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  • @Delsin42
    @Delsin42 Рік тому +2521

    These guys should seriously have 5 million subscribers,the fact they are able to make content such as this so realistic and accurate along with the animation not being cheap,is nothing short of amazing

    • @Jules416
      @Jules416 Рік тому +24

      💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️💯❤️💯

    • @_sztywny
      @_sztywny Рік тому +20

      like a disney cartoon

    • @snowvie.
      @snowvie. Рік тому +4

      dont be dramatic

    • @kidsshaw7739
      @kidsshaw7739 Рік тому +2

      Ikr!

    • @Seaotters.and.smiles
      @Seaotters.and.smiles Рік тому +1

      I haven't watched more of the content. But I'm certainly not inclined to. This video and the practices it preaches are toxic and wrong. Young people should never be called in over loud speakers like that unless they are looking for their whereabouts only. That's it.
      In addition. The non agressors did clearly communicate to the agressor. And they should not be asked to talk with the agressor. That is awful. Just plain awful.
      No to all of this.

  • @briarrose8631
    @briarrose8631 Рік тому +345

    I love how the counselor didnt assign blame and instead helped them talk through the problem

    • @marywynne7931
      @marywynne7931 10 місяців тому +12

      TBH, I think assigning blame can be okay in some cases.

    • @Mayflower09
      @Mayflower09 9 місяців тому +1

      Fr, there needs to be more people like this

    • @morigaena333
      @morigaena333 8 місяців тому +6

      Even though it was absolutely orange guy’s fault 💀

    • @noahsmith4877
      @noahsmith4877 10 днів тому

      @@morigaena333Kai

  • @purplmxrg
    @purplmxrg Рік тому +1162

    Now I know what "alr" means
    Alright ❌
    Ask, Listen and respect✅

  • @asperez2004
    @asperez2004 Рік тому +972

    I wish these were around when I was younger. These are conversations that need to happen between people, so many problems could be avoided if people took the time to just talk it out. I'm glad these are around for people to learn from so they could see how they can better themselves.

    • @jasminschmalzl9734
      @jasminschmalzl9734 Рік тому +15

      I don't think the real problem is that they don't want to talk it out. But mostly that there isn't someone to moderate.
      First there needs to be an unbaised environment.
      If your environment/counterpart is not (which is something you feel through voice, mimic, posture and apperance) then you will automaticaly feel unheard, If not even insulted/attacked.
      So what we really need is honesty, respect and the will to understand each other. If eighter of those things is missing, then chances are high things stay unspoken, and conflicts remain.
      People need an environment were they feel their perspectives and feelings are recognized and respected.
      A place where they feel seen, heard and SAVE to speak.
      If you permanently have the feeling that the other side only wants to bulldoze his perspective on you, without taking your fewpoints and feelings into consideration, then eventually you wil shut down. And then you either bulldoze back, or you leave (fight or flight response).
      Which is exaxtly the situation I had with my mother, almost every single time. And after time, and because I was not seen and heard, I did take over this unhealty habit of her's, when to stresses and/or getting in a confrontation with others. And it did get to a point were I can't control it anymore when agitated.
      I can handle conflicts when I feel save. Which means heard and respected and were people are willing to work WITH me instead of just expecting me to go along with everything they want and do. Which means finding solutions for us both, not only for them.
      If not I feel pressured if not even harrased, because of all the previous trauma and therefore can't keep calm and think straight.
      Talking it out is key, yes. But the save invironment needs to be there first. Cause just a key without a keyhole is useless.

  • @ILoveMha726
    @ILoveMha726 Рік тому +588

    I hate about the fact that this is just so realistic, but there is no people like that counselor, and people don't even think of consent. They do what they want. We need more people like that counselor and the others that actually helped like that kid. Today's society is so cruel and disgusting. Just not the people who care though.

    • @thetruefeatherqueen
      @thetruefeatherqueen Рік тому +16

      Hey I hope this gives you a little bit of hope: I'm in school rn, aiming to be a school social worker, just like the councilor in the video. I don't want gen alpha to experience what I did as a millennial y'know? I.... Was held back in life so I'm only just now starting my journey- sorry gen z- but there is HOPE at the very least. 🥺💙

    • @ILoveMha726
      @ILoveMha726 Рік тому +5

      Thx.. I plan on becoming a therapist or a surgeon.. either one 😅

    • @keepitsimple8388
      @keepitsimple8388 Рік тому +2

      Female kid*

    • @PepsiRat
      @PepsiRat Рік тому +2

      nice pfp you got there. Dear, commenter

    • @ILoveMha726
      @ILoveMha726 Рік тому +1

      @@PepsiRat thx 😊😅

  • @guineapig5858
    @guineapig5858 Рік тому +1006

    Im ashamed to admit I laughed way too much at the guy infront of the counciler who just yelled
    "and I got pushed in the pool!"
    "Im sorry to hear that"

    • @avalasialove
      @avalasialove Рік тому +73

      To be fair, it’s not something that happens every day. So, it *does* sound kind of funny.

    • @LemonMeruingePi
      @LemonMeruingePi Рік тому +12

      Yah to be honest 😊😊

    • @itzskye7074
      @itzskye7074 Рік тому +5

      💯😭

    • @bitterbugs.1
      @bitterbugs.1 Рік тому +27

      person* - They had a non-binary pin. But yeah, I get it honestly

    • @LightYagami-xl1wz
      @LightYagami-xl1wz Рік тому +6

      @@bitterbugs.1 They did?

