These Mother Daughter Relationships Are Giving TOXIC
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- Опубліковано 20 чер 2024
- Jubilee put out a “Split Decision” video where daughters and their mothers have to get brutally honest when prompted by a series of questions about their relationships. Let’s watch and react!
Original Video: • Daughters Get Brutally...
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0:00 - Intro
2:27 - I Feel Responsible for Your Happiness
8:21 - You Have Invaded My Privacy
30:41 - I Find It Hard to Be 100% Honest
39:09 - There Were Times I Needed You But Didn't Want to Bother You
1:07:28 - You Have a Bad Habit That Worries Me
1:08:39 - You Have Defined The Way I See The World
1:10:57 - Superchats - Розваги
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I hope my daughter grows up thinking, "I have to tell dad, he will know what to do" instead of "I'm scared to tell dad because he won't understand."
Exactly this! My kids are still fairly young but my goal is to be a resource and a safe place for them. I grew up not telling my parents anything and dealing with a lot of sh*t on my own when I shouldn't have had to.
This. My mom always told me “you can tell me anything, but you don’t have to tell me everything”
My son knows his phone is not a source of privacy and yet we're still close, it's about how you handle what you learn. He came and hung out with me when he came home from school today, he's in highschool and I saw something earlier and I said: I remember when you would get in trouble here and there for being mischievous at school and your school admins each time (bout 3 times throughout his school years) would be shocked to learn he already gave me a "heads up"! They were like "Oh, he told you?!" One can be stern, set boundaries for their kids online, but still be loving and understanding.
I hope to be a mom like this one day. My mom hardly knows my feelings because she turns it on me and then somehow I am disrespectful, ungrateful, hating on her working now, etc.
single mothers are the worst nowadays, 90% of them are transing their kids for clout and cash…. Have yet to see ONE video of single fathers mutilating their own children , the other 10% of women are, in hospitals, hospices and care homes, murdering baby’s and the other elderly people, the most vulnerable in…. society🤷
1:05:56 One of my favorite Judge Judy quotes is, _“You have to love your children more than you hate their father/mother.”_
When my children were underage I didn’t even post pictures of them on facebook. Not even my nieces or nephews. Primarily because I didn’t want any predator to see my children.
I 100% agree!
I was always doing the most as a teen. My parents read my text messages and all it taught me was to hide from them and i resented them. My bsf mom was super chill, and my friend had an honest relationship with her, but she always felt like she had to be her own parent. Parenting is a very fine line and is never easy
Me too.
@@Loakley1998 to which part?
kids will find ways to have privacy.. I remember my mom would look through our trashcans, because my sister would do drugs and then assumed I would too. So I just threw away my diary pages in another trash can out of the house
The Narcissistic energy is 😬
With who exactly?
Probably the man in the black dress with the deep deep deep voice 😅
The use of “phobic” as a suffix is more in the same context as a word like “hydrophobic” which means something that repels water. An aversion to something, not a fear. In this context, it makes sense.
I never thought of it like that. Thanks for the context!
Yes! It’s derived from Greek and this is how my teacher explained it to us as well!
Yes phobia can either be a fear or aversion, in this case it’s an aversion. Also phobias are typically irrational but that doesn’t mean they are always irrational.
Boosting this comment to help fight “phobic”-phobia!
Thank you, just posted the same thing before I saw your comment. As someone who has studied biology and chemistry where we talk about this alot it's annoying how many people just jump to the "I'm not afraid of gay people"
Amala said the craziest behavior came from overly policed kids, my experience (also growing up in Florida but 15 years prior,) is that the kids with the worst behavior (crying out for attention or safety) were not watched at all. Their parents didn't care or couldn't be there for them at all. I wasn't watched, and really needed to be and needed safety/security because I was that early teen in the late 90s/early 00s who had creepy older guys trying to lure me places or starting with the explicit language I didn't understand. I didn't talk to my parents but they didn't ask and I suffered for it. Children don't have a right to privacy, my kids know I will do whatever it takes to keep them safe but I also won't lie to them and always explain why. They will not have a phone until it's absolutely needed and there will be no social media. It also helps that they're homeschooled and their friends are being raised similarly.
