It feels nice to be able to do something for someone you love and... Securing things that they might've disregarded or will probably forget. But i think quality time is also another love language we have. Since we LOVE our alone time and freedom to do whatever we want/need to do, we tend to isolate ourselves. Quality time means including that person in our... Precious time. Opening our selves to them/less isolation to allow them to settle in our timelines and do activities with them. You'll know you're someone important if i don't just brush you aside. Like, if i'd stop whatever im doing cause you just wanna hang out (when I could really use that "hang out time" doing my thing instead of walking around pointlessly in the park with you. But hey, it's you, so here i am "wasting" my time. 😅) Also... Gift giving. But not really. Like sometimes we make things, or find useful/practical things that reminds us of you and how you needed it - whether you know you needed it or not. Also, some things we know that you like and will make it for you... Was that last sentence considered gift giving or act of service??
The INFP one made me laugh out loud. My kind of humor lol -ENFJ. I've taken the test and I always get equally across the board, Time, Touch and Affirmations
As INFP mine is definatly Time as it takes a lot out of me to interact with others (sometimes i'm not quite fully in the moment either not sure if this or Affirmations is bigger than guess it depends on the context.
There's another dude, Cognitive Personality Theory, who explains so much about why people are having trouble being typed and he really helped me finally learn what my type was. Once I did, I could see it in what other people are saying about that type. Before that, I wasn't really listening to anything about ENTPs as I had no reason to believe I was one. Since you are a person who gets more than one type, as I did, I suggest you look into his work, too. Especially since your two are further off from each other than mine were!
ENFP's what is your primary love language? We are all different so please share. My primary love language is Acts of service, though affection and affirmation is special to me also, I feel that when someone sacrifices their energy and time for you makes me feel loved and special. It doesnt require alot of effort to buy gifts, its doesnt require alot of effort to say i love you, you look pretty, it doesnt require alot of effort to chill with the one you love, it doesnt require alot of effort to show affection but when it comes to putting yourself before your loved one and sacrificing sleep, time, energy to show your partner your love with acts of service that is meaningful. I can say were all pretty selfish sometimes but to do that is a really special way to show love. What is your primary language and why? Remember we are all different. Please ENFPs and anybody else share!
Acts of service is way at the top! Of course, I have a bunch of little kids and there is so much boring and overwhelming stuff associated with parenting, I love it when someone does something to make my life easier! 😍 Even when it's something that didn't really work, like a 2year old'fixing' the broom with tape, I appreciate the effort. I also like gifts that show that someone was thinking about me. Things like a specific book that I would like, or a shiny stone. Not expensive things, but thoughtful. Physical touch and quality time are also up there. For my INTP husband, he likes a whole lot of praise. I don't mind, it's true that as an ENFP I am pretty good at gushing over people, if I can remember to. For myself, though, the phrase 'talk is cheap' applies. It's not that I don't enjoy compliments, but they don't really seem to have the same meaning for me as for some people.
ENFP borderline ENTP and my primary is quality time followed closely by physical touch. Then acts of service for significant others and words of affirmation for friends. In case you wanted extreme detail lol.
GUSHINESS....totally and absolutely me! Nathan....I so adore your wordplay and are an amazingly gifted at deciphering and presenting this information in video.
Accurate. My INTJ boyfriend is horrendous at small talk but he's constantly feeding me and coming up with action plans to solve any issues I have in life, no matter how small. As an ENTP I just tell him (and anyone else who will listen) how cute I think he is
I dunno if it's true for other INTPs, but there are really only few people I would like to spend time almost forever. it's like my social battery lasts forever when it comes to a select few, but not with most ppl I crave physical touch rather than putting my love into words, just the presence of someone I love is more than enough, even if we exchange little to no words
ENTJ lady here: speaking for myself to sum up I’m an “actions speak louder than words” type. So here’s my list: Time spent: Not just any old together time. It has to be going somewhere, not just idle chit chat. If I want to develop a real, long lasting relationship I’ll take the time to get together w/you or talk on the phone & that’s a big deal for me since I don’t like wasting time, energy etc. Acts of service: Since I’m a “doer” I’ll go out of my way for you in all kinds of ways. cooking, baby sitting(for free 😉), cut your hair(for free 😉), pick up laundry, return something to a store... gift giving: yes a practicle one, but a really good one! 😃
As an INFJ, I have recently took the Love Languages test. You're gonna love this, I told my therapist, Do I really have to choose 1 answer cause I want it all?? He said, Yeah only 1. I broke the test....all but 1 had the same end result. One language was 1 point above the others. And I really do want all of the different ones. They are something I would do for someone I love and I would hope that they would do the same:) I like your videos. Thank you! Also made me laugh out loud:) MizLynn
When I learned about love languages, I actually learned that people actually have 2 or 3 love languages. Mine are touch and quality time, and acts of service to show other people I care. Whereas I see both gifts and words as bribes and don't often enjoy getting them.
I'm an ENFP and this is actually the reason I don't want to take the test hahaha the only thing I don't like is gift giving because it stresses me out hahaha
My girlfriend - An ENFJ Me - an ENTP My girlfriend: "You're perfect" Me: "I guess you're good too" (I'd die for her if I had to, but she doesn't need to know) Quality time is absolutely true though. I don't feel I'm sharing my love with her, when I can't do things with her.
Apparently I missed out the ISTJs (my bad). This is what I would have said: Acts of service and gift giving. "Introverted sensing can imbue gifts with sentimentality and deeper meaning."
