No One Would Ever Know I Have ADHD

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  • @tarynh4313
    @tarynh4313 Рік тому +6631

    currently seeing this during my scrolling paralysis

    • @selardohr7697
      @selardohr7697 Рік тому +411

      Right? I absolutely should be showering..

    • @KitOkunari
      @KitOkunari Рік тому +68

      😢 i feel you.

    • @Nezumior
      @Nezumior Рік тому +239

      Poof! I, a wizard, am releasing you from the paralysis, now you can throw your phone away!

    • @Ka-Chow95_
      @Ka-Chow95_ Рік тому +52

      Same I’m supposed to be doing homework rn

    • @kalinajo
      @kalinajo Рік тому +84

      ​@@Nezumior thanks that actually helped

  • @stevie-mr8yz
    @stevie-mr8yz Рік тому +241

    Some ppl actually don't realize how hard it is to stop scrolling sometimes it can seem like ur actually glued to ur phone

    • @klarebear1241
      @klarebear1241 8 місяців тому +7

      It’s so bad, my husband and I have had serious problems over his phone. He’s not talking to anyone, he’s watching videos lol

    • @Alice_the_theiran
      @Alice_the_theiran 8 місяців тому +8

      Fr I was in a loop of scrolling right before this vid then I felt called out

    • @SynthAir
      @SynthAir 8 місяців тому +7

      I have not been diagnosed with ADHD but am I not alone in doing something like scrolling on my phone for hours where I am fully aware I should be doing something else but genuinely feel an inability to stop doing whatever it is I’m doing? Like it’s really hard to explain to someone that I meant to do something and was aware I was supposed to do it but that I just simply didn’t for no good reason other than that I just was unable to, like my brain is just like “no”

    • @IDrawToothpicks
      @IDrawToothpicks 8 місяців тому

      My boyfriend says this! I am actually doing things I believe are I'll important to me though. 90% of the time I am

    • @Lorrainium
      @Lorrainium 7 місяців тому +1

      Doom scrolling is much hard for me to break on TikTok than Shorts.

  • @summerreadingnook
    @summerreadingnook Рік тому +2244

    The sad thing is, if you are good enough at masking, it’s not that people think you have ADHD or autism when you slip up, they’re just like “Why are you doing that?” “Stop being weird” and you’re thinking “Really, you have no idea how well I’m functioning right now!”

    • @olivialutfallah
      @olivialutfallah  Рік тому +287

      Truly the worst part about it

    • @joyh8382
      @joyh8382 Рік тому +17

      Yes. 😖

    • @NOTDeezy.
      @NOTDeezy. Рік тому +111

      I'm personally really good at masking ADHD but it backfired when i tried getting a diagnosis and everyone said that I don't "act" like I have ADHD. So when i went to a new psychiatrist i acted "extra" ADHD just so I could get my diagnosis and my meds...

    • @IBLAMEDYOU
      @IBLAMEDYOU Рік тому +12

      ​@@NOTDeezy.BAHAHAH U DID WHAT 👀😂

    • @sebastiant4597
      @sebastiant4597 Рік тому +40

      Masking still involves a willfulness. I am just overly smart but an utter mess.
      Having a high IQ isn't a choice and as long as AD(H)D doesn't drop your mental capacities below average doctor's tend to rebut the diagnosis.
      Didn't really help that I grew out of hyperactivity after puberty.
      However my mum's reports of my infantile hyperactivity were more praised than the positive results from performance tests with and without Ritalin. 🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️
      I was still functional, but I was autistic enough to tell everyone "boldly" how dumb they were and defocused enough to notice every single stupidity done. I understand that it's highly unusual to be able to analyse everything all at once and make beneficial sense of it, but that came at the cost of deprivation. In the usual crowd in public, with all its noises and impressions we all can thank my native country for NOT having liberal weaponry rights and every trip to the supermarket just ended in severe burnout (and of course still forgetting about half of the shopping list and dozens of extra items I run across decades later cleaning my shelves) rather than a bloodbath.
      But hey, performing above average at work in a quiet single desk office was a sure sign I couldn't suffer from ADHD.
      [And if you wonder why I didn't got diagnosed as a child. My granny wanted to take me to a specialised psychiatrist (that most certainly would have diagnosed ADHD, as he supported my diagnostic results, 25 years later, already retired). My mum insisted on blaming my behaviour to phosphates in the food and so I won malnutrition and undernourishment as an extra. And my dad just wouldn't allow me to be taken to a headshrinker.]

  • @CobyIsThinking
    @CobyIsThinking 7 місяців тому +12

    I'm really happy I found the ADHD-friendly side of UA-cam shorts. These videos totally get me and my experiences!

  • @threezus7740
    @threezus7740 Рік тому +4887

    We can do all of that in the open and still mask perfectly because no one really sees those as signs of ADHD 😭

    • @taco_boi1167
      @taco_boi1167 Рік тому +404

      literally people just think of it as the "can't sit still disorder"
      someone actually told me i was misdiagnosed because i only distracted sometimes 💀

    • @AdamSimpleballs-jj8yd
      @AdamSimpleballs-jj8yd Рік тому +36

      I am stimming with a remote right now

    • @IAmTheJellyBeanRock
      @IAmTheJellyBeanRock Рік тому +17

      @@taco_boi1167 bruh 💀

    • @iadoreapplehead
      @iadoreapplehead Рік тому +143

      Fr like I'm very calm on the outside but it's always chaos in my brain.. If people could read my mind it would be very obvious I have ADHD 💀 people really be ignoring the fact there's different types of ADHD 😭

    • @krazymann1727
      @krazymann1727 Рік тому +58

      ​@@iadoreapplehead worst is when its coming from mental health professionals.