The counter to unwatched children’ behaviours is not zero privacy wtf
@@kikialeaki1850This right here. You weren't watched at all as a child so you are going to overwatch your children so they can rebel against you when their older, learn how to lie to your face, and then overcompensate back into an absent parent for their own children because they don't want to become like you? Like honey, you just jumped from one form of bad parenting to another. You are not any better than your parents.
BTW, Amala did not lie at all. I know a girl who was overpoliced by her parents, to the point where she had to skip class after her parents dropped her off just to do the things she wanted to do. Girl ended up sleeping with the same creepy guys you said creeped you out. That girl had no standard and she slept with anyone who looked her way. Children who are overwatched lash out and act out in dangerous ways.
I don’t have children but I hope that when I am Im able to find a community to raise my children that way
@@kikialeaki1850literal kids don’t need privacy lmao teens are a bit different. You sound weird
I get why you feel that way however I was an overly strict parent and strict parents make for sneaky kids. They are resourceful and cleverer than you are when it comes to technology (like it or not they always will have the edge because they are brought up with the latest stuff). There has to be balance. I agree with monitoring and telling them why but you also have to allow them some freedom to make mistakes and to discover the world or they will go ahead and do it anyway without your guidance to help them.
I'm not judging you, I get how you feel it is just my personal experience with kids who are either left to their own devices or overly policed and neither ends well. Save yourself the heartache and arguments and find balance early. Allow them a phone but tell them you will monitor it, don't allow it in their bedroom until you trust them with it etc. There are many ways to compromise without being overly permissive and these are good lessons for your kids to learn.
I’m sorry but if you BEAT your wife , you are NOT a good father. Can’t convince me otherwise
Obviously
Exactly, to be a good father you need to treat your childrens nother well and vice versa
@@ruka939your wife but yeah. If she left then it's fair game lmao. This whole "baby mama" culture has gone on long enough.
@@casthedemon dude you shouldn't be abusive to anyone
@@user-nd1tp2zv4o never said you should.
On the topic of divorce, I think you really have to protect the relationship between the children and your spouse as much as possible. So i would not seek counsel in my children. My mom would do that, and it was very uncomfortable as a child to listen to bad things about my dad who had custody of me. I learned as I got older that some things were flat out lies, and others were exaggerated because it's seen through her pain.
I’m so sorry that happened. My husband and his siblings went through something very similar but their dad making up horrible stories about their mom. Like exactly what you said. So sad.
@jessicarobinson9248 Yeah, it honestly made me uncomfortable to have one on one time with my mom because she couldn't help but bring something up. It ended up hurting our relationship.
I had to put my cat down today, and my narcissist of a mother didn't even have the decency to say, 'Hey, I'm sorry, that's awful'. She acted like nothing happened when I told her, just went into her usual victimhood litany of complaints. More evil piled on all the other evil she committed against me since I was born. I've hated that woman my entire life and always will. Whenever I hear about elderly nursing home patients whining that their children don't come to visit them, rest assured it was because they were horrible parents to their children. If I get the opportunity, I'll put my mother figure in a nursing home where they feed the patients Alpo for dinner.
My condolences about your cat. Best wishes
Evil? It's a cat lol
This breaks my heart. 💔 I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious kitty and I'm sending you big motherly hugs. ❤
@@krystalrose5874 Thank you so much. I was in such an awful mood when I wrote that. Really feeling the reality today that she's not here anymore 💔😿
@@AttonBrown What you said is evil.
