"People With Depression Commit Suicide" | Dick Cavett | Big Think
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- "People With Depression Commit Suicide"
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Get professional help as fast as you can if you suffer from depression, says Dick Cavett, who wishes that he had received help earlier.
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Dick Cavett:
Dick Cavett was the host of “The Dick Cavett Show” and the co-author of two books, “Cavett” (1974) and “Eye on Cavett” (1983). He has appeared on Broadway in “Otherwise Engaged,” “Into the Woods” and as narrator in “The Rocky Horror Show,” and has made guest appearances in movies and on TV shows including “Forrest Gump” and “The Simpsons.” He currently operates a blog for the “Opinionator” section of the New York Times. Mr. Cavett lives in New York City and Montauk, N.Y.
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Question: What is your advice to those suffering from depression?
Dick Cavett: Yeah, get help immediately. If you have a relative who's lost interest in everything and doesn't get out of bed, who doesn't care for things they used to, can't imagine anything that would give them any pleasure, don't fool around with it, get therapy, get help, get medication if that's right for you, or talk therapy, or something. But the very simple reason that you don't want to fool with it is, people with depression commit suicide. There's a lot more to know about depression than that glib answer, but that's not, I'm not glad I've had depression, but the pay off, if there's any, has been the fact that I've talked about it and that people have said, on the street even, "You saved my dad's life, he thought if this could happen to you, it's all right for it to happen to him." One of the uses of celebrity, perhaps? Or, "Well, you saved my daughter who always liked you and then she said, 'Gee, he's had this,'" and then, whatever.
But it's a ticking time bomb, it ends and it does not help to tell the person suffering it, "Get up and get out and have some fun and forget it, stop thinking about yourself and pull up your socks and play some tennis and you'll be fine." It'll help to play tennis, because you'll have some endorphins moving and you'll feel a little better. But you don't do any favors to the depressed person by saying, "Come on, snap out of it."
Question: Did you get help quickly?
Dick Cavett: I didn't get help very--no, I should've gotten help a lot earlier, I did, I suppose the first and second times, because you think, this can't be happening again. But the help is there and it must be used.
There is no way to understand what depression is like if you haven’t experienced it. So don’t criticize someone who is suffering from it. It is so awful it can’t be described in words.
Amen.
Very true
I would describe depression for someone who never experienced it as "hell".
I'm currently suffering from it and I'm struggling really bad
Exactly, I just got in a fight with my “friend” and no matter what I do I gets way more annoying
When youre so depressed to the point of suicide, your point of view is so dark and obscured that the only way out that you see is dying just so you can escape this world and leave all the bs behind. It just hurts to breathe so you just want to make it stop.
sometimes i wish they would legalise some variant of weed thats not super strong
@@waynerowlands7289it sometimes can worsen the situation
@@waynerowlands7289Weed makes me worse and overthink thoughts but I've heard it can work wonders for others
I lost my son to Suicide on February 23, 2020. No amount of medication cures it. People around him didn't help make it easier. Watch what you say to people, you never know what they are going through!
im sorry for your loss. Sometimes I thought about ending my life too but i couldn't do it because I dont want my parents to suffer.
Can I ask how old your son was
I'm so sorry to hear that. But at least he doesn't suffer anymore 🥺
You are so right!
So sorry for your loss
I love waking up everyday wishing that I didn't
Well thats fucking sad
@@reality7004 So is this life so how appropriate.
Every human is born against his will and every human has to die against his will, it is better never to be born, I sympathize with those who take things in their own hands, they were clearly forced into an existence which they didn't ask for and which they didn't want to be in. What a courage and self-sacrifice of them to make at least an attempt to escape from this malicious game called life.
I have the same feeling that I wasn’t born
I hope you get to talk about this with someone professional. Dick is right, getting help is the best way to feel better. Dont feel like its your fault, but be brave and speak to a psychologist.
Why bother getting help when everything feels so fake on this planet.
Archibald Summers it's not "fake". What's that even mean?
Yup
Jack W in my definition it means we live in a illusion. We are manipulated for the governments benefits . No is what it seems. We been lied to since we become part of the system
swimming in the ocean and staying away from people helps
Same..
There are no answers. No roads out. There is no help. I'm done.
H A Whyte I‘m suffering from BPD, Depression, paranoia and the late effect of drug abuse. I wanted to end everything. But... I don‘t give in. The Podcast of Jocko Willink helps me a lot.
@@yokwdnamfne213842 Hey thought Id share this with you. I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!!
HE LIVES! he can restore you and help your life! This is the good news!
Yall crazy it is too much to do. Go on vacation. Go to the park and relax in the sun. Drive somewhere. Think of past events that was funny.
Rubbish. "Get help immediately" is just another way of saying, "Don't bother me with your problems. Go see others who are paid to deal with people like you." Of course, this assumes the person has money. If they don't have lots of money, they're of little/no use to society so we don't really give a damn what happens to them.