  • @OctoJuice
    @OctoJuice 9 місяців тому +11

    The impulse buying one just reminded me about the fact I was gonna order some stuff from eBay thank you so much

  • @bribrichan1
    @bribrichan1 Рік тому +666

    Thank you. This literally knocked me out of my scrolling paralysis haze. Putting it in front of my face made me realize I hadn't checked the time in a while. It's almost 4am. I'm gunna go to bed now.

    • @cayleece7890
      @cayleece7890 Рік тому +18

      Well, did you end up going to bed? And did you sleep well? 👀

    • @bribrichan1
      @bribrichan1 Рік тому +18

      @cayleece7890 I did go to sleep, but I didn't sleep too well 😔. Thanks so much for asking though!

    • @cayleece7890
      @cayleece7890 Рік тому +10

      @@bribrichan1 honestly me too! I've also been struggling with getting quality sleep lately. But at least it's a step in a good direction that you went to bed at all. We're all fighting the same fight lol. Hang in there! ❤💕❤

    • @ArcNine9Angel
      @ArcNine9Angel Рік тому +9

      Fuck, I'm in the exact same boat right now. I'm just uncomfortable and unhappy and don't want the next day to come 😭

    • @barbara2607
      @barbara2607 Рік тому +5

      Been there, doing that🤦🏼‍♀️

  • @Johanssoncecce
    @Johanssoncecce Рік тому +11

    This reminds me that I’m not lazy and out of control, it’s just my adhd making adult life hard for me. We need to keep fighting and at the same time not be too hard on ourselves :)

  • @C_Eliz
    @C_Eliz Рік тому +467

    My husband is 26 and has ADHD. He went his whole life with no diagnosis and no support until I realized he was struggling. He didn’t even know he was. He just thought it was normal. People don’t just grow out of ADHD as kids. They grow into adults who learn how to hide it from others but struggle internally daily

    • @therisashow
      @therisashow Рік тому +57

      This! My mom was skeptical when I said I wanted to get diagnosed. When she remembers my childhood, she never correlated my habits and quirks to ADHD, cuz I wasn’t jumping off the walls… all the time. I had her help me with the forms, as it asks for someone who has known you for a long time to testify. She kept giving me “often” or “very often” on instances of ADHD symptoms, like losing mittens, or not paying attention, and other things. When asked specific questions, she was like 😮 “You have ADHD” 😂 I was like “Yeah, everything makes sense now, huh?”
      People think you grow out of it, but it just changes. I was super smart, so I masked from the beginning. Reading full sentences at 3, noticing things other kids didn’t because I was actually hyper fixed on learning, and I was finishing people’s sentences even as a kid. But because it wasn’t managed, my life has been a rollercoaster of forgetting important things, flailing financially, and dealing with the anxiety and stress that comes with being undiagnosed for 29 years. I’m only a year and half into relearning myself and I’m in the middle of the growing pains. But now that I know, my goal is to be self sufficient, financially stable and help myself catch up to my wants and needs.
      I wish you guys all the best, and kudos to you for knowing your husband so well enough to help him see life from a different perspective and take a new hopefully less “winding” path in life.

    • @MeldaRavaniel
      @MeldaRavaniel Рік тому +20

      ​@@therisashowI'm p. sure my mom also has adhd cuz when telling me about how my 4th grade teacher suggested to get me tested, my mom said, "Psh that's how everyone's brain works."
      When filling out the questions for my diagnosis testing (which I got myself at 34) she just put zeros down the whole thing (as in "no, she never displayed any of these traits") which was 1) not true, and my therapist said probably indicated my mom just being recalcitrant.
      But yeah, i definitely have it. And I cried the first time I took medication because it was like walking into my brain, which had previously been a trash pile with loud music blasting, to find someone had neatly organized everything with labels so I knew where it all was, turned off the music, and added plush carpeting and a cozy place to sit. It was calm and quiet. I used to feel like a prisoner in my mind, especially when stuck hyperfocused on something I didn't want to be anymore. I'd be banging on the walls screaming, "just put it down and walk away" but couldn't until something external tore me out of it, or I had to pee or puddles would happen. 😅

    • @MeldaRavaniel
      @MeldaRavaniel Рік тому +5

      To OP: I'm glad your husband has you! I hope he's getting along easier. It's so hard to tell it's you when you just assume everyone else is struggling. That or we start to wonder if we're just lazy or not as good at stuff, even though we're working really really hard.

    • @OuterSpaceDollface
      @OuterSpaceDollface Рік тому +3

      My bf & I just recently realized we do the same things that "bother" people (& each other) and they are major signs of ADHD, now that we recognize something, we can support each other & be more patient! It's lovely that you helped your husband realize things so he could get help if needed. Peace to you!

    • @OuterSpaceDollface
      @OuterSpaceDollface Рік тому

      ​@@therisashowthis helps me so much, thank you! I relate so much (minus actual diagnosis...yet) All of those same things at a young age (even programming the VCR at like 5!)

