How to raise fearless children
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- Опубліковано 11 жов 2024
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It starts with a simple homework assignment: go home and do something new on your own, without help from adults.
This is the foundational concept of Let Grow, an organization founded by the “world’s worst mom,” Lenore Skenazy. Skenazy earned that title when she equipped her 9-year-old son with a map and $20, letting him navigate his own way home on the subway.
That experience convinced Skenazy of the value of giving children the freedom to exercise independence and self-reliance. Let Grow is a free program for use at home and in schools, designed to do just that. Parents and educators are shown how to guide children towards exploring their unique interests, on their own.
Let Grow believes that unlocking a child’s independence will nurture their confidence and self-reliance, producing the boldest generation we’ve seen in decades.
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Man as someone who has grown up with the most oppressive helicopter mom, this is such a refreshing worldview. By not letting your kid be independent you’re really hurting them. Because my mom constantly involved herself with everything I did, it made me feel like she didn’t trust me. Like she didn’t think that I could do it myself. And that’s a terrible thing to do, because it encourages the child to just push boundaries and break rules in hopes of getting some freedom. Helicopter parenting is a guaranteed way to push your children away.
I love this. We try to give our kid a lot of responsibility around the house but this is next level and I'm inspired to go further with their responsibility.
That's awesome to hear! Good luck!
Letting kids have gradually more freedom and responsibility over time leads them to become healthy, responsible adults. It works way better than 'protecting' your kid all the way until he gets to college and you throw him/her in the deep end all at once.
Exactly. Waiting and then throwing them into the deep end just leaves the world with adults who are too scared to even call their doctor 😮💨
Wonderful organization! Lenore inspired me to let my 3 year old go up the escalator himself at the airport after his repeated requests. That trust created a big breakthrough in our relationship, and spoiler alert: he was fine! Excellent work on this video Toops, Freethink, and the whole Stand Together tribe. 💚
That is awesome! Thanks for sharing and congrats to your little one!
I was taking buses to get home from school at 7. I was also given significant responsibility that I am essentially a parentified child. It was too much for me but there are aspects that I would apply to my own children because of how independent and self sufficient I am. Giving independence and teaching a child how take care of themselves (not you) makes them into self sufficient, resilient adults.
Thanks for sharing. There definitely is a line between allowing a child to be independent and overburdening them or checking out as a parent. Kids are capable of more than they often get credit for, but that doesn't mean that a loving and supportive parent isn't important for flourishing as well.
It's incredible how things change in one generation. When I was 9 I wasn't only taking care of myself but also my younger siblings because we had a single mom who worked graveyard shift. She was still in the house so if an emergency came up I would just wake her up. But she trusted us to feed and entertain ourselves and that I would keep them safe. That's unheard of now , and I really feel like kids are missing out on very important life skills
Absolutely and thanks for sharing. Sometimes the pendulum swings too far from one generation to the next and we lose sight of all that we're capable of.
She actually understands things objectively. She’s a pioneer and should be the one teaching our children
Totally agree. Thanks for the comment! 🙏
raising kids this way isnt being negligent, but putting more trust and responsibility to themselves. children at this age are very impressionable, every experience is novel to them. get them to cook their own meals, do their own laundry, clean their own room, let them have some independence in deciding when bedtime is, when they can study, and when they can play. obviously you have to supervise them, but just enough so that they can fail safely and they learn from that failure.
"Fail safely": absolutely!
I love this. I will try this with my child. Sometimes we can get so busy with trying to help our children learn their times tables, drive them to Judo class on time, ensure they remember to say please and thank you, that we forget to show them the faith we have in them, and show (not just tell) them that we see them growing into smart, responsible humans. Thank you for the reminder. 💜
Well said and so glad you liked it! Let us know how it goes :).
This is incredible and so important. Stepping out of the culture of fear is such a challenge but the rewards are beyond what we can imagine.
Absolutely!
Well done. Great job, Justin!
Reminds of Richard Branson and how his mum used to let him out the car somewhere unfamiliar for him to find his way back home by himself.
Lol, hadn't heard that one - but apparently there's a little truth to it!
“My mum is a very adventurous person. She very much felt that she wanted us to stand on our own two feet and not to be ‘mollycoddled,’ as she would call it,” the founder of Virgin Group told CNBC’s “The Brave Ones.”
“And there was the moment when I was four that we were going to Granny’s house in Devon,” Branson recalled. “About three miles before we got there - I think I must have been misbehaving or something in the back of it - she just pushed me out of the car and said, ‘Right, you make your own way there.’”
www.cnbc.com/2017/11/14/richard-branson-and-his-adventurous-entrepreneurial-spirit.html
This is amazing and has inspired me to nudge my kids to take more risks with what they are doing - I want them to be strong and independent!
That's awesome to hear!!
Great. Great. Great. Keep up the sublime, encouraging work. Gods bless y‘all. And everyone. Much love from Bavaria!
Thank you from America 😊
Well done Justin and crew.
They did an amazing job! 👏
Bruh in eastern Europe we used to go to school on our own at 8 and then we would play outside for hours without supervision.
Wow, really puts things into perspective. This idea is probably old news in many parts of the world 😂
I’m of genx, from NYC and was 8 when I started regularly taking the subway on my own. This isn’t strange to me in any way.
It's interesting to think what'd be like to go back in time for a few days. Society shifts gradually over time but then ends up in such a different place.
This is amazing!
Awsome job how can I get in on this and get this in our school's ?
Oh, yes, I'm with you 1000% on this.
Glad to hear! Have you been able to apply it in your life?
HELP I READ IT “How to raise a fatherless child”
Wonderful!
What's something your kids can do that people would be surprised by? Or that you've seen other kids do?
I have a 2.5 year old who I was inspired to involve in more family work by the book "Hunt, Gather, Parent." He loves to help cook dinner and keeps getting better at it. A lot of the skills - getting bowls, pouring ingredients, mixing - are super fun for him, and now he's getting to the point of standing on stepladders to work on the countertop and beginning to use the stovetop and microwave (with help, but hopefully not for long!). Love this video.
And a bonus - he's a lot more likely to eat dinner if he helps cook it :).
Lots of parents raised their kids to believe I'm dangerous.
Create the boldest generation in decades… goddamn they’re gonna eat up their anxious parents for breakfast, the likes of which not seen since the overthrowing of the titans
O YALL CAN TEACH YOUR CHILDREN BUT WHEN WE TAUGHT OURS TO DRIVE 18 WHEELER O WE WHERE NOT BEING GOOD PARENTS BOLONGA
This was all common sense before common core education. This is ridiculous.