I'm So Sick Of This
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I think what you should be celebrating is the fact that you recognized so quickly your subconscious thought pattern, and actively decided to stop it! That’s incredible. And it seems like a very different choice from the past. So, more than anything else, this is HUGE evidence of your mental strength and growth.
this is a fabulous comment ❤
I get rid of my clothes that do not fit ❤
You are so kind, thank you!! 🙏🏻 ❤
One of the big issues people have as they get older is balance and strength. It’s great that you are starting NOW. The older you get, the more challenge it is to meet the challenges of getting older. I know I want to be fit and ease into this age of life and getting older with grace and dignity, but I find that doing it with grace is the real challenge.
You are saying all the right things about weight, but you are still obsessing. Your thoughts and emotions are not aligned. You have yet to accept that you may, for the rest of your life, not hit some magic number. And if you do hit that magic number, what does it bring? Stress and anxiety about maintaining it. Cut the cord. Throw out the scale. Do not get weighed at the doctors office, unless you need to start a weight based medication, there is no reason. Drop any underlying fear you will suddenly become obese, your daily habits are too good. Continue your fitness journey, I don't know what kind of weight training you are doing but you need to go for strength, for progress, which some days mean I can only do partial reps. The best thing I do? Yoga, which shows how amazing our bodies are and will unify body and mind. Drop any idea that yoga has to be difficult or that you need to be flexible, neither is true. Keep the pilates, but add yoga, or find a hybrid class. Same with progressing in yoga, for any pose you cannot do today, always "try right" and the benefits come. What's my magic number? Heck if I know.
Muscle weighs more than fat… when you’re working out and building strength, it only makes sense that your weight might plateau or you might gain weight, all the while looking and feeling better and better. Don’t let the scale fool you. You’re doing GREAT! Keep it up. ❤ Edit: since the internet is a magnet for trolls, I intended to communicate that muscle is more dense than fat. At a fixed volume, muscle weighs more than fat. Lord have mercy.
Taylor is right!! Keep going. I’m 48 menopausal couldn’t shift the weight. Started to do weight training, high protein less cardio and it does work. It takes time. It’s a process. Get rid of the scales it a vicious cycle.
What they said 💜
Muscle does not weigh more than fat.. pound to pound is the same , muscle is denser and smaller. It is why when you have more muscle you are more compact/smaller.
Fat is fluffier/ bigger. But pound to pound muscle and fat are the same
Thank you! 😘
A few years ago I lost a bunch of weight and went down 2 sizes. I took my favorite clothes to a tailor to make them fit my new size. They included trousers, jumpsuit, blazers, and coats. I still love and wear them. It might be worth doing that with your favorite classic pieces. Congrats on getting stronger and more fit so that you can enjoy your later years. That is my goal as well. ❤
As for the clothing issue, I keep my favorites, no matter the size. Some expensive items can be tailored. Some I wear loose. The rest I store or give away. I never sell anything -- just not my jam. I don't feel like a failure keeping expensive larger clothes. They are almost like friends! I work from home and prefer it. I can do either, but avoiding a commute and input overload from interaction works for me. 💖💖
I’m almost 43 and the struggle is real. I’m heading to Vegas with friends in June (with a lot of pool time planned) and I’m trying to tone up before I go, and be able to actually fit in my summer clothes. The only thing that’s worked in the past is a calorie deficit and working out regularly. Without the deficit the scale never seems to move. More than anything, I need to get my cholesterol in check.
Also, I got rid of my really small and larger clothes and kept the middle size. I know I’m not going to get back to my smallest, but also don’t want to get to my largest. The expensive items, tailor. The rest, donated.
If it is a special designer item I cannot bear to part with, I stash it in a guest room closet so it doesn't clutter my everyday closet. Everlane pants? Just buy new ones that fit. In a year, go back to the guest closet. Time and distance usually provide the objectivity needed to decide if you should keep or let go. Designer re-sale can be lucrative too! I think you are looking fab and hope you feel as healthy and energetic as you look.
I’m glad you recognized this undermining pattern and put a stop to it. Your dilemma is so relatable. I recently dealt with a critical illness and every time there was a medical appointment -sometimes multiple times per week- there was that nasty scale. there are repeated, subtle reinforcements that this number is important, even from those who profess “it’s just a number”. Coming from the perspective of illness, I implore you - do this for yourself. Do it because you deserve a life full of health and vitality and joy. If you have to, go on the scale backwards at your trainer’s place, then go kill that pull up. And don’t keep clothes that don’t bring you joy, no matter what happens. I’m rooting for you!
Hi Michele,
Keep a few pairs of your most basic pants. Black, Navy and jeans! Who wants to spend $$$ on something you had already owned...
If you are still down in size 2 years from now, maybe then get rid of the bigger sizes....You are a joy to watch, keep up the great content...💗
Thank you! 🥰
I’m 18 months into my current fitness/health journey. I’ve lost 5 dress sizes in this time and I’m hoping very much to maintain my current health or improve it.
I have been leaning on Rent the Runway for clothing that I need “in between” sizes like jeans or tailored jackets. RTR made it a lot easier to get a sense of what styles worked on my changing body without committing to owning items that I would not be able to wear in the long term. I did purchase a few basic items to fill in some gaps, but tried to keep purchases to a minimum otherwise.
I have set aside a few pieces of larger clothing that I *might* want to tailor if I am able to maintain my smaller size for a year. In the meantime, those items are hanging in the closet of my home office, away from my main wardrobe. Out of sight, out of mind. If I don’t feel the need to keep, I will find a way to get rid of them.
I had a few old favorites saved away that I can wear now, but those items are for special occasions, not everyday wear. In all honesty, I’m not terribly sentimental and am easily able to part with objects.
