Hyper-emotional people are really creepy to me. It's like watching somebody on drugs, like they're out of control and unpredictable. Very dangerous. I want nothing to do with somebody who can't control their own emotions.
I wonder if you have any thoughts on old vs new souls? I’ve always been told I’m an old soul or grandmother type. I absolutely believe in gender roles and know that my children need their father. When he gets deployed with the military, it’s extremely hard to give the children the balance they need. I’ve seen and felt it first hand. I really appreciated this video and wish people on both sides of the aisle could be more open to it.
@@sullathehutt7720 Men are known to claim that they're not emotional, and then drink and gamble their lives away because they refuse to seek help. The ego of "I'm not emotional" and the desperate need to maintain a masculine facade are more dangerous than the stereotypical female hysteria.
My ex couldn’t watch a war film or even the Titanic film because it was upsetting that people died , but it’s a shame she didn’t have that kind of empathy in our divorce where she destroyed me with false allegations and alienated my kids from me .
Yep. I see this sort of thing over and over again. They are cold and cruel for the things that actually matter. So I don't buy this whole nurturing thing in 2024. I think it's mostly a fiction women like to push to make themselves feel good.
Feel and look good. Social media has helped them exposed themselves and their chameleons antics. I don’t believe their SOFT GIRL ERA after they took themselves thru “HARD” times, HOT GIRL SUMMERS🔥🔥too bad they weaponize their emotional responses it’s hard to tell what you’re getting
I had a girlfriend whose ex cheated on her. Her own friend found out and told her. She still defended him as a decent guy. I said to her he was screwing other girls and could have given you an STD. Her ego wouldn’t allow her to admit to herself she got played.
@@rodrigolinscaldas3305 It's exactly the same as with children. Having to keep one's children behaving properly doesn't mean they aren't worth loving. Men have a false idea of what love with a woman is.
@@sanamuhammad97 the phrase "who hurt you?" along with your idgaf "😂" emoji was out of context based on the self evident nature of the comment he made. Your response comes off as a tad antagonistic and minimizing to a generalized statement expressed from what I suspect is a perspective of indeed being burned by women. His generalization isn't meant to be taken as there are no good women out there. The fact that you inadvertently inserted yourself into his narrative as the main villain just so you could be offended enough to hit back with insensitivity is most enlightening 🤔.
The ultimate sign of maturity, self control and wisdom is to control your animal instincts and not letting them to control you. For men is being too horny, for women is being too emocional.
Just that. Was thinking "wtf am i watching? making excuses for grown women that behave like children?". That is what got us into this whole mess, not what will get us out... All the talk about "high quality woman" totally ignoring that the primary factor in that is to be a... grown up.
Women do have empathy, just not for men. If we were to come home stressed and try to vent, she'll lose attraction for us. I had this classmate a while back, and we were friendly with each other (she is married, so it had to be friendly by default). I vented to her about my struggles with dating (my lack of girls that actually like me), and months later, she made fun of me by saying, "This is why you'll never get a girlfriend" Men inherently know not to stab at specific topics, women do not. You can call me fat, ugly, stupid, and I'll laugh and agree, but directly "joking" about the very likely prospect of never having a loving relationship is a taboo, but women don't care. None of my male friends, colleagues, coworkers, etc., had the evilness to attack a man's weakness, even as a joke.
Nah a gal can be as emotional as she likes with me i do not get upset by it, i find it adorable whenever they are in new situations and are upset by myriad of things most of which will never happen some which are plausible but unlikely and very few if any actual threats and you get to solve that problem with her make her feel better and at the same time form a deeper bond the key is understanding women not engaging in battle mode and i have a feeling that you dislike emotionality because you fear her cheating on you listen your number one friend against cheating is emotionality if she is happy and emotional she is loyal otherwise if she turns rational she has no reason NOT to cheat because my friend cheating is rational, there is no reason to not gain advantage if you can especially if you are optimizing for hedonism.
@@ironknightgaming5706 Being loyal is emotional not rational, if my position is improved by cheating it's irrational or emotional not to do it, you are confusing morality with rationality while being moral and ethical have nothing to do with rationality being a pathological liar and cheater is rational because it gets you to your goals in least amount of steps more efficiently and with higher likelihood of success.
They don’t care that’s why. According to women men aren’t allowed to have problems, have emotional issues and must remain stoic even if you witnessed your entire family get executed.
Easy - women despise the strength, authority, and natural dominance of a man. So, they have a base desire to bring a man down and fill the power vacuum to overrule him.
AG is putting forth some kind of hypothesis here. It's one of those "in a frictionless vacuum..." kind of statements. Sure, I guess "in theory" it could work that way. But I have yet to see, in my generation, where this kind of emotionality has been a positive force for society in an example I have beheld firsthand. Yet I have seen a LOT of firsthand examples where it leads to selfish indulgence and the destruction of good people and institutions. AG can pontificate till he turns blue - I'm not convinced.
Problem is for many guys, if you show your emotions, it may come off as being weak to a woman. Now depending how your relationship is at that moment, nothing may ever come of it. But if she is upset, or some point down the road she starts to question how the relationship is, she will remember you showing emotion and most likely use it against you, tell her friends about it in a demeaning way, etc.
Which is ironic because she is emotional all the time while still claiming to be strong, right? Lol. In my experience, being emotional isn't the problem as much as reacting to a problem emotionally instead of resolving the problem undermines another person's confidence in you, which is true for men and women.
This. This right here terrifies me... I've been chased by bears, fought off an attacking dog, started and finished several fist fights, almost lost one of my kids at childbirth, taken my asthmatic kid to the E.R. as they are turning blue and not responding... I have never been to war and I can't imagine the bravery our police, fire, and soldiers have. (I salute you). But the first clip of the woman who is so emotionally volatile and unstable... To me that's nature's way of telling me: "Stay away!!!" Like a rattlesnake rattling, Or a tiger growling, Or a giant bull chasing... It's best to run!!! I've also learned the hard way... I can't fix her. It's not my responsibility to fix her. I will get burnt if I try.
Knowing the important role men have in raising children, it's scary to think that most houseyholds are ran by single mothers. Statistics show that most criminals and prostitutes were raised by a single mother, and it's amazing to me that society celebrates single motherhood. While divorce might seem financially attractive to a woman it's tremendously destructive to their children. The pain and heartache later is not worth it in the long run, which is why a married couple should try to work it out.
This is MY experience from witnessing my male friends who had troubled marriages save FOR ONE The husband DESPERATELY wanted to work things out was willing to do/try anything but as is the norm with most adult children AKA females once they get it in their heads divorce is their best option there is no saving the marriage
I agree with traditional parenting roles and the statistics on single mothers are very clear but, they do not necessarily show that single mothers are "bad mothers". To make that claim we would have to adjust for the woman's behaviour prior to becoming a mother. I believe such an adjustment would show us that there is a strong correlation between values, decision making process, and behavior of a woman leading her to become a single mother, more so than single mothers just being "bad mothers". A party girl trying to lock Chadrone down by having his child I believe will very likely be a bad mother whether she ends up a single parent or not. In contrast, a traditional girl who ends up a single mother for reasons much less in her power might be a great mother even if she is a single mother. For years I have been hoping for someone to make this adjustment to the studies, but I guess no one dares to touch the subject.
There has never been a civilization in history in which millions of women chose to get pregnant without someone promising to be there and provide. Socialists, who admit that they want to collapse our capitalist system, began paying women to stay single. They replaced a husband with a government check. (Paid with men's taxes) But nobody bothered to replace the father for the children. Stop the free money today, women will close their legs tonight. They'll go back to staying with one man. After 3 generations the prisons will be half empty, the streets will be safe, the economy will be booming.
@@Ariapeithes_ Yes. And it isn't just voting. It's every decision that has long term consequences. Their education, work, finances, relationships, etc. are all negatively affected by their making emotional decisions. For example, they want to go to college because that makes them feel good. They rack up thousands of dollars of student loan debt, then a few years later literally 75% of them would like to quit work to stay home with their babies. In logical terms it makes no sense.
@@kevinfurr3311 Women are to accountability as cats are to water. They are often very selfish. They see "justice" as "whatever benefits me" or "whatever makes me feel good". They are not interested in a dispassionate, rules-based, consistent, "right or wrong" judgment and an actual redress of grievances in favor of the injured party. They simply want what they want, and they label it "justice", even if it is wildly inconsistent from situation to situation. Case in point: Lots of women will cheat, abandon their marriages, etc. and blame their husbands/boyfriends for their own infidelity (i.e. "He got boring" or "He didn't pay enough attention to me"). In the case of marriages, they then go to court to take half the assets of the husband who didn't cheat. They often sue for custody of children, again, while being the unfaithful member of the marriage. There are also many cases where women will try to use children as bargaining tokens to extract more money. I've seen all of these things happen. It confounds belief, but it's true. The women who do this see their actions they take as "just". When they compound their offenses with more offenses, they see that as "justice", solely because it benefits them. There are many more examples. That's just one. When actual "justice" occurs, if it means "accountability" for an individual woman who has actually "done wrong" (acted in bad faith, lied, abused trust, etc.), that woman will have hatred and contempt for the actual deserved comeuppance.
