Darcy & Tara | Therapist Reacts RAW to Heartstopper

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  • @jcwebb264
    @jcwebb264 Рік тому +546

    I'm an entire middle-aged adult. I'm also bi - I SOBBED my way through Heartstopper. Having grown up in an area where being anything other than straight wasn't safe, this show is everything I want for the younger generation ❤

    • @missnaomi613
      @missnaomi613 Рік тому +7

      I didn't sob, but otherwise SAME!

    • @not_you_i_dont_even_know_you
      @not_you_i_dont_even_know_you Рік тому +8

      Same - this show makes me ugly cry every time. So much sweetness and acceptance mixed with the very real struggles of being a teen, being "different". Nick's conversation at the end of season 1 with his mom almost killed me I was crying so hard. ❤

    • @kerrybutcher283
      @kerrybutcher283 Рік тому +2

      I am so happy that this show is there for kids today.

  • @ThePariscope
    @ThePariscope Рік тому +384

    I definitely recommend watching the whole show chronologically, the growth of the characters within each of their arcs is so beautiful and unique! Nick realizing his bisexuality is just THE best representation that bi people never get.

    • @not_you_i_dont_even_know_you
      @not_you_i_dont_even_know_you Рік тому +3

      🎉 for real

    • @ZackRekeSkjell
      @ZackRekeSkjell Рік тому +6

      Agreed! Good representation of bisexuality is rare in film and other media, and I’ve loved to see Nick’s journey.

    • @zararobnett8284
      @zararobnett8284 Рік тому +2

      I agree. It’s difficult to be bi because most people wants you to just hide the gayer part

  • @alberthewulf-andersen611
    @alberthewulf-andersen611 Рік тому +144

    Seeing you, a person of faith, being so open and accepting of the queer community means so much to me. I'm both a part of the lgbtq+ community AND a girl of faith. A lot of Christians tell me I'm not a real Christian because of this. They of course have the right to mean this, but it has been hard to live with both of these parts of me

    • @MendedLight
      @MendedLight  Рік тому +27

      Our love and support to you. It's not easy, I'm sure. God bless you. - Jonathan

    • @mads_is_bor3d81
      @mads_is_bor3d81 Рік тому +12

      I relate with this, I am a person of faith and I’m bisexual and it’s difficult. I remember when I was first figuring it all out I felt like such a terrible person. I would hear girls I knew from church saying stuff like oh there’s no such thing as a gay Christian. I even had close friends ghost me because they were uncomfortable with the idea that I could maybe be attracted to them. It’s nice to know somebody else gets it. I hope you have an awesome day, God bless! 💖

    • @stuartlovestoby
      @stuartlovestoby Рік тому +8

      I used to be chrsitan but i got pushed away from it due to the amount of negativity they give the lgbtq+ community where i live. Its very bad. Maybe ill try again someday but for now i just cant agree with them when they're so rude. (Also i understand there's a few nice ones like you two. Thanks for being there for us!

    • @astridfigueroa2904
      @astridfigueroa2904 Рік тому +6

      This comment really helped to understand that being a Christian and an LGBTQ+ person is possible. I personally have been struggling with the my personal attractions and always get angry for not being able to be as the straight- Christian woman, that the religious world expects me to be. Balancing these two things is really hard and your comment made me realize that at least I am not alone. Thank you.

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq Рік тому +725

    I love how wholesome Tara and Darcy are. They even stated that they were lesbians, not just gay, which is refreshing to see. 🏳️‍🌈👭

    • @asterismos5451
      @asterismos5451 Рік тому +26

      It's so great to see them actually use that word, since it's generally avoided due to being sexualized, which is such a shame. I do miss though how about 90% of the time the comics use the word "bisexual" instead of just "bi," since bisexual is another word that's been unfairly stigmatized and sexualized.

    • @Ozloz
      @Ozloz Рік тому +3

      It’s honestly kind of a pet peeve of mine when someone calls a lesbian “gay” because, and correct me if I’m wrong, gay mean a guy attracted to a guy, so calling lesbians “gay” feels a lot like just erasure of the word entirely, it always seems like people are scared to use it

    • @asterismos5451
      @asterismos5451 Рік тому +16

      @@Ozloz It usually means a guy attracted exclusively to men but it also means same gender-attraction so lesbains as well, but it's also an umbrella term meaning queer, so can include lesbians, bisexuals, etc..

