Chrissy and Jim Jones: When A Man Won't Marry You!
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Men stay with you for 8-9 years refusing to get married then marry the next woman in 6 months.
Omg yes....so true! You be looking like what did she do that I didnt?🤔
@@candacejones1439 this happens to so many women it's crazy how men think
Facts!
Facts👏👏👏👏👏
I know....it happened to me. I was with this dude for 8 yrs had 3 kids living together and playing house. He put a ring on my finger after 5 yrs of being together only because I demanded it. 3 yrs later...no marriage and putting up with bullshit. I put his black ass out and a year and a half later...he's married and his wife made him come tell me. I was so hurt but handled it like a Woman. Being mature and letting them know that I was happy for them. He was totally shocked by my attitude toward it. Nobody sees me sweat..I'm so happy that I made the decision to leave. I got married a few yrs later. Had I wasted my time with him I would not have met my husband. DONT WASTE UR TIME LADIES.
It will sting to those who don't want to hear the truth. Chloe is correct... again met my husband and was married in less than 2 years. Was married over 20 years until he died. He was about his business and provided for us in life and death. He's been gone for 6 years and I'm still being provided for. Our kids are grown and educated now and everytime I wrote a tuition check to pick up the slack from what the scholarship didn't provide. All I could say was thank you God and thank you baby.
Wow, that’s a blessing! You had a great husband!
Yes ladies I was blessed. Now I'm dating again. Theses men are out here spitting that remedial game!! I had to redevelop my tight cut off skills from back in the day. OG triple OG. Stay beautiful and know your worth my young sisters.🥰
Wow, you married a good man
Sorry for your loss....
We dnt fukjng care move on
I heard of a woman who left her man after 10 years because he took too long to propose marriage to her. She shortly met another man who proposed marriage a short time into the relationship. A year later they had their first child. What a blessing to wake up and move on from an indecisive 🤷♀️ man
2020 time for a change,I really need it after a wasted four years
This video is a wake of call,I was not wasting that long of a time to beat it
So basically the other guy is a simp
@Marly B Yes
@Marly B I would say the same thing about men and it's called being irresponsible...Stores do have condoms
I think I was only 17 or 18 when I first watched Love and Hip Hop New York, and Jim wouldn't marry her. Now here I am at 29 married with 2 children and he STILL won't marry her...
Brit Brit WHEWWWW CHILEEE
Same! (Except no children yet lol)
😂
Wow! Lol...smh
Damnnnnn... point taken😌
She's letting a dude that's 5 years younger than her determine her life.....no kids or marriage at 48....🙄
A Moore She’s 48 now😯😦😮😧
@@velvetpanther7032 yesss.....🤔😑.
Wow. Smh.
A Moore oh wow she’s 48 now
@@abbybritish yeah, I had to look it up.. and I was like man that sucks...I know someone is gonna be like oh well..... I can't relate but, I know she can't feel good about LETTING him string her along..while the whole world is watching...she needs an intervention....
"Men are not our friends, they are our investors.." memorize this ladies
Classic ❤️
I like ☺
@@rons2285 someone's jealous 😂
BlessedVivi whoooooo this is powerful!!!!!!!!!!
Lam ise no but from the looks I’d have a lot of motivated workers if I choose the path
Chrissy was a fool to propose to that man.
And she still looking like a damn fool!!!!
@Forever Me In my opinion. She looked like a fool because Chrissy kept asking Jim to marry her. He wouldnt so basically shes begging him when he doesn't want to marry her. So when she proposed to him I believe that's what makes her look like a fool. Chrissy is absolutely beautiful maybe he will propose to her she clearly loves him.
I think about that each time I see her with him now....WHAT was she thinking. As a matter of fact, if she felt she had to go to such lengths SHE should've had her wake up call that it was just time to move on.
@Forever Me No it isn't...but traditionally, if you're going to be a pursued woman wooed and courted by a provider and man's man, what would I look like proposing to a man? I'd rather let HIM feel ready to marry me and be the one he desires to make me his wife and prepare to propose accordingly as oppose to me trying to move things along is the point. I'd want him to be in his role and WANT it to be so, hence a proposal. Chrissy's act of proposal was odd and foolish being that SHE KNEW he didn't want marriage and yet she proposed and in front of all their friends and family at a party for him where he stood pausing awkwardly before accepting, likely to save her from the embarrassment of again telling her that he wasn't ready. But hey nowadays people want to re-write status quo and step out side tradition to the point of making otherwise abnormal, nontraditional approach or things/situations deemed otherwise taboo into the norm.
I saw that episode. I wondered about her throughout the years and this video answered my question. Invest in yourself and get that respect due you.
Ladies, when meeting a man the very first thing you should examine is his background. See if he comes from a good home, his morals and values, his plans in life. I truly believe within 5 minutes just by asking him those things you will be a able to tell if he is looking for marriage or not!
Soo true!!
Love this❤
Chinwude Tv yes yes yes!!!!!!!! In a nutshell!
So true! I especially see what kind of relationship he has with his mother.
Chinwude Tv
His home it is important but the most important thing is knowing how he threats mother dearest.
My dad just died a few weeks ago. His gf of 20 years got nothing because he didn't have a will. She was always angry and mean towards us so of course we aren't feeling very generous. Ladies....get married don't stay girlfriends
Appreciate the advice and I'm sorry for your loss.
ashlinicole10 the funny things there will be people still saying the marriage certificate is just a piece of paper. Right there is a good example of why, it's important !it protects both parties from such things and you have legal right to claim and say regarding your spouse. Why are women so silly with these things
"gf" of 2 whole decades tho🤦. Rip & she was always angry because she was miserable,resentful & most likely your late dad wasn't as generous with her @ all
Condolences on your loss, Dear. And this is exactly why I counsel the young women on this topic but do they listen....Its said to watch.
Umm... You don't need to be married to have a will. And two, why would you say such a heinous thing about your father when him not having a will means you get whatever he had? You are a despicable child.