If you can't give people what they need to stay alive, including money, affordable housing, meaningful work, companionship..., you have no business telling them they HAVE to stay alive.
"Don't bother me with your problems" So fucking true 8 years abuse in a foster family and no one did anything then send me to therapist/doctor who cover it up and put diagnose to get rid of me as fast as possible because you see in mine country medicine and therapy is free only well only an low yearly cost which of course leads to lower standards but i beat it not much better in other countries where they instead want to suck the patients on as much money as possible hehehe
I took it to mean just that, get help. It's a good clear instruction to someone who is desperate and frozen
@[GD] Annoe my parent committed suicide, should have got help. I suffered a breakdown which kept morphing into worse things, it got as far as seeing faces in the wall (just one time thankfully). I should have been in hospital. To get help immediately is life saving, would have saved me viewing a body aged 11, and having nightmares about it. And eventually nightmares of meeting up with my beloved parent only to run the other way for fear of being hurt again.
In some cases what you have said is true Aiah.
Fake world everything is fake . . I don't want any help . . All I need is peace and I'll find it myself even if it costs my life .
Nobody misses coz every one are running behind money and time
True
Life is nonsense, after you die you don't need to care about suffering and dealing with people's shit, they learn to valorate your presence when you are not there, when they know that they can't do nothing to repair what hurt you.
Resting in peace sure sounds very attractive
so close to doing it now. Depression is a killer. And I am now heading quickly towards it. I have lost everything and now...well, there's nothing left.
You sound like me....
I too have lost everything.. that alone is difficult.
Depression just makes you wanna die . Nobody understands... that's why Depression is a killer. It's so unbearable. I'm always on watch now... I've called everyone, 988, crisis lines, suicide prevention lines..... I just don't want to exist like this,.. its not living 😢
Depression kills. There's no cure.
The cure is death, but the most cowards about the decision of not living more and be forgotten by the eternity is to suffer in their ultimate stance on their lives.
@@TylerSolvestri Who cares man, we will all be dead anyway. Those who will judge will die as well one day. WHO CARES?!?!!?!!!? TELL ME WHO?!
@@globalcombattv Your parents and your family could care, doesn't matter how bad you have it, fight for your legacy and forget the bad things with your own sucess.
@@TylerSolvestri My mom is dead and my father is garbage. I dont care.
@@globalcombattv i feel you man, my dad is just fucking garbage and keeps money only for him, but i kept strong and i now study at college.
It doesn't help to tell them they're going to Hell when they're living in one. 🧐
i agree. whats your number? can we chat?
Excellent post. You are right.
@@edl6398 my life is worse than hell. at least hell is after you die, so your not living hell. i need to live in Hell
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Nechama Barkin we can
@@ax3lsantana897 chAT?
Ticking time bomb is so true, just waiting for that time when someone says the wrong thing then boom!!
yes
I’m not getting any help because its not gonna work..!! not the pills or therapy.. Nothing will help me because mine is spiritually and that’s how it started by waking up. I’ll always be depressed, stressed out and suicidal.
Keep pressing forward with prayer and meditation. You are in the darkness of the soul. This life younare experiencing ... Think of it as a 20hr birth labor. You will come out the other side - and there will be peace. I send you prayers and blessings.
@@TJMJR1963
How about my life? I feel like I have to end my life soon too. There is no point of continuing. I need to redo my life if thats its has to happen.
@@foreignname9292 my life is I have bipolar disorder...I feel motivated now and think I can achieve anything in the world and next moment I feel suicidal and waste
I hate how the media has painted this image of being suicidal and self-harm are the only signs of depression. Of course its true for some ppl with depression to be suicidal and hurt themselves but that is the extreme in no shape or form is it the norm. Thats how you have so many ppl who are depressed and going through the motions and have no idea they are even dealing with depression. It gets called lazy, dirty, unkempt, pessimistic, everything, but what it is.
Scars of the mind far
exceed the scars of the flesh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am so much in pain i can no longer fight my battles 😢😢 I'm so depressed
so sorry plz stay strong and watch funny videos so you can have some fun
I have a problem with the advice given. It leaves out the entire business side of the "help". I suffer from depression, and think about killing myself all the time. Do therapist or hospitals or any form of "help" care? No. All they care about is 1.) Do I have insurance. and 2.) Do I have insurance. If the answer is no, then tough shit if the door does hit you on the way out. They don't want to save your life they just want money and if you can't afford it you don't get any help.
In Europe those are free, but psychological help unless you pay a lot, is rubbish too
There is NO WAY that I could pay for my therapy without my insurance. Same for my medicines. And even WITH insurance, there is a lot of medical care that I still cannot afford. Insurance only covers so much, and since the costs are so high, the remaining portion is often still unaffordable. (I'm in the USA.)
There are public clinics that can help- for example in New York City, there is NY Psychiatric and a host of related neighborhood clinics. While the neighborhood clinics are terribly overworked they are staffed by committed and conscientious professionals.
