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Family is by far the most important feature of Filipino culture. My wife and I have just returned from a two-day staycation in Baguio with her sisters and their families. We are fairly wealthy and it was our treat but it wasn't a case of our assuming we were somehow better/superior just because we have money. We offered them an outing and they accepted. It was a very Filipino affair with bodies scattered all over the place in the lodgings and communal dining and having fun. I think I counted about 17 people, most of whom were kids. It was good for them to have a family outing coming out of quarantine and I was more than content to take a back seat and experience their happiness. I join in but they know I am quite a reserved person, more than happy to sit with my book, and they respect that too. My brother-in-law and I even snuck out to have a beer, under the pretence of sourcing a restaurant, to escape the familial mayhem.
Filipinos are very kind people. Treat them with the upmost respect and you will be treated very well. Every time I arrived at the airport in Manila the immigration officer always said welcome back. That makes a foreigner feel special. Thank you for making this video. You do an excellent job. Did you study journalism? Just curious! 😎
I found most Filipinos to be incredibly fake and two faced. Some are nice on the surface but will talk behind your back. Hospitality is only extended to those who can offer them something in return. Nothing is unconditional with filipinos. There's always gonna be a "what's in it for me?" attitude.
I was invited to a surprise birthday party for a Filipino lady ...they were all Filipino at the party ..I wad treated with so much hospitality that you would have thought I was the birthday girl ..we're in Canada
Precisely Savvy. Mutual respect is invaluable . It's prudent and imperative that foreigners observed local cultures and traditions . B humble and never try to b arrogant just because u think u have more financially or because u r d provider for ur wife/partner's need .To have a cordial relationship respect d elders and ur gfs family too.. u DNT need any capital to adopt such values but just humility . Another excellent video Savvy👍🏼👍🏼🙏♥️
We have reached the Lolo and Lola stage of life with my wife's family. Still quite a few people older than us, but we are rapidly moving to the upper age reaches of the family. It is really an odd position to find ourselves in. And it is very true, dropping even a word or two of Tagalog into a conversation with a Pinoy will give them quite a delight. Our last trip in I corrected a 7-11 clerk who mis-used a Tagalog phrase with me. His co-worker smacked him and told him how embarrassing it was that an American had to teach him how to speak Tagalog. We all had a good laugh over that.
Tuli, A great video. I am a Tito to half the town. I love the way all the kids make mono or give a blessing. I have found that Filipino families are smotheringly close. I have also seen a lot of men who made a "milk" run. I love the culture. I have to sing in public. Most were warm in my direction. I have had to learn quite a bit of Tagalog. I love Filipino food. I like adobo. NEVER criticize the country. Do not discuss religion and try not to put down the church. Most will tell tou their favorite candidate and often the locals are catholic.
Most of my friends have onion skin. I have have been rude in the past. I have learned to speak less and listen more. Young people value the elderly. Most of my friends are Christian and Catholic. I love a good joke. Most of my friends are easy to hang with, regardless of age.
Filipinos don't like criticism whatsoever. They don't know how to handle it. Intellectualism is greatly frowned upon. Filipinos prefer superficial distractions and entertainment over actual problem solving or deep conversation (Why do you think the Philippines has no great authors, scholars, scientists, engineers, inventors, etc?). This creates a culture where nobody says what's on their mind but will whisper it behind everyone else's back. Gossip culture is big and it's hard to tell who you can trust. It's a very "group think" kind of culture so individual opinions are tossed aside in favor of the good of the group.
You had said some of the words to call older people. With some of the Filipinos I have talked to they will call me po. Or other people po. I am glad you made this video very informative. Thanks
I think for me the more weird and bizarre the culture is the more interested I am, and would ask tons of questions to learn about it. Although I may have trouble when it comes to food, I'm a very picky eater and won't try certain foods at all, like seafood. Excellent video, full of great information, as always, thanks for giving it straight and not try to sugar coat anything.
Once again excellent video Evan. I’ve been married to a Filipina almost 7 years now. It’s the best move I’ve ever made. When I met her family for the 1st time in person they were all warm and welcoming to me. Her mom was skeptical because of what she heard about foreign men being abusive. I didn’t blame her as I am a big ugly guy but with a loving heart. By the end of my stay I won mama over. We now divide our time between the Philippines and USA. Bought a farm and a few rice fields . I’m Jewish but attended church w, my late 1st wife was Muslim, so you can say I’m an equal opportunity husband. Lol. Looking forward to seeing more of your videos Evan. Take care and salamat
@@elliottschertzer876 wow, pretty off the beaten path. How's life going over there?I'm coming around October to Mindanao in Davao. In case you'd be there, we could have a 🍺
@@mgoldberg777 life is very nice there. , it’s small town living , very quiet, not congested, people are extremely nice. The next big city is 30 minutes away by car. It’s Pagidan City. Anyway Happy Passover.
The old western man I visited in PI was adored by his girlfriend's family. This was a conservative family. Women cooked and served meals to the men. They didn't join the table and ate after the men were served. The old Western man was not married to the Filipina. She was his housekeeper in Canada. Then, they became a couple. He was a racist and didn't participate in any Filipino customs like honoring elders. His redeeming quality that trumps all faults was that he had lots of money. Nothing is honored more than money in PI.
Finally made to the Philippines 👍🎊🍻. Staying at Shangri-la Fort now. BGC is nice but has no character. I miss the jeepneys, trikes, street vendors and having to worry about the crooked taxi drivers lol. And don't get the oysters from Wolfgangs Steakhouse by Shangri-la. For 6 oysters, it's about 2800 php. And it was salty lol. And you need a haircut 💇♂️ lol ✌👍
On point Savvy! My nephew is married to a western raised woman. She disrespects my sister, and even at one point disrespected my mother. Now, she wonders why we do not want anything to do with her. I knew she was trouble from the get go, when I discerned that she was the one in control of the relationship with my nephew. Even though I grew up in the western world, I was old enough to have had the Filipino culture ingrained in me to understand that respect to elders is paramount above all things, when it comes to the nucleus of the Filipino family. I have also instilled respect for the elders in my kids. I will get on them the moment I saw them disrespect their mother, even at the slightest. My wife and I have also told our son that it is better for him to look for a Filipina in the Philippines once he is ready to settle down. Extreme feminism has taken hold and ruined most western women's way of thinking. Then the women do not understand why no man wants them when they hit that wall and are still single in their 30s.
