I wish I had never started smoking. In our twenties we seem to think we are indestructable and to a certain extent we are but it all catches up to us. We eventually have to pay the piper.
What I’d tell the 20yo me, not that they would listen 😝. 1. The most precious thing you have is time, guard it with everything you have. 2. Learn how to invest. 3. Don’t wait for things to happen. 4. Exercise more. 5. It’s ok to say NO to people. 6. Sleep is a super power. 7. In a corporate job, your job is not your identity, your employer is not your family, your colleagues are not automatically your friends. You are a number. 8. You are a product of your closest friends. It’s ok to cut ties with people that are negativity influencing you. 9. You are what you eat. 10. Be present, value every moment you spend with loved ones.
Remaining friends with the wrong type of people for way too long because I didn't want to be alone. Finally broke free but had waisted so much time on people who didn't care about me.
Ironically, I'm the person who DID cut those people out... but good new friends never materialized... so I've been soul crushingly lonely for years now. I dont know which is worse honestly. But when people talk as if good people will fill the void... that has not been my experience.
@@JasonReagan84 I moved away and made a few new friends. Some friends are scattered around the place. It takes work. Making friends is definitely a skill. I made one friend in work, another I lived with when I moved into a shared flat, another person I met from my building as I was out gardening one day and they came out to speak to me about gardening. It's tough, shared interests help optimise the discovery of like minded people. Being brave to ask people to go for a walk or coffee risking the 'no'. I have a lot of groups I'm in but those people are acquaintances, it's hard at an older age to convert acquaintances to friends I feel. Try to optimise the environmental conditions.
Same! I have invested so much time in people in my 20s that were not even friends anymore. 🙁 I was giving my all try to be a good friend and they weren’t.
In my 40s now and I wish I had accepted myself sooner. There is no much pressure to "tick all the boxes" (go to uni, have a career, get married, buy a house, have kids, get a dog etc). I thought something was wrong with me that I didn't have the energy to do those things. I now work part-time and live a simple life (no kids or pets). It suits me. I have low energy and cannot go go go like others. So to young people out there, don't feel like you have to live a prescribed life. Ignore the criticism.
#1 thing above all other advice - understand that EVERY person responds differently to stuff and treat life as one experiment after another. Try something out, log it, recap and decide if it stays or not. I've wasted years on habits and training that didn't work for me because it was "supposed to be the best". Now I treat every month like another experiment, much like Laura's channel here!
That it’s ok to be introverted, don’t push yourself to socialise just for the sake of it, with people who you don’t particularly enjoy. And yes, more consistent weight training would’ve been great for my silly back.
My one would be to love myself before finding a partner. I tried to change myself so much for others, but it’s only since I entered my 30s that I realised how much I’d lost myself doing that. I’m grateful that I now know myself more and what I like, and have found someone who loves me for me. ❤
Thank you for sharing Laura. I agree with all of these ..I'm in my early 50's and have thought most of these. Biggest thing for me was self love and not trying to please people and also cutting people out of my life, including some family, who didn't make me feel good about myself.
I think our parents probably influence us before adulthood and we need to really question whether we agree with what we’ve been taught rather than just accepting it. Also it’s scary becoming independent but we need to find the courage as that’s when we truly start living. I’m 64 and still learning!
I started doing sports when I was 6. Started weight training around 17 Major back injury at 27 Now at 32 I can't run anymore. People discovering weight training later in life can do it because they didn't bang their body up early on...
Be your genuine self as it hard as it might seem - you attract people like you into your life that way instead of the people you *think* you should be around. I love your videos Laura, you're a ray of light 🧡
Thanks Laura for being yourself. Like so many people your honesty and humility is why I’ve been coming back to listen to what you have to say. I’m a bit lost at 48, ticked a lot of boxes in life but now feel untethered I guess. I know the answer is in me but motivation and joylessness seem to be holding me back. Listening to you, I feel gives my ideas and a “hope” I can figure it out. All the best and keep the podcasts coming. Thanks
I would speculate You're basically sub-30, when measured by cellular health. Your diet and lifestyle are almost certainty slowing the aging process considerably. Tons of new science we now have that can be used at any age to significantly improve health and extend life, and we have excellent sources like your channel to bring that science to us! Great time to be alive!
I really enjoyed listening Laura, thanks. I wish id not invested time and energy into relationships that i sort of felt and knew were toxic but didnt have the ability to discern as well as i can now that im 51. Im talking family, friends, work, romantic, the lot! Dont flog dead horses, if relationships with people are one sided or toxic, move on! Your older self will cherish and thank you for being true to yourslef rather than to loyalties wasted..
Great video! I am 60 years young, and in my 20's I wish I knew it was okay to just be myself instead of trying to be what everyone else wanted/expected me to be. I was such a people pleaser (and very unhappy). Wishing you a wonderful 42nd year!
Hi. Starting strength training was a big deal for me too. I'd only highlight that the big change was from "going to the gym" to "follow a beginner's strength programme". I did enjoy and felt improvement from Body Pump, indoor cycling, etc., but the accidental find of Stronglifts5x5 (and Starting Strength) was key.
I wish I knew how important my different friend and family relationships were and that they all need consistent effort to maintain. I have definitely take my friends and family for granted and only now, also at 42 and moving home to Ireland from America with the sole purpose of reconnecting with the people I love most in the world, do I finally see it.