Mr. Borg And worse still you don't even have to want to go to an ER to end up there. You can be involuntarily sent there by the suicide hotline which, despite claiming confidentiality, WILL call the police on you if they feel unable to talk you out of suicide and/or separating yourself from any suicide means
I think I suffer of a constant silent depression for 8 years. I've been lied, left for other things/people, betrayed, cheated by my girlfriend. Now I have problems in socializing with people because I dont trust them, and I find it useless. I feel much better alone. But this loniless also brought me psychological problems. I started to fear to expose myself, have fear in talking with people. I've been hurt for so many times, and I started to find life as a game. I have suicidal thoughts, even my parents argue with me about my problems and I just cant take it. I dont know if I'm weak, but I just want to live life like others do. I'm so empty, I cannot feel happiness anymore. What the fuck can i do?
Legion , are you ok ?
Hello bro are u still alive?
You can talk to me brother. I felt the same. I've recovered now, feeling much fine.
I know❤❤
How bro i am also feeling same 😭😭@@ahmaddjibran205
Due to depression my life's already gone. i'm now feeling as if i'm holding a dead body. I think that rather than getting in to other bad activities(another death) to go out from dep. it is better to kill the already dead body. That is what i'm thinking to do. I should not be considered as killer because deep depression already did that to me.
@Never take the Mark of the Beast shove it all
My friend, I love you enough to tell you the truth. Suicide is not the answer. Jesus Christ is the answer. He can make you well. Turn to Him. What I am saying to you, no money can buy. Satan wants you in hell to torment you for ever. Please listen to what I am saying.: Your body dies but your soul lives on for ever in either hell or heaven according the choice that you make. JESUS is the answer to all your problems. He is REAL. Humble yourself and turn to Him. He loves you and care to help, but humble yourself before Him. Seek the Lord and he will heal you of your depression. He is waiting to help you if you will take the step toward Him. You must take the step toward Him. He is the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE.
How are you now
I have exactly the same feeling. I cant stand the weight of my own body ,is like dragging a corpse . I hope you are safe
Why people think that depression does not often lead to suicide is beyond reason. Look at the statistics. Thank you, Mr. Cavett.
Ummm depression is the leading cause of suicide Whoever whoever thinks otherwise it’s completely ignorant
My question would be, who cares? Shouldn't we honor the decision someone makes about their own life, especially if there are no immediate support needed loved ones? Honor their decision. Honor it.
D Yates You would think so. However, this conversation is so taboo in any society that we never have an honest discussion about it. Everyone is so afraid of death that they steamroll over anyone who may want to decide upon these things themselves.
Humans that want to commit suicide evidence a critical flaw. Self preservation is real. If you feel the opposite something is “wrong”. Why would you want to encourage living beings to act on data that is inaccurate? Either your 12, an asshole, or your depressed yourself. You can decide which best describes you. I’m being serious. We can talk… or you can suddenly get feelings, be butthurt, and report my comments to you too “punish” me… again your choice.😶
Trust me, maybe for the sufferer but the people you leave behind are now tortured!
@@terrigreen100 and that is how someone feels when it comes to anxiety and depression
I agree.
Depression sometimes runs its course. Sometimes it does not. It is a frightening illness and can take everything away from a human being. For forty years, I was treated for depression. I went through everything... medications, talk therapy, and electroconvulsive treatments (ECT). Nothing really worked. I have since entered my middle sixties. I decided I would do one more thing in a perhaps futile way. I gave up on psychiatry, quit the pills and the ECT treatments. I started exercising, vigorously. It may be my age, or maybe the exercise, but I have recently found a happiness that evaded me my whole life. I hope it lasts, however, I have never gone this long without the horrors of mental illness. It is amazing. Finally, at this late stage, I feel normal -- whatever that is.
I think it is my age. I have heard that sometimes a life of mental illness is brought to an end as the patient starts to age. It did with the late, great physicist John Nash, who was diagnosed with schizophrenia, and spent over 30 years talking to illusionary voices, and other things. One day the voices stopped, and he began to heal and was able to accept the Nobel Prize in physics. He suffered horribly, but in the end, he became well. I'm not sure how to explain it and I don't think anyone does. One more thing... be careful allowing anyone to tinker with your brain -- just be careful. If something doesn't seem right, get out.
Debra rowley
I've found accupuncture very effective combined with medication. ✌🙏🇦🇺
Sabah: Thank you for your response. I've never tried acupuncture, however, I will look into it as you suggested. I'm feeling so well now that I'm in a state of amazement. I am still on one medication... and I must admit that I'm afraid to go off it. Taking one day at a time and trying to make it the best has also helped. From your response, I gather that you understand the depths and dregs of clinical depression. It is horrible. Again, thank you.
It is wonderful what you shared, Debra. I'm 56 and will remember what you said in my present journey out of my life-long episodic depression.
I feel depressed that nobody understands me very well
Ya I can't get out of bed and lost all hope in people.. ya ill go talk to a..