  • @olive5386
    @olive5386 Рік тому +7

    Thanks for the video, it helped me realize I’ve been scrolling for the past 2 hours and should get to bed

  • @frostyhannah
    @frostyhannah Рік тому +944

    Ok, I thought no one knew I had ADHD until I told a few of my friends and they all collectively said "We know"

    • @olivialutfallah
      @olivialutfallah  Рік тому +137

      It’s something that will be laughed about later on I promise haha

    • @doesnotFempute
      @doesnotFempute Рік тому +66

      people asked me for years if I had ADHD and I was like "lol definitely not"
      🤡🤡 oops

    • @frostyhannah
      @frostyhannah Рік тому +12

      @@doesnotFempute same

    • @joyh8382
      @joyh8382 Рік тому +29

      When people who've known me for years found out I suspected I might have ADHD they were all 100% unsurprised.
      *100%*
      😳

    • @n.s.m.5847
      @n.s.m.5847 Рік тому +32

      Bro i have adhd, and it actually took me a ton of time to get diagnosed and as far as i knew all my teachers never brought anything up to my parents (that has changed since, I leaned that apparently my kindergarten teacher said stuff but just thought i was being problematic 🙄) so i was pretty confident that i mask well.... but then my friends hit me with a double whammy and mentioned me being autistic..... I was like "what?" And they were like.... "You didn't know??????"
      And now like a year later I've gone down a loophole into not only realizing I'm probably also autistic but learning that people who i don't even really know that well (like a person i knew on middleschool) have been thinking i was autistic 😭
      I'm really just a little mad because i have put so much goddamn energy into masking and it doesn't even work 🫠

  • @lilyluney6015
    @lilyluney6015 Рік тому +3

    CALLED ME OUT WITH THIS ONE!!! Also for my fellow ADHD and AuHD folx, try crocheting! It’s such a fun hobby of mine and it’s so stimulating!! Crocheting for me is the ultimate stimming/stimulating activity and it’s so calming too! It was my hyperfixation during the pandemic and I made so many yarn impulse buys lmaooo but it’s super fun. Crocheting is great bc it’s so quick and so versatile so I never get bored with it. Also it’s really nice for me when I put so much effort into a hyperfixation and I end up actually making something that I can use. It satisfies my “am I being productive” part of my brain and my creative part of my brain. Crocheting is so much fun I hope y’all try it!!!

  • @GuardianPanthera
    @GuardianPanthera Рік тому +772

    I do this so often everyday, including at work. I just roll with it.

    • @sknight8621
      @sknight8621 Рік тому +3

      so does literally everyone else. None of these are uncommon behaviors, she and her audience are just trying to feel unique

    • @Getout249
      @Getout249 Рік тому +4

      @@sknight8621Always one of these in every comment section. Guess you know more than qualified professionals. Sure a lot of people try feel special, but it doesn’t take away the real symptoms of the disorder. Don’t be such a square

    • @shyryTsr2k
      @shyryTsr2k Рік тому +2

      ​@@Getout249When I went to a psychiatrist for help 2 weeks ago because I do believe I have untreated ADHD that's impairing my ability to function properly, he diagnosed me with GAD (General Anxiety Disorder) and said he'll prescribe me Anxiety meds first to see if they help. They do not help. They did lower my heart rate and calmed me down but trying to focus on anything is nearly impossible.

    • @Getout249
      @Getout249 Рік тому

      @@shyryTsr2k Ofc misdiagnosis happens, my point in my comment is professionals still know way more than randos on UA-cam. Human error is bound to occur. And all the best bro go get re diagnosed if you think it’s wrong

    • @bostonb4kedbeans
      @bostonb4kedbeans Рік тому

      ​@@Getout249okay you have no idea if that commentor was misdiagnosed.

  • @e1._.r0se
    @e1._.r0se 11 місяців тому +6

    GODS DAMN IT- THE GOLF HYPERFIXATION GOT ME-

  • @gymnsical
    @gymnsical Рік тому +376

    i’m really proud of myself bc for the past two months, i’ve only spent money on things i need for camps, and for other people, not anything else

    • @djbreadx
      @djbreadx Рік тому +16

      proud of you too! i've managed to control my spending recently and it's hard but feels rewarding!

    • @calamity0.o
      @calamity0.o Рік тому +2

      I birthday shopped for a toddler last month. I got about 3 hours a sleep a morning for 3 weeks until I was absolutely sure I got the perfect stuff. Still went over hubs limit but that felt more like a suggestion anyway and some of it doesn't count since they are like bedding decor stuff.

    • @Shveaygdjbffgcsj147
      @Shveaygdjbffgcsj147 Рік тому +4

      Good job! Not overspending might seem easy but it’s such a struggle with ADHD. Do u have any tips, I can’t save😅. I spend so much money on random stuff especially for hyperfixations then regret it and don’t want the stuff anymore.

    • @gymnsical
      @gymnsical Рік тому +3

      @@Shveaygdjbffgcsj147 well basically if i want something, i make myself wait at least a week so i can decide if i actually need it and by a week i normally don’t care about it anymore 😂

    • @seh.j2601
      @seh.j2601 Рік тому +2

      ​@Semihearing yes that's a good tip but I couldn't even wait a week !!! Anyway I realised my house is overflowing and I hate clutter , I have now decided not to buy anything until things actually run out . Why am I buying backups of so many varieties for same thing, like a shampoo , mascara ?

  • @Karson-lo4jw
    @Karson-lo4jw Рік тому +7

    Your page is so inspiring and helpful because what you go through in a daily basis is what I go through and realistic. Lots of people who have adhd don’t tell people because not a lot of people feel comfortable with saying it but thanks for having this page because what I do is not only me.

  • @stellajacobson231
    @stellajacobson231 Рік тому +167

    Me having both ADHD and autism. This hit home so bad😅 but I love it!

    • @Padraigp
      @Padraigp Рік тому +2

      Yeah everyone does that though. Apart from the stimming. Is that the point? Theyre doing those things to look normal? I dont get it. 😂

    • @melty.love_
      @melty.love_ Рік тому +9

      @@Padraigp no not everyone does that, while maybe some people that arent nd do some of those things, its much more common in nd people

    • @Padraigp
      @Padraigp Рік тому +3

      @@melty.love_ everyone impulse buys...everyone scrolls like a zombie...everyone clean their gold clubs meticulously if they play golf.... nobody stims fair enough thats rare in normal people ... but everything else on that lost. Everyone does. Everyone. If you think theyre special traits i dont know how you get that idea. Every single person i know does those things. If its not gold clubs then its whatever their Hobby or spórt is.

