if people call you "nice" WATCH THIS (they don't respect you)
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Being called nice is only an insult if the person saying it is an asshole who doesn't value kindness and manners. Why would I care what a person like that thinks? Being nice doesn't mean you lack a personality. Sad that you see it that way. The nicest folks I know are also those for whom I have the highest respect. In an unkind world, they manage not to take their issues out on others. That's real strength.
But this unkind world don't need fake niceness because this world needs Real help. If you don't be real how'll the world change for the better No one needs to pretend to be nice for the bettering of others. In actuality you're making things worst for others and also for you. It's all about good act of honesty and setting people free from harmful acts of "niceness". Basically, this video defines "nice" as "fake love".
I don't think Aaron is saying don't be a nice and kind person, I think he's saying, be authentic, and stand up for yourself. For people who struggle with people pleasing and putting others first, we do struggle with worrying about what others think. For people who call themselves empaths, we need help asserting our boundaries. For us, what Aaron is saying is actually quite helpful.
❤ Agree with you. To be nice, to be kind is a strength ❤
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What Aaron is addressing is people pleasers who abandon themselves to accommodate everyone else. I used to be a people pleaser and people treated me like a doormat. When I stopped and started putting boundaries in place, I actually made people mad that were used to taking advantage of me.
As a reTIRED people pleaser, I love this👏🏼🛸
I used to be a "nice" person; a people pleaser. People treated me like a doormat. I abandoned myself to accommodate everyone else. I was not treated with respect. Once I started putting boundaries into place, people who were benefiting from taking advantage of me, actually got mad at me. Some of these people are no longer in my life and quite honestly I am better off without them. People know they can no longer take advantage of me and have respect for me. I am no longer a "nice" person. I am a very kind person. I am a good friend that people can count on. There is a big difference between someone that they can count on and someone who they can take advantage of.
as an empath and a compassionate person I never once viewed nice as offensive, I tend to have a tendency to help others out of nobility and selflessness, your perspective really opened my eyes and changed my view of things, I'll keep watching your videos and support your channel
All of your words scream "narc" tbh.
@Cats-a-Tonic how does it scream "narc"? It seems the opposite. Some people just have a kinder way about them where helping others doesn't take away their energy.
Thanks Aaron! I'm 63 years old and I have been a people pleaser all of my life. I finally began setting boundaries and cutting attachments about a month ago. Today I Am FREE and vibrating higher than ever. You are a great teacher. You have come into your own as a LIGHTWORKER. 💯❤️🙏
Wow good for you. My pattern was also people pleasing but I stopped at 29. Im 33 now.
Yeahhhh!!!!! I honestly loved to hear that , I’m super happy for you ❤️🔥
“Nice” won’t solve your problems or take you anywhere I’ll tell you that. Don’t let people step on you.
I once set a boundary (reluctantly) with someone in my past. That person said , "you're just mean." It hurt my feelings at the time, but in retrospect it was a turning point to letting go of people pleasing qualities in myself. I currently consider myself 'kind' and willing to be misperceived as 'mean' when it comes to healthy boundaries.
Its sad that angelic qualities arent understood because in general this isnt a pleasant planet to live on. There is nothing wrong with nice or angelic qualitites. Whats wrong is that nice people get hammered down by the harsh energies and have a tendency not to love themselves as much as theyre loving others. And it makes them seem weak. The weakness we feel here is lack of attention on self love. And that lack of self love energetically is scary to feel. Without a strong foundation grounded and anchored in Self youre like a leaf on white water on this planet.
“The key is to create safety on the INSIDE.” -Aaron Doughty
Ppl are commenting before listening to the actual video in full
To understand what he is actually saying about being “nice”
Watch the video in full to get what he’s saying 🙂
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I get what you're saying.
In 2023 I came to this insight myself. That so much of my self-sacrificing behaviour and so much of my niceness and bending over backwards for others came from a selfish place.
