How My Mental Health Affects My Productivity 🧠
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- Today’s video is a casual, real chat about how my mental health affects my productivity, what my journey has been like up to this moment, and how I’m working to improve my productivity by managing my mental health in a positive way.
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Thank you for listening to a bit about my own journey and for being a part of this community. We're in this together!
Thank you Sara. This message arrived at such a perfect time. I'm on my bed working on a book and putting myself through school while also trying to make connections with people and keep hitting walls and it's very discouraging. We've all been there and most of us get through it, but when it hits, it hits hard and it's crippling. I look forward to watching this. Thank you so much!
Adam
Thank you. I love that you're open and honest.
Sarra, thank you so much for sharing. Mental and emotional health struggles are so common yet still not talked about enough, let alone specific to creatives. this was so helpful! I find such inspiration from seeing you continuing to work through this. You are SO worth it! And you are loved. 💕 God bless you on this journey
Thank you❣
Definitely needed this video at this time. Thank you.
When I start to hear those things like. "You're too old or you're behind." I remind myself that "Your anxiety is lying to you and you're right where you're meant to be." Social media can be super toxic when it comes to our little voices that compare us to each other. Sometimes it's healthy to unfollow accounts that are giving us negative thoughts until we get past the hurdle and can look at them in a positive way again. You've shown your strength over and over again to us and to yourself. Just remember, your anxiety is lying to you.
Yes exactly! My business mentor, Amber, always says "you're right on time". I try to hold that thought when the panic comes in.
Jessica, I like your self-reminders. I'm going to try that.
@@alyce-kayruckelshaus1224 When you feel like you want to tell yourself to “shut up” it’s working. The first thing our anxiety does when it’s challenged is tell us we’re wrong.
@@jessicasblack wow, that is so true!
I can't believe how similar our experiences are, Sarra. My first 10k month began a serious depression. I panicked over my own success. Self sabotaging kicked in and I nearly killed my own career. Shortly after that experience, my family died and I sunk even deeper into depression. I've been diagnosed with Major Depression Disorder and C-PTSD (from childhood abuse). My amazing success, my first series exploding out of the box in a good way, forced me to deal with all this hidden muck and debris. I survived my suicidal thoughts but I pray I never experience this again. I'm working on me, getting prepared for success again, if it comes. If it doesn't I'll be fine. I now found joy in writing again. At least there's that.
Thank you for sharing that. It's a good thing to be on the other side of those hard times being able to see more clearly why they happened in the first place. Wishing you all the success.
Hi M.L, I just want to know how inspiring this well and I am praying for you. Remember that God loves you, He is real and He treasures you. You are an amazing and unique person. God bless :)
@@valmelvis Thank you for that reminder. Believe me, if it weren't for him I would have checked out long ago. Thank you for your kind thoughts and prayers.
Serial self-sabotager here as well! 🙋♀️
Success is almost scarier than failure for me. You are 💯 not alone in those feelings. Thank you for sharing this with us.
I went through the same things as a child, I'm 53 now and finally dealing with those issues and working through them they have held me back my whole life. You gave me the strength to not accept that as truth any longer. I think you are so amazing and I love that you have the courage to speak about mental. It is so important.
Big hugs to you. It's not easy work because it's like peeling an onion with all the layers but I'm so happy to hear you're on a journey to healing.
I just want to to tell you all the good things about you! The problem is there isn’t enough space here. Lol. I am so glad you did this video. It means so much that you speak from the heart. It really helps those of us who suffer from mental illness. I’m sure it also helps those who do not suffer from this particular disease/trauma as well. Knowing how much you care about others is just as beautiful as you are! Thank you for being you!!
This brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for the kind words!
I work in mental health as a therapist and am working with Amber to build a program that focuses on comparison thinking, confidence, and self-worth. It is a huge problem and is part of the reason for the increase in depression and anxiety.
The last seven months have been incredibly hard for me. I know all about narcissism, unfortunately. My oldest daughter has this disorder and when I stopped taking her emotional abuse she cut me off, taking my only grandchild with her. I haven’t seen or spoken to them in five months now and it has been so painful and devastating. It has definitely affected my productivity and my own emotional health. I have been in therapy for months now, where I also learned about my severe depression and undiagnosed ADHD. Watching your videos has been a part of my healing journey. Thank you.
