The Past is Dead
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- Опубліковано 23 лип 2024
- Why analyzing the past compulsively leads to even more anxiety and conditional acceptance + how can you start to make peace with the past.
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Those who choose to stay in the past kills the time they have left in the future. It's the same as staring at an image stuck in time.
Well put!!
Thank you for all you do for every OCD sufferer. We really appreciated. Today I feel lost in a sea of ruminating and guilt. Hopefully I will find some kind of light at the end of the tunnel.
My OCD attacks the way I view myself as a partner in my relationship, it has this solid belief that I am a bad partner undeserving of my partner and I must compulsively confess every little detail of my past to him at every given moment. I do this to ensure that he knows every inch of my past so that nothing is ‘hidden’. My confessions have become thousands over the three years I have suffered, with therapy not helping me at all. I keep a record of all of my confessions too as a way to go back and reassure myself that I have already told my partner the thing I want to confess. How do I get myself out of this cycle.. it scares me to stop the confessions.
Hey Steph! So when it comes to confessing, unfortunately, the only way to stop is by practicing holding it in and not needing to. It's a promise that never delivers as you and I both know.
How are you doing now?
I'm so grateful for these videos they help me so much in my recovery and i appreciate the example of the car accident it really puts things in perspective
One of the most important videos I've seen so far. Thanks Nick!
Another amazing video Nick. So excellently worded 👌🏻
My past is holding me back I keep ruminating about it because it made into the person I am today I keep thinking if I never did that I wouldn't be this way or if they never did this to me I wouldn't feel this way I ate this way of life I hate my brain I just want to forget about all of it but idk how
Always enjoy listening to your videos :-)
Thanks for this! This has really spoken to me during my current relapse back in to OCD and has helped to dig myself out!
We will definitely be calling you the Colorado Eminem! haha
Nick, thank you for your wonderful, thoughtful videos. Your content is so valuable because you are direct and super-smart and compassionate. You are also AMAZING at explaining your points.
Yesterday night i had a very bad acidity attack and i was like it's ok it's very painful but u can handle it and took medicine and household cure too,All of s sudden my brain directly related this pain to my breathing sensorimotor OCD thanks to the absolutely latching nature of OCD and it just became too devilish for me,but i didn't start panicking and handled the situation all thanks to the powerful advice of Nick and others:)
We always appreciate the kind words buddy!
Great Video as always, Nick. I keep getting, being, feeling stuck in my head, sighing, fearing stories that are circulating in my memory, fears of stopping breathing suddenly and being alone are the two big ones. It's like I know consciously that it's all okay but this conviction really feels so really, where it makes me freeze with fear and low mood. 🙏
Hey Mirza! Appreciate the kind words, but I think I may know something that may be holding you back! So when we say, "It's like I know consciously that it's all okay" that's actually self-reassuring and the opposite of uncertainty. This gives OCD the upper hand! I missed this subtle compulsive self-reassurance for a long time.
you’re amazing dude !
I appreciate the kind words!
I've had specific bad experiences that have made me experience real event ocd symptoms and I never call the experiences trauma, it makes me feel stuck and validates my extreme fears of those memories and the themes surrounding them
Enjoyed that video a lot - what was the book you were reading from?
Legend
Can you do a simplified video for breaking down your beliefs for some of your younger suffers
So the recovery happens when u realise and internally make peace with is that even if u don't recover ever u will stil be able to everything u can
That’s a 🔑 part of it for sure & even if you couldn’t do the things you wanted you could accept that and make peace with that too
@@OCDRecovery hi i have made some mistake in the past that i can't share with anyone my ocd thoughts keep ruminating about that incident what should I do now😢 and I am not comfortable to talk with my parents about that , and i watched plenty of vedios of how to overcome from past mistakes like these, even after i shared that mistake with my sis she took it casually but i am feeling like I have done great mistake 😢
My trigger is bullies and narcissistic abusers so my church the leaders were this then tried to kick me out gas lighted me abusers still at the church and the meeting with the head pastor was horrific and flash backs over and over for almost 6 months it’s fading now but they tried to guilt and shame me for simply calling out evil people.
I made a very bad mistake in school yesterday which I'm fearing that no one will ever trust me again and will never open up to me about anything ever again. I feel like I lost trust from everyone. What do I do now? That's really hurting me, really
Hey Anna. The first thing we can do is accept the way we are feeling right now. Second is working on the belief that we need others to accept us, this was key for me as well.