Despite my character's energetic personality... I'm a shy boy in real life >.< I love being around my friends as much as I can be, but I also get easily overwhelmed and in need of a recharge.... especially now that I've got a real-life job T3T
I hear that, Fezzgig. I may have a rather hyperactive, borderline Deadpool-like energy to my way of talking, but there's only so much energy this spark can generate, if you know what I mean.
You guys did fantastic and also I have a very special surprise for you and the others I want to ask do you like Disney’s bear in the Big Blue House?? It’s my favorite childhood TV show when I was a kid you will see what I mean on my new video very soon! Hehehehe! XD
So i may have beaten Silver to that punch, upon watching the video i had to explain to the Blissy what a Ménage à trois was >w> Thanks for having me, but alsp damn i was talking faster than i thought ^^ I was added and put in last second but am happy i was deemed to have worthwhile commentary
I was always an introvert in the past, because I'm always shy and always been afraid to make friends because I was always worried of what people think of me as someone with Aspergers Syndrome, but these days I'm more extroverted as I'm now more confident in reaching out to more friends than ever before especially making best friends with my hobbies and interests and with my part time job serving customers on a regular basis and even suggest ideas to my colleagues which got a bit of recommendation to my area manager ^^ I'm also empathic as I understand what emotions my family and friends go through as I have been thought the cycles of emotions myself ^^ Great video Blissy ^^
Awwwww On behalf of the Brony community I’d like to say thank you guys so much. For all the work you’ve done for us And all the... difficult situations it has brought into you.
I remember while growing up, I was always told that I was an introvert who "fed on the room". I prefer my own company, because it is less stressful, but in emotionally charged situations (positive or negative) I can feed on that energy and become more extroverted. Its so nice to see a nuanced and reflective discussion on these topics
Bliss that part where you said, “ I wanna do extrovert things just like my friends,” almost reminds me of how I feel when my friends can do things that I can’t. I’ve always wanna be able to go somewhere or just hang out with my friends but I can’t due to feeling awkward half the time because I’m mostly quiet. My mom and aunt always say, “ Why can’t you do what girls your age do? Most girls your age do makeup, go shopping, the movies, or hang out...” me I feel as if that’s not me. Even if I wanted to do things like that I would feel my heart race and get scared. I think I might anxiety because this has been happening for years, the things I wanna do I either get too nervous to do it or give up. But that’s just how I am and to avoid causing such things I keep quiet and calm down. Or just stay at home and come out whenever. This actually helped me understand fully, thanks Bliss, Thespio, and Silver Quill. :)
1:20 my empathy is more about feeling what other characters feel. Like the white phosphorus scene from spec ops the line. Despite only watching a clip I was tearing up imaging what everyone that was killed felt on their last moments. And I cried when I saw the mother protecting her child but no dice. And undertale I can't do a genocide run. I just can 2:14 I don't actually absorb emotions. More of repressing my own negative ones intill I get home. Then i have a nap because being surrounded by idiots is tiring 5:20 I prefer being alone with Mabie one or people with that im close to. But usually. I'm perfectly happy by myself. 8:15 dealing with my temper drains me. Basically I force myself into a "calm-ish" mindset where I don't care about much. The facade can crack when I get annoyed. So I avoid who ever cracks it. When I get home I just take of the uncomfortable uniform get dressed in a knee length sleeveless dress and watch forensic files to recharge. Mabie falling asleep. 8:45 the 2 I've been two have been relatively nice.
Speaking as someone with Asburgers syndrome, I constantly find myself all over the place when it comes to social energy levels. Like one minute I want to hang out with people I haven't seen in a while that are close by, the next I'm like "I just want to shut out the world and think". And although I do enjoy going to conventions it is mostly to meet celebs and shop.
Silver Quill:”That is what coffee is for.”*pulls out starbucks coffee* Me and Lightning Bliss:” *MINE!* Also about Thespio I am kinda surprised and feel kinda the same. I am a funny loud person but also wants some me time
Meh, I prefer a Karuba coffee from Kwik Trip myself. *(Levitates a cup of said coffee and sips it happily with a content sigh)* That is magically delicious.
More Aeon please. Unique "spiritual" perspectives that are kept grounded feel hard to find, I crave guys like you deary. Uhhh, pass that message along if you like Bliss. Love that you gave your insight on a topic such as this and found such a nice variety of guest speakers. Refueling has been exstra hard for me as an essential worker still living with relatives. Finding a quiet zone short of literal excessive sleeping often has me feeling, getting time to charge myself is always a negotiated endevour. Long story short, thanks for reminding introverted Empaths like me there's a spectrum. And one can always work on improving thier emotional filters for the better. Stay safe and sane Bliss. Signed, A Young Black Mystic A.k.a. Moon Claw of The Ethernal Gaze
This comment is a few days late because I've been trying to figure out what I want to say here. I'm introverted as well, a side-effect of spending 10 years of my life under a kind of "house arrest" while taking care of my (now deceased) grandmother. I learned how to do a lot on my own. When I went to college, I was breaking out of my shell, I felt comfortable relying on others, having them rely on me, and letting others take over when there's little room to work. Then... the quarantine happened and I graduated. Haven't gotten a job yet, but those introverted tendencies are coming back, and I'm not okay with that. Top that off with me always having OC (OCD without D) and ADD. Bottom line, if I'm doing something, and really get into a rhythm, I hate to be interrupted. If I do have to stop, it's often hard for me to get back to it. It's a sticky cycle. College was scheduled, people told me certain tasks I *had* to do, but now... I live a much more relaxed lifestyle, and I miss my former-classmates.
Dang... I am extremely empathic. I honestly feel my friends pain more than I expect, wishing I could do something to help them completely recover. It is extremely overwhelming and can cause me to break down mentally. I even feel it towards the supernatural beings (yes, I helped a couple spirit children pass on to the light. This was at the Trail of Tears in Tennessee). It can have benefits, but more drawbacks I feel due to me not wanting to hurt others. If I get stressed beyond belief due to these, I could blow up at someone unintentionally. I then have a major depression mode where I feel I am the worse friend ever...
Same. If my friends have a falling out I find myself feeling angry and sad when it's got nothing to do with me. Exhausting indeed. Although we love our friends and family, me time is best time. Now if only I could get my mother and brothers extroverts to understand that. Thank god for my father. We both know we love each other but both know when to give each other space. :D
Blissy! I have been watching your videos forever and this video just confirmed to me that you and I are so similar!!! I can't draw very well but I share the same view on things. Thank you for showing me I'm not alone in my feelings!
I also feel for you Bliss. I do feel mostly extroverted, but sometimes I do need time to relax. Another example is my mom. She works between 6-14 hours per weekday. So she needs rest when she has time, and works when the time hits whatever time she needs to clock in.
Ah, I love meeting fellow empaths. Even though I believe everyone is born with the ability to be empathetic, if it's not a massive part of your core being, it can be lost completely or partially due to environmental circumstances. I was born with a heightened sense of empathy. I can feel what everyone is feeling and it's draining as hell. When I was a kid, I used think something was wrong with me, because I'd feel things that didn't make sense to me in certain situations. I didn't realize until adulthood that I was feeling what others were feeling. But because my empathy is so heavily ingrained in my psyche, I've been in desperate need of guidance from a fellow empath who's been on the path for years and has mastered it. I'm so tired of feeling so completely exhausted when I'm invited for dinner to my fiance's parents' house, considering how heavy and charged the whole house is in a negative way. My fiance knows how empathic I am, so he'll hold my hand whenever he sees my head hit the table in exhaustion. Let's not even get started with how draining most of my life has been in my household. Anyway, I used to be introverted, but that was due to environmental circumstances that led me to protect myself. As I entered adulthood, I started coming out of my shell and acting more like myself. I have a great many self-defeating issues that haven't gone away, but I'm trying. I'm extremely extroverted. I love being around people and helping them. It's my calling. Empaths tend to be great teachers, coaches, and therapists. I also LOVE psychology. I don't want to be a licensed therapist (I couldn't handle that), but I do wanna help others holistically, probably through different modalities, depending on what's needed. But I have so many mental blockages that need sorting though. It's depressing. I've been an empath for 38 years and counting. If you ever wanna talk to a fellow empath who knows how you feel, I'm more than happy to listen to you and help if you need it. :) I've always suffered from clinical anxiety and depression on varying levels, so I know how you feel there, too.
