Ladies, If any mother- inlaw tells you to come and wash her clothes on your first day of meeting her, pls wash the clothes with joy. Then when you take him to see your own parents, your mum should tell him to wash all the dirty dishes. He should also do the dishes with joy. After all we are all humble and respectful . I wonder how the guy will feel after washing those dishes..........maybe he will love her more ...👏👏 I will never ask my son's fiancee to do chores on the first day even if she volunteers. She is my guest and should be treated with respect the same way, I expect my son to be treated when he meets his inlaws. Men and women should be treated with equal respect. Discrimination against women is too much!!!! especially african women. As a mother, if you heard, that your son was asked to do the dishes by his inlaws how will you feel???? Let us all think about it. Thank you zeelicious for this topic. I will share it with my daughters and my sons ♥️♥️♥️
Some useful tips. I would reconsider telling a lie to respectfully decline a request though. We should be careful not to dishonor God in an attempt to honour in laws or anyone really.
Thank you so much ma, I actually need to work on been shy and timid, have been postponing this meeting with my in-laws for awhile now, I'm so scared🥺, they are so much in their family Every part of this video is so educative and true For anyone saying its pretense, hmm abeg there are so many things I don't do at home, I don't wash my clothes, I don't really cook sef, I don't sweep, not that I don't know how to do all this but then it's my house, there's vacuum, washing machines, but your parents will understand, your in-laws won't, they will say you're spoilt So pls just give them that first impression the first time, as long as you not lieing to your partner, he knows everything about you already, is the in-laws that's meeting you for the first time They need to meet the best, well trained version of you.
Winnie I follow your channel and agree with almost everything. But these two points? No. 1. Your university boyfriend had no business dating a 'flamboyant' person if being 'conservative' was that important to him and his family. I am sure there were 'conservative' girls he would have chosen, but he came to you. You could have toned it down a bit on the day of his brother's graduation, fine. But then going foward, in subsequent events, are you going to keep 'toning it down' basically suppressing who you are? People should date people they shares same values with please. 2. Why would your MIL ask you to do anything, something, e.g washing clothes the first day you visit??? Do YOU ask a guest to do stuff around your house? How is that totally not a red flag? What point would they be trying to prove? What 'test' are they 'testing'? You sure you wanna live like that? Would your father ask him to wash his car when he visits your home for the first time, or at any time? I know you mean well, and probably just saying one should apply wisdom overall, but some impressionable people take things literally. Any MIL that will ask you to partake in a chore on the first day does not respect you, and is likely a troublemaker. You giving excuses even makes it worse, really. If you are fine with that type of treatment, OK. But it is not a standard.
My husband kukuma know who he married, i really don't know how people expect a first time guest to start doing things around the house. Anyways him mama get sense wella, so that one wasn't an ish.
Well, wisdom is profitable. It worked in my own case, I built that good relationship with them first and they gradually got used to my lifestyle. Trust me, that first day matters!
I really enjoyed watching this video…I never knew you could be a typical dramatic Nigerian with all the facial expressions and all🤣😂…I had a good laugh at some of your remarks and gestures…plus you are really cute🤗
so when notifications for your videos arrive I am very happy! such a work with such dedication and humility makes me create expectations in me for the next videos to come. may God continue to bless you and your family 🙏 a big kiss from Brazil
In the northern part of Nigeria where i come from, if you take a gift when visiting your in-laws for the first time, they always looks at you as if you are desperate to get married to their son.
Thanks dear cause I have been thinking on how to behave with my MIL and my bae sisters though he said they have no prob but this video helped a lot. Plenty thanks
Thank you Winnie for these tips. They will definitely come handy when it’s time. I read through the comments and I see how a lot of women are reacting to if their MIL asks them to wash on their first visit. She only gave an example, that probably was the closest example she could reach. Mind you, your would-be MIL could ask you to perform a task (it could be anything) or even an errand, on your first visit. In fact, it could be as mundane as passing the remote control (or something multiple times)that is several miles away or even helping out with setting the table for lunch or dinner(depending on the occasion of visit) how then would you react? Think about it “/
Please Winnie can you do a video on how to behave when you meet your in-laws for the second time or time,I just want to get somethings, your videos are very good, thank you for those tips.
When meeting in laws first time do not me much talkative let them say woww this my son friend is very quiet leave a good impression so when turn your back she quiet and very intelligent very intelligent knowledge
I think that depends on the kind of person they are, that's why she said be well informed of the kind of person they are. Some might be open minded and not see anything wrong with it.
Say Thank You million times as possible😍 I want to Thank you for your wise words indeed. My pick , dressing code, carry your manners , carry a Gift always ❤❤❤❤👌👌
Thank you Winnie, this is really beautiful 😍 Okay, on the part of 'drop your mobile phones' ; what if you're not being involved in the conversation and you don't wanna intrude. Do I just sit and look?
