This was just the video I needed to watch this evening. I've found myself feeling a bit sad in my singleness lately, with the temptation to settle for second best. When I see how Ali looks at you and how much love, respect, commitment, loyalty and laughter you share I just know its worth holding out until the right person comes along - someone who treats me no less than the queen that Ali treats Lydia like!
Also, make sure that he loves you just a little bit more than you love him. I know that may sound odd, but it's honestly the key ingredient to a successful marriage according to my married friends who all independently shared it.
I agree, loyalty is the biggest factor to a successful relationship. No matter how frustrated you are in any point of your relationship, if you are not committed to being loyal, the relationship is doomed.
Omg I'm only 3 minutes in and I had to smile at "I haven't got a very good memory. I know that you're my wife." I loved that! Classic.That's all you need to know Ali. Happy wife happy life!❤️😁🙌🏽
I have one child and that’s enough for me... I never realised it was seen as a negative thing, and was totally surprised at other peoples negative reactions to it.. especially when he started school.. other parents would question my choice telling me to have more because he’ll be lonely.. their guilt trips never affected me though and I am still happy with my choice.. my son is loved, not lonely and now a well adjusted teenager... so you do you Lydia!! whatever makes you happy🤗... raising kids is tough, especially these days..different for everyone and peoples choices should be respected.
IMO, never assume anyone wants children. Also, some people struggle with fertility and may not want to share all of it with everyone. My aunt told me that in the 1970’s she was asked constantly after she got married about why there were no children. In private she suffered multiple miscarriages and was grieving over and over. Then there are those that choose not to. I just turned 50 and never had the urge or desire. Had a best friend who was married 16 years and woke up one day at 39 with baby fever and had one child at 40 (not spoiled btw). We do have finite resources on this planet too. Having huge families is arguably not sustainable. In the US we also do not have great social services and women get sandwiched caring for elderly parents and children. Caregiving can be amazingly draining with/without some of the rewards.
I'm going through the infertility thing and have had 3 miscarriages so far, I've tried everything so when people tell me 'oh you've had too much fun already, it's time for having kids and becoming responsible' I feel like punching them right in the face 🙂 also are you considered responsible only when you've had raised kids?
I’m an only child and I have the best relationship with my mom. I wouldn’t have it any other way! (And yes I was probably spoiled, but i’m a very grounded, very grateful kind person, so a little spoiling doesn’t hurt.)
I only have one child ass I have fertility problem I always worry about my daughter being alone. We're berry close she's a big mummy's girl. Your comment made me smile. Xx
I'm exactly in the same situation ! And I think I have never wished to have brothers or sisters growing up as I had this precious relationship with both my parents :) (also agree with the spoiling thing, we can see we were a bit spoiled, but not rotten ;) )
I don't understand why people still judge women about their choice of having or not having babies. It is 2020!!! Women are not only reproductive, they are so much more!!! It is our choice if we will have children or when we will have children. Why doesn't anyone judge a man for not having children???? Lydia baby, just do you!!!
Eva Korpa It’s no one’s business but the couples!!!! I loved your response!!!! There are so many people who shouldn’t even be parents. I love when couples look at it so incredibly mature. Aloha, love and peace from Hawaii!!!! ♥️♥️♥️
I only have 1 child and he is my world. He has my whole heart and I am 100% content with only him. He doesn’t act spoiled whatsoever and is completely happy. You have to do what feels right for YOU, no one else! ❤️
I have been married for 2 years as well, but we are together since 6 yers ago. We like kids, have nephew and niece, I’m an English Teacher and a Psychologist, I work with them the whole year, every day, but having our own kids is not in our plans. Each woman and couple is free to take the decision they want. We are not forced to do anything in this life but to be happy with our lives. Do no let peolple keep asking you ab that, enjoy yourselves! You are not less woman bc of that ❤️
Same.....had my child at 34. Originally wanted 4 kids but nothing will prepare you for parenthood. Love my baby boy to pieces but we are not sure we can do it again (unexpected complications post delivery). If we not to have anymore then I am totally happy with him being our only one. He is in no way spoilt. And I do not regret my decision. As you say....you do you xx
@@Norrbottniskan you have to do what's right for you. We didn't feel ready until our 30's and I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy and baby. Don't let people scare or pressure you! 😊
onlychimerically me toooo!!! It really made me love her even more (if it was even possible) I felt like closer to her! She’s the best ❤️ So funny, intelligent and enchanting!!!
I remember that too! She even said that a couple months ago when Lynx went missing that she never saw herself surrounded by children but by fur babies instead.
Lydia’s talents: impeccable taste for clothes, furniture etc., very high aesthetic, which is a rare talent, fun, entertaining, creating amazing content 🤍🤍🤍 among many others!
Ali completely read my mind when he said Lydia has the ability to focus on goals! Yes yes yes! I’ve been watching Lydia for years and I always admire her drive! When I find myself watching her shows admiring all of her luxe items I have remind myself of how hard she has worked- Lydia inspires me to work hard to create the life I want to live
You and Ali remind me of my relationship with my husband of 27 years! Humor is a big part of our relationship success, as it seems to be with yours. We find things to laugh about every day, and almost everywhere we go (but not inappropriately, of course!!!). I have only just recently discovered your channel, and am enjoying watching it and seeing how you have evolved since you began.
The part about Ali being a social chameleon - in Psychology they call this "mirroring" and it's a sign of empathy :) I used to call myself a social chameleon based on that habit too, and learned that there's a term for it already, and it's a good thing! It helps those you socialize with to feel heard and understood.