  • @chuutruther
    @chuutruther Рік тому +297

    We love to see teenagers correct and learn ❤🎉

  • @sheckemabailey8291
    @sheckemabailey8291 Рік тому +128

    Making this content available to the public is helping a lot of people including me ❤

  • @SunsetDragon
    @SunsetDragon Рік тому +102

    I think the best part of the Ask Listen Respect name is that the acronym is slang for "Alright." Very clever and effective

  • @juliav.mcclelland2415
    @juliav.mcclelland2415 Рік тому +1194

    I NEVER thought this channel would do this, but it did: in a situation where one person is responsible, the authority figure acts like everyone is responsible. I was bullied CONSTANTLY in every phase of school. The aggressors were never punished - I was treated like crap for complaining. We were forced to set up decorations together to "help us get along." Lectured about communication. I was tormented without provocation, but they held victim equally or more responsible because I was an introverted asexual weirdo, and the aggressors were "normal."
    You have 1 perp here: the boy who can't take No for an answer and picks on the boy who stood up for the girl. And the episode submits them ALL to a lecture on proper communication. The 2 non-aggressors could not have communicated more clearly!
    You want to protect teens from other teens? Punish aggressors, not victims, and let the mentality I grew up with and that's replaying here die YESTERDAY!

    • @jasminschmalzl9734
      @jasminschmalzl9734 Рік тому +35

      SORRY! I NEED TO CORRECT THAT!
      First I said "all 3 we're at fault"
      But that isn't right!
      Why? I will explain at the end!
      Also: BEWARE!- This text ist crappy!
      But it was late and english isn't my first language.
      So live with it! I have to live with it to!
      The first guy did take it to personal. Maybe because he got already rejected alot in the past. Maybe even got bullied. So this rejection might did hurt him more, then it might seems on the outside.
      Also you could tell, that the girl felt very unsure how she should behaive and seems to care a lot about what other people think.
      (See the boy and the girl who laugh at her after the conflict).
      That's why she did go to the other guy for validation and advice. And that's why she could't solve the conflict alone in the first place.
      Maybe she was once a victim of bullying too and even molesting. And thats why she wasn't ready for a kiss or a relationship yet. If she would have been honest with the first guy OR the guy with the glasses, then this all this could have been avoided, too. He wouldn't take it personal, cause her rejection wasn't about him, but because of her past expiriences.
      The girl did go to the guy with the glasses wanting to be consoled. Cause she felt put off and missunderstood too from the first guy (which she clearly liked).
      She was hurt, yes. But the other guy, too. And what she needed, or specifically, what BOTH would have needed, was not someone to take her side and her place in this battle/conflict. But someone who wanted to SOLVE the conflict.
      Someone unbaised, who takes the time to talk to BOTH parties first, asking how BOTH feel and why, before coming to a conclusion and taking action.
      But what the guy with the glasses did, was not moderating, but add fuel to the flame. By not staying unbaised and taking her side. And therefore upsetting the other guy even more, cause he felt even more unseen, then before.
      So even though he might meant well, he did more harm then good in the end.
      A good advice would have been, to wait till tomorrow until the emotions are mostly subsided. So everyone would have had time to think more clearly.
      Also telling her and himself to take the other guys perspektive. Maybe by roleplaying, or if they can't figure it out themselves aksing the guy why he did react, the way they did. In a friendly and caring way. I'm sure if the guy would have felt heard and understood, instead of attacked, I'm sure he would have opened up about his feelings.
      So. Now the big exposure!
      Who was the real culprit?
      Well. The first guy and the girl, did mistakes. But ist it really their fault this all happened? Cause, lets be honest, everyone has a difficult time opening up about their feelings and about the things they are most sensitive with. Even more so If you once got hurt.
      The first guy and the girl both got/get bullied, mistreated, humilated, excluded, maybe even molested from their environment multiple times.
      This did leave invisible scars upon both of their souls. So it's no wonder they are more careful with opening up or even have problems talking about their feelings to other people. Constant bullying also makes you more sensitiv to rejection (First Guy) and other peoples opinion (Girl).
      Also can you blame the guy with the glasses, not knowing how to moderate properly, If no one thaught him how to do so in the first place?
      So who's the real culprit here?
      If it isn't one of those three, then it must be their bullys fault, right?
      But nope. Iiiiiits..... (drum roll)
      THE PRINCIPALS FAULT!
      Yes you read right.
      It's the principals fault.
      Why? Cause as an responsible and educated adult, it should be her task to prevent such things like bullying from even happening! Though proper educating!
      But is that what she did? No. What she did was putting the blame on those three. While the real culprids are still outthere bullying others and fucking them up to.
      Even Adolf Hitler (and yes he was a sick big asshole, but here we need to give him credit) knew, that a solid basis for a new mindset and therefore a chance in behaivor, is only possible, by changing opinions and views that are not yet established, and therefore malleable. And who is more malleable then children?
      And yes this sounds like brainwashing, and yes, in a way it is. The only trick is to set them up for healty behaivor.
      Children mimic and learn from the behaivor of their environment. What we teach and how we behaive has a big influence on our children and also how they see the world and behaive in the future.
      This is no new concept. But still. No one has done it yet when it comes to teaching healty communication skills, educating about mental health, preventing ostracism etc.
      Even though we have all the knowledge and the possibilities we need to do so.
      But we still do nothing to prevent such things from happening.
      And isn't that kind of pathetic?
      If we want Fairytales to become a real thing, we have to face reality first, stop blaming others, and instead taking responsiblity, as well as initiative!
      And I mean EVERYONE.
      Cause good fairies are rare. And Happy Endings don't come out of thin air.
      And because EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US CAN DO SOMETHING!
      No matter how small and insignificant it may seem. For someone other it can still mean the world.
      So we should stop only dreaming about Happy Endings, but finally doing something to make them happen!

    • @avalasialove
      @avalasialove Рік тому +118

      It’s not about “punishment” it’s about listening and communicating. When people resort to yelling and name-calling, it only results in people getting defensive and more people getting hurt. Teenagers are still socially inexperienced and don’t always make the best decisions in social situations. That’s why counselors listen to each side of the situation and help them find their own solution rather than dishing out punishment.