I do want the best for people and I do want to be kind, loving and helpfull. But I saw inside of me that I was playing a role, a role that actually made me mad because it was build on putting everyone else above myself. I'm worthy 'cuz I am.
Everyone else is not my responsibility ❤
This resonates. You can be a compassionate, caring, generous person without being a “nice guy” (not going to make that pc, we all know what a nice guy is lmao)…. Much love & gratitude to you Aaron
Yeah, someone who is afraid to open their heart.
❤ I'm aware of it, but still have these tendencies to tune to other people checking if they're happy and feeling same feelings.
That's why I get tired after being around people.
Thank you Aaron🌹
That clip of the emotionless mom with the baby touched something primal within that felt horrifying and dark. Did anyone else feel this? I cannot imagine how it must feel for someone who actually experienced this as a baby. Thank you Aaron for sharing
Excellent video Aaron. Touched on all the angles of being nice, which my partner is really coming out of. It's been quite the journey, it's so damned icky. You truly went through the whole gammot and turned over each and every stone. I was giggling through it all, and all the things I've called it, a mask etc, you said!! Even he was smiling as I giggled because he knew he was busted. He's really changed, honestly, and it's been so great seeing him go from nice to kind. A way better vibe. We're going to start doing the meditation regularly to heal all the last bits of this annoying people pleasing to be liked nonsense. Thanks a million.
To me, nice is synonymous with kind and nothing is wrong with this. People pleasing is an issue though, I agree.
When I started being truly my authentic self inside and outside, I find I make other people happier and it fills my heart with love❤without being the "mister nice guy" I find more people are attracted to me now and wanna be around me🎉🎉
Funny today I realized that,
When I am not being authentic and being this nice guy, I'm actually saying no to me and denying myself to be me❤
Your videos are so freakin on point, they are wild useful insights. Its mixing psychotherapy with spirituality concepts, using the most key parts of each to explain each side of this fenomenon ! Thank you for finding and sharing your unique purpose. The fact that it is so helpful to me inspires me to be one day that life-changing factor for someone else.
Thanks brother. I appreciate how you break things down and bring humor into them. I love how when we evolve we are able to look back and make light of trauma once we realize how hung up we were over these trivial things. Such a simplistic complexity that it’s honestly quite beautiful. Thanks again
This is not a black and white topic. And I think you are correlating being nice to being a people pleaser which are not the same. You can be nice AND set boundaries AND stay true to yourself 😊
This.
I am practising kindness with other fellow drivers. I realised that when I do a favour to a driver and the driver waves 'thanks' I felt good. Then, when I did the same favour, but the driver didn't wave thanks, my response was sarcastic "you're welcome" and realising that got me so much! I realised that I am after 'thank you' maybe to confirm that I am a good person, which just confirmed that I was not. My brain was in 'wow!' mode. Then I carried on practising to have genuine understanding for drivers who are in a rush, or stressed and show no gratitude or sometimes show anger, or maybe they might be selfish ignorant, but that doesn't matter. The safe flow of the traffic matters the most, so if I can help to make it smoother I do and if someone waves 'thanks' is it feels good to have interaction, otherwise it is good that all of us are safe. (So I reached this level of understanding and if feels like an achievement.... until I realise something else, that there are still many more levels of understanding to be realised waiting for me patiently... :) ).
Love your energy in this video. Absolutely inspired and hilarious. Laughed so hard 🤣
I'm so grateful for finding your channel.
You're helping me so much. I'm 24 and recently realized it felt like I was living the same day over and over amd the same things just kept happening.
Shortly after i started to stand up for myself with my family and my youtube algorithm brought up an empath video from the Power of You Channel. From there I found you and everything you've said it's like I've heard it before; I agree with it so much!
Every day I feel increasingly more separate from this world. I can’t find not one redeeming quality that’s worth anything, new flaws I didn’t even know about keep being brought out to me and it feels like an endless loop of self help, trying to change myself, finally getting to the point where I like myself a bit, then failing again. I think this video was supposed to put a light under my ass to change but I’m just tired now. I’m ready to give up. I’ll always be too nice, too avoidant, too weak, too this or too that.