Having children is a huge decision and they do change your life - they’re amazing but your life and your relationship with your partner changes - more so the focus is all on the child so you have to make a conscious effort to make time for each other and the person you we’re before becoming ‘mum’. I’m an only child and we’ve only got one child. I had her at 38, after a few years of trying we finally got lucky with IVF. It is hard at times (she’s just turned 2) but it’s the best thing we’ve ever done! Yes, our cream fabric sofa was probably not the best choice before kids (it’s copped a real beating) and I barely have time to pluck my eyebrows, but the cuddles and her little face when she looks at me is absolutely priceless. Also, I can’t wait to redecorate and get a new sofa!! Ali and yourself will make great parents once the time is right for you!
I really hope you don’t pay attention to these people who leave nasty comments just because they don’t agree with your way of living your life. I hope you just laugh it off!
Maybe there is nothing that has helped emancipation more then the pill or other contraceptions that work for women. Now we are in power of if and when we want to have children.
As an only child myself, now in my 50’s, daughter of an only child (my mother) and having also only one 20 year old daughter, I somehow now miss having a brother or a sister and regret not having another child. It’s not a matter of being spoiled or not, but rather a matter of being alone, as years go by and parents and grandparents are no longer with us. Like you, dear Lydia, I was never very eager of having children and that was the reason we have had our child after ten years of marriage with 35. Of course it is not easy at all to raise a child, especially after having a happy and full childless married life for ten years, but our daughter is the biggest blessing in our lives. Now I worry, that as years go by, she is going to be left alone in this world with no siblings to turn to. You and Ali are very lucky to have found each other 💕and I am sure that you would make wonderful parents, whenever you feel ready.
Please don’t pass these fears down to your child. Why would she be left alone in the world when she will presumably have friends who have gone through the same thing, cousins, aunts, uncles, a partner and their entire extended family to lean on in those times? It’s important not to unduly romanticise and put sibling relationships on a pedestal cause you’re an only child. The grass isn’t necessarily greener and the sibling relationship settles into something like an ordinary (or if lucky) close friendship as you age anyway. There’s no guarantee of a lifelong bond or support. Focus on forging closer bonds with those you know and building a strong network around you. I say you choose your family anyway.
Hearing you talk about wanting kids made me feel genuinely happy and excited! I can only imagine how much love that kid will get from you and Ali considering all the joy have given your viewers over the years!
I am an only child and for me is the best thing ever! My parents are my bestie for liiiife. I am not the one who has to say if I'm spoiled or not but I don't think so! They just took care of me on the best way they could, we traveled, we shared tones of memories together and that's the best thing ever. Also, I know people who have siblings and their relationship is awful so... There are good and bad things on both being an only child and having siblings, as you said, it depends on how the parents raise their children. I also want to have just one baby, that would be the dream. You guys, this video is everything!!! Loved it so much.
TherealIsabelBF I am so thankful you posted this. I am currently 8 months pregnant and I have hyperemesis gravidarum which makes pregnancy terrible, I have had to be hospitalized multiple times, off work, on a feeding tube, the lift goes on. I struggle every single day just to make it through. I torture myself because I can’t imagine ever going through this again yet I am really worried my daughter would resent me not giving her siblings. This makes me feel so much better so thank you so much for posting.
kaitlynnnrose I hope you get to spend this last month of your pregnancy with health and happiness, you are strong and you are giving life to another human being, that itself is wonderful. My experience being an only child has been the best I could ever imagine. My parents raised me with such a strong relationship between the three of us, they are my best friends and the ones I can ALWAYS count on. Please don’t worry about not being able to give your daughter a sibling, you are going to do your best in every situation, and it all depends on the way the child is raised, education is key. You can be best friends, travel together, go shopping together, to the cinema, concerts... Whatever! She will cherish all those moments and won’t think about not having another person to share them with cause she will have you. As I said in my comment before, both being an only child and having siblings have their good and their bad sides, and you as a mother get to choose the life you want to life and the way you want to raise your baby. Good luck on delivery and lots of health+love for you both 💕
I have only 1 child due to health issues. He is 21 now and has never missed having a sibling. We always made his friends welcome and he is fortunate to have a wonderful network of friends. He is not spoiled either, he is just well loved.
Awwwwww! Love you two. I once heard a quote about being a parent that is so accurate. It says, “To have a child is to forever have your heart walking around outside of your body”. Children are wonderful and rewarding but to become a parent is a very serious consideration. I’m so glad you two are weighing your decisions.
He sounds like my hubby,,,he remembers nothing when it comes to this kind of thing. You guys are sweet. I enjoyed learning about the two of you. Thanks for sharing.m
Kids are hard! It will flip your world upside down, some in good way some in bad. Stop judging others for not having them! I am not really affectionate either, but definitely love my girls even tho I might be a bit more stricter with them than other moms are. Whatever they decide is up to them! People need to get a life and not worry about their life decisions.
This has been up for 30 minutes and I’ve had to report over nine comments absolutely appalling if you don’t like lydias content just leave She doesn’t care about your opinions if she wants to have babies at 35 LET HER it’s her body her rights her choice This is the scary part about social media you don’t even know the behind the scenes of their relationship We see what Lydia wants us to see so half of our assumptions are just silly because we don’t even know the truth Let’s support one another ❤️
I agree, we don't need negativity in our lives. If we can support each other, and protect each other without attacking others is how I feel is the best way to be apart of any community.
Its her choice when she wants to have her child.. I had my little girl at 35.. and I think it's a perfect age!! Enjoy your life Lyds!! You have a beautiful life with your husband!! Dont listen to the trolls.. their trolls for a reason!!