    • @paxhumana2015
      @paxhumana2015 Рік тому +5

      If I was around where you lived, I would have punished the aggressors. I would not care if it was legal under corrupt human law, as corrupt human law failed you, but Divine Law WILL be enforced when corrupt human law fails. There was a sheriff that literally went full beat-em-up/brawler on some criminal scum in the county where I was born in real life, but I would have went further than he did, and also not bowed to corruption. Coincidentally, one of Frank Sinatra's pals also financed the first three biographical movies about the guy before he died.

    • @juliav.mcclelland2415
      @juliav.mcclelland2415 Рік тому +24

      @@avalasialove And thank you for perfectly illustrating the mentality of every school official I encountered after getting my things stolen or getting punched in the head.

    • @angelinavargas8511
      @angelinavargas8511 Рік тому +19

      @@juliav.mcclelland2415I’m very sorry you felt like you were dealt an injustice. I have plenty stories about bullying that are similar. I will say, as someone that now works in the public school system and is constantly going to bat for students that are bullies and harassed, unless the issue is clear and obvious, like SA or hazing, there is no clear person to punish. Sadly, many parents will take any opportunity to sue the school, even if their child was the aggressor. It’s very challenging to deal with more nuanced situations like the one in the video. We shouldn’t look to punish all the time, but to reform and transform those that have wronged us.

  • @old-emerald-jr-gamer
    @old-emerald-jr-gamer Рік тому +120

    You know, I was really having trouble listening to anyone in public and privacy several years ago. As of now, you were all right... I could've let my mind clear it out of negative thoughts when I listened to my supervisors and group leader.
    This is what I want is Ask, Listen, and Respect to others.
    (:(

    • @jasminschmalzl9734
      @jasminschmalzl9734 Рік тому +3

      First there needs to be an unbaised environment.
      If your environment/counterpart is not (which is something you feel through voice, mimic, posture and apperance) then you will automaticaly feel unheard, If not even insulted/attacked.
      So what we really need is honesty, respect and the will to understand each other. If eighter of those things is missing, then chances are high things stay unspoken, and conflicts remain.

  • @MsDianation09
    @MsDianation09 Рік тому +93

    I totally adore this content...I swish they were in different language, such as Spanish. So I could share it with kids and parents in my area.

  • @TriumphingTogether
    @TriumphingTogether Рік тому +136

    I was sexually abused by a doctor who was treating me for Leukaemia- a blood cancer, while I was a child. You’re channel has inspired me to tell my story so I’m going to be doing vlogs on it and other challenges I’ve faced in life in order to help people who’ve been through the same challenges and other relatable topics too ❤

    • @Daphne-xj9kq
      @Daphne-xj9kq Рік тому +11

      I'm sorry that happened to you, goodjob you're trying to encourage others.

    • @BobJodie
      @BobJodie 11 місяців тому +6

      That’s so sad

    • @Zwhsnduiwmsnxjsl
      @Zwhsnduiwmsnxjsl 8 місяців тому +6

      A doctor. Well, ‘doctor’. How disconnected from humanity he has to be… I wish you all the best in your journey away from that shadow.

    • @AngelsofPassion666
      @AngelsofPassion666 6 місяців тому +3

      Stay strong, everyone

    • @xpearlcc
      @xpearlcc 3 місяці тому

      What a "doctor." Someone who's supposed to help- how could he do such a thing? I'm so sorry for you. You really deserve better.

  • @7Write4This9Heart7
    @7Write4This9Heart7 8 місяців тому +12

    Consent is SO important, one of the absolute most important things in relationships, if you ask me! This is great!

  • @meenakshi_007
    @meenakshi_007 Рік тому +98

    Hats off Barbara Sinatra Children's Center Foundation and Wonder Media for making content about teens, for teens, in a way teens can actually relate! Thank you so much for your efforts

  • @justarandomhumann
    @justarandomhumann 7 місяців тому +11

    The end was so sweet. How they were all okay when he just simply asked "can I kiss you".

  • @brentoncook-bm2vs
    @brentoncook-bm2vs Рік тому +84

    That's the problem with relationships from the start, one half of the couple wants to automatically go all lovey dove while wanting to kiss and the other half is like he or she isn't ready for that kind of stuff yet.

    • @Emily-eq1ts
      @Emily-eq1ts 7 місяців тому +1

      Not all relationships but valid

  • @rhema3858
    @rhema3858 Рік тому +37

    So when I was 8 to 9 I was being molested by my foster brother and I was on youtude one day and came across one of your older videos and then I watched all of them and tho at the time I was 10 you guys help me gain the courage to tell my mom when I was 13 about what happened and I do think I would be where I am today if it wasn't your videos and understanding it was not my fault so thank you! I hops y'all are able to reach more kids like me!!

  • @DrawsJanella
    @DrawsJanella Рік тому +69

    Yeah, this sounds familiar.
    My ex boyfriend from my senior year of high school got upset with me because I said no. When I was still in love with him, we planned it but then I later changed my mind when he showed me his true colors. When I said no and that I wasn't ready, he shut down.
    This all happened over text, not in person. I ended up blocking him. He wasn't the bad guy, he just didn't listen to me when I put up that boundary.

  • @abbykoop5363
    @abbykoop5363 Рік тому +50

    How great is this video? Wow. Wish we had stuff like this (or even school counselors) when I was younger.

  • @PumpkinPie-rd5dn
    @PumpkinPie-rd5dn 10 місяців тому +30

    As a minor who’s under 16, I feel these videos are important for me to watch before I become the age of consent in my country. I now have a better understanding of consent and how to say no to being touched, kissed, or having intercourse, it also helps me understand that my body is a lot like other peoples and that changing feelings even if you’re mid activity and start to feel uncomfortable and saying stop, is ok, thanks for teaching me about this. I really appreciate channels like this

  • @anokartist2352
    @anokartist2352 Рік тому +583

    Am i the only one who noticed the third person's enby pin? This channal is so good at showing representation for all types of abuse, races, people. They really deserve more support.

