Can Single Nigerian Women live ALONE before Marriage ??

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  • @smeriana02
    @smeriana02 10 років тому +35

    DON'T WORRY ABOUT SOCIETY! Live your life!

  • @NaijaRhythm
    @NaijaRhythm 10 років тому +33

    Our women are not usually independent minded because of this type of mentality. How can someone say, if a woman stays alone she will become promiscuous?? A woman who can live on her own and be disciplined is the type you want to marry, not a grown up that does not have control over herself. Odun, what is a marriageable age?? Goodness Battabox wow.

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  10 років тому +2

      Hey NaijaRhythm we are sure there are lots of responsible single women living alone in Nigeria, but unfortunately, this is how society sees them, na wetin we hear o.

  • @avirline
    @avirline 10 років тому +74

    lol, and this is why a lot of Nigerian ladies have over dependency issues

  • @melgal7
    @melgal7 8 років тому +13

    That first guy ehn, so well spoken. If every guy in Nigeria were like him, that country would be a better place!

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  8 років тому +1

      how far 🤗 +bestdoceva but so many of our ministers have been well spoken and nothing changed sha 😶😝

    • @melgal7
      @melgal7 8 років тому +2

      lol, true say. But i mean the general population, not just the politicians, if the average nigerian man thought and spoke like he did...

  • @ifewitlovegodslove
    @ifewitlovegodslove 8 років тому +8

    I love that man's answer about being rooted in CHRIST. When you are rooted in CHRIST, regardless of you living alone or you living with parents you won't be promiscuous because living with parents does not necessary limit you from being promiscuous. It is the fear of GOD that we all need.

    • @dezos2900
      @dezos2900 7 років тому +2

      Ifewitlove GOD'S love. I agree with you a thousand percent.
      Only the fear of GOD can stop anyone from living an immoral life or committing an immoral act(s).
      Only the fear of The Almighty God (JESUS) can keep you in check.

  • @femaleanimelover
    @femaleanimelover 10 років тому +32

    She said endure, somebody gonna be unmarried and 50 and still enduring under their parents house

    • @PetraInTheDesert
      @PetraInTheDesert 10 років тому +4

      LMAO!!!!

    • @ashleycrystal9719
      @ashleycrystal9719 9 років тому +1

      Lol

    • @kathybrown8945
      @kathybrown8945 8 років тому +5

      I was listening to that part as I read your comment. I guess I just don't understand their culture. It sounds like a woman's life really don't begin as an adult woman until she's married. So much for finding out who you really are and what you're capable of accomplishing on your own.

  • @bubblegumbitch3191
    @bubblegumbitch3191 9 років тому +27

    Prudish. Why can't a single woman live on her own? Women are not property. Women don't have to be watched over like they're incapable of living on their own, and taking care of themselves. Would do women need people to watch over them like they're children? And, why should women avoid living on their own so they can come across as "respectable" to men? No woman should give a crap. If she wants to live on her own, then all power to her. I don't see anything wrong with a female being sexually promiscuous, as long as they're being safe. The same goes for men. Their sex life is none of my business. They're adults, and they can do what they want.
    This video is a culture shock to me, I guess. If a young single woman could get her own apartment, then that's seen as something that's good. A sign that they're successful. Here in the UK, it's 21+ year olds that face a certain level of stigma if they still live with their parents.

  • @olori_aduke
    @olori_aduke 10 років тому +45

    pls pls pls if you want to live alone for one reason or another do it, people will always have something to say no matter what. I just finished uni and am back at home but I want to leave coz am restricted jobwise, and people are telling me to go for it, but that's in the UK. If guys think you are wayward because you live alone, that guy needs to grow a brain like are you kidding me. ALL MY INDEPENDENT LADIES HOLLA!!!!! being alone also shows you who you really are and helps you deal with the outside world. and who is to say those who stay with family aint promiscuous. if you are scared of an independent woman pls go sit down.