Thank you Laura, forgive but don’t forget and get rid of things that are toxic - be that people, food, alcohol! Take opportunities offered and don’t get bogged down in worrying what other people will think!
Great video Laura, that cat of yours is so lush. I have always loved the idea of giving your younger self advise, but even if I did, I am not sure my younger self would have taken any of it. I feel, as I age, I slowly start to be ready to take this learning in and I don’t think my younger self would have listened.
42yr old man here.. I still am totally baffled by life. Somehow got married had kids etc.. have a horrible feeling it's going to take another twenty years to get a handle on things
I'm in my twenties and been reading about neo advaita. Non duality. It's like a philosophy rather than religion. I was desperate and needed to stop constant anxiety and ongoing depression, zoom out and learn who I truly am. I am not a body, not a mind. It's a path to 'enlightenment' if you want to call it that. But more precisely, it's about coming BACK to your true self. Letting go of any made up concepts that we pick up over our lifetimes. It has helped me but the process is tough. People around you may not understand what you're doing. You may experience derealisation. At times feel like you're seeing your usual life as an outsider. Blank stare. That's the process. BUT I am happy to have found out about it.
I'm in my mid 20s. The name is a bit of a giveaway but I really related to what Laura said about having less things. Having less material items allows me to stress less, every outfit I wear is my favorite outfit, I eat minimally and I enjoy everything I eat, my space isn't cluttered and that frees up a lot of mental space for me. Because of the decluttering, I've gotten into yoga, journaling and other mindfulness practices. I plan on doing something called a buy nothing year and I think it's going to be very interesting and transformative for the rest of my life ☺️
Great video, LT! Are you up for doing one on financials? Money is one of the biggest determinants of health and wellbeing. My biggest lesson would be to avoid debt and start putting money away, internalise financial concepts like sunk costs and risk management, and to plan further than "what can I afford this week"
Placing all of my significant partner's happiness above my own throughout my entire life. Now 64, aware of the issue and trying to make changes. Wish I had more self worth and confidence
Even in our 20's, we can tend to be impressionable. Things that I was impressed with then I don't give a second thought to now. So I would tell myself that material things aren't so important. I'm much more confident now, but that's a factor of maturing and having more life experience, so it's hard to wish that confidence to my 20 year old self, but I'd certainly tell myself to find ways of being a little less anxious, a little less people pleasing. Myself and my siblings are products of a loveless marriage. I would tell my 20 year old self to stop projecting the fiction that everything in my home life was fine. My parents are two good people but totally unsuited to each other. And coming from Ireland I would have told my 20 year old self to start preparing to live abroad. Ireland is so parochial it's almost funny. I was 28 before I had a job that took me all over Europe, and after 6 years of that, I moved abroad permanently at 33. Thank you for your honesty Laura, and greetings from Prague !
I really like your material. I am 67. I wish I would have known a number of things at 20. Muscle building on alternate days( I used to overdo it and get tendinitis). Washing my face gently, paying closer attention to sleep hygiene and serious dental habits. Thank you for all the work you do!
Life is about the journey, becoming conscious, becoming aware of our ways of life, what really gives value to our life. You’ve done it; that’s all that matters. Resistance training is, yes I agree w you, the best thing we can do for ourselves because it builds strength, our immune system, not to mention our mental agility. I noticed the muscles on my thighs disappearing; def gonna work on that. Congrats, Laura! You r gaining wisdom with age!🎉 u look fabulous!🎉🎉
Amazing video as always ... i feel blessed cuz i found your channel and seeing you try and doing healthy stuff to educate yourself and us is just awesome .. keep going girl , sending love from Algeria xoxo
Another great vlog. It always feels like a good investment of my time when I watch your vlogs. Thank you ❤ my live was great in my twenties, but looking back I would make two changes….
The advice I'd give to 20 year olds and that I followed myself in my 20s is: move to the country or city that most aligns with your goals. For me, I simply wanted to make more money, coming from Hull and moving to London changed my life, in Hull, despite my skills and efforts to find a job, I still ended up on the dole for many years, when I made the decision to move to London, I got a job in 2 weeks and I was able to continually increase my salary... compared to Hull it was a piece of cake. Perhaps money isn't your goal, what I'm saying is your environment makes the biggest difference to your life.
I’ve had the same experience. I moved at 40 to a city that had the infrastructure to support my highest ideals, and it has made a huge difference in my life.
Thanks again for another amazing video Laura! Quite a few things you said resonated with me but it’s all about looking forward now! Through the wonderful process of aging we gain more knowledge of the world and ourselves - we can achieve anything we set our minds to!
Ahh Laura, I wonder if you know how refreshing and inspirational your honest , no BS approach is? Thank you for being you. I for one greatly enjoy your Chanel, the challenges you present and the way you make me rethink what I thought I knew about many things. Thanks!
So inspiring! Thanks for sharing. I’m about to turn 61 and I’m still working on most of these things. Progress is being made. Best of luck to you on your journey. I love your channel
As I near 62 I wish I knew more about flexibility after years of only lifting weights and running…off and on. I have also subscribed to niksen after watching a few Dutch UA-cam channels. Finally, just prior to my retirement this past March I started the Swedish death cleaning and aiming towards the simplistic way of life. “Less stuff, less space, more life” is what one Dutch lady said on an episode of Oprah. No, I don’t watch Oprah, just picked that up from watching Dutch and Danish videos. Great video LT!!!❤😊❤😊
Oh man, if I could go back into would definitely tell myself to sleep and to workout earlier in my age. I say I have to agree with getting rid of things. We're about to downsize from 2300 sq ft to 400 and I'm super excited.