Bro. You just proved that I can start a channel when I go back and still have fun🤓 A little bit of warning: Not all, but the majority; Be careful to not take advantage of our kindness for weakness, will be hard to earn our trust for the longest time.
@@stan121midling5 , Thanks for your reply. Also, our culture in the past had not prepare us for future interaction the right way. For example: Meaning how to identify who is for us or against us, thus, learning the hard way who to trust. We try to impress others to make long term relationships with our gifts, talents, service. Lastly, stop calling everyone sir, ma’am only because they are a foreigner like they are royalty. Too much TV. Fake Happiness. When stationed overseas, I noticed a pilipina who worked in a local school who became best friends with her friend who was married to a American GI. She kept calling the friends husband sir when they all hanged out on the weekend. He had to reminded her “don’t call me that, we are family”(she never called me sir because I was PhilAM (he was other). Because of her upbringing being exposed to many things to include culture from past generations, T.V. education, etc…(don’t get me started), she trained herself to place people above herself; creating insecurities. That’s all for now. Remember: Learn from the Past, Learn to make it better for future generations. Teach our culture the right way. Don’t always have to teach bad words or expose Subicbay, Clark Airbase. Shalom
@@geraldfirme1213 well said! I notice it as well when I go on vacation in the Philippines. My relatives become all googlie-eyed and seem to break their character when they are around foreigners. They lower themselves to the point that I have to pull them aside and ask them what the hell they are doing. I tell them, "Stop treating these foreigners as if you are their servants." I tell them just show them the culture of Filipino hospitality without the need to kiss their asses. You are correct, they (my relatives in the PI) will always call them sir or ma'am. I tell them to stop that and just call them by their first name. It isn't a disrespect to the foreigners when they are called by their first names, it is what they are familiar with and used to.
Evan you did an amazing job on this. Vlog! Others too btw. As you know I’m married to a Filipina and it took me a few years to understand the culture and language. Especially how we as Americans interact can be misconstrued as being arrogant. We lived in Germany where there is a huge 🇵🇭 community so I learned how to let loose and act like I’m a Filipino ☺️. It worked. I’m a pretty good karaoke 🎤 singer also. Lol!!! Hey, you showed you have some hoop skills. I love playing also 😊. We’re planning to fly there in May 2022. We’re so excited. ANA Airlines is the cheapest for now. 🇵🇭👍🏽✌🏽
My partner’s family are wonderful people. Her parents, siblings, and nieces and nephews are all good and sincere people. Once they understood that I was a person of similar character they accepted me fully. The Filipinos I have met in the US have all been good people too.
Im a filipino thank you for sharing this i hope a lot of foreigners watch this for them to fully understand that philippines is not just a poor country theres something more deeper to that im glad that even you dont speak tagalog you know the country well philippines has a lot of things to improve but what makes me more proud that our culture is beautiful we love to connect and respect to people one of the most important thing that a human should have
Basic common prevails. I have be6to the Philippines 4 times so far and I had the best time of my life but when it comes to Filipino food I can't eat it because I am very fussy Easter even in Australia I don't eat all food at all, so when I am in the Philippines I survive mostly on McDonald's, KFC, jolly bee and Burger King and nothing else that's why I can only between 2 and 3 weeks because at end I get sick of the tsje away foods
Most of this correct, but also highly myopic. Why am I going to show respect when Filipinos turn a blind eye to other Filipinos yelling "joe f-u" at me along the road when I am minding my own business. Also becoming fluent lowered my status, so that tip is patently wrong.
I agree with your points. I won over my Filipino relatives by treating them with respect and being interested in their culture. My spouse’s mama loves to cook for me. She always tells me, “you are a big man and you should eat more!”. Haha… of course I love their food and am more than happy to eat my share. I love to tease and joke around with our nieces and nephews. They all seem to enjoy spending time with their Tito Roger. I love their smiling happy souls and they look into my eyes and know I am real. Because I am in a same-sex relationship, I was very worried going there to meet them. I proposed to the person I loved and had waited for 11 years until we could be legally wed here in the US while surrounded by his family on the front porch of his house. They were all accepting of us and welcomed me into their family with open arms and hearts. I can’t wait until we return to the Philippines again and eventually retire there.
My in-laws are Filipino and I call the older ladies “Aunty” or “Manung.” I had the best mil and fil in the world. They knew I took good care of their oldest son.
Thanks for the information. This video is valuable. If I ever get over there to visit, and didn't see this, I would have totally blown it with anyone I may have met.
These traits are true everywhere on Earth. If a person has these traits they will do well everywhere. People without those traits sure can't learn them watching videos.
I'll be honest, again been to Mutiua and Angeles...ate rice with my hands, was a pig farm out back. 8 people living in the same house. It was like the mad real world from Chappells show. Always screaming at each other. At least the females...
The hardest part for me is going to be the food. I have spoken to my gf about it, and she assures me that it will be okay, but I am worried that her family will think badly of me when I do not eat most things (or anything).
Another great vid Evan. If people follow your advise, they definitely will do very well living in the Philippines AND they should have a great experience in the process.
Thank friend you have an awesome vlog im playing check up too watch all your videos im learning a lot from your videos keep up the good work its much appreciated
Yep westerners respect their elders that they even send them in the home care and let them die there nice culture btw and your ignorance is highly appreciated 😏👏
I've heard American expats complain about Filipino food. I have no idea what they're on about. I think the cuisine (with a few exceptions) is very tasty.