This is great timing as it is currently Mental Health Awareness Month. Take care of yourself Sarra and take as long as you need to step back and see the bigger picture if necessary.
There is not enough room here to tell you how amazing you are and how much that the way you moved forward has help more people than you know. You are an amazing mom, wife, businesswoman, author, and so much more. The hats you wear and the things you've been able to do are so inspiring and you are....just...you're awesome and I wanted you to know that.
Thank you for this video. my mental health became very scrambled around early 2019 after admitting my mum (again) to the hospital over her terminal illness. This made me have an out-of-body experience and become racially depressed over the next year and a half. I was in denial for so long and now I'm not. my higher education journey was terrible during this time and I completely bombed my exams two years in a row. I'm currently building myself back up again, which meant a lot to me. I had to watch the video twice. Thank You.
Hi Sarra, it's Anthea. I am at that stage of having to process past stuff in order to be able to move forward. It's so hard! Part of it is that I'm currently awaiting an assessment for ADHD, and having to realise that a lot of the negative labels that were put on me as a child/teen are completely incorrect. I discovered this when researching ADHD and found that a lot of sufferers were labelled things like 'lazy', 'procrastinator', 'flakey', 'scatterbrained' etc. It made me stop and analyse the labels I had received from teachers, and even my parents. The ones that hurt were 'lazy' and 'problem child'. I'm working through coming to terms that it was the (possible) ADHD that caused the issues behind those labels, rather than the labels being accurate. Like yourself, past traumas inform my acceptance/confirmation of those labels, which means when I self-sabotage now as an adult it's easy to say "well, those teachers must have been right. I AM lazy, because if I wasn't then I would be able to do this". My mother doesn't help as she's more than happy to confirm those labels too as it seems to give her some measure of power over me, or something. Now, I'm trying to teach myself to be kind to myself above all else. I think that's all we can do. Be kind to yourself.
Thank you for sharing that. I've heard there's a correlation, as well, between ADHD and trauma. I'm thinking of you
@@HeartBreathings Yeah, I've heard something similar. I need to remember to ask about that in my assessment. Unfortunately, I'm on the waiting list for assessment, and as much as I love our NHS here in the UK, I DON'T love the two-year waiting lists!
I got my ADHD diagnosis in February at the ripe old age of 49, it's been a huge game changer for me. Good luck with your diagnosis, it can really help you move forward x
It is so much to learn in my 40's I have ADHD, I understand so muhc but at the same time I am like why did I not know this before? Especially as I have so many other friends, mostly male (interesting) who are ADD or ADHD.
Thank you for sharing, Sarra. This spoke to me on so many levels from trauma, continued trauma, mental health and energy. From your video and learning a few things about myself lately, I've decided I'm going to take your HB90 class again. I've also created an 'energy board', where I plan out my tasks day to day on the board according to my energy level and the energy it will take to do those tasks. Putting them into catagories really helps prioritize what needs to be done or what can be placed aside. I don't know if you've read the book "Four Thousand Weeks" but I think it's a great book talking about the pressure society puts on us for productivity.
Great video. I really appreciates topic because I can't stand hustle culture - it's a myth. Thank you for holding this space.
Thank you Olvia. You're so right. It's impossible to sustain it, and yet we're always made to feel like we have to to succeed. It's tough. Thank you for listening.
Sarra, thank you once again for being vulnerable and sharing. I've been through abuse as well, and the past year I've been abused at my job and because I too, have a loving and supportive husband, I'm quitting my full time job to write. I've decided that the money is just not worth what the job is doing to be mentally and emotionally. There are days that guilt and fear over power me, but I've got support and I feel optimistic. I'm really excited to sign up for your HB90 - with your system and some perseverance, I plan to rock the rest of 2022!
Kimberly way to go! I have had to leave jobs that were abusive as well...sometimes not gracefully. I wish you the best and can't wait to see the wonderful things you will accomplish. I look forward to seeing you in the HB90 alumni group soon 💖💖
Yasmine Galnorn did a video about trauma and issues with creativity.
I had to sit down and acknowledge the trauma that was tied to my two WiPs. Abuse, deaths, Covid, Moves, Breakups... all this ended up associated with my WiPs.... writing was my coping and escape.
Once I realized I could seperate the two... I started taking baby steps back.