Thank you, Michele because this reminds me we are all so similar. I threw my scale out a year ago and I’m much happier now. My weight has stayed the same and weighing myself was becoming a twice daily event. So awful! Just donate those clothes and make space for new pieces when they find you. Xoxoxo
I have no idea what I weigh. I went through a stage (early 30's. I'm 52 now) when I weighed myself twice a day for months. I dropped alot of weight , far too much, and it became an obsession. For me it wasn't really the number - more the fact that if it lowered it meant I was achieving/winning/better somehow.
Now I can't have scales in the house. I excersize daily and try to eat as healthily as I can, and I don't know what I weigh because i do know it would never be low enough. No matter how low it was.
I had therapy years ago for a phobia and my therapist gave me the best piece of advice I've ever been given. "You have to get in control of your mind or 'it' will control 'you'."
I would definitely celebrate your win, donate everything that no longer serves you and slowly build your wardrobe again, how exciting ♥️
If I don’t wear it for a year, I donate it. Pants are tricky. I got rid of so many pants and then needed them. They are not easy to replace. I should have boxed up pants.
I allow myself one shelf for special favorites of too small/too big clothes. I like it to be contained to one area to make sure I only keep things I truly love, and that I know I would want to wear later.
I started a journey last Spring. Peri menopause has been kicking my ass. I’m starting HRT soon. I’m down 26lbs and I’m terrified. I just want to be healthy. I don’t care what the scale says but I know how I want to feel in my body. I’m tired too girl. 🥺. There are some clothes I have tailored. Others I give to my local women’s shelter. If it’s something sentimental, someone I love gave it to me I pack it away. Thank you for sharing your struggles.
Better watch that Hrt and breast cancer. It’s real. I’m 56 I lost 6 women over the last 10 years to breast cancer that did not run in their family. They found out it was hormone induced. My sister in law was diagnosed in 2020. She’s still with us thank god. But hers was too. The drs will tell you less than 1% will get the cancer. Don’t believe them. I’ve seen it in real life. I got through it with holistic things. Magnesium being a big one. Also estroven
Twenty years ago, before I had 2 children, I kept all items that I adored and stored them away. I started walking for exercise and I fit in these clothes again. I pulled them out and redesigned my dressing room to hang all pieces I love. I would keep your favorite items for now in a plastic airtight boxes. You can always decide later to donate. Best wishes.
Some healthy numbers you can focus on are how many consecutive days you’re not ill and pain free. While there’s no trophy, you can set personal bests like how long you’re able to touch your toes from standing to slowly increase flexibility etc. Keep focussed on health, longevity and vibrancy. Keep going and wishing you the best!
This has been one of my greatest struggles. Now that I’m in my 50s, I’m trying to think about health and fitness more, but those negative “you’re too fat” thoughts keep creeping in. Do not keep the clothes that do not fit. I am one of those that buy smaller sizes with the thought I’ll lose weight. I inevitably do not and end up donating the smaller sizes. Thanks for this mental realignment and it’s a bit comforting to know I’m not alone in the struggle.
Good morning Michele! ☀️ I had my coffee with you this morning ☕️ Self-sabotage is so brutal…..I hate it! And, I do it all the time. 😖 The scale is the devil! ❌ I never use one! If you’re feeling better, have more energy, and feel stronger, that’s what matters. Love the closet chats! 🥰 As always, thanks for your openness & honestly.
I wish our medical community would get off the scale fixation. I’m 72. When I tell my doctors how I’m eating and sleeping. Tell them How I’m exercising, they look at me and tell me it isn’t working! Doesn’t matter that my blood work is excellent and I’m on no meds. They still want to see the weight come down. Do I get discouraged? Yes. But I’m so happy with this lifestyle that I established more than 5 years ago and I won’t go back. Like you said, there is no finish line. It’s a different mindset and for me, I feel as if I have plotted my course and I feel confident.
Get rid of the clothes.
The most important thing is do you feel strong and healthy, I think you look amazing! Get rid of your scale or put it away! I too get frustrated and want to give up but at my age of 71, I go to the gym 6 days a week because I want to stay strong and healthy! And besides who would want or look at a old lady, I do it for myself.
Can. I ask what you d oat the gym please? I’ve just started my gym journey and am doing Pilates and body balance. I’m 52 and have put on so much weight. I totally identify with this video as I’m just not strong like I used to be and ache so much every day. I would like to be slimmer but I want to be stronger and more flexible, that’s my ultimate goal now
As a cancer survivor, I get paranoid whenever I loose weight. I am 85 lbs now and I try to eat as much and as healthy as I can but now I really get full very easily. So I really have to push myself to eat and to have high calorie milk in between meals. Moreover, all my pants are too big now so when in your 2024 prediction video you predicted that super loose pants and belts will be in, the timing couldn't have been better 😂
Blessings of health to you.🙏
@@FifiH52 Thanks a lot
There IS a direct correlation between weight and health! BUT if you are exercising 4+ times a week and you are eating 75% good and 25% naughty you will be at YOUR proper BMI and weighing in daily is a wasted mental exercise, as you get older it is a constant struggle and you adjust month to month. 50 for a woman is a big deal mentally/physically/emotionally if you fret instead of just DOING it is a losing battle!
Keep your favorite clothes. Always. Maybe you’ll have them tailored. Donate the rest. Buy more. Don’t worry too much about it. I just looked back on your old photos, and you look the same. You’ve really slowed that aging process! But you can’t stop it. Just be healthy and happy. Thrive in your life of beauty and abundance.
While listening you talk about numbers, it came to me that we treat ourselves as if we were products. We sort of employ product analytics to drive our lives. That's so dehumanizing... Thank you for this video and the spark that inspired me to see how sneakily we dehumanize ourselves. ❤
Wow that’s a long dialogue about how much you’re bothered by your fitness journey. All I can say is for as long as you eat regular food of all kinds (not zero carbohydrates, not zero sugar), you will never get the exact weight and fit that you want to achieve. Exercise is not the solution, exercise is only important for cardio health! To really see results, you need to stop eating carbs and sugar! I’m sure you know that since you tried carnivore before.
