Candace, please let the tears come. It's a sign of strength, not weakness. We all need to be okay with crying. It's healing and speaks volumes to where God wants to meet you in that hurt. Thank you so much for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life ❤️
As a sister in Christ. I cried with you. I hesitated to watch this because I didn’t want to think about sadness. I’m so thankful I did. You both are beautiful, and are doing a wonderful work for women. Remember: when people are coming after you or being negative. It is a testament that you are doing something great for the Lord. “Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another.” Romans 12:15-16
I am so incredibly thankful for this conversation especially around depression. As a Christ follower, depression is a lonely place among believers. It is feared and not understood so it makes those who struggle feel like a burden. I am so grateful for your honesty, Candace. Please consider having more conversations around this for us believers who also feel alone in it. ❤
I use to struggle with it around 18 and then it rated its ugly ideas again I think after I got pregnant about 10ths later but I really think most of it is homeowner and now I need to get my hormones checked also I think it started for me bc I had un forgiveness and hate towards a family member I’ve i released that person to the lord and cried out in a godly sorrow to let God lead me as he was humbling me in that moment I truly turned myself into him in repentance and asking him to take over my life and I felt alive again after that and was way more humbled . Couldn’t afford counseling but the lord brought an older wiser women in my life who then led me to a. Counselor that gave me her time freely and I’m forever grateful to the lord and still we are friends to this day. I’m learning to let the lord become my friend when I can’t find a listening ear or a heart that understands and I think he’s Been keeping me in a. Quiet season frm people so that I’d let him be my friend and I cat learn to be his a little more . He wants to Hesse my brokenness and anger and joys and I feel his fight sometimes when I share my heart and I get so much encouragement after I’m honest with Him he really is soo good and compassionate❤❤❤
Candace, I am “that one” sitting in bed watching this crying. You have pulled me out of my pain and set me free knowing that I am not alone. Thank you for your vulnerability and openness.
Thank you for reaching out and taking my hand Candace. I have been struggling so much lately and when I have tried to share there is so much condemnation in the church. People have read scripture to me about grumbling and complains after a simple sharing in a small group. So, I closed my mouth and pulled back into my isolation and have been afraid to share much again. I do a have a wonderful therapist who is helping walk through some horrific trauma. It's been incredible! But we, as the church must learn to live like Jesus and show compassion and mercy and learn to sit with each other in this broken world we live in. Thank you Jennie for your example! Love both of you ladies!!
Candace you made me cry when you said “to that person, I’m holding your hand”. I believe you meant that with all of your heart. Great episode! Thank you
Candace, you have NO IDEA how God sent this episode was to me! Everything Jenny spoke on self compassion and the compassion of Jesus as He is weeping with us spoke to my soul. I am in a deep depression with anxiety and I haven’t known how to dig myself out. But thats the thing, I don’t dig myself out, the Lord does that for me. You have helped me so so much knowing I’m not alone and knowing you’re holding my hand and the comfort of God’s word is always at my fingertips. There is no shame or condemnation in Christ Jesus. Thank you for being vulnerable. I would love for you to write a book on this.
Candace, you have no idea how much this meant to me. You are someone I look up to, as someone in the industry that you're in and so open about your faith. I watched you as a kid as DJ Tanner, and you inspire me now as an adult. In listening to your podcasts, I have found many similarities between the two of us in how God wired us, and I look to you as an example to follow. Hearing you discuss your struggles with depression, and your vulnerability in how it affects you was so encouraging for me, as it is something I also struggle with. I don't want you to regret sharing those things even for a moment, it was so freeing to hear someone I look up to so much talk about the same struggles I experience at times. I know others will feel the same. It requires great strength to share those struggles, no matter how weak it may feel. I appreciate who you are and how you share God's word, and especially appreciate that you made me feel less alone today ❤
Wow, I have been going through some relocation depression which I am familiar with as a military spouse. I sobbed listening to this last night because never had anyone described the sad feelings I wrestle with each move so well. I listened again this morning just to take it all in. This is going to help me verbalize to my loved ones what it is that I need in emotional support through this season of grief and loss of another home and community. 🙌🏼 I don't have to just get over it, I need my people to sit with me in it and let me be sad. What a reminder that I have a God that is already doing that. 😭♥️🙌🏼
Candace, I would have never dreamed you struggle with such deep depression at times!! Honestly, it just makes me think you’re even _more_ amazing to still be the person you are despite those occasional struggles. Thank you for sharing!! ❤
I have tried to share with who I thought were the "right, wise, people"... I am alone. But this has helped me today. I really do not know where I'm headed. But I won't stop fighting for myself and my family. I really would just love a good Godly friend. Thank you so much for being vulnerable. Reminding you kindly that His strength is made perfect in our weakness. He holds our hearts and the Holy spirit prays for us when we cannot. Love you both so much!! Thank you, ladies. What a blessing you have been in my life. ❤
The biggest sadness I have ever felt was when I miscarried my 7th baby, then had 2 more after that. It took me over a years to overcome that while raising the 6 beautiful children I was blessed with. The worst of it was the comments I got from others!! The only thing that got me through it was obviously the support of my husband but GOD held my hand. I have never cried so much in my life as I did during that season of life. I was so afraid that when my kids had grandkids I would not be able to be happy for them or hold my grandbabies due to some of the pain I dealt with. I am so blessed & proud to say that God did heal that part & I am able to love my grandbabies so much, hold them & love on them.
oh my goodness this was powerful i can feel the fathers love for me that he excepts me no matter what im going through he is love and so does care for us it amazes me ,i have watched you for a long time and i love that your an actress but still stand strong in your faith,thank you for sharing because this has been most helpful Gods blessings on you
I love that you shared this. I suffer from depression. I can be fine for a long time. When I am at my strongest point and doing better, feel good. I slip. Don't know how I got there so quickly. It is very lonely. I think you're amazing.
Candace, you have NO IDEA how God sent this episode was to me! Everything Jenny spoke on self compassion and the compassion of Jesus as He is weeping with us spoke to my soul. I am in a deep depression with anxiety and I haven’t known how to dig myself out. But thats the thing, I don’t dig myself out, the Lord does that for me. You have helped me so so much knowing I’m not alone and knowing you’re holding my hand and the comfort of God’s word is always at my fingertips. There is no shame or condemnation in Christ Jesus. Thank you for being vulnerable. I would love for you to write a book on this.
Candace, when you began to cry, my tears flowed also. It is so hard to be vulnerable. Thank you for letting us into your heart. That takes strength and courage. When I share any bit of sadness, I am met with disapproval and/or toxic positivity. It's like being punched in the gut to add to the already existing pain. I try to remind myself that we are all broken and doing the best we can and I should forgive the people who make me feel even worse after I am vulnerable with them....but I usually end up just unplugging altogether. I am on a journey with Jesus and I know he weeps with me. God bless you and anyone who can relate to this. ❤❤❤
I get the same thing from my family members. So now I go to talk therapy and I do video Journaling which feels like a therapy session. Sometimes I do have friends who validate my experiences but I can't depend on them daily. So I talk to God in my Journaling session.
Your not weak Candace. Your real. Weak people can’t be vulnerable. Your truth will help so many including me. I feel all those same feelings at times and I consider myself to be a happy person. Lately I’ve been going through the mud. Just turned 50, just found out my husband I’ve been with since I was 18 is battling stage 4 bone cancer. So daily my joy has been stripped and even with strong faith I struggle throughout my days. Trying to stay out of my hole. So I’m sending you hugs, prayers and love.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I pray God will heal your husband. Stay strong, my sister in Christ. For nothing is impossible for God. God bless you 🙏 Stay courageous.
