STUFFED: The Unintended Result of Our Attachment to Personal Belongings | Matt Paxton | TEDxBethesda
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- Опубліковано 29 тра 2024
- No one has cleaned out more homes than Matt Paxton, star of the television show "HOARDERS." In this entertaining TEDx talk, Paxton shares what he's learned about our attachment to personal belongings - and what we can do about it. Matt Paxton is the founder of WayForth, the nation’s largest downsizing and senior transition company. Matt is the host of Legacy List and former extreme cleaning expert on the hit television show Hoarders.
Paxton started cleaning out houses after his father and grandfather passed away in the same year. The experience allowed him to recognize the immense impact physical items have on a person’s life and he focused the last 20 years helping others solve difficult living situations caused by excess possessions.
Matt is an renowned speaker on downsizing and aging, and appears regularly on television and radio to speak on our emotional attachment to items. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I donated a place setting of 12, white Fiesta dishes to our local resale shop. Within a day a young woman bought the set for her family and she was thrilled to get it. It had been packed away in storage for years because in my old age I found them too heavy and cumbersome. I'm thrilled someone that needed it got it.
I love Fiesta Dishes!
Thank you for doing this! Fiesta dishes always remind me of my grandma. She loves antiquing and completing sets. But now she is paring down her possessions and giving things away. She sells a lot of them to antique stores. The joy is forwarded instead of sitting in an attic!
Yea
That’s the joy and satisfaction of donating items we cherish, but know we’ll no longer use. Others will definitely use and treasure them!
On the surface a lot of people might watch this and think it's about decluttering, but it's really about decluttering so that we can become closer with our families. Stuff is replaceable but people aren't.
Decluttering is about having more functional living space. Instead of every room in the house used for storage
that might be true for some but its not universal truth I can say for sure. I have always been somewhat of a mimalist and I currently live in a 198 sq foot travel trailer. However, I also do not remotely give a damn about getting close to others, family or otherwise. I dont know the psychology of hording (my mother is a classic horder) but I am convinced its not a matter of function, its a matter of psychology, i just dont know what that psychology is
Your really smart !👍🏼
Could be the stuff is a deliberate barrier to relationships designed to distance from family
@@WillBockovenCRE yes plus i think he is right too, ppl buy stuff to make up for time. See this with busy younger couples, which I can understand, but they overdo it and I think they dont realise they are doing it. They literally dont stop to think about it or maybe wont think about it....and there you have the deliberate barrier.
My daughter went to Montessori school in elementary and a bit of advice that worked and I should pass on is the philosophy of instead of having the playroom with the corner that has a pile of toys and stuff they suggest you put 4 toys out at a time and then rotate those 4 with a different 4 every week. You would be surprised how they will actually play with those 4 toys rather than pass the big pile of toys day after day. It worked🥳👍🏼💙
I love how Matt and the hoarders crew humanize the people that are struggling, and work on explaining OCD and other mental disorders that can cause hoarding
Yeah, photos: My grandma has a photo of herself on a motorcycle with a man - NOT MY GRANDPA! Her smile when she told me my grandpa never saw the picture... Great story :)
When I was a teenager I found a picture of a really hot guy in his army gear and asked my mom who it was. It was my dad. I wasn't sure whether to say 'Ick' or 'Way to go mom'.
I have 10 full bags waiting for the charity shops to open. Feels soo good. I feel my anxiety lifting. Great talk.
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It really does feel wonderful to donate and get rid of things. True freedom!!!
Proud of you!
My mother just passed away less than a month ago. And she has held on to a lot of pain in the form of excessive junk. It’s been a month of clearing out. Throwing stuff out, getting rid of, donating. It was a lot of stuff yet it feels like it hasn’t put a dent. More and more stuff keeps being found. Old stuff of mine I thought was long gone was found. It’s really soul draining how much stuff there is.
I learned the hard way that we really didn't need most of the stuff that we had at the time...in August 2022 we had a major house fire...the only things that really were truly terrible to lose were a couple of sketches that were picked up by my grandmother on her honeymoon and her old KitchenAid stand mixer... anything else sentimental (my wedding jewelry, a specific stuffed animal) or important (our documents, my wife's expensive watchmaking tools, my sewing machine) were thankfully salvageable.