You can't enter into a long-term relationship with a modern woman these days: As soon as it gets boring for her after a short time or you can no longer meet your performance burden due to illness or unemployment: she will look for another man or secretly cheat!
Being a guy, seeing the way that dad spoke to his kid brought out an emotion, pride. Pride in knowing there are some men that are good men out there & know that boundaries are the foundations of a healthy life. Good dad's truly are priceless! 👊 😁
So if instead of a woman crying about cheating coming to the door, let's replace it with a crying man who cheated on his girlfriend. Do you think his girlfriend would have comforted him and been all soft? No, she would have been disgusted, mean, angry and, distespectful. Let's face it, women are not nurturing anymore. They're narcissists who think they can do no wrong
Correct, because in a woman's irrational emotional " logic" a man who cheats did it to be mean to his wife, a woman who cheats was driven into the arms of another man because of her husband, it's ALWAYS his fault, never a woman's fault
@@hugh2hoob668These days, they're not even nurturing their offspring..... they'll take the lazy way out on that too. Doing just enough when people are looking to uphold her image, and slacking hard when nobody is around to witness it.
@@hugh2hoob668 And even then only sometimes... mine sabotaged all three of her children, one of which is now a massive meth head and small time criminal runner for his local thug gang. She hated men so much that when I was born male not female like she told herself I'd be, she blamed my father and me for the fate she'd been given. How tragic to have to raise a boy.
I don't know about insane. She's clearly self-aware enough to recognize that her emotions are unusually strong. I don't think that I would have blasted it on TikTok though.
Emotions are fine, it's the irrationality that spawns from it that is a HUGE problem. People acting that way are untrustworthy and lie frequently. THAT is problem that smart men do not want to deal with.
Plus factor in the percentage of beta boys voting along with women and their volatile emotional manipulation of our political systems extend further than the reach of just women. Christ Almighty.
There are so many emotionally volatile men around - in fact i would say that the vast majority of men are completely emotionally unstable themselves, it's just hidden from expression. About voting, this is only true if the men are actually stable, secure and grounded within themselves - the natural root of what a man is.
My wife is a compassionate woman and my mother is to some degree. But the rest of the women in my family are not. They live in the same metro area as my mother, and when she had a stroke, none of them showed up to be there for her. I live several states away, and I got there as soon as I possibly could. My wife developed ME/CFS and all of her friends from a distance attacked her and abandoned her. Her family hasn't been there for her either. For me, the kind compassionate woman is a rarity.
And this is why we need fathers in the house. To help kids be able to learn/manage emotions. Now after 30 years of single motherhood we have more people in jail, more on mood drugs, and more crazy behavior. Its gotten to the point that women/men dont see the need for a strong man in family cause they have never seen. Not even in tv shows anymore.
Is it any surprise we now have "adults" who need safe spaces and have temper tantrums when someone disagrees with them. I bet many of these people were raised in single mother homes.
Even worse, they attack it when they see it. I'm reminded of a recent article in the New York Times about how the dad in the Bluey cartoon is harmful because it paints an "unrealistic expectation of an involved father", or something like that. Absolutely wild.
I began dating my wife back in 1989 when she was 18. She never acted like this woman who shows the emotions of an entitled 12 year old girl. Feminism and narcissism are sending women backwards in terms of maturity.
I have never had a endearing view of female emotion because I have never experienced it as a positive force. I have only ever personally experienced the irrational emotions as a vehicle to avoid accountability and as a tool for manipulation.
Yikes! She's a basket case for recording and disseminating that clip, but thanks for the laugh. She's probably a manager somewhere. Imagine working for that.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🌟 *Emotions significantly impact women's behavior, often leading to heightened sensitivity and empathetic responses.* 02:39 🧠 *Women's emotional strength plays a vital role in nurturing and comforting, particularly in childcare, allowing them to empathize and provide emotional support efficiently.* 04:06 🤝 *Women's emotional perspective contributes differently from men's; they offer comfort and emotional support, contrasting the problem-solving approach often taken by men.* 05:58 💔 *Women's emotional responses, while endearing, can present limitations in decision-making, especially in applying justice due to a stronger inclination towards nurturing and compassion.* 08:59 ⚖️ *Men often step in for decisions involving justice and discipline, recognizing their inclination towards boundaries and consequences, providing a necessary balance within parenting dynamics.* 10:52 🚸 *Parenting roles often segregate based on each gender's strengths, focusing on nurturing (mothers) and discipline (fathers), aiming for a balanced upbringing for the child.* 13:22 💰 *Men often handle long-term financial decisions due to their ability to focus on delayed gratification and consider future implications, ensuring stability and security.* 14:46 🤝 *Acknowledging strengths and limitations naturally leads to a division of labor between genders, highlighting competence in specific areas for mutual cooperation and benefit.*
I understand finding the emotions endearing, but it's too late. I've had too many scaring experiences where those emotions that were cute turn around on me as the imaginary villain. "I had a dream where you were mean to me" or child-like irresponsibility that I can't stop because I don't have any authority to tell her that going to start a hobby farm with her druggy friends is a bad choice. The ultimate fate of being at the mercy of her emotions is when they stop, or they give her the tingles for someone else.
Yes, I think Alexander is a little off with his take, here. In all honesty, I appreciate female femininity, too, however I would much prefer a woman who didn't exhibit large emotional swings, even if they were never directed at me (and more about love and compassion and comfort). Why? Two reasons but first let me say Ive been in a really great relationship 24 years, married for 17 of them and have 3 excellent kids. First reason I think Alexander is off: What seems endearing and cute and feminine can be a lot to endure over the course of a long marriage. Just as the flip side would be true. Women like manly men but do they really want Grog the caveman as a husband for 40 years? No. The second reason why Alexander's take is a bit off is that it doesn't necessarily account for potential hormonal changes that a woman may face. Alterations to a woman's birth control, pregnancy, peri-menopause and menopause can take an overtly emotional woman and change her into a hysterical psycho. My wife is pretty middle-of-the-road when it comes to her emotions but goddamn, we barely survived the first trimester of her first pregnancy. She was so viciously mean, completely illogical and the ultimate victim. Seriously, she nearly divorced me because I didn't have an opinion on whether we should buy a 3 or 4 wheeled stroller. Thankfully, she made adjustments for her next two pregnancies. A good woman. Now in our 40s, she has super PMS due to peri-menopause. I'm not going to trash her as she's doing her best and will thankfully listen to me, although not always in the moment. What I will say is if she was already an emotionally forward woman, I don't think I could survive peri and true menopause with my respect for her intact. The positions Alexander holds are just fine as they suit him but on the surface they seem formed out of a lack of wisdom. I think he might record a different video with a different perspective, 20 years from now.
@@esperago Yeah exactly. Men are constantly being told that they need to regulate their emotions, and rightly so, but women don't receive the same message. They can act however they please, even if it's borderline insane.
3:48 Wrong, she will not understand nor help if you had a rough day at work. I remember one time I had a day where nothing worked (solving a difficult engineering problem). Around that same time, an attractive young woman, whom I knew from grad school, had gotten in touch with me from a distance, most likely because she had realized I was shaping up to be a good provider-object. She called me that evening, and I griped a little about my crappy day at work. Her reaction: OMG!! 😂 She freaked out as if I had just ruined my career. That was a real redpill moment for me. A week later, the problem solved. But her extreme overeaction, and lack of empathy, completely ruined the prospect of a relationship. For her, apparently, and certainly for me.
Loved Alexander's comments about being a school teacher, I was an Elementary school teacher in Texas for twelve years. K-5th grade. I could be Mr, Roger's or I could be very strict when 5th graders got sassy to my co-teacher. Funny story. I was doing morning bus duty in the gym. Student's would arrive and sit in lines by grade level. Two second grade boys started pushing and hitting each other. I let out a deep growl, "Stop It!!" The whole gym of 650 student's got totally quiet. Could hear a pin drop. The school counselor and principal started laughing. I could have a very mean voice when needed.