I also increasingly feel separate from this world. I get it. I think being nice is fine. Everything doesn't always have to be about us. To me sometimes being nice means not being self centered. Its called will and self control. Not bad things. Someone above said it right, balance. Others talk about people pleasing but we are social and everyone subconsciously does, so let's not pretend that they don't to, some level. It's ok to get along with people and if you're nice, that's not a flaw. I feel like he attached a whole lot of other things to niceness that I dont agree belong there. Niceness doesnt mean you cant speak your mind, it just means youre thoughtful in how you express yourself. And it doesnt mean you're codependent. That's a whole separate thing. Nice people set boundaries and say 'no' to other people, too. Dont worry, you just need to find your tribe where you can be yourself and they find plenty of redeeming qualities in you. Sometimes others can see it in us more than we can ourselves. Keep going, keep discovering more about yourself and keep finding what makes you, you. Everyone is unique in their own way.
@@Vivayne I'm really grateful for your comment. I think the emotions that I was struggling with during the time that I posted caused a "hit dog hollering" effect, and I made the mistake of acting on it by commenting before being able to process all those feelings. I understand now that Aaron's perspective, just like anyone else's, could very much be influenced by his own personal life experiences, which is ok! I'm hoping that continuing his techniques and staying in my frame will help me one day be able to vibrationally align with people who appreciate genuine acts of kindness. Some of us may have issues with people pleasing, but we also have an inherent desire to spread kindness regardless of how the outcome affects us. Two can exist at the same time and there's no need to tie shame to it. I just need to uncover my authentic self again, which isn't impossible. Again, thank you so much for your words; you really made my day.
@@sunrope77 for sure. But I didnt see 'hit dog hollaring' on this end so it's not percieved that way, just saw questioning which is never a bad thing. I think for me though, my journey with Aaron is over. I choose my own authority over his and while I appreciate what he's doing/done, lately I find more and more that it doesnt resonate. Life is constant growth so wherever we go, whomever we learn from, we are always learning. Btw, I also take time to process my emotions. Still not a pro (and most people here don't want to hear it) but I myself continue to learn and grow through Christ. I find God provides supernatural wisdom, ask and it shall be given, knock and the door will be opened. Those were the verses that led me to become a believer. Wherever your journey takes you, I wish you the best.
@@sunrope77I really like your comment, from both of you.
I would say, be yourself because at least those you connect with will be authentic. Just be mindful of who you let into your circle. That is what I try at least.
When did we stop being ourselves as children? When trauma happened. But we can heal. Thank you for your video
Gabor Mate says as children we will always choose attachment over authenticity to our parents.
Wow! Aaron this was in a whole other level🤯
I wish I had I had listened to my intuition and checked for a new video on your channel 8hrs ago when I was dealing with literally EVERYTHING you are talking about. I should have listened to it so I didn’t have to learn the lessons shared here, the difficult way… through my own life experiences. Thank you for this guidance forward. This is pure Gold.
That video of the baby is incredibly difficult to watch. This is so true about tension. Wow this hit hard
Yeah, no. I get your point and it’s correct in certain contexts. As you said, “sometimes” but then you implied always. Depends on context.
Recovering Nice Guy here - a term from “No Mr Nice Guy” by Robert A. Glover. I read twice last year as it had a huge impact on me. So eye opening. The nice guy syndrome breeds from deeply-rooted toxic shame
Quite helpful Aaron. I need this and more like it. Extremely important perspective.
This is a really good message to start a new year .
Thank you, Aaron. I needed this. I'm always known for being the nicest person in the room. But everyone never knew the sadness and loneliness I feel within. It's until today that I stumbled upon a post on Facebook that made me say, "I give up" I'm tired of pretending and getting used. I just want to be myself for now on and be truly happy and free to be myself for once. Thank God for this reassurance. No more nice person. Welcome the new me. The me that has respect for myself and not care about what anyone thinks of me!