    • @angie_gx
      @angie_gx Рік тому +3

      ​@astawesth-kristensen972😂😂😂not the straight (I think). Hopefully you won't be having Nick's proper full on gay crisis soon

    • @dc9024
      @dc9024 Рік тому +1

      I have a question. Is it bad or something to say gay instead of lesbian? I hope I don't offend anyone, I'm just curious, beacause here in Mexico (or at least in my city) I hear normally lesbian, I'm used to say that too, but sometimes I hear gay, and I thought it was also okay, just another way of saying something. But with your comment I started to doubt.
      Or maybe it's not bad, but like @asterismos5451 said it was sexualized a lot, so people stoped using it and now you're glad that they're using that word again because people shouldn't do that (sexualize it) and it's the start of the change (i hope I explain myself clearly in this last part, I couldn't find the right words to say what I mean with my limited knowledge of the language)?
      P.S. sorry for my english, it's not my first language

  • @katiee0417
    @katiee0417 Рік тому +272

    Tara and Darcy are such an adorable and supportive couple. Darcy has a hard life at home, and Tara brings her some light in her life. And Tara only feels strong enough to be her authentic self because of Darcy. Ugh love them!!

    • @Ariel-ps8je
      @Ariel-ps8je Рік тому +4

      Yes! They bring out the best in each other ❤️ so sweeeeet

  • @notasleepmymindisalive
    @notasleepmymindisalive Рік тому +262

    A. nick is bi
    B. tara and nick kissed once, they weren’t boyfriend and girlfriend

    • @Kisozriel
      @Kisozriel Рік тому +27

      Okay, calm down. He already admitted he hasn’t gotten to watch it yet. That’s the point of the “raw” portion of the title.

    • @sarahsmiles2867
      @sarahsmiles2867 Рік тому +52

      ​@@Kisozrielop was just correcting him I don't see the problem

    • @Kisozriel
      @Kisozriel Рік тому +28

      @@sarahsmiles2867 I dunno, numbering it feels a little harsh to me, I guess. Bad habit on my part. My mom used to use the number method in crumby ways when explaining why I was always so horrible. It’s being worked on, promise. Sorry sorry ^-^;

    • @notasleepmymindisalive
      @notasleepmymindisalive Рік тому +32

      @@Kisozriel ahahah it very much was not my intension to sound harsh sorry abt that. i understand jono didn’t know everything abt the show and i thought i’d let him know. i’m a little protective of this show, since it meant so much to me

    • @asterierrantry
      @asterierrantry Рік тому +7

      also nick wasnt out yet and he wasnt even with charlie at that point when he mentioned it haha

  • @QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse
    @QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse Рік тому +161

    Would love to see a Heartstopper full season reaction over on Cinema Therapy!!
    It would be great to see your thoughts on how the relationships evolve and we can see how many times it makes Alan cry 😂

  • @Liebling_li
    @Liebling_li Рік тому +233

    Nick is bi, actually 😂🌚💖🥰🍃🌿🌱

    • @weee2861
      @weee2861 Рік тому +5

      🤧

    • @conobravomolina8726
      @conobravomolina8726 Рік тому +12

      Bi actually so .... But yeah 🤣✨💛

    • @zararobnett8284
      @zararobnett8284 Рік тому +9

      He hasn’t seen the show yet 😂 🤫

    • @NightOwlReader2790
      @NightOwlReader2790 Рік тому +8

      @@zararobnett8284 However, he told people to tell him what he is missing. Treating a tv show character's sexuality is not a spoiler.

    • @froggy_b0nk
      @froggy_b0nk Рік тому +3

      That’s exactly what I said 😂😂

  • @rubysmolen5155
    @rubysmolen5155 Рік тому +104

    I suggest reacting to ben's "apology" to Charlie and how Charlie responds to the apology in season 2

    • @tuesfay
      @tuesfay Рік тому

      i believe he already did!

    • @rubysmolen5155
      @rubysmolen5155 Рік тому +12

      @@tuesfay he reacted to the assault scene not ben's attempted apology in season 2

    • @tuesfay
      @tuesfay Рік тому +5

      @@rubysmolen5155 oh wait you're totally right lmao my bad

    • @ravennarav2647
      @ravennarav2647 Рік тому +1

      Omg yess +1

  • @ThePurpleCheeseMan
    @ThePurpleCheeseMan Рік тому +262

    I'm also a straight, white man (less religious lately but I grew up with that background) and you embody a lot of the values I strive for.
    Who cares about virtue signaling or being woke? I think it's beautiful to see people being happy cause they can be themselves! I hope to be a friend to anyone that doesn't feel accepted, because growing up, I sure didn't.