This is my reply to your episode: Ten reasons why expats leave the Philippines. This is my opinion about your thoughts savvy. After reading all the exchanges of replies you and readers of comments on display (because replies needed click first to show up). You live in the Philippines and you enjoyed it in some degree..however, of course there must be some negatives anywhere in the world including the Philippines. But would you take responsibily ...to appease/minimize the many extreme negative thought about this country they are trying to imply generally? Because you are the one they ask!! ...Not all the Filipinos are expecting/waiting all the time for a 'hand out' from any foreigner their family member/relative involved with, you can oftenly see relatives feed by their foreign partners but mostly only on special occations/celebrations. More often they're just having curiousity & wanting to be friend to you. Many of us are farmers, fishers, sellers, drivers, mechanics, artist/painters, carpenters, decorators, beautician, technicians, musicians etc. Of course there are some lazy individuals everywhere, you even have machines even on simple dishwashings.. there are some do always thought of money in their minds, gamblers, drunkards, addicted to dangerous drugs, psychopaths, Godless..Now tell us, where in the world not having some individuals like these? America? Nope. You are the one to correct them because you started all these..but instead, you allow them to mock Filipinos and adds futher points in agreement to their saying. Be true to your conscience and experience! Do you really a witness or actually witnessing, that generally as I read all your exchanges of thoughts.. Filipinos are robbers/ lazy?.. if you are unsure, Say it to them. I know you are still young but you started this. You even suggested go ahead signal to a query to take Filipina fiance/wife just to spare them the hassles of life here in Ph.. that's Ridiculous. You victimized us with Asian hate crimes in your country not to mention other difficulties.. still you'll pursue us in our own land? And still we treat you right and respect you. Of course we know Government has issues of corruption and mismanagements! And that sincere/voluntary/unconditional love/help to needy.. that is the thing what we welcome from anyone, thank you. God may bless us all.
Yeah. Correct! They should learn to be filipino or else they will still live here miserably just like how they were living back home. One ways its easier to be kind here is because people here are respectful. Its easier to be good when your surrounded by good people. So to the grumpy foreign people who likes to huff and puff on strangers like Karens… you will just end up packing your bags if you cant change. Coz nobody will want to be near you or help u if you are like that . Facts!
All your points are so true...best time while visiting the Philippines! I have to go out to get "Milk" in order to visit the Philippines again. Wife refuses to go...🤣
I can't believe how lucky I am to have "met" you! You are full of amazing insider information (being American and Filipino). I can't wait to immerse myself in the Philippines, they seem like my kind of people, and I believe I will fit right in. My only two very minor concerns lol are singing Karaoke and perhaps eating different food. I am totally tone deaf (horrible even in the shower 🚿) and I am a very picky eater. But I will try anything (food) once. I absolutely love listening to all music (former nightclub dj), it's a passion of mine. But I never sing. Do people care of I tried singing, but was bad at it? 🎤🤣
Most are bad singers. We just tolerate it because we know somebody is having a good time. From time to time you will hear a hearty rocks thrown at your roof but thats it. They are just laughing for sure. Thats just for fun but nobody really gets angry unless its past bed time.
So fillipino culture is same as Latin just with an Asian twist? At least from what I get from Tita=tia(in spanish) tito=tio(in spanish) To if you impress the family you more likely get the girl To family oriented To the food My hypothesis is that the more you are around latin culture, the more you probably get used to their culture.
Another great job! Thank you for all positive information. I can't wait to return next month and start looking for places to start my retirement. Props young man!
You didn't mention the respect word for mother or father. Example when I meet my GF mother (which is coming soon) I know to bless but what is the respect work I call her? Thanks for your videos I enjoy them...Oh and how about if you're talking to someone you don't know like a security guard what respect word do you call them. I know to say Salamat, but do you add Po how about if the guard or sells lady is female. Willie stuck in Seattle
Nanay, inay* ("e-nay")- mother Tatay, itay* - father "Inay" and "itay" are kind of deeper words. You pronounce the -ay part like in the word "aye". But someone here in the comments section made good point about using "tito" and "tita" before you get engaged. You can ask your girlfriend which one she finds to be more suitable where you won't be seen as being too chummy ("feeling close" in Filipino).
All very well said. Be respectful and have fun. But I was wondering...... I have never tried Balut and it is something I am teased about regularly. Am I being a rude western food snob? 😅 I did try the green mango and bagoong, only once. I love dinuguan which my Filipino American friends won't eat.
As a young 27-year-old traveler like myself I've been to the Philippines about twice already seen my girlfriend and everything you know the basic things and I have no problem I love the country I respect everything especially her family and elders you know I'll do anything there except for play basketball with them because I saw how they play basketball in the Philippines and I'm good on that 🤣
Good list. Probably the worse thing that expats (western ones) say around me is the filipino men are bad. I know they use it as a throw-away line but it definitely is cringy. The filipino men raised these amazing women that they fell in love with.
I've listened to a bunch of your UA-cam's they are very informative and interesting I love learning as much as I can about the Philippine culture. I have a question, what would I call my fiance's mom and dad? Thank you in advance for the answer. By the way I plan on living in Bais city when I move there, my fiance doesn't want to move away from her relatives. Do you know anything about that area I guess it's 45 minutes north of dumaguete. Any information about the area would be greatly appreciated thank you.
Let me answer that for you. Start by saying Tito/Tita for Uncle/Auntie since you are not formally engaged yet. Then when properly engaged and/or married, call them Tatay/Nanay (or Dad/Mom).Those slightly older than you can be called Kuya/Ate even if you're not related.
