Confidence goes up and DOWN... (Cross country training)

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  • Опубліковано 10 бер 2024
  • Okay, it might look like I'm in a similar place to where I was last year, but thankfully I'm far from it. This is the next part of my training camp with the legend that is Simon Grieve, and this particular day was the one that I was feeling a little sceptical about.
    We journeyed to Vale View, a local venue to Simey, to have our first cross-country training session of the year. Seeing as we have had a seriously wet winter here in the UK, no XC places on grass were open around us, so having the arena XC at Vale View was a great way to get some practice in.
    I knew that having not been cross country since September of last year, there was a good chance those dreaded thoughts of self-doubt might creep in. That, coupled with it being a freezing day, Jam being very spooky, and being rather ill myself, sadly led to a bit of a wobble with my nerves and some uncharacteristic refusals from Jam.
    Now, as I said at the start, it might look like I'm back to square one, but in fact, this was a really great session to show me how far I've come since the famous breakdown at Lucinda's last year. While I did have a little moment, and may have shed a tear, this time I didn't have to get off and end the session; we worked through it!
    Of course, it isn't ideal, but I am able to look back on it now and feel motivated to get back out and improve, rather than shy away from doing cross country. I hope you guys appreciate me sharing this; know that you are not alone in your confidence journey.
    One day you can be jumping a strange horse in Ireland, then next you're worried to canter your own into a log pile. This sport truly does humble us!

КОМЕНТАРІ • 352

  • @ManifestingMillionaires
    @ManifestingMillionaires 4 місяці тому +295

    We all comment it time and time again but you need to stop being so bloomin harsh on yourself. You and Jammy are amazing and these are some seriously decent sized jumps, even on a bad day you make them look easy! Remember everyone has their moments and she is not going to do it perfect every single time or she wouldn't be a living creature! Give yourself more credit and dont be so harsh on yourself if its not perfect! ❤

    • @indiapearce3173
      @indiapearce3173 4 місяці тому +2

      Omg meg should definitely like this it is so kind of you ❤

    • @tracymckerchar9037
      @tracymckerchar9037 4 місяці тому +4

      I agree nothing like an expectation and pressure sandwich!! You are doing amazing.

    • @MarthaLilyPhotog
      @MarthaLilyPhotog 4 місяці тому

      Agree❤

  • @Krinsta1
    @Krinsta1 4 місяці тому +34

    The lovely look of concern and care coming from Tina and the support of Simon nearly made me cry. Jam really is an emotion sponge. You got through it. One step closer.

  • @according2her
    @according2her 4 місяці тому +22

    As a very anxious rider you have no idea how much it means to hear you say that things can look okay from the outside but still feel pretty rubbish on the inside. So often people will tell you to 'just do it' or 'just get through it' and I'm there thinking yeah genius, if that were so easy I'd be doing it. I'm starting to learn jumping on my sweet angel share and I am petrified just trotting into a crosspole sometimes and it's just nice to know that even a rider like you, with such talent and skill and achievements, still feels scared sometimes too. Thanks for sharing your journey so honestly, it really does make a difference to riders like me!

  • @meialis.ponies
    @meialis.ponies 4 місяці тому +34

    Honestly Meg I’m blooming proud of you. Anxiety is hard there is no way of “getting rid” of it and it’s easier said then done when people say just do it. There is always some sort of physical wall infront on me when I have a mental block and sometimes we need to cry and take down the wall brick by brick. So for you to have a few wobbles and then still carry on is blooming amazing as I and many others would and could have easily given up. Fearless isn’t about not being scared it’s about being scared but learning how to find coping mechanisms to help. You both looked fantastic despite what you felt. She had so much scope and I saw you ride forward tooo loads of fences. Genuinely so proud. This is the wobbles that make you stronger and realise anxiety still comes back but learning how to cope is even more amazing. ❤❤

  • @jenniferlehman326
    @jenniferlehman326 4 місяці тому +77

    Thank you, Meg, for posting the second video. As a trainer, I would have done the same thing as Simey!!! You DID AMAZING!! You can ride, Jammy will get you out of trouble, you KNOW that, and you CAN DO Badders 100. I have complete faith in you. We all have these moments after a major fall. And if someone tells you any different, they are lying their bloody arses off!! I've seen your confidence come back, I know you can do it again. Love from your friend, the Retired Paramedic and Horse Trainer in Ontario, Canada, Jenn 💖 🇨🇦

  • @jennygeorge9242
    @jennygeorge9242 4 місяці тому +28

    You are a good rider Meg and Jammy is fantastic. One quick little way to change your mindset when things start going wrong, is to smile. Just smiling can trick your mind into being more relaxed. Also sing a favourite song. It is amazing how these two little things can completely change your endorphins. I was having a bad day and used these 2 tricks in my dressage test and I rode the best dressage of my life coming in first place. It carried over into my cross country and show jumping and we won. 😂🎉

    • @fleetskipper1810
      @fleetskipper1810 4 місяці тому +5

      Singing while you’re riding, does help nerves. Who cares if people think you’re a little touched in the head when you do it? Your horse will actually like it, too.