Im in my 70s but i wish id known you in my 20s. Iv watched many of your videos and thouroughly enjoyed them. Its taken me most of my life to get to where i am now so dont be so hard on yourself your a beautiful person with more balls than most men , love and respect. ❤️
I really love your videos, your insight and the way you put them.. I’d agree with everything you said although I’m in my early thirties. My advice would be that you don’t have to understand your thoughts and emotions and sometimes just keep moving forward and they will become clear. I used to get stuck in loops in my head and that would keep me stuck in life, now if I don’t understand it I just keep moving forward and trust the answers will become clear over time.
Oh my goodness I’m 35 and feel like you completely just described my 20s and 30s so far. I was unstoppable in my 20s and did some incredible things. But through my 30s I have been struggling. So of it is circumstances and health related but some of it just complete decision paralysis. I’m totally over complicating things. I flit from idea to idea. I might try to read the book you suggested. Love your channel Laura.
Laura, do you still not drink now? Do you think you will ever drink again if so? I’m on a journey of trying to figure out if alcohol should be a part of it. I quit for a full year but recently slowly started back in and it’s not going so well. What tips would you give to help quit completely? I love your videos btw. Please keep them coming. They are great.
No alcohol. It's very unlikely I'll ever drink alcohol again. It's difficult for me to give tips as alcohol makes me feel so rotten so it's easy to not have it. I suppose I would say, imagine how you're going to feel in a few hours, the next day, the following week and that may be enough to not start.
@ thank you for your response. It really comes down to it causing more anxiety… no matter how much or how little I have… and it disrupts my sleep horribly. I have the Oura ring and since starting back drinking, my heart rate stays up at night and I don’t sleep right so my readiness the next day is low. It’s just all my friends drink, including my husband. It makes it harder!
It's great you have a tool and the awareness to see how alcohol negatively impacts you. Now to make the decision ahead of time for what is right for you. It may not need to be all of nothing. But nothing certainly makes the decision much easier.
Did you make a video on your downsizing, and downsizing your wardrobe? That would be interesting. Love your videos, there's always an enlightening element to them ❤.
I would tell my late teens/early twenties self to focus on getting strong, rather than thin; to not care so much what people think; to be less self critical and not take myself so seriously; and to start investing as soon as I was earning some money - to take advantage of the compounding effect (referred to by some finance people as the 8th owner of the world 😂); and to take more risks. Great video as always LT!
I'm 38 and the only think I can think I'd tell 20yr old me is to question everything that other people or society tells you is "normal" or the normal thing to do. Just going along with what everyone else does or the way other people lead their lives without questioning if it's the right thing for YOU. The word normal is a red flag for me now 😄. Another great video thanks Laura, and loving all the insightful comments!
Also, the sleep thing...I've owned that book for years and been too scared to read it. Sleep deprivation since having my kids has been REAL and i hate to think what it's done to my future health prospects. Would love to know if there is a way to reverse some of that damage!
1) strength training (started at 30) 2) investing/finances (started at 40) 3) having less stuff and a place for everything 4) saying no when I don’t want to do the thing
I always enjoy your video's and you offcourse.😍 I'm 43 and will be 44 in january. I would have told myself alot of these tips to my younger self too some would be hard. I would have said to myself to read more, take risks and don't be in your head so much and travel. Btw you pronounced niksen very very well. I'm Dutch and I was impressed😊
Great video. I'm a very similar age to you and have gone through similar changes. I had too much stuff. If only I had understood that I don't need so much and been brave enough to be different from my peer group. While I was able to sell quite a bit of stuff I wasted so much money on clothes and shoes, etc. If I had invested that money, my life would be much more comfortable now. Good point about weight training. I lifted weights in my 20s and got into very good shape. However, it took over my life and I trained through injuries. I wouldn't do that now. I did retain quite a bit of strength from those days though. Being brave enough to live differently is the key thing for me. I'm not interested in the big house or nice car. I want my freedom. Best of luck with your decluttering and stay healthy!
49 here, many of the things on your list are on mine as well, but these are some of the other things I wish I knew in my 20's: - Switch from an earning mindset to an investor mindset. Don't spend the money on consumer goods, but rather invest it in stocks, rare collectibles, etc. - Don't worry about what others might think of you, nobody cares really if you have that new car or whatever. - Don't be dependant/reliable on a romantic partner to save your life, get your life sorted out and learn to be independant. - Eat low carb diet! - Fast at least 3 times a year for 2-3 days! - Read more books, especially for personal development (finance, diet, mindset etc.) - Walk more, 5k-10k steps per day if possible, 3 times a week with a weighted vest - Never skip leg day as a man, sure we all love to work on upper body, but legs have the most amount of muscles - Work on getting more muscle mass and grip strenth as they are predictors of longevity - You don't have to be friends with everyone, some people will like you, others will not - ...