I greatly appreciated hearing that other introverts struggle with sensory overloads. I'm not an empathetic introvert, but I do have Sensory Processing Disorder on top of being an introvert. It's kind of a comfort to hear that it's not just my disorder that could be contributing to my overloads. I know that sounds weird, but thank you all the same! :)
This video gives some very good insight into the empathy/introvert scale, and it's quite interesting to know more about you all. Nice video as always Blissy, Aeon, Silver Quill and Thespio!
These are all good points. I like how you all have different ways to express yourselves, despite not liking social interactions. I personally am the same way in that I can be social, but it drains me to the point I just want my alone time. That is why art is a big thing for me.
I love this video so much I am also introverted and empathic and I loved hearing your take on these topics. I wanted to add on to your ideas a bit because on top of being introverted and empathic I also have an anxiety disorder so have time to ‘reset’ helps me have the energy to do extroverted activities like attend conventions and not have a burn out or panic attack.
Interesting lesson taught there... To say this, I love being social since middle and high school. I get to be around my classmates, my friends, and crowds on crowded places. During my old days in high school, I used to break away from people emotional feelings like if I was attempting to stay happy all the time. I felt disgusted by how people felt sad and emotional at things. However, right now in my college days after listening to an opera song from an anime, realizing my past mistakes, and not feeling good since the pandemic, I felt emotional towards myself and others I don't know. I soon began to feel what it's like to know my friends emotions. Heck, I feel nervous as I saw my former friend nearby and try to avoid getting around him. My friends understand me whenever I feel sad because I lost my artistic and creative inspiration to those who made such good ideas and when I wanted to make 2020 a special year but it's how I make it. My friends have empathy on me so well. Um..... What am I saying? Even now this reminded me of Fluttershy who is shy as we all know, she sometimes doesn't get used to be around people, she understands her friends and others' emotions, and she "likes the quiet and calm." And if I have to bring someone you might not be familiar with, it would be Proto Man from the Mega Man series. I don't think he's that much of an empathetic introvert, but I would say that he is more of a Free Spirit. Sometimes he is social, sometimes he isn't. He always works alone, he "lives his life as he wishes", and he explores the outside world. And...., I guess that's pretty much it. So, now I have learned this lesson from you and your fellas, it's the perfect time to say.... I thank you.
wholesome video Bliss, gotta say your ending theme song is always a pleasure to listen to. It kind of reminds me of Genesis Era Sonic stage music and that just brings out a bunch of warm nostalgia for me x3
Ya'll hit the nail on the head. People are shocked when they learn I am introverted and often don't believe. I've had family tell me, "But you talk all of the time!" I try to explain that I still need time to recharge my batteries.
I’m always in my comfort zone since I was in elementary i use to be hyper and socialize a lot but with childhood trauma since elementary to high school I stay isolated and stay quiet and just do my work
i only very recently started watching mlp vids again and i didnt expect a video like this to pop up.. miss lightning bliss!! i would love to thank you for making this video, this helped me understand who i am and how i act and im so happy to finally understand this side of me! i have always felt so strange for never fully fitting in either the intro or extro spectrum and i didnt know if i had empathy or not,, so i really thank you for this vid
I take emotional circumstances too restrictive, blocking myself from "feeling others" not so much because I refuse to but more of it the situation being something I am not or couldn't experience. It's the idea that we have are own minds and thoughts and feelings and furthest I could have is imagine myself in their situation and how it would make me feel, but I can't draw on their emotion so much. I can still sympathize when I see they are down but don't know the reason, though I feel like people tend to esteem empathy over sympathy when to me they more work together than growing out of one and into the other. Being unable to feel for others is apathy and if empathy is about that emotional understanding of the other person then I would consider antipathy to be the opposite: hatred. Apathy doesn't connect with how the other person feels while antipathy wants nothing but the worst of feelings to the other person. I guess in that sense if antipathy is hatred and the opposite of empathy then empathy could just be love and care and I can show that, so maybe the emotional understanding and connecting I can't get so much... I don't know, etymology says empathy comes from "in feeling" like you are in the feeling of another person, while sympathy means with feeling or feeling something with another person... Maybe just how words get used over time and earn more and more merit. I'm an introverted no idea what, breaking free of my comfort zone cacoon to one day be a social moth. I like the friendship this community has shown...maybe displayed I don't know. Like a word that means you see it but it's behind a barrier or something. I guess tantalizes is the closest so go with that. I like the friendship this community tantalizes and the energy is infectious. The videos are all hard work and end result is very much fun to watch and think about the discussion. It's nice to send my own thoughts into the aether regardless if they reach anyone or not, just some part of me that is out there is all, but not vapid... though not sure if I am the judge of that or the reader which makes it great to be unread... though I guess to write something to never be read is vapid technically, I have no idea how this works. Eh no need to worry about something that doesn't matter you know, anyway but yeah it was fun video I enjoyed it and the discussions and views had and shown.
This is really helpful insight and advice especially for those who are practicing or preparing to become part of entertainment careers. In a way I'm like a semi introvert / extrovert; where I do like to be unique and intentionally an odd one out on many public scenarios but during my down time I do prefer to be alone doing my own Hobbies or side-duties. That developed mostly being in a family of your parents and four siblings.
This topic has happened to me a lot and mostly I get yelled at when I’m trying to be nice or I might be over talk due to being nervous meeting new people.
I understand and can relate to this topic, as I am an introvert myself. I get shy when it comes to just talking to people, yet I like hanging out with my friends. It’s bad enough that I have trouble talking altogether. I’m usually quiet or just flat-out silent. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to socialize, though. I may be introverted, but I still want to interact with society. I’m getting better at talking to people, but it’s still hard to talk loudly and clearly sometimes. All that being said, I may be an introvert, but I still want to socialize thereby progressing in life.
This episode has hit home for me in so many ways, as a kid, I went to a school there for seven years I had teachers who weren't very encouraging but were the type to put me down, the result was for me to further embrace my already introverted mindset, and my parents wrote it off as me not liking school because I was a kid, but it caused a cycle where I became depressed, and tend to vent in passive aggressive methods that made me come off as sarcastic. it wasn't until I snapped that they finally got the memo that there was something wrong half-way through my freshman year. I did get transferred to a public school where I was free to express myself in the Art Program where I earned the Most Outstanding award for three years solid, after that I joined a martial arts dojang where I found confidence and became a more secure person, and now years later I am a teacher to children, and thanks to the jerks who made my early school years heck, I know how to motivate and build confidence and how to avoid down-putting language that would discourage children. I did go to anger management and was able to come to grips with my issues, but when I think about what those people had done to not just me but to my classmates, I wonder how I would have turned out if I had teachers who encouraged me in a positive way. the end result was that I became good at reading people's moods to spot the warning signs that I might get in someone's crosshairs if I say or do the wrong thing. a skill that I use to read my students if they have a problem and they might need to talk about it. plus it became a good lie-detector.
Thanks for posting this. I don't know why but it help me out today. I guess I just feeling burned out because have spent a lot of time at my bffs place for like five hours and I've already been there two other times this week. Even I care for her and don't mind hanging out but as Austisc Introverted I just needed a bit of a break. Though, I don't really consider myself an empathic, I can be but im not the best at reading those invisable soshioal ques people have. Althougth this video does explain why I like you Lighting Bliss and Sliver Quill so much. So, agian thanks for posting!