    • @hoshismadnessindontlie8635
      @hoshismadnessindontlie8635 Рік тому +1

      @@Padraigp
      What

    • @charliehicks1832
      @charliehicks1832 Рік тому +15

      ​@Pádraig p well let me explain, the impulse buying is worse and happens more often the normal people. The cleaning was just her way of representing hyperfixation in this video the problem is it can happen with any task and it can be cleaning anything even something most would never clean such as their air vents (assuming you are the type to hyperfixate on cleaning) and scrolling paralysis is is kinda like normal except we have a much harder time stopping than normal people 😅

  • @pattiepepper6217
    @pattiepepper6217 Рік тому +1

    I did not know what STIMMING was until you just demonstrated it rn. Thanks! I do this all the time!!!

    • @Martina_E
      @Martina_E 10 місяців тому

      I do that all the time

  • @melodysmith6126
    @melodysmith6126 Рік тому +39

    I love this channel because it constantly calls me out on things that I do that I didn't even know were ADHD related, lol.

  • @SunnyBeetle1922
    @SunnyBeetle1922 Рік тому

    This has been my whole life and the more stressed I get, the worse it is…. Particularly with hyperfixations, impulse spending and scrolling paralysis!!!!…Thank you so much for sharing!!!❤️❤️❤️

  • @mentak2593
    @mentak2593 Рік тому +41

    Your ADHD presents so similar to my son. Thank you for your content, it has really helped educate me.

    • @olivialutfallah
      @olivialutfallah  Рік тому +12

      Thank you for being here and using your time to understand your son! Speaking from experience, it means a lot

  • @maceyjo291
    @maceyjo291 Рік тому +63

    I’ve thought this was normal for all people then realized it’s not, so idk if I have ADHD or I’m just different 😂

    • @hv97
      @hv97 Рік тому +10

      it IS normal

    • @catpoke9557
      @catpoke9557 Рік тому +8

      It can be. It depends on the severity of symptoms and the cause. Everyone is guilty of the things in this video sometimes- ADHD just usually kicks them into overdrive. Or not. Ultimately ADHD is not defined by the symptoms per se. It's more about the way your brain operates. ADHD is a dopamine regulation issue. If you have that particular dopamine regulation issue, then you have ADHD, even if you're lucky enough to not have any of the symptoms in this video.

    • @waffle_chair9269
      @waffle_chair9269 Рік тому

      😂😂😂😂

    • @oceanbytez847
      @oceanbytez847 9 місяців тому

      @@catpoke9557 Also it shifts thought activity to a different part of the brain relative to neurotypicals. True ADHD have a very distinct activity pattern on brain scans proving it isn't just a chemical issue, but a bio-physical one as well as the brain structure is literally different. This is the case with a lot of autism actually, and each case has it's own trademarks that give it away.
      I was confirmed ADHD and aspergers via a scan after demonstrating fairly severe symtoms over a decade ago. I even participated in a study for behavioral therapy in my youth. It's likely why i'm so good at handling it today unmedicated vs my peers who struggle daily, but it took over a decade to learn to really reign in and control myself properly.
      As odd as it sounds, if you gain control i think ADHD and aspergers are like a superpower. I learn very rapidly, and am wildly successful in all my endeavors. I was even a valedictorian in one of my recent degree programs. At the end of the day self control is the biggest aspect that will help improve QOL.

  • @Shveaygdjbffgcsj147
    @Shveaygdjbffgcsj147 Рік тому +101

    People just think I’m lazy annoying. When I have ADHD paralysis or zone out, people tell me I’m being lazy and need to stop. When I lose my stuff, even if it’s something expensive like my phone, my friends will refuse to call it or tell me where it is if they saw it because they say I need to learn my lesson. I’ve given up on trying to explain this stuff to people, they’ll just tell me to stop blaming everything on adhd or tell me stuff like everyone zones out, loses stuff, has a hard time getting up and doing something, stop it with your ADHD thing and control yourself. I’ve given up trying to explain hide everything I can like rsd and other stuff and just constantly apologize for everything. Even my parents don’t understand.

    • @MR-cc9wo
      @MR-cc9wo Рік тому +39

      I'm sorry but those are not good friends. But I do understand, my parents also think I'm lazy, but for me starting a task can be super difficult

    • @HalfBlindPlans
      @HalfBlindPlans Рік тому +17

      I'm glad you have resources like this to remind you of the truth and counter those things they are telling you. I hope you can continue to find your best life hacks to live with the brain you have, with or without helpful and understanding people in your life. My smartwatch can find my phone, or my computer if it's lost at a different location. I can set controls on my phone to limit screen time. I can put important items/papers for appointments on my front door, sticking past the trim and at eye level, so that it hits me in the face if I leave without it, same for a packing/to-do list related to leaving. (My door is magnetic, but a command strip clothespin or other option would work.)

    • @SharmClucas
      @SharmClucas Рік тому +20

      Those don't sound like friends. At the very least they're being ablest. Don't mask for their sake. Real friends will volunteer to call your phone before you need to ask. I hope you find them soon. When you do it'll be amazing. It took me a very long time to find mine, but they were worth the wait. Most happen to have ADHD too so we all feel free to be a bit crazy together. It's fun.