1) just stop smoking. NOW. (I have stopped a few months ago) 2) do yoga, you’ve always wanted to. You won’t regret it, it will make you start enjoying physical activity and loving your body. 3) go to the dentist and get this build up cleaned at least yearly. Brushing your teeth is not enough. Tooth decay is not the only thing that can impact your mouth health. Got gum disease now after 20 years without going to a dentist. And oh yeah, stop smoking that will help too. I think that’s about it. Anything else were necessary life experiences I needed to be where I’m at now. I don’t want to live in the past.
@@LauraTryUK What the last video you've done or the video we're talking about? You really inspired and I can honestly say, I'm not just speaking for me! A follow-up would be fantastic you could even do a live stream? That way we could ask relevant questions about integration and healing! You're a shining Star Laura! 🙏
I would have said that life is like a crockpot...you gather all the ingredients and stay the course; trust the process- which can take years... Every time I have had the patience to trust the process it has worked out beautifully
Number 1 for me would be, don't waste all that spare money on new Cars instead get a mortgage and buy a house. I'd have had a much easier life and probably be mostly passive income by now. Number 2, Dr Seuss was right all those years back, we need to care for the planet before it's too late!
Hi Charlie :) 68 now, 3 big things for me are: #1 - I should have stayed in the Marines #2 - I should not have bought so much stuff. #3 - I should have saved 1/2 of my income
I wish I didn’t spend as much money on things that didn’t bring me long-lasting joy and that I don’t even remember. Instead, that I had learned about investing and taken some savvier steps with it. Money is a tool. Wish I’d traveled the world. Wish I’d been more active. Wish I’d cut off some people sooner, for my physical and mental health. Wish I’d known about gut health, taken care of mine and taken fewer antibiotics. Still in 30s and there is time. However, I now have a family and much less time/bandwith for all the things I wish I’d done sooner.
This is wonderful question! There was a similar one in The Artists Way book - I had to write a letter from my 80 years self, giving advice to myself now. It was an extremely powerful exercise 💫 I will revisit this question, thank you!
You are very kind, thank you. No filter, just lightened the brightness and highlights of the thumbnail as that part of my kitchen is shadowy. for the record, I never use filters.
You Can Heal Your Life was one of the most pivotal books in my life; I read it around age 30. I don’t think I knew it was ok to choose to be happy. Thank you LT, for being You.
Oh my goodness I’m 35 and feel like you completely just described my 20s and 30s so far. I was unstoppable in my 20s and did some incredible things. But through my 30s I have been struggling. So of it is circumstances and health related but some of it just complete decision paralysis. I’m totally over complicating things. I flit from idea to idea. I might try to read the book you suggested. Love your channel Laura.
What do you wish you knew in your 20s?
life is about accumulation of energy, not about spending it.
I wish I had never started smoking. In our twenties we seem to think we are indestructable and to a certain extent we are but it all catches up to us. We eventually have to pay the piper.
I wish I knew that gay marriage would eventually become legal in my country
I wish i had stopped earlier with the "what if's" and started earlier with "When i know better, I will do better".
That you have more time and opportunity than you realise, but you can't waste them forever.
What I’d tell the 20yo me, not that they would listen 😝.
1. The most precious thing you have is time, guard it with everything you have.
2. Learn how to invest.
3. Don’t wait for things to happen.
4. Exercise more.
5. It’s ok to say NO to people.
6. Sleep is a super power.
7. In a corporate job, your job is not your identity, your employer is not your family, your colleagues are not automatically your friends. You are a number.
8. You are a product of your closest friends. It’s ok to cut ties with people that are negativity influencing you.
9. You are what you eat.
10. Be present, value every moment you spend with loved ones.
what a list 🙌
Thank you for sharing.
Agree with all; number 2 is important…but I wouldn’t have listened!!
Remaining friends with the wrong type of people for way too long because I didn't want to be alone. Finally broke free but had waisted so much time on people who didn't care about me.
Ironically, I'm the person who DID cut those people out... but good new friends never materialized... so I've been soul crushingly lonely for years now.
I dont know which is worse honestly. But when people talk as if good people will fill the void... that has not been my experience.
@@JasonReagan84 I moved away and made a few new friends. Some friends are scattered around the place. It takes work. Making friends is definitely a skill. I made one friend in work, another I lived with when I moved into a shared flat, another person I met from my building as I was out gardening one day and they came out to speak to me about gardening. It's tough, shared interests help optimise the discovery of like minded people. Being brave to ask people to go for a walk or coffee risking the 'no'. I have a lot of groups I'm in but those people are acquaintances, it's hard at an older age to convert acquaintances to friends I feel. Try to optimise the environmental conditions.
Same! I have invested so much time in people in my 20s that were not even friends anymore. 🙁 I was giving my all try to be a good friend and they weren’t.
@@JasonReagan84if you give selfless service you will never be lonely 🙏🏻
In my 40s now and I wish I had accepted myself sooner. There is no much pressure to "tick all the boxes" (go to uni, have a career, get married, buy a house, have kids, get a dog etc). I thought something was wrong with me that I didn't have the energy to do those things. I now work part-time and live a simple life (no kids or pets). It suits me. I have low energy and cannot go go go like others. So to young people out there, don't feel like you have to live a prescribed life. Ignore the criticism.