Being authentic and trying your damnedest to stay in integrity is so freeing.
If people's perception and / or all they have to say about a person is that they are nice (and that's it) you've got some work to do. And most likely some skeletons hidden away as 100 % of human beings do in one form or another.
However, as Aaron is demonstrating through words, gestures, and all sorts of wet and wild stuff, just choose kindness when opportunities arise with the mindfulness of people pleasing is absolutely debilitating over a period of time. And setting boundaries is absolutely Paramount along with being real all day, everyday.
And if you're grouchy most of the time, you have a ton of work to do as well 😂
I have left a lot on the table to write, and I hope those who read this received the gist of my point which is what Aaron is talking about, obviously.
Thanks Aaron, much love brother 💙
There will be someone who disrespect . I love my job doing every work and research in very nice way. And so there will be some people who not sees that in possitive way 🤷♀️
This is so true. When men go through a mid life crisis, the crisis is for the family. He becomes a solid sense of self and he won’t be manipulated anymore. For the woman in his life, he becomes magnetic because he is seen as the protector and provider.
This is a great breakdown on a people pleaser and how they become codependant on others for their own emotions.
In the uk if you say someone is 'nice' it means they are nice.....a goodly person, kind and hospitable.
this video came out exactly when I needed, thank you so much for that 💞
For me too after this Christmas, gosh!
I would respectfully disagree with this video topic.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being nice. Nice folks do have boundaries, we also don't do things to get something and we know exactly who we are. I think people are confused about how nice people really are. I also think others can be intimidated by nice people because they aren't use to that behavior from people and they just don't know how to deal with a nice person in general.
Another thing is this, us nice folks don't perceive ourselves as perfect with halos we're just real and we don't like drama.
There aren't to many nice folks out there anymore and that's fine, the few of us are Rare collectibles and we appreciate and recongize another nice person so it's good to weed out the bad in our lives and just continue to be who we are.
don‘t be „nice“.. be KIND.
if this video triggers you. then enough said. only deep thinkers will get it🎉
@@MelanieJoules personally I think it's you who is triggered and that's ok, and I can assure you that I have deep thoughts with substance. Being nice suggests that person is Kind.
May I know why the word 'nice' is so important for you?
@@ic7804 may I in return ask why the word nice or the act of being nice is such a problem to folks....it is indeed true, people just don't like a good thing and that's ok
We stand in our grounds of being that 1
@@stuntstyle777 I am glad you ask, thank you. I have learned to ask with no judgement and listen for the answer, however I am sorry if I confused you. I got across many 'positive' people, including my sister, who is very popular amongst her friends. I love her and I think she loves me too even I am often labelled difficult person. We often have hours long conversations and one of them was for some time 'positive people'. I have nothing against any person, regardless if it is positive or negative. Ones I was describing to her my situation when my narcissistic husband told me that I am so f**ing stupid and my brain must be shrinking. I have learned a new technique about how to respond to the narc and I said to him using neutral tone of voice and neutral face expression that I am sorry, especially with the outlook that it is not gong to get any better, as I am getting older and that means that it is going to get more difficult for him and easier for me (he hated that :)). My sister got outrage, saying "how can you let him to talk to you like that...", "why do you think you are stupid?" Remember, she is a nice and positive person (she really is awesome, in my opinion) and in her eyes I am nice too just maybe too negative. Now, who was negative in this conversation, me or her? In my talk I said that it is not going to get any better and as I am getting older it is going to get more difficult for him, if he thinks that I am getting stupider. Also I can not control his behaviour. The word choice is his responsibility and also his reputation as that reflects on him and not on me, as I have nothing to do with his choices. The next thing is that she said, "why do you think you are stupid?" Is she positively thinking that I might think I am stupid? I said to her that of course I don't think I am stupid, I just have no need to be proving it. Intelligent people are capable to recognise other intelligent people, and the rest doesn't matter. So to get back to my original question, I wanted to know what is behind the 'nice' word for you when you said that you disagreed. Also I wish you find something useful in our interaction, so reading this long response is not waste of your time. I mean it genuinely. Also I like that you are standing up for the nice people, regardless what the word 'nice' mean.