  • @weee2861
    @weee2861 Рік тому +44

    NICK IS BISEXUAL ACTUALLY (no hate, just wanted to put it out there💓)

    • @patiencekillz
      @patiencekillz Рік тому +10

      he’s bi, actually

    • @Dinawlms
      @Dinawlms Рік тому +2

      @@patiencekillz i love ur pfp!!

    • @Milk-mq6gl
      @Milk-mq6gl Рік тому

      WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT

    • @patiencekillz
      @patiencekillz Рік тому +1

      @@Dinawlms ahh ty! michael and tori are my liiiife

    • @Dinawlms
      @Dinawlms Рік тому

      @@patiencekillz same i love them sm!!

  • @missnaomi613
    @missnaomi613 Рік тому +43

    I'm a religious, Jewish lady. I'm also bisexual, which I only realized after immersing myself in LGBT+ edutainment so that I could be the best ally/advocate as possible for my (grown) trans kid. (Turns out, 2 of my 3 kids are trans. My enby and my daughter.) My religious beliefs guide MY actions, not anyone else's! Yay for reasonable people everywhere, religious or not!
    🙏❤🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

  • @riahnoel6680
    @riahnoel6680 Рік тому +33

    Alice Oseman: absolutely greatest at writing healthy relationships

  • @riahnoel6680
    @riahnoel6680 Рік тому +49

    I highly recommend moving Heartstopper up your to-watch cue. It's so heartfelt and genuine and absolutely bursting with queer joy. So much "queer" media seems to be marketed towards straight people, speaking to straight people, saying "Look at these poor sad gays! Look how sad they are! Be sorry for them! Be kind to them!"
    Heartstopper is by and for and speaking to queer people, especially queer youth. Heartstopper says, "YOU are deserving of love. YOU can find joy, not in spite of who you are, but because of who you are."

  • @gwinnellheald8592
    @gwinnellheald8592 Рік тому +99

    Ahh! Would love to see more hearstopper! Id love to see you explore Nick discovering/ coming to terms with his sexuality in season 1 and Charlie's disordered eating and need for control in season 2

  • @vulcanhumor
    @vulcanhumor Рік тому +8

    1:12 "Nick has now come out as gay is is dating Charlie"
    Nick: "Bisexual, actually."

  • @tatumespino6705
    @tatumespino6705 Рік тому +17

    The world needs more men like you jono, your willing to learn from others and being a safe place for others is actually really damn awesome. Thank you for being you.

  • @02crimez
    @02crimez Рік тому +4

    I’d love to see you talk about Charlie’s eating disorder! Ngl, I did use your videos to study and write my papers in undergrad!

  • @Det.Flynn9125
    @Det.Flynn9125 Рік тому +68

    Tara and Darcy are my absolute favourite couple in this show
    They’re so cute together and they’re not afraid of showing that they’re in a relationship
    I love them ❤❤❤

  • @katiee0417
    @katiee0417 Рік тому +38

    I love how you mention expanding your understanding of experiences different than your own. I think that people forget to care about people who don’t think, look, act or love like they do. By watching and learning about experiences different than your own, you become more empathetic as a person and more compassionate for all people❤️

  • @JeccaJ
    @JeccaJ Рік тому +41

    I really hope you bump Heartstopper up your watch list and share your reactions! We need more professional reactions to these situations

    • @AliSparks2
      @AliSparks2 Рік тому +1

      Dr Elliott Carthy is reacting to all of the episodes and he is awesome!

    • @JeccaJ
      @JeccaJ Рік тому

      @alilitooki I've binge-watch all his and their joint vid was how I originally found this channel! I love Cinematherapy too!

  • @paulineelric8761
    @paulineelric8761 Рік тому +51

    I found this show a few days ago and I watched it already the second time. Because Iooooooove this show so much like I never had before.
    How they talk to another, how they solve problems without the drama, how they take step by step and don't rush into it.
    I love everything and I'm exited about the 3rd. Season ❤❤

  • @thirzeebbers9472
    @thirzeebbers9472 Рік тому +11

    Definitely LOVE Tara and Darcy. Tara, who brings a bit of light in Darcys life, her having a hard time at home. And Darcy being the reason Tara feel comfortable. You should def watch the show. Everyone's storyline is great. They all grow throughout the series. But I wanna shine some extra light on Isaacs storyline. I LOVE the aroace representation. Not just in a way of; Hi I'm aroace, I don't feel attraction. But the hard part of it. The; why does everyone feel this way, but I don't. Why have I never had crushes? Why am I feeling this way? And him discovering it through a side-character... Love it!!! Great show, have already watched it 4 times!!