    • @JackNSally_remix
      @JackNSally_remix Рік тому +12

      My ex was like that except the “stop blaming everything on adhd” but she wouldn’t help me find anything, would tell me I was “so absent minded “ made me feel stupid. I was really good at losing lighters, she would literally hide hers and get mad if I used it. In all fairness tho I’d never remember to put her lighter back, but even when I did she’d still get shitty with me.
      Fortunately my wife is amazing. She will remind me to put my debit card back in my wallet, put my wallet and keys in the same spot. Always help me find things- like get up and look with me. And every single time I leave she says- do you have your wallet, keys, cards, and smokes. But all these later I still find myself apologizing to her non stop for it. She constantly tells me to stop apologizing or stop asking her if she’s mad. She’s a wonderful woman.
      Your friends suck

    • @Leopardv8448
      @Leopardv8448 Рік тому +9

      Watch your friends they need to be understanding if you feel uncomfortable don't keep them around you.i hate to say it especially if they know you have a diagnosis they'll take advantage.

  • @sarjindersingh9408
    @sarjindersingh9408 Рік тому +1

    In these few seconds she explained my whole life ✨👍🏻👍🏻

  • @macieparmenter4544
    @macieparmenter4544 Рік тому +250

    Turns out I finish other people's sentences. I didn't know I did that. I actually answered no every time it came up on the ADHD checklist. I figured it out two weeks ago and I'm still embarrassed when I talk to people because what if they think I was being rude? Like, I'm so sorry, my brain legitimately did not consult with me before saying that!

    • @spocksdaughter9641
      @spocksdaughter9641 Рік тому +9

      Perfect, do Other peoples brains consult them....wow

    • @ambermac77
      @ambermac77 Рік тому +37

      Hmm… I have a friend with ADHD (as do I). She has the hyperactive type and I have the inattentive type. She talks SO MUCH. When I finally try to get a word in, she cuts me off and keeps talking. I think it’s her mouth running away from her brain, too.
      Also… my grandma used to mouth the words I was saying towards the end of my sentences. It used to drive me nuts, because I felt like she was trying to guess what I was going to say next. Now I wonder if she was ADHD as well. I already suspected her to be on the autism spectrum like me.

    • @Not_a_number_
      @Not_a_number_ Рік тому +21

      Brain to mouth filter is out of order at this time. 😂

    • @madeliner1682
      @madeliner1682 Рік тому +13

      Yeah my usual go-to is "I'm so sorry, my mouth moves faster than my brain"

    • @olivialutfallah
      @olivialutfallah  Рік тому +29

      I feel this!!! It’s something I have to consciously think about during conversations so you’re not alone!!❤

  • @marietheotaku94
    @marietheotaku94 Рік тому +1

    I know there's a lot of symptom overall between anxiety and ADHD but damn I might need to get a diagnosis if y'all don't stop being so relatable

  • @artz69420
    @artz69420 Рік тому +141

    My mom admitted that she thinks I have adhd but she refuses to get treatment because I’m “ not as bad as her brother was “ and “ I haven’t tried hard enough to fix it yet “

    • @KatieM786
      @KatieM786 Рік тому +19

      I'm so sorry to hear that, hopefully you can get something sorted out

    • @halcyondays8945
      @halcyondays8945 Рік тому +26

      Are you old enough to make a doctors appointment and go by yourself? I’m really sorry she’s not getting it. “Trying harder” is not the cure. I’d bet my last dollar that you are already doing your best and you probably “try harder” than she does!!

    • @artz69420
      @artz69420 Рік тому +20

      @@halcyondays8945 I’m not old enough unfortunately, but thank you so much for saying that. I’m trying so hard but all she see’s is the times that I slip up.

    • @caymankatie
      @caymankatie Рік тому +8

      Omg infuriating, hang in there! Sending love❤

    • @raapyna8544
      @raapyna8544 Рік тому +7

      Poor mama. It's not something she can fix.

  • @Laura-Halloween
    @Laura-Halloween Рік тому +1

    THANK YOU FOR THE REALISTIC VIDEOS

  • @Riivorn
    @Riivorn Рік тому +61

    My scrolling paralysis is so bad. If I didn’t have responsibilities I could happily sit on my phone 24/7. It’s like time doesn’t even exist 💀 my boyfriend will say something to me and I’ll hear it…but I don’t HEAR it until 30+ minutes later unless he reminds me again. There have been times where I’ve been meaning to make dinner, and it gets delayed by 2+ hours because I just sat down and started looking at my phone. I try to not even touch my phone in the bathroom at work because I WILL spend at LEAST 10 minutes stuck in there if I do. I’m literally standing in front of frozen ground beef I’ve been meaning to defrost for 20 minutes as I type

    • @DontDrinkthatstuff
      @DontDrinkthatstuff Рік тому +4

      Set timers on your phone. Externalize time more often because time blindness is real.

  • @SerenaGrey
    @SerenaGrey Рік тому

    Jep this is totally me. I'm 33 this year and Thankfully I got diagnosed a few months ago and are finally getting the right meds. Now I just get the dose right and hopefully I can have a rather normal day to day life without wasting so much of my time. Thanks for your content.

  • @Shridra
    @Shridra Рік тому +52

    People who don't know me all that well always say "you don't seem like you've got ADHD" because I'm almost entirely inattentive type, so not a lot of outwardly visible signs. But my close friends and family when I got diagnosed were like "yeah, that makes sense" lol.
    And yes, these are all things that people can have/do without it being ADHD, but when it becomes disruptive to your life it's a problem. I've figured out "hacks" for myself, but I used to spend literally all of my money on my hobbies and not pay my bills. Recently I got hyperfixated on scrubbing my walls, and spent a good two hours doing it while my husband corralled and fed our kids. I only stopped because I needed to nurse the baby.

    • @JackNSally_remix
      @JackNSally_remix Рік тому +12

      Omg. Does it take you hours to do any type of cleaning? I’ll be in the kitchen to do dishes and cook and it ends up taking me 2+ hours, even when I can do it without distraction. And for the life of me I cannot, to this day, figure out why the hell it takes so long.