Life starts at 40, everything until then is just a research 😂
Brilliant, I love that 😂
Omg so true
#1 thing above all other advice - understand that EVERY person responds differently to stuff and treat life as one experiment after another. Try something out, log it, recap and decide if it stays or not.
I've wasted years on habits and training that didn't work for me because it was "supposed to be the best".
Now I treat every month like another experiment, much like Laura's channel here!
That it’s ok to be introverted, don’t push yourself to socialise just for the sake of it, with people who you don’t particularly enjoy. And yes, more consistent weight training would’ve been great for my silly back.
My one would be to love myself before finding a partner. I tried to change myself so much for others, but it’s only since I entered my 30s that I realised how much I’d lost myself doing that. I’m grateful that I now know myself more and what I like, and have found someone who loves me for me. ❤
Thank you for sharing Laura. I agree with all of these ..I'm in my early 50's and have thought most of these. Biggest thing for me was self love and not trying to please people and also cutting people out of my life, including some family, who didn't make me feel good about myself.
Mid 50's here too!! 100% agree
I think our parents probably influence us before adulthood and we need to really question whether we agree with what we’ve been taught rather than just accepting it. Also it’s scary becoming independent but we need to find the courage as that’s when we truly start living. I’m 64 and still learning!
I started doing sports when I was 6. Started weight training around 17
Major back injury at 27
Now at 32 I can't run anymore. People discovering weight training later in life can do it because they didn't bang their body up early on...
Be your genuine self as it hard as it might seem - you attract people like you into your life that way instead of the people you *think* you should be around. I love your videos Laura, you're a ray of light 🧡
Great video Laura!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
54 yrs old now but in my 20’s - think before you do, everything we do have consequences.
Thanks Laura for being yourself. Like so many people your honesty and humility is why I’ve been coming back to listen to what you have to say. I’m a bit lost at 48, ticked a lot of boxes in life but now feel untethered I guess. I know the answer is in me but motivation and joylessness seem to be holding me back. Listening to you, I feel gives my ideas and a “hope” I can figure it out. All the best and keep the podcasts coming. Thanks
I would speculate You're basically sub-30, when measured by cellular health. Your diet and lifestyle are almost certainty slowing the aging process considerably. Tons of new science we now have that can be used at any age to significantly improve health and extend life, and we have excellent sources like your channel to bring that science to us! Great time to be alive!
I really enjoyed listening Laura, thanks. I wish id not invested time and energy into relationships that i sort of felt and knew were toxic but didnt have the ability to discern as well as i can now that im 51. Im talking family, friends, work, romantic, the lot! Dont flog dead horses, if relationships with people are one sided or toxic, move on! Your older self will cherish and thank you for being true to yourslef rather than to loyalties wasted..
Great video! I am 60 years young, and in my 20's I wish I knew it was okay to just be myself instead of trying to be what everyone else wanted/expected me to be. I was such a people pleaser (and very unhappy).
Wishing you a wonderful 42nd year!
Thank you as always.
I'm 46. I wish I'd not given myself away so much. Stopped and reflected on my own wellbeing.
Don't have a job that gives you nothing but money. Time will fly by and you'll wonder what you did with your life. 🤷♀
Hi. Starting strength training was a big deal for me too. I'd only highlight that the big change was from "going to the gym" to "follow a beginner's strength programme". I did enjoy and felt improvement from Body Pump, indoor cycling, etc., but the accidental find of Stronglifts5x5 (and Starting Strength) was key.
I wish I knew how important my different friend and family relationships were and that they all need consistent effort to maintain. I have definitely take my friends and family for granted and only now, also at 42 and moving home to Ireland from America with the sole purpose of reconnecting with the people I love most in the world, do I finally see it.
Thank you Laura, forgive but don’t forget and get rid of things that are toxic - be that people, food, alcohol! Take opportunities offered and don’t get bogged down in worrying what other people will think!
Great video Laura, that cat of yours is so lush. I have always loved the idea of giving your younger self advise, but even if I did, I am not sure my younger self would have taken any of it. I feel, as I age, I slowly start to be ready to take this learning in and I don’t think my younger self would have listened.
Isn't he lush!?
I'm not sure I would have listened either. I was all overt the place.
42yr old man here.. I still am totally baffled by life. Somehow got married had kids etc.. have a horrible feeling it's going to take another twenty years to get a handle on things
I'm in my twenties and been reading about neo advaita. Non duality.
It's like a philosophy rather than religion. I was desperate and needed to stop constant anxiety and ongoing depression, zoom out and learn who I truly am. I am not a body, not a mind.
It's a path to 'enlightenment' if you want to call it that. But more precisely, it's about coming BACK to your true self. Letting go of any made up concepts that we pick up over our lifetimes.
It has helped me but the process is tough. People around you may not understand what you're doing. You may experience derealisation. At times feel like you're seeing your usual life as an outsider. Blank stare. That's the process.
BUT I am happy to have found out about it.
I'm in my mid 20s. The name is a bit of a giveaway but I really related to what Laura said about having less things. Having less material items allows me to stress less, every outfit I wear is my favorite outfit, I eat minimally and I enjoy everything I eat, my space isn't cluttered and that frees up a lot of mental space for me. Because of the decluttering, I've gotten into yoga, journaling and other mindfulness practices. I plan on doing something called a buy nothing year and I think it's going to be very interesting and transformative for the rest of my life ☺️
Great video, LT! Are you up for doing one on financials? Money is one of the biggest determinants of health and wellbeing.