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  10 років тому +1

      na tru Original Naija Woman - be strong o! Olamide Omolawon

    • @elcapitan6537
      @elcapitan6537 10 років тому +1

      no compare UK to 9ja o o oo .....

    • @Aboywood
      @Aboywood 9 років тому

      Olori Aduke yessssssss!!!!!

    • @ashleycrystal9719
      @ashleycrystal9719 9 років тому

      All the ladies who independent. Throw your hands up at me!!! :)

    • @chiomahills4853
      @chiomahills4853 9 років тому

      Ashley Crystal that's right!

  • @oluokusanya7822
    @oluokusanya7822 10 років тому +18

    So let me get this straight.... If am done with college and am working and i stay alone, that means I have a problem or am gay? OMG Nigerians need to be educated. Whether you stay with your parents or not, the man that will respect you will definitely do so.

    • @Gassama-lh3rc
      @Gassama-lh3rc 9 років тому +4

      You need to be educated about African culture

    • @oluokusanya7822
      @oluokusanya7822 9 років тому +1

      +Kosu kasu Who says that I'm not educated about African culture 🤔? I'm Nigerian and I was just stating the obvious truth 😏

    • @Gassama-lh3rc
      @Gassama-lh3rc 9 років тому

      okay sister good, people always have different view about life , may god guide us to right path, thank you Dara

  • @justartpaint
    @justartpaint 8 років тому +9

    I am a full time student, I work full time and I live alone. I live alone because I love to be independent and I can afford to take care of my bills. I like the privacy sometimes I want to come home to no company. Just silence. This is why I prefer to live alone.

    • @lilouayi1916
      @lilouayi1916 6 років тому +1

      Shanay Michelle its not good for a lady to live alone in our society, it is frowned upon. A queen must be preserved for her king,we knows staying with family does not guarantee virginity but it shows discipline,self control,tolerance and endurance. It also proves you have respect for your parents. This are qualities needed in a marriage.

  • @jujumen
    @jujumen 10 років тому +36

    So if you stay alone as a woman you might become a lesbian?

  • @reni8413
    @reni8413 9 років тому +26

    The patriarchal nature of Nigeria's society allows for ignorant answers like those given in the video. And do not hit me with that "It's our culture!" It was once our "culture" to kill twins in Calabar, but did that make it right? Just because it is "culture" does not mean it is right!

  • @_KeneYah
    @_KeneYah 8 років тому +6

    I love how Nigerians talk, I could listen for hours

  • @Toxxaluvier
    @Toxxaluvier 10 років тому +6

    "If a lady lives alone, she is a lesbian"- thinks Mr. from 3:40. Didn't know Nigerians are still into this kind of bronze-age thinking. Another one said his daughter should get married to have privacy and he would claim he finished secondary school somewhere. Thankful for parents who are saner. Opening the door of your apartment is not the same as unlocking your legs. Every one, male of female deserves that mental and physical solitude to know and come into one's self. that is what your 20s are for.

    • @afriaussiequeen
      @afriaussiequeen 9 років тому +3

      LOL the 3:40 guy clearly doesn't have his daughter 'rrrrooted in Jezuz Chrrrist'

    • @Toxxaluvier
      @Toxxaluvier 9 років тому +1

      afriaussiequeen the thing tire me o.

  • @AnnieSpecial92861
    @AnnieSpecial92861 10 років тому +8

    How can my boyfriend or whoever have the freedom to come into my apartment as a single if i don't give it to them?

  • @afriaussiequeen
    @afriaussiequeen 9 років тому +5

    LOL where I am, living alone gains peoples respect. They see you as independent and strong minded, and as a woman who is focused and knows what she wants. I'd live alone without a second thought (but right now I can't afford it).Me living alone does not mean that I am promiscuous. Also what about men? Does this mean that they can live alone before marriage?