What your trying to say is that it really doesnt matter what people thinks about us, nice or bad cause thats not what we trully are, we are what we are no.matter what people call us ❤
Thank you Aaron I needed to hear this today. I appreciate all your videos as they have really helped me overcome my people pleasing ways. I want to step into my authentic self and with your help I feel there is hope ❤
YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD🔥🔥🔥❤️🔥
Seriously thank you for this video, your work, and your existence 💪🏼
That advise HOW to care about the inner child was very helpful to me. I have a difficult time to deal with but turning to your advises kept me with my head on top, actualy watching what is wanted and needed, taking time to feel what I really want to give and being ok with what I don't want to give. I can see who I am and how I want to express it. And Saying what I want makes me and others giving it to me. Thank you so much.
It takes a certain level of self awareness to see when you're being nice to manipulate a situation. It doesn't have to be for nefarious reasons. It could simply be a misguided attempt for acceptance and validation. It's not really authentic though and people sense that and some will exploit it.
What has been iteresting about being this kind of person, is when you walk away from these people who you've spent so much time putitng at ease, and you focus on yourself and more how you want to feel, all these people come back, at some time I think because you made it so easy for them, and they haven't been able to find anyone else who was willing to put up with whatever it was you put up with for so long. These people come back. But now you realise it doesn't matter. What really matters is how you feel, yourself. That's it. It's the most important thing.
Fantastic presentation. Hit home 100% . Thank you for sharing.
When we know ourselves we do not need to dwell on what others think of us. I know who I am and I love being a nice kind compassionate person. So whatever God his angels and myself are the only ones that truly matter. We are all the same in different ways. Love is the highest frequency🤍
I get the nice thing a lot. I reply, ‘don’t tell anyone.’
Truth is, I’m kind. They just don’t have that level of discernment or understanding between the two. I see that.
I sometimes clarify it, but I pick my battles. It’s been a rough tough road. I don’t need to argue semantics with everyone trying to be nice themselves…or whatever.
Nice is vain . Kind is sincere . Kindness is my nature. Idgaf . Just don’t cross me or you’ll see how quick the tone changes
this made so much sense these past months i've been able to break the patterns with your help and my efforts thank you Aaron
Exactly how my ex was. Your vids are really helping me move on from her and like you say bring the energy back to myself
All I can say is wow…It wasn’t easy to hear this, but so glad I did.
Its good to be nice after you get what you want in life. Not when you are young and full of desires though
I used to be a nice person until three years ago. Then I decided to become a new person as I was not happy. I manifested a new life. Jumped into a black hole and all of the sudden doors opened. Now I am a new person and it’s fun to be kind but I am not a people pleaser anymore. I wasn’t aware of this until I washed your video. So true. Thank you, Aaron. Cool guy. Greetings from Germany
Watched 😉
Spot on mate!
Anyone disagreeing with you just hasn't lived enough pain to realize you are right! It takes life experience to learn this! I used to be nice! Ugh. If you keep saying yes to everything, people will and do walk all over you!
You're being presumptuous. I've lived through plenty of pain and disagree with him. Specifically because of that pain. Abuse makes me value nice people all the more.
@@Amandajenkins7899 No offense!
U r light worker for sure. God's gift Aaron
Wow - quite a synchronicity in the timing of this video for me! Great points.
I have always said I am nice until I'm not!
Don't be the nice guy, be the strong guy on your own frame. ❤
Feel safe within ourselves first in awareness &safety yesss!! Authenticity & integrity of new moment,...inner child to be healed in meditation,😮😅❤🌹💯 so powerful guidance,thanksss!!