You guys are lovely, just lovely! I have been married for 22 years and I have to agree, loyalty is everything in a relationship. I wish you a long and happy marriage!
My brother is in The Holiday haha! He's the handsome gentleman who Kate Winslet is very excited to *almost* have sitting next to her on the airplane. I love that movie as well and it's always fun to see my brother on screen!
I went from not wanting kids at all, to wanting and then having one, and now pregnant with my second 18 months later... If you’d told me that even 3/4 years ago I’d never have believed you! People are allowed to change their mind as often as they like. If you have no kids, or have one and no more, or decide you want and have 5 after all, it’s YOUR life and YOUR choice. You do you ❤️
We have one child, now 13 and it’s amazing. Since 10 months old he has traveled the world with us and life has just been so fun. He is now at the age where he helps at our family medical clinic. It’s just great.
This video has just left me feeling so good ! I think I smiled through the whole thing, a lot of what you said actually reminded me of my own relationship with my partner (especially the fighting part ;p) It's so nice to have such a light and funny video to watch, you should make these a regular thing :) (not that your usual content is not funny ;) )
This is the reason I enjoy going on this journey with you guys. I can relate so much to both your personalities and I fully understand how you both think about relationships and getting along whilst living together, being affectionate etc. In most ways I see a lot of myself in Lydia and hope that I can find a man like Ali that will be my forever like he is to you Lydia.
This video was so enjoyable. I loved it. You all are the cutest couple, truly in love. I found myself smiling the entire time. Even though I’m 73 years old, I just love your videos and your lovely home. Also, speaking of your talents, Lydia, you are very talented in decorating, plus putting all your gorgeous outfits together. Continue your love for one another. I wish for you a beautiful life together. ❤️Jeanette Turner, Brentwood, Tennessee, USA
Lydia is talented! She’s great at make up she always looks flawless! Not everyone is good at styling clothes that’s why stylists exists she always looked great. Also Lydia is great at capturing an audience I can watch her videos for hours!
You both are so beautiful - and not only from the outside. I really comprehend the way your thoughts and values work together! Beautiful video... love you both! Stay true, how you are.
You could make a cork garland or wreath, I’ve seen some pubs have these,.. maybe for the kitchen? I love The Holiday film as mad about the cottage! This was a lovely vlog with the both of you chatting. A good example of how couples should communicate more with each other.
LOVE THIS.....Soo honest...carefree... layed back conversation....YES... LOYALTY.....is the most important thing in EVERY relationship.... and accepting the flaws in your partner and work around them👌💞
You two are so beautiful, both inside and out ❤️ I´ve been with my man for 11 years now. Still living in our one room apartment with our dog Bonzo and my 49 plants 🤣 We don´t want kids and are very happy with the life we have. I love that you two are so honest and please make more videos together 😁
I'm the same. I've been with my partner for 18 years. He has 2 grown up boys but I never wanted any of my own. Other people seem more bothered about it than me but my family have always been great about it.
@@lucyc3696 I understand completely! It's like the greatest thing in life is having kids. For some people it might be but I have never liked kids. I love my life just the way it is and it's sad that some people just can't accept that not everyone wants kids.
Could not agree with you more Lydia. I’m 32 and pregnant with our first. I’ve never wanted lots of children (my husband would rather more) but I have HG and it’s taken over my life already so I believe it’s my choice. I adore animals and have a lovely life and feel just the one child will fit in perfectly. There is nothing wrong with that or couples who don’t have any. This is so refreshing. Loved this video - you are such a beautiful couple. Adore your laugh!
This is BY FAR my favourite video you’ve ever done. I was laughing right out loud. I’ve been watching you since the very beginning. I think you had 10 or maybe 20 videos when I found you....let’s put it this way - I binge watched them all in one or two sessions is how I remember it. You’re my relationship goal. Btw. I personally think it’s a Godsend that you are launching the way you are. Go get ‘em girl! Blessings and love from Marilyn, Canadian, in Arcadia, Florida USA 🇺🇸
Yes yes yes to all the videos with Ali .. you guys are great together and getting you both in one video BONUS x Knowing each other well is great , it also gives you knowledge of which buttons trigger reactions and not using those buttons because you can is the best advice I could give anyone, if your hurting talk about don't push a button to hurt back. Talking is always key and like you both said trust is everything. Lisa my darling wifey of 14 years this March , showed me a totally different way of Life and even though I was married before coming out lol at 40 life and Love which I had never been in before either with the right person is amazing, a good strong, healthy relationship is worth working for, I will never take it for granted. Love you both , Take care of each other 😉
I married thinking I didn't want kid's but changed my mind to on and had three. Now it's the best decision we made because I know they will have each long after I am gone. My grandkids love having their uncle and aunt and most of all it great watching the unity they all share. In Ali's words "You Do You " only you will have to raise your children.
Right as you were talking about how bad Ali's memory is. Lydia: "I had pictures of you in your boxer shorts taking pictures of the room. Remember?" Ali: ...no 😂I love you guys!
Thank you for keeping this real. This is how real relationships are. Like you said super mushy ones usually don't last too long. You guys know each other really well and trust is huge!
I have been watching ALI Videos and I Love how his vl-ogs show his side of whats going on in the same day as your v-logs , like when you were doing the Dinning room you showed the lighting in the box and after it was up and ALI showed hanging it and working on the room to make you happy when you came home !!! or your and his trips of daily life , it makes it so we know you both so YOU AN MAKE MORE VIDEOS TOGETHER ! Like shopping with him for you or him . cooking your home idk .