  • @lesedintuli340
    @lesedintuli340 Рік тому +19

    Young Royals and Please Like Me are another good queer rep

  • @gingiebread1584
    @gingiebread1584 Рік тому +9

    Nick is bi, actually 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈😂

  • @not_you_i_dont_even_know_you
    @not_you_i_dont_even_know_you Рік тому +11

    If I had been around more christians like yourself as a kid/young adult, maybe I wouldn't have needed to leave the faith. I so appreciate you sticking up for those of us who just want to be free to be ourselves.
    Edit: its especially rare to see someone who calls themselves conservatice so invested in learning about other people's experiences. It shouldnt be so but it is. So thank you for leaning into your curiosity and compassion, it genuinely makes you better at your job and, i believe, a better person.

  • @heartstopperdeepdives
    @heartstopperdeepdives Рік тому +32

    They really made you react to a fan edit blind? That's certainly a choice. Not that there's a Tara and Darcy scene you could really blind react to, their story is pretty gradual and gets so impactful and stronger in season 2. Very interesting what you said about your experience in women's studies. My gender studies class is pretty much full of people you'd expect to see there, so just people who already know a lot of the things we learn about.

  • @asterismos5451
    @asterismos5451 Рік тому +11

    I'd love to see Isaac's s2 storyline covered! He's discovering he's aroace and it's so great to see that on TV. I don't think I've ever seen a (human) character on TV be aromantic before and as an aromantic-spectrum person myself, it means so much. The storyline itself is written by an aroace woman and the acting was fantastic and everything was really (to use your word) heartfelt and authentic and carefully and respectfully handled. A lot of it really spoke to me.

    • @giabertozzi2104
      @giabertozzi2104 Рік тому +1

      same, love it

    • @adeleennis2255
      @adeleennis2255 Рік тому +3

      I’m demisexual myself, so it was so nice to see an ace represented. It can be so difficult when you just don’t have that societal need to pair up. Yes, I can look at someone and know that they are “hot” by societal standards, and I might find them aesthetically pleasing to look at, but that doesn’t mean I want to “jump their bones”. I need a lot of intellectual stimulation. I want to get to know the other person’s brain. I want to talk about history, religion, and politics.

  • @tiffanyraeazzarito2973
    @tiffanyraeazzarito2973 Рік тому +4

    Others have already said, but please note that Nick is bi, actually 😉 It’s an important part of the character and show.

  • @kerpimon7149
    @kerpimon7149 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for being so honest and sincere with who you are, Jono! I'm on the path to become a counselor, and I'm a religious white demisexual female. I look to you as an example of someone who can provide excellent counselling without judgement, I really and truly appreciate your videos, here and on CinemaTherapy! You embrace difficult topics so openly, I'm so glad to have found your content!

  • @driazia
    @driazia Рік тому +5

    Honestly, Heartstopper should be at the top of your list because it’s a fast and easy watch. Also, it’s wholesome and genuine af! ❤🎉😊

  • @mallorybotos1901
    @mallorybotos1901 Рік тому +18

    I've never seen heartstopper is it worth the watch?

  • @lunavioleta001
    @lunavioleta001 Рік тому +5

    One thing that I've herd a lot is, especially when it comes to characters,"why is coming out such a big deal?" Or " I am not homophobic, but just stop making gay their identity". I underatand some of these reasons or could possibly agree with some these criticism when it comes to these movies and shows, but a lot of this comes from a place of ignorance. Coming out is a "big deal" becuase there is no equality. Many has been using "gay" as a idendity becuase "gay' has always been a negative indendity. It isn't the "gays" that made it as an indetity, it is the homophobes and the bigots that did this. So it is weird how they attack gays and "liberals" of this when they didn't started this.
    There is zero country that made heterosexuality illegal. There is zero country that kills or arrest people because they are straight. So it is important to understand the context and reason.

  • @lesedintuli340
    @lesedintuli340 Рік тому +8

    Young Royals and Please Like Me are another good queer rep

  • @clarabrandaog
    @clarabrandaog Рік тому +12

    nick is not gay and hadnt come out as bi at that point, he and tara kissed once and he did have a crush on her when they were young tho

  • @vermac2890
    @vermac2890 Рік тому +3

    Seriously, it's the BEST show. It's heartwarming and wholesom and it has become my personal happy place. I just can't help but smile (and maybe cry) when I see clips of it
    It's just such a positive story, it acknoledges the struggles of being queer especially in school and later on it also deals with mental health problems but it shows all those things being dealt with in a very good way

