For any Spanish-speaking person out there Who has difficulty understanding this, here are the main points: 1. No puedes cambiar al narcisista - no te enfoques en algo que no vas a poder controlar, céntrate en criar niños cariñosos y saludables. 2. No hagas preguntas sobre lo que ha pasado en la otra casa, de todas formas no te va a servir la información en un juicio de custodia. Tu objetivo no debe ser ganar al otro progenitor, sino ser la/el mejor madre/padre posible. 3. A ese fin tienes que poner el enfoque en ti. Nuestro sistema nervioso es afectado por el abuso. Muchas veces los niños se fijan más en tu lenguaje corporal que en tus palabras. Si ellos perciben tu trauma eso les afectará, y no se sentirán seguros. Así que, con tu amor incondicional y un ambiente donde se sienten seguros, tendrán una base firme y se les dará seguridad.
This phrase is very contentious as was actually invented by a lawyer representing a paedophile to say the mother was alienating him so it’s a term to be used very carefully
@@CarolineStrawsonHealing It is very different in the US. Parental alienation simply means one parent in a divorce poisoning the child against the other parent. Most often the Narc father spoiling the kids lavishing them with fun gifts and trips and meanwhile undermining the mother.
I’m going through a court case and yes going through with my ex and his mom both narcissistic and the courts believing to put my child in their care instead of me.
Thank you for this. My children are grown, but I have experienced all of these things. I realized that while I kept reassuring them that we are a stable family, my own insecurities have kept them from feeling that way because I didn't feel stable myself. It's taken me two years, but I'm finally in a home of my own, and my two sons live with me and we are beginning the process of establishing this home as our family home base. Multiple people who are close to me have commented on how much more settled we all seem in the few weeks since we have moved in, even though we're still very much in boxes. It's true. MY feeling of stability has given them one, despite my ex causing an obscene amount of drama around us this last six months. My peace gives them peace.
This is excellent! I wish I’d heard this 5 years ago!!! I feel so validated and relieved I decided not to go after court and walk away! I did the right thing.
What if the narc is violent...and the child is too little to talk, and the court lets him alone because they say they want direct proof, even if the child even had bruises in the genital zone???? Even his sister had protection order against him...and the court doesn't care....it seems so....unreal....how can they ignore this things??? And this is only 1% of the abuse....
His ex is the narcissistic parent , and after several months of dating I met their child, and now he can't see the child if I am around , for no reason , well other than jealousy , any advice for ME ? Please and ty
I don’t know you but as a mother I would question if what he is saying is true. Mothers often would prefer biological dad to have a girlfriend if it means the kid will be cared for when under their supervision - so it would take a very backwards mother to make that the only reason to stop a father who is doing right and communicating positively and consistently around showing up for the child.
For any Spanish-speaking person out there Who has difficulty understanding this, here are the main points:
1. No puedes cambiar al narcisista - no te enfoques en algo que no vas a poder controlar, céntrate en criar niños cariñosos y saludables.
2. No hagas preguntas sobre lo que ha pasado en la otra casa, de todas formas no te va a servir la información en un juicio de custodia. Tu objetivo no debe ser ganar al otro progenitor, sino ser la/el mejor madre/padre posible.
3. A ese fin tienes que poner el enfoque en ti. Nuestro sistema nervioso es afectado por el abuso. Muchas veces los niños se fijan más en tu lenguaje corporal que en tus palabras. Si ellos perciben tu trauma eso les afectará, y no se sentirán seguros.
Así que, con tu amor incondicional y un ambiente donde se sienten seguros, tendrán una base firme y se les dará seguridad.
Gracias
Wish you would focus on Parental Alienation. I agree with your video.. However, a covert narc will do so much damage during their custody schedule.
Like what during the Custody schedule?
This phrase is very contentious as was actually invented by a lawyer representing a paedophile to say the mother was alienating him so it’s a term to be used very carefully
No matter what you "call" it.....it is REAL. I agree with AZMomof2 that there needs to be more discussion about the topic mentioned.
@@CarolineStrawsonHealing It is very different in the US. Parental alienation simply means one parent in a divorce poisoning the child against the other parent.
Most often the Narc father spoiling the kids lavishing them with fun gifts and trips and meanwhile undermining the mother.
@@tracigodfrey4965exactly forget the name the actions are very real
I’m going through a court case and yes going through with my ex and his mom both narcissistic and the courts believing to put my child in their care instead of me.
Thank you for this. My children are grown, but I have experienced all of these things. I realized that while I kept reassuring them that we are a stable family, my own insecurities have kept them from feeling that way because I didn't feel stable myself. It's taken me two years, but I'm finally in a home of my own, and my two sons live with me and we are beginning the process of establishing this home as our family home base. Multiple people who are close to me have commented on how much more settled we all seem in the few weeks since we have moved in, even though we're still very much in boxes. It's true. MY feeling of stability has given them one, despite my ex causing an obscene amount of drama around us this last six months. My peace gives them peace.
Absolutely!! ❤️
This is excellent! I wish I’d heard this 5 years ago!!! I feel so validated and relieved I decided not to go after court and walk away! I did the right thing.
I wish I’d heard 11 years ago!! But we can learn now ❤️
Definitely I can feel in my body language
Thank you so much for this ❤
New subbie here:) Thank you sooo much for these precious tips and your positive energy, you're an absolute gem!!❤
Thanks so much for this. This helps me SO much
Thank you so much for your help. I am a new subbie. Will be listening in on more episodes!
thank you
What if the narc is violent...and the child is too little to talk, and the court lets him alone because they say they want direct proof, even if the child even had bruises in the genital zone???? Even his sister had protection order against him...and the court doesn't care....it seems so....unreal....how can they ignore this things??? And this is only 1% of the abuse....
Take the child to the doctor and get proof!!! Don't let it prolong!!!!
I’m so slow the way I get treated and thinking it’s my fault but it’s both our fault lol 😂 😅
It’s bc they aren’t worrying about all the little things that we worrry about. They’re like aloof
His ex is the narcissistic parent , and after several months of dating I met their child, and now he can't see the child if I am around , for no reason , well other than jealousy , any advice for ME ? Please and ty
I don’t know you but as a mother I would question if what he is saying is true. Mothers often would prefer biological dad to have a girlfriend if it means the kid will be cared for when under their supervision - so it would take a very backwards mother to make that the only reason to stop a father who is doing right and communicating positively and consistently around showing up for the child.
great video
Thank you 🙏