I had a long a$$ response typed out just to delete and say, anyone can have an opinion on how to parent but you don't know what it's like until you are one. The only blanket statement I'd feel comfortable saying is a good parent will do what they can to protect their child.
haha I kind of wish I could read your long a$$ comment though
25:03 damn if she wants to write shitty things about her daughter she should just... have a diary like a normal person before the internet
She was the best mom there, she clearly regretted it and she had the best style
Yes, people just don't see it, they try their best not to understand it. @@Al-gg4mm
@Al-gg4mm wtf does style have to do with her parenting, you keep commenting that.
@@TheWizardSpeaks nothing really but she’s paying me to include that and I don’t know why
@@Al-gg4mm that woman is paying you to comment this?
This is why I will always applaud women that acknowledge they wouldn't be good mothers and choose to be child free.
That woman at 25:03 is a perfect example of what I mean because it feels like she is making an excuse at every turn.
She seemed remorseful for what she did plus she’s also caring and she has the best style
Amala, you have such a great head on your shoulders it is super apparent that you will make a wonderful mother one day (of course if you choose to be one down the line) I love all of your wholesome content. You're a great role model for young ladies and that is such a treasure especially in the world we live in today! ❤
I was thinking the same. She will be a great mama✌
Amala, I’ve having a baby in September and me and my dude both agree that we’re going to be firm about tech. We’re both older Gen Z and have seen the effects of social media and technology on our peers and ourselves.
Amala you are so right about the relationship being damaged from invasion of privacy. My mother would frequently, while I was sleeping, go into my phone and read every one of my messages. Then in the morning ask me questions about them. I never felt like I could trust her or anyone else so I’m always hesitant to share anything. I moved out the day I turned 18 and we don’t really have a relationship at all anymore. The invasion of privacy was one major factor. I completely understand the instinct for mothers to want to make sure their children are safe, but some ways of going about that are extremely damaging.
I'm older, so my mom didn't look through my texts (because there weren't any lol.) But she did look through my notebooks and personal written notes between me and my friends and then confront me the next day. It didn't make me trust her, to the contrary, it made me hide more things from her. Even to this day, there's so much she doesn't know.
My mom read every diary I ever had and would throw whatever I wrote in there in my face. 18 years later and I still don't trust her
As a child, you don't have a right to privacy parental trust must be earned! And even then it's not a right!
Agreed, Addison. And the invasion of privacy is a good way to push your children into unsafe and risky adulthoods. And then when that unsafe adulthood comes crashing down around the adult child, the worst part is there is no safe parent to turn to and ask for help. Even if the parent could help, the adult child will never believe in them.
I gave my 4th grader twin boys journals with locks bc i wanted them to have a sense of privacy in our home. I don't know their codes. It's their personal outlet. They do not have tvs or computers in their room, and my husband and I did not give them cell phones. They can use kids chat with their friends, and before they're 18, they will use flip phones so we can reach them whenever they are out with friends. My husband was like, "We're not getting them iphones or ipads until they're adults. Those are just little porn rectangles." Lol i think we're doing okay. Apparently one of my sons "married" his girlfriend on the playground, and the other one asked his crush out, 😂. I received this information directly from the both of them, so they do like to share things with us. ❤️
Why does Amala look more and more beautiful every single damn day and she already started at a 10
-"mmmmiIf- ssssimp" - Kevin Malone
I am so thankful for my relationship with my parents. I'm an only child and have never really fought with either one. I hope to be as great as my parents when i have kids and i can't wait for them to be grandparents. If i had to get brutally honest with my mom, we would be laughing and probably crying over how much we love each other. Is that not how it should be? Shes my best friend, biggest supporter and my biggest fan while i'm her's. I love my mom and i know im her whole world, like most mothers feel about their daughters. I know when i have kids, they'll be my whole world too. She doesn't force anything on me or try to live vicariously through me. 11/10 mom im so lucky
Wow! That sounds like the ideal mother/daughter relationship!