My wife, myself and our two cats are all still here today, and that's really the only thing that mattered....stuff can be salvaged or replaced, people and pets can't
I don’t what it is about this talk but i’ve watched it like 10 times over the last 2 years. Its so motivating and just a great funny story. Its like comfort food for me when my messy house is overwhelming me.
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Matt's story about the china cabinet really hits home with me. As somebody who's dealt with the passing/estate settlement of several elderly relatives in the last several years, it's really hard to get someone interested in a 12 seater oak formal dining table. They don't make things like that, but they don't really fit into most people's modern lives either.
But it’s also something special and practical to those who appreciate it and would use it. Having the whole family at one table with the food laid out so no one has to get up, wakes, surgeries, harvesting, canning, processing meat after a hunt...
My mother in law just passed away and we had to dole out her things. All the grandkids picked out what they wanted but they never made a dent. I realized it was because they didn't have the memories that went with all the stuff. Sure they ate from the good dishes but they weren't the ones that saw her face when she was gifted a piece at a time because it was the only way to afford it. Her kids remember that, not the next generation.
@@42ayla the thing for some of us is, we don't have the space, and it doesn't suit our lifestyle, but we still have the memories- I don't need an item for that
I still don't understand why we want bigger and bigger houses. We are just shooting ourselves in the foot when we buy bigger and bigger houses. Anyway, I have been decluttering for a couple of years and my deciding factor is: Use It or Lose It.
yes. The Why question is status and property valve, the trap is that one will want to fill those rooms with more stuff. I dont know the psychology behoind hording but I guess is that its culture does not have a mythology that works for the world we live in, so we look for reasons of the world, universe and everything and the only structures giving us 'answers' is advertising.
I want space to be creative, be able to make a mess cooking / painting / puttering... fixing without worrying about fancy white rugs / furnishings which I don't care for & don't own
All the houses out here in GTA (Toronto-Mississauga-Hamilton area) are being bought up by PROFITEERING MANAGEMENT COMPANIES & made into slick STERILE LIFELESS CHARACTERLESS white / grey apts
I want a big space to dance & move freely 👣
I want a big space to SHARE with others where we can ALL come TOGETHER & LIVE & LOVE & PLAY
Cook eat & dance & play together
I wish we were more truly collectively connected & considerate & collaborative
Possible solution oriented ideas/ examples:
Neighbourhoods could get ONE seated grasscutter/ lawnmower & take turns doing lawns (get rid if all the extra lawnmowers)
Same goes for the power tools sitting idle most of the time
Get back to sharing amongst one another
TOOL & INSTRUMENT SHARING LIBRARIES are AWESOME!!!
Refill stations for toiletries & cleaning products so we can STOP making disposable plastic containers
Or Better yet: learn how to make our own non-toxic natural toiletries & cleaning solutions!
We could have communal gardens
= Instant child & senior care by default of proximity & connection & caring involvement
Sooo many things we can do to make our lives easier, more fun for ALL & less dependant on the growing systemic monsters taking over (banks-governments- agro biz-farmasuitacullers-degrading & destroying & polluting mama earth diggin up fossil fuels & making mire single serving plastic take-out containers & delivery packages...)
It's NOT ROCKET SCIENCE.
It's getting Back to BASICS,
BACK to NATURE & NATURAL WAYS of LIVING
&
BACK to COMMON SENSE
&
COMMON CARING for Ourselves, Our Planetary🌍 Host Home & Each other. 💖💞
I donate about every 10 weeks to organizations that pick up. What every no longer suits me or is needed is given away. I never miss what I give away. It feels wonderful to not be a prisoner of your possessions!
It seem to me that you are probably buying too much of what you don't need or use only short term. In my national culture, this is considered rude, uncultured and as any other wasteful habit, a sign of bad upbringing, poor education, lower intelligence and overall bad mannerism.
@@a_l_e_k_sandra It's amazing how different our various cultures are. I love that we get to learn more about each other and use that to make the world better, as a whole and individually. Some cultures frown on flaunting opulence and wastefulness while others thrive on it. Not so much a lack of intellect or education but social mores that people feel the need to adhere to.