@@arrok.3592 take a test on 16 personalities website, they also have a 5th letter added to the original 16 of myer briggs test making it 32 different types, also answer the questions in complete honesty. if youve taken the test 5 times and gotten 5 different results youve changed your answers a lot. another great thing 16 personalities website gives you is percentages.
also if youve taken the test 5 times at significant intervals of time as in a few months to a few years apart, and answer all of the questions honestly, chances are your personality type has changed. it happens over time.
@@arrok.3592 Keep doing research. Watching videos by actual isfjs and istjs should help.
Also doing activities they think you like, taking you out to your favorite restaurant or movie.
What's your MBTI, Nathan??
Never forget the ISTJ!! Please. They are so interesting. -INFP
Literally every XNTX:
*_In terms of love language, we have no love language._*
Haha I should have done that for each NT type in the video! ~ Nathan
Yes.
Everyone has a love language
I'd say quality time?
It's trooooooo. I would do for the people closest to me basically the same stuff I would do for just anyone - try and help them get their life sorted out in whatever way and then go home to my lil sanctuary.
The best way to show me love is to send an occasional email or text and never phone lol
INFP: “Although it could become words of condemnation.. released....in the form of a musical album.... many years... after you breakup up” xDD
Lol hope you liked that one!
*that moment when you're working on such an album*
@@NathanJGlass djjd
that cracked me up :)
Oops... That explains why I have 3 songs dissing that guy...
2:06 'INTP is Quality Type, if an INTP spend time with you. That mean you are the best human being in earth'. This crack me 🤣
Time
That is funny. I have an INTP friend and he will be like, "Okay I am done hanging out with you, so I am going to ask you to leave."
And not like I did anything bad; he is just done socializing and wants to like read a book or play on his computer.
If An INTP wants to spend time with you it has to be good time. OR why bother?
I am INTP and I tell my husband that all the time. He sometimes gets mad that I'm a misanthrope and usually don't want to hang out with his friends/family. I met your damn friend last week, why do I have to meet a totally different damn friend tomorrow??? But as I explain to him, HE is the chosen one. He should feel special that I chose him as my person. I didn't choose any extra people, so please don't bring your work bro here and expect me to talk to him. ;-P
Amy Lucky you, I think that I am going to spend my whole life alone as an INTP xd.
Ah the joys of an INTP-INFJ relationship.
I don't care about gifts and I hate having to think about what I want and even more what I should buy for somebody else.
Luckily neither of us care in the slightest so no gifts exchanged between us even on birthdays or christmas or anniversaries, instead we just go to a cafe or dinner together or something simple but slightly out of the ordinary day.
I relate to this. I am an INFJ and my husband is INTP. We hardly ever buy gifts. One time my husband did sunrise me with a really well thought out book. It was well received. Because we give gifts so seldom it felt more meaningful. 😀
The golden couple! Nice 😊
I’m an introvert and I love giving and getting christmas girfts
@@MelB868 introverts aren't limited to 2 types.
I am an INTP as well (single, but my dad is an INFJ) and we suffer the same thing lol. I actually stopped throwing parties and began asking for money and dinners out by the time I was 12 or 13 - and I only asked for PC parts and games since then - while my dad hates parties in general, and usually never asks for gifts ever - so he gets clothes. My ISFP brother is also similar in that respect.
ENFP here and my love languages are
1. Quality (not quantity) time
2. Physical touch
3. Words of affirmation
(in that order)
I love physical touch! Most especially in a romantic partner. Love hugs and cuddles! Hand holding. Deep kissing.
If my partner will not give me physical touch the relationship will not last.
Absolutely :) same here. I’m extremely physically affectionate
Infp here. Mine are : 1- quality time 2- physical touch 3- acts of service (sort of. I don't particularly enjoy getting it, but I give it to others)
ENFP here, and yes to the list above is so true that they’re all tied for number one.
Now I know where the ENTPs disappear.
They're trapped on the other side when an INFJ slamms the door.
Nah. That's intp's.
We just disappear for no reason. When I was 17 one girl really liked me, messaged me all the time, but I ignored her, and I realized that she liked me only after years.
@@iam.damian 17? Dang.
No. We know how to pick locks, at least figuratively. Which is why so many people are annoyed at us that they are waiting for months behind a door that has no scratches at the keyhole as indication that we even considered doing so.
So that explains why my isfj work colleague buys me so much food.... He loves me.. I thought I just looked malnurished.
Fursteve Ferret.
INTP's and Ferrets tend to bond to their favorite foods...are you an NTP type Ferrent?
dook
@@wynstansmom829 oh my god 😂😂😂
I would think he’s buying me food he must be a feeder just kidding I don’t know
@You'll never know me because this is the internet my grandma and one of my aunts are definitely isfj, they want to feed me all the time when I visit them lol
Why thank you. 😩
INTJ: acts of service, although you may not know that their plan has worked
One of my friends was saying that she'd really like to hang out with everyone but it just seems like everyone has different schedules and are too busy. I called everyone out on their BS and planned a dinner together to disguise as a get together for graduation when in reality it was to have everyone together for her. To this day, she has no clue of such a successful plan.
😎😎😎
Why do I get heavy EXFJ vibes from this?