    • @MJHutchinson4
      @MJHutchinson4 4 місяці тому +2

      Yes!!! I sing jingle bells on the regular while jumping around. It helps me keep a rhythm and keeps the monsters out of my head (self doubt, overthinking distances etc).

  • @Mosheltie
    @Mosheltie 4 місяці тому +11

    This is a combination of feeling unwell with a head cold, exhausted from all the travelling you do, being constantly filmed etc. Aside from that it is perfectly normal to be afraid and have self doubt. We all know you can do it, you had 2 Connemaras in the top 10 at the Badminton grass roots last year and came 2nd with Jam the year before. We all have wobbles when horse riding and I, for one, love the fact that you actually show this in your videos because it is the actual reality in life. Well done for continuing the session, you really can do this.

  • @MapleStars227
    @MapleStars227 4 місяці тому +45

    It's so tough coming out on a looky forward going horse when it's chilly, you're feeling poorly and it's the first time out this year over solid fences. I think we all have those days where you feel like you ride worse than than others but kudos to you for continuing and getting a bit of the rust shaken off. Putting yourself in positive situations with coaches who can keep you safe and feeling safe but challenged will be part of the key to your success but you already know so just keep following your game plan. 💯

  • @ceri_noyce
    @ceri_noyce 4 місяці тому +21

    Ah Meg, remember what you’re there for …..Cross Country Training. That’s the place to iron out all these things. Giving you all the tools to deal with whatever Jammie needs from you on the day. You are both doing great and you can deal with this. Deep breath, be in the moment and help Jammie through xxx

  • @claireeric8964
    @claireeric8964 4 місяці тому +15

    Aww Meg, don't feel bad about showing how you feel!
    You're helping thousands of equestrians , like me.
    Well done, be proud .
    I cry when I watch you. You are so passionate about riding.
    You are awesome 👌 👏😁❤

  • @johannebrsted6495
    @johannebrsted6495 4 місяці тому +6

    It's interesting having you miked up for this, because you can actually hear how tense you are, by listening to your breathing. It really shows how connected everything is. A big key could be centered breathing, and getting your shoulders down (figuratively as well as physically). It's obviously easy to be on the outside looking in, but I think you might need to get that in hand again. Lots of love.

  • @KMartha22
    @KMartha22 4 місяці тому +10

    I think this is a perfect example of how more often than not things are a lot worse in our head that they really are. Worth keeping in mind when we feel out of control

  • @sarahcooper3378
    @sarahcooper3378 4 місяці тому +9

    First XC session of the year.....yes a few wobbles but REALLY!......it was excellent. Jammie has so much scope and ability. She can get you out of trouble anytime. It was a tad unusual for her to stop at the ditch. You know how you feel and you address that to us all. Well done Simon for the advice etc. He certainly knows you well.

  • @victoriacotton9716
    @victoriacotton9716 4 місяці тому +10

    Pressure release, No sunshine, flu, over working, letting out emotions that you have been holding in, letting go, showing others how much you over come and have to be strong always..sometimes in the right company you just need to breakdown and thats ok all part of training purposes and horses. also any alcohol drunk always comes out as spooking Ghostly shadows the next day, always keep above the spirits when doing cross country , keep alchol for rare occasions doesnt mix well with staying above emotions and horses, you needed support and Simon and Tina were there, .. from our perspective, everything looked fantastic, just a wobbly moment and everything will only get better from now on as the season approaches ❤❤❤

  • @Night-Nicky
    @Night-Nicky 4 місяці тому +37

    Wow!!! Jammy is a super star!!! And when you stay positive, YOU are a super star too!!!
    Believe in yourself, remember to breath, and enjoy it ❤
    Love your videos, the good the bad and the ugly side. And when you think you can't do it, Jammy can. You know she can so keep on smiling 😊❤

  • @ckswat77zz51
    @ckswat77zz51 4 місяці тому +10

    Our worst enemy is our own mind. Yes Meg, your are amazing. I love your honesty. You can do it Girl! Actually you are doing it🙋🏻‍♀️💕🇺🇸🐴

  • @helenhinds8581
    @helenhinds8581 4 місяці тому +9

    You said at one point during the whole 'ditch' palava that it was so scrappy - but this is why we have training sessions. Better to discover problems when there's time to sort them out. You did a great job, Jammy didn't make things easy for you, and you really came through. You dealt with your feelings and you got back in there 🥰

  • @Bently2849
    @Bently2849 4 місяці тому +18

    Everybody has days and moments like the one you had today. Jam was having one of those days, too. The perfect storm and you both came out of it smarter and better able to be the perfect team! It all happens for a reason and you will look back on this day as one that helped you in the long run. You will remember all of Simon's advice and training. You are an awesome woman and horsewoman! If you ever doubt that just look around you and see all of the most fabulous horses and ponies in your yard. They wouldn't be so awesome without you being such a brilliant horsewoman!!