“Marrying a dusty is like hustling backwards” !!!!! Preach
"Men are not our friends, they are our investors". I felt that in the depths of my soul.
yeah i stoped looking at wemen as friends too. u can have the best personality but imma still pick the young legal aged woman over u. ur personality doesn't matter cus were not friends. since im an investor, il invest in legal age youth, i can't see myslf dating a girl thats 23 or older. of course im still nice to these wemen that are 23 and older but il never stick my dic in em. iv seen wemen above 23 who look very good but im still not gotta put my dic in em cus im like that
@@youtubedeletedmyrapmusicch2682 I'm sorry that your mother did not hug you as a child and that you have border line personality disorder. Stay strong.
@@virtualrealitystudy7114 🤣
Virtual Reality Study I know. Damn. That was a TRIGGER.
i love my love, when i get rich imma get her a house
You can’t give me a lifetime commitment (kids/children ) without the lifetime commitment (marriage )
Very true and 100% facts...if a man don't want marriage b4 kids.. I'm out...with the quickness...
Chloe's info is priceless
Tranae Alexander it's like the structure of life has been completely reversed. Now it's women and men with children of someone else. No thought of marriage. Seeing marriage and commitment as wrong and not natural and realistic. That dysfunctional relationships of any kind brings "drama" and makes for a reality show life. And excitement. Life has become a deviant display of more dysfunction the better. But maybe it's just me
Ms. Tranae - This needs to be put on a T SHIRT....
Soyin B. Luxe right
Tranae Alexander THAT PART!!! 🙌
THANKS, I NEEDED THIS! IT'S BEEN 12 YEARS AND HE HAS EVERY EXCUSE WHY HE CAN'T GET MARRIED. I JUST WENT AND PAID DOWN ON MY OWN PLACE, CAN'T WASTE ANOTHER MINUTE W/ SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T REALLY WANT ME. IT'S TRUE BECAUSE IF HE DID WE WOULD'VE MADE MORE PROGRESS. LADIES DON'T BE ME OR CHRISSY!
@SoulEnthusiast THANKS
Money, He had been married before, His job, my family, my attitude and anything that went wrong no matter how small
Kail Jones God will bless you my sister, just pray and ask God for wisdom 🙏
Congrats girl. Now the hard part is ahead of you:
- get ready to say no and block him bc he WILL come back saying he is sorry or even propose
- ignore the little voice saying you're made a mistake, no one will want you, you will be alone etc.
- raise your standards and be real with yourself. Over the 12 years you KNEW those were just excuses but you CHOSE to believe him. Recognize your role and promise yourself to never allow that ever again.
You can do it! I wish you the best!
Im happy for you. Congrats
The number one cause of people getting strung along for YEARS in a relationship is hope. People find themselves in this position because they are holding on to that glimmer of hope that one day they might get the validation they are hoping for. For some people certainty is boring.Nothing keeps a person holding on harder than hope.
mann
Major facts 💯💪. That & "potential"
@Black Knight Fool lesbian or not what she said is facts💯
Yep that nasty habit called hope to quote a certain poet
ms. X And women overinvest. So they feel like they must stay to reap the benefits etc from her investment.
Yes let’s talk about it. Some women are thinking they have done the work because their married before a certain age. Ladies. Dusties do not count. I’m sorry. 😴
😂😂🤪
Denise White I’ve always said this too. So many times they brag about how long they’ve been married, but when you assess their husband he’s absolute trash. They’d be better off sitting pretty and single, waiting for a man that will treat her like the prize!
OMG, and these are the very women who are ecstatic about being able to keep a man. I'm like sis he needs somewhere to stay and a car to drive.
Why do I know someone like this unfortunately? 🤦🏾♀️😣
Denise White Goodness! You said what I have been wanting to say for a long time!! I have a friend with an under employed hubby of 20 years and she refuses to address the elephant in the room. She just keeps it pushing paying for vacations, paying all of the rent, and forcing him to pick up side hustles to help out with their kid. She tries to keep the dream up even after all of this time. Her mom did the same thing. Her dad was a “side hustle” king and never had a real job, but the mom took care of the family. I see that and keep my standards high. I made the mistake once because he had a good job then flipped the script. My new requirement includes a mental health evaluation, a 401k, and proof of longevity at a job or two. Proof of income and a good credit score is also a must! IJS 🤷🏿♀️
She is speaking wisdom! I am divorced from a ten year marriage. He married me within 2 years. It didn’t take him long al though we were very young🤦🏽♀️I will be getting half of his pension when he retires in a few years. I was 25 when I got married and now I’m 46. I stayed home and took care of our boys as he desired. One of our sons has a life long disability. If I was just the mother of his children without marriage I would really be in a hard place but it’s still rough! Listen ladies to her 🙏🏽💪🏽sn he’s remarried and he still provides as he should under the circumstance
Funny how you got females on here saying "ThEy KnoW wiThiN 2 YuRrS!" lol
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@@bnwo in a way I see what you're saying because they are still not married. But I see her point as well that although they are not together she still gets something from it.
N.W.A. I didn’t know about the 2 year thingy it just happened to happen within 2 years 🤷🏽♀️
So. 1991. Awww thank you we are well 🥰
Don't even date a man u have to explain marriage to. Date a man who already gets it.
My brother-in-law wanted to walk & not pay my sister anything. So my sis hired a really good divorce attorney. The outcome was that her ex-husband had to pay an exit fee:
-6 figure divorce settlement
-Alimony for the next 10 years
-Child support
-Half of his 401K
-And Half of his pension when he retires
BOOM!!!!
My sister really did love him so she sees a therapist. She has the money to see a really good therapist to help her get through the mental anguish
But financially she’s SET
I am also here to support her emotionally but I know she will be ok. I’ve told her to start listening to your videos 😊
Wow 😍🥰 A true fair tale lol
I am happy for her.
...and despite the mental anguish, because SHE WAS MARRIED to the man, he couldn't walk away THAT easily and she was allotted what a WIFE can otherwise have in the event of a divorce. What would Chrissy get talking about how "marriage isn't for everyone" despite the fact that SHE went through such lengths of proposing to the guy (?).