Thank you so much for this one! Started crying right in the middle - I have always felt weak for struggling with sadness and depression, but God reminded me again that He’s not ashamed of me for that. It’s has become a strength in my life, not something I need to hide. He is proud of me and with me and it has truly made me more compassionate for others. ❤ Love you both!!
I'm so sorry that you've gone through depression - I know how hard that is, I've struggled with it on and off for years and it can be crushing! There have been so many times that I've felt alone and guilty for not being able to snap out of it or pray my way out of it, but hearing you talk about it and seeing you cry (although it's heartbreaking) makes me feel less alone. THANK YOU so much for talking about this, especially from a Christian point of view!!! The good news is that God will use this for good and for you to be able to help so many people. Maybe that's why He has allowed this in your life, to use you? Love the podcast so much!
Thank you ladies for being real. I have family who struggle with anxiety and depression. I have shared this episode with them. Pray with me they will watch it. I truly think it will help them.
I’ve been reminded recently through grief, this is my “thorn in the side” that reminds me I cannot do it alone and encourages me to turn to God and (sometimes) I remember to be grateful for it to get closer to Him. Prayers to you all. 💛🙏🏻
This was SO incredibly helpful! 💜 So grateful for Candace's vulnerability. I'm the same, known for being joyful, yet have struggled with depression, but have been open about it and have been able to have such great conversations with people about how God helps me through 🙌🏽❤️ Please be glad you shared. You've helped so many people with this
Thank you ❤ No regrets Candace in your honesty. We all have those hard, difficult, sad 😢 moments/seasons in our lives. Your honesty helps us not feel alone, it really does. God’s grace to see us through it and to help us move on. 2023 our 23 year old son got leukemia. Talk about a hard sad year but joyfully God saved our son through a stem cell transplant. Although this happened it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. But God’s grace has helped us stage by stage.
I am 68 yrs old, and have battled depression since I was a teenager. I was the first born and had 2 brothers after that. From as early as I can remember I was never valued, everything revolved around my brothers. So as a teenager I was looking for validation and love, of course in a self destructing mode, if you know what I mean. I got married at 17 so I could get away. And divorced 2 years later. My mother told me I made my bed and needed to lay in it. Married a wonderful man a couple of years later. I had very bad post pardon depression, and feel lucky we survived. To this day I still feel that I am not enough or measured up. I stay isolated and do not live near the couple of friends I have or other family. I had breast cancer in 2011 on a visit to my oncologist she asked how I was doing and I told her I live waiting for the other shoe to drop and I cry everyday, she said that’s no way to live and I told her your telling me. I have talked antidepressants since I was around 30 years old, and It does help to know their other people out there suffering some of the same issues. Thanks for your input on your show.
I am so honored and grateful that you were so vulnerable Candace. I feel the exact same way as you do. I have been through and am still going through a lot in my life. I just don’t want to burden anyone with all of my baggage….. and it is such a lonely place to be. I make sure that I am there for everyone because I never want them to feel the way I do, but unfortunately the sentiment is rarely ever reciprocated…..the only person that ends up being hurt or cheated, is me. I do feel extremely invisible a lot but I have been working on that in therapy for a while now. I cried with you and felt every bit of your emotion and truly felt what you were feeling. I do wonder sometimes if it’s pride that won’t allow me to share my feelings with anyone.??When you mentioned not wanting to feel weak and others making you feel weak when you are transparent, that definitely hit a chord with me, because that’s been my experience. I have battled severe depression and like you, felt such shame because I am blessed and I am a child of God and most Christians will ask, “how can Christians be depressed or anxious?” and that makes me feel so ashamed and embarrassed. My husband couldn’t understand why I was depressed and verbally “beat me up” because I couldn’t get out of the funk. Unfortunately, we are now separated and I feel more alone than ever and I have nothing to show for all the years of marriage to him. He is not a Christian unfortunately, so I do have grace for him, but it really hurts. My saving grace is that I know God will never leave me and will supply all of my needs….but it has been really tough. Anyway, Thank you for making me feel seen and acknowledged. It’s so nice to know that I’m not the only Christian woman who has experienced this. God bless you beautiful! I will be praying for you sister!❤
A friend sent a blog about someone getting out of a dark hole just this morning and this was my response: That’s totally my story. The hole was my daughter, Tara’s, abduction, rape, and murder. The sticks and rocks were treatment centers, psychiatrists, therapists, and medications. But they only took me so far, and then I heard Elizabeth Elliot say, “pray out loud”, and I did! Within a few days I met an old acquaintance who invited me to a home Bible study, and within a few months I was baptized in Jesus Name and received the gift of the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in other tongues. I’m always looking and praying for opportunities to share. Jesus preformed Psalm 40:2 on me!!!! Praising His Name forever!!!
I have always hated depression and felt the same way, that I should be strong enough to get through it. One of the problems is how it impacts every part of your life. Thank you for sharing and being real and vulnerable.
Yes. I've been walking through this and my husband has been so supportive. So grateful you put words to this because literally I've been feeling so alone in this process and unable to reach out to anyone because of shame. So thank you, Candace and Jennie, for sharing and being vulnerable.
Oh, Candace. I could have spoken the same words. THE SAME WORDS. Since your "return", I have been drawn to and influenced by the things you've worked on. It's been incredible to watch you follow Jesus so publically, work and present yourself so ethically, and do your best to be authentic to us. I'm not sure you could be any other way! It feels like a treasure every time you share another part of yourself. Tears have welled-up especially during this episode because our stories with "sadness from an unknown origin" (that's what I call it) seem similar. I needed it so much. Like you, those episodes seem fewer for me (with some work), but I am not 100% immune. When you still were collecting yourself and you said to the person crying, "And if you are that person, I'm grabbing your hand and holding it with you right now." Dang, girl. What compassion and empathy!! THANK YOU! I wish I could send you a handwritten note or a Chick-fil-a shake! I stinking love you! Please keep being the you God made you because there's a whole community out here who'd like to keep you in their anti-isolation tool boxes!!! Have the happiest of Easters Candace! Love from tiny Summerton, South Carolina 💜
There is so much packed in this episode and I feel like I missed stuff too! Maybe your deep sadness at times is also lamenting with Jesus on the things of this world and how broken things are. Which is biblical. I mean I know in my depth of my soul it’s my lamenting that often looks like deep sadness. And it’s because I asked God to break my heart for what breaks his. Hard prayer to pray but I feel it so deeply.
This might be my favorite episode yet. Thank you all for sharing with us! People need to hear this stuff. I've been reading Untangle Your Emotions by Jennie and it's been really helpful too. I realized after a counseling session that I have a hard time sharing my emotions - specifically the negative ones. Which shocked me! But when I couldn't articulate what I was feeling or feel like it was safe to share my emotions, it really clicked in my brain that I had some work to do. I've been journaling my feelings and that has been helping too. Even the crappy feelings! And somehow at the end of most journalling sessions, I feel so drawn to God, and so much more peaceful. To just lay it all before Him and be honest with my feelings. He gets it. He was a man of sorrows as Isaiah 53 says, but also a man who knew joy too. He's lived both! And He wants to walk with us in all things. And, thank you to both of you, it is so important to share our struggles. Obviously as God leads, because not every person is safe. But I'm learning it can make a world of difference in the burdens we carry.
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. When you said you are extending your hand out to those who need it, I cried. I recently lost my mother and brother. They both died within 10 days of each other. I needed to know that in my pain and suffering that I am not alone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
What a great example Jennie set of walking alongside Candace allowing her to feel and be real in her true self! “Growing what it means to have compassion on people!” Thank you for sharing your vulnerability Candace and Jennie for being the amazing safe person that she is! Keep doing a great job of trying to create a culture where it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling because there is nothing wrong with having emotions!