Thank you for having the courage to be vulnerable and share this. For what it's worth, it's helpful to me. I have had and still have my own struggles with depression and anxiety. I am also a perfectionist (but God is working on that! ) and I beat myself up because I'm not making the progress in completing my story that I feel I should be.
Sarah,
Thank you for sharing. I have been battling my depression and anxiety lately. I've been getting help for my two teenagers, but can't do copays on three people in therapy each month, so I plan to deal with it until they don't have to go as often. We are all suffering from the trauma our family went through and some days I find it does get in the way of my creativity and I just want to curl up in a ball under my covers and not get up ever; however, taking care of my children comes first, so I can't afford to not get out of bed and go to my multiple jobs. I just feel I am burning myself up inside all day until there is so little left to draw from energy-wise when I sit down to write. Hearing how others deal with their trauma and find the fortitude to keep moving forward is inspiring. I am trying to take more me-time lately to fill my creative well, but then I feel guilty for not taking that time to write. Any suggestions on how to not feel guilty for "me time" when I have so very little non-working time per night? For example, I came home from work yesterday with a 103 fever. (Took a covid test- it was negative). I struggled through grading in my two online jobs, and then instead of writing or even filling my well, I was so tired and achy that I just went to bed at 9. I'm usually in bed at midnight. Today the fever is gone, but all day at work I felt guilty that I didn't do the work I had scheduled to do last night. When does guilt go away when we have so many priorities pulling us in so many different ways?
Diana
Diana, I understand the guilt for not being able to accomplish more. I struggle with a condition that makes me feel tired a lot so I feel like resting all the time. Then I beat myself up for what seems to me to be laziness. I remember that my body and my health needs to be a priority! I have to take care of my body first even before anyone else because if I am sick there is no one to take care of me nor would I want to burden anyone else with it. Take care of your self. 💖💖 Hugs
Thank you for your honest, candid sharing about your challenges and struggles. I know this will help those of us who struggle feel less alone and to be encouraged. I’m so grateful for you and the light you’re putting out into the world.
Thank you Tracy.
Thank you so much for sharing. I've been struggling lately but couldn't understand why, i feel very blessed with a beautiful family, friends and home but still feel low and hopeless. But how you doscribed about hitting a ceiling and about not deserving it, really hit home. And putting yourself in a box. I can't thank you enough for sharing your story it must of toke a hell of a lot of courage ❤️
This means the world to me that it helped you. Thank you for letting me know.
You are a breath of REAL fresh air Take good care of yourself and thank you for sharing and encouraging all of us on our writing journeys. Many blessings 🌸☮️
I had published a few books and was enjoying what I was writing until two people I was co-authoring with decided to quit the project we were working on. I spiraled down, spent a few years struggling to get back to writing, and then my mother's health went into decline and I became her primary caregiver. This past week I've been dealing with major anxiety and it hit me in the middle of the night why - it's the one year anniversary of her passing. Once I acknowledged that and accepted it, I was able to sleep soundly. I also know I deal with depression but I try not to let it stop me from setting and achieving small goals. Now I just need to create schedule and some goals to get my writing back on track. Thanks for sharing your story, Sarra.
Maybe a video on books which have helped you with getting through some things. I know you mentioned Desire Map and The Big Leap, I would be interested to know your process especially through a book like desire map. I never thought to journal while in addition to completing the prompts. 💕
Watching this video and reading these comments was wonderful. I am not alone with the mental health struggles! Thank you all!!
I hit a high point in my writing career early on, like 2 years in... But it took so much sacrifice and hard work to get there. Then the small presses went away one by one and I dropped to the ground and didn't have a strong enough network and I fell into a deep depression that again sacrificed so much... It's been more than 10 years and I've had to pull myself up inch by inch. I lost so many years, friendships, relationships... A lot stems from leftover childhood trauma and hating myself and hearing the negative voices and a spouse that wasn't terribly supportive and I was at the point of giving up because after 10 years of here and there and broken promises to readers, what sort of career could I build again... You're very strong and brave and compassionate and empathetic and kind. Thank you for sharing your journey.
I see so much of myself in this video. Thank you so much for sharing. Just hearing these feelings reflected back to me from your perspective makes me feel less alone and gives me permission to be less hard on myself.
