🌹 The #1 MISTAKE in Dating AND Church
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- Опубліковано 1 лип 2024
- Few years back, someone got the wild idea to do a Christian dating reality TV show called, "It Takes a Church" - borrowing cues from "The Bachelor(ette)."
Take an eligible single, throw in pursuing contestants, then the church would vote who would be in the running for a future date. Many churches participated, but after seeing the finished product, many wish they had that decision back... including today's church in downtown Milwaukee.
The similarities between a first date and a first-time visitor at a church isn't all that different. You set a time and place to meet, you meet to get to know each other, and then someone needs to follow-up if a second meeting will happen. Surprisingly, this is where many churches MASSIVELY go wrong. Some have no plan of action, some take way too long to respond, and others ghost.
Today, David visits Epikos to see how a church who participated in a Christian dating game show attracts first-time visitors through follow-up.
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▶️ Timestamps:
0:00 Milwaukee
0:37 It Takes a Church
2:14 Stages in First Dates and First-Time at Church
4:47 Church Sights and Sounds
5:44 Regrets about Show
6:56 Orange Connect Cards for Follow-Up
9:07 Best Follow-Up
9:51 No Plan of Action
10:36 Ghosting
11:49 You Snooze, You Lose
12:42 Joel Osteen Follow-Up for $$$
13:46 Scientology Follow-Up
14:42 Outro
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Just FYI , LDS have all single congregations called singles wards.
Been married from 38 years without dating and tottly arrange marriage in Pakistan. But so successful with God grace in all these years. Never know anything about dating.
New subscriber here
Woow
I never saw it in this light.
Dating really is like follow up.
I had never heard of that show before. Interesting. Sounds cringy for sure. Interesting point of view from visiting so many churches. Great analogy!
I love your weekly reports - thought I had already subscribed but made sure today. Been married for 50 years so I wouldn't know how to date anymore -- LOL
Ive never watched this show before, this was so interesting. the comparison of following up with a date and a new church believer aha
Probably a good thing you never came across it haha.
I never saw that show before. I guess there is a fine line in terms of following up after a date. Love the correlation between dating and churches following up with you.
Thanks so much for this video. I know that our church needs to do better with visitor follow up. Sometimes churches just don’t know, so videos like this are so important!
This is such a creative video! Thank you for doing this!
Thank you for this video bro. This is really helpful
Wow, never thought about the process of ghosting in church. I guess its been happening a while but we didn't put a name to it.
Lessons learnt - Dating follow up of first time visitors, is a big test in how they follow up.
-Creates community
-Builds a relationship with Jesus Christ.
- Connect card (same color)
- Connect Bible (same color)
- Do they reach out or not?
- How long before responding even with a thank you.
This is really helpful for me. Sometimes we have a different way to follow up the newly attendees in the Church. Thanks for sharing. God bless
Interesting ideas on follow up!
Very hilarious this time, David. Beautiful shots of the city. Great analogy. I didn't quite see the correlation at first, but the more I ponder on it, the more I understand your analogy of visiting churches as dating. I'm still not totally comfortable with it, but I see it. I think the analogy works great in the independent churches setting, where the worshipper is looking for like minded folks with whom he/she can be comfortable worshipping. I think there might be some more nuance in situations where you have a global organization, but some congregations are a little better at understanding their own teachings than others. For instance, with this worldwide type of church, let's say you fall in love with the doctrine and the overall culture is pretty decent, but this one little congregation where I just happen to live, let's just say, they need help. Nuance.
When I was a teacher, I discovered that usually the overall class personality simply developed around the strongest personal personality. Sometimes that was awesome; sometimes it was not awesome; but the course work was the same. In the first type of church, usually the dominant personality is the preacher, not necessarily so in the second type. I don't yet know how to develop the dating analogy for the second type of church, but it seems to me that usually the seeker wants to date the big Church with the big 'C', but sometimes the local adherents at the little 'c' level might actually be frustrating the dating experience. There you go. I hope that made some sense.
This is indeed very helpful, it is call out and I appreciate your views.
I'm 56, I filed for divorce from my 2nd wife 7 years ago after 11.5 years of marriage, she told me she had been unfaithful our entire marriage. I immediately told her: "I forgive you but will go on with my life without you." No kids, no debt, no divorce settlement due to her signing a prenuptial. My first wife began practicing Wicca, tarot card reading and other witchcraft, that's a no go for me. No kids, etc,etc,+ prenuptial. Been single for 7yrs, NEVER happier. No Woman, no cry.
I do not remember this show. It sounds insane. But, your commentary is very thought provoking. God-bless you 🕊️
Not sure if they have them in your area or if you'd have to travel a little bit for it, but I'd love to see you attend an LDS singles ward. Combine church AND dating. (and it's quiet, unlike regular LDS services) It's a whole different ballgame!
Hey azgirl, I didn't know it would be quiet. While I was recording my reaction at my first LDS ward, I saw young adults walking in for one of those. That would be an interesting visit. As a non-LDS in my 30's, I probably wouldn't fit in if I tried to attend haha.
@@52churchesin52weeks You would fit in very well and feel very welcome.
@@52churchesin52weeksThere are congregations (wards) of the restored Church of Jesus Christ for "young single adults" in some areas and there are also different congregations for older single adults who are between the ages of 31-45. Where each type is organized just depends on the local demographics. At college towns (especially in and near Utah) there are many wards for single students and also for married students. People have the option to attend either these wards or the regular wards, which have overlapping geographical boundaries.
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You're funny!
There are many ways to meet people and especially those looking for a relationship that could meet to marriage. WATCH OUT now that you are a member of the Church of Jesus CHrist of Latter-day EVERYONE will try to "match" you with someone! BEWARE and go slow. In my family we tried to "line up" my uncle for years, then when he was 35 years old he found the best person for him. They have now been married for almost 40 years. They have two wonderful sons, two daughter-in-laws and eight grandchildren. In other words, do what feels right for you at your pace. Keep your focus on Jesus Christ and it will work out.
So, a christian friend joined christian singles and was lined up with a Baptist girl.
Himself is modern Methodist 🤨???
These two argued all night long.
What are these sites thinking?
If the new dating is letting the world know how different 2 people are at the top of their lungs?
Well I'm done dating 🤪