...squirrel
Even my own therapist told me to "snap out off it" "just brush it off". It because you're allowing those negative thoughts to grow in you. People around you planted the seeds in you but you have the choice whether to let it grow sprout of let it dry. Damn,I was hurt and couldn't reply what my therapist had pointed out.
Some of us don't have depression
But hurt and pain so deeply that u want it to stop and then the only way is death
Medications destroy lives I am numb no emotions everything is locked
This man is telling the TRUTH! My grandma just killed herself because of the loss of her daughter which is my aunt it’s nothing to joke around people depression is a real thing and not to take lightly!!
When I was born the doctor smacked my ass and said "welcome to the machine"
I just lost my sister to suicide yesterday. Our family will never be the same. She didn't get the helps needed. Please never call someone negative or pessimistic , pull your socks up, oh come on smile etc...
Sorry for your loss. Hope you can find some peace.
I'm sure you and your whole family are very sad.. but how are you now? Hows your mother right now? Are they okay?
It's like a ghost that only you can see only you are haunted
And you find out what you've really known all along is that the ones thatvsay they care don't give a dam and can't even pay you a visit or drop you a text 😢
Depression runs in my family and i been suicidal for a long time im 17
Hey Im depressed and have anxiety if you wanna talk my insta is Fahad_Crastin I wanna talk if you wanna
Message me papi6_jay
I'm also 17 :(
Is depression a sickness or something? maybe I dont understand it.
What is it. I been sad before but that's not depression?
@@Jtzistno thats not depression. Depression is when you are unhappy for no reason. Its like you are sad, unhappy, worried, guilty at the same time without reason. And if you have a reason, for example thing that makes you sad. All the feeling that i said felt at the same time, you multply by tens or worst hundreds. So that is depression best described. That is why depressed people wish they never wake up after sleep so that they never feel all the feelings again. They must not be hurt emotionally or things could get worst. Hope this explained.
Don't stop medication, include accupuncture!
Lived with depression/anxious/panic attacks.
Deepest empathy for sufferers. 🙏🇦🇺
horrible in bed now
A night that never ends for me to sleep Forever is all I wished
ATTENTION EVERYONE! I have decided on the two safest methods!
Please keep in mind that YOU CANNOT BE HOSPITALIZED when you do these! Make sure that no one stops you! Try to lock yourself somewhere when you are dying if you can, the more ways you can prevent hospitalization the better!
Remember, read EVERYTHING and do some of your own research if you want before using a method.
These methods are relatively hard, so do these to maintain your motivation:
- listen to music that will keep you on commited to the method you are using
- focus on WHY you are doing this, focus on you pain and how all the pain will go away when you dont live
- focus on how great the afterlife can be when you dont live, it could be great!
1, This only works if no one notice if you dont drink or eat, best of you live alone dehydration: make sure to use heaters or cover yourself so that you sweat, and make sure to urinate, and dont eat or drink because virtually all food contains water. Make sure no one can catch you, so try to stay in a room somewhere, lock yourself up or do what you need to do to prevent hospitalization. The pain for this method is strong at first, but gets better over time, this is because your body adjusts to not having water, the amount of time that this takes for death to a normal adult male is about 1 week, but it has a very high success rate.
Symptoms:
- dry skin, a little skin may peel off
- wont be able to cry, sweat, or urinate or anything like that
- you will become bloated at your body conserves water, very bloated
- dry eyes
- more irratable
- joints will weaken, bones will gring against each other
- headaches
As long as you lose as much water as possible and dont eat or drink, and make sure no one stops you, you should be fine. PLEASE keep in mind that of you fail and someone catches you, of you have new water enter your body, you will suffer permenant damage, make sure that you dont drink any water or have water inserted in you
2, This method is for if people notice if you stop eating/drinking, overhydration: (make sure that your stomach is as empty as possible before you start, empty of food and other things) make sure to drink as much water as you can, about 10 liters is the minimun amount that you can drink that will cause success, however, the more water you drink the better. If you dont drink enough water to die then you will suffer from sizures and be in a coma (even if not in a hospital). Make sure that you conserve as much water as possible, dont urinate, dont sweat, dont cry. Make sure that no one catches you, so again, try to lock yourself somewhere. If you are successful, you will become tired and this can be a good cover so that no one suspects anything. When you drink too much water, your cells swell and they have more water than sodium, so dont consume sodium or any food throughout the process. Your brain swells and there is no space in the skull for a swelled brain, so, your brain will not be able to recieve oxygen and blood. Your kidneys can only process an certian amount of water at a time, so the point is to overload the kidneys.
Syptoms:
- you will swell
- dizzyness
- tiredness
- headaches (from the swelled brain)
- cramps and aches and spasms
- leg and chest pain
- vomiting (re drink your vomit to conserve water)
I go through days where I can’t believe I wanted to die and then I get into that place and I feel like it’s always here
This comment is so true to me
Does anything happen that causes that sudden change?
The revolving door effect.