The reason people focus on weight is because it’s really the only easy thing they can measure themselves at home. People have a hard time measuring strength or muscle mass, but weight is simple, easy, and clear cut. Or so we think! 😉 And I also think we all keep a fat pair of pants ( or two) for our fat days. Who wants to shop for anything when they are fat? So we keep them…
Thank you Michele, I needed this message today! ❤
This really resonates with me. I am a lifetime member of Weight Watchers and this was our exact meeting topic! We talked about the number on the scale being one of many data points of your journey. I know it's hard, but reframe it as ONE metric, along with food, sleep, mood, inches lost, workouts done, etc. A suggestion was to keep a log and have multiple columns with all your metrics. Put them all down and look at them ALL before coming to any conclusions about your progress. You got this!!
Michele, you are beautiful. I can see that you have lost a significant amount of weight in the last several months. I see it in your face.
I have battled my weight my entire life. I have been on a weight loss journey for the past 3 yrs. My goal was to feel better, be healthier, and look better. I have lost 55 lbs but it has taken 3 YEARS.. I am at the point where I am ambivalent about losing more weight. I have beautiful clothes that fit beautifully and I do not want them to get too big. I am a size 8 now.
In the past I have kept clothes that got too small. Recently I have been able to wear them again and then I got too thin to wear them. I did donate clothing the has gotten too big.
I will not keep things that are more than I size above my current size.
You should judge your weight by how your clothes fit. Muscle density weights more than fat.
Do not be so hard on yourself. Put the bigger clothes temporarily in a bin in storage wait 6 months. Then donate what you want and keep the rest in storage.
Get all of your favorite pants tailored to fit your new body. Don't just give everything away because you may not be able to find the same styles anymore. I agree that we do get fixated on the number on the scale. My primary focus is doing my best to stay fit and not so much on the number on the scale because it's too stressful.
I’m 62 and still have these same issues. Keep the clothes. Menopause changes your body in ways you can’t control or predict. Clothing is expensive and you may find 6 months from now you’ll be glad you kept the clothes.
Don't let the diet industrial complex get in your head. Continually thinking about what you eat, how much, what you do physically, how often, will trip you up sooner or later. It's only one aspect of your life, if you let it take on inflated importance, whether it's a scale, particular food, number of reps, stopping self-judgment is a good goal in itself. Maybe you will feel better about having to let go of some favorite jeans, etc. when you actually donate them to a shelter where women can be comfortable in them. That's what I think of when I donate, which I do periodically.
Couldn't agree more with you. I have a set of scales at home but the only thing I weigh on them is my suitcase when I'm going on holiday........and that's the way it's going to stay. As you say, it's just a number and who cares at the end of the day.
I think most of us run to the scale or something when we hit a slump , when we feel bored, fed up , etc …. Weight is only a number. Remember. Have you FELT better ? Has that aspect changed ? My sister is OBSESSED with any gain. If she eats a chest she’ll run extra or work out longer. Maybe ask yourself. “Why, did you start going to the scale ?” I’m glad you noticed this. That’s A HUGE STEP ❤self sabotage is something women do. It’s sad , but true. Put a sticky up. Remind yourself of your worth !!! Celebrate your pants are bigger now ❤. You can get all of those Tailored
Just wanted to chime in here to share my appreciation for your thought stream! I can relate entirely to this. So much focus on numbers. Thinness. Ugh. Some of my favorite jeans are now a bit too tight because my menopause pooch has seemed to expand more despite my efforts. And I struggled with what to do with them. I think I might just donate them since I will probably find new favorites for whatever my shape is for the time. Watching our parents age is also a reminder on the importance of strength and flexibility. I keep reminding myself to focus on that. Oh look- now I've got a thought stream going in your comments! 😂 rooting for you. xoxo
Try a calorie spurge once a week. Most likely, the number on the scale will drop. Eat whatever you want on one day. For me it works. I am 62 and wear 26 waist jeans. Of course I eat right and exercise. However, unlike you, I can't seem to find a good man, earn money or start a business to save my life although I have talent and several college degrees. Don't not feel demoralized. We are all good at different things. I wish I could give you some of my good traits in exchange for some of yours!
*splurge
I really admire you for all your hard work and dedication, you look amazing! When I find myself in similar thought patterns, I try to stay present and not let my mind sabotage me. You’ve already developed an amazing self awareness by recognizing and redirecting the negative thoughts. Plateaus are 100% normal and healthy. You’ve already come so far towards your goals of strength, health, and longevity…embrace your inner warrior, discard the negative thoughts and keep mastering your best self! 💜
Michelle, you are looking absolutely fantastic! This video is so relatable and is exactly how I feel on my fitness journey. Thank you so much for posting 😊. Much love from Scotland x
Did you lose one pearl on one earring? I am not ignoring what you are saying just noticed as I cont to listen to you.
I recommend finding a good tailor. My weight hasn’t fluctuated much (I can still fit into my prom dress at 33) but my body proportions have changed a lot as I also started lifting weights and getting healthier in my 20’s. I have my tailor adjust my clothes to my new proportions and then other things that are too tight because I have more muscle mass I give to my sister who loves them 😊 or sell them on Poshmark.
Regarding return to office: I hate it. I love working from home because it gives me more time to get my chores and other things done so I can spend what little free time I have with my boyfriend or family. When I go into an office I am on zoom calls the entire day. A lot of companies hired people all over the country so most teams are not located in the same city anyway -making the office just another space for zoom calls instead of in person collaboration. A lot of these companies are just trying to justify their huge expensive real estate used by the top execs who need to meet with clients, etc. I also have no direct reports or junior members on my team who need mentoring cause companies are running SO lean with employees spread very thin due to the economy. So the most important thing is for me to get work done, which is easier at home.