Love your views on children, i have one who we adore but its hard work! He will be an only child due to me loosing my second pregnancy and i hate it when people talk about only children being spoilt! Its just not the case. Fab video im normally a silent viewer x
i have always said that i'd start with one child and see if i survive that and then take it from there. and that is completely normal. and also if you don't want any children, that is okay too.
Such a nice video! You two are amazing. Lydia, you are definitely someone I'm looking up to! Keep going and, please, more sit down videos with Ali: they are so interesting and funny to watch:)
I was really proud of our cork collection until our niece asked if we had really drunk all those bottles & I felt like a complete lush. Oh bless her! Love this video, you two are so good together 😃❤️
Hi Lydia and Ali really loved watching this, now l know more about the both of you. I honestly believe loyalty and love is the most important element in a marriage. Great video xxxx
Just wanna say thanks for this! Had a case of the winter blues from across the pond but this....this was what I needed! I smiled and laughed through the entire video. I love, love, love that you guys are are so quirky,honest and genuine. Continued success to you both!💕☺️
I think they’ll be great parents. I always say the max amount of kids I want is two. Kids are a lot of work. I’m the oldest and my two youngest siblings are 10 & 13 years younger than me. I’ve helped raise them. Love them to pieces
Hey Lydia, so I stopped commenting for a while because there was just so much hate in most of the comments and it was hard to not respond to the trolls, but I feel like this video was truly relatable and a breath of fresh air for me. My husband is in the Army and he recently deployed. We had just confirmed that I was pregnant and short after he received his orders that he had to leave. Fast forwards, the birth, he’s back home after x amount of time, and we clash constantly. Prior to him leaving, we hadn’t fought as much. Now, it’s all the little things. So when I watched your channel and saw you and Ali’s interaction, it made me go “aw man, see they have it together, why can’t we be better” but to hear the things you guys argue about, are also what my husband and I are argue about, it makes me feel better. Better in the sense that we aren’t alone in the battle of “making a marriage work while balancing real life and working towards an ultimate goal, etc”. I obviously know we aren’t alone in being a couple who argue but it feels better to hear people talk about it and discuss what steps others do to maybe shine a light on what I can do better or us as a couple can do better. Thank you for making this video because it cleared my conscious and gave me a new way to approach things 🤍🤍🤍
Loved this video! Very refreshing - I love the style vlogs and vacation / work trip videos, but it’s nice to break it up with something completely different! You and Ali compliment each other very well :)
Incredibly early today. I just want to thank Carrie for the lovely email regarding the job today I was a little disheartened but Carrie was so lovely... love ya doll xx
Ali is a gentleman.The way he talks,he is so polite and gentle.
Sahar Rokni he really is 🤍✨
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This was just the video I needed to watch this evening. I've found myself feeling a bit sad in my singleness lately, with the temptation to settle for second best. When I see how Ali looks at you and how much love, respect, commitment, loyalty and laughter you share I just know its worth holding out until the right person comes along - someone who treats me no less than the queen that Ali treats Lydia like!
So true don’t settle just because everyone else is. It’s worth waiting for someone who is absolutely devoted to you. I love watching these two. 💕
Don’t settle! ❤️
This is exactly how I feel.
Also, make sure that he loves you just a little bit more than you love him. I know that may sound odd, but it's honestly the key ingredient to a successful marriage according to my married friends who all independently shared it.
@@anniebanana3698 so weird! this is what my parents say!
Lydia: “Where was our first trip together?”
Ali: “Oh, to my bedroom.”
😂 Ali’s so cheeky
R K It’s because their 1st date was in his bedroom!x
I agree, loyalty is the biggest factor to a successful relationship. No matter how frustrated you are in any point of your relationship, if you are not committed to being loyal, the relationship is doomed.
Omg I'm only 3 minutes in and I had to smile at "I haven't got a very good memory. I know that you're my wife." I loved that! Classic.That's all you need to know Ali. Happy wife happy life!❤️😁🙌🏽
“Choose what you can live with and what you can’t live without” - great advice!
I have one child and that’s enough for me... I never realised it was seen as a negative thing, and was totally surprised at other peoples negative reactions to it.. especially when he started school.. other parents would question my choice telling me to have more because he’ll be lonely.. their guilt trips never affected me though and I am still happy with my choice.. my son is loved, not lonely and now a well adjusted teenager... so you do you Lydia!! whatever makes you happy🤗... raising kids is tough, especially these days..different for everyone and peoples choices should be respected.
IMO, never assume anyone wants children. Also, some people struggle with fertility and may not want to share all of it with everyone. My aunt told me that in the 1970’s she was asked constantly after she got married about why there were no children. In private she suffered multiple miscarriages and was grieving over and over. Then there are those that choose not to. I just turned 50 and never had the urge or desire. Had a best friend who was married 16 years and woke up one day at 39 with baby fever and had one child at 40 (not spoiled btw). We do have finite resources on this planet too. Having huge families is arguably not sustainable.
In the US we also do not have great social services and women get sandwiched caring for elderly parents and children. Caregiving can be amazingly draining with/without some of the rewards.
I'm going through the infertility thing and have had 3 miscarriages so far, I've tried everything so when people tell me 'oh you've had too much fun already, it's time for having kids and becoming responsible' I feel like punching them right in the face 🙂 also are you considered responsible only when you've had raised kids?
I’m an only child and I have the best relationship with my mom. I wouldn’t have it any other way! (And yes I was probably spoiled, but i’m a very grounded, very grateful kind person, so a little spoiling doesn’t hurt.)