I completely agree with you about kindness. I have never understood the nastiness, particularly toward authors. I'm an avid reader (and book blogger) and there really are not too many books I don't like...and...if I don't like a book much, I certainly still try to give constructive feedback instead of nastiness. In my opinion, there's something to like about almost every book. I may be in the minority, but that's how I feel.
I also struggle with depression. Luckily, I have a therapist I meet with every two weeks. A lot of my depression and issues with self esteem also stem from feeling like I'm being unproductive, etc. I'm a first class procrastinator and I sometimes beat myself up about it. I've been talking about writing a novel since my late twenties. I'm almost 54 now and still haven't written it. I often feel like "what's the point," "you're too old," and other nice thoughts like that. Add in to all that...being very obese, and struggling in that lane of trying to lose weight, getting down on myself over and over again.
Yeah, I can totally relate to almost everything you're talking about, but I've learned to try to think we are all works in progress, and it's never too late to start again. Luckily, people like me have someone like you who I can relate to, and who is inspiring in so many ways. That, along with the therapy, is something to be positive about.
Thanks for putting your self out there and sharing from your heart. You're not alone
this is deep. and that is GREAT. It is hard to discuss one's own mental health challenges, and you have been so brave to share, and you have such intelligent insight on your triggers and remedies. Thank you for posting this. It is very helpful to know that others understand the struggle.
Thank you for sharing so much of yourself. I struggle with similar thought patterns and it is comforting knowing there are others who understand and the uncomfortable trauma work is worth it.
I'm dealing with this, too, although I know it's not just because of mental health. Normally, I have anxious energy that drives me to creative endeavors. After cutting off family last week, I've discovered a peace in me that makes me wanna daydream and read. But, I have goals. I have responsibilities. I have a passion for PTSD healing through writing. Sometimes I just need rest, so I'm honoring that, while doing what I can each day. We can't write if we don't take care of ourselves. We also need to move forward after some time so our writing muscles don't atrophy (hyperbole, yay!).
Ooh, your insight into reaching your limit hit home. I had depression around the same time... and shortly after winning an award for my writing. (I do have BPD as well, so have highs and lows with my mood.) Thank you so much for being honest.
So glad to hear this resonated. Highly recommend picking up The Big Leap (linked in the description) if you get a chance. It's a short read but talks about those limits.
@@HeartBreathings I've ordered and it arrives tomorrow. x
Thank you Sarra, your video resonated with where I am right now. I stepped away from it feeling more positive and with ways I can manage my own mental health as I continue to write. I love when you need something (and may not know it) and help appears ❤️
Remember!! In this world you can choose to be anything.... choose to be kind!! Hugs and Love to all the Hearties!!
i can relate... i do it really, what you said all the trauma of my childhood all of the things that holding me through my past... it keeps me affected in a way that my life on the present especially the way about i think about my writing.
I also grew up with a narcissistic mother and similar abuse, and that example you gave of negative self talk really matches my own. Feeling unworthy and holding myself back is a constant plague, but like you I keep striving to move forward through both good and bad days. Sarra, know how much I respect you and your vulnerability. 💚
I really appreciate these chats on mental health. Yours, and ours. Why? Because over the past year, I've finally realized that both of my parents are, to differing degrees, narcissistic and self-absorbed. I've been trying to get them to accept me, to realize that I'll never get that acceptance and validation. I was never diagnosed with ADHD, but I sure should have been! It would have made my hard days easier if I'd known that I wasn't "broken". Anyway, both of those realizations, along with your candid honesty and encouragement make my current challenges with writing a little easier to get through. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart!
So much love for you Sarra. Xoxo
Thanks so much for this video! There is something about knowing the people you admire go through some of the same struggles as you. We’re all just humans trying to navigate our way through life and make it one we love. Thanks for encouraging us all and inspiring us in every video❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this. I can relate...at least... well, my mother was a narcisist. I hear that mean voice, too. It's a struggle. And your sharing makes me feel better to know others can relate to me. I wish you hadn't gone through it, but since you did, Iwant you to know that the fact that you are sharing is so helpful to me. Sharing your plans and coping mechanisms helps so much.