I really love that you made this video, cause it's basically how my life functions as well. I constantly take in not only other peoples' emotions, but every bit of stimulus around me. This can be a problem though, as my Asperger's basically makes it so that I'm taking in that stimulus and all those emotions at once with no way of filtering it out, making it a lot easier to shut down. But, anyways, I'm glad to know that people I look up to and respect experience the same things i do. really enjoyed it.
I'm a pony that is Ambient with Introverted functions and Empathic with myself for a long time but I've never noticed my Empathic part before until now. Thanks to Lightning Bliss, Aeon of Dreams, Silver Quill, and Thespio, I am able to who I am truly. But as a content creator, I haven't figured out what type of videos I should do for the brony community. So, I hope you have a good year Lightning Bliss. -The Drago Misfits
Empathic ambivert here. When it comes to introverts and extroverts, I'm right in the middle, or maybe leaning slightly close to extroveriness. This video hit me close to home. I care a lot about by friends and in the past, I've over cared so much that I basically went crazy. Its hard to find a good balance, in fact I still struggle with this. But hopefully I can get better. Thanks for a great video.
I'm pretty empathic myself...but I'm more extroverted, despite not going out in public very often. This is mostly due to me being unable to drive , courtesy of my mildly impaired motor skills. But when given the chance; I try to be social, when I'm around others. But I DO love my alone time, especially when I just want to relax or work on some writing
A someone who wants to major in psychology fields, I love this sooooo much! I'm an extrovert with introverted tendencies and I consider myself empathic. I think the reason for my introverted tendencies would be the empathy, because like said in the video, you are attuned to the emotions of others to a high level. For me it's kinda like I see emotions, and then my brain tries to relate it to things I experience or recreate them to a lesser extent. It's very draining for me to be around very high energy people, and a large group of people with differing emotions, but I believe I have a much higher tolerance for how long I can stay around before being overwhelmed. That's why I'm an extrovert with introverted tendencies. Especially with a Myers-Briggs type of ENFP, (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Prospecting) I make lots of connections in my head that I want to share with others which are not necessarily based on fact, by how I feel, and I will do so at a whim. I have a lot of energy, but when others emotions are too wild, like a friend with a bad temper who will get angry fast and quick, it can be very hard for me to be emotionally stable around people. I need to take breaks or I risk burning myself out in larger crowds or emotionally turbulent situations when I need my energy. It seems like I'm an introvert, but all I ever want to do is be with people, interact with people, I hate being alone, (all of which doesn't necessarily mean I am an introvert) but I get very energized when I can just talk to my friends and hang out without any big drama. This video has gotten me thinking, sorry if my paragraph was boring 😅
I honestly know how you guys feel as i am autistic with people and noise anxiety along with being empathic and introverted so i get overwhelmed quite easily, as well as the fact that i didn't get out much when we weren't in a pandemic.
Thank you Lighting Bliss, Aeon of Dreams, Silver Quill and Thespio for this topic discussion to clear the certain terms to describe people who are like this and understand.
Introverted Empath, here, lol. Can confirm that it can make social situations EXHAUSTING, but it's always been such a gift and enabled me to help those who felt uncomfortable, excluded, or like they were the odd ones out feel more welcome and valued as people. One problem I didn't see mentioned, though, was that it ALSO makes it REALLY difficult to remove a toxic person from your life, because you can literally see everything that they're feeling and relate to it on a personal level. That one person you got an instant red flag from? Aw, they can't be THAT bad, they're just doing their best, right? NOPE. Uber creeper. Everyone says this other person's a stalker? Naw, they just want to be and feel included, right? NOPE. Now they're creeping on you. My advice to fellow Introverted Empaths would be to know where your lines are, draw them out, and stick to them. Bending the rules for others is what gets us into trouble most often. (Also, LISTEN to your friends and to those instinctual red flags, they can literally save your life)
I've been referring to myself as an introverted empath for a while now(also an INFJ) and this video was a great explanation if how I feel. Also, when I feel nervous about meeting it talking to someone, I try to remember something. I remember that this individual is a person just like me and will often be very kind and understanding. If I ever meet you in real life Blissy(and everyone else), I will be sure to do everything I can to remain calm and collected so that you are less likely to get nervous.
Thank you lightning For talking about this topic the Examples that you shiver quill and thespio Talked about have really helped a lot And now I understand Why I have a habit of trying to understand peoples emotions even my own emotions And why I care so much.
As part of the downside of being empathic, as well as an optimist. The more positive others around me feel, the happier I become. But...if one or two of my family members feel extreme stress/anger, it can be VERY draining; thus making ME angry as well
I can 100% agree with this video. I'm empathic and a introvert that wants to do extrovert stuff, and I'm odc as well. But finding people with the same interests in irl is so hard (especially since the whole covid 19 stuff is happening) Their easier to find online tho, but you really can't know if there actually like that irl. So I try my best to make friends (well to the best of my ability anyway, having fear doesn't help with making friends, And the fact that my family is basically a little group of introverts.) I got like 2 irl friends I made, I met them in a homeschooling group but My mom and their mom don't really get along well. So I don't get to see them as much as I wish I could, And I'm not in the homeschooling group anymore. So most of my friends are online friends but ofc I don't share personal information, bc you shouldn't tell people that kinda stuff anyway.
I am definitely an Empath. Which is great for my field of work (childcare). It's both good and bad, especially when you have a child with emotional dependency, delays, or even lack-there-of. It's why on really difficult days where it seems all my children are highly emotional (due to maybe visitations while in foster-care, someone passing away, maybe just woke up grumpy, ect.) I literally feel mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted. I also have to sometimes fight this ability to empathize during certain events, (like days when everyone seems grumpy for no apparent reason.) I prefer being the light-hearted, happy person during DnD sessions, group events, ect. So when a group is just annoyed, I have to shove their bitterness aside and stick to me own emotions. Sometimes I can alter the room, other times I cannot but don't lose myself in their angry mood, My fiance doesn't really understand it. He is introverted, but I don't think he's empathic. He has the ability too, but only with those he's formed a very close bond too (his close family, myself, and also his best friend.) So... Selective Empathy? While I do so with everyone. He tends to be the one who keeps me grounded this way, though I doubt he notices it. One touch from him, and it's easily a slight recharge/CNTR-ALT-Delete of current bad emotions I've stored from being around others without even realizing it. He isn't the only one who can do this either. My mother, grandmother, and father can do this transfer/ recharge. But since they live across the country, he is me main source of energy booster/defuser. Does anyone else have all of this too?
I think I’m a introvert and extrovert. I like going to places, get excited doing stuff, and like to learn new things, but I don’t quite realize not a lot of people may want to hear what I learn, share my interest, and I may not like to share in their interest. But out of love for those people I do try, but may not be fully aware of what’s going on. Example: going to sport game I have no interest in but a family of mine is on the team. I sat there, unsure what was happening, if he even played, or who won, but I show some support. And the next day we did something that all of us liked.