    • @EpixAndroid
      @EpixAndroid Рік тому +32

      Nope! I picked up on that too.

    • @tauwilltriumph
      @tauwilltriumph Рік тому +1

      Yeah they were really good at subtly representing how someone must be abused at home to end up as an enby

    • @asunnycoffee8567
      @asunnycoffee8567 Рік тому +30

      Me too! I noticed it.

    • @Simplyabandkid
      @Simplyabandkid Рік тому +30

      I saw it and was like “oh my gosh :D”

    • @anokartist2352
      @anokartist2352 Рік тому +7

      @@Simplyabandkid yeah, me too

  • @kriticabanerjee976
    @kriticabanerjee976 Рік тому +50

    A serious issue among teenagers and young adults

  • @memes3833
    @memes3833 Рік тому +31

    Netflix or Disney should hire this team to make animation for them. This animated video is so GREAT !!!

  • @hentroXT
    @hentroXT Рік тому +35

    well that was a very helpfull lesson thank you for your time, your concern and energy to read this

  • @_Chessa_
    @_Chessa_ Рік тому +60

    It’s never that easy in real life.
    For many guys, a girl saying “no” to them it means they actually want it but in a more forced way.
    It’s what media and the online world has taught them to do.
    No means yes… kind of thing. Which is wrong.
    Or how men also know that a girl saying it’s, Fine means, I’m not fine. And also another thing that’s wrong to think of.
    Even if it’s true for some mentally ill. Definitely not for everyone.
    So guys have these thoughts in their head that this is what they want.
    Reality is never like that.
    It takes years of listening and understanding and learning and unlearning of bad behaviors and thoughts for guys and girls alike.
    It’s more complicated than one simple therapy. But it’s a start in the correct direction.
    this series would be great to show kids that are in middle school and maybe high school..
    although most high schoolers would roll their eyes to a show like this. Lol
    Not all people think this way.
    the many that do need to unlearn those thoughts about women.
    about how lonely they are and have thoughts about wanting to harm girls for not saying yes to their advances.
    It’s a battle I feel won’t stop for both men and women when it comes to dating.
    Now that women have a choice and are able to say no. It’s going to be an uphill battle of respect and listening and learning and unlearning all in one. I feel it’s going to be a decade before this happens, because the online world has set us back in a way like never before with bad influencers.
    But I could be wrong here.

    • @zaige11
      @zaige11 Рік тому +3

      At first I wanted to disagree but you hit many nails on the head

    • @tomsfoolery2
      @tomsfoolery2 8 місяців тому +3

      essay format, this is so wordy because of how it’s structured, not even trying to be disrespectful or funny

    • @_Chessa_
      @_Chessa_ 8 місяців тому

      @@tomsfoolery2 no worries.
      It is a mess, just like my brain. It’s hard for me to type out things reasonably and clearly. Hmm, you kinda sound like my ai, not gonna lie. But, have a good one in your UA-cam comment sentence structure adventure! :)

  • @Symphonia30
    @Symphonia30 Рік тому +32

    It’s been a while since this channel had another video and once again it’s inspiring and speaks to us all whether we are children or adults. I do agree, it can be hard to communicate.

  • @Laura-ol5mt
    @Laura-ol5mt Рік тому +19

    This shorts are always amazing, thank you for this

  • @DeathTheFighter
    @DeathTheFighter Рік тому +20

    when i was a child i used to watch these vids and these vids made me out of bullying. this guy deserves 5million with appluase

  • @samiracle13
    @samiracle13 Рік тому +19

    there should be social media campaigns for students to forward and send these videos to everyone in their schools and community. it really makes you think! this channel is stellar!

  • @jasminschmalzl9734
    @jasminschmalzl9734 Рік тому +19

    First there needs to be a healty, save and understanding environment for others to speak their minds and leaving their feelings out in the open.
    And since I was little such an environment WASN'T there.
    And I'm just DONE with it!
    Everytime I was in a situation (and there were a lot) I had to go to the other side "explain" my situation.
    Making myself vulnerable to get the help and the understanding I needed. And even then the "help" and "understanding" was only for the "polished surface". Cause neighter had they patience, nor did they accommodate with my needs and bundaries.
    NEVER did they come to me asking ME, why I did react this way, how my perspective is, how I see things or feel about it, asking themselves, what would be THE BEST for ME.
    And certainty NEVER, if I am ok with the things they do.
    Not my mother, not my father, not my friends, not my colleagues, not my employes. It was all about what THEY wanted and I just got the blame and was told I had to stop/ to adjust.
    And I'm SO DONE with it!
    Cause this isn't right! And neigther is it fair!
    And NO. Asking someone "What is wrong with you?" in a voice, with a face and with a demeanor, which clearly says "I don't care about you, you are the problem and therefore it's your fault." Is definitelly NOT a health, save and understanding way to identify problems and resolve conflicts!
    If I could I would send this video and text to everyone who I (once) knew and tell them: THIS IS EXAXTLY WHAT YOU DID WRONG
    Our society needs to learn that everythink comes with a price and that good things don't come out of noting! If you want good things to happen, you have to do something good first. It's as simple as that.

  • @DavidPaes1
    @DavidPaes1 Рік тому +19

    I swear this is the calmest and most organized counselor meeting that I have witness or heard or smth...

  • @Marzslitmask
    @Marzslitmask Рік тому +15

    I have been watching these for a while and I love the animations portraying important safety rules for others to be aware of and learn but this channel seriously should be shown in schools due to many of these safety rules being violated or at home cause its important for everyone teens, adults,kids!And we must protect others and help them with whatever they are going through

  • @Rack44-p4p
    @Rack44-p4p Рік тому +12

    "Listening isn't hard."
    That's true or at least it should be. The problem is some people don't listen.