@@SelwynClydeAlojipan I'm a bit older than my wife's mother...lol! After 10 years I still don't know what to call her but neither Nanay nor Ate seem right
Thank you 👍🏻☺️ I am a totally direct speaking person and to be honest idk how to speak about a problem without being direct? I guess then the problem can't be solve? 🤔
Most problems if not so big to deal with …are tolerated. Its difficult to disrespect elders. In most cases you just have to develop patience. Or say it in a manner that is not embarrassing anybody or else you will get hated on and feared. People will steer clear of you. You will not get the full potential of filipino living. Bec that is the way people are here. Even my mom. You cant get direct answer because as she said “its embarassing to tell people what you really like” we often relegate to the background putting forth other peoples feelings and needs ahead of our own. Because we can always think of our own in our own time and our me time…But in dealing with people always think about others first before urself. That makes the filipino different from the rest of the world. As you can see from the hospitality. Just dont embarass anyone or else you will be alone dealing with your own stuff without anybody willing to help…
@@kellymoyes2517 actually there are no rules no need to do it as long as you dont show rudeness while talking to anyone in her family it's awkward when youre older than her parents and you do the "mano po" a hand geasture where you put their hand in your forehead a show of respect
There is a filipino wild card word that you can use to show respect to ANY PERSON in the philippines no matter what their age OR socioeconomic standing. ….that word is PO. Use that normally at the end of whatever sentence you use.
So Filipinos are good people basically what you're saying, except the 25% a father's that Runaway. I find Filipinos to be like everyplace else good bad and in the middle. As you can imagine if anyone ever came to America and started bad-mouthing it they'd have a lot of problem. This street food there we'll make an American sick to their stomach and the Filipinos have food that definitely should not be eaten by Americans right off the bat. So good list but there's a big chunk of those men that run away from their families and that's not good people. I also wouldn't suggest running out and trying everything Filipinos eat good way to rip your stomach to shreds. Just my observations as somebody who's been over there half a dozen times or more and have a Filipina wife. And what they like even more than respect, is if you give him money.
have you really trued those food you are criticizing? Americans when they butcher an animal, they just get the good meat and throw away all the rest. filipinos consider that as a waste (a sin against the animal really) and use/eat all parts of the animals and there are a lot of food making use of the offal, head, toe, etc. - nothing goes to waste. Americans see this and just turn away in disgust. Generally, american food is dry and tasteless. American food really is just slab of meat, beans, soggy vegetables, salad, very sweet cakes, hotdogs, hamburgers, pizza, etc. That is all what americans eat as they don't generally cook. The good food is really foreign cuisine.
@@rap3208 myself and other Americans have gotten sick eating street food there.. It was the first thing someone told me when I was getting ready to go there. I live in an area that has plenty of Filipinos, I see them eating out at McDonald's, Burger King and Wendy's all the time. . They don't have a problem eating are "bad "food. Don't take it personal just pointing out some observations that I and others have made
@@walkingboss If you've gotten sick, well, it may probably due to sanitation reasons not the due to the kind of dish itself or what it is made of. Separate the two , will you.
Please. Filipinos not being direct? It’s the opposite dude. Americans are more reserve and Filipinos are more direct. Your family will tell you when your fat but never when your too skinny. I’m American Filipino. I know.
All great advice, Evan. You are doing great. 10K is just around the corner. You wouldn't happen to know where I can find a good phrase book for bisaya, by any chance? Thanks.
How to get a filipino to adore you: 1. Be white 2. Have money 3. Don't get upset if you notice they are taking advantage of you. Just let them and never confront them about it. Follow those 3 rules and you'll be the most popular person in all of the philippines.
I'll be in Davao city April 4th. Do you know if they are still requiring the negative covid test? It says take a covid test two days before flight and the results could take 3 days to get back
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Family is by far the most important feature of Filipino culture. My wife and I have just returned from a two-day staycation in Baguio with her sisters and their families. We are fairly wealthy and it was our treat but it wasn't a case of our assuming we were somehow better/superior just because we have money. We offered them an outing and they accepted. It was a very Filipino affair with bodies scattered all over the place in the lodgings and communal dining and having fun. I think I counted about 17 people, most of whom were kids. It was good for them to have a family outing coming out of quarantine and I was more than content to take a back seat and experience their happiness. I join in but they know I am quite a reserved person, more than happy to sit with my book, and they respect that too. My brother-in-law and I even snuck out to have a beer, under the pretence of sourcing a restaurant, to escape the familial mayhem.
Great,happy bonding .ur understanding &kind gestures/deeds enlightened them. U do possesed admirable attributes .God bless all🙏🙏
Filipinos are very kind people. Treat them with the
upmost respect and you will be treated very well.
Every time I arrived at the airport in Manila the immigration officer always said welcome back.
That makes a foreigner feel special.
Thank you for making this video. You do an excellent job. Did you study journalism?
Just curious!
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I found most Filipinos to be incredibly fake and two faced. Some are nice on the surface but will talk behind your back. Hospitality is only extended to those who can offer them something in return. Nothing is unconditional with filipinos. There's always gonna be a "what's in it for me?" attitude.
your presentation is so well spoken and well written
I was invited to a surprise birthday party for a Filipino lady ...they were all Filipino at the party ..I wad treated with so much hospitality that you would have thought I was the birthday girl ..we're in Canada
Precisely Savvy. Mutual respect is invaluable . It's prudent and imperative that foreigners observed local cultures and traditions . B humble and never try to b arrogant just because u think u have more financially or because u r d provider for ur wife/partner's need .To have a cordial relationship respect d elders and ur gfs family too.. u DNT need any capital to adopt such values but just humility .