My INTJ friend (I am also an INTJ) was panicking about doing this thing for homework. So as she wrote it down on a white board, I secretly copied it on to a submittable format. She was very thankful when I said stop working, your work is already done.
wow. as an enfj, i would absolutely LOVE if someone did that for me. that's like quality time and effective communication ALL ROLLED INTO ONE. one birthday, my group of friends made a dance routine and surprise for me and i remember it to this day T_____T or when friends get together to get me a thoughtful gift WAOW ANYWAY, thank you for being so caring! i'm sure it is much appreciated!!!
This is epic. 💪
this is the sweetest thing ever omg
I have never been so offended by something I one hundred percent agree with
- James Acaster?
I like that doorslam twist at the end
@@nathanglass7392 Also to the handcuffs, just saying.
gremlins 347 yh me too
It isn't a twist, It is a fact
-An INFJ
you aintr getting out lol
INTJ, here. I had a girlfriend when I was studying abroad in Japan. My Japanese was not very good then, and she even told me that she was giving me a year to perfect the language or else she would break up with me. Unfortunately, my study abroad program ended after two months, I went back to my home country, and was subsequently dumped. As if our break up never happened, I spent an entire year studying Japanese on my own.
Three years later, I can finally say that I can speak/read Japanese at a higher level than when I did during my study abroad, and had it not been for her, I wouldn't have achieved this skill. I did it all for her despite not having contacted her since our breakup. I still miss her pretty bad.
Best of luck to you in your endeavors pal. Loves a pain.
You should surprise her by texting her in Japanese, albeit risking maybe sounding/appearing creepy, but what do you have to loose? Maybe she thinking that you're weird or creepy as mentioned before but you could gain much more, well those are my 2 cents.
@@MR-df7jb It doesn't have to be creepy. It could just a be kind message asking how she's doing and wishing her well.
U can thank her that she's the reason for u to learn Japanese well. Just like you said here in the comment.
- a fellow INTJ
Thanks for the replies, everyone. As it turns out, a couple months after writing this comment, I got a happy birthday message from her. In that same message, she also wanted me to check out a project she was working on. I replied, she replied, and then we had a conversation. Neither of us mentioned the past; we just focused on the present. She even noticed my Japanese became significantly better, but I never told her why I kept studying. We sort of rekindled a relationship then, but after a few days of talking to her, I realized she wasn't my type and it would be foolish of me to miss her as a romantic partner any more. It still felt weird to talk to her even as a friend. I just wanted to move on, and I could sense she felt the same way, too. At long last, we had closure. Now I'm happy doing other things with my life, and I hope she's doing well, too.
INFP and my love language is definitely words of affirmation. Compliment me and I'll cry.
ooh nice profile pic! it looks really pretty
@@majimeow3098 Thank you!!! :D!!!! 😢😢😢😢💕💕
@@taylorbreckenridge6390 lmaooo
That happened to me at work haha
I am an INFP with the same love language, too. This all stemmed from hearing my parents quarrel, criticize, and swear at each other. Childhood plays a huge role in what love language we have, I guess.
Accurate on INFJ ; I just want to add that when the door is slammed and our favourite person is at the same side with us , we'll go nowhere , it is like a trap.My friend used to tell me that he's trapped with me in endless discussions. xD
@@lovewho awww (
I relate with this. I am an INFJ who married an INTP. We are in constant discussion. When you find someone you can speak with, it's amazing!
This would be so true for me except that my partner is an ENFJ so helps me diversify and not hole us away like I would.
I am an INTJ and my husband is an ESFP-A. Our marriage was extremely rocky until we had marriage counseling. The counselor asked us about our personalities and we had no idea. He gave us the Briggs-Meyer test and it explained a lot. There has had to be a lot of compromise on both of our parts. He has learned to leave me alone and I have had to learn to engage in random human contact. In addition to touch he needs words of affirmation. We've both had to learn to navigate this trait. I've never needed affirmation, so his need for it is foreign and I don't see the point. However, I've learned to randomly tell him everyday that I appreciate what he does for us. We have learned how to communicate with other, and are very happy now.
awesome, that so encouraging :) thanks for being a nice human/partner, it shows you love him dearly
01001101 01101111 _ OMG 😂😂😂 esfp and intj WOW 👁👄👁
im intj btw
This is one thing i really like about MBTI, well done you, for pulling this off, it is tough to just give someone words of affirmation, I guess why I am still single?
Mo, good job figuring it out, I can imagine that it'd be a challenge being married to an ESFP. I don't think I would've been able to handle an ESFP at all, at least not when I know there are ENFPs and INFJs out there (INTJ/INFJ here).
I think there are two love languages to take into consideration - how you naturally express love and how you prefer to receive love. I think, as a purported INTJ, it is true that I like to do things to show that I love someone (Acts of Service). But my actual preferred ways to receive love are Quality Time and Physical Touch. I don't know if the book gets into the send/receive differentiation.
Yes! An important differentiation. i also agree with your love languages. I've got an ooey gooey center that loves physical touch but only by those i love and care for the most. it took years to get my guard down enough to trust them with my body so I really treasure physical touch.
INTJ here. Yes, this. This is exactly me. My love language, meaning what makes me feel loved, is Quality Time. The way I express it is through Acts of Service.
My last partner's love language (how they prefer to receive) was Words of Affirmation, which really revealed my shortcomings as an INTJ lol
I'm an INTJ, too, and took Gary Chapman's test with these preferences in order: Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Words of Affirmation. I wonder if the primary is how you show love, the secondary is how you want to receive love, and the third... Idk?
INTP, when getting to know someone - quality time.