Same. Although, it's kind of comforting to know you're not alone, especially when there are great thinkers out there like Cavett who have also suffered from it.
"people with depression commit suicide"
Do they!?! I was not aware.
I thought about suicide years ago but I guess what always stopped me was the knowledge of what it would do to those I left behind especially my sister who I know would have taken it very badly.
+Polish Wilk Do you think your condition comes from external stresses in your life, or is it more just a general sense of hopelessness or something Wilk?
Geoff Dearth I am going to commit suicide by hanging on a tree I am very depressed and I am going to hang myself in my underwear
Sure, that's a good deterrent, but that doesn't necessarily stop the pain associated with suicidal ideations. This is a very common way of talking people out of suicide, but it doesn't tackle the root cause at all. The suffering will still continue. It's basically prolonging that person's suffering.
Me too. The love for my mother and father has been the only thing that stopped me.
I hate waking up knowing no one wants me around
God, please don’t make me wake up tomorrow, I want to rest from my life
my brother Allah has given you a beautiful life and never forget this is just a test inshallah all of your problems will be solved
g0d will not help but you can help yourself and after that you can also help others
People always say to get help but all they want you do is for you to talk about your feelings or put you on meds. My depression is not clinical & can't be fixed by meds or talking about feelings. Some of us need Advisors with solid advice that can guide us and give us options on what to do to better our situations. Sort of like a Life Coach but not just a motivator someone that has concrete answers or can find the answers. I need someone to actual help me not just listen and nod their head or push pills on me.
agreed
100% agreed....I would say that the most depressed people are people who don't have much mo ey to change things and stuck in that position and then comes the terrible loneliness that comes along with being unable to get put and about....its unbearable at times and I can see why so many people just eat there lives...I've had 2 attempts and I know the 3rd attempt won't fail and the way things are going it gonna be soon.
The best thing I think to get out of it is to find somebody exactly like yourself to get through it but can't ever find that person
i am suicidal daily. i have bpd brought on by a job i worked in just over 20 years ago. I was bullied daily through my lack of social skills, general naievity (spelling) and anxiety. I lost my girlfriend, college friends, car and driving license inside 6 months of the job, went on major downward spiral, behaved crazy with people, used alcohol to mask how i was feeling, got into social situations id otherwise not have at my level of thinking and feeling at the time... thats all before i completely destroyed my life. ive been in affairs, fights where ive been close to death getting my head glued after it being jumped on, had a guy with a razor to my throat, i have 3 kids, i see none of them, i had an extremely bad breakdown almost 3 years ago telling all my business to people i wish i hadnt, my mum has alzheimers (only 58) i put her through absolute hell for 4 years when my depression and guilt from my crazy behaviour destroyed everything. There isnt a day goes by i dont wish i never took that job on. id have stuck with college, moved out of the house and lived my life better, kept my friends, maybe even got some help. I have been in hospital over 20 times in the last few years. I struggle daily with life, how ive lived it, who ive affected and what ive lost because of my horrible past and behaviour. Do yourselves a favour, if you start feeling low, are behaving differently, are becoming angry, unhappy, moody etc... go get help asap! Its horrible to say this but id give literally anything to be back at a time where i hadnt done all those horrible things when i became mentally unwell. Id change so much and work harder to be a better person but most importantly not put my mum through the hell i did. A simple thing like a job has created what i can only call hell on earth every day. The worst thing about it, i didnt want the job. My dad got me it and pulled me out of college. Im sure he meant well..
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!!
HE LIVES! “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” God will remove your shame and condemnation as you ask for forgiveness and are willing to submit your thoughts to him. ua-cam.com/video/cuYURS0OR9E/v-deo.html Don't give up my friend GOD WILL RESTORE YOUR LIFE!
So far there is nothing you can do for depression. Therapy or any other way people think is the cure for depression is wrong. I've lived my whole life in fear and I think I'm ready to end it
JESUS is the answer to your problem. He is the HEALER. Give Him the opportunity to show Himself big and mighty in your life but first humble yourself by taking a step toward Him because his hand is stretched out towards you, waiting to pull you in to safety. Will you take that step toward HIM?
People learn how to fake happiness and then one day they are gone .
Listen dad, I have survived a earthquake a flood 2 tornados 2 riots 1 bad marriage false police case been to jail false court case lost all my money and home, if I don't wish to survive anymore then it's my choice and my life coz, I have seen the uncensored version of life and it's not worth being here and suffering more
People kill themselves because they have the courage to end the pain. Some others prefer to endure the pain and live miserable lives. Some others prefer to numb the pain through religion or drugs. Those who live with no pain or little pain are the lucky ones.