Another excellent video Savvy👍🏼👍🏼🙏♥️
We have reached the Lolo and Lola stage of life with my wife's family. Still quite a few people older than us, but we are rapidly moving to the upper age reaches of the family. It is really an odd position to find ourselves in. And it is very true, dropping even a word or two of Tagalog into a conversation with a Pinoy will give them quite a delight. Our last trip in I corrected a 7-11 clerk who mis-used a Tagalog phrase with me. His co-worker smacked him and told him how embarrassing it was that an American had to teach him how to speak Tagalog. We all had a good laugh over that.
oh, man that is way to funny, thanks for sharing that with us hehe
Tuli,
A great video. I am a Tito to half the town. I love the way all the kids make mono or give a blessing. I have found that Filipino families are smotheringly close. I have also seen a lot of men who made a "milk" run. I love the culture. I have to sing in public. Most were warm in my direction. I have had to learn quite a bit of Tagalog. I love Filipino food. I like adobo. NEVER criticize the country. Do not discuss religion and try not to put down the church. Most will tell tou their favorite candidate and often the locals are catholic.
Most of my friends have onion skin. I have have been rude in the past. I have learned to speak less and listen more. Young people value the elderly. Most of my friends are Christian and Catholic. I love a good joke. Most of my friends are easy to hang with, regardless of age.
Filipinos don't like criticism whatsoever. They don't know how to handle it. Intellectualism is greatly frowned upon. Filipinos prefer superficial distractions and entertainment over actual problem solving or deep conversation (Why do you think the Philippines has no great authors, scholars, scientists, engineers, inventors, etc?). This creates a culture where nobody says what's on their mind but will whisper it behind everyone else's back. Gossip culture is big and it's hard to tell who you can trust. It's a very "group think" kind of culture so individual opinions are tossed aside in favor of the good of the group.
You had said some of the words to call older people. With some of the Filipinos I have talked to they will call me po. Or other people po. I am glad you made this video very informative. Thanks
I think for me the more weird and bizarre the culture is the more interested I am, and would ask tons of questions to learn about it. Although I may have trouble when it comes to food, I'm a very picky eater and won't try certain foods at all, like seafood. Excellent video, full of great information, as always, thanks for giving it straight and not try to sugar coat anything.
Hi Evan! I just saw you earlier tonight in 26th St. By the way, you have a lot of subcribers now. That's great! Congrats bro!
Once again excellent video Evan. I’ve been married to a Filipina almost 7 years now. It’s the best move I’ve ever made. When I met her family for the 1st time in person they were all warm and welcoming to me. Her mom was skeptical because of what she heard about foreign men being abusive. I didn’t blame her as I am a big ugly guy but with a loving heart. By the end of my stay I won mama over. We now divide our time between the Philippines and USA. Bought a farm and a few rice fields . I’m Jewish but attended church w, my late 1st wife was Muslim, so you can say I’m an equal opportunity husband. Lol. Looking forward to seeing more of your videos Evan. Take care and salamat
Cool to know I have Jewish brothers in Philippines 😁 nice to meet you Eliott. Where in Philippines are you guys?
@@mgoldberg777 Aurora Zamboanga del Sur in Mindano
@@elliottschertzer876 wow, pretty off the beaten path. How's life going over there?I'm coming around October to Mindanao in Davao. In case you'd be there, we could have a 🍺
@@mgoldberg777 life is very nice there. , it’s small town living , very quiet, not congested, people are extremely nice. The next big city is 30 minutes away by car. It’s Pagidan City. Anyway Happy Passover.
@@elliottschertzer876 sounds great, living in a peaceful environment. Happy Passover to you too. Do you have fb, can I add you?
The old western man I visited in PI was adored by his girlfriend's family.
This was a conservative family. Women cooked and served meals to the men.
They didn't join the table and ate after the men were served.
The old Western man was not married to the Filipina.
She was his housekeeper in Canada. Then, they became a couple. He was a racist and didn't participate in any Filipino customs like honoring elders.
His redeeming quality that trumps all faults was that he had lots of money.
Nothing is honored more than money in PI.
Such great advice for people visiting any country. Or even a different region of your home country!
Finally made to the Philippines 👍🎊🍻. Staying at Shangri-la Fort now. BGC is nice but has no character. I miss the jeepneys, trikes, street vendors and having to worry about the crooked taxi drivers lol. And don't get the oysters from Wolfgangs Steakhouse by Shangri-la. For 6 oysters, it's about 2800 php. And it was salty lol. And you need a haircut 💇♂️ lol ✌👍
On point Savvy!
My nephew is married to a western raised woman. She disrespects my sister, and even at one point disrespected my mother. Now, she wonders why we do not want anything to do with her. I knew she was trouble from the get go, when I discerned that she was the one in control of the relationship with my nephew.
Even though I grew up in the western world, I was old enough to have had the Filipino culture ingrained in me to understand that respect to elders is paramount above all things, when it comes to the nucleus of the Filipino family.
I have also instilled respect for the elders in my kids. I will get on them the moment I saw them disrespect their mother, even at the slightest. My wife and I have also told our son that it is better for him to look for a Filipina in the Philippines once he is ready to settle down.
Extreme feminism has taken hold and ruined most western women's way of thinking. Then the women do not understand why no man wants them when they hit that wall and are still single in their 30s.
Couldn't have said any better. Thanks for sharing!
Excellent advice...Thank you!
Bro. You just proved that I can start a channel when I go back and still have fun🤓 A little bit of warning: Not all, but the majority; Be careful to not take advantage of our kindness for weakness, will be hard to earn our trust for the longest time.
i am the same way, some people mistake my kindness for weakest and that is their mistake ok hehe
@@stan121midling5 ,
Thanks for your reply. Also, our culture in the past had not prepare us for future interaction the right way. For example: Meaning how to identify who is for us or against us, thus, learning the hard way who to trust.