As a 47-year-old dad, I can honestly say that everyone in my immediate family from my mom and her husband myself my wife and our children all have Life360 on our phones, it's a safety thing not a privacy Invasion thing, that being said spyware on all electronic devices in your home is a little much but yes I go through my daughter's phone on a regular basis, because she is 16 and 16 year olds are dumb/make dumb choices and it is my job as a dad to protect her until she can protect herself, discipline her until she can discipline herself
The problem is many kids don't know if something is dangerous until it is too late. I did the same thing re spyware with my eldest but told her what was happening and why. Once she was older and had proven she was being careful and responsible and listening to the lessons I gave her I relaxed the monitoring and by 16 there was none. As parents we are responsible for protecting our children and the internet exposes them to dangers in a way no parental generation has had to deal with in the past. That said, I was not proud of it, I just knew I needed to make sure she wasn't being groomed, exposing herself to anything inappropriate, could talk to me about anything she saw that was inappropriate and needed advice on etc.
It is such a difficult balance to achieve especially when they're early teens. Nothing prepares you for the personality shift teenagers go through. I knew kids who agreed with their parents that they didn't need social media and then created accounts behind their parent's backs, ones who ended up in very dodgy relationships with much older men and ones who were bullied online so badly they ended up severely depressed.
That is difficult and several times during the school year I have to explain to my 11year old why I don't feel he needs a phone.
You can be the friend when they are grown and have their own home.
In your home you have to Parent.
We SEE what has happened with lack of Parenting. These wild brats are robbing, looting, killing, tantrums, squatting etc.
"black people don't think about owning people"
Who does she think SOLD her ancestors to America??
I'm late but The Cure is a MUST for goth bands! One of my fav bands of all time, dark alternative mostly but they have a few hits like Just Like Heaven and Friday I'm In Love that you may already know. If I could pay for this comment I would, I need to encourage you to listen to The Cure 🥺
"Friday I'm in Love" is an anomaly in The Cure's discography, in a good way... ironically, they might have recorded the most optimistic yet realistic song of the 90s! But "Boys Don't Cry", "Close to Me" and "Inbetween Days" are melancholic enough to compensate that lol
Omg! The Cure is so tired and ooooold.....
There's so many amazing modern goth bands out there! Vision Video, Twin Tribes, Tsaffire, Sinclaire Noire, Lebanon Hanover, Panic Priest.....
Leave the 80's in the 80's...The only cure songs that you should listen to are covers. Clan of Xymox blew "A Forest" right out this galaxy.
@@perlitalaguna6622 ur insane but okay. Literally my favorite band like leave me alone lmao 😭
@@perlitalaguna6622 ah yeas, the whole "anything old is crap" argument 🙄
I was born and raised as a gay in a very conservative muslim family in Indonesia. I'm not a muslim anymore, because me personally think that I cannot be in the religion that doesn't accept my identity. I've struggled since I was a kid up, at least, until my 25 years of age to accept myself. My parents do not accept me as a gay person, even more when I told them I am not a believer anymore. My father told me that I was lower than animals. In short, they told me that they were ashamed to have a child like me, despite of all my achievements as an artist. So there you go, not all parents can accept the "happiness" of their children.
It's difficult for parents to get the right balance between when it is needed to be strict and when to be chill. Some parents it come naturally. Some have to work at it and might F up at times and some parents just don't give a sht.
Also, different children need different things. My older son needed my husband and I to be stricter with him than our younger son. They were opposites in personality and the things they enjoyed/enjoy. My older son had to be reeled in a bit. Where as our younger son needed to be pushed out there.
Amala’s take is so spot-on. I’m 38 and was diagnosed with autism just over a year ago. My mom had an explosive temper and there was some rare physical abuse. Yet she also overshared with me about some things I shouldn’t have known at such a young age. I held resentment for years over those things, amongst others, but she has gotten counseling. And though my relationship with Jesus, I’m enabled to forgive her more each day.
