things i'm doing DIFFERENT for baby #2 | nursing, epidural, mom guilt
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- Опубліковано 25 чер 2024
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Prepare for “are you pregnant” questions Kristin!!!!
Im not!!
@@AprilShowers560 It's click bait, makes more people click on the video, and get a bigger count.
I had to click onto her channel to check if I didn’t miss a pregnancy announcement 😅
@@vix58 it's literally not though 🤣 lots of people make this exact video before having another baby. I said to my friends "I'll do xyz differently with baby #2" even before getting pregnant.
Haha I definitely thought I missed the announcement! Even went to Instagram to check 😂
Something my mom always taught me is “if you wait for the perfect time to have a baby, you’ll never have one”, you can always do better financially, you can always have more in your savings, you can always have a better living situation, the perfect timing doesn’t exist. But only you will know when you’re ready and the timing makes sense to tou
1000% agree
My dad always told me the same thing!
Yes!!!
Yes, this!
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I totally respect you not sharing the birth video, but would you ever do a sit down video of your birth story?!
Yes I remember not fully understanding how God could have unconditional love for us, and I remember talking to him about it. Then in the first few moments of having my baby, I remember just looking at her and being so overcome by love for her. I thought, "This love is so great there is nothing in the world that you could do that would ever make me not love you." Then I just heard God say "And now you know." It felt like he was right by my side lovingly looking down at us the same way I was looking down at her. It was the sweetest moment and a memory I treasure.
I feel the breastfeeding struggle. That was the hardest part of my postpartum journey, for sure. It wasn’t until a friends mom pulled me aside and said, “Honey, stop putting so much pressure on yourself. If breast feeding isn’t working, that’s okay. Baby boy is growing great, you are a great mom and it is okay. By the time they are two, they will be eating French fries and Cheerios off the car floor, so it’s all good.” 😂 It really put things into perspective and made me realize that me being mentally well, is more important than my desire to breastfeed. As long as baby is healthy, fed and growing, everything is okay 💛
Mom guilt was wayyyyy less second time around (coming from someone who REALLY struggled the first time). I think I learned that distance from my baby for even just an hour a week made me feel so human again. And the second time around I just knew to plan for myself (and my husband!) to get that time alone.
I clicked this so fast thinking it was an announcement 🤣💗
"trenches of postpartum phase" 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️ 3 weeks and 2 days postpartum
- I cannot tell you how bad I underestimated the amount of womens diapers and pads I needed. I've been to the store multiple times 😅
- also I for real feel SO BAD for all of the mom friends I have and how much I felt like I could have helped because how much I could have used help!
I felt this so much! I cried a few times and messaged my friends like “I’m so sorry I didn’t help more” and felt so sad because now I’m a mum it’s logistically harder to offer up help as I also have to sort childcare or bring a crazy toddler along 🙈
I'm so lucky to have so many women who's opinions I value and who've already started growing their families. Kristin, your experiences and insight and opinions are so helpful! I know I'm not quite there yet, but listening to this video gives me that tingly excited feeling for when my husband and I finally decide to start our family! 😁
15 weeks pregnant here! This all was such great advice. Would actually love a pregnancy/newborn must have video!!
Congrats!! Deff try to exercise/walk as much as you can could make pushing easier and don’t over eat towards the end like I did (pastas,sugar) baby was 9 lbs 7 oz. My best advice.
@@vikapk8072 haha pasta has been my weakness but definitely great advice!
Also you’re looking SO good recently - like, you’ve always been gorgeous but you’re always glowing recently. Love that for you 💖
I just Love Love Love this so much! It feels like my thoughts being spoken out loud. I can’t wait to come back to this video when I’m ready for baby #2
My mom watched the end and said “I enjoyed it! You’re a sweet kid Kristin” 😂🥺
Kris - You are such a light. I struggle a lot with anxiety and every time I watch your videos I feel such a strong sense of calm and comfort from you. Your gentle nature and faith is so so so beautiful and encouraging and I am thankful to have these videos of yours!
I just had my third baby and I will say that going from 0 to 1 was by far the hardest for me. Loved all your advice!
Hey girl! I just wanted to say that you are such an inspiration to me and I am so obsessed with your content! Thank you for always being so vulnerable and encouraging! I look up to you so much and I love seeing you as a mom! I hope you’ve have a good day! Ilysm and happy Thursday!!
Thank you for sharing Kristin! Even though I’m not a mom yet, I felt very encouraged by this ❤️
I love your content! As a first time mom I enjoy watching your videos🥰
Any content you post is uplifting, Kristin! James seems like a healthy and happy little boy and that speaks to your guys’ parenting! I’d be so game to hear how labor went still but if you don’t feel like sharing then that is okay! I think you’d be able to comfort many expectant moms out there with your story. Ultimately though this is your life and you get to choose what’s released.