It is so hard to put into words how grateful I am to God for allowing you and Jennie to create a podcast like this. I pray emotional/mental health is more talked about in the church like you both did here candidly. To say it short and sweet, thank you both! You have no idea how much hearing your experiences has been a blessing to a young woman like me. Thank you, your podcast is like a hug from Jesus.
YES Candace! Everything you said and feel! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! The shame of not being able to be strong enough to get out of that depression trench is real! Thank you so much for speaking out, from a Jesus saved believer to another THANK YOU!
I have had a really bad week. Things have happened and I have been in an extremely depressive state. Your podcast and vulnerability has helped me to realize I need to talk to a therapist. Thank you for your honesty and willingness to open up to us. Thank you for "holding my hand".
Truly it's these deep conversations that are worth more than gold. Thank you for the way you use your platform Candace, you have no idea how helpful they are to watch. God really uses everything that intends to harm us for good!! From my heart to yours, I love you ❤
34:35 Thank you for putting into words what I’ve been struggling to figure out about myself. I resort to repressing which of course leads to just a horrible situation. But I feel shame that I can’t control my feelings and my husband doesn’t have these struggles that I do. I feel so much guilt and I feel so much like a burden. Part of me argues that falling down the hole is better than having to face that and fearing that my husband judges me for being weak (he doesn’t, but it’s hard to not resort to feeling like he does).
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing Candace! i struggle with the same feeling of weakness if i am vulnerable but at the end of the day, vulnerability is what makes us human and we allow God to step in and give us strength.
I cried when Candace did. I had no idea she struggled with depression. She’s so, so strong and has always seemed so positive and upbeat and I would never have thought she struggled with that. It was so vulnerable for her to explain that. I thought it was amazing that she shared that! Depression is so so hard. I know people who struggle with it and it is horrible. Jesus is the only One who can bring us peace and comfort.
Thank you for your honesty and transparency. I have struggled with depression at times in my life, and you said exactly what I feel. When I am in the despair, it feels shameful and weak. As a believer, it makes me feel like I am failing Jesus. However, when I find my way back out of the pit, I know these are lies. Jesus understands our pain. Your vulnerability makes me respect you on a deeper level. I appreciate that you shared and I know I am not alone. Bless you!
Thank you for sharing. I just shared with my husband my struggles and was made to feel guilty for not trying harder. I’m broken and was just hoping he would have compassion. Thanks for helping me know I’m not alone in my trials.
Thank you for sharing. My grief as a young widow has me in waves of depression and i am hard on myself because as a christian this should only be a season . I dont need my own condemnation on top of feeling this way. The Lord is carrying me through 🙏 i can have supportive friends and family around me but i feel so alone.
Candace thank you for being so vulnerable ,It’s hard and it’s raw. You’re so right it’s so hard to tell the people closest to you, you don’t want to let everyone down. I struggle often and I am alone way too much. I rely on Jesus but it’s still so hard. God bless you. ❤
Thank you so much ladies! I had to stop this one a few times to cry it out, but it was good, and I needed it. Psalm 139 is my go to encouragement when I’m sad too and it’s been a time of grieving in my life, but God is there weeping with me - thank you for that beautiful reminder.
This!!!!! Anxiety feels like this for me. It could go on for days. A doctor said to me one time when I went in the beginning of 2020 Covid I was crying and he said it’s OK to cry. It’s not weakness you’re crying because you’ve been strong for too long and I’m sorry that you had to be. It was a release at that moment. Don’t ever be ashamed because it makes it worse. I know easier said than done and no constantly be at work in progress, but rebuke that shame because it is not God!! Thank you for being so vulnerable And sharing your story. Believe it or not, this is what helps others who deal with depression anxiety this is what helps us feel like we’re not alone.❤
I’m so great full today that I found this podcast.. it’s so real.. so easy to connect and it makes me so glad to know other people have suffered depression … and it’s like wearing heavy weights on.. just to get out of bed.
I am so thankful for this podcast and the way I feel after listening to each episode. It lights a fire under me to read my bible, talk to God, and to let go of the things that I cannot control. With that, I find myself hesitating to listen at times. I tell myself that I do not want to feel these emotions. I tell myself that I cannot handle these big feelings today. Why do I do that? Even though I know I feel so wonderful after listening, I have these negative thoughts that tell me to run from these messages. I'm thankful that I did not run from this episode today. Thank you both for sharing.
Candace, thank you from the bottom of my heart for letting us into this vulnerable and sacred space of your's. You are so brave. Much braver than I am. My heart is with you. So many of us needed to hear what you have to say. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!❤🙏
Thank you Candace! I've been in such a sad season with almost dying and at the same time losing my father then after that losing my favorite aunt and then a few days later losing my mom's Bestest Friend who was a second mother to me since I was little. I feel extreme guilt for being so sad and depressed, I should be thankful I'm alive. This happened a year ago and I'm just in a pit. But you sharing that made me feel seen and it's okay really , I feel alone I don't want to get out of bed I don't want to do my hobbies. And just knowing even someone who is lovely and positive like myself ( I'm the go to for pep talks and being happy all the time and positive it's in my nature. ) but like knowing that you struggle too with that same nature relieved my shame of it and I feel like it will in time be okay now. Thank you for your podcast, I'm so glad God pushed it on my heart to watch ... My first one actually. God bless you and your family ! Ps. Cute outfit! Pss ... Jennie when you say Jesus Wept with us really that was powerful and made such an impact on how I view God and Jesus... Thank you and Bless you and Your family 💕
I feel seen and understood! Thank you Candace for being honest and open! I know the pain and I too have felt the shame! The truth isThe Lord has sets us free!
Candace! THANK YOU!! You represent soooo many people including ME! There is so much judgement over struggling emotionally. Especially from the church which a quick response of Lean on Jesus! Well DUH! As if us believers aren’t trying to do all we can to lean the best we can on Him and His word!!!!
Candace, I so relate to you! Being vulnerable and honest leads me to feeling like I'm letting people down because I'm a "strong Christian"who knows my Bible well and has been following Jesus for many years. I didn't realize that I was depressed until I heard you describe your feelings today. Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart! I'm going to ask for some help.
Candace and Jennie, Thank you both sooo much for this episode! I needed to hear it and I know so many other people needed to hear it too! It is really difficult to be open and vulnerable and to share those feelings with the right people. We all struggle with this but it is so important to do it for ourselves and for others that need to see it, hear and be involved in it. Thank you, thank you! ❤
I am learning to biblically identify my depression by reading about lament. I think Christians have seasons of depression and lament, but they don’t know how to work through it biblically. I highly recommend Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy and Just Be Honest. These resources have helped me tremendously, but the best part is I have deepen my faith in Jesus Christ. Thank you Candace for your vulnerability and courage to help others. ❤
😭😭 I really needed to hear this. I have struggled with sadness and depression so many years. Thank you for being open about it and helping me learn about this more. ❤❤
Once again you two are so amazing. Thanks for sharing and your vulnerability. I have experienced and witnessed depression and I know how hard it is and so hard for people to understand and to know what and how to help. Always just try to love them through it. Hugs to you Bo th.
Candace.... Thank you so much for this podcast!!! We all have dealt with this in life. This has help everyone who listened to it. This has help me hear this and know that we are not alone when we deal with the "down times" in life. The reaching out to our loved ones who are there for us and how that is so important. They are really there to help us and love us through the hard times in our lives. We just have to put down our shame and let them help us out of those times. Again, THANK YOU!!!
Thank you for your honesty! It is a brave thing to be vulnerable and it is very much appreciated. This message has come at the right time as I am going through these similar emotions and feelings you are expressing. Thank you.