I have difficulty with empathy. Of course I feel it but I do not want to let emotion cloud my judgement. So what I do is look at things from all sides and then just choose one. From the outside thos may look like black and white thinking but I just do not see much value in being indicisive
sorry for the log one 1:30 you are not the only one like that and it is good to know of other out there that have the same ( shall we say qualities or quirks sorry if it is misspelled ) deal going on with them. i tend to isolate myself due to this very reason. for me i get worn out quite quick and try to hide to calm myself. heck i just hope you don't have to just look at a person to know a lot about their personality and what they are like. for me it tense to kill encounters and relationships before they can even start.which tense to end up hurting all those around me. and end up in a lot of fights. especially shine i never seem to get what i want to say across and end up casing a bigger mess to be made thou. though my songs poems and a few of my books have helped somewhat. it tends to pull quite the emotional rush just be it being read alone and the to break when i sing or preform my songs poems and books. all i build up is put in my work. and it is a joy i have. and you Bliss are one of the few joys i have. for me i really don't find much joy in a lot of things. except in books here on you tube and a few other places online. i can not get tired of you work. and i keep on rollin. Keep up the good work Bliss. and Thank You
I can definitely relate to lightning bliss, I went to RICC one year and it was a five floor convention. I got overwhelmed trying to see it all and by dinner time I had as I call it shut down socially and hid myself in my newly bought comics til I recovered. I am really glad my understanding friends were there to keep an eye on me and ask if I was alright from time to time, even if I didn't show it.
I'm an anxiety driven introvert. If I'm in an area that I'm not used to I get sick almost literally. Watching your videos help me stay focused on something else so I don't have a panic attack. Especially when in a car.
There are times where I'll have all this energy stored for a day, then the next be completely drained until I get that boost back. Even though I classify myself as being introverted, there are times where I'm alright going onto a stage and stating thoughts in front of an audience. As far as being empathic, I would also put myself under that category. It's weird to say, but I can tell whether or not someone's feeling down based on their eye contact, body movements, and even how they speak to me. If there is someone in need of, say a hug, then I'll be able to provide a hug, but also empathy for them. When it comes to meeting an idol of mine, I tend to shut down my system because I'm so nervous I might screw something up. However, my friends and family will be there by my side and I suddenly lose nervousness and go full force while trying not to be too energetic. Similar to not enough energy, too much energy could cause people to make quick decisions without thinking about how it'll sound to the listener. All in all, I would also classify under Empathic and Introverted.
I'm also Empathic and Introverted, but I also have autism. In the past I was shy, but otherwise I always wanted to hang out with friends and do activities, I just needed some alone time between. But a few years ago I overestimated myself and had a big overload that took months to recover from. Now I've developed severe Anxiety for anything that costs energy, but I still try to do fun things for myself or with loved ones. But because I need a lot of rest during and afterward the activity I sense because of my empathy that they find it disappointing or even mistake my tiredness for boredom, which makes me feel awful. But I'm still glad I'm empathetic cause with my autism it is already hard being social, and at least this way I know how others are feeling.
I am on the Autism spectrum, and I find that myself and others who I've met who are also on "the spectrum" are also introverted and empathetic. I find my empathy tends to be stronger around animals than other people. I also tend to experience my strongest sense of anxiety and/or sensory overload around crowds, unless I'm focusing on a task.
I'm an empath and introvert too! But I'm also a witch, and through that I actually learned something helpful for all fellow empaths! Veiling! In this case, wearing a head cover when around other people or after being out and about. For me, headscarves and handkerchief headbands do the trick! It holds the frizzy hair back, covers my head for both unwanted emotional absorption and shade during hot days, and it feels like a shield for my introversion! I kid you not, it feels really therapeutic so I highly recommend it!
I can relate to a lot of the things said in this video (as an empathic introvert myself) and it kinda surprised me and made me feel a little less alone
Introvert with Extrovert Tendencies... that's a thing? An actual thing? It makes so much sense! Due to the fact I am very introverted but also am very extroverted around people... mostly when I am having anxiety, I get to extroverted or as I call it: 'panic speaking and forced happy grins' I love to act and sing to, but I would love to do it when I'm ready but am mostly forced, not that I don't like it, there are just some days I need to recharge. Plus the torturous sensory overload. I think I relate to all of you on some level or another.
I've come to the conclusion that stepping out of your comfort zone is how you expand your comfort zone and grow as an individual; however, the comfort zone is still important, as it provides you with a space to step back into, whenever you're feeling overwhelmed.
(FanGirlStephie here) Oh my gosh, it is so nice to hear that there are more empaths that are introverts out there! I am an Empath and an Introvert as well. I wish I was able to talk about it with you all. It would be so nice to talk to people who understand what its like. My mom and younger sister are Empaths as well.
I wish I had that kind of Awareness. I'd been so excited to meet Black Gryphon back at Alicon 2018 that when he mentioned he too had been in Japan during October 2012, I kinda socially blanked and focused on events from MY time in Japan instead of making that huge realization that it was so crazy we'd both been so close by to one another before I even knew about Friendship is Magic at all, making it seem like I was selfishly making it all about me. Had I been a bit more socially aware and tactful, I would've asked where he'd been in Japan and what it had been like for him. I apologized the next day and, even though Gabe told me he hadn't noticed that at all and that he felt I didn't need to apologize for anything, I STILL feel guilty about it to this day.
My social skills are brute force learning from trial and error, but being handsome gives me some bonus halo effect in offline interactions. Being a lot more eloquent in writing helps me considerably in my online interactions.
It is very hard. I also struggle with it tremendously. Mostly to know what to say not to upset people and to keep thinking that just because I wouldn't be offended with something doesn't mean someone else wouldn't. I really had to learn social skills one by one through bans and berating. Such as when someone made a quick doodle and I said it was below their standards. I had to learn that while that sounds like a completely neutral observation to me it is very offending to the artist. Or my repeated failures to know when to let something go when I don't understand what I did wrong rather than press the issue to the point where I got banned for 'harassment'. Learning that other people can have different opinions is also not easy. I still fall into the mindset of seeing opinions as either superior or inferior. That I need to take over a 'superior' opinion or lecture someone if they have an 'inferior' one. It's something I still need to work hard to suppress even though I'm almost 30.
Despite my character's energetic personality... I'm a shy boy in real life >.< I love being around my friends as much as I can be, but I also get easily overwhelmed and in need of a recharge.... especially now that I've got a real-life job T3T
When Thespio said he was an empathetic introvert I was actually thinking "next thing you know Jasper is going to be an empathetic introvert"
@@DeathGodRiku I don't know about empathetic. But introvert, yes ^^;
I hear that, Fezzgig. I may have a rather hyperactive, borderline Deadpool-like energy to my way of talking, but there's only so much energy this spark can generate, if you know what I mean.
It's always a joy whenever I see you in a video, because of that energy. I can totally get the need to recharge. Take care of yourself
@@JoeyTurner476 I am right there with ya.
Thanks for having me ^^
Thanks for being a part of it ^^
You guys did fantastic and also I have a very special surprise for you and the others I want to ask do you like Disney’s bear in the Big Blue House?? It’s my favorite childhood TV show when I was a kid you will see what I mean on my new video very soon! Hehehehe! XD
@@coltonbell8284 I’ll be fair and say I’ve had worse, but yeah it was still pretty bad.
So i may have beaten Silver to that punch, upon watching the video i had to explain to the Blissy what a Ménage à trois was >w>
Thanks for having me, but alsp damn i was talking faster than i thought ^^ I was added and put in last second but am happy i was deemed to have worthwhile commentary
T.T my world is no longer the same lol. Thanks for being a part of it ^^
Always a fun time you and Blissy are together in a video. You guys have such good energy when you bounce off one another
Ok Mr. Perfect Cell
*Aeon of Dreams* It was wonderful to hear you and see your OC. Even when you're a demonic jokester. Tee-hee. 😜
@@lightning-bliss are you and aeon going to react to hazbin Hotel and halova boss
I was always an introvert in the past, because I'm always shy and always been afraid to make friends because I was always worried of what people think of me as someone with Aspergers Syndrome, but these days I'm more extroverted as I'm now more confident in reaching out to more friends than ever before especially making best friends with my hobbies and interests and with my part time job serving customers on a regular basis and even suggest ideas to my colleagues which got a bit of recommendation to my area manager ^^ I'm also empathic as I understand what emotions my family and friends go through as I have been thought the cycles of emotions myself ^^ Great video Blissy ^^
HELLO FELLOW AUTISTIC HUMAN BEING! :D
Awwwww
On behalf of the Brony community I’d like to say thank you guys so much.