That's what he gets for getting married. Jim Jones isn't no fool. Chrissy ain't getting chit.
@Merlene Taylor Only even considered with a written cohabitation agreement, so good luck with that.
I’m married but if I was single or dating... never ever ever would I ever take myself on a knee and beg some man to marry me. Hell no! I’m the gift and too precious. 🤨
Me either
Good for you
Women proposing marriage is more common than you think. Maybe they think the love is mutual so it doesn't matter who pops the question.
I see this all the time and for the life of me I never understood it. My grandfather and uncles used to tell us girls that it doesn't take a man all day to figure out if a woman is THE ONE. If he is stalling it is usually because he is just waiting to see what better comes along.
Yup...MY HUSBAND said the same thing...coming from a man who initially thought he wasn't going to get married. He said point blank that a man knows immediately or at best within 6 months if he wants to make a woman his wife and certainly won't hold her more than five years as his "girlfriend". Hence another point he made is if he goes ahead and propose, the woman should get right on it and plan for her wedding (or however they will get married) because the moment she gets comfortable being what I refer to as a "forever fiance'" (still engaged by the 2 year and beyond point) so does he because in essence as he sees it, he has done his part by proposing...now it's up to her to get the formality of planning her wedding in order and just filling him in on the time, place, and cost. He said if anything, the couple just agree upon the wedding date but if she's waiting on him to get the ball rolling, she'll basically be doing just that....waiting.
@@lkofie6670 👏👏👏👏
men are only practicing hypergamy (the male version)! You can't have it both ways, hypocrites!!
Preach 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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I'm 35, never married and no children. I would rather be left alone than be dragged with lip service. Men/people talk a good game, but with no actions. It sounds good, but I don't see anything. Men are WEIRD!!! I peeped the game first hand with my father. I can't even be mad at him bc the lady he was dating was doing the absolute most. Sad, they took international trips. She met the family and vice versa. What really stuck to me, my father stated that I never told her I wanted to get married or marry her. Damn, but they did all the things couples do. He dropped her after like 2 years, and he married another woman within 1 year. That was my WAKE UP call. A man will drop you like a bad habit when he finds the right one and marry QUICK. I call it back pocket people. They put you on hold and play house until the right one comes along. I'd rather be left alone until the right one is ready. It's not rocket science, it's simple . Smh Ladies keep your options, eyes and ears open. Ask questions!!!
True
I think men know within one month, maybe less if they are going to marry you or not, so ya.. don't waste time! I think some men even know 'the one' at first sight!
Tara O you’re absolutely right!! Asking questions is an absolute must!!!
@@amandaspaintinglessons9908 Yes, I believe it! I know when someone isn't right for me. Trust, if a man never brings up marriage or brushes it off when asked. Don't give your all until you have the ring🙅🏾♀️
@@AnotherShyFlower Yes! Crazy thing, people don't ask questions. Strange smh I personally need to know, I'm too old at this point to waste time.
Chrissy went from telling everyone that her and Jim were working towards marriage and children, to saying it was no longer a priority. If you set standards and stick to them, men will have no choice but to step up or step on. Even my toxic ex was offering to marry me, because he knew it was a requirement 🥴🥴
Aint that right.
And she's lucky he didn't step on because let's be honest, Jim Jones is a legend. He could have done a hell of a lot better for a main chick (and probably is because he's has to be supplementing his lack luster hood wife with groupies.) Having standards only applies when you have options. If you don't have options, you can't have standards, which is exactly what this female found out. This is why successful black men don't date black females. As a result of a successful black man's increased options, they will adopt standards that black females can't meet, which is why I always chuckle when black females aspire to acquire a successful black man because him being successful will guarantee that he will not date you.
N.W.A. The same goes for black women are ten times more successfully than black men as a collective. We dominate in higher education and every field. So we don’t need to settle and lower standards for black men as a collective either. We can go where we are celebrated. On this channel, we are taught that as black women we don’t have to settle for black men that don’t want us we can swirl too or get with a black men that values us.
@@Mjalwayzicon19 lol swirling? where did anyone say anything about swirling? Chloe didn't even say anything about swirling, so how did swirling get into that little self hating dark skinned mind of yours? Black females are so obsessed with swirling they literally see it everywhere 😂
She just gave up because she knew since 10+ yrs ago that man wasn't nor ever will wife her
10 years is an actual marriage.... divorce him in your head and move on, girl lol
Marie N that's the problem. It's very liberal to date and have been in long term relationships. But the most conservative thing to do is to get married and have a structured family of two parents with children. It's been glamorized and considered to be the new normal of not having to "settle down" or "settling". Lots of people see that the "paperwork" and that "piece of paper" is a "death sentence" Because it's harder to get out of something that is considered "a lifetime" But maybe it's just me?
Lol....
Denise Jenkins The problem with this and how it relates to hypergamy is that with dating long term like that you have not efficiently secured the bag to protect yourself to the highest degree. An example is Lauren London not being able to get as much of Nipsey Hussle’s earnings and estate because she wasn’t a wife on paper. That wife status is more than just the label.
Ocean Flower True but it’s no where near if she was legally married to him. That’s what hypergamy is about. Securing the bag fully 🔒
LOL...THANK YOU...I AGREE...Girl, just go forth and let go of your pride. You already done all you could and to no avail so now in your 48 year old wisdom, don't make marriage a "priority" anymore for the two of you because now, it's time for her to make HERSELF the priority.
Invested my best years on a dusty that said marriage was just a piece of paper. I'm 36 now, but no children and I've taken good care of my weight and femininity. Men aged 20s-40s show interest in me, so it is not too late for a hypergamous future. Glad I found this channel during this single phase!!
Thanks, I'm 36 and single...I needed this and received it💝
Better 36 than 56 you are at your PRIME now go get it!!💕💴💵💰👰🏻👨🏽⚖️
Lol funny how you describe them as "guys in their 20s" rather than guys who have resources, which is what that "hypergamous lie(f)" is supposed to be all about, right? You're acting like a man. It's your youth that's important, not the dude. You immediately know something is wrong when a dude in his 20s is interested in a woman older than him. So, good luck with that.