I have courage to solve my pains
That 2nd time comment "That it can't be happening again" that strikes me as really scary as a person who had depression for 4 years or so. It makes me wonder if I'm mildly depressed now, maybe I am in a way but not on a base level. I am subconciously afraid of many many things, which is similar to how I felt when I was depressed... but the main symptoms haven't returned or perhaps my outlook is just better and stronger now
i dont wanna die because nobody cares or the world is ugly or because i have no job or my wife is cheating me or because i lost somebody ..
life is good but MY FUCKING MENTAL DISORDER can't let me enjoy it i feel like i'm cursed cause i used to be a different person it's like some kind of hardcore punishment i dont wish that on my worst enemy
I'm 38 years old, I've been suffering from depression every since I was 18 years old. I hate my life, I hate this world. I wish that I was dead. Why am I still alive? There is no hope for me, life sucks.
Im not gonna lie I felt like this for several years myself
I have hope
Get help? Will “help” pay my debt ? Will “help” bring back those relationships I lost because of wrong choices ? Will “help” make me look young and handsome again instead of an overweight bald divorced freak ? Sometimes there is no help.
What is the best way to do it with normal house supplies?
Been suicidal since I was 16 when my football career ended with illness I'm 40 now it's never gone away an it's still here ruining my life every day
Sorry to hear this.. To have your dream taken away is indescribable.
.. I hate the feeling.
Nothing helps. When I go to sleep I pray to not wake up and when I wake up I wish I was dead. I can’t die soon enough.
I understand this. It horrible to say,.. but it's the truth.
I barely get any sleep at all...😢
What a great start to a year. Just when I thought it was all gone, nope, it it went up back to the surface.
It breaks my heart reading these comments. I know you are all hurting. Praying for you because it's all I can do.
Thats all we can do for each other....
Youre amazing
Does the charcoal method really work
It's hard for me to even take a shower, brush my teeth and change my clothes. I've become apathetic towards everyone and some people say I'm selfish? They don't understand. Did I mention I prefer at least 12 hours of sleep per night? 18 hours per day would be better.
What the wonderful Mr. Cavett says here is so true. It's better to get help late than never, though of course sooner is best. If you're getting treatment and it isn't working, keep at it until you find something that does. It may mean changing doctors. Don't be afraid to insist on someone who's both competent and with whom you feel comfortable. It really does make a difference. I thought I was a totally lost cause until by chance I found something new-ish. Now I'm getting great relief.
The sad thing is a lot of people can't find help. For years I told doctors I had issues and they kept giving me bullshit advice like I just need to pray. Or my favorite "suicide is the easy way out." And of course if you finally have a mental breakdown cops will either shot you or arrest you for being on drugs. "if you really have mental issues then why don't you have proof from a doctor?"
Im depressed
gacha toxic dragon hard to believe but ok
get help?
I like this because dick cavett is someone who definitely speaks to the older generation, and those folks REALLY don’t understand mental health struggles. Hearing someone from that era be open about things will likely get through to that crowd.
If it weren't for my sister or mother i would be gone. That's why i am scared of getting close to people or being loved.
I’ve been very depressed lately because I live with chronic physical head pressures. It really takes over my life. I’m only 21 but my chronic discomfort and depression is gonna last until my death. It’s sad because I’m literally at this fancy resort with a pool and everything but I feel so depressed still nothing cheers me up. And my social skills and passions has been so lacking lately.
He says "get help immediately" - wise words indeed unless of course you've tried all forms of help and treatment and they've failed. Friends are reluctant to get involved either because they don't realise how much pain you're in or don't know how to help. Sad to say but some simply don't care enough to be bothered. If you've tried to reach out and no one has listened, what next? Carry on suffering until you die or take steps to end things? What if you haven't the courage to end things? Severe chronic suicidal depression is horrendous and to make things worse, society has little empathy for those who suffer. What are your thoughts?
Those who have never experienced depression and anxiety will never understand what hell it is. I can empathize with you because I'm in that horrible place too.
@@sharminiserasinghe3293 I appreciate your reply and I'm sorry to hear you're suffering too. If like me, you haven't responded to conventional treatments, it may be a matter of finding lots of small things that are easy to do which will occupy your mind and act as a distraction. This may help to fill your days with little 'pockets of relief'. This relief may or may not be cumulative but it will improve the quality of parts of you day. What you say about those who haven't had depression is right. My approach to this is to try and accept this reality and not be too disappointed with people. Instead, I find it best to encourage friends to learn more about depression and ask you good questions like 'how would you like me to help' you. Help them to help you! Best of luck.
@@jeremyyork3538 thank you, Jeremy. My depression and anxiety are caused by my narcissistic mother who's now crippled and bedridden with arthritis as well as dementia. As an only child, I'm her sole caregiver 24/7 over the past 5 years without a single break. She's now 84 and totally deaf too. I have been housebound for 5 years because of her. My only outing is to the supermarket in my immediate neighbourhood for not more than 10 minutes.
@@sharminiserasinghe3293 Not easy for you, I understand and feel for you! I've found the internet is a very useful resource and there are some excellent forums for people in similar situations to us (choose carefully though!). Another thing I find useful is to write down my thoughts and feelings on a regular basis. Best wishes.