We try to impress others to make long term relationships with our gifts, talents, service. Lastly, stop calling everyone sir, ma’am only because they are a foreigner like they are royalty. Too much TV. Fake Happiness. When stationed overseas, I noticed a pilipina who worked in a local school who became best friends with her friend who was married to a American GI. She kept calling the friends husband sir when they all hanged out on the weekend. He had to reminded her “don’t call me that, we are family”(she never called me sir because I was PhilAM (he was other). Because of her upbringing being exposed to many things to include culture from past generations, T.V. education, etc…(don’t get me started), she trained herself to place people above herself; creating insecurities. That’s all for now.
Remember:
Learn from the Past, Learn to make it better for future generations. Teach our culture the right way. Don’t always have to teach bad words or expose Subicbay, Clark Airbase. Shalom
@@geraldfirme1213 well said! I notice it as well when I go on vacation in the Philippines. My relatives become all googlie-eyed and seem to break their character when they are around foreigners. They lower themselves to the point that I have to pull them aside and ask them what the hell they are doing. I tell them, "Stop treating these foreigners as if you are their servants." I tell them just show them the culture of Filipino hospitality without the need to kiss their asses.
You are correct, they (my relatives in the PI) will always call them sir or ma'am. I tell them to stop that and just call them by their first name. It isn't a disrespect to the foreigners when they are called by their first names, it is what they are familiar with and used to.
How to make a good impression... only 1 thing you need to know... send them money!
Bingo !
Thank you my young brother, i really needed this salmat
Honestly Ivan , for ur age u r ahead dishing out relevant and up-to-date infos , reviews,guidance and sound advices.keep it up ya👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
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Wow. You're so on-point every time.
glad you think so
Evan you did an amazing job on this. Vlog! Others too btw. As you know I’m married to a Filipina and it took me a few years to understand the culture and language. Especially how we as Americans interact can be misconstrued as being arrogant. We lived in Germany where there is a huge 🇵🇭 community so I learned how to let loose and act like I’m a Filipino ☺️. It worked. I’m a pretty good karaoke 🎤 singer also. Lol!!! Hey, you showed you have some hoop skills. I love playing also 😊. We’re planning to fly there in May 2022. We’re so excited. ANA Airlines is the cheapest for now. 🇵🇭👍🏽✌🏽
yup, i agree i have always accepted people for who they are, but i also know not all people do that, which i find sad ok hehe
Filipinos have always been my favorite people. 💕🙏☀️
My partner’s family are wonderful people. Her parents, siblings, and nieces and nephews are all good and sincere people. Once they understood that I was a person of similar character they accepted me fully. The Filipinos I have met in the US have all been good people too.
Aloha, Mahalo ...a hui hou...
Spot on. Learn some Tagalog and show respect. Great video
Always
Thank you ST. Outstanding information 😎… struggling with some of the points … but noted and accurate
Im a filipino thank you for sharing this i hope a lot of foreigners watch this for them to fully understand that philippines is not just a poor country theres something more deeper to that im glad that even you dont speak tagalog you know the country well philippines has a lot of things to improve but what makes me more proud that our culture is beautiful we love to connect and respect to people one of the most important thing that a human should have
Basic common prevails.
I have be6to the Philippines 4 times so far and I had the best time of my life but when it comes to Filipino food I can't eat it because I am very fussy Easter even in Australia I don't eat all food at all, so when I am in the Philippines I survive mostly on McDonald's, KFC, jolly bee and Burger King and nothing else that's why I can only between 2 and 3 weeks because at end I get sick of the tsje away foods
Most of this correct, but also highly myopic. Why am I going to show respect when Filipinos turn a blind eye to other Filipinos yelling "joe f-u" at me along the road when I am minding my own business. Also becoming fluent lowered my status, so that tip is patently wrong.
I agree with your points. I won over my Filipino relatives by treating them with respect and being interested in their culture. My spouse’s mama loves to cook for me. She always tells me, “you are a big man and you should eat more!”. Haha… of course I love their food and am more than happy to eat my share. I love to tease and joke around with our nieces and nephews. They all seem to enjoy spending time with their Tito Roger. I love their smiling happy souls and they look into my eyes and know I am real. Because I am in a same-sex relationship, I was very worried going there to meet them. I proposed to the person I loved and had waited for 11 years until we could be legally wed here in the US while surrounded by his family on the front porch of his house. They were all accepting of us and welcomed me into their family with open arms and hearts. I can’t wait until we return to the Philippines again and eventually retire there.
My in-laws are Filipino and I call the older ladies “Aunty” or “Manung.” I had the best mil and fil in the world. They knew I took good care of their oldest son.
Thanks for the information. This video is valuable. If I ever get over there to visit, and didn't see this, I would have totally blown it with anyone I may have met.
Really helpful. Thank you my friend.
Another video well done Evan, these "tips" videos of yours should be content on flights landing in PH for new arrivals....
These traits are true everywhere on Earth. If a person has these traits they will do well everywhere. People without those traits sure can't learn them watching videos.
I wish I could find a Filipino boyfriend
Sorry there's no way I'm even trying balut.
Can you make a video that might cater to LGBT expats?
I'll be honest, again been to Mutiua and Angeles...ate rice with my hands, was a pig farm out back. 8 people living in the same house. It was like the mad real world from Chappells show. Always screaming at each other. At least the females...
Good video! Great start for foreigners to adhere to.
I wonder, what was was it that you said that was taken as rude?
Most Important as a white man, is to open wallet and watch peso's fly away into the land of smiles
My wife is a wonderful cook
The hardest part for me is going to be the food. I have spoken to my gf about it, and she assures me that it will be okay, but I am worried that her family will think badly of me when I do not eat most things (or anything).
Another great vid Evan. If people follow your advise, they definitely will do very well living in the Philippines AND they should have a great experience in the process.
Is it okay to use kuya or ate for someone younger than me?
Thank friend you have an awesome vlog im playing check up too watch all your videos im learning a lot from your videos keep up the good work its much appreciated
You are a very informative in your blogs. Kudos from California.
When in Rome.. 😊
Valuable information.