  • @mistynix2118
    @mistynix2118 Рік тому +12

    I'm glad that the guys who were bullied (especially Raquelle) and the bullies found a common language and the bullying stopped, judging by how Raquelle and "Pizza Bully" (the guy in the blue hoodie) are playing cards (0:05), and everyone at this party gets along well with each other and communicate!)
    A good continuation of that bullying story (their most popular short «Are you ok?”) was made by the creators!👍

  • @UwUBakaSraka2137
    @UwUBakaSraka2137 Рік тому +12

    These videos need to be shown in schools. Please keep up the good work!

  • @arugonmorigane3622
    @arugonmorigane3622 Рік тому +33

    another good one ladies and gentlemen

  • @xojellyox
    @xojellyox Рік тому +37

    I love how they didn't paint Kai as a bad guy, just someone who was moving to fast in the relationship and felt rejected. And I like how they didn't completely cut him off after that and continued to be friends.

    • @dorkyalien5059
      @dorkyalien5059 Рік тому +13

      Yeah no he got all pissy because she didn't want to kiss him he is 1000% in the wrong

    • @jamiefazbearjunior8385
      @jamiefazbearjunior8385 2 місяці тому

      ​@@dorkyalien5059he was only like because he felt bad about himself

  • @semiatolanigan7066
    @semiatolanigan7066 Рік тому +9

    Guys they were all friends at first, they just needed help communicating and understanding how everyone else feels so they can work through it together, this is shown by the way only the boy gives an apology at the end, the counselors trying to mend their relationship instead of punishing people, since they were all good before this misunderstanding. They were all called in to talk because they were all involved, not because they were all at fault.

  • @STARFOXiswatchingYOU
    @STARFOXiswatchingYOU Рік тому +14

    YOOOOO THIS IS SUCH A GREAT SHORT FILM!
    Also love this dude with the glasses 🙇🙇🙇

  • @JakeyWakey031
    @JakeyWakey031 Рік тому +16

    I like how they showed how not only the victim felt, but how the predator felt also. Even though there’s no excuse for assault, there may be a story behind it.

  • @JaylaisAwesome
    @JaylaisAwesome 6 місяців тому +3

    This feels too real ❤subscribed, I watched this channel as a kid.

  • @TheMightyN
    @TheMightyN Рік тому +7

    Loud and clear, I just know that these experiences aren't always straightforward or settled so innocently.

  • @2Sleepy2beGood
    @2Sleepy2beGood 7 місяців тому +2

    That was the best principal ive ever seen. People. Take notes.

  • @nightingalewednesdaynightmare
    @nightingalewednesdaynightmare Рік тому +11

    This was a very helpful video. I really wish that videos like this existed when I was in middle school or high school.

  • @outrageouskiwibird
    @outrageouskiwibird 9 місяців тому +6

    More schools should have a counselor like that.

    • @klinero14
      @klinero14 8 місяців тому +2

      Yeah they should. Especially in Junior High School

  • @1TZ.R0B1N.
    @1TZ.R0B1N. Рік тому +19

    1:07
    This a little off topic but I love how creator gave Terrane / Terrance (?) a nonbinary pin to their bookbag! 😊

  • @popohoho35
    @popohoho35 Рік тому +4

    the way they talk is really realistic great message

  • @SuperSpectrom
    @SuperSpectrom Рік тому +4

    The animation and art style is way better than you would expect it to be.

  • @jamiefazbearjunior8385
    @jamiefazbearjunior8385 2 місяці тому

    "Distracted by feeling bad about yourself"
    That is an amazing point! Sometimes the people that go straight in without asking first, they react the way kai did because they feel stupid and frustrated with themselves for doing it. They know it was wrong but they let out their frustration. All people need to do is to take a breather and calm down to acknowledge what just happened. Then just go back to them and sort things out calmly.

  • @nevaehhamilton3493
    @nevaehhamilton3493 Рік тому +19

    Kai isn't good boyfriend material anyway. If he has respected her the first time, then he would have had a chance.

  • @emmacherry2093
    @emmacherry2093 9 місяців тому +2

    I had been going to a single young adults group. It's from the church I follow.
    I started dating one of the guys.
    We are all in our 20s we aren't kids but they all act like kids.
    I felt like the girl in this video.
    All the people in the group knew how I felt, but they instead of helping me they only excluded me.
    And they hanged out with the guy I dated.
    Although they took my side they made me feel I shouldn't be in the group.
    And they are right I need good people who stand up with me, like in this video.

  • @joojiebee
    @joojiebee 7 місяців тому +7

    @4:34 Some days I am trapped for hours repeating this to myself.

  • @Glollydesu
    @Glollydesu Рік тому +1

    THIS CHANNEL i truly agree , all you animate it goes to heart and makes me feel like it has happened to me the whole world should watch it

  • @mint_marigold1229
    @mint_marigold1229 Рік тому +24

    The nonbinary pin on the student with glasses did not go unnoticed. Great video as always, consent is so so important.

  • @virginiavass1597
    @virginiavass1597 Рік тому +11

    Brilliant work! Thank you for this ❤

  • @JurassicB
    @JurassicB 10 місяців тому +5

    Do you know in middle school I was bullied a lot and I actually got into a deep depression but now that I’m in high school I feel much better I am more confident of myself and I don’t care what other people think of me it’s about what matters to you

    • @Gingersdad
      @Gingersdad 9 місяців тому +1

      eh

    • @JurassicB
      @JurassicB 6 місяців тому +1

      ⁠@@Gingersdadwhat do you mean by eh?

  •  Рік тому +2

    I just discovered your channel, amazing! This should be shown in all schools! Keep up the good work?

  • @juanpablorobayo9891
    @juanpablorobayo9891 Рік тому +11

    Wait, so a guy kisses a girl, she tells him hes not ready, he feels bad and makes her feel bad as a result. The girl goes to her friend, who tries to talk to the guy but ends up getting pushed in a pool in front of his peers. And the solution is to tell all three kids to listen to each other?
    No freaking way. The guy may have felt terrible about the 'rejection', but he reacted terribly to not just the girl, but to their friend. Hes; the one who needs to learn to listen. And ifschools cant caml, gently, and respectfully teach THE PERSON WHO DID WRONG about consent and boundaries and proper behavior withoout putting the blame on the victims, what are we even doing??? the fact that all three kids got pulled into the office is awful.