    • @Shridra
      @Shridra Рік тому +7

      @JackNSallyRemix depends on the day. I find for me that having music playing helps with it. But yeah, time blindness can really mess with you lol

  • @warrior_cats_lover
    @warrior_cats_lover Рік тому +2

    Your videos helped me realize that I might have ADHD. I’ve had all of these symptoms for a while now but I was never sure.

  • @Renbora232
    @Renbora232 Рік тому +94

    This made me realise I was in a scrolling paralysis... Bye ❤

  • @mrmcbeth
    @mrmcbeth Рік тому

    I'm glad people like you are out there talking about this stuff. It would have been nice if I could have started treating my neurodivergence a couple of decades ago, but no one I knew (myself included) knew what any of this stuff really was.

  • @megadouche
    @megadouche Рік тому +17

    Don't even get me started on impulse spending, alien glasses for days😖

    • @selardohr7697
      @selardohr7697 Рік тому +3

      One thing i didn't realize about impulse spending was having a kid and impulse spending stuff for them makes it really easy to "justify" bc you know, it's not for ME... that's a tough one.

  • @Engineer2552
    @Engineer2552 Рік тому

    I, I feel so called out and appreciated at the same time

  • @AmRose-pr4wn
    @AmRose-pr4wn Рік тому +8

    Thank you so much for these, I send people your videos all the time because they explain me better than I ever can!😂❤❤❤❤😂

  • @jo4210
    @jo4210 Рік тому +58

    Kinda grateful that now as an adult I can pinpoint my adhd symptoms, and I can also “tell” when someone might have adhd, but at the same time now it’s one of my hyper-fixations that I just have to keep to myself lol

    • @Bearlikeboba
      @Bearlikeboba Рік тому +1

      I'm so glad u said that because when i say that i think someone has adhd they say "thats really rude to say and your really stupid for assuming someone has it bc if the way they act"

    • @caymankatie
      @caymankatie Рік тому

      Uhhggg SAME🙈🙈🌹

    • @marioschaffner5395
      @marioschaffner5395 Рік тому +1

      Its funny, i kind of learned to „see“ if somone has it as well (i was wrong only one time in 6 years since i first realised it) but if they ask me, how i can tell, they are allways surprised, that i have ADHD as well😂

  • @aleahmartin7985
    @aleahmartin7985 Рік тому

    I am so happy that you do these videos. I'm seeing things that I do that totally now make so much sense. You are awesome thank you thank you thank you.

  • @AndreaLikesMusic
    @AndreaLikesMusic Рік тому +15

    This song though 😂😂💀💀💀 but fr, i feel called out and also grateful to not be in this alone ❤❤❤

  • @knittedpainting
    @knittedpainting Рік тому +2

    So good at masking I didn't even realise I had it myself

  • @lauraa5032
    @lauraa5032 Рік тому +5

    I have my first appointment tomorrow to start the process of being evaluated for ADHD. It wasn't something I even started to think about or consider until a few months ago I realized I CANNOT, for the life of me, sit still for long periods of time when others around me can. I can sit quietly, but not still at all! 😂 (There are so many other things that make me think I might have it, that was just one of the first signs that made me wonder.)

    • @pippaschroeder9660
      @pippaschroeder9660 Рік тому +1

      I feel that. I had career day at my school in the spring ( basically a whole day of sitting and listening to speeches and presentations ). It turned out to be an adhd nightmare and I was just about to walk out of the room cause I can only take so long of being bored out of my mind.

  • @mskellycupcake
    @mskellycupcake Рік тому

    In high school I was just a good consumerist American! And must have locked my keys in my car once a week, left my purse in Spanish class twice a week, my foot would have jittered off if it wasn't attached. Got diagnosed at age 26! I just learned what masking is THIS YEAR, 13 years later! I love your channel

  • @mirandamartha44
    @mirandamartha44 11 місяців тому +5

    The only thing stopping me from impulse buying is my lack of money 😅

    • @lurklingX
      @lurklingX 8 місяців тому

      at least it's stopping you......

    • @MoreKornflakes
      @MoreKornflakes 8 місяців тому +2

      Lack of money due to Impulse buying . God help us 😂

  • @E.J.K.11
    @E.J.K.11 Рік тому

    Watching this in a scrolling paralysis, these videos are always what get me up from scrolling

  • @aubreemurphy280
    @aubreemurphy280 Рік тому +5

    They way I found this whole in scrolling paralysis😂 I’m supposed to be cleaning 😭

  • @nicolebro8399
    @nicolebro8399 10 місяців тому

    You don't know how many times Ive listened to this sound now just cause I liked it. Scroll awayyyy

  • @aleksandaratanasovic8835
    @aleksandaratanasovic8835 Рік тому +25

    I think people realized something was wrong when they've noticed me sitting in the office with the lights out without me realizing.

    • @A-oy9yf
      @A-oy9yf Рік тому +2

      Hahaha that’s awesome

    • @emeraldwhite7506
      @emeraldwhite7506 Рік тому +3

      I was just sitting at the toilette in my bathroom in the dark. And my mom came in. Cuz i didnt lock the door. She got so scared and was like ”why are you here in the dark!! What are you doing !!” my answer was just ”i forgot to turn the lights on and it was cozy in the dark”

  • @RockingRhythmsJo
    @RockingRhythmsJo Рік тому +1

    The hyperfixation clip....joined golf junior year so I could avoid taking traditional p.e. class cuz fck running the mile...ended up playing varsity my last 2 years. I was worst on the team but gimme a ball to hit and the ever changing conditions of the game and stimulation.. I loved it 🤣🤣

  • @beth8775
    @beth8775 Рік тому +3

    I do all of this (impulse spending mostly under control now thankfully), and somehow no one ever suggested that I might be neurodivergent (including my husband) until we concluded that our son has ADHD.