  • @LeopardDemon-ql9cv
    @LeopardDemon-ql9cv Рік тому +10

    I love hearstopper so much because of its healthy portrayal of lgbtq+ teens.
    Nick, which is one of the main characters, comes out as bisexual, and as a bisexual myself, felt extremely seen and I was OVERJOYED with seeing a character as amazing and understanding as Nick be the representation for us fellow bisexuals, instead of the sexually active and cheating portrayal of us.
    The amount of dialogue among the characters is so refreshing as well. Compared to teen dramas we typically see where there’s a lot of miscommunication to the point where it’s hard to watch, hearstopper is a refreshing, healthy show that really just brings out the light in the lgbt experience. Idk if I’m explaining myself, all in all 10/10 absolute amazing show :)

  • @KirstenWakiesa
    @KirstenWakiesa Рік тому +12

    Ted Lasso would say: Be curious, not judgmental.
    My neighbours are a gay married couple and I love them, they are some of the friendliest, warm and just kind people I've ever met.
    Are you gonna do anything from Hawkeye as well ?

  • @Jag592
    @Jag592 Рік тому +3

    Nick is Bisexual, actually 😅😅if you know you know 😜😜

  • @Sba_w
    @Sba_w Рік тому +9

    I wish all people had your mindset of learning other people's povs and undrstanding others.

  • @Dinawlms
    @Dinawlms Рік тому +4

    1:20 he’s bi actually

  • @brittanywilcox7377
    @brittanywilcox7377 Рік тому +11

    THIS WAS AMAZING!!! Thank you so much for opening up about your journey to acceptance and love despite your religious upbringing. I had an extremely toxic fundamental upbringing and as someone who does have a queer identity, it took me until I was in my mid thirties to begin living authentically and feeling safe enough to do so. This was amazing!

  • @AliceWanders
    @AliceWanders Рік тому +4

    Please credit the creator of your video somewhere. This video wasn't made by Netflix this has been fan created and they need to be credited

  • @simonhourani5228
    @simonhourani5228 Рік тому +3

    Tbh I think you should paus the other shows and watch it if you want too since watching both seasons would only take like maybe less than 8h😂

  • @alyssaprendergast476
    @alyssaprendergast476 Рік тому +12

    I love your analysis of queer people and their struggles in society. I think I’m bi curious, beyond that, I believe everyone deserves to be respected regardless of gender, race or ethnicity. At the core of us all we all bleed and we all feel profoundly.
    Jono I’d love for you to give your thoughts on other LGBTQ+ shows like Love Victor and Young Royals!
    For Heartstopper I’d love for you to analyze Nick exploring being bisexual and coming out to his school. I’d also enjoy it if you analyzed Charlie’s eating disorder in season 2.
    Thank you so much for everything you do on this channel!

    • @DarrellSluis
      @DarrellSluis Рік тому +2

      The eating disorder starts in season 1, it's just not very obvious. He should do a reaction and see of he picks up on it.

  • @IzzyBlue-n8t
    @IzzyBlue-n8t Рік тому +3

    by the way nick is bisexual not gay but this video is great can’t wait to see you react to the whole show especially season two 😁😁

  • @megdelaney3677
    @megdelaney3677 Рік тому +3

    💛LOVE HEARTSTOPPER! 💙 Fantastic cast of dynamic young actors! So emotionally invested in these characters! Drop whatever you had planned to watch & see this series FIRST!

  • @ZephWraen
    @ZephWraen Рік тому +4

    At this point I think it would be better for you to just watch at least all of season 1 (it's pretty short, only about 4 hours) so you understand the context of the scenes you keep being sent lol.

  • @loudly1925
    @loudly1925 Рік тому +8

    It's a relief to get a negative answer to a question I often can't even allow myself to ask: if I am myself here, am I in danger?
    Thank you for your statement and to the entire team for their work

  • @Frainbowarrior
    @Frainbowarrior Рік тому +4

    Your videos are so precious. Can't wait to see you react and analyse the entire show of Heartstopper ad all these special characters! 💖🍂🏳️‍🌈

  • @DaniBearrrr
    @DaniBearrrr Рік тому +2

    I’m so glad you’ve been reacting to Heartstopper! Honestly I could go on about it for days, it’s my favorite show right now and I would definitely bring it up your watchlist. It’s so refreshing and new because it’s not everyday you get to see a perfectly balanced lgbtq+ show. Most of the time they focus on only the angst or self loathing and make out the queer experience as something so different from the straight experience when in reality, it’s not. We love the same. We all want to be happy, and this show does such a good job in capturing the idea that everyone is deserving of love in every single form of the word.