Thank you
Thank you sir. I really enjoyed that. I came back from Cebu a couple of weeks ago, and I think I ticked most of those boxes. Keep up the good work.
Family & respect are the most important things in the 🇵🇭.
I can't stress this enough. The food is wonderful
All this is good, but up to a point....you can't always do 'whatever" everyone around you is doing. :)
YOUR DOING GOOD KID I LIKE YOUR CONTENT
I respect my elders...but the hand to the forehead gesture is what apes in the jungle do.
Yep westerners respect their elders that they even send them in the home care and let them die there nice culture btw and your ignorance is highly appreciated 😏👏
Nino
I've heard American expats complain about Filipino food. I have no idea what they're on about. I think the cuisine (with a few exceptions) is very tasty.
This is my reply to your episode: Ten reasons why expats leave the Philippines. This is my opinion about your thoughts savvy. After reading all the exchanges of replies you and readers of comments on display (because replies needed click first to show up). You live in the Philippines and you enjoyed it in some degree..however, of course there must be some negatives anywhere in the world including the Philippines. But would you take responsibily ...to appease/minimize the many extreme negative thought about this country they are trying to imply generally? Because you are the one they ask!! ...Not all the Filipinos are expecting/waiting all the time for a 'hand out' from any foreigner their family member/relative involved with, you can oftenly see relatives feed by their foreign partners but mostly only on special occations/celebrations. More often they're just having curiousity & wanting to be friend to you. Many of us are farmers, fishers, sellers, drivers, mechanics, artist/painters, carpenters, decorators, beautician, technicians, musicians etc. Of course there are some lazy individuals everywhere, you even have machines even on simple dishwashings.. there are some do always thought of money in their minds, gamblers, drunkards, addicted to dangerous drugs, psychopaths, Godless..Now tell us, where in the world not having some individuals like these? America? Nope. You are the one to correct them because you started all these..but instead, you allow them to mock Filipinos and adds futher points in agreement to their saying. Be true to your conscience and experience! Do you really a witness or actually witnessing, that generally as I read all your exchanges of thoughts.. Filipinos are robbers/ lazy?.. if you are unsure, Say it to them. I know you are still young but you started this. You even suggested go ahead signal to a query to take Filipina fiance/wife just to spare them the hassles of life here in Ph.. that's Ridiculous. You victimized us with Asian hate crimes in your country not to mention other difficulties.. still you'll pursue us in our own land? And still we treat you right and respect you. Of course we know Government has issues of corruption and mismanagements! And that sincere/voluntary/unconditional love/help to needy.. that is the thing what we welcome from anyone, thank you. God may bless us all.
you copied and pasted this same comment everywhere. Get a life.
Bro cliff notes
Yeah. Correct! They should learn to be filipino or else they will still live here miserably just like how they were living back home. One ways its easier to be kind here is because people here are respectful. Its easier to be good when your surrounded by good people. So to the grumpy foreign people who likes to huff and puff on strangers like Karens… you will just end up packing your bags if you cant change. Coz nobody will want to be near you or help u if you are like that . Facts!
A very informative vlog, thanks for this!
My pleasure!
All your points are so true...best time while visiting the Philippines!
I have to go out to get "Milk" in order to visit the Philippines again. Wife refuses to go...🤣
I can't believe how lucky I am to have "met" you! You are full of amazing insider information (being American and Filipino). I can't wait to immerse myself in the Philippines, they seem like my kind of people, and I believe I will fit right in. My only two very minor concerns lol are singing Karaoke and perhaps eating different food. I am totally tone deaf (horrible even in the shower 🚿) and I am a very picky eater. But I will try anything (food) once. I absolutely love listening to all music (former nightclub dj), it's a passion of mine. But I never sing. Do people care of I tried singing, but was bad at it? 🎤🤣
Most are bad singers. We just tolerate it because we know somebody is having a good time. From time to time you will hear a hearty rocks thrown at your roof but thats it. They are just laughing for sure. Thats just for fun but nobody really gets angry unless its past bed time.
@@rubycebreros2330 Hahaha, good to know, thanks 👍.
I love and respect the Filipino culture for many years and I intend to spend at least half of my time in the Philippines when I retire
Great information, appreciate all your advice.
So fillipino culture is same as Latin just with an Asian twist?
At least from what I get from
Tita=tia(in spanish) tito=tio(in spanish)
To if you impress the family you more likely get the girl
To family oriented
To the food
My hypothesis is that the more you are around latin culture, the more you probably get used to their culture.
I'd like you to talk a little bit about what it's like for Filipinos to make friends with fforeigners PLEASESS
Cheat code is learning tagalog. You can understand the daily news on tv, understand locals who might not expect you listening to conversations.
Another great job! Thank you for all positive information. I can't wait to return next month and start looking for places to start my retirement. Props young man!
great videos very honest and informing
These are good things to know. Thank you.
You didn't mention the respect word for mother or father. Example when I meet my GF mother (which is coming soon) I know to bless but what is the respect work I call her? Thanks for your videos I enjoy them...Oh and how about if you're talking to someone you don't know like a security guard what respect word do you call them. I know to say Salamat, but do you add Po how about if the guard or sells lady is female.
Willie stuck in Seattle
Nanay, inay* ("e-nay")- mother
Tatay, itay* - father
"Inay" and "itay" are kind of deeper words. You pronounce the -ay part like in the word "aye".
But someone here in the comments section made good point about using "tito" and "tita" before you get engaged. You can ask your girlfriend which one she finds to be more suitable where you won't be seen as being too chummy ("feeling close" in Filipino).
All very well said. Be respectful and have fun. But I was wondering...... I have never tried Balut and it is something I am teased about regularly. Am I being a rude western food snob? 😅 I did try the green mango and bagoong, only once. I love dinuguan which my Filipino American friends won't eat.