For all the work you’ve done for us
And all the... difficult situations it has brought into you.
The unholy four have joined once again.
Hey only one of them is a devil! 😉
@@Springtime562 doubtful 😉
Blissy is debatable, Thespio is... Interesting, and Silver is his own brand of evil
@@Randerson2409 yes.
@@ThatOneHyena I was talking about Aeon.
I remember while growing up, I was always told that I was an introvert who "fed on the room". I prefer my own company, because it is less stressful, but in emotionally charged situations (positive or negative) I can feed on that energy and become more extroverted. Its so nice to see a nuanced and reflective discussion on these topics
Bliss that part where you said, “ I wanna do extrovert things just like my friends,” almost reminds me of how I feel when my friends can do things that I can’t. I’ve always wanna be able to go somewhere or just hang out with my friends but I can’t due to feeling awkward half the time because I’m mostly quiet. My mom and aunt always say, “ Why can’t you do what girls your age do? Most girls your age do makeup, go shopping, the movies, or hang out...” me I feel as if that’s not me. Even if I wanted to do things like that I would feel my heart race and get scared. I think I might anxiety because this has been happening for years, the things I wanna do I either get too nervous to do it or give up. But that’s just how I am and to avoid causing such things I keep quiet and calm down. Or just stay at home and come out whenever. This actually helped me understand fully, thanks Bliss, Thespio, and Silver Quill. :)
1:20 my empathy is more about feeling what other characters feel. Like the white phosphorus scene from spec ops the line. Despite only watching a clip I was tearing up imaging what everyone that was killed felt on their last moments. And I cried when I saw the mother protecting her child but no dice. And undertale I can't do a genocide run. I just can
2:14 I don't actually absorb emotions. More of repressing my own negative ones intill I get home. Then i have a nap because being surrounded by idiots is tiring
5:20 I prefer being alone with Mabie one or people with that im close to. But usually. I'm perfectly happy by myself.
8:15 dealing with my temper drains me. Basically I force myself into a "calm-ish" mindset where I don't care about much. The facade can crack when I get annoyed. So I avoid who ever cracks it. When I get home I just take of the uncomfortable uniform get dressed in a knee length sleeveless dress and watch forensic files to recharge. Mabie falling asleep.
8:45 the 2 I've been two have been relatively nice.
Speaking as someone with Asburgers syndrome, I constantly find myself all over the place when it comes to social energy levels. Like one minute I want to hang out with people I haven't seen in a while that are close by, the next I'm like "I just want to shut out the world and think". And although I do enjoy going to conventions it is mostly to meet celebs and shop.
Happy 4th of July, Miss Bliss! Same for the rest of the Fearsome Foursome!
Silver Quill:”That is what coffee is for.”*pulls out starbucks coffee*
Me and Lightning Bliss:” *MINE!*
Also about Thespio I am kinda surprised and feel kinda the same.
I am a funny loud person but also wants some me time
Meh, I prefer a Karuba coffee from Kwik Trip myself. *(Levitates a cup of said coffee and sips it happily with a content sigh)* That is magically delicious.
More Aeon please. Unique "spiritual" perspectives that are kept grounded feel hard to find, I crave guys like you deary.
Uhhh, pass that message along if you like Bliss.
Love that you gave your insight on a topic such as this and found such a nice variety of guest speakers.
Refueling has been exstra hard for me as an essential worker still living with relatives. Finding a quiet zone short of literal excessive sleeping often has me feeling, getting time to charge myself is always a negotiated endevour.
Long story short, thanks for reminding introverted Empaths like me there's a spectrum. And one can always work on improving thier emotional filters for the better.
Stay safe and sane Bliss.
Signed, A Young Black Mystic
A.k.a. Moon Claw of The Ethernal Gaze
This comment is a few days late because I've been trying to figure out what I want to say here.
I'm introverted as well, a side-effect of spending 10 years of my life under a kind of "house arrest" while taking care of my (now deceased) grandmother. I learned how to do a lot on my own. When I went to college, I was breaking out of my shell, I felt comfortable relying on others, having them rely on me, and letting others take over when there's little room to work.
Then... the quarantine happened and I graduated. Haven't gotten a job yet, but those introverted tendencies are coming back, and I'm not okay with that. Top that off with me always having OC (OCD without D) and ADD.
Bottom line, if I'm doing something, and really get into a rhythm, I hate to be interrupted. If I do have to stop, it's often hard for me to get back to it. It's a sticky cycle. College was scheduled, people told me certain tasks I *had* to do, but now... I live a much more relaxed lifestyle, and I miss my former-classmates.
The fact that Doc join in took me by surprise
Interesting topic. :)
Indeed it is. Hearing it from different perspectives is good to know from others.
17:24
Silver Quill: “OR MAKE YOU CRY!!!! LIKE ME!!!!”
My friends called me
"Emotion vampire"
....i guess the word is actually empathic introvert ...
Eh, they're probably similar in some way.
Dang... I am extremely empathic. I honestly feel my friends pain more than I expect, wishing I could do something to help them completely recover. It is extremely overwhelming and can cause me to break down mentally. I even feel it towards the supernatural beings (yes, I helped a couple spirit children pass on to the light. This was at the Trail of Tears in Tennessee). It can have benefits, but more drawbacks I feel due to me not wanting to hurt others. If I get stressed beyond belief due to these, I could blow up at someone unintentionally. I then have a major depression mode where I feel I am the worse friend ever...
Great video! Always makes my day to see a new video with y'all in it!
Same. If my friends have a falling out I find myself feeling angry and sad when it's got nothing to do with me. Exhausting indeed. Although we love our friends and family, me time is best time. Now if only I could get my mother and brothers extroverts to understand that. Thank god for my father. We both know we love each other but both know when to give each other space. :D
I’m essentially the most empathetic person in my family
Blissy! I have been watching your videos forever and this video just confirmed to me that you and I are so similar!!! I can't draw very well but I share the same view on things. Thank you for showing me I'm not alone in my feelings!
i can't believe you added my friend liz (blue angel) into this video as a cameo
I also feel for you Bliss. I do feel mostly extroverted, but sometimes I do need time to relax. Another example is my mom. She works between 6-14 hours per weekday. So she needs rest when she has time, and works when the time hits whatever time she needs to clock in.
Ah, I love meeting fellow empaths. Even though I believe everyone is born with the ability to be empathetic, if it's not a massive part of your core being, it can be lost completely or partially due to environmental circumstances. I was born with a heightened sense of empathy. I can feel what everyone is feeling and it's draining as hell. When I was a kid, I used think something was wrong with me, because I'd feel things that didn't make sense to me in certain situations. I didn't realize until adulthood that I was feeling what others were feeling. But because my empathy is so heavily ingrained in my psyche, I've been in desperate need of guidance from a fellow empath who's been on the path for years and has mastered it. I'm so tired of feeling so completely exhausted when I'm invited for dinner to my fiance's parents' house, considering how heavy and charged the whole house is in a negative way. My fiance knows how empathic I am, so he'll hold my hand whenever he sees my head hit the table in exhaustion. Let's not even get started with how draining most of my life has been in my household.
Anyway, I used to be introverted, but that was due to environmental circumstances that led me to protect myself. As I entered adulthood, I started coming out of my shell and acting more like myself. I have a great many self-defeating issues that haven't gone away, but I'm trying. I'm extremely extroverted. I love being around people and helping them. It's my calling. Empaths tend to be great teachers, coaches, and therapists. I also LOVE psychology. I don't want to be a licensed therapist (I couldn't handle that), but I do wanna help others holistically, probably through different modalities, depending on what's needed. But I have so many mental blockages that need sorting though. It's depressing. I've been an empath for 38 years and counting.