omg - I just got to the part where you say your mom is one, too. Wow. I feel this so much. I haven't talked to mine since my dad passed. I never realized how bad the mental abuse was until much later in life. People compliment me on my cleanliness and they have no idea why things have to be clean... 😢
So glad you are talking about this. It’s really important and it sounds like you have good coping mechanisms and at least you recognize it. Thank you for your transparent talk and sending love, hope and peace ☮️ your way🙏🏾❤️💕
I hope it helped you as well to talk about this and share with us, I think there are many of us that can relate to your feelings with anxiety. It is so challenging to take care of your mental health, thank you for sharing your journey
You just blessed many. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much for sharing your struggles. I’m currently sitting in this season of depression and beating myself up. This has encouraged me to do a bit of a “reset” and take the time to evaluate myself and what I want to accomplish. You’ve been such an inspiration to me ❤❤
🌸 so much joy being sent your way and inner peace. I am in the process of trying to heal from childhood and early adulthood and it is enlightening to hear someone talk about. 💕 i cant imagine having the strength you had making this video. This topic always makes me cry so it wouldve stayed in my drafts lol.
I loved and appreciated it and i cant wait to see what new videos and content you have stored ✨
Thank you. I almost lost it there for a minute, but I was able to pull myself together. So thankful it was helpful.
Okay this is gonna make me sound like I’m ARMY, and while I love BTS, I’m not crazy about them like ARMY.
BTS has a song ‘00:00’ and some of the the lyrics are “everything is new at zero o’clock”. That is how I deal with the bad days. It all restarts at midnight.
Also, I wish you could see yourself the way us hearties see you.
Love this!! And thank you for your kind words. I think trauma can convince us of lies about how others see us.
I really resonated with this video. There are so many instances where I feel I am not good enough or that I will never be good enough. Sometimes I feel like it is too late for me to make a career as an author. But I want it so bad so I keep going.
I needed to hear this, Sarra. Thank you for sharing. I think it's interesting that so many people who grew up with childhood trauma/abuse turned out to be writers... it seems to turn a person inside of themselves, and I also think they tend to search for who they really are before most others. Thank you so much for sharing, Sarra. This was a gentle kick in the pants to get some things done for myself that I've been procrastinating on. And the HB90 course is helping, too. :)
Thank you for this, your bravery and kindness is outstanding. I have avoided this video for the longest time, finally I knew I needed it. These things are so hard to voice and pull out of the mind and heart where they feed, inform and destroy so much of ourselves from the inside, and we get so very, very good at hiding them. Just thank you. 🙏
Thank you so much for watching. Being a writer or even just stepping toward our goals in any way is a personal development / mental health journey, and it takes courage just to take a step on the journey. Proud of you.
Sara, thank you for sharing 🙏. You are so brave and have enormous courage ❤.
I so love your authenticity and I appreciate ❤You 💕 .
Lots of love...
Thank you for sharing such a personal struggle. Knowing others, even, or especially, people who are succeeding in their life goals also struggle with what I’ve started calling bad brain days helps. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing Sarra. I loved this video so much. I'm so in my head at the moment and it suuuuucks. It's always nice to know that others struggle with it too.
Your strong vulnerability always encourages me, even beyond the subject of my writing. Thank you, thank you, thank you for always being such a great human!
Turns out, we've had very similar experiences. Child of a narcissistic mother here *raises hand* So happy you're doing the work and what's best for you. It's hard, but it's worth it. You're amazing. I love the part where you describe your little joys. They're so important. One of mine is watching your videos. Lol.
Thank you for sharing and I appreciate it all.
I feel grateful, relatable and motivated after watching this video. This past month or so I've fell back with my productivity due to my mental health so it was nice to watch and know that I'm not alone 🥰
Sending you all the love. You are not alone!
I so appreciate you sharing part of your story. I struggle with feeling far behind, and simultaneously like I have no talents/gifts yet also like my life as I am living it is preventing me from discovering a huge beautiful gift or skill. I watch you and am always in awe of how much you do.
Thanks for sharing this. I've been having so much trouble writing since my husband died almost 3 years ago. I need to manage my mental health (and physical health) much better.
Oh gosh that mean inner dialogue is so familiar 😖🧡🧡
You are honestly so wonderful. I feel like your videos have become my comfort videos, even if I'm not writing at the time or even planning to. Just listening to you and the vibe you give off is SO COMFORTING in a way I can't quite explain. You're so strong and such an inspiration. Keep being you!