  • @rollwithgovo
    @rollwithgovo 10 років тому +10

    "Above marriageable age" what on God's green earth is that supposed to mean? lol Chai….lol

  • @AvatarRoku22
    @AvatarRoku22 10 років тому +54

    nigeria need s help

  • @hopelovegold3697
    @hopelovegold3697 8 років тому +21

    it is so sad to hear this type of foolish answers from my people a women is not just put on earth to wait for a husband a women needs to understand responsibilities of handling a home financially, and what it takes to survive in this world what if the girl stays at home n loose her parents and is not yet married how would she know how to survive in the world if she is has never tried it children come through you they don't belong to you as a property they are suppose to experience life live learn and grow for themselves only in that way can they actually develop

  • @eddiajadalu3459
    @eddiajadalu3459 7 років тому +2

    2:16 that woman spoke well..I like her advice

  • @KeepingupwithRuggy
    @KeepingupwithRuggy 8 років тому +3

    So according to most of the people answering these questions, I should always live in my parents house forever? Because I have no intentions on ever getting married. If they think being independent and living on your own is simultaneous to you being promiscuous then my African people have bigger issues than I thought. You can live in your parents house and still be promiscuous if you want, the proof is in the statistics of teen pregnancy and abortion rate in our continent. And these answers are so sexist they actually make me cringe.

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  8 років тому

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  • @OluwatoyinAdelusi
    @OluwatoyinAdelusi 9 років тому +10

    But why are many Nigerians so closed minded? The fact that a woman is able to live alone means she is self-sufficient and independent. Isn't that a good thing? It's a stigma here in the U.S if you're a certain age and you still live under your parent's roof. Oh well, Nigeria has a long way to go

    • @chiomahills4853
      @chiomahills4853 9 років тому

      👌 exactly ! I'm in New york and i dont support their african mentality its annoying how submission to men is their main priority. Anyway where you at?

    • @OluwatoyinAdelusi
      @OluwatoyinAdelusi 9 років тому

      Hey girl! :) IKR?? It's so sad lol. I was looking forward to maybe marrying a Nigerian also, but I'm not ready to be anyone's subordinate. But I'm down south in Atlanta, GA! :)

    • @chiomahills4853
      @chiomahills4853 9 років тому

      Cool !

    • @Gassama-lh3rc
      @Gassama-lh3rc 9 років тому

      +Oluwatoyin Adelusi you didn't get it is not about submission it is about protection ,

    • @chiomahills4853
      @chiomahills4853 9 років тому

      Kosu kasu​ protection from what/who?

  • @a.okoronkwo311
    @a.okoronkwo311 8 років тому +1

    Great job my sista loved all of what the natives had to say about the ladies living alone before marriage. Message received 100%

  • @queenlizz8745
    @queenlizz8745 3 роки тому

    I live alone my both parents are late...people stay alone for different reasons...so don't judge anybody

  • @aishatkotun7712
    @aishatkotun7712 10 років тому +8

    Looool, what sort of mentality is this? I think this is more common in the older generation, because I mean there are a lot of Nigerian students here in Canada who are independent and living alone. Living alone doesn't correlate with being promiscuous. One can be promiscuous without living alone and vice versa.

  • @Missstephi18
    @Missstephi18 9 років тому +9

    OMG... i was about to even close the page when i started seeing your comments. The responses in this interview are very very close minded,annoying and wrong. I have lived alone for almost 5 years now while in med School and Its one of the best things i have done for myself. I have learnt a lot about the things i like and don't like, and its made me grow up and become responsible with bills, budgets and things like that at a very young age. Anybody who still thinks living alone is for the 'Promiscuous' is on a long thing. And please who said you cant be promiscuous under your parents roof?? Yes i said it. Girl bye!

    • @xXAnni3LuvsYhuXx
      @xXAnni3LuvsYhuXx 8 років тому

      Ahah but are you dating now?