It’s so nice to hear a Christian woman say they were glad they got an epidural and would do it again!
34 weeks pregnant over here 🙋🏼♀️ and I feel the “natural mama” pressure!!
Hey, my son just turned one. I felt the natural mama pressure too. I went in intending to have an epidural if I needed it, but I went from 5 to 10 in like an hour so it's was intense and the Dr didn't make it in time. Literally walked in 2 minutes after bub was born. All that to say, from a "natural" mama do what you want. You don't get a medal for delivering naturally. I'm no better a mother because I didn't get my epidural. Not let others make this decision for you. Do what you think is best for you mama. You're already doing so well!
Christian mum here too, I’m planning a birth centre birth w/o pain killers but who knows what will happen! Everything’s in God’s hands. You do you, God gives every woman a “natural” birth ❤ medicine or not.
@Danika absolutely best mindset ro go into birth with. Praying for you mamas to have sweet births
Lots of my Christian friends are so thankful they got an epidural! I didn’t, but dang maybe I should of lol!! Just do what you think will make your birth the happiest, and hold onto your plans loosely because you never know what will happen!
Epidural doesn’t work half the time. Myself and many of my friends epidurals didn’t work, be aware! I had a horrible doctor who ripped my baby out of me while pushing. I will be a Home birth natural momma from now on!!
We need more people sharing their positive epidural and positive birth/postpartum experiences!! Thank you so much. I'm having a baby in July and definitely planning on an epidural. The positive effects of getting one needs to be talked about so thank you so much for sharing!!
I'm 28 and just had my first baby on 3/28/23. She is precious and a gift from God! I had a 35 hour labor, pushed for 6 hours....all unmedicated. It was the most exhausting, painful thing I've ever experienced. I managed to get her out finally, she had her arm and hand next to her face! I didn't need any stitches somehow, I only have a 1st degree tear. I TOTALLY get why women want pain meds now!!
Oh my congratulations you are so strong!! God bless this journey coming up ❤
Omg you pushed for 6 hours!!
You are soo strong mama!!!
Thank you! Yes I pushed for 6 hours. No idea how I made it through, I know it was fully God's power in me!
Ahh I’m glad you wrote about your experience m! Helps me to get more honest advice about unmediated birth
Thanks Kristin for this. It makes total sense what you said (about all of it actually) after having my first baby who is now 2 months. Just makes it feel more normal what we are going through. Love your channel regardless of what you post
I loved how you said you understood Gods love in a whole different way since having James. I remember telling my husband that EXACT same thing since having my son. It’s so amazing 🫶🏼 thanks for sharing and being a light for God, Kristin! Love you!
This is great advice for future moms (me)! Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your experience with us 🥰
Kristen, thank you for this video! I am 6 months pp and feel 100% the same about breast feeding and epidural. I had the exact same feeding journey and it ruined my mental health for a moment. So much relief once the pressure was off the breast feeding.
You’re glowing like always!
Love your answer to that last question!!
i am currently pregnant and this video was SO reassuring! ❤
I’m 28 weeks pregnant and have played pickleball and have been in tournaments throughout my entire pregnancy! It’s honestly so fun. And people think it’s cool when you’re out there still getting after it :) a great challenge! If you can do it with baby number two it’s so worth it and you’ll be so proud of yourself!
You're handling everything so well.. and looking great too.. I don't know how you manage to get everything done and be in such great shape at the same time❤I would have been a mess in your situation.. I'm sure gonna use this content in a few years to try and rise to the occasion as gracefully as you have🌞
Mom guilt gets easier with the second, and the transition is so much easier (in my experience) from 1-2 than it was with 0-1. I also had way more trust in myself and my own intuition the second time around! Which just put you more at ease as a whole.
You should definitely post your birth vlog even though it’s been awhile! We’d love to see it! ❤
Love you Kristin!❤️🥰
Thanks you for this video! It’s nice to hear you had a positive birth experience in a hospital. Thanks Kristin!
I'm pregnant with my second and have a lot of these thoughts as well! Enjoyed this video 😊
getting a new youtube vid from you is the best bday gift today🥹🥹
Not me thinking this was an announcement! 😂💜
In Norway, they recommend the moms to have babies with three years between, for the mom to fully heal in between pregnancies. ❤
I had a very similar breastfeeding experience. Fought it for 3 months and I feel like I ruined my newborn days. Something I will never do again! It hurt though. Felt like the biggest heartbreak when I decided to stop but time sure did heal because now I have an almost 2 yr old who is happy and healthy!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Super helpful. ❤
YASSS the queen is back !