Hey Michele, have your faves altered to suit your smaller frame but maybe leave a few items just in case your size goes up. I wonder if some clothing alterations can be made so they can be undone? I have three entire wardrobes, each for three sizes, as I’ve gone up and down and back up higher still! 😆
Its called being human, been there 😊Im 50 also , i stopped dwelling on it, especially after a pandemic happened , being a single mother ( my son turned 18) i realized that there so many other important things, yes being healthy ( although ive have chronically health issues the last 3 years) but allow yourself to relax, enjoy every day 🎉Love from Greece 🇬🇷 ❤my beautiful Michelle ❤🎉( ive always maintained the same weight most of my life being thin , genes metabolism a lot of walking i don't drive and i live on an island so i was walking everywhere, few yers ago i lost a lot of weight, had depression, and then i gained my average weight again 55kg and when i lost a lot of weight i was 48kg and im 1,71cm, and i held on my favorite clothes saying im gonna gain weight, but majority i gave away, then i was able to wear those but my really skinny underweight era i gave all these tiny clothes, i determined im jot getting back there it was a hard time , but lately something switched on me and i just said had enough wasting space when i wear specific clothes repeatedly 😅so i got that minimalistic idea and got rid most of my clothes which i was keeping just because i thought they are nice oh it was a bit expensive oh maybe i will wanna wear it and never did so i feel so much better, having a smaller collection which i actually wear and giving to others to enjoy gives me so much more satisfaction) ❤❤❤
oooh I have a lot to say about this topic! Weight loss is not linear... As someone who lost a massive amount of weight (from literally morbidly obese to XS) I would highly recommend you donate/sell those clothes ASAP and purchase your favourites in an appropriate size. You could also get expensive favourites tailored. Please don't hang onto clothes that are multiple sizes too big. I completely understand being fixated by your weight but as you know that number doesn't tell the full story. If measuring yourself daily is triggering you then I think you're right you need to only weigh with your trainer. Otherwise I think you should be measuring more! Not weighing yourself more often, but actually taking measurements of waist, hip, arm etc. You'd be amazed to see that even at the same weight how your measurements can change. You're doing so well on this fitness journey, I'm rooting for you.
What a good video Michele! These are struggles we all have for sure! I say take the clothes you can't wear and donate them to someone who needs them. I lost quite a few pounds and I got rid of what I couldn't wear. What happens is when you gain a few you catch it quicker. Love your honesty!
Much of this video resonated with me. Some friends said to me, let go of the clothes and let them go on to be loved by others. It was very helpful. Lots of love to you 💚💚
Love that! Thanks Barbara!! 😘😘😘
Bravo!! I have hated my weight for 20 years now (post menopausal). I'm 74 and feel that I'm in good health. I've tried different diets and was weighing myself every day until I got fed up and finally put the scales in my closet! I think about these extra 25 pounds daily. Simply put, it's very difficult to lose weight at my age. The clothing that doesn't fit any more goes one of two places: my basement walk in closet (thinking I'll lose weight and can wear it again) or donated to a "Women's Another Chance" organization.
That’s how some people become anorexic. You are so good about exercising.
As far as keeping clothes that don’t fit, the only area in which this applies to me is with jeans (because they are so fitted and I’m particular about how they fit, sort of like how you described your Rag and Bone pants). I keep the jeans I love in bracketing sizes because I don’t want to buy them again if I change weight. For me, it’s just a very practical (monetarily) thing. But I’m very logic-driven… I find I don’t attach emotions to most things, so I don’t have any specific feelings about my clothes. I love that you love your clothes, and I think keeping ones you especially love isn’t a bad idea if you can maybe do it in moderation and put them away. And just don’t ascribe any thoughts to them other than, “I love that piece and it would be very difficult/impossible to find it again, so I’m not ready to part with it yet.” Not sure if that makes sense or is helpful at all. Again, you’re a Virgo (right?) and I’m an Aries so I feel like my advice is not gonna help you that much, LOL!
I’m seeing the changes in your body.. it takes a long time for body recomposition. You are strengthening your bones, maintaining endurance. aging well..
I am still hanging on to my bigger clothes but I need to get rid of them..
I want to keep my fitness routine and healthy diet as my ongoing lifestyle..
You are doing great, keep going!
Thank you 🫶🏾 No thoughts to add, just gratitude 🙏🏾
Be gentle with yourself. 😊
Hola guapísima‼️ Yo antes pensaba y hacía lo mismo que tú, me obsesionaba con mi peso. Hasta a que en mi familia murió un hijo de mi Segundo Y actual Marido, murió mi Padre después solamente de haberle detectado Cáncer de Riñón, muy doloroso y desde eses momento a mi Madre le sobrevino Alzheimer que evolucionaba tan rápido que ya está, en grado 2.
Ahora me ocupo de vivir, sentirme en paz más que pretender ser perfecta, trabajar, cuidar de mi casa, mi familia y amigos, pero principalmente en cuidar de Mi. Comer a las horas, no comer gluten, lactosa, Ultraprocesados y muy pocos procesados: Comida Real. Y ejercicio de fuerza & mobilidad 5 veces por semana. Y estoy mucho mejor de peso, de figura y sobretodo emocional y psicológicamente.
En cuanto a la ropa, cuando me queda a pequeña la doné toda menos algunes que anava mucho (Han de ser locals) y guardé en una caja. Y las prendas que me quedan grandes las donó y las que amo y quiero ponerme, las llevo a una costurera que las adapta a mi cuerpo actual. Todo tiene solución, en esta vida (Menos la muerte) ! 💪
Besos 💋💋 desde Barcelona 🌃 España.