I can imagine a quick change from Mr. Roger's to Major Payne. _"Ok. These lines look really great. Organization certainly makes things a lot easi-WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT, ASS EYES?!"_ 😂
The issue with raising kids is that adults forget that they were kids once too. Rules for me but not for thee is a big thing, a lot of people cannot respect someone if they apply unfair/unjust rules, many parents will do this, eg; a mother eating icecream after she picks the kids up from school, every second night of the week, as an adult that is her right. But as a mother, when she tells her children they cannot eat the icecream every second day after school, she's a hypocrite who cannot stand by her morals or ethics.
This also applies to single parenthood. Most of the people I've known that have been raised by only their mothers are clearly lacking in discipline (not a big deal since reality takes care of that eventually, often brutally). Girls usually display fatherless behaviour (that's where the expression comes from) and boys become perpetual line-crossers, since it's in the nature of males to test any limit and poke bears, and without a father figure they grow up pushing and pushing and getting in trouble. And the few cases I have encountered of kids raised by single fathers, well, they were basically robots. Not as in lacking empathy or being "souless" but being very formal, dilligent and rational, equally boys and girls. And that makes sense, when you only have had exposure to the masculine side of the coin you end up developing like this. That's why I think that even though one can perfectly be a balanced individual raised by a single parent (I also know many of them) and end up a terrible person while having been raised by a couple, the lizard part of our brain needs those two ingredients to grow up a well-adjusted individual. Healthy masculine + healthy femenine, there's no better formula. Anything else is sub-optimal at best and terrible at worst
Yeah, about that movie, “Up” - my ex-girlfriend didn’t cry at the opening sequence you referenced. She didn’t get emotional at all, which was noteworthy to me. It took awhile, but I ended up having a pretty good understanding of Narcissism, especially the Covert flavor.
I don't think emotional incontinence (inability to regulate one's emotions) has anything to do with femininity. A heightened emotionality, yes, but an inability to regulate it? Hardly.
Yes, that is women's nature. That's why they can want to make equal pay and simultaneously want to marry a man that makes more money than they do. . Each desire is based on emotion, so it is irrelevant that these are mutually exclusive.
I appreciate him saying; "this isn't about bashing women, but understanding and appreciating our differences". THAT is what I need to be put out there. We are both good at different things. The sad truth is however that feminism is blurring the lines and now we are trying to do what we know our counterpart is better at. Men are being more feminine and women are being more masculine. Its not working for either of us.
I’m a medic and sometimes work gets to me. Suicides, murders, dead children, ect. I live in one of the highest murder rates per capita states. So seeing what I’ve listed is almost a weekly thing. I’ve learned to suppress my emotions and go to the next call. Normally I cry alone in my car on the way home.
The woman comforting a cheater friend will become a future cheater. The misstep wasn't being a woman who comforted her friend. It's having cheater friends who she is likely to conform to.
Women serving in the military and assigned guard duty for captured enemy soldiers were known to shoot them without much cause; leading to "Shoot first and ask questions later" mentality. In short, they didn't make good guards.
My wife will occassionally get a little emotional when we're watching a movie together, and will put her arms around me and we have a giggle about it. We also joke around about it being, say, only mid-morning with me being already nearly out of difficult problems to solve. I just made her laugh when she said that she's feeling hot after being out today, by declaring "Oh, what is it with you women and all your feelings all the time?". She's just gone to sit down, giggling, to have a little think about a come-back, which is making me laugh now. What really gets her emotional is my history of being abused, and what really makes her blood boil is the way hateful feminists degrade and belittle men out of infantile pathological selfishness, while whining about imaginary victimhood consisting of suggestions they should be treated the same from the very position of unearned privalege of which they falsely accuse men.
Lovely. And men get to work with, be in relationships with, marry and have kids with, and otherwise deal with "Ms Starbucks" here for their whole lives.
Regarding discipline, I remember, as a kid (in my 60's now), getting sent to my room by my Dad when I did something wrong. The thing is, when I was sent to my room, back then, I had no phone or cell phone, no computer, no IPad, no television. Only comic books and toys. Therefore, eventually I had tp personally come to terms with WHY I was stuck in my room alone. Eventually I admitted to myself I F'd up and thought it was a pretty good idea to try to not do that again. My Dad would then sit me down, express his disappointment and ask me if I thought about what I did and made me explain it to him. I tell you, that was way more effective than just getting smacked and yelled at like many of my friends. It makes me sad more and more young boys are growing up without Fathers.
The dads in the video remind me of my late dad & how he used to instil discipline with my brother & I. He never raised his voice at us, we just had a talk on the issue at hand. He made us see how & why what we did is wrong & understand that there are consequences to that. He passed away when I was 21 years & now that I am 29, I wish I can tell him how thankful I am for the discipline he instilled in us because that discipline has led my brother & I to achieve & accomplish quite a lot in life on a personal & professional level. To this day when I am faced by a certain situation I ask myself what could he have said about it & this Christmas we had a talk with my brother about it & he is the same way. Dads teach their kids a lot especially when it comes to how life works & as a kid one doesn’t know it but when one is all grown up & gets to reflect upon it you can see that all that discipline led to a lot of things like self-reflection, motivation, self-control among many other things that really help one in life. Great work @alexandergrace
There is a sweet spot here that is a learned skill. I am a married man. My own experience includes a period of time where I was overly emotional, and I can unequivocally say that my wife saw that as weak. Worse, my kids saw it as petty. Both are correct. It is my belief that women want their men to be available and sensitive to them, but it feels unsafe and unstable for them to see their man weepy and crying and soft. Forget what the feminists say. BS, all of it, and we can see it collapsing in real time. Good men and women will actively work to find and operate in this sweet spot.
Men want to solve sh!t. When a women or child cries to them, they want to solve the problem causing the tears. Empathy is understanding their emotions. Compassion is caring about them. Constructive discontent is about fixing problematic things to remove the aggravation. All 3 are helpful in leadership and parenting. Sometimes just showing compassion and allowing them to solve it themselves is enough. Picking up the pencil for them can teach them that their tears can be used to manipulate others.
Oh god....Up. I can't watch that first 10 mins. As a bloke probably the only thing that can reduce me to a blubbering mess. Oh, and women DO NOT comfort men, and if she has to? ,she'll be thinking that you're weak and when she should leave you for Chad.
I admit, I teared up watching that part of Up. Was watching it with my girlfriend and I looked at her, she was full on crying. The music, the images.. Just amazing how they did that on a computer 😊
Hmm, with the 'put a finger down if' almost all my fingers were down. I think that most men share my experience, maybe the difference is the more emotional men can turn it on and off more easily than the average woman.
Its not hard to make most people cry with some sad emotional music and a few basic images of dead dogs or old people holding hands or whatever. In most cases you dont even need the images, just play some sad music and people will start crying already.
Yeah, we are easily manipulated into feeling things. I always cringe when I hear the 'manifest your destiny' music of these motivational speakers 🤮 But good piano music, people growing old together, one of them dying leaving one to be on his own. Yep..
I've only watched the first ten minutes of "Up". When it got to the end of that part, it _killed_ me. I was done. Stopped the movie and never went back to it. I was like, "YOU DO NOT GET TO MESS WITH MY HEART LIKE THAT!"
That 10-minute sequence in UP breaks me completely. Not only because it's likely the best piece of silent cinematography by Disney, it also mirrors our difficulties in getting pregnant(we've had 3 miscarriages and one ectopic by now). If my wife dies before me, I solemnly swear I'll become like the grumpy old guy...
That sequence hit me too. Andmy teenagers have told me how I'm an "unemotional robot"! It surprises me that Alexander wouldn't tear up to it. Another scene that gets me is "Inside Out" where Bing-Bong sacrifices himself to the pit of lost memories. He wipes himself out of existence, completely, to not even be a memory any more: ua-cam.com/video/RPQRHemfk9E/v-deo.html
Like the typical clerks and secretaries, with figurines ,posters and prints on their desks with corny messages of how to love others, most of the time , they are the most insufferable people.
As an INFP male, I'm in a weird grey zone between logic and emotion. I can empathize with the cheating woman, but only if she's crying for the right reason. If she's only upset cause she got kicked out and doesn't care about what she did, then I don't sympathize with her. But if she's consumed with remorse and guilt over what she's done, I can console her, and help her begin the process of making things right, not only for her boyfriend's sake, but also for her conscience as well.
I'm in the same boat. I've had to walk that tightrope my whole life. I've come to recognize it as a strength, being able to see both sides of the equation.
Calling ALL feminists! Im a 63yo conservative white male. Im happily surviving on my Social Security. But, soon the monthly payments will far exceed the taxes I paid. Three solutions: You stay "strong and independent". Quit complaining. And, GET THE HELL BACK TO WORK!!!