Of course a little spoiling does not hurt, sweetie. Enjoy your privileged relationship with your mother, it must be precious 💞
Xx
I only have one child ass I have fertility problem I always worry about my daughter being alone. We're berry close she's a big mummy's girl. Your comment made me smile. Xx
I'm exactly in the same situation ! And I think I have never wished to have brothers or sisters growing up as I had this precious relationship with both my parents :) (also agree with the spoiling thing, we can see we were a bit spoiled, but not rotten ;) )
I agree!
Same. I'm a clingy daughter to my mom lol
I don't understand why people still judge women about their choice of having or not having babies. It is 2020!!! Women are not only reproductive, they are so much more!!! It is our choice if we will have children or when we will have children. Why doesn't anyone judge a man for not having children???? Lydia baby, just do you!!!
Eva Korpa actually we do... I would tell to a man who doesn’t want kids the exact same thing I would to a woman...
@@amelhouhou1138 well I don't judge anyone for their life choices. Their life, their rules. Their choices are none of my business.
Yes Eva! Exactly!! 100% agreed!! xXx
Eva Korpa It’s no one’s business but the couples!!!! I loved your response!!!! There are so many people who shouldn’t even be parents. I love when couples look at it so incredibly mature. Aloha, love and peace from Hawaii!!!! ♥️♥️♥️
@@TheHouseofLotz thank you!!!! xXx
I only have 1 child and he is my world. He has my whole heart and I am 100% content with only him. He doesn’t act spoiled whatsoever and is completely happy. You have to do what feels right for YOU, no one else! ❤️
I have been married for 2 years as well, but we are together since 6 yers ago.
We like kids, have nephew and niece, I’m an English Teacher and a Psychologist, I work with them the whole year, every day, but having our own kids is not in our plans.
Each woman and couple is free to take the decision they want. We are not forced to do anything in this life but to be happy with our lives.
Do no let peolple keep asking you ab that, enjoy yourselves! You are not less woman bc of that ❤️
But she said she wanted 1
I had my child at 37 decided I did not want anymore. I am happy and do not regret my decision - you do you
Same at 38! I'm an only child raising an only child. No one is spoiled over here, we're all good lol
Thanks for this, I am 25 and I don’t want kids till I am 30+ and people find it odd and keeps asking of we don’t want kids soon 😆
Same.....had my child at 34. Originally wanted 4 kids but nothing will prepare you for parenthood. Love my baby boy to pieces but we are not sure we can do it again (unexpected complications post delivery). If we not to have anymore then I am totally happy with him being our only one. He is in no way spoilt. And I do not regret my decision. As you say....you do you xx
@@Norrbottniskan you have to do what's right for you. We didn't feel ready until our 30's and I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy and baby. Don't let people scare or pressure you! 😊
Marta Ferreira Pires thank you ❤️
i remember when lydia said once that she didn't want kids ! love that you've warmed up to it :) you'll be a great mom !
onlychimerically me toooo!!! It really made me love her even more (if it was even possible) I felt like closer to her! She’s the best ❤️ So funny, intelligent and enchanting!!!
I remember that too! She even said that a couple months ago when Lynx went missing that she never saw herself surrounded by children but by fur babies instead.
Yes I rember her saying she didnt want children
Lydia’s talents: impeccable taste for clothes, furniture etc., very high aesthetic, which is a rare talent, fun, entertaining, creating amazing content 🤍🤍🤍 among many others!
"Listen to your tone!! NO YOU LISTEN TO YOUR TONE!!"
Ali completely read my mind when he said Lydia has the ability to focus on goals! Yes yes yes! I’ve been watching Lydia for years and I always admire her drive!
When I find myself watching her shows admiring all of her luxe items I have remind myself of how hard she has worked- Lydia inspires me to work hard to create the life I want to live
You and Ali remind me of my relationship with my husband of 27 years! Humor is a big part of our relationship success, as it seems to be with yours. We find things to laugh about every day, and almost everywhere we go (but not inappropriately, of course!!!). I have only just recently discovered your channel, and am enjoying watching it and seeing how you have evolved since you began.
The part about Ali being a social chameleon - in Psychology they call this "mirroring" and it's a sign of empathy :) I used to call myself a social chameleon based on that habit too, and learned that there's a term for it already, and it's a good thing! It helps those you socialize with to feel heard and understood.
Mirroring is a trait used expertly by a Romantic narcissists Ali isn’t one of them.
But mirroring is an NPD trait.
Having children is a huge decision and they do change your life - they’re amazing but your life and your relationship with your partner changes - more so the focus is all on the child so you have to make a conscious effort to make time for each other and the person you we’re before becoming ‘mum’. I’m an only child and we’ve only got one child. I had her at 38, after a few years of trying we finally got lucky with IVF. It is hard at times (she’s just turned 2) but it’s the best thing we’ve ever done! Yes, our cream fabric sofa was probably not the best choice before kids (it’s copped a real beating) and I barely have time to pluck my eyebrows, but the cuddles and her little face when she looks at me is absolutely priceless. Also, I can’t wait to redecorate and get a new sofa!! Ali and yourself will make great parents once the time is right for you!
Carla Salsone this comment made me emotional I don’t even know why 😭❤️ haha
Ade S haha 😘😘
I really hope you don’t pay attention to these people who leave nasty comments just because they don’t agree with your way of living your life.
I hope you just laugh it off!
“My vagina my choice” LOVE this!!! Because it’s 10000% true.
Maybe there is nothing that has helped emancipation more then the pill or other contraceptions that work for women. Now we are in power of if and when we want to have children.
So true, bit sad though as you can see he wants more.
As an only child myself, now in my 50’s, daughter of an only child (my mother) and having also only one 20 year old daughter, I somehow now miss having a brother or a sister and regret not having another child. It’s not a matter of being spoiled or not, but rather a matter of being alone, as years go by and parents and grandparents are no longer with us.