Only acknowledge the scale drops. Even a little salt will pop weight up a bit. Make sure your scale is on a flat, hard, even surface. Ignore the pop up numbers. I am 65, weigh 127 lbs but the shape now is just not what I consider familiar. I mourn my Levi’s 505 27” jeans, but they are gone. Nutrisystems does work, but I am only willing to ‘commit to’ the single week boxes from amazon. FOCUS on seeing Europe, feeling Europe. You are lovely. ❤️👜🕶️
DO NOT GET ON THE SCALE LADIES and MEN!! I don’t like fitness places weighing you either .. Do all you can to move each day and eat and drink in moderation and SHOOT enjoy your life and LOVE YOURSELF no matter what !! The only time you should get weighed is in the doctors office as it is just part of your visit protocol ..
Weight is irrelevant because you’re building muscle!! You’re changing your body composition! 5lbs of muscle looks VERY different than 5lbs of fat!! I weighed about the same as I did when I was 2 sizes larger but I’m 2 sizes smaller because I lift weights and built muscle which is always burning fat. Don’t give up now…you’re right on the brink to really changing your body composition. I haven’t weighed myself in years. When my doctor weighs me she just writes it down. I don’t even want to know because it’s triggering. Also if you work out more and eat less you’ll actually lose the muscle you built…your body will canabalize the muscle. Stay STRONG!!! 💪🏼 you got this!!!
I’ve recently lost 40lb with slimming world. I’m 45, 6 years into menopause and I gained weight during covid. Ni excuses I ate my body weight in take out! I spent a fortune on new clothes and donated everything big. If I keep it it’s almost like saying it’s ok to be that size and for me it wasn’t. I don’t intend on being 40lb heavier EVER again.
This is such an important point to realize, Michele. Good for you!! I’ve always taken my health seriously…I’m on a med that literally saved my life (I was born with Cystic Fibrisis) but has caused me to gain a lot of weight. Then this past year or so, I have started taking my exercise & foods I’m eating more seriously. I have lost weight, which is great, but the main thing is that I feel SO MUCH BETTER now, both mentally and physically, that it makes me wonder why I didn’t do this before?! Either way, I’m proud of all the work I have and will continue to put in. The same goes for you. You’re doing your best, which is definitely more meaningful & healthy than some number on a scale. Thanks for opening up. I love hearing about other people’s healthcare journeys. Sending my love 😊❤
Donate the clothes, AND the scale! :) It’ll help you stay positive, and you won’t be discouraged by subliminal toxic messages from those things. You’re doing amazing!!!
Thanks for talking about this! I've been overweight pretty much my whole life. I go through bouts of losing a bunch and then gaining back. A few years ago, I started powerlifting and it's completely shifted the way I think about it. Now, I just want to be strong. Sure, I sometimes wish I looked better in my clothes, and I am working my way towards that. Just making better food choices but not restricting myself. As long as I'm getting movement in, feeling good, and feeling strong, I'm okay with everything else.
Edited to add: also, having constant fluctuating hormones, weight is also constantly fluctuating.
Sweetie, you're not plateaued. You're just working with incomplete info. Seriously. This is NOT a plug for myself but I want you to know my comment comes from the perspective of a nutrition and fitness coach who works primarily with women over 50. The key to losing adipose tissue ("fat") while continuing to gain lean mass (muscle, bone, etc.) is to ensure your macros are adequate to keep your body undergoing muscle protein synthesis while keeping you in a very slight (10%ish) calorie deficit. This requires knowing your current metabolic rate (through calculation and trial and error) and tracking your macros and energy expenditure. It also, wonderfully (:-)) requires learning about YOUR physical uniqueness and understanding that YOU do have the ability and power to eat and train to gain fat/muscle, lose fat/muscle or gain muscle while losing fat based on whatever your current goals happen to be.
You are not plateaued. You are succeeding in creating a strong, capable body. Celebrate that! It's HUGE!! The rest is just knowing how to hone in on the tedium required to intentionally undergo body recomp. :-)
When you're working on strength, you WILL gain weight, because you're gaining muscle. Strength and resilience often manifest as 'weight' on a scale. If numbers are potent motivators for you, think about measurements--where you want to lose/gain inches. It helps to get away from equating fitness/health with weight. Try observing, if you can, without judging (yourself). Holding on to the too-big clothes is right up there with hanging onto the 'skinny' clothes--both creating expectation and dissatisfaction. Think of it as being pragmatic...only so much space, and choosing the clothing that fits and feels good. (By the time one slims down/bulks up, those clothes we're holding onto are often no longer in style or something that feels fresh and relatable.) BTW ~ in my opinion, you are beautiful. Very cool, original, and always well put together. I'm in Arizona and you're in Nevada, so I really enjoy your style and considerations when shopping & adding to your wardrobe. You have your own thing going on and it's working! From my perspective, anyway...