However, in a relationship -
1. touch, as I'm not good at putting emotions into words.
2. Quality time - if I like you, it's because we can talk about everything and anything. Spend time doing that, but have your own stuff to do too, as I need space, and don't want to spend every second in your pocket.
3. Acts of service - as I've no interest in day to day chores, I appreciate help with tedium.
4 / 5 - don't care, I don't need words due to touch. As for Gifts - if you do get something for me, make an effort. Ideally, get something I've chatted about. As the effort you put in / knowledge that you listened to me, makes me feel like you care, not the money.
I'm an intp and yeah I can confirm everything there.
R R I’m also an INTP, and in a relationship, physical touch is my first love language, also. Quality time is a close second. Gifts are dead last for me!
Spot on! /INTP
INTJ woman separated for over 2yrs from INTP husband. Yes, quality time and physical touch are his top two. However, he does not care about or appreciate Acts of Service, and always tells me not to do anything for him. Which is a huge problem because my huge primary is AofS, secondary Words of Affirmation. And he'll never do that for me or appreciate it, no matter how much I give him QT and physical touch. Also, he straight up refuses to do anything that I consider Quality Time. Will only do what he considers appropriate Quality Time activites AKA watching a movie on the couch together. 🙄 I can't spend 9 hours doing only that! I need to get up and be productive!
@@WarriorJournals my ex is an INTJ. I didn't like it when they did my housework / laundry. But, I did appreciate them organising holidays and comparing energy suppliers to get the best deal for household Bill's - as its dull mental work not physical chores.
Quality time - my ex always wanted to go out and walk in a field or something, I wasn't really into that. However,we found common ground when we went to do something new / interesting - I.e a boat trip, trampolining, learning to surf, kayak,snowboard etc.
For words of affirmation - I would make an effort if my partner told me it was important to them. It just doesn't occur to me to do it, as it's not important to me.
Im an ENTP and i feel like physical touch is a big one for me as well, words of affirmation are great but theyre a little cheaper and easier to get imo
Yes, I relate to that (also entp)
Same here(entp) I was like words if affirmation? Lol
@@TheSpokenWizard Yeah, true. Maybe that's because words come so easy to us and that makes them feel cheap
Yep same
i feel the same as an enfp, must be a ne thing i guess
Entj 0:00
Estj 0:20
Infp 0:30
Estp 0:42
Isfp 0:59
Esfj 1:16
Enfj 1:27
Istp 1:35
Entp 1:44
Isfj 1:53
Intp 2:07
Enfp 2:18
Intj 2:33
Esfp 2:43
Infj 2:54
Thanks Taylor!
Lu
where tf is istj
@@yasheshshah3967 idk
@@yasheshshah3967 i watched the whole thing again it doesn't exist.
My guess is acts of service
I’m an INFP and my boyfriend is an INFJ. Our primary love language is physical touch followed by quality time and words of affirmation. Our similarities are one of the things that brought us together. We go together very well. 😊
I'm INTP, I like physical touch the most actually... though quality time is a real close second.
I'm an intp and same
Ad an INTP, I think we are just so touch starved. But, I don't like receiving hugs, I just like giving them. If an INTP hugs you, then he is deeply in love
@@e.mcipher1427 Yes. I'm an INTP and I agree 100%. If I hug you or let you hug or touch me without getting stiff and awkward, then I must really care about you a lot.
@@thecoleopterist I would hug you, but I hate hugs, and Covid, so virtual hug.
@@e.mcipher1427 ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ
I'm an ENTP and I love my INFJ boyfriend, he is stubborn and is studying to be a lawyer so it's a lot of fun to troll him and we throw evidence at each other non-stop XD. But I find it really heartwarming and it almost makes me want to cry when he gives me flowers and gifts
The ISFP one is unbelievably accurate, wow. Good job, I have a lot of respect for you content
My ENFP was the poster child for gushy, that's the perfect word to describe it. She would just light up the room when she saw somebody she loved. Stars, in her eyes, constantly and she moved with a trail of glitter like a friggin unicorn.
My INTP tells me that he just wants to be with me. He doesn't need entertainment, parties, nothing... just me and maybe Netflix.
My ISTJ is the absolute best gift giver. She always knows exactly what gifts the get people, she's so good at it. She gave me an easel one year for Christmas, and everything about it was perfect. I couldn't have picked out a better easel for myself.
My INFP talks to me sometimes... Then she cooks for me when I'm not looking.
Love it! ~ Nathan
you have 4 partners?
@@StarOnCheek where did I say that I was in a relationship with either of these people?
The ENFP was my female best friend. The INTP is my best friend with a crush on me. The ISTJ is my mother. The INFP is my grandmother.
The way these personalities manifest love is not solely reserved for those they're sleeping with. 🤦♀️
As a learning point, what are you? I mean, personality type?
0:00 ENTJ
0:20 ESTJ
0:30 INFP
0:43 ESTP
0:59 ISFP
1:17 ESFJ
1:28 ENFJ
1:34 ISTP
1:44 ENTP
1:54 ISFJ
2:06 INTP
2:17 ENFP
2:34 INTJ
2:43 ESFP
2:52 INFJ
Thank youuuuu
ENTP: I honestly don't like words of affirmation at all. It makes me really uncomfortable and I don't know what to do in situations where people are talking about their feelings towards me, id rather not do it at all cause it always feels fake.
for me, the Highest is physical touch. I don't think I can explain how much I rate physical touch, I try to get people to realise I like then by touching them more. if our shoulders touch and you don't move away I assume you're in love with me.