I started hate being called nice. Not people pleaser anymore 🥴
Nice is perfunctory. I much prefer being referred to as a kind person. ❤
This literally showed me where i stand 🥹
I love the bit at 20.00 where you shake your arms like a Muppet 🤣and say
THATS HOW YOU HET WHAT YOU WANT go within ro yourself not out there “
Gold video
So true, especially at mom dad part, at 34 years old, I’m still suffering from this.
I don't mind if someone calls me nice😂😂😂😂😂
I can definitely relate with the nice guy. i always wondered why good things never happened to me because I was always so nice to everyone. My Dad was a nice guy too and always doing the right thing but in the end he got Royally screwed left and right. I am glad that I realized what i was like then. I am completely different person now. I look after number one first!!!
I enjoyed this so much, especially the giggle about how not to intellectualize w/my inner child :P thanks.
Aaron! How funny. I just had an encounter with a woman, yesterday, because I was walking in the neighborhood - very obviously working out, as I was walking up hills backwards, had my workout gloves on, did some standing push-ups, had weights on the sides of my backpack, was carrying a water bottle, etc..
And because she had never seen me before, and I was wearing all black - she assumed I was suspicious.
She watched me walk up a hill backwards, and then started questioning me “Are you lost??”
I smiled and said I lived in the neighborhood, as I continued to walk backwards.
And then started quizzing me, as if I was lying.
When she asked where I lived, why she had never seen me before, what was my name, what was I doing, etc.
I laughed and said “We aren’t doing this. None of this is your business.”
She kept on and on.
I told her she hadn’t seen me, because I have been very sick (I have been bedridden/housebound for a near decade, up until the last couple years. I am working in rehabilitating now, and moved back to my hometown to be the caretaker for my grandmother’s property. I, legit, grew up in this area. I told her I grew up there, though, didn’t explain why I was back).
I kept telling her I am not doing this, with her - and to leave me alone.
And then she goes in on me, because of my black clothing (I wear all black, because I am autistic/ADHD and other issues, and it makes life much easier. Plus, I look best in black).
However, I didn’t not explain ANY of that.
And I stopped myself, and told myself she is not entitled to such information, about me - NONE IF IT.
And I do not need to be “nice” to this woman, who was, basically, accusing me of lying and doing suspicious things - when I was doing nothing wrong, whatsoever.
She, then, threatened to go to her neighbor - who’s a cop.
It’s so funny how these types of people are so textbook.
I told her “You do you” - as I continued to walk backwards, away from her.
She kept going on and on.
I told her this behavior is not normal, this is not what normal people do - and it’s inappropriate and I am not comfortable engaging with someone who is being so aggressive, with me, and to leave me alone.
I, then, told her to have a nice day and get home safe.
She said “You, too. And I WILL find out where you live.”
I yelled back how weird and creepy that is, and normal, healthy people do not act in such a way.
I grew up in a family with both diagnosed and undiagnosed narcissistic personality disorder.
I am NOTORIOUS for over explaining myself, and being seen as “nice.”
Ironically, I have borderline personality disorder, with dissociative identity disorder and secondary psychopathy.
Basically, a person who feels so much, that it induces dissociative psychopathy - where I can turn off any empathy, while in this state, especially, if I feel I need to defend myself.
I am not a person to be messed with, when pushed to the brink - which, is one reason why I am sober, also.
A lot of that would happen, because I wasn’t secure, within myself and in my own frame - so, the psychopath alter is my “protector.”
Especially, because I never had anyone to protect me, growing up.
This always happened after I have attempted to be “nice,” and get overwhelmed with feeling disrespected, yet, always doubting my perception of such.
I was so thrilled with myself, that not only did this woman not bother me, and I was able to think clearly and NOT defend myself by over-explaining, in fear of getting in trouble..
Though, that I did so, SO confidently - and in a manner where I didn’t even feel anxious or my heart rate go up, as result of the interaction (even though it was already up, from working out - I didn’t develop the anxiety that can come with this type of situation).