I threw out a big box of pictures after my mother's death as I knew no one. She never put names of anyone on the pictures so I could perhaps even send them. Another idea is to scan copies of pictures into your computer then you can share them in the future if needed but they don't take up much space. A friend scanned all of her children's grade school art and then had them made into books for each of them when they got older. It was their kids who loved seeing them. Great talk.
That little drawing from his son really got me. :( It's so true, time - especially time spent with loved ones - is so much more precious than any material thing. Kids can play for hours on end with a cardboard box, anyway. We shouldn't be training them to become addicted to stuff. Great talk.
I’m a minimalist with severe ADHD. I cannot have clutter because I will literally not stop cleaning until it’s all put away and perfect. I adopted minimalism to stop the insanity and it has worked! The less I have, the more time I get back from the insane cleaning cycle. I watch Hoarders out of fascination because I’m the opposite. I didn’t realize the attachment issue to stuff that people have. I don’t really have this. I can throw anything out, well almost anything, pictures are the exception. Good info here!
I have ADHD and m currently having a massive de clutter because it’s so stressful having loads of stuff
intresting. I am a minimalist but I do not have that condition, but oddly my mother is a class horder, as in she could almost be qualified to be on that show...like very close, make a path to the bedroom level stuff. I live in 198 sq feet with some room to grow, she does not
@@SorchaRattigan I also have ADHD and am having such a hard time trying to figure out how to minimize. I'm doing it... but slowly. It's hard.
As someone with manageable ADHD, I feel this. I've found that I'm not very sentimental. I recently decided to take on a new hobby. . . you know how it goes. But as part of the process I've thrown out, given away, and donated everything from the "OLD hobby." It feels so good. My friends see the value in all the stuff I got rid of. I see the freedom.
@@DigitalCasm Thank you for your comment.. I am Aspie with ADHD but also cptsd (over-active nervous system from traumas) & overly sentimental... your words really chimed with me, and helpful, esp "it feels so good" and "My friends see the value in all the stuff I got rid of. I see the freedom."... THAT will be my mantra now.. as Matt Paxton says, the 'does it spark joy?' approach doesn't really work for hoarders. Ironically I do love things in order, tidy, clean. Hope you're loving the new hobby.. and or the next one.. so many fun & enriching things to explore & learn... Blessings & gratitude 🙏🤗🤩
The drawing by his son... wow! That was powerful and deeply saddening.
Interestingly, Joshua Becker of the Minimalist home etc got started in the same way ie with his son coming to him every half hour as he was clearing out the garage to ask him (Dad) to play with him. G Ire
Love this! Matt is a hero and very inspirational!
I'm a hoarder turned minimalist and it changed my life. I'm able to understand myself a lot better with less things
wow i’ve watched hundreds of ted talks and this is like top 5
I started decluttering about 1-1/2 years ago. I still have such a long way to go. I’m passing down good habits to our children. I’ve freed up time for memories. I can completely understand this message. Thank you Matt!
By listening to this and other podcasts and videos, I’ve decluttered a ton of stuff. My goal is to make room for what I’m passionate about now: fostering kittens, baking, volunteering, gardening, etc. Thank you, Matt!!!!!☮️❤️😊🌎
I knew Matt was from Virginia and I've watched him on Hoarders for years, but I believe this is the first time I've actually heard his real southern accent. As a southern girl, that makes me happy. 😊
It's so funny because in Va. Beach we thought of Richmond as the city, almost northern.
I love watching hoarders because it keeps me motivated to purge few stuff everyday.
It bugs me that Matt is always so hard on himself about his weight, he mentions it a lot, I like the way he looks he's like a snuggly teddy bear. He's not even that overweight at all, somebody must have said something hurtful to him. If you're reading this and you're not feeling good about how you look please remember, those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter. I love you just how you are ❤️
thats a great mantra! i believe he seems ok physically as well, but I do believe that sometimes worrying about your weight can be a good thing. For example i didnt care about my weight (because I was a bit overweight which was fine by me) but I had to have knee surgery and weight became an issue for my recovery, I had to become very aware of it, more then I would like to, but at the same time, gave me a new north, so being aware of weight is not always related to someone hurting you, sometimes its just a little post it note that you place there for a good reason. I am excluding from this comment of course the subject of body dismorfia, anorexia and bulimia which are terrible, but I like to believe there are more reasons out there for things to influence us then any common belief. Hope you have a good one, greetings from Santiago, Chile!