You still young and fertile sis!! You can bag a good one!! Many blessings to you
@@AB-qv9ku Young and fertile? Why lie? Any pregnancy would by definition be a geriatric pregnancy. That's not me talking, that's science.
I’ve learned that in relationships, that I never put my wants on the back burner for love, what I want is a priority & if he doesn’t want it, then we are not for each other.
@Anthony Morrison *bye
If you're gonna troll, do it properly boy.
I wish I could upvote this comment a thousand times
Sis it’s really that simple! Idk why so many women conflate love with martyrdom. Loving a man does not have to come at the expense of your own wants and needs. Perfectly stated!
Also, you’re gorgeous! Make sure you don’t let any of these dusties breathe the same air as you, Queen ❤️
ilysaportax33 Omg! Don’t make me cry. 😭 You just gave me a word from my word. Thank you so much and I hope you have an abundant year in 2020.
Reesha Pretty girl thank you, Sister! We’re really all we have in this world! Stay woke and stay blessed ❤️
Marriage is a business deal a man who doesn’t invest in you can’t be taken seriously👑
It's sad that people see marriage as a business because that is not originally what it was created for smh
You're 100% right! Only the clueless will disagree. The number of women who had their lives flipped upside down due to their husband's infidelity is obscene. Same goes for the women who can relate to the movie "Acrimony". People kill me with this whole "love triumphs all" mess. Let's not sit here and pretend like money is not an important factor when it comes to marriage, relationships, dating, or even just screwing for the one night. Shit, say you wanna hookup with someone for the night... No crib of your own? Ok money for a motel, no? How bout in the whip, or do you rely on the bus???
On that note, YESSS!!!!!!! It's business if you care about your welfare and security. In the real world, love don't matter.
@@bambidaydreamer3 facts! 👏🏾👊🏾🔥💯
And that's why men dont marry women because it's a business deal and why invest in a woman when I can buy real estate stock and etc
tworains2 we don’t want you so don’t take it so personal DUSTY
Jim is just waiting to marry the woman he always wanted
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I’ve been saying this. He doesn’t want to marry Chrissy at all. Chrissy is comfortable not a challenge to him. I can guarantee you he probably had a thing for yandy back in the day but yandy wasn’t having it. If Jim has to pick he’d choose yandy. Chrissy May y’all that y’all but she’s not the women for Jim and Jim ain’t the man for her.
@@ashtonjmonroe6030 Period.
A white woman. That's what most or some of them are doing now. Am I right? 🤷
Melissa Lawrence YES
Been there, done that. Gave away my prime years (20s and 30s) to men that had zero intentions of marrying me. Now I'm 40, wishing I could get the time back. At least I know better now. Hopefully it's not too late for me. 😪
It's not late at all I'm 41 and having a good time, and won't let another man waste a second of my time again.
Never too late, now you know better. Better be single than married wrong
Same here sister,have to be strong and trust that God will make a way
😫😭😭 I gave 29 to 35 years to a man. No dates, flowers or consistent calls.
It's not, I'm there right with you. At least our eyes are now open
Yep! I am sure Lauren London wished she was Mrs. Nipsey Hussle because she would have been more powerful in decision making after his death. Marriage is Serious Business and I will settle for nothing less.
They were married I believe they had a private ceremony and told no one
Exactly she's now stilling the bag
Nipsey was married to noone
exactly! shes entitled to nothing! no sir
Wow so what’s going to happen with his assets?
Am going to end a 4 yrs engagement with my fiance, i loved him but his no more the man i see a future with so plz girls pray for me💪
Edit: i end it and i can't describe how happy i am i have been working on myself since then and the results are amazing. The funny thing is that i was crying when i wrote this comment 8 months ago and here i am smiling today while am editing it so thank u all for your supportive comments and likes ❤
Sarah Adam you got this girl ❤️
Good job for putting your needs FIRST!!!
@@agents3409 it was a struggle love as chloe said, he wasn't financially ready to marry and i thaught that he had potiential until i realized after 4 yrs that he's not ready yet, he has being always supportive and caring to me but not motivated and ambicious as i desired but atleast i have learned my lesson at a young age and i can start again but with more wisdom ❤
YOU GOT THIS! Have faith and don't be discouraged. I left a 3-year relationship, found a new man with good career and work ethic, engaged in 8 months, got married in 7 months after that.
Sarah Adam SIS YOU GOT THIS
I am a stay at home wife, he retired (he loves to say that) me at 35. He gets pride from that. He said he knew I was the one within the first few months. We have been happy and married for 15 years now.
I wish I heard this when I was 20! Thank you for being a mentor to the youth!
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I have said, “Men are not our friends” for years. Many men will do what you allow them to do. If you put up with years of foolishness, they will continue the behavior.
debra belton Unless that lady “friend” helped build his legacy by contributing in some way. And don’t be surprised if they “dated” at some point. Most of my male “friends” are guys I dated but didn’t sleep with. That’s the secret ingredient.
Eternity With Christ Only if you didn’t have sex with them. But even then they are hoping to smash someday.
Yes I have this debate very often. 9 times out of 10 if he's seen you naked. He isn't your friend..... 💯💯💯
debra belton Yup, Exactly.
TruthFan that’s a true fact till a certain extent. Just gotta take time in a relationship. Get to know each other before doing any jumping.
This video makes me so thankful! I'm truly blessed! I've been a stay at home mom/housewife for 6 years now. When hubby and I were dating, I had my career and we got married within a year... the second I became pregnant and started to get sick, he swept me off my feet! "Just rest and grow this baby" he said. Here we are six years and 2 babies later, still haven't been back to work! & guess what, we both want it that way!😌 I take care of him and the kids, and he takes DAMN good care of me. I do deal with A LOT of jealousy from his mother and aunties though, they're all single.
Ive become more excited these days focusing on myself...leveling up my mind, spirit and body. Means more to me then what any man can give.
A Copeland Say it louder so the people in the back of the room can hear 👂!!! God Himself and my Self-love/care is exactly where I’m at and will always need to be. Everyone and everything else comes secondary. Bless your heart 💜
A Copeland right on👏🏾👏🏾
I am at the same place right now! I am loving it!