  • @Fjordingbanden
    @Fjordingbanden 4 місяці тому +21

    Simon looks like such a good trainer! And dont be harsh on yourself! 🥰You and Jam are litterally such a good pair. 🐴😍Keep training and you will definitely get there in no time! You are doing so good, you are going to ace badminton 2024! 🔥
    Love from the fjordies💛🐴

  • @Annabananakaffekanna
    @Annabananakaffekanna 4 місяці тому +7

    As someone who struggles so much with low confidence and self doubt while riding, seeing this makes me feel not as alone! I’ve been following you for quite a while now and really enjoy seeing all parts of you life❤️

  • @jessicahigdon3962
    @jessicahigdon3962 4 місяці тому +9

    Great video Meg. Jam was trying to save you from whatever you thought might be scary. I don't think she was actually scared of anything. It's hard to get rid of the fear. The anxiety. But Jam is perfectly capable of what you're asking her, and you just have to trust her. You did great Meg. Keep moving forward, tell yourself "keep moving forward ". Love you Meg, you can do it!

  • @sullyhildebrand4636
    @sullyhildebrand4636 4 місяці тому +6

    You're not a robot (and neither is Jammy)! Everyone is allowed a wobble, but as you said, it's how you respond and move forward from it. By the end of the video you can really tell how far you've come in your mindset. You ended positive and determined, and it shows in your riding--can't wait to see you conquer Badminton 100!

  • @emmyennit
    @emmyennit 4 місяці тому +10

    You and Jam are so incredibly capable of insane things and it's so easy to forget that on a bad day. Remember the feeling you felt after jumping the last cross country fence at badminton, you're working up to something so rewarding and there's always going to be a few hiccups but remembering what this is all for is the most important part. You're so talented, Jammy's so talented, you both got this !! ❤

  • @carolinefarren1935
    @carolinefarren1935 4 місяці тому +6

    So brave to share this and you should be so proud of yr self and jam ! Panic attacks are horrible at the time but happen to the strongest people but realising what they are and knowing how to get over them is the key and u certainly did that ❤😊🎉

  • @Donnaandtheo
    @Donnaandtheo 4 місяці тому +12

    Awww Meg. Just want to give you a hug. Our heads are our own worst enemies. But you are a great rider. And you will be fine. ❤

  • @elphick.event.ponies
    @elphick.event.ponies  4 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for all the lovely comments everyone ❤

  • @sophieadams9339
    @sophieadams9339 4 місяці тому +8

    Meg! This takes so much guts to show us all the raw footage.
    You did amazing and it’s so refreshing to see that even the top riders have wobbly moments and I can say lots of us know your TOP and AMAZING! Keep going we all support you and know you can do it!! ❤

  • @lilysnot0kay
    @lilysnot0kay 4 місяці тому +8

    Meg you are such an amazing rider and you inspire and motivate me so much. I also get in my head wayyyy too much when I have a bad lesson or have a refusal. Unfortunately it happens to the best of us, right? 😂 We all have bad days, even the ponies. I'm so happy you're so transparent when it comes to riding horses, some people (me included) just need to see someone else going through the same thing to pick them up a bit. Just remember, you and Jammy are absolutely AMAZING. ❤ Thanks for everything you do, Meg.

  • @beccalu04
    @beccalu04 4 місяці тому +4

    You and Jam make such a good team, and everyone has days like this! Simon is such a good instructor as well, he seems so supportive and like he knows you both very well. lYou are an absolutely fantastic rider and Jammy is a mega horse… you’ve got this, and we’re all behind you! ❤

  • @user-tv6qk6wy3f
    @user-tv6qk6wy3f 4 місяці тому +5

    Meg, don't be hard on yourself. Even top professional riders have days when everything goes pear shaped. I think you were spot on with your own analysis of your mindset and Jammy picked up on it. Simon is a great instructor. You and Jammy are more than capable of completing and even winning BE100 at Badminton. Practice, practice practice. Believe in yourself and remember everything you have been taught on your lessons. Good luck!

  • @amateureventertales8484
    @amateureventertales8484 4 місяці тому +6

    You are a beautiful rider. I am currently on my second maternity leave in a row (I have an 18 month old and an 8 week old 🙃) all following from buying a farm that needed loads of fix up, starting a new career and the pandemic while being a new crna. Needless to say I haven't ridden regularly in 5 years and my horse was a barely broken 5 year old before all this. I am ready to get back to it even though my nerves will be sky high, and watching your channel over this time has given me such inspiration. Please continue to document your whole journey, as you will regret not seeing how far youve come after killing it at 100, but it really does truly help us to see we arent alone in these feelings and they can be overcome. Much love from the states and I know someone with the heart like you have will do wonders and smash it this year! You can do it!

  • @Sbisyxbfkbehs
    @Sbisyxbfkbehs 4 місяці тому +5

    i love how comfortable you are with posting these videos. i’ve been having a down season with my horse where she’s just so incredibly spooky and forward but it’s so nice to know that even people at your level struggle with the same things and i’m not alone. those are some seriously big jumps and you should be so proud of yourself for cracking on when you wanted to stop. these kinds of lessons are always the best because they really strengthen us in the long run and they get us thinking about what happed/ why it happened. you’re doing great, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. ❤

  • @kiaradoesart9682
    @kiaradoesart9682 4 місяці тому +2

    Awwww bless. Horses are so sensitive to our inner selves, and Jammy was clearly listening to how you were feeling ❤ It’s so frustrating that our unconscious selves can skew a situation so far from the outward reality! Especially when we want to perform- Simon reminding you to have fun was his way of trying to dissipate the anxiety for you. ❤ Easier said than done, I know, but good to hear you acknowledging that the hiccups are only temporary!