Sorry to answer but I feel you should just sit quietly and be looking, pressing your phone infront of African parents is so rude even when they are not talking to you as long as you infront of them, they make everything a big deal oh
Your gestures are a bomb😂😂😂 The MFM example was so hilarious...😂 The "Bring your manners with you!!" part is very necessary 💯💯 Hmmm... Seriously ma'am you are so amazing ❤️ And so beautiful..❤️🥰 The Igbo and Yoruba "you hear..." Was funny. Thanks so much really... I believe your children will be exceptionally great in their behavior. Kudos ma'am.
Ur tips sounds funny nd kinda unexpected😂. in the sense that I didn't expect u would go all dip to dig the real important things out,, like wen u talked about inlaws being disrespectful,rude or insultive. I have actually seen that happened b4 from a distance nd ur tip for how 2 behave in such occasion is quite inspiring,kisses 2 u 4 dat zee💋💋. And every Oda tin u said Is really applicable nd cool, I love it. But plz zee,can u make a video on how to respond,react or behave wen on the phone. Bcuz yea we already know from this video what to or not do wen visiting for the first time. But then, some in-laws can be so forward that they feel it ok for them to talk 2 their children inlaws on phone, so I want 2 know wat u have in ur opinion about dat. Thanks ma💟🥰😘
I’m staying over for the weekend…and his parents are pastors!!! The only way to hid my bum is literally to wear dresses . 😂😂😂. Cos God bless me sha but this African life no have balance. My sister…thank u
Ladies, If any mother- inlaw tells you to come and wash her clothes on your first day of meeting her, pls wash the clothes with joy. Then when you take him to see your own parents, your mum should tell him to wash all the dirty dishes. He should also do the dishes with joy. After all we are all humble and respectful . I wonder how the guy will feel after washing those dishes..........maybe he will love her more ...👏👏
I will never ask my son's fiancee to do chores on the first day even if she volunteers. She is my guest and should be treated with respect the same way, I expect my son to be treated when he meets his inlaws. Men and women should be treated with equal respect.
Discrimination against women is too much!!!! especially african women. As a mother, if you heard, that your son was asked to do the dishes by his inlaws how will you feel???? Let us all think about it. Thank you zeelicious for this topic. I will share it with my daughters and my sons ♥️♥️♥️
Exactly
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Yes
On point ma'am
On point sister
Some useful tips. I would reconsider telling a lie to respectfully decline a request though. We should be careful not to dishonor God in an attempt to honour in laws or anyone really.
If you can wash her clothes it's fine, but I'm sure you won't want to tell her you just don't feel like, that's disaster 😂
@@elizabetholatubora5839 yes,I agree.But, telling a lie shouldn't be an option though.
Thank you so much ma, I actually need to work on been shy and timid, have been postponing this meeting with my in-laws for awhile now, I'm so scared🥺, they are so much in their family
Every part of this video is so educative and true
For anyone saying its pretense, hmm abeg there are so many things I don't do at home, I don't wash my clothes, I don't really cook sef, I don't sweep, not that I don't know how to do all this but then it's my house, there's vacuum, washing machines, but your parents will understand, your in-laws won't, they will say you're spoilt
So pls just give them that first impression the first time, as long as you not lieing to your partner, he knows everything about you already, is the in-laws that's meeting you for the first time
They need to meet the best, well trained version of you.
Akuko
Winnie I follow your channel and agree with almost everything. But these two points? No. 1. Your university boyfriend had no business dating a 'flamboyant' person if being 'conservative' was that important to him and his family. I am sure there were 'conservative' girls he would have chosen, but he came to you. You could have toned it down a bit on the day of his brother's graduation, fine. But then going foward, in subsequent events, are you going to keep 'toning it down' basically suppressing who you are? People should date people they shares same values with please. 2. Why would your MIL ask you to do anything, something, e.g washing clothes the first day you visit??? Do YOU ask a guest to do stuff around your house? How is that totally not a red flag? What point would they be trying to prove? What 'test' are they 'testing'? You sure you wanna live like that? Would your father ask him to wash his car when he visits your home for the first time, or at any time? I know you mean well, and probably just saying one should apply wisdom overall, but some impressionable people take things literally. Any MIL that will ask you to partake in a chore on the first day does not respect you, and is likely a troublemaker. You giving excuses even makes it worse, really. If you are fine with that type of treatment, OK. But it is not a standard.
Thanks Onyinye.
My husband kukuma know who he married, i really don't know how people expect a first time guest to start doing things around the house. Anyways him mama get sense wella, so that one wasn't an ish.