  • @Pyranders
    @Pyranders 6 місяців тому

    Thanks for getting me out of my scrolling paralysis!

  • @dianeluikart7525
    @dianeluikart7525 Рік тому +4

    Oh. This is me for sure

  • @Daddy-uf9ud
    @Daddy-uf9ud 11 місяців тому

    It's all manageable ❤, it's not a disability it's a wonderful GIFT ADHD is basically thr master MULTITASKER

  • @pranavghantasala6808
    @pranavghantasala6808 Рік тому +8

    More material for my 'Reasons to believe I might have ADHD' folder

    • @CookiezNCreamz
      @CookiezNCreamz Рік тому +3

      I have one of those 😭 I didn't realise I was hyperfixated on finding more information about ADHD until I saw 89 videos and 5 Google website links in my ADHD folder. And was like ahhhh I see there's a little bit of a problem here

    • @KG-gg8rl
      @KG-gg8rl Рік тому

      Yea.

    • @spocksdaughter9641
      @spocksdaughter9641 Рік тому

      ​@@CookiezNCreamzwelcome home, NO problem affinity.

  • @brendatomlinson
    @brendatomlinson Рік тому

    Not me, placing my first Temu order yesterday, scrolling their website for hours, then running late for a concert I’ve been waiting months for. 😬 I’m so grateful I found you. Actually, YT found you *for me*.

    • @brendatomlinson
      @brendatomlinson Рік тому

      PS I’m newly dx’d, now have to learn more about stimming.

  • @phoenixgate007
    @phoenixgate007 Рік тому +7

    When I tell people I have ADHD, they immediately say, “you don’t seem like someone with ADHD.”
    When I let down the mask just a little it’s pretty obvious.

    • @KatieM786
      @KatieM786 Рік тому +2

      I hate that - the worst thing is they think they've just given you a compliment 😢

  • @CH-oy5mt
    @CH-oy5mt Рік тому

    When you realize your starting scroll paralysis when that part comes up. Thanks. It was enough to shake me out it. I'm off to do my laundry.

  • @NikkiDoesStufff
    @NikkiDoesStufff Рік тому +3

    FYI these can be symptoms but this can also happen to neurotypicals. DONT USE THESE SHORTS TO DIAGNOSE YOURSELF. If you are having issues interacting with everyday activities please go see a doctor.

    • @Fingerknee
      @Fingerknee 11 місяців тому

      What am I gonna do? Write a prescription for myself? Any adult would know not to do this and it doesn't matter what kids do because kids are kids and it doesn't matter anyways.

  • @jessicaprice4714
    @jessicaprice4714 Рік тому

    I’m 19 and have struggled with ADHD symptoms for years but nobody (doctors, family) mentioned ADHD at all. Now that I’m diagnosed and I’m seeing these type of vids during my ✨scrolling paralysis ✨ everything regarding my behavior is making so much sense. I thought I was just being weird 😭

  • @SundaydoesArt
    @SundaydoesArt Рік тому +4

    I have adhd
    The only reason im awake is because im scrolling right now.

  • @kass-831
    @kass-831 11 місяців тому +1

    girl last night I was so tired it was 3am, I wanted to sleep but I couldn’t because of gosh darn ADHD paralysis, I swear social media was made to ruin neurodivergent people

  • @Pyxicephalus-Adspersus
    @Pyxicephalus-Adspersus Рік тому +6

    This is why people self diagnose nowadays… This video describes 99% of the people born during the 90s/2000s and even 2010s now. Doesn’t mean all of them have ADHD or autism.
    This is literally like astrology, if you read the horoscope, you will identify with like 8 signs out of 12. Doesn’t mean you have 8 signs.

    • @daisy3869
      @daisy3869 Рік тому +1

      They are common ADHD experiences that are used, in part, to diagnose and understand ADHD. At least, they were part of the information that my partner and his psych talked about when he was diagnosed (among other tests and questionnaires w family). I think if most of us younger people can relate it's because these are often liked to anxiety....which has been on the rise in our society. It makes sense

  • @Capybaru22
    @Capybaru22 Рік тому

    I impulse buy every time I have money because I just love receiving things in the mail. Idk why it just makes me so happy

  • @dischorddynne
    @dischorddynne Рік тому +5

    ADHD and Autism are SO similar with tons of neurological links found in studies. I wonder if BPD is also a friend of theirs?

    • @sbocaj22
      @sbocaj22 Рік тому +3

      BPD is a response to trauma. Adhd and autism are neurotypes you’re born with. So no. Or more like not exactly. Adhd and autistic ppl are more likely to develop BPD as a result of trauma from being ND

    • @KatieM786
      @KatieM786 Рік тому

      A lot of ND women get misdiagnosed as BPD on teenage years and then are caused further problems by inappropriate medical treatment

  • @strawberrycherrybaby
    @strawberrycherrybaby Рік тому

    LMAOOO the finger stimming I feel called out 😂 it’s the one thing I can never hide lol

  • @maraschwartz6731
    @maraschwartz6731 Рік тому +4

    Okay okay. I'll put down my phone and do the stuff I need to do this morning

  • @Me-or-not
    @Me-or-not 10 місяців тому +1

    This girls is convincing me I have ADHD

  • @johanna_na
    @johanna_na Рік тому +4

    Well.... it doesn't mean you have adhd if you do these things.

    • @Shveaygdjbffgcsj147
      @Shveaygdjbffgcsj147 Рік тому +1

      Yes it doesn’t mean you have ADHD, ADHD is so much more, it’s just a part of ADHD many people with ADHD can relate to. You can’t say you have ADHD based on only that.