Especially, because she, quite obviously, had narcissistic tendencies.
I am about to go walking on that street, again, in a couple of hours - and had even planned to extend my work out, before this event took place, as I am working up more and more each day.
And I have walked in that part of the neighborhood numerous times, within the last couple weeks.
After the lady sarcastically asked if I needed a ride somewhere - I told her perhaps she should get out more, if she can’t recognize what working out looks like.
Of course, I do not want trouble, on today’s walk.
Though, I can’t help but be curious as to how things are gonna go.
I mean, it was the third day of a new year.
If anything, I woulda thought seeing someone doing what I was doing, that I had never seen, prior - perhaps, they made a New Year’s resolution or something like that (I didn’t. The timing just so happened to be that I am able to start being more physically active, around the time of the new year).
I am quite proud of myself for not being “nice,” to this woman, yesterday - and have been thinking about it, ever since.
So, what great timing, with this video, Aaron.
You consistently show how we’re all connected.
Thank you. 💛
I love this! Good job👏🏼🤟🏼
"Not in a selfish or narcissistic way". ✔
No of course not, well like, selfish in a good way but narcissistic people, you know you're dealing with one when you express how you feel and they turns it around and try to make you the bad guy for feeling that way and expressing it. It takes one to be selfish (but selfish isn't a bad thing, but I know what you mean) it takes two people for there to be a narcissist. (If you know what I mean)
I don’t know. I feel good by being nice. It’s how I feel fulfilled. I would rather be nice and kind and even if people are mean to me, I’d rather brush that off knowing I’ve been the best version of me that I put out to the world to others. I don’t act a certain way to get things out of the world that’s always just a plus. Being nice is sooooo underrated 😔
Hi you put a big smile on my face I could see that the Divine source gave you my message but I never expected to hear his going to be going trough it also I think that's what made me smile to know what I felt all this months even if he dont get it for as long as I have to put up with them all. He came last night he left me something to let me know he was in my home I just took it as okay, I see it's still going to keep going on. And wrote him something with his own pin but I felt bad after and distroyed the paper.
🙏🏼😇✨️💖
Love the TATS, Aaron!!! I have a few similar ones, but looking to get more. Also love the talks like usual! Haha.
Literally a definition of "nice" is polite and "KIND". It all depends on what meaning you are putting on it. I really do not agree with this. People pleasing is something completely different.
😂😂😂 I use to be “nice” and I WAS NOT safe to be around. I didn’t realize I was over compensating by my ‘niceness’ because I was emotionally immature (bat 🦇 poop 💩 crazy) read between the lines. Now I’m not ‘nice’ and have mellowed out a lot. I am kind naturally though. (Somewhat) 😉 😅
I'll say, not being nice, not being a people pleaser takes a kind of courage not many people have. Having the guts to live the way you want to isn't for everyone. I found it much easier to accept that and focus on my own abilities than to try and convince others. I get that this message is for those on the fence about it, but most people that aren't confident and living their truth have a lot of reasons, it would take more than words and often it takes life itself stepping in and shaking them up to get them to change. I found a lot of relief in realising it's not my responsibility... those that are on the path of awakening are on it, those that aren't, are not. You can say stuff but... a lot of the people that aren't on board, if they could have been convinced, they would have been on board long ago. People make their own beds, you know? Anyway, that's just my opinion.
I think most people who react negatively here don’t really know the context well. Being “nice” here is equivalent to being a doormat and having loose boundaries.
tension.. Tension in seduction, tension in confrontation, tension in humor .. It's the razors edge. It's what makes the difference!
I was abused and neglected by my parents since i was a kid and it made me such a bitch growing up. I hated that because i need to to be nice to just avoid problems when i was growing up and when i stood up for myself i was extremely punished. It has been hard to get rid of being a people pleaser so thanks for reminding me to keep growing my own backbone.
Just because someone isn’t “nice” doesn’t make them mean or evil.