  • @nicolawrisdale7364
    @nicolawrisdale7364 Рік тому +5

    nick is bisexual!!

  • @Cygnusart0843
    @Cygnusart0843 Рік тому +2

    1:15 idk if they ever were actually official bc they kissed once when they were 13 and relationships don’t last long at that age 😂 also Nick is Bi (although didn’t know at the time) and wasn’t officially dating Charlie.

  • @maritspeecke8404
    @maritspeecke8404 Рік тому +1

    I loved this video! I definitly dropped a tear or 2 watching this because of the way u were talking about seeing yourself in other who are different than u are. I hope that the next generation can grow up in a world in which this mindset is more common and is even more accepting and openminded than it is now.

  • @Cardiax
    @Cardiax Рік тому +2

    Nick is bisexual actually. A big portion of the first season is about his realizing this. Also, I love Tara and Darcy too. They're just as good as Nick and Charlie. I love that the second season has more about them.

  • @melissacenteno3014
    @melissacenteno3014 Рік тому +3

    Nick is bi 🩷💜💙

  • @1Melaya1
    @1Melaya1 Рік тому +2

    Nick is Bi, Actually xD (it's like a running gag. Watch it!)

  • @NecoNiko
    @NecoNiko Рік тому +2

    Nick’s bi, actually

  • @Bagsy454
    @Bagsy454 Рік тому +2

    Nick is bi actually not gay!! This was very nice thank u

  • @npiontek
    @npiontek Рік тому +1

    Nick is not gay- he is bi. Bi-erasure is a real thing and he says "I am bi, actually." a few times on the show.

  • @maggieg.recommendsandrants3081

    Your producers are trying their hardest to get you to watch this series!

  • @PhoenixVic21
    @PhoenixVic21 11 місяців тому +1

    I LOVE how authentic and "hey this is me" Johnno is! He's Christian, says it most videos, but he says this 10:42 and that is REALLY important.
    The Bible isn't a window or a hammer to look out into the world and beat people with...the Bible is a mirror to have you look at yourself
    Thank you Johnno for being so kind and open to learning other people ❤ (as they as is Mando) This is the way

  • @stefanib.4283
    @stefanib.4283 Рік тому +2

    The fact that youre reacting to an edit is so cool. I need to start binge watching your videos because you capture every feeling from the show perfectly without even seeing it

  • @salemoh9759
    @salemoh9759 Рік тому +5

    Watch season 2 you understand Darcy

  • @amarahslittlelife
    @amarahslittlelife Рік тому +1

    I don’t know if you’ll see this, but it would mean a lot if you analysed Ben’s apology to Charlie in S2.
    Long, Personal Explanation:
    my dad (straight, cis, religious man) watched the series with me (a recently out lesbian who connects a lot with charlie). He said he was disappointed with how charlie treated ben, stating that he was basically dipping down to ben’s level. He said charlie took the opportunity to “lash out” in anger and make ben feel every bit as worthless as ben had made charlie feel, which i disagree with. I pointed out how charlie didn’t use any terms that were targetted toward making ben feel worthless, only putting up CLEAR boundaries after his many attempts to cut ties, in addition to actually using his energy to explain to ben why and how his actions hurt so much.
    my dad said i was just defensive of charlie because i see a lot of myself in him and think he’s a perfect character. I am defensive of charlie, and i do see a lot of myself in him, but I know he is far from perfect.
    it admittedly hurts that a moment i saw as strong character development, and a healthy way of handling the confusing situation, to be seen as “dipping down to ben’s level”. To the point where my dad would blame charlie if ben were to hurt himself.
    it makes me worry about the kind of support i’ll have if i ever have the confidence to stand up for myself to someone like ben.
    So it would mean a lot if you, a licensed therapist, could cover the situation. I think it would provide a lot of people with better understanding of these difficult dynamics.
    Thank you for your videos

  • @ravennarav2647
    @ravennarav2647 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for reacting at this amazing show, but there is one thing that really annoyed me, that is you saying that nick is gay. He is BISEXUAL and this is really important to adress becouse so many bi people are just erased from stories and real life and there is so much bifobia. I’m not attacking you or hating on you, I get that you just didn’t know but it’s really important to me as a bi person to show bi charackters

  • @MrMars5893
    @MrMars5893 Рік тому +1

    Wow. I'm brand new here and I have to say.... what a refreshing perspective! Please, please do move this amazing show up on the list. I really look forward to seeing your truly delightful perspective on the story as a whole.