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Those that matter DO mind if they care about your health.
No Grace, I think he looks like a big
Cuddly bear AND I THINKHE LOOKS JUST FINE
Thanks mr. rogers
i remember going to Glacier Park at 6 years old. It was way better than the bicycle i got for my birthday. Drank mountain runoff water. I am sure you cannot do this anymore, but it was wonderful.
I heard a talk once about how money can make you happy if you use it to buy time or experiences instead of stuff. Way too true. When my girls were little we'd take them camping and I remember the one time they were crying because they'd enjoyed it so much they didn't want to leave. I've made lots of mistakes as a parent but for that trip I ruled.
The problem is taught to us by advertising. Push to sell, each thing promises happiness.
For me, the frustration comes from family members valuing and prioritizing stuff over relationships.
Same
“Use” is the best way to go. If you don’t use it, give it away, as someone else can use it. And yes, I have 3 different sizes STILL in my closet. It is all a work in progress...
First time listening to this guy. He makes so much sense. Very moderate compared to the ‘sparks joy’ crowd. This is doable and within reach. Thoughtful and not extreme, so no regrets when getting rid of accumulated stuff.
I am new to this concept but past due and willing to change. I can no longer live like this......thank you
I’m older and although society has collectively been through a lot in recent decades, overall most of us have experienced an abundance of stuff over time. Going back to the 1960’s the mini storage facilities that are now so prevalent didn’t exist back then. Even though the average size of houses has grown over the decades, I would say that storage facilities have grown in quantity even faster. Our “stuff” owns us, with many people paying storage fees year after year on things that we don’t even get to use. Learning to let go after spending decades in accumulation is a tough but a necessary action. I used to make house calls in my previous work in insurance. Sometimes when I had the right client rapport I would mention to clients that a lot of their collection of stuff would literally be thrown away after they pass - wouldn’t it be better to slowly rehome these items they are no longer using into appreciative new homes that would really get some use out of them? I last moved five years ago, and one of my new pleasures has been reclaiming space and simplifying. To my surprise I found out that a fair amount of what I was dragging from house to house were now valuable antiques. Not only was I cleaning up and decluttering, but my bank account improved from all the sales. So far I have been able to fund a needed new car entirely from selling off things I was no longer using. I’m also thankful for Konmari, I don’t care if she did borrow the idea from some other person, I am happy to move the things I no longer need or want.
oddly (at least in my experience) hording is not generational specific as I would think (because of reason you mention). my mother is horder, I am a miminalist. I was born in 1967. someone suggest its a phycology of feeling safe. I think it could be that in some cases (I think it is for my mother) but overall I think its a failure to appreciate something without the need to 'own' it.
@@SEANMCAD It can be many things...
Health setbacks
-> loss of income
-> loss of earning capacity
=> insecurity triggered
= FEAR
-> leads to HODL (Hold On For Dear Life)
-> attach meaning to things
-> identify with things
-> continue to HODL
-> Overwhelm
= Don't have the strength &/or wear-with-all clarity to change to do anything differently
= VISCIOUS CYCLE
@@birgip.m.1236 This is so True. Thank you for sharing. Hoarding, Collecting and Holding On can all be Trauma responces. Yet We as humans all have a natural instinct to HUNT for and GATHER what is necessary to sustain Life for our Selves and our families. Being Prepared for the future is important. We need water, food, first aid supplies, clothing and shelter.
Sometimes those natural instincts to hunt and gather get waylaid along the way. It is easy to get distracted by shiny objects at garage sales, thrift stores and flea markets. Time goes by and Somehow all that Treasure hunting adds up to a house full of objects. It is surprising how quick it can happen as anyone who has ever helped an elderly Loved One to sort through their lifetime accumulation of objects well knows.