God definitely is using your story Candace! I’m in my early 20’s and I am currently in the season of a little bit of depresssion and I can completely relate to the feeling of shame. I truly feel so difficult to try and reach to others and I feel bad telling friends. I feel that I have the same gift of you of joy and gratitude in my day to day life, so it’s hard to express these emotions with others. I know the enemy is trying to tear us down in that but I am so so thankful God is ultimately bigger than this and one day we will never feel this🩷
I can relate to this so much . I always felt not good enough and like I was always chasing my parents love. Later in life I also felt like I had to keep all emotions to myself while I was caring for my mom through cancer and then as she was dying. She has been gone for almost two years and I am just starting to seriously look at my emotions and try to figure them out. I have also struggled with depression Candance. I have been there. I wish I could give you a hug because I know how hard it is. Take rest and care in knowing you are not alone in that friend.
What a powerful episode! Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing what you’ve been through Candace. It helped be gain understanding and feel seen and heard. You are impacting so many through this podcast. I’m grateful for you!
Candance it is ok to cry you need to let it out you can’t keep it all bottled up inside of you, you are great and you are so strong to be sharing this with everyone and I think it is so strong of you!!
Oh, I needed this!! This season is such a help for me! I am like Jenny was, and prefer to suppress my negative emotions and just not deal with them. I also have a very empathetic daughter and now need to learn to deal with my emotions so I don’t add to her burden. In addition, I am in a season where I feel so lost in so many ways and am trying to find my way. This has been a start to something I feel will be very cathartic. Thank you for being so vulnerable in such a public way to help others!!
Candace & Jeanie, this was soul healing! Please continue! Tears! Laughter! Scriptures! Vulnerability! Words of wisdom! Thank you for all of it! Love you girls! Awesome episodes!!
Candace, I have to tell you that I have suffered from depression and being suicidal since my 30's. It took me till my 50's to overcome this. For me I figured out what my trigger was. It was feeling sorry for my self. Now when I start to have those ,internal thoughts that take me down that path, I just say "No' and don't allow myself to go there. I have had counseling and been on medication, but figured this out on my own. I am an analytical person I was amazed at how after being suicidal once, how quickly I could get there the next time. It truly was like a snap of the fingers. Some where I found some information on the brain and that when you are suicidal, your brain makes an established path to those thoughts and makes the suicidal thoughts come instantly when triggered. This made sense to me and the solution was to make your brain take a different path. Now it has been years that I am medication free and I wake up every morning with the joy of the Lord in my heart.
Thank you Candace & Jennie! I've been dealing with anxiety for the first time ever and all those feelings you talked about were so relatable. Your podcast has been a blessing to me and I know it's no accident I've been listening to it since it started.💕
Thank you so much for sharing, we are blessed to have you in the platform you are in! I can totally relate and felt less alone knowing there are others feeling the same. God is good! 🙏🏼
think i found my new fav pod. So refreshing and healthy to see you talk about depression. Even as successful as you are, we are all human, and can reach dark places. thank you for sharing. Feel like i have been struggling for years.
Thank you, thank you for your honest conversation on this. I have a close friend who struggles with this, and I have struggled with how to be helpful to her, if there's a right thing to do or say or NOT do or say. I just love her so much and hate to see her hurt. So thank you for this beautiful and most important of conversations! 'It feels safe to be broken' ... what a beautiful reminder to hang onto.
You are so precious Candace! May God bless you with His peace and may you fully understand that you are so loved, seen by Jesus. Ask Him where is He in the room when you're down, He will reveal himself to you! He is such a good Father x
Powerful! Thanks for sharing! Vulnerability hangover is a real thing! I replay conversations in my head all the time. Hate it - Satan’s playground is shame and isolation
Hi Candice I had sad memories too. Guilty sadness, rather punished myself in this vein, and Ni one told me ot was "ok", or were God conscious to say good stuff after. It's still a memory 😢affecting me. Thank God I see the Light now at 56 😊
Thank you both for sharing. Candace, for being open about dealing with depression. It has been so encouraging to me to listen. I have part of my family & circle of friends that fight this battle & it is such a struggle!
Candace, thank you, thank you. It was soooo worth it to hear your heart! Tears ran down my face. Just hearing others share is so healing!! Thank you my sister ❤
Omg i am such a fangirl’ I heard your podcast and I deal with depression too. My favorite thing to hate is depression is just an excuse get over it. People who don’t have depression don’t understand and you talking about it is helping so many people. You always look so happy and smiling but your real fans understand. If you are sad or hurting it’s absolutely ok! You don’t have to hide it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I love that you mentioned Jesus and the death of Lazerous! What a powerful word in scripture .. “JESUS WEPT!”. Jesus wept! He wept with Martha a Mary! He did not just weep for them .. HE WEPT WITH THEM! It’s one thing to have a friend weep for you .. be sad for you .. wish they could remove this sadness .. but it is quite another to have that friend KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH! To know with such intimacy that they .. WEEP “WITH” YOU! That is Jesus in this verse .. that is Jesus in a nutshell! He weeps WITH us! How comforting to KNOW we can just be ourselves .. our broken selves .. and He is not sitting there weeping because of us, feeling sorry for us .. BUT HE IS IN THE MOMENT .. WITH US .. WEEPING ALSO! He gets us .. He understands us .. and He cares for us! Scripture tells us to CAST all our cares on Him! And why .. ? BECAUSE HE CARES FOR US! He cares .. He sees .. He understands .. and He will not only weep WITH you .. but in the end .. IT IS HE WHO SHALL TURN OUR WEEPING .. INTO JOY!❤️
I have a story I hope might help someone. I was feeling really in the dump about my disability. So very tired of living with it, dealing with it, and being in pain most of the time. I was at the gym struggling to walk the track. I had my music in my ears and this song came up that just jumped out at me. The words that jumped out were as follows: Cry, baby, cry When you got to get it out. I'll be your shoulder, you can tell me all Don't keep it in ya Well, that's the reason why I'm here. I realized I hadn't been praying and Heavenly Father was telling me. HEY!! I'm here, I'm a safe person, and you can cry on my shoulder and I will listen. I'll never forget that moment.
♥️❤ I loved this episode so much! Thank you for sharing! At times I deal with really bad physical pain and other physical symptoms and I get the feeling of I should be able to handle it. I’m the same way with my emotions at times to. It really is true you have to rely on God and extend a hand for help from others and it can help tremendously!
I love you so so much, I feeel so much peace knowing that there is someone who I feel I am alike when it comes to so many feelings and pressure and being vulnerable, you have brought me so hope grace and peace. I love you!’
Candace, please let the tears come. It's a sign of strength, not weakness. We all need to be okay with crying. It's healing and speaks volumes to where God wants to meet you in that hurt. Thank you so much for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life ❤️
As a sister in Christ. I cried with you.
I hesitated to watch this because I didn’t want to think about sadness. I’m so thankful I did. You both are beautiful, and are doing a wonderful work for women.
Remember: when people are coming after you or being negative. It is a testament that you are doing something great for the Lord.
“Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another.” Romans 12:15-16
I am so incredibly thankful for this conversation especially around depression. As a Christ follower, depression is a lonely place among believers. It is feared and not understood so it makes those who struggle feel like a burden. I am so grateful for your honesty, Candace. Please consider having more conversations around this for us believers who also feel alone in it. ❤
I use to struggle with it around 18 and then it rated its ugly ideas again I think after I got pregnant about 10ths later but I really think most of it is homeowner and now I need to get my hormones checked also I think it started for me bc I had un forgiveness and hate towards a family member I’ve i released that person to the lord and cried out in a godly sorrow to let God lead me as he was humbling me in that moment I truly turned myself into him in repentance and asking him to take over my life and I felt alive again after that and was way more humbled . Couldn’t afford counseling but the lord brought an older wiser women in my life who then led me to a. Counselor that gave me her time freely and I’m forever grateful to the lord and still we are friends to this day. I’m learning to let the lord become my friend when I can’t find a listening ear or a heart that understands and I think he’s Been keeping me in a. Quiet season frm people so that I’d let him be my friend and I cat learn to be his a little more . He wants to Hesse my brokenness and anger and joys and I feel his fight sometimes when I share my heart and I get so much encouragement after I’m honest with Him he really is soo good and compassionate❤❤❤
Candace, I am “that one” sitting in bed watching this crying. You have pulled me out of my pain and set me free knowing that I am not alone. Thank you for your vulnerability and openness.
Thank you for reaching out and taking my hand Candace. I have been struggling so much lately and when I have tried to share there is so much condemnation in the church. People have read scripture to me about grumbling and complains after a simple sharing in a small group. So, I closed my mouth and pulled back into my isolation and have been afraid to share much again. I do a have a wonderful therapist who is helping walk through some horrific trauma. It's been incredible! But we, as the church must learn to live like Jesus and show compassion and mercy and learn to sit with each other in this broken world we live in. Thank you Jennie for your example! Love both of you ladies!!
Candace you made me cry when you said “to that person, I’m holding your hand”. I believe you meant that with all of your heart. Great episode! Thank you
Candace, you have NO IDEA how God sent this episode was to me! Everything Jenny spoke on self compassion and the compassion of Jesus as He is weeping with us spoke to my soul. I am in a deep depression with anxiety and I haven’t known how to dig myself out. But thats the thing, I don’t dig myself out, the Lord does that for me. You have helped me so so much knowing I’m not alone and knowing you’re holding my hand and the comfort of God’s word is always at my fingertips. There is no shame or condemnation in Christ Jesus. Thank you for being vulnerable. I would love for you to write a book on this.
AAWWW!!, 😊❤ the comfort!!, havent seen the part yet.
Candace, you have no idea how much this meant to me. You are someone I look up to, as someone in the industry that you're in and so open about your faith. I watched you as a kid as DJ Tanner, and you inspire me now as an adult. In listening to your podcasts, I have found many similarities between the two of us in how God wired us, and I look to you as an example to follow. Hearing you discuss your struggles with depression, and your vulnerability in how it affects you was so encouraging for me, as it is something I also struggle with. I don't want you to regret sharing those things even for a moment, it was so freeing to hear someone I look up to so much talk about the same struggles I experience at times. I know others will feel the same. It requires great strength to share those struggles, no matter how weak it may feel. I appreciate who you are and how you share God's word, and especially appreciate that you made me feel less alone today ❤
Wow, I have been going through some relocation depression which I am familiar with as a military spouse. I sobbed listening to this last night because never had anyone described the sad feelings I wrestle with each move so well. I listened again this morning just to take it all in. This is going to help me verbalize to my loved ones what it is that I need in emotional support through this season of grief and loss of another home and community. 🙌🏼 I don't have to just get over it, I need my people to sit with me in it and let me be sad. What a reminder that I have a God that is already doing that. 😭♥️🙌🏼
Candace, I would have never dreamed you struggle with such deep depression at times!! Honestly, it just makes me think you’re even _more_ amazing to still be the person you are despite those occasional struggles. Thank you for sharing!! ❤
I have tried to share with who I thought were the "right, wise, people"... I am alone. But this has helped me today. I really do not know where I'm headed. But I won't stop fighting for myself and my family. I really would just love a good Godly friend. Thank you so much for being vulnerable. Reminding you kindly that His strength is made perfect in our weakness. He holds our hearts and the Holy spirit prays for us when we cannot. Love you both so much!! Thank you, ladies. What a blessing you have been in my life. ❤
Hang in there friend!
So feel this
The biggest sadness I have ever felt was when I miscarried my 7th baby, then had 2 more after that. It took me over a years to overcome that while raising the 6 beautiful children I was blessed with. The worst of it was the comments I got from others!! The only thing that got me through it was obviously the support of my husband but GOD held my hand. I have never cried so much in my life as I did during that season of life. I was so afraid that when my kids had grandkids I would not be able to be happy for them or hold my grandbabies due to some of the pain I dealt with. I am so blessed & proud to say that God did heal that part & I am able to love my grandbabies so much, hold them & love on them.
Praise the Lord. We love you.
oh my goodness this was powerful i can feel the fathers love for me that he excepts me no matter what im going through he is love and so does care for us it amazes me ,i have watched you for a long time and i love that your an actress but still stand strong in your faith,thank you for sharing because this has been most helpful Gods blessings on you
I love that you shared this. I suffer from depression. I can be fine for a long time. When I am at my strongest point and doing better, feel good. I slip. Don't know how I got there so quickly. It is very lonely. I think you're amazing.
Candace, you have NO IDEA how God sent this episode was to me! Everything Jenny spoke on self compassion and the compassion of Jesus as He is weeping with us spoke to my soul. I am in a deep depression with anxiety and I haven’t known how to dig myself out. But thats the thing, I don’t dig myself out, the Lord does that for me. You have helped me so so much knowing I’m not alone and knowing you’re holding my hand and the comfort of God’s word is always at my fingertips. There is no shame or condemnation in Christ Jesus. Thank you for being vulnerable. I would love for you to write a book on this.
Candace, when you began to cry, my tears flowed also. It is so hard to be vulnerable. Thank you for letting us into your heart. That takes strength and courage. When I share any bit of sadness, I am met with disapproval and/or toxic positivity. It's like being punched in the gut to add to the already existing pain. I try to remind myself that we are all broken and doing the best we can and I should forgive the people who make me feel even worse after I am vulnerable with them....but I usually end up just unplugging altogether. I am on a journey with Jesus and I know he weeps with me. God bless you and anyone who can relate to this. ❤❤❤
I get the same thing from my family members. So now I go to talk therapy and I do video Journaling which feels like a therapy session. Sometimes I do have friends who validate my experiences but I can't depend on them daily. So I talk to God in my Journaling session.
Your not weak Candace. Your real. Weak people can’t be vulnerable. Your truth will help so many including me. I feel all those same feelings at times and I consider myself to be a happy person. Lately I’ve been going through the mud. Just turned 50, just found out my husband I’ve been with since I was 18 is battling stage 4 bone cancer. So daily my joy has been stripped and even with strong faith I struggle throughout my days. Trying to stay out of my hole. So I’m sending you hugs, prayers and love.
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It's a total blessing!!
I'm so sorry to hear that. I pray God will heal your husband. Stay strong, my sister in Christ. For nothing is impossible for God. God bless you 🙏
Stay courageous.
Thank you so much for this one! Started crying right in the middle - I have always felt weak for struggling with sadness and depression, but God reminded me again that He’s not ashamed of me for that. It’s has become a strength in my life, not something I need to hide. He is proud of me and with me and it has truly made me more compassionate for others. ❤ Love you both!!
I'm so sorry that you've gone through depression - I know how hard that is, I've struggled with it on and off for years and it can be crushing! There have been so many times that I've felt alone and guilty for not being able to snap out of it or pray my way out of it, but hearing you talk about it and seeing you cry (although it's heartbreaking) makes me feel less alone. THANK YOU so much for talking about this, especially from a Christian point of view!!! The good news is that God will use this for good and for you to be able to help so many people. Maybe that's why He has allowed this in your life, to use you? Love the podcast so much!