Second is quality time before I disappear for 3 weeks......
Same....absolutely same!
Also an ENTP, tbh I value words of affirmation the most, hearing that you're appreciated is a huge plus, but yes, physical touch is awesome
Wellll I LOVE THEM!!!!
Words of affirmation are not about some sentimental love-bomber dumping poems on you. My god!
It's a just couple of words here and there, when relevant. To show that you _notice_ the effort, the thinking they exerted, the virtue. It's a kind of reward - and works just as well as throwing a fish to dolphins, seals and lions!
WOW! Spot on with INFP 👍🏻 I'm INFP and my first love language is quality time with words of affirmation in second. Those are my top 2 🥰
I feel like INTP is also physical touch. We have a lot of thoughts... all the time, and of course many of those will be loving thoughts/feelings of/for the person of interest.. but it's often hard to find the *perfect* words to express that love in a way that we're satisfied with the expression. It's much harder to go wrong with physical touch; much easier to communicate, and the message is so simple that it's much clearer. Maybe that's just me, though.
Oddly enough, as an INTJ, my love language is quality time. I thought there'd be more in the comments saying that-
But in a relationship, I need a lot of engagement and mental stimulation to stay interested, and to ensure that my partner is also interested. If they don't spend enough time with me, whether it be speaking to me or partaking in a mutual activity that involves the both of us, then I feel as though they're uninterested or have stopped caring for me entirely.
Acts of service is true too, cause I'm constantly doing things for my partner out of love, that I know most people would have trouble understanding how aha but it's not my #1.
_-It was his hat Mr. Krabs! He was #1!-_
2:57 as Infj- my love languages changed throughout the years. It used to be quality time and touch. Now it's acts of service 1st and quality time with touch are somewhere close behind. I don't really know why it changed like that, but maybe moving out made me realize how nice it is when someone does things for you? Even something like laundry, cooking a meal or taking out the trash xD Of course, it's ideal when I can do the shopping with a friend, cook dinner together and, at the same time, we're spending quality time together xD
I had INTP roommate that was my perfect roommate- we were doing stuff together and everything seemed like an adventure. Even boring day to day tasks. And friends laughed that we were like a married couple, cause I was asking 'what we are eating for dinner today?' on daily basis. xD But listen, food is important 😂
Yeah, I have a tendency to forget that food exists X'D Then it's like "holy crap it's three o'clock and the only thing I've eaten is a Hershey's Kiss"
@@purplepartytigerd1598 More then I do XD At dinner time I'll realize the only thing I've had was my coffee in the morning ;) I'm working on it......
@Yvonne Campbell
I also get this thing every once in a while where food just seems disgusting, and just the smell can make me nauseous. I went for three or four days once without eating a proper meal and it was absolute HELL. X)
@@purplepartytigerd1598 Wow, that sounds horrible indeed :(
I'm an INFJ and my sister is an INTP we love spending time together
I am an INFP and I express my affection for others in the oddest most cryptic ways, which often have to be translated by my best friend who by some miracle can understand, and I have no idea what to do with affection from others but you best believe I understood your intent and will randomly remember it at night and probably cry about it.
I'm an ISFP and my love languages are (in order)
1. quality time (just the thought of doing trivial yet special things and spending a nice time with a s/o gives me butterflies)
2. physical touch
3. acts of service
I'm INFJ and pretty well rounded I guess, cause it was very even between all of them, except for gift-giving, which was at the very bottom with a much bigger difference.
Mary K same! But I’m an ISTP.
INFJ: Actually I gather data on all of your dreams, goals and every memory, thought and feeling you've ever shared and then I put all this insight into a *GIFT* that symbolises something important to you. You'll never guess all the weird stuff I've gifted my loved ones. xD I'm waiting for my future ENTP husband to blow my mind in a similar way. ;)
ENTJ-A here, you're definitely right about the acts of service, especially those that benefit the person rather than make then feel better but I also really like words of affirmation, I always try to make others feel better, especially loved ones and give a lot of positive encouragement.
“ESTPs...if they like you, they’ll be doing for. Or just simply, doing you” 😭😂😂😂😂😂super accurate
Nathan Glass no, I’m an INFJ. What’s your type?
My Infp mother and Isfp sister ALWAYS wants me to spend quality time with them.
Mom always finds movies that she wants to watch.
Sister always finds shows that she wants to watch. She also wants to go shopping but I never agree to that.
And my Infj spouse is also quality time.
I am quality time also. Physical touch is second but only for my spouse, anyone else, don't touch me.
-Istp
So your mom and sister can’t hug you or pat you on the back weird
@@MelB868 I have an istp friend who's exactly like that....and it was amusing 🤣
As an INFP quality time and physical touch are pretty much tied, I don’t need gifts, the fact that your my significant other is a a gift itself just enjoy spending time with me and give me lots of cuddles 🥰
ENFP. Tie between quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch. Though I am seriously like the cuddliest human in all of existence.
Oh my god, so accurate! ENFP here and we really smother and love love.
I am a ENFP. Your depiction of me was hilarious. It describes a immature ENFP very well. Since I have matured I've noticed that I handle love and showing affection more exclusively. My silver tongue and essentric ways are reserved only for those worthy. It takes a lot of energy to be me. Those that are truly worthy get my undivided attention. I'm all or nothing.
Same same same.