  • @tigerlilly5849
    @tigerlilly5849 Рік тому +1

    I am a young lesbian who also happens to be Christian, I have found I don't fully fit in either place and it's hard to be fully open about who I am in both areas. I get anxious around other people of faith because im afraid they would hate me and I can't talk about my faith to my other queer friends as they tend to make fun of Christianity especially because of their bad experiences with some of the people within it. It sucks because being queer and religious are not mutually exclusive but I don't feel completely welcome as I am in both spaces. People like you who help show you can be Christian and supportive/an ally or Christian and gay or trans really help and make me feel seen. I love seeing other Christians who are openly supportive as I feel so safe and just allowed to come as I am. Anyway all this to say, thank you ❤

  • @sadfaery
    @sadfaery Рік тому +1

    I would like to point out that the music and editing of the order of the scenes here is possibly a fan edit because that's not the actual order of scenes in the show itself and also not the music in the show itself. I highly recommend watching the entire series sooner rather than later. I think you'll find it more rewarding than watching compilations of scenes. And possibly even better for reacting to because you get to see how the different characters interact with each other more than in the edits like this. I'm a social worker and this is absolutely an exemplary show for showcasing mental health issues faced by teenagers today, and particularly those faced by LGBTQ+ teens. And it's also just a sweet, beautiful series overall, and is easily now my most favorite TV show of all time, having overtaken the 20+ year run of Buffy as my favorite show.

  • @RCanadian
    @RCanadian Рік тому +1

    Thanks for sharing.
    I took a Women's Study course in uni; I was the only guy. No one I knew said anything to me about it. I am glad I took the course.
    When I was younger, I took a family studies course in jr high, but it was a cooking class, and I was the only guy. Back then, I switched classes because I didn't want to take the chance of being teased; it was bad enough that I was a closeted gay teen (and being from a religious family, that was bad enough), never mind being physically disabled.

  • @kitsch_kai
    @kitsch_kai Рік тому +1

    as nick himself likes to mention, he is bi (actually)

  • @anniehale5507
    @anniehale5507 Рік тому +1

    I LOVE HEARTSTOPPER ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💗🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💗💜💙

  • @LadyPflanzelot
    @LadyPflanzelot Рік тому +1

    I love how the automatic subtitles changed Mended Light to "Men Delight". xD

  • @Insipid42
    @Insipid42 11 місяців тому +1

    If more people with faith acted like you, there'd be more people of faith.

  • @jonnievangenuchten7752
    @jonnievangenuchten7752 Рік тому +1

    In this clip Nick is not out yet, he is inspired by Tara and Darcy on being out.

  • @floraison_funebres
    @floraison_funebres Рік тому +4

    I can't wait for you to watch the show and give more of your analysis about it !

  • @davidlohmanmn
    @davidlohmanmn Рік тому +1

    Thank you for preaching! I'm 62, gay, and Heartstopper makes me so happy (and sad for the youth I didn't have).

  • @kikikitten15
    @kikikitten15 Рік тому +1

    Heartstoper down the line starts to talk about other mental health stuff I realy want you to see it >_< also a new movie called Nimona is another good one to react to, has lbgt and mental health too

  • @ridaskia
    @ridaskia Рік тому +1

    I want a Cinema Therapy episode on Heartstopper pleaseeeee

  • @kikitaostrof
    @kikitaostrof Рік тому +2

    Oh this is so sweet! I think Tara and Darcy are done really well. As a queer person I can say that Heartstopper is worth the watch. It really is so comforting. And I love that even straight, privileged people can feel that. Thank you for this content 💛

  • @alyssagggghik
    @alyssagggghik Рік тому +3

    PLEASE watch the show asap, it is 100% the best show I’ve watched in years from a life lesson perspective it teaches so much

  • @joshuahoward6845
    @joshuahoward6845 Рік тому +1

    Just a correction, Nick is bi. Not gay

  • @willofiron26
    @willofiron26 Рік тому +1

    Nick is not gay. He is bisexual

  • @seanchadwick9036
    @seanchadwick9036 Рік тому +1

    No Nick is bisexual, not gay.

  • @inairacardoso
    @inairacardoso Рік тому +1

    Hey there, Nick is not gay, he is bi

  • @applepatronum4934
    @applepatronum4934 Рік тому +1

    You should move it up your Q!

  • @PetterNotPan
    @PetterNotPan Рік тому +1

    He's bi, actually...

  • @sagejennings4342
    @sagejennings4342 День тому

    The thing that can make a person feel most safe with you is exactly as you said, learning. I will feel most safe with you not if I think you will never hurt me, but if you demonstrate the ability to acknowledge when you do, validate my pain, and adjust immediately.