Thank you ladies for being real. I have family who struggle with anxiety and depression. I have shared this episode with them. Pray with me they will watch it. I truly think it will help them.
I’ve been reminded recently through grief, this is my “thorn in the side” that reminds me I cannot do it alone and encourages me to turn to God and (sometimes) I remember to be grateful for it to get closer to Him. Prayers to you all. 💛🙏🏻
This was SO incredibly helpful! 💜 So grateful for Candace's vulnerability. I'm the same, known for being joyful, yet have struggled with depression, but have been open about it and have been able to have such great conversations with people about how God helps me through 🙌🏽❤️ Please be glad you shared. You've helped so many people with this
Thank you ❤ No regrets Candace in your honesty. We all have those hard, difficult, sad 😢 moments/seasons in our lives. Your honesty helps us not feel alone, it really does. God’s grace to see us through it and to help us move on. 2023 our 23 year old son got leukemia. Talk about a hard sad year but joyfully God saved our son through a stem cell transplant. Although this happened it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. But God’s grace has helped us stage by stage.
I am 68 yrs old, and have battled depression since I was a teenager. I was the first born and had 2 brothers after that. From as early as I can remember I was never valued, everything revolved around my brothers. So as a teenager I was looking for validation and love, of course in a self destructing mode, if you know what I mean. I got married at 17 so I could get away. And divorced 2 years later. My mother told me I made my bed and needed to lay in it. Married a wonderful man a couple of years later. I had very bad post pardon depression, and feel lucky we survived. To this day I still feel that I am not enough or measured up. I stay isolated and do not live near the couple of friends I have or other family. I had breast cancer in 2011 on a visit to my oncologist she asked how I was doing and I told her I live waiting for the other shoe to drop and I cry everyday, she said that’s no way to live and I told her your telling me. I have talked antidepressants since I was around 30 years old, and It does help to know their other people out there suffering some of the same issues. Thanks for your input on your show.
I am so honored and grateful that you were so vulnerable Candace. I feel the exact same way as you do. I have been through and am still going through a lot in my life. I just don’t want to burden anyone with all of my baggage….. and it is such a lonely place to be. I make sure that I am there for everyone because I never want them to feel the way I do, but unfortunately the sentiment is rarely ever reciprocated…..the only person that ends up being hurt or cheated, is me. I do feel extremely invisible a lot but I have been working on that in therapy for a while now. I cried with you and felt every bit of your emotion and truly felt what you were feeling. I do wonder sometimes if it’s pride that won’t allow me to share my feelings with anyone.??When you mentioned not wanting to feel weak and others making you feel weak when you are transparent, that definitely hit a chord with me, because that’s been my experience. I have battled severe depression and like you, felt such shame because I am blessed and I am a child of God and most Christians will ask, “how can Christians be depressed or anxious?” and that makes me feel so ashamed and embarrassed. My husband couldn’t understand why I was depressed and verbally “beat me up” because I couldn’t get out of the funk. Unfortunately, we are now separated and I feel more alone than ever and I have nothing to show for all the years of marriage to him. He is not a Christian unfortunately, so I do have grace for him, but it really hurts. My saving grace is that I know God will never leave me and will supply all of my needs….but it has been really tough. Anyway, Thank you for making me feel seen and acknowledged. It’s so nice to know that I’m not the only Christian woman who has experienced this. God bless you beautiful! I will be praying for you sister!❤
A friend sent a blog about someone getting out of a dark hole just this morning and this was my response: That’s totally my story. The hole was my daughter, Tara’s, abduction, rape, and murder. The sticks and rocks were treatment centers, psychiatrists, therapists, and medications. But they only took me so far, and then I heard Elizabeth Elliot say, “pray out loud”, and I did! Within a few days I met an old acquaintance who invited me to a home Bible study, and within a few months I was baptized in Jesus Name and received the gift of the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in other tongues. I’m always looking and praying for opportunities to share. Jesus preformed Psalm 40:2 on me!!!! Praising His Name forever!!!
I have always hated depression and felt the same way, that I should be strong enough to get through it. One of the problems is how it impacts every part of your life. Thank you for sharing and being real and vulnerable.
Yes. I've been walking through this and my husband has been so supportive. So grateful you put words to this because literally I've been feeling so alone in this process and unable to reach out to anyone because of shame. So thank you, Candace and Jennie, for sharing and being vulnerable.
Oh, Candace. I could have spoken the same words. THE SAME WORDS. Since your "return", I have been drawn to and influenced by the things you've worked on. It's been incredible to watch you follow Jesus so publically, work and present yourself so ethically, and do your best to be authentic to us. I'm not sure you could be any other way! It feels like a treasure every time you share another part of yourself. Tears have welled-up especially during this episode because our stories with "sadness from an unknown origin" (that's what I call it) seem similar. I needed it so much. Like you, those episodes seem fewer for me (with some work), but I am not 100% immune. When you still were collecting yourself and you said to the person crying, "And if you are that person, I'm grabbing your hand and holding it with you right now." Dang, girl. What compassion and empathy!! THANK YOU! I wish I could send you a handwritten note or a Chick-fil-a shake! I stinking love you! Please keep being the you God made you because there's a whole community out here who'd like to keep you in their anti-isolation tool boxes!!! Have the happiest of Easters Candace! Love from tiny Summerton, South Carolina 💜
There is so much packed in this episode and I feel like I missed stuff too!
Maybe your deep sadness at times is also lamenting with Jesus on the things of this world and how broken things are. Which is biblical. I mean I know in my depth of my soul it’s my lamenting that often looks like deep sadness. And it’s because I asked God to break my heart for what breaks his. Hard prayer to pray but I feel it so deeply.
This might be my favorite episode yet. Thank you all for sharing with us! People need to hear this stuff. I've been reading Untangle Your Emotions by Jennie and it's been really helpful too. I realized after a counseling session that I have a hard time sharing my emotions - specifically the negative ones. Which shocked me! But when I couldn't articulate what I was feeling or feel like it was safe to share my emotions, it really clicked in my brain that I had some work to do. I've been journaling my feelings and that has been helping too. Even the crappy feelings! And somehow at the end of most journalling sessions, I feel so drawn to God, and so much more peaceful. To just lay it all before Him and be honest with my feelings. He gets it. He was a man of sorrows as Isaiah 53 says, but also a man who knew joy too. He's lived both! And He wants to walk with us in all things.
And, thank you to both of you, it is so important to share our struggles. Obviously as God leads, because not every person is safe. But I'm learning it can make a world of difference in the burdens we carry.
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. When you said you are extending your hand out to those who need it, I cried. I recently lost my mother and brother. They both died within 10 days of each other. I needed to know that in my pain and suffering that I am not alone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I have hard time showing my emotions and I have really bad anxiety as well with depression. Watching this helped me a lot. ♥️
Thank you for sharing Candace Cameron Bure! Let the tears flow it make you feel better.
What a great example Jennie set of walking alongside Candace allowing her to feel and be real in her true self! “Growing what it means to have compassion on people!”
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability Candace and Jennie for being the amazing safe person that she is! Keep doing a great job of trying to create a culture where it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling because there is nothing wrong with having emotions!
It is so hard to put into words how grateful I am to God for allowing you and Jennie to create a podcast like this. I pray emotional/mental health is more talked about in the church like you both did here candidly. To say it short and sweet, thank you both! You have no idea how much hearing your experiences has been a blessing to a young woman like me. Thank you, your podcast is like a hug from Jesus.
YES Candace! Everything you said and feel! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! The shame of not being able to be strong enough to get out of that depression trench is real! Thank you so much for speaking out, from a Jesus saved believer to another THANK YOU!