My biggest lesson would be to avoid debt and start putting money away, internalise financial concepts like sunk costs and risk management, and to plan further than "what can I afford this week"
Placing all of my significant partner's happiness above my own throughout my entire life. Now 64, aware of the issue and trying to make changes. Wish I had more self worth and confidence
Even in our 20's, we can tend to be impressionable. Things that I was impressed with then I don't give a second thought to now. So I would tell myself that material things aren't so important. I'm much more confident now, but that's a factor of maturing and having more life experience, so it's hard to wish that confidence to my 20 year old self, but I'd certainly tell myself to find ways of being a little less anxious, a little less people pleasing. Myself and my siblings are products of a loveless marriage. I would tell my 20 year old self to stop projecting the fiction that everything in my home life was fine. My parents are two good people but totally unsuited to each other. And coming from Ireland I would have told my 20 year old self to start preparing to live abroad. Ireland is so parochial it's almost funny. I was 28 before I had a job that took me all over Europe, and after 6 years of that, I moved abroad permanently at 33. Thank you for your honesty Laura, and greetings from Prague !
I really like your material. I am 67. I wish I would have known a number of things at 20. Muscle building on alternate days( I used to overdo it and get tendinitis). Washing my face gently, paying closer attention to sleep hygiene and serious dental habits. Thank you for all the work you do!
totally unrelated, but you’re hella cool & that sweater is awesome! ✨ love the points you mentioned, it’s great advice!
Life is about the journey, becoming conscious, becoming aware of our ways of life, what really gives value to our life. You’ve done it; that’s all that matters. Resistance training is, yes I agree w you, the best thing we can do for ourselves because it builds strength, our immune system, not to mention our mental agility. I noticed the muscles on my thighs disappearing; def gonna work on that. Congrats, Laura! You r gaining wisdom with age!🎉 u look fabulous!🎉🎉
Amazing video as always ... i feel blessed cuz i found your channel and seeing you try and doing healthy stuff to educate yourself and us is just awesome .. keep going girl , sending love from Algeria xoxo
You are incredible inspirational and relatable to me! ❤
Another great vlog. It always feels like a good investment of my time when I watch your vlogs. Thank you ❤ my live was great in my twenties, but looking back I would make two changes….
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The advice I'd give to 20 year olds and that I followed myself in my 20s is: move to the country or city that most aligns with your goals. For me, I simply wanted to make more money, coming from Hull and moving to London changed my life, in Hull, despite my skills and efforts to find a job, I still ended up on the dole for many years, when I made the decision to move to London, I got a job in 2 weeks and I was able to continually increase my salary... compared to Hull it was a piece of cake. Perhaps money isn't your goal, what I'm saying is your environment makes the biggest difference to your life.
I’ve had the same experience. I moved at 40 to a city that had the infrastructure to support my highest ideals, and it has made a huge difference in my life.
Fantastic comment, thank you for sharing 🙏
Like always, great advice!
Thanks again for another amazing video Laura! Quite a few things you said resonated with me but it’s all about looking forward now! Through the wonderful process of aging we gain more knowledge of the world and ourselves - we can achieve anything we set our minds to!
Ahh Laura, I wonder if you know how refreshing and inspirational your honest , no BS approach is?
Thank you for being you.
I for one greatly enjoy your Chanel, the challenges you present and the way you make me rethink what I thought I knew about many things.
Thanks!
Thank you very much for your lovely comment 🙏
So inspiring! Thanks for sharing. I’m about to turn 61 and I’m still working on most of these things. Progress is being made. Best of luck to you on your journey. I love your channel
congrats! lets go for 60 looking and feeling better than now!!!
As I near 62 I wish I knew more about flexibility after years of only lifting weights and running…off and on. I have also subscribed to niksen after watching a few Dutch UA-cam channels. Finally, just prior to my retirement this past March I started the Swedish death cleaning and aiming towards the simplistic way of life. “Less stuff, less space, more life” is what one Dutch lady said on an episode of Oprah. No, I don’t watch Oprah, just picked that up from watching Dutch and Danish videos. Great video LT!!!❤😊❤😊
oooo, you're doing as Swedish Death Clean?
I am doing a mini version of this, if that even exists.
@ Absolutely! Just take sections of your house/life at a time. My adventure with aiming towards minimalism is on-going.
Happy Birthday Laura Try🥳🌟🌹🥳🥰
Oh man, if I could go back into would definitely tell myself to sleep and to workout earlier in my age. I say I have to agree with getting rid of things. We're about to downsize from 2300 sq ft to 400 and I'm super excited.
oh wow! That is a downsize!
What is the reason, only if you don't mind sharing?
@LauraTryUK Love chatting with you so always ask away! We're selling our house and going to live in an RV and travel around
@LauraTryUK we're traveling around in an rv! Always love talking to you so ask away 💓
I wish I took the time to understand myself instead of chasing down the definition of success others have
Happy Birthday!
Another great video, I love how quickly you are making them!
I'm still stuck on that massage video. Chefs Kiss.
lol!!!