If you ever wanna talk to a fellow empath who knows how you feel, I'm more than happy to listen to you and help if you need it. :) I've always suffered from clinical anxiety and depression on varying levels, so I know how you feel there, too.
"And this is why I stay away from coffee houses. They're practically hornet's nests..." compleeeeeete with Kaaaarens
I've been an introvert all my life, but I can be more outgoing when I'm online. Being introduced to pen-and-paper RPGs have helped with that too.
Happy 4th of July Blissy!
This video made me Smile.
Happy 4th of July to you Lightning Bliss and your Friends and Family as well.
Hope you have a wonderful Fourth of July lighting bliss.
I greatly appreciated hearing that other introverts struggle with sensory overloads. I'm not an empathetic introvert, but I do have Sensory Processing Disorder on top of being an introvert. It's kind of a comfort to hear that it's not just my disorder that could be contributing to my overloads. I know that sounds weird, but thank you all the same! :)
This video gives some very good insight into the empathy/introvert scale, and it's quite interesting to know more about you all. Nice video as always Blissy, Aeon, Silver Quill and Thespio!
These are all good points. I like how you all have different ways to express yourselves, despite not liking social interactions. I personally am the same way in that I can be social, but it drains me to the point I just want my alone time. That is why art is a big thing for me.
Awesome video you guys. You did a great job covering these meaningful topics as well as expressing your own experiences with these. :D
I love this video so much I am also introverted and empathic and I loved hearing your take on these topics. I wanted to add on to your ideas a bit because on top of being introverted and empathic I also have an anxiety disorder so have time to ‘reset’ helps me have the energy to do extroverted activities like attend conventions and not have a burn out or panic attack.
Interesting lesson taught there... To say this, I love being social since middle and high school. I get to be around my classmates, my friends, and crowds on crowded places. During my old days in high school, I used to break away from people emotional feelings like if I was attempting to stay happy all the time. I felt disgusted by how people felt sad and emotional at things. However, right now in my college days after listening to an opera song from an anime, realizing my past mistakes, and not feeling good since the pandemic, I felt emotional towards myself and others I don't know. I soon began to feel what it's like to know my friends emotions. Heck, I feel nervous as I saw my former friend nearby and try to avoid getting around him. My friends understand me whenever I feel sad because I lost my artistic and creative inspiration to those who made such good ideas and when I wanted to make 2020 a special year but it's how I make it. My friends have empathy on me so well.
Um..... What am I saying? Even now this reminded me of Fluttershy who is shy as we all know, she sometimes doesn't get used to be around people, she understands her friends and others' emotions, and she "likes the quiet and calm."
And if I have to bring someone you might not be familiar with, it would be Proto Man from the Mega Man series. I don't think he's that much of an empathetic introvert, but I would say that he is more of a Free Spirit. Sometimes he is social, sometimes he isn't. He always works alone, he "lives his life as he wishes", and he explores the outside world. And...., I guess that's pretty much it.
So, now I have learned this lesson from you and your fellas, it's the perfect time to say.... I thank you.
I relate! I like socializing and sympathizing by day, though I tend to keep to myself at night
wholesome video Bliss, gotta say your ending theme song is always a pleasure to listen to. It kind of reminds me of Genesis Era Sonic stage music and that just brings out a bunch of warm nostalgia for me x3
Ya'll hit the nail on the head. People are shocked when they learn I am introverted and often don't believe. I've had family tell me, "But you talk all of the time!" I try to explain that I still need time to recharge my batteries.
Like always this is so awesome Blissy i love it!!!
I’m always in my comfort zone since I was in elementary i use to be hyper and socialize a lot but with childhood trauma since elementary to high school I stay isolated and stay quiet and just do my work
Fantastic video Lightning Bliss. I really enjoyed this. Keep up the good work everyone. Have a wonderful day. Love you all.
i only very recently started watching mlp vids again and i didnt expect a video like this to pop up.. miss lightning bliss!! i would love to thank you for making this video, this helped me understand who i am and how i act and im so happy to finally understand this side of me! i have always felt so strange for never fully fitting in either the intro or extro spectrum and i didnt know if i had empathy or not,, so i really thank you for this vid
Bliss you are so awsome. You are one of the many people that got me in to MLP and I really enjoy it.
I take emotional circumstances too restrictive, blocking myself from "feeling others" not so much because I refuse to but more of it the situation being something I am not or couldn't experience. It's the idea that we have are own minds and thoughts and feelings and furthest I could have is imagine myself in their situation and how it would make me feel, but I can't draw on their emotion so much.
I can still sympathize when I see they are down but don't know the reason, though I feel like people tend to esteem empathy over sympathy when to me they more work together than growing out of one and into the other. Being unable to feel for others is apathy and if empathy is about that emotional understanding of the other person then I would consider antipathy to be the opposite: hatred. Apathy doesn't connect with how the other person feels while antipathy wants nothing but the worst of feelings to the other person. I guess in that sense if antipathy is hatred and the opposite of empathy then empathy could just be love and care and I can show that, so maybe the emotional understanding and connecting I can't get so much...
I don't know, etymology says empathy comes from "in feeling" like you are in the feeling of another person, while sympathy means with feeling or feeling something with another person... Maybe just how words get used over time and earn more and more merit. I'm an introverted no idea what, breaking free of my comfort zone cacoon to one day be a social moth.
I like the friendship this community has shown...maybe displayed I don't know. Like a word that means you see it but it's behind a barrier or something. I guess tantalizes is the closest so go with that. I like the friendship this community tantalizes and the energy is infectious. The videos are all hard work and end result is very much fun to watch and think about the discussion. It's nice to send my own thoughts into the aether regardless if they reach anyone or not, just some part of me that is out there is all, but not vapid... though not sure if I am the judge of that or the reader which makes it great to be unread... though I guess to write something to never be read is vapid technically, I have no idea how this works. Eh no need to worry about something that doesn't matter you know, anyway but yeah it was fun video I enjoyed it and the discussions and views had and shown.
This is really helpful insight and advice especially for those who are practicing or preparing to become part of entertainment careers. In a way I'm like a semi introvert / extrovert; where I do like to be unique and intentionally an odd one out on many public scenarios but during my down time I do prefer to be alone doing my own Hobbies or side-duties. That developed mostly being in a family of your parents and four siblings.
This topic has happened to me a lot and mostly I get yelled at when I’m trying to be nice or I might be over talk due to being nervous meeting new people.
You guys are awesome. Hope you’re doing well.
I understand and can relate to this topic, as I am an introvert myself. I get shy when it comes to just talking to people, yet I like hanging out with my friends. It’s bad enough that I have trouble talking altogether. I’m usually quiet or just flat-out silent. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to socialize, though. I may be introverted, but I still want to interact with society. I’m getting better at talking to people, but it’s still hard to talk loudly and clearly sometimes. All that being said, I may be an introvert, but I still want to socialize thereby progressing in life.
Did Lightning-Bliss sucker punch 👊 Silver Quill?
I'm surprised that she can pull off a mean chin lock.
She has hooves
Are you surprised by this? Silver is the main chew toy of the Brony community.
@@supersonicheroes The pattern has been shown multiple times. And is funny as tarturus.
It was... Really good to listen^^
This episode has hit home for me in so many ways, as a kid, I went to a school there for seven years I had teachers who weren't very encouraging but were the type to put me down, the result was for me to further embrace my already introverted mindset, and my parents wrote it off as me not liking school because I was a kid, but it caused a cycle where I became depressed, and tend to vent in passive aggressive methods that made me come off as sarcastic. it wasn't until I snapped that they finally got the memo that there was something wrong half-way through my freshman year.