I listened to the entire video! Found my head nodding along with it, Then I read the comments. And I am blown away! in my life I thought there was something wrong with me, I was doing it all wrong, I didnt know how, to just treat women right! But after reading the comments, my experiences are all exactly as described here, by all of you. Women are emotional, but sadly they do not apply those personality elements in a helpful way! The women in my past have been always emotionally abusive and narcissistic its the ones Im attracted too, im not perfect , but Ive had to hire lawyers to fight off some women. Ive legally have been ok. Been figuratively, raped in family court, had my kids taken away, lived in my car paying child support because of these events my life has been diminished couldnt risk business ventures because of it, stopped advancement at work. im in my 50's and I want to scream it out loud YOUNG MEN listen hard to my words! Women should never be YOUR goal in LIFE! I didnt learn this until 3 years ago!
God bless. I'm too tired and expired to bother with women and I haven't met a high quality one in 15 years. The last 5 years I've been divorced and quintupled my net worth after divorce and ruination. I don't need this garbage again. They're not loyal. I don't love their excessive, self involved emotions and complete lack of accountability. If my partner was comforting a cheater, she gets kicked the eff out.
I'm a man and I work with kids, I can be emotionally attuned and I can also hand out discipline when it's necessary. This is how we should approach the gender discussion, both genders should learn from the objective strengths and the weaknesses of the other
The problem with that logic is......its too logical for most women. This is why The West is collapsing...(because masculine logic is discarded in favor of feminine feelings and narratives).
Women say things on the internet for millions that if a female friend said to me in private, would cause me to distance myself from her. Women will empathize with a man, provided he doesn't show emotions. In conflicts between men and women, women will almost always support the woman, even if they have few details. They will fill in the blanks with memes from their world.
9:45 I can see this clearly with my 5 y/o stepdaughter! My wife tries talking the girl out of tamtrums, tries reasoning with her (lol), and tries convincing her to do stuff (like wearing the seat belt). The whole time, the girl keeps crying, screaming, throwing a tamtrum... until either she defeats my wife or my wife snaps out at her, shouting, sometimes spanking, etc. In the other hand, when I tell her to do something and she starts arguing or throwing tamtrums, I completely ignore that and make her do the thing myself. Yes, I force her somehow. 5 seconds later, she stops her cries, yelling, and tamtrums, and stays calm and happy as usual lol
Great analysis. The social/political implications are huge. By the early 1960s, US Black Americans had experienced decades of educational and economic progress. The creation of a welfare state which rewards single parenthood resulted in an increase from 20% to over 70% of children raised in single parent - mainly fatherless - homes. The statistics on academic performance, dropout, incarceration, out of wedlock pregnancy and poverty rates strongly correlate to the absence of fathers in the home. White fatherless homes have risen from about 4% to 20% in the same 50+ years. It is one of our society's largest problems.
If I see a girl comforting another girl when the reason the latter is upset is because SHE cheated, it tells me that the former thinks cheating is okay. If she was my girlfriend, I'd dump her for supporting her cheating friend, because I'd be convinced that the reason she's supportive of cheating is that she's also a cheater. What you find enduring, I find abusive, repulsive, and disgusting. My entire life, I've seen that women have been nothing but emotionally abusive. Their emotions are toxic and destructive to society and relationships.
i'm 68 now, but grew up the oldest of 6. This first woman (assuming there were more) reminds me of my younger sisters when they were irresponsible children, yet to mature.
Absolutely there are .. 1. Politics / Voting 2. Strategy / Conflict (including the decision to even enter into conflict to begin with) 3. Large Purchases There will be more, but these are the big ones for me personally. And I'm not sexist, I'm a realist.
Coming through the door tired after a long day at work, what do we have to eat, honey? ... ooohhh, you want me to eat THAT AGAIN, wasn't that for breakfast, and the only thing I had all weekend???? 😮
LOL, my wife called me on they way to work because she wanted to know if I was upset with her because apparently I didn't smile enough at her when drove by each other. It never ends fellas.
@redrustyhill2 It’s just part parcel of having a family. All women are crazy, I'm glad mine called rather than filing for divorce or having some other extreme reaction. She got a more enthusiastic wave this morning. I am grateful that she is coming home from yoga class rather than McDonald's. There are good women out there, but they are all a bit crazy and needy. Relationships can be pulled off, but it won't be painless or easy.
Her caring about how you feel in this situation seems like a positive. What if you were bothered about something and she never asked? Especially when most men aren't vulnerable enough to open up to women.
@florenbaron7111 🤣🤣🤣 she didn't give AF about him. It was all about HER and childisly assuming he was mad because he didn't respond how SHE wanted him to.
Maybe I have never experienced that in the right moment, but I find crying women repelling. When it's approriate I try to comfort them but internally I am like "STFU"!
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Hyper-emotional people are really creepy to me. It's like watching somebody on drugs, like they're out of control and unpredictable. Very dangerous. I want nothing to do with somebody who can't control their own emotions.
I don’t believe women are capable of long term monogamy anymore.
I wonder if you have any thoughts on old vs new souls? I’ve always been told I’m an old soul or grandmother type. I absolutely believe in gender roles and know that my children need their father. When he gets deployed with the military, it’s extremely hard to give the children the balance they need. I’ve seen and felt it first hand.
I really appreciated this video and wish people on both sides of the aisle could be more open to it.
@@sullathehutt7720 Men are known to claim that they're not emotional, and then drink and gamble their lives away because they refuse to seek help. The ego of "I'm not emotional" and the desperate need to maintain a masculine facade are more dangerous than the stereotypical female hysteria.
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Emotionally unstable men are always fatherless. What does that tell you?
My ex couldn’t watch a war film or even the Titanic film because it was upsetting that people died , but it’s a shame she didn’t have that kind of empathy in our divorce where she destroyed me with false allegations and alienated my kids from me .
Right?
Yep. I see this sort of thing over and over again. They are cold and cruel for the things that actually matter. So I don't buy this whole nurturing thing in 2024. I think it's mostly a fiction women like to push to make themselves feel good.
Feel and look good. Social media has helped them exposed themselves and their chameleons antics. I don’t believe their SOFT GIRL ERA after they took themselves thru “HARD” times, HOT GIRL SUMMERS🔥🔥too bad they weaponize their emotional responses it’s hard to tell what you’re getting
Stay strong brother
act or excuse to not watch bad movies. she woulda laughed all the way to the club if you deleted yourself
If your girlfriend sympathises with a cheater, don't say you weren't warned.
Been friend with a cheather. They cheat everywhere.
Women's logic: If a man cheats, he's a dog. If the woman cheats, her man must have driven her to cheat.
All for one. One for all. They all know each others love life.
Or one that extreamly hates cheaters is also because she would do it herself
I had a girlfriend whose ex cheated on her. Her own friend found out and told her. She still defended him as a decent guy. I said to her he was screwing other girls and could have given you an STD. Her ego wouldn’t allow her to admit to herself she got played.
It's all fun and games until their dingbat emotions tell them that it's OK to cheat on you.
Or divorce you
Then file for divorce because they wake up 'not happy' one day
Yes, that's why men need to have legal authority over a wife. To obligate her to behave properly.
@@rodrigolinscaldas3305 It's exactly the same as with children. Having to keep one's children behaving properly doesn't mean they aren't worth loving. Men have a false idea of what love with a woman is.
@@rodrigolinscaldas3305 you're not forcing the woman to marry you in the first place
my mother is a malignant narcisst and so emotional every waking moment. I now see emotional as being manipulative,
Same mate. I really find it hard to trust women. Narcissistic abusive mother
Same
yes. a woman can cry for a genuine reason and you think what is she up to.@@dubbula
Don't be fooled if a girl cries to get her way
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Narcissist. Nothing is their fault. They are always the victim.
low level man, you know nothing about women. Women aren't narcissists but they subconsciously play the victim role
Covert-Narcissist to be exact.
Isn't that 90% of women?
Who hurt you? 😂
@@sanamuhammad97 the phrase "who hurt you?" along with your idgaf "😂" emoji was out of context based on the self evident nature of the comment he made. Your response comes off as a tad antagonistic and minimizing to a generalized statement expressed from what I suspect is a perspective of indeed being burned by women. His generalization isn't meant to be taken as there are no good women out there. The fact that you inadvertently inserted yourself into his narrative as the main villain just so you could be offended enough to hit back with insensitivity is most enlightening 🤔.
The times are over when we can afford to use women's emotional rollercoaster rides as a maxim for action. Society is dissolving. My pity ends.
Enjoy the show.
… so you're saying: _Men can thrive on their own strength, women crumble on their own emotions?_ 😀
The ultimate sign of maturity, self control and wisdom is to control your animal instincts and not letting them to control you. For men is being too horny, for women is being too emocional.