Im in my 70s but i wish id known you in my 20s. Iv watched many of your videos and thouroughly enjoyed them. Its taken me most of my life to get to where i am now so dont be so hard on yourself your a beautiful person with more balls than most men , love and respect. ❤️
You are so sweet, I am flattered you watch my videos, thank you 🙏
I really love your videos, your insight and the way you put them.. I’d agree with everything you said although I’m in my early thirties. My advice would be that you don’t have to understand your thoughts and emotions and sometimes just keep moving forward and they will become clear. I used to get stuck in loops in my head and that would keep me stuck in life, now if I don’t understand it I just keep moving forward and trust the answers will become clear over time.
Hope you have had a wonderful birthday. With much love and respect xx
Oh my goodness I’m 35 and feel like you completely just described my 20s and 30s so far. I was unstoppable in my 20s and did some incredible things. But through my 30s I have been struggling. So of it is circumstances and health related but some of it just complete decision paralysis. I’m totally over complicating things. I flit from idea to idea. I might try to read the book you suggested. Love your channel Laura.
Thank you for making this video ❤😊 you are the best friend online 😊
Laura, do you still not drink now? Do you think you will ever drink again if so? I’m on a journey of trying to figure out if alcohol should be a part of it. I quit for a full year but recently slowly started back in and it’s not going so well. What tips would you give to help quit completely? I love your videos btw. Please keep them coming. They are great.
No alcohol. It's very unlikely I'll ever drink alcohol again.
It's difficult for me to give tips as alcohol makes me feel so rotten so it's easy to not have it.
I suppose I would say, imagine how you're going to feel in a few hours, the next day, the following week and that may be enough to not start.
@ thank you for your response. It really comes down to it causing more anxiety… no matter how much or how little I have… and it disrupts my sleep horribly. I have the Oura ring and since starting back drinking, my heart rate stays up at night and I don’t sleep right so my readiness the next day is low. It’s just all my friends drink, including my husband. It makes it harder!
It's great you have a tool and the awareness to see how alcohol negatively impacts you. Now to make the decision ahead of time for what is right for you.
It may not need to be all of nothing. But nothing certainly makes the decision much easier.
Did you make a video on your downsizing, and downsizing your wardrobe? That would be interesting. Love your videos, there's always an enlightening element to them ❤.
It will something I make a video about in the future. It’s quite a long project and I’m about 40% of the way through 😅
I would tell my late teens/early twenties self to focus on getting strong, rather than thin; to not care so much what people think; to be less self critical and not take myself so seriously; and to start investing as soon as I was earning some money - to take advantage of the compounding effect (referred to by some finance people as the 8th owner of the world 😂); and to take more risks. Great video as always LT!
"focus on getting strong, rather than thin" - YES!!!!!! 💪
I'm 38 and the only think I can think I'd tell 20yr old me is to question everything that other people or society tells you is "normal" or the normal thing to do. Just going along with what everyone else does or the way other people lead their lives without questioning if it's the right thing for YOU. The word normal is a red flag for me now 😄. Another great video thanks Laura, and loving all the insightful comments!
Also, the sleep thing...I've owned that book for years and been too scared to read it. Sleep deprivation since having my kids has been REAL and i hate to think what it's done to my future health prospects. Would love to know if there is a way to reverse some of that damage!
Another excellent video, LT. 🔥 Just turned 20, so this video couldn’t have come at a better time!
1) strength training (started at 30)
2) investing/finances (started at 40)
3) having less stuff and a place for everything
4) saying no when I don’t want to do the thing
way to go,Laura !
I always enjoy your video's and you offcourse.😍 I'm 43 and will be 44 in january. I would have told myself alot of these tips to my younger self too some would be hard. I would have said to myself to read more, take risks and don't be in your head so much and travel. Btw you pronounced niksen very very well. I'm Dutch and I was impressed😊
That was insightful thank you
Great video. I'm a very similar age to you and have gone through similar changes. I had too much stuff. If only I had understood that I don't need so much and been brave enough to be different from my peer group. While I was able to sell quite a bit of stuff I wasted so much money on clothes and shoes, etc. If I had invested that money, my life would be much more comfortable now.
Good point about weight training. I lifted weights in my 20s and got into very good shape. However, it took over my life and I trained through injuries. I wouldn't do that now. I did retain quite a bit of strength from those days though.
Being brave enough to live differently is the key thing for me. I'm not interested in the big house or nice car. I want my freedom.
Best of luck with your decluttering and stay healthy!
what a wonderful comment and advice.
Thank you for sharing 🙏
49 here, many of the things on your list are on mine as well, but these are some of the other things I wish I knew in my 20's:
- Switch from an earning mindset to an investor mindset. Don't spend the money on consumer goods, but rather invest it in stocks, rare collectibles, etc.
- Don't worry about what others might think of you, nobody cares really if you have that new car or whatever.
- Don't be dependant/reliable on a romantic partner to save your life, get your life sorted out and learn to be independant.
- Eat low carb diet!
- Fast at least 3 times a year for 2-3 days!
- Read more books, especially for personal development (finance, diet, mindset etc.)
- Walk more, 5k-10k steps per day if possible, 3 times a week with a weighted vest
- Never skip leg day as a man, sure we all love to work on upper body, but legs have the most amount of muscles
- Work on getting more muscle mass and grip strenth as they are predictors of longevity
- You don't have to be friends with everyone, some people will like you, others will not
- ...
u r an inspiration. thank you..