  • @MouldyClouds
    @MouldyClouds Рік тому +1

    Me, scrolling, cartoons on tv and my leg on the coffe table wiggling my ankle but not realizing until the the end of this video😅😂

  • @priwncess
    @priwncess 9 місяців тому

    oh my god girl me too.. really feels nice to have someone relate to me like this. like especially the scrolling thing.. It feels like I cannot stop 😣

  • @Mia__the__Imp
    @Mia__the__Imp Рік тому

    The scrolling paralysis... I’m doing that rn, position and everything.

  • @Liv-xq2lk
    @Liv-xq2lk 10 місяців тому

    I LOVE your videos. They make my day so so much better because I feel so seen. A light during a hard day especially when my ADHD has been bad and I can’t afford my meds for it. Appreciate the content :)

  • @Pongocity.
    @Pongocity. Рік тому +1

    I used the term stim in front of my mom earlier and she asked me “what are you, autistic?” When literally everybody stims and it’s a peculiar trait in adhd, which she knows I have 💀

  • @wynterplays5810
    @wynterplays5810 Рік тому +1

    Popping my knuckles is a stim I use a lot.

  • @mr_alibi_
    @mr_alibi_ Рік тому

    It’s midnight, this video just made me realize I have been scrolling through UA-cam shorts for 40 minutes now

  • @Veldaren
    @Veldaren Рік тому +1

    I feel called out 😂
    Although my masking seems to have worked anyway, because pretty much nobody around me realized the things shown in this video are symptoms of ADHD

  • @eliawillinger4329
    @eliawillinger4329 11 місяців тому

    Seeing this while in my school’s golf team uniform threw me for a loop for a second

  • @magspie04
    @magspie04 9 місяців тому

    You know that feeling when you are talking to someone you either just met/ barely know and you get the ADHD vibe from them but you don't want to ask Incase their insecure about or don't even have ADHD....... 😅

  • @ilove_volleyball4
    @ilove_volleyball4 Рік тому

    i am a young teenager, in 8th grade, and i was recently diagnosed with adhd and im on the autism spectrum. i have really bad sensory issues and adhd episodes. so. i relate to your content so much and i find it comforting to know im not alone! 💗

  • @shawnholbrook7278
    @shawnholbrook7278 Рік тому

    Both, thanks for the print and sound difference. And it took me many many years to find out that i am just like my kids. I mean , i knew i was different, but i didnt realize how different.

  • @devondobbins8004
    @devondobbins8004 Рік тому

    I have adhd I still am learning wtf it is 😂 I was diagnosed as a kid but I just never really like self researched it til I was an adult and holy hell your videos describe my life

  • @jenniferbates2811
    @jenniferbates2811 Рік тому +1

    Exactly! I'm 46 F, I work 2 jobs and go to college all with ADHD!!! so yes I do all of these!

  • @goferboy2374
    @goferboy2374 9 місяців тому

    The scrolling paralysis is something I get mad at myself about because I thought it was just me being lazy

  • @omaradel694
    @omaradel694 Рік тому

    One of the things that makes my hard life harder

  • @twsdlbh
    @twsdlbh 8 місяців тому

    Shes speaking to my soul lol.

  • @Smiley_Boi76
    @Smiley_Boi76 Рік тому

    I’m so good at making my adhd, I didn’t realize I had adhd until I was paralyzed scrolling and found this channel.

  • @sheiladay-od2me
    @sheiladay-od2me Рік тому

    You are so good at masking.

  • @jayjay-602
    @jayjay-602 Рік тому

    This is so me. You literally described my life!!

  • @lisastenzel5713
    @lisastenzel5713 Рік тому

    😂😂😂 I love the Belle Song on this❤ You are gooood

  • @art_fortune
    @art_fortune Рік тому +1

    When she said it i was like oo yeah i aaamm as a matter of fact stuck in scrolling paralysis😂

  • @marlilosser9628
    @marlilosser9628 Рік тому +1

    This is like my brother, he will always have to do something, if there is anything on the table, he will just pick it up and figgit with it. Also almost everyone in my family feels the need to pace when we are telling a story 😂

  • @bruh10246
    @bruh10246 Рік тому

    This is putting ideas into my head

  • @silvaroo
    @silvaroo Рік тому

    I do ALMOST all these things, I cannot wait to get my diagnosis!!

  • @Britbrat31172
    @Britbrat31172 8 місяців тому

    It’s the stimming that really gives it away 😂

  • @anneloesdw5460
    @anneloesdw5460 9 місяців тому

    I never realised stimming was part of ADHD. I love the feeling of textures. I always touch things when I'm walking, like fences and bushes.

  • @jellywoaa
    @jellywoaa Рік тому

    I don’t have ADHD (at least not diagnosed), but I relate to your videos a lot. Makes me realize I should probably convince my mom to let me get tested 😅

  • @lilliecarver2770
    @lilliecarver2770 Рік тому

    The way that people with adhd think that they can hide it so well (including my self) but I’m pretty sure that we all do these things

  • @juliocesares3700
    @juliocesares3700 Рік тому

    As an older ADHD possessor, one who wasn't diagnosed until age 28, I was always considered an 'issue' but it wasn't until I knew what the issue was that it made sense.

  • @Igmus
    @Igmus Рік тому +1

    Been diagnosed with ADHD and watching a lot of your shorts and just relating with almost all of them, but my brother refuses to believe I have ADHD. He's like, we all do that, when I describe some of the things you talk about in your shorts.

  • @Legendary_Starlight
    @Legendary_Starlight 8 місяців тому

    relatable :’)
    also usually my hyperfixations last 3-5 days, but my current hyperfixation has already been like months :p I wanna be an Emergency Medicine Doctor and I wanna learn everything I can about the medical field, I even got a medical terminology book to learn words and stuff :)