@@SwanTheQueen same here and im not giving it up
A sure fire way is to not carry before you marry. Men don’t see the point of marriage because women are freely carrying on that man’s lineage with no requirements. Giving the man a baby is your gift to him. It’s your bargaining power. Don’t just give it up freely. Surrogates are charging big bucks for a reason 😴
Oh Chloe this was painful to listen to. I was with my ex for 10 years gave him the best of my youth. Broke up with him as he wasn't prepared to marry me. Now at 34 it's a harsh reality I wasted so much time I can never get back. The only thing good that came out of it I didn't give him any kids. My motto was no marriage no babies. Nevertheless it's a hard pill to swallow as I'm still no closer to marriage & feel if I walked away sooner I may had a better chance of marriage. I still have hope & being subscribed to your channel & being completely hypergamous I'm confident I stand a chance 🤷🏾♀️
I am so happy for you Ms. JAH...you are blessed of GOD, my mother wasted over 40 years and finally left him at 60 years of age, and she was NEVER ABLE TO meet another man to marry. The men she met at 60 had grands, baggage, some only wanted to get married because they have no pension or 401K...so the selection was very limited. She is ALONE Today with regret.
@@sunshine32151 at 60 years old a woman cannot leave it to CHANCE meetings she would have to get on a dating site and if she refuses then she will be alone chance meetings in small circles don't work. She can meet a companion her thinking has to change let her know that as a man thing is so they are so if you think your old then your Age-old. I worked with a woman who was 60 years old at the 58 she met a man on Match married him put in 6 months retired within that year and they moved to Texas and they are still married in that was 5 years ago so it can't happen all depends on the chances you willing to take.
You're still young
Jah Jah .. it’s okay at least you know now but that’s why it’s important for women to date multiple men in that time. Not sleep with. Date. You’re either single or married.
Girl I feel you! For me, it was 8+ years and I'm 38. I wish I knew this years ago. That's why I'm grateful for this channel, because I'm learning and trying to thrive . Good luck!
When a man does not want to marry a woman who loves him for years, he didn't want it from the start. A man truly knows who his wife will be. Jim knows that Chrissy treats him as the prize. Ladies, this video is a cautionary tale for all of us; lets keep femininity in the forefront everyday. Thank you Chloe_😍🙏👏👏💄
Exactly, that's why he stays with her.
He probably wanted something light skinned and somehow found himself trapped with this dark skinned female. I was really surprised this is Jim's "wife" or whatever the hell she is. You know he had some chances to get with someone really pretty and light skinned when he was at the peak of his fame.
N.W.A. You are like a turd 💩 rolling in the wind 💨 ✋
My family told me after six(6) months of dating, a man and a woman should know what the next step will be. After dating my husband for 4 months, he wanted to meet my family. A year and a half later I was a Mrs. best 3 years so far!!!
"A man does not need a decade or more"....and..she's a pretty lady....she should cut her losses and level up!!..send her a link to the channel😉...
You read my mind! Chrissy should be sent a link 😁
You read my mind, someone should send Chrissy a link to Chloe's channel.😁
@@SagRising19 😄
@@bnwo Wow, you must be so unhappy. Are you trying to hurt bw's feelings?
StephL but does she know this is her last chance her battery 🔋 life is running on empty.
She gave her best years. So sad such a waste. He broke her down, even her hopes dreams and desires. I bet not ever.
@Mekah L I can't even argue. Nothing but straight facts. And I know those who love her were telling her to RUN. Hell after we saw them on L&HH the world was telling her to RUN!!
It was self inflicted,🤔
It wasnt "self inflicted" as she wasn't in a relationship of delusion with her self. But it was definitely self approved.
Girl this video was a WORD!!
I am 22 young, traveling, living my best life and you’d be surprise how many grown ass men TRY to trap me and have they kids
NOO SIRRRR.. NOT ME
Keep enjoying your life
When Chrissy asked him to marry her! His response was “ I’m with you” I burst out laughing loud , what kind of response was that? That alone said enough! He wasn’t gonna marry her! He really thinks she’s A joke now!
I just think she settled. And she is very masculine in her speech, body movements, likes to get into fights doesn’t have a quiet spirit. And she is very Angry.
She has every right to be angry. Look how Jim and his mom treats her!
@@michelleburkes2535 she doesnt have any right to be angry. Let's be clear she can leave him but she hasn't because jim has money if it wasnt for that I doubt she would even be with him. And that's the reason why I dont think he wants to marry her it doesnt benefit him
@@thekid8224 facts
The Kid how much money tho? He hasn’t had a hit in years! She’s drawn to the image. He’s not a great rapper IMO whenever that one hit record was out years ago
Any man that puts you in the "talking stage" for too long is a red flag. In your 20s(3months ) and 30's (30 days), I had a coworker(she's white, this is important bc women think only black men waste time) who was with her boyfriend(white)for 5yrs and every time she asked for a ring he would give her a dog(they have 3 dogs now). Till this day 10yrs later he still has not proposed bc marriage is "just a piece of paper". It hurts me to see any woman go through this but, leave him,even if you have to cry for a year. Chrissy is a cautionary tale.
Slow Down, internships should be 2 years
The guys that come here are so weird. It’s like your at the beauty salon and they just come in and sit there ear hustling and trying to jump in the conversation. Men are weird!
i enjoy chloe's production, delivery and humor...nothing weird about it
@@clarity9405 Hi Clarity! not you
@@wilmatouw4397hi and thank you!
They are feminine men..
Chrissie went from kingpin to rapper.. after her first guy went off to prison. Unfortunately, she didn’t choose the right rapper and was stuck with mediocrity. It’s nearly too late for her as she’s almost 50. For any ladies 35+, the goal should be older men ... this way you’ll always be the younger & hotter wife. Looking forward to the new season with Chrissie as they were the pioneers. Guilty pleasure.