    • @N0rmalDude
      @N0rmalDude 7 місяців тому +6

      I think you are missing the point a little bit. For sure only the boyfriend needs to be punished and they could have resolved it in that way, but what the councilor was trying to do was to repair the friendship that the 3 of them had before hand. Also, nobody here is being punished (which I think is a little lax on the perpetrator) they are in the councilors office, which in most schools is a place where students talk through their problems rather than the principal's office where they are punished for them.

    • @ILOVEMUVA
      @ILOVEMUVA 6 місяців тому

      You are absolutely right. Society coddles the abuser and shames the victim. Backwards asl.

  • @Princess_2504
    @Princess_2504 Рік тому +4

    Wow that was the most unrealistically helpful school counselor ever

  • @joseescobedo7899
    @joseescobedo7899 3 місяці тому

    Yall this counselor is litteraly the most useful counselor ive ever seen i wish counselors were like her when my firends needed help

  • @youngmoneymahini
    @youngmoneymahini Рік тому +1

    Great, easy to follow and digest content. I wish more folks knew about the work you’re all doing!👏🏼

  • @FlossTheBoss-iv3tf
    @FlossTheBoss-iv3tf 7 місяців тому +23

    Okay I usually like this channel but in this case: BOOOOO. The other two did nothing wrong! She did not ‘miscommunicate’ at all! She said clearly that she liked him but wasn’t ready for that, and walked away when he made her uncomfortable. She did EXACTLY the right thing! I don’t care he thought it was a rejection, that’s on him for not ‘listening’ to what she was actually saying (literally ‘I like you’) like this is going on about. And her friend did nothing wrong either! They listened to her, and tried to give some good advice to the other guy only to start getting crapped on! Orange shirt is the ONLY one that should be held responsible here, the other two communicated pretty much perfectly. He didn’t ask for consent before kissing her, got mad and said she ‘rejected him’ when she literally just set a boundary, and pushed her friend in the pool/started shoving them at school when they tried to talk to him to sort it out!

    • @jatnarivas8741
      @jatnarivas8741 3 місяці тому

      The tall guy would have been wiser to wait until things cool down a bit before talking, and could have started by asking about what happened first. They could have also gone directly to the counselor for help.

  • @yk.cutieee
    @yk.cutieee 9 місяців тому +6

    they need to show this to students but the schools are so sensitive and think its "inappropriate". they need to know some kids are hiding their dark stories art home in their fake smiles. they need to show this! I hope schools realize that they don't really care but they do care a bit because of the hotlines, but I mean, it's just a hotline. not gonna help, so they need to show this realistic story, not because of the kissing scenes smh

  • @Sonicfan6000
    @Sonicfan6000 Рік тому +8

    TEACHERS NEED TO SHOW US THESE VIDEOS

  • @traceyohearn6222
    @traceyohearn6222 Рік тому +53

    I appreciate the subtle nonbinary representation :3
    and great video, as always!

  • @beasnumber1fan
    @beasnumber1fan Рік тому +14

    HEHE THE FRIEND WHO HELPS THE GIRL HAD A NON-BINARY PIN❤️❤️❤️

    • @beasnumber1fan
      @beasnumber1fan Рік тому +2

      @zaihirstudios2003 I ❤️ ENBY REPRESENTATION!!!!

  • @JinxZ11
    @JinxZ11 Рік тому +3

    This is so inspiring!
    I love your videos so much, they have inspired me to get out of toxic reletionships and friendships.
    Keep going!❤
    Btw, if anyone reading this is in a toxic reletionship or something similar, you should talk to someone and leave that person, trust me, it will be hard at first but once you do it, you will feel better.❤

  • @Zoejo
    @Zoejo Рік тому +2

    Very well done as always!!
    Also the fact that the middle friend of the group had a nonbinary pin made me really happy!!

  • @NDJunction
    @NDJunction 2 місяці тому

    rejection is no big deal. in fact, don't even look at it from your perspective. look at it from someone else's and just care about what they go thru. trust me when i say they were nervous as well and cared about how u would feel hearing what they say. they respect you more when you are calm and kind

  • @monicagandolfo3577
    @monicagandolfo3577 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful! Excellent intervention on the part of the Head

  • @Bibo3407
    @Bibo3407 5 місяців тому +2

    THE TEATCHER SIDE PROFILE IS MAKING ME CRY HELP

  • @daynagilfillan1015
    @daynagilfillan1015 Рік тому +2

    Your body is yours, don’t anybody take advantage of you be strong and independent that’s my motto I get it all the time because I have autism to take advantage of that ❤

    • @John-ls4xh
      @John-ls4xh Рік тому +1

      Our bodies don't belong to us, but they aren't owned by man but our Lord Jesus Christ. He wants people to respect our temples as well as showw kindness to others

    • @daynagilfillan1015
      @daynagilfillan1015 Рік тому

      @@John-ls4xh go away bible thumper I don’t give a fuck what you say I’m a little of my opinion I’m not religious won’t take your religious views somewhere else idiot

    • @daynagilfillan1015
      @daynagilfillan1015 Рік тому

      @@John-ls4xh they do belong to us, would say thank you belong to Mars. Are you fucked up and head?

    • @daynagilfillan1015
      @daynagilfillan1015 Рік тому

      @@John-ls4xh Jesus can die in a fucking housefire, for all I care

    • @daynagilfillan1015
      @daynagilfillan1015 Рік тому

      Does that answer your question Karen?