This was so helpful and healing! As a mature Christian I struggle with shame over my struggle with depression. Thank you for being so vulnerable. ❤
I have had a really bad week. Things have happened and I have been in an extremely depressive state. Your podcast and vulnerability has helped me to realize I need to talk to a therapist. Thank you for your honesty and willingness to open up to us. Thank you for "holding my hand".
Truly it's these deep conversations that are worth more than gold. Thank you for the way you use your platform Candace, you have no idea how helpful they are to watch. God really uses everything that intends to harm us for good!! From my heart to yours, I love you ❤
Candice- you’re an excellent example for today’s young women. You are so relatable ❤
34:35 Thank you for putting into words what I’ve been struggling to figure out about myself. I resort to repressing which of course leads to just a horrible situation. But I feel shame that I can’t control my feelings and my husband doesn’t have these struggles that I do. I feel so much guilt and I feel so much like a burden. Part of me argues that falling down the hole is better than having to face that and fearing that my husband judges me for being weak (he doesn’t, but it’s hard to not resort to feeling like he does).
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing Candace! i struggle with the same feeling of weakness if i am vulnerable but at the end of the day, vulnerability is what makes us human and we allow God to step in and give us strength.
I cried when Candace did. I had no idea she struggled with depression. She’s so, so strong and has always seemed so positive and upbeat and I would never have thought she struggled with that. It was so vulnerable for her to explain that. I thought it was amazing that she shared that! Depression is so so hard. I know people who struggle with it and it is horrible. Jesus is the only One who can bring us peace and comfort.
So awesome to hear women of faith talking about their lives. Love it.
Thank you for your honesty and transparency. I have struggled with depression at times in my life, and you said exactly what I feel. When I am in the despair, it feels shameful and weak. As a believer, it makes me feel like I am failing Jesus. However, when I find my way back out of the pit, I know these are lies. Jesus understands our pain. Your vulnerability makes me respect you on a deeper level. I appreciate that you shared and I know I am not alone. Bless you!
Bless YOU! Thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing. I just shared with my husband my struggles and was made to feel guilty for not trying harder. I’m broken and was just hoping he would have compassion. Thanks for helping me know I’m not alone in my trials.
Thank you for sharing. My grief as a young widow has me in waves of depression and i am hard on myself because as a christian this should only be a season . I dont need my own condemnation on top of feeling this way. The Lord is carrying me through 🙏 i can have supportive friends and family around me but i feel so alone.
Candace thank you for being so vulnerable ,It’s hard and it’s raw. You’re so right it’s so hard to tell the people closest to you, you don’t want to let everyone down. I struggle often and I am alone way too much. I rely on Jesus but it’s still so hard. God bless you. ❤
Praise the lord. Candace this was a real authentic podcast and I loved it
You are not alone, no one is and we find strength in God ❤
Thank you so much ladies! I had to stop this one a few times to cry it out, but it was good, and I needed it. Psalm 139 is my go to encouragement when I’m sad too and it’s been a time of grieving in my life, but God is there weeping with me - thank you for that beautiful reminder.
This!!!!! Anxiety feels like this for me. It could go on for days.
A doctor said to me one time when I went in the beginning of 2020 Covid I was crying and he said it’s OK to cry. It’s not weakness you’re crying because you’ve been strong for too long and I’m sorry that you had to be. It was a release at that moment. Don’t ever be ashamed because it makes it worse. I know easier said than done and no constantly be at work in progress, but rebuke that shame because it is not God!! Thank you for being so vulnerable And sharing your story. Believe it or not, this is what helps others who deal with depression anxiety this is what helps us feel like we’re not alone.❤
I’m so great full today that I found this podcast.. it’s so real.. so easy to connect and it makes me so glad to know other people have suffered depression … and it’s like wearing heavy weights on.. just to get out of bed.
I am so thankful for this podcast and the way I feel after listening to each episode. It lights a fire under me to read my bible, talk to God, and to let go of the things that I cannot control. With that, I find myself hesitating to listen at times. I tell myself that I do not want to feel these emotions. I tell myself that I cannot handle these big feelings today. Why do I do that? Even though I know I feel so wonderful after listening, I have these negative thoughts that tell me to run from these messages. I'm thankful that I did not run from this episode today. Thank you both for sharing.
Candace, thank you from the bottom of my heart for letting us into this vulnerable and sacred space of your's. You are so brave. Much braver than I am. My heart is with you. So many of us needed to hear what you have to say. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!❤🙏
Thank you Candace! I've been in such a sad season with almost dying and at the same time losing my father then after that losing my favorite aunt and then a few days later losing my mom's Bestest Friend who was a second mother to me since I was little.
I feel extreme guilt for being so sad and depressed, I should be thankful I'm alive. This happened a year ago and I'm just in a pit. But you sharing that made me feel seen and it's okay really , I feel alone I don't want to get out of bed I don't want to do my hobbies. And just knowing even someone who is lovely and positive like myself ( I'm the go to for pep talks and being happy all the time and positive it's in my nature. ) but like knowing that you struggle too with that same nature relieved my shame of it and I feel like it will in time be okay now.
Thank you for your podcast, I'm so glad God pushed it on my heart to watch ... My first one actually.
God bless you and your family !
Ps. Cute outfit!
Pss ... Jennie when you say Jesus Wept with us really that was powerful and made such an impact on how I view God and Jesus... Thank you and Bless you and Your family 💕
I feel seen and understood! Thank you Candace for being honest and open! I know the pain and I too have felt the shame! The truth isThe Lord has sets us free!
Thank you candace for your wonderful heartfelt shows. The world needs more of your luv spread around.
Candace! THANK YOU!! You represent soooo many people including ME! There is so much judgement over struggling emotionally. Especially from the church which a quick response of Lean on Jesus! Well DUH! As if us believers aren’t trying to do all we can to lean the best we can on Him and His word!!!!
Thank you both. Because of what you shared, I feel part of the Not Alone community, and respect you both so much.
Candace, I so relate to you! Being vulnerable and honest leads me to feeling like I'm letting people down because I'm a "strong Christian"who knows my Bible well and has been following Jesus for many years. I didn't realize that I was depressed until I heard you describe your feelings today. Thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart! I'm going to ask for some help.
Candace and Jennie,
Thank you both sooo much for this episode! I needed to hear it and I know so many other people needed to hear it too! It is really difficult to be open and vulnerable and to share those feelings with the right people. We all struggle with this but it is so important to do it for ourselves and for others that need to see it, hear and be involved in it. Thank you, thank you! ❤
I am learning to biblically identify my depression by reading about lament. I think Christians have seasons of depression and lament, but they don’t know how to work through it biblically. I highly recommend Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy and Just Be Honest. These resources have helped me tremendously, but the best part is I have deepen my faith in Jesus Christ. Thank you Candace for your vulnerability and courage to help others. ❤
😭😭 I really needed to hear this. I have struggled with sadness and depression so many years. Thank you for being open about it and helping me learn about this more. ❤❤
Once again you two are so amazing. Thanks for sharing and your vulnerability. I have experienced and witnessed depression and I know how hard it is and so hard for people to understand and to know what and how to help. Always just try to love them through it. Hugs to you Bo th.
Candace.... Thank you so much for this podcast!!! We all have dealt with this in life. This has help everyone who listened to it. This has help me hear this and know that we are not alone when we deal with the "down times" in life. The reaching out to our loved ones who are there for us and how that is so important. They are really there to help us and love us through the hard times in our lives. We just have to put down our shame and let them help us out of those times. Again, THANK YOU!!!
Thank you Candice for opening up about your sadness been having a lot of that lately
Thank you for your honesty! It is a brave thing to be vulnerable and it is very much appreciated. This message has come at the right time as I am going through these similar emotions and feelings you are expressing. Thank you.