Hi! I’m so basaly that you made this vlog for all of us, and I am very proud of everything that you have accomplished thus far. I have a tall/athletic build, but am about to turn 50..,and have noticed some changes in the proportions of my body (much to my dismay.) I learned long ago that weighing myself was counterproductive-and simply made me fixate on reaching/maintaining my ‘goal weight.’ Now, I only get weighed @ my physicals (and sometimes ask not to be informed on the number.) Instead, I focus on how I feel/look in my 17:39 clothes (I have a wardrobe that I’ve invested in-lots of quality pieces that I’m reluctant to let go.) My advice to you is to remove the larger sized clothes from your closet (or organize into 3 piles: keep, donate & give away.) It might help to have a friend or personal organizer do this with you. Keep a storage bin of your favorite items, and box them up (put them in the basement or wherever you have room-but not in your closet.) This will help keep you in a positive head space to continue on your fitness journey w/o feeling guilty/remorseful that you have left yourself w/o clothing options should your weight fluctuate in the future. I’m proud of you. Keep up the hard work. It is a challenge that I know well. Try to be kind to yourself.💋🙏🏻
Hang on to those sentimental things. There are no rules. A day will come when you will either be so glad you hung on to them for whatever reason, or feel ready to re-home them. No pressure. Put them in storage. It's ok. About weight: I own no scales. Too much pressure. I weight about once per week at the publix pharmacy when i grocery shop or at my check ups. To make a long story short: i used to weight almost 300 lbs. Found out I was diabetic and needed to make some pretty serious changes to my diet stat! I switched to keto. Changed my life! I lost 130 lbs in a year without really trying. Just cut out carbs and sugar and the weight just melted off. I went from a size 4X to a med/large within a year. A1C went from 7.8 to 4.7. I didn't even realize I was losing weight until my clothes started feeling like tents! All under drs supervision. Completely off heart and diabetes meds. And at 67 years young, I've never felt better! Anyways, good luck on your journey! I think you are being too hard on yourself, tbh. Love you! ❤
Your defiantly not alone with your feelings. I've been very obese several times in my life (x3) 40-60 lbs every time. Also less at times. What I've come to terms with is that I'll never be a guy with non existing fat % and it doesn't make me feel great when I drop to much weight. So I'm now 6 f. weighing 189 lbs give or take and much happier accepting I'll never look like a buffed guy and nor should I.
I know the struggles and you need to throw out you person-scale and start to accept that you bodytype is never gonna be the "heroin chick" look from the 90's
My best advice to keep my weight somewhat stable is intermitten fasting I'll eat my calories from 12-8 p.m. so I have an 8 hour window to eat my calories regarding if I work out or not....
Thank You for sharing and stay strong💪🏻
I have to be super careful because I am a bariatric patient. So, for me, the weight can come very quickly. I never weighed myself every day, but I found once a week just to make sure I was not gaining too much. And your clothes are a better measurement. I have summer stuff that is a little smaller and winter stuff that tends to be more roomy. Except that first layer, long sleeve t-shirt for the REALLY cold days... but I keep clothes in a size smaller 7-8 the skinny times, regular size 10, nothing bigger Except my old size 22 pants that were my favorites when I was really heavy. I like to look at them and remember how far I have come.
I am BAD with obsessing over weight. I almost don't dare say it, but my weight has had almost a 60 lb. range in my adult years and I've weighed myself almost daily since age 13. (That says something about our Society.) If it were me, I'd tailor clothing that could be resized and donate the rest!! Women's shelter(?). 💕💕💕
Get rid of the scale. No reason to have one.
I consign my higher end clothes and bags and shoes with The Real Real. It’s super-easy and they do all the work. P S I was on the weight loss/getting fit rollercoaster for many many years. Finally discovered what works for me and now I feel better at 60+ than I did in my 40s. Changing one’s habits… including mindset… is a messy process. As for me, I never weigh myself. My success measure is “showing up’’ at the gym (I give myself major props when I really don’t wanna” and go anyway.). I also only have healthy foods in the house… which helps.
We are almost the same age and I can box jump 60 inches high 13 times. I'm not skinny anymore (I used to be 115 lbs and gained 15 lbs during COVID coz the gym I go to was closes) Anyway, I started working out again at the gym and I can still deadlift 250 lbs and do 3 sets/10 reps of 15 lbs DB. I do not weight myself anymore and I'm loosing inches. When you are doing strength training, your weight goes up coz muscles are heavier than fat. I eat, but, I make sure that I meet my protein macro. Just take it easy and not worry about loosing weight. You'll see the difference later on if you keep working out and do strenght training. As long as we are strong and healthy, to me, it's good enough.
Thank you for sharing Michele, I really needed this video ❤ About the clothes, I’m 52 and in the past 12 years, due to certain medications, my weight has gone up and down 10-15lbs twice. Luckily I’ve always adored timeless pieces so I got into the habit of buying 2 sizes for almost all my clothes. I didn’t feel like a failure knowing my weight fluctuations were beyond my control, and that’s even more the case now that we’re peri menopausal. I just think of it from a practicality perspective. So glad you made this video and opened up the discussion Michele, makes me feel I’m not alone ❤️
I think I have shared this with you in the past, but just in case I have not, I’ve lost over 140 pounds in the last five years. It is a wonderful thing. I feel better. I look better, but not a single item of my clothing fits. My underwear doesn’t fit; my jeans don’t fit; my tops don’t fit; my coats don’t fit, every single thing DOES NOT FIT! I had to replace everything I wore. In many ways, it has been fun to wear a size that I’ve never thought or dreamed I would wear. BUT, I lost this weight in my 60s, and I have so much loose skin so I can’t wear short sleeves. I can only wear long sleeves, and I have quite a few wrinkles. Thank heaven for skin care. Enough…so I understand how you’re feeling when you try to explain to others. Most of the time, they don’t get it. They think, “ I’d love to lose 10 pounds. I’d love to lose 20 pounds. Why are you whining you about losing 140 lbs? I know, and I’m very grateful, but it’s a mixed blessing. Clothes that I bought that I absolutely loved, I can’t wear anymore. It has all gone to Goodwill or to other members of my family. I try to focus on my health and the results of better health. That is what keeps me grounded. I wish you all the best, but I really do understand the dilemma.
I am size XS and if I gain 2-3 kg, my clothes don't fit. I'm 45 and even if I gain those 2-3 kilos in winter, I always manage to lose them without starving. It is simple: I am fasting since I was a teenager. I just did it naturally, as I never liked to have breakfast. So the 6/18h fasting window is the one that helps me keep me in shape. You can watch Dr Steven Gundry in this subject he is the best.