  • @foxesaresocute9622
    @foxesaresocute9622 Рік тому +1

    I wish this channel would post a lot more I love theses vidoes teaching teens and others about being respectful ❤❤❤

    • @sunny.skylie
      @sunny.skylie Рік тому +2

      Animation takes a long time so they don’t post as usual

  • @katelynhenry777
    @katelynhenry777 11 місяців тому +1

    I never had highschool relationships because this. I feel like learning from others in their relationships before i start and then as an adult I'll be more mature mental and logically to know what to do in a relationship.
    My mom told me that be friends with them until the time is ready. Because friendships lasts longer than relationships she told me. I hope this helps someone!

  • @IvyShepard777-bk3iw
    @IvyShepard777-bk3iw Рік тому +3

    I've been in the girl's situation before....just online.
    There was this one guy in 8th grade. I told him we weren't dating but he started hugging me and grabbing my shoulders. I left school without telling him so I could sign onto homeschool. I blocked his number immediately after I left.
    I feel pretty stupid for not speaking up.

  • @jazlynestrella540
    @jazlynestrella540 Рік тому +11

    Awesome a new video

  • @chipkid
    @chipkid Рік тому +22

    As a gender-fluid kid, seeing the rep of enby people makes me so happy. We’re getting closer and closer to acceptance.

  • @diamondkone
    @diamondkone Рік тому +2

    Despite the serious topics, I love these videos.

  • @ericastones1052
    @ericastones1052 Рік тому +6

    Just because a girl isn't ready to kiss or go all the way doesn't mean you can simply hurt her and not be with her. I didn't have intercourse until I was twenty years old.

  • @Freakshow674
    @Freakshow674 Рік тому +2

    I got this as an ad, i watched it to the end.

  • @jellyfishfingernail
    @jellyfishfingernail Рік тому +46

    i love the non-binary pin!!

    • @bessieburnet9816
      @bessieburnet9816 Рік тому +1

      Yay, representing total make believe!

    • @BeepbopMF
      @BeepbopMF Рік тому +19

      @@bessieburnet9816 You know people say that about bisexuality, right? About how we need to “pick a side” and that we don’t exist as well?

    • @chipkid
      @chipkid Рік тому +4

      splatoon is a nonbinary based game lol

    • @STYXIX
      @STYXIX Рік тому +11

      ​@@bessieburnet9816 quite silly how you say this on most if not all comments mentioning this

    • @AG-AG
      @AG-AG Рік тому

      ​@bessieburnet9816 tell me how some person not wanting to be a man or a woman is a greater fantasy than the fact that people are willing to sacrifice their lives for such murky ideals such as patriotism or liberty, or how we treat at best face paper and these days zeroes and ones as the most important things in society, so much that the rich commit countless atrocities simply to get more of it?

  • @ViladimirPutin-mc7zg
    @ViladimirPutin-mc7zg Рік тому +7

    Hi I please read my story too
    Well I'm boy and I'm 18 years old i have a also story about abuse when my age is 10-12year I go to to my father's sisters home sometimes well my father's 2 sister married in one home first my father's older sister second is my father's younger sister when onetime I play in my father's younger sister home sometimes my father's younger sister husband plays with me but he also kiss on my face alot (not on lips) and sometimes he put his hand in my T-shirt and I become very uncomfortable this happens to me many times and I go to my father's older sister home to play and also sometimes I avoid to to sleep at my father's younger sister home because of her husband but there is a problem my father's older sister husband is drunk all night and almost very day in her home is fight and yelling to him (father's older sister husband) and I can't find peace so I need to go my father's younger sister home and also I play with my father's younger and older sister kids it was so funny and enjoyable but sometimes I become uncomfortable after seeing my father's younger sister husband
    And also I have a problem I can't walk because of my disease my bones is so weak and also due to break bones alot of times my bones structure is abnormal sometimes people stare at me like I am not a normal human
    I'm monster and because of my disease my head is little big and I'm not good looking and people not like to talk me (expect neighbour) and also I hate my self no one is my friend😢😢 that's my I have social anxiety
    I remember once I go to to public place people stare at me like I'm not human and also once a children come to my home and after seeing he was very scared like he sow a monster I give other to fake smile but inside in very upset because of my disease 😑😑
    And also I suffused from depression 3 times
    1. When my age is 9-10 years old and also due to my disease my parents said you need to leave your school forever when I'm in 5th class my age is around 9-10 years old and 2 years later(12-14) I go to deeprasion because of my disease I think whole day I am not like other normal human why I am like inhuman and cry because I want to play outside with other kids too I want too friend but I can't walk so I can't play and I can't make friends I crying almost every day why I can't walk even i try to suicide but I can't take my life I think if I drink thinner I well die I free from this world but I can't take my life I can't suicide my deeprasion is long up to 10-15 days because i am tired of my desise I stay at home 24/7 houses only sometimes I go outside and some relative home but still I watch too much TV for time pass
    I remember once my legs's bone broke and I can't watch TV because of weak single (how can I spend time) I will cry (my age is around 14-15)
    2.when I get mobile from parents for timepass I play roblox (game) and my age is 16 year I meet with a girl who is 13 years old I make her my friend and then she also make me her friend and I also started liking her and she also like me😊😊 but once I call her she is very disappointed with my voice and after that I tell her I can't walk (chat) she said I don't want to stay with that person who can't walk so talk💔💔 my hearth is like broken and next day I see she block me and I started crying and I go 10-20 days deeprasion but I move on to think if she don't care about so why I care about her and I move on
    3. When I new to instagram I meet with a girl her name is ashveeni she is from indore and I make her my friend and I also started love her but she don't talk to much and don't care about me and one day her account ban i don't know her account temporarily ban or permanently ban I missing her so much I hope one day I meet her but their are is problem after account block she don't send me request from another account even my name is easy to remember she don't send me request I love but I think she no love me and I go to deeprasion almost 1.5 moths but still I'm in deeprasion 💔💔💔💔
    In my life I have only family no friend no love no crush no money
    Sometimes I think I leave this cursed world but after seeing my parents and family I can't leave it can't suicide
    I'm in deeprasion, deep loneliness, social anxiety, worthless feeling
    What should I do
    Help me💔💔💔💔💔
    Also I have regrat made a lot of bad thing when I was child I my age is around 11-12 years old i play with my neighbour relative kid she is girl and I think she was my first friend after leaving school when i play with her and I rub my nose to her nose (I know it's embarrassing) alot of time but once she said stop I said sorry and after that I think never do that again if I do only 1-2 times seriously I that case I don't know what I'm doing because I is also kid and I have no sense i never disrespect girl I respect girl too much hope you understand me imagine you child watch these actor's rub their nose to each other what you expect im not justify my bad thing I just try to understand I don't want to do this understand me please (I do these thing because I watch too much TV (bollywood) when I saw actor rubbing nose I like this too so I want too to do it and i did it i have no sense what I am doing because I I'm so young) and in our family and between relative started hate because of property issue the property issue is in my family's farm and between neighbour's farm their was a tree and my dad cut this tree and neighbour said this tree is our and my family said this tree is our and between family and neighbour hate I lost her too because her parents said don't go to his child home and at 3:00pm-6:00pm she come and said I don't come to your home I don't talk to you because my parents said [ due to hate between family and neighbour I lost my friend too ]
    Second I remember once my mother's brother daughter come to my home for vaccination I remember she sit down near me [this time is naratra a Indian culture part ] and I friendly to her and also she talk to me very nicely I become friendly near her but this time she sit down near me I put my hand on her shoulder back side (only one time) (कमर) she said take away your hand if you don't do this sit down other side and then she sit down other side I don't understand so I don't take away my hand and think why she (my age is 14-15) so uncomfortable because I put my hand on her shoulder back side (कमर) but when I grow up and become teenager I understand what's she is feeling and inside I'm full of guilt and once I go to her home i said to her I'm sorry for touching you and she said it's OK this time my guilt's light then I try to understand other girl so I understand without permission don't touch girl no matter she is you friend or not I do this because I think she is my sister and aslo friend so I friendly I know she is not interested in me
    I really respect girl but I get friendly tell me you have a male/female friend sometimes you put your hand or her/his shoulder It's normal that's why I put my hand on her shoulder back side I know
    For some people this is normal for some people this is like abuse but trust me I have no bad attention about this i guees I make friend that's why
    I think I make her my friend and to be friendly I put hand
    And also I don't cross my line in my life I just touch her hair and rub my nose to my friend's noseto think we are friend and I put my hand on her shoulder back side for some people it's normal but for me both of them is my sisters how could I do that I promise I don't know what am I doing
    Well I only touch hair and rub nose to each other nose and put hand on her shoulder back side I don't cross my line remember but yeah I have regrats
    Than I don't know you trust me or not I'm shy yeah
    Ever friend left me behind no matter these person is girl or boy I also need friend too to express my feelings my in my life I absorb my feel I inside me sometimes I cry because I can't express my feelings no I have no friend no love
    Those who read my full comment thank you so much😁😁😁😁 I express my feelings you don't belive some people also say that you can't walk you are so lucky I don't believe how could they say that thing