I'm glad you said that this is a choice. I am tired of the self-victimisation complex women have when we complain of being strung along, having their best years stolen from them, saying their good deeds are never appreciated, etc etc. It takes two to play that game and hence it is not entirely the man's fault. The fault is in how we present ourselves. Having a high level of inner self-worth is fundamental when you are seeking a relationship of high quality, but I see time and time again that lot of women do not want to put in the work. They would rather glow up in front of a mirror when it's their soul in desperate need of the attention. Inner work requires discipline and effort. It is a daily commitment and requires your full attention. The looking good is the easy part. I've seen average looking Janes walk all over Instagram baddies when it comes to securing high calibre men and those Janes have those men thinking the sun shines out of their booty.
I'm not hating on women who are in that phase of feeling walked over, many of us have experienced it, but you have to make a firm decision that you deserve more and importantly, WORK on being more. Change your friendship groups, read, travel, take on soul-nourishing and high quality activities, and start learning to say NO with conviction. When you do, these string-alongs won't even enter your playground and you won't end up on your knees grabbing at a man's ankles, because they'll be the ones grabbing onto yours.
This comment needs more likes and attention. The most truthful thing.
Thank you for breaking down the benefits or marriage, certain portions of society have pushed the delusion that marriage is not important. Don't be fooled, marriage is IMPORTANT, it secures a civil, successful society for all of us.
Thank you so much, like I've said before, many if us don't or didn't have this knowledge and wisdom.💟
Cheryl Kemp it’s a double edge sword. Too many women who have not been married only focus on what they “may” receive. They need to keep in mind what they may loose. Men have been trading their wives in for centuries, they have also been killing them for that long as well. In Chrissy’s case it was more profitable for her to NOT marry Jim. She reaped the benefits and can freely leave without the dissolution of their finances. He pretty much set her up to level up. Imagine if she would have married him. He’s broke which means she would be broke. Just bc a man has money when you met him does not mean it will stay that way.
First of all bravo to this video! And wow!! So true what you're saying. I was in a relationship like Chrissy and I had to level up, now I'm married with a child, and I'm so glad I made the decision to move on from struggle love!!!! I also loved that you said in marriage you can enjoy being a stay at home mom, and femininity because I am enjoying that right now! I work at home, but I get to enjoy being with my son and not having to put him in daycare. I have a provider for a husband not perfect but he's better than what I kept settling for!
Love it!
I’m only twenty but watching all of these videos is really opening my eyes about knowing your value as a woman, how precious your youth and time is, how your self worth governs all of your decisions in life.. it’s just crazy how as women we waste so much of our time and energy on men that aren’t invested in us enough to have a future with us.. it really helps me to see the bigger picture and to know that love alone truly isn’t enough.
Take a look at Cassie . She was with Diddy for sooo long and he didn’t give her no ring no kids and then she met someone else and within a year that man put a RING on her finger
kaykay periodtt
Oh Chloe,you have no idea how you helped me leave a dusty man 4years of my life gone down the drain met him at 24 started dating around 26 and by the time I was approaching 30 I knew this good for nothing broke, insecure man was taking me nowhere I had to leave but it wasn't easy so earlier on in the year 2019 ,we had a talk I told him I was stepping aside to let him work on himself ,but he made zero progress over the months and slowly by slowly I got majorly turned off and listening /watching your Channel came with important information that Finally made me leave then he had the audacity of playing the victim after he damaged me with his abuse but through God's grace am in much better place and feel very very liberated 💪💪💪 am at a point I want to be alone and let God hand pick a good one for me
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When I used to see marriage as just a trendy piece of paper I obviously did not value money. I remember researching how marriage came about & it basically was thought of to make sure wealth is maintained. I remember instantly thinking “well if it ain’t for love then ain’t no point” 😂😂 I was very young & naive. Thank GOD for growth.
Women need to start looking at marriage as a business contract rather than fairytale love story. Would a business man partner up with a unreliable person who breaks promises and agreements and shown that he cannot be trusted with simple things. Ladies let us be logical and see what the picture really is instead of what it can be in the future, you gain nothing , lose time and youth. I'm not saying you can't find love that can be done but be strategic.
The state looks as marriage as a business contract.
Marriage or hypergamy? which one?
Chrissy is beautiful; hopefully she will finally see her worth, before it’s too late.
Jim is a mama’s boy
What do u think of how cardi b gave offset half a million for his bday 🤦♀️ the video was so cringe. Such a wrong move imo
I like Cardi but I honestly thought it was stupid. It's her money and all but I think she shouldn't have invested a penny on a man well little boy who continously cheats and embarrasses her worldwide. Got her acting a damn fool. She doesn't know her worth and it's sad.
принцесса I was embarrassed for him and I secretly think he was too but trying to play it off because she was filming. It was definitely emasculating.
принцесса ... off set is worth more than Cardi B. She’s married. She ain’t worried about that 😴
tatiana ... Cardi said in her latest video with Vogue that the number 1 thing she loves about off set is how he takes care of her.
crankin21guns ... Off set isn’t smart. He outwardly cheats on her. All she has to do is stick around long enough and divorce to get alimony. I feel that he may not know this 😂😂 but I think that’s why she’s staying. A lot of rappers rarely marry. They just pay child support. Off set however has married her. In a divorce court she will get quite a lot of money depending on how long she stayed and the proof she has. Off set is worth 15 million. Cardi is only worth 8.
This is one of the most powerful videos on you tube for 2019. This needs to be shared all over the world and posted for every black woman to hear. I am sad to report that many of my YOUNGER MEN AND WOMEN...actually believe that these reality shows are the best that black women can expect, that all black relationships are like the ones on shows.
And Jim isn't the one that needs to wake up and do right. Chrissy should finally awake from her slumber and correct before it's way to late for her.
“Men are not our friends, they are our investors” - Chloe say word! This hit clearly to the soul.
Great commentary Chloe..I've always gave a man two years tops, if that while dating. They know what they wants from you, very early in the relationship...6 months max. Chrissy is so gorgeous!!!! Jim Jones, doesn't truly care for Chrissy, if he did he wouldn't be out here having her look foolish.