Being on my early 50's, strengh training is no negotiable. I feel better than in my 20's. For me is like an anxiolytic FOR REAL. Don't own a scale at home anymore and I feel stronger than ever. Even if it's rainning I drag my butt to the gym, a little cardio and a great deal of strength. Keep going, forget about the 'failures' and keep going. If the clothes don't fit anymore...get rid of all of it and treat yourself with new pieces if you can afford it. Love from Spain ❤❤
I hear Mel Robbins here! Congrats Michele! Let's stop putting so much pressure on ourselves and give ourselves love! I keep my clothes if I really love them, even if I know I will never be so small. As for you dear, I would say decide what you want for YOUR life and act for what you want! Align your actions from your goals!
AMEN sister preach!! Know exactly what you're saying! Now im 67 and can't hardly do anything and thats depressing.
You have very nice clothes which makes it more difficult. May II have the Loewe sweaters and your sweatshirt collection? ❤️ just kidding but hopefully you smiled!!
I’m sure that you are sooo honest with yourself and really, you don’t know yet, have the answers ❤
Eating and enjoying life, having fun and really happy inside ourselves is the main point😊 it’s good to limit yourself from time to time to feel balanced but everyone of us, especially women 😂 we are very sensitive to what others thinking about us! It’s not the diet or the clothes we have, it is what makes us happy ❤❤❤really 😊 happy.
Try to stand in front the mirror, every morning consistently, and ask yourself “what makes me really happy”!!!! If you love eating, workout, dancing etc.
I love all your videos and think that you are very
Honest with you..that’s the main point .
We must take care our health etc ..in our 50 and can keep 2 sizes to be tolerated and have you special clothes.
Love you! Never mind which size your are the point is to live every day with joyful as you are ❤❤❤❤❤
Hi Michele! From someone who has been overweight most of my life, let me just say that it most definitely is a psychological thing. I was up to 239 about few years ago and now down to about 170 and I am 51. Menopause is definitely a factor, as well. But don’t think too much about it, you’ll drive yourself crazy. Just get rid of the clothes and be damn proud of yourself. Buy yourself better fitting clothes throughout the journey because you’ll end up loving your clothes just as much as you did the old ones. Also, look into fasting, it truly changed my mindset and I have been very successful with it. Let me know if you have any questions about that. You look fantastic! Have a great day! ❤
I used to donate, but then COVID hit and it became impossible to donate in Los Angeles. I realized that it would be better to just throw them away. I have some clothes in storage, but I realize I’ll never wear them; and it’s time to pull them all out and say goodbye. Now my backup plan is to get out of my poverty mentality, and stop holding onto things I’ll probably never wear again. Also, ADHD: Object permanence is a bitch, and if I don’t see it; I’ll forget about it. Might as well make room and have more peace. ❤
Hi Michele, thank you for sharing your feelings. You have stopped the scale cycle, that's great! Being self aware, changing a pattern and talking about it is very cool in my book. Something may have triggered you in regards to the scale, we see it everyday in commercials, everywhere. It's in our faces all the time.
There are so many things that are out of our control as women, hormone changes, stress, so many things. I don't see anything wrong with keeping some of your pieces, you don't have to get rid of everything. And you don't have to compromise either or even decide right away what to do with the clothes. It's very personal so take your time, you'll know what to do. Love ya Michele, take care of YOU ❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻✨️✨️
Thank you for sharing Michele. I discovered your channel a few months ago and I have to say how refreshing I find you (and it). You say it how it is and provide such helpful information and opinions - thank you. I’ve had the same struggle since my teens (now 45) and I need to adapt a more positive mindset, I really think this is the key here. Well done for what you’ve achieved since last August. Don’t fall down the sink hole of numbers I know it’s easier said than done but remind yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing to motivate yourself rather than be disappointed in yourself. I like you have retained clothes bigger and smaller, but how about donate some and other items that you really love, get tailored/altered to fit your new body shape (not size). Best of luck with your journey and keep up the fabulous work (because it is fabulous) from a motivated fan from a not so sunny London, England. X
So I have a pretty specific way of thinking about this topic. I began recovery from 25 yrs of Bulimia about two years ago. My body only started to react to "healthy habits" this last summer. What I say to myself is "I'm returning to Homeostasis". That takes the power away from the number and helps me to not fixate on diet or exercise.
I do keep one pair of jeans that are my larger size. For me, we never know what the future will hold; I could get sick, or need surgery, or get injured and will be more likely to except that if I don't have to go buy bigger jeans.
Also... and this is for everyone!! I find it so offensive that our diet culture pressures us to loose weight in January. It's the middle of winter and we are mammals. It literally goes against nature. I'll think about that bikini come the first of spring. Until then, be cozy.
I'm so glad you shared these thoughts Michele. It's been on my mind a lot lately.
Beautiful inside & out, head to toe! Celebrate every success, every failure, each makes up the ultimate Michele❣️ Regarding those clothes, I recall you mentioning a fantastic seamtress. Let them resize your favorite pieces. It will be so worth it and will bring such joy! Thank you for sharing all the ups & downs, its what we all experience, and saying it aloud tends to allow the thought to take flight & free you from the burden! Much luv girlie!
I am struggeling the same way as you. The number on the scale is limiting my life since 40+ years. Since I was a child, I was overweight. I had times when I was slim but mostly I was overweight. I am trying to loose weight my whole life and sometimes its so annoying, I want to give up. Recently I have lost 20kg, but still I have to weight myself every day. And always when I gain a stupid 1kg, I feel like I failed, I see myself in the mirror and I am disgusted. Is that normal? No, its not, I know it, but that is how I grew up. People always judging me on my weight, with stupid comments like: ooh you are such a pretty girl, why dont you loose some kilos, you would be even prettier. Yes, I am now 48 and I very often feel like the little girl, that was always judged and commented. Even by my parents, grandparents, which hurts until now. They even wanted me to do the weightloss surgery, which I rejected. I completely understand what you are saying, we need to change the way we think.
When I was focusing on a scale I was anxious, hungry and demotivated. Im 43. Since I decided to embrace every day on making small changes and being consistent with exercise , dropped 2 sizes and stayed the same shape for the past three years. Then decided to weight myself after 3 years the scale showed exactly my goal weight plus having muscle definition. Enjoy every day, we’ve all been there, you are beautiful!