When my kids were underage, they were allowed a phone but could only add people I knew. If they wanted social media, they had to agree to allow me to have ID and password and allow me to check periodically that they are being safe. If they refused to allow me that, then no social media, if they lied, no phone. It had to be a give and take relationship. And yes, I did say to make sure they are being safe online, that means they are also not being the bullies. Thankfully it worked for me, for the most part. I had rebellious child that did everything you can imagine.
Have you asked them now, when they're older, how it made them feel at the time and how it impacted them?
Happiness is not temporary its a chosen emotion you display that you can so choose even if the situation isn't.
My mother and I never fought til I first got to college. I made a stupid comment (like royally stupid. Wrote a letter and everything). And tried everything I could to apologize (even down on my knees like my dad suggested, but she shooed me away calling me insincere). That began my journey of "no-mom" independence.
Things have really only gotten worse over the years. Lots of events that I would never have forgiven anyone for but I struggled to try cause she was my mother. Through lots of therapy on my end, I "mourned" my still-living mother. She refuses therapy she needs (traumatic childhood and multiple spousal deaths) and told me our shared counselor "made her feel like shit" because he would stop her tirades so I could speak in a "reconciliatory" conversation.
Now we're on "speaking" terms (she gets a mother's day text and I'll respond with the least info possible if she texts), but I wish I could have had a conversation like these with my mother without fear of emotional abuse or injury
the privacy issue is huge, i dealt with it as well when i was in school and the more my parents hovered and became more invasive the more i rebelled
I’m 62 years old so my kids didn’t have phones but I totally invaded their privacy! I was responsible for them.
The pecking order thing I think is correct.... I am come from an Asian African family... and when I realised this I just went no contact with my uncle who was useless but wanted the title of being at the top... then I eventually went no contact with my family and extended family.
There is nothing that my pre-teen should be doing online that I shouldn't be able to see.
I've never felt the need to do anything outrageous because my parents give me enough freedom and guidance, that I don't feel the need to step outside the bounds. Kids (and people in general) are like water wigglers, the tighter the hold, the more likely it is to slip out of your hands
I’ve only just realised that there are so many people who don’t know what being “happy” actually means. I think we need to flip this idea of us in some fairy land with smiles plastered to the reality of contentment.
Being content is so underrated, chasing happiness is something that will literally take a lifetime if you have no idea what can make you happy or even understand what that means.
Yay I waited to watch this on Jubilee bc I figured Amala was gonna cover it lol
I received the most emotional abuse from my family when i was between 5-8 and I remember telling my mom about my aunt (her youngest sister) and my oldest cousin mockingly saying 'He's a strong girl' while I was doing chores around the house and lifted a plastic chair over my head. When I told my mom, she called me a word that means 'whiney little bitch' but it can also mean 'whore' in a different context. She yelled at me for crying one time when I was in the bathroom and someone had turned off the light (I was afraid of the dark because people told the wildest stories about ghosts and demons around me) and would often throw things like baby formula tins, baby powder bottles or lotion bottles at me (since they were close to the dresser she had next to her bed) if I was too far from her and she couldn't smack me. Fun times!
Oh yeah that was our family too my mom, sister and I would get loud, slam doors, and throw remotes when we got angry.
@12 min. Privacy. I was able to change the settings so I would receive my children's texts. I didn't keep it on all the time, but if I sensed something was going on, it was good for context to have those meaningful conversations. I don't regret "spying" on my teenage children.
Phobia is just used in place of "Anti-" because it sounds cooler. Homophobia was a real thing in the past, though. Like, bordering on Salem Witch Trials phobia. But we don't really have that anymore. Perhaps how fitting the suffix is depends solely on the perspective of the person using it...
Baby girl , you are amazing!!😅
'My daughter is a B and it's not my fault' ... yo' WTF?! 😬that is awful. These mom's make me insanely grateful of my mother. Not too controlling, not too hands off. Not shit talking about me to family & friends, only singing my praises. She hyped me up & taught me to value my self worth. My dad is a drug addict, and fell off the side of the earth when I was 10, but my momma did amazing as a single mom. Now I'm 31 and I share 99% of my life with my mom.