Like you, dear Lydia, I was never very eager of having children and that was the reason we have had our child after ten years of marriage with 35. Of course it is not easy at all to raise a child, especially after having a happy and full childless married life for ten years, but our daughter is the biggest blessing in our lives.
Now I worry, that as years go by, she is going to be left alone in this world with no siblings to turn to.
You and Ali are very lucky to have found each other 💕and I am sure that you would make wonderful parents, whenever you feel ready.
Please don’t pass these fears down to your child. Why would she be left alone in the world when she will presumably have friends who have gone through the same thing, cousins, aunts, uncles, a partner and their entire extended family to lean on in those times? It’s important not to unduly romanticise and put sibling relationships on a pedestal cause you’re an only child. The grass isn’t necessarily greener and the sibling relationship settles into something like an ordinary (or if lucky) close friendship as you age anyway. There’s no guarantee of a lifelong bond or support. Focus on forging closer bonds with those you know and building a strong network around you. I say you choose your family anyway.
Family isn't always blood. Your daughter will be fine ❤
Hearing you talk about wanting kids made me feel genuinely happy and excited! I can only imagine how much love that kid will get from you and Ali considering all the joy have given your viewers over the years!
I am an only child and for me is the best thing ever! My parents are my bestie for liiiife. I am not the one who has to say if I'm spoiled or not but I don't think so! They just took care of me on the best way they could, we traveled, we shared tones of memories together and that's the best thing ever. Also, I know people who have siblings and their relationship is awful so... There are good and bad things on both being an only child and having siblings, as you said, it depends on how the parents raise their children.
I also want to have just one baby, that would be the dream.
You guys, this video is everything!!! Loved it so much.
TherealIsabelBF I am so thankful you posted this. I am currently 8 months pregnant and I have hyperemesis gravidarum which makes pregnancy terrible, I have had to be hospitalized multiple times, off work, on a feeding tube, the lift goes on. I struggle every single day just to make it through. I torture myself because I can’t imagine ever going through this again yet I am really worried my daughter would resent me not giving her siblings. This makes me feel so much better so thank you so much for posting.
kaitlynnnrose I hope you get to spend this last month of your pregnancy with health and happiness, you are strong and you are giving life to another human being, that itself is wonderful.
My experience being an only child has been the best I could ever imagine. My parents raised me with such a strong relationship between the three of us, they are my best friends and the ones I can ALWAYS count on.
Please don’t worry about not being able to give your daughter a sibling, you are going to do your best in every situation, and it all depends on the way the child is raised, education is key. You can be best friends, travel together, go shopping together, to the cinema, concerts... Whatever! She will cherish all those moments and won’t think about not having another person to share them with cause she will have you. As I said in my comment before, both being an only child and having siblings have their good and their bad sides, and you as a mother get to choose the life you want to life and the way you want to raise your baby.
Good luck on delivery and lots of health+love for you both 💕
I have only 1 child due to health issues. He is 21 now and has never missed having a sibling. We always made his friends welcome and he is fortunate to have a wonderful network of friends. He is not spoiled either, he is just well loved.
I always forget you used to smoke ‘til it’s mentioned and it’s so weird - I could never imagine you smoking now!
Loved this vid.
Awwwwww! Love you two. I once heard a quote about being a parent that is so accurate. It says, “To have a child is to forever have your heart walking around outside of your body”. Children are wonderful and rewarding but to become a parent is a very serious consideration. I’m so glad you two are weighing your decisions.
awww I don't normally comment but that was such a lovely video. just smiling all the way through! deffo would like to see more videos with both you 💕😊
We LOVE Ali 💝💝. He is the sweetest
Style. Fashion and home decor is definitely Lydia’s talent!
These are my favourite types of UA-cam videos, I just really love seeing people really in love 😊💛
He sounds like my hubby,,,he remembers nothing when it comes to this kind of thing. You guys are sweet. I enjoyed learning about the two of you. Thanks for sharing.m
Omg I have that sweater dress you’re wearing Lydia. Now I know I’m in style lol. It looks great on you. ♥️
Kids are hard! It will flip your world upside down, some in good way some in bad. Stop judging others for not having them! I am not really affectionate either, but definitely love my girls even tho I might be a bit more stricter with them than other moms are. Whatever they decide is up to them! People need to get a life and not worry about their life decisions.
Exactly, I could not agree more. ☺
I always thought I wanted 3! Than after 2 we feel like we are done! They will have one and will see!
This has been up for 30 minutes and I’ve had to report over nine comments absolutely appalling if you don’t like lydias content just leave She doesn’t care about your opinions if she wants to have babies at 35 LET HER it’s her body her rights her choice
This is the scary part about social media you don’t even know the behind the scenes of their relationship We see what Lydia wants us to see so half of our assumptions are just silly because we don’t even know the truth
Let’s support one another ❤️
Ali A totally agree some people are vile they wouldn't say it to someone they worked with or in person face to face
I agree, we don't need negativity in our lives. If we can support each other, and protect each other without attacking others is how I feel is the best way to be apart of any community.
kimberley hughes exactly it just goes to show that people are so bitter these days thinking a screen will protect them
Cassandra Anna If only we had more people like you 🥰
Its her choice when she wants to have her child.. I had my little girl at 35.. and I think it's a perfect age!! Enjoy your life Lyds!! You have a beautiful life with your husband!! Dont listen to the trolls.. their trolls for a reason!!
It’s so so true that Ali is an absolute legend when it comes to video filming & editing. His work blows me away. Stunning & talented couple!