ENTP,
1) physical touch
2) quality time
3) acts of service
I'm a very low bar kind of gal, so I can make do with the first two no problem.
I hate gifts and words of affirmation make me shudder. Reminds me of how my parents bought me gifts to emotionally blackmail me with them when I wouldn't buckle to their abuse and how they would constantly tell me they loved me, were proud of me, and how smart I was while also verbally, psychologically, physically and sexually abusing and neglecting me my entire life. Words don't mean shit, trust me. Actions do.
I feel like my eclectic ENTP nature really reflects in my love language. I find it easy to give what the other person wants, and giving does make me very happy if I'm in the mood for it. But dare them, if they aren't appreciating me making an effort (any effort, really).
I'm an ENFP borderline ENTP and I totally agree.
ENTP : My love language is memes
(Omg i called it ... you said trolling but ok)
There’s nothing like a good meme exchange. Nothing.
@Hello There 쉬렉
As an INFJ Physical Touch and Quality Time are my Top Love languages
Infj here - quality time has been my love language since I was a little kid, and it means a lot just to spend time with a person
My love language is HUGS
~ENFP
(Probably cause I suck with words lmaooo or maybe cause I dance or probably both cause like idk if it’s just me but like I use my body to express things like idk)
I am an ISFP and every word you said is SO TRUE it's scary :D
As an ISTP, I greatly enjoy when one of my family members does the dishes for me. But strangely enough, I also like physical touch if I'm emotionally close enough to the person who knows me (and is bold enough to initiate it lol).
Also, I loved that last part: "When INFJs slam the door and they're on the same side as you, you're not getting out." Best line of the vid!
guess i got some mental issues
I also enjoy that, but it's because I'm lazy, not because of the emotional significance of the gesture. My actual love language is words of affirmation. To the point I feel uncomfortable and awkward when someone I'm not close with gives me a compliment. I'm pretty sure the two are correlated. Genuine words of affirmation are something special to me, I don't want the cheap, small talk version.
Me: ENFP
1. Words of affirmation
2. Physical touch.
Husband: INTP
1. Quality time
2. Physical touch
I think we're a good combo for personality and love languages xD
0:35 why you do me dirty so 😭😭😭
Very accurate tho 😂😂
He has a strangely competent understanding of INFPs despite his admitted lack of knowledge on them.
Straight facts 😂😂😂
As an ENFP, my top LL would ANYDAY be spending quality time, doing interesting things together. And then words of affirmation and physical intimacy.
Entp
Never words of affirmation
I hate flattering, it's always feels so fake..
Quality time sounds better for me
It’s not flattering it’s something encouraging
@@MelB868 yeah i like encouraging but I always say something offensive after💀
physical touch maybe? Or is it specific to me?
@@StarOnCheek could be
Update on physical touch, from MBTI memes I've seen, being a pervert seems to be a very ENTP thing, so physical touch would make sense
Isfj male here- absolutely acts of service for me. I’m too much of a nervous wreck with gift giving because I care too much about how they react and feel about the gifts. Doing things for people always fills me up far more.
INFJ here and mine are acts of service and words of affirmation. I don't hate quality time, but I really don't like spending time with people. I like to be alone. When my ISTJ husband cleans the dishes as I cook or fills my empty gas tank before I leave to work, it makes me fall in love all over again and feels the same as I would imagine a gifts person would when they receive something really expensive or meaningful.
I'm an ENFJ with an ISFP little sister. Quality time is VERY true for her. She loves playing board games with family members and tries to drag me into playing them every day. Whenever I actually do, she gets super excited. She also likes hugs a lot.
Words of affirmation are great but as an ENFJ, my primary love language is quality time (which is weird because I tend to act kind of introverted at home) and my secondary is physical touch. I totally LOVE random hugs from friends and family members. I think my tertiary might be words of affirmation though.
I am ISFJ and my are Words of Affirmation and Physical touch. But great video! Take care!
thank you!
INFP here... quality time, words of affirmation and physical touch. 👌🏻 my favorite night with my lover are cooking a good meal, snuggling up on the couch and chit chatting for hours about goals and dreams and such.
ISTP.
Acts of service, and giving stuff.
The ESTP can also apply to the ISTP. We tend to be very similar in the regard.
Weird subject because lots of people prefer giving in a certain way and receiving in a completely different way. I've been typed many things through tests and people, but most often it's ISTJ. Thanks for forgetting ;) I do like creating my own gifts for others and doing different acts of service. But when receiving, it's physical touch first and foremost, then quality time.
INTJ here, wanted to say the ISTP is our severely underrated complimentary match. We've been together for almost 4 years, and he feels like "home" to me.
“For ISFPs, I’d say that quality time is probably the main one. If they’re choosing to spend time with you, it’s kind of a big deal. They love *doing their own thing* , and if they include you within that, then you have become… their own thing…..
Good luck ?”
I am *deceased* 😂
Lmao did you just roast Taylor Swift? 😂
Ok I don’t get the reference so no lol ~ Nathan
@@lovewho INFP but 0:35 specifically, I think it counts as an unintentional roast then, ha. Swift was/is(?) often in the media and tabloids because of her apparent proclivity for dating guy after guy and it usually never ended well. She would then go on to right songs about them and release them over the years.
@@hellsgate09 Swift is ESTP, and doing the same exact same thing that most artists have done for 100s of years.
@@ThaleiaFantasy Most those artists over the 100's of years haven't had voices as whiny and annoying. I do think she's doing the right thing going after her ex-Manager though.