"...slowly rehome these items..." What a lovely plan! Because absolutely most of our valuable (to us) collections will just be discarded when we are no longer here to care. Selling or just giving the stuff to someone who will appreciate it will serve a double purpose: liberate us and give others pleasure.
@@52Ivan53 I think one of the psychological problems we face after accumulating a massive horde of no longer used possessions is that it can become a daunting task to sort through everything. The reason I suggest slowly rehoming these things is to keep it from becoming overwhelming and giving up. Just do a little at a time. It has now been almost 7 years since my last move - and I still have ~ 100 boxes that I never reopened after that move! I'm not living in the past, I still buy new things - it's just that now I want purchases to have a use other than being neat or to add to a collection.
I liked it before watching because I know if it's from Matt Paxton it's gonna be good 😊
Same
I did enjoy it. For some it must be an 'age' thing, or a 'fed up with it all' thing. I'm in the process of decluttering ALL SORTS of areas of my life. I go at my own pace, and revisit the tough things until arriving at clarity.
Sometimes you have to walk the walk to fully understand the minds of others. Mr. Paxton referring to his multisize clothes collection, is really a small sample of how people begin to spiral out of control. So his weight journey has been useful to document how he himself can easily become victim to hoarding.
I know people who earn hefty paychecks, so donating and buying things as necessary comes easy for people with plentiful bank accounts. Those who fall into depression from clutter, usually do so from the guilt of knowing their limited funds has been misused by poor decisions. ☘
Thanks for this Matt. I'm a Gen X'r too and so is my wife. I don't necessarily live by the Minimalist ideology but clutter bugs me. I am a high school art teacher and I teach 6 different art classes. When you teach 180 students 4 different levels of art, space matters. I declutter and organize often and it gives me a sense of control and keeping things prepped and ready for my kids. It's out of necessity but it has filtered into my personal life. It's gotten easier to pick something up and ask it two questions- why do I have this and when am I ever going to use it.
I LOVE MATT PAXTON. We've watched Hoarders and Matt for years. Since it first aired. I have learned so much and been inspired by him and his philosophy.
I try to keep in the mindset that donating to Salvation Army, etc, makes mee feel good, helps the charity, someone who really wants my stuff will buy it, and hopefully I am sending my good karma into the universe.
My family is a hoarder on different levels. I try to be the voice of reason but nobody is willing to listen. It came to a point that I have to choose to keep quiet to keep the peace. Its painful because my mom accuses me not spending more time with family but I just can't without bringing the issue up.
Grown kids stuff. That hit home. All those surfing trophies of my grandson’s in the attic.
As I've long said, "Do you own your stuff (or, device,) or does it own you?"
My sister is a hoarder, although far from the worst kind.
Matt..... downsize from that big house and spend more time with your 3 boys!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
Love you matt..... thanks for the real and personal.
The stuff is emotional. Maybe it helps through loneliness. Some of us have no one. My stuff reminds me that I did have a life before today. I do exist.
I can relate. I know I am trying to fill the voids with things that remind me and hold warm memories of those that are gone. Hard to let go.
That was pure gold Matt. I grew up with a mother who had unsuccessful relationships and turned to stuff to fill the emptiness. So I grew up in a mess. Your comments are crystal clear about what really matters and makes my life choices evident. I am much different than my mother and yet my lifestyle is too similar. Thanks for the clarity to move me to change.
I was a military kid and my stuff represented the family home we never had and memories. My home was wherever my stuff was.
Just got rid of 30 bags of clothes, accessories, shoes, and styling products I received as gratis from a job at a beauty supply. We're down to a house that doesn't need extra storage anymore. It's honestly because of your show, so thank you for what you do. You and Melva are my favorites.
This is so true! I was a military kid then a military wife. My stuff was my "home" for almost 43 years. And I kept EVERYTHING. Then he retired and now 6 years later I have ALL of those years of THINGS to get rid of.
I am a military kid, too. Thank you for sharing bc this makes sooo much sense. We didn't grow up in one house or place for our childhood so our stuff is "home".
Hearing that really helps give me grace. My husband grew up in the same house and has such an easier time of letting go. I always wondered why but thankfully his ways are starting to rub off on me and I am letting go of the "stuff" one box at a time.