I used to have resentment to Christians and churches due to that same feeling of feeling like they loved me in a " love the sinner, hate the sin" type of way. I've realized that most pepole that are part of a church are coming to God and trying to find community but I also notice how many of them had there own sin that they would struggle with even if they where "blinded" by there perception of being above other in the community. Didn't mean I didn't care for their well-being as well.
When I was in foster care At 14 my first foster mom checked my social media even though I deleted everything but she got everything back And she had her son to check even though it was deleted And I was grounded being on facebook Till I was 17 going to a different home and I got my Facebook back
Writing a blog about your 9 year old daughter calling her a B word CRAZY😂
ok but can we get some commotion for the shirt?!? girllll fire!!🔥
Omegle traumatized me!! Hahaha but I think everyone around our age had that exact same experience. Idk sometimes you just have to find out some things out on your own.
I don't agree the craziest kids are those who are not monitored at all. Look at gangs, school fights, etc. Those parents barely make sure their kids are fed.
That shirt is so so cute on you Link to buy?
My children cannot have a cell phone until 7th grade. They are not allowed to have social media at all until 18. My daughter is 15 and has never asked me for social media. We have had the discussion that it is toxic and the phone that she has is technically mine since I am paying for it. She has not pushed the envelope at all and has been great. My younger two are
boys and I feel like boys are just different when it comes to the social media aspect.
17:50 if you do this and your child will find other ways to get those thing or even worse totally gets messed up by not knowing about any technology because not beeing a digital native in this age, is a huge disadvantage for you work and social life. And when they do eventually come into full contact they might indulge heavily in it and make bigger mistakes then they ever could as a minor. And then they will not have the tools to really deal with that!
I'm turning 23 years old this year, I'm still living with my parents only because my dad would threat me about killing himself if I would move out. I didn't grew up with my parents, only started living with them when I was 15. Half of my life, they weren't around, I'd get a few visits and a few calls. As an adult, I understand why they have to work somewhere else, I understand the things they did and I empathize with how they feel and how they react. But I too have the freedom to be independent. I kept on explaining that to my parents, when they're calm, they say its okay but whenever I do it, act on it thats when an explosive argument happens. I'd say my parents don't know much about my life because to them, in their heads I'm stuck being a 10 years old. Eveb though I'm already grown.
I was not allowed an opinion that wasn’t pre-approved lol
My mom honestly didn’t care much. I would chat online with msn, aim, neopets (roleplay chat esp.), teenspot, etc…. Not once did she truly bother to find out what I was doing online. I didn’t have a phone until after I graduated high school, because I didn’t see the need for it. If I needed to use a phone, one of my friends or classmates had one I could borrow. I also never kept a diary, mainly because my older sister kept one and I would read hers 😗 So, there was no way I’d give someone else the same opportunity.
I think it's child based. I never felt the need to check up on my daughter. My son however....shew I became a detective lol
goth music
souxsie and the banshees, the cure, joy division, Depeche mode -80's
tricky, bjork, type o negative -90's
him, Emilie Autumn, Rasputina -00's
The best part of this is how much mothers and daughters look alike. So gorgeous ❤
As life progresses and things happen more details about your parent life/relationship comes out as well. Since my mom died my dad shares a lot more about their relationship, he does still keep things just for the two of them but he does feel certain things are more appropriate to share.
are there things you dont feel comfortable sharing with your mum?
everything
14,15 is too early for social media and even a phone. My personal opinion, after raising two girls.
I’m loving all the styles lately Amala especially the hair you look stunning.
Quitisential example of goth music would be Type O Negitive.
OMG Charlie is adorable!!!! I love him!!! Hi Charlie, you good, good boy!