  • @horsingaround-medidaelaine
    @horsingaround-medidaelaine 4 місяці тому +2

    Oh Meg, I recognise the feeling and the brain pull those tricks on you. Just hearing you breathe during the session made me feel “how you feel”. 😢
    You are so strong, so talented and so are your horses (thanks to you).
    Don’t be so harsh on yourself with these “my fault”. You’re doing great! 🥰

  • @annejarvis7002
    @annejarvis7002 4 місяці тому +6

    Meg, you shout away🤗 Use that determination. Better having a slight blip in training than in a competition. You pushed through and kept going, that is just so brave - don't underestimate that. What awesome friends with Tina & Simon. Go for it Meg. You have the awesome Jam & you have the talent, grit & determination. Well done ❤

  • @littleninja0
    @littleninja0 4 місяці тому +3

    Oh Meg, you are so hard on yourself sometimes. It's very understandable having a wobble when you hadn't done xc in a while. I'm quite sure that there are a lot of people having similar kind of issues themselves watching this who were cheering you on "YEAH GO MEG!!" as you continued on after Simon had a chat with you.
    Very well done for not giving up. It would be the easiest thing in the world to hop down off the horse and say no. I've heard that real bravery comes from feeling the fear but doing it anyway. I'm glad you're taking the positives away from the session, that's probably the best way to view it. Take care, lots 'o' love from Ireland x

  • @helenlamb6560
    @helenlamb6560 4 місяці тому +4

    You are amazing, Meg. We all have doubting days in life, and when you've had such a horrific fall like you did, it's not surprising that it sits at the back of your mind occasionally. But you and your horses are so talented. Perhaps on days like these, you need to go home, or have it saved to your phone to watch; the videos of you flying around Badminton, especially the broken bridge which you flew over so professionally. Believe in yourself Meg, cos we all do. 😊x

  • @mischathekitten
    @mischathekitten 4 місяці тому +3

    I actually think your seeing a stride was really good here. To me that was the improvement I noticed the most for the whole video was that you came in with great distances and stayed forward. It is hard to stay forward on a spooky horse, so well done! Thanks for sharing your journey with us. It helps me understand my own.

  • @girlwithpups
    @girlwithpups 4 місяці тому +30

    There is something so lovely about having instructors that know you and you implicitly trust. Mine is my dad and he knows when to call me on my crap and push or stop and unpack. So happy you’ve found that team. Bad days are ok, having a good cry is ok. Give yourself the space to have those feelings so you can let them go ❤️ you’re doing great and we appreciate you sharing your journey.

  • @Bored_EQUESTRIAN
    @Bored_EQUESTRIAN 4 місяці тому +8

    Another day of not studying and instead watching elphick event ponies! ❤ Meg you have helped me so much to gain back my interest and confidence in horse riding throughout the past 2 years!

  • @nikkicook4993
    @nikkicook4993 4 місяці тому +4

    You are such an amazing horsewoman and a very talented rider. We all have ups and downs, that's life (and horses!) Try not to be too hard on yourself, but thank you so much for sharing your life with horses with us🥰

  • @hschenck94
    @hschenck94 4 місяці тому +7

    Meg you are doing a great job and should be so proud of yourself!! You have come so far and have honestly helped me on my journey to recovering from a fall. When my girl and I had a fall over a fence last year it took me forever to get back on (partly due to a broken collar bone). Then when I finally started riding and jumping again this year and she trips over a pole or jumps over her shoulder, it sends me right back. Watching your videos and your process has shown me that the best thing I can do for myself is be kind and trust the process. Keep up the hard work!! For the both of us ❣

  • @Equestrianstars
    @Equestrianstars 4 місяці тому +7

    Meg I love your videos and I love how you tell us about losing confidence it really inspires me when I ride and I love your personality I hope you have a amazing day or night❤

  • @irish.eventing0386
    @irish.eventing0386 Місяць тому

    As an anxious rider myself, especially in jumping. The best thing I've ever done mentally to help myself from causing my own problems in riding (i.e, stops, run outs, riding poorly) is to put trust in my trainer that they wouldn't ask me to do something that was above mine or my horses skill level and to also "Fake it till you make it" meaning I fake my confidence and try to ride like nothing is bothering me. This gives my horse the confidence to do their job. In turn when they do jump the scary jump, it makes my confidence a little more genuine because "we did it", "its not that scary". Now I can trust my horse a little bit more when I'm nervous to take care of me and to have my back.
    I've found that talking out loud to my horse saying "we've got this" and the likes helps me to trick my brain a little. Also focusing on trusting your trainer and thinking on how they wouldn't ask you to do something you cant do helps to focus your brain on someone else and then you cant think about all your short comings or doubts.
    Take from this what you will, you're an amazing rider and your trainers know it, you've got talented and dedicated horses that you've partnered yourself with. Believe in yourself, and if that fails believe in the people and horses that believe in you.