Just that. Was thinking "wtf am i watching? making excuses for grown women that behave like children?". That is what got us into this whole mess, not what will get us out... All the talk about "high quality woman" totally ignoring that the primary factor in that is to be a... grown up.
Nicely put.
Is being horny not also an emotion?
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Not just horny, it's overall aggression. Resisting testosterone urges.
Women do have empathy, just not for men. If we were to come home stressed and try to vent, she'll lose attraction for us. I had this classmate a while back, and we were friendly with each other (she is married, so it had to be friendly by default). I vented to her about my struggles with dating (my lack of girls that actually like me), and months later, she made fun of me by saying, "This is why you'll never get a girlfriend"
Men inherently know not to stab at specific topics, women do not. You can call me fat, ugly, stupid, and I'll laugh and agree, but directly "joking" about the very likely prospect of never having a loving relationship is a taboo, but women don't care. None of my male friends, colleagues, coworkers, etc., had the evilness to attack a man's weakness, even as a joke.
THIS ....
Women dont have empathy, just pity.
😂yeah right. Men arent sainter. Thats gotta be a jokee
@unicorn_unicorn6252 is this in English? 🤡 go speak pig Latin with your grrrls
Right, they have empathy for pets, children, and other women, but not men.
That chick will ruin your life
For sure
Modern woman crying: "Oh wait. Hold on. Let me make a Tik Tok of this."
So sadly pathetic
Being overly emotional is a dangerous quality.
Nah a gal can be as emotional as she likes with me i do not get upset by it, i find it adorable whenever they are in new situations and are upset by myriad of things most of which will never happen some which are plausible but unlikely and very few if any actual threats and you get to solve that problem with her make her feel better and at the same time form a deeper bond the key is understanding women not engaging in battle mode and i have a feeling that you dislike emotionality because you fear her cheating on you listen your number one friend against cheating is emotionality if she is happy and emotional she is loyal otherwise if she turns rational she has no reason NOT to cheat because my friend cheating is rational, there is no reason to not gain advantage if you can especially if you are optimizing for hedonism.
Correct. It’s good to be emotional but horrific to be overly emotional.
@@karamlevi There is a difference between emotional and hysterical two VERY different things.
You are confusing loyalty with emotionality @@MrAlexanderLang
@@ironknightgaming5706 Being loyal is emotional not rational, if my position is improved by cheating it's irrational or emotional not to do it, you are confusing morality with rationality while being moral and ethical have nothing to do with rationality being a pathological liar and cheater is rational because it gets you to your goals in least amount of steps more efficiently and with higher likelihood of success.
Their emotions make them needy and exhausting. Which primes men for easy manipulation.
If women is SO good at emotions, why can’t they sense and care about men’s pain and hurt????
Empathy = EMpty symPATHY.
FEMpathy = Female Empty Sympathy.
They don’t care that’s why. According to women men aren’t allowed to have problems, have emotional issues and must remain stoic even if you witnessed your entire family get executed.
Exactly
only when they are at risk of losing a lifestyle upgrade....
Easy - women despise the strength, authority, and natural dominance of a man. So, they have a base desire to bring a man down and fill the power vacuum to overrule him.
"Her emotions can be a nourishing force for your life" Really? In most cases, women's emotions are life draining.
Emphasis on CAN. A woman's caring nurturing nature is just hidden at best and completely killed by the woman at worst for most women nowadays.
AG is putting forth some kind of hypothesis here. It's one of those "in a frictionless vacuum..." kind of statements. Sure, I guess "in theory" it could work that way. But I have yet to see, in my generation, where this kind of emotionality has been a positive force for society in an example I have beheld firsthand. Yet I have seen a LOT of firsthand examples where it leads to selfish indulgence and the destruction of good people and institutions. AG can pontificate till he turns blue - I'm not convinced.
Problem is for many guys, if you show your emotions, it may come off as being weak to a woman. Now depending how your relationship is at that moment, nothing may ever come of it. But if she is upset, or some point down the road she starts to question how the relationship is, she will remember you showing emotion and most likely use it against you, tell her friends about it in a demeaning way, etc.
It’s a perpetual balancing act .
Which is ironic because she is emotional all the time while still claiming to be strong, right? Lol.
In my experience, being emotional isn't the problem as much as reacting to a problem emotionally instead of resolving the problem undermines another person's confidence in you, which is true for men and women.
This video isn't about displaying or not displaying emotions.
@@ericjames7819 But it was mentioned.
@@Dragonologist true
This. This right here terrifies me...
I've been chased by bears, fought off an attacking dog, started and finished several fist fights, almost lost one of my kids at childbirth, taken my asthmatic kid to the E.R. as they are turning blue and not responding... I have never been to war and I can't imagine the bravery our police, fire, and soldiers have. (I salute you).
But the first clip of the woman who is so emotionally volatile and unstable...
To me that's nature's way of telling me: "Stay away!!!"
Like a rattlesnake rattling,
Or a tiger growling,
Or a giant bull chasing...
It's best to run!!!
I've also learned the hard way...
I can't fix her.
It's not my responsibility to fix her.
I will get burnt if I try.
Knowing the important role men have in raising children, it's scary to think that most houseyholds are ran by single mothers.
Statistics show that most criminals and prostitutes were raised by a single mother, and it's amazing to me that society celebrates single motherhood.
While divorce might seem financially attractive to a woman it's tremendously destructive to their children. The pain and heartache later is not worth it in the long run, which is why a married couple should try to work it out.
This is MY experience from witnessing my male friends who had troubled marriages save FOR ONE
The husband DESPERATELY wanted to work things out was willing to do/try anything but as is the norm with most adult children AKA females once they get it in their heads divorce is their best option there is no saving the marriage
I agree with traditional parenting roles and the statistics on single mothers are very clear but, they do not necessarily show that single mothers are "bad mothers". To make that claim we would have to adjust for the woman's behaviour prior to becoming a mother.
I believe such an adjustment would show us that there is a strong correlation between values, decision making process, and behavior of a woman leading her to become a single mother, more so than single mothers just being "bad mothers". A party girl trying to lock Chadrone down by having his child I believe will very likely be a bad mother whether she ends up a single parent or not. In contrast, a traditional girl who ends up a single mother for reasons much less in her power might be a great mother even if she is a single mother.
For years I have been hoping for someone to make this adjustment to the studies, but I guess no one dares to touch the subject.
@@ViaConDiasa Single mother isn't necessarily a bad mother as you stated, but they do make a terrible father. Children need a solid father figure.
It is, by no means, an accident
There has never been a civilization in history in which millions of women chose to get pregnant without someone promising to be there and provide.
Socialists, who admit that they want to collapse our capitalist system, began paying women to stay single. They replaced a husband with a government check. (Paid with men's taxes)
But nobody bothered to replace the father for the children.
Stop the free money today, women will close their legs tonight. They'll go back to staying with one man. After 3 generations the prisons will be half empty, the streets will be safe, the economy will be booming.
Emotional response = the fall of the West
Yes, because women are voting and having a say in society.
@@ericjames7819
They don't understand what they're voting for and their emotions often influence how they vote. 😉
@@Ariapeithes_ Yes. And it isn't just voting. It's every decision that has long term consequences. Their education, work, finances, relationships, etc. are all negatively affected by their making emotional decisions. For example, they want to go to college because that makes them feel good. They rack up thousands of dollars of student loan debt, then a few years later literally 75% of them would like to quit work to stay home with their babies. In logical terms it makes no sense.
ive never met a woman who didnt have a deep hatred of justice
except if she is a victim and receives money
@@steveos5112 That's usually not justice. Usually. A lot of modern victimhood is manufactured.
I dont really understand this statement.
@@kevinfurr3311 Women are to accountability as cats are to water. They are often very selfish. They see "justice" as "whatever benefits me" or "whatever makes me feel good". They are not interested in a dispassionate, rules-based, consistent, "right or wrong" judgment and an actual redress of grievances in favor of the injured party. They simply want what they want, and they label it "justice", even if it is wildly inconsistent from situation to situation.
Case in point: Lots of women will cheat, abandon their marriages, etc. and blame their husbands/boyfriends for their own infidelity (i.e. "He got boring" or "He didn't pay enough attention to me"). In the case of marriages, they then go to court to take half the assets of the husband who didn't cheat. They often sue for custody of children, again, while being the unfaithful member of the marriage. There are also many cases where women will try to use children as bargaining tokens to extract more money. I've seen all of these things happen. It confounds belief, but it's true.
The women who do this see their actions they take as "just". When they compound their offenses with more offenses, they see that as "justice", solely because it benefits them. There are many more examples. That's just one.
When actual "justice" occurs, if it means "accountability" for an individual woman who has actually "done wrong" (acted in bad faith, lied, abused trust, etc.), that woman will have hatred and contempt for the actual deserved comeuppance.