@@sharminiserasinghe3293 Not an easy situation and I feel for you. If you could find someone else near by in the same situation, you could share the caring and free up some time for yourself - you'd need to be sure you could trust each other but you may be lucky. The internet is a great resource and there are some good forums online which may help (be careful to choose wisely though). Best wishes.
Im fighting and i wont stop untill i beat this disease
I want to die because I can't take this anymore
I'm only a few days away
Good luck i also think i wont make it any longer.
Did you do it?
I have nothing more to live for.. When i have gathered what i need, i AM leaving.. No more shitty life
My fiancé died by suicide this past November. He was depressed but he also panicked about our finances and losing his business. I looked at his cell phone , he was chatting on a group text with his 4 best buddies the night before he did it, there was no indicators at all that he could do this, in fact the prior days before he did it, he seemed happier than usual. I am so sad and so mad at the same time.
Im sorry for your loss Terri.
@@GhostMonkey772 i turn to God now 🙏 where else could I go ?
@@GhostMonkey772 thank you for the kind words.
@@terrigreen100 you're welcome, if you go to my channel you can read my testimony there. Romans 8:28
praying for you
@@GhostMonkey772 thank you so much, God is the answer to everything 🙏 ❤
I texted this clip to my parents a few days ago, and their response was something to the effect, well sounds like people suffering from depression need to take action to help themselves. They kind of missed the point.
When your the only child,parents divorce,no friends..nothing to live forward.job is on strike..bills are behind...whats next???
Я вот тоже думаю что дальше...
Or child getting fucked by parents and beatied up in a foster family put all type of dignose on kid force him wroung help later stuck with dockter that threat one bad and whont give him medical certificate to driver license which much is neaded beckuse the kid got an spinal cord injure of all abuse
The modern society put diagnose that is label to not be able to cure to put the blame on people who had trauma no wonder people take suicide
I suffer from severe and chronic depression, so I guess I won't be around much longer (thank God)
I can relate. It's so unbearable 💔.. living is so difficult
I have been struggling so much recently. I have so many problems and don't feel like I am strong enough to sort them all out. My Mum died when I was 15 and my Dad I live with is not all there. I can barely have a basic conversation with him as his attention span is so short. I live In a strange small town I have friends although I don't feel I belong in this place. I recently qualified as a barber although I'm struggling to believe I have what it takes to succeed even though my clients really like my trims and I have developed a bad drug habit which I'm struggling to overcome. I want more then anything to succeed in life and be happy but I feel like everything is weighing me down to the extent where I'm struggling to get the motivation to live.
Nothing helps me im going to cut my arm :(
Same
Same
I am done. I don't want any help don't want any sympathy.
Im unable to do anything at all. I have no desire. I tried, there was nothing. No joy, .. nothing. I had a traumatic loss in my life, and i was at fault. I stressed so badly... it caused anxiety and insomnia. Which lead to severe depression.
I just suffer every moment of every day. Im sure other's understands this.😢
thank u for sharing
I overcame the depression fasting three days, I do it constantly because I know that is a evil spirit from the darkness of the devil 👿.
When the endorphins die down the depression feels worse.
the love of my life left me she was the only reason to be alive
Same. Im ending it at the 3 year 'anniversary'.. its not getting better. Its living hell like this
I have wish depression Which Haunts me. It always Makes me say Im worst I don’t matter This video Helped me. Thank you,
I am really depressed now, I fear my life
Man people that commit suicide dosent make them cowards but like people with alot of anxiety depression they commit suicide because like they feel like nobody loves them and stuff and depression and anxiety can be and are serious feelings
You've never been there. You don't know what it's like.
I can't wait to go
@Heartslove 3 I am not loved..God doesn't love me at all
That was valuable and so succinct, Mr Cavett. Thank you for that and, no, I didn't know that you had suffered Depression but you have aptly hit the nail on the head. Well done sir!
I wish I was dead
My depression starts with my family I've been depress for 3 years how about you?
Then take a vacation away from.your family and come back when you feel better. Why sit there 3 years depressed and dont do nothing? That's stupid.
Whatever affects health severely is so hard to let go of if at all possible. When people have a chronic illness that never gets better, they can only let go of it by suicide! My anxiety is so hard to completely let go of because I still have yet to maintain pleasure longer. Although I feel slightly less sick from anxiety every day, it (meaning the decline in anxiety) is not always noticeable for everyone else!
Only problem is people try help me when I don't want to be helped just want the pain to stop and my life to be over
I wish someone would tell me that everyone is always telling me i just need to get over my low mood they figure I've never been diagnosed with depression how can I assume I have it?
I see a psychiatrist and I've been feeling like crap since 2000 tell me that's not depression.