  • @JoeAcarnley
    @JoeAcarnley 4 місяці тому +4

    Meg you're such a brilliant rider and I have every confidence in you that you're more than capable of getting to go to badminton and compete at 1 meter level. It's ok to have the odd wobbles as long as you pick yourself back up and trust in yourself. Now you got yourself a lorry that you can drive this would be the best opportunity to get yourself out to x country arena hire and keep working at your convenience building. Please ignore those who say nasty things as I'm sure you got a lot more people out there like myself who believe in you and just keep going at your training as your going in the right direction

  • @magicaltrails
    @magicaltrails 4 місяці тому +2

    Oh, Meg! I felt for you as if it were me there. I'm not going to say "go easy on yourself" b/c you're like me there and you never will LOL. But do understand that EVERYONE (including Simon, the Lucindas, etc.) has confidence dips. The more you have, and the more you recover from, the more able you are to deal with them. So unfortunately, that means there will be more! But just stay in that headspace where you are now, where you understand that they happen and you can move past them. And as you know, you are transferring your stress to Jammy--she actually looked fabulous the first few rounds, but she caught your worries as time went by. She knows you better than you know yourself, you know! And I also think that arena was just confusing b/c there were so many big, solid fences. She's not used to that. She's used to a crowd of show jumping fences, or Xctry fences all strung out over acres and acres. I can imagine that she would easily get distracted by nearby jumps and be unsure what is being asked of her. No, Banksy didn't, but he's a gelding. He has no job. A boss mare's job is to look out around her to protect her herd (you) and to constantly be on alert. Which is a wonderful thing, but, you know, has a flip side. Anyway, LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE YOU!!!! Hang in there girl. YOU CAN RIDE. YOU HAVE A FABULOUS HORSE. ALL WILL BE WELL!!!

  • @juliabanes204
    @juliabanes204 4 місяці тому +1

    Please don't be so harsh on yourself - it's training, you learn from it... also, you're still dealing with the cold so physically you're not yourself, and it's okay to NOT be okay!! You all have been doing so much, I'm worried that you're over-extending yourself :/ Much love from South Africa.

  • @Nicola_Bailey
    @Nicola_Bailey 4 місяці тому +2

    As someone who suffered from a severe lack of confidence when riding, I feel your pain. In my case it got so bad that I stopped jumping entirely and stuck to dressage. Confidence is hard won but easily lost. The mind is incredibly powerful and it is hard to get past doubt yourself. Onwards and upwards though Meg 🐎

  • @jenniferquinn5010
    @jenniferquinn5010 4 місяці тому +3

    Well there is some good news at least it happened with Simon and not mid competition. You are in a sport that is natural to be unsure of yourself because being over confident is also dangerous for horse and rider. It is about developing coping mechanisms so that you can still enjoy the ride. The other positive is your ability to analyse it and put it back into perspective. So well done you.

  • @CDN_Bookmouse
    @CDN_Bookmouse 4 місяці тому +2

    It's so hard to share the times we all have when things don't go quite right. I really appreciate the vulnerability here and well done for recognizing that it really wasn't as bad as it felt.

  • @kirstyrobinson10
    @kirstyrobinson10 4 місяці тому +2

    You really are an excellent rider, who cares deeply about your horses. Please, please believe in yourself as much as we believe in you! I know it's easier said than done though. I went through a bad experience with a horse, and ended up having to be led by a friend for a few times (even though my horse never put a hoof wrong) it Really is in your mind, but anxiety is a b1tch! I'm not belittling your feelings, just wish I could give you a big hug and let you know, you really have got this! ❤xxxx

  • @shepherds.pie.youtube
    @shepherds.pie.youtube 4 місяці тому

    I can relate so much...
    Remember this, that I learned:
    Sometimes we think we are bad at riding, or that we are - frankly - cowards for not wanting to do it.
    But if you don't believe in yourself, it creates the EXACT SAME feelings as if you really were either of those.
    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @UhmAnywayMeBored
    @UhmAnywayMeBored 4 місяці тому +2

    This is really good Meg, you look awesome, just don't forget, don't pull on the horse's mouth when your nervous, they spook etc. And don't forget to pet her, after a scary ditch etc, its never the horses fualt-
    Trust them, be loose, you're doing amazing. Enough doubting yourself, look at what you do have. When your tense you can't feel that rthym!❤🐴

  • @Wisteriaaocs
    @Wisteriaaocs 4 місяці тому +3

    Unfortunately ,loosing confidence is a part of the sport.Loosing your confidence is a pain but just think about the millions of good times you've had with your horses . Getting both Dee and Jam to badminton (TOP 10?!❤) Dee having a foal, Two beautiful colts? Compared to just a few bad ones getting in your way, just think of them as obstacles.
    You are an amazing rider and you need to trust what you and Jam know! Plus,those fences were beefy,its not the easiest thing to do when your on a spooky horse and your ill! Just think of all the things you accomplished along the way,and all the amazing people around you to support you through the difficult times.You CAN do it Meg! Xx

  • @debbieredmon5063
    @debbieredmon5063 4 місяці тому +1

    I totally get it. Stops always shake me. Jam takes our cues from you. Think of it positively. She is so in tune with you that she senses worry. A horse that doesn't care about how you feel won't care what you think. Jammy knows you and she can feel your worry. Trust that she can do it. Trust that you can do it. Don't worry about a lack of confidence because everyone has that. The panic is real but so is the accomplishment. You and Jammy are amazing. Breath deeply. Simon is right. Do some baby jumps and then move forward. You can both do it. Cross country is hard. The fences are hard. Do your pole work to get yourself relaxed and then move on to some bigger jumps. The wobbles happen but you did not stop. You needed Simey to push you on and give external confidence that you can do it. I remember last year with Ellie and the breakdown. Then the build up! Keep it going. Practice, practice practice and try not to do it when you are sick!! You guys will do it, will get over it and I'm proud of you and Jam!