Etiquette for meeting in-law on the first day! First impression matters a lot.
@@motunrayosemadar2282 sure. One should also start the way they mean to continue.
Well, wisdom is profitable. It worked in my own case, I built that good relationship with them first and they gradually got used to my lifestyle. Trust me, that first day matters!
This meeting in-laws thing bugs me but yeah, I'm gonna meet them someday. Thanks zee
Advice that most parents never gave. wow,you are doing so well .i think this will actually help most of us
I really enjoyed watching this video…I never knew you could be a typical dramatic Nigerian with all the facial expressions and all🤣😂…I had a good laugh at some of your remarks and gestures…plus you are really cute🤗
Thank you!!❤️❤️❤️
so when notifications for your videos arrive I am very happy! such a work with such dedication and humility makes me create expectations in me for the next videos to come. may God continue to bless you and your family 🙏 a big kiss from Brazil
Amen!!❤️❤️
In the northern part of Nigeria where i come from, if you take a gift when visiting your in-laws for the first time, they always looks at you as if you are desperate to get married to their son.
Good morning Winnie, I'm so sorry you went through that. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and experience.
Thanks Winnie you are so warm and this is helpful and your a girls bestie🥰😊😇🤭 God bless you. I am listening by faith that the fiancé will come soon.
He will come...and please share with us here when he comes. 🤗🤗
He will come soon in Jesus' name... Amen 💃💃💃
Thanks dear cause I have been thinking on how to behave with my MIL and my bae sisters though he said they have no prob but this video helped a lot. Plenty thanks
Keep keeping the good Winnie as you lead us through the journey of Elegance. I love you big time.
Winnie these tips were very helpful. Thank you so much ❤️
Nice tops you have here & nice smiles.
Please teach about how to handle a Narcissist.
Ur such a saint sometimes, ur so amazing. Much love from Uganda 💚
You're doing well Winnie 💜💛💚
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You are amazing, never forget that! 💜💜💜
Thank you!!!❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing 😘😍
Thank you Winnie for these tips. They will definitely come handy when it’s time.
I read through the comments and I see how a lot of women are reacting to if their MIL asks them to wash on their first visit. She only gave an example, that probably was the closest example she could reach. Mind you, your would-be MIL could ask you to perform a task (it could be anything) or even an errand, on your first visit. In fact, it could be as mundane as passing the remote control (or something multiple times)that is several miles away or even helping out with setting the table for lunch or dinner(depending on the occasion of visit) how then would you react?
Think about it “/
Quite a nice question dear. 😂
Please Winnie can you do a video on how to behave when you meet your in-laws for the second time or time,I just want to get somethings, your videos are very good, thank you for those tips.
When meeting in laws first time do not me much talkative let them say woww this my son friend is very quiet leave a good impression so when turn your back she quiet and very intelligent very intelligent knowledge
Ma, I watched this and I fell in love with you 😍😍😍😍 Weldon ma
Thanks dear...this is crucial information for the prospects...
You are welcome!❤️❤️
God bless you ma! I really love ur tips lt word enough.
I really really really love watching you. You are just amazing in all ur videos. I love you. Thanks for all the safety tips
This was so fun to watch 😂😂
Thanks for sharing but that part MIL saying wash my clothes for the first time, it's a no for me oh.
Thanks for sharing this ma'am
Thanks Winnie. This is so enlightening!!
Thanks zee you’ve done a big favor for me ❤️❤️❤️❤️‼️‼️‼️
Along I was looking for this advice thank you so much dear, I will not call by your name, just allow me to call you teacher, you are the best ❤
Thank you so much ma'am.
This is enlightening.
Winne you're helping your Kenya sister 😃
I really love your videos, you're amazing!
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Great tips Winnie...Much Love❤️
This was awesome to watch.
Thanks Winnie ❤️ absolutely 💯
Thanks I saw this video on time.😘
You have such a beautiful smile..😃
Thank you Ma'am
Winnie dear, is it proper to eat on the first day in ur in-laws house, If yes den is it proper to finish everything on the plate?
I think that depends on the kind of person they are, that's why she said be well informed of the kind of person they are. Some might be open minded and not see anything wrong with it.
Thank you
Great Tip👌 i saw this at the right time.
This is so amazing, thank you so much my dear sister
Winnie, u just made my day with this piece ❤️
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This video is really helpful
Thank you Winnie
Thanks for sharing these tips.
New subbie😊
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Wow Zee 💖 thanks for the time u put in when giving advice
Thanks so much winnie darling 🥰😘
You are welcome!❤️❤️
Thank you so .much ...🙏🏼I needed this right now ....🇨🇲
Thanks Winnie🥰💞
I love you I’m a kenyan meeting my in-law in ghana soon like soon 😊
Thank-you for the video Winnie!