That's fine (about balut). Some Filipinos don't eat it either.
As a young 27-year-old traveler like myself I've been to the Philippines about twice already seen my girlfriend and everything you know the basic things and I have no problem I love the country I respect everything especially her family and elders you know I'll do anything there except for play basketball with them because I saw how they play basketball in the Philippines and I'm good on that 🤣
First of all I thought you have to be 50+ to be with a filipina
Second how do they play basketball differently?
How far is BGC from Manila Bay?
12km, 19 minutes, from BGC to Manila Baywalk by car.
Good list. Probably the worse thing that expats (western ones) say around me is the filipino men are bad. I know they use it as a throw-away line but it definitely is cringy. The filipino men raised these amazing women that they fell in love with.
I got lost, on the fatherless family’s? It contradicts the values, you speak of.
I've listened to a bunch of your UA-cam's they are very informative and interesting I love learning as much as I can about the Philippine culture. I have a question, what would I call my fiance's mom and dad? Thank you in advance for the answer. By the way I plan on living in Bais city when I move there, my fiance doesn't want to move away from her relatives. Do you know anything about that area I guess it's 45 minutes north of dumaguete. Any information about the area would be greatly appreciated thank you.
Let me answer that for you. Start by saying Tito/Tita for Uncle/Auntie since you are not formally engaged yet. Then when properly engaged and/or married, call them Tatay/Nanay (or Dad/Mom).Those slightly older than you can be called Kuya/Ate even if you're not related.
@@SelwynClydeAlojipan I'm a bit older than my wife's mother...lol! After 10 years I still don't know what to call her but neither Nanay nor Ate seem right
Thank you 👍🏻☺️ I am a totally direct speaking person and to be honest idk how to speak about a problem without being direct? I guess then the problem can't be solve? 🤔
Most problems if not so big to deal with …are tolerated. Its difficult to disrespect elders. In most cases you just have to develop patience. Or say it in a manner that is not embarrassing anybody or else you will get hated on and feared. People will steer clear of you. You will not get the full potential of filipino living. Bec that is the way people are here. Even my mom. You cant get direct answer because as she said “its embarassing to tell people what you really like” we often relegate to the background putting forth other peoples feelings and needs ahead of our own. Because we can always think of our own in our own time and our me time…But in dealing with people always think about others first before urself. That makes the filipino different from the rest of the world. As you can see from the hospitality. Just dont embarass anyone or else you will be alone dealing with your own stuff without anybody willing to help…
I think as long as you use a respectful tone and choose your words carefully, you'll be fine.
you can be direct and still be respectful.
..there s many ways to skin a Cat...
So what if I am older then my girlfriends parents... do they need to show me elder respect? So what are the rules.?
How old are you? Are you a man or a woman
@@quenchtv5436 Man - 63
@@kellymoyes2517 actually there are no rules no need to do it as long as you dont show rudeness while talking to anyone in her family it's awkward when youre older than her parents and you do the "mano po" a hand geasture where you put their hand in your forehead a show of respect
There is a filipino wild card word that you can use to show respect to ANY PERSON in the philippines no matter what their age OR socioeconomic standing.
….that word is PO. Use that normally at the end of whatever sentence you use.
Not just for Filipinos but for everyone on the face of the planet… Best spoken line I’ve heard on UA-cam ever. Total respect. 🙏🙏🙏
Opening your wallet!
lol
So Filipinos are good people basically what you're saying, except the 25% a father's that Runaway. I find Filipinos to be like everyplace else good bad and in the middle. As you can imagine if anyone ever came to America and started bad-mouthing it they'd have a lot of problem. This street food there we'll make an American sick to their stomach and the Filipinos have food that definitely should not be eaten by Americans right off the bat. So good list but there's a big chunk of those men that run away from their families and that's not good people. I also wouldn't suggest running out and trying everything Filipinos eat good way to rip your stomach to shreds. Just my observations as somebody who's been over there half a dozen times or more and have a Filipina wife. And what they like even more than respect, is if you give him money.
have you really trued those food you are criticizing? Americans when they butcher an animal, they just get the good meat and throw away all the rest. filipinos consider that as a waste (a sin against the animal really) and use/eat all parts of the animals and there are a lot of food making use of the offal, head, toe, etc. - nothing goes to waste. Americans see this and just turn away in disgust.
Generally, american food is dry and tasteless. American food really is just slab of meat, beans, soggy vegetables, salad, very sweet cakes, hotdogs, hamburgers, pizza, etc. That is all what americans eat as they don't generally cook. The good food is really foreign cuisine.
@@rap3208 myself and other Americans have gotten sick eating street food there.. It was the first thing someone told me when I was getting ready to go there.
I live in an area that has plenty of Filipinos, I see them eating out at McDonald's, Burger King and Wendy's all the time. . They don't have a problem eating are "bad "food. Don't take it personal just pointing out some observations that I and others have made
@@walkingboss
If you've gotten sick, well, it may probably due to sanitation reasons not the due to the kind of dish itself or what it is made of. Separate the two , will you.
You're probably right. Happy?
Please. Filipinos not being direct? It’s the opposite dude. Americans are more reserve and Filipinos are more direct. Your family will tell you when your fat but never when your too skinny. I’m American Filipino. I know.
All great advice, Evan. You are doing great. 10K is just around the corner. You wouldn't happen to know where I can find a good phrase book for bisaya, by any chance? Thanks.
I think UA-cam is a good resource for that these days. Some years ago, all I could find were a few Bisaya-English dictionaries.
How to get a filipino to adore you:
1. Be white
2. Have money
3. Don't get upset if you notice they are taking advantage of you. Just let them and never confront them about it.
Follow those 3 rules and you'll be the most popular person in all of the philippines.
I'll be in Davao city April 4th. Do you know if they are still requiring the negative covid test? It says take a covid test two days before flight and the results could take 3 days to get back