@@cds8249 I have just started to purge things during the pandemic. I found that having someone with me to listen while I told the story of the item helped me to let go. I'm glad this perspective was helpful. 💜
@@briannemurdock4183 I find myself doing that, too.
Good providence as you continue letting go of things and moving forwards.We will reach our goal one donation box/bag at a time!
@briannemurdock4183
Your need for talking about the stuff that you are looking through is very significant to me. I have been asking my family for years now, who complain about my boxes, (which are currently stacked in my living room, bedroom and a storage unit) that I need someone to talk to while I go through those boxes. I feel that they are the record of my life, and to go through them alone is very lonely. I feel quite lonely anyway most of the time, and to take on another exhausting task which will bring on more loneliness is something that I have been unable to do. I am thinking about hiring someone to come in and help in this process. It's not ideal, but will probably need to happen. I am almost 80 years old.
I really love the work Matt does and his candid nature. His book really helped me out.
YOU’RE AWESOME MATT! A HUGE THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU DO.
Really enjoyed this! 😊🙏💙
I love Matt, Corey, Dorothy, Standolin, and all of the Hoarders crew. Matt has my dream job. I have the opposite problem of hoarding. I'm always trying to downsize and I find myself throwing things away then realizing that I need it 😂
i tired ti figure out if there is a term for those of us always trying to have bare minamum. if even a litte to much build up i get axiouse!!! fortunatly i have two neighbors that will take anything!!!! but then they complain about having to much grap, alot of my grap !! LOL but if the line at good will is to long it is either they take it or i toss no guilt. i love purging!!! i am very minamulism mean i have less to care for and less to clean, and then have more time for other things that realy matter, and save money.
That's why I don't want to get rid of stuff ... sigh ....
Common sense, not emotions, will correct this. It is foolish to get rid of anything randomly without thought. My mantra is "If I don't absolutely love it, will use it or display it, then I don't want it in my house". If I get rid of ANYTHING, I won't buy it again, so I have to be sure I am not going to need it in my life.
Love this....the carpenter tool story is so great!
To just give directly to someone who needs it is awesome !!
This is exactly what I started thinking sbout 3 days ago while smoking. But I went deeper. People build up their portfolio of STUFF so that they can create an image of themselves to identity within the framework of society and they judge themselves and others according to STUFF and categories themselves with what the social framework has already taught them. We identity with and create the image of how we want people to see us and use that to fit where we want to fit. I could say lots more but I won't bore you
agreed, michael, re the superficiality; no bore at all!
Here’s what I tell people: “ I gave myself a raise today.” Since I am retired, they look at me quizzically. “How so?” Then I drop my pearl. “I quit vaping.” Or “I did not buy that designer bag I love so much.”
Yes! When the guy said that we get stuff to tell the stories we aren't telling verbally....possessions are like nonverbal armor that protect us and I influence the way people view us. It's a way of marketing ourselves to people who hopefully are like minded and can support us, and us support them. Possessions are an extension of ourselves that speak a story about what communities we are compatible with
He's awesome never saw this side of him
Memories that stuff inspires in me are of times that should, and could have been happy, if I had been able to be present.
Matt you did a great job on this talk! Such a caring, practical, and joyous approach!
Great presentation. Love the music and dancing. 😁🤗
I have closets of stuff bought for my kids out of guilt for working too much. Now they are grown and all I have is the stuff. And I can’t let it go - because that’s all I have left.
But that's not all you have, you have you and a new life. It can take some effort to move along but I know you can do it.
Call or visit your kids once in awhile. If that's not an option then volunteer somewhere, maybe with kids that need a friend. Get together with your own friends or a local group. Pull the items from the closet, take pictures of the important ones then donate them to another kid that can benefit from it.
💖You still have so much to give, your kids being grown doesn't change that.
I hear you.
Matt’s my boy✊🏻
Hoarders is one of my favorite shows and I love all the cleaners/organizers/therapists/doctors on this show! 💖🦋🌈💐😊💖🦋🌈💐😊
Might tattoo “one cheez-it at a time” on my wrist now
Matt Paxton dancing is my life
I needed this! Bless you.