    • @Missstephi18
      @Missstephi18 8 років тому +3

      xXAnni3LuvsYhuXx whoever said i am living alone to date? I choose not to date now that i am in school, because i am using this time to focus, develop and get to know myself. When i am ready to date, i'll be there forrit, right now my future is way more important.

  • @SidiqueB
    @SidiqueB 10 років тому +1

    This is not restricted to Nigeria alone. In many conservative societies around the globe, women are expected to stay in family compound/house until marriage. Exceptions would be if the young lady is attending school in a far away place or for job reasons.

  • @MsDudette21
    @MsDudette21 10 років тому +1

    Well this certainly answers the question from the last video. Yes, men are intimidated by independent women. Women in the pink shirt said a woman living alone may be seen as not serious and doesn't have anything to do. What?? If you're independent then you must have a job and take care of yourself. If you look down at a independent woman well too bad. The world is changing. I know these people would have no problem with an independent man.

  • @Jrock4real
    @Jrock4real 10 років тому

    Wow, never knew this was an issue sha. O ga o. Naija 4 life. I think single living is good for some, as it fosters self-discipline.

  • @noirlily3413
    @noirlily3413 2 роки тому +1

    People are living in their parents house and are not virgins... People are living in their parents house and still find themselves pregnant

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  2 роки тому

      So living under parent doesn't mean anything

    • @noirlily3413
      @noirlily3413 2 роки тому

      @@BattaBox Not that it doesn't mean anything, but it doesn't stop or restrict certain things from happening. Many people have their children in their home, but don't even know their own child, until they find themselves in a crisis...

  • @BattaBox
    @BattaBox  10 років тому

    Do you think a single Nigerian woman can live alone before marriage ?? Gist us oooo!!

    • @ijeomadorathy606
      @ijeomadorathy606 8 років тому

      BattaBox some nigeria people ara very mad by saying a single woman should not live alone what of some people that lives abroad alone and their pearent are in nigeria so dey will not get married that is why call them bush people am a nigerian but some of us are dumass.

  • @lolybum1
    @lolybum1 10 років тому

    Best answer is at 3:41.....

  • @michaelonyekaejelue3637
    @michaelonyekaejelue3637 8 років тому +3

    What is wrong with a lady that is capable of taking care of herself stay alone? why is it that nigerians won´t have any objections without using or involving sex as their point of excuses? I just tire for my naija plp dem o. How many young ladies here in europe stays alone and are very well disciplined, dirty mindsets without thinking or coming to conclusion that a young lady that stays alone is wayward and a slut. make una wake up abeg

  • @gretchenlaudarji358
    @gretchenlaudarji358 10 років тому +6

    No everyone gets married or aspires to.

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  10 років тому

      how now Pearl Ironic ? but what do you think - can a single Nigerian girl live alone before marriage?

    • @gretchenlaudarji358
      @gretchenlaudarji358 10 років тому +2

      ***** Yes. Like many people have noted in the video, Job circumstance might require it. I would do it. But if i'm in the same city as my parents i would live with them to save money. If i have established a business and have a steady source of income i'll move out after helping my parents out. As long as there is no better use for the money. Anyway, I think renting is stupid. Build your own house sharply!

  • @oyinade84
    @oyinade84 9 років тому

    LOL....everyone had some interesting answers,personally its a matter of preference and circumstances are different for everyone.

  • @elvirabesong5190
    @elvirabesong5190 6 років тому +1

    Why is the only thing they can think off connected to a woman being independent enough to stay alone sexual activity?

  • @st.abidekelijah353
    @st.abidekelijah353 6 років тому +1

    Living alone as a young lady depends on so many reasons, if a lady doesn't have what its takes to leave alone in terms of discipline, she might have herself to blame later in future bcoz she will liable to promiscuity.

  • @truetruth5540
    @truetruth5540 9 років тому

    different opinions, ok let vote...

  • @tekds1492
    @tekds1492 6 років тому +1

    So is it okay for a married Nigerian woman to have multiple male friends calling her phone?