  • @Thediabeticequestrian
    @Thediabeticequestrian 4 місяці тому +2

    Oh Meg. I’d love to say I can’t believe anyone’s got anything horrible to say about you as I along with 99% of everyone else that sees your content thinks you’re absolutely amazing!
    People that comment nasty things are just jealous and bored grasping for any way to feel important or relevant.
    Just keep doing you, be KIND to yourself! Even when others aren’t and it’s common place to self resent. You are an inspiration to so many equestrians, young and older and likely all over the world!
    I haven’t been subbed super long but I have already got so much admiration and respect for you as a person and equestrian!! Keep it up, you are good enough, & you are worthy of your success

  • @susantescione8007
    @susantescione8007 4 місяці тому +1

    Jam has jumped much scarier ditches before. It is a perfect example of how the rider's confidence influences the horse's performance. When you feel better, Jam will perform better. Stay with it. You have persevered thus far and it will get better. You are doing a fabulous job and everyone backslides sometimes. Tell yourself it's ok and you are ok. And you will be.

  • @Star.s_editz
    @Star.s_editz 4 місяці тому +2

    I know everyone is commenting a lot of inspirational & nice comments but I just want to say you're absolutely ROCKING the jay blue there Meg! x

  • @Stephanie-lm7sp
    @Stephanie-lm7sp 4 місяці тому

    Oh Meg....been there done that, however I DID NOT have a Simon.
    The coach ripped me up and down.
    So. I gathered myself after a clean run. Dismounted and fired my coach.
    I never would have done that had it not been for a course I took on Self Confidence and Stepping out of ones shoes.
    I know they have them where you are. I can't begin to tell you how it put me on a pedestal. I paid for my horses to be conditioned ridden and 2x a week by my NEW coach. Both Coach and rider would not take the money. I new then I had positive people along my path.
    HEAVEN!! I was blocking my own success. I noticed a big difference in how it helped many areas I didnt even notice.
    That was 2 years. I know host weekends and I see so much of me in you.
    You're amazing Meg. Get hold and identify those moments....honestly.
    Jam is great and together you'll fly!!!
    We all see your gifts!!!
    You need to see them and smile girl.
    Thank god for Simon and others who cheer you on!!
    OH!! Lose a word in your vocab. That word is "CAN'T"!!
    YOU "CAN" MEG!!!
    WE ALL LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU!
    DON'T FORGET IT🙏❤️🐎☺️
    A little laughter?! My new coach brings lipstick. If I'm caught not smiling she lays one on me. lolol I have to laugh. Everyone laughs. Laughter is contagious Meg??
    Love you and all your ponies

  • @user-dz8rw8yg2e
    @user-dz8rw8yg2e 4 місяці тому +1

    Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to forget about feeling "scrappy" and look at it from our point of view because it really did look amazing and I relate to that word in almost every ride i do and its a very big thing to get over and u clearly can! xx

  • @ellesmera8861
    @ellesmera8861 4 місяці тому +1

    Even though it's easier said then done, you have to find, if so, the smallest positive thing and hold on to that and try and don't bother with the bad stuff. I had been riding for 11 years and then came a lesson at the riding school on a horse that was new to me (happened all the time not just with this horse) and the lesson was chaos. I had no balance at all, I felt like i was a beginner again and couldn't ride, I almost fell off in the canter and I felt miserable. I then got some help from the coach with the canter, I was the only one cantering, the other riders were walking or standing still with their horses. And there came the positive and golden moment, I had the best collected canter in my life i think, for a couple of strides before it was time to move on with the lesson. That moment is still with me (after like 10 years). Sure, the bad stuff too, but that little moment made me say to myself "I can ride, and this was awesome!" and that's what I like to think about looking back. We all have hiccups every now and then, but before you know it, it has passed :)

  • @emmaelton8240
    @emmaelton8240 4 місяці тому +1

    My mare put me in that ditch from a dirty stop last year! It’s a new mantra that wobbles don’t last forever 😘

  • @dianehookham
    @dianehookham 4 місяці тому +1

    I call it "defensive mode" after something goes wrong, it kicks in to us. Simon was amazing making you go over and over it, and when he says but dont stop her, hes such a good friend but a awesome teacher for you, cause he knows what you're going through. Its hard to see you go through this, cause we see a amazing couple in jumping, you are both totally amazing together, i love watching you both so much. Dont forget to contact your talking person (forgotten the name while writing this lol).
    You dont need to show us everything, we as horsey people and not, totally understand, everyone has bad days, but you pushed yourself through it and thats the key! you can do this babe xxx 😊
    You aggressive bit at the end woke my dog up, he looked around at the screen as if to say wth lol😂 😂

  • @Hellosavvyy
    @Hellosavvyy 4 місяці тому +1

    This exact scenario happened to me last week in my jumping lesson. My trainer had me doing a war cry before the jump I was stuck on… 😂 but we are a little more unhinged over here in Nebraska (USA).
    As someone with OCD, moments like that can be crippling for me in many ways and thankfully like Simon my trainer gets me through them.
    Please stop being so hard on yourself, seeing these scenarios happening to other riders IS SO HELPFUL FOR ALL OF US.
    It’s not just you, it’s not just me, heck it’s even the pros!
    YOU
    ARE
    DOING
    GREAT.