New mom here- literally related to everything you said 😭 thank you for this! 🤍🤍🤍
I love your hair!! ❤ looks so pretty
my son also had a lip tie he had to have surgery for, breastfeeding was very difficult for us and i stopped nursing around 3 months pp. luckily i’ve been able to pump but i’m hoping to be done in a few months when he’s 1. i also hope nursing works out next time, but not gonna stress if it doesn’t.
i had an unmedicated birth and i had a great experience and plan on having another if my next labor is similar. i don’t think i did too much preparation either mostly bc i wanted to be somewhat naive going into it so i wasn’t nervous. i really liked having combs to squeeze to distract me from contractions and i liked leaning different laboring positions and breathing techniques ahead of time was definitely helpful to cope with the pain. even if you do choose an epidural/pain relief next time those things can be helpful in early labor too :)
Thank you so much! I love you and your fam and I’ve missed watching you! I’m due in 4 weeks!!
I loved your answer on how your spiritual life has changed after a kid ❤
4 months in w my sweet girl and this was all so relatable. 100% agree about giving next baby a paci IMMEDIATELY. Lol. She took awhile to warm up to it and they make too big of a difference not to try right off the bat. 👏👏
Mom guilt never goes away 🥲
I struggled the first time around and told myself I would not breastfeed if I was struggling so much again…. And formula shortage the second time around. We fought through it but it was horrible not knowing what I would do if I couldn’t make it work 😮💨 also loved my epidural both times ❤
I have an Oura ring and it said I had a restful heart rate for the whole 18th mins I watched your video😂 your videos are so calming! It’s science haha
Mom guilt with the second baby was worse for me. I felt like my attention already had to be split between the toddler and the baby, and then to leave them just felt like time I should have been giving to the child that had been getting less attention that day. Now after baby number 4, I can truly say that getting away alone is definitely healthy and very needed, and has been all along...even when I felt guilty.
Such an insightful q&a/chitchat vlog! I definitely took some notes as I'm due to give birth to my first born 👧🏻 on June!
I lost a lot of that mom guilt after my second baby. I do a lot more on my own and for myself as a mom of 2 than I ever did with one child! There’s hope and it can happen!
not my heart skipping a beat hahaah ily ❤
5 must haves: silverette nipple cups for breastfeeding, burp cloths, ZIPPER pajamas (not buttons!!), a large water bottle, and baby wraps for baby wearing!
My mom guilt was so much less the second time around!
25 weeks pregnant and would looooove a must haves video!! 💗
I 100% feel you on the whole breastfeeding thing and the toll it can take on your mental health with my first one I had people around me as good intention as they might have been basically tell me well maybe if you loved you baby more you could nurse her which btw saying that to any mother is awful let alone a mom who suffers from depression on a normal day to day so the chances of having PPD are extremely high but then my best friend told me basically the same thing as your midwife and brought me Ben and Jerry’s and let me cry and didn’t judge
38 weeks and 3 days today, literally about to go into my 38wk appointment. I wish I was more active but I was sooo sick and gained a LOT of weight. It is what it is 😅
Pregnancy is hard! Definitely don't beat yourself up for it. I was really sick too and that sickness is not something to be undermined.
Amen about the epidural! I looooved my first birth with it :) I missed it the second time which actually was totally fine and I didn't hate it. But still just loved the epidural one so much!
This is coming at such a good time for me- I am 21 weeks pregnant and am OVERWHELMED with all the information. Thanks pretend older sis.
Hi Kristen! Thanks for the video. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant. I would love to see a newborn must haves video. I feel so overwhelmed and lost in what to get for my baby lol
Thank you so much for this video ❤❤❤
The relief of not having to pump anymore…
My husband and I just got into a serious car accident two months ago. We were hit on a head on collision with a semi-truck on the highway. It was a miracle we survived. Honestly, I can relate to the idea of carrying a child while also recovering from a serious accident. I cannot even imagine having to do both so watching your videos has given me hope of being able to recover and carry a child
The ending is so true ❤❤
Yay a new video! ❤
Please do a baby must haves video!🫶🏻
I watched all the videos and read all the books and went to Doula school and no matter what I read and knew....it all went out the window when I was the one going through it all. Becoming a mom is very hard. Yes knowledge made me stronger but after having so many long nights and long days my brain was so fried you could ask me how to cook an egg and I wouldn't be able to tell you. I literally kept walking in circles because I couldn't remember what I walked in room for and would walk out and come back in and forget it again🤦
TIME FOR BABY #2 LEGGGGO!!!
Sending love all the way from Jordan 🇯🇴🫶🏼
The last few minutes talking about God loving us where we are at… man I needed to hear that!
That epidural was insane, I’m definitely posting my horror story in case anyone cares 😅 and so sorry you had to feel like that over breastfeeding I’m so happy I didn’t have to go through that unlike my sister , formula is so expensive
Having my first baby in June I’m so excited but sooo nervous 🥲💕
LOL this title made me RUSHHH to your Instagram bc I thought I missed the big reveal!!! 😂 GURL! 😝😂
Love this vid! I'm due with my first on July 4th :) Where's that bedding from??