I did get transferred to a public school where I was free to express myself in the Art Program where I earned the Most Outstanding award for three years solid, after that I joined a martial arts dojang where I found confidence and became a more secure person, and now years later I am a teacher to children, and thanks to the jerks who made my early school years heck, I know how to motivate and build confidence and how to avoid down-putting language that would discourage children.
I did go to anger management and was able to come to grips with my issues, but when I think about what those people had done to not just me but to my classmates, I wonder how I would have turned out if I had teachers who encouraged me in a positive way. the end result was that I became good at reading people's moods to spot the warning signs that I might get in someone's crosshairs if I say or do the wrong thing. a skill that I use to read my students if they have a problem and they might need to talk about it. plus it became a good lie-detector.
Thanks for posting this. I don't know why but it help me out today. I guess I just feeling burned out because have spent a lot of time at my bffs place for like five hours and I've already been there two other times this week. Even I care for her and don't mind hanging out but as Austisc Introverted I just needed a bit of a break. Though, I don't really consider myself an empathic, I can be but im not the best at reading those invisable soshioal ques people have. Althougth this video does explain why I like you Lighting Bliss and Sliver Quill so much. So, agian thanks for posting!
I really love that you made this video, cause it's basically how my life functions as well. I constantly take in not only other peoples' emotions, but every bit of stimulus around me. This can be a problem though, as my Asperger's basically makes it so that I'm taking in that stimulus and all those emotions at once with no way of filtering it out, making it a lot easier to shut down. But, anyways, I'm glad to know that people I look up to and respect experience the same things i do. really enjoyed it.
I'm a pony that is Ambient with Introverted functions and Empathic with myself for a long time but I've never noticed my Empathic part before until now. Thanks to Lightning Bliss, Aeon of Dreams, Silver Quill, and Thespio, I am able to who I am truly. But as a content creator, I haven't figured out what type of videos I should do for the brony community. So, I hope you have a good year Lightning Bliss. -The Drago Misfits
Empathic ambivert here. When it comes to introverts and extroverts, I'm right in the middle, or maybe leaning slightly close to extroveriness. This video hit me close to home. I care a lot about by friends and in the past, I've over cared so much that I basically went crazy. Its hard to find a good balance, in fact I still struggle with this. But hopefully I can get better. Thanks for a great video.
This video on Empathic and Introvert was done well.
I'm pretty empathic myself...but I'm more extroverted, despite not going out in public very often. This is mostly due to me being unable to drive , courtesy of my mildly impaired motor skills.
But when given the chance; I try to be social, when I'm around others. But I DO love my alone time, especially when I just want to relax or work on some writing
A someone who wants to major in psychology fields, I love this sooooo much! I'm an extrovert with introverted tendencies and I consider myself empathic. I think the reason for my introverted tendencies would be the empathy, because like said in the video, you are attuned to the emotions of others to a high level. For me it's kinda like I see emotions, and then my brain tries to relate it to things I experience or recreate them to a lesser extent. It's very draining for me to be around very high energy people, and a large group of people with differing emotions, but I believe I have a much higher tolerance for how long I can stay around before being overwhelmed. That's why I'm an extrovert with introverted tendencies. Especially with a Myers-Briggs type of ENFP, (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Prospecting) I make lots of connections in my head that I want to share with others which are not necessarily based on fact, by how I feel, and I will do so at a whim. I have a lot of energy, but when others emotions are too wild, like a friend with a bad temper who will get angry fast and quick, it can be very hard for me to be emotionally stable around people. I need to take breaks or I risk burning myself out in larger crowds or emotionally turbulent situations when I need my energy. It seems like I'm an introvert, but all I ever want to do is be with people, interact with people, I hate being alone, (all of which doesn't necessarily mean I am an introvert) but I get very energized when I can just talk to my friends and hang out without any big drama. This video has gotten me thinking, sorry if my paragraph was boring 😅
As an introvert myself, I find myself both laughing and touched by that video with my favourite MLP fans and reviewers.
I honestly know how you guys feel as i am autistic with people and noise anxiety along with being empathic and introverted so i get overwhelmed quite easily, as well as the fact that i didn't get out much when we weren't in a pandemic.
Thank you Lighting Bliss, Aeon of Dreams, Silver Quill and Thespio for this topic discussion to clear the certain terms to describe people who are like this and understand.
Introverted Empath, here, lol. Can confirm that it can make social situations EXHAUSTING, but it's always been such a gift and enabled me to help those who felt uncomfortable, excluded, or like they were the odd ones out feel more welcome and valued as people. One problem I didn't see mentioned, though, was that it ALSO makes it REALLY difficult to remove a toxic person from your life, because you can literally see everything that they're feeling and relate to it on a personal level. That one person you got an instant red flag from? Aw, they can't be THAT bad, they're just doing their best, right? NOPE. Uber creeper. Everyone says this other person's a stalker? Naw, they just want to be and feel included, right? NOPE. Now they're creeping on you.
My advice to fellow Introverted Empaths would be to know where your lines are, draw them out, and stick to them. Bending the rules for others is what gets us into trouble most often. (Also, LISTEN to your friends and to those instinctual red flags, they can literally save your life)
I just started watching your videos And I enjoy them. I subscribed good day x)
I've been referring to myself as an introverted empath for a while now(also an INFJ) and this video was a great explanation if how I feel.
Also, when I feel nervous about meeting it talking to someone, I try to remember something. I remember that this individual is a person just like me and will often be very kind and understanding. If I ever meet you in real life Blissy(and everyone else), I will be sure to do everything I can to remain calm and collected so that you are less likely to get nervous.
Even I have anxiety attacks sometimes but I trying coming down and I love your videos
Ok seeing Silver and Bliss butt heads just improved my mood.
Thank you lightning For talking about this topic the Examples that you shiver quill and thespio Talked about have really helped a lot And now I understand Why I have a habit of trying to understand peoples emotions even my own emotions And why I care so much.
As part of the downside of being empathic, as well as an optimist. The more positive others around me feel, the happier I become.
But...if one or two of my family members feel extreme stress/anger, it can be VERY draining; thus making ME angry as well
I can 100% agree with this video. I'm empathic and a introvert that wants to do extrovert stuff, and I'm odc as well. But finding people with the same interests in irl is so hard (especially since the whole covid 19 stuff is happening) Their easier to find online tho, but you really can't know if there actually like that irl.
So I try my best to make friends (well to the best of my ability anyway, having fear doesn't help with making friends, And the fact that my family is basically a little group of introverts.)
I got like 2 irl friends I made, I met them in a homeschooling group but
My mom and their mom don't really get along well. So I don't get to see them as much as I wish I could, And I'm not in the homeschooling group anymore.
So most of my friends are online friends but ofc I don't share personal information, bc you shouldn't tell people that kinda stuff anyway.
I am definitely an Empath. Which is great for my field of work (childcare). It's both good and bad, especially when you have a child with emotional dependency, delays, or even lack-there-of. It's why on really difficult days where it seems all my children are highly emotional (due to maybe visitations while in foster-care, someone passing away, maybe just woke up grumpy, ect.) I literally feel mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted.
I also have to sometimes fight this ability to empathize during certain events, (like days when everyone seems grumpy for no apparent reason.) I prefer being the light-hearted, happy person during DnD sessions, group events, ect. So when a group is just annoyed, I have to shove their bitterness aside and stick to me own emotions. Sometimes I can alter the room, other times I cannot but don't lose myself in their angry mood,
My fiance doesn't really understand it. He is introverted, but I don't think he's empathic. He has the ability too, but only with those he's formed a very close bond too (his close family, myself, and also his best friend.) So... Selective Empathy? While I do so with everyone.
He tends to be the one who keeps me grounded this way, though I doubt he notices it. One touch from him, and it's easily a slight recharge/CNTR-ALT-Delete of current bad emotions I've stored from being around others without even realizing it.