  • @emmienewswanger222
    @emmienewswanger222 4 місяці тому +1

    I had some big confidence knocks last year. I almost quit riding, it seriously affected my relationship with my horse, Oliver. This year I feel more confident in myself. I ride better. But I still hear and feel those same thoughts and doubts. I get "flashbacks" and it's a fear that develops. A fear of getting that same mindset as last year. A fear of feeling so bad about myself and my riding that I'd quit riding. But I know that those troubles made me a better rider today.

  • @kellygalvin7775
    @kellygalvin7775 4 місяці тому +2

    Aw Meg , I know what you mean about it all feeling scrappy but , my word if this is yours and Jams worst day you I have absolutely nothing to worry about!

  • @milliesperfectponies4268
    @milliesperfectponies4268 4 місяці тому +8

    i know how you feel when a horse stops your brain goes into panic mode and even when they go over it feels awful but your did awesome going and giving it a try again

  • @amyandtigger1298
    @amyandtigger1298 4 місяці тому +1

    Honestly Meg jammy is brilliant, my horse who looks the exact same as jammy ( maybe a bit bigger) wouldn’t jump any of that without stopping and not jumping at first, she is so good!

  • @carolthorson7854
    @carolthorson7854 4 місяці тому +1

    Oh Meg, I feel for you. The demons of confidence never really leave. Stay vigilant, channel nerves into positive force to give Jam permission to do what she does best. It does not have to be pretty, she just has to do it and you have to hang on and trust her. I can see the doubt through the reins from here, no wonder she stopped. Simon was spot on, Jam's asking 'What is wrong with the jump mum? Should I stop?' You have to say, 'It's fine Jam, you're a Champ, this is easy, over you go'

  • @patsmythe
    @patsmythe 4 місяці тому +1

    Simon is amazing. It's the overthinking girlie - you will be fine. You will do it just one of those days = relax. Jammie is a star⭐

  • @annjohnson8437
    @annjohnson8437 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for sharing footage showing the realities of training for competition. This lesson may not have gone perfectly, but you and Jammy stuck with it. Simon is a great instructor! ❤

  • @gailst55
    @gailst55 4 місяці тому +3

    Very brave!! and you worked through it!! You are showing us all life lessons - thank you.

  • @AiSayuki
    @AiSayuki 4 місяці тому +1

    Gosh I wish I could talk with you and be your cheerleader. You are allowed to have bad days, days where you feel tense. Just keep going and listen to darling Simon. He is doing such a good job. And you and Jam are so brave and focussed. ❤ You will do great this season! 🎉

  • @abbebladon
    @abbebladon 4 місяці тому +1

    Meg, I’m not even half way through the video, Jammy has just refused the ditch and lovely Simon is making you do it again & again. All I can think of is you last year with Lucinda and how this would’ve totally thrown you for a loop. I feel incredibly proud of you, & Jammy for not crumbling & keeping going even though the whole fibre of your being was wanting to crumble! Well done Meg, your fantastic xxxx p.s just wanted to send a hug to you & say we all have self doubt days, I’m 47 & have them on a daily basis. Just remember, you’re awesome, Jammy is awesome & you CAN do it ❤ p.p.s Simon is also awesome! P.p.p.s! Could king kenny set up some x country jumps in one of your paddocks at home? Just to practice on????

  • @kiss_aegis
    @kiss_aegis 4 місяці тому +1

    I am doing my first event in a couple of weeks and this was so helpful in the mental preparation. And you're so right, it always feels so much worse in the moment, and then as soon as you are on your way home, you kick yourself for doubting yourself so much - it's very relatable.

  • @sophiebretnall5696
    @sophiebretnall5696 4 місяці тому +1

    It is so important to share the hard moments and we love you for that horses are not machines and it is so normal to have harder days!! Amazing as always 😊♥

  • @annemurphy7879
    @annemurphy7879 4 місяці тому +1

    Meg, You are a true athlete and beautiful horse loving spirit. So amazing to watch you learn, grow, and win. You are a winner girl!!!