Was great to meet Charlie, awesome podcast guest! (Trying to think how not to give spoilers haha, but everyone should watch to the end.)
I love these mother's and they ended up healthy in the end. Also part of being a good parent involves being respectful to your partner. If you hurt them, the children will see and it'll create a divide and hurt them. So maybe don't say that "just because they weren't a good partner doesn't mean they aren't a good parent". A good parent puts their child fast and that includes treating the person with whom they had the child right
I'm just glad my mom doesn't know to use spyware and never downloaded it to my phone. That would sink her to the ocean floor in my eyes.
Lol aww- Amala is cute when she is delulu thinking her kids will be completely open.
Awwww Charlieee! please make him a regular
Do you all have kids? 10 year olds at my daughter's school are on phones, and going to Sephora for high priced products in 5th grade. My older daughter was inducted into trans ideology at age 11 online, w adults contacting her. I don't think you get what the world is like for parents now. You can't just cross your fingers. It's so hard to balance protection and independence. I will always lean toward independence.
I have been clinically depressed for as long as I can remember. My parents were never big advocates for mental health, and it was always "just stop being sad" instead of "What is happening around you that makes you feel this way?" or "What are we doing to contribute to these negative feelings". Therapy was never an option when I was growing up, so I started writing all the bad stuff down as a way to help get it out of my head, so to say. Though I was never given much privacy, or any privacy at all, to begin with, It completely broke my trust in my parents learning that my mother was reading my diary. When I confronted her about it her defense was always "you never talk to us", and I always wondered why they didn´t wonder why. After that I stopped writing, which ultimately made my depression worse. Parents never took accountability for their contribution to my poor mental health. We don´t speak at all today.
People that have small kids or do not have the kids believe that they will have this mature relationship where the kid will talk to them about stuff. They won't. And talking to a teen feels like trying ti fill botomless glass.
Omg!!! Charlie is so cute!!! 🐕
I doubt that kid bought that phone so it’s momma’s phone. She can put whatever she wants on her phones.
I spy on my kid’s phone/internet too- and I’ll do it again! You have to know what your kids are up to… they don’t tell you certain things but it doesn’t make it less important
Love this. Also love your top, would it be possibly to get a link where you got it from? ❤❤❤
I love amala’s top! I wonder wear she got it her fashion is always on point.
I am so blessed to have such an amazing mother. She was always the mom that all the friends wanted to come over and hang out with. She was like Betty Crocker meets a hippie, lol. She always remembered everything about people and always had food and asked them about their lives. We even had people living with us for a while when they had bad situations at home. My mother is still my best friend and I want to be just like her.
I hope you always feel that way. I was that mom. My daughter used to say I was her hero and she & I were so close. Something happened when she was in college and she had a complete personality change. For 10 years after that I tried everything to connect with her but she kept drifting away so far. I never was able to reach her again. If you truly honestly love your wonderful mother, then don't ever shut her out of your life no matter what
@@justdiane5 I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm 37 years old timer with three children and I need my mother now more than I ever have. I don't think I'll ever find an age where I don't need my mother. Her and I are each other's therapy
Taylor nailed it trust and opportunity to be honest etc
Where did you get your shirt? It’s so so cute!
55:05 I think my mom and I would have continued to be really open with each other as I aged. She died suddenly in 2018 at the age of 57, when I was 33. I found out a couple days after she died, as my husband and I were going through her house, that she had been suffering with alcohol abuse. That isn’t what killed her (heart attack), but I really wish she would have felt open to telling me and letting me help her. I’m guessing she was ashamed, or didn’t want to burden me, but I wouldn’t have judged. She truly meant the world to me; she only got 10 years with her own father, I am forever grateful to the Lord that I at least got 33 years with her. ✝️ 💔❤️🩹
I came from a very broken home. I'm the oldest of 8 kids and Mom was venting to me about Dad and their relationship pretty much as young as I can remember. I'm 23 now and they just got divorced last year. Mom was always of the mindset of complete transparency with the kids, or at least that's what she called it. I think she just needed someone to talk to and I was there. Dad on the other hand rarely allowed himself to say anything negative about her to us. Kinda resulted in me being trapped in this space of feeling empathetic and being a shoulder to lean on while also being completely over it. I just wish they had made better decisions
"The duality of man is real" Love that ❤
That top is so fire.