Your hair is always on point!
Can I ask - where you got this hair from please?
This is gold girl
For me it’s the part where she explained the facial in trying to show how not to laugh out loud 😂😂😂
Thank you Winnie for this insightful video.
Thank you Ma
I enjoyed watching ur videos
Thank you Winnie ❤️
Thanks a lot. I appreciate this tips🙏🏻
You are welcome!❤️
thank you so much ,i am being helped gotta be the best
Thank you so much for an educative video. It's so helpful and going to help me also. You are doing well. God bless you.
Motigbo ooo Winnie 😂🤣😂 so helpful. Thanks for sharing 💜
Thank you so much, your videos are educating
Say Thank You million times as possible😍 I want to Thank you for your wise words indeed. My pick , dressing code, carry your manners , carry a Gift always ❤❤❤❤👌👌
Winnie sounding like the big sister I don't have😍😍
@@preciousudoma3694 same here darling.. she educative in everything.
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You are welcome Dear!❤️❤️
Thank you so much winnie 💓 💗
I really like your content🎉🎉❤,, you're an inspiration to me
Thank you so much for this, it's really helpful 💗
Winnie I really love your videos ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks a lot this is real fact
Lemme comment b4 I finish watching 🥰🥰🥰🤩🤓👌
Thanks ma🤗, I am obviously applying these tips next month🥰😂
nice lesson keep it up
Great tips I've already shared the video with a friend 😀 I lhave earned a lot 😀 👍
Thanks ma'am
Lovely and helpful tips,
Thanks Zee 😘😘, u are the best.
So sweet....... thank you
You are welcome!❤️❤️
Thank you 💗
Thanks ma for the guidelines
(1) Pls when and how should the gift be delivered to my ln-laws?
(2) Is the going to be for one person?
I have the same question
Thanks so much cc this is so helpful ☺
Good nuggets
Thank You
Love you videos 😘😘 Also if my to be MIL going to ask me to wash her clothes the first time I meet her? Sorry she ain't gonna be my MIL
Thank you Winnie, this is really beautiful 😍
Okay, on the part of 'drop your mobile phones' ; what if you're not being involved in the conversation and you don't wanna intrude. Do I just sit and look?
Sorry to answer but I feel you should just sit quietly and be looking, pressing your phone infront of African parents is so rude even when they are not talking to you as long as you infront of them, they make everything a big deal oh
@@elizabetholatubora5839 thank you 😊❤️💕💕
Yes please. Its better to sit with a friendly face. Even if they are speaking a language you don't understand.
Thank u so much
Thanks for the tips big sis
Wow I love this
I've always figured that when meeting someone's in-laws, to dress in a demure, "girly " yet presentable dress and/or skirt.
Nice one
Your gestures are a bomb😂😂😂
The MFM example was so hilarious...😂
The "Bring your manners with you!!" part is very necessary 💯💯
Hmmm... Seriously ma'am you are so amazing ❤️
And so beautiful..❤️🥰
The Igbo and Yoruba "you hear..." Was funny.
Thanks so much really... I believe your children will be exceptionally great in their behavior.
Kudos ma'am.
Girl mentioning the church name here I think could offend the sensitivity of some. Nice video all together.
You have a nice smile 😁cute lady thanks for the tips
Ur tips sounds funny nd kinda unexpected😂. in the sense that I didn't expect u would go all dip to dig the real important things out,, like wen u talked about inlaws being disrespectful,rude or insultive. I have actually seen that happened b4 from a distance nd ur tip for how 2 behave in such occasion is quite inspiring,kisses 2 u 4 dat zee💋💋. And every Oda tin u said Is really applicable nd cool, I love it.
But plz zee,can u make a video on how to respond,react or behave wen on the phone. Bcuz yea we already know from this video what to or not do wen visiting for the first time. But then, some in-laws can be so forward that they feel it ok for them to talk 2 their children inlaws on phone, so I want 2 know wat u have in ur opinion about dat. Thanks ma💟🥰😘
Hi Winnie
Always Love ur weaves. Can you mention your plug
Nice👌🏾
Thanks u so much ANTY love u so much
I’m staying over for the weekend…and his parents are pastors!!! The only way to hid my bum is literally to wear dresses . 😂😂😂. Cos God bless me sha but this African life no have balance. My sister…thank u
Winnie you are really super doper amazing..I so much love you❣️❣️
Omalicha God bless you
Thanks zee....about to meet mine soon like so soon. Thanks for all these tips.
Meeting mine tomorrow. They are pastors. 😂i cant breath
wow ! nice, thanks. i like your accent baby girl
Lovely
That was bad Winnie 😂😂 thanks for this❤😊🙏🙏