  • @fatumangoni317
    @fatumangoni317 5 років тому

    Hummmmmmmmm for me when I turned 18 years old I’ve moved out for my own for six bedrooms and five bathrooms a house I don’t relied on my parents to pay everything for me no that’s not how it works here. It’s their responsibility to relied on me not me relied on them. I have a Nigeria boyfriend and his 30 years old and I am now 29 and he’s living by himself and his son that his ex wife left him with the baby. For me I love staying alone in my own house so that I can live some privacy for my parents in their house. I am so proud of my life and my work grateful for my parents who gave me life.

  • @TranquilPulseX
    @TranquilPulseX 10 років тому +1

    Ignorance is terrible !!! .... After a certain age why should u still b under your parents( unhealthy dependence) .. It shows lack of ambition . It is only an ignorant, distrustful and insecure man that thinks every woman that lives a alone is a slot !!!

  • @brightfadayo288
    @brightfadayo288 7 років тому

    Yes

  • @cdale211989
    @cdale211989 9 років тому

    the lack of respect part is real. I am an American black woman and I wish I never moved in with my boyfriend because the dynamic of the relationship changed, and it seems like marriage is further off in the distant future than when I lived at home with my mom. but then I could no longer stay at home because of mental,verbal, and financial abuse from my mom. like I payed bills in the house but I couldn't pay all the bills but my mom would gamble and lose the bill money then we did not have lights, hot water, heat, or food, car insurance etc. so when the bills pile up you have to pay late fees plus the past due bill and I was like dang if I pay all these bills I need to just live on my own. n then my boyfriend that also lived with his mom piggybacked on that and said he'll pay half the bills. initially I did not want to live together because it's "shacking up" my family disapproves it gives the perception that you're a loose woman, so I don't tell people about it. I'm not loose though and I know what I do and what I won't do. but I had a girl cousin that I tried to get to live with me but she said no and moved in with her boyfriend,my other cousin was married, and my friend was in school and living with her mom. and now that my friend wants to move out on her own and wants a roommate I am now in the shocked up situation which is sort of embarrassing because we have been dating for a long long time since high school now I'm in my mid 20's

    • @ADreamBewitched
      @ADreamBewitched 8 років тому +2

      +cdale211989 I say move out; find a female roommate to split the bills with.

  • @siphiwengcobo2279
    @siphiwengcobo2279 4 роки тому +1

    I think their foundation was rooted on Godly principles and unfortunately along the way the devil hijacked them, hence most are pretending and acting holy, but the truth is they are opposite of what they confess to stand for. What's the problem staying alone for God's sake? 🤣🤣🤣🤣Wonders shall never end. Love Nigeria but the people pretend too much especially their women. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @whales1212
    @whales1212 10 років тому +2

    Well,as bigotry as it is, the foundation is completely destroyed and so many factors might need to be considered. For instance, rape,Naija is a country where being raped is like non issue,so these ladies rely on the protection their parents can give. Living alone isn't the problem but the amount of bigotry opinions that have been passed to us over the years. Take note,Naija is an abnormal society, it's always opposite of what happens in an ideal society that happens in there!

  • @queenmama4243
    @queenmama4243 5 років тому

    The guy in the pink shirt with black suit......ummmmmm👀👀👀👀👀👀👀

  • @wonuo1190
    @wonuo1190 9 років тому

    The chic at 4:45.. Oshey Jare

  • @pamodoujagne5474
    @pamodoujagne5474 7 років тому

    Women should be giving equal opportunities like education etc but not too much liberty to live on your own

  • @UU-ls7xy
    @UU-ls7xy 5 років тому +1

    Move out, ladies. You're not kids anymore.
    EDIT: If you can afford it.