  • @tiffanyjack6095
    @tiffanyjack6095 4 місяці тому

    The perfectionist in me, recognizes the perfectionist in you. Realistically speaking, no one is perfect, no matter what we are doing, we will never be perfect and as you said, it was your first practice of the year. Your confidence got knocked, as someone who also has low self esteem, when my confidence gets knocked down for any reason, it is really hard to then go out in public and have my products put up for sale. I see every little mistake I made in every item I put up for sale. No one else sees them, not unless it is a major flaw, even other people who do the same thing that I do, it is a standard that I put on myself. It is all in my head. Sometimes you have to step away for a few minutes, regroup, and then go back at it, other times, I know better than to even try, because while what I do usually makes me very happy and brings me a lot of peace, it can also be a source of stress. I have to realize what kind of day it is and make the difficult decision to say, okay, today is not the day to go in there, however, usually that is when I will paint instead of my other crafts. You will get back in the groove with Jammy, give it time. ❤❤❤

  • @laurenpelling4079
    @laurenpelling4079 4 місяці тому +4

    Sending all the love Meg! You’ve come a long way in your confidence but having a wobble is more than ok! The way you were able to work through it was amazing and I wish I was at a that point after a bad accident! Your an absolute inspiration ❤❤

  • @pinkyharris3560
    @pinkyharris3560 4 місяці тому

    Awwwwwww... I must say that I'm so thankful that this bobble happened now. You still have plenty of time to build from it! So happy Simon was able to help you! YOU CAN DO IT... ANNNNNND YOU WILL!!!!! You're amazing damnit... Don't forget that! 💗

  • @TrellyAndRuthie
    @TrellyAndRuthie 4 місяці тому +1

    Really enjoy these training type vodeos meg, very excited to watch ❤❤

  • @Ziggy_lilli
    @Ziggy_lilli 4 місяці тому +1

    Well done Meg you did really well ur such an inspiration ❤

  • @nickirichards7838
    @nickirichards7838 4 місяці тому +1

    I’m so glad you shared this because they’re so many people that go through this!!! You got this Meg!

  • @njwhite4927
    @njwhite4927 4 місяці тому +1

    I love that you show the breakdowns. It's so real. Horseback riding isn't always sunshine and butterflies and you normalize the hard rides. So thank you for that ❤

  • @LilyEquestrian
    @LilyEquestrian 4 місяці тому +3

    I really enjoy watching these training videos and love how realistic you are Meg!

  • @emilyjones957
    @emilyjones957 4 місяці тому

    hi Meg I'm honestly so grateful that you posted this as I can kind of relate like I can lose confidence so fast and i tend to dwell on the smallest things as everything is much harder in the saddle than it looks on the ground and i love to see you so positive as it is sooo needed!

  • @Avandel24
    @Avandel24 4 місяці тому +1

    You did incredible, well done❤❤

  • @kirstenk1565
    @kirstenk1565 3 місяці тому

    I really appreciate you sharing this session. I’ve take up horseback riding in my 40’s (recreational midlife crisis) and I have sessions like this (at a much simpler riding level). It’s comforting to see a rider of your caliber has moments too; makes me feel more normal. Not that you need any advice from a novice, but I find two things help me… praising the horse for each thing that goes right, and focusing on the fact that I am training the horse with each ride. You look amazing, and I know it felt awful, but the fact that you’re able to reflect honestly on it means the lessons are working even if they feel off in the moment.

  • @My_fiery_dartmoor
    @My_fiery_dartmoor 4 місяці тому +1

    We all have days where things don’t quite go to plan but you did amazing riding through it at not giving up! You and Jammy are so amazing and are a great team! Love you! ❤❤❤

  • @gottasay4766
    @gottasay4766 4 місяці тому +1

    I so understand what you are feeling! You have many of the issues I have so it is soooo generous of you to share your development with us. I am learning so much.

  • @AlixMarzin
    @AlixMarzin 4 місяці тому +1

    You and jam are amazing so you do not need to worry . You are AMAZiNG !

  • @katrinathompson7828
    @katrinathompson7828 4 місяці тому

    This is one of my favorite video's.
    You are honest and raw and thinking how we all feel. It's refreshing instead of the perfect video's I keep seeing. You have come so far and love your channel ❤️

  • @abigreengrass6045
    @abigreengrass6045 4 місяці тому +3

    Megg you are an amazing rider and you and Jam are a great team.

  • @juliedalgardno3361
    @juliedalgardno3361 4 місяці тому +1

    Just mark it up to the Very momentary seasonal glitch!❤❤ How is it you can yell and still make me laugh?! Simeon is wonderful. Looking forward to more as always 💖! Hope you get some rest and take care of you - beautiful resilient you!!!

  • @diannefeinstein5135
    @diannefeinstein5135 4 місяці тому +1

    When you’ve had a traumatic spill it can take a bit of time to get past it all. I think you and Jam are doing well to put it all together again. Keep on trying

  • @valeriefergusson269
    @valeriefergusson269 4 місяці тому +1

    Simon was great so calm and kind well done all xx

  • @cr0s8y79
    @cr0s8y79 4 місяці тому

    i absolutely appreciate how open you are when it comes to these feelings, it makes feel a lot less alone. Thank you for sharing your feelings!

  • @ZenaTheJumper2121
    @ZenaTheJumper2121 4 місяці тому +1

    You’re such a phenomenal rider, and I’ve always struggled with confidence when I ride and nobody seems to understand or go through it at my barn. so hearing that I’m definitely not alone feeling like this makes me feel better ❤ thanks Meg

  • @rouveforbes7165
    @rouveforbes7165 4 місяці тому

    Bravo ! It takes enormous courage to continue on and win !

  • @georgiacorfield
    @georgiacorfield 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for sharing your difficult moments with horses, your videos have really helped me to boost my own confidence while riding. You're amazing Meg, and Jam is a cracking little pony