I do cold training to help with my depression. God bless whim hoff😊
Yay for your dad!!! ❤😂
Thank you so much for this Laura and for being kind enough to share your vulnerabilities. Im in my early 60s and Im not sure ive learnt anything😂
(50yof) 1. Stay out of the sun 2. Prioritize sleep 3. High protein/low carb lifestyle and no alcohol
1) just stop smoking. NOW. (I have stopped a few months ago)
2) do yoga, you’ve always wanted to. You won’t regret it, it will make you start enjoying physical activity and loving your body.
3) go to the dentist and get this build up cleaned at least yearly. Brushing your teeth is not enough. Tooth decay is not the only thing that can impact your mouth health. Got gum disease now after 20 years without going to a dentist. And oh yeah, stop smoking that will help too.
I think that’s about it. Anything else were necessary life experiences I needed to be where I’m at now. I don’t want to live in the past.
Niksen 👍 Kind regards from the Netherlands 🇵🇾
I’m 47 and there’s more than 7 things i wish i knew before…
Hi Laura! I loved your psilocybin video, how are you now after all this time? Will you please do an update video? Cheers! ☺
I am still reaping the benefits.
It’s a tricky subject to make a video about as my last video got demonetized.
@@LauraTryUK What the last video you've done or the video we're talking about? You really inspired and I can honestly say, I'm not just speaking for me! A follow-up would be fantastic you could even do a live stream? That way we could ask relevant questions about integration and healing! You're a shining Star Laura! 🙏
Clearing out too
I would have said that life is like a crockpot...you gather all the ingredients and stay the course; trust the process- which can take years...
Every time I have had the patience to trust the process it has worked out beautifully
Okaaaay, I'll start lifting. Thank you :)
Number 1 for me would be, don't waste all that spare money on new Cars instead get a mortgage and buy a house. I'd have had a much easier life and probably be mostly passive income by now.
Number 2, Dr Seuss was right all those years back, we need to care for the planet before it's too late!
Niksen
i echo the strength training earlier
It’s nice to see your name and comment. We have some mutual friends/acquaintances 😀
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Hi Charlie :)
68 now, 3 big things for me are:
#1 - I should have stayed in the Marines
#2 - I should not have bought so much stuff.
#3 - I should have saved 1/2 of my income
Charlie says hi back 🐈⬛
Thank you for sharing your advice 🙏
I wish I stop caring what other think about me and feel free to be the way I am
Cardio should be on the up...... your Heart is a Muscle - its needs gradually building cardio
How fast your youth disappears.
How alcohol/substance abuse can have long term effects on the quality of life and longevity.
im exactly in my 30 procrastinating, searching for some hack to trick my mind,meanwhile time is ticking... =(
there is no hack - just get on with it 💫
Don't strive for perfection
I look back and wish I had spent less, and saved more. And had something akin to a life plan.
Wish I knew it was OK to be single and focus on myself!
Now is what matters. 52 here. 🙏🏼
You are doing sonething right Laura, its probably the muscle, without the muscle 42 will not look as good as 20’s
I wish I didn’t spend as much money on things that didn’t bring me long-lasting joy and that I don’t even remember. Instead, that I had learned about investing and taken some savvier steps with it. Money is a tool.
Wish I’d traveled the world.
Wish I’d been more active.
Wish I’d cut off some people sooner, for my physical and mental health.
Wish I’d known about gut health, taken care of mine and taken fewer antibiotics.
Still in 30s and there is time. However, I now have a family and much less time/bandwith for all the things I wish I’d done sooner.
I wish I had known you in my 20s.
You are very sweet.
You look stunning for your age. You're beautiful.
How about letting your future 90-years old self give your current self some advice? 😊
This is wonderful question!
There was a similar one in The Artists Way book - I had to write a letter from my 80 years self, giving advice to myself now. It was an extremely powerful exercise 💫
I will revisit this question, thank you!
What a great excercise. I start writing a letter tonight! 😁
Yes! 42...and in your thumbnail photo, you look 22!
...although, if you used a beautifying 'youth' filter for that photo...all bets are off!😅
You are very kind, thank you.
No filter, just lightened the brightness and highlights of the thumbnail as that part of my kitchen is shadowy.
for the record, I never use filters.
You Can Heal Your Life was one of the most pivotal books in my life; I read it around age 30. I don’t think I knew it was ok to choose to be happy.
Thank you LT, for being You.
Wait! You worked at a salon or owned one?
I did. You can watch the full story here: ua-cam.com/video/bk7tLVN59Bg/v-deo.htmlsi=GSItOylzOLQy9fIH
laura please am from morocco i want to across ocean with you pleasseeeeeeeeeeee is my dream really because i dont know how yet my age 39
Who are you?
You would make a good mother, why don't you have a family?
Thanks. I think so too.
I haven't wanted children for a long time now. Many reasons....
I explain some in my LIVE: Chicken Soup video.
Oh my goodness I’m 35 and feel like you completely just described my 20s and 30s so far. I was unstoppable in my 20s and did some incredible things. But through my 30s I have been struggling. So of it is circumstances and health related but some of it just complete decision paralysis. I’m totally over complicating things. I flit from idea to idea. I might try to read the book you suggested. Love your channel Laura.
I would also suggest The One Thing, Essentialism, and The War of Art - they were and are life changing books for me.