More Charlie please! 😂
I personally think that the chance of someone who is abusive towards yourself becoming abusive towards the children at some point is a huge risk. They loved you at some point and they abused you. At some point they will lose the child protection factor in the abusers mind just like it happened with you.
I am lucky to have been one of those girls with very honestly blunt and "strict" parents. I definitely could've wound up into internet trouble had they not taught me about the whole "stranger danger" and "what you put on the internet, stays on the internet" type lessons. I'm almost 30 years old and I've never had facebook. The amount of bullying I heard about going on there growing up was astounding and I'm glad to have never been around/apart of it.
Awww, Charlie is so cute❤
I clicked on this knowing the possibility that it would trigger my eating disorder... and it did. Currently in a state where my relationship with my mother has changed drastically and in irreversible ways. I am seeking help to better myself and she has no interest in bettering herself and continues to be as toxic as possible (like she's always been but I never noticed it before until now when it's directly effecting my life as naturally as breathing). I'm glad that everyone on this video seems open to being humble and factual and understanding and compassionate. I hope they all just get stronger in their bonds and interactions after this and that they keep communicating.
A lot of us understand you, it's hard, and sometimes not being able to deal with it 😢 brings those feelings on, or actions you take to be relieved. Some don't know the correlation, it is the sin we all do and the evil that's around, between the two; plus other stuff the word of God is crucial. Pastor Kevin la Ewing has videos on these situations, it's not sermons, it's just an understanding.
I’ve wanted a daughter since I was 20, I’m nearly 40 now and gave birth to my daughter last year and I almost want to cry when I look at her because I love her so much 😭 I can’t even imagine betraying her by reading her diary (as my mum did to me), I’m even worried about having another kid because I want to give her all the attention she deserves
Hi Charlie. So cute!!
Where did you get your shirt!?? It's so cute!
I second this haha
Probably fashion nova
That one mom may have lied not only to not cause them more pain but also possibly to keep them from saying too much to their dad at first to keep her safe.
Charlie is so darn adorable oh my word
Both my parents gave me as much privacy as i wanted. I was a mellow kid so it worked out well. However, one thing I'll never forget is confiding in my mom about me struggling with my mental health in middle school. She threatened me and didn't take it seriously which, sure, at the time it's hormones- but it set the tone for mental health discussions going forward. Nothing was ever taken too seriously and I'm 22 now and I'm going through some things that i no longer feel safe to discuss without judgement and now i have no one to talk about what im struggling with. It seems like such an insignificant thing looking back, but it really did affect me in a permanent way. I don't blame my parents as they came from a different background around mental health, but i do wish i could use them as a support system in regards to it.
That was my grandma and grandpa you do not talk back to them!!....now that they have passed my mom and step dad have taken those roles
My daughter is nine and she got an old phone from grandma with her own number...we had a long conversation about online safety and why she isn't allowed to have any social media accounts yet...besides that i connected her phone to my Google account so i can see her search history on Google and UA-cam...she also has a WhatsApp group chat with her classmates and we as parents are connected too in case there is anything inappropriate or any bullying...it can be so easy if parenting is based on respect and honesty...she knows that I'm respecting her privacy in real life and online but that my job as a mother is to also make sure she's safe
Nope!!! I'm a little sister with 2 kids and I really try to see things from my oldests point of view cause I know what my sister went through! I could never imagine writing a public blog calling my daughter a B!! 😂😂 then making excuses like my feelings were hurt 😅😅