God definitely is using your story Candace! I’m in my early 20’s and I am currently in the season of a little bit of depresssion and I can completely relate to the feeling of shame. I truly feel so difficult to try and reach to others and I feel bad telling friends. I feel that I have the same gift of you of joy and gratitude in my day to day life, so it’s hard to express these emotions with others. I know the enemy is trying to tear us down in that but I am so so thankful God is ultimately bigger than this and one day we will never feel this🩷
I can relate to this so much . I always felt not good enough and like I was always chasing my parents love. Later in life I also felt like I had to keep all emotions to myself while I was caring for my mom through cancer and then as she was dying. She has been gone for almost two years and I am just starting to seriously look at my emotions and try to figure them out. I have also struggled with depression Candance. I have been there. I wish I could give you a hug because I know how hard it is. Take rest and care in knowing you are not alone in that friend.
What a powerful episode! Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing what you’ve been through Candace. It helped be gain understanding and feel seen and heard. You are impacting so many through this podcast. I’m grateful for you!
Wow. Thank you for being so honest. You are seen, known and loved! Such an encouragement!
Candance it is ok to cry you need to let it out you can’t keep it all bottled up inside of you, you are great and you are so strong to be sharing this with everyone and I think it is so strong of you!!
Oh, I needed this!! This season is such a help for me! I am like Jenny was, and prefer to suppress my negative emotions and just not deal with them. I also have a very empathetic daughter and now need to learn to deal with my emotions so I don’t add to her burden. In addition, I am in a season where I feel so lost in so many ways and am trying to find my way. This has been a start to something I feel will be very cathartic. Thank you for being so vulnerable in such a public way to help others!!
Candace & Jeanie, this was soul healing! Please continue!
Tears! Laughter! Scriptures! Vulnerability! Words of wisdom! Thank you for all of it! Love you girls! Awesome episodes!!
Candace, I have to tell you that I have suffered from depression and being suicidal since my 30's. It took me till my 50's to overcome this. For me I figured out what my trigger was. It was feeling sorry for my self. Now when I start to have those ,internal thoughts that take me down that path, I just say "No' and don't allow myself to go there. I have had counseling and been on medication, but figured this out on my own. I am an analytical person I was amazed at how after being suicidal once, how quickly I could get there the next time. It truly was like a snap of the fingers. Some where I found some information on the brain and that when you are suicidal, your brain makes an established path to those thoughts and makes the suicidal thoughts come instantly when triggered. This made sense to me and the solution was to make your brain take a different path. Now it has been years that I am medication free and I wake up every morning with the joy of the Lord in my heart.
Thank you, Candace. Your words echo in my mind. You said what I've felt for so long.
Thank you Candace & Jennie! I've been dealing with anxiety for the first time ever and all those feelings you talked about were so relatable. Your podcast has been a blessing to me and I know it's no accident I've been listening to it since it started.💕
Thank youfoe your honesty and transparency. I am encouraged.
Thank you so much for sharing, we are blessed to have you in the platform you are in! I can totally relate and felt less alone knowing there are others feeling the same. God is good! 🙏🏼
think i found my new fav pod. So refreshing and healthy to see you talk about depression. Even as successful as you are, we are all human, and can reach dark places. thank you for sharing. Feel like i have been struggling for years.
Thank you, thank you for your honest conversation on this. I have a close friend who struggles with this, and I have struggled with how to be helpful to her, if there's a right thing to do or say or NOT do or say. I just love her so much and hate to see her hurt. So thank you for this beautiful and most important of conversations! 'It feels safe to be broken' ... what a beautiful reminder to hang onto.
This episode was one of your best I am bawling !!! It is so comforting knowing its not just me or we are not weak !! Oh bawling !!!!
You are so precious Candace! May God bless you with His peace and may you fully understand that you are so loved, seen by Jesus. Ask Him where is He in the room when you're down, He will reveal himself to you! He is such a good Father x
Powerful! Thanks for sharing! Vulnerability hangover is a real thing! I replay conversations in my head all the time. Hate it - Satan’s playground is shame and isolation
I’m crying with you Candace. Thank you for being so vulnerable. You are courageous and a beautiful soul ❤
Hi Candice I had sad memories too. Guilty sadness, rather punished myself in this vein, and Ni one told me ot was "ok", or were God conscious to say good stuff after. It's still a memory 😢affecting me. Thank God I see the Light now at 56 😊
Thank you both for sharing. Candace, for being open about dealing with depression. It has been so encouraging to me to listen. I have part of my family & circle of friends that fight this battle & it is such a struggle!
Candace, thank you, thank you. It was soooo worth it to hear your heart! Tears ran down my face. Just hearing others share is so healing!! Thank you my sister ❤
Thank you so much for this episode. I really needed to hear this.
Me too. Thank you.
Candace you have no idea how much you have helped me through the hardest season of my life ❤
Omg i am such a fangirl’ I heard your podcast and I deal with depression too. My favorite thing to hate is depression is just an excuse get over it. People who don’t have depression don’t understand and you talking about it is helping so many people. You always look so happy and smiling but your real fans understand. If you are sad or hurting it’s absolutely ok! You don’t have to hide it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
This was so brave, so honest and so helpful. There is no weakness, there is no shame. Pain is pain. Thank you both❤❤❤❤
Thank you for being so genuine and raw.. you are a blessing to the body of Christ and so many others that are struggling with sadness and depression.
Thank you Candace! I needed this ❤ God bless you always!
I love that you mentioned Jesus and the death of Lazerous! What a powerful word in scripture .. “JESUS WEPT!”. Jesus wept! He wept with Martha a Mary! He did not just weep for them .. HE WEPT WITH THEM! It’s one thing to have a friend weep for you .. be sad for you .. wish they could remove this sadness .. but it is quite another to have that friend KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH! To know with such intimacy that they .. WEEP “WITH” YOU! That is Jesus in this verse .. that is Jesus in a nutshell! He weeps WITH us! How comforting to KNOW we can just be ourselves .. our broken selves .. and He is not sitting there weeping because of us, feeling sorry for us .. BUT HE IS IN THE MOMENT .. WITH US .. WEEPING ALSO! He gets us .. He understands us .. and He cares for us! Scripture tells us to CAST all our cares on Him! And why .. ? BECAUSE HE CARES FOR US! He cares .. He sees .. He understands .. and He will not only weep WITH you .. but in the end .. IT IS HE WHO SHALL TURN OUR WEEPING .. INTO JOY!❤️
Thank you. Validation of our feelings especially sadness are hard but needed. Holding your hand too! Still searching for my community….
I have a story I hope might help someone. I was feeling really in the dump about my disability. So very tired of living with it, dealing with it, and being in pain most of the time. I was at the gym struggling to walk the track. I had my music in my ears and this song came up that just jumped out at me. The words that jumped out were as follows: Cry, baby, cry When you got to get it out. I'll be your shoulder, you can tell me all Don't keep it in ya Well, that's the reason why I'm here. I realized I hadn't been praying and Heavenly Father was telling me. HEY!! I'm here, I'm a safe person, and you can cry on my shoulder and I will listen. I'll never forget that moment.
♥️❤ I loved this episode so much! Thank you for sharing! At times I deal with really bad physical pain and other physical symptoms and I get the feeling of I should be able to handle it. I’m the same way with my emotions at times to. It really is true you have to rely on God and extend a hand for help from others and it can help tremendously!
This video is spot on. Thank you for sharing this and of yourselves.
I love you so so much, I feeel so much peace knowing that there is someone who I feel I am alike when it comes to so many feelings and pressure and being vulnerable, you have brought me so hope grace and peace. I love you!’