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Some nice people will sit on an Adult Diaper with loads of Nice-Nice. And will not decline to go there, because appearing intolerant is not nice. So being kind with assertiveness portrays relational maturity.
My transformation from nice empath to harsh badass 😅 I know it’s not the best way to improve your behavior but being kind dont come naturally for me and can't do better for now 🙄 Friend suggested me sandwich technique. I'm honest, and sometimes I remember to use it so people won't took me as agressive, but its like too much effort 😑
‘Nice guys finish last’
Heard that phrase a lot. I’m not sure I agree with this message entirely. I think it’s always good to be nice to people even if that’s delivering messages they may not want to hear. Manners, being courteous and considerate of other people are all ‘nice’ person qualities. Qualities that I carry throughout life and I don’t find it detrimental.
No wonder I'm completely fucked up. 🤦🏼♂️😆😆😆 Finally I know the root issue... 🤝🏻👍🏻
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I'm sure this was the reason why People looked at myself with Bewilderment, because I didn't realise why I was so "Nice" was due to Emotional Trauma, although I thought I was just being Charitable to Others. The best Charity is towards Oneself, and "Nice Parents" will have Self-Beliefs that affect the Children that Feel that ENERGY, their Mental Forcefield was TOXIC. Chances are that such Parents will never Change because that Manipulative "Nice" Energy was precisely how you Born in the First Place! I know through Experience and Contemplation. It's Unfortunate that I'm the only Person who cares about my Own Authenticity. ;_;
Haha men always say that I am a nice girl/lady. I thought it's good stuff lol
Funny thing. I was people Pleaser but i didnt call myself na angel or good person. Just didnt wanna be rejected. 7 months ago Archangel Michael Has shown me that im earth angel. But now i see more my light and dark side.
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I really love your videos you break it down really well for people to understand ❤
When someone says that you’re nice I will correct them by letting them know that I’m being kind & this word nice uses to bother me when someone says it however, this just demonstrates how the person doesn’t know me in reality. Also angel means messenger…
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Ok... Aaron, my partner is the nicest guy I know. He is so kind, he has got me, and I trust him completely. He is my life partner. So, I do not agree. So what if people call you nice. Their opinion is null and void. I also find him so interesting. We are best friends. And we get things done. Nice does not mean weak, it does me kind, thoughtful. I am a very nice person unless someone crosses me, then a boundary comes forth. It sounds like you are just describing weak very insecure people. Just have healthy boundaries. Nice is NOT BAD, ❣.... you are describing codependent insecure trauma people. My partner is healthy and uber kind... a sweetheart. And we have been together for just about two years.
Aaron, Aaron, Aaron. When a man has traveled “internally” in its entirety 360 degrees… a healthy man acquires the skill, knowledge, and ability to establish FIRM boundaries and place one for in the light while the other foot is planted in the dark. Such a man has also conquered and commands the beast within who lurks silently in the shadows unchained, unbroken, unapologetic while also having complete control over self, identity, body, mind, spirit, and soul.
Being called nice, as you boldly stated, is a positive compliment and is a clear indicator that the way a person speaks, acts, is a reflection of fact from within. However, it is the very moment a Circus Clown $hit $how attempts to breach a boundary or conduct themselves in an unacceptable manner… well I do declare the nice guy is not so nice after all, but he sure is effective in taking care of and handling a situation effectively, efficiently, and with complete control.
YOU… sir, have a nice day! 😊
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I, for the first time ever in my life, experienced my third eye by following your third eye opening guided video. I felt like as if I had another eye. Of course it was not too visible in colorful form, rather it was like some white wires of lights. Before experiencing this, I scrunched my eyes & it happened for like 10 seconds or less. But i definitely experienced my third eye. Thanku so very much for that video 😻 also I'm super confused what to do after this? I mean what to do when you experienced your third? I focused on my breath for few mins and then went to sleep while playing other guided meditation audios of yours? Any suggestions will be helpful 🧁Thanks in advance.
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