  • @tes912
    @tes912 Рік тому +1

    You should definitely watch it soon, the 2 seasons are only 8 hours all together so please watch it soon it's soooo good

  • @mylaeamaker5587
    @mylaeamaker5587 Рік тому +1

    Your segways are getting better. I also think you should watch this show

  • @freckled-jellyfish
    @freckled-jellyfish Рік тому +1

    Something that I would perhaps like to see is his reaction to Imogen's abusive relationship with Ben and how she handles the relationship itself, but also the breakup and how they both handle it

  • @ida8355
    @ida8355 Рік тому +1

    He’s bi actually

  • @tennisCharlzz
    @tennisCharlzz Рік тому +1

    A mild observation to begin with. Maybe it's the British pronunciation, but the first syllable of Tara's name rhymes with the first syllable of Darcy's name. So the first syllable of Tara rhymes with far, car, star, and not care, stare, and fair. This show is based on graphic novels by Alice Osman (British), and this relationship is expanded compared to the original graphic novel. Their relationship is far ahead of Nick and Charlie. In Season 1, they are just getting ready to come out as a couple. Darcy has been out (I believe) longer but they've hidden their relationship and Tara has been closeted.
    Nick, who is just coming to terms with his sexuality in Season 1, is inspired by Tara and Darcy's relationship, and sees it as something to aspire to. It's unclear that Nick and Tara were boyfriend and girlfriend. It's more of a childhood crush when they were maybe 12 years old that culminated in a kiss that others insinuate meant Nick was still hot for Tara.
    Nick, who is the star rugby player, is pressured by Harry, a rich kid and fellow rugby player, to meet up with Tara, who attends and all girls school with Darcy (and they meet Elle, a transsexual who just joined the girls school, and become friends). Nick is closeted and doesn't like the pressure he's feeling from Harry to meet up with Tara, and is much more comfortable hanging out with Charlie.
    It's amusing because Harry and the other rugby lads don't seem to have girlfriends, and yet Harry pressures Nick to have one, as if Harry is living vicariously through Nick, the captain of the rugby team.
    The actor who plays Harry based the character on typical jocks seen in the British school system, but turns out, the actor in real life has ADHD, I think, and is interested in making movies, so quite different from the character he portrays. Similarly, the guy playing Ben got along well with the entire cast despite playing a negative character.
    The interesting part (to me) about Tara and Darcy is how few lesbian relationships are shown in popular LGBTQIA shows and Heartstopper is looking at all kinds of queer relationships in a wholesome manner without all the tragedy and angst common in teen gay storylines.
    A common trope is having a single gay teen relationship. Heartstopper also has a lesbian relationship, as well as a trans girl. They mildly suggest one character may be asexual (which is dealt with more in Season 2, but probably will play a bigger role in Season 3). So they're interested in showing all kinds of queer relationships.

  • @KB_-_
    @KB_-_ Рік тому +2

    Love his women’s studies story :) I had an eye-opening about the male experience watching the Alex Skeel documentary. I understand that his situation was extreme, but it really made me think in a whole new way about pressures men face about masculinity and how hard it is for them to ask for help. The doc was great & the full thing is on UA-cam if anybody is interested - I recommend it.

  • @mr.rainbow.pages.
    @mr.rainbow.pages. Рік тому +1

    *Nick is bisexual

  • @casey4290
    @casey4290 Рік тому +1

    Nicks Bi, actually 😂😂

  • @mseppanen86
    @mseppanen86 Рік тому +2

    Thanks so much for talking about these things. As a gay man who grew up in a super painful evangelical past, it means a lot to see you talk about these things. PREACH AWAY! 🎉
    ALSO, you NEED TO WATCH HEARTSTOPPER 😊! I think you'll really enjoy it. I know it's not super realistic, but it's been healing to see what a super idealized version of coming out queer in high school would be like. What it would be like to actually go through your teenage angst as a teenager rather than much later in life after coming out. The show gave me space to mourn what I didn't have and had to work so hard to claim later in life.

  • @ThePariscope
    @ThePariscope Рік тому +1

    Move it up the queue, move it up the queue!! 🤩

  • @jtlove8776
    @jtlove8776 Рік тому +2

    I appreciate your honesty and views on the subject. I wish everyone was so open to learn and accept others for who they are. Everything you’ve said was welcome in my heart. Thank you❤

  • @sagejennings4342
    @sagejennings4342 День тому

    Also btw the way the phrasing is so consistent in these comments bc "bi, actually" is a line in the show repeated