I wish that shit was easier to do, like without pain
i cantbelieve in my city under 7 days 6 people committed or tried to commite suicide :C
I'm 11, have depression and feel suicidal but I have no one to help. What do I do?
just the fact that you typed this means theres some sort of strength there to push on...USE that small momentum and PROTECT it like a small bird and use it to make even more small microscopic improvements until you start seeing solid change. Writing stuff down, about improvements you've made, positives about yourself, small goals, how things could be worse and you're grateful for this and that, TRULY HELPS!! just my humble opinion. You can get through this, don't worry, things WILL get better, one tiny tiny step at a time!
Every human is born against his will and every human has to die against his will, it is better never to be born, I sympathize with those who take things in their own hands, they were clearly forced into an existence which they didn't ask for and which they didn't want to be in. What a courage and self-sacrifice of them to make at least an attempt to escape from this malicious game called life.
I knew already from the age of six that life was a game of which I rather was no part of, if you know this from childhood on it will never change no matter what "life lovers" may say. After nearly half a century experiencing the doomed gift of life I think I have the right to speak.
you are NOT alone! talk to us! we'll help you through this!
I thought this was Rodger from Honest Ads 😂😂😂
my uncle did it at age 60, rip
I’m 60 and i’ve no one i’m thinking i should do the same but my cat loves me.
lol, the help is NOT there. People do not give a fuck about anyone but themselves. Dick Cavett gets help because he is famous, rich and popular.
Exactly, really sad but its just like that. Power is everything, weakness, poverty, insanity and depression are stigmas now, you are on your own- often even families reject...
Pretty much. I have severe depression and anxiety and I was good at hiding it, but as soon as it came out, people took advantage of it. People are no good, for the most part.
Tuna sandwich bullshit. You're hanging around bad people then. My people are really good people. But I know how some families and communities are. Where I live, people look out for each other. I only understand that there are communities and families like yours. I've not experienced it really. It's not so natural to live like that. Your people, I might consider them evil if I met them. Maybe id consider you evil as we'll idk. All I know is people have different values and that's everything. Just so you know, the world ain't like that. Don't lump us in with your people. Cause you don't know how good people can be I guess. It's like this: look at Denmark and look at Somalia.
Tuna sandwich Denmark ain't perfect but you're living in Somalia calling the world shit, meanwhile I've read about your lot. And that's just you guys. The rest of humanity doesn't behave like that. If I were you I'd abandon those ideas and people for better ideas and better people.
Ive noticed this to be true..
I have went through some crazy shit past few months.. From thinking I'm nuts. To turning on the radio and hearing "this is what you get when you mess with us" karma police - radio head ... Coicidence after coincidence..
Ive tried to explain to both my mom and dad what I know. What i live in, the visions ive had.. They understand but don't.. Ive sent them both videos on why more men commit suicide due to their environment .. Not biology.. The ego death etc..
And I might get a message every few days. No calls... And it hit me.
My parents seemingly don't even care .. My gf seemingly doesn't care .. I'm going through some crazy shit .. Questioning reality for Fuck sakes. And it's like.. Oh just okay let him be..
It just proves what I know. And that is don't fear the reaper .
I don't want to get out of my depressin
But why
TF DEPRESSION IS HELL. If i had one wish is too take that shit away that prevents me from socializing
interesting, you want to remain in depression
Decided to watch some videos to help not try attempt #2 it’s not working
ALVVCIA you can email me or text if you need someone to talk to
ALVVCIA 🙏🏼
I wish it was that simple. Go out to stimulate one's mind away from depression. Year number 6, and no signs of improvement to holes in bottom of both feet. Stigmata was where I last stopped searching for the cure. I've realized that we are all different, balance to those who are not depressed. But enough is enough. If I was not brainwashed to believe in religion, would of left long time ago. Then again I hear Heavan has golden roads and this and that. Already I don't to go because of the condition of my feet and those golden roads I've heard somewhere sometime during the course of this life. Thanks for letting me share.
Don't let depression make u depressed but stand up in this darkness and give sunshine to others of absolute hope
Thats like saying to homless people stop being poor
@@radir1657I didn't know how to respond... you said it right.
It really is so indescribable...
😢 I get so frustrated.
Whenever an opinion is unanimously or nearly unanimously held, people tend to think in terms of absolutes, talk in terms of absolutes, behave in terms of absolutes, legislate in terms of absolutes, enforce in terms of absolutes, judge in terms of absolutes, and punish in terms of absolutes. Sometimes good comes from that. Sometimes bad comes from that. And so it goes. But if you know that whoever you might talk to has a skewed agenda, that they're not even allowed to consider the possibility that death could be the right option for a given individual, in a given set of circumstances, and that they wouldn't be open to that, even if they were allowed, then for me (others must choose their own path), silence, is indeed, golden.
What's the point of an job interview where they say, at the top of the interview, "Just so you know-we've already given the job to someone else. Ok let's start the interview."? What's the point of entering a raffle where they say, "You might be interested-that's your ticket, torn to shreds in the bin there. Ok, let's see if you won"? And what's the point of talking someone who might just as well say, "As a point of legality and protocol, I must tell you that we only sell the products of Life PLC."?
No thanks but thanks. I'll be keeping it to myself.