"Men are not our friends, they're our investors"💯 Always feminine🌹
Yeah good luck with that lol
@@bnwo Facts. How does hypergamy and securing a marriage certificate fall in the same category? Its either your hypergamous to secure the bag, which usually means exploiting your youth to get resources from men. But in the same breath, women say secure that marriage certificate. Most men with means will only PLAY with the hypergamous women until they find one thats not after is funds. They will give you some of our resources; money, trips, gifts, but it wont give you the marriage. They dont want liablilites in the future.
men are only practicing hypergamy (the male version)! You can't have it both ways, hypocrites!!
I feel afraid Chloe statement "many women have had nervous breakdowns from the over of themselves" such a true statement. I heard a preacher say years ago some men will place you in the crazy house never truer words. I heard another man say on the Ayala fix my life show said women are notorious for the "Hope Factor", he also said he never was there for a true relationship he was there for housing,money, car notes. He he was the epitome being hobo sexual.
I really appreciate your honesty. As sharp as i am, i've made the mistake of giving six good years of my life to an ex, cause i thought we'd get married. That was what we had agreed on. Learned a lot, i was not too hurt, cause i'm always in a habbit of practicing hypergamy, but it is honestly something i'd change if i could and especially neverrr everrr let happen again. I want to get married, but not at all cost. Until then...i'll enjoy playing as many men as i can. Money talks and the rest is well known.
Thank you for sharing.💕
One of the reasons I look forward to Sunday’s are your videos!! 😋
Thank you.❤️
Chloe, you are a godsend! @ the ripe age of 32 I’m finally learning the game - unfortunately my mother didn’t teach me these things. So grateful for you! You are really out here changing lives! Your daughter/s is/are so lucky to have you! ❤️
Sidenote: I told mr current bf that if I don’t have a ring & a wedding date by our 1 year mark, I am walking away & I won’t look back! I don’t have time to waste. 😌
I mean just @ me next time Chloe!🙄 This video is the narrative of my 30’s. This is so so so very true. Truly didn’t hold high value over a hypergamous lifestyle in my 30’s, had no boundaries nor an objective in my relationships (and I use that term loosely, more so situationships with dusties). Am I mad on wasted youth? No, but admittedly disappointed, simply wish I was actually wise to the game and understood the real score. The men I interacted with certainly knew the game and surely snorted femininity and youth from my veins and went on their merry little way. I don’t know if you younger ladies are actively listening but I suggest you listen with level of ears of Dumbo!!!👂🏾🐘👂🏾. Invest in your femininity and the arts of femininity, Focus On You And They Will Come To You! But PLEASE 🗣Don’t waste your time nurturing men, believing, supporting men who absent of drivers seat goals and are financially barren.
Well said, that's my story too. My daughter will be smarter, i'll make sure of that.
Wilma Touw That’s a wonderful gift to give her. That wisdom will transform her life.
Its NEVER too late. Forgive yourself and move forward with self love and self care.
CD M I thank you for your encouragement. You’re right...Thanks for that reminder.
ColdDiva you should watch grant cardone most controversial interview on UA-cam. He is basically telling women to be a gold digger and not waste their time on broke men. Don’t give up just yet. I see you 👀 driving a Bentley in the future
A man who tells you he doesn’t want marriage simply means he doesn’t want to marry you. When you hear this, kiss him on the nose and move on. If you have any doubt, always remember George Clooney.
The only thing that’s worst than wasted time is realizing you wasted time and CONTINUE to waste time. Sis knows she’s looking foolish but can’t muster up the courage to leave because she knows people will talk about her and Jimmy will marry the first IG model he sees.
Many women hold on more desperately to domestic partners that repeatedly tell them they don't want to marry them. They genuinely see their dusties as the prize! They become perfect girlfriends, submissive, invest money into their dusties hoping they will change his mind when he sees all the love they have for him and what they're willing to do for him. Men are so used to being the prize now we desperately need women to wake up!
Juju is the smartest of the bunch bc when her and Cam broke up she and her youth KEPT IT MOVING!
He looks scruffy.
Doesn’t he?
Dirty too
Old af!
If marriage is your goal and they don’t want to marry, do yourself a favor and move on to someone else that shares the same goal. It doesn’t take long for a man to know if he wants you as his wife or not.
Hope is great and all, but never fall for a mans potential, see what his actions say and move accordingly.
I love this clip.. So true about women that over give to men.. my bf years ago.. lost her mind over a man that used her and left for a younger woman. He promised her the world.. this guy was a narcissist.. She has been in a mental institution for years. She never recovered from the pain of the break up. He gave her a 30 day notice, after he wasted 10 years of her life. She was broke and confused. This guy never looked back to this day. I'm now a subscriber.. thank you for the wealth of information!
This is how most states determine who gets the estate when a man dies without a will. His wife, if no wife, his children, if no children, his parents, if parents are dead, his siblings, if no living siblings, his grandparents. Get the picture? Girlfriend, no matter how long, you've been together isn't on the list of recipients for his estate.
Amen!!! Marriage at 50 has to be first able Financial Security and second love.
At this point she doesn’t want to feel like she waisted her time. Plus she’ll be damned if she leave and he marry someone else
I have a beautiful friend in this very situation. Very articulate, and classy and have been dating the guy she called “the one” 10 years ago. She’s one of those hanging on to hope that will unfortunately never happen. He’s comfortable in her being at his beckon call. They don’t have children but he has a daughter from a previous relationship. Her sister tried to tell her about wasting her fertile years on hope and I tried but to no avail. I hope she wakes up and realizes that in the end, she will only have been a friend with momentary benefits.
No matter what type of relationship, you have to secure your ASSETS. Whether you have been dating a man for 1 or 10 years(don't recommend the latter) set yourself up to WIN. Treat every relationship like a business. Get things in writing,be secretive, and separate things that are yours off top. You must have your own and his or else you're gonna be a roommate with benefits,💯
My mom always told me a man can kill a woman without even touching her. She was show me this homeless lady that talk to herself all the time and tell me her story of how husband add a second family on her. Ladies always know you are the prize if he's not willing to give you what you deserve just say next
Still with him,still on LHH after all these years ,she proposed to him @ one point even & nada🤦. She looks a bit worn out now after dealing with his bs
True!