Considering that you’ve got the money, I’d say to buy the old staples in new sizes. It’s an investment in you and showing pride in your accomplishment of strength and mobility.
When it comes to the larger sizes- keep them if it won’t make you feel like you’re preparing for “failure” (that terminology bugs me). Our bodies do change their distribution over time. But if you’re gonna feel any type of negativity about keeping them- don’t self sabotage.
Also- I hope you’re proud of yourself for clocking that obsessive negative thought process before it got over your head. Kudos to you.
Protein is key. What I thought was healthy eating before really wasn’t. I deprived myself of the most necessary nutrient. Protein! Once you get that right, the cravings go away and the weight falls off. I’m not obsessive about exercising . I love to walk and try to do that often. I wanted to lose 5-7 lbs and ended up losing 32 lbs. Now my life doesn’t revolve around food as much as it does about the right food choices. People who are insulin resistant will not lose unless they reprogram their bodies to go after fat stores vs. quick sugar such as circulating glucose in the bloodstream. For me it started with educating myself on those basic principles. In essence the biochemistry of food. Even as a nurse, I did not know why things I had tried before had not worked. Every day I see people struggle with food choices and so much misinformation. It does take time to prepare your own food and get the right food. Good luck to all. I have a bag of pants to donate as I won’t go back to those sizes. It wouldn’t be healthy knowing what I know now. I’m happy about that. 58 years old, 5’6 and 123 lbs. maintained this for going on 3 years.
Unfortunately, my scale defines how I feel in the morning. If I am up a few pounds I feel fat- if down, then thin. It’s definitely a mind game! You can’t get away from the numbers! When I go to the Dr I am measured by how much I weigh-even with low cholesterol etc. If you have surgery they need your weight to measure the amount of anesthesia. I once was bitten by a client of mine (I am a Speech Pathologist) and I was given two shots in the tush for preventative measures. The cost of the meds was calculated on how much I weighed. So I completely get it. The weight keeps popping up. I recently went from an 18 to a 14 since the Spring. I donated some of my clothes 17:39 and other pieces I put away - just incase. I know it’s setting myself but I had such a hard time finding them to look “thin” at my heaviest, at least in my eyes, that right now I can’t part with them. Perhaps you can tailor some of your clothes so you can enjoy them as your body changes. You look wonderful -we see it! You are an inspiration! ❤️🥰
I started intermittent fasting 14:10…I am eating normal, between 10am & 8pm I have just ate what I would normally eat, and in 8 days, 4 pounds has just gone..I feel so much better..oh by the way, I just walk on the treadmill, that is it..xx
This sounds exactly like me. I can be feeling good about how consistent I've been with working out, I can feel more energized. I can feel physically better and I can be walking around more confidently. BUT, step on that scale and if it's not down my first response is, "F it! I am going to just eat a box of donuts!!" And I am derailed. I am also trying to just stick to focusing on my actions and how I FEEL when I take better care of myself. I feel better watching this knowing I am not alone.
2 quick things, muscle weighs more than fat, you are building muscle. Also, everyone has a base weight that is normal for them. You may be at that weight. I passed menopause a long time ago, gained 30 pounds over a couple of years, but I don't have any age related chronic issues so it is what it is. I'm comfortable in my age adjusted body. You look beautiful. I don't have anything left from my previous skinny weight, sold some, donated some, gave some away.
I’ve lost and gained so much weight through my lifetime. Personally, I keep a few bigger pieces when I get thin. It gives me comfort just in case. I would have too much anxiety thinking I would HAVE to stay thin. But when something gets too tight, I get rid of it. Strange how weight psychology haunts women.
I vary between 7 st 10 and 9st 4 and have for years, so I do keep my fave things that I can't fit into because with a bit of effort (cutting carbs by 70% and portions by 25%) I'm back at regular weight. I do love healthy food anyway but it's easy to get addicted to fat and sugar, especially when you eat out a lot or after holidays. If it helps, you look great always; been watching your channel for about 3 years now :)
What if everything just is and it doesn’t need to be perceived as good or bad? What if we stop giving meaning and power to numbers on a scale, numbers on a clothing tag, or any other number that follows us around? I understand that it is easier said than done, but when we find that stillness within each moment, and allow and flow, the mind and the meaning and decoding mind games are easier to navigate.
You are doing phenomenal Michele, whatever you are experiencing is perfect as it is and I am grateful for you and all the content on your channel. Big hugs.
I’m 74 and, like you, used to feel “strong”. Then, with age things changed. Hip replacements, spinal fusion, ad nauseum: the ability to get back to a realistic starting point for health and fitness was getting more difficult. However, the good news is it can be done. And since you’re way younger, it will be physically easier and take less time. It does take a certain commitment, which IMHO is the toughest part. At my age, taking time off from ‘working out” causes decompensatiin much more quickly than it used it. Then, starting over is harder than it is to keep going. Some days, i have to argue with myself to get my butt to the gym (which is in my building so no excuses) but once there, I’m gratified. I also work with a trainer once a week who pushes me to do things i didn’t think i could. And i have grown stronger, fitter and in less discomfort. My reality is i’m not a supermodel, never was or will be model thin (it is what it is) but I can still be the best me, not scared to go out in NYC looking like a little old lady and feeling like a target, and enjoy my life.
I’ve just started reading Atomic habits, I’m sure you already may have read it. But I just quit my job, have another one starting in March so taking this time to read and better myself cos work has been everything so for long, especially as I don’t have children I find myself putting more into work where I like you want to focus more on me. I used to run a lot and was focused on being able to run 22k. And once I reached my goal I just stopped 😮 so I think having a mindset in place rather than a specific goal/target/number is non serving any of us. Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