Your video helped me realize I’m not alone. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Thank you for sharing so much of yourself.
Thanks for sharing! I understand completely 💜
Thank you so much for posting this- 2021 was the second worst year of my life, and I’m still trying to emerge from the rut I buried myself in. I feel as if I haven’t been moving forward, and it’s outrageously overwhelming trying to figure out all the skills and areas of life that remain so immensely underdeveloped. I’ve basically reached the point where it’s give up or get good and this video gave me hope. I’m in therapy, and I have been journaling, and I’m working (though I keep having to tell myself that I am instead of discrediting everything I’ve done) towards finally moving forward into a life that feels like my own. Thank you.
I have PTSD due to my chronic illnesses. I am journaling. I have found putting my strawberry flavored water in to my favorite pink cup while watching the sunset each night, and watching the boats going by in the harbor. We are trying to find a therapist for me. it's not easy with my insurance. I also have my coloring books which help me to get my mind off things. It's an every day struggle for me.
Thank you for sharing! As someone who suffer depression most of my life and still do, cause by a strict parent and that self talk like the strict parent. It gives me hope through my depression lows that I can still do things but It doesn't have be guilty not doing the same productivity when I am feeling good. I am in the process to get professional help and guidance to making sure I have the correct medication and help to change this mind set. Thank you again for sharing your story and how you got out of burn out.
Another video that I needed to see at the right time. My therapy session yesterday was the hardest one I've had so far, but we touched on a lot of what you talked about at the start and I felt better for it. It's hard work, but man it helps. Thank you for sharing.
I love your honesty and integrity. Being a writer is one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. It's also been one of the toughest. The mental gymnastics youve been through to get to a place of peace is a daily struggle for me too. So I have alot of respect for your openess and candour. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I always love your videos. I am so glad someone can tackle so many topics with respect and authenticity.
Sarra, you speak from your heart, into ours! I hear you, I see you, and I am amazed by you. Thank you for your authenticity and vulnerability. You never know who you might have so much in common with. Thank you for sharing. So many key words struck a chord with me. Narcissistic parent, shaming voice over, self-sabotage, boxed in, aim high but not too high, etc. Also, I love your words of "reframe and reimagine"; that's exactly what I'm actively working on! On our own it is lonely; but together in community--We've Got This!
You have more guts than most people I know. ❤️ Sarra, you're genuinely helping people with this boss level honest sharing of your experiences.
Thank you for taking the time to share your journey … I am grateful and on the healing trail with you. Praying God’s strength be your portion always.
Thank you so much for making this video 💜 It definitely hit home and I think I’m going to really benefit from hearing this 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing. My coauthor/partner is a trauma therapist, so I've been lucky to have a resource at hand for when I struggle, but I know hard this can be. You sharing this goes such a long way toward helping others with trauma and depression.
I am happy and grateful that you didn't give up, that you are here, that you are sharing your story with us, that you are being yourself and giving so much, and for everything that you do for this community. You bring more light into the world and this world really needs that. Thank you for being You. Love, Light, and Happiness to you.
Thank you for sharing this Sarra. Being open and authentic about your mental health struggles and how you deal with them is a gift to your community and to the world.
10 seconds in and your eye look is serving us today girl! Ok now on to the actual video….🥰🔥🔥
Gee. I thought only people who feel like losers for not trying or starting something.. feel this way. I find a little bit of relief.
Thank you, Sarra. I really needed to hear this. As someone who keeps a negative affirmations note on my phone that I refer to when I'm feeling really crappy about myself (believing I don't deserve to feel better and have the success I once had and these are the reasons why), your video really resonated. Much love to you!
Thank you for sharing, Sarra. Feels like fate brought me here today to find my way forward. Many blessings to you and yours. You're appreciated more than you'll ever know. x
Thank you for sharing such a powerful message. this resonated so much that it narrowed down where my bad thoughts of success and failure have come from. And most are from childhood if i think about it. (Not parents i was lucky- mostly societal)
I have also just been reading My Head Is A Houseboat which touches on mental health and brain interpretation. its not the be all and end all but in my opinion a good starting point to awareness (i like the visual aspect too).
I believe in getting professional help (although i cant get an appointment for six months) but would recommend anyone to try it with an open mind.
Thank you so much for sharing this - it really means a lot to me.