  • @rollwithgovo
    @rollwithgovo 10 років тому +1

    So sad that ladies choosing to live alone before marriage is still a topic for debate..lol and For some reason, after listening to this same 'interviewer" say a woman needs a man to be complete/successful, I can't help but think she's the one behind all this misogynistic topics..lol

  • @mingotubman3790
    @mingotubman3790 8 років тому

    prudent, practical, pensive!

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  8 років тому

      na so! the new Nigeria woman 👏👏👏 +Mingo Tubman

    • @mingotubman3790
      @mingotubman3790 8 років тому

      +BattaBox the moon moves slowly but it crosses the town?

    • @mingotubman3790
      @mingotubman3790 8 років тому

      +Mingo Tubman as far as dem people go... with the advent of progressiveness and cosmopolitanism, watch out for foreign agendas!

  • @michaelheery6303
    @michaelheery6303 10 років тому

    wow they expect god to do everything,.

  • @fatumangoni317
    @fatumangoni317 5 років тому

    Well I agree with the last woman on this video. But if I get married to a Nigeria boyfriend and he doesn’t have no respect for me I will breakup with him immediately within even one month. Because I have my own house and I don’t want him to take advantage of me when he gets here🤣🤣🤣❤️🤣😊😇✌🏾🙌🏾👌🏾👍🏾

  • @dezos2900
    @dezos2900 7 років тому

    This society is so screwed up.
    I wouldn't endorse for a woman to live alone, but there certain situtions that can change it.

  • @rainbow-ko2tc
    @rainbow-ko2tc 10 років тому

    Nothing wrong with living alone when unmarried. Actually living alone makes one independent and appreciate life more rather than living with your parents and getting things handed down to you. *Nigerians just love hiding under the umbrella of religion with any question! Jeez*

  • @AgidiJollof
    @AgidiJollof 10 років тому +1

    Train your child up properly and you won't have to worry about them turning gay cos they live alone, or invite their bfs to cohabit (none of your business btw!)...etc.! The way I am now, I've lived away from home (while I was at university) and my parents didn't have such rubbish piece of shite to worry about.
    In fact, I can't even watch this vid to the end.
    Some brains need rebooting in that country. Tufia!!

  • @wunmilawal9740
    @wunmilawal9740 9 років тому +6

    OMG i can't deal with this, extreamly sexist. can i ask a question, would you ask if single Nigerian Man should live alone.

    • @BattaBox
      @BattaBox  9 років тому +3

      +Wunmi Lawal most single men in Nigeria live alone...no wahala for them.

  • @omoregbekelvinwhite6833
    @omoregbekelvinwhite6833 9 років тому

    there is nothing wrong with that no matter how decent you are. people will still say different thing about you even if you are a reverend sister them go still talk

  • @rentproperty3948
    @rentproperty3948 8 років тому +2

    Westerners should respect Nigeria culture...... I want my children to get married right from my house especially the female but I won't force it. I encourage my boy and girl to buy house together so they can share mortgage and bills

  • @thinkboutdat
    @thinkboutdat 8 років тому +1

    Some of this women need to grew up

  • @Brians-ts5vr
    @Brians-ts5vr 5 років тому

    😣😣😣 This is sad. Nigeria women can stay at home alone, without fear of promiscuity is ridiculously.

    • @michaeltowei4410
      @michaeltowei4410 2 роки тому

      Mr man respect our culture and face yo western world

  • @leaderofnow
    @leaderofnow 8 років тому

    asking Lagosians......

  • @ugochianusiem3680
    @ugochianusiem3680 6 років тому +4

    Stop this your christ thing please

  • @lilouayi1916
    @lilouayi1916 6 років тому

    A woman staying alone is just not a good thing at all. Staying with family or siblings show that you still have some form of self control respect and more, this are ingredients of a successful marraige.

  • @babaibrahim9809
    @babaibrahim9809 8 років тому +2

    I can never marry a woman who's living alone

  • @AngieTheENTJ
    @AngieTheENTJ 7 років тому

    Yes