Which means you do not know any high-quality woman. Is that true? Poor man.
You can't enter into a long-term relationship with a modern woman these days: As soon as it gets boring for her after a short time or you can no longer meet your performance burden due to illness or unemployment: she will look for another man or secretly cheat!
Being a guy, seeing the way that dad spoke to his kid brought out an emotion, pride.
Pride in knowing there are some men that are good men out there & know that boundaries are the foundations of a healthy life.
Good dad's truly are priceless! 👊
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Agree with you on this, the vital difference is, she owns it.
Denial, blaming men, manipulating, xxxxall that other nonsense, destroys.
So if instead of a woman crying about cheating coming to the door, let's replace it with a crying man who cheated on his girlfriend. Do you think his girlfriend would have comforted him and been all soft? No, she would have been disgusted, mean, angry and, distespectful. Let's face it, women are not nurturing anymore. They're narcissists who think they can do no wrong
They never were Women nurture THEIR offspring only
This is true.
Correct, because in a woman's irrational emotional " logic" a man who cheats did it to be mean to his wife, a woman who cheats was driven into the arms of another man because of her husband, it's ALWAYS his fault, never a woman's fault
@@hugh2hoob668These days, they're not even nurturing their offspring..... they'll take the lazy way out on that too. Doing just enough when people are looking to uphold her image, and slacking hard when nobody is around to witness it.
@@hugh2hoob668 And even then only sometimes... mine sabotaged all three of her children, one of which is now a massive meth head and small time criminal runner for his local thug gang. She hated men so much that when I was born male not female like she told herself I'd be, she blamed my father and me for the fate she'd been given. How tragic to have to raise a boy.
Women don't seem to learn from negative outcomes. They are more dedicated to the world they imagine, rather than reality.
That's because they will always be rescued.
@@PeterNolan-009 Unless we (men), do not (rescue them).
@@malleus.maleficarum.24 beta brads always rescue laydees.
There is definitely something wrong with me if you see this and want to protect it, I just want to get out of the way.
That first woman is obviously insane.
lmao, that's what I was thinking, a laughing factory candidate for sure.
Seems manic.
I don't know about insane. She's clearly self-aware enough to recognize that her emotions are unusually strong.
I don't think that I would have blasted it on TikTok though.
Just the sort of people we want to have access to power.
Emotions are fine, it's the irrationality that spawns from it that is a HUGE problem. People acting that way are untrustworthy and lie frequently. THAT is problem that smart men do not want to deal with.
She's just standing there... and "looking at me kindly"... menacingly 😂😂😂😂
To know emotional women have voting rights nullifying logical men’s vote is depressing. Nothing gets done, and women are in charge. 🤦
It’s why the west is done .
Plus factor in the percentage of beta boys voting along with women and their volatile emotional manipulation of our political systems extend further than the reach of just women. Christ Almighty.
There are so many emotionally volatile men around - in fact i would say that the vast majority of men are completely emotionally unstable themselves, it's just hidden from expression. About voting, this is only true if the men are actually stable, secure and grounded within themselves - the natural root of what a man is.
If only men knew anything about politics. (Most don't, just like most women)
exactly the wrong takeaway.
My wife is a compassionate woman and my mother is to some degree. But the rest of the women in my family are not. They live in the same metro area as my mother, and when she had a stroke, none of them showed up to be there for her. I live several states away, and I got there as soon as I possibly could.
My wife developed ME/CFS and all of her friends from a distance attacked her and abandoned her. Her family hasn't been there for her either. For me, the kind compassionate woman is a rarity.
And this is why we need fathers in the house. To help kids be able to learn/manage emotions. Now after 30 years of single motherhood we have more people in jail, more on mood drugs, and more crazy behavior. Its gotten to the point that women/men dont see the need for a strong man in family cause they have never seen. Not even in tv shows anymore.
I agree, but when the parents don’t get along and then separate, what can we do? More equal/fair custody? Fat chance.
Is it any surprise we now have "adults" who need safe spaces and have temper tantrums when someone disagrees with them. I bet many of these people were raised in single mother homes.
Even worse, they attack it when they see it. I'm reminded of a recent article in the New York Times about how the dad in the Bluey cartoon is harmful because it paints an "unrealistic expectation of an involved father", or something like that. Absolutely wild.
I began dating my wife back in 1989 when she was 18. She never acted like this woman who shows the emotions of an entitled 12 year old girl. Feminism and narcissism are sending women backwards in terms of maturity.
I have never had a endearing view of female emotion because I have never experienced it as a positive force. I have only ever personally experienced the irrational emotions as a vehicle to avoid accountability and as a tool for manipulation.
lmao, my man.
Yikes! She's a basket case for recording and disseminating that clip, but thanks for the laugh. She's probably a manager somewhere. Imagine working for that.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🌟 *Emotions significantly impact women's behavior, often leading to heightened sensitivity and empathetic responses.*
02:39 🧠 *Women's emotional strength plays a vital role in nurturing and comforting, particularly in childcare, allowing them to empathize and provide emotional support efficiently.*
04:06 🤝 *Women's emotional perspective contributes differently from men's; they offer comfort and emotional support, contrasting the problem-solving approach often taken by men.*
05:58 💔 *Women's emotional responses, while endearing, can present limitations in decision-making, especially in applying justice due to a stronger inclination towards nurturing and compassion.*
08:59 ⚖️ *Men often step in for decisions involving justice and discipline, recognizing their inclination towards boundaries and consequences, providing a necessary balance within parenting dynamics.*
10:52 🚸 *Parenting roles often segregate based on each gender's strengths, focusing on nurturing (mothers) and discipline (fathers), aiming for a balanced upbringing for the child.*
13:22 💰 *Men often handle long-term financial decisions due to their ability to focus on delayed gratification and consider future implications, ensuring stability and security.*
14:46 🤝 *Acknowledging strengths and limitations naturally leads to a division of labor between genders, highlighting competence in specific areas for mutual cooperation and benefit.*
How did you do this? Is this AI?
Yes, most modern ai's can do this. I think what they do is read from transcript and summarize the main points. @@alexandergrace5350
Its AI @@alexandergrace5350
@@alexandergrace5350offcourse bro it's AI
@@alexandergrace5350yes
I understand finding the emotions endearing, but it's too late. I've had too many scaring experiences where those emotions that were cute turn around on me as the imaginary villain. "I had a dream where you were mean to me" or child-like irresponsibility that I can't stop because I don't have any authority to tell her that going to start a hobby farm with her druggy friends is a bad choice. The ultimate fate of being at the mercy of her emotions is when they stop, or they give her the tingles for someone else.
Truth.
Yes, I think Alexander is a little off with his take, here. In all honesty, I appreciate female femininity, too, however I would much prefer a woman who didn't exhibit large emotional swings, even if they were never directed at me (and more about love and compassion and comfort). Why? Two reasons but first let me say Ive been in a really great relationship 24 years, married for 17 of them and have 3 excellent kids. First reason I think Alexander is off: What seems endearing and cute and feminine can be a lot to endure over the course of a long marriage. Just as the flip side would be true. Women like manly men but do they really want Grog the caveman as a husband for 40 years? No. The second reason why Alexander's take is a bit off is that it doesn't necessarily account for potential hormonal changes that a woman may face. Alterations to a woman's birth control, pregnancy, peri-menopause and menopause can take an overtly emotional woman and change her into a hysterical psycho. My wife is pretty middle-of-the-road when it comes to her emotions but goddamn, we barely survived the first trimester of her first pregnancy. She was so viciously mean, completely illogical and the ultimate victim. Seriously, she nearly divorced me because I didn't have an opinion on whether we should buy a 3 or 4 wheeled stroller. Thankfully, she made adjustments for her next two pregnancies. A good woman. Now in our 40s, she has super PMS due to peri-menopause. I'm not going to trash her as she's doing her best and will thankfully listen to me, although not always in the moment. What I will say is if she was already an emotionally forward woman, I don't think I could survive peri and true menopause with my respect for her intact. The positions Alexander holds are just fine as they suit him but on the surface they seem formed out of a lack of wisdom. I think he might record a different video with a different perspective, 20 years from now.
@@esperago Yeah exactly. Men are constantly being told that they need to regulate their emotions, and rightly so, but women don't receive the same message. They can act however they please, even if it's borderline insane.
@@esperago That was a very thoughtful comment.