  • @keriunknown
    @keriunknown Рік тому +2

    Sometimes we need people like that guy with glasses

  • @fanyleon6877
    @fanyleon6877 Рік тому +2

    We have to respect others even if we don't like it. 🙏☺️

  • @bubblesawesome3284
    @bubblesawesome3284 Рік тому +2

    This should be shown everywhere.

  • @urfavfrenderbender
    @urfavfrenderbender 8 місяців тому +12

    Not sure if any of y’all noticed, but on Taryn’s jacket, there was a non-binary flag pin and that just made my day :)

  • @officialReignited
    @officialReignited Рік тому +1

    Omg, this is amazing! God bless!!

  • @berniekatzroy
    @berniekatzroy Рік тому +3

    I really enjoy this channels content and surprised but not surprised it got more notoriety. This whole situation though feels cringe, ive never seen a councilor pull a group of people for something that happened outside of school. To be more precise, not kissing is what and a third person involved also feels so strange.

  • @Wierd_MidKid
    @Wierd_MidKid 7 місяців тому +1

    Youu guys really deserve 100,000 Million subs

  • @joshuasebsebe1047
    @joshuasebsebe1047 Рік тому +6

    The Girl with the brown hair and Pony we saw her when Requille was exiting the Girls's Locker room at the door

  • @ValentinaMugnier-eg1ew
    @ValentinaMugnier-eg1ew 6 місяців тому

    It's impressive that this channel also helps To any age kids.

  • @schoolisstressful3212
    @schoolisstressful3212 Рік тому +1

    Oh my god I love this. If only all school counselors were like this.

  • @worldofkids6483
    @worldofkids6483 Рік тому +1

    I wish I was in a school like this.
    I did something to my closest friend when I was 12 and it made me feel terrible. I couldn't understand why he got mad, I mean I'm supposed to get mad not him. He took my 40 question physics assignment and wrote his name on it. When I told the the teacher about it he hated me for the rest of my life.
    He give me death stares. He just didn't forgive me??? He also avoided me. And when I tried to talk he just gets angry again

  • @AngelsofPassion666
    @AngelsofPassion666 6 місяців тому +1

    This needs more attention

  • @ivyasc9
    @ivyasc9 10 місяців тому +1

    The character that had that happen to has my name and I went through the same thing it really left me in shock

  • @MurderLamb
    @MurderLamb Рік тому +2

    This art style looks awesome :D

  • @LowSelf-EsteemLord
    @LowSelf-EsteemLord Рік тому +8

    I love this so much

  • @AmaniMohamed-jb6dg
    @AmaniMohamed-jb6dg 5 місяців тому

    ❤it's very amazing when you learn from your mistakes 🎉and try to correct what you make 😊respect and consent

  • @muppetfan77show26
    @muppetfan77show26 Рік тому +7

    Awesome👍😎