Thank you so much for being brave enough to share. I am on a similar journey and it helps to know I'm not alone.
Continue to take care of yourself. Your story and your heart are both so important to everyone. Thanks for being so open. We need it. I needed it.
Thank you for being so open and honest about your mental health struggles. I can relate SO much to this video.
Thank you for opening up and showing a lot of vulnerability in this video. A lot of what you mentioned about your past and how it shows up now hit a little too close to home. I had to go low contact with my grandmother since she was the source of a lot of toxic thought-forms. I can tell I'm going to watch this video over and over as a motivation/get in the right headspace when I need it. Thank you again.
Thanks for that uplifting, inspiring message Sara. It is always good to be reminded that most of us have similar struggles and hear some ways of coping. It is generous of you to make yourself vulnerable by sharing the hard stuff. It helps all the people who love you.
Thanks so much for sharing. While I haven't/didn't experience trauma in my early years, I deal with/manage my physical limitations (I have a disability) and those can be equally weighty and something I have to deal with daily. I too have some of the same thoughts about not writing, lack of productivity, others doing well over my own efforts, but I also want to tell you you're doing absolutely amazing. I follow you and see ALL that you do get done, all of the youtube, IG stories, workshops and HB90 and the other course is a LOT. So be kind to yourself. You are inspiring and motivating us every. single. day. And as an author, a single book can bring you back into success/joy in a matter of algorithms! LOL Never give up and give yourself much grace.
I have to say that I love this. I suffer from mental health and it's very hard to work through sometimes. I'm even been working on a little mental health personal memoire to possibly publish one day. I am so thankful that you have decided to open up about your own journey. I think that it's even harder when we're alone even though it we're not but it can feel like it.
All of this, my friend. I'm so glad you spoke on this because this is where I've been at for a few years now. *sob* Bless you for bringing this to the light and big hugs.
Thank you for this video. I made notes for myself, you inspired me to improve some things :)
You were so vulnerable and transparent here. Thank you for your courage. I hope that people will appreciate that and respond kindly. You've really inspired me. I stopped partway through to pray for you. I really relate to being afraid to reach a level of success. As a result of your video, I bought a self-care journal and I'm going to try some of the things you suggested. It also made me realize that I need to get to the bottom of this and figure out what's causing it.
Yes. This. I think so many of us writers begin writing to create a perfect world that we can control to survive childhood trauma. But success did kill my career and then other things happened (when don't other things happen--we seem to attract trauma for some reason) and I still haven't found the joy in writing again, still too much pressure. Tomorrow is my birthday and I decided I'm turning 30 years younger so I'll have the time to do all that I want to do.
Doom Scrolling, never heard this term, so accurate! ♥ thank you for sharing so much of yourself with all of us, we are all so similar.
This meant so much to me. I can't even express it properly. Thank you so so much for this video. 💗 🙏
I am a new sub, today viewed your series on writing. Many pages of notes. I stumbled across this video. And it is single handedly the best video I have watched in ….. well …. Ever. As being a top person in my field and needing to readjust, due to life, you articulate so well. I just wanted to say thank you. Brave, articulate, sincere, and probably more things….. just wanted to again say thank you.
Thank you!
Related to the discussion on energy levels, along with the psychological aspects there’s biological/anthropological-related theories that we naturally need to have some energy on reserve (some gas in our tank) at all times in case of emergency; &, as a parent you need to protect your off-spring as well as yourself - not that we need to outrun a saber tooth tiger or hunt/gather food in the same way, just order online, now-a-days, but you might need to run from a burning house or something like that. So, this could color how we see upcoming tasks, we may feel we just don’t have the energy (when we really do it’s just that our gas tank is near empty & your body’s forcing you to slow it down), &/or it cause us to power-down after pushing ourselves real hard.
Thank you, for that Video. It helped me a lot. ♥️
It took me a couple of days to watch the entirety of this video but it was so worth it. Thank you for your transparency and honesty. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Here’s to tackling our mental health problems one baby step at a time. Love you 😘 girlie!
I'm #1 Futuristic too and I totally feel this. Probably why HB90 speaks to me.
That's very cool! I have only ever met one other person who was #1 Futuristic!
@@HeartBreathings Yeah. I only know of you and one other author that have it as #1 (however, I’m sure there are a bunch). We need a support group 😆