Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy - My Story
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- I hope my story gives you hope in overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and OCD in your own life.
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-Alex Lonnquist
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My 18 year old is suffering with this in his 1st serious relationship. He was telling me about how he was feeling and I didn’t really understand until watching yours and other videos. I’m really hoping he can get some relief from this. Thank you for the education and great job on healing.
Thank you for your comment. This condition is no joke. I appreciate your willingness to listen and learn.
@@rjocdrecovery yeah it’s really hijacking his brain and trying to spoil what seems to be a very positive relationship. I hope it doesn’t rob him of his happiness and sabotage his future relationships. I’m not a very jealous person so I really didn’t understand the depths of how painful this is for him at 1st. I’m just so relieved to be able to name it and find some resources for him. We have a strong family history of OCD disorders (an aunt with an eating disorder and grandmother with hoarding disorder) so I’m afraid this is just his neurological glitch. I’m glad he isn’t 35 and already destroyed lots of relationships already. He knows it isn’t normal and wants to stop it. Thank you!
tell him to marry a girl with
@@GenRNhow is he now?
It's the body's natural reaction to something repulsive. If someone placed a plate of dog poop in front of you and told you it's good food, would you allow yourself to be so gaslit that you actually ate it and tell yourself that it was good? I hope not. Tell him to find a girl that doesn't have a nasty past, find a good girl and be happy. Don't eat dog poop. Go find good food.
What advice do you have with regards to changing the negative perceptions of sex and hookup culture that one would have growing up due to religion, culture etc? And what helped you take your partner off the pedestal to see them as a human being who have not made best decisions in their past?
It takes a lot of awareness of your current beliefs and questioning their validity. This can be an exhausting process, but it is worth it. A belief is just a thought you think over and over. Choose a better feeling thought until it becomes accepted into your subconscious.
For your second question, it's a lot of things that contributed to removing the pedestal. Mainly fixing your attachment style. I would encourage you to join the RJ Recovery Community I have made where you can join other people who are learning to heal. I can help you more directly there :)
I’ve been suffering for 8 years now and it sucks so bad
I hear you. It sucks big time. You should join our recovery community! I'd love to meet with you at our group coaching calls and see how we can help you heal :)
How it is going now?
Amazing keep it up
Hi! Your video was recommended to me and it was fascinating to see a men's perspective on relationships and past experiences from their girlfriends. I can understand how the deeply ingrained belief of a man as the "provider" can be in jeopardy when he hasn't had much experience in his past. It's almost as if their "usefulness" is put into question when they haven't had as many partners we their female counterpart (I'm not sure how in particular this would look like in a same sex relationship, tbh).
I find mysel in a strange situation: I'm 30, female, considered quite attractive (according to some feedback), but I'm very shy and careful and consider sex sacred, which led me to be incredibly careful in whom I've let come close. I've had two partners only.
There's someone I really like, but he's younger than me and doesn't have any sexual experience.
How is it for a man?
Is it a double-KO-criteria, with my age and the experience?
Somehow I'm really starting to think so...
Anyways, sorry for the rant. Thank you for sharing your perspective on that. That was incredibly useful to know!
Hey your story sounnds pretty similar to mine, though I don't think my issues have been as severe as yours. I have only discovered RJ recently, and have been dealing with it quietly for about a year's time. Are you accepting 1 to 1 consultations by any chance? Many thanks!
Yes! You can sign up for a free consult using my Calendly link in the description :)
The title of the video should be: How I Became Emasculated/Beta
There's a lot of simps out there. Proof? This comment only has 1 like.
can you speak about your health issues? super off topic but I feel like i may suffer with some of the things you suffered with. I'm currently going through this with my girlfriend right now and i dont feel like its worth it to make her go through with this.
Yes I will. I'll also have some more videos talking specifically about nutrition and physical health and how they can influence RJ / OCD.
How it is going now?
14 years and counting.
There is always hope. You can heal.
Why don't you just dumped your girlfriend and find a new girl that hasn't been run through by Chad and Tyrone a million times. They're not easy to find but they are out there.
@@bassw1758 Because that’s the easy way out and it doesn’t solve anything. The way you view your partner and their past is primarily influenced by your own self image.
@@rjocdrecovery I used to think like that, then I found a nice girl and all those feelings went away, don't second guess your conscience, I've been on both sides