Can you hear the grandkids saying, Grandma, please leave your stuff and come be with me? Mommy please leave your work to maintain the big house and all the nice stuff and paint with me?
I would sweetie but I through all the paint out🤦♀️🤷♀️
I’m dealing with the China cabinet issue now! I have a spare bedroom with boxes full of my husband’s grandmother’s china. We didn’t keep the cabinet. My friend boxed up everything that was in it. Now I think we should have kept it so we wouldn’t have all these boxes now.
We have other stuff too that we’ve been selling on offer up and you’d be surprised that people will buy your old stuffed animals and magazines.
I’d say if you have the time sell it but if not donate it. Also look on eBay people will buy those old photos.
Thanks for sharing this. You clearly understand people!
"The more stuff you own, the more stuff owns you"
-- Church Puhuluik.
Absolutely love this man…so kind and nonjudgmental with the people on the show…💖🙏💖
A person could easily spend an entire day watching minimalist videos on UA-cam. But this should be one of them.
George Carlin ... forever love him ... has a great performance on stuff. Look it up. It’s HILARIOUS!
Seen it. The man was a sage. RIP
Bought his book. Love the GUY.
Felt he manipulates by saying
“You hafta know where you want to end up.” WRONG
JUST UNDO THE CLUTTER
Getting rid of lots of stuff the last ten years. But now at 73 making sure to do the Swedish Death Cleaning. I don’t want my kids to have all this junk to get rid of. Loved my condo being more organized and cleaner
They’re not always going to be asking to play with you! :)
I watch hoarders for inspiration. I do not have a hoard but managed to get 3 bags to go to the thrift store while watching! 😂
"Which Cheez-It® do you like?" has a real Mitch Hedberg vibe
Use it or lose it: Great advice
Matt Paxton is a SAINT !
If you are interested in this topic and want to understand it better- highly recommend Walden by Henry David Thoreau. A very succinct and powerful book in the same vein.
I really enjoyed this talk. Thank you.
This guy is epic I loved watching this ted talk
My mom labels every single picture and I believe pictures are very important.
Loved this talk
I met Matt at a restaurant I worked at in Richmond. Great dude.
I really enjoyed his upbeat/realness - It was easy to want to watch the video all the way through 👊👌🤸♀️🤸♀️
I just found this so much truth. Thank you 😊
One of the reasons that people don't want the 'stuff'.....is because we are far less socially comfortable than our older family members, be it financially, or for space or for time. It's not that I wouldn't want beautiful hand made furniture...I just don't have the security in my life to keep it safe.
I don't see the 1% decluttering. We have all lost that security. 'They' still have it.
And there’s alway going to be people on the sidelines pushing for a speedy “de cluttering” and minimalist lifestyle for those who don’t have security, are unsure of it, and the non 1% elders, so that they can step in and profit from it or because they find it bothersome. I find that occasional Döstädning is very helpful and therapeutic with my clients of all ages and is less crass and wasteful.
This man is admirable!
Indeed😊
Inspiring motivational speaker, Matt!
Matt Paxton, I live in Fredericksburg, Virginia and I absolutely love your work! ❤
Really enjoyed this! 😊🙏💙
My mother was a very wise person.
Once when I first married she said to me....
Do you know how children spell LOVE?
The question was so obvious that I knew she meant something different.
So I responded, No how do they spell LOVE.
She responded...
TIME
It is not the money, it is not the things that they want, it is a bit of your time. Play ball, do a project, sit on the porch and talk to them but spend TIME with them.
You know,!?, this is very good. I’ve studied and studied and lived with this issue.
Yup! The Way To Let Go!
Loved this video. Hopefully I can follow some of the suggestions...
Minimalist......... In my day it was Frugal. You only bought what you Needed. Not what you wanted. The money was for necessity.
I wish he had more time to speak. I’d like to hear more business/personal advice.
‘Have you ever seen a hearse towing a U-Haul?’
Matt please write more books!
Love Matt. Will watch any video with him in it.
Loved this.
Always good advice.
Love this so much! One of the best talks I’ve found on this subject. ❤️
love this man!!!