3:48 Wrong, she will not understand nor help if you had a rough day at work. I remember one time I had a day where nothing worked (solving a difficult engineering problem). Around that same time, an attractive young woman, whom I knew from grad school, had gotten in touch with me from a distance, most likely because she had realized I was shaping up to be a good provider-object. She called me that evening, and I griped a little about my crappy day at work. Her reaction: OMG!! 😂 She freaked out as if I had just ruined my career. That was a real redpill moment for me. A week later, the problem solved. But her extreme overeaction, and lack of empathy, completely ruined the prospect of a relationship. For her, apparently, and certainly for me.
Loved Alexander's comments about being a school teacher, I was an Elementary school teacher in Texas for twelve years. K-5th grade. I could be Mr, Roger's or I could be very strict when 5th graders got sassy to my co-teacher. Funny story. I was doing morning bus duty in the gym. Student's would arrive and sit in lines by grade level. Two second grade boys started pushing and hitting each other. I let out a deep growl, "Stop It!!"
The whole gym of 650 student's got totally quiet. Could hear a pin drop. The school counselor and principal started laughing. I could have a very mean voice when needed.
I can imagine a quick change from Mr. Roger's to Major Payne.
_"Ok. These lines look really great. Organization certainly makes things a lot easi-WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT, ASS EYES?!"_
😂
The issue with raising kids is that adults forget that they were kids once too.
Rules for me but not for thee is a big thing, a lot of people cannot respect someone if they apply unfair/unjust rules, many parents will do this, eg; a mother eating icecream after she picks the kids up from school, every second night of the week, as an adult that is her right. But as a mother, when she tells her children they cannot eat the icecream every second day after school, she's a hypocrite who cannot stand by her morals or ethics.
And we let these people vote .
This also applies to single parenthood. Most of the people I've known that have been raised by only their mothers are clearly lacking in discipline (not a big deal since reality takes care of that eventually, often brutally). Girls usually display fatherless behaviour (that's where the expression comes from) and boys become perpetual line-crossers, since it's in the nature of males to test any limit and poke bears, and without a father figure they grow up pushing and pushing and getting in trouble.
And the few cases I have encountered of kids raised by single fathers, well, they were basically robots. Not as in lacking empathy or being "souless" but being very formal, dilligent and rational, equally boys and girls. And that makes sense, when you only have had exposure to the masculine side of the coin you end up developing like this. That's why I think that even though one can perfectly be a balanced individual raised by a single parent (I also know many of them) and end up a terrible person while having been raised by a couple, the lizard part of our brain needs those two ingredients to grow up a well-adjusted individual. Healthy masculine + healthy femenine, there's no better formula. Anything else is sub-optimal at best and terrible at worst
I'm with you here, but to take it a step further, grandparents are very important too. The phrase 'it takes a village....' springs to mind.
😂 This can't be further from the truth. I am raised by a single mother. I do what I do just to learn something to get by
Estrogen is one hell of a drug.
Testosterone is one hell of a drug.
It makes men blind to women’s Red Flags
Hormones are powerful!!
Yeah, about that movie, “Up” - my ex-girlfriend didn’t cry at the opening sequence you referenced. She didn’t get emotional at all, which was noteworthy to me.
It took awhile, but I ended up having a pretty good understanding of Narcissism, especially the Covert flavor.
I don't think emotional incontinence (inability to regulate one's emotions) has anything to do with femininity. A heightened emotionality, yes, but an inability to regulate it? Hardly.
Yes, that is women's nature. That's why they can want to make equal pay and simultaneously want to marry a man that makes more money than they do. . Each desire is based on emotion, so it is irrelevant that these are mutually exclusive.
I appreciate him saying; "this isn't about bashing women, but understanding and appreciating our differences". THAT is what I need to be put out there. We are both good at different things. The sad truth is however that feminism is blurring the lines and now we are trying to do what we know our counterpart is better at.
Men are being more feminine and women are being more masculine. Its not working for either of us.
Is this what emotional maturity looks like?
Compared to most women? Sadly yes
I’m a medic and sometimes work gets to me. Suicides, murders, dead children, ect. I live in one of the highest murder rates per capita states. So seeing what I’ve listed is almost a weekly thing.
I’ve learned to suppress my emotions and go to the next call. Normally I cry alone in my car on the way home.
The woman comforting a cheater friend will become a future cheater. The misstep wasn't being a woman who comforted her friend. It's having cheater friends who she is likely to conform to.
amen!!!!! logic is a Alien presence to most women!
I don't care if someone says this is sexist or whatever. I don't take criticism from whom I wouldn't take advice
Her squawking and emotional pendulum is really touching.
And they call this empathy and being in touch with your feelings😂😂😂 in actual reality this is being childish and a slave to your delusional whims.
Women serving in the military and assigned guard duty for captured enemy soldiers were known to shoot them without much cause; leading to "Shoot first and ask questions later" mentality. In short, they didn't make good guards.
Not all women are bad. Not all women are weak. Its just the stereotype some have made for themselves. same goes for men.
My wife will occassionally get a little emotional when we're watching a movie together, and will put her arms around me and we have a giggle about it. We also joke around about it being, say, only mid-morning with me being already nearly out of difficult problems to solve. I just made her laugh when she said that she's feeling hot after being out today, by declaring "Oh, what is it with you women and all your feelings all the time?". She's just gone to sit down, giggling, to have a little think about a come-back, which is making me laugh now.
What really gets her emotional is my history of being abused, and what really makes her blood boil is the way hateful feminists degrade and belittle men out of infantile pathological selfishness, while whining about imaginary victimhood consisting of suggestions they should be treated the same from the very position of unearned privalege of which they falsely accuse men.
Lovely. And men get to work with, be in relationships with, marry and have kids with, and otherwise deal with "Ms Starbucks" here for their whole lives.
Women's superpower is the ability to make literally everything in the universe about THEM.
Regarding discipline, I remember, as a kid (in my 60's now), getting sent to my room by my Dad when I did something wrong. The thing is, when I was sent to my room, back then, I had no phone or cell phone, no computer, no IPad, no television. Only comic books and toys. Therefore, eventually I had tp personally come to terms with WHY I was stuck in my room alone. Eventually I admitted to myself I F'd up and thought it was a pretty good idea to try to not do that again. My Dad would then sit me down, express his disappointment and ask me if I thought about what I did and made me explain it to him. I tell you, that was way more effective than just getting smacked and yelled at like many of my friends. It makes me sad more and more young boys are growing up without Fathers.
If that was my son, I'd be disgusted 😂😂😂
I have rarely found a woman to be emotionally supportive when i have a problem. Quite the opposite
The dads in the video remind me of my late dad & how he used to instil discipline with my brother & I.
He never raised his voice at us, we just had a talk on the issue at hand.
He made us see how & why what we did is wrong & understand that there are consequences to that.
He passed away when I was 21 years & now that I am 29, I wish I can tell him how thankful I am for the discipline he instilled in us because that discipline has led my brother & I to achieve & accomplish quite a lot in life on a personal & professional level.
To this day when I am faced by a certain situation I ask myself what could he have said about it & this Christmas we had a talk with my brother about it & he is the same way.
Dads teach their kids a lot especially when it comes to how life works & as a kid one doesn’t know it but when one is all grown up & gets to reflect upon it you can see that all that discipline led to a lot of things like self-reflection, motivation, self-control among many other things that really help one in life.
Great work @alexandergrace
"Up" is excellent. I got misty eyed too.
They pose a danger to society.
You can already see the results.
"The Future is Female!"
and it will be a dumpster-fire.
Omg, can you imagine that permeates into politics today? Emotional choices, absolute emotional misbalance… and we say “we are below replacement rate…”
A woman yelling alone in a car is my type of video
There is a sweet spot here that is a learned skill.
I am a married man. My own experience includes a period of time where I was overly emotional, and I can unequivocally say that my wife saw that as weak. Worse, my kids saw it as petty. Both are correct.
It is my belief that women want their men to be available and sensitive to them, but it feels unsafe and unstable for them to see their man weepy and crying and soft.
Forget what the feminists say. BS, all of it, and we can see it collapsing in real time. Good men and women will actively work to find and operate in this sweet spot.
Yes true it scares us. We may feel sympathetic but it also is scary.
Oh no. Lets have kids, homes, money with someone who can take it all based on wild feelings. Oh no.
Men want to solve sh!t. When a women or child cries to them, they want to solve the problem causing the tears. Empathy is understanding their emotions. Compassion is caring about them. Constructive discontent is about fixing problematic things to remove the aggravation. All 3 are helpful in leadership and parenting. Sometimes just showing compassion and allowing them to solve it themselves is enough. Picking up the pencil for them can teach them that their tears can be used to manipulate others.
Oh god....Up.
I can't watch that first 10 mins. As a bloke probably the only thing that can reduce me to a blubbering mess.
Oh, and women DO NOT comfort men, and if she has to? ,she'll be thinking that you're weak and when she should leave you for Chad.