@@kimberlyh.1090 Taylor swift is most definitely not an INFP. Sounds like you think all INFP are the stereotypical overly emotional and zero logic type of person. Not true at all
I’m an ENFP and you got it right! My love language is words of affirmation 🥰🥰
For infj I would say whatever their partner needs to feel loved. I probably asked them what their preferred love language is before out first date 😅
Im an ISFJ and I actually have 2 love languages. Gift giving and words of affirmation. Makes sense haha
Infp... All of them (except maybe touch, unless it's just like handholding or hugs... I DO like hugs). Like... I just need to give and receive SO much love ...but please also respect my space and I will respect yours... then once in a while I imagine we'll get together and share gifts and spend quality time doing things together and FOR each other and giving words of affirmation. And then we go back to hovering in uncertainty until next time.
As an ISFP I laughed so hard when he said “good luck” and yes that is accurate
As an Entp,l would not consider harsh trolling as a 'love' language though,that might be for fun.I simply like to discuss various topics and spending quality time with the specific person.Also,I want to add that not all entps like to poke others for fun(that's a very negetive stereotype)
I find it a very accurate stereotype. I once flirted with a man by threatening to kill him. It was very situation specific and was working fine until a mild acquaintance popped up and acted shocked. They were not a person that understood teasing, sarcasm or any of the other finer points of verbal jousting. They also were jealous that I was not flirting with them and were trying to ruin my chances.
@@arlettasloan6453exactly, I mean this is gold, very thrilling. Teasing is definitely a flirting style for entps, and a person who understands and reciprocates that....pure bliss. We might be wrong in claiming that this is accurate for all entps, but personally, this is one of my love languages.
Me, an Entp:
1. Physical touch
2. Quality time
3. Words of affirmation (really close to 2.)
4. Acts of service
5. Gifts (way behind the other languages)
Eh... I don't believe that love languages are tied to MBTI that strongly--loosely? Sure. I think nurture and gender play a bigger role in solidifying what your love languages are than MBTI, as shown by the variation in love languages within the same types.
I think so too but I still believe there is some correlation between types and love languages
"Doing for you or doing... You" Hilarious😁😁😁.
I think fe is the Words of Affirmation. I'm an infp, I don't trust words AT ALL. Quality time is definitely right. Ironically, and I get why you didn't say this because it can't be pulled back to a function. Touch is a big deal with me, although it might just be because of how I was raised.
.... I wonder if si is about physical touch as se is......
ESTP here, my Love Language top 3 is:
1: acts of service
2: physical touch
3: quality time
I do sometimes use gifts, but I rarely use words of affirmation. They just seem so cliché, so much more than "you, my dear, are awesome!" is not to be expected.
I'm INFP and my love language is actually gifts because I'm super sentimental. I send everyone I love lots of mail lol. Letters, cards, and all kinds of little gifts. And that's what makes me feel loved too. Nothing expensive, just things that can be kept.
That fleece gown. That wollen jersey. They have almost become regalia that embue the sense of deep auspiciousness of the content and its creator.
Wow... I’m a fan of this comment! ~ Nathan
The honour is truly mine!
INTJ: Yes, definitely acts of service, I thoroughly enjoy seeing a master plan come together just to make someone else happy (usually these plans are done anywhere from days to months in advance with some allowance for contingencies as well). Although I must admit, for me personally, it is a combo of acts of service, followed by quality time, then physical contact. I know that, if all three are used for someone, it means I trust them a heck of a lot (far too much self-analysis on that one, lol)
Same there! Acts of service, quality time and a little bit of touch, but only with few people. ~ INTJ
My mom is ISFJ and her love language is Words of affirmation
And as an Infj it's definitely quality time
My Istp hubby loves acts of service
Hi Nathan-INTP here. I discovered your channel a few weeks ago and love it. This video is hilarious-you have a particularly amazing sense of humor!
Thank you so much!! ~ Nathan
INFP, my love language is touch actually, but words of affirmation is a close second, and quality time a third.
I like buying shit for people. It’s fun coming up with ideas of what to get, and it’s easier than doing stuff for them or saying mushy shit. - ENTP
Istp. Yep. Acts of service. It feels nice to be able to do something for someone you love and... Securing things that they might've disregarded or will probably forget. But i think quality time is also another love language we have. Since we LOVE our alone time and freedom to do whatever we want/need to do, we tend to isolate ourselves. Quality time means including that person in our... Precious time. Opening our selves to them/less isolation to allow them to settle in our timelines and do activities with them. You'll know you're someone important if i don't just brush you aside. Like, if i'd stop whatever im doing cause you just wanna hang out (when I could really use that "hang out time" doing my thing instead of walking around pointlessly in the park with you. But hey, it's you, so here i am "wasting" my time. 😅)
Also... Gift giving. But not really. Like sometimes we make things, or find useful/practical things that reminds us of you and how you needed it - whether you know you needed it or not. Also, some things we know that you like and will make it for you... Was that last sentence considered gift giving or act of service??
I think gift giving, if it was something they NEEDED maybe that's a little trickier and falls into act of service ad gift giving 🤷🏻♀️
Spot on with Infp. My isfj wife needs words of affirmation.
The INFP one made me laugh out loud. My kind of humor lol -ENFJ. I've taken the test and I always get equally across the board, Time, Touch and Affirmations
also, the ISTP one made me laugh. These were funny
and the INFJ..."You're not getting out" haha
As INFP mine is definatly Time as it takes a lot out of me to interact with others (sometimes i'm not quite fully in the moment either not sure if this or Affirmations is bigger than guess it depends on the context.