Don't she look worn out?!? OMG
She does😌
@@SagRising19 she looks like she's been thru it which she has🤦
Facts 💯💪👊
Chrissy is sooooo beautiful. I'm so distracted by her beauty. I wish she was somebody's wife who loves her so much.
Don’t EVER love a man more than he loves you.
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Just why? Why is she still with him now? Isn’t he broke?
No, he is not broke. Black females claiming black men as broke when they realize he isn't here to simp for you is just another one of the coping mechanism black females use.
Many women become Dickmotized!!! Sad SMH.
@@bnwo Bitch please. He is BROKE. That is the reason they've been doing all these reality shows lately. He doesnt have any money and looks like it. There's nothing simp about taking care of a woman. Black men look for women to use yet men make more money than women. If anything BM use BW
She's used to him & the bs
@@casseyboo89 Maybe she's a he (probably a dusty) who hates his mother.
Prime example RITA MARLEY! if she and Bob were not married she would be a pauper right now! That piece of paper has provided security for her and generations to come.
South africa is here 👂
Same here girl!
We are here for sure 🥂
🇿🇦 our women need to level up 😥
African sprit Child I'm so surprise on how many of us are on here. For a long time I thought I was the only one with this mindset. It's refreshing to know I'm not alone lol
Same here ❤!
Most women I meet (in London; where I'm from) get their inheritance at some point. Please remember: if you are financially struggling at 40yo or 50yo IT IS YOUR PARENTS FAULT 💯
*If you are broke: your no1 job is to make sure your children inherit
*If you inherit: your no1 job is to make sure your children inherit (after you spend a lil 😉)
Simple rules
I started learning all this at 27, I wish I was 17 with this information!!!
My husband proposed to me two months in , we are very happy. We been married for one month.
Tanya Vines 🙄
Tanya Vines 😂😂😂
Damn they still not married!! Wow I used to watch them when I was younger
That’s fucking crazy and embarrassing
😂😂😂
Simply Beautiful
thats what i said! they were on tv talkin about this years ago and she still with him and not married!!!! omg😳😳🤯🤯
There are over 160 next of kin rights legal and financial rights
I appreciate you sis 💕You’re like the sister I never had 👑
Makes me think of Lauren London. I’d like to see that video
Black Walnut Thank you, 🙏
Preach Chole, if something happened to Jim today, she wouldn't even have a say in his final arrangements because she is not married to him,we a are not even going to get into the financial aspect of this type of arrangement. How old is she now, 49-50? Such a pretty lady, I want the best for all black wonen, we deserve it. I watched her on The Real say l it's not a priority to be married now, whose idea was that? She has consistently said she wanted to be married and have children. I from personal experience know what it's like to waste your youth on a man. INow I'm in my 50s with no children and that haunts me every day. Instead of me taking care of myself, I wasted my time with a dusty, and helped raise his kids and we are now divorced. Young ladies, let her story and the many women with similar stories, let this be a lesson. The ONLY thing you don't have is time. I truly feel her pain and wish her the best!
Right there with you. 50 and no man, no kids. I finally found Chloe after my last ex of 3 years bailed on me after I supported him and his kids thinking he was going to wife me. Ugh. Last lesson learned in my late 40s... so many of us women had not had anyone teach us the game with men. So I was meant to find Chloe when I did, very late in life but never again will I waste time with a man who is not investing in me. But if I had a mom/dad who would have taught me any of this... sheesh. Feel like life could have been so different.
Yes to everything you said! What I wouldn't give someone to have sat be down earlier in life and told me this! I'm not saying it can't work with a man with kids, if the woman doesn't have any, BUT it takes a VERY special man. Now if the woman also has a child or children that's different. I'm working on my young nieces now, telling them to come to Chloe channel and don't waste your precious youth. I'm happy to say, I got through to 1 niece who just turned 30, married an ER Dr (no kids) and pregnant with their first child, and is going to be a stay home mom, raise her daughter and make sure she teaches her that she is the Prize! I learned late, but better late than never.
I forgot to add, just like Chloe said, my ex has since remarried a woman 10 years younger. His kids are now grown. She doesn't have to babysit, be placed 2nd in line to the kids needs and desires, have n no money, because of child support payments, etc. I remember years ago, it was my birthday weekend but it was his (our) weekend to keep the kids, and I asked him to switch weekends so we could celebrate my birthday and he said, no he didn't want to ask the kids mom because she had already made plans to spend time with her boyfriend. The honest to God truth, so instead we stayed home and watched tv with the children. I could go on with stories like this for days, cause I just want women to understand the importance of selecting an appropriate mate. I'm not bitter, just want to help some young girl now probably stressed out with a dusty,, being a ride or die check, thinking he will be there for her....DON'T do it, life is too short. Make your plans (quietly cause there are some crazy men out here, Keep yourself safe) and GET OUT!
Forgive Yourself. Will make a video on Self-Forgiveness Very Soon.
Thanks @@TheNewFeminine , it's true. So lucky to finally have found hypergamy and its all sunk in. But at the same time every video is a reminder of how I did not know my worth in my key years. So be great to get a video on that :)
Men are not our friends... They are our investors - Chloe_ -2019 WOW!!!! 💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thats why men with means have many women. They know they need sponsors.
Ur right and yes I'm a bitter old lady living alone with my cat, I finally broke it off for good 7yrs ago and I have accepted the consequences and the role I played, I'm now enjoying the single, I'll be 55yrs old next month 😉😉😉
Ooh I appreciate me some Chloe!!...The commentaries are so well explained.
I was today’s days old when I found out you had a website! Going to take myself there ASAP because I NEED to be educated.
Why does this guy look like his half asleep??? He looks semi conscious...shes a lovely looking woman but has sold herself out to keep him. Ladies this is not what we gon do in 2020 beyond!!!
Brown Suga u better say that👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The Chloe_ tribe. They are already here. Preach Chloe_ please help the young ones. blessings. thank you.