You guys are lovely, just lovely! I have been married for 22 years and I have to agree, loyalty is everything in a relationship. I wish you a long and happy marriage!
My brother is in The Holiday haha! He's the handsome gentleman who Kate Winslet is very excited to *almost* have sitting next to her on the airplane. I love that movie as well and it's always fun to see my brother on screen!
T B ah that’s amazing! I love that film!!!!
So cool
How lovely to see a little glimpse of Ali. He seems like a really thoughtful and sweet man.
Congratulations on 2 years of marriage, you are a stunning couple. Wishing you many more years of happiness together. Really enjoyed the video xx
Smiled the whole time watching this! You can really tell how much you love each other!
I went from not wanting kids at all, to wanting and then having one, and now pregnant with my second 18 months later... If you’d told me that even 3/4 years ago I’d never have believed you! People are allowed to change their mind as often as they like. If you have no kids, or have one and no more, or decide you want and have 5 after all, it’s YOUR life and YOUR choice. You do you ❤️
I love the set up of this video, the background of your dressing room looks beautiful!
We have one child, now 13 and it’s amazing. Since 10 months old he has traveled the world with us and life has just been so fun. He is now at the age where he helps at our family medical clinic. It’s just great.
Congratulations on two wonderful years. You two are a sight to see and I’m happy for you. ♥️💜♥️💜
You two compliment each other so beautifully. You are a true inspiration ❤️
The both of you would be great parents. The way you treat Lumi. I have never seen any two people spoil a cat that way and it's so cute.
This video has just left me feeling so good ! I think I smiled through the whole thing, a lot of what you said actually reminded me of my own relationship with my partner (especially the fighting part ;p)
It's so nice to have such a light and funny video to watch, you should make these a regular thing :) (not that your usual content is not funny ;) )
Loved this! As an someone who watches a lot of UA-cam channels, the most over used phrase I hear is “I’m so obsessed with”.
OMG don’t I’m cringing 🙈
I think we neeeeed the "My husband guesses the cost of things in my closet" :D
The best part for me in watching and listening to you is how real and authentic you are...never loose that! (please)
I would love to see Ali picking your outfits for a week!
This is the reason I enjoy going on this journey with you guys. I can relate so much to both your personalities and I fully understand how you both think about relationships and getting along whilst living together, being affectionate etc. In most ways I see a lot of myself in Lydia and hope that I can find a man like Ali that will be my forever like he is to you Lydia.
I enjoyed this video so much!!! It’s lovely to see this part of both of you and thank you so much for sharing! Hope to see more of these! Xxx
This is so lovely. It’s nice seeing real people on UA-cam.
This video was so enjoyable. I loved it. You all are the cutest couple, truly in love. I found myself smiling the entire time. Even though I’m 73 years old, I just love your videos and your lovely home. Also, speaking of your talents, Lydia, you are very talented in decorating, plus putting all your gorgeous outfits together. Continue your love for one another. I wish for you a beautiful life together. ❤️Jeanette Turner, Brentwood, Tennessee, USA
Lydia is talented! She’s great at make up she always looks flawless! Not everyone is good at styling clothes that’s why stylists exists she always looked great. Also Lydia is great at capturing an audience I can watch her videos for hours!
Ali is so natural and relax , they are both gorgeous xxx
You both are so beautiful - and not only from the outside. I really comprehend the way your thoughts and values work together! Beautiful video... love you both! Stay true, how you are.
You could make a cork garland or wreath, I’ve seen some pubs have these,.. maybe for the kitchen?
I love The Holiday film as mad about the cottage! This was a lovely vlog with the both of you chatting. A good example of how couples should communicate more with each other.
You guys PLEASEEEE do a relationship advice video! You two are so amazing together! Please bring Ali over here more often ❤️
LOVE THIS.....Soo honest...carefree... layed back conversation....YES... LOYALTY.....is the most important thing in EVERY relationship.... and accepting the flaws in your partner and work around them👌💞
Just love when Ali and Lydia does videos together. Very entertaining and enjoyable.
You two are so beautiful, both inside and out ❤️ I´ve been with my man for 11 years now. Still living in our one room apartment with our dog Bonzo and my 49 plants 🤣 We don´t want kids and are very happy with the life we have. I love that you two are so honest and please make more videos together 😁
Dixi Wonderland you aren’t afraid of regretting later ? Imagine one day u want one and its too late ?
@@amelhouhou1138 No 🙂 Never wanted kids and our planet are already overpopulated.
I'm the same. I've been with my partner for 18 years. He has 2 grown up boys but I never wanted any of my own. Other people seem more bothered about it than me but my family have always been great about it.
@@lucyc3696 I understand completely! It's like the greatest thing in life is having kids. For some people it might be but I have never liked kids. I love my life just the way it is and it's sad that some people just can't accept that not everyone wants kids.
amel houhou do you have kids? Aren’t you afraid that you might regret having them one day?
Why do people ask these questions 🤦♀️
just watched the boyfriend tag AGAIN and this. we need an update, pleaseeeeeeee!!
Could not agree with you more Lydia. I’m 32 and pregnant with our first. I’ve never wanted lots of children (my husband would rather more) but I have HG and it’s taken over my life already so I believe it’s my choice. I adore animals and have a lovely life and feel just the one child will fit in perfectly. There is nothing wrong with that or couples who don’t have any. This is so refreshing.
Loved this video - you are such a beautiful couple. Adore your laugh!
So sweet! Very realistic and candid. Thanks for sharing your love!
“Listen to your tone!!” OMG that was hilarious 🤣😂😂
Such a great couple, love hearing Ali talk about you 😁
You 're the only persons I love watching a 40 min sit down Video!!! I love you together
I absolutely LOVED this video! Seeing you two being goofy together and your wee kisses towards the beginning :'D soo adorable!