He isn't the only one who can do this either. My mother, grandmother, and father can do this transfer/ recharge. But since they live across the country, he is me main source of energy booster/defuser.
Does anyone else have all of this too?
I am also empathic an introvert. Especially from other empaths. Not many people talk about it, so it's nice to hear I'm not alone.
I think I’m a introvert and extrovert. I like going to places, get excited doing stuff, and like to learn new things, but I don’t quite realize not a lot of people may want to hear what I learn, share my interest, and I may not like to share in their interest.
But out of love for those people I do try, but may not be fully aware of what’s going on.
Example: going to sport game I have no interest in but a family of mine is on the team. I sat there, unsure what was happening, if he even played, or who won, but I show some support. And the next day we did something that all of us liked.
I have difficulty with empathy. Of course I feel it but I do not want to let emotion cloud my judgement.
So what I do is look at things from all sides and then just choose one. From the outside thos may look like black and white thinking but I just do not see much value in being indicisive
sorry for the log one
1:30 you are not the only one like that and it is good to know of other out there that have the same ( shall we say qualities or quirks sorry if it is misspelled ) deal going on with them. i tend to isolate myself due to this very reason. for me i get worn out quite quick and try to hide to calm myself. heck i just hope you don't have to just look at a person to know a lot about their personality and what they are like. for me it tense to kill encounters and relationships before they can even start.which tense to end up hurting all those around me. and end up in a lot of fights. especially shine i never seem to get what i want to say across and end up casing a bigger mess to be made thou. though my songs poems and a few of my books have helped somewhat. it tends to pull quite the emotional rush just be it being read alone and the to break when i sing or preform my songs poems and books. all i build up is put in my work. and it is a joy i have. and you Bliss are one of the few joys i have. for me i really don't find much joy in a lot of things. except in books here on you tube and a few other places online. i can not get tired of you work. and i keep on rollin. Keep up the good work Bliss. and Thank You
I can definitely relate to lightning bliss, I went to RICC one year and it was a five floor convention. I got overwhelmed trying to see it all and by dinner time I had as I call it shut down socially and hid myself in my newly bought comics til I recovered. I am really glad my understanding friends were there to keep an eye on me and ask if I was alright from time to time, even if I didn't show it.
7:07 *says with heavy sarcasm* gee, I wonder what Silver could have possibly recently done to make Fire Brand so furious
You can bet that he did something terribly evil
@@betajediwizard5680 I know what he did. Check his latest review
I'm an anxiety driven introvert. If I'm in an area that I'm not used to I get sick almost literally. Watching your videos help me stay focused on something else so I don't have a panic attack. Especially when in a car.
There are times where I'll have all this energy stored for a day, then the next be completely drained until I get that boost back. Even though I classify myself as being introverted, there are times where I'm alright going onto a stage and stating thoughts in front of an audience. As far as being empathic, I would also put myself under that category. It's weird to say, but I can tell whether or not someone's feeling down based on their eye contact, body movements, and even how they speak to me. If there is someone in need of, say a hug, then I'll be able to provide a hug, but also empathy for them. When it comes to meeting an idol of mine, I tend to shut down my system because I'm so nervous I might screw something up. However, my friends and family will be there by my side and I suddenly lose nervousness and go full force while trying not to be too energetic. Similar to not enough energy, too much energy could cause people to make quick decisions without thinking about how it'll sound to the listener. All in all, I would also classify under Empathic and Introverted.
This was something good to listen guys
I think I was the one who burst into tears... He was one of the reasons I'm in the fandom to begin with
I'm also Empathic and Introverted, but I also have autism. In the past I was shy, but otherwise I always wanted to hang out with friends and do activities, I just needed some alone time between. But a few years ago I overestimated myself and had a big overload that took months to recover from. Now I've developed severe Anxiety for anything that costs energy, but I still try to do fun things for myself or with loved ones. But because I need a lot of rest during and afterward the activity I sense because of my empathy that they find it disappointing or even mistake my tiredness for boredom, which makes me feel awful. But I'm still glad I'm empathetic cause with my autism it is already hard being social, and at least this way I know how others are feeling.
3:44 it's cutey blue 🖤
7:56 does this mean he's a celebrity?
I am on the Autism spectrum, and I find that myself and others who I've met who are also on "the spectrum" are also introverted and empathetic. I find my empathy tends to be stronger around animals than other people. I also tend to experience my strongest sense of anxiety and/or sensory overload around crowds, unless I'm focusing on a task.
I'm an empath and introvert too! But I'm also a witch, and through that I actually learned something helpful for all fellow empaths! Veiling! In this case, wearing a head cover when around other people or after being out and about. For me, headscarves and handkerchief headbands do the trick! It holds the frizzy hair back, covers my head for both unwanted emotional absorption and shade during hot days, and it feels like a shield for my introversion!
I kid you not, it feels really therapeutic so I highly recommend it!
I can relate to a lot of the things said in this video (as an empathic introvert myself) and it kinda surprised me and made me feel a little less alone
6:15 “Ah! Burrowing Snagret!”
Watchin’ this vid from now is still great
Introvert with Extrovert Tendencies... that's a thing? An actual thing? It makes so much sense! Due to the fact I am very introverted but also am very extroverted around people... mostly when I am having anxiety, I get to extroverted or as I call it: 'panic speaking and forced happy grins'
I love to act and sing to, but I would love to do it when I'm ready but am mostly forced, not that I don't like it, there are just some days I need to recharge. Plus the torturous sensory overload.
I think I relate to all of you on some level or another.
I've come to the conclusion that stepping out of your comfort zone is how you expand your comfort zone and grow as an individual; however, the comfort zone is still important, as it provides you with a space to step back into, whenever you're feeling overwhelmed.
(FanGirlStephie here) Oh my gosh, it is so nice to hear that there are more empaths that are introverts out there! I am an Empath and an Introvert as well. I wish I was able to talk about it with you all. It would be so nice to talk to people who understand what its like. My mom and younger sister are Empaths as well.
I wish I had that kind of Awareness.
I'd been so excited to meet Black Gryphon back at Alicon 2018 that when he mentioned he too had been in Japan during October 2012, I kinda socially blanked and focused on events from MY time in Japan instead of making that huge realization that it was so crazy we'd both been so close by to one another before I even knew about Friendship is Magic at all, making it seem like I was selfishly making it all about me.
Had I been a bit more socially aware and tactful, I would've asked where he'd been in Japan and what it had been like for him.
I apologized the next day and, even though Gabe told me he hadn't noticed that at all and that he felt I didn't need to apologize for anything, I STILL feel guilty about it to this day.
Being shy is a disability we all have but we all have friends to help us
This was an interesting video to watch
My social skills are brute force learning from trial and error, but being handsome gives me some bonus halo effect in offline interactions.
Being a lot more eloquent in writing helps me considerably in my online interactions.
It's good to know that even the most outgoing people need some alone time.
Being empathetic and being an introvert are not bad things! Im like those, and im a nice person!😊
We love you Blissy~ Also, Silver you owe her a coffee.
I'm literally a introvert but I still interact with others.
It is very hard. I also struggle with it tremendously. Mostly to know what to say not to upset people and to keep thinking that just because I wouldn't be offended with something doesn't mean someone else wouldn't. I really had to learn social skills one by one through bans and berating. Such as when someone made a quick doodle and I said it was below their standards. I had to learn that while that sounds like a completely neutral observation to me it is very offending to the artist. Or my repeated failures to know when to let something go when I don't understand what I did wrong rather than press the issue to the point where I got banned for 'harassment'.
Learning that other people can have different opinions is also not easy. I still fall into the mindset of seeing opinions as either superior or inferior. That I need to take over a 'superior' opinion or lecture someone if they have an 'inferior' one. It's something I still need to work hard to suppress even though I'm almost 30.