There's another dude, Cognitive Personality Theory, who explains so much about why people are having trouble being typed and he really helped me finally learn what my type was. Once I did, I could see it in what other people are saying about that type. Before that, I wasn't really listening to anything about ENTPs as I had no reason to believe I was one. Since you are a person who gets more than one type, as I did, I suggest you look into his work, too. Especially since your two are further off from each other than mine were!
ENFP's what is your primary love language? We are all different so please share.
My primary love language is Acts of service, though affection and affirmation is special to me also, I feel that when someone sacrifices their energy and time for you makes me feel loved and special. It doesnt require alot of effort to buy gifts, its doesnt require alot of effort to say i love you, you look pretty, it doesnt require alot of effort to chill with the one you love, it doesnt require alot of effort to show affection but when it comes to putting yourself before your loved one and sacrificing sleep, time, energy to show your partner your love with acts of service that is meaningful. I can say were all pretty selfish sometimes but to do that is a really special way to show love.
What is your primary language and why? Remember we are all different. Please ENFPs and anybody else share!
My primary love language is physical touch
Acts of service is way at the top! Of course, I have a bunch of little kids and there is so much boring and overwhelming stuff associated with parenting, I love it when someone does something to make my life easier! 😍 Even when it's something that didn't really work, like a 2year old'fixing' the broom with tape, I appreciate the effort. I also like gifts that show that someone was thinking about me. Things like a specific book that I would like, or a shiny stone. Not expensive things, but thoughtful.
Physical touch and quality time are also up there.
For my INTP husband, he likes a whole lot of praise. I don't mind, it's true that as an ENFP I am pretty good at gushing over people, if I can remember to. For myself, though, the phrase 'talk is cheap' applies. It's not that I don't enjoy compliments, but they don't really seem to have the same meaning for me as for some people.
OMGGGGGGG IM ENFP-A AND IM THE EXACT SAME AS YOU 💖💖💖🥺🥺🥺🥺YAYYYY
Mine is quality time.
ENFP borderline ENTP and my primary is quality time followed closely by physical touch. Then acts of service for significant others and words of affirmation for friends. In case you wanted extreme detail lol.
My love language is everything but gift giving. I literally feel nothing lmao
Being an INTP, myself, this I agree with. We have Si child(much like INFP) and it's all about comfort.
I would disagree with a lot of these. As an ENFP my love languages are spending quality time and physical touch.
GUSHINESS....totally and absolutely me! Nathan....I so adore your wordplay and are an amazingly gifted at deciphering and presenting this information in video.
I’m an ENTJ and mine are Quality Time followed by Physical Touch.
Accurate. My INTJ boyfriend is horrendous at small talk but he's constantly feeding me and coming up with action plans to solve any issues I have in life, no matter how small. As an ENTP I just tell him (and anyone else who will listen) how cute I think he is
Every ISFJ I have ever met has had touch as their primary love language - giving them eye contact and hugs are a requirement to exist in their world.
I am ISFJ and touch is my least favourite love language. 🙄
You saved the best for last. That was so on point😂
As an entp its quality time, physical touch, and teasing. Bullying is my love language
I dunno if it's true for other INTPs, but there are really only few people I would like to spend time almost forever. it's like my social battery lasts forever when it comes to a select few, but not with most ppl
I crave physical touch rather than putting my love into words, just the presence of someone I love is more than enough, even if we exchange little to no words
ENTJ lady here: speaking for myself to sum up I’m an “actions speak louder than words” type. So here’s my list:
Time spent: Not just any old together time. It has to be going somewhere, not just idle chit chat. If I want to develop a real, long lasting relationship I’ll take the time to get together w/you or talk on the phone & that’s a big deal for me since I don’t like wasting time, energy etc.
Acts of service: Since I’m a “doer” I’ll go out of my way for you in all kinds of ways. cooking, baby sitting(for free 😉), cut your hair(for free 😉), pick up laundry, return something to a store...
gift giving: yes a practicle one, but a really good one! 😃
I'm privileged then to have an INTP spending quality time with me every day xD
As an INFJ, I have recently took the Love Languages test.
You're gonna love this,
I told my therapist, Do I really have to choose 1 answer cause I want it all??
He said, Yeah only 1.
I broke the test....all but 1 had the same end result. One language was 1 point above the others.
And I really do want all of the different ones. They are something I would do for someone I love and I would hope that they would do the same:)
I like your videos. Thank you! Also made me laugh out loud:)
MizLynn
i got same results too.
@@NathanJGlass You could say that. I have my moments where I prefer one more than others, but I really do just want them all :)
As an INFJ, I feel the same. I want all the languages equally
When I learned about love languages, I actually learned that people actually have 2 or 3 love languages. Mine are touch and quality time, and acts of service to show other people I care. Whereas I see both gifts and words as bribes and don't often enjoy getting them.
I'm an ENFP and this is actually the reason I don't want to take the test hahaha the only thing I don't like is gift giving because it stresses me out hahaha
My girlfriend - An ENFJ
Me - an ENTP
My girlfriend: "You're perfect"
Me: "I guess you're good too" (I'd die for her if I had to, but she doesn't need to know)
Quality time is absolutely true though. I don't feel I'm sharing my love with her, when I can't do things with her.