This is BY FAR my favourite video you’ve ever done. I was laughing right out loud. I’ve been watching you since the very beginning. I think you had 10 or maybe 20 videos when I found you....let’s put it this way - I binge watched them all in one or two sessions is how I remember it. You’re my relationship goal.
Btw. I personally think it’s a Godsend that you are launching the way you are. Go get ‘em girl!
Blessings and love from Marilyn, Canadian, in Arcadia, Florida USA 🇺🇸
Ali's got soul. ❤😍
Ali is such a well spoken man! 💖
Even I knew Frank Sinatra was your favorite Christmas musical artist lol 😂
so fun- yes let's have a few more like this, I would love to see you guys style each other- also how a bout a set the table etc.
Really enjoyed seeing you both together! So clear how much you love each other and just great to see your chemistry xx
Yes yes yes to all the videos with Ali .. you guys are great together and getting you both in one video BONUS x
Knowing each other well is great , it also gives you knowledge of which buttons trigger reactions and not using those buttons because you can is the best advice I could give anyone, if your hurting talk about don't push a button to hurt back. Talking is always key and like you both said trust is everything. Lisa my darling wifey of 14 years this March , showed me a totally different way of Life and even though I was married before coming out lol at 40 life and Love which I had never been in before either with the right person is amazing, a good strong, healthy relationship is worth working for, I will never take it for granted.
Love you both , Take care of each other 😉
I married thinking I didn't want kid's but changed my mind to on and had three. Now it's the best decision we made because I know they will have each long after I am gone. My grandkids love having their uncle and aunt and most of all it great watching the unity they all share. In Ali's words "You Do You " only you will have to raise your children.
Right as you were talking about how bad Ali's memory is.
Lydia: "I had pictures of you in your boxer shorts taking pictures of the room. Remember?"
Ali: ...no
😂I love you guys!
I love the Holiday!! Definitely a must during the holidays🙂
LOVE the husband/wife vlog!!
Love this!! Ali is so cute and genuine! Y’all make a great couple❤️❤️
Thank you for keeping this real. This is how real relationships are. Like you said super mushy ones usually don't last too long. You guys know each other really well and trust is huge!
l love Ali!! He's hilarious and I would adopt him in a heartbeat!!!!
I have been watching ALI Videos and I Love how his vl-ogs show his side of whats going on in the same day as your v-logs , like when you were doing the Dinning room you showed the lighting in the box and after it was up and ALI showed hanging it and working on the room to make you happy when you came home !!! or your and his trips of daily life , it makes it so we know you both so YOU AN MAKE MORE VIDEOS TOGETHER ! Like shopping with him for you or him . cooking your home idk .
Always so gorgeous Lydia, you guys are so lovely together💕💕
Love your views on children, i have one who we adore but its hard work! He will be an only child due to me loosing my second pregnancy and i hate it when people talk about only children being spoilt! Its just not the case. Fab video im normally a silent viewer x
i have always said that i'd start with one child and see if i survive that and then take it from there. and that is completely normal. and also if you don't want any children, that is okay too.
Such a nice video! You two are amazing. Lydia, you are definitely someone I'm looking up to! Keep going and, please, more sit down videos with Ali: they are so interesting and funny to watch:)
I was really proud of our cork collection until our niece asked if we had really drunk all those bottles & I felt like a complete lush. Oh bless her! Love this video, you two are so good together 😃❤️
Thank you LYDIA for this video with Ali.Such a great moment !
Hi Lydia and Ali really loved watching this, now l know more about the both of you. I honestly believe loyalty and love is the most important element in a marriage. Great video xxxx
Just wanna say thanks for this! Had a case of the winter blues from across the pond but this....this was what I needed! I smiled and laughed through the entire video. I love, love, love that you guys are are so quirky,honest and genuine. Continued success to you both!💕☺️
Thanks for talking about your social anxiety struggles, super relatable 💕
Ah I didn't know you used to figure skate as well! So cool :)
I think they’ll be great parents. I always say the max amount of kids I want is two. Kids are a lot of work. I’m the oldest and my two youngest siblings are 10 & 13 years younger than me. I’ve helped raise them. Love them to pieces
Hey Lydia, so I stopped commenting for a while because there was just so much hate in most of the comments and it was hard to not respond to the trolls, but I feel like this video was truly relatable and a breath of fresh air for me. My husband is in the Army and he recently deployed. We had just confirmed that I was pregnant and short after he received his orders that he had to leave. Fast forwards, the birth, he’s back home after x amount of time, and we clash constantly. Prior to him leaving, we hadn’t fought as much. Now, it’s all the little things. So when I watched your channel and saw you and Ali’s interaction, it made me go “aw man, see they have it together, why can’t we be better” but to hear the things you guys argue about, are also what my husband and I are argue about, it makes me feel better. Better in the sense that we aren’t alone in the battle of “making a marriage work while balancing real life and working towards an ultimate goal, etc”. I obviously know we aren’t alone in being a couple who argue but it feels better to hear people talk about it and discuss what steps others do to maybe shine a light on what I can do better or us as a couple can do better. Thank you for making this video because it cleared my conscious and gave me a new way to approach things 🤍🤍🤍
Loved this video! Very refreshing - I love the style vlogs and vacation / work trip videos, but it’s nice to break it up with something completely different! You and Ali compliment each other very well :)
Incredibly early today. I just want to thank Carrie for the lovely email regarding the job today I was a little disheartened but Carrie was so lovely... love ya doll xx
What Job and Carrie