Five seconds in i am thinking "prego. Probly WONT 'get' that period."
Traffic jam when you’re already late, no smoking sign on your cigarette break…
I admit, I teared up watching that part of Up. Was watching it with my girlfriend and I looked at her, she was full on crying. The music, the images.. Just amazing how they did that on a computer 😊
Hmm, with the 'put a finger down if' almost all my fingers were down. I think that most men share my experience, maybe the difference is the more emotional men can turn it on and off more easily than the average woman.
Its not hard to make most people cry with some sad emotional music and a few basic images of dead dogs or old people holding hands or whatever.
In most cases you dont even need the images, just play some sad music and people will start crying already.
Yeah, we are easily manipulated into feeling things. I always cringe when I hear the 'manifest your destiny' music of these motivational speakers 🤮 But good piano music, people growing old together, one of them dying leaving one to be on his own. Yep..
I've only watched the first ten minutes of "Up". When it got to the end of that part, it _killed_ me. I was done. Stopped the movie and never went back to it. I was like, "YOU DO NOT GET TO MESS WITH MY HEART LIKE THAT!"
That 10-minute sequence in UP breaks me completely.
Not only because it's likely the best piece of silent cinematography by Disney, it also mirrors our difficulties in getting pregnant(we've had 3 miscarriages and one ectopic by now).
If my wife dies before me, I solemnly swear I'll become like the grumpy old guy...
I still tear up at the beginning of that movie...I'm such a pussy!
That happened. I did become a grumpy old guy. I'm not seeing the down side.
My wife ain’t dead and I’m already him lol
That sequence hit me too. Andmy teenagers have told me how I'm an "unemotional robot"!
It surprises me that Alexander wouldn't tear up to it.
Another scene that gets me is "Inside Out" where Bing-Bong sacrifices himself to the pit of lost memories. He wipes himself out of existence, completely, to not even be a memory any more:
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Like the typical clerks and secretaries, with figurines ,posters and prints on their desks with corny messages of how to love others, most of the time , they are the most insufferable people.
As an INFP male, I'm in a weird grey zone between logic and emotion. I can empathize with the cheating woman, but only if she's crying for the right reason. If she's only upset cause she got kicked out and doesn't care about what she did, then I don't sympathize with her. But if she's consumed with remorse and guilt over what she's done, I can console her, and help her begin the process of making things right, not only for her boyfriend's sake, but also for her conscience as well.
I'm in the same boat. I've had to walk that tightrope my whole life. I've come to recognize it as a strength, being able to see both sides of the equation.
As a manic depresive person I recognize a manic phase. That's what that is.
Calling ALL feminists!
Im a 63yo conservative white male. Im happily surviving on my Social Security. But, soon the monthly payments will far exceed the taxes I paid.
Three solutions:
You stay "strong and independent".
Quit complaining.
And, GET THE HELL BACK TO WORK!!!
I listened to the entire video! Found my head nodding along with it, Then I read the comments. And I am blown away! in my life I thought there was something wrong with me, I was doing it all wrong, I didnt know how, to just treat women right! But after reading the comments, my experiences are all exactly as described here, by all of you. Women are emotional, but sadly they do not apply those personality elements in a helpful way! The women in my past have been always emotionally abusive and narcissistic its the ones Im attracted too, im not perfect , but Ive had to hire lawyers to fight off some women. Ive legally have been ok. Been figuratively, raped in family court, had my kids taken away, lived in my car paying child support because of these events my life has been diminished couldnt risk business ventures because of it, stopped advancement at work. im in my 50's and I want to scream it out loud YOUNG MEN listen hard to my words! Women should never be YOUR goal in LIFE! I didnt learn this until 3 years ago!
What an emotional wreck. Holy crap how any man can deal with her
women can have every flaw in the book, and many men will still think she's "hot"
all women have standards, many men have none
I am a man, and the opening of Up by pixar made me cry so much, i can still cry just thinking about it ahah
I find it the opposite of endearing.
God bless. I'm too tired and expired to bother with women and I haven't met a high quality one in 15 years. The last 5 years I've been divorced and quintupled my net worth after divorce and ruination. I don't need this garbage again. They're not loyal. I don't love their excessive, self involved emotions and complete lack of accountability.
If my partner was comforting a cheater, she gets kicked the eff out.
I'm a man and I work with kids, I can be emotionally attuned and I can also hand out discipline when it's necessary. This is how we should approach the gender discussion, both genders should learn from the objective strengths and the weaknesses of the other
The problem with that logic is......its too logical for most women. This is why The West is collapsing...(because masculine logic is discarded in favor of feminine feelings and narratives).
Women say things on the internet for millions that if a female friend said to me in private, would cause me to distance myself from her. Women will empathize with a man, provided he doesn't show emotions. In conflicts between men and women, women will almost always support the woman, even if they have few details. They will fill in the blanks with memes from their world.
9:45 I can see this clearly with my 5 y/o stepdaughter! My wife tries talking the girl out of tamtrums, tries reasoning with her (lol), and tries convincing her to do stuff (like wearing the seat belt). The whole time, the girl keeps crying, screaming, throwing a tamtrum... until either she defeats my wife or my wife snaps out at her, shouting, sometimes spanking, etc.
In the other hand, when I tell her to do something and she starts arguing or throwing tamtrums, I completely ignore that and make her do the thing myself. Yes, I force her somehow. 5 seconds later, she stops her cries, yelling, and tamtrums, and stays calm and happy as usual lol
That nurturing, caring, compassionate emotional nature is for her kids.
Not for you.
Great analysis. The social/political implications are huge. By the early 1960s, US Black Americans had experienced decades of educational and economic progress. The creation of a welfare state which rewards single parenthood resulted in an increase from 20% to over 70% of children raised in single parent - mainly fatherless - homes. The statistics on academic performance, dropout, incarceration, out of wedlock pregnancy and poverty rates strongly correlate to the absence of fathers in the home. White fatherless homes have risen from about 4% to 20% in the same 50+ years. It is one of our society's largest problems.
Dude in the video seriously needs to be in baldcafe.
If I see a girl comforting another girl when the reason the latter is upset is because SHE cheated, it tells me that the former thinks cheating is okay. If she was my girlfriend, I'd dump her for supporting her cheating friend, because I'd be convinced that the reason she's supportive of cheating is that she's also a cheater.
What you find enduring, I find abusive, repulsive, and disgusting. My entire life, I've seen that women have been nothing but emotionally abusive. Their emotions are toxic and destructive to society and relationships.
i'm 68 now, but grew up the oldest of 6. This first woman (assuming there were more) reminds me of my younger sisters when they were irresponsible children, yet to mature.
That "mom vs dad" clip is golden
Absolutely there are ..
1. Politics / Voting
2. Strategy / Conflict (including the decision to even enter into conflict to begin with)
3. Large Purchases
There will be more, but these are the big ones for me personally. And I'm not sexist, I'm a realist.
Good Dads in the home are SOOOOOO important!!!
I can't be bothered at all with their emotions. I prefer logical and rational minds. If they get emotional....good time to move on.
No plans for children or marriage so it's not needed, useful, or enjoyable.
It's okay to be into guys bro
You sound like a woman. Definitely raised by a single mother..@@ScottZ370
Are you emotional, nurturing like a woman?
@@ScottZ370 nah... It's gay.
Why are so many criminals coming from single mother homes? This video hits on that .
Coming through the door tired after a long day at work, what do we have to eat, honey? ... ooohhh, you want me to eat THAT AGAIN, wasn't that for breakfast, and the only thing I had all weekend???? 😮
LOL, my wife called me on they way to work because she wanted to know if I was upset with her because apparently I didn't smile enough at her when drove by each other. It never ends fellas.
That's the stupid childish BS which keeps me single. I have no patience for such nonsense
I can really relate to that crap.
@redrustyhill2 It’s just part parcel of having a family. All women are crazy, I'm glad mine called rather than filing for divorce or having some other extreme reaction. She got a more enthusiastic wave this morning. I am grateful that she is coming home from yoga class rather than McDonald's. There are good women out there, but they are all a bit crazy and needy. Relationships can be pulled off, but it won't be painless or easy.
Her caring about how you feel in this situation seems like a positive. What if you were bothered about something and she never asked? Especially when most men aren't vulnerable enough to open up to women.
@florenbaron7111 🤣🤣🤣 she didn't give AF about him. It was all about HER and childisly assuming he was mad because he didn't respond how SHE wanted him to.
I love these women videos confessions of being emotionally UNSTABLE 😂kookook 😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
Maybe I have never experienced that in the right moment, but I find crying women repelling. When it's approriate I try to comfort them but internally I am like "STFU"!