Thank you for sharing all of your personal experiences. You are so genuine and honest. I appreciate all of your videos! My best friend is pregnant with her first, and I have yet to have a child. I want to be involved in her journey but I don’t want to invade her space by asking too many questions. Do you wish people were more involved or less involved in your journey??! She’s such a sweet person and not the type to talk about things if she’s struggling, and I just want to be there for her if she needs anything!! Do you wish people checked on you more? Asked how you were doing? Or helped you out more during the first couple months after birth?
When it comes to epidurals, I read an interesting article recently from Josh Axe's website which discussed the pros and cons of epidurals. I would highly encourage everyone to go and read that to be able to make an informed decision. Here is one quote from it for example:
"the decrease in natural oxytocin may cause difficulty in breastfeeding."
Thank you for this video! Currently 22 weeks pregnant with my first! It's a girl! ❤️
Pleaseeeeee post how you fix your hair rn!!!!! I love that cut on you
This is so weird Kristin… me, pregnant, currently searching for info on YT on pregnancy and birth, then one of my favorite gals pops up with a video relating to my current situation just out of the blue 😅😂 thank you for your perfect timing! ❤️
21 weeks pregnant and still playing pickleball! It’s doable! Not sure how long I’ll keep playing but so far so good!
What are ways you can help a friend that’s pregnant with their first?
Haha, my baby (who is 6 weeks younger than James ) didn’t want to ever take a paci or bottle and still doesn’t. The bottle didn’t matter because I breastfeed and am a SAH, even though sometimes was challenging. But I’m glad he didn’t take a paci and now I ever have to break that habit 🎉
Im 28 years old and I have 4 children! The oldest is 7, and the youngest is 5 months..and I enjoy getting some tips and tricks even from first time moms cuz u learn new things eveyday..even if I have full circus under my sleeve..
After epidural I had an allergic reaction and I have been itching for the past 4 months on and off. I hear they prescribe naproxen to reverse the reaction.
For a second I thought i missed a pregnancy announcement 😂😂
praying request: my husband & i’s marriage is rocky. i want nothing more than to continue it, but he seems deadset on divorce.
So sorry to hear this, praying for you and for him tonight ❤ I hope you are surrounded by counsel, support, and encouragement ❤
Lord Jesus, we lift up our dear sisters marriage to you right now, and we just ask that you would shine your sweet light in every dark place, restore all that needs to be restored and we take a stand against the enemy's ploys, in the name of Jesus. Your word says that what you have joined, let NO man separate and so Lord, we just plead for your hand over this marriage. Your word does not return to you void. We trust you.
I’m so sorry 😢 I’m praying for you!
I’m so sorry to hear that. Hope everything works out for you guys and things get better. Also not sure what’s your situation, not sure if you guys are believers of God or not. Just remember that whatever you are going through place it in God’s hand, stay away from sin and believe and trust God, he has full control of the situation.
Triple feeding is a whirlwind!! I did it for 6 months and my mental health plummeted too. I should have stopped earlier to be honest. We guilt ourselves so much over BFing but you’re right that it’s not worth your mental health.
My baby also had lip tie and tongue tie, and I also did triple feeding for two whole months. It was so hard! I feel you!
Yes to the whole feeding discussion. No one talks about it!!!
Do you mind sharing how you treated the lip/tongue tie? FTM going through the same thing!
My second baby would refuse a pacifier and bottle until 5 months old - so there is hope if your baby doesn’t take it right away 😅 I tried since the first week and wasn’t successful until
About month 5
When will your new home be done?
Seriously God teaches me so much about my behavior towards Him through my kids behaviors. It’s like, ohhh. Umm. Sorry God 😅
I‘d rather watch all of your videos, than write an essay 😫💗
I had more mom guilt the second time around. Because I felt like I could not spend as much time with either of my kids! So, I felt guilty when I was doing stuff with my baby and guilty when I was doing stuff with my toddler. I also had a hard time connecting to my new child because of it. I never said it because I didn't want it to be real, and I felt like talking about it would make it worse., Keeping it a secret was a mistake.
Also, I had trouble breastfeeding my second child and that did not help me either. It was mostly because I didn't feel as connected that i struggled to give up,, even though i think i would have been fine for my first kid. It was so silly, and I hope I am over that if I have another kid in the future.
I saw the title and thought I’d missed something 😂
The second baby is SO much easier because you are much more confident. But also the transition is hard because having one baby that is 1+, you basically have all your freedom back! So you go from having everything down and some freedom to BOOM newborn life again.
Also! Neither of my babies took a pacifier and